It's very nice to see a parent who is raising kids screen free, but still being mindful of the impact on a kid's social life. I wasn't exactly screen free growing up, but I didn't have TV (not even public access) or anything except for a few VHS tapes. Trying to talk to kids my age was painful... Like "Disney channel? Boy bands? What are these things?". I didn't even know the princesses, outside of the book versions. They treated me like an alien and I never really fit in. Individuality and life skills are important, but kids also deserve to relate to their peers and enjoy the same stuff everyone else is.
I didn't have tv growing up in the 1990s early 00s either... And to this day my peers make references I don't fully understand. It definitely led to me feeling so weird in my childhood. My parents weren't even anti tv, we were just dirt poor.
@@redwoodcottageart Literally - to this day, people still come up to me and ask me if I watched this or that as a kid, or how come I don't know about this show everyone else watched. Our TV broke one day and we never got it fixed. I'm ready to move past this whenever everyone else is!
@@jadziajan The same thing happens to my husband all the time! My family is always asking about what shows and movies he liked as a child. They ask about what sports teams he liked. They say things like, “Remember when everyone had light up shoes in elementary school?” They know he was raised in a 3rd world country (he hates the term undeveloped for multiple reasons) and they STILL ask this stuff! Yes, he was still a child when he came to the US, but he didn’t speak English. Of course he didn’t have a favorite cartoon as a child, when he didn’t understand English. His family could just barely afford a TV when he was a teenager. And don’t get me started on cellphones lol. He didn’t get a cell phone until he was 18 and in the Military for 6 months. But everyone acts like every teenager had a cellphone. It’s so frustrating! Why does everyone focus on the materialistic part of childhood?
I mean I didn't grow up screen free (we had an old computer and a TV, eventually an iPad but it had restrictions on it) but I was never into popular TV shows and I had never watched a TH-cam video until I was in secondary school, and honestly missing out on references was the least of my worries when it came to social stuff. I think as long as you're not sheltered from everything then screen free will be fine, especially at Rupert's age. He'll probably have access to that kind of thing in a school setting anyways. (which is probably something to be careful about because a lot of parents let their younger kids use whatever social media they want with no restrictions)
Sometimes I'm like "Well, I mean, I always like Jessica and Claudia but I dunno that I'm all that interested in this." when I click on a video and by the end I'm always like "These two women are incredibly engrossing, how could I doubt them? This is why I'm a subscriber, two lovely people and their son." 😂
@@jessicaoutofthecloset you have made it easier to share things with multiple family members, who don't like the same information when it comes from me. **THANK YOU** I have a genetic issue and had an abusive (now ex), so my niblings and grandboos are quite diligent about brushing their teeth. Around age 2/3/4 they notice I am missing 3 bottom teeth. "Why?" they ask.... "Because you only have to brush the teeth you want to keep", I answer, and suddenly they want to brush their teeth all the time. 😅 Once they are older and have better habits, I will answer with the information they can process and are mature enough to handle. PS: I too have children born of my heart, and they are a gift
I had a whole set of disney books as a kid, they were just shortened versions of the Disney films with the pictures in the Disney animation styles. I'm sure you can still get them. They would be perfect for Rupert especially as he enjoys reading so much.
I was just thinking this! He loves books, he loves Disney, put them together! You used to be able to find the books that came with a little record or tape you could play along with them-- I didn't watch many movies growing up, so that's how I learned all the songs.
@@PrimroseFrost I had the read along books with the cassette tapes too. I loved getting to sing along with the songs while also looking at the pretty pictures in the book.
I had a bunch of Disney books as a kid too. I’m pretty sure there are a few disney movies I never actually watched and I only ever read the books. The books were great, 101 dalmatians and 102 dalmatians were my favourite.
Hi Jessica! I am a disabled lesbian and since i’m early i thought now was a good time to let you know how much you have done for me. Seeing you have a family through all the ups and downs of chronic illness that i am all too familiar with helps me to have hope for my future. Keep being you!
Somehow, cycling between "this is amazing and so sweet and he's having so much fun" to "screaming and bleeding profusely from the face" feels like the quintessential Disney experience
I think I'm totally on the whole not having individual screens for children (like phones, ipads, etc) but my partner and are big film fans, so I love the idea of the once a week family movie night. I think it's because I grew up on the iconic 90s Disney movies so I want to share that with my child, but I fully understand and respect each parents' own decision
Same here. Individual screens with constant access to the internet can be incredibly damaging to young minds, but I love movies and shows and honestly they really were a big part of my creativity flourishing while I grow. However, it's interesting to hear the ways other people parent their children and sometimes what works for some won't always work for one
Shielding your kid from the internet and screens isn’t the solution in a world where this is the reality. Guide them, healthy boundaries. Don’t push your ideas on a child if you want that child to not act out once they get older.
@@motiefofficial3583 Yeahhhh no I wish I wasn't on the internet when I was under 13. I will teach my children how to use it and internet safety so they're not completely lost but my kid isn't getting free range internet at the ripe old age of 5 like some parents do. You should give your children freedom including the freedom to make their own mistakes and learn their own things but the internet has worsened people's insecurities, worsened people's empathy, messed with people socially, fucked up attention spans, etc. I'm not doing that to my kid lol
"Slightly irrational first time parent fears apprently don't go away after the first two years." My daughter just turned 10 and I still have these fears! My dad said he still had them about me even after I became an adult and moved out. I think for some of us parents, we're just destined to live in constant fear 😂
Our younger sibling's about to turn 11! I'm always trying not to let my fears affect her, it's hard. Especially when I have a phobia of blades and she likes carving things 😅. With that one at least I just try to be honest with her that it's a me fear and not a her problem. Some of the bigger stuff I keep to myself
You didn't mention it, but did someone tell you that you probably qualify for a disability card at Disneyland? They're really amazing and for something like the Frozen show you wouldn't have needed to show up so early--you'd just need to drop by there and get a return time and could come back shortly before it begins. Also, I imagine you aren't headed back here that quickly, but every August there's an International Princess week when a lot more princesses are out and about. The dates vary slightly, (21-29 August 2021, 21-27 August 2022, 20-26 August 2023) but if you aimed for somewhere in the middle of those dates that's probably when it will happen next year. Worth keeping in mind if Rupert's still enamored by the princesses next year. Or Christmas time (which begins mid-November and runs through early January) has a twice daily parade (the nighttime version is beautiful) that has some of the princesses dancing on one of the stages in front of the castle. That would be another lovely time to visit. Also obviously whenever the Frozen expansion opens over the next few years.
Was going to say this - being disabled at Disneyland Paris feels like being a VIP. The queues are like five minutes max (faster than the fast pass!), for rides, restaurants, parades and shows! + you get a +1 aged over 18 for free and a -10% discount on your own ticket. And the staff us exceptionally nice to you too >>>
@@papaya388 Having never visited the parks in Asia, I can't speak on how they operate. Their websites should mention what accommodations are available.
@@ayellowpapercrown6750 Carer tickets are discounted now, but no longer free. Too many people took advantage of it, unfortunately. They were supposed to be for adults who require a carer--people who otherwise would be able to visit on their own--so they didn't pay more than other guests. Some people fell into that category, but without any sort of guidelines, a lot of parents bought carer tickets for themselves, even though their young children would need to be accompanied either way. Between that and changing EU guidelines that Disney had to comply with, things don't work as they once did. Carer tickets are no longer free, temporary disability passes no longer exist--as guests are now allowed to cancel or reschedule trips without penalties, (and again probably because people took advantage of it and deliberately booked a Disney holiday after breaking a bone to get to skip the queues) and the list of conditions that qualify for a pass has been greatly reduced and it requires more proof than it used to. (If you aren't a French resident, a doctor's letter won't suffice--you need official documentation.) It's all up on the website. It does work great, but it's a bit different now.
I haven't even HAD kids yet and I'm already think about whether I'm going to raise my future kids screen free or not. On the one hand, I think kids these days often do get a really unhealthy amount of screentime, and I've seen a lot of scary statistics about how damaging it can be for mental health, development etc. But on the other hand, I wouldn't want my kids to feel isolated by not being able to keep up with pop culture, or join in if all their friends are hanging out online when they're a bit older. My own parents only let me and my brother have half an hour screentime every day until we were about 13, which at the time I found so strict, but now actually seems like it was a good balance! Because we had enough screentime that we didn't feel left out or out of touch with kids our age, but we had a lot of time to develop our own imagination and ways to entertain ourselves that didn't involve screens, too. So maybe that's what I'll do when I have kids one day (much as I'd hate to admit it to my mum!)
