Man describes his ‘clinical culture shock’ after leaving Exclusive Brethren church

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  • @Lumisatheselkiequeen
    @Lumisatheselkiequeen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    this video saved my life i dont think i would have left if i hadent seen this video

  • @melissamitchell1379
    @melissamitchell1379 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Good on for moving on! Not easy I imagine. I briefly worked for a Bretheren company here in Australia and it was the most appalling experience of my life. As a non Bretheren woman in an office of all Bretheren men it was disgusting the way they thought they could treat me: I never felt in danger I will point out. They hired me for marketing as they weren’t allowed online yet they still controlled everything I did including what I wore:, I had to sit separate to them to eat, I was not allowed to eat with them which was really awkward in meetings. I had to move away from them while they were eating. They judged me daily, put me down, berated me and one even out his hand in my face and told me not to talk while he was speaking. I lasted about 3 months and the day I quit I literally just in the middle of the day picked my belongings up and said ‘you can all go get f**clef’ and walked out.

  • @petereames3041
    @petereames3041 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Respect this this guy for thinking for himself and going against the group and everything he knew.. Very hard to do, most people are incapable of it.

  • @jennyd7416
    @jennyd7416 4 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    When I left the Exclusive Brethren, they told me that God would kill one of my children if I left. So happy that I am no longer in that controlling, brainwashing, cult atmosphere and that my children are free to be themselves and pursue their own career and way in life. The painful bit was losing my parents, brothers and sister, all my relatives - I am the only one who escaped - my culture, my friends, my way of life and having to start from scratch knowing nothing at all of the "world". Best thing I ever did for myself and my children

    • @Djr67
      @Djr67 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I use to work for them, glad you got out Jenny, all the very best

    • @GodLovesYou21
      @GodLovesYou21 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Does the open and the exclusive brethren have the same leadership at the top ?

    • @jennyd7416
      @jennyd7416 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sara no

    • @DC-wp6oj
      @DC-wp6oj 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Jenny D must have taken incredible courage to take that step. Putting your trust in people you believe have your best intentions at heart when really it is all one big manipulation.

    • @AndMakrid
      @AndMakrid 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Best thing indeed Jenny!

  • @Benjamin-om3ih
    @Benjamin-om3ih 5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Mad respect to this guy. Very articulate and wise

    • @biopsiesbeanieboos55
      @biopsiesbeanieboos55 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Agree absolutely. A brave man who recognised that he has a fundamental right to determine his own destiny, and acted on his belief without malice. I think he has a bright and dignified future.

  • @primus7776
    @primus7776 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    It's enlightening when one studies Cults-Assimilation, that they all operate in a identical manner in terms of the tactics they utilise, and all leave their Victims traumatised to a greater or lesser extent.
    It really all comes down to exerting power over your "followers".

  • @chazak7941
    @chazak7941 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Tried to join the Plymouth Brethren in Scotland but was made to feel most unwelcome in the small church. The church was ONLY for THEIR families and it took me a while to realize that they simply did not want me there.

    • @TheHammer1234567
      @TheHammer1234567 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I think you had a lucky miss to be honest

    • @roberteaston6413
      @roberteaston6413 ปีที่แล้ว

      I live in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada. I had the same experience as you.

    • @WholeBibleBelieverWoman
      @WholeBibleBelieverWoman 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I had the same experience with another denomonation: Assembly of God (at two different churches of theirs).

  • @leo_vangelo4743
    @leo_vangelo4743 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Omg yes there's videos on this! I am currently in the Brethren cult and it is very hard coping after finding out how homophobic and transphobic they are and it's difficult finding out how the rest of the world works after being isolated within in for so many years. I am 15 at the moment but cannot leave until I'm 18 and I hope I will be able to find my way through life after I leave.

