When I was younger, I wished Brooke gave him another chance. Now I'm 36 and I've been in her shoes. Sometimes you pour your whole heart into someone and they still don't "get it" until it's too late. Gary is saying all the right things, but I doubt he would follow through with his promises in the long term.
Maybe he would, maybe he wouldn’t. But the point is, Brook couldn’t know and, justifiably, wasn’t willing to take the leap again. Still felt bad for Gary, but sometimes you need that realization. So you can learn for future relationships.
I think he would As the scene continues, he doesn't try to beg and plead for her to give him another chance. Instead, he accepts defeat with grace and dignity. And when he kisses her, it's not done in an attempt to rekindle her feelings for him, but more as a farewell and a thank you for all the great times they did have together. He knew that her mind was made up in regards to their relationship and that that there was nothing he could say or do to undo the damage.
He finally got her flowers 😢 But he still says, “This has been really tough on ME. The first Sunday after ME and you broke up.” He’s still putting himself first.
Oh good grief, give me a break. Anything looks bad under a microscope. If you are dealing with someone as impossible to please as you seem to be, nothing will ever be enough.
@@sabrinashelton1997 haha you know nothing about me. It would appear as though you are much like Gary: a narcissistic LAZY taker of the relationship. Get a grip, Sweetheart 🤍
@@sabrinashelton1997no, I think the writers wanted to give the impression that he was willing to change but he still needed to work on himself hence the “ME,”, he said it several times and Brooke was written in a way that she understood he wasn’t ready yet and he wasn’t, he needed more time on his own, to reflect and make real changes.
@@bear6699 Ma'am/Sir, I have been married almost 20 years and have 9 children. And my life is just dandy. I don't see this person as a loser, but you go on and live your most judgmental life and see how sad it turns out to be.
It took for his friend to set him straight. Even though she was so clear about her feelings. It’s way too late. It’s a shame. I’m glad she didn’t go back.
@@ОльгаСмирнова-ч6з9х I know it’s just a movie, but thank God he was actually brave enough to tell him the truth and hold him accountable. That is extremely rare with male friends.
Yes! The comment I was lookin for. Even her crying in the bedroom didn't gut punch him til his friend told him we don't see a baseball game unless it's ur team playing mine. THEN he got it.
Her not going back. Finalized his growth. If she had come back. He would have eventually went back to his old way. Now that he truly lost he can change.
Typical loser guy. "I waited for years of you asking and begging me to do better. I criticized and whined and did nothing during those years. And then when you finally left, I realized "Oh no! Who is going to do my laundry?!" and I grudgingly got you flowers. Now, I expect you to throw me a parade for doing one teeny tiny, lousy thing."
@@ZachOneil for one . . . he could have just picked up his phone and asked if she wasn't doing anything that night and if not was willing to talk to her about starting over. He didn't do that. He assumed she would be available and made a surprise dinner that he saw as a cure all. . . . . ?? Really?
"Stood up for herself" how? She was the gaslighter and manipulator in the entire relationship. This is the abuser lashing out for one final time at her victim. She is a disgusting person.
@@nezisgarden All chores from messes & events she created, that he indulged her in. The second he wants to relax again after a clearly stressful evening (which he did only for her), she eagerly jumps in on him to start another fight. Exhausting.
I gotta give the guy credit for trying but there's something about his delivery that doesn't come across as 100% genuine. He seems completely clueless. He spews all these words but he just doesn't get this relationship thing. Excellent acting from both of them.
@@Ihatedayslikethis1 the thing is he does feel them, I believe. But he needed to listen to her years ago, not just feel things. He needed to just hear her where she is, not do things hoping to make her happy. And that’s the tragedy because he would really believe that he was going to do whatever she needed, but it’s clear he would never be able to listen to her
It's unfortunate how many great women fall in love with a dude's potential and suffer through the real dude hoping that one day they'll match the quality of love they pour onto them. Women, stop falling in love with the imaginary potential of a man.
Did you purposely say great woman then refer to men as dudes? So the moral of your story is find somebody you love for them not what you can make them?
It’s also unfortunate how many great men fall in love with a chic’s potential and suffer through the real girl.. This activity goes equally both ways.. It’s not a man or women thing.. It’s a relationship thing.. there are millions of broken hearts shared equally by men and woman.
Though this scene is very painful, I think she made a right decision. He didn’t know she still care about him so much after the breakup. He didn’t want to go to the ballet with her, because ballet is not his fav. But he wanted her to go everywhere he likes, never cares about whether she likes it or not. When she was waiting for him at the concert, and about to cry cause he did not show up. I think she has made the decision to end with him. He destroyed his last chance with shallow thoughts
So she knows he hates the ballet right? “You know I hate the ballet” Did she communicate that she hates going to sport games with him? Where did he meet her? I get it give an take one of the differences between men an woman a man doesn’t care or want you to come to something you hate well do it on our own or go with friends woman will want/try to make a man do something they hate
Although you ignore things at beginning but on the long term it eats your soul up and the other person still doesn't get it . If the other person also doesn't put the work it 's a red flag and run from it
@Han Solo burger but that's the whole point of being together. It's not all about you, it's about the other person just as much. It's impossible to be a happy, supportive couple and only do things one of you wants to do. Sometimes you have to do something you don't like simply to make your partner happy. And it's not because they told you to, not because you're being forced to. It's because you love them enough to choose their happiness over your own for one evening a month. That's not asking a lot. Women tend to make this kind of sacrifice without even thinking about it, which is what she had been doing. But he wasn't, and not only that, but when she did ask him for support, he would come up with every excuse just so he didn't have to do anything that made him the slightest bit unhappy. That's where he failed her and lost her.
This movie, and especially this scene, is so accurate. They def had male and female writers. Men always realize way too late, and women give, give, and give, until they run out and have nothing left. Its so sad.
Riiight. You should see what happens when the guy gives and gives, gives away, gives in, then gives up. I think women WANT the selfish boors, so they can resent them.
This speech reminds me of my ex. After they disrespect you to the core of your being and you get the self respect to leave, they apologize with a bunch of “I” centered examples. “I miss you. I want you to be in MY life. I can’t live without you. I will sacrifice doing things I like because I want you back in MY life.” Alignment and principle is what makes a good relationship. If someone isn’t naturally being who you want to be with, let them go. This is too real and too obnoxious.
Here's a classic example of being a day late and a dollar short. And I think the moral of this movie is if you're genuinely interested in trying to fix things with someone, and this applies to both men and women, don't play childish mind-games, but rather be sincere with what you say, and back it up through appropriate action.
If only she did that at the start. Instead she played childish games and instigated a million arguments to self destruct the relationship. Children will be children, i guess.