I feel, ultimately, that there's a middle ground to be struck. My children aren't allowed smart phones before high school, and Aren't allowed to have social media at all before 17. We have our household router settings in such a way that we can see every search they make. We also have all pornography and adult websites fully blocked. That said, many tablet/phone apps allow you to set parental limits. Fire tablets let you set educational goals, reading goals, daily streaming video usage limits, as well as bed times and wake up times. And those can be set to different amounts for school days and weekends. Even Facebook and TH-cam have separate apps for kids, so they aren't interacting with adult content. The trick is to be a parent that pays attention and also engages in other ways. Also, deciding you'll never use screens, before actually knowing your child's needs, is very hasty. You might have a kid with autism or ADHD, and screen usage might be the only way you can get through the grocery store or a car ride without a meltdown/tantrum. Anecdotally, my oldest kid always freaked out in grocery stores due to overstimulation, she has both ADHD and ASD and boy was I shocked when I realized she would remain calm if she had a game in her hand. She's 18 now, and she's a well rounded healthy adult. Having screen time did not make her spoiled or depressed or lazy or anything else people are afraid of. It never made her ADHD worse, and it definitely helped her to connect with other people that have autism. And it's important to note that every criticism laid at the feet of screens today, has been said about Video Games, Television, Radio, Bicycles, and even BOOKS when they were new. 20yrs from now it will be something else blamed for destroying children's minds.
I am autistic and adhd and I used books and screens a lot to self settle both as a child as an adult, so for me the main for me will not try to make a big thing of it either way and have plenty of options.
@watching2day so these poor kids arent allowed any privacy uh? And what do you categorised as "porn"? Many times, every content related to lgbtq+ themes, or anatomy, it gets read as porn by parent control / restricted searching, so what if they want to seach for those topics?
@@redwoodcottageart I agree with everything you said. Just be aware, older kids can definitely take off certain settings and turn them on again before you notice. All of my friends and I did. 😅 That’s why I feel it’s so important to talk to kids about why we don’t want them watching or seeing certain things. I’m very honest with 10+ years olds about why corn with a P is bad. I tell them it’s designed to make you addicted to it. It makes you have an extremely unrealistic view of s*x and what real humans are comfortable doing. It’s extremely sexist, and it paints women as objects to please men. Corn with two women STILL is depicted in a way that is sexy to men. It’s not actually lesbian corn, like it pretends to be. Worst off all, many people aren’t in the industry of their own free will. It’s usually that they need money or have been forced or tricked into it with drugs, blackmail, or even trafficking. I make it clear that I have nothing against s*x or sexuality. Sexuality is (usually) part of the human experience and can be beautiful, fun, amazing, etc. But s*x can’t be any of those things if you accidentally train your brain to think women are there to please you, consent doesn’t matter, or that your partner(s) will always be willing to do everything you want.
I'd do the same as my parents, TV is fine (nickelodeon or boomerang (where they play Hannah Barbara and other older cartoons that held up really well, idk if it exists in other countries)), no computer until they can read, I don't know where i stand on smartphones because at that time i was considered too young to have my own smartphone (at the age of 9) but times changed (my parents were both rocking brick phones until like 2015. It was a time when in my country only the rich, the techy, the business peeps and the facebook addict had a smartphone, it was considered a downgrade from a feature phone to many, general smartphone acceptance began in ~2015 i'd say), at that time they were getting cheaper so i asked for one for christmas, no internet access or anything, just a prepaid card, we didn't even have wifi back then
As a primary school teacher who knows that screens such as interactive whiteboards are a big part of school and lessons…I’d be interested to hear your plans for when Rupert goes to school. We also *sometimes* use iPads for lessons too! I’m unsure if you even plan to send Rupert to a public school but I just wondered! I don’t have children yet, but as always this video is very insightful and has made me think about what I may do with my future children. So glad you all had a lovely time in Disney! ♥️
This is exactly why I don’t intend to be screen free. I think it’s much more important to teach kids how to use technology safely and mindfully rather than pretending it doesn’t exist. Kids Rupert’s and my boy’s generation aren’t going to be able to navigate their adult world without screens so I fear banning them just handicap’s children. I did like Jessica’s relating to this in her childhood but I know so many screen free parents are, no screens, ever! 😅
Hi, I know Jessica and Claudia are talking about a montissori school for his primary years, also think it's in line with Jessica's quakers beliefs, as she went to a school near me that is a well known quaker school.
@@katrianem2124thank you for bring this up. As a kid I wasnt exposed to much technology and I can say it hindered me in school in the 2000s so I know it would be a much greater hindrence to children now. As an adult this lack of foundation has only lead to greater problems by not having access to things to being low income (disabilty can only strech so far). Im more technology literate then say my 80 year old grandmother but generally I cant do many things and dont have an understanding of things that most other people these days have and I know it will only get worse as technology progresses and new ways of integrating it become everyday. Most jobs require tec these days. Applying, accessing resources, and more almost all require taking care of things online. Even my doctors just look at me perplexed when I admit I dont know how or cant do something because my 4 year old cheapest model avalible phone isnt up to it and their answer is "make it work cause this is how we and everyone do things now."
Oh my! I FEEL the tears you were holding back telling the story of nosebleed! My kiddo gets them and a year ago we all went through a terrible one! We were going to see the Easter Bunny for the first time and we all woke up to kiddo screaming and "red". They don't like to see "red" so waking up that way was horrifying! MY anxiety was terrible for the whole day while kiddo was a happy camper an hour later.
I love, love, love that you are exposing Rupert to such a broad base of experiences. I think that is what childhood should be about, having different experiences. (nosebleeds and all) ❤️❤️
From experience of being a child caregiver and seeing multiple ways how families (with diverse wants and needs) do screentime, the biggest factor is clear boundaries being enforced consistently. Maybe they're occasionally bent, but caregivers have to be prepared for that to cause changes in behaviour and possibly needing to reinforce the boundaries when they get back to normal. The kids who had the biggest issues with screentime were the ones who had very inconsistent rules that were either not clear to each caregiver or constantly changing, which caused so much anxiety for the kids and made them even more obsessed with screens! Even kids who had lots of access to screens but knew the boundaries (eg we can play on the ipad until dinner but we don't use it after) were less obsessed with them than kids who had less access but never knew what boundaries we were working with that month.
I almost forgot my prior hobbies when I picked up any form of screen from like the ages of 13 till now at 32. So I am slowly getting back into those hobbies and joys and it's actually nice to be away from some screens.
I feel this so much. I'm now 52, and until computers at home became commonplace I used to primarily make things (lamps, crafts, art, painting, etc) in my off-work hours. Now I have to force myself to do it and it's such a hard habit to break, watching a video and playing a game and texting and and and all at once.
I grew up in a screen limited family, but since my aunt worked at Disneyland, we were allowed to watch anything Disney at least once a week. My aunt would send the new Disney movies on VHS, and it was seriously the best mail we ever received. Seriously Disney is worth occasionally making a screen time exception for.
when you asked how can a screen-free kid know disney, I was like, well, books based on those movies exist, and I prefered them over the movies when I was a kid! didn't expect the backstory to be that engrossing 😍
i love that seemingly all children universally are obsessed with elsa over all other princesses. love for elsa transcends even having seen the movie! such a lovely video
I'm glad you had a good time at Disneyland Paris. I'm relatively local to the original park, and have been a few times. The cast members do a phenomenal job of maintaining atmosphere and easing concerns, and I'm so glad they did this for your family.
I get near daily nosebleeds and people always panic and try to give me advice. Meanwhile I’m like, “this’ll last like five minutes, I’m fine”. Do you get people giving you the ‘lean back’ advice as well?
@@lord_m0th I know. People are always insisting I lean backwards and I’m like “no that’ll just cause it to run down my throat, you lean forwards” and they take a minute to realise that the person who experiences daily nosebleeds knows how best to manage them. It was always the school nurses too giving you the worst advice
@@starlightlilly7203 we don’t have school nurses where I’m from and the teachers had no idea what was going on. and every time when I told them that I get them often they would always panic and wanted to send me to the hospital cause they thought I had blood cancer…
I completely support your decision to raise Rupert screen free rn. However, I like that you acknowledged the social distance that can create for him. I will say, I was using the family PC very young, at like...preschool level probably. I had a LOT of edutainment games. I highly reccommend these style games (like Reader Rabbit, JumpStart, Carmen Sandiego, etc) if you decide to introduce him to a PC at some point. It meant I not only learned while playing, but I also grew up to be a fairly tech savvy adult. I think computer literacy will continue to be a very important thing for children to learn in the future, so if you want to keep Rupert from really just consuming mindless content...edutainment adventure games are a good way to go.
Oh my gosh T T seeing the tears in Jessica’s eyes towards the end is just so like…sadly touching? She really really loves Rupert so much and the thought of him in pain, and the relief of others helping care for him, you can just see so much love there. 💛 it makes my heart so happy to see that! And Claudia, god bless, you are just such a trooper! I hope you both had a wonderful trip. 🌱🌸
Growing up, I had a *ton* of bloody noses and loved Disney so this really hit home 😂Also if nose bleeds truly are a common issue for Rupert, I highly recommend getting Ayr nasal gel/spray. If you get the gel, put it on the end of a twisted up piece of tissue, put the tissue in his nose, pinch his nose bridge right underneath the hard cartilage, then reapply the gel once the bleeding completely stops. It might very faintly sting for a second but it is absolutely worth the slight discomfort. Ayr has legitimately saved me from hours of bleeding. Best of luck!
The fact that you are both mothers to this adorable screen free child who’s so obsessed with Disney princesses… the boundaries your family is breaking are endless!! So inspiring! There is hope for the world 🥹💗✨
I work at a bookstore and we have so many children’s books about Disney princesses. Shortened versions of the movies, story time collections, stories with multiple princesses. Since Rupert loves reading so much, those might be a perfect option for him!
