It’s not a coincidence that the men chasing me & wanting to marry me are men I’ve never slept with. There’s power in keeping your legs closed. Growing up I never had anyone to tell me that so I had to learn this the hard way on my own
What I got from this is that there are wayyyyy too many people together in situationships built from lust who truly do not love each other. The waiting is truly the weeding out process 🙏🏽
I’m almost 30 & still a virgin. Thank you for always giving us the real! The Lord called me to repentance on the very night that I was going to sell my body to pay for college. God is faithful. Thank you again for this.
Good for you! A friend of mine waited and was a virgin when she married at 30. She met a wonderful man who treats her like a queen 12 years later they are still going strong. Always remember you are the prize!!!
This is so true! I hate when people say only 1% of men will wait .. I was dating a guy for 3 years and rededicated my life to Christ and wanted to practice celibacy to do things Gods way and he kept pressuring me and was trying to justify fornication because he’s not strong in his faith and decided to cut me off. I guess this was Gods way of protecting me
Girl I’m not religious but that’s exactly what it is! You guys weren’t compatible once u gave your life to Christ & he knew that. He was trying to get the 🐱 & dip, leaving u emotional unstable probably. God protected u from the heartache trust me 💯🙏🏽 He definitely wasn’t trying to marry
I started dating my now husband at 16. I told him he have to wait until I was 18 and he did...we been married almost 18yrs in March. The right man will wait.
Jessica McCall They try to break you down to their advantage. But don’t focus on what they say or do. Focus on what will get you to where you want. Focus on your values and goals
@A D Well thats really just none of his business. I feel like that question is similar to asking about medical history or finances. Its really none of anyone's business!
Yes some men wait...My brother has been dating this woman for 3 years and he is waiting because she is still a virgin plus he is not cheating on her... When u value yourself men will wait but if u promiscuous we won't.
MY FRIEND WAITED TWO YEARS HER GUY LEFT MARRIED ANOTHER THEY HAPPY SHE SAD. THE GUY WANTED TO MARRY HER. BE MINDFUL SOME MEN TODAY WAITING FOREVER ISN'T REALISTIC. THIS GUY MOVED ON AND MARRIED SOMEONE ELSE. SO I WAS A MAN WILL WAIT WITH AN EXPECTATION BUT HE JUST MAY HAVE AN END DATE!
Tony you are right. Just because they go And get it else where doesn’t mean it’s good sex. So he can wait and he will wait when he really want you. He will crave you. Prob should make a video on how to get a man to fall in love without having sex on the table. Talk convo topics and date suggestions. ladies you can use your feminine energy and intelligence to hold a man’s attention. It’s very empowering
I never understand why women reveal every thought. Just walk and use discernment. “You will know them by their fruits”. Wait to see what they produce (action).. Be graceful about it. I think women tell men their agenda because they want them to pass the test because they are tired of being lonely. I’m not giving you a cheat sheet when it comes to character. Some differences are worth a convo but virtue I won’t teach. I want to know the real you. Therefore i walk gracefully and quietly. And pray for discernment whilst dating. Never been a time that the holy spirit did not provide. Simply Calm your spirit and guard your heart. Be anxious for nothing. Be blessed! ❤️
Believe me, no man will wait if he’s isn’t serious about you. I know a man who can recite every scripture in the bible and is one of the BIGGEST heathens I know 😅. Be Blessed. Thank you. This message was so important to the collective right now😇
Yep...some will wait but for how long though 🤔...a lot of men will get sexual frustrated as the months go by...even if YOU ARE THE ONE for them...self discipline and self control is what these men are missing then...
Jacob in the Bible wait 7 years for Rachel..and work another 7 to marry her after been trick to marry Leah who he wasn't attractive. So if a man really love you he will Sacrifice him time and self for you. Love waits.
@@TopHat_VR828 look up the history about Jewish traditions. Not saying I agree with it and the Lord goes against tradition that was birth through culture depends where you from. What's normal to us is not normal to other countries. 🤷♀️
@@lilkathytaylor i am very familiar. I am speaking about the principle of it she was not happy and she knew that man cared for Rachel more so she firgured the more sons she produced the more he would love her and that was not the case.. Nothing new under the sun. Women still to this day will compete with another women by having babies by a man and he don't love them. Imagine knowing you only had him cause your dad tricked the man not cause u was his first choice..
A few decades ago it was assumed by a man that he would have to wait until marriage for sex. Men had no choice but to respect women because women for the most part respected themselves. My husband waited until marriage to have my body and I wouldn't change a thing.
Because he LOVES THE LORD. Tony has said over a hundred times seems like, "my wife doesn't have the power to change a strand of hair on my head" . But because he follows the teachings of CHRIST JESUS who has the power to do all things, he is faithful to the lord JESUS CHRIST
"The devil knows the Bible." Thank you for this video. Unfortunately for me I learned this the hard way, a part of me is still hurting but with God I'm getting better every day.
Tony, I have been listening to your messages for a while and I'm not sure what happened between last week and today, but this really resonated with me. I have actually lost all desire to lay with a man who hasn't fully committed to me that I can't feel the real love between us. Thank you brother for your words of wisdom. I now have the strength and conviction within my spirit to effortlessly say no until ALL my requirements are met. God bless you and your family.
Desoray Williams thru might want it from you the most but a lot of them will still settle for that release from someone willing. I’m sure Jay Z loves Beyoncé but he still cheated.
I was recently speaking with a male family member. He said all these girls out her saying "they christians" then turn around and give it up to me, lol. Yeah, right "I thought you were so saved." Tony just said that wow! Real talk ladies listen to him, he is telling the truth.....Periodt❗
I’ve been tested lately by both my exes! & the answer is still NO!!! I can tell one of them have a soul tie & I know it’s hard bc it’s hard for me to but he immature & disrespectful , I can’t go back to him...
