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I love the idea of Rupert being just a simple lil man lying on the floor watching the sky with his moms and dogs around keeping him company because it all just makes so much sense.
I'm actually a teacher and studied child development. The more you talk, the more it will help him develop his verbal skills so Jessica's self narrating everything she does is actually awesome for his development... and super cute :). My sister in law did this and all of her kids had strong verbal skills.
Should he be neurodivergent, it still helps. Me and my hubby narrated everything and even though our son was nonverbal until 4ish it helped him feel more comfortable.
I work with young autistic children and narrating your actions, thoughts and emotions is a strategy we use to help make ourselves more predictable to children as well as help them develop language, develop perspective taking as well as develop problem solving skills. It's very useful.
hearing he likes to be on the floor made me think about the potential for him and jessica to be just hanging out on the floor when shes having a particularly potsy day
You're spot on, I bet. Im a spine patient (among other things), and especially in the winter, there are days where I cannot get out of bed and do much, whether I have help or not. As such, my littles spend about a third of their day sitting on my bed, hanging out with me, on my particularly bad days. Sometimes, we even do "bed picnics" so that we can all still eat meals together, too. 😊
@@lunamax1214 both of my parents are auto immune. They always found ways to make things fun for us. I never knew anything was wrong or "not normal". Movies and popcorn, blanket forts, coloring book parties, indoor camping (sleeping bags around a pretend fire), creating stories and telling them to each other, and even teaching us age appropriate tasks that helped them as well as taught us how to be responsible was made fun. I think a lot of it has to do with attitude, positive reinforcement and explaining things (depending on age). We did bed picnics too. We'd even pack a basket. :) You're doing great!! In the future, your kids will appreciate all the love and time you are giving them. My mom has asked me a few times as an adult if I ever felt like I went without... NEVER! I always felt loved and never felt like I was going without. Anyway! Keep kicking ass and being an amazing momma! ♡
"He needs his mobile to move" It took me an almost embarrassing amount of time to realize you didn't mean Rupert had a cellphone which he somehow couldn't move without.
When mine were little, I always coupled the ASL alphabet with the ABC song... So that's the way they learned it. When they got to school later, they used to get so mad because everyone else wasn't doing the signs like they were! I think we really confused the teachers at first, until they figured it out.
Amazing idea, I wrote it out and pointed to each letter then at the end made him find random letters out of sequence. He knew all his numbers and letters by 18months
I literally just sang n signed the ABC with bsl. Phew still got it. I did the same with my Son as a baby... honestly so much easier as they tend to have a lot more gross motor control than control over voice. So dear son would sign "mum, more milk" regularly or "kiss". Bless him.
That's such a good way to do it. With my sister we just signed along with important words (food, drink, tired, happy and sad, please and thank you, etc) but she never learned her letters!
Re breastfeeding 'envy': as the non-birthing mother, it really broke my heart to not be able to feed my daughters that way. I instead did the singing every evening. I would rock them in their room in the dark and sing for as long as an hour sometimes. My youngest started putting her fingers on my mouth after a bit, just pressing them there as I sang. She was diagnosed with moderate-to-severe hearing loss at 4 months old, so I guess she was feeling the vibrations and movement at my mouth? So I kept doing it. She's 6 now, and I still sing to her every night before bed, though now I sign along. That's something only Maman does, and it's our special thing. And we didn't really have a namesign until Lili started school at 4! Ooooh, I'm so excited to get news, to hear about his routine! Yess, a strong routine for a baby is so reassuring, gives them some real confidence in exploring their world because they know what to expect, it's wonderful. I know I use my youngest as an excuse to dip out early ALL THE TIME!
Your singing story is so stinking cute 🥺 it's very important for both parents to have a special unique thing they do with the kid for this exact reason 💖
It looks like Rupert has old person hair, all I can see is the dark hairs going around the back of his head and then like no hair on top, he looks like a smol grandad and I love it
My son had that hairline too at the very beginning. He looked like a fat tough guy in the Russian Mafia. Now his hair grew in a beautiful full blonde head of hair and he looks like a little cherub angel toddler. It’s so weird how babies morphe as they age.
What's exciting is that Rupert will have his first word in sign language, and his first spoken word. I wonder if they will be the same and how old he'll be. I had an ASL teacher tell a story about her DIL calling when her grandson was 4 months old, describing a sign he was doing and asking her what it meant. She said, "What did you just give him because he wants more!"
Often a baby’s first sign is “more” or “milk” and their first spoken word is commonly mama or dada and since he has two awesome mamas im gunna guess mama . So that’s just my guess for Rupert based on odds (:
It's funny bc I don't have kids and have no plans of ever having kids and these videos have done nothing to change my mind about it, _but_ they're still just so nice and life-affirming to watch. Sort of warm and soothing and optimistic. Makes me feel like maybe things will turn out okay.
@@ahhh4117 That's fully my intention for when I'm older. I'm still deciding if I want to adopt later, but if not/until then I will be the cool aunt for every child I know.
@@teeteeshouse fostering and adopting is not easier than biological children, foster and adoptive children still require just as much love/care/attention as biological children. They are not backups, the process can be more strenuous, and you would still be a parent. "At least foster/adopt" is hugely underestimating the scale of commitment that it is. There are other solutions that don't involve bringing a child into your life for the sole purpose of taking care of you in your later years, which is extremely unfair on the child
For wearing a hearing aid vs not, my friend's parents are both Deaf with no cochlear implant or hearing aids. When her and her brother were babies their mom would keep her hand on the bassinet next to her at night. The vibrations of the crying would wake her up to calm them. Not sure what the parents did when the kids grew out of the bassinet. But it's an idea to try if the hearing aids are causing headaches and other issues. So happy for the two of you!
@@missTgalman From what I know there's a device that vibrates if the baby cries! I heard that this one deaf couple have it close to them in bed and it wakes them up if the baby cries🤗
Don't know if they have them in the UK but the owlet baby monitor will alert you as soon as anything is wrong with the parent's end vibrating, and tracks temperature, heart rate, etc
Rupert refuses to be a bouncing baby, he has written a strongly worded letter re: the bouncer and it is a forbidden object. He reserves the right to change his mind at a later date.
