I have been praying to God for a long time to help me break our family’s screen addiction. This video was so encouraging to me. Thank you for sharing this valuable encouragement with us. 🙏🏻❤️
We have a craft or invention box with pop cycles, Pom Pom, tape, stickers, crayon. We use recycling stuff in our home to. It’s open ended. Also if I take the cell away and they tantrum I tell them time for a nap and they recover better
My son gets 30 minutes on Saturday and Sunday only (he has to combine them if he wants to watch a longer show). He has a list of less than 10 shows he is allowed to choose from. He had none before 3. He’s almost 6 now. He’s never bored and teachers are amazed at how far ahead he is with reading and other skills. TV is a cheap babysitter. It’s ok if you need to use it, but that’s all it is. Even educational stuff isn’t anywhere near as effective as sitting and teaching them.
Love your perspective on this! "A cheap babysitter" is a great statement, and it is definitely nice to have one on hand. Your intentionality inspires us!
Oh my goodness, you are my soulmate ❤❤❤ we have similarities in so many ways. My son didn’t watch Tv before 3 years old and he just turned to 6 years old and only 30 _60 mins Tv or/ and chrome book time, no smartphone or iPad or video games, and I don’t think he needs to watch or play educational stuff from electronics, teaching him from books and games are good and enough. I always feel I am a minority but I am proud and know what We have been doing is good and right for him,
Your family reminds me of the way I grew up. My parents weren't against technology, they were just pro other things. We all grew up creative, making our own fun. I remember being very happy playing with the takeout containers from KFC because I could use my imagination. 😂
We do lots of handcrafts. My husband works long hours, and if I need a minute to shower or do something alone, I start an audio book and have everyone sit with modeling wax or knitting or drawing supplies. 5 kids 7 and under, and I agree, screens create way more work!
As someone who allows screens, I actually agree. When my kids aren’t watching screens, they are so bored and I have to work hard to entertain them. And they can’t focus on each activity for long. I probably should move away from screens. We have the tv constantly on and tablets.
I love to see that you are spreading more awareness are Charlotte Mason and Classical education! We do the same! For our family with 4 little ones, we do a lot of cooking, feasting, sewing, handicrafts, puzzles, reading, legos, audiobooks during shared chores, hiking, parks, church groups, and we go to a gym that allows our young kids to work out with us about 4 days a week. Plenty to keep little minds and hands busy and learning!
Love this! Curious how you do TH-cam with your kids around and being a screen free family. How do you explain to them that you make videos but they’re not allowed to watch? Would love to hear from you!
If ya go to 4:30 of the video they both start to explain this. I think they have done a great job explaining what no screen time means for their family and why and how they do it.
@@boring2beautiful66 right, they’re not “completely screen free!” They try not to use screens during family time. Big difference and explains why their whole platform is online but they are screen-free. A bit misleading, but alright. They will reach their target audience well enough with this
It’s really encouraging to know other families can do this. I am struggling because my spouse does not support me on free screen time. But I’ve decided this year to invest my money in buying more home family games and stop paying for online entertainment. At least it’s a start. Thank you!
I realized, the worst thing I can do is to complain about my husbands screen time. So instead, I invite my husband to join me and the kids! We play board games, card games And puzzles! The way you ask makes a huge difference! You got this Mama! God bless
Such a good idea! My husband’s phone is his third arm. On it in every free second of his time, in the middle of the night. Worst part is he is completely in denial (arent they all!?) that he uses his phone a lot. Meanwhile I’ll find mine across the house with notifications from hours ago lol
I have fallen into the “rest” cycle of turning on the tv for my son and scrolling my phone and it is always such a battle to go do anything else after it’s on. Thank you for sharing all of this.
Wow. The fact that there are families out there that are run like this. You guys are living my dream! I'm grateful that my parents set the foundation so that when I have my family, we won't make the mistakes they did as often.
Will you share your daily schedule/rhythm at some point? Would love to know more insight about what you and the kids are doing through the day to replace screen time! And what do your littlest ones do outside when it’s cold? Mine are 2.5 and 1.5 and I have trouble finding things they are interested in doing outside when it’s cold
Would love to know how you teach and train your kiddos to stay in their rooms/do quiet time please? Our 2.5 yr old just leaves her room or wants to come play with me, or watch tv. ❤
If tv isn’t an option and playing with you isn’t an option because you are doing dishes or other chores etc they will either help you or play by themselves naturally. Boredom is super healthy for kids!
Yes my now 4 year old would sometimes have meltdowns at that age while I was doing chores and not playing with him. I just made sure I had playtime with him earlier in the day and would let him cry for a few minutes. He eventually would stop and find something to do. We have also used a timer. We would say stay in your room and play or on bed looking at books until timer beeps. It took a lot of practice but we finally got there and have an hour (or more if he falls asleep) quiet/nap time every day.
We don't watch sny TV either. Movie night once a week after he's sleeping. The occasional thing on our ipads....after he's asleep. You have to demonstrate.
So according to you, this is the last TH-cam video that we should be watching. On the other hand you have a TH-cam Channel, Who is supposed to watch your videos?
Love this! I’ve been screen free with the kids for a week and it’s been helpful to minimize the toys. If there’s too many toys it makes my kids not wanna play as long and deep. Less toys, and toy rotations has made screen free time easier. Also having things like puzzles, sensory bins, and coloring stations help keep them entertained
Me too! It’s something we all intuitively know and feel, sometimes we just need to be reminded by others that what we’ve been feeling all along is true❤️
I like what you guys said about replacing screen time with activities. The principle of adding before you take away. Something has to fill the vacuum! Here's my list of things I can do instead of scrolling on TH-cam: read draw study bible
Yay, other screen free families. We have invested in outdoor activities (cubby house, veggie garden, and sandpit) which has taken most of our morning time since the kids started walking. Then good books, blocks and crayons take the cake for inside time. It's so nice to find others who are similar. I feel alone in our family values most of the time.
I would love to know how you have gotten rid of your smartphones? That is something I would love to do, but it feels like so much of my life involves it now, gps, playing music, listening to audiobooks, just being able to google something, etc. I would appreciate any tips! We also became a tv free home about 6 months ago when my son broke our tv, and it has been such a huge blessing in disguise! Excited to check out more of your content!
My brother said this in preaching recently, “I don’t just go to my toolbox and get out a tool then go look for something to do with it.” I recall that as I sit watching TH-cam, but it’s a good thing to keep in mind! Tools are useful, but you don’t play with them for no reason.
