@Myballsitchsomethingfierce maybe so, but a relationship is all about compromise. She probably didn't want to go to the football game, but she did. That's the key, she went with him to his thing. As such, he should go with her to her thing. I know, it's a hard concept these days for people to do selfless things for other people, especially for people the love.
My parents went through a divorce exactly like this. I’m in college so I don’t really feel my dad’s absence and my mom is so much happier now anyway but my mom really put up with a lot of crap from my selfish dad. This movie really hits home- literally
The only thing i didnt like about this movie is that the blame is entirly on him. Even when he talks to his friend, he tells him the exact same thing. I would ve have like a more balanced argument.
@@sofiaguerrero0969 And once my son's mother and I broke up, many people, even her friends, have commented on how much happier I've become. Goes both ways.
@Ragnar well then what about the lemon scene? He got 3 instead of 12. She directly and nicely asked for 12. He didn't get them. Then when she finds out she directly asks him if he could go back for 9 more since she's already busy cooking and cleaning (after having worked all day). His response? "Why do you even need 12? Just make some food with the 3 you got. You don't need 12." It seems like both hinting and directly (nicely) asking for stuff wouldn't have worked with this guy. If she directly asks, she's being annoying about stuff that he finds unnecessary. If she hints about it, he can't tell she wants it. So what was she supposed to do with him? Asking inderectly didn't work, asking directly didn't work, asking nicely didn't work.
I'm not sure this was acting. I think Aniston genuinely thinks this way about relationships. No wonder she was unmarried most of her life and now she'll never have kids. And no, her "current" marriage won't last either.
Terry Kain this is so dumb. She’s an actress and someone else wrote the script lmao this isn’t how she feels in real life. 🤦🏼♀️ god people these days lmao
I'm confused about the fight. They both work, but she cleans up their house, goes to his events etc, but he gets mad when she asks him to reciprocate by helping around their own house or going to one of her events? This shouldn't be a fight in a silly romcom, this should be the final scene of a sad drama movie that leads to a mature split.
The most annoying thing about the guys that when girl is angry about something deep and they think it's the thing that is superficial that made her mad
But a relationship is also about commitment, if the other person goes out of their way to please you and makes an effort...you should do that too, not because it is expected, but that's how it should be.
He doesn't like the ballet because it’s just a bunch of dudes running around in tights.......but goes to a football game that has......a bunch of dudes running around in tights. 🤔
I get it. She hated the football game, but still went. He hates ballet, and refused to go. Instead of letting her work alongside him so he won't get stressed about work, he refuses and says she doesn't have to. Instead of bringing her the exact amount of lemons she wants, he brings a few. He hates hints, but considers direct requests nagging. He wants to be left alone, but is shocked that she's actually going to leave him.
oh wow, that's a very good point. She tries soft, indirect approaches- he brushes them off or finds excuses to not do them. She is direct with him- he sees it as nagging and confrontational. She can't win . . . . and that's the point. To wear her out and stop asking, stop demanding things from him, big or small.
Lol that's incompatibilty and immaturity for you and a adult versus child immature relationship some people should be going through that at least late 20s i experienced that earlier .
I’m wondering why you felt bad for Vince’s character honestly? He’s so checked out of being a reciprocal adult in their relationship and even in his own life, his own job, his own family. He’s costing on other people’s efforts. And really doesn’t show any gratitude or even acknowledge them.
men think the only way to show love to their family is financially. Don't even care about compromising, they just expect everyone to worship them by the time they get home. And that says a lot.
Damn Vince's acting is good. You can see him holding in the anger and then he bursts out with "I'm on the bus every goddamn day!...." It's just a fun silly comedy- but that bit of acting is near the tip-top.
woman: please, for gods sake, do something without me begging you for it. load the dishwasher without me asking. take me to see a movie i like. please treat me like you value me man: YOU ALWAYS NAG ME JESUS CHRIST
You said it. You said it so eloquently but even if she had said those exact words he would have acted the exact same way. He's saying, "I give you what I have to give. If that ain't enough then " F" you."
The writing is really on point. This is how an argument would go down. The guy is self absorbed, he doesn't truely love her otherwise he would do go to the ballet for her. Relationships are about making comprimises otherwise you don't truely love your partner. I think this is true in a love relationship but it's also stands any other kind of relationship be that proffesional, or familial.
I don't think either of them should be going to events that they don't want to go to. Why go to the football game if you can't stand it... unless you're going to use it as part of an argument later? Men should go to football games with their buddies. And women should go to the ballet with theirs. Healthy time spent away from each other, with things like movies and concerts as common ground.
@@moviefan8533 Because if you truly love someone you’ll put them in front of you sometimes, especially in regards to something so inconsequential as a football game or a ballet that will only take a few hours at most. Theres a reason people put up with the in-laws, isn’t there?
Actually the writing is BS if you read between the lines. He pulls her in the begining at the baseball game like a Boss with some real confidence. So we supposed to believe he has no clue in the rest of the movie on the simplest things that women like like flowers even if they say they dont???? and women not saying what they really mean ALL THE TIME?? They wrote it this way on purpose to make him/MEN look like garbage!
*Gary:* "What?" *Brooke:* "I am done. I don't deserve this, I really do not deserve this. I deserve somebody who _gives a shit!"_ 2:11-2:17 Okay, who else loves this? Because I do.
A good actor is convincing in delivering their lines, in sync with their body and surroundings and listens and reacts to their co-actors without getting caught up with themselves. I have always seen Jennifer Aniston as meeting all those requirements but had doubts as people kept saying how bad an actress she is because her movies were crappy (I personally found them rather entertaining but I can see how they don't meet the usual Oscar standards of what constitutes a 'good' movie). However, I cast away all the doubts I had about her acting capabilities when I first saw a clip of her pranking a guy on Ellen (see it if you haven't and you will see how talented she actually is, movie aside). Other great moments were in The Good Girl, the fight scene between Ross and Rachel over Gavin, the scene at Ross' wedding and the hospital scene after Emma's birth where she wanted to get back with Ross but he didn't quite catch the hint.