@@livelongandprospermary8796 It's sort of like a sprinkler that doesn't spray water in the air nearly as much. It's basically a hose with lots of very tiny holes all over, and the water comes out as trickles and light mist. That way the water goes straight into the dirt near the base of the plants for the roots to drink, and doesn't go all over the leaves, and doesn't spray far away from where it's needed. Some vegetable plants really don't like a lot of water on their leaves!
@@livelongandprospermary8796 There are two types, one is a firm porous foam that sweats water down the entire length and the other kind is a hose with small drip lines off of it and you target plants individually.
I'm not a mum but I've done this out of habit when I'm standing for like ten years, just because I don't like standing still. I dread how bad it'll get if I ever do have kids 😂
Oh yes! we bought a huge turkey when I cooked Christmas dinner for ten. I started the dinner prep directing operations swaying with the turkey on my hip! my kids were 10 and 12. Only stopped when they pointed it out :-)
My baby didn't like the bouncer until she was about 3 months old. You might still get some use out of your bouncer still. I guess you never really know what you'll need until you get to know your baby. ❤
@@Dhdjksjsnsnsnnsnsna bouncer as in outside of clubs was my first thought on seeing this comment too! I also had to stop and think for a second. With the BABY bouncer, my godson didn't really enjoy his until he was old enough to kick his legs to make it rock in response to his movements, and Rupert's still a bit young for that.
My daughter was quite fussy with her bouncer. She hated it being bounced. But she loved the vibrations, and she loved the attached mobile. But if someone tried to bounce it, just no.
I have been signing with my grand babies since birth my two year old can sign her name but can’t say it. The fun thing is her mum and dad can’t sign so I get FaceTime calls to find out what she is trying to say.
I first learnt basic Auslan so I could talk to the elderly lady that lived across the road in the 70’s I revisited when I was in my teens so I could talk with my friend in class and not get caught I think it is good for kids to know the alphabet at least so if they meet someone that is hearing impaired they can include them in conversations. The Wiggles ( a kids group in Australia) have Emma who signs and sings teaching basic Auslan it is good to see
My first baby had undiagnosed acid reflux for the first nine months. He cried and cried and screamed and nothing helped accepting feeding and holding. So much sick, no sleep, depression. He couldn't play cos he couldn't lie down and didn't even smile till 11 weeks. He's seven now and totally awesome. He doesn't seem to have suffered anything long term from it and the second was infinitely easier, but my first experience of motherhood was awful.
As an adult who used to suffer from acid reflux I can 100% say that it has made me cry. I once went to the ER because my chest was hurting so bad, I thought that I was having a heart attack. Taking a probiotic drink has been such a help. I glad to hear that your child is doing much better. L
Rupert is such a darling! Jessica thank you for normalizing that overstimulation can lead to exhaustion even if it is something “passive” like seeing or listening. For those with chronic illnesses sometimes just THINKING is exhausting!
I love how why Jessica was holding him and he puts his hand on her chest to feel her heart it was so cute I had to rewatch cuz it was to cute I kept staring at him
I am hearing and signed with my kids. It is amazing being able to communicate with them before they are able to speak. Having sign as a second language will be very helpful later in life. I also noticed how Jessica signed much more in that segment. I enjoy seeing the signing. I know ASL but enjoy seeing similarity and difference in BSL. I also know how much/little new parents sleep and the sleep deprivation hardly showed. You also have a silly side so it could be hard to tell the difference. 😂 Great presentation - thank you for sharing with everyone!
I'm curious - considering how small babies hands are, are you able to tell quite clearly what they're signing? Or can you infer from words you've already taught them?
@@Marigold11037 First signs are like first words. Not always clear right away but you get better at understanding and they get better at signing. Signs Doo get more clear as motor control improves. For example if I taught him milk and cereal it was easy to differentiate. (by cereal I mean like porrage) And Everytime we do something I reenforced the sign. So we get get in the car I sign car. When he is fussy I sign milk and feed him.
One of my friends did this with her daughters too. She said it was quite useful for figuring out what they want before they can clearly speak...but it also meant they could ARGUE at an earlier stage too!
I'm really glad that Rupert gets to grow up with Mums who just understand that people may need assistance, but also need respect. Also, I think a lot of parents my mum's age didn't know that overstimulation was a thing, or that the solution to a kid being upset about having their limbs confined was to...not confine the limbs. You two are already such great parents, and it is really inspiring to see 💜
He is just too stinking cute! I'm looking forward to hearing more about how motherhood is going (and impatiently awaiting the Montessori video, Jessica!!).
I love his "balding old man" hairline in the back! I know he's busy growing it but it's just so cute, and that's just where it's thick for now. Jessica really convinced him he's a Montessori baby and he's like "This isn't what Mama raved about. Tosh!"
I'm almost 7 weeks post partum myself and I love hearing from other parents who are in a similar place with a baby. We also chose a name that was just for our baby, but her middle names are for each of our favorite grandmothers.
Oh my god I am envisioning Jessica as the BEST story teller EVER, I bet she will never get Rupert to sleep because she will NAIL the story and captivate Rupert so much with her impressive ability to speak with so much emphasis and emotion! "Another one, mommy! Another one!" Love you guys so much. Seeing you together is so endearing.
Great to see the three of you looking so in tune with each other. Good luck with the privacy thing, my youngest is 23 and still thinks it’s ok to chat when I go to the loo! 🤦🏼♀️
My mom uses my EDS as her excuse to leave events early she hates something the que is "yes my daughter is starting to hurt I need to take her home so she can lie down and nap" means act like I'm out of spoons and not like I just took a nap before the work party
My entire family and most of my friends use me as an excuse to leave. I don’t mind, I’m a huge introvert anyway. Sometimes I use myself as an excuse to leave.
@@ahhh4117 that's a bummer.y mother is just older where she loves to party its too much now. She rather say it's my disabilities then her age and I get that
I love how you defined Claudia as 'gestational' mother. I think that's beautiful, and better than "biological". Love you guys. You make having a newborn look easy.
You too are good mums ❤. And Jess you should not worry about the hearing aids to much, especially if it harms you. I bet Rupert would rather have a happy mum than a hearing mum.
Doctors: “Don’t lift anything heavier than the baby.” Me: literally dragging my toddler around the house while carrying the baby on the first day home from the hospital
My daughter had just turned 3 a couple weeks before my youngest was born and when they said that to me in the hospital that time I was just like, “right….so who will be coming to handle my toddler then?”