I went through the exact same thing. Same dynamic. Years and years begging for him to see me and to show the bare minimum consistency and affection. Guess what? After I finally left, he blamed me for leaving and was too proud to try to get me back. You can never win with these people. They'll never learn. Leave and don't look back.
@Steve Gonzales i understand. This movie hits home very hard for me, although Gary is sincere, my ex was not. I had to learn the hard way,, and that took me 21 years to finally walk away. It was the hardest thing i have ever done in my enrire life. It scars you. When Brooke is crying in her room, its so painful to watch and reminds me of my entire marriage. I am glad u said what u did. I need to realize that all men aren't like my ex. Your words were helpful. Thank you!
@Steve Gonzales that happens a lot I think, where one person checks out. And I think when that happens, there’s not much that can be done 😕 People shouldn’t have to change so drastically for one another though. And I like to think there is someone out there for everyone 🙏🏼
@Steve Gonzales it is a trap though. If you've already been fully wronged beyond repair by someone, even the most sincere apology and intent to change is an unfair thing to sign back up for again and there's really not much of a choice but for you to try to prove yourself to someone else. It sucks when they really do want to learn from their mistakes. But no one learns instantly, and usually by that point the other partner is beyond tired of hand holding the learning process.
@@Odiekins It’s not just men who do that. Any gender can do that because they can’t stop their habits. This is who he is and he can’t change it even if he says it so it was wise for her to leave.
I used to watch this movie in the background as a kid. I never understood why these two adults couldn't just make up and live a happy life. After living through a serious relationship similar to this one, I get it now. I'm 24 going on 25 this month and I finally get it. You find yourself years into a relationship struggling to keep the butterflies and compromises once promised. Whenever people say marriage and relationships take work, they mean this! It's ensuring that your foundation from the beginning is sturdy and then keeping the house you built together standing strong.
I still don't see why you couldn't understand each other. You just have to put yourself in other shoes. If you cannot do that, then you are selfish, narssistic human being. It is pretty simple.
You should consider yourself lucky. I am 30 and living with Aspergers Syndrome (a mild case) and have never had a girlfriend in my life. It is a very hard thing psychologically to deal with when I see everyone around me my age getting married and or dating someone knowing that I am at such a disadvantage.
@@bkit5 actually watched Vince Vaughn's interview and he said that he made the ending in such a way that it was left to the viewers to decide whether they get back together or not. So it works both ways to those that don't want them to move on and those that want them to be a couple again.
"I don't have anything to Give"... That's when you've reached your limit and there's no going back! Those who just "Take" without Giving only realise when it's too late!!!
This movie taught me to be more honest about how I feel AND stay respectful. I learned to say “I’m not a fan of this thing you love but I’m more than happy to get excited because I want to enjoy things WITH you.” And of course voicing the expectation that I want the same in return. I’m not entitled, but I do deserve them. He shouldn’t be forced to give them to me, but will always be appreciated when he does.
I have cried to times in front of my husband in 15 years. The first time he got mad at me and walked away, the second he had no reaction and walked away. I knew at that moment he didn’t love me. I rarely asked for emotional support and when I needed it he bailed.
@@poulomi__hari i gets i just dont want to jump from the frying pan into the fire. if i have to date again at 40 with kids… it would be 100%harder.. i would have start over in home, then worry about pedophiles using me, then worry about the narcisist that acts nice but really is masking it, or have to spend 3 years with a man that ultimately will do the same thing in the end. i know why some women stay single.
He doesn’t deserve you. It’s not fair to you that you don’t get the treatment and the emotional comfort you need and WANTING him to be there for you. If he can’t do that for you, then let him go. Harsh but if someone can’t put the energy to do something for you or at least work as a team, then he’s not the person worth spending energy to. Find your happiness elsewhere rather than the place where you first found it
Typical dude that doesn’t appreciate what he has till it’s gone. By the time most men catch up emotionally, we’ve had to let go of everything we’ve felt to survive the heartbreak. We had no choice bc all trying has completely damaged our capabilities.
Or maybe just maybe learn to communicate better? Women love playing victim in relationships but y'all are awful communicators. Sometimes a direct conversation would go a long way but y'all would rather say something in passing or in a round about way. Then get mad when nothing changes, maybe you should view your own actions and not blame the guy all the time?
It's crazy how men here believe the woman was wrong. He practically behaves like a teenager that needs orders from his mother. This is not his mother. Is his partner. She stated every single time what she wanted from him, what she needed. They both worked, and still she was the one coming home and doing all the work for him like she actually was his mother. And men still get the "say how you feel" card out. SERIOUSLY? HAVE YOU EVEN SEEN THE MOVIE? I mean it. Did you pay attention? And to the mothers and fathers here, raise your kids, all of them, to be independent from anyone in any form. They will appreciate it when they get older.
The speech he gives you before doing the exact same things you left him for. Im happy Brooke understood the assignment. Garry did love her, he might wanna try to change for her, but for how long will this change last? Sometimes you just can’t afford to be hurt again.. sometimes you just have NOTHING LEFT TO GIVE
It's still a happy ending. Even though Gary struck out here, his character development from start of movie to finish was one of improvement. This scene here and then the responsibility he took after this to get his life together and cleaning his office and getting the tour logs done. His relationship and breakup with Brooke made him grow into his potential. The ultimate victory.
@stephaniepetrosky6159 see I always felt the ending left the viewers to decide if they got back together cause they grew and learned from their mistakes
She cried because she felt sorry for herself, it was not about end of relationships. She planned this concert long time ago, and it was mix of emotions - betrayal for her and examination of his feelings. She was confused that she allowed herself to manipulate with his promises. And that was the end of her feelings and this relationships. When you want to control your feelings and his. Works both genders. She didn't put herself first, she just exhausted of everything. Sorry for my bad explanation.
This is what happens when the fantasy of a persons 'potential' wears off and you start to see that person for what they really are. It's impossible to go back because you realise that person you loved never existed. It was just an idea, a hope that you've now realise will never happen because they are who they are and don't plan on changing for you.
"It's not about doing things that you want to do always, but it is about doing things with the person that you love". That, I think, is a REALLY important lesson to be learned.
He is destructive and doesn’t allow others to talk to him the way he talks to others. He just dominates and in a cringy cheap way tries to imitate genuine emotions. This scene captures what it is like being with a narc.
@@jon8004 tbh I’ve been in this situation and the only thing he is apologising for is to get her again and still act the same. It’s not an apology, it’s a tactic, and theatrical. My ex cried and said sorry multiple times to end up doing the same stuff over and over again.
When this movie first came out I thought it wasn’t a good ending because they didn’t get back together, but now, in my 30s, I can see how much better it was that she said no. She was doing all the emotional labour and carried all of the mental load and couldn’t take it anymore. Back then we didn’t even have words for those things, so it was quite bold of the writers to end like that.
