Let him walk, he’s the one that got his license suspended. He didn’t think about the consequences when he was deciding to get a DUI. Something is not right here.
Easy to say when wemen file divorce %80 time why because the legally steal half men retirement and house and cars and money if I could steal half wife money I would divorce %80 time to
Yeah I was going to try to buy something in the next couple of months but now I am thinking of putting it on the back burner for another year so I can have more money saved for downpayment/ emergency fund.
George hit the nail on the head. "at some point we have to do what we don't want to do " I constantly hear these excuses about all the reasons people cannot do things, not just about finances. It all boils down to people just not wanting to do things that make them uncomfortable. It stinks, but at times in life we have to just do it. It will be a hassle, hard, frustrating and uncomfortable. If work was fun, you would not get paid. I was a restaurant manager for 20 years. I worked 60 plus hours a week and was a single mother. I enjoyed the job, but the hours stunk. It was hard, it was a struggle, but, I had to take care of my kids, so I did it. I live in Texas and I HATE mowing my lawn. It is so hot. Each week I am out there with a mower and mowing that lawn. I could make every excuse to spend the money on a service, but, I just shut up the talk in my head and go do it. This sounds like a small example, but, we are faced with a series of all these things each day, just shut out that conversation in your head and get it done. Success comes to those who hate doing things and do them anyhow.
All i see here is a lady making so many excuses for not being productive. first get your license reinstated and there are so many jobs in the healthcare even outside of the healthcare system, just get busy and embrace the uncomfortably stuffs. I love how you took your time to educate her and encourage her. we all strive towards financial stability and a better Life. It is easy to achieve this through the right investment, by living frugally and budgeting. I'm glad I learnt early in life to work hard for financial freedom
Even though I engage in investing, I feel disheartened by my lack of expertise in assessing the performance of individual companies and determining the optimal timing for stock purchases. The erosion of my financial reserves due to inflation adds to my concerns. At this point, I require precise market trajectory information, but I find myself unsure about the appropriate course of action.
@@KimberlyBurkett Considering the prevailing economic climate, I recommend seeking a mentor or a knowledgeable advisor who can provide guidance and support
@@Angela-mi8uz I have been contemplating pursuing that approach myself. I currently hold a substantial number of stocks, but their value has begun to decline, leaving me uncertain about whether to hold onto them or sell.
@@KimberlyBurkett I wholeheartedly concur, which is why I opt to entrust the day-to-day decision-making to an investing coach. With their specialized knowledge and extensive research, it is highly unlikely for them to underperform. Their expertise is centered around harnessing the asymmetrical potential of risks while also employing measures to safeguard against unfavorable outcomes. I have been collaborating with an investment coach for more than two years, and as a result, I have generated over a quarter million dollars in returns.
This was a much needed reality check for this woman. Obviously she and her husband have no one in their lives to tell them how life works. Being an adult means doing things you don't want to do.
@SoberFix -- It DID!! First it was the broken down vehicle, then the burst pipes, then she lost her job, then we found out her husband got a DUI and it's going to cost about $800 to fix that. Man, what a way to start out in marriage.
I can guarantee you that it could get worse if they kept asking her more questions. Like about the relationship. Maybe they would have gotten to the root of the problem. Maybe the husband is abusive towards her. Who knows.
When someone hires you, then fires you shortly after, with the excuse that it wasn't a good fit.... That's on her. She wasn't performing. She doesn't really want to work.
Always amazes me. The people who need the most help are the ones who have the most excuses. I have family members in the same scenario and as much as guide them its always that my car broke down, my shoes untied, or I don't have time. I make 180k a year at my job and still go to yard sales on Saturday mornings and find stuff to flip on ebay lol. My wife is stay at home and she does the shipping so it gives her something to do as well. We sell about 5 items a day and avg $15 profit per item net. Extra 2k a month. We don't need it but it's also very easy to do for literally very minimal effort. I tell relatives this and say, hey come with us I'll show you how to do this. "I'm busy this weekend. Maybe next weekend"... then hear them complain how XYZ and they can't catch a break. World moves fast, stuff comes up, how you react is how you will end up.
One line is interesting- wife is stay at home. Is she a Mom? Then I AM pretty sure she has quite a bit things to do apart from selling things on internet
@MrsUnderwriter yes stay home mom. Daughter is in 1st grade and our second on the way. She has plenty to do which is why we elected for her to stop working once our daughter was born. Even she says she enjoys the reselling cause it gets her out of the house and it's something we do together. She keeps track of all the book keeping for our little side business. She texted me this morning we are at $2,315 profit for month. Our goal is always $2200 since that is our mortgage payment. So we always tell people, we pay our mortgage with other people's trash.
You're a champ! My other half and I are 29, 2 kids, 300k mortgage, no car loans etc.. she is a stay at home mum and I'm only on 60k per year - BUT, when I was a scumbag druggie, living in a tent in my teen years, I used to steal sound systems out of people's cars - I now install them as a (cash only) side business. My normal day rate doing this is $1000/8hrs. This pays for everything.. our groceries, kids, etc.. but because I also work full-time I normally only do it 2-4 days per month. We are still not even engaged yet, but I will be doing this next year.. we've been together since we were 17, so I am pretty sure she's the one 😂
@@JaydoggX1 😂 that's awesome man.. the money we would've spent on a wedding and rings etc would mean we wouldn't have been able to purchase our house when we were 19, and if we didn't do it then, it probably wouldn't have happened still.. most of our mates are all married without a house, because they spent 20-50k (literally a house deposit) and blew it on a 1 night event.. no issues with getting married young - but no need for the stupid spending...
You can walk into Target today and start at $18 an hour. This guy needs to step it up. But also, she needs to stop messing around and get herself some kind of job. This is ridiculous. She can make $20 an hour doing doordash and completely work around his schedule until he gets a license.
He's working in a machine shop. I own a machine shop. If he's just an operator, anybody can do that position. My kids do it when they want some extra cash.