Women really just don't know what to say on dates anymore lol because I need to know what woman goes on a first date and starts asking about bible verses and telling a man she's waiting before marriage🤦🏾♀️ if a man brings up anything sexual on the first date or too soon. I shut down the entire situation. There's way more things to talk about.
Yes agree. I hope Tony sees this cause I asked the same thing. Its a turn off and im willing to walk away but most men will do this . Its his nature . Do you think its possible to divert the conversation in a possitive aspect ?
@@beauphomasterpiece3795 I wouldn't want to divert the conversation at that point because he has already shown me his intentions. I simply say "sorry, but I don't engage in these types of conversation with strangers" then he's getting blocked and deleted 😂
Man I would love to talk too Tony! I just learned about him maybe 5 or 6 days ago. This man speaking truth. I've watched so many videos since. Thank God I stumbled upon this man.
Thank u Tony. You've literally been my bestfriend everyday for the last 2 weeks. While I cook, clean, drive, and take my dinner break with! May God continue showering you and your family with blessings and may he continue sharing his message thru u for me❤ Thank u
Be blessed. I made the mistake of telling guys I’m waiting too early before they got to know me. You’re right, they left because they didn’t know me! Lesson learned. Thank you !
@@mellead8727 tell him you're not answering that question, its private. If you havent been dating that long, then he doesn't need to know your business & u dont have to tell him private stuff like that.
Your words are so refreshing, and the fact that your not advertising that it’s all okay to still have sex while not being married like some other coaches talk about. I know where I’m coming for now on
Say that Tony, good information. I am 62 years old and my ex-husband told me 5 years ago he was no longer in love with me. But he had love for me. Trust me he showed it with the infidelity and among others things. If I would have known what I know now. I would have left him 5 years ago. Thank you again , for educating ladies on mans character traits.
Tony you are Gods gift to women. I’m a 61 year young woman recently divorced after 30 years of marriage. I could not understand why my now ex-husband never seemed settled into our marriage. No matter how and what I tried, I realized he just wasn’t in to me. It wasn’t until I started listening to your videos over the past 3 months that I now understand. He loved me, he wasn’t in love with me. Your video on “a mans character” amongst others brought that revelation, closure and clarity. Thank you young man, keep empowering woman to make more informed choices, and what self care really means. I am practicing self care on my journey to healing. I can truly say that your video’s are a part of that journey! Thank you and God bless you and your beautiful wife and family.
Deborah, I echo , the same. I to in the 60 over club, and 25 years marriage and experienced the same situation. Tony , brought light to my eyes. I could not understand the back forth . Now I know
Ladies listen to what he is saying with a receptive ear. Its not very often you get this realness into how and why a man thinks the way he does. Be smart.
Nephew Tony is dropping some Gems. Ladies make a decision to love yourself. A man will go elsewhere to get it because (you are not the one). "She ain't cracked the Bible since the Bible been a Bible" ....not a play-play Christian...lol
I think its important for women to know to stop putting it in a man's hands to choose you. Yes a man is supposed to find his wife, but women have got to stop creating an upper hand for a man to even think that you are his option and not his choice. Keep in mind that we haveto make a decision on him too. Its not all up to him. If a man tells you you're his wife but God says no. You better get ghost and stop playing. A proposal does not mean he's your husband. Girl bii!
Tony, this is great message, unfortunately I didn't wait, but I'm waiting now because I'm busy getting better at myself. When ex's attempt to come back around I always say to them, "I gave you an "A" but you didn't do the work to keep it" with that being said we're done.
Aye I be cracking jokes and laughing but I swear a guy told me something today & I had to apply Tony’s advice to the situation. It really gave me peace and feel empowered that I made a decision to respect myself enough to stop wasting my time and believe that I got it just the way somebody like it WITHOUT compromising my values. Haha... in all honesty the guy told me something he didn’t like and I was dead set on changing it until I heard Tony say “ That’s not your HUUSSSSBAND, YOU HEAR MEEEEEEH!” 😂😂😂😂I was like Thank You.. NEXT! His advice be LEGIT!
Felecia Powell I’m hollering 😂😂😂 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿. Tbh it’s a peace that we can have now. No more debating or considering anything. It’s cut and dry just like that. It’s either this or it’s not. If it’s not it’s goodbye. No more wasted time.
Be blessed...Thank you for sharing your experience Felicia. It is great to hear an interaction that depicts the wise advice being applied and working. LISS - SON - TO - MEEH! 🙂🎚❤️ We are. We hear you. God bless
Yes. If Joseph had the will power to wait for Mary to deliver Jesus, a man today should not have too much of a problem waiting today. Be Blessed, Be Safe.
Honey Joseph never touched virgin Mary even after she delivered our lord Jesus Christ. Or the church was not going to call her the Virgin Mary until today
Be Blessed ! As a 23 year old. Your videos are extremely helpful, knowledgeable and full of wisdom. God given wisdom. Thank you for all you do Mr. Tony Gaskins. -Be Blessed ✨🙏✨
I'm currently 17 years old and I have made the descion to be abstinent. I just would like to thank you for your gems of knowledge and your sense of humor made the video more interesting! will definitely be subscribing
I love that you stated a leader is a servant this is so important that it’s so underrated. Everything about this video is a BLESSING!!!! “Listen to me nah” “point blank perioooaaaahhhhd.” “Now you on ya back” “ I love the Lord are you a man of Gaaaawwd, huh are you a man of Gaaaawwd. See you a Pharisee.” “You can put him in his baaahck.” Tony I’m done with you 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I had to give you a hand wave of witness when you were talking about loving someone and have bad sex. Someone told me that once about one of their ex spouses. The first thought that came to my mind was, “you didn’t love them”. Love is patient and kind. If you love someone you’re going to work with them to get it right for the both of you.