A heart is like a love meter. Never let your person get "tired" of you. Cause it means they are running on E and when the last drop is gone. It's gone.
Glad I have a man who wants to communicate. He's usually the first to do so, bc I'm afraid of everything, do to my last long , toxic relationship. He understands, and I cherish that.
That’s hilarious because this movie is pretty much about her inability to communicate “I don’t like flowers= all woman loves flowers. She knows he hate ballet he doesn’t know she doesn’t like going to sporting events she starts dating other guys to make him jealous instead of telling him she doesn’t want to break up
@@hansoloburger2322 I understand where you’re coming from but being feminine isn’t about begging. it’s about trusting in him to guard her and her heart. It wasn’t about the ballet-it’s about his priorities or lack there of. She wants him to want her; and sacrificing the ballet was easy until it was all that was left. He came home and ignored her…often. That’s when a woman thinks of the “things” she’d rather do then wait for the love from the one she loves that he refuses to extend it. *English is my second language, forgive me for errors
Women leave when they finally accept the fact that the person they have tried so hard to fix, is never going to come around. Women go to extreme lengths to stay in a relationship. But once a woman is done, she is done. Women do not lack options. They may lack self-confidence and self validation, which is why they stick with even the worst kind until all their motherly instinct dries up. So when a woman gives up one you, you're never getting another chance. Why? Because she's already given you enough chances.
Sometimes you can still love someone, but when they hurt you too much, you'll reach a point where the love you're feeling isn't enough anymore to be with that person. At that point you're just exhausted & your heart is ready to heal.
It is sad because she was hurt since the beginning of the movie and it would have been better if he didn't twist the knife further... she really loved him but was too hurt to continue
LOL You're kidding right? Did you forget the bowling alley scene where she admitted to intentionally destroying his life so that she is his only last option to crawl back to? Talk about a biased memory.
This is exactly how the past 7 years went down with me and my husband, except he never actually prepared a dinner haha same bullshit speech every time with no actual changes. Men like this just tell you what you want to hear without them being genuine, they just realize that once they are affected, they’ll do this for about a week or two to bring you back in and then it’s back to the same old shitshow. If someone wanted to change and make the relationship better, they would without needing more than 2-3 chances tops. And don’t say women don’t communicate. We do all the time, and most of us explicitly say what we want many times but men just choose to ignore it.
It goes both ways between men and women. Most of the time communication is lacking from both and sometimes it's just the woman who is the selfish one. As was said by another in this thread: Not every man is your ex., so please don't generalize.
@@stephenh8092 Before you generalize that I’m just a selfish and whiny nagger, I implore you to reread my comment. Especially the part where I say ‘men like this’ and also the part where I mention ‘husband’ bc unfortunately he’s not an ex. You’re a hypocrite, telling me don’t generalize when you are saying that women are usually the problem.
@@hadilayyad6147 I would say that because of your ongoing issues with your husband you have become embittered towards the world in general and men in particular. Such bitterness will leave a person without the ability to see reality clearly.
@@stephenh8092 Follow your own advice first, hypocrite. It’s really pathetic to place all the blame on the woman who is desperately trying to change their relationship for the better while the man doesn’t care to and actively continues to abuse his wife. Only people like you don’t have the ability to see reality. People like you are very naive and ignorant and biased. See what I did there? I think you can learn a thing or two.
If u look into some of the scenes, she says that she doesn't like flowers, but then again says every women loves flowers , like wtf . I think she also comments on his weight too , if I remember correctly. This is a cycle , Gary had problems he realised it . He may will change for good. But she will remain the same. N will do the same thing to the other guy. So the other guy here is at loss. The problem is woman are more attracted to these types of Chads . That's a fact. Because she in the movie did the same. The good ones (men) are always the backup plan.
They both did many things wrong. This movie really shows you how important communication is. They will both have learned to be better partners in their next relationship.
It’s sad…they will only try, to “try harder” when they know you’ve declared it as over. It goes to show what it really means when, “it’s too late” for a sincere apology. That’s why one cannot wait this late to make the changes. However, at the end of the day, the truth of the matter is, no one should change to keep someone if this is who they really are. Brooke did the right thing for both of them. It’s upsetting to see in the movie because the most painful thing for her to do was to let him go.
You really SEE this movie as an adult. What I love about this scene is how well he acts. He is not genuine. He is doing and saying these things because he knows that is what she wants to see/hear. But he still is clueless what is the real issue despite his friend spelling it out to him. When you love someone you want to put in this effort with small things or do things you partner enjoys even if you don't. You don't have to be forced to do it. He is the type of man who wants to be in a relationship while leaving all the labor, especially emotional, on the woman. That is why your wives file for divorce, guys.
They don't really want you back. It's just that at times they remember the good times without the bad. They fool themselves into thinking they want the relationship back because of that. At least that's how it was with me and my ex. I wanted her back, but once I was actually in her presence for like 30 minutes, I remembered how breaking up was the correct choice.
He's like my awful ex who has a personality disorder. He never got me anything, he tried to return and promised things, but I didn't care about that anymore. I just wanted to be away from him and move on with my life. Brook said she has nothing to give anymore because Brook loves through giving. He loves for himself. So relatable.
This movie made a good point. When one side pour so much into a relationship and the other side dont appreciate whats infront of then until it's too late. It also shows that one side not putting up with the other person anymore knowing the same pattern behavior have a possibility to happen again. Possibility of a viscious cycle that never improves. It teaches the point you don't know what you have till its gone.
THIS PART OF THE MOVIE IS CALLED HONESTY... SHE GAVE AND GAVE AND WHAT I CAN RESPECT IS THAT DUDE TRIED AT THE END THOU AT THE MOMENT IT WAS LATE. A THANK YOU AND GRATITUDE CAN GO A LONG WAY LESSONS LEARNED
When my mom and I watched this movie, we noticed that Gary didn't have 12 lemons at the center of the table. We thought he would actually do that since he didn't buy them at the beginning of the film for Brooke.
He took total advantage of her, but also when they broke up she had guys to date to get him jealous. They both wanted each but they just were too stubborn to say sorry I don’t want anyone else. Communication
Both the actors nailed it especially Jennifer Aniston's performance is superb. Women usually keep on giving love, chances (sometimes undeserved), they compromise, they even try to take the bad behaviour explaining themselves that perhaps it wasn't so disagreeable after all. Finally, it is too late and the damage is already done, then nothing works. By that time, women get completely exhausted and they have nothing more to give. Sad indeed.
That's not about pride! She's just done with trying to change him into better, but he's not the guy that wants that. She also way to mature for him, been there.. nothing is more frustrating!