25 dollars for a CNA is dang good. It’s 15 to 18 starting in my area. You can usually get overtime with that job too, so that’s not a bad temp gig, Dave.
I teach CNA classes…after receiving certification of completion, before boards are completed our students are starting at $18.00/hr. ( 120 days of work are allowed before boards). Many local LTC facilities will sponsor(pay) for students if they agree to work for their facility for 6 months. As mentioned over time is usually available, shift diff, creative work schedules. For full time (32 hrs a week) benefits including PTO, holiday pay, insurance and help towards further education are standard. If unsponsored the classes are generally about $ 800.00 and take about 5 weeks…really not bad at all. Just a question wouldn’t it be better to work fast food than shower at MIL house?
I'm a cna and just got a raise to almost $30/hr working nights. There's unlimited overtime at the hospital I work at. I make more than her Restaraunt manager position
Definitely more. To get your license suspended for 2 years there has to be more than 1 incident. You can prevent the differential from seizing when you use something called gear oil.
She’s leaving a lot out about the job. She screwed up and they fired her. You can’t go from successfully managing a restaurant to a lesser position and not be a good fit. I’ve worked in the my whole life. Being a manager includes all duties. She can do whatever needs to be done which means she’s lying about being fired. It takes a LOT to get fired from a restaurant, they’re constantly need people. She quit because she didn’t want to work.
It's pretty easy to read between the lines on this one. They got sick of her BS and her excuses and gave her job to the senior supervisor that was busting their butt. Then she pulled the same crap with the new job and was told she's "not a good fit"
She likely managed the restaurant the same way she manages her own personal life and and finances. Non-stop excuses and no follow through on critical tasks, so they fired her.
In my small company (5-7 employees) I regularly offer my crew, weekend work to make extra money. 90% of the time, they refuse. Once they have enough to pay their bills and a little spending cash, they're fine. Then when the car breaks down or the light bill is higher than expected, they then come scrambling for weekend work! Most play the short game and never plan for the constant barrage of obstacles that hit us throughout life!
This woman has so many excuses. Apply at every restaurant in town and buy the husband a BUS PASS. The consequence for driving drunk is having to use public transportation because your wife NEEDS to work. If she thought her restaurant manager scheduld was bad, wait until she reinstates her CNA and starts working in a hospital that never closes as low man (woman) on the totem pole. 🙄
I say get her CNA license back, there are TONS of jobs in healthcare! she can work in hospitals, skilled nursing facilities, doctor's offices, urgent care centers, etc.. she can work 2 jobs right away. Bedside healthcare jobs are often paid per hour (not salaried),CNA jobs get paid per hour + night and weekend and holiday differentials (extra money) plus most jobs in healthcare offer flexible schedules. Sometimes, It is all about one's will and right mind set.
People are excuse machines. Almost every single one of us. I'm sure if you thought about it, you'd come up with 5 things you've been making excuses about too. I know I could.
A cna job at $25 an hour would get her about $48000 a year, so not bad plus its a shorter week. 37.5 hours. A 60 hour week getting $60000 a year means she only makes a bit over $19 an hour. The cna job is a much better deal, plus she could do some private duty stuff on the side, like relieving caregiving family members for their needs, like when they need to do grocery shopping etc
She lost her new manager job because "it wasn't a good fit". She must have told them she doesn't want to work 60 to 70 hours a week at the new manager position. the boss said bye felicia.
It was a 45-hour/week position; why would they expect 70 hours? If that's what they wanted they should have said it clearly. The young woman is a mess, but your theory is just that.
I like to listen to the Dave Ramsey show because it makes me feel better about myself. Especially when I hear these stories of people making terrible mistakes. Makes me say, Erich is pretty smart after all 😊😊😊❤❤❤
Dave Ramsey's insights have been a game-changer for me! His practical approach to financial management has empowered me to take control of my money and work towards a debt-free life. The Total Money Makeover is my go-to guide, and I appreciate how he breaks down complex concepts into easy-to-follow steps.
She has not worked since June? Give me a break. She's lazy. She's holding out for the management restaurant job when she should be doing anything she can get her hands on.
I am confused so correct me if I'm wrong because I just listened to one sad story after another. Her husband made a mad decision and got a DUI, as a result, his license was revoked, and she is the one facing the consequences of losing the only high-income paying job between them both and she is his driver. So when will she be bold enough and tell him he either gets a bike or walks to and from work because this is madness! If she continues driving him to and from places, how will he learn to man up? I am not throwing shades, but how can a man allow his wife to drive him around, failed to have enough cash to fix their water issue and stop going to his mama's house to shower? How do they flush their toilet?
She is lying about the job. Restaurants are constantly hiring and looking for people,, they rarely fire you for nothing. She can’t use the restaurant as a reference because she screwed up. Period.
it sounds like they haven't changed their mindset or attitude to get out of current situation. wanting to be financially free with only 1 foot in. Can't get out of a financial mess if they both aren't committed. thanks for sharing.
I can see how things happen to people and they almost get paralyzed by the events that occurred. 6 months showering at Moms, no way. God bless them, it’s a lot of stress on newly married and no money.
Yeah, if she at least gets a job, they can buy a $3,000 dollar car in a couple of months for him. She just needs to quit finding excuses and get to work. Calls like these makes me realize why so many people struggle to pay their bills. It's not that they can't, it's that they won't.
Complaining about 60 hour weeks. I LOVE getting those hours, and do what I can to get them. I have hit nearly 90 hours in a 6 day week, and will do it every chance I get. And I am not broke. They are not applying themselves.
@BarelyNoticedADD - So they've been showering at her mom's house for 6-7 months. I just wonder if their toilet is working and or how they're working around that?
Lol the jump from waiting tables to "why would you want to make 25$/hr?" was weird. She's one test away from getting a CNA immediately. THAT is the direction to go, not chasing extremely limited restaurant management positions.