We never had screens when I was young. Our phones were wall mounted and the Tv came in black and white and had only 3 stations. Computers were not invented. Fun was created by our imagination and friendships.
This video was a God send. Just popped up on my feed and God knew I needed to watch this. I love how you compared it to the budget. This is so good. Thank you!
Absolutely loved your experience. And this solidified why God kept filling me with ideas so I can do hands on activities with my boys that spark the creativity in me and help me learn about their interests as well!
This is so good! I'd love to hear more about how you all make smartphone free work (keeping up with friends, staying consistent posting on social media, etc). I'd love to get rid of my smartphone, but I end up texting/posting a lot for our family business.
First time watching, loved all the helpful hints. I remember my grandma making clothes for my barbies. I also remember her making word finds for me on a typewriter. She also did crafts making fake flowers. I don't remember what she used but they were cool.
this comes at a great time. we just got over a week of being sick and using TV shows / movies to survive and entertain .. now it’s very hard to cut it off though as they are expecting it 24/7. Screen time seriously is such a battle . Cutting it off entirely sounds SO appeasing and restful
Us too! Literally an entire month of someone in the household always being sick. Gotta wean off the screen time and it’s gonna be rough but worth it I’m sure
Thanks guys! This video is so beautifully balanced & truly seasoned with gracious thoughts & understanding both your own home/ family as well as others'. THANK YOU for sharing your journey with love & compassion :)
Thank you so much for posting this! I was wondering can you PLEASE do a video on how you both function without a smart phone. I want to get rid of mine as well but I’m not sure how to do that because I still need the GPS when I’m out sometimes. How do you deal with that?
We became screen free accidentally as well. Our TV broke, we had no money to buy a new one and have been mostly screen free for 4 years now! Our kids are a little older and I recently started implementing TV time for educational purposes.
I was teaching a song to the little ones with marching steps. "I will set, I will set, I will set nothing vile before my eyes. I will walk blamlessly in my house, and I will set nothing vile before my eyes." The wee one added "cut it off" with a finger pointing out.
I’m a mom of 5, my first one is a teenager. But I have 4 more (9, 6, 4 and 18 months). I just allow them one other day to use the screen for an hour. I remember our neighbor laugh about my method, but I don’t care they are my kids and I decide what is good for them.
When I’m cooking it’s always helpful to give my kids a safe cutting knife and veggies or something else they can help to cut. They love rolling out tortilla dough and peeling/safely cutting veggies. They of course don’t get a lot done but they are learning and practicing and the best part is that we are all working together. I will say, since my husband has been working a lot it has been hard to limit screens but this has given me renewed inspiration to cut it back out. Duplos are also something they will spend a very long time doing happily and having the older kids “read” familiar board books to the toddler is really fun if I’m not able to sit down in that moment. Thanks for great content! Always fun to find other (weird) like-minded people on TH-cam ;)
Raised my three boys like this too. We homeschooled and used most of the day for outreach projects and outdoor activities after done with bookwork. Started each day with “quiet time with God” and ended each day the same. We skipped buying toys and trying to keep up with the latest gadgets and gave them tools, instruments, items with which to build life skills with, and lots of time, attention, and encouragement. The only real toy type item that could be found in their room was Legos. When my middle son would build amazing inventions with Legos I used to feel sad that he would just take them apart and build something else and all the work seemed to go to waste. I encouraged him to make something with more sustainable materials that would benefit others in the long run. He started pouring over construction books at the library and the first thing he built was a secret room in our hallway that was behind a long picture frame. He made it for me as a birthday gift to use as a prayer room 😭 ❤️ since my prayer room was then being used for his little brother. By 12 yrs old he had built his own two story micro home in the backyard all by himself complete with electricity and everything! Because we educated them at home we had lots of extra time to be involved in our community. An example of this was being able to take them to Haiti after the earthquake to do ministry and help out. They paid for their own tickets with some money they had saved from their “businesses.” Upon return was when the middle child said he wanted to be a missionary and help people everywhere know Jesus and be able to build their own houses so he decided to learn to build houses so he could reach them. (He also started studying French Creole). From a young age we helped them use their passions and hobbies to earn income and thus teach them financial responsibility/stewardship. Examples of this were the two oldest loving nature and the outdoors and having a landscaping business by the age of 8 and 10 and their younger brother loving animals so we bought him a couple chickens and he started an egg selling business when he was 6. Some of the hobbies the boys loved were singing/songwriting/playing instruments, wood working, blacksmithing, studying antiques and then thrifting/yardsailing and finding stuff to resell at boutiques in town, archery, cake decorating (lol), inventing, baking cookies for neighbors, visiting hospitals and nursing homes and encouraging the patients with songs, prayer, and Scripture recitation, traveling on mission trips, sports, and hosting their friends for worship nights and Bible Studies. I was so blessed to have these amazing boys and I just want to encourage parents that you can raise them without screen time and you won’t regret it. I definitely don’t look back and say “I wish I would have given them more screen time”.
Having extended family involved in ur day to day life is so helpful! Living near them means they can stop over and u can maybe even go visit almost daily. Service projects opps! Learning opps!
This is so inspirational! Food for thought, although we’ve been thinking (and still do) about this a lot. We have 6 kids 8 and under, and the youngest two being 1 and 2. Soo…things are kinda challenging sometimes😂. Great video! Love to hear more about this journey of you guys!❤
I am one of 7 kids spanning 18 years. As we grew up, older kids often read to younger kids and that provided entertainment for both. It also gave our parents a breather or allowed valuable one on one time while the rest of the family did other things. My parents were also careful to give the older kids different privileges like free time and staying up later so that they didn't bear the burden of raising us younger ones.
We go outside everyday! Rain, snow, or sunshine. Your video about weatherproof clothing is a gem. This is key. People ask how we go out and I’m like, “we dress the part”. The world is their classroom. We learned about the city bus thru books and puzzles and toys and this past weekend, I took him in one, which he loves! I plan the day so I don’t feel stressed about what we’re going to do. Usually an hour before bed I think about what I’d like us to do. I reflect on what he’s been curious about and find activities we can do. Some are indoors and some are outdoors. Wishing everyone the very best being hands on with their kids.
Good on you! We were same until our two boys turned about 12 and 13 and went to traditional school. They were Montessori kids prior. Now one is off to university , he was smartest kid in high school. The other, age 16, is a gamer. Both super close to us parents. Good kids
I have 4 kids . We go to the park, library, the petting farm nearby, hikes, and I bake alot with them. But they do have about half an hour of screen time every other day.....
My teenager has a TV and a computer in our shared office. The 2 little kids take turns to have 30 mins a day after school on my phone. Our lounge room has a combustion fire 🔥 to look at instead of a TV.