This movie has a very strong message that opposites don't always attract when it comes to actually living together. Gary should be with a girl who like that whole sports culture and Brooke should be with a guy who loves the arts.
I agree!! Men are so caught up into being with that one hot woman they forget she comes with things that she likes, not even thinking that hers matches his. Women are so caught up with idea of marriage they don't think, let alone even care about what the guy likes. Yet both parties wonder why their marriages are failing at a high rates. Because people spend more time wanting it just to have it, rather than wanting it to actually do together and be together. If more people thought of love as a companionship instead of this thing to just have more people would be successful at relationships.
Those are kind of shallow things still to base relationships on. The problem is the lack of communication and respect or compromise they feel for one another.
No... if my bf liked sports I'd support it and he Should naturally be supportive of what I like. Vinci didn't love Jennifer in this film and it showed.
Opposites attract, its stubbornness that makes people drift apart. If one party can't compromise or make an effort, it doesn't matter if they complete each other's sentences, the relationship will fail.
Well, there was one easy answer to one of the things they were arguing about- he should go to a game with his friends, she should go to the ballet with hers and find something they both like to do together. But the rest...ugh. He's angry at her because he has to work?? Uh, buddy, that's called being a responsible adult and earning a living. She worked full-time, too, at the art gallery, so what was his point? He expected her to support him financially while he sat on his butt at home?
i agreed with everything except the first part. i think that doing things individually is very healthy for a relationship, but part of it is also doing things that your partner enjoys. if you just do things separately and only a few things together, it's not going to work out. it would be different if it was going out at night or seeing a movie, but he loves sports and she's really passionate about art. the fact that she went to a game and he went to a ballet concert, then complained about it, is messed up.
You have no idea how much in the wrong she is too. She is expecting a pig to sing...then everything she did afterwards to him, a true mental case. They were both psychos.
@@Luka23567 Uh, I disagree. She was expecting that if she shows up for someone, and that someone cares about her, he would naturally want to show up for her too. Crazy notion, I know.
Awesome movie demonstrating how important communication is any relationship's survival. This scene is a great one that shows how ineffective communication can lead to more complex consequences.
More people should give this movie a chance. It’s easy to dismiss it as another Jen Aniston romcom, but i remember thinking how relatable it is. Its actually a realistic betrayal of what happens when a long term relationship ends. I love that it didn’t end with them back together.
This just showed up in my recommendations after I left a guy I have been with for over 4 years. Naturally, after you leave someone you remember the good stuff and start questioning your decisions, but this clip...man. This clip is it. This is the exact fight with just a few variables changed.
Why is everyone so eager to take Jennifer's side on the marriage breakdown? Considering Brad's marriage to Angelina and Jennifer's marriage to Justin both ended, I think it's safe to say that both of them had issues which contributed to their divorce.
Mark Robinson I got you but its not taking sides. It takes two people to break a marriage. Angelina Jolie and Brad had a private judge she is making it public.just saying. Jennifer Aniston is over the whole Brangelina thing.its the media that won't let it be.Exit with dignity and respect please.
@@markrobinson9394 probably because everyone thinks that Brad cheated on her with Angelina. Which I btw also believe. But I thought that was common knowledge? Did you not know or does it just not seem like enough to take her side over his?
I think Hollywood got a couple's fight finally right. Most fights in movies are stupid. This is a pretty real fight. I heard my own parents get into fights like this. The acting was good. I thought their jugular was about to rupture, hahaha.
its not fair that she did what he always wanted to do but he never did what she wanted to do! she always went to games with him yet he couldn't go to at least a ballet with her! johhny o was right when he said that she always did what you wanted to do!
Notice how well he remembers that she said she doesn't like flower because that gives him an argument to keep things low effort, but all the other things she says she wants he is absolutely oblivious to. This is what it is like when someone wants to do the bare minimum and get the most out of a relationship.
She said she went to the football game for him, and asked what he does for her and he’s says he works??????? Sir you mean you do the BARE MINIMUM??? Come on
@@gowthamkrishna1568 When two people in a relationship work, one isn't feeding the other. He is working to support himself, as is she working for herself. And then he is acting like he is the breadwinner.
My ex literally told me the first time I got her flowers, "You know I hate flowers" she said she hated all that "cliche" stuff, then later down the line, soon to us breaking up, she complains I didnt do enough stuff like taking her to the movies or to diner, the exact stuff she said was "cliche", so dumb... My current girlfriend makes it crystal clear she would like to go to a movie, or to dinner, or whatever, if she says she doesnt want something, she means she doesnt want something, its great to move up in the world :)
Senseless Nonsense lol no trust me she still would like the gesture of flowers 😉 what women (yes every women) say and want (or in other words expect you understand, and read between the lines) are two totally different things. This movie is perfect in showing that. All women just want attention or little gestures to show that you care and listen to their emotional needs even if they insist they don't care about those trivial things.