I was praying about these questions and then I got this notification for this video, confirming that I am on the right track for waiting. Thank you man of God all the way from South Africa for feeding my spirit everyday and helping me be best version myself every day and teach us about relationship in a way that has never been done. I wish I knew these things 10 years ago. Everything happens for a reason I guess and this time, I will be armed and ready. Love your podcasts, sharing them with my own younger sisters everyday to make sure they also get these amazing lessons. Continue what you're doing. God bless you from South Africa. Carolle
Mannnnn Tony you are a blessing ! You have been ministering all year since 2019 long , these titles are always on POINT! I can hear you talk 2 hours or more about whatever. Thank youuuuuuuuuu keep it up I’m listening all the way from Hattiesburg, Ms
Tony, I am 24 and took the route of celibacy. Now listen I live my life every day any way I want to... I go to club occasionally because I used to suffer from anxiety & just want to be happy at all times whether that comes from Church, school, or having fun with my girls. Because I do a little bit of everything doesn’t mean I am faking. You had me until the end of your sermon. I am a God fearing woman trying to make ends meet. I am a FT student, coach, babysitter, BS psychology degrees & bartender on the weekends for extra $ because I have to play the cards I was dealt with. Sometimes our outside lives does not reflect our insides & I believe I am a great example of this. Instead of judging (reasons why I also chose to be celibate) is because I want someone to fall in love with my heart. I will be honest that I am in the best shape I have ever been smoking my hookah, drinking occasionally, & reading my bible.
"try the spirit by the Spirit"... "instead of all these stupid questions". That makes sense, I'm glad you mentioned that, because sometimes we aren't trying to be stupid or too much we just don't know better and or how to go about seeing if it's truly a man of God. Some of us just truly truly want a man of God and after becoming saved and being "new" to only wanting to get to know men of God (now), the dating/conversing is new as saved women.
One of the best videos I've seen. Much needed and very encouraging. We tend to doubt God and compromise out of confusion. All of these videos really help us to become solid in our beliefs that many of us already have.
The guy I’m dating said this exact thing. He will wait, but that doesn’t mean he’s not going to try so I should just be stern with him in saying no. We’ve been dating a few months and have not kissed. I believe this!
Ashley Goodrich I am a Scorpio woman dating a Scorpio man and we both decided to wait till marriage. If he sees you as the one, he will wait despite the fact that “we are known to have a high sex drive”! Be blessed my sister and keep pushing!!! 💪🏽
You are helping me heal. I wish I knew this 11 years ago before I met my now husband. I made the wrong choices and I’m living in that now. I’m taking the lessons and moving forward to a better version of myself. Be blessed
I listened to this 2 years ago. Tony it’s working. It filters out the unserious ones. I also have my peace👏 few waited max 6 months before they finally reveal their true self. 😂 but guess what it’s good for me . Am happy I have my power and dignity.
This just my opinion. I think the women who feel like the man won't wait is because she don't want to wait either. Some women want them and their relationship to be the exception to the rule, but because of the internet and how over sexualized this society is, us women have to set a new standard and keep our legs closed.
You're right. But actually keeping your legs closed c is not a new standard it's an old standard as a matter fact it's the original standard and we need to get back to it. Think about it how many less diseases and unwanted pregnancies and heartaches we have.not to mention children and families living in poverty.
@@beautifullyblessed1207 I completely agree with your entire comment, but people act like it was never a standard that's why I said set a new one because for some people it will be new.
The testing is real when you are waiting and have changed your mindset. We want what we don’t need and what we need we don’t want. All the time. PERIODDD!! Real stuff you putting out on hear Bro. Tony and it’s helping us who wants to be helped. Be Blessed!!
Be Blessed!🙏🏽. Actions speak louder than words. Men need to listen to this lesson as well so that they will know that it takes a Godly man with character, and truly wanting to be married for the right reasons and not just want to find a wife. She should be that “Diamond “in the rough and he can see that and honestly wait, no matter how long it takes and stay abstinent until he knows she is the one, and fall in love and then he will know that she is wife material and need to examine himself to see if he is husband material, then true love will flourish from there.💕
Tony can't speak for all men, the thing is men will go behind your back even if they feel you're the one because they want the sex period . But some may speed up the marriage process so he can get it quicker if he think you're the one
Are you a man? I’m guessing, no. So how would you know what a man is thinking? A man who knows you are the one will not cheat on you. Stop listening to the adversaries lies because that’s what they are lies. Have good discernment and trust in God.
@@kilimanjaro5537 she didn't lie though. You don't need to be a man or even know how they think, you'll learn a lot just by observing what they do in real life. A man can happily sleep around with women he doesn't care about, knowing his virgin wife is on lock. Someone in this very comment section has said this. The bitter truth is that, while most men value virginity and purity in women, they don't hold themselves to the same standard.
Be blessed! Thank you Mr Gaskins for sharing and allowing us women to have a better sense of self respect and the courage to apply these truths to our lives! God bless you and family!
HUGE sign on my end. Thank you Lord! He will surely wait by respecting the culture of the relationship that you both agreed upon...IF 👏🏿you 👏🏿the 👏🏿one. 👏🏿
Be Blessed!!!! Your videos always bring a new light to the situation and I just be wondering how you can feel so composed saying all these things without a little chuckle here and there because your comparison to things and how you speak comes so natural yet humorous. The way you use your words is really on another level! Thank you!!
MAN!You have me cracking up😂😂So REAL!!From females lying on their backs 2 soon, 2 your chair making that squeaky noise..LOVE the way you explain SO REAL WE NEED THE REALNESS!(Thats LOVE)
Wooo......Shondo ddddllllllllll 🤣! He's so funny and honest but non judgemental! Thank you so much for all of your Godly wisdom, kindness, and dope personality✨️. Tony Gaskins, I have no idea how I stumbled upon your channel. Well, yes, I do! God led me to your channel, and I am grateful for your teachings! I am waiting until marriage while dating! Ladies, do your innerwork, be patient with yourself, and show yourself grace for the things that you didn't know or allowed in the past. Today is a new day. Ladies, I am waiting and dating, and some men wait, and some stay! The right man that God has for you will wait 🥰! You are worthy, princess 🌸!