I like this!! My kids need to finish their school, and responsibilities before they can have any tv, we also limit what they're allowed to watch, I know when our older tvs stop working we won't be replacing them.I like the idea of having a projector and screen for special family movie nights only.
I've been wanting to switch to a flip phone but I've come to really rely on Google maps and Spotify for music. I may try just removing all the apps that distract me. I'm also pregnant with my first. My husband and I are both in agreement on not using screens at least early on. We have two smart TVs but no cable and we hardly use them. My family and my in-laws are TVs on constantly kind of people. I'm worried about accepting their help, specifically my parents who are both now retired (I work from home), will bring that into my home. Edit to correct not retired to retired
@@maddiebarry5546 ya I wish that was the case but my Mom keeps telling me if I want help with child care during the week I'll need to get cable. I don't want to paint my parents as horrible people it's really just a cultural difference. It's also not the only one we have. The other big ones are around food and the emphasis on material things/status.
Katie I would love to hear some tips on how you teach your little ones to sit still. My son is 15 months old and I would like to start implementing this but I'm not so sure how. Thanks so much! 🤗
We just got done raising our kids. We only had a TV for a total of 5 years in the last 22. We made our kids buy their own smart phones. So they were around 14 yrs old. If I could go back, I would have never let them get smart phones. I don't know how to keep kids from getting addicted. As far as the TV goes, we all hate it now. If we have a chance to watch it at a family members house, we will end up turning it off. It's sooo annoying!! My kids are slightly embarrassed when friends come over. I guess they try to explain it to their friends beforehand. Lol
6 year old loves Brain Games Sticker By Number books. Playdough and slime Baking soda and food coloring in vinegar mixing in little containers like medicine cups or ramekins with baby spoons over a tray. Shaving cream and glue for puffy paint Play kitchen and play food Board games: Candy Land, Chutes and Ladders, The Great Cake Chase
I really loved that instead of taking out bad you just worked to add in good and the result was that the bad went away. Sometimes we try sonhard to donit the other way around without success. Thanks for sharing and I'm so glad your comments have been turned back on 😄
Stay at home mom of 3 kids 5 and under, need care of them, cook, clean … husband working out of home all day , no family or friends to help … so… I don’t like screens but, sometimes in my situation I need… my kids are active, no chance to be quiet with no attention for more than 30 min
Same, i need those half n hour of resetting the house, cook, and clean . I have no options besides switching on tv. We are non English speakers but My kids (all under 6) learnt speaking English before starting schools by watching Peppa pig and Douggie
It is not easy when you have to deal with the kids alone as a mom. Me and my husband did not own a Tv until we had our third baby. My husband got too busy to be home on time to help with anything, not even on time to put them to bed at times. Do not feel guilty for doing all you can with what you have. Our situations are not the same. If you can get time every now and then for quality time that’s great. You are doing well mommy.
I am a very older hsling mom so I don’t care if young moms hate me. I’ll say it. NO SCREENS. SCREENS ARE BAD. Dvds maybe on Fri nite for Shabbat or Sat nite to go into the new week with a treat. Keep devices from ur kids, period. I’m speaking from wisdom here; listen to age, young parents 🙂 (My 2 youngest are teens, I still got skin in the game…) Someone here in comments said tapes or CDs or streaming audio YES awesome but be careful not to do hours daily Get outside, work on hobbies and service projects I use classical method but slowed pace/expectations Trivial Pursuits (Harvey & Laurie Bluedorn) has great info and several books that are for Believers esp
So glad that your channel showed up in my feed! This is something we are working toward in our home…THANK YOU for sharing this with us, it is very encouraging and helpful.
Damn... I really wanna do this. Even as a single person, there are just so many benefits to zapping screen time, so that I can enjoy my life instead of feeling like some drone.
Do you spend any time watching educational TH-cam videos or online classes (as an adult), stuff of that sort? Or did you eliminate all of that too? Those types of things are what I feel like I can't give up but they also open the door to excessive screen time.
We have never had a TV but tablets, phones, and laptops are starting to take up a lot more time in our lives than ever. It does take way more effort to entertain the kids without the screen. And the behaviour does change in them when its turned off. Total imagination limiter. Well done!
I find your family so inspiring! I love that I feel encouraged to eliminate screens after watching your videos rather than feeling guilty for currently using them (if that makes sense). Thanks for all you guys do. So many of the systems I have implemented in my home are thanks to you guys and the Get It All Done Club.
One of our big challenges with eliminating screen time is that my husband falls asleep as soon as he reads anything to the kids 😆 Even tiny little kids books can send him off to sleep lol. He’s started recording audio of him reading in a calm voice and he manages to stay awake for that, and the kids are enjoying it. Get the bonding without daddy falling asleep on the couch 😴
Thank you for sharing. This is very true - I have decided to take it back to old school recently. To go outside, put my phone away for a few hours and go back to what I did as a kid before there was social media - before there was a tv in the house. I set boundaries within a set time to not be on any screens. Its hard but one day at a time. Love this! Keep sharing its really inspiring. Bless yas from New Zealand.
Do you plan on always being screen free or will there be an age when your kids can use laptops for their education, for example, and what boundaries will you have around it? I ask because I have 6 kids. 2 of them are teenagers and we didn't raise them screen free, but in the last 5 years we have adjusted and limited screen time. We also have dumbphones, no TV, no tablets - only laptops. Teenagers are only allowed to be on laptop from 12-4pm to do learning (they are homeschooled). We're raising our younger ones screen free but trying to figure out when we will allow laptops for them and what boundaries we will have around it. TH-cam has some great learning on it but also a lot of junk. Its really hard as a parent to monitor it all. We have covenant eyes on our interent too, so that helps.
congrats on this amazing talk and for making the conscious choice to control technology. How do you take pictures, make instagram stories,take videos, use GPS? If you both do not have smart phones? I have a flip phone and can not do any of it but would love more feedback!
I was homeschooling my kids back in the 2000s. We didn't use computer curriculums, only books and hands on learning. We didn't have television service, although we did have a set (i think we had rabbit ears for a time...pbs). Ipads didnt exist yet, thank god, and smart phones were only just beginning. I got my first phone in 2009...it was a flip phone. We had movie night once a week, and all 6 of us would huddle around on the couch with the laptop with a big bowl of pizza rolls. So, "screen time" wasnt even a thing. TH-cam was still pretty new, so was Facebook (poor MySpace...shout out), and we didnt really use them. We had A pc, A laptop, and A small tv sometimes. My kids learned many skills as a result, and spent a lot of time outside.