That's such a mean thing to say when someone gets you flowers! She should be ashamed of herself. If someone is sweet to you don't say you hate it! Sorry man, glad that you have a sweetie now. ❤️
A lot of guys don't like it when you say you want flowers or something because they think you're pushing them, and then if they do get you flowers it isn't spontaneous or a surprise because you always asked for them
Funny enough, it's the opposite with me. My bf is the one who said he likes flowers. He knows I don't. I told him he's better off giving a meal or fresh fish as a gift. I'm not the sentimental type, but he is. About 5 years later, when I offered him mums and tulips (his favorite flowers), he got angry and said he hates them and that "what kind of man likes flowers" Admittedly he has masculinity issues stemming from problems with his late father. But it did confuse and hurt me back when I had no clue
It’s the act of showing that you care. It doesn’t even have to be flowers. It could be a card. A baked good. Jewelry. Just something that says “hey. I thought of you”. Not all the time. But once in a blue moon, it’s nice. Even if we say we don’t want anything. We want men to want to show that they care. Not have to drop hints or tell them that we want something.
@@xotennisxgirlox It's that character in "Field of Dreams" that was constantly buying his wife blue hats so stores along his walk home would put them on display in their windows.
It’s funny how he didn’t understand her but what she was trying to say is “ I wish you could be a little more considerate and romantic with me” it weird how a guy will jump through hoops trying to sweep a woman off her feet. Which is what made her fall for him (the effort) but once he got her, all the effort goes out the window.
Yep. Exactly. When you get older and married for 20 years the girl is screwed. He has had 20 years of you being good to him, telling him you love him. They get lazy, take your for granted because they think they have you at that point. They think they really own you and you'll never leave. It's so sad.
They are both wrong. Gary is selfish. And Brooke was pretending. Gary and Brooke never really existed. The problem was that Gary loved a girl Brooke was pretending to be-"Cool Girl." Going to football games, saying she doesn't like flowers, remaining a size two. Cool Girl is hot. Cool Girl is game. Cool Girl never gets angry at her man...
Damn this is good writing. I watch this scene and I can’t choose a side! They’re both right and they’re both wrong. They both make good points that need to be heard but they’re mad so neither one of them is really communicating what they need. Wow
He feels unappreciated and is ungrateful because he can’t appreciate and value himself enough to value her. Says he works for her. Says doing his own chores in his own home ...is not a responsibility ...but a favor to her. That she should be grateful for. Many men psychologically abuse women to deflect/avoid their insecurities, needs, and feelings. Go to therapy love yourself enough to ask for love so not afraid rejection will kill you. Insecure to expose his vulnerability, feelings and needs , rather than manage healthily he’s failing to communicate. Separately from his insecurities, he is then using deflection/projection/yelling/aggression vs assertiveness/gaslighting. He is psychologically abusing her to deflect from his own weaknesses and to avoid accountability and its violent, and very deliberate. He blames her increasingly because we as a society do not hold anyone, ESPECIALLY men and white people, accountable for psychological, social, verbal abuse that upholds systemic male and white supremacy. The lack of consequences on a larger social level + lack of honest discussion, seeps into reaffirming this mass brainwashing/psychological oppression of women and POC. Toxic guy here is a good example of that - he needs help. However if he doesn't want to be honest he should be kicked out. Can’t help people more than they want to help themselves. She does deserve better ❤️❤️❤️
@@putrihorizasativa2042 Thank you thank you, we all have to do our part to educate ourselves and then highlight the reverse psychology used to uphold abuse/ negative manipulation for Evil. Mass Education -> Dismantling systems of oppression and building equitable systems that include accountability for psychological abuse, the first vessel of social abuse that avalanches into all other Evils. Analyzing how its masked as cute, but is actually abusive interpersonal level violence that we see magnified into larger community, social ,national, global violence - gives light to the violation of the social contract of human rights from safety, that's being violated at multiple levels, all in the same way: psychological abuse. Dark. Evil hides in plain sight via "its just jokes, nbd/minimization". I'll stop now stay woke everyone
@Kornelia Milewczyk Yeah I agree if you say it's a preference that you've been blunt about, I think inn this scene she might've just said she's not really into flowers but probably wouldn't've minded if he got her some since he doesn't get her anything at all so at least something would be better than nothing, because he acts as if there's no alternative thing to gift her. Like your boyfriend sounds sweet getting you the broccoli which shows he cared to buy you something and take into account your preferences, whereas in this scene he didn't do either or those things.
I’ve never been through this but I felt that when she said “ I am done! I don’t deserve this I really don’t deserve this, I deserves somebody who gives a care”....there was some type strength in that. Umm hmmm you betta act Jennifer!!!
This is every guy I dated in my early and mid 20s, I’d give so much of myself and all they did was take with no reciprocation or even a thought about my well being. It was always what they wanted and what was best for them only and still to this day they all are still single bc they don’t understand a relationship is 2 people, not finding a slave to serve you.
I watched this film when I was only eleven years old as a kid. I saw it in theaters with my mom and I had no idea why they fought so much honestly. Of course being a kid, you never understand relationship problems at that time. Years later now at almost 25 years old, my heart wrenches at this scene. I have been in her shoes, crying and just begging to a man to pay attention to me or at least appreciate Everything I do for our relationship. But much like my ex, Gary is resisting and only thinks of himself (in this scene, I know that changes later). He doesn’t like going out with her, he’s so different from her. I never would have thought I would have been in her shoes, but much like the ending to this scene I finally told him I was done fighting for something that wasn’t worth fighting for anymore. Months have passed since my own breakup, and moving on is a challenge. But like the ending to this movie, I’ll always care for him, and I know he’ll always regret letting me go but it’s because my leaving, he’s changed a lot. Sometimes people are brought together to learn a lesson, and I’m thankful for mine. Brilliant acting in such a great movie!
@@SamBrickell yes he will because i was a good girlfriend to him lol and did everything for him 😂😂 and he’s told me twice he regretted it and asked for me back. I have declined and I’ve moved on since then. I wish him well.
she's actually right tho... she went to the game for him, he didnt go anywhere for her, then when she asked what he did for her, he mentioned his job but they both work... idk
What I love most about this scene is the writing. This is EXACTLY how a man and a woman argue.