If she works the same 70 hours a week as a CNA she would be making more than 60k a year. After 40 hours she would be making 38 an hour. And travel CNA's make more.
I’m glad Dave took this call and is still able to tell women who are not mothers taking care of young children to shut up and get a job. If Baloney took this call he’d be saying the husband committed financial infidelity and if she “felt safe” 🤪
You should see the call Dave & John took. Some SAHM from Texas called in and said her husband didn’t want to have a joint account, they cut her off and that mf said “I’m not gonna tell you whether or not you should stay or go.” They then went on a tirade, assassinating the man’s character and convincing her to destroy the family. Meanwhile that guy is at work providing for his family. I’m sure his worlds been turned upside down by now.
You aren't kidding, and he's not sharp enough to pick up on it, but often you can see the gears turning when he asks if they're safe, they decide that's their out for their bad decisions.
It’s great it’s just two blocks away and that she’s ok with them showering at her house. They’re lucky they aren’t showering at the YMCA or whatever because the nearest relative is 180 miles away.
There is a lot more to this story. She may be suffering with depression and/or anxiety. I hope she gets the help she needs to move forward. Best wishes.
There are these things called bikes and buses, Ubers and rides home from coworkers. I work with teenagers at a residential and when they get jobs part of the deal is they practice getting themselves back and forth. If a 16 year old can do it, this man child can do it. And im in rural Maine.
Actually, she said she was working 60-70 hrs. weekly and making 60k. She'd be better off being a c.n.a. making 50k. Then she could pick up a part time job and make another 20k or even more. So 75k in same number working hrs.
Classic example of people who make a bunch of irresponsible decisions including DUI, firing (doesn't happen to diligent responsible workers), house nightmare, leaving a secure job, etc etc. And then you become defeated. And then all of a sudden everything becomes an excuse rather than a result of your decisions. And now you're on the path where you resigned yourself to selecting choices which are going to keep you in the victim/excuse whatever mentality. I don't want to sound heartless. I mean I want these people to get motivated because they can do much better than this. But right now it's a mentality problem. Don't become the person who makes some mistakes, and then decides to live in the land of excuses, and then act like you had no choice. Dude, husband needs to get a better job. But also you're getting the second interviews, that means you're really close to getting hired. Why would you give up when you're that close? Really frustrating when it seems like they just want to select defeat. I understand it's hard to get motivated when you had a really bad streak. But that's what they need. They need motivation
Have these people any skills? Can they figure things out and learn? I'm 76 and a retired CPA and before that a retired USMC Naval Aviator, but I can figure out how to repair a toilet and shower myself. I've done it from time to time when needed. It's a bother but not difficult.
Thank you uncle Dave!!! This is real advice for their situation. Using the info she gave about income he helped her put their situation into perspective.
@@jesselarson2570 Because George said that you should only pull 4% from retirement and Dave lost his shit over it and ranted live on his show about what idiot says that. It goes against Daves 8% or more rule. Which the entire investment industry agreed with George's statement on his show. It's all over YT about dave sticking with what he really knows which is becoming debt free not investing and return pulls in retirement.
I'm worried about him. Dave might fire him at any minute. George is suffering right now, he looks nervous and not his normal self. I hope he keeps doing the right thing even though Dave can get a little nutty.
That's not honest. Being honest would be to say that you should not pull any more than 1% from retirement. If you want to enjoy money in retirement you'd better create lifelong income sources. @@NWcpl
Girl has a story for everything. We all have a story honey. I served 10 years for the federal government and can no longer work at 38 years old. Luckily I’m blessed after fighting the VA for years and social security but I’m a mess and miss working and having fruitful career. Severe osteoarthritis of the spine, ptsd, vertigo, tinnitus, insomnia, depression, you name it I have story too but no one cares. Have to fight for yourself. Life has happened to you. Imagine what military veterans do. Some are addicted to drugs and alcohol and homeless. Many of my friends are dead. There happiness is neither here nor there
As a therapist listening to this, she needs some counseling . It’s normal to feel like nothing is possible when so many things pile up. She just needs someone to sit with her and help her find solutions and get some momentum. ❤
It actually sounds as though there are problems she's not talking about. She's got excuses. Showering 2 blocks away at mom-in-law's is no big deal for a little while. 6 months AIN'T a little while. Sounds like covering for some serious lifestyle issues. I hope I'm wrong.
$25 an hour @ 40 hours a week annualized is $52k and OT is likely available and would be another $25k if she works 60 hours. I’m not following how a restaurant manager position she can’t find is a better option than just going to work as a CNA.
Not sure why she even called. She needs to get another job. At least around here, the restaurants are all desperate for workers. Also, it’s better to marry a man who is a provider.
If the market says he is worth 18$ as a machine operator just going and making 25 isn’t really likely going to happen . Dave just thinks it’s so easy to just go get a better paying job just like that , that’s the biggest thing I think Dave gets wrong regularly
This is a great example of a person who doesn't know she is in an abusive relationship. He is doing nothing really and she is losing all her independence.
Yup, bum. I also don't understand why this bathroom pipe caused the entire house to be re-gutted for plumbing. Sounds like a plumber successfully stiffed them as a way to redo the whole house, meaning the both of them have no house-smarts
@@robertrocha597 unfortunately the kind that a lot of women seem to be attracted to, delinquent, poor all just for the adrenaline rush of breaking the law with these idiots
IF they had insurance. An insurance rep would have come out to inspect the damage; a burst pipe looks very different than a pipe that may have corroded or rusted away. It seems to be a racket that people claim a burst pipe, have an emergency plumber assess as a "burst pipe" and repair the damage but not document it (e.g., images), and then the plumber is paid through the insurer. If the insurance rep beats the plumber to the damage, the homeowner is on the hook if the pipes are not actually burst.