I was screen free with my family until the pandemic Then we had a BIG scare when two of my kids 10 and 5 decided to go for a bike ride to a city 8 miles away without telling me...the pandemic took a mental toll on all of us...We used to go to hikes, and parks and museums and so much...but everything was shot down... (yes, God is great and I got my kids back 5 hrs later when the police found them). So then I decided to let them watch, not that it was prohibited we just didn't. We always had fun things to do and they never asked to watch. But our fun life ended with the screens in a way. The word bored became a thing in our house. My kids no longer were able to be creative and find things to do...My son no longer wants to go anywhere, all he wants is to be on his bed playing ,minecraft, ( there is nothing wrong with minecraft but it is wrong to be laying down ALL day in front of a screen every day). My kids were always climbing trees and having fun in the mud...I feel like the screens ruined precious moments and I am ready to fight back and stop this non sense. It was much easier when my kids were little but I have a teen and a pre teen an a 8 year old and is not as easier to cut the screens now..I wish I would have never ever started it...
I realize I'm finding this 10 months later! I've been burdened about reducing screen time for my 5 year old. Her 4 siblings are all grown and out of the house so she is pretty much an only child. And she's terrified to be alone! I'm afraid by removing the screen it will be an all day "mommy play with me. " I want to have dedicated time to do things with her but I also need time to do what homemakers need to do! Any input? It wasn't an issue with my first 4 bc they were close in age and had each other.
I grew up without a screen period until I was 11.5 and my reading plummeted after that. We don’t own a television but recently put up a monitor for the wii and then allow leap frog but have found they want to be on them 24/7. 😬 I have debated on being smart phone free but everything from my music to photos are one it.
We do read alouds. We read aloud books. We sing nursery rhymes. I sing lullabies. We use wooden blocks and crayons with books to color. I allow him to color on the walls as I was allowed to color on the walls as a child. We go to the park, museum, library and aquarium. Self reading is done. Listening to baby can read. No television at the house. Take care
Im taking a step towards no screen time / very little. Ive been doing really well and have noticed a change in behavior since reducing screen time. The problem is our babysitter is my mother in law. Shes watched the boys everydah for two hours basically since birth and they love spending time with her BUT she will not adhere to this rule. What should i do? Let it go? Say she cant watch them ? Am i being ridiculous in thinking no screen time is not that big of an ask ?
I just don't understand how you can say your a screen free family when you film a lot and air it on screens, so your aloud screens for making money and to entertain others but your kids are not aloud? Your supporting screens clearly by filming so I am just genuinely confused. I'm not hating or judging just honestly curious.
I truly appreciate Katie’s honesty! I’m sure it must’ve been hard to be that vulnerable but you are absolutely right!!! We all do it, I know I do. And I appreciate and grow in inspiration from your story. And Elisha is absolutely right about the lack of ideas is truly one of the main components of not following through with time away from screens. Thank you for this video guys.
Mommas of teens, what do they do to entertain themselves without screens? Our kiddos are not close in age so we have adults all the way down to one due in 4 wks…
Can you do a video or talk about how you teach your kids to sit still for longer amounts of time. That is something I struggle with as a mom of three boys.
Do you have any advice for people who want to implement this in their home but their spouse isn’t on board? I’ve been married for 3 years, we’re about to start a family and my husband spends most all of his free time playing video games or watching something. I grew up pretty screen free and was able to make so many memories with my sibilings using our imaginations, and he was an only child with video games as his memories. I’ve tried to talk about this but it just ends up in an argument each time. I want my kids to have my childhood outdoors exploring and he wants them to have his, sharing in the video games he loved.
Who will spend the most time with the kids? If it’s you, you will have control over this, and then you can let them use screens only when dad wants them to, which shouldn’t be too much if he works out of the home. You can get to a middle ground.
Don’t argue with your husband about this especially in front of the kids. Insulting their dad in front of them will create more problems in the long run. You could only let them play video games with your husband as “daddy time” and make sure they have plenty of other activities to keep them engaged and active during other times. If your kids have negative effects from it (I.e. they stay up too late and are groggy the next morning, they are disrespectful to you for limiting them at the expense of other activities) let your husband know (respectfully!) that these things are occurring and they should be more active, read more books, do a non-screen things.
I have been praying to God for a long time to help me break our family’s screen addiction. This video was so encouraging to me. Thank you for sharing this valuable encouragement with us. 🙏🏻❤️
We have a craft or invention box with pop cycles, Pom Pom, tape, stickers, crayon. We use recycling stuff in our home to. It’s open ended.
Also if I take the cell away and they tantrum I tell them time for a nap and they recover better
Sell your TV 📺
My son gets 30 minutes on Saturday and Sunday only (he has to combine them if he wants to watch a longer show). He has a list of less than 10 shows he is allowed to choose from. He had none before 3. He’s almost 6 now. He’s never bored and teachers are amazed at how far ahead he is with reading and other skills. TV is a cheap babysitter. It’s ok if you need to use it, but that’s all it is. Even educational stuff isn’t anywhere near as effective as sitting and teaching them.
Love your perspective on this! "A cheap babysitter" is a great statement, and it is definitely nice to have one on hand. Your intentionality inspires us!
Agreed!
I do almost same with my 6 and four how are you planning to keep like that in future and I wish if you share those shows he watches too
Oh my goodness, you are my soulmate ❤❤❤ we have similarities in so many ways. My son didn’t watch Tv before 3 years old and he just turned to 6 years old and only 30 _60 mins Tv or/ and chrome book time, no smartphone or iPad or video games, and I don’t think he needs to watch or play educational stuff from electronics, teaching him from books and games are good and enough. I always feel I am a minority but I am proud and know what We have been doing is good and right for him,
What shows does he get ??
Your family reminds me of the way I grew up. My parents weren't against technology, they were just pro other things. We all grew up creative, making our own fun. I remember being very happy playing with the takeout containers from KFC because I could use my imagination. 😂
Until your 4
We do lots of handcrafts. My husband works long hours, and if I need a minute to shower or do something alone, I start an audio book and have everyone sit with modeling wax or knitting or drawing supplies. 5 kids 7 and under, and I agree, screens create way more work!
Interesting.
Glad to hear that
Can you suggest some audio book that I could play for my 5 year old kid? thanks
As someone who allows screens, I actually agree. When my kids aren’t watching screens, they are so bored and I have to work hard to entertain them. And they can’t focus on each activity for long. I probably should move away from screens. We have the tv constantly on and tablets.