My parents believed screens (in the 80's, so TV and movies) would increase my interest in Disney World. Not the other way round! What's funny is the opposite ended up being true for me. Children talking about their trips to Disney World made me want to see the media they were referring to and I was somewhat envious of kids whose parents took them.
Y'all are so lucky that you got to go to Disneyland Paris! I'm also happy that Rupert enjoyed the orchestra concert. I love orchestra concerts. (Granted, I've only been to one so far, but still.) I'm very convinced that my autism kind of found a sense of routine from what TV was like back in the 90s, but things have vastly changed since then. I'm glad that you are setting boundaries about how much screen time Rupert gets.
I absolutely adore getting to see you Rupert and Claudia get to go on a trip to Disneyland in Paris. Thats a park I’ve never seen and so its quite intriguing on that front, but seeing how your career brings your family these opportunities is amazing. Screen time is such a modern parenting issue we need to communicate and study the affect it has on children’s development and skills. ❤
Aw i loved this. I grew up in California so my family used to go to Disney land every 2 to 3 years and it was always so magical and fun. For my honeymoon we went as well and I highly recommend it. If you mention it to one of the employees they give you a button that says just married and if any workers or shopkeepers see it they will congratulate you and treat you like celebrities'. We even won a private dining experience in Disney California where we got to eat and watch the light parade from a private balcony above the clam chowder shop. I believe they also have special buttons for people who are having a birthday or wedding anniversary. It might be a money making power house but they really do manage to make the experience feel magical.
not gonna lie, i had no idea what to expect from this video, but i was not expecting to be on tenterhooks wondering if little Rupert would ever get to see Elsa (and she IS queen, ofc, so good on him for knowing that hahahaha), and then that third act twist of the nosebleed was just wild. your family would be an absolute hoot to hang out with, Jessica, i must say; always an adventure with you guys!
Aw poor Rupert!!! I'm glad that he ended up feeling fine in the morning and that he had a lovely time seeing all the princesses but RIP to his tshirt and Jessica's beautiful cinderella dress!
Someone else has probably said this but you can get book versions of all the Disney stories. I had them as a kid and only ever watched a couple of the movies. Definitely recommend the books!
Brittney Lee has illustrated some amazing “Paper cut Style” Disney storybooks. Primarily focused on *stage whispers,* Anna and Elsa. One of them is called “A sister more like me”. My little niece, who's only interested in books and colouring, demands a good storytelling session with those books on the daily. Thank you for the lovely educational video as always.
Love watching you and other parents talk about your parenting style. Im expecting my first in december and watching all these videos is very helpful. I probably wont go 100% screenfree with my child but i love how informative you where on the topic. And i am an avid suporter of ”whatever works for you/your family” 😊
We aren't a screen free family, but my daughter honestly knows disney more from books and her tonie box. My daughter uses the tonie box every night as part of bedtime. She is 3 and has a kindle and uses it to practice writing, read books and play games that prep for preschool. We go to the library once a week but can't really check out enough to fill a whole week and the Amazon kids app gives her access to thousands of books. I have a 1 year old son as well and simply can't fill her day and give her enough attention to do that while looking after my son too. We set limits but don't really need to enforce it much, she doe play dough and coloring and playing dolls most of the day anyhow. We don't have any childcare so having her watch a video while i try to get the baby to nap is a huge help. Whatever works for your family❤
Many years ago my friend would sit her son in front of the TV for just as long as it took to make his tea. After a little while she noticed he started saying the letters on his toys and books but she knew she hadn't yet taught him as he was very much pre-school, with her full time. It turned out the programme he'd been watching was Countdown and he'd learned all his letters and numbers before he was two years old! He turned out to be very bright and now works with computers.😅
I'm very late but, I've tried to raise my children in the way I wanted to be raised? @6:33 gave me a sudden rush of realization. My eldest is my tiny clone and has always appreciated me giving him the lenience to do what he chooses within reason. My youngest needs constant direction, and has (since she started school) decided she wants to (it seems anyways) follow the 'norms' having things like her friends, clothes, backpacks, toys, but also having a traditional (US) Thanksgiving dinner. Frankly I'm not here to judge either way. This made me think, 'Maybe she wants to feel like she belongs'
I love this, I've told people that if i ever have a child i'd be screen free (at least for the first few years). Soooo many people tell me "well wait until you have kids, then you'll change your mind". I didn't grow up with screens, by the time i was 7 I was allowed 1 hour of TV a day... after 1 episode of my top three shows i'd turn it off and go read because i was bored. I want to give my kids that time outside and the love for books I was given. Most of my child hood memories were theme parks, hiking, and going out to eat once a week.
I grew up with a set of Disney books in the 70s and 80s. They were among my fave books as a child. You can still get them, or find the older/vintage versions online.
The Disney cast worldwide is really good at handling these kinds of situations. A friend fainted in Disney Sea in Japan & they immediately helped & snapped into action too and even got someone who spoke English, we are German but my friend also speaks decent English, to explain everything to her when she woke up confused. Also found her friends she was at the park with but they had split up because they wanted to see different attractions and wanted to meet up again an hour or so later. In her case it was just the heat and some fluids and she was back up again but yeah could have been way worse. Even if I don't agree with the company Disney but they really know how customer service is supposed to be in those types of amusement parks. They are really good at keeping the magic alive and keeping everyone happy while their there.
Re: the accident towards the end, Rupert and I are part of an exclusive club of “injuring themselves at Disney on the last day”. When I was 6 I tripped over a pole and broke my pinkie on our last day at Disneyland in California! Otherwise a wonderful trip. Glad he’s much better than I was!
Oh my! My vacation wasn't as eventful, but I did fall while in a cave and manage to get my nearly 70 year old self up those 85 steps out of the cave by myself.
The Pocahontas figure is darling~~~ She, Ariel, and Mulan were always my favorites ♡ ♡ ♡ Aww poor little guy falling right at the end. I'm glad he had such an enjoyable time despite that!! His joy at seeing the Princesses is so sweet 🥺
I’m seriously enjoying hearing you speak on your parenting experience!!! Thank you for sharing, as someone who wants to be a parent long in the future I love to hear what’s in others’ parenting practices. LOVE the cake toppers, by the way!! 😂
I am not a parent yet but once the time is there I want to raise them as screenfree as possible. As an older zoomer(= gen z, born in 1998) I feel as if I was forced to use screens too much, especially during COVID. But even before I felt hooked on the screen in a bad way. I want my children to know a world without social media, or information overload. For their own sake but maybe being aware of kids' screen use will make me able to let go off the screen more.
I'm so glad you went to Paris for your first Disneyland experience. Orlando is ten times the heat and humidity, ten times the people, ten times the size, and in my opinion (as a California disney girl, so Orlando is NOT my home Disney) the most difficult Disney park to navigate and plan. Anaheim is roughly the same size as Paris but hotter and way more packed with people. I'm glad you all had a great time! I hope Rupert gets to see the other Disney Princess movies, especially The Princess and the Frog and The Little Mermaid cause those are my faves!
a lot of british people go to disneyland paris first anyway cause we can take the eurostar/eurotunnell from london to paris in ~3 to 4 hours ish which is much easier than an 8 hour flight to orlando! but I definitely agree that it would have been much more intense if they went to cali or orlando. :3
As someone else had commented i didnt think Disney content was for me. Of course I should have known better because I watch all your content and am always enlightened, amused and informed. Oh my goodness, my wife watched this last night, I'm watching very early this morning, laughing out loud, she knew exactly what I was watching. 😂 Love you all, so glad Rupert's accident didnt cloud the whole experience for you. Bless your hearts for remaining so calm, I cant imagine how terrifying it must have been for each of you in your separate ways. Its lovely to see how well you both understand your son and how he responds, what he needs from you both in different situations. You must both have just needed to hold on to him when he was bleeding but the fact that you were able to act in a way that was best for him first is amazing. You are both extraordinary people and parents, bless you. Well done Disney for the perfect response. 👍👏🥰🌈
I really enjoyed the princess dolls and how they came to be Rupert’s favorite dolls ❤ I really appreciate you at least considering the impact of screens on your Son! I really loved seeing you all out enjoying a Disney Park experience ❤
Watching I got a vivid flash back tome as a kid with Disney books based of the movies. This was how I learned several of the stories rather than seeing the films. Im also reminded that I was obsessed with the ma,e character Barbie doll that came out for Disney's Hunchback of Notre Dame not be ause I liked the movie (which I did just not reLly that character) but because it had extra joints and a beard which I found fascinating as my normal dolls didnt have such things. My mom ended up buying me two just cause I liked it so much. Its odd the things we remember but dont think about for years until something sparks the recall.