There’s a point of no return, whenever you feel what you’re about to do or not do is too much or could hurt your partner, that’s the point of no return. Think with a clear and cool mind before you say or do something you’re going to regret your whole life.
He was very sure of himself that she wouldn't leave him. Why people underestimate their partners, they never think them capable of leaving. He sees now he is wrong.
I dont like it how many people still don't like him in this movie even after this seen. He openly heartedly apologises about his behaviour and admits his wrongs, it's just that it was too late and she had fallen out of love. But even though he had lost her, I feel like he's redeemed himseld right here.
People still don’t like him because too many people have been through this. They’ve hit this point … received the apology… tried again… and watched their partner revert back to being the exact same person. The reality is Gary’s personality has an innate selfishness to it. Agreeing to go to a concert and then not showing up or calling/texting is something a mature adult doesn’t do - to anyone. The odds of him genuinely changing overnight and becoming a good partner are slim. People like him can rally for a few months but eventually they’ll tire and go back to their old selves.
When he said he will never hurt her again. That's just sugar coating. As a man don't make such promises. He just shows that he is so used to lying and dishonest to himself.
Even after what he’s just said to her….he wouldn’t follow thru. He just wants his pain to go away and he can’t understand why seeing her hurt hurts him. I gave you the whole kitchen sink of my life and you couldn’t even help me with the dishes
I remember feeling sad that Brooke didn't give Gary another chance when this movie first came out, but now I get it. Brooke was completely drained from putting all the effort into her one-sided relationship. Gary, although very well-intentioned here, was too late. In the end, the break up seemed to be good for him too as he seemed to have matured a ton when they bumped into each other in the final scene.
As a 40year old, I see this so differently now. When I was 20 something, I thought why can't they just figure it out? Dial back in and be better/stronger together.. Yes, he took her for granted.. yes, he figured it out too late. But the general premise of this movie is largely told from a woman's point of view. There's frankly more to the story. She could have been more up front, and discussed what she wanted from him prior to it becoming unfixable. Then all the games and trickery that ensues after the break up where the woman is hoping the man steps up and figures it out, eventually becoming what she always wanted in her partner all along.. Men can't read women's minds.. and women struggle to be direct with what they want, and will often mentally check out before physically ending it. It would be great to redo this movie, and add in the effects of social media, dating apps and the now unlimited optionality presented to modern women. Tell the story from the man's perspective as he watches his woman succumb to the endless amounts of attention garnered through the internet and several generations of weak and Godless men.
Oh god the hand gestures. It feels like he rehearsed to say every right thing and it bothered me how much manipulation there is in this. Him love bombing her but you know for a fact that nothing would change right after. Gives me the ikkk.
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When I was younger, I wished Brooke gave him another chance. Now I'm 36 and I've been in her shoes. Sometimes you pour your whole heart into someone and they still don't "get it" until it's too late. Gary is saying all the right things, but I doubt he would follow through with his promises in the long term.
He wouldn’t.
Maybe he would, maybe he wouldn’t. But the point is, Brook couldn’t know and, justifiably, wasn’t willing to take the leap again. Still felt bad for Gary, but sometimes you need that realization. So you can learn for future relationships.
I ws 11 wn D's came out. Now im older
I actually think the point is that he would, but the damage has been done and it's too late.
I think he would As the scene continues, he doesn't try to beg and plead for her to give him another chance. Instead, he accepts defeat with grace and dignity. And when he kisses her, it's not done in an attempt to rekindle her feelings for him, but more as a farewell and a thank you for all the great times they did have together. He knew that her mind was made up in regards to their relationship and that that there was nothing he could say or do to undo the damage.
He finally got her flowers 😢
But he still says, “This has been really tough on ME. The first Sunday after ME and you broke up.” He’s still putting himself first.
Oh good grief, give me a break. Anything looks bad under a microscope. If you are dealing with someone as impossible to please as you seem to be, nothing will ever be enough.
@@sabrinashelton1997 haha you know nothing about me. It would appear as though you are much like Gary: a narcissistic LAZY taker of the relationship. Get a grip, Sweetheart 🤍
@@sabrinashelton1997no, I think the writers wanted to give the impression that he was willing to change but he still needed to work on himself hence the “ME,”, he said it several times and Brooke was written in a way that she understood he wasn’t ready yet and he wasn’t, he needed more time on his own, to reflect and make real changes.
@@sabrinashelton1997sabrina 3:56 you are free to date losers and be okay with it. nobody is stopping you! live your saddest life girly !
@@bear6699 Ma'am/Sir, I have been married almost 20 years and have 9 children. And my life is just dandy. I don't see this person as a loser, but you go on and live your most judgmental life and see how sad it turns out to be.
It took for his friend to set him straight. Even though she was so clear about her feelings. It’s way too late. It’s a shame. I’m glad she didn’t go back.
SUCH a good point. his friend had to spell it out for him to understand it. their friends’ opinions/thoughts/words hold more weight their partner’s.
Exactly! It was his friend’s speech after my husband started doing something that I suggested him to do in the first place!
@@ОльгаСмирнова-ч6з9х I know it’s just a movie, but thank God he was actually brave enough to tell him the truth and hold him accountable. That is extremely rare with male friends.
Yes! The comment I was lookin for. Even her crying in the bedroom didn't gut punch him til his friend told him we don't see a baseball game unless it's ur team playing mine. THEN he got it.
Her not going back. Finalized his growth. If she had come back. He would have eventually went back to his old way. Now that he truly lost he can change.
“You left me, and it hit me you were really leaving, and then I felt bad when you cried, so now I made you a single meal.”
Hardly a meal is that one tiny plate
😂
Typical loser guy. "I waited for years of you asking and begging me to do better. I criticized and whined and did nothing during those years. And then when you finally left, I realized "Oh no! Who is going to do my laundry?!" and I grudgingly got you flowers. Now, I expect you to throw me a parade for doing one teeny tiny, lousy thing."
...yea ok but u can only eat one meal at a time. should he have got her 3 KFC buckets and insinuated she was fat?
@@ZachOneil for one . . . he could have just picked up his phone and asked if she wasn't doing anything that night and if not was willing to talk to her about starting over. He didn't do that. He assumed she would be available and made a surprise dinner that he saw as a cure all. . . . . ?? Really?
The way she said, “I don’t feel the same way” was sheer perfection. I just love this scene and I love that she stood up for herself here.
"Stood up for herself" how? She was the gaslighter and manipulator in the entire relationship. This is the abuser lashing out for one final time at her victim. She is a disgusting person.
Manipulator when she does all the chores while he is playing games knowing that both of them are tired.
@@Squatch24oh please cut the BS
@@nezisgardenI hope you get picked soon sweetie!!