I love to see that you are spreading more awareness are Charlotte Mason and Classical education! We do the same!
For our family with 4 little ones, we do a lot of cooking, feasting, sewing, handicrafts, puzzles, reading, legos, audiobooks during shared chores, hiking, parks, church groups, and we go to a gym that allows our young kids to work out with us about 4 days a week. Plenty to keep little minds and hands busy and learning!
Fun. We do those things in our unschool!
Love this! Curious how you do TH-cam with your kids around and being a screen free family. How do you explain to them that you make videos but they’re not allowed to watch? Would love to hear from you!
Good question
I agree. No shade, but how are you all completely screen free when your livelihood depends on social media? That doesn’t seem possible.
If ya go to 4:30 of the video they both start to explain this. I think they have done a great job explaining what no screen time means for their family and why and how they do it.
@@boring2beautiful66 right, they’re not “completely screen free!” They try not to use screens during family time. Big difference and explains why their whole platform is online but they are screen-free. A bit misleading, but alright. They will reach their target audience well enough with this
My thoughts exactly
It’s really encouraging to know other families can do this. I am struggling because my spouse does not support me on free screen time. But I’ve decided this year to invest my money in buying more home family games and stop paying for online entertainment. At least it’s a start. Thank you!
I realized, the worst thing I can do is to complain about my husbands screen time.
So instead, I invite my husband to join me and the kids! We play board games, card games And puzzles!
The way you ask makes a huge difference! You got this Mama! God bless
Such a good idea! My husband’s phone is his third arm. On it in every free second of his time, in the middle of the night. Worst part is he is completely in denial (arent they all!?) that he uses his phone a lot. Meanwhile I’ll find mine across the house with notifications from hours ago lol
@@kaitlinross4348 I recommend getting the book 12 Ways Your Phone is Changing You
I have fallen into the “rest” cycle of turning on the tv for my son and scrolling my phone and it is always such a battle to go do anything else after it’s on. Thank you for sharing all of this.
Wow. The fact that there are families out there that are run like this. You guys are living my dream! I'm grateful that my parents set the foundation so that when I have my family, we won't make the mistakes they did as often.
Will you share your daily schedule/rhythm at some point? Would love to know more insight about what you and the kids are doing through the day to replace screen time! And what do your littlest ones do outside when it’s cold? Mine are 2.5 and 1.5 and I have trouble finding things they are interested in doing outside when it’s cold
Would love to know how you teach and train your kiddos to stay in their rooms/do quiet time please? Our 2.5 yr old just leaves her room or wants to come play with me, or watch tv. ❤
If tv isn’t an option and playing with you isn’t an option because you are doing dishes or other chores etc they will either help you or play by themselves naturally. Boredom is super healthy for kids!
Yes my now 4 year old would sometimes have meltdowns at that age while I was doing chores and not playing with him. I just made sure I had playtime with him earlier in the day and would let him cry for a few minutes. He eventually would stop and find something to do. We have also used a timer. We would say stay in your room and play or on bed looking at books until timer beeps. It took a lot of practice but we finally got there and have an hour (or more if he falls asleep) quiet/nap time every day.
We don't watch sny TV either. Movie night once a week after he's sleeping. The occasional thing on our ipads....after he's asleep. You have to demonstrate.
So according to you, this is the last TH-cam video that we should be watching. On the other hand you have a TH-cam Channel, Who is supposed to watch your videos?
You're screen free, but you want to monetize other people watching your lives.🤔
Why the disclaimer tho… is it really “incredible” people are using screens? More like sad. Definitely not incredible.
Love this! I’ve been screen free with the kids for a week and it’s been helpful to minimize the toys. If there’s too many toys it makes my kids not wanna play as long and deep. Less toys, and toy rotations has made screen free time easier. Also having things like puzzles, sensory bins, and coloring stations help keep them entertained
This has really been on my mind/heart for over a year. Especially the phone! Thank you guys for opening your lives and perspectives to us!
Me too! It’s something we all intuitively know and feel, sometimes we just need to be reminded by others that what we’ve been feeling all along is true❤️
@@refillwithlife So true!!😊
I like what you guys said about replacing screen time with activities. The principle of adding before you take away. Something has to fill the vacuum! Here's my list of things I can do instead of scrolling on TH-cam:
read
draw
study bible
Yay, other screen free families. We have invested in outdoor activities (cubby house, veggie garden, and sandpit) which has taken most of our morning time since the kids started walking. Then good books, blocks and crayons take the cake for inside time.
It's so nice to find others who are similar. I feel alone in our family values most of the time.
Be proud, you are doing the right thing for your family and time will tell you are absolutely right
Hey friend! You’re not alone❤
Arent you on a screen? Not trying to be rude, but how does that work?
I would love to know how you have gotten rid of your smartphones? That is something I would love to do, but it feels like so much of my life involves it now, gps, playing music, listening to audiobooks, just being able to google something, etc. I would appreciate any tips! We also became a tv free home about 6 months ago when my son broke our tv, and it has been such a huge blessing in disguise! Excited to check out more of your content!
My brother said this in preaching recently, “I don’t just go to my toolbox and get out a tool then go look for something to do with it.” I recall that as I sit watching TH-cam, but it’s a good thing to keep in mind! Tools are useful, but you don’t play with them for no reason.
We never had screens when I was young. Our phones were wall mounted and the Tv came in black and white and had only 3 stations. Computers were not invented. Fun was created by our imagination and friendships.
This video was a God send. Just popped up on my feed and God knew I needed to watch this. I love how you compared it to the budget. This is so good. Thank you!
Absolutely loved your experience. And this solidified why God kept filling me with ideas so I can do hands on activities with my boys that spark the creativity in me and help me learn about their interests as well!
Great video! Libraries and children’s museums are also great for screen free time as well. Most libraries offer story time for kids and other classes.
This is so good! I'd love to hear more about how you all make smartphone free work (keeping up with friends, staying consistent posting on social media, etc). I'd love to get rid of my smartphone, but I end up texting/posting a lot for our family business.
First time watching, loved all the helpful hints. I remember my grandma making clothes for my barbies. I also remember her making word finds for me on a typewriter. She also did crafts making fake flowers. I don't remember what she used but they were cool.
What great memories! ❤
this comes at a great time. we just got over a week of being sick and using TV shows / movies to survive and entertain .. now it’s very hard to cut it off though as they are expecting it 24/7. Screen time seriously is such a battle . Cutting it off entirely sounds SO appeasing and restful
Ah, yes! We've so been there!