I was surprised that you hadn't been to Disneyland before!!!! It's so magical, so detailed, Disney doesn't do things by halves. My!!! The reason Walt created it was because he wanted a safe clean place to go with his family - and its competely immersive. You enter Disney's land - his imagination and creations - seamlessly when you go to Disneyland. It's perfection. It's marvellous. Literally fantastical and magical. I'm so glad you had a wonderful time, you deserve it. You don't have to answer at all but do you watch films or television with him ever at home? He's probably too little but I was two or three when my mum began introducing Disney's Princess films to me. She did this over a span of years, with space in between each one. You have to wait until your child has an attention span for it, but I absolutely believe they are some of the best filmic media to introduce your children to first. The artistry, fairytales and full narratives are so engaging and enriching. ❤❤❤❤ I'm so glad he loves the Princesses so much 💗 💓 💖 💕 I think that's also a reflection of loving and being in awe of you, Princess Jessica - he shares your interests absolutely but it's also because he has a princess as one of his beautiful mummies, and he loves and recognises that in you 💕💜💗💖 I often wonder but never comment, but as someone who also deals with chronic pain, the only shoes I can wear now are skechers, and I was wondering if you have any. I can totally recommend them, and have often thought it might make your life easier /exhaustion less intense etc if you had some. I mention this brand specifically because they usually have very pretty feminine styles that just look like regular shoes, but they're made with sneaker material, so they really help me and enable me to walk at all when I couldn't jn other shoes, and they look like regular pretty feminine stylish shoes- which is important to me- and I think that's important to you too. They were a game changer for me, if they're available in your country you might want to check them out - they would still go with your beautuful vintage aestheic ❤❤❤❤ My goodness how traumatic. Children are so resilient- there is always a -thing- like this that happens is most people's childhood, but you're right, his healing powers are magic - it's very traumatic for the parents, but you handled it so well. Well done ❤ If there's an ideal place for something like that to happen, it's Disneyland. They are so well equipped and prepared for everything, any kind of needs and have excellent staff❤xxxx
The text below is accurate! You might be thinking 'so what'?' The reality is those most text that goes with videos on You Tube are full of inaccurracies. It shows how proffessional Jessica, Claudia and aeveryone behind the scene are in the making of these videos.
I felt exactly the same way when I went to Disney. I was 40 when I went , and it was as magical and wonderful as I hoped for. I’m glad y’all had a wonderful time ❤
"... It's an interesting mix" Rupert has great musical taste and is primed to enjoy every genre of 20th and 21st century music there is. Well done, young man! ❤
Honestly, not having screens allow the kids to be more creative, imaginative and discoveries with milestones! I am also disabled, work with children and youth, and have members of my family who don't use screens for their kids. There's a few specific philosophies for approach and parenting styles. I love that kids now can be so hands-on and developing in various ways while implementing lifeskills so early!
This video's posited question is quite relevant of a topic to me as I have the most NIGHTMARISH of times when it comes to touchscreen devices and basically don't use a mobile phone as anything but an emergency device as a result, so the obsession of so many places with making stuff dependent upon one is extremely frustrating and exclusionary. It raises a bunch of all new accessibility issues.
I love how you show all this sweet parenting footage with your child, but don't show his face to protect his privacy ❤ So refreshing to see responsible parents who actually respect their children, rather than plastering them online without their consent.
my parents didnt really let me use screens growing up, we had a tv and ipads but we didnt have full access. so i just read books my whole childhood and now im really good at english so thanks mum. my friends are always so shocked when i say ive never watched some of the tv shows and movies that they have lol
As someone who works at the park, you made me giggle and feel a little more special about my role. I'm happy you guys got to visit Disney Paris, that's definitly on the bucketlist!
im so happy u pointed out how important it is to be able to converse about cartoons and other things like that because as a future hopefully screen not free but limited family i worry about this and definitely had some problems when kids would talk about spongebob and i had no idea what was happening because my mom hated that one in particular
First of all, well done Ruth Anne for knowing the Princesses would be a hit😊 Jessica, as someone who works in education, children have lost the art of conversation and find working things out for themselves to hard, as its just at their fingertips via, i pad, phone. Personally, as a nanny for 16 years I was a bit like like you and Claudia, limited screen time, but we did watch an educational program you and me. Jessica, just curious and im not sure if this is in line with montessori, does rupert have any dressing up clothes so he can dress as a princess or anything else? Its my god daughter's favourite thing to do.
I don't like individual screens for kids and letting them watch cartoons all day everyday but I liked watching cartoons at 7pm when they were still aired. I only had basic channels growing up so I could only watch cartoons in the early mornings and at 7pm and had vhs tapes with disney movies and cartoos I watched sometimes as well. I still played in dirt, rode my bike, read books and played with dolls and cars. I think it's great balance.
I actually thought this was going to be about not wearing sunscreen for some reason, which would probably be a terrible idea. Never watched an episode of Phineas and Ferb but one of the creators, Dan Povenmire, has a TikTok or TH-cam shorts channel that is a lot of fun.
My main debate (noting not shaming anyone’s life style) with screen free lifestyles are they are behind in grasping technology within school. My best friend was screen free growing up and she was behind in learning typing an Microsoft skills. Personally I will be a screen lite parent and only allowing a set amount of screen time, but like I said everyone has a right to their own opinions and lifestyles
My thoughts exactly. When doing homework in school or later on just work, you need to be able to work with computers.. never having any screens/computer tools around seems like it will create a pretty major development setback.
yeah in this day and age parents who go completely screen free are just harming their children in the long run. Computer and technology literacy is SO important in today's world. Learning internet safety early on is also really important because you aren't going to be able to keep kids away from screens for their whole lives as most schools use laptops and as adults many jobs use computers and tech.
Giving you kudos! I can respect your choice but as someone who loves movies that is one thing I'll be allowing as a parent once my child is old enough to enjoy.
You can absolutely still know who the characters are without the screens! LMAO at the toothbrushing thing because it was so true. We were screen free but we had to use Mrs Rachel or Blippi. Haha ours does the same with the shoes etc. The problem I had as a kid was carrides because I got horrible motion sickness. So I basically can only listen to music.
if you wanna go back and are okay wih colder temperatures, i recommend February.It's way more quite then. if im not mistaken it could also be the cheapest time to go
I grew up with very little screen time, at the very most half an hour a day when my mum needed me to be quiet when she cooked. I watched Disney movies by half-hours bits and my mum was always near me for the scary parts (like Bambi's mother dying). I was a bit jealous of other kid who had video games and such things but, now that I'm grown, I am grateful I learned to prioritise other things over screens.
I love your videos! I would like to make a request: however you do your captions, it would be helpful to put some more proofreading into them. I’m about 6 minutes in and I’ve noticed several errors already (including the classic “death” instead of “deaf”!) that have hindered my ability to understand, and I had to go back and re-listen multiple times. I do understand if that’s not possible though; I know firsthand that captioning takes a lot of time, and youtube’s tools for it are not the best.
How interesting! Our little one (1 year) also loves Disney, especially the Jungle Book, but he never saw the movie - in Germany there are little figurines called „Tonies“ which you can put on a special speaker and it then plays the audio version of the films (with lots of songs and music). They are a hit with all children I know!
Totally agree that as long as parents are doing their best to raise happy, loving, balanced adults, that is all that matters! You and Claudia seem to be killing it! ❤ Edit: Still in awe of the absolutely amazing music Rupert is into! 🤯
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It's very nice to see a parent who is raising kids screen free, but still being mindful of the impact on a kid's social life. I wasn't exactly screen free growing up, but I didn't have TV (not even public access) or anything except for a few VHS tapes. Trying to talk to kids my age was painful... Like "Disney channel? Boy bands? What are these things?". I didn't even know the princesses, outside of the book versions. They treated me like an alien and I never really fit in. Individuality and life skills are important, but kids also deserve to relate to their peers and enjoy the same stuff everyone else is.
It turns very easily into a form of isolation.
I didn't have tv growing up in the 1990s early 00s either... And to this day my peers make references I don't fully understand. It definitely led to me feeling so weird in my childhood.
My parents weren't even anti tv, we were just dirt poor.
@@redwoodcottageart Literally - to this day, people still come up to me and ask me if I watched this or that as a kid, or how come I don't know about this show everyone else watched. Our TV broke one day and we never got it fixed. I'm ready to move past this whenever everyone else is!
@@jadziajan The same thing happens to my husband all the time! My family is always asking about what shows and movies he liked as a child. They ask about what sports teams he liked. They say things like, “Remember when everyone had light up shoes in elementary school?” They know he was raised in a 3rd world country (he hates the term undeveloped for multiple reasons) and they STILL ask this stuff! Yes, he was still a child when he came to the US, but he didn’t speak English. Of course he didn’t have a favorite cartoon as a child, when he didn’t understand English. His family could just barely afford a TV when he was a teenager. And don’t get me started on cellphones lol. He didn’t get a cell phone until he was 18 and in the Military for 6 months. But everyone acts like every teenager had a cellphone. It’s so frustrating! Why does everyone focus on the materialistic part of childhood?