+Bridgette Love writing isn't bad but the greatest depiction of a couple's argument in cinematic history is from before midnight
It doesn't show how she's just as guilty of everything she complains about. The argument is about her complaining.
And that's EXACTLY why I stopped dating men
@@galaxyghost1340 to be fair she isn't innocent in this either, she's got faults too
Yesss
She went with him to a football game, and he didn’t go with her to the ballet. She’s got a point.
@Myballsitchsomethingfierce maybe so, but a relationship is all about compromise. She probably didn't want to go to the football game, but she did. That's the key, she went with him to his thing. As such, he should go with her to her thing. I know, it's a hard concept these days for people to do selfless things for other people, especially for people the love.
Myballsitchsomethingfierce no women want to go to football game
@@Catsss1017 no bloke wants to go to a ballet
MrWilly2204 Compromise and Sacrifice to be exact .
@Myballsitchsomethingfierce haizzz she didn't want to go to the football game either. Ever think of that?
Jesus I didn’t understand this movie as a kid and now as an adult, she deserved so much better.
Yes!
My parents went through a divorce exactly like this. I’m in college so I don’t really feel my dad’s absence and my mom is so much happier now anyway but my mom really put up with a lot of crap from my selfish dad. This movie really hits home- literally
She’s out of his league too
The only thing i didnt like about this movie is that the blame is entirly on him. Even when he talks to his friend, he tells him the exact same thing. I would ve have like a more balanced argument.
@@sofiaguerrero0969 And once my son's mother and I broke up, many people, even her friends, have commented on how much happier I've become. Goes both ways.
So often men say that they want direct orders instead of hints, but then they end up feeling like the woman is nagging them.
Right. So we basically have to choose between being pushy and demanding and being bitter and frustrated..
Well said.
"direct orders"???...No man wants orders!!!
Ceduria absolutely right 👏🏼
@Ragnar well then what about the lemon scene? He got 3 instead of 12. She directly and nicely asked for 12. He didn't get them. Then when she finds out she directly asks him if he could go back for 9 more since she's already busy cooking and cleaning (after having worked all day). His response? "Why do you even need 12? Just make some food with the 3 you got. You don't need 12."
It seems like both hinting and directly (nicely) asking for stuff wouldn't have worked with this guy. If she directly asks, she's being annoying about stuff that he finds unnecessary. If she hints about it, he can't tell she wants it. So what was she supposed to do with him? Asking inderectly didn't work, asking directly didn't work, asking nicely didn't work.
At least she didn't say they were on a break...lmao!!!
HAHAHAHAHHAAHAH OMG
+bobafettfan32 HEHEHEHEHEHHEHE
Best comment 👏
+Jazmin Tenorio I would have told Rachel or Brooke to go kick rocks a LONG time ago!!
Lol I love her 😍
Am I the only one who gets super emotional when she says "I don't deserve this , I deserve someone who gives a shit"??
I feel it to. Her emotion is so raw in that sentence just alone. When she throws her hands up and gives up- soooo believeable.
Yes me too... My girlfriend tells me all the time that I am a prick!!! Lol
Jack Jase or your grossly misogynistic language... 😒🤚
Everytime I get what she's going through
The only way to know is living together beauty and surface becomes redundant.
"I deserve somebody who gives a shit" PREACH PREACH PREACH SISTA!!
Damn this was a really good acting felt so real and I know this is a real argument in relationships.
I'm not sure this was acting. I think Aniston genuinely thinks this way about relationships. No wonder she was unmarried most of her life and now she'll never have kids. And no, her "current" marriage won't last either.
Oho you should’ve been watched Revolutionary road
Decaprio acting as good as
Terry Kain this is so dumb. She’s an actress and someone else wrote the script lmao this isn’t how she feels in real life. 🤦🏼♀️ god people these days lmao
@@Terrekain do you know her personally, because that would be the only reason you would know if this is true
Nah, my girl don't talk back to me like that
I'm confused about the fight. They both work, but she cleans up their house, goes to his events etc, but he gets mad when she asks him to reciprocate by helping around their own house or going to one of her events? This shouldn't be a fight in a silly romcom, this should be the final scene of a sad drama movie that leads to a mature split.
that's basically what happens if I recall correctly. They do not end up together.
well you should watch the movie because thats what happens...
Watch the movie. It’s not just a silly romcom, it’s actually pretty depressingly realistic. More of a dramedy.
Or you know.. a solution.
This isn’t a romcom lmao
The most annoying thing about the guys
that when girl is angry about something
deep and they think it's the thing that is
superficial that made her mad
THIS MAKES ME GO OVER THE EDGE LIKE NOTHING ELSE
Whycis this written like a haiku, is it a haiku?
These are trivial things but occur while living together. It seems like a High School fight.
@@marym2011 The lemons?
You want to say that men don't understand deep thoughts and feelings
God, I've had this argument . . . too many times
Alissa Avila-Hansen so did I and thus led to my breakup.
Sammmeee
Once you start living together.
@Getthefuckoffmylawn Hahahaha. Straight up.
Just don’t be in e relationship
But a relationship is also about commitment, if the other person goes out of their way to please you and makes an effort...you should do that too, not because it is expected, but that's how it should be.
arturocas90 ☺👍
Yeah you are absolutely right but things are not always mutual, there's too much of unrequited love out there.
Agreed. He realises this when it's too late
@Carter Atwell Watch the movie. She was quite clear and direct with what she wanted, and he didn't give her that at all.
Yeah, but so many guys won't go that extra mile to do something their woman likes without whining.