    • @leo_vangelo4743
      @leo_vangelo4743 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@q-ster116 I just said why, the community is homophobic and transphobic and when i tried to come out to my mum as bisexual, she threatened to hit me and kick me out of the house, and then after she told me to stop taking things so literally as i had packed a bag to leave and there are many things i am restricted from doing, saying or even wearing. I go to the school (that is run by the community and only has brethren students) and i hear homophobic and transphobic remarks being made 24/7 as well as at home sometimes. It is very hard living in a family and community that would hurt you or maybe even kill you for being who you want to be. I remember one time asking my mother if i were gay, should i be killed and she said yes.

    • @rockcult8862
      @rockcult8862 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      WolfDogamer hey it’s hard sometimes isn’t it I’m a 16 yr old Male from the breth.

    • @leo_vangelo4743
      @leo_vangelo4743 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@rockcult8862 yeah it is, u still in it?

    • @rockcult8862
      @rockcult8862 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      WolfDogamer yep I am
      How’s it at the moment?

    • @LatinoAaron
      @LatinoAaron 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      My friend you will be fine. I used to work for a PB company. It's good to see you have opened yourself up to the world of technology and this will be crucial when you come to look for a job. Make sure you have a good grounding in Microsoft Office programmes such as Excel and Word, work on your soft skills such as effective communication, public speaking, being on time, being adaptable etc. Most importantly, just get into an industry you love and be passionate about it and you'll go far.

  • @chrisziersch5552
    @chrisziersch5552 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Brave man 👏

  • @tell-it-like-it-is8305
    @tell-it-like-it-is8305 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    It's like that movie "Blast from the past". Lol.

  • @GI4JYT
    @GI4JYT 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Disagree with many evangelical Christian situations and you will at least be marginalised. This guy is telling you the truth as far as that is concerned. Having a respect for scripture etc, does not help you either. Disagree with their take on 'theology' and your situation is dire, it's a case stay and be frustrated, or go!

    • @GI4JYT
      @GI4JYT 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The exclusives may have it to an extreme level, but to a lesser degree, it can be true of other 'evangelical' church groups, 'open Brethren' some 'Pentecostals' etc.

  • @ruthsplacechristianwomensm4874
    @ruthsplacechristianwomensm4874 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    heavy shepherding ! its a cult

  • @johnburns2458
    @johnburns2458 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    my family comes from Merrion hall Dublin and we were identified as Plymouth Brethren, but we were not Exclusive by any Means The exclusives don't tell you of the separation of families with relation to Believers and nonbelievers. back seat church separation etc. We were not and are not tight Brethern or Glanton but happily, we were Open Brethern. Northern Ireland has much more tight and open assemblies but as far as I know not so many exclusive units. we were not a cult by any means. the term cult may apply to the Exclusives,

    • @roberteaston6413
      @roberteaston6413 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I first joined the Open Brethren when I was 16(1970). I was told that women had to have their head covered. At that time the mini-skirt was in fashion. Some of those Brethren girls would wear the shortest skirts to the Breaking of Bread. It was hypocritical but nobody seemed to care. Also some of the older women would have hair shorter than their husbands which also was hypocritical. I was never accepted by the Brethren. I was always on the outside looking in.

    • @maryrosedouglasuk
      @maryrosedouglasuk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@roberteaston6413 Good for them if they allowed people to wear clothes/hairstyles of their own choice - why is that hypocritical?

    • @roberteaston6413
      @roberteaston6413 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@maryrosedouglasuk A Christian woman is not to dress in a manner that it would arouse passion in a man. It is unbiblical for a woman to have shorter hair than her husband. Unisex is unbiblical. In North America the Brethren are disappearing because they are not serious about following Christ. The Brethren are like the Liberal Party in the UK after WW2. They are small and irrelevant.

    • @shari9721
      @shari9721 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@roberteaston6413 here is a thought , instead of blaming , controlling and punishing women for the actions and decisions of men how about holding men responsible and accountable for their own actions and decisions ? smdh

    • @roberteaston6413
      @roberteaston6413 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@shari9721 The women I knew in the Assembly that I fellowshipped at were not punished for anything. In Alberta there are a fair number of Mormons. Their women dress with more decency than a lot of the Brethren girls I knew. It is sad when a cult can produce women who dress with more decency than a group that preaches the gospel. Mennonite women in Western Canada dress with more decency than most Brethren girls I knew. The Brethren in Canada are irrelevant. They have little or no impact here. What is changing the Christian landscape here is the number of Christians coming to Canada from Africa and the Caribbean.