It makes me so happy to see you two loving life as Mom's! It's so clear you both love him so much! I'm so surprised and impressed that he's sleeping soundly as you two talk and laugh
Such a fangirl moment! I just heard Jessica's name mentioned on the Finnish national radio station and I jumped from glee. A journalist (who belongs to the disabled community and runs a weekly show with her also disabled colleague) mentioned you as a sharp and hilarious content creator, educator and style icon. 🤍❤🧡💛💚💙💜
Seeing you two as parents is just so wholesome! I look forward to any videos or pictures of your little family!!! Congratulations again!!! ♥♥♥ Thank you for answering these questions. You can just see the love between you three!
I'm disabled and want to have kids (the plan is to start trying in about a year or so). Thank you so much for sharing this. I cried when you were talking about being disabled actually being good for parenting.
Seeing this video brought me so much joy. I’ve known for along time that I don’t want kids, but it still makes me so happy to see you guys being so happy with your baby.
When the subs aren't here yet so you're just vibing with them like the "he's a little confused but he's got the spirit" meme (tbf they are adorable mummy vibes so I'm not complaining lol)
Funny you asked that, just today Jessica posted an Instagram story of Rupert lounging on the kitchen floor listening to "What a wonderful world", very adorable
It's amazing how babies love listening to Louis Armstrong it just seem to soothe them down ! I want to thank you ladies for sharing your journey with us as new mommies ! Rupert is blessed to have two such mother !
Commenting on what you are doing with your baby is phenomenal for language acquisition/development. When the baby starts making noises, you can “reply” as if he/she is asking you a question or telling you something. Varying your tone, intonation, sentence length etc is all helpful too!
I've been silent for too long in regards to comments. I've been watching your videos for almost 2 years and I'm just happy to see how you guys have grown. Rupert is a bundle of joy (I'm sorry I can't get over how precious he is and wow it's been 8 weeks already what lol), you both are amazing moms and I can't stop wishing you all the best
Among many other things, I really appreciate how calm and sweet your videos are, especially against the backdrop of very frantic/fast-paced videos many other TH-camrs go for. So wonderful to see you both so smiley
I cried through all this... as you two are such amazing parents. When you both said there was nothing you didn't like about motherhood, I thought "Oh Rupert you are so loved and so wanted, one day you will understand how lucky you are!" every child should be this wanted and this loved.
@@9_in_the_afternoon It keeps baby from being able to pull their feet up out of the fabric feet and get them all tangled up inside the main leg fabric. 😊
also a thought on jessica not wearing her hearing aid at home, I believe that will lead to baby adapting to your needs more quickly! as in he will definitely eventually learn not to rely on sound cues when communicating with you and will figure out other ways!
Can confirm by observation of my nephew : the bouncer is absolutely useless until they start to roll over. After that it's an interest thing. My nephew can just spend hours just jumping on their bouncer and then nap and start again like there's no tomorrow. So I think once mine reaches that age and they outgrow it, I'll just ask my sis in law to give the item to me rather than buy our kid their own.
In my opinion, and in absolutely no way taking anything from Jessica, I think Claud has visibly blossomed. I greatly admire these fantastic, awesome people; they are beautiful, loving, inspirational and, quite frankly, delightful to watch together. I feel that Claud was never always this comfortable in front of the camera, and please do correct me if thoughts are that I'm overstepping here, but now seems to have come into her own. I love these adorable ladies, and wish them the brightest of blessings for the future with lil' man. ❤️🤗
LOL Claudia, the freedom to use the baby as an excude to leave things early is so delicious. my son is ten now and I totally appreciate him as a +1 to events for this reason! hearing the details of integrating sign language into daily life was just so sweet!
You know Claudia, you really do have the most beautiful glow. I have heard people talk about women who become mothers getting that but I have never seen it before. Congratulations you two.
Honestly I met so many new mothers who were a tired and exhausted mess so shortly after birth (and I don't blame them, to me everything about motherhood looks exhausting and draining), but I felt myself staring at Claudia all throughout the video thinking 'wow, how is she so beautiful?!'
It’s so cool to see you both so happy! I don’t think parenting is for me, but you two are amazing at it already! You care so much about him and his autonomy and such, I wish my own parents had had that kind of understanding when I was growing up
I know its not the same, but what you said about "not being able to give your son what he needs" my mother said about my kids as she was ill and with mobility issues by the time they came along. I told her do not focus on the things she could not do, but at the amazing things she could do" You both are doing an amazing job and your kid will grow up being fully bilingual and that is such a big plus!
You two are such gorgeous people and parents! I have three....and as a daughter of an LGBTQ+ mum, you are absolutely rocking it!!! Much love to Rupert too ❤️❤️❤️
His little hand on your chest at the end is so adorable! 🥰 So glad to hear things are going well. My youngest just turned 8 months old, but I remember the newborn stage like it was yesterday.
I feel so much comfort watching your videos, you are great 😍 I personally don't want kids but I still enjoy seeing you evolve as a family. And your approach to education is really great, we need more of that in this world, Rupert will grow into a wonderful person, that's for sure. Take care 😘
9:17ish - with my 3, none of them really liked it, but it was a godsend in the bathroom at bathtime, so that was a non-negotiable. As soon as their bath was over, into it with a blanket while I had my bath. Bring the mobile in and a wooden spoon. Keep tapping the mobile if baby frets - best way to get a decent bath I ever found.
Claud, if you haven't already, cover your soil with mulch! It helps a ton to keep water from evaporating. My balcony gets super hot in the summer because we have stone tiling, and so all my pots used to dry up within a day, but ever since i added mulch to my pots, they all last a few days easily, and the bigger ones even go a full week of sun without watering :) also it doesn't really matter what you use for mulch, some people use straw, some use wood chips, personally i just collected nut shells as i ate them and covered my pots with about an inch or two of those :p
Our daughter loved watching trees moving outside! I could put her buggy under a tree and she loved it! Put her in the bouncer next to a window with a view of a big tree and she loved it!
Thank you for sharing! I never wanted kids and actually just got a hysterectomy haha and yet all of this is fascinating to me. I just love your channel and seeing you both so happy and excited about this new adventure! :)
Likewise, don't want kids myself and having a hysto soon, but it's still quite exciting to watch these videos because they're both so happy about being mothers.