He doesn't like the ballet because it’s just a bunch of dudes running around in tights.......but goes to a football game that has......a bunch of dudes running around in tights. 🤔
The difference is they have pads under those tights 😉
@@zachtemoro2116 Exactly.
@@zachtemoro2116 but it’s just a bunch of dudes running around in tights
Ric Sanches But there not dancing. They are playing a contact sport
@@drewbair3433 but "it’s just a bunch of dudes running around in tights"
Whenever I feel lonely or bad about myself, I watch scenes like these to remind myself that being single ain't all that bad.
I do that too
Yep. I'm 29 years old. Single and loving the hell out of it right now.
David Stone same here!
Actually its makes me more hopeless, im very lonely and im afraid that when i do finally meet someone theire going to be like this
omg, mood.
I always thought Vince was a below average actor. But he proved me wrong in this movie!
I get it.
She hated the football game, but still went.
He hates ballet, and refused to go.
Instead of letting her work alongside him so he won't get stressed about work, he refuses and says she doesn't have to.
Instead of bringing her the exact amount of lemons she wants, he brings a few.
He hates hints, but considers direct requests nagging.
He wants to be left alone, but is shocked that she's actually going to leave him.
oh wow, that's a very good point. She tries soft, indirect approaches- he brushes them off or finds excuses to not do them. She is direct with him- he sees it as nagging and confrontational. She can't win . . . . and that's the point. To wear her out and stop asking, stop demanding things from him, big or small.
@@JamieRobles1 thanks for finding my comment after two years
Ahhh, the magical words....."I'm done"!
Cathartic to some, regretful to others
df
I hope I'll hear that one day.
This movie completely drained and depressed me. I literally felt like I was going through this hell myself!!!😖
yeah it did oddly depress me. I saw it years ago and thought about it now and found these clips. But I remember it made me a bid.... depressed. ,,
Me too. I can’t sit through the film because it makes me really sad.
Christine Mushala Been there and done that and until today it still hurts like a mf, hated every second of it.
Lol that's incompatibilty and immaturity for you and a adult versus child immature relationship some people should be going through that at least late 20s i experienced that earlier .
I just didn't need to see this movie
She is a great actress. That film made me love her. I can actually feel her pain through the scene.
Felt really bad for Vince Vaughn when I was younger, but I now realize that Jennifer Anniston has more balls than most, you go girl
I’m wondering why you felt bad for Vince’s character honestly? He’s so checked out of being a reciprocal adult in their relationship and even in his own life, his own job, his own family. He’s costing on other people’s efforts. And really doesn’t show any gratitude or even acknowledge them.
men think the only way to show love to their family is financially. Don't even care about compromising, they just expect everyone to worship them by the time they get home. And that says a lot.
you spoke nothing but facts!
Or just "leave them the hell alone"
As a guy i can confirm, and its even worse when both bring in similiar amount of money
you don’t need to generalize all men though.
we don't need worship, need space to decompress lmao, it's kind of the opposite
Damn Vince's acting is good. You can see him holding in the anger and then he bursts out with "I'm on the bus every goddamn day!...." It's just a fun silly comedy- but that bit of acting is near the tip-top.
It's one of the comedy that I found nothing silly about it .
It can hardly be called a fun silly comedy..
woman: please, for gods sake, do something without me begging you for it. load the dishwasher without me asking. take me to see a movie i like. please treat me like you value me
man: YOU ALWAYS NAG ME JESUS CHRIST
You said it. You said it so eloquently but even if she had said those exact words he would have acted the exact same way.
He's saying, "I give you what I have to give. If that ain't enough then " F" you."
Gary: I JUST WANT TO BE LEFT THE HELL ALONE!
Brooke: I want to break up.
Gary: What?
Brooke: Well I thought you wanted to be left alone.
As a guy I have to say she's in the right.
The writing is really on point. This is how an argument would go down. The guy is self absorbed, he doesn't truely love her otherwise he would do go to the ballet for her. Relationships are about making comprimises otherwise you don't truely love your partner. I think this is true in a love relationship but it's also stands any other kind of relationship be that proffesional, or familial.
I don't think either of them should be going to events that they don't want to go to. Why go to the football game if you can't stand it... unless you're going to use it as part of an argument later?
Men should go to football games with their buddies. And women should go to the ballet with theirs. Healthy time spent away from each other, with things like movies and concerts as common ground.
Yes! Exactly
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Because if you truly love someone you’ll put them in front of you sometimes, especially in regards to something so inconsequential as a football game or a ballet that will only take a few hours at most. Theres a reason people put up with the in-laws, isn’t there?
Actually the writing is BS if you read between the lines. He pulls her in the begining at the baseball game like a Boss with some real confidence. So we supposed to believe he has no clue in the rest of the movie on the simplest things that women like like flowers even if they say they dont???? and women not saying what they really mean ALL THE TIME?? They wrote it this way on purpose to make him/MEN look like garbage!
@@ThothTheAtlanteanK he was a garbage TBH
The acting is just😍
Anyone that has been in a serious relationship can relate to this.
*Gary:* "What?"
*Brooke:* "I am done. I don't deserve this, I really do not deserve this. I deserve somebody who _gives a shit!"_
2:11-2:17
Okay, who else loves this? Because I do.
Oh gosh, I just love how she argued back with so much common sense.
"I'm done" is just about the two most painful words someone can here from their significant other. But really Gary deserved that.
Why did Gary deserve that?
Nah she’s crazy. She nags all the time and when he says he doesn’t like it she says she’s leaving because she expects him to like the nagging
Didn't know Vince can act so well...
Kingston Gapate What?
Do you know why this movie is such gold? Its because it’s a real argument between couples.
not really. if youre in a relationship like this you are in an abusive relationship.