  • @wadyamean4464
    @wadyamean4464 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Are the Plymouth brethren and the exclusive brethren the same thing

    • @maryrosedouglasuk
      @maryrosedouglasuk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      There is an original 'Plymouth Brethren' group that were gentler, though still strict by normal standards; but then the Exclusive Brethren got such bad press they changed their name to 'Plymouth Brethren Christian Church'. I believe they employed professional marketing people to improve their image, but underneath they are still very controlling and can be quite cruel.

    • @mrunixman1579
      @mrunixman1579 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@maryrosedouglasuk The types are like this are called Taylorites.
      I looked in to these groups recently due to attending an Open Brethern Zoom call on 30th Oct.
      I heard of Plymouth Bretherens as my city has 2 halls but they both don't display any times and etc on their signs. They hand out tracts in the city, they are not the most talkative people when asked questions.

  • @MarlomRV
    @MarlomRV 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    As an ex Jehovah Witness, I can relate a lot to him...

  • @carolinegraystone9308
    @carolinegraystone9308 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Jehovah witness disfellowshipping ,just the same

  • @richarddechatfield2297
    @richarddechatfield2297 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sicker than your average.

  • @mytube2959
    @mytube2959 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    They have a problem with in-breading, such a closed group.

  • @joeymetz9791
    @joeymetz9791 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    So you didn't watch television, movies or the internet as a young man. You didn't even know who Michael Jackson was ? You think these things are bad ? I wish there was a Plymouth brethren church near me.

    • @addisonlyons6555
      @addisonlyons6555 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      All they are is a brainwashing group of idiots I was apart of this cult for 8 years and I absolutely hated it now that my family has left we can’t talk to our family let alone anyone in the cult if we see someone in the brethren they turn their heads and look away I have never hated anything more

    • @maryrosedouglasuk
      @maryrosedouglasuk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I gather you are joking but there are far, far more painful restrictions and rules than these. Education for example.

    • @mrunixman1579
      @mrunixman1579 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      They wont take outsiders in. The Plymouth Brethern hall has no windows in my city either.

    • @smophie6260
      @smophie6260 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mrunixman1579 so that’s why ours have metal shudders?

    • @melissamitchell1379
      @melissamitchell1379 ปีที่แล้ว

      No you don’t trust me. They hate outsiders are we are known as ‘wordlies’ . They are inbreeders and the most vile people you will meet.

  • @greggmckenzie7132
    @greggmckenzie7132 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm singularly unimpressed how many people in Aotearoa are unaware that Ms Jacinda Ardern was raised a Mormon! She committed apostasy and left the Church of the Latter Day Saints aged 22. Her father, Ross Ardern, had a 40 year career in the NZ Pirihimana, and is High Commissioner of New Zealand to Niue, and Administrator for Tokelau. He's still a practicing Mormon, and his twin brother Ian, is an LDS 'general authority' also know as the 'Brethren' - the highest position one can hold in Moronism... ooops, Mormonism! I consider those facts to show a conflict of interest!

  • @mikesmechanical1102
    @mikesmechanical1102 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    just remember, when the lights go down and it's you and the Lord or you and the Devil - who will you choose?

    • @amytrottier8836
      @amytrottier8836 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      The Devil!

    • @Stratboy999
      @Stratboy999 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Laughable comment.

    • @kj7651
      @kj7651 วันที่ผ่านมา

      😂 neither. The lights will just go out 🙄

  • @ezj8262
    @ezj8262 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The modern pre-trib rapture teaching and dispensationalism both appear to have their roots from the Plymouth Brethren. Many seminaries follow after certain theologians that propagated those things, including: E.W. Bullinger, Clarence Larkin, and John Nelson Darby. The only way Christians can navigate through the mess of subtle heresies is to read the Bible for themselves, everything in context of what the Bible says, and not through the private interpretations of other individuals. False teachings can be popular, but the narrow way is the right way, though it is the way too infrequently chosen.
    I have more understanding than all my teachers: for thy testimonies are my meditation. - Psalm 119:99, KJV
    “At that time Jesus answered and said, I thank thee, O Father, Lord of heaven and earth, because thou hast hid these things from the wise and prudent, and hast revealed them unto babes.” - Matthew 11:25, KJV

    • @mousehead2000
      @mousehead2000 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      ESCAPE LIFE if you want to navigate reality, you’d be best putting that heretical book down and start thinking for yourself instead of allowing others to think for you.