Likewise. I'm not having a hysto, but I'm just enjoying my single life til menopause (43 soon). Knew since kindergarten that kids are nothing for me. But these two moms are so wholesome, putting so much thought about what's best for him and this boy is so loved and wanted- all kids should grow up with such caring parents! 💖
I am so happy for your family , like beyond happy . I'm like cheesy smiling at my cell phone watching you . This is amazing. I'm hoping for another , but I probably won't get the opportunity but I'll enjoy from here.❤
Your story of your pets meeting Rupert made me think of our cat when our daughter was born. Anytime we'd go out with the baby and come back the cat would just glare with a look of "You brought it back" lol.
Our cats did the same thing, now when we drop him off at his grandparents they glare at us when we come back without him. Like where is our squealing companion.
You really do get a certain spidey-sense about your kids, I have 3 kids and I can tell when things are askew with them, and all in different ways, it's quite cool. It's a fun journey learning to be a parent, working out what they like, and how that differs or is the same as you personally. Also helps you make sense of how you were as a child, then you understand your child even more. One of my kids is a mini-me and I keep flashing back to myself as a child and having 'a hah' moments.
through the three and a half years i've been watching you (and despite the fact that you both radiate joy almost constantly), i've almost never seen the two of you look as happy as you do now :'-) you guys are clearly absolutely wonderful parents
I’m in awe that Rupert isn’t a leaky baby, lol! That’s fascinating 👀 My kids leaked from their mouths and bums after every feed. There was no diaper that could hold their endless yellow breast fed blowouts 🤢. My laundry pile was endless. Y’all are so lucky 😂
He's gonna be such a smart and we'll adjusted child! He has two lovely moms that love him dearly and that are raising him with an immense amount of love 💕💕💕
Rupert is probably too small for the bouncer, still. But trust... when that lil squirt is in sit-up phase at like Month 5-6, the bouncer will be your saving grace. LOL It's the only way I got showers done when mine was that age. LOVED the video. You two are angelic as always ♥
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You two are the best parents, thank you so much for sharing your lives and Rupert with us 💗
Oh thank goodness I am having so much trouble without the captions following the words. But Its still nice to see you all together being a family. :)
Was going to ask how long does it typically take for the captions to be up? I want to watch as soon as I can 🥰
I love the idea of Rupert being just a simple lil man lying on the floor watching the sky with his moms and dogs around keeping him company because it all just makes so much sense.
If I was actually good at fanart I would draw this scene
@@lilyprice706 you should try anyway, it would be so nice
That lil fellow is truly living his best life
I'm actually a teacher and studied child development. The more you talk, the more it will help him develop his verbal skills so Jessica's self narrating everything she does is actually awesome for his development... and super cute :). My sister in law did this and all of her kids had strong verbal skills.
Interesting!
I narrated everything too, it just felt natural
interestingly she had a large complex vocabulary before starting school, I'd not thought about there being a link
Should he be neurodivergent, it still helps. Me and my hubby narrated everything and even though our son was nonverbal until 4ish it helped him feel more comfortable.
I work with young autistic children and narrating your actions, thoughts and emotions is a strategy we use to help make ourselves more predictable to children as well as help them develop language, develop perspective taking as well as develop problem solving skills. It's very useful.
hearing he likes to be on the floor made me think about the potential for him and jessica to be just hanging out on the floor when shes having a particularly potsy day
I think they pointed that out themselves during the nursery tour actually, and one reason why they chose floor bedding was so that would be the case
@@jklroxmysox111 that's so cute! I missed the nursery tour I'll have to watch it 😊
You're spot on, I bet. Im a spine patient (among other things), and especially in the winter, there are days where I cannot get out of bed and do much, whether I have help or not. As such, my littles spend about a third of their day sitting on my bed, hanging out with me, on my particularly bad days. Sometimes, we even do "bed picnics" so that we can all still eat meals together, too. 😊
@@lunamax1214 both of my parents are auto immune. They always found ways to make things fun for us. I never knew anything was wrong or "not normal". Movies and popcorn, blanket forts, coloring book parties, indoor camping (sleeping bags around a pretend fire), creating stories and telling them to each other, and even teaching us age appropriate tasks that helped them as well as taught us how to be responsible was made fun. I think a lot of it has to do with attitude, positive reinforcement and explaining things (depending on age). We did bed picnics too. We'd even pack a basket. :)
You're doing great!! In the future, your kids will appreciate all the love and time you are giving them. My mom has asked me a few times as an adult if I ever felt like I went without... NEVER! I always felt loved and never felt like I was going without.
Anyway! Keep kicking ass and being an amazing momma! ♡
@@jolenerouse4871 You're gonna make me cry, hon. Thank you. 💚
"He needs his mobile to move"
It took me an almost embarrassing amount of time to realize you didn't mean Rupert had a cellphone which he somehow couldn't move without.
oops! 😂
Thank you for sharing that, it is very humorous. I'm having a good giggle over Rupert with a huge cell phone next to him!
Children of the digital age hahahahah
I thought the same! 😂
@@julial.r.5383 So glad I wasn't alone 😂😂😂
When mine were little, I always coupled the ASL alphabet with the ABC song... So that's the way they learned it. When they got to school later, they used to get so mad because everyone else wasn't doing the signs like they were! I think we really confused the teachers at first, until they figured it out.
Amazing idea, I wrote it out and pointed to each letter then at the end made him find random letters out of sequence. He knew all his numbers and letters by 18months
I literally just sang n signed the ABC with bsl. Phew still got it. I did the same with my Son as a baby... honestly so much easier as they tend to have a lot more gross motor control than control over voice. So dear son would sign "mum, more milk" regularly or "kiss". Bless him.
That's such a good way to do it. With my sister we just signed along with important words (food, drink, tired, happy and sad, please and thank you, etc) but she never learned her letters!
@@_gremlinboy We did the more, food, drink, tired, etc. as well, but we also did the letters
@@leannehowarth6939 We read a lot of Dr. Seuss's ABC's for the printed letters LOL.