I wanted to make sure that the man I was talking to at the time was the one so I made him wait. To see if he was the one for me. He waited and we have been married 8 years. If a man truly loves you and your the one he will wait.
It’s not a coincidence that the men chasing me & wanting to marry me are men I’ve never slept with. There’s power in keeping your legs closed. Growing up I never had anyone to tell me that so I had to learn this the hard way on my own
Same here
How old are you? Abstinence past 40 seems like very few unequally yoked.
@@hillaryconsultingservices I am not 40 & I do not have kids
Amen. You're telling the truth. When I kept my legs closed with thie one dude, she got angry with me because he wasn't in control of the relationship.
And this is why I did NOT have sex with someone .
What I got from this is that there are wayyyyy too many people together in situationships built from lust who truly do not love each other. The waiting is truly the weeding out process 🙏🏽
yes dodging dust as long as i can !
I’m almost 30 & still a virgin. Thank you for always giving us the real! The Lord called me to repentance on the very night that I was going to sell my body to pay for college. God is faithful. Thank you again for this.
Eboni Armstrong God bless you for being obedient & staying true to what you believe. Blessings to you lady.
A 30 year old black female that's a virgin that's truly amazing.
Good for you! A friend of mine waited and was a virgin when she married at 30. She met a wonderful man who treats her like a queen 12 years later they are still going strong. Always remember you are the prize!!!
@@marishalewis484 You go girl! That is amazing!
Very encouraging. I'm 28 and still a virgin too. Keep going !
All u need is time...and everyone reveals themselves.
Shakrat Dosunmu amen
true and powerful
@@mikakamikazi5674 Wow so true wisdom words!
Amen
💯
Keeping your legs closed is a lifestyle and mindset shift, NOT trendy.
it is a POWER
@@MzSoulll Yes Sis! It definitely is...a Super Power.
The power of the P!
@@cherh Hey Sis 👋🏼. 💪🏽
Anointed Stilettos yes and amen!
This is so true! I hate when people say only 1% of men will wait .. I was dating a guy for 3 years and rededicated my life to Christ and wanted to practice celibacy to do things Gods way and he kept pressuring me and was trying to justify fornication because he’s not strong in his faith and decided to cut me off. I guess this was Gods way of protecting me
Girl I’m not religious but that’s exactly what it is! You guys weren’t compatible once u gave your life to Christ & he knew that. He was trying to get the 🐱 & dip, leaving u emotional unstable probably. God protected u from the heartache trust me 💯🙏🏽 He definitely wasn’t trying to marry
Absolutely Gods way of protecting you!
You should have cut him after year one when he didn’t ask to marry you. The other two years he was just wasting your time sis.
LOL, did you to point that out@@Joylove329
This is my VERY situation today!
I started dating my now husband at 16. I told him he have to wait until I was 18 and he did...we been married almost 18yrs in March. The right man will wait.
Sherran T yes the right man will wait.
I’m in my 30s and still a Virgin. It’s really hard because most men try to break you down.
Jessica McCall They try to break you down to their advantage. But don’t focus on what they say or do. Focus on what will get you to where you want. Focus on your values and goals
What if he asks me “wait, are you a virgin?” Then what do I say?
@A D Well thats really just none of his business. I feel like that question is similar to asking about medical history or finances. Its really none of anyone's business!
They try to break you down in general. Smh
@@mellead8727 u can say why are u asking me that? Why are u? He’ll say blah blah u say oh okay. If he ask again u can say I’ll tell u another time.
Yes! If he sincerely cares about you, he will honor, respect, love and wait for you.
I truly believe this. The right and respectable man will wait.
Yes some men wait...My brother has been dating this woman for 3 years and he is waiting because she is still a virgin plus he is not cheating on her...
When u value yourself men will wait but if u promiscuous we won't.
MY FRIEND WAITED TWO YEARS HER GUY LEFT MARRIED ANOTHER THEY HAPPY SHE SAD. THE GUY WANTED TO MARRY HER. BE MINDFUL SOME MEN TODAY WAITING FOREVER ISN'T REALISTIC. THIS GUY MOVED ON AND MARRIED SOMEONE ELSE. SO I WAS A MAN WILL WAIT WITH AN EXPECTATION BUT HE JUST MAY HAVE AN END DATE!
!! Plus I thought I heard him say those men who don't wait never really loved the woman and/or was not the one!!
What if he asks me “wait, are you a virgin?” Then what do I say?
@@mellead8727 Tell him "that's a very personal question. I'm not comfortable discussing that with you"
@@carsandrajones7596 That man never loved your friend he was lying to her. If he actually loved her he would have waited.
Nobody:
Tony: “Point Blank Periyod”!
I_Been_ A_Boss 😂😂😂 you know his sayings to well
I_Been_ A_Boss 😭😭😭
I_Been_ A_Boss Haaaaaa 😂😂👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Lol so true!! Also,
Nobody:
Tony: “Spread eagle!”
Stay off your baack 😂😂 He be speaking the whole truth but he is funny lol
Tony you are right. Just because they go And get it else where doesn’t mean it’s good sex. So he can wait and he will wait when he really want you. He will crave you. Prob should make a video on how to get a man to fall in love without having sex on the table. Talk convo topics and date suggestions. ladies you can use your feminine energy and intelligence to hold a man’s attention. It’s very empowering
LaFenice Forbes thank you 😊
I agree !!
I never understand why women reveal every thought. Just walk and use discernment. “You will know them by their fruits”. Wait to see what they produce (action).. Be graceful about it. I think women tell men their agenda because they want them to pass the test because they are tired of being lonely. I’m not giving you a cheat sheet when it comes to character. Some differences are worth a convo but virtue I won’t teach. I want to know the real you. Therefore i walk gracefully and quietly. And pray for discernment whilst dating. Never been a time that the holy spirit did not provide. Simply Calm your spirit and guard your heart. Be anxious for nothing. Be blessed! ❤️
Very very very well said!!!!!!!
