Avoidant people need to fix their stuff and not put it on anxious people to fix. Everyone needs to pull their weight and get to as close to secure as possible so they can be as good to each other as possible.
I agree. But Anxious types are just annoying. Dont like them? Just leave. No harm done. Avoidant types are hurtful, degrading, and cause real, lasting damage.
My dear friend if you are facing any challenges in your Relationship worry no more, I'll introduce you to the same relationship restorer who helped me got my ex back, he can help you within 48 hours
I’ve noticed with my DA , the good times are soo good but the bad times can be so bad lol but they do want love n they deserve it too , he’s the best ❤
I'll probably just ask potential dates what's their attachment style before I go out with them or even consider a relationship with them... just a thought 🤔
@@allisonrae4828if they don’t know they haven’t felt the need to find out. Hence then they will never grow to understand you, themselves , or the relationship. Time to fuck without the feels . Then get out maybe. I’d sooner just get out without the fuck and the following feels that come with that biochemistry . If they can’t reciprocate on a date. Adios amigo 🖖🏴💕
That is one way to look at it, the other is that DA needs to simmer, take his or her time to let go and learn completely need views over a looooong time
My dear friend if you are facing any challenges in your Relationship worry no more, I'll introduce you to the same relationship restorer who helped me got my ex back, he can help you within 48 hours
37:25 A little bit passed halfway and I am mentally exhausted only listening to this success story. But I actually appreciate her honesty and Chris’s transparency. This is a REAL story. He could’ve tried to edit it or manipulate it to sound better.
A Fearful/Dismissive Avoidant is someone who is afraid of intimacy, love connection and commitment! Seeking Intimacy, love, connection and commitment in a partnership is completely normal, natural and healthy!!! When Fearful/Dismissive Avoidants run away from all that there is something wrong with them emotionally! These Avoidants need to address their emotional issues and get the help they need to overcome their emotional wounds or else they continue pushing closeness away and neglecting the needs of their partners!!! That is not Okay!!! Those seeking love, Intimacy, connection and commitment are the normal healthy ones who understand the importance of closeness. When people run away from connection from others they will end up being alone and leading miserable money lives!!!!
My dear friend if you are facing any challenges in your Relationship worry no more, I'll introduce you to the same relationship restorer who helped me got my ex back, he can help you within 48 hours
My dear friend if you are facing any challenges in your Relationship worry no more, I'll introduce you to the same relationship restorer who helped me got my ex back, he can help you within 48 hours
He doesn’t sound avoidant to me. Sounds like he was just such of her sh*t and didn’t want her around. The second she would go no contact within days he’s practically blowing up her phone and asking where she is.
I agree and the fact that they lived together and spent every day together for a year does not sound like a dismissive avoidant at all. You're lucky to get three dates in a month with the ones I know~~
I’m an avoidant and my anxious ex dumped me. Many times I wish I could just say what I was feeling when he asked. It’s not easy for us, specially if you love the person. I just cry because I just can’t be as open and say what I’m feeling. I guess we don’t like to feel vulnerable. I feel I can’t trust completely or comfortable enough to say what I’m feeling and he would always ask what I was thinking. Sometimes I would stay quiet or say nothing was wrong. He got tired of it. At the end of the relationship I kept telling him that I can’t give him what he wants and that he maybe happier with someone else. He would tell me I’m good enough for him and that he would never leave me, he did end up leaving me and I understand. At the same time I say to myself I knew he would leave me. How can I feel more trust, openness, security, be ok with being vulnerable?
Wonderful insight Clara. If you prepared yourself to take a degree of risk and consciously stepped outside your comfort zone in the knowledge that your attachment style is NOT the true you. You sound like you have insight and are emotionally mature. Take a deep breath, take control, take the risk, get right with God and GO FOR IT. You're not inferior.
Then go to therapy and do something about it, especially since you are aware!!!! Tell your ex you are going to do that and show it. Most likely take u back because they love you after they get help and rest from the drama!!!
There is a great book with exercises called The Power of Attachment by Diane Poole Heller. It is the best and most efficient tool to heal that I have seen so far. It has healed me a great deal. Happy healing!
I just dumped my FA too. Sayonara. Too much work. I also told him I will never leave but all the silence and the ghosting got to me and I don't like to be taken for a fool and get breadcrumbs.
Thank you for being so open and honest by saying this. My avoidant ex said the same things to me. He said I lasted longer than most . 3 years and now he has blocked me. My anxious side really kicked in because of the pushing away and space he wanted all th we time. I am so heartbroken and I don't think he will ever come back. 😢💔 but again thank you for being open and letting us know honestly how it feels to be avoidant.