I mean I didn't grow up screen free (we had an old computer and a TV, eventually an iPad but it had restrictions on it) but I was never into popular TV shows and I had never watched a TH-cam video until I was in secondary school, and honestly missing out on references was the least of my worries when it came to social stuff. I think as long as you're not sheltered from everything then screen free will be fine, especially at Rupert's age. He'll probably have access to that kind of thing in a school setting anyways. (which is probably something to be careful about because a lot of parents let their younger kids use whatever social media they want with no restrictions)
Sometimes I'm like "Well, I mean, I always like Jessica and Claudia but I dunno that I'm all that interested in this." when I click on a video and by the end I'm always like "These two women are incredibly engrossing, how could I doubt them? This is why I'm a subscriber, two lovely people and their son." 😂
You've just made my day 🤍
They are great story tellers!
@@jessicaoutofthecloset you have made it easier to share things with multiple family members, who don't like the same information when it comes from me.
**THANK YOU**
I have a genetic issue and had an abusive (now ex), so my niblings and grandboos are quite diligent about brushing their teeth.
Around age 2/3/4 they notice I am missing 3 bottom teeth.
"Why?" they ask....
"Because you only have to brush the teeth you want to keep", I answer, and suddenly they want to brush their teeth all the time.
😅
Once they are older and have better habits, I will answer with the information they can process and are mature enough to handle.
PS: I too have children born of my heart, and they are a gift
Nothing more beautiful than “This child was born from my heart, not my body and yet is me.” 🥰
I had a whole set of disney books as a kid, they were just shortened versions of the Disney films with the pictures in the Disney animation styles. I'm sure you can still get them. They would be perfect for Rupert especially as he enjoys reading so much.
I was just thinking this! He loves books, he loves Disney, put them together! You used to be able to find the books that came with a little record or tape you could play along with them-- I didn't watch many movies growing up, so that's how I learned all the songs.
@@PrimroseFrost I had the read along books with the cassette tapes too. I loved getting to sing along with the songs while also looking at the pretty pictures in the book.
I was thinking about this! They have picture book versions of most of the famous classic movies.
I had a bunch of Disney books as a kid too. I’m pretty sure there are a few disney movies I never actually watched and I only ever read the books. The books were great, 101 dalmatians and 102 dalmatians were my favourite.
@rachelcookie321 the only reason I knew Disney's Sleep Beauty and Snow White for years were my book versions.
Hi Jessica! I am a disabled lesbian and since i’m early i thought now was a good time to let you know how much you have done for me. Seeing you have a family through all the ups and downs of chronic illness that i am all too familiar with helps me to have hope for my future. Keep being you!
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Thank you so much for this comment, please know there is always hope and you are not alone ❤️
Somehow, cycling between "this is amazing and so sweet and he's having so much fun" to "screaming and bleeding profusely from the face" feels like the quintessential Disney experience
I think I'm totally on the whole not having individual
screens for children (like phones, ipads, etc) but my partner and are big film fans, so I love the idea of the once a week family movie night. I think it's because I grew up on the iconic 90s Disney movies so I want to share that with my child, but I fully understand and respect each parents' own decision
Same here. Individual screens with constant access to the internet can be incredibly damaging to young minds, but I love movies and shows and honestly they really were a big part of my creativity flourishing while I grow. However, it's interesting to hear the ways other people parent their children and sometimes what works for some won't always work for one
Shielding your kid from the internet and screens isn’t the solution in a world where this is the reality. Guide them, healthy boundaries. Don’t push your ideas on a child if you want that child to not act out once they get older.
@@motiefofficial3583 Yeahhhh no I wish I wasn't on the internet when I was under 13. I will teach my children how to use it and internet safety so they're not completely lost but my kid isn't getting free range internet at the ripe old age of 5 like some parents do.
You should give your children freedom including the freedom to make their own mistakes and learn their own things but the internet has worsened people's insecurities, worsened people's empathy, messed with people socially, fucked up attention spans, etc. I'm not doing that to my kid lol
Gotta really commend you for not using the bloody nose incident for click bait, was a very interesting video anyway!
"Slightly irrational first time parent fears apprently don't go away after the first two years."
My daughter just turned 10 and I still have these fears! My dad said he still had them about me even after I became an adult and moved out. I think for some of us parents, we're just destined to live in constant fear 😂
You're a good parent. That's why you worry. Good parents want to make sure they can support and guide their children through all stages of life.
@@dr.gwendolyncarter Thank you, that's really nice to hear ❤️ I do wish it didn't have to be so terrifying at times though!
my mom definitely still has them even though I'm 25 lol
When I was 40, my Mom told me that she would never stop worrying, and I was not even the first child!
Our younger sibling's about to turn 11! I'm always trying not to let my fears affect her, it's hard. Especially when I have a phobia of blades and she likes carving things 😅. With that one at least I just try to be honest with her that it's a me fear and not a her problem. Some of the bigger stuff I keep to myself
You didn't mention it, but did someone tell you that you probably qualify for a disability card at Disneyland? They're really amazing and for something like the Frozen show you wouldn't have needed to show up so early--you'd just need to drop by there and get a return time and could come back shortly before it begins. Also, I imagine you aren't headed back here that quickly, but every August there's an International Princess week when a lot more princesses are out and about. The dates vary slightly, (21-29 August 2021, 21-27 August 2022, 20-26 August 2023) but if you aimed for somewhere in the middle of those dates that's probably when it will happen next year. Worth keeping in mind if Rupert's still enamored by the princesses next year. Or Christmas time (which begins mid-November and runs through early January) has a twice daily parade (the nighttime version is beautiful) that has some of the princesses dancing on one of the stages in front of the castle. That would be another lovely time to visit. Also obviously whenever the Frozen expansion opens over the next few years.
Does that apply for all international Disneylands? :)
Was going to say this - being disabled at Disneyland Paris feels like being a VIP. The queues are like five minutes max (faster than the fast pass!), for rides, restaurants, parades and shows! + you get a +1 aged over 18 for free and a -10% discount on your own ticket. And the staff us exceptionally nice to you too >>>
@@papaya388 Having never visited the parks in Asia, I can't speak on how they operate. Their websites should mention what accommodations are available.
@@ayellowpapercrown6750 Carer tickets are discounted now, but no longer free. Too many people took advantage of it, unfortunately. They were supposed to be for adults who require a carer--people who otherwise would be able to visit on their own--so they didn't pay more than other guests. Some people fell into that category, but without any sort of guidelines, a lot of parents bought carer tickets for themselves, even though their young children would need to be accompanied either way.
Between that and changing EU guidelines that Disney had to comply with, things don't work as they once did. Carer tickets are no longer free, temporary disability passes no longer exist--as guests are now allowed to cancel or reschedule trips without penalties, (and again probably because people took advantage of it and deliberately booked a Disney holiday after breaking a bone to get to skip the queues) and the list of conditions that qualify for a pass has been greatly reduced and it requires more proof than it used to. (If you aren't a French resident, a doctor's letter won't suffice--you need official documentation.) It's all up on the website.
It does work great, but it's a bit different now.
@@TiffanyAllen1784 That list of 30 conditions that qualify is pretty restrictive!
I haven't even HAD kids yet and I'm already think about whether I'm going to raise my future kids screen free or not. On the one hand, I think kids these days often do get a really unhealthy amount of screentime, and I've seen a lot of scary statistics about how damaging it can be for mental health, development etc. But on the other hand, I wouldn't want my kids to feel isolated by not being able to keep up with pop culture, or join in if all their friends are hanging out online when they're a bit older. My own parents only let me and my brother have half an hour screentime every day until we were about 13, which at the time I found so strict, but now actually seems like it was a good balance! Because we had enough screentime that we didn't feel left out or out of touch with kids our age, but we had a lot of time to develop our own imagination and ways to entertain ourselves that didn't involve screens, too. So maybe that's what I'll do when I have kids one day (much as I'd hate to admit it to my mum!)
I feel, ultimately, that there's a middle ground to be struck. My children aren't allowed smart phones before high school, and Aren't allowed to have social media at all before 17. We have our household router settings in such a way that we can see every search they make. We also have all pornography and adult websites fully blocked.
That said, many tablet/phone apps allow you to set parental limits. Fire tablets let you set educational goals, reading goals, daily streaming video usage limits, as well as bed times and wake up times. And those can be set to different amounts for school days and weekends.
Even Facebook and TH-cam have separate apps for kids, so they aren't interacting with adult content.
The trick is to be a parent that pays attention and also engages in other ways.
Also, deciding you'll never use screens, before actually knowing your child's needs, is very hasty. You might have a kid with autism or ADHD, and screen usage might be the only way you can get through the grocery store or a car ride without a meltdown/tantrum. Anecdotally, my oldest kid always freaked out in grocery stores due to overstimulation, she has both ADHD and ASD and boy was I shocked when I realized she would remain calm if she had a game in her hand.
She's 18 now, and she's a well rounded healthy adult. Having screen time did not make her spoiled or depressed or lazy or anything else people are afraid of. It never made her ADHD worse, and it definitely helped her to connect with other people that have autism.
And it's important to note that every criticism laid at the feet of screens today, has been said about Video Games, Television, Radio, Bicycles, and even BOOKS when they were new. 20yrs from now it will be something else blamed for destroying children's minds.
I am autistic and adhd and I used books and screens a lot to self settle both as a child as an adult, so for me the main for me will not try to make a big thing of it either way and have plenty of options.