@@nezisgarden All chores from messes & events she created, that he indulged her in. The second he wants to relax again after a clearly stressful evening (which he did only for her), she eagerly jumps in on him to start another fight. Exhausting.
I gotta give the guy credit for trying but there's something about his delivery that doesn't come across as 100% genuine. He seems completely clueless. He spews all these words but he just doesn't get this relationship thing. Excellent acting from both of them.
Yep. His words are the last ditch effort to not lose her but he doesn't feel them. Once she's back, everything will be the same again.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@Ihatedayslikethis1 absolutely and very quickly
@@Ihatedayslikethis1 the thing is he does feel them, I believe. But he needed to listen to her years ago, not just feel things. He needed to just hear her where she is, not do things hoping to make her happy. And that’s the tragedy because he would really believe that he was going to do whatever she needed, but it’s clear he would never be able to listen to her
when a woman stop talking, its over. Nothing going to bring her back.
It's unfortunate how many great women fall in love with a dude's potential and suffer through the real dude hoping that one day they'll match the quality of love they pour onto them. Women, stop falling in love with the imaginary potential of a man.
Did you purposely say great woman then refer to men as dudes? So the moral of your story is find somebody you love for them not what you can make them?
You could not have worded this better! Awesome and so true
Goes both ways
It’s also unfortunate how many great men fall in love with a chic’s potential and suffer through the real girl.. This activity goes equally both ways.. It’s not a man or women thing.. It’s a relationship thing.. there are millions of broken hearts shared equally by men and woman.
@@michaelscott9995 yes! thank u
I love how strong and decisive she is in this scene ❤
Though this scene is very painful, I think she made a right decision.
He didn’t know she still care about him so much after the breakup. He didn’t want to go to the ballet with her, because ballet is not his fav. But he wanted her to go everywhere he likes, never cares about whether she likes it or not.
When she was waiting for him at the concert, and about to cry cause he did not show up. I think she has made the decision to end with him. He destroyed his last chance with shallow thoughts
So she knows he hates the ballet right? “You know I hate the ballet” Did she communicate that she hates going to sport games with him? Where did he meet her? I get it give an take one of the differences between men an woman a man doesn’t care or want you to come to something you hate well do it on our own or go with friends woman will want/try to make a man do something they hate
@Steve Gonzales maybe it was the dating other guys part ?
She did.
Although you ignore things at beginning but on the long term it eats your soul up and the other person still doesn't get it . If the other person also doesn't put the work it 's a red flag and run from it
@Han Solo burger but that's the whole point of being together. It's not all about you, it's about the other person just as much. It's impossible to be a happy, supportive couple and only do things one of you wants to do. Sometimes you have to do something you don't like simply to make your partner happy. And it's not because they told you to, not because you're being forced to. It's because you love them enough to choose their happiness over your own for one evening a month. That's not asking a lot. Women tend to make this kind of sacrifice without even thinking about it, which is what she had been doing. But he wasn't, and not only that, but when she did ask him for support, he would come up with every excuse just so he didn't have to do anything that made him the slightest bit unhappy. That's where he failed her and lost her.
This movie, and especially this scene, is so accurate. They def had male and female writers. Men always realize way too late, and women give, give, and give, until they run out and have nothing left. Its so sad.
Riiight. You should see what happens when the guy gives and gives, gives away, gives in, then gives up. I think women WANT the selfish boors, so they can resent them.
That’s a very narrow view lol. Get real.
Dont generalize, that street goes both ways
So refreshing to hear this
You’re one of the rare men who will own up rather than defensively manipulate and throw revenge hate.
This speech reminds me of my ex. After they disrespect you to the core of your being and you get the self respect to leave, they apologize with a bunch of “I” centered examples. “I miss you. I want you to be in MY life. I can’t live without you. I will sacrifice doing things I like because I want you back in MY life.” Alignment and principle is what makes a good relationship. If someone isn’t naturally being who you want to be with, let them go. This is too real and too obnoxious.
Exactly
Yes!!
Here's a classic example of being a day late and a dollar short. And I think the moral of this movie is if you're genuinely interested in trying to fix things with someone, and this applies to both men and women, don't play childish mind-games, but rather be sincere with what you say, and back it up through appropriate action.
If only she did that at the start. Instead she played childish games and instigated a million arguments to self destruct the relationship. Children will be children, i guess.
I've been that man before. I assure you, Sincerely, sir: this TRULY is a classic example of being a day late and a dollar short.
@@Squatch24yeah, you seem a classic case of guy denying that he can be wrong until reality hits his face
Too little. Too late
I went through the exact same thing. Same dynamic. Years and years begging for him to see me and to show the bare minimum consistency and affection. Guess what? After I finally left, he blamed me for leaving and was too proud to try to get me back. You can never win with these people. They'll never learn. Leave and don't look back.
She has so much strength in this scene. I would have fell right back
into "the trap"!😟
@Steve Gonzales i understand. This movie hits home very hard for me, although Gary is sincere, my ex was not. I had to learn the hard way,, and that took me 21 years to finally walk away. It was the hardest thing i have ever done in my enrire life. It scars you. When Brooke is crying in her room, its so painful to watch and reminds me of my entire marriage. I am glad u said what u did. I need to realize that all men aren't like my ex. Your words were helpful. Thank you!
@Steve Gonzales men often “fix things” for about two wks and then revert back to their same old things.
@Steve Gonzales that happens a lot I think, where one person checks out. And I think when that happens, there’s not much that can be done 😕
People shouldn’t have to change so drastically for one another though. And I like to think there is someone out there for everyone 🙏🏼
@Steve Gonzales it is a trap though. If you've already been fully wronged beyond repair by someone, even the most sincere apology and intent to change is an unfair thing to sign back up for again and there's really not much of a choice but for you to try to prove yourself to someone else. It sucks when they really do want to learn from their mistakes. But no one learns instantly, and usually by that point the other partner is beyond tired of hand holding the learning process.
@@Odiekins It’s not just men who do that. Any gender can do that because they can’t stop their habits. This is who he is and he can’t change it even if he says it so it was wise for her to leave.
I used to watch this movie in the background as a kid. I never understood why these two adults couldn't just make up and live a happy life. After living through a serious relationship similar to this one, I get it now. I'm 24 going on 25 this month and I finally get it. You find yourself years into a relationship struggling to keep the butterflies and compromises once promised. Whenever people say marriage and relationships take work, they mean this! It's ensuring that your foundation from the beginning is sturdy and then keeping the house you built together standing strong.
I still don't see why you couldn't understand each other. You just have to put yourself in other shoes. If you cannot do that, then you are selfish, narssistic human being. It is pretty simple.
You should consider yourself lucky. I am 30 and living with Aspergers Syndrome (a mild case) and have never had a girlfriend in my life. It is a very hard thing psychologically to deal with when I see everyone around me my age getting married and or dating someone knowing that I am at such a disadvantage.