Re breastfeeding 'envy': as the non-birthing mother, it really broke my heart to not be able to feed my daughters that way. I instead did the singing every evening. I would rock them in their room in the dark and sing for as long as an hour sometimes. My youngest started putting her fingers on my mouth after a bit, just pressing them there as I sang. She was diagnosed with moderate-to-severe hearing loss at 4 months old, so I guess she was feeling the vibrations and movement at my mouth? So I kept doing it. She's 6 now, and I still sing to her every night before bed, though now I sign along. That's something only Maman does, and it's our special thing. And we didn't really have a namesign until Lili started school at 4!
Ooooh, I'm so excited to get news, to hear about his routine! Yess, a strong routine for a baby is so reassuring, gives them some real confidence in exploring their world because they know what to expect, it's wonderful. I know I use my youngest as an excuse to dip out early ALL THE TIME!
Your singing story is so stinking cute 🥺 it's very important for both parents to have a special unique thing they do with the kid for this exact reason 💖
This is so sweet I'm crying 😭😭😭
This is just the cutest thing ever 🥺
No, I'm not crying, you're crying.
Love this story! 🥰🥰
Even sleep deprived, you two are as fabulous as always, thank you for regularly bringing your internet children wonderful content.
It looks like Rupert has old person hair, all I can see is the dark hairs going around the back of his head and then like no hair on top, he looks like a smol grandad and I love it
There's a bald spot on the back of the head that many babies develop that looks very cute/funny.
I was about to comment that too! Like an aging man 👴🏻
That's my favorite baby hair style, my oldest and youngest had that cute old man fringe! I loooove it.
My son was exactly the same. His hair is finally coming in all over his head, but for a good long while, he had Homer Simpson hair 😂
My son had that hairline too at the very beginning. He looked like a fat tough guy in the Russian Mafia. Now his hair grew in a beautiful full blonde head of hair and he looks like a little cherub angel toddler. It’s so weird how babies morphe as they age.
What's exciting is that Rupert will have his first word in sign language, and his first spoken word. I wonder if they will be the same and how old he'll be. I had an ASL teacher tell a story about her DIL calling when her grandson was 4 months old, describing a sign he was doing and asking her what it meant. She said, "What did you just give him because he wants more!"
Lol 😂
That's adorable!
Often a baby’s first sign is “more” or “milk” and their first spoken word is commonly mama or dada and since he has two awesome mamas im gunna guess mama . So that’s just my guess for Rupert based on odds (:
my eldest was taught sign before she was verbal, it was excellent, "more" was her most used sign :P
Jessica's face at 16:36 when she calls Claudia 'an amazing human'....okay fine maybe I do believe in true love
Yup had a "Wind beneath my wings" moment there myself.
Yeah, I needed to see that.
It's funny bc I don't have kids and have no plans of ever having kids and these videos have done nothing to change my mind about it, _but_ they're still just so nice and life-affirming to watch. Sort of warm and soothing and optimistic. Makes me feel like maybe things will turn out okay.
I agree!
U can be someone's cool family friend that pulls in with the best presents
@@ahhh4117 That's fully my intention for when I'm older. I'm still deciding if I want to adopt later, but if not/until then I will be the cool aunt for every child I know.
Same! It’s so heartwarming to see such good parents be so happy
@@teeteeshouse fostering and adopting is not easier than biological children, foster and adoptive children still require just as much love/care/attention as biological children. They are not backups, the process can be more strenuous, and you would still be a parent. "At least foster/adopt" is hugely underestimating the scale of commitment that it is.
There are other solutions that don't involve bringing a child into your life for the sole purpose of taking care of you in your later years, which is extremely unfair on the child
For wearing a hearing aid vs not, my friend's parents are both Deaf with no cochlear implant or hearing aids. When her and her brother were babies their mom would keep her hand on the bassinet next to her at night. The vibrations of the crying would wake her up to calm them. Not sure what the parents did when the kids grew out of the bassinet. But it's an idea to try if the hearing aids are causing headaches and other issues.
So happy for the two of you!
I wonder if they have a baby monitor that flashes when the baby makes noise, sort of like a commercial fire alarm?
@@missTgalman From what I know there's a device that vibrates if the baby cries! I heard that this one deaf couple have it close to them in bed and it wakes them up if the baby cries🤗
Don't know if they have them in the UK but the owlet baby monitor will alert you as soon as anything is wrong with the parent's end vibrating, and tracks temperature, heart rate, etc
Also, so proud of you Jessica for building up that upper body strength to hold the baby ❤️
Honestly, she's such a wonderful person!
He (or at least the back of him) is so adorable. He's lucky and blessed to have you two as parents.
Rupert refuses to be a bouncing baby, he has written a strongly worded letter re: the bouncer and it is a forbidden object. He reserves the right to change his mind at a later date.
Claudia you need a soaker hose for your garden! You can just leave it laid out in the garden and turn it on and leave it for 30 min
And even better a timer that just pops it on and off twice a day automatically!
@@livelongandprospermary8796 It's sort of like a sprinkler that doesn't spray water in the air nearly as much. It's basically a hose with lots of very tiny holes all over, and the water comes out as trickles and light mist. That way the water goes straight into the dirt near the base of the plants for the roots to drink, and doesn't go all over the leaves, and doesn't spray far away from where it's needed. Some vegetable plants really don't like a lot of water on their leaves!
@@livelongandprospermary8796 There are two types, one is a firm porous foam that sweats water down the entire length and the other kind is a hose with small drip lines off of it and you target plants individually.
The automatic swaying even when you're not holding the baby sticks around for a long time!
If I’m slightly tore and anyone hands me some from a loaf of bread to bag of potatoes I still automatically rock.
I rock even when she’s not in my arms 😂 Cooking? Rocking. Showering? Still rocking.
I'm not a mum but I've done this out of habit when I'm standing for like ten years, just because I don't like standing still.
I dread how bad it'll get if I ever do have kids 😂
Oh yes! we bought a huge turkey when I cooked Christmas dinner for ten. I started the dinner prep directing operations swaying with the turkey on my hip! my kids were 10 and 12. Only stopped when they pointed it out :-)
My mum always does that when she's holding our guinea pigs! 😂
My baby didn't like the bouncer until she was about 3 months old. You might still get some use out of your bouncer still. I guess you never really know what you'll need until you get to know your baby. ❤
omg you mean bouncer as in the baby furniture. not the security person outside an age-restricted establishment! i am an idiot.
