But if you go at a fast pace unintentionally, the right guy for you wouldn't just leave right? If you go at a fast pace and he leaves, then that just means he wasn't the right guy. I don't see the reason why anyone would slow down if both parties are interesested. If he wants to leave, he's gonna leave regardless of the pace.
Yes, I had a break up for 3 weeks with a guy I dated, we went too fast and he came back two ago ago and he introduced me to his friends , we going slow and steady … not too fast you don’t know the person …
I hold the belief that you both need to maintain a level of dignity, self-respect, and distance, which is why it sometimes isn’t “meant to be” And we can’t help the emotions that we feel, so I think the idea of destiny may tie more into our behaviors than the other way around sometimes. So also don’t feel bad for being too excited and opening up, to a degree.
We actually do have to play a game to somewhat of a degree. Not a bad game. Not bad, cheap, extremely toxic (sludge level- I think some “toxicity” is good so I usually don’t like using the term) games. But keep things interesting, move slowly (in your interest towards him- if he proposes quickly through natural means and a marriage goes through then I think that is good- he should show he likes you first is what I mean mostly) and maintain a bit of distance and aloofness, while also providing love. Those are my thoughts I think.
This happened to me recently. A bunch of people in my church were pushing me and this single guy together who was visiting from out of town. I met him and wasn’t initially attracted but he began texting me a lot like “good morning! Hope you have a good day! “ “what are you doing” kinda stuff. It was TOO much. I don’t even know him like that to be texting so much. Anyways, I stopped responding, he got the picture, and now he’s gone 😂
On my 3rd date, he gave me an acrylic self portrait. It was way too soon. But when I talked to my friends (and a guy friend) they all said he’s being nice and definitely look at it as a green light. Turned out to be the most painful relationship I’ve ever had because he eventually cheated.
@@sammyocgirl7411 yeah is that weird? Lol. It takes me a long time to be attracted to some men and I just wasn’t attracted to him like that yet. He was still gaining my interest. Just made me feel like he was acting like we had a physical rapport when we didn’t yet.
Agreed. I'm at the moment like, "I like you, but that doesnt mean I want to date you" and just having fun with him until he makes up his mind, while setting boundaries. He is respecting me and my boundaries, so things are looking good 🤗
Elliot you know exactly what you’re talking about. I actually feel love bombed and this “fork” feels like the discard moment. Ladies beware of this.. I am told he cared about me a lot but needs space after 2 months to tend to some life situations. I am in pain and shock. Listen to Elliot. Slow. Down.
Jenna I went through almost the same situation. It took 5 love bombing dates with not too much space in between in order for him start telling me he did need his pace, that in the summer he would be working a lot and finally the cherry on the top: he did he thought he didn’t have any baggage but realized he did. All of this because in the very beginning I stated what I wanted in a relationship and told him it would be better to lay everything out before hand than resent each other afterwards and he was on board. Long story short I reminded him about our previous conversation and said it was non negotiable. After that he went silent for the whole day, plus 4 but who is counting? 😂 I texted him and waited his answer for more 2 days and I had no repply whatsoever. With that being said I had nothing to do but cut him loose and move on. The sad part is: he and I are on our 60’s what means there is no age limits for a man’s BS. GOOD LUCK for all the ladies out there. We need to be smart, date smart and choose wisely!
I've been learning to set boundaries with a guy lately, and I've never better. In the past I would let a guy drag me along with whatever he wanted out of fear of losing him, but now I set boundaries and show (don't tell) him that he needs to work/wait for me. When he respects my boundaries, it interestingly enough makes me trust him more and respect him back, and it qualifies him as boyfriend material to me. It's this back and forth dance of the man moving closer, and the woman pacing him but not pushing him away, and him still staying there because he's interested, and then the woman can let him in on her terms, and the man feels like he worked for his reward, and thus will appreciate her more. It's amazing, to say the least. 😊
I'm so pround of youuuu! Even though I have no merit, hahah. You are awesome! Keep doing the good work. Boundaries changed my life A LOT, and only for the better.