@@johnxina1323 Thank you Mr. Xina.
@@rudiaguswidono5450 I was referring to when I was a child lol calm down
You're still young, but there's experience there that will still carry on well into your older years. Good luck.
Its to late for him ,the damage have been done, the best scene from the movie ,
I was so happy when she moved out.
@@hanatirk4375 Yup, so was I. Moral of the story, don't take for granted the person who loves you. You just may end up being alone.
worked out great for him too that makes me the most happy
@@jackofficialTM In the end they hinted they will get back together case she was impressed he matured up and they said they will catch up soon.
@@bkit5 actually watched Vince Vaughn's interview and he said that he made the ending in such a way that it was left to the viewers to decide whether they get back together or not. So it works both ways to those that don't want them to move on and those that want them to be a couple again.
"I don't have anything to Give"... That's when you've reached your limit and there's no going back! Those who just "Take" without Giving only realise when it's too late!!!
Wow - begrudgingly offering to go to the ballet - what a hero.
This movie taught me to be more honest about how I feel AND stay respectful. I learned to say “I’m not a fan of this thing you love but I’m more than happy to get excited because I want to enjoy things WITH you.” And of course voicing the expectation that I want the same in return. I’m not entitled, but I do deserve them. He shouldn’t be forced to give them to me, but will always be appreciated when he does.
I have cried to times in front of my husband in 15 years. The first time he got mad at me and walked away, the second he had no reaction and walked away. I knew at that moment he didn’t love me. I rarely asked for emotional support and when I needed it he bailed.
You deserve better than that
Why are you with him then?
@@poulomi__hari i gets i just dont want to jump from the frying pan into the fire. if i have to date again at 40 with kids… it would be 100%harder.. i would have start over in home, then worry about pedophiles using me, then worry about the narcisist that acts nice but really is masking it, or have to spend 3 years with a man that ultimately will do the same thing in the end. i know why some women stay single.
@@harrisshob5819 its something called avoidant attachment type I think, google about it, might help or better yet talk to a professional for advice
He doesn’t deserve you. It’s not fair to you that you don’t get the treatment and the emotional comfort you need and WANTING him to be there for you. If he can’t do that for you, then let him go. Harsh but if someone can’t put the energy to do something for you or at least work as a team, then he’s not the person worth spending energy to. Find your happiness elsewhere rather than the place where you first found it
im glad she didnt get back with him, people never change!! he was going to be the same old himself after 3-4 months again
Maybe you don't, or the people you've let into your life, but some can.
Guess you didn't see the ending
After being married 25 years I can honestly say I wish I took myself more seriously when I was younger and did what I wanted to do.
Typical dude that doesn’t appreciate what he has till it’s gone. By the time most men catch up emotionally, we’ve had to let go of everything we’ve felt to survive the heartbreak. We had no choice bc all trying has completely damaged our capabilities.
Or maybe just maybe learn to communicate better? Women love playing victim in relationships but y'all are awful communicators. Sometimes a direct conversation would go a long way but y'all would rather say something in passing or in a round about way. Then get mad when nothing changes, maybe you should view your own actions and not blame the guy all the time?
@@aboutmillions Have u watched this movie, actually?
Typical woman who loves her man...oh..wait a minute...never mind this is Hollywood. Women are to busy twerking in Instagram.
@@aboutmillions Yessssss very accurate
@@aboutmillions except when we do communicate and the guy still doesnt do the things we ask of...then are we still at fault?
It's crazy how men here believe the woman was wrong. He practically behaves like a teenager that needs orders from his mother.
This is not his mother. Is his partner.
She stated every single time what she wanted from him, what she needed. They both worked, and still she was the one coming home and doing all the work for him like she actually was his mother.
And men still get the "say how you feel" card out.
SERIOUSLY?
HAVE YOU EVEN SEEN THE MOVIE?
I mean it. Did you pay attention?
And to the mothers and fathers here, raise your kids, all of them, to be independent from anyone in any form. They will appreciate it when they get older.
Even mothers don't deserve this.
They were both wrong
I’m amazed this movie stuck to its guns and didn’t cop out with a “they get back together” ending. That’s what makes it special to me
The speech he gives you before doing the exact same things you left him for. Im happy Brooke understood the assignment. Garry did love her, he might wanna try to change for her, but for how long will this change last? Sometimes you just can’t afford to be hurt again.. sometimes you just have NOTHING LEFT TO GIVE
It's still a happy ending. Even though Gary struck out here, his character development from start of movie to finish was one of improvement. This scene here and then the responsibility he took after this to get his life together and cleaning his office and getting the tour logs done. His relationship and breakup with Brooke made him grow into his potential. The ultimate victory.
Yeah for him.
Yay for brooke how lucky for her to help Gary be the man he was 'meant to be' for the NEXT woman.
@stephaniepetrosky6159 see I always felt the ending left the viewers to decide if they got back together cause they grew and learned from their mistakes
@@suzanner1630 Yes the ending leave the door open.
@@stephaniepetrosky6159exactly 😂 it sucks
She doesnt even get upset like previously...... the night she cried in the room she knew it was over and no going back 😢😢 she put herself first
She cried because she felt sorry for herself, it was not about end of relationships. She planned this concert long time ago, and it was mix of emotions - betrayal for her and examination of his feelings. She was confused that she allowed herself to manipulate with his promises. And that was the end of her feelings and this relationships. When you want to control your feelings and his. Works both genders. She didn't put herself first, she just exhausted of everything.
Sorry for my bad explanation.
She genuinely didn’t love him anymore.
This is what happens when the fantasy of a persons 'potential' wears off and you start to see that person for what they really are. It's impossible to go back because you realise that person you loved never existed. It was just an idea, a hope that you've now realise will never happen because they are who they are and don't plan on changing for you.
She loved him, she just didn't like him anymore.
"It's not about doing things that you want to do always, but it is about doing things with the person that you love".
That, I think, is a REALLY important lesson to be learned.
He is destructive and doesn’t allow others to talk to him the way he talks to others. He just dominates and in a cringy cheap way tries to imitate genuine emotions. This scene captures what it is like being with a narc.
He’s not a narc, he’s a sociopath. They are different
@@jon8004 tbh I’ve been in this situation and the only thing he is apologising for is to get her again and still act the same. It’s not an apology, it’s a tactic, and theatrical. My ex cried and said sorry multiple times to end up doing the same stuff over and over again.