I was gonna say, big CNA energy with this call. They're drawn to chaos. Showering and taking a dump at the in laws house and she thought it was fine not to work since June
I grew up using an outhouse we had no bathroom or kitchen or bedroom we had 2 neighbors with dirt floors 1 of which the house walls didn't connect to the ground a good portion of the world still lives without those things
@@jonassilvers2277 It sounds like you lived in a room since you say there was no kitchen or bedrooms. I grew up in a house built in the 1940s. 2 bedrooms, 1 bathroom, and the kitchen was so small.
This is why we need Dave hosting at least 4 days a week. He put pressure on her like none of the other co-hosts would.
Some of the hosts seemed to step up a bit tbh
Dave's answer to everything- work 8 jobs 100 hours a week, eat flour paste and sell your mother to get some quick cash
I only watch when I see Dave those other folks are just fillers.
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Dave should get a your broke t-shirt 😂
This woman needed someone to tell her the truth. Well done gentlemen
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1:50-“Ya’all need to write a country song.” 😂😂😂 Classic Dave.
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Starting to understand why the restaurant dropped her.
She doesn't want to do what it takes to work and to win.
Let him walk, he’s the one that got his license suspended. He didn’t think about the consequences when he was deciding to get a DUI. Something is not right here.
Easy to say when wemen file divorce %80 time why because the legally steal half men retirement and house and cars and money if I could steal half wife money I would divorce %80 time to
lol always on the man, then she needs to live on the street since she don’t get a job it’s her fault she got fired anything else?
He’s the one paying the bills lmaooo
She’d be doing him a favour by walking. He’s the one working and she’s not. She’s lazy
They’re both immature and passing the buck. Excuses excuses excuses
“well thats the other thing”
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This is the reason you have emergency funds and a flawless example of why not to buy a house when you’re not ready
Bingo. Renting is so worth it
This wasn't an emergency fund scenario, sounds like she voluntarily gave up jobs.
@@OopThereItIs77777 TRUTH!!
Yeah I was going to try to buy something in the next couple of months but now I am thinking of putting it on the back burner for another year so I can have more money saved for downpayment/ emergency fund.
ANd the EF would have not covered it.
George hit the nail on the head. "at some point we have to do what we don't want to do " I constantly hear these excuses about all the reasons people cannot do things, not just about finances. It all boils down to people just not wanting to do things that make them uncomfortable. It stinks, but at times in life we have to just do it. It will be a hassle, hard, frustrating and uncomfortable. If work was fun, you would not get paid. I was a restaurant manager for 20 years. I worked 60 plus hours a week and was a single mother. I enjoyed the job, but the hours stunk. It was hard, it was a struggle, but, I had to take care of my kids, so I did it. I live in Texas and I HATE mowing my lawn. It is so hot. Each week I am out there with a mower and mowing that lawn. I could make every excuse to spend the money on a service, but, I just shut up the talk in my head and go do it. This sounds like a small example, but, we are faced with a series of all these things each day, just shut out that conversation in your head and get it done. Success comes to those who hate doing things and do them anyhow.
Bingo. I have had fatigue for 30 years and still working
I'm In Florida.. so I cut mine every two weeks.. or I'd literally die lol😅
Single mother. But it does feel better raw doesn't it?
what an awesome woman you are! well said👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🌟🌟🌟
Well said!
All i see here is a lady making so many excuses for not being productive. first get your license reinstated and there are so many jobs in the healthcare even outside of the healthcare system, just get busy and embrace the uncomfortably stuffs. I love how you took your time to educate her and encourage her. we all strive towards financial stability and a better Life. It is easy to achieve this through the right investment, by living frugally and budgeting. I'm glad I learnt early in life to work hard for financial freedom
Even though I engage in investing, I feel disheartened by my lack of expertise in assessing the performance of individual companies and determining the optimal timing for stock purchases. The erosion of my financial reserves due to inflation adds to my concerns. At this point, I require precise market trajectory information, but I find myself unsure about the appropriate course of action.
@@KimberlyBurkett Considering the prevailing economic climate, I recommend seeking a mentor or a knowledgeable advisor who can provide guidance and support
@@Angela-mi8uz I have been contemplating pursuing that approach myself. I currently hold a substantial number of stocks, but their value has begun to decline, leaving me uncertain about whether to hold onto them or sell.
@@KimberlyBurkett I wholeheartedly concur, which is why I opt to entrust the day-to-day decision-making to an investing coach. With their specialized knowledge and extensive research, it is highly unlikely for them to underperform. Their expertise is centered around harnessing the asymmetrical potential of risks while also employing measures to safeguard against unfavorable outcomes. I have been collaborating with an investment coach for more than two years, and as a result, I have generated over a quarter million dollars in returns.
@@Angela-mi8uz Interesting, I could really use the expertise of this advisors, who's the person guiding you?
"recently lost my job"
"when did you lose your job?"
"June" 😮
This was a much needed reality check for this woman. Obviously she and her husband have no one in their lives to tell them how life works. Being an adult means doing things you don't want to do.
This call just gets bad to worse the longer it goes on.
@SoberFix -- It DID!! First it was the broken down vehicle, then the burst pipes, then she lost her job, then we found out her husband got a DUI and it's going to cost about $800 to fix that. Man, what a way to start out in marriage.
I can guarantee you that it could get worse if they kept asking her more questions. Like about the relationship. Maybe they would have gotten to the root of the problem. Maybe the husband is abusive towards her. Who knows.
When someone hires you, then fires you shortly after, with the excuse that it wasn't a good fit.... That's on her. She wasn't performing. She doesn't really want to work.
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Always amazes me. The people who need the most help are the ones who have the most excuses. I have family members in the same scenario and as much as guide them its always that my car broke down, my shoes untied, or I don't have time. I make 180k a year at my job and still go to yard sales on Saturday mornings and find stuff to flip on ebay lol. My wife is stay at home and she does the shipping so it gives her something to do as well. We sell about 5 items a day and avg $15 profit per item net. Extra 2k a month. We don't need it but it's also very easy to do for literally very minimal effort. I tell relatives this and say, hey come with us I'll show you how to do this. "I'm busy this weekend. Maybe next weekend"... then hear them complain how XYZ and they can't catch a break. World moves fast, stuff comes up, how you react is how you will end up.