Us too! Literally an entire month of someone in the household always being sick. Gotta wean off the screen time and it’s gonna be rough but worth it I’m sure
Right! I always go cold turkey with lots of activities planned!
Thanks guys! This video is so beautifully balanced & truly seasoned with gracious thoughts & understanding both your own home/ family as well as others'. THANK YOU for sharing your journey with love & compassion :)
Thank you so much for posting this! I was wondering can you PLEASE do a video on how you both function without a smart phone. I want to get rid of mine as well but I’m not sure how to do that because I still need the GPS when I’m out sometimes. How do you deal with that?
We became screen free accidentally as well. Our TV broke, we had no money to buy a new one and have been mostly screen free for 4 years now! Our kids are a little older and I recently started implementing TV time for educational purposes.
I was raised this way and I turned out more than okay and I'm 24 yrs old..😁 keep on doing this and y'all be okay!
A bit weird to talk about screen free and film your child at the same time to put it online, right?
I was teaching a song to the little ones with marching steps. "I will set, I will set, I will set nothing vile before my eyes. I will walk blamlessly in my house, and I will set nothing vile before my eyes." The wee one added "cut it off" with a finger pointing out.
I’m a mom of 5, my first one is a teenager. But I have 4 more (9, 6, 4 and 18 months). I just allow them one other day to use the screen for an hour. I remember our neighbor laugh about my method, but I don’t care they are my kids and I decide what is good for them.
I definitely find it easy to go screen free In the spring summer and fall but the winter it feels so much harder
Love this! Less screen time is one of my goals this year. God bless you both and praying you will stay the course!
When I’m cooking it’s always helpful to give my kids a safe cutting knife and veggies or something else they can help to cut. They love rolling out tortilla dough and peeling/safely cutting veggies. They of course don’t get a lot done but they are learning and practicing and the best part is that we are all working together. I will say, since my husband has been working a lot it has been hard to limit screens but this has given me renewed inspiration to cut it back out. Duplos are also something they will spend a very long time doing happily and having the older kids “read” familiar board books to the toddler is really fun if I’m not able to sit down in that moment. Thanks for great content! Always fun to find other (weird) like-minded people on TH-cam ;)
Raised my three boys like this too. We homeschooled and used most of the day for outreach projects and outdoor activities after done with bookwork. Started each day with “quiet time with God” and ended each day the same.
We skipped buying toys and trying to keep up with the latest gadgets and gave them tools, instruments, items with which to build life skills with, and lots of time, attention, and encouragement. The only real toy type item that could be found in their room was Legos. When my middle son would build amazing inventions with Legos I used to feel sad that he would just take them apart and build something else and all the work seemed to go to waste. I encouraged him to make something with more sustainable materials that would benefit others in the long run. He started pouring over construction books at the library and the first thing he built was a secret room in our hallway that was behind a long picture frame. He made it for me as a birthday gift to use as a prayer room 😭 ❤️ since my prayer room was then being used for his little brother. By 12 yrs old he had built his own two story micro home in the backyard all by himself complete with electricity and everything!
Because we educated them at home we had lots of extra time to be involved in our community. An example of this was being able to take them to Haiti after the earthquake to do ministry and help out. They paid for their own tickets with some money they had saved from their “businesses.” Upon return was when the middle child said he wanted to be a missionary and help people everywhere know Jesus and be able to build their own houses so he decided to learn to build houses so he could reach them. (He also started studying French Creole).
From a young age we helped them use their passions and hobbies to earn income and thus teach them financial responsibility/stewardship. Examples of this were the two oldest loving nature and the outdoors and having a landscaping business by the age of 8 and 10 and their younger brother loving animals so we bought him a couple chickens and he started an egg selling business when he was 6. Some of the hobbies the boys loved were singing/songwriting/playing instruments, wood working, blacksmithing, studying antiques and then thrifting/yardsailing and finding stuff to resell at boutiques in town, archery, cake decorating (lol), inventing, baking cookies for neighbors, visiting hospitals and nursing homes and encouraging the patients with songs, prayer, and Scripture recitation, traveling on mission trips, sports, and hosting their friends for worship nights and Bible Studies. I was so blessed to have these amazing boys and I just want to encourage parents that you can raise them without screen time and you won’t regret it. I definitely don’t look back and say “I wish I would have given them more screen time”.
Having extended family involved in ur day to day life is so helpful! Living near them means they can stop over and u can maybe even go visit almost daily. Service projects opps! Learning opps!
This is so inspirational! Food for thought, although we’ve been thinking (and still do) about this a lot. We have 6 kids 8 and under, and the youngest two being 1 and 2. Soo…things are kinda challenging sometimes😂. Great video! Love to hear more about this journey of you guys!❤
I am one of 7 kids spanning 18 years. As we grew up, older kids often read to younger kids and that provided entertainment for both. It also gave our parents a breather or allowed valuable one on one time while the rest of the family did other things. My parents were also careful to give the older kids different privileges like free time and staying up later so that they didn't bear the burden of raising us younger ones.
Did I miss the part How do you film and edit your youtube videos?? Do you have a secret camera guy and editor?
We go outside everyday! Rain, snow, or sunshine. Your video about weatherproof clothing is a gem. This is key. People ask how we go out and I’m like, “we dress the part”. The world is their classroom. We learned about the city bus thru books and puzzles and toys and this past weekend, I took him in one, which he loves! I plan the day so I don’t feel stressed about what we’re going to do. Usually an hour before bed I think about what I’d like us to do. I reflect on what he’s been curious about and find activities we can do. Some are indoors and some are outdoors. Wishing everyone the very best being hands on with their kids.
Good on you! We were same until our two boys turned about 12 and 13 and went to traditional school.
They were Montessori kids prior.
Now one is off to university , he was smartest kid in high school.
The other, age 16, is a gamer.
Both super close to us parents.
Good kids
It's really telling that our relationship with technology has become so obsessive and religious in nature. Maybe the Amish were right after all. 🤣
I have 4 kids . We go to the park, library, the petting farm nearby, hikes, and I bake alot with them. But they do have about half an hour of screen time every other day.....
Love it!
Board games,+ card games,
Activity + coloring books
Clay + playdoh
My teenager has a TV and a computer in our shared office. The 2 little kids take turns to have 30 mins a day after school on my phone.
Our lounge room has a combustion fire 🔥 to look at instead of a TV.
I like this!! My kids need to finish their school, and responsibilities before they can have any tv, we also limit what they're allowed to watch, I know when our older tvs stop working we won't be replacing them.I like the idea of having a projector and screen for special family movie nights only.
I bake with my kids when I don’t know what to do with them they love it 😅
Love this!! What a great idea🥰
Love this!