Jennifer always acted her best when it was a fight scene. Her and Ross' first breakup brought me to tears, her acting was so real
A good actor is convincing in delivering their lines, in sync with their body and surroundings and listens and reacts to their co-actors without getting caught up with themselves. I have always seen Jennifer Aniston as meeting all those requirements but had doubts as people kept saying how bad an actress she is because her movies were crappy (I personally found them rather entertaining but I can see how they don't meet the usual Oscar standards of what constitutes a 'good' movie). However, I cast away all the doubts I had about her acting capabilities when I first saw a clip of her pranking a guy on Ellen (see it if you haven't and you will see how talented she actually is, movie aside). Other great moments were in The Good Girl, the fight scene between Ross and Rachel over Gavin, the scene at Ross' wedding and the hospital scene after Emma's birth where she wanted to get back with Ross but he didn't quite catch the hint.
They was a on a break. Ross could sleep with whoever. It was a ridiculous argument.
This movie has a very strong message that opposites don't always attract when it comes to actually living together. Gary should be with a girl who like that whole sports culture and Brooke should be with a guy who loves the arts.
I agree!! Men are so caught up into being with that one hot woman they forget she comes with things that she likes, not even thinking that hers matches his. Women are so caught up with idea of marriage they don't think, let alone even care about what the guy likes. Yet both parties wonder why their marriages are failing at a high rates. Because people spend more time wanting it just to have it, rather than wanting it to actually do together and be together. If more people thought of love as a companionship instead of this thing to just have more people would be successful at relationships.
Those are kind of shallow things still to base relationships on. The problem is the lack of communication and respect or compromise they feel for one another.
That’s the message you got from this movie? Please don’t critique movies for a living. You’ll starve
No... if my bf liked sports I'd support it and he Should naturally be supportive of what I like. Vinci didn't love Jennifer in this film and it showed.
Opposites attract, its stubbornness that makes people drift apart. If one party can't compromise or make an effort, it doesn't matter if they complete each other's sentences, the relationship will fail.
Ugh, the most relatable fight ever.
Well, there was one easy answer to one of the things they were arguing about- he should go to a game with his friends, she should go to the ballet with hers and find something they both like to do together. But the rest...ugh. He's angry at her because he has to work?? Uh, buddy, that's called being a responsible adult and earning a living. She worked full-time, too, at the art gallery, so what was his point? He expected her to support him financially while he sat on his butt at home?
You got it all wrong. I suggest that you watch the scene all over and listen to what he says.
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.... ya gonna add on to that, like explain what specifically they were wrong at or just pull the “wrong” card?
@@sparksfly5877 Being willing to help clean the dishes after she slaved away all day to prepare a decent meal for them and their guests.
@Carolina Hernandez ??? She works at the art gallery.
i agreed with everything except the first part. i think that doing things individually is very healthy for a relationship, but part of it is also doing things that your partner enjoys. if you just do things separately and only a few things together, it's not going to work out. it would be different if it was going out at night or seeing a movie, but he loves sports and she's really passionate about art. the fact that she went to a game and he went to a ballet concert, then complained about it, is messed up.
She wanted him back first at the end. And she cried when he didn't go to the concert with her. It's better to be alone than in a bad relationship.
True, but in the end she didn't accept him back
@@EmyN Actually the ending hinted that they might see each other again and maybe renew their relationship.
@@seven92023 See each other as friends I think
@@EmyN the possibility was 50/50 between friends and a couple. The ending was open to interpretation either way.
@@seven92023 Ok, I will take your word for it because I haven't watched in a while, but still, she didn't accept him back in the end
Really powerful scene with two amazing actors !
She did deserve so much better, he didn’t know what he had
Honestly. The scene where she's waiting for him at the concert and he doesn't show...broke my heart.
“The marriage story” fight scene COULD NEVERRRRR .
All we got out of that movie was an Adam Driver même
It's really not about the ballet, the flowers or the lemons! The sad thing is that the guy in any situation like this will never understand this...
Raise your hand if you’re on her side. 🙋🏾♀️
You have no idea how much in the wrong she is too. She is expecting a pig to sing...then everything she did afterwards to him, a true mental case. They were both psychos.
@@Luka23567 Uh, I disagree. She was expecting that if she shows up for someone, and that someone cares about her, he would naturally want to show up for her too. Crazy notion, I know.
They are both pretty wrong but he is a bit more
This role really was for Aniston especially back in 2005-2006, it was so relatable. The whole performance was so raw, so real!
really great acting....
Awesome movie demonstrating how important communication is any relationship's survival. This scene is a great one that shows how ineffective communication can lead to more complex consequences.
'Cmon man I did that for you, how do you show up for me?'
"dress like a pig" is always my favorite 🤣🤣
Made me tear up. So sad how the little things are actually the important ones.
Whether it’s flowers or not, it’s the thought that counts
When a guy says he’s done he’s not done. When a girl says she’s done. She’s done
Cap
Makes no sense
“Gotta bunch of dudes in tights flopping around for 3 hours, it’s like a medieval techno show!!!” 😂😂😂😂
More people should give this movie a chance. It’s easy to dismiss it as another Jen Aniston romcom, but i remember thinking how relatable it is. Its actually a realistic betrayal of what happens when a long term relationship ends. I love that it didn’t end with them back together.
This just showed up in my recommendations after I left a guy I have been with for over 4 years. Naturally, after you leave someone you remember the good stuff and start questioning your decisions, but this clip...man. This clip is it. This is the exact fight with just a few variables changed.
Wonder what jennifer aniston really thought about when this scene was on. Omg how hurt she must be, such a brave woman! You go girl.
lin lovejenaniston possible Brad, he did cheat on her afterall
lin lovejenaniston it might have been emotionally and physically good to release it.