One line is interesting- wife is stay at home. Is she a Mom? Then I AM pretty sure she has quite a bit things to do apart from selling things on internet
@MrsUnderwriter yes stay home mom. Daughter is in 1st grade and our second on the way. She has plenty to do which is why we elected for her to stop working once our daughter was born. Even she says she enjoys the reselling cause it gets her out of the house and it's something we do together. She keeps track of all the book keeping for our little side business. She texted me this morning we are at $2,315 profit for month. Our goal is always $2200 since that is our mortgage payment. So we always tell people, we pay our mortgage with other people's trash.
You're a champ!
My other half and I are 29, 2 kids, 300k mortgage, no car loans etc.. she is a stay at home mum and I'm only on 60k per year - BUT, when I was a scumbag druggie, living in a tent in my teen years, I used to steal sound systems out of people's cars - I now install them as a (cash only) side business. My normal day rate doing this is $1000/8hrs.
This pays for everything.. our groceries, kids, etc.. but because I also work full-time I normally only do it 2-4 days per month.
We are still not even engaged yet, but I will be doing this next year.. we've been together since we were 17, so I am pretty sure she's the one 😂
@mattthomson3134 we are 35 and have been together since 16. I waited 10 years before proposed lol. So right there with you.
@@JaydoggX1 😂 that's awesome man.. the money we would've spent on a wedding and rings etc would mean we wouldn't have been able to purchase our house when we were 19, and if we didn't do it then, it probably wouldn't have happened still.. most of our mates are all married without a house, because they spent 20-50k (literally a house deposit) and blew it on a 1 night event.. no issues with getting married young - but no need for the stupid spending...
She has an excuse for every question they threw at her 😂😂😂
And she’s making excuses for him too!
You can walk into Target today and start at $18 an hour. This guy needs to step it up. But also, she needs to stop messing around and get herself some kind of job. This is ridiculous. She can make $20 an hour doing doordash and completely work around his schedule until he gets a license.
He's working in a machine shop. I own a machine shop. If he's just an operator, anybody can do that position. My kids do it when they want some extra cash.
Not everyone wants to do retail.
@@jimmymcgill6778I'd go homeless before working retail
@@jimmymcgill6778too bad. If you need money you do what you have to. Your attitude will make sure you stay poor, just like this lady.
@@jimmymcgill6778 giving those worst takes as usual. Atta girl.
People keep looking for the easy answer when (SPOILERS!) the answer is always hard work and taking responsibility.
Yup
Screw working 60 hours a week, unless it's your own business it ain't worth it. Your health takes a toll, you'll burn out quicker. Not worth it.
@@ChrisP-in8qrexactly
They're in debt. They can do it for 2 years
@@georgewagner7787 lol yeah screw your health! Have had it! Why not 70 hours!
25 dollars for a CNA is dang good. It’s 15 to 18 starting in my area. You can usually get overtime with that job too, so that’s not a bad temp gig, Dave.
I teach CNA classes…after receiving certification of completion, before boards are completed our students are starting at $18.00/hr. ( 120 days of work are allowed before boards). Many local LTC facilities will sponsor(pay) for students if they agree to work for their facility for 6 months. As mentioned over time is usually available, shift diff, creative work schedules. For full time (32 hrs a week) benefits including PTO, holiday pay, insurance and help towards further education are standard. If unsponsored the classes are generally about $ 800.00 and take about 5 weeks…really not bad at all. Just a question wouldn’t it be better to work fast food than shower at MIL house?
I'm a cna and just got a raise to almost $30/hr working nights. There's unlimited overtime at the hospital I work at. I make more than her Restaraunt manager position
Think Dave was confused he thought it was 25k a year not 25k an hour
I LOVE LOVE LOVE Dave’s direct approach! No one has time to coddle grown a** people with all of their excuses! BE ACCOUNTABLE!
There are more underlying issues she's not talking about, than all these bad things that happened this past year.
Yeah there is something
yep!
Definitely more. To get your license suspended for 2 years there has to be more than 1 incident. You can prevent the differential from seizing when you use something called gear oil.
There’s a reason she is avoiding management!
She’s leaving a lot out about the job. She screwed up and they fired her. You can’t go from successfully managing a restaurant to a lesser position and not be a good fit. I’ve worked in the my whole life. Being a manager includes all duties. She can do whatever needs to be done which means she’s lying about being fired. It takes a LOT to get fired from a restaurant, they’re constantly need people. She quit because she didn’t want to work.
just because they need people does not mean you cannot get fired,
It's pretty easy to read between the lines on this one. They got sick of her BS and her excuses and gave her job to the senior supervisor that was busting their butt. Then she pulled the same crap with the new job and was told she's "not a good fit"
She likely managed the restaurant the same way she manages her own personal life and and finances. Non-stop excuses and no follow through on critical tasks, so they fired her.
I dont think she screwed up she just buckled and wasn't performing a high demand/high hours job well, so they let her go
In my small company (5-7 employees) I regularly offer my crew, weekend work to make extra money. 90% of the time, they refuse. Once they have enough to pay their bills and a little spending cash, they're fine. Then when the car breaks down or the light bill is higher than expected, they then come scrambling for weekend work!
Most play the short game and never plan for the constant barrage of obstacles that hit us throughout life!
You shouldn’t have to work ridiculous overtime all the time to afford surprise expenses on a cut up lifestyle. It’s ridiculous.
@andrewsnyder9262 Anyone that lives their life on 'SHOULD' is in big trouble!
@@rillawhat8142 I don’t disagree; doesn’t change the fact that it’s fked off.