Dealing with this now. Started dating my boyfriend nearly 5 months ago. Things were great, and then he started to distance himself for like a couple weeks and then he broke up w me. Thing is, I felt like HE was the one overinvesting, yet he is also the one who said we need to move slower
Thanks for the video. There is this guy I know I never dated but I know people who have and he just has a new girl in which he posts on his facebook profile every six months before dropping them and he seems to be doing to much to fast with them it’s so sad and not fair to these women
He's right investment. I'm trying to get my daugther to know she has to try to talk, smile to guys so they think you like him. She doesn't do this; she's a little standoffish. I said he'll return 10 fold if he likes you if you just smile at him. Oh, no. he mentions a sports game. I do not consider going to someone's game a date. We've dealt with the hockey player schedule. It takes a lot of time at these games. Don't put too much in the sport even if the guy IS/does play a sport (unless it's serious). Well, my daughter goes in with I'm going to this event, we'll see if there's a guy there I run into. She NEVER makes it seem that she's at the event for a specific guy.
I’m still super confused on how to spot ; is he really either 1- unavailable emot. Or 2- just playing the emotionally unavailable to keep me around while still looking for others
Would fast pace be if you not ready for a relationship but y’all still talking not relationship yet, and he says he wants to marry you and he loves you and he wants you guys to go on trips? But apparent he was messing around with another girl while talking to you?
Hello chicken would you do some when you meet a guy and how to read a guy we need the next part your awesome and we need you to go more in depth please 🙏
But if you go at a fast pace unintentionally, the right guy for you wouldn't just leave right? If you go at a fast pace and he leaves, then that just means he wasn't the right guy. I don't see the reason why anyone would slow down if both parties are interesested. If he wants to leave, he's gonna leave regardless of the pace.
Yes, I had a break up for 3 weeks with a guy I dated, we went too fast and he came back two ago ago and he introduced me to his friends , we going slow and steady … not too fast you don’t know the person …
I also try to be logical and go steady …
That is exactly my problem. It’s all good then suddenly leaves
I hold the belief that you both need to maintain a level of dignity, self-respect, and distance, which is why it sometimes isn’t “meant to be”
And we can’t help the emotions that we feel, so I think the idea of destiny may tie more into our behaviors than the other way around sometimes. So also don’t feel bad for being too excited and opening up, to a degree.
We actually do have to play a game to somewhat of a degree. Not a bad game. Not bad, cheap, extremely toxic (sludge level- I think some “toxicity” is good so I usually don’t like using the term) games. But keep things interesting, move slowly (in your interest towards him- if he proposes quickly through natural means and a marriage goes through then I think that is good- he should show he likes you first is what I mean mostly) and maintain a bit of distance and aloofness, while also providing love. Those are my thoughts I think.
and your cat 🐈⬛ is an active participant 😍
This happened to me recently. A bunch of people in my church were pushing me and this single guy together who was visiting from out of town. I met him and wasn’t initially attracted but he began texting me a lot like “good morning! Hope you have a good day! “ “what are you doing” kinda stuff. It was TOO much. I don’t even know him like that to be texting so much. Anyways, I stopped responding, he got the picture, and now he’s gone 😂
The kitty 😺 😍 ♥️
Best segment:
“Elliot’s hair check at the end of this video “
😄😃😀
On my 3rd date, he gave me an acrylic self portrait. It was way too soon. But when I talked to my friends (and a guy friend) they all said he’s being nice and definitely look at it as a green light.
Turned out to be the most painful relationship I’ve ever had because he eventually cheated.
Men will always take men’s aide
Love your cat!
I like that! I wanna a boyfriend, but not necessarily you. Slow down. Thank you!
I got weirded out by a guy I went on 2 dates with that wanted to hold my hand in my lap while driving. That was too fast for me lol.
really?
@@sammyocgirl7411 yeah is that weird? Lol. It takes me a long time to be attracted to some men and I just wasn’t attracted to him like that yet. He was still gaining my interest. Just made me feel like he was acting like we had a physical rapport when we didn’t yet.
That’s desperate. He wanted an attractive woman to touch and didn’t care about the person attached to it.
I felt the same when a guy kissed me on the forehead on our first date lol
I had a guy grab my face and plant a kiss on me the second date. It freaked me out, I never went back out with him!