@watching2day so these poor kids arent allowed any privacy uh? And what do you categorised as "porn"? Many times, every content related to lgbtq+ themes, or anatomy, it gets read as porn by parent control / restricted searching, so what if they want to seach for those topics?
@@redwoodcottageart I agree with everything you said. Just be aware, older kids can definitely take off certain settings and turn them on again before you notice. All of my friends and I did. 😅 That’s why I feel it’s so important to talk to kids about why we don’t want them watching or seeing certain things. I’m very honest with 10+ years olds about why corn with a P is bad. I tell them it’s designed to make you addicted to it. It makes you have an extremely unrealistic view of s*x and what real humans are comfortable doing. It’s extremely sexist, and it paints women as objects to please men. Corn with two women STILL is depicted in a way that is sexy to men. It’s not actually lesbian corn, like it pretends to be. Worst off all, many people aren’t in the industry of their own free will. It’s usually that they need money or have been forced or tricked into it with drugs, blackmail, or even trafficking. I make it clear that I have nothing against s*x or sexuality. Sexuality is (usually) part of the human experience and can be beautiful, fun, amazing, etc. But s*x can’t be any of those things if you accidentally train your brain to think women are there to please you, consent doesn’t matter, or that your partner(s) will always be willing to do everything you want.
I'd do the same as my parents, TV is fine (nickelodeon or boomerang (where they play Hannah Barbara and other older cartoons that held up really well, idk if it exists in other countries)), no computer until they can read, I don't know where i stand on smartphones because at that time i was considered too young to have my own smartphone (at the age of 9) but times changed (my parents were both rocking brick phones until like 2015. It was a time when in my country only the rich, the techy, the business peeps and the facebook addict had a smartphone, it was considered a downgrade from a feature phone to many, general smartphone acceptance began in ~2015 i'd say), at that time they were getting cheaper so i asked for one for christmas, no internet access or anything, just a prepaid card, we didn't even have wifi back then
There are definitely arguments for being screen-lite, especially for younger children!
As a primary school teacher who knows that screens such as interactive whiteboards are a big part of school and lessons…I’d be interested to hear your plans for when Rupert goes to school. We also *sometimes* use iPads for lessons too! I’m unsure if you even plan to send Rupert to a public school but I just wondered! I don’t have children yet, but as always this video is very insightful and has made me think about what I may do with my future children. So glad you all had a lovely time in Disney! ♥️
This is exactly why I don’t intend to be screen free. I think it’s much more important to teach kids how to use technology safely and mindfully rather than pretending it doesn’t exist. Kids Rupert’s and my boy’s generation aren’t going to be able to navigate their adult world without screens so I fear banning them just handicap’s children. I did like Jessica’s relating to this in her childhood but I know so many screen free parents are, no screens, ever! 😅
Hi, I know Jessica and Claudia are talking about a montissori school for his primary years, also think it's in line with Jessica's quakers beliefs, as she went to a school near me that is a well known quaker school.
@@katrianem2124thank you for bring this up. As a kid I wasnt exposed to much technology and I can say it hindered me in school in the 2000s so I know it would be a much greater hindrence to children now. As an adult this lack of foundation has only lead to greater problems by not having access to things to being low income (disabilty can only strech so far). Im more technology literate then say my 80 year old grandmother but generally I cant do many things and dont have an understanding of things that most other people these days have and I know it will only get worse as technology progresses and new ways of integrating it become everyday. Most jobs require tec these days. Applying, accessing resources, and more almost all require taking care of things online. Even my doctors just look at me perplexed when I admit I dont know how or cant do something because my 4 year old cheapest model avalible phone isnt up to it and their answer is "make it work cause this is how we and everyone do things now."
Oh my! I FEEL the tears you were holding back telling the story of nosebleed! My kiddo gets them and a year ago we all went through a terrible one! We were going to see the Easter Bunny for the first time and we all woke up to kiddo screaming and "red". They don't like to see "red" so waking up that way was horrifying! MY anxiety was terrible for the whole day while kiddo was a happy camper an hour later.
I love, love, love that you are exposing Rupert to such a broad base of experiences. I think that is what childhood should be about, having different experiences. (nosebleeds and all) ❤️❤️
From experience of being a child caregiver and seeing multiple ways how families (with diverse wants and needs) do screentime, the biggest factor is clear boundaries being enforced consistently. Maybe they're occasionally bent, but caregivers have to be prepared for that to cause changes in behaviour and possibly needing to reinforce the boundaries when they get back to normal. The kids who had the biggest issues with screentime were the ones who had very inconsistent rules that were either not clear to each caregiver or constantly changing, which caused so much anxiety for the kids and made them even more obsessed with screens! Even kids who had lots of access to screens but knew the boundaries (eg we can play on the ipad until dinner but we don't use it after) were less obsessed with them than kids who had less access but never knew what boundaries we were working with that month.
I almost forgot my prior hobbies when I picked up any form of screen from like the ages of 13 till now at 32. So I am slowly getting back into those hobbies and joys and it's actually nice to be away from some screens.
I feel this so much. I'm now 52, and until computers at home became commonplace I used to primarily make things (lamps, crafts, art, painting, etc) in my off-work hours. Now I have to force myself to do it and it's such a hard habit to break, watching a video and playing a game and texting and and and all at once.
I grew up in a screen limited family, but since my aunt worked at Disneyland, we were allowed to watch anything Disney at least once a week. My aunt would send the new Disney movies on VHS, and it was seriously the best mail we ever received. Seriously Disney is worth occasionally making a screen time exception for.
when you asked how can a screen-free kid know disney, I was like, well, books based on those movies exist, and I prefered them over the movies when I was a kid!
didn't expect the backstory to be that engrossing 😍
i love that seemingly all children universally are obsessed with elsa over all other princesses. love for elsa transcends even having seen the movie! such a lovely video
I'm glad you had a good time at Disneyland Paris. I'm relatively local to the original park, and have been a few times. The cast members do a phenomenal job of maintaining atmosphere and easing concerns, and I'm so glad they did this for your family.
Poor Ru!! So glad everything turned out alright, poor mummies having to see him so sad🥺🥺
I get nosebleeds regularly because of my disability and it’s sometimes quite amusing to see the panic in the eyes of the people surrounding me😅
I get near daily nosebleeds and people always panic and try to give me advice. Meanwhile I’m like, “this’ll last like five minutes, I’m fine”. Do you get people giving you the ‘lean back’ advice as well?
@@starlightlilly7203 YES they’re always (trying) to force my head back meanwhile the stuff is literally running down my throat😒
@@lord_m0th I know. People are always insisting I lean backwards and I’m like “no that’ll just cause it to run down my throat, you lean forwards” and they take a minute to realise that the person who experiences daily nosebleeds knows how best to manage them. It was always the school nurses too giving you the worst advice
@@starlightlilly7203 we don’t have school nurses where I’m from and the teachers had no idea what was going on. and every time when I told them that I get them often they would always panic and wanted to send me to the hospital cause they thought I had blood cancer…
I completely support your decision to raise Rupert screen free rn. However, I like that you acknowledged the social distance that can create for him.
I will say, I was using the family PC very young, at like...preschool level probably. I had a LOT of edutainment games. I highly reccommend these style games (like Reader Rabbit, JumpStart, Carmen Sandiego, etc) if you decide to introduce him to a PC at some point. It meant I not only learned while playing, but I also grew up to be a fairly tech savvy adult. I think computer literacy will continue to be a very important thing for children to learn in the future, so if you want to keep Rupert from really just consuming mindless content...edutainment adventure games are a good way to go.
he must love disney princesses because you LITERALLY ARE ONE!!
Oh my gosh T T seeing the tears in Jessica’s eyes towards the end is just so like…sadly touching? She really really loves Rupert so much and the thought of him in pain, and the relief of others helping care for him, you can just see so much love there. 💛 it makes my heart so happy to see that! And Claudia, god bless, you are just such a trooper! I hope you both had a wonderful trip. 🌱🌸
Growing up, I had a *ton* of bloody noses and loved Disney so this really hit home 😂Also if nose bleeds truly are a common issue for Rupert, I highly recommend getting Ayr nasal gel/spray. If you get the gel, put it on the end of a twisted up piece of tissue, put the tissue in his nose, pinch his nose bridge right underneath the hard cartilage, then reapply the gel once the bleeding completely stops. It might very faintly sting for a second but it is absolutely worth the slight discomfort. Ayr has legitimately saved me from hours of bleeding. Best of luck!
The fact that you are both mothers to this adorable screen free child who’s so obsessed with Disney princesses… the boundaries your family is breaking are endless!! So inspiring! There is hope for the world 🥹💗✨
It's rather disturbing ngl
I laughed with you telling about Rupert and the 'I DO IT!' stage. I remember those days.
I work at a bookstore and we have so many children’s books about Disney princesses. Shortened versions of the movies, story time collections, stories with multiple princesses. Since Rupert loves reading so much, those might be a perfect option for him!
Glad you all enjoyed DisneyLand Paris and that Rupert is ok! ❤️
The best things for our family is how accessible Disney is. They make it so easy for me to access our family holiday.
I'm glad Jessy was able to walk around the park, other then the nose bleed I'm glad everyone had a great time.
