Are you an Addict? | Episode 002 Video Game Addiction
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 24 ม.ค. 2019
- Do I have a problem? How do you know if your gaming habits are normal?
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In this video, Dr. Kanojia walks you through how to know if you have a gaming addiction. Addiction can mean many different things, thus it raises the question if someone has a video game addiction. Video games provide positive benefits, but video game addiction can be a problem if it is a problem. Internet gaming disorder can get in the way of jobs, relationships, and personal happiness.
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Mans actually wants gamers to rise up
no
But you gotta put the game down first.
@@megaultradamn idk about that
@@EamonBurke I mean, for a certain period of time at least, lol. Let's try to step back for a moment and start controlling the REAL player character.
@@cliftut As long as they’re an escape from actually dealing with your problems you should address that
I think I am extreme example of one of these types of people. I've done the whole "would you rather have done something else with those 5 years?" about three times over already. I had dreams and visions of where I wanted to be, growing up, but at the time of writing this I am 30 years old and still playing games going absolutely nowhere thinking soon I'm too old to even make the attempt at being where I wanted to be anymore. Our teenage years and twenties are only there once in a lifetime and there are some things we socially or physically cannot realistically persue after that point. It's so incredibly tradgic because there's pretty much absolutely nothing perceptively wrong with me apart from never leaving the house, seeing the sun or taking hygeine seriously. Not overweight, not ugly, not socially awkward but yet have never had an offline relationship or even paid employment purely from video game addiction and a lack of support/encouragement. Really stupid, and I wish I'd realized this is where I was headded sooner.
It's great to see that mental health studies and organisations specifically for video game addiction are starting to appear now as I think it'll become an increasingly proliferating problem in the next few decades, but now the question becomes can we convince the people of 2019's society that therapy and counselling aren't bad words and that guidance like this to help nip the problem in the bud is actually worth persuing before it's too late?
Well, whether we can or not, I am sure you are going to give it a bloody good go. Godspeed Dr. Kanojia, you wonderful magnificient bastard you.
And of course good luck to all the fellow gamers out there looking to get their lives back on track.
You can do it too. Small steps, build a habit, and you've got this! I think so much of what we do in life would it be video games or something else is just habits. I'll actually start building a positive habit from today of working on my online business as soon as I wake up for atleast 2 hours, and possibly more later in the day. If you want to join me together, comment what habit you will build. Let's do this.
This is such an insightful comment - thank you for sharing and all the best.
Damn this hit right in the feels. I wish you good luck man. Like Aurimas said, it's all about small habits. Make a REALLY small change to your life, thats actually doable. Then another one. Eventually it will add up.
For a certain period of my life I used to play an MMO for 20 hours and sleep 10. Which means that everyday I would wake up at a different hour, some days I could not buy groceries even though my fridge was empty. I used to eat one sandwich and a small juice a day. Sometimes I'd buy a pizza and eat it during the span of three days, I was a student at Uni and I was too ashamed of myself to ask money to my family. I am 5'9'' (1.75cm) and used to weight 49 kg.
Sometimes I'd play for 30 hours, once I played for 32. I loved it and made me feel sad to know that it would have ended.
So I decided to leave my country and find a job in London. The first year there I haven't touched a game, didn't have money to buy a laptop. The second year I got one and started playing a bit, the third year I was back into playing a lot, but never more than 5 hours. During that time I was working as an extra in movies, I have been in plenty of Marvel's, in a Star Wars, some DC's and plenty of random dramas. During that time I met my girlfriend, still used to weight around 53, very little money and living in a house with other 7 people.
It's been two years since London, now I am living in a town in the middle of the Amazon Forest, I am doing some volunteer work with indigenous tribes here, I have seen incredible animals and colours, tried fruits of a taste that I cannot describe and met people that still hunt with bows. Right now I am studying programming and hope to get an ok job when I am back in Europe, and yet...all I can think of is: "I wish I could get a good job, so I could play games and not feel guilty".
Literally felt the slap when it comes to impaired creative process.
I used to be so creative before I started gaming hard
@@Extention6 Yeah i think we got some issues to work through
@@dylanmorse741How it's going?
Such a brilliant idea to study gamers psychologically, I love it. I truly believe he'll go far. GGWP.