This woman has so many excuses. Apply at every restaurant in town and buy the husband a BUS PASS. The consequence for driving drunk is having to use public transportation because your wife NEEDS to work. If she thought her restaurant manager scheduld was bad, wait until she reinstates her CNA and starts working in a hospital that never closes as low man (woman) on the totem pole. 🙄
Exactly!! Healthcare is a 24/7 job and as a CNA she’s not going to get holidays off like she may have in the restaurant business.
I say get her CNA license back, there are TONS of jobs in healthcare! she can work in hospitals, skilled nursing facilities, doctor's offices, urgent care centers, etc.. she can work 2 jobs right away. Bedside healthcare jobs are often paid per hour (not salaried),CNA jobs get paid per hour + night and weekend and holiday differentials (extra money) plus most jobs in healthcare offer flexible schedules. Sometimes, It is all about one's will and right mind set.
I thought the same thing.
You’re absolutely right even with the one CNA job doing overtime at time and half 1 or 2 days a week she will be making 60k or more yearly.
Amazing what excuses people use for dumb decisions
“hi Im unemployed, hubby has a DUI and we rely on our parents how do we win in life?” 😅
People are excuse machines. Almost every single one of us. I'm sure if you thought about it, you'd come up with 5 things you've been making excuses about too. I know I could.
@@mybdayis420 That pretty much sums up this whole call. LOL
Excuse after excuse never ending
A cna job at $25 an hour would get her about $48000 a year, so not bad plus its a shorter week. 37.5 hours. A 60 hour week getting $60000 a year means she only makes a bit over $19 an hour. The cna job is a much better deal, plus she could do some private duty stuff on the side, like relieving caregiving family members for their needs, like when they need to do grocery shopping etc
This is what I was thinking. Less hours.
She lost her new manager job because "it wasn't a good fit". She must have told them she doesn't want to work 60 to 70 hours a week at the new manager position. the boss said bye felicia.
It was a 45-hour/week position; why would they expect 70 hours? If that's what they wanted they should have said it clearly. The young woman is a mess, but your theory is just that.
Good gravy, six months is a VERY long time to go without any working bathroom facility in your own home
So why not fix it themselves? It's a bother but "look at it, think about it, figure it out". Often too, TH-cam will have a video about it.
@@michaelwoods4495"Well, that's the other thing, they can't even get their car fixed.
I am a claims adjuster with over 45 years experience. What they described is what is called bursting of plumbing, a covered cause of loss.
I too am a claims adjuster and the information she gave would not be anywhere near enough to make a determination of coverage.
Yall would need to pay for them to stay in a hotel as well.
You can find a reason to do something, or you can make an excuse not to.
I like to listen to the Dave Ramsey show because it makes me feel better about myself. Especially when I hear these stories of people making terrible mistakes. Makes me say, Erich is pretty smart after all 😊😊😊❤❤❤
@ErichH68 -- Gordon Ramsey? This is DAVE Ramsey. Gordon Ramsey is on Hell's Kitchen and other cooking shows.
Dave Ramsey's insights have been a game-changer for me! His practical approach to financial management has empowered me to take control of my money and work towards a debt-free life. The Total Money Makeover is my go-to guide, and I appreciate how he breaks down complex concepts into easy-to-follow steps.
This is a mess & she don’t want to work.. Case close…plus, she has to many excuses..
The Undertaker had a pulse when he fought Mr. McMahon in a casket match. They confirmed it prior to the match.
@@Primitive_CodeYou are correct he did, but Mr McMahon didn't have a pulse because he has no heart
She has not worked since June? Give me a break. She's lazy. She's holding out for the management restaurant job when she should be doing anything she can get her hands on.
This call is crazy.
Narrow minded, excuses, excuses, narrow minded, excuses, excuses.
Nobody can smackdown like Dave. Good on him for calling her out!
This whole story is a dang Country Song.
And where is the bass boat?
Looked like she picked a winner.
They both sound like winners. Lol
@@WookieSenshi Seriously, it's so easy to just blame the guy, but they're clearly in the same boat.
No she made piss poor decisions too
@peteranon8455 it pisses me off how nutty they are
I expect their next step in life will be- Let’s have a baby!😂
My husband and I car pooled for 40 years, we always only had one car. This sounds like an irresponsible guy, your DL isn’t suspended for just one DWI
If you are convicted of a DUI, your driver’s license will be suspended in AZ and many other States.
It is called Mandatory.
I am confused so correct me if I'm wrong because I just listened to one sad story after another.
Her husband made a mad decision and got a DUI, as a result, his license was revoked, and she is the one facing the consequences of losing the only high-income paying job between them both and she is his driver.
So when will she be bold enough and tell him he either gets a bike or walks to and from work because this is madness!
If she continues driving him to and from places, how will he learn to man up?
I am not throwing shades, but how can a man allow his wife to drive him around, failed to have enough cash to fix their water issue and stop going to his mama's house to shower? How do they flush their toilet?
Too many excuses and too many bad things happening for this to be just bad luck. You can bet there are some behavior pattens underneath it all.
Why would she want to go back to CNA instead of trying to still be a restaurant manager? It pays like 30k -35k a year when she can make double. 😑
Nurses make more then that.
@@jimmymcgill6778 THAT IS NOT A NURSE! THAT IS AN ADULT BUTT WIPER.
She is lying about the job. Restaurants are constantly hiring and looking for people,, they rarely fire you for nothing. She can’t use the restaurant as a reference because she screwed up. Period.
25 an hour is not 30k
@@jimmymcgill6778not if youre just a cna 😂
it sounds like they haven't changed their mindset or attitude to get out of current situation. wanting to be financially free with only 1 foot in. Can't get out of a financial mess if they both aren't committed. thanks for sharing.
the term "financially free" is stupid lol
Excuses are tools used by the incompetent.. those who use them seldom accomplish anything
I can see how things happen to people and they almost get paralyzed by the events that occurred. 6 months showering at Moms, no way. God bless them, it’s a lot of stress on newly married and no money.