My child gets an hour a day 🥴 BUT I’m watching to get motivation and ideas for less.
It’s honestly not that hard lol. My kids are all in their 30’s & devices didn’t even EXIST lol. Just say NO people 🤷🏻♀️☺️
I've been wanting to switch to a flip phone but I've come to really rely on Google maps and Spotify for music. I may try just removing all the apps that distract me. I'm also pregnant with my first. My husband and I are both in agreement on not using screens at least early on. We have two smart TVs but no cable and we hardly use them. My family and my in-laws are TVs on constantly kind of people. I'm worried about accepting their help, specifically my parents who are both now retired (I work from home), will bring that into my home.
Edit to correct not retired to retired
You can ask them kindly to not use the tv in your home :) their help is essential.
@@maddiebarry5546 ya I wish that was the case but my Mom keeps telling me if I want help with child care during the week I'll need to get cable. I don't want to paint my parents as horrible people it's really just a cultural difference. It's also not the only one we have. The other big ones are around food and the emphasis on material things/status.
Love it!! I think involving the kids in cooking and baking is also a wonderful use of your time :)
Katie I would love to hear some tips on how you teach your little ones to sit still. My son is 15 months old and I would like to start implementing this but I'm not so sure how. Thanks so much! 🤗
Amazing! I have a 5 month old and will implement this as he gets older. Your family is an inspiration ❤
We just got done raising our kids. We only had a TV for a total of 5 years in the last 22. We made our kids buy their own smart phones. So they were around 14 yrs old.
If I could go back, I would have never let them get smart phones. I don't know how to keep kids from getting addicted.
As far as the TV goes, we all hate it now. If we have a chance to watch it at a family members house, we will end up turning it off. It's sooo annoying!!
My kids are slightly embarrassed when friends come over. I guess they try to explain it to their friends beforehand. Lol
6 year old loves Brain Games Sticker By Number books.
Playdough and slime
Baking soda and food coloring in vinegar mixing in little containers like medicine cups or ramekins with baby spoons over a tray.
Shaving cream and glue for puffy paint
Play kitchen and play food
Board games: Candy Land, Chutes and Ladders, The Great Cake Chase
I really loved that instead of taking out bad you just worked to add in good and the result was that the bad went away. Sometimes we try sonhard to donit the other way around without success. Thanks for sharing and I'm so glad your comments have been turned back on 😄
Stay at home mom of 3 kids 5 and under, need care of them, cook, clean … husband working out of home all day , no family or friends to help … so… I don’t like screens but, sometimes in my situation I need… my kids are active, no chance to be quiet with no attention for more than 30 min
Same, i need those half n hour of resetting the house, cook, and clean . I have no options besides switching on tv. We are non English speakers but My kids (all under 6) learnt speaking English before starting schools by watching Peppa pig and Douggie
@@K98vd04 same here foreign family so educational shows appropriate for kids help a lot
It is not easy when you have to deal with the kids alone as a mom. Me and my husband did not own a Tv until we had our third baby. My husband got too busy to be home on time to help with anything, not even on time to put them to bed at times.
Do not feel guilty for doing all you can with what you have. Our situations are not the same. If you can get time every now and then for quality time that’s great.
You are doing well mommy.
@@khomotjomalatji4600 thank you so much for your kind words 💖
I think the title of this is very humerus considering they had to use some kind of screen to upload this video…
I am a very older hsling mom so I don’t care if young moms hate me. I’ll say it.
NO SCREENS. SCREENS ARE BAD.
Dvds maybe on Fri nite for Shabbat or Sat nite to go into the new week with a treat.
Keep devices from ur kids, period.
I’m speaking from wisdom here; listen to age, young parents 🙂
(My 2 youngest are teens, I still got skin in the game…)
Someone here in comments said tapes or CDs or streaming audio
YES awesome but be careful not to do hours daily
Get outside, work on hobbies and service projects
I use classical method but slowed pace/expectations
Trivial Pursuits (Harvey & Laurie Bluedorn) has great info and several books that are for Believers esp
So glad that your channel showed up in my feed! This is something we are working toward in our home…THANK YOU for sharing this with us, it is very encouraging and helpful.
This was such an honest conversation to have with yourselves and thank you for sharing it 🙏.
Damn... I really wanna do this. Even as a single person, there are just so many benefits to zapping screen time, so that I can enjoy my life instead of feeling like some drone.
It’s great not everyone is screen-free or you’d not have a platform on the internet to make an income.
Do you spend any time watching educational TH-cam videos or online classes (as an adult), stuff of that sort? Or did you eliminate all of that too? Those types of things are what I feel like I can't give up but they also open the door to excessive screen time.
As a mama I really needed this. Thank you both for giving me things to think about 💖🙏
We have never had a TV but tablets, phones, and laptops are starting to take up a lot more time in our lives than ever. It does take way more effort to entertain the kids without the screen. And the behaviour does change in them when its turned off. Total imagination limiter. Well done!
I find your family so inspiring! I love that I feel encouraged to eliminate screens after watching your videos rather than feeling guilty for currently using them (if that makes sense). Thanks for all you guys do. So many of the systems I have implemented in my home are thanks to you guys and the Get It All Done Club.
One of our big challenges with eliminating screen time is that my husband falls asleep as soon as he reads anything to the kids 😆
Even tiny little kids books can send him off to sleep lol. He’s started recording audio of him reading in a calm voice and he manages to stay awake for that, and the kids are enjoying it. Get the bonding without daddy falling asleep on the couch 😴
Thank you for sharing. This is very true - I have decided to take it back to old school recently. To go outside, put my phone away for a few hours and go back to what I did as a kid before there was social media - before there was a tv in the house. I set boundaries within a set time to not be on any screens. Its hard but one day at a time. Love this! Keep sharing its really inspiring. Bless yas from New Zealand.
How did you get any work done/cook while babies were younger and needed lots of attention?
Do you plan on always being screen free or will there be an age when your kids can use laptops for their education, for example, and what boundaries will you have around it? I ask because I have 6 kids. 2 of them are teenagers and we didn't raise them screen free, but in the last 5 years we have adjusted and limited screen time. We also have dumbphones, no TV, no tablets - only laptops. Teenagers are only allowed to be on laptop from 12-4pm to do learning (they are homeschooled). We're raising our younger ones screen free but trying to figure out when we will allow laptops for them and what boundaries we will have around it. TH-cam has some great learning on it but also a lot of junk. Its really hard as a parent to monitor it all. We have covenant eyes on our interent too, so that helps.
congrats on this amazing talk and for making the conscious choice to control technology. How do you take pictures, make instagram stories,take videos, use GPS? If you both do not have smart phones? I have a flip phone and can not do any of it but would love more feedback!