THIS! ♥️♥️♥️
Amen. Thank you
Ameen!
Wish I heard that way back before... Wow what you said spoke to me.
Believe me, no man will wait if he’s isn’t serious about you. I know a man who can recite every scripture in the bible and is one of the BIGGEST heathens I know 😅. Be Blessed. Thank you. This message was so important to the collective right now😇
“The man for you will wait.”
“If you don’t give it to him, and you’re the one, he doesn’t want it from anybody else.”
We need to tell ourselves this DAILY!
Period!
@@saywhatondat you forgot the point blank part lol
That's a scary but enlightened reality; one true way to save time
Thank you
Yep...some will wait but for how long though 🤔...a lot of men will get sexual frustrated as the months go by...even if YOU ARE THE ONE for them...self discipline and self control is what these men are missing then...
Jacob in the Bible wait 7 years for Rachel..and work another 7 to marry her after been trick to marry Leah who he wasn't attractive. So if a man really love you he will Sacrifice him time and self for you. Love waits.
He was not attracted. To Leah but he kept her pregant.
@@TopHat_VR828 yep because back in those days having many children especially boys was high honor.
@@lilkathytaylor what honor is in having a bunch of kids by a man that does not want you..
@@TopHat_VR828 look up the history about Jewish traditions. Not saying I agree with it and the Lord goes against tradition that was birth through culture depends where you from. What's normal to us is not normal to other countries. 🤷♀️
@@lilkathytaylor i am very familiar. I am speaking about the principle of it she was not happy and she knew that man cared for Rachel more so she firgured the more sons she produced the more he would love her and that was not the case.. Nothing new under the sun. Women still to this day will compete with another women by having babies by a man and he don't love them. Imagine knowing you only had him cause your dad tricked the man not cause u was his first choice..
we seriously need shirts with his slogan on it “Point. Blank. Periyod! “. I’d buy it in a heartbeat 😂.
Yes! The girly tee would be cute!
You hear meeee??? 😂😂
Angelique B. Yeeessss!!!!
@@bridgettesweeney9809 EXACTLY -- I CAN HEAR THAT RINGING IN MY EAR
I'd buy it in a heartbeat too! Point Blank Periyod!!!
A few decades ago it was assumed by a man that he would have to wait until marriage for sex. Men had no choice but to respect women because women for the most part respected themselves. My husband waited until marriage to have my body and I wouldn't change a thing.
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
How did you fight the temptation? Did you pray?
I was born in the wrong generation 😭
@@jazzy9282 I’ve been dating my current partner for about 2 months and we decided we would wait a bit to visit each other’s homes
That’s beautiful Angela ❤
If the love is real he will wait 🙌🏾🙏🏾❤️
Brother Tony you’re 100% faithful to your queen because you’re afraid of God , the Higher Power
Because he LOVES THE LORD. Tony has said over a hundred times seems like, "my wife doesn't have the power to change a strand of hair on my head" . But because he follows the teachings of CHRIST JESUS who has the power to do all things, he is faithful to the lord JESUS CHRIST
"The devil knows the Bible."
Thank you for this video. Unfortunately for me I learned this the hard way, a part of me is still hurting but with God I'm getting better every day.
"Don't get yourself dirty trying to wrestle with a pig" 🤣🤣🤣🤣I'm stealing this big brother🤣.
Anointed Stilettos 🤦🏿♂️
@@jdilla7142 You can't tell me that wasn't hilarious 🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣It was but at the same time I’m guilty 😔😔
That part!!!
@@jdilla7142 Shoot! We all have been 🤷🏽♀️. You're not alone.
Tony, I have been listening to your messages for a while and I'm not sure what happened between last week and today, but this really resonated with me. I have actually lost all desire to lay with a man who hasn't fully committed to me that I can't feel the real love between us. Thank you brother for your words of wisdom. I now have the strength and conviction within my spirit to effortlessly say no until ALL my requirements are met. God bless you and your family.
What if he asks me “wait, are you a virgin?” Then what do I say?
Beautifully written. Right there with you!! ❤
If the love is real, they’ll wait.
When he started imitating Christian women on the first date 🤣🤣😭 Tony you are a riot! 😆👏🏾
My favorite part of this video "If you don't give it to him & you're the one he doesn't want it from anybody else". Thanks! Be blessed!
@@tiffanydiggs7625 💯😀👏
Yes, that truly resonated with me.
Desoray Williams thru might want it from you the most but a lot of them will still settle for that release from someone willing. I’m sure Jay Z loves Beyoncé but he still cheated.
@@Glamyougirl17 Beyonce is probably not the one we don't know what's going on behind the scenes.
I was recently speaking with a male family member. He said all these girls out her saying "they christians" then turn around and give it up to me, lol. Yeah, right "I thought you were so saved." Tony just said that wow! Real talk ladies listen to him, he is telling the truth.....Periodt❗
Told a dude a month in I wasn't giving my body until marriage. The very next day I was: "sis"
Lesson learned 🤐😀
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I’ve been tested lately by both my exes! & the answer is still NO!!! I can tell one of them have a soul tie & I know it’s hard bc it’s hard for me to but he immature & disrespectful , I can’t go back to him...
Women really just don't know what to say on dates anymore lol because I need to know what woman goes on a first date and starts asking about bible verses and telling a man she's waiting before marriage🤦🏾♀️ if a man brings up anything sexual on the first date or too soon. I shut down the entire situation. There's way more things to talk about.
Yes agree. I hope Tony sees this cause I asked the same thing. Its a turn off and im willing to walk away but most men will do this . Its his nature . Do you think its possible to divert the conversation in a possitive aspect ?
@@beauphomasterpiece3795 I wouldn't want to divert the conversation at that point because he has already shown me his intentions. I simply say "sorry, but I don't engage in these types of conversation with strangers" then he's getting blocked and deleted 😂
@@Bgrace15 😂😂😂😂 that's why I love my sistas. Y'all keep it real. Taking that quote!