Why is everyone so eager to take Jennifer's side on the marriage breakdown? Considering Brad's marriage to Angelina and Jennifer's marriage to Justin both ended, I think it's safe to say that both of them had issues which contributed to their divorce.
Mark Robinson I got you but its not taking sides. It takes two people to break a marriage.
Angelina Jolie and Brad had a private judge she is making it public.just saying. Jennifer Aniston is over the whole Brangelina thing.its the media that won't let it be.Exit with dignity and respect please.
@@markrobinson9394 probably because everyone thinks that Brad cheated on her with Angelina. Which I btw also believe. But I thought that was common knowledge? Did you not know or does it just not seem like enough to take her side over his?
Okay but lets talk their amazing acting 😱💅
Jen is a person who can make me cry. BRAVO! An outstanding actress.
I think Hollywood got a couple's fight finally right. Most fights in movies are stupid. This is a pretty real fight. I heard my own parents get into fights like this. The acting was good. I thought their jugular was about to rupture, hahaha.
Right, this fight was more realistic than a marriage story.
its not fair that she did what he always wanted to do but he never did what she wanted to do! she always went to games with him yet he couldn't go to at least a ballet with her! johhny o was right when he said that she always did what you wanted to do!
I feel like the flower thing is valid for him 😂
Watching this movie as an adult in a relationship really hits you like a 🛻!
Notice how well he remembers that she said she doesn't like flower because that gives him an argument to keep things low effort, but all the other things she says she wants he is absolutely oblivious to. This is what it is like when someone wants to do the bare minimum and get the most out of a relationship.
i like at then end he realizes that he was being selfish and always did what he wanted to do but never what she wanted to do!
Why was he selfish?
"Come on
Man
I Did
That
For
You
How do
You
Show up
For Me.."
She said she went to the football game for him, and asked what he does for her and he’s says he works??????? Sir you mean you do the BARE MINIMUM??? Come on
Putting food in her mouth is well above the bare minimum sir I assure you.
@@gowthamkrishna1568 When two people in a relationship work, one isn't feeding the other. He is working to support himself, as is she working for herself. And then he is acting like he is the breadwinner.
@@gowthamkrishna1568 she works too, watch the movie genius.
My ex literally told me the first time I got her flowers, "You know I hate flowers"
she said she hated all that "cliche" stuff, then later down the line, soon to us breaking up, she complains I didnt do enough stuff like taking her to the movies or to diner, the exact stuff she said was "cliche", so dumb... My current girlfriend makes it crystal clear she would like to go to a movie, or to dinner, or whatever, if she says she doesnt want something, she means she doesnt want something, its great to move up in the world :)
Senseless Nonsense lol no trust me she still would like the gesture of flowers 😉 what women (yes every women) say and want (or in other words expect you understand, and read between the lines) are two totally different things. This movie is perfect in showing that. All women just want attention or little gestures to show that you care and listen to their emotional needs even if they insist they don't care about those trivial things.
That's such a mean thing to say when someone gets you flowers! She should be ashamed of herself. If someone is sweet to you don't say you hate it! Sorry man, glad that you have a sweetie now. ❤️
A lot of guys don't like it when you say you want flowers or something because they think you're pushing them, and then if they do get you flowers it isn't spontaneous or a surprise because you always asked for them
Funny enough, it's the opposite with me. My bf is the one who said he likes flowers. He knows I don't. I told him he's better off giving a meal or fresh fish as a gift. I'm not the sentimental type, but he is. About 5 years later, when I offered him mums and tulips (his favorite flowers), he got angry and said he hates them and that "what kind of man likes flowers"
Admittedly he has masculinity issues stemming from problems with his late father. But it did confuse and hurt me back when I had no clue
I know women are complicated but you missed the point your ex was trying to say. She wanted the flowers because she wanted to feel special. Lol 😊
This was exactly how my wife and I argue.. just it's about why I pulled too many monsters per room in a dungeon.
*Having WoW Healer Flashbacks*
Every girl likes flowers. Even if we say we don’t. We do. I can’t explain it. It is what it is.
It’s the act of showing that you care. It doesn’t even have to be flowers. It could be a card. A baked good. Jewelry. Just something that says “hey. I thought of you”. Not all the time. But once in a blue moon, it’s nice. Even if we say we don’t want anything. We want men to want to show that they care. Not have to drop hints or tell them that we want something.
So don't lie about it. Also, stop pretending you speak for "every" girl.
@@xotennisxgirlox It's that character in "Field of Dreams" that was constantly buying his wife blue hats so stores along his walk home would put them on display in their windows.
"I'm done
I don't
Deserve this
I Really Do Not
Deserve
This
I Deserve
Somebody
Who Gives
A Sh!t.."
I love how defensive & offended he becomes at the very mention of him attendimg a ballot 😂
It’s funny how he didn’t understand her but what she was trying to say is “ I wish you could be a little more considerate and romantic with me” it weird how a guy will jump through hoops trying to sweep a woman off her feet. Which is what made her fall for him (the effort) but once he got her, all the effort goes out the window.
Yep. Exactly. When you get older and married for 20 years the girl is screwed. He has had 20 years of you being good to him, telling him you love him. They get lazy, take your for granted because they think they have you at that point. They think they really own you and you'll never leave. It's so sad.
This is like a scene out of my life
They are both wrong. Gary is selfish. And Brooke was pretending. Gary and Brooke never really existed. The problem was that Gary loved a girl Brooke was pretending to be-"Cool Girl." Going to football games, saying she doesn't like flowers, remaining a size two. Cool Girl is hot. Cool Girl is game. Cool Girl never gets angry at her man...