My parents believed screens (in the 80's, so TV and movies) would increase my interest in Disney World. Not the other way round!
What's funny is the opposite ended up being true for me. Children talking about their trips to Disney World made me want to see the media they were referring to and I was somewhat envious of kids whose parents took them.
Y'all are so lucky that you got to go to Disneyland Paris! I'm also happy that Rupert enjoyed the orchestra concert. I love orchestra concerts. (Granted, I've only been to one so far, but still.)
I'm very convinced that my autism kind of found a sense of routine from what TV was like back in the 90s, but things have vastly changed since then. I'm glad that you are setting boundaries about how much screen time Rupert gets.
I absolutely adore getting to see you Rupert and Claudia get to go on a trip to Disneyland in Paris. Thats a park I’ve never seen and so its quite intriguing on that front, but seeing how your career brings your family these opportunities is amazing. Screen time is such a modern parenting issue we need to communicate and study the affect it has on children’s development and skills. ❤
Aw i loved this. I grew up in California so my family used to go to Disney land every 2 to 3 years and it was always so magical and fun. For my honeymoon we went as well and I highly recommend it. If you mention it to one of the employees they give you a button that says just married and if any workers or shopkeepers see it they will congratulate you and treat you like celebrities'. We even won a private dining experience in Disney California where we got to eat and watch the light parade from a private balcony above the clam chowder shop. I believe they also have special buttons for people who are having a birthday or wedding anniversary. It might be a money making power house but they really do manage to make the experience feel magical.
I Appreciate your voice and the production of you videos so much. I don’t have kids or any disability but your videos make me very happy and inspired
not gonna lie, i had no idea what to expect from this video, but i was not expecting to be on tenterhooks wondering if little Rupert would ever get to see Elsa (and she IS queen, ofc, so good on him for knowing that hahahaha), and then that third act twist of the nosebleed was just wild. your family would be an absolute hoot to hang out with, Jessica, i must say; always an adventure with you guys!
Aw poor Rupert!!! I'm glad that he ended up feeling fine in the morning and that he had a lovely time seeing all the princesses but RIP to his tshirt and Jessica's beautiful cinderella dress!
Someone else has probably said this but you can get book versions of all the Disney stories. I had them as a kid and only ever watched a couple of the movies. Definitely recommend the books!
Brittney Lee has illustrated some amazing “Paper cut Style” Disney storybooks. Primarily focused on *stage whispers,* Anna and Elsa. One of them is called “A sister more like me”.
My little niece, who's only interested in books and colouring, demands a good storytelling session with those books on the daily. Thank you for the lovely educational video as always.
I clicked because of the irony of ‘screen free’ in a TH-cam video and I’m happy I did you have a nice vibe
Both of you are wonderful, and I imagine he's going to have some really great memories form this trip!
Love watching you and other parents talk about your parenting style. Im expecting my first in december and watching all these videos is very helpful. I probably wont go 100% screenfree with my child but i love how informative you where on the topic. And i am an avid suporter of ”whatever works for you/your family” 😊
We aren't a screen free family, but my daughter honestly knows disney more from books and her tonie box. My daughter uses the tonie box every night as part of bedtime. She is 3 and has a kindle and uses it to practice writing, read books and play games that prep for preschool. We go to the library once a week but can't really check out enough to fill a whole week and the Amazon kids app gives her access to thousands of books. I have a 1 year old son as well and simply can't fill her day and give her enough attention to do that while looking after my son too. We set limits but don't really need to enforce it much, she doe play dough and coloring and playing dolls most of the day anyhow. We don't have any childcare so having her watch a video while i try to get the baby to nap is a huge help. Whatever works for your family❤
Many years ago my friend would sit her son in front of the TV for just as long as it took to make his tea. After a little while she noticed he started saying the letters on his toys and books but she knew she hadn't yet taught him as he was very much pre-school, with her full time. It turned out the programme he'd been watching was Countdown and he'd learned all his letters and numbers before he was two years old! He turned out to be very bright and now works with computers.😅
I'm very late but, I've tried to raise my children in the way I wanted to be raised? @6:33 gave me a sudden rush of realization. My eldest is my tiny clone and has always appreciated me giving him the lenience to do what he chooses within reason. My youngest needs constant direction, and has (since she started school) decided she wants to (it seems anyways) follow the 'norms' having things like her friends, clothes, backpacks, toys, but also having a traditional (US) Thanksgiving dinner. Frankly I'm not here to judge either way. This made me think, 'Maybe she wants to feel like she belongs'
What a lovely video ❤ I just have to giggle at the fact that the captions changed "Princess Aurora's Castle" to "Princess of Walruses' Castle" 😂
I love this, I've told people that if i ever have a child i'd be screen free (at least for the first few years). Soooo many people tell me "well wait until you have kids, then you'll change your mind". I didn't grow up with screens, by the time i was 7 I was allowed 1 hour of TV a day... after 1 episode of my top three shows i'd turn it off and go read because i was bored.
I want to give my kids that time outside and the love for books I was given. Most of my child hood memories were theme parks, hiking, and going out to eat once a week.
always great when Jessica uploads
Poor Rupert! I'm glad tiny Elsa fixed everything!
Tiny Elsa!!
I grew up with a set of Disney books in the 70s and 80s. They were among my fave books as a child. You can still get them, or find the older/vintage versions online.
The Disney cast worldwide is really good at handling these kinds of situations. A friend fainted in Disney Sea in Japan & they immediately helped & snapped into action too and even got someone who spoke English, we are German but my friend also speaks decent English, to explain everything to her when she woke up confused. Also found her friends she was at the park with but they had split up because they wanted to see different attractions and wanted to meet up again an hour or so later.
In her case it was just the heat and some fluids and she was back up again but yeah could have been way worse.
Even if I don't agree with the company Disney but they really know how customer service is supposed to be in those types of amusement parks. They are really good at keeping the magic alive and keeping everyone happy while their there.
Re: the accident towards the end, Rupert and I are part of an exclusive club of “injuring themselves at Disney on the last day”. When I was 6 I tripped over a pole and broke my pinkie on our last day at Disneyland in California! Otherwise a wonderful trip. Glad he’s much better than I was!
Oh my! My vacation wasn't as eventful, but I did fall while in a cave and manage to get my nearly 70 year old self up those 85 steps out of the cave by myself.
The Pocahontas figure is darling~~~ She, Ariel, and Mulan were always my favorites ♡ ♡ ♡
Aww poor little guy falling right at the end. I'm glad he had such an enjoyable time despite that!! His joy at seeing the Princesses is so sweet 🥺
Congrats on your award!!!! You were the reason I learned I had hEDS. Thank you for everything you do!!!! 💛
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I’m seriously enjoying hearing you speak on your parenting experience!!! Thank you for sharing, as someone who wants to be a parent long in the future I love to hear what’s in others’ parenting practices. LOVE the cake toppers, by the way!! 😂
I am not a parent yet but once the time is there I want to raise them as screenfree as possible. As an older zoomer(= gen z, born in 1998) I feel as if I was forced to use screens too much, especially during COVID. But even before I felt hooked on the screen in a bad way. I want my children to know a world without social media, or information overload. For their own sake but maybe being aware of kids' screen use will make me able to let go off the screen more.
I'm so glad you went to Paris for your first Disneyland experience. Orlando is ten times the heat and humidity, ten times the people, ten times the size, and in my opinion (as a California disney girl, so Orlando is NOT my home Disney) the most difficult Disney park to navigate and plan. Anaheim is roughly the same size as Paris but hotter and way more packed with people. I'm glad you all had a great time! I hope Rupert gets to see the other Disney Princess movies, especially The Princess and the Frog and The Little Mermaid cause those are my faves!
a lot of british people go to disneyland paris first anyway cause we can take the eurostar/eurotunnell from london to paris in ~3 to 4 hours ish which is much easier than an 8 hour flight to orlando! but I definitely agree that it would have been much more intense if they went to cali or orlando. :3
As someone else had commented i didnt think Disney content was for me. Of course I should have known better because I watch all your content and am always enlightened, amused and informed.
Oh my goodness, my wife watched this last night, I'm watching very early this morning, laughing out loud, she knew exactly what I was watching. 😂
Love you all, so glad Rupert's accident didnt cloud the whole experience for you. Bless your hearts for remaining so calm, I cant imagine how terrifying it must have been for each of you in your separate ways.
Its lovely to see how well you both understand your son and how he responds, what he needs from you both in different situations.
You must both have just needed to hold on to him when he was bleeding but the fact that you were able to act in a way that was best for him first is amazing. You are both extraordinary people and parents, bless you. Well done Disney for the perfect response. 👍👏🥰🌈
Thank you Jessica for trying your hardest to protect your family online and beyond. Child exploitation is rampant on TH-cam ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I really enjoyed the princess dolls and how they came to be Rupert’s favorite dolls ❤ I really appreciate you at least considering the impact of screens on your Son! I really loved seeing you all out enjoying a Disney Park experience ❤
Watching I got a vivid flash back tome as a kid with Disney books based of the movies. This was how I learned several of the stories rather than seeing the films. Im also reminded that I was obsessed with the ma,e character Barbie doll that came out for Disney's Hunchback of Notre Dame not be ause I liked the movie (which I did just not reLly that character) but because it had extra joints and a beard which I found fascinating as my normal dolls didnt have such things. My mom ended up buying me two just cause I liked it so much. Its odd the things we remember but dont think about for years until something sparks the recall.