@@Bgrace15 i guess im under the impression that a man is gonna try anyway. Its a matter of when. Even a good man can fall short.
@@beauphomasterpiece3795 I'd like to believe there's a man out there that won't try... Well, atleast not on the first date or too soon 😭
I loved this gave me real encouragement about the man for me will wait.
Listening to you, has made me slow all the way down. Stop talking start listening. Shifting the mindset and use discernment
"You want what you want not what you need..." 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
"Listen to me you gotta want who wants you...a man of good character"
Be blessed!
Tony is the only relationship coach I watch. The things he says are genuine and are indeed true as I listen and observe what he says.
He's the only one I watch too. He's the real deal.
Yes I feel it in my spirit that he’s real!!
Bria Ly
Ditto!
Take a listen to " R C Blakes " he's the real deal as well.
Man I would love to talk too Tony! I just learned about him maybe 5 or 6 days ago. This man speaking truth. I've watched so many videos since. Thank God I stumbled upon this man.
"She ain't cracked a Bible since the Bible been the Bible"... 🤣😂🤣😭😭😭😭🤣😂🤣
Lisa McCall 💀🤣😂
Thank u Tony. You've literally been my bestfriend everyday for the last 2 weeks. While I cook, clean, drive, and take my dinner break with! May God continue showering you and your family with blessings and may he continue sharing his message thru u for me❤ Thank u
Be blessed. I made the mistake of telling guys I’m waiting too early before they got to know me. You’re right, they left because they didn’t know me! Lesson learned. Thank you !
What if he asks me “wait, are you a virgin?” Then what do I say?
@@mellead8727 tell him you're not answering that question, its private. If you havent been dating that long, then he doesn't need to know your business & u dont have to tell him private stuff like that.
What if he ask about previous dates/relationships and you've never had them?
Same here.
Your words are so refreshing, and the fact that your not advertising that it’s all okay to still have sex while not being married like some other coaches talk about. I know where I’m coming for now on
Ladies, always be willing to walk away. A man should come up to meet your standards.
Absolutely
LizzyLewis walking away is so valuable. No matter how hard it is or how much it hurts love yourself enough to know when it’s time to go.
@@marishalewis484 Yes!!!!
Say that Tony, good information. I am 62 years old and my ex-husband told me 5 years ago he was no longer in love with me. But he had love for me. Trust me he showed it with the infidelity and among others things. If I would have known what I know now. I would have left him 5 years ago. Thank you again , for educating ladies on mans character traits.
Tony you are Gods gift to women. I’m a 61 year young woman recently divorced after 30 years of marriage. I could not understand why my now ex-husband never seemed settled into our marriage. No matter how and what I tried, I realized he just wasn’t in to me. It wasn’t until I started listening to your videos over the past 3 months that I now understand. He loved me, he wasn’t in love with me. Your video on “a mans character” amongst others brought that revelation, closure and clarity. Thank you young man, keep empowering woman to make more informed choices, and what self care really means. I am practicing self care on my journey to healing. I can truly say that your video’s are a part of that journey! Thank you and God bless you and your beautiful wife and family.
🤗 Wishing you all the best and success on your self love journey. You are blessed!
Deborah, I echo , the same. I to in the 60 over club, and 25 years marriage and experienced the same situation. Tony , brought light to my eyes. I could not understand the back forth . Now I know
May Lord Bless You, Give You His Peace and Heal your inner wounds❤️💝
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”You A Play Play Christian” 😆😆😂
🙏🏽Be Blessed🙏🏽
Ladies listen to what he is saying with a receptive ear. Its not very often you get this realness into how and why a man thinks the way he does. Be smart.
"Shando! Rrrrrrrrah!" 😂😂😂 TG is too much.
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Nephew Tony is dropping some Gems. Ladies make a decision to love yourself. A man will go elsewhere to get it because (you are not the one). "She ain't cracked the Bible since the Bible been a Bible" ....not a play-play Christian...lol
I am a Man listening to this . Thank you for your wisdom
Tony you are so right!!! The man for you will wait for you!
Yessss
I think its important for women to know to stop putting it in a man's hands to choose you. Yes a man is supposed to find his wife, but women have got to stop creating an upper hand for a man to even think that you are his option and not his choice. Keep in mind that we haveto make a decision on him too. Its not all up to him. If a man tells you you're his wife but God says no. You better get ghost and stop playing. A proposal does not mean he's your husband. Girl bii!
Tony if you had Daughters they would have a Great Father preparing them for the trickery out here. Thank you.
True, what Good Father. I appreciate the truth he is sharing. Blessings Sister.
Yes A Man Who Love or In Love With You Will Wait. I'm A Witness.
Even if she has a child? 🤔
Yes, indeed.
Thank God I know my worth as a woman!!. Please help the ones that dont Lord!!
Tony, this is great message, unfortunately I didn't wait, but I'm waiting now because I'm busy getting better at myself. When ex's attempt to come back around I always say to them, "I gave you an "A" but you didn't do the work to keep it" with that being said we're done.
Aye I be cracking jokes and laughing but I swear a guy told me something today & I had to apply Tony’s advice to the situation. It really gave me peace and feel empowered that I made a decision to respect myself enough to stop wasting my time and believe that I got it just the way somebody like it WITHOUT compromising my values.
Haha... in all honesty the guy told me something he didn’t like and I was dead set on changing it until I heard Tony say “ That’s not your HUUSSSSBAND, YOU HEAR MEEEEEEH!” 😂😂😂😂I was like Thank You.. NEXT! His advice be LEGIT!
Felecia Powell I’m hollering 😂😂😂 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿. Tbh it’s a peace that we can have now. No more debating or considering anything. It’s cut and dry just like that. It’s either this or it’s not. If it’s not it’s goodbye. No more wasted time.