He's a grown man. He can ride the bus, Uber, bike, or something. I get it that things are tough but I also call bull.
Yeah, if she at least gets a job, they can buy a $3,000 dollar car in a couple of months for him. She just needs to quit finding excuses and get to work. Calls like these makes me realize why so many people struggle to pay their bills. It's not that they can't, it's that they won't.
I've seen it many many times in jobs like that working as machine operator in a factory and paying a coworker for gas to ride together....
@@Bamapride1985not one person can give him a ride close enough to walk or catch a bus? He sounds like a pampered loser.
How does one a get a CNA when their dog keeps eating their homework?
I gave myself a concussion smacking my head against the wall listening to her goofy excuses.
Where does a CNA make $25 an hour?
many places now, LPNs make 150k
Complaining about 60 hour weeks. I LOVE getting those hours, and do what I can to get them. I have hit nearly 90 hours in a 6 day week, and will do it every chance I get. And I am not broke. They are not applying themselves.
Why didn't she return to her first gig and ask for her job back. It was only two weeks. 😂
Dave's fuse gets shorter and shorter
Yes, looking for work sucks. But being in debt with no shower or other running water sucks worse.
@BarelyNoticedADD - So they've been showering at her mom's house for 6-7 months. I just wonder if their toilet is working and or how they're working around that?
Dave steam rolled George 3 times in this one clip, but he hung in there and finally got a word in at the end. You go George!!! lol
Poor George looks nervous and not himself given the recent drama. I would be scared sitting next to Dave too. I hope things work out for George.
@@ryankiel4895What recent drama?
@@kamilahdouglas1609Dave tore into George regarding retirement fund withdrawal percentages, which clashed with Dave’s opinion
George, are you safe?
George is kind of a pushover 😬
Sh_t I did some thing I hated for 17 years! Just so I could have some money. People need to reevaluate their values and priorities!
This is 90% their fault. Hard to feel bad for people like this.
Lol the jump from waiting tables to "why would you want to make 25$/hr?" was weird. She's one test away from getting a CNA immediately. THAT is the direction to go, not chasing extremely limited restaurant management positions.
Cna’s don’t make no money
If she works the same 70 hours a week as a CNA she would be making more than 60k a year. After 40 hours she would be making 38 an hour. And travel CNA's make more.
@@reese85 dumb comment
People constantly find excuses to buy a new car, oh I have to spend 2000$ on my car therefore I need a new car.
People are filled with excuses.
Fix the pipes yourself go buy the parts at your local home depot or Lowes and watch TH-cam on how to do it
I’m glad Dave took this call and is still able to tell women who are not mothers taking care of young children to shut up and get a job. If Baloney took this call he’d be saying the husband committed financial infidelity and if she “felt safe” 🤪
Dave is finally realizing the BS that women come on here and spew. I’ve been seeing him hold women strictly accountable as of late. Atta boy, Dave!
You should see the call Dave & John took. Some SAHM from Texas called in and said her husband didn’t want to have a joint account, they cut her off and that mf said “I’m not gonna tell you whether or not you should stay or go.” They then went on a tirade, assassinating the man’s character and convincing her to destroy the family. Meanwhile that guy is at work providing for his family. I’m sure his worlds been turned upside down by now.
Yup John never holds the woman accountable. Had to unsubscribe from his channel because abuse he panders so bad.
You aren't kidding, and he's not sharp enough to pick up on it, but often you can see the gears turning when he asks if they're safe, they decide that's their out for their bad decisions.
Sometimes at life when things are not looking good, you just shut up and work and work and work.
It's only 800ish dollars to get his license reinstated. That is sad people are in that kind of situation.
Its more sad for people that they are making excuses just to solve their problem
It’s great it’s just two blocks away and that she’s ok with them showering at her house. They’re lucky they aren’t showering at the YMCA or whatever because the nearest relative is 180 miles away.
There is a lot more to this story. She may be suffering with depression and/or anxiety. I hope she gets the help she needs to move forward. Best wishes.
“As broke as you are? Go make you some money”
There are these things called bikes and buses, Ubers and rides home from coworkers. I work with teenagers at a residential and when they get jobs part of the deal is they practice getting themselves back and forth. If a 16 year old can do it, this man child can do it. And im in rural Maine.
God bless you 😇💙💙💙💙it's not easy working with teenagers at a residential center.
Actually, she said she was working 60-70 hrs. weekly and making 60k. She'd be better off being a c.n.a. making 50k. Then she could pick up a part time job and make another 20k or even more. So 75k in same number working hrs.
so… if I got this straight, he drinks and drives, and she’s lazy…?
Nailed it
where are all these $20-25 /hr jobs they’re saying you can just go get right now. entry level job market is a joke today
Classic example of people who make a bunch of irresponsible decisions including DUI, firing (doesn't happen to diligent responsible workers), house nightmare, leaving a secure job, etc etc.
And then you become defeated. And then all of a sudden everything becomes an excuse rather than a result of your decisions.
And now you're on the path where you resigned yourself to selecting choices which are going to keep you in the victim/excuse whatever mentality.
I don't want to sound heartless. I mean I want these people to get motivated because they can do much better than this.
But right now it's a mentality problem. Don't become the person who makes some mistakes, and then decides to live in the land of excuses, and then act like you had no choice.
Dude, husband needs to get a better job. But also you're getting the second interviews, that means you're really close to getting hired. Why would you give up when you're that close?
Really frustrating when it seems like they just want to select defeat. I understand it's hard to get motivated when you had a really bad streak. But that's what they need. They need motivation
"You need three jobs paying $25/hr! WHY AREN'T YOUR WORKING?!?" LOL out of touch much?