I have been gaming for a long time. Six years ago, I started playing ROBLOX and PC games. I was also going through tough times at the time. Looking back, I was 100% an addict, but kept denying it. I lashed out at those who interrupted me or tried to help, gained 22 pounds, and had only two online friends. It eventually seeped into my academic performance and I barely got into the next grade. I abstained from it for almost a year after that, fell back into it again, and finally decided to quit for good three days back. I may start playing again when I'm older and mentally healthier, but at this stage of my life, not anymore. I am choosing to move on to other things and fight the inner demons I have been hiding from for so long.
"gaming serves as form of recreation, destress, way to form relationships..."
Me : Playing league solo queue. "Yeah gg go next I don't care if we lose.."
1The last note about putting off creative pursuits and interests spoke volumes to me, simply because that is literally what I had been struggling with (too intensely) for the past two years! That tacked on with the idea of grief and letting potential dreams go of not being able to make it in the esports scene. Shook me back in into another reality
I'd spent so long looking for addressing the exact problem I have with gaming, and I think you're finally done it. Thanks so much for this work!
First of all thank you Dr K for offering such a platform to help gamers with problems.
I think i am addicted to video games because im not performing on my targeted academic level and i am generally important things like sports, and tidyness of my room behind.
So whats the best way to fix this kind of behavior?
If you are addicted to video games, join our discord! We have a few recovery coaches for helping with video game addiction
@@HealthyGamerGG Hi there! Just wanted to ask if you could let other people add subtitles to your videos. I want to add Russian subtitles to some of them :)
@@1udus hi, have you tried contacting them directly? I don't see any response here
When ur a high school student who likes gaming but life stresses you out poggers
Life? Never heard of that game, kappa
@@levansegnaro4637 Yeah I don't like horror games so I don't get the reference either.
@@pikaisoverrated5956 Not really a horror game. Just WAY too many time gates.
The questions he says you have to ask yourself to know if you have a problem - the problem is that most people will not be able to honestly assess themselves - very few recognize the problem though others see it
I started watching your videos recently and gosh I wish I'd found them sooner. I desperately need help, it's taken over my life. I've tried reasoning with myself and doing everything I've been suggested online and by doctors, but I can't stop. I can't help myself. I started a journal to see how I was spending my time and see where I could cut down and the first entry is "Woke up at 8:45pm, (I work night shifts) played until 1pm, went to sleep". That's an average day! That's seriously it! I know I have a problem and I've tried everything but shouting it out, so yes, I AM ADDICTED TO VIDEO GAMES
I definitely had a gaming addiction fueled by a depressive episode I had going a few years ago. I managed to get out of it eventually with some help, but some of the damage had been done already. Still, I got to work and managed to create something from the rubble.
Now I notice some symptoms of gaming addiction in one of my 18 yo cousins, but he's even worse than what I had. He's always behind a screen, he gets angry when someone interferes with his gaming, he doesn't feel comfortable doing anything even remotely risky, doesn't go outside unless he's asked to, he has no real life friends from what I can tell, barely grooms himself and his education suffered greatly because of his behavior. He doesn't even compete in gaming tournaments. He just sits behind his computer, day in day out, doing the same thing, playing mostly one game.
How can I reach out to him?
Try playing the game he plays
let me guess, league? :(
I'm pretty late to this but try to let him know you're a person he can trust and help him understand that him and you aren't that different and tell him there's a lot more to life than one thing. Spending all his time in gaming will give him experience only in gaming and a very few set of skills which he might not even be able to use elsewhere if he doesn't try something else. Hope this helps.
This is a video from more than 2 years ago and I just watch it now. I still thankful though.
Gonna watch it non daily so it have time to settle and absorbed properly. I don't want to forget it. Plus the changing part can't be rushed/instant.
This video actually motivated me. Although I do want to keep playing games it actually got me to make goals and try to attain them. I do not really have many goals in what I want to do in the future and life, so I want to try to do stuff and get good at them as a hobby. Looking back to before I got my DS when I was a kid I think I had a pretty healthy life style to what I have today with browsing the internet and playing games. For the longest time I would always plan to do things, but never hard commit on it. I would have many ideas, which I thought seemed valid, but when I try to commit I do not know where to start. This is kind of similar to Devin Nash's segment in his class speech for a university about action vs motion. I like your content. I hope you can grow big and help more people because gaming addiction is a pretty huge problem,
I needed to watch this after my gaming habits have gone out of hand again this year
I think you're the hero we need.