@@boomds5602 Stop throwing buzz words around. Some people just grew up giving the bare minimum
The original commenter used one if the most overused and misused buzzwords around. @@joyandpeacefullaughter5307
Being with m$n
When this movie first came out I thought it wasn’t a good ending because they didn’t get back together, but now, in my 30s, I can see how much better it was that she said no. She was doing all the emotional labour and carried all of the mental load and couldn’t take it anymore. Back then we didn’t even have words for those things, so it was quite bold of the writers to end like that.
I'm glad she didn't give him a chance...he had his chance but just took her for granted that she would stick around no matter what...
A heart is like a love meter. Never let your person get "tired" of you. Cause it means they are running on E and when the last drop is gone. It's gone.
These were words she probably wished that Brad would have said to her at the time.
And I got tears in my eyes.
Glad I have a man who wants to communicate. He's usually the first to do so, bc I'm afraid of everything, do to my last long , toxic relationship. He understands, and I cherish that.
That’s hilarious because this movie is pretty much about her inability to communicate “I don’t like flowers= all woman loves flowers. She knows he hate ballet he doesn’t know she doesn’t like going to sporting events she starts dating other guys to make him jealous instead of telling him she doesn’t want to break up
Bless you, sister! Happy for you both 🙏🏽
@@hansoloburger2322 I understand where you’re coming from but being feminine isn’t about begging. it’s about trusting in him to guard her and her heart. It wasn’t about the ballet-it’s about his priorities or lack there of. She wants him to want her; and sacrificing the ballet was easy until it was all that was left. He came home and ignored her…often. That’s when a woman thinks of the “things” she’d rather do then wait for the love from the one she loves that he refuses to extend it. *English is my second language, forgive me for errors
@@southernsoul152your English is fine infact it’s better than a lot of peoples in TH-cam comments whose only language they speak is English
Women leave when they finally accept the fact that the person they have tried so hard to fix, is never going to come around. Women go to extreme lengths to stay in a relationship. But once a woman is done, she is done. Women do not lack options. They may lack self-confidence and self validation, which is why they stick with even the worst kind until all their motherly instinct dries up. So when a woman gives up one you, you're never getting another chance. Why? Because she's already given you enough chances.
Fix? Really Fix? Why, do women need to fix men? They don't, and shouldn't why turn the man into something you'll just end up resenting.
This is so cathartic and satisfying.
Sometimes you can still love someone, but when they hurt you too much, you'll reach a point where the love you're feeling isn't enough anymore to be with that person. At that point you're just exhausted & your heart is ready to heal.
It is sad because she was hurt since the beginning of the movie and it would have been better if he didn't twist the knife further... she really loved him but was too hurt to continue
Gary … this movie just made me wonder why I should feel sad about their break-up. She is just so much better than him.
LOL
You're kidding right? Did you forget the bowling alley scene where she admitted to intentionally destroying his life so that she is his only last option to crawl back to? Talk about a biased memory.
This is exactly how the past 7 years went down with me and my husband, except he never actually prepared a dinner haha same bullshit speech every time with no actual changes. Men like this just tell you what you want to hear without them being genuine, they just realize that once they are affected, they’ll do this for about a week or two to bring you back in and then it’s back to the same old shitshow. If someone wanted to change and make the relationship better, they would without needing more than 2-3 chances tops. And don’t say women don’t communicate. We do all the time, and most of us explicitly say what we want many times but men just choose to ignore it.
It goes both ways between men and women. Most of the time communication is lacking from both and sometimes it's just the woman who is the selfish one.
As was said by another in this thread: Not every man is your ex., so please don't generalize.
@@stephenh8092 Before you generalize that I’m just a selfish and whiny nagger, I implore you to reread my comment. Especially the part where I say ‘men like this’ and also the part where I mention ‘husband’ bc unfortunately he’s not an ex. You’re a hypocrite, telling me don’t generalize when you are saying that women are usually the problem.
@@hadilayyad6147 I would say that because of your ongoing issues with your husband you have become embittered towards the world in general and men in particular. Such bitterness will leave a person without the ability to see reality clearly.
@@stephenh8092 Follow your own advice first, hypocrite. It’s really pathetic to place all the blame on the woman who is desperately trying to change their relationship for the better while the man doesn’t care to and actively continues to abuse his wife. Only people like you don’t have the ability to see reality. People like you are very naive and ignorant and biased. See what I did there? I think you can learn a thing or two.
If u look into some of the scenes, she says that she doesn't like flowers, but then again says every women loves flowers , like wtf . I think she also comments on his weight too , if I remember correctly.
This is a cycle , Gary had problems he realised it . He may will change for good.
But she will remain the same. N will do the same thing to the other guy.
So the other guy here is at loss.
The problem is woman are more attracted to these types of Chads .
That's a fact. Because she in the movie did the same.
The good ones (men) are always the backup plan.
They both did many things wrong. This movie really shows you how important communication is. They will both have learned to be better partners in their next relationship.
It shouldn't take the person leaving you, to do the bare minimum. He for sure would have fell into his bad habits had she stayed.
My ex started doing this after I left. And expected me to just go back… and be with him and just ‘get over’ the abuse…
Yea but there was no abuse in this relationship tho
And why don’t you go back to him
Same! Endless unmet promises.. after 4 years.. Never again! They know they're a mess. What makes it much harder to leave.
Too little too late
It's a sad deal .. they never seem to be ready to change until we're done ..
True
So true
Get the full package. No more dating for potential cause most men dont change.
Yes, because that's when they realize, even the most patient woman gets sick of if after a time.
People need to love themselves before loving others
We always want them to be together but the reality is something just can't be fixed. You just have to move on and be happy for each other
She did the right thing!
You know this was a very good honest movie.
It’s sad…they will only try, to “try harder” when they know you’ve declared it as over. It goes to show what it really means when, “it’s too late” for a sincere apology. That’s why one cannot wait this late to make the changes. However, at the end of the day, the truth of the matter is, no one should change to keep someone if this is who they really are. Brooke did the right thing for both of them. It’s upsetting to see in the movie because the most painful thing for her to do was to let him go.
You really SEE this movie as an adult. What I love about this scene is how well he acts. He is not genuine. He is doing and saying these things because he knows that is what she wants to see/hear. But he still is clueless what is the real issue despite his friend spelling it out to him. When you love someone you want to put in this effort with small things or do things you partner enjoys even if you don't. You don't have to be forced to do it. He is the type of man who wants to be in a relationship while leaving all the labor, especially emotional, on the woman. That is why your wives file for divorce, guys.
Been there. First they push you to cliff, and when you have nothing left to give, they ask you to come back.
But you don't anything to give by then
They don't really want you back. It's just that at times they remember the good times without the bad. They fool themselves into thinking they want the relationship back because of that. At least that's how it was with me and my ex. I wanted her back, but once I was actually in her presence for like 30 minutes, I remembered how breaking up was the correct choice.