@@Dhdjksjsnsnsnnsnsna yup haha 😄. I'm not ready for my baby girl to meet bouncers at clubs. She only 5 months old at the moment.
@Leave me alone Please this just made my day 🙈
@@Dhdjksjsnsnsnnsnsna bouncer as in outside of clubs was my first thought on seeing this comment too! I also had to stop and think for a second.
With the BABY bouncer, my godson didn't really enjoy his until he was old enough to kick his legs to make it rock in response to his movements, and Rupert's still a bit young for that.
My daughter was quite fussy with her bouncer. She hated it being bounced. But she loved the vibrations, and she loved the attached mobile. But if someone tried to bounce it, just no.
I have been signing with my grand babies since birth my two year old can sign her name but can’t say it. The fun thing is her mum and dad can’t sign so I get FaceTime calls to find out what she is trying to say.
thats adorable! im sure later down the line that will lead to an amazing bond you have with them!
That's so cute :)
You're the gramslator.😉
I first learnt basic Auslan so I could talk to the elderly lady that lived across the road in the 70’s I revisited when I was in my teens so I could talk with my friend in class and not get caught I think it is good for kids to know the alphabet at least so if they meet someone that is hearing impaired they can include them in conversations. The Wiggles ( a kids group in Australia) have Emma who signs and sings teaching basic Auslan it is good to see
My dyslexic brain read signing as singing and was like that nice then realized it was signing and I was like ooooh that nice 🙂 lol
So “the baby needs to go down” is the adult “my mom said no”
Yeah
"my partner wants me home" is a good one too
Yup. It’s always either “the kids need…” or I’ll fall back on “hmmm, I’ll talk to my husband…..Oop I forgot we have to do this” 😂
My first baby had undiagnosed acid reflux for the first nine months. He cried and cried and screamed and nothing helped accepting feeding and holding. So much sick, no sleep, depression. He couldn't play cos he couldn't lie down and didn't even smile till 11 weeks. He's seven now and totally awesome. He doesn't seem to have suffered anything long term from it and the second was infinitely easier, but my first experience of motherhood was awful.
As an adult who used to suffer from acid reflux I can 100% say that it has made me cry. I once went to the ER because my chest was hurting so bad, I thought that I was having a heart attack. Taking a probiotic drink has been such a help. I glad to hear that your child is doing much better.
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Rupert is such a darling! Jessica thank you for normalizing that overstimulation can lead to exhaustion even if it is something “passive” like seeing or listening. For those with chronic illnesses sometimes just THINKING is exhausting!
I love how why Jessica was holding him and he puts his hand on her chest to feel her heart it was so cute I had to rewatch cuz it was to cute I kept staring at him
When?
Like when he’s crying and in like the middle of the night if he wakes up just like day to day things
@@angelbell2226 I think they wanted a timestamp for when it happens in the video.
@@user-dc2dz8ie1i 16:25
I am hearing and signed with my kids. It is amazing being able to communicate with them before they are able to speak. Having sign as a second language will be very helpful later in life. I also noticed how Jessica signed much more in that segment. I enjoy seeing the signing. I know ASL but enjoy seeing similarity and difference in BSL. I also know how much/little new parents sleep and the sleep deprivation hardly showed. You also have a silly side so it could be hard to tell the difference. 😂 Great presentation - thank you for sharing with everyone!
I'm curious - considering how small babies hands are, are you able to tell quite clearly what they're signing? Or can you infer from words you've already taught them?
@@Marigold11037 First signs are like first words. Not always clear right away but you get better at understanding and they get better at signing. Signs Doo get more clear as motor control improves. For example if I taught him milk and cereal it was easy to differentiate. (by cereal I mean like porrage) And Everytime we do something I reenforced the sign. So we get get in the car I sign car. When he is fussy I sign milk and feed him.
@@Magnum0097 aww that's so sweet! And thanks for answering my question 🥰
THIS. No plans of kids anytime soon but it’s just so nice to see happy queer families. My heart is so full! 🥺🥰
One of my friends did this with her daughters too. She said it was quite useful for figuring out what they want before they can clearly speak...but it also meant they could ARGUE at an earlier stage too!
I'm really glad that Rupert gets to grow up with Mums who just understand that people may need assistance, but also need respect. Also, I think a lot of parents my mum's age didn't know that overstimulation was a thing, or that the solution to a kid being upset about having their limbs confined was to...not confine the limbs. You two are already such great parents, and it is really inspiring to see 💜
He is just too stinking cute! I'm looking forward to hearing more about how motherhood is going (and impatiently awaiting the Montessori video, Jessica!!).
I love his "balding old man" hairline in the back! I know he's busy growing it but it's just so cute, and that's just where it's thick for now. Jessica really convinced him he's a Montessori baby and he's like "This isn't what Mama raved about. Tosh!"
Jessie's "Don't worry, I've got a mama sense for you" just made my heart swell omg you two are such sweethearts
I'm almost 7 weeks post partum myself and I love hearing from other parents who are in a similar place with a baby.
We also chose a name that was just for our baby, but her middle names are for each of our favorite grandmothers.
I got my hEDS diagnosis yesterday (thank you for your video on it!) - I love seeing you both and how in love with Rupert you are ❤️❤️❤️
Congratulations!
Oh my god I am envisioning Jessica as the BEST story teller EVER, I bet she will never get Rupert to sleep because she will NAIL the story and captivate Rupert so much with her impressive ability to speak with so much emphasis and emotion!
"Another one, mommy! Another one!"
Love you guys so much. Seeing you together is so endearing.
Great to see the three of you looking so in tune with each other. Good luck with the privacy thing, my youngest is 23 and still thinks it’s ok to chat when I go to the loo! 🤦🏼♀️
@Paula Allan Wait, that’s not okay? 😂
"You have to have a bouncer"
Cue me picturing people suddenly having bodyguards for their babies...
My mom uses my EDS as her excuse to leave events early she hates something the que is "yes my daughter is starting to hurt I need to take her home so she can lie down and nap" means act like I'm out of spoons and not like I just took a nap before the work party
My parents are extroverted so I'm trapped with sensory overload at parties
My entire family and most of my friends use me as an excuse to leave. I don’t mind, I’m a huge introvert anyway. Sometimes I use myself as an excuse to leave.