    • @ezj8262
      @ezj8262 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@mousehead2000
      But this I confess unto thee, that after the way which they call heresy, so worship I the God of my fathers, believing all things which are written in the law and in the prophets: - Acts 24:14, KJV

    • @mousehead2000
      @mousehead2000 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      ESCAPE LIFE quoting the bible means nothing to me. It’s just the writings of some people. Anyone can write a verse and say it’s divinely inspired. In fact these words I write right now are divinely inspired so take heed. You can quote me on that.

    • @ezj8262
      @ezj8262 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@mousehead2000 In truth, many counterfeits exist, just know that the existence of many counterfeits doesn't negate the existence of the genuine article.

    • @mousehead2000
      @mousehead2000 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      ESCAPE LIFE there is no genuine article. They’re all counterfeit.

  • @southernbawselady7092
    @southernbawselady7092 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Same as JW's!! 💯

  • @melaniewojak3239
    @melaniewojak3239 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Not quite a fair representation of the church. I recall things being different to this.

    • @carloirvine7370
      @carloirvine7370 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Used to be part of it too?

    • @samanthapeters8314
      @samanthapeters8314 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      How was it different?

    • @jennyd7416
      @jennyd7416 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      As an ex EB, I say this is a very fair representation

    • @JillMytton
      @JillMytton 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      This video is a very fair representation of the group commonly called the "Exclusive Brethren". Their leader is Bruce Hales from Sydney. Maybe your group was a brethren group but not this one - there are a large number of different groups of brethren with names like Open, Glanton, Frost, Tunrbridge Wells etc.

    • @jakem7465
      @jakem7465 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@JillMytton I agree that this isn't a fair representation

  • @loriannrichardsshinn6714
    @loriannrichardsshinn6714 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Like MORMONS AND CATHOLICS

    • @aspenenglish4976
      @aspenenglish4976 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lori Ann Richards, SHINN that is simply not true.

    • @ThepPixel
      @ThepPixel 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@aspenenglish4976 like Mormons for sure

    • @aspenenglish4976
      @aspenenglish4976 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      The1080pPixel ummm...no. My friends are not LDS. Members of my family have left the church in their own and are still welcomed. I know all music, computers, movies, modern life in any way. It’s not an issue.

    • @roberteaston6413
      @roberteaston6413 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ThepPixel I knew a lady that worked for The Canadian Imperial Bank of Commerce for twenty years. She spent one year working in Cardston, Alberta. That town is 99% Mormon. She was single, Ukrainian Catholic, and independent. After work she would go to the Royal Canadian Legion for a beer. She would see Mormons sneaking in for a beer, too. The Mormons, as with all Christian Churches, teach that sex is only for marriage. Barbara said that the Mormons girls in Cardston abided by that rule. However some of the Mormon boys did not. She said every Friday night there would be car loads of Mormon boys going to Lethbridge to ``have a good`time``.

  • @jungefrau
    @jungefrau 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sounds like Amish ppl without the costumes

  • @tamaking7104
    @tamaking7104 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I've never heard of a religious colt. I didn't think animals practiced religion. If the presenter was talking about a cult, then he should say so.

  • @Over-for-now
    @Over-for-now 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Not all of these groups are a cult. I grew up in a group of believers in the FINISHED work of Jesus for salvation.
    Who cares if a child knows who any worldly actor or singer is ?

  • @markchatman9583
    @markchatman9583 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sounds like the gospel hall brethren cult around here

  • @Djr67
    @Djr67 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    That news reader guy is so damn cute