This is very weird. I clicked on this video to help me but shit got weird. I am an anxious attachment style person and my most recent ex is a dismissive avoidant person. My ex's name is Grace as well............
Only women can play these no contact games when she was broken up with and get the guy to reach out. But good story I just would rather hear a man's story than a womans. There are a lot more anxieties and emotions that a man couldnt even talk about during or after no contact for risk of sounding weak and getting broken up with again. A woman who calls the break up would not only stay with another guy but sleep with him and charge it to the guy for making her break up with him.
My dear friend if you are facing any challenges in your Relationship worry no more, I'll introduce you to the same relationship restorer who helped me got my ex back, he can help you within 48 hours
@@MTG9878 Hold strong brotha✊🏽 Research Why a Narcissist hoovers. It may help understand why she comes back and leaves again. And get away from that cycle.
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Avoidant people need to fix their stuff and not put it on anxious people to fix. Everyone needs to pull their weight and get to as close to secure as possible so they can be as good to each other as possible.
Exactly
Dude honestly omg, like.. it shouldn't be YOUR job to fix what THEY broke. 🙄
I agree. But Anxious types are just annoying. Dont like them? Just leave. No harm done. Avoidant types are hurtful, degrading, and cause real, lasting damage.
Being an anxious partner who just got dumped by an avoidant one, this just calms me so much!!♥️
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Same
Did you get back together or no? :(
Same
He made it obvious he still loved her though, this is where I feel hopless
I’ve noticed with my DA , the good times are soo good but the bad times can be so bad lol but they do want love n they deserve it too , he’s the best ❤
Yup! High, highs and very low lows 😢
I am the same type you her, been through many bad things. I am the one who always tried to fix things.
I'll probably just ask potential dates what's their attachment style before I go out with them or even consider a relationship with them... just a thought 🤔
Yup
I LITERALLY DO THAT and if they either "don't know" what an attachment style is or a DA IM OUT! NO EFFING WAY.
Absolutely
@@allisonrae4828if they don’t know they haven’t felt the need to find out. Hence then they will never grow to understand you, themselves , or the relationship. Time to fuck without the feels . Then get out maybe. I’d sooner just get out without the fuck and the following feels that come with that biochemistry . If they can’t reciprocate on a date. Adios amigo 🖖🏴💕
I'm gonna make them do an online quiz, to se what kind of attachment they have
So we are to play games and work around dismissive avoidants and they never learn to function like healthy individuals?
That is one way to look at it, the other is that DA needs to simmer, take his or her time to let go and learn completely need views over a looooong time
My dear friend if you are facing any challenges in your Relationship worry no more, I'll introduce you to the same relationship restorer who helped me got my ex back, he can help you within 48 hours
W ha t sa pp for help right away
Ikr??? Total bs they aren't held accountable
That's the spirit!
Dont get comfortable mine just left a third time. If they do not get help she did not and most wont, you will go through it over and over again!!!!
It's not a successful relationship unless the avoidant does their homework
Mine too. Last time for me. I won’t be putting myself through that again. Too hard.
Just went through the second round for me and was blindsided again
I’m on 4
37:25 A little bit passed halfway and I am mentally exhausted only listening to this success story. But I actually appreciate her honesty and Chris’s transparency. This is a REAL story. He could’ve tried to edit it or manipulate it to sound better.
A Fearful/Dismissive Avoidant is someone who is afraid of intimacy, love connection and commitment! Seeking Intimacy, love, connection and commitment in a partnership is completely normal, natural and healthy!!! When Fearful/Dismissive Avoidants run away from all that there is something wrong with them emotionally! These Avoidants need to address their emotional issues and get the help they need to overcome their emotional wounds or else they continue pushing closeness away and neglecting the needs of their partners!!! That is not Okay!!! Those seeking love, Intimacy, connection and commitment are the normal healthy ones who understand the importance of closeness. When people run away from connection from others they will end up being alone and leading miserable money lives!!!!
This is nothing but a game. There is no way this relationship lasted more then a year later.
Thank you for this! I'm in a similar situation!
My dear friend if you are facing any challenges in your Relationship worry no more, I'll introduce you to the same relationship restorer who helped me got my ex back, he can help you within 48 hours
W ha t sa pp for help right away
Super awesome! A very impressive story of reunion. I didn't know that this program advised a 30-day repeat of no contact. Thank you for sharing! 🙏
My dear friend if you are facing any challenges in your Relationship worry no more, I'll introduce you to the same relationship restorer who helped me got my ex back, he can help you within 48 hours
W ha t sa pp for help right away
Ok there was so much beating around the bush. No wonder people love coach lee
Why are you here then?