He's like my awful ex who has a personality disorder. He never got me anything, he tried to return and promised things, but I didn't care about that anymore. I just wanted to be away from him and move on with my life. Brook said she has nothing to give anymore because Brook loves through giving. He loves for himself. So relatable.
This movie made a good point. When one side pour so much into a relationship and the other side dont appreciate whats infront of then until it's too late. It also shows that one side not putting up with the other person anymore knowing the same pattern behavior have a possibility to happen again. Possibility of a viscious cycle that never improves. It teaches the point you don't know what you have till its gone.
THIS PART OF THE MOVIE IS CALLED HONESTY... SHE GAVE AND GAVE AND WHAT I CAN RESPECT IS THAT DUDE TRIED AT THE END THOU AT THE MOMENT IT WAS LATE. A THANK YOU AND GRATITUDE CAN GO A LONG WAY LESSONS LEARNED
Why are you screaming
They should do more movies together, they have very good on screen chemistry
When my mom and I watched this movie, we noticed that Gary didn't have 12 lemons at the center of the table. We thought he would actually do that since he didn't buy them at the beginning of the film for Brooke.
It really does exist, when someone says "It's too late", sometmee, it really is too late.
You never know what you have until it’s gone. 🥺
Its been tough on him? WOW
He took total advantage of her, but also when they broke up she had guys to date to get him jealous. They both wanted each but they just were too stubborn to say sorry I don’t want anyone else. Communication
Seeing this as a kid I wished she took him back. It was also a major wake up call love sometimes ends
Loveee this movie. Haven't seen it in awhile.
Stay single. Life is so much easier .
I spent some years being single and yes, life was absolutely easier, but not necessarily better. There are good and bad sides to both.
This movie was so much like Brad & Jen's lovestory whom jen was being taken for granted and the best revenge ever is to well in life
The truth is, if he had money, she wouldn’t have stayed.
He only did this because he realized what he lost
I really cried watching This film.the story reminds me of my life whith my husband
Both the actors nailed it especially Jennifer Aniston's performance is superb. Women usually keep on giving love, chances (sometimes undeserved), they compromise, they even try to take the bad behaviour explaining themselves that perhaps it wasn't so disagreeable after all. Finally, it is too late and the damage is already done, then nothing works. By that time, women get completely exhausted and they have nothing more to give. Sad indeed.
The look he's giving to the guy broke my heart
Yet she was completely right not giving him a second chance she knew she deserved so much better
As a divorced man I can tell you hes in love with the idea of her, not her. Also, who thought they made a believable couple ffs.
Yes...go girl
"I don't feel the same way" "I don't think I have anything left to give"
Heartbreaking
Sorry Gary you were a few steps late 😢
Things like this happen, at least he's shaped up a bit and when he finds his one again he hopefully cherishes her this time.
After what he said about her family and how he treated her and her friends at game night, there is no way she should get back with him.
Loving someone isn’t something you say, it’s how you TREAT someone. It’s what you DO.
Bruh she can only give so much...
Live and learn
I love, love, LOVEDDDD that movie.
Ive lived this scene. it’s the curse of men and women. Both wanting to maintain their pride and show strength. No one wants to be the vulnerable one.
That's not about pride! She's just done with trying to change him into better, but he's not the guy that wants that. She also way to mature for him, been there.. nothing is more frustrating!
There’s a point of no return, whenever you feel what you’re about to do or not do is too much or could hurt your partner, that’s the point of no return. Think with a clear and cool mind before you say or do something you’re going to regret your whole life.
He was very sure of himself that she wouldn't leave him. Why people underestimate their partners, they never think them capable of leaving. He sees now he is wrong.
Change does not happen overnight.
Ironically, these two dated in real life and the Break-up happened in 2006.
They don't, I think, it was for mass media
I dont like it how many people still don't like him in this movie even after this seen. He openly heartedly apologises about his behaviour and admits his wrongs, it's just that it was too late and she had fallen out of love. But even though he had lost her, I feel like he's redeemed himseld right here.
People still don’t like him because too many people have been through this. They’ve hit this point … received the apology… tried again… and watched their partner revert back to being the exact same person.
The reality is Gary’s personality has an innate selfishness to it. Agreeing to go to a concert and then not showing up or calling/texting is something a mature adult doesn’t do - to anyone.
The odds of him genuinely changing overnight and becoming a good partner are slim. People like him can rally for a few months but eventually they’ll tire and go back to their old selves.
Why do men want to try after women have had enough. Why guys?
She missed the red flags of immaturity at the beginning, she got what he could give.
So true! We like to ignore it at the beginning! Because we think we could change him, and be his hero. Just to find out, it's a bad ending for both!
As they say: too little, too late.
Bingo. I can't give what i don't have ANYMORE. Been down this road before.
go back to playing your videos games Vince.
Vince: “ok…I’ll go play my games. There’s plenty of b*****s in the sea”
Brav Madden and San Andres is not ao bad 🤣
When he said he will never hurt her again. That's just sugar coating. As a man don't make such promises. He just shows that he is so used to lying and dishonest to himself.
I don't think I have anything left to give
Relationships are about convenience. Nothing more. No one loves anyone. Life is cheap, and then you die.
._.
Even after what he’s just said to her….he wouldn’t follow thru. He just wants his pain to go away and he can’t understand why seeing her hurt hurts him.
I gave you the whole kitchen sink of my life and you couldn’t even help me with the dishes
I remember feeling sad that Brooke didn't give Gary another chance when this movie first came out, but now I get it. Brooke was completely drained from putting all the effort into her one-sided relationship. Gary, although very well-intentioned here, was too late. In the end, the break up seemed to be good for him too as he seemed to have matured a ton when they bumped into each other in the final scene.
As a 40year old, I see this so differently now. When I was 20 something, I thought why can't they just figure it out? Dial back in and be better/stronger together..
Yes, he took her for granted.. yes, he figured it out too late. But the general premise of this movie is largely told from a woman's point of view. There's frankly more to the story.
She could have been more up front, and discussed what she wanted from him prior to it becoming unfixable. Then all the games and trickery that ensues after the break up where the woman is hoping the man steps up and figures it out, eventually becoming what she always wanted in her partner all along..
Men can't read women's minds.. and women struggle to be direct with what they want, and will often mentally check out before physically ending it.
It would be great to redo this movie, and add in the effects of social media, dating apps and the now unlimited optionality presented to modern women. Tell the story from the man's perspective as he watches his woman succumb to the endless amounts of attention garnered through the internet and several generations of weak and Godless men.
Her date kind of reminds me of Tom Brady lol
I know right 😄
Oh god the hand gestures. It feels like he rehearsed to say every right thing and it bothered me how much manipulation there is in this. Him love bombing her but you know for a fact that nothing would change right after. Gives me the ikkk.