Love your cat in the background chillin 🐈
Agreed. I'm at the moment like, "I like you, but that doesnt mean I want to date you" and just having fun with him until he makes up his mind, while setting boundaries. He is respecting me and my boundaries, so things are looking good 🤗
Elliot you know exactly what you’re talking about. I actually feel love bombed and this “fork” feels like the discard moment. Ladies beware of this.. I am told he cared about me a lot but needs space after 2 months to tend to some life situations. I am in pain and shock. Listen to Elliot. Slow. Down.
Jenna I went through almost the same situation. It took 5 love bombing dates with not too much space in between in order for him start telling me he did need his pace, that in the summer he would be working a lot and finally the cherry on the top: he did he thought he didn’t have any baggage but realized he did. All of this because in the very beginning I stated what I wanted in a relationship and told him it would be better to lay everything out before hand than resent each other afterwards and he was on board. Long story short I reminded him about our previous conversation and said it was non negotiable.
After that he went silent for the whole day, plus 4 but who is counting? 😂 I texted him and waited his answer for more 2 days and I had no repply whatsoever. With that being said I had nothing to do but cut him loose and move on.
The sad part is: he and I are on our 60’s what means there is no age limits for a man’s BS.
GOOD LUCK for all the ladies out there.
We need to be smart, date smart and choose wisely!
Good Evening, Elliot Thank you for the video very much appreciated
It would be nice to have a video about this “fork in the road” moment and how to handle it
Great idea
Babe you do nothing. You're welcome.
Wow I literally visualized a fork in the road yesterday with my “moving too fast” situation.
I've been learning to set boundaries with a guy lately, and I've never better. In the past I would let a guy drag me along with whatever he wanted out of fear of losing him, but now I set boundaries and show (don't tell) him that he needs to work/wait for me. When he respects my boundaries, it interestingly enough makes me trust him more and respect him back, and it qualifies him as boyfriend material to me.
It's this back and forth dance of the man moving closer, and the woman pacing him but not pushing him away, and him still staying there because he's interested, and then the woman can let him in on her terms, and the man feels like he worked for his reward, and thus will appreciate her more. It's amazing, to say the least. 😊
I'm so pround of youuuu! Even though I have no merit, hahah.
You are awesome! Keep doing the good work. Boundaries changed my life A LOT, and only for the better.
Great advice and very true. Learned that.
Dealing with this now. Started dating my boyfriend nearly 5 months ago. Things were great, and then he started to distance himself for like a couple weeks and then he broke up w me. Thing is, I felt like HE was the one overinvesting, yet he is also the one who said we need to move slower
Thanks for the video. There is this guy I know I never dated but I know people who have and he just has a new girl in which he posts on his facebook profile every six months before dropping them and he seems to be doing to much to fast with them it’s so sad and not fair to these women
You need to change the batteries in your clock 😜
The cat! 😆
I wish I would’ve known this 6 mos ago lol
He's right investment. I'm trying to get my daugther to know she has to try to talk, smile to guys so they think you like him. She doesn't do this; she's a little standoffish. I said he'll return 10 fold if he likes you if you just smile at him. Oh, no. he mentions a sports game. I do not consider going to someone's game a date. We've dealt with the hockey player schedule. It takes a lot of time at these games. Don't put too much in the sport even if the guy IS/does play a sport (unless it's serious). Well, my daughter goes in with I'm going to this event, we'll see if there's a guy there I run into. She NEVER makes it seem that she's at the event for a specific guy.
Love your cat
I’m still super confused on how to spot ; is he really either 1- unavailable emot. Or 2- just playing the emotionally unavailable to keep me around while still looking for others
Dating in 2022 sucks
Indeed. The plandrnic didnt help either
Yeah the dating pool is officially deflated and needs construction 😢
You're pretty much describing emotional immaturity also
Kittycat!!!! 😍😍😍😍😍😍🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗😼
Would fast pace be if you not ready for a relationship but y’all still talking not relationship yet, and he says he wants to marry you and he loves you and he wants you guys to go on trips? But apparent he was messing around with another girl while talking to you?
How'd you do that? Kitty dropped @ "a fork in the road"
“girl u a basic charelle” 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
THE PANTER IS TOO DISTRACTING😛
Even the cat ran away . Lol
Your cat ❤️🥰
Am i the first to comment whoo lol
Definitely sounds like narcissism they do everything fast
Hello chicken would you do some when you meet a guy and how to read a guy we need the next part your awesome and we need you to go more in depth please 🙏
I am never gonna be a basic girl 😂