I love that monologue 🙌🏽
Damn this is good writing. I watch this scene and I can’t choose a side! They’re both right and they’re both wrong. They both make good points that need to be heard but they’re mad so neither one of them is really communicating what they need. Wow
Then you should see the marriage story fight scene too.Thats much well written than this one
He feels unappreciated and is ungrateful because he can’t appreciate and value himself enough to value her. Says he works for her. Says doing his own chores in his own home ...is not a responsibility ...but a favor to her. That she should be grateful for. Many men psychologically abuse women to deflect/avoid their insecurities, needs, and feelings. Go to therapy love yourself enough to ask for love so not afraid rejection will kill you. Insecure to expose his vulnerability, feelings and needs , rather than manage healthily he’s failing to communicate. Separately from his insecurities, he is then using deflection/projection/yelling/aggression vs assertiveness/gaslighting. He is psychologically abusing her to deflect from his own weaknesses and to avoid accountability and its violent, and very deliberate. He blames her increasingly because we as a society do not hold anyone, ESPECIALLY men and white people, accountable for psychological, social, verbal abuse that upholds systemic male and white supremacy. The lack of consequences on a larger social level + lack of honest discussion, seeps into reaffirming this mass brainwashing/psychological oppression of women and POC. Toxic guy here is a good example of that - he needs help. However if he doesn't want to be honest he should be kicked out. Can’t help people more than they want to help themselves. She does deserve better ❤️❤️❤️
Well said!
@@putrihorizasativa2042 Thank you thank you, we all have to do our part to educate ourselves and then highlight the reverse psychology used to uphold abuse/ negative manipulation for Evil. Mass Education -> Dismantling systems of oppression and building equitable systems that include accountability for psychological abuse, the first vessel of social abuse that avalanches into all other Evils. Analyzing how its masked as cute, but is actually abusive interpersonal level violence that we see magnified into larger community, social ,national, global violence - gives light to the violation of the social contract of human rights from safety, that's being violated at multiple levels, all in the same way: psychological abuse. Dark. Evil hides in plain sight via "its just jokes, nbd/minimization". I'll stop now stay woke everyone
Wow that was super good acting and spot on writing ... hats off
She's completely right lol even if she didn't like flowers at least the gesture would count
@Kornelia Milewczyk Yeah I agree if you say it's a preference that you've been blunt about, I think inn this scene she might've just said she's not really into flowers but probably wouldn't've minded if he got her some since he doesn't get her anything at all so at least something would be better than nothing, because he acts as if there's no alternative thing to gift her. Like your boyfriend sounds sweet getting you the broccoli which shows he cared to buy you something and take into account your preferences, whereas in this scene he didn't do either or those things.
Seeing Jennifer Lawrence thinking about "the friends" And me thinking this is still a comedy show and the people laughing on the background 😂
fucking love this scene and jen is so goddamn beautiful
Acting so good I was starting to get stressed out myself
I’ve never been through this but I felt that when she said “ I am done! I don’t deserve this I really don’t deserve this, I deserves somebody who gives a care”....there was some type strength in that. Umm hmmm you betta act Jennifer!!!
This is every guy I dated in my early and mid 20s, I’d give so much of myself and all they did was take with no reciprocation or even a thought about my well being. It was always what they wanted and what was best for them only and still to this day they all are still single bc they don’t understand a relationship is 2 people, not finding a slave to serve you.
I watched this film when I was only eleven years old as a kid. I saw it in theaters with my mom and I had no idea why they fought so much honestly. Of course being a kid, you never understand relationship problems at that time. Years later now at almost 25 years old, my heart wrenches at this scene. I have been in her shoes, crying and just begging to a man to pay attention to me or at least appreciate Everything I do for our relationship. But much like my ex, Gary is resisting and only thinks of himself (in this scene, I know that changes later). He doesn’t like going out with her, he’s so different from her. I never would have thought I would have been in her shoes, but much like the ending to this scene I finally told him I was done fighting for something that wasn’t worth fighting for anymore. Months have passed since my own breakup, and moving on is a challenge. But like the ending to this movie, I’ll always care for him, and I know he’ll always regret letting me go but it’s because my leaving, he’s changed a lot. Sometimes people are brought together to learn a lesson, and I’m thankful for mine. Brilliant acting in such a great movie!
"I know he'll always regret letting me go" Really? That's how you view yourself? You have to grow a little before you have a successful relationship.
@@SamBrickell yes he will because i was a good girlfriend to him lol and did everything for him 😂😂 and he’s told me twice he regretted it and asked for me back. I have declined and I’ve moved on since then. I wish him well.
the break-up: exists
marriage story: imma end this man's whole career
A very well acted scene!
0:39 Argument just ended. No way I could speak looking at that sight.
This film makes me cry 😭
Why??
Please in your opinion who had the bigger fault in this whole film?
santiago carreño I'd say Vince's character, Gary. But both could have had things worked out.
It seems they were toxic for each other.
I can relate to this scene so well.... this is spot on man
Hello great fan , how are you ?
this is how my parents used to argue.
How?
I would never want to break up with Jennifer Aniston. Ballet? Sure, lets go there!
Oh you want to go shopping sure I'll follow you around and carry the bags, no problem babe.
she's actually right tho... she went to the game for him, he didnt go anywhere for her, then when she asked what he did for her, he mentioned his job but they both work... idk
This was a very underrated movie
I want Ross in this and he be like " we were on a break"
When im young i didn't finish this movie because i don't understand it and like it but weeks ago i watch it i finish it and understand it and love it
And kids...that's why you should just stay single...lol
And then after he left my life was exactly the same because he put nothing into the relationship - it was all me.
I've had this before, and my advice is this.
"Stay Single Until The Moment has Come"
Jennifer is one of the most talented actresses I I’ve ever known
I feel her like it’s not about the lemon it’s about him showing he care