😁Haha, good for you! When you start seeing in live & in living color it's hilarious. Sorry to this man
🤣🤣 don't Tony be sayin it JUST like that...YOU HEAR MEEEEEEH 🤣🤣🤣🥰
Be blessed...Thank you for sharing your experience Felicia. It is great to hear an interaction that depicts the wise advice being applied and working. LISS - SON - TO - MEEH! 🙂🎚❤️
We are. We hear you. God bless
Kenisha Perkins Yass girl I was like NO .. BLANK.POINT. PERIOOOD ! 😩😅😅Adios 👋🏾 sir
Tony, you always speak the truth and it truly keeps me encouraged. I'm 29 and still a virgin. & I will continue to wait & trust God.
"A man will wait if he feels like she is the one." Point blank perioooood... in my TG voice* 🤣
Ikr 💖 when he says that and “listen to me now " ... I now find myself saying it when I talk about and share his videos
Be blessed... I must listen to this video over and over again ✌🏽
Yes. If Joseph had the will power to wait for Mary to deliver Jesus, a man today should not have too much of a problem waiting today. Be Blessed, Be Safe.
Eternity With Christ
That’s right. Thanks 🙏 for sharing this, sooo true. Be Blessed, Be Safe 😇
Honey Joseph never touched virgin Mary even after she delivered our lord Jesus Christ. Or the church was not going to call her the Virgin Mary until today
Be Blessed ! As a 23 year old. Your videos are extremely helpful, knowledgeable and full of wisdom. God given wisdom. Thank you for all you do Mr. Tony Gaskins. -Be Blessed ✨🙏✨
He said ok freaky deaky. Spread eagle 😭😭 Tony be keeping it all the way real! ‼️💯
Took me OUTTTTT!!! 😂😂😂 Haven’t heard that phrase in so long lol. Tony alright with me.
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Jasmine Carter
He had me laughing so hard...this is how virgin talks. 😂😂😂
Right! Bruh said all virgins talk proper🙄😂😂
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I'm currently 17 years old and I have made the descion to be abstinent. I just would like to thank you for your gems of knowledge and your sense of humor made the video more interesting! will definitely be subscribing
Be blessed! I’m a proud member of the keeping my legs close tribe for 2020
Lol not just for 2020
@@riorio-88 I'm trying to keep lock shut for 2021 lol
@@MissShauntae look I been in the club 4 yrs and going on 5 I’m with you on this
@@MissShauntae we have the same name also how cool
I love that you stated a leader is a servant this is so important that it’s so underrated. Everything about this video is a BLESSING!!!!
“Listen to me nah” “point blank perioooaaaahhhhd.” “Now you on ya back”
“ I love the Lord are you a man of Gaaaawwd, huh are you a man of Gaaaawwd. See you a Pharisee.” “You can put him in his baaahck.” Tony I’m done with you 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I had to give you a hand wave of witness when you were talking about loving someone and have bad sex. Someone told me that once about one of their ex spouses. The first thought that came to my mind was, “you didn’t love them”. Love is patient and kind. If you love someone you’re going to work with them to get it right for the both of you.
I was praying about these questions and then I got this notification for this video, confirming that I am on the right track for waiting. Thank you man of God all the way from South Africa for feeding my spirit everyday and helping me be best version myself every day and teach us about relationship in a way that has never been done. I wish I knew these things 10 years ago. Everything happens for a reason I guess and this time, I will be armed and ready. Love your podcasts, sharing them with my own younger sisters everyday to make sure they also get these amazing lessons. Continue what you're doing. God bless you from South Africa. Carolle
Mannnnn Tony you are a blessing ! You have been ministering all year since 2019 long , these titles are always on POINT! I can hear you talk 2 hours or more about whatever. Thank youuuuuuuuuu keep it up I’m listening all the way from Hattiesburg, Ms
Lyn Mariah z
He's been dropping these jewels way before. He's truly GOD SENT
Tammara Mencias yes I'm sure he has🙌🏾✨
I been listening to this brother since 2013 👐🏼
@@m.norwood7827 same here
Tony, I am 24 and took the route of celibacy. Now listen I live my life every day any way I want to... I go to club occasionally because I used to suffer from anxiety & just want to be happy at all times whether that comes from Church, school, or having fun with my girls. Because I do a little bit of everything doesn’t mean I am faking. You had me until the end of your sermon. I am a God fearing woman trying to make ends meet. I am a FT student, coach, babysitter, BS psychology degrees & bartender on the weekends for extra $ because I have to play the cards I was dealt with. Sometimes our outside lives does not reflect our insides & I believe I am a great example of this. Instead of judging (reasons why I also chose to be celibate) is because I want someone to fall in love with my heart. I will be honest that I am in the best shape I have ever been smoking my hookah, drinking occasionally, & reading my bible.
"try the spirit by the Spirit"... "instead of all these stupid questions". That makes sense, I'm glad you mentioned that, because sometimes we aren't trying to be stupid or too much we just don't know better and or how to go about seeing if it's truly a man of God. Some of us just truly truly want a man of God and after becoming saved and being "new" to only wanting to get to know men of God (now), the dating/conversing is new as saved women.
He's KILLING ME talking about "spread eagle" OMG 🤣🤣🤣
You betta keep telling the truth
“He’s trying to give you the vitamin D.” 🤣💀🤣💀
Only man willing to wait is a man who has full belief in god and follows that path
Preach sister!
I appreciate you making these videos got out a toxic relationship and these videos are really helpful.
LaFenice Forbes thank you 🙏🏽
Where does he get his sayings from. He’s so funny 😂 🤣🤣 Tony you the funniest
One of the best videos I've seen. Much needed and very encouraging. We tend to doubt God and compromise out of confusion. All of these videos really help us to become solid in our beliefs that many of us already have.
"He went elsewhere to get it because you're not the one" that 4:00 minute mark....be blessed 💫
Cher H mannnnnnnnn. That’s all that needed to be said!