@@katherinemorelle7115 I can fully relate
@@ahhh4117 that's a bummer.y mother is just older where she loves to party its too much now. She rather say it's my disabilities then her age and I get that
Claudia as usual has the best bits! "...this is my life now" deserves to be a gif
I love how you defined Claudia as 'gestational' mother. I think that's beautiful, and better than "biological". Love you guys. You make having a newborn look easy.
I love his name rupert, you dont hear of his name that often. He is adorable and you are both the best mama and mummy he could ask for ❤
You too are good mums ❤.
And Jess you should not worry about the hearing aids to much, especially if it harms you. I bet Rupert would rather have a happy mum than a hearing mum.
Rupert would be so lucky to have either of you as a mother... but both?
Truly blessed. 🥲
Doctors: “Don’t lift anything heavier than the baby.”
Me: literally dragging my toddler around the house while carrying the baby on the first day home from the hospital
My hospital told me up to 50/60lbs is fine if you didn’t tear!
Yeah, those wonderful rules that don't take into account the possibility of another child, I loved them.
Probably a male doctor!
My daughter had just turned 3 a couple weeks before my youngest was born and when they said that to me in the hospital that time I was just like, “right….so who will be coming to handle my toddler then?”
It makes me so happy to see you two loving life as Mom's! It's so clear you both love him so much! I'm so surprised and impressed that he's sleeping soundly as you two talk and laugh
Such a fangirl moment! I just heard Jessica's name mentioned on the Finnish national radio station and I jumped from glee. A journalist (who belongs to the disabled community and runs a weekly show with her also disabled colleague) mentioned you as a sharp and hilarious content creator, educator and style icon. 🤍❤🧡💛💚💙💜
Seeing you two as parents is just so wholesome! I look forward to any videos or pictures of your little family!!! Congratulations again!!! ♥♥♥ Thank you for answering these questions. You can just see the love between you three!
I'm disabled and want to have kids (the plan is to start trying in about a year or so). Thank you so much for sharing this. I cried when you were talking about being disabled actually being good for parenting.
Seeing this video brought me so much joy. I’ve known for along time that I don’t want kids, but it still makes me so happy to see you guys being so happy with your baby.
When the subs aren't here yet so you're just vibing with them like the "he's a little confused but he's got the spirit" meme (tbf they are adorable mummy vibes so I'm not complaining lol)
Yes same lol I got a few minutes in before I realized I couldn't understand every other thing they were saying
Oh mood. Jessica enunciates a bit so thats a little easier but i still missed a lot lol
In the Waldorf method they call a schedule a “rhythm” and it sounds like that’s a good way to describe the structure of your day!
Are you playing him any music? If so, which songs/ pieces are his favourite?
Also congratulations!!! He's so cute💕
Funny you asked that, just today Jessica posted an Instagram story of Rupert lounging on the kitchen floor listening to "What a wonderful world", very adorable
It's amazing how babies love listening to Louis Armstrong it just seem to soothe them down ! I want to thank you ladies for sharing your journey with us as new mommies ! Rupert is blessed to have two such mother !
Commenting on what you are doing with your baby is phenomenal for language acquisition/development. When the baby starts making noises, you can “reply” as if he/she is asking you a question or telling you something. Varying your tone, intonation, sentence length etc is all helpful too!
In all seriousness. Jess and Claudia make me believe in true love 😍😍
This entire video is just pure love
Claudia looks AMAZING 🥳
His personality, combined with the stripe of hair in the back, makes him seem like an old man already! I think he is lucky to have you as moms
Thank you both so much for sharing! We are ALL smitten with your family!
I've been silent for too long in regards to comments. I've been watching your videos for almost 2 years and I'm just happy to see how you guys have grown. Rupert is a bundle of joy (I'm sorry I can't get over how precious he is and wow it's been 8 weeks already what lol), you both are amazing moms and I can't stop wishing you all the best
Motherhood looks so beautiful on you two. Claudia is still glowing. ❤️
Among many other things, I really appreciate how calm and sweet your videos are, especially against the backdrop of very frantic/fast-paced videos many other TH-camrs go for. So wonderful to see you both so smiley
I cried through all this... as you two are such amazing parents. When you both said there was nothing you didn't like about motherhood, I thought "Oh Rupert you are so loved and so wanted, one day you will understand how lucky you are!" every child should be this wanted and this loved.
Tip I wish I’d gotten w my first: put socks on *over* the footie bottoms. Makes things so much easier. ❤️
I don't have kids so please forgive my ignorance - why/how does that help?
@@9_in_the_afternoon It keeps baby from being able to pull their feet up out of the fabric feet and get them all tangled up inside the main leg fabric. 😊
@@darthsparkle ahh that makes sense, thank you!
also a thought on jessica not wearing her hearing aid at home, I believe that will lead to baby adapting to your needs more quickly! as in he will definitely eventually learn not to rely on sound cues when communicating with you and will figure out other ways!
Can confirm by observation of my nephew : the bouncer is absolutely useless until they start to roll over. After that it's an interest thing. My nephew can just spend hours just jumping on their bouncer and then nap and start again like there's no tomorrow. So I think once mine reaches that age and they outgrow it, I'll just ask my sis in law to give the item to me rather than buy our kid their own.
I love that you use genderneutral language for babies.
In my opinion, and in absolutely no way taking anything from Jessica, I think Claud has visibly blossomed. I greatly admire these fantastic, awesome people; they are beautiful, loving, inspirational and, quite frankly, delightful to watch together. I feel that Claud was never always this comfortable in front of the camera, and please do correct me if thoughts are that I'm overstepping here, but now seems to have come into her own. I love these adorable ladies, and wish them the brightest of blessings for the future with lil' man. ❤️🤗
When you shared what you appreciate about each other, I cried. You two are wonderful!
LOL Claudia, the freedom to use the baby as an excude to leave things early is so delicious. my son is ten now and I totally appreciate him as a +1 to events for this reason!
hearing the details of integrating sign language into daily life was just so sweet!
I absolutely took/take full advantage using my children as an excuse to not go or to leave social events.
hahaha me too 😂🙌🏻
The sad part is that you needed an excuse for people to accept you declining the invitations...
You know Claudia, you really do have the most beautiful glow. I have heard people talk about women who become mothers getting that but I have never seen it before. Congratulations you two.