I was surprised that you hadn't been to Disneyland before!!!! It's so magical, so detailed, Disney doesn't do things by halves. My!!! The reason Walt created it was because he wanted a safe clean place to go with his family - and its competely immersive. You enter Disney's land - his imagination and creations - seamlessly when you go to Disneyland. It's perfection. It's marvellous. Literally fantastical and magical. I'm so glad you had a wonderful time, you deserve it.
You don't have to answer at all but do you watch films or television with him ever at home? He's probably too little but I was two or three when my mum began introducing Disney's Princess films to me. She did this over a span of years, with space in between each one. You have to wait until your child has an attention span for it, but I absolutely believe they are some of the best filmic media to introduce your children to first. The artistry, fairytales and full narratives are so engaging and enriching. ❤❤❤❤ I'm so glad he loves the Princesses so much 💗 💓 💖 💕
I think that's also a reflection of loving and being in awe of you, Princess Jessica - he shares your interests absolutely but it's also because he has a princess as one of his beautiful mummies, and he loves and recognises that in you 💕💜💗💖
I often wonder but never comment, but as someone who also deals with chronic pain, the only shoes I can wear now are skechers, and I was wondering if you have any. I can totally recommend them, and have often thought it might make your life easier /exhaustion less intense etc if you had some. I mention this brand specifically because they usually have very pretty feminine styles that just look like regular shoes, but they're made with sneaker material, so they really help me and enable me to walk at all when I couldn't jn other shoes, and they look like regular pretty feminine stylish shoes- which is important to me- and I think that's important to you too. They were a game changer for me, if they're available in your country you might want to check them out - they would still go with your beautuful vintage aestheic ❤❤❤❤
My goodness how traumatic. Children are so resilient- there is always a -thing- like this that happens is most people's childhood, but you're right, his healing powers are magic - it's very traumatic for the parents, but you handled it so well. Well done ❤ If there's an ideal place for something like that to happen, it's Disneyland. They are so well equipped and prepared for everything, any kind of needs and have excellent staff❤xxxx
The text below is accurate! You might be thinking 'so what'?' The reality is those most text that goes with videos on You Tube are full of inaccurracies. It shows how proffessional Jessica, Claudia and aeveryone behind the scene are in the making of these videos.
I felt exactly the same way when I went to Disney. I was 40 when I went , and it was as magical and wonderful as I hoped for. I’m glad y’all had a wonderful time ❤
"... It's an interesting mix" Rupert has great musical taste and is primed to enjoy every genre of 20th and 21st century music there is. Well done, young man! ❤
Honestly, not having screens allow the kids to be more creative, imaginative and discoveries with milestones! I am also disabled, work with children and youth, and have members of my family who don't use screens for their kids.
There's a few specific philosophies for approach and parenting styles. I love that kids now can be so hands-on and developing in various ways while implementing lifeskills so early!
It’s lovely to see a parent who is raising screen free I personally could not my mental health could not. And I particularly love bluey
This topic is totally irrelevant to me but your voice is so soothing that I gladly watched the whole thing anyway. Zero regrets, a delight!
You are great parents! I cried when our kids went to Disney for the first time.
This video's posited question is quite relevant of a topic to me as I have the most NIGHTMARISH of times when it comes to touchscreen devices and basically don't use a mobile phone as anything but an emergency device as a result, so the obsession of so many places with making stuff dependent upon one is extremely frustrating and exclusionary. It raises a bunch of all new accessibility issues.
I love how you show all this sweet parenting footage with your child, but don't show his face to protect his privacy ❤ So refreshing to see responsible parents who actually respect their children, rather than plastering them online without their consent.
omg those disney princesses are so adorable. I would have loved them as a child!
i was in disney this week but sadly couldnt see the show as it was full every time. hopefully it will be there next time
Monsters!!! I love them so much!!! I envy your ability to see those places in person!
(the movies and show)
my parents didnt really let me use screens growing up, we had a tv and ipads but we didnt have full access. so i just read books my whole childhood and now im really good at english so thanks mum. my friends are always so shocked when i say ive never watched some of the tv shows and movies that they have lol
As someone who works at the park, you made me giggle and feel a little more special about my role. I'm happy you guys got to visit Disney Paris, that's definitly on the bucketlist!
im so happy u pointed out how important it is to be able to converse about cartoons and other things like that because as a future hopefully screen not free but limited family i worry about this and definitely had some problems when kids would talk about spongebob and i had no idea what was happening because my mom hated that one in particular
First of all, well done Ruth Anne for knowing the Princesses would be a hit😊
Jessica, as someone who works in education, children have lost the art of conversation and find working things out for themselves to hard, as its just at their fingertips via, i pad, phone.
Personally, as a nanny for 16 years I was a bit like like you and Claudia, limited screen time, but we did watch an educational program you and me.
Jessica, just curious and im not sure if this is in line with montessori, does rupert have any dressing up clothes so he can dress as a princess or anything else? Its my god daughter's favourite thing to do.
🤗He has Jessica's wardrobe! 😂
@@judebrown4103 now that would be a fun video to watch! But as I agree with not showing Ruperts face, not a video that can be made
Just the image of you guys in disneyland makes perfect sense! You look stunning with these pastels in the background
I don't like individual screens for kids and letting them watch cartoons all day everyday but I liked watching cartoons at 7pm when they were still aired. I only had basic channels growing up so I could only watch cartoons in the early mornings and at 7pm and had vhs tapes with disney movies and cartoos I watched sometimes as well. I still played in dirt, rode my bike, read books and played with dolls and cars. I think it's great balance.
I actually thought this was going to be about not wearing sunscreen for some reason, which would probably be a terrible idea. Never watched an episode of Phineas and Ferb but one of the creators, Dan Povenmire, has a TikTok or TH-cam shorts channel that is a lot of fun.
I love how you balance showing Rupert on your channel while respecting his privacy.
My main debate (noting not shaming anyone’s life style) with screen free lifestyles are they are behind in grasping technology within school. My best friend was screen free growing up and she was behind in learning typing an Microsoft skills. Personally I will be a screen lite parent and only allowing a set amount of screen time, but like I said everyone has a right to their own opinions and lifestyles
My thoughts exactly. When doing homework in school or later on just work, you need to be able to work with computers.. never having any screens/computer tools around seems like it will create a pretty major development setback.
yeah in this day and age parents who go completely screen free are just harming their children in the long run. Computer and technology literacy is SO important in today's world. Learning internet safety early on is also really important because you aren't going to be able to keep kids away from screens for their whole lives as most schools use laptops and as adults many jobs use computers and tech.
I know Disney has rollercoaster, but your trip was a hell of one! Glad, you are all well now and had a great time.
there’s something so beautiful about giving a kid some dolls and letting them just go to town 😂❤
IDK Man women these days are weird as fk
Giving you kudos! I can respect your choice but as someone who loves movies that is one thing I'll be allowing as a parent once my child is old enough to enjoy.
Watching Jessica become a Disney adult before our eyes!
You two are raising a lovely little human. 💖
You can absolutely still know who the characters are without the screens! LMAO at the toothbrushing thing because it was so true. We were screen free but we had to use Mrs Rachel or Blippi. Haha ours does the same with the shoes etc. The problem I had as a kid was carrides because I got horrible motion sickness. So I basically can only listen to music.
I've thought the same thing! My son has no idea who all these characters are lol
Thank you for your content it’s very uplifting and joyful!
if you wanna go back and are okay wih colder temperatures, i recommend February.It's way more quite then. if im not mistaken it could also be the cheapest time to go
I grew up with very little screen time, at the very most half an hour a day when my mum needed me to be quiet when she cooked. I watched Disney movies by half-hours bits and my mum was always near me for the scary parts (like Bambi's mother dying). I was a bit jealous of other kid who had video games and such things but, now that I'm grown, I am grateful I learned to prioritise other things over screens.
I love your videos! I would like to make a request: however you do your captions, it would be helpful to put some more proofreading into them. I’m about 6 minutes in and I’ve noticed several errors already (including the classic “death” instead of “deaf”!) that have hindered my ability to understand, and I had to go back and re-listen multiple times. I do understand if that’s not possible though; I know firsthand that captioning takes a lot of time, and youtube’s tools for it are not the best.
Yeah, I noticed a number of errors in the captions, although "Princess of Walruses" was definitely the best!
How interesting! Our little one (1 year) also loves Disney, especially the Jungle Book, but he never saw the movie - in Germany there are little figurines called „Tonies“ which you can put on a special speaker and it then plays the audio version of the films (with lots of songs and music). They are a hit with all children I know!
Totally agree that as long as parents are doing their best to raise happy, loving, balanced adults, that is all that matters! You and Claudia seem to be killing it! ❤
Edit: Still in awe of the absolutely amazing music Rupert is into! 🤯
I loved the examples of how screen free can work.