Watching from England, learning so much thank you!! 🇬🇧
things are different here. When you lose your job, you have no health care, hope you don't have a heart attack
6:20: Dave, $25 an hour is $65k a year gross pay. (50 hrs a week)
Have these people any skills? Can they figure things out and learn? I'm 76 and a retired CPA and before that a retired USMC Naval Aviator, but I can figure out how to repair a toilet and shower myself. I've done it from time to time when needed. It's a bother but not difficult.
Thank you uncle Dave!!! This is real advice for their situation. Using the info she gave about income he helped her put their situation into perspective.
Glad that George is still there. He deserves to be there for being honest.
Why wouldn't he be there?
@@jesselarson2570 Because George said that you should only pull 4% from retirement and Dave lost his shit over it and ranted live on his show about what idiot says that. It goes against Daves 8% or more rule. Which the entire investment industry agreed with George's statement on his show. It's all over YT about dave sticking with what he really knows which is becoming debt free not investing and return pulls in retirement.
I'm worried about him. Dave might fire him at any minute. George is suffering right now, he looks nervous and not his normal self. I hope he keeps doing the right thing even though Dave can get a little nutty.
That's not honest. Being honest would be to say that you should not pull any more than 1% from retirement. If you want to enjoy money in retirement you'd better create lifelong income sources. @@NWcpl
Girl has a story for everything. We all have a story honey. I served 10 years for the federal government and can no longer work at 38 years old. Luckily I’m blessed after fighting the VA for years and social security but I’m a mess and miss working and having fruitful career. Severe osteoarthritis of the spine, ptsd, vertigo, tinnitus, insomnia, depression, you name it I have story too but no one cares. Have to fight for yourself. Life has happened to you. Imagine what military veterans do. Some are addicted to drugs and alcohol and homeless. Many of my friends are dead. There happiness is neither here nor there
“You’re like a world-class gymnast” … because I love you and I want you to win.
You know the markets hit a new level when Amazon throws in their AMS79X and suddenly everyone wants a piece of the pie.
SCAM
As a therapist listening to this, she needs some counseling . It’s normal to feel like nothing is possible when so many things pile up. She just needs someone to sit with her and help her find solutions and get some momentum. ❤
Bet she's got a reason for counseling not being possible
Did you not listen to the whole call. They can't afford to fix their bathroom let alone therapy.
It actually sounds as though there are problems she's not talking about. She's got excuses. Showering 2 blocks away at mom-in-law's is no big deal for a little while. 6 months AIN'T a little while. Sounds like covering for some serious lifestyle issues. I hope I'm wrong.
$25 an hour @ 40 hours a week annualized is $52k and OT is likely available and would be another $25k if she works 60 hours. I’m not following how a restaurant manager position she can’t find is a better option than just going to work as a CNA.
$25 an hour is 52k a year for forty hours, working just 10 hours more puts her over 60 without the stress, restaurant work sucks .
Dave was right...they should write a country song!!! Lol!!!
Good story, well written
Do they have kids? If not they should sell the home, split up, and she should move back with her parents
Not sure why she even called. She needs to get another job. At least around here, the restaurants are all desperate for workers. Also, it’s better to marry a man who is a provider.
I see the problem here, her husband is a deadbeat who likes to drink.
And she picked him!
If the market says he is worth 18$ as a machine operator just going and making 25 isn’t really likely going to happen . Dave just thinks it’s so easy to just go get a better paying job just like that , that’s the biggest thing I think Dave gets wrong regularly
No he doesn't. He correctly believes whether something is "easy" or not is irrelevant. When you've got to do it, you've got to do it, hard or easy.
This is a great example of a person who doesn't know she is in an abusive relationship. He is doing nothing really and she is losing all her independence.
Yup, bum. I also don't understand why this bathroom pipe caused the entire house to be re-gutted for plumbing. Sounds like a plumber successfully stiffed them as a way to redo the whole house, meaning the both of them have no house-smarts
@@RJWaynerium what kind of guy allows his wife to take such loses. I agree a bum.
@@robertrocha597 unfortunately the kind that a lot of women seem to be attracted to, delinquent, poor all just for the adrenaline rush of breaking the law with these idiots
@@RJWaynerium I agree. Fun and dumb. That is the reason you have to hang on to the one you have now. Haha
unless she was lying about her 60K income......
If the pipes bust internally, the insurance is usually required to cover that from what I understand. Anyone know differently?
IF they had insurance. An insurance rep would have come out to inspect the damage; a burst pipe looks very different than a pipe that may have corroded or rusted away. It seems to be a racket that people claim a burst pipe, have an emergency plumber assess as a "burst pipe" and repair the damage but not document it (e.g., images), and then the plumber is paid through the insurer.
If the insurance rep beats the plumber to the damage, the homeowner is on the hook if the pipes are not actually burst.
Exceptions to coverage: aluminum wiring, Poly ButaD piping
Ive never heard of CNAs making that much. Ive only seen $12- $15 an hour. Sounds like a really underappreciated job. Smh
Geez she’s got an excuse for everything!!Including that husband of hers.
After the caller said she lost her job, the words "country song" popped in my head and then Dave said it!
I was gonna say, big CNA energy with this call. They're drawn to chaos. Showering and taking a dump at the in laws house and she thought it was fine not to work since June
That saying “I can do bad by myself” 😂
😂
I grew up using an outhouse we had no bathroom or kitchen or bedroom we had 2 neighbors with dirt floors 1 of which the house walls didn't connect
to the ground a good portion of the world still lives without those things
My mother grew up similarly in 1950s/60s Nashville! Kudos to tough people like y’all!
No kitchen or bedrooms? Did you live in a cardboard box or something?
@@strangeroamer3219 no just a very old home
@@jonassilvers2277 It sounds like you lived in a room since you say there was no kitchen or bedrooms. I grew up in a house built in the 1940s. 2 bedrooms, 1 bathroom, and the kitchen was so small.
What a mess
Love Dave’s hard truth. 😊