Where is you’re velvet pink dress from?! It’s stunning and velvet is my favorite
Our kids play with Magna blocks, they are creative for hours! ❤
I was homeschooling my kids back in the 2000s. We didn't use computer curriculums, only books and hands on learning. We didn't have television service, although we did have a set (i think we had rabbit ears for a time...pbs). Ipads didnt exist yet, thank god, and smart phones were only just beginning. I got my first phone in 2009...it was a flip phone. We had movie night once a week, and all 6 of us would huddle around on the couch with the laptop with a big bowl of pizza rolls. So, "screen time" wasnt even a thing. TH-cam was still pretty new, so was Facebook (poor MySpace...shout out), and we didnt really use them. We had A pc, A laptop, and A small tv sometimes. My kids learned many skills as a result, and spent a lot of time outside.
I was screen free with my family until the pandemic Then we had a BIG scare when two of my kids 10 and 5 decided to go for a bike ride to a city 8 miles away without telling me...the pandemic took a mental toll on all of us...We used to go to hikes, and parks and museums and so much...but everything was shot down... (yes, God is great and I got my kids back 5 hrs later when the police found them). So then I decided to let them watch, not that it was prohibited we just didn't. We always had fun things to do and they never asked to watch. But our fun life ended with the screens in a way. The word bored became a thing in our house. My kids no longer were able to be creative and find things to do...My son no longer wants to go anywhere, all he wants is to be on his bed playing ,minecraft, ( there is nothing wrong with minecraft but it is wrong to be laying down ALL day in front of a screen every day). My kids were always climbing trees and having fun in the mud...I feel like the screens ruined precious moments and I am ready to fight back and stop this non sense. It was much easier when my kids were little but I have a teen and a pre teen an a 8 year old and is not as easier to cut the screens now..I wish I would have never ever started it...
I'm so thankful you're doing this as a family, and that you're sharing about it. We have seen similar benefits and blessings.
I realize I'm finding this 10 months later! I've been burdened about reducing screen time for my 5 year old. Her 4 siblings are all grown and out of the house so she is pretty much an only child. And she's terrified to be alone! I'm afraid by removing the screen it will be an all day "mommy play with me. " I want to have dedicated time to do things with her but I also need time to do what homemakers need to do! Any input? It wasn't an issue with my first 4 bc they were close in age and had each other.
I grew up without a screen period until I was 11.5 and my reading plummeted after that. We don’t own a television but recently put up a monitor for the wii and then allow leap frog but have found they want to be on them 24/7. 😬
I have debated on being smart phone free but everything from my music to photos are one it.
We do read alouds. We read aloud books. We sing nursery rhymes. I sing lullabies. We use wooden blocks and crayons with books to color. I allow him to color on the walls as I was allowed to color on the walls as a child. We go to the park, museum, library and aquarium.
Self reading is done. Listening to baby can read. No television at the house.
Take care
Im taking a step towards no screen time / very little. Ive been doing really well and have noticed a change in behavior since reducing screen time. The problem is our babysitter is my mother in law. Shes watched the boys everydah for two hours basically since birth and they love spending time with her BUT she will not adhere to this rule. What should i do? Let it go? Say she cant watch them ? Am i being ridiculous in thinking no screen time is not that big of an ask ?
Would love a video about how you create your dream boards and how you plan your year/goals/family life together.
You have little kids. It's very easy not to have screens. Wait till they're bigger....I didn't have screens either when my kids were small.
I just don't understand how you can say your a screen free family when you film a lot and air it on screens, so your aloud screens for making money and to entertain others but your kids are not aloud? Your supporting screens clearly by filming so I am just genuinely confused. I'm not hating or judging just honestly curious.
Obviously they don't need screens for work because they don't mention work, just education, entertainment and rest.
Looking for your homeschool method?
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Who did you learn from?
Do you know Carol Joy Seid?
Right, but do you see that if everyone went screen free no one would be watching your channel, and you would make zero money! I'm just saying
I’m interested in getting rid of my smart phone, but I worry about going somewhere unfamiliar getting lost. How do you handle that?
Hi! Please let me know how to inspire a partner / spouse to catch this vision. And how to find a community of parents living screen free. ❤
I truly appreciate Katie’s honesty! I’m sure it must’ve been hard to be that vulnerable but you are absolutely right!!! We all do it, I know I do. And I appreciate and grow in inspiration from your story.
And Elisha is absolutely right about the lack of ideas is truly one of the main components of not following through with time away from screens.
Thank you for this video guys.
Do you have advice for getting spouse on board? I’m usually the bad guy when it comes to screen time in our home.
Interesting you make you tube for ppl to watch on their screens. Hmmm you make money from this? Have to add not finished the video yet
Mommas of teens, what do they do to entertain themselves without screens? Our kiddos are not close in age so we have adults all the way down to one due in 4 wks…
Can you do a video or talk about how you teach your kids to sit still for longer amounts of time. That is something I struggle with as a mom of three boys.
You are a screen-free family but make videos for others’ screen? No I did not watch 👎
Do you have any advice for people who want to implement this in their home but their spouse isn’t on board? I’ve been married for 3 years, we’re about to start a family and my husband spends most all of his free time playing video games or watching something. I grew up pretty screen free and was able to make so many memories with my sibilings using our imaginations, and he was an only child with video games as his memories. I’ve tried to talk about this but it just ends up in an argument each time. I want my kids to have my childhood outdoors exploring and he wants them to have his, sharing in the video games he loved.
Who will spend the most time with the kids? If it’s you, you will have control over this, and then you can let them use screens only when dad wants them to, which shouldn’t be too much if he works out of the home. You can get to a middle ground.
Don’t argue with your husband about this especially in front of the kids. Insulting their dad in front of them will create more problems in the long run. You could only let them play video games with your husband as “daddy time” and make sure they have plenty of other activities to keep them engaged and active during other times. If your kids have negative effects from it (I.e. they stay up too late and are groggy the next morning, they are disrespectful to you for limiting them at the expense of other activities) let your husband know (respectfully!) that these things are occurring and they should be more active, read more books, do a non-screen things.
@@TULIP.1689 thank you so much that was very helpful
After watching the kids can't read tik toks I fully support this
Wish the music wasn't so loud behind the talking. Hard to hear.
Lol fireproof clip! That was a good reason to bash it though 😁
Haha, we had a good laugh over that!