Facts
@@nikkirowland fact! I was all in at that point lol
@@Glamrocs hey bestie! ❤👋🏾😊
Cher H Hey boo
The guy I’m dating said this exact thing. He will wait, but that doesn’t mean he’s not going to try so I should just be stern with him in saying no. We’ve been dating a few months and have not kissed. I believe this!
I’m dealing with a Scorpio 😳 we moving so Slowly.... we will see if he’ll Wait Legs Closed Eyes Open be Blessed Tony!!
Ashley Goodrich I am a Scorpio woman dating a Scorpio man and we both decided to wait till marriage. If he sees you as the one, he will wait despite the fact that “we are known to have a high sex drive”! Be blessed my sister and keep pushing!!! 💪🏽
You are helping me heal. I wish I knew this 11 years ago before I met my now husband. I made the wrong choices and I’m living in that now. I’m taking the lessons and moving forward to a better version of myself. Be blessed
Amen! As a man I appreciate your wisdom.
I listened to this 2 years ago. Tony it’s working. It filters out the unserious ones. I also have my peace👏 few waited max 6 months before they finally reveal their true self. 😂 but guess what it’s good for me . Am happy I have my power and dignity.
This just my opinion. I think the women who feel like the man won't wait is because she don't want to wait either. Some women want them and their relationship to be the exception to the rule, but because of the internet and how over sexualized this society is, us women have to set a new standard and keep our legs closed.
You're right. But actually keeping your legs closed c is not a new standard it's an old standard as a matter fact it's the original standard and we need to get back to it. Think about it how many less diseases and unwanted pregnancies and heartaches we have.not to mention children and families living in poverty.
@@beautifullyblessed1207 I completely agree with your entire comment, but people act like it was never a standard that's why I said set a new one because for some people it will be new.
@@anointedstilettos unfortunate but true. Shows how far we've declined and gotten off track.
@@beautifullyblessed1207 Exactly.
Your commendations are on-point and conical!!! Thank you.
Comical
Be BLESSED!!!!
The testing is real when you are waiting and have changed your mindset. We want what we don’t need and what we need we don’t want. All the time. PERIODDD!! Real stuff you putting out on hear Bro. Tony and it’s helping us who wants to be helped. Be Blessed!!
Sometimes it takes,losing you to make a man grow up thanks for the information very helpful
Be Blessed!🙏🏽. Actions speak louder than words. Men need to listen to this lesson as well so that they will know that it takes a Godly man with character, and truly wanting to be married for the right reasons and not just want to find a wife. She should be that “Diamond “in the rough and he can see that and honestly wait, no matter how long it takes and stay abstinent until he knows she is the one, and fall in love and then he will know that she is wife material and need to examine himself to see if he is husband material, then true love will flourish from there.💕
Getting a lesson and a laugh..When Tony said.."Now you out here acting like a Pharisee" I hollered 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Tonyyyyyy!!!!! This video had me rolling 🤣🤣🤣🤣....shundo ralalala🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣...she ain't open the bible since the bible was the bible🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.
Tony can't speak for all men, the thing is men will go behind your back even if they feel you're the one because they want the sex period . But some may speed up the marriage process so he can get it quicker if he think you're the one
Bingo!
And he's not speaking for all men. That is why he said use discernment. But you are so right though!!
What if he asks me “wait, are you a virgin?” Then what do I say?
Are you a man? I’m guessing, no. So how would you know what a man is thinking? A man who knows you are the one will not cheat on you. Stop listening to the adversaries lies because that’s what they are lies. Have good discernment and trust in God.
@@kilimanjaro5537 she didn't lie though. You don't need to be a man or even know how they think, you'll learn a lot just by observing what they do in real life. A man can happily sleep around with women he doesn't care about, knowing his virgin wife is on lock. Someone in this very comment section has said this. The bitter truth is that, while most men value virginity and purity in women, they don't hold themselves to the same standard.
They lying they lying 😂😂😂😂😂I hear it😂😂😂😍.. Heyyyy.. yasssss stubbornness
Be blessed! Thank you Mr Gaskins for sharing and allowing us women to have a better sense of self respect and the courage to apply these truths to our lives! God bless you and family!
HUGE sign on my end. Thank you Lord! He will surely wait by respecting the culture of the relationship that you both agreed upon...IF 👏🏿you 👏🏿the 👏🏿one. 👏🏿
Be Blessed!!!! Your videos always bring a new light to the situation and I just be wondering how you can feel so composed saying all these things without a little chuckle here and there because your comparison to things and how you speak comes so natural yet humorous. The way you use your words is really on another level! Thank you!!
MAN!You have me cracking up😂😂So REAL!!From females lying on their backs 2 soon, 2 your chair making that squeaky noise..LOVE the way you explain SO REAL WE NEED THE REALNESS!(Thats LOVE)
Mannn, Tony is the truth!! Not only does he drop the knowledge he is a comedian as well! You hear me??? Loll Thanks Tony! Be blessed🙏🏽🙏🏽
I'm Screaming 😂 TG Talking about them Women who ain't worth the Lint in your pocket......and them spreading eagle 🦅🦅🦅
Father lol
Wooo......Shondo ddddllllllllll 🤣! He's so funny and honest but non judgemental! Thank you so much for all of your Godly wisdom, kindness, and dope personality✨️. Tony Gaskins, I have no idea how I stumbled upon your channel. Well, yes, I do! God led me to your channel, and I am grateful for your teachings! I am waiting until marriage while dating! Ladies, do your innerwork, be patient with yourself, and show yourself grace for the things that you didn't know or allowed in the past. Today is a new day. Ladies, I am waiting and dating, and some men wait, and some stay! The right man that God has for you will wait 🥰! You are worthy, princess 🌸!
Thanks Tony always for the knowledge!
I wanted to make sure that the man I was talking to at the time was the one so I made him wait. To see if he was the one for me. He waited and we have been married 8 years. If a man truly loves you and your the one he will wait.