He doesn’t sound avoidant to me. Sounds like he was just such of her sh*t and didn’t want her around. The second she would go no contact within days he’s practically blowing up her phone and asking where she is.
I agree and the fact that they lived together and spent every day together for a year does not sound like a dismissive avoidant at all. You're lucky to get three dates in a month with the ones I know~~
I’m an avoidant and my anxious ex dumped me. Many times I wish I could just say what I was feeling when he asked. It’s not easy for us, specially if you love the person. I just cry because I just can’t be as open and say what I’m feeling. I guess we don’t like to feel vulnerable. I feel I can’t trust completely or comfortable enough to say what I’m feeling and he would always ask what I was thinking. Sometimes I would stay quiet or say nothing was wrong. He got tired of it. At the end of the relationship I kept telling him that I can’t give him what he wants and that he maybe happier with someone else. He would tell me I’m good enough for him and that he would never leave me, he did end up leaving me and I understand. At the same time I say to myself I knew he would leave me. How can I feel more trust, openness, security, be ok with being vulnerable?
Wonderful insight Clara. If you prepared yourself to take a degree of risk and consciously stepped outside your comfort zone in the knowledge that your attachment style is NOT the true you. You sound like you have insight and are emotionally mature. Take a deep breath, take control, take the risk, get right with God and GO FOR IT. You're not inferior.
Then go to therapy and do something about it, especially since you are aware!!!! Tell your ex you are going to do that and show it. Most likely take u back because they love you after they get help and rest from the drama!!!
There is a great book with exercises called The Power of Attachment by Diane Poole Heller. It is the best and most efficient tool to heal that I have seen so far. It has healed me a great deal. Happy healing!
I just dumped my FA too. Sayonara. Too much work. I also told him I will never leave but all the silence and the ghosting got to me and I don't like to be taken for a fool and get breadcrumbs.
Thank you for being so open and honest by saying this. My avoidant ex said the same things to me. He said I lasted longer than most . 3 years and now he has blocked me. My anxious side really kicked in because of the pushing away and space he wanted all th we time. I am so heartbroken and I don't think he will ever come back. 😢💔 but again thank you for being open and letting us know honestly how it feels to be avoidant.
Can you do a video on FAs reaction getting dumped by AA?
Omg her story sounds like my story im going through now and I'm stuck!
This is very weird. I clicked on this video to help me but shit got weird. I am an anxious attachment style person and my most recent ex is a dismissive avoidant person. My ex's name is Grace as well............
Where can I find my battle buddy???
Absolutely loved this ❤
My experience was the exact same but my DA was a female that I left my marriage for.
Hi dear I did it several times but it didn't work not until I get in touch with someone who help me return back my ex love within 48 hours
I can as well recommend him to you get in touch with him for solution
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@lovespellsmanifestation
This is the reason why i am calm now.
He drinks on purpose around me 😊🥰 because he knows I know , I know exactly how he feels about me !!!
Ok so at what time frame does the HELP START
Hi dear I did it several times but it didn't work not until I get in touch with someone who help me return back my ex love within 48 hours
I can as well recommend him to you get in touch with him for solution
On Instagram
@lovespellsmanifestation
Please do a video on how to get your Anxious attachment ex back!
AA are easy, just talk to them and are back to you like a rash lol
That’s gonna be easy
Be honest with your motive. Aa usually comes fast.
@@redrumax im AA and its embarrassing how true that is. literally all he'd have to do is text me and im there. idk how to fix that tho
if this man would only let her talk. good lord. 😂
Only women can play these no contact games when she was broken up with and get the guy to reach out. But good story I just would rather hear a man's story than a womans. There are a lot more anxieties and emotions that a man couldnt even talk about during or after no contact for risk of sounding weak and getting broken up with again. A woman who calls the break up would not only stay with another guy but sleep with him and charge it to the guy for making her break up with him.
My dear friend if you are facing any challenges in your Relationship worry no more, I'll introduce you to the same relationship restorer who helped me got my ex back, he can help you within 48 hours
W ha t sa pp for help right away
Agreed
Mine came back twice and just left a third time! Will never become aware and doesnt want to!
@@MTG9878 Hold strong brotha✊🏽 Research Why a Narcissist hoovers. It may help understand why she comes back and leaves again. And get away from that cycle.
Typical buy my corse !!
This is what all these videos are about. It's to sell.