Honestly I met so many new mothers who were a tired and exhausted mess so shortly after birth (and I don't blame them, to me everything about motherhood looks exhausting and draining), but I felt myself staring at Claudia all throughout the video thinking 'wow, how is she so beautiful?!'
I love his little half crown of hair, like a little old monk baby
It’s so cool to see you both so happy! I don’t think parenting is for me, but you two are amazing at it already! You care so much about him and his autonomy and such, I wish my own parents had had that kind of understanding when I was growing up
Seeing you two as parents is so freaking awesome. Rupert has the best moms in the world.
I know its not the same, but what you said about "not being able to give your son what he needs" my mother said about my kids as she was ill and with mobility issues by the time they came along. I told her do not focus on the things she could not do, but at the amazing things she could do" You both are doing an amazing job and your kid will grow up being fully bilingual and that is such a big plus!
You two are such gorgeous people and parents! I have three....and as a daughter of an LGBTQ+ mum, you are absolutely rocking it!!! Much love to Rupert too ❤️❤️❤️
Oh wow! A highlight! Thank you and have a fabulous festive season and new year!
His little hand on your chest at the end is so adorable! 🥰 So glad to hear things are going well. My youngest just turned 8 months old, but I remember the newborn stage like it was yesterday.
I feel so much comfort watching your videos, you are great 😍 I personally don't want kids but I still enjoy seeing you evolve as a family. And your approach to education is really great, we need more of that in this world, Rupert will grow into a wonderful person, that's for sure. Take care 😘
*”Three times on hot days…*
*THREE times on hot days”*
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this is the only channel that features children that i watch. im so happy for you two and thank you for haring your experiences with us
You are both delightful to watch. Rupert is a lucky little fella to have such devoted parents.🇦🇺🦘
9:17ish - with my 3, none of them really liked it, but it was a godsend in the bathroom at bathtime, so that was a non-negotiable. As soon as their bath was over, into it with a blanket while I had my bath. Bring the mobile in and a wooden spoon. Keep tapping the mobile if baby frets - best way to get a decent bath I ever found.
Every time I see you two with your happy little family I get very emotional. You really are the sweetest and wish the best for you.
Claud, if you haven't already, cover your soil with mulch! It helps a ton to keep water from evaporating. My balcony gets super hot in the summer because we have stone tiling, and so all my pots used to dry up within a day, but ever since i added mulch to my pots, they all last a few days easily, and the bigger ones even go a full week of sun without watering :) also it doesn't really matter what you use for mulch, some people use straw, some use wood chips, personally i just collected nut shells as i ate them and covered my pots with about an inch or two of those :p
Some new parents get baby care advice. Claudia gets plant care advice.
You three are the sweetest family ever (and also my life goals 😂 ) 💕🌈
What lovely, loving mothers little Rupert has. 💖🎀💖
I love that you both do the mummy rocking regardless of who is holding Rupert. So lovely.
Our daughter loved watching trees moving outside! I could put her buggy under a tree and she loved it! Put her in the bouncer next to a window with a view of a big tree and she loved it!
Thanks!
Thank you! 🌟
I’m extremely stressed about finals for the summer classes I’m taking but my favorite gay mums have posted so I feel a bit better❤️
It has been a few decades since I have seen two ladies almost as Happy as you two are in this video! Warms an old mans heart it does.
The routine thing is fact. Kids need routine.
I appreciate Claudia not wanting her baby in the bathroom. That's so me.
Not every child! Or at least, the definition can vary a LOT.
16:36 the LOOK Jessica gave Claudia is a look of ❤️ PURE LOVE ❤️
Thank you for sharing! I never wanted kids and actually just got a hysterectomy haha and yet all of this is fascinating to me. I just love your channel and seeing you both so happy and excited about this new adventure! :)
Likewise, don't want kids myself and having a hysto soon, but it's still quite exciting to watch these videos because they're both so happy about being mothers.
Likewise. I'm not having a hysto, but I'm just enjoying my single life til menopause (43 soon). Knew since kindergarten that kids are nothing for me. But these two moms are so wholesome, putting so much thought about what's best for him and this boy is so loved and wanted- all kids should grow up with such caring parents! 💖
My people:) I have my bisalp in 2 months. But I also enjoy this videos:)
Well that was adorable 💜 Thank you for letting us in on your life as parents, you both look so content.
I am so happy for your family , like beyond happy . I'm like cheesy smiling at my cell phone watching you . This is amazing. I'm hoping for another , but I probably won't get the opportunity but I'll enjoy from here.❤
Congrats on little Rupert! He sounds so precious! So happy for the three of you :)
Your story of your pets meeting Rupert made me think of our cat when our daughter was born. Anytime we'd go out with the baby and come back the cat would just glare with a look of "You brought it back" lol.
Our cats did the same thing, now when we drop him off at his grandparents they glare at us when we come back without him. Like where is our squealing companion.
You really do get a certain spidey-sense about your kids, I have 3 kids and I can tell when things are askew with them, and all in different ways, it's quite cool.
It's a fun journey learning to be a parent, working out what they like, and how that differs or is the same as you personally. Also helps you make sense of how you were as a child, then you understand your child even more. One of my kids is a mini-me and I keep flashing back to myself as a child and having 'a hah' moments.
"My independence has gone!!" - spoken like a true sagittarius 🤣👌
through the three and a half years i've been watching you (and despite the fact that you both radiate joy almost constantly), i've almost never seen the two of you look as happy as you do now :'-) you guys are clearly absolutely wonderful parents
I’m in awe that Rupert isn’t a leaky baby, lol! That’s fascinating 👀 My kids leaked from their mouths and bums after every feed. There was no diaper that could hold their endless yellow breast fed blowouts 🤢. My laundry pile was endless. Y’all are so lucky 😂
Babies leak? Oh my word, I never knew that 😅
He's gonna be such a smart and we'll adjusted child! He has two lovely moms that love him dearly and that are raising him with an immense amount of love 💕💕💕
Rupert is probably too small for the bouncer, still. But trust... when that lil squirt is in sit-up phase at like Month 5-6, the bouncer will be your saving grace. LOL It's the only way I got showers done when mine was that age. LOVED the video. You two are angelic as always ♥
I prefer a jumper tbh more active babies like mine love to feel like they have something to do. All babies are different tho
You all look so happy. Happy 8 weeks Rupert, you're blessed to have two amazing mummies!!