For a certain period of my life I used to play an MMO for 20 hours and sleep 10. Which means that everyday I would wake up at a different hour, some days I could not buy groceries even though my fridge was empty. I used to eat one sandwich and a small juice a day. Sometimes I'd buy a pizza and eat it during the span of three days, I was a student at Uni and I was too ashamed of myself to ask money to my family. I am 5'9'' (1.75cm) and used to weight 49 kg.
Sometimes I'd play for 30 hours, once I played for 32. I loved it and made me feel sad to know that it would have ended.
So I decided to leave my country and find a job in London. The first year there I haven't touched a game, didn't have money to buy a laptop. The second year I got one and started playing a bit, the third year I was back into playing a lot, but never more than 5 hours. During that time I was working as an extra in movies, I have been in plenty of Marvel's, in a Star Wars, some DC's and plenty of random dramas. During that time I met my girlfriend, still used to weight around 53, very little money and living in a house with other 7 people.
It's been two years since London, now I am living in a town in the middle of the Amazon Forest, I am doing some volunteer work with indigenous tribes here, I have seen incredible animals and colours, tried fruits of a taste that I cannot describe and met people that still hunt with bows. Right now I am studying programming and hope to get an ok job when I am back in Europe, and yet...all I can think of is: "I wish I could get a good job, so I could play games and not feel guilty".
That's all I want to do..
Hey man, that sounds kind of like a blast. I had the opposite experience, studied hard, got into Cambridge, now for my finals to complete my masters, and my experience is that I haven't done enough and only been studying the past 5 years. Only now do I venture into something more exhilirating, but either way I sort of find your story more attractive than mine.
@@ErkaaJ yeah it might sound like a cool story, but there's no way to tell if I'll ever get a good job and although I know people would like my story I don't really know how I could monetize it which means that at the end of it all I might find myself stocking shelves in a shop
Michael The fact that you're doing a lot of stuff tells me you're going to figure it out, like there's industriousness to what you've done so far which you'll make something profitable out of. You wouldn't be able to say that to the lethargic gamer. Wish you the best of fortune.
@@ErkaaJ I think you are underestimating my laziness but thanks a lot man!
@@Michael-jq1hl What programming language are you studying? If you get proficient enough you would have plenty of work depending on the languages.
I also think I'm an extreme case here. I couple this issue with pretty heavy marijuana use and that really makes the problems a lot worse. A LOT of my time being awake is being stoned in front of my PC playing games. Unfortunately I answered yes to all the questions but I'm happy to have just found this content, as I do relate a lot to it and hopefully there's a light-bulb waiting to go off sometime soon.
Same - weed and games. Best advice I can give is to regulate the time at which you allow yourself to consume cannabis. I had a bad habit of wake'n'baking which burned me out for nearly a year. So now I don't smoke before noon and won't smoke past midnight and it's a much more maintainable regimen of drug use. I feel a lot better as well, physically and cognitively. I also only smoke 1 bowl at a time now instead of numerous.
Pretty much the same rationale and schedule with gaming - don't play games before noon and don't play them past midnight (I do break the latter often but I do try to maintain it over the long-run).
Otherwise just try to find a hobby or project that's not staring at a screen.
he nailed it... that's how we should deal with video games.
I think it's more the case that gamers have no idea what else they want in life and therefore, the question of "does it get in the way of what you want to do?" doesn't seem to address the issue completely because gaming makes gamers revoke their other desires to the point of not knowing what they want at all.
If the answer to the question "Is all you want to do is play videogames" is Yes, then I feel like it's likely a problem, because spending 100% of free time on videogames and nothing else is not a health mental diet.
Hello. this is dr. goutamsinh jadeja from mumbai, india. It is true that gaming can be an obstruction in the path of academic progress...i have faced it too, good that you mentioned in the video...but as it suggested in thestart that instruction for parents and teachers and parents...there was none...also there could have been a message that gamers should have an practical approach towards life with some examples of real life.
I'm 24 years old, failing undergrad college, unable to hold down a job, being yelled at by my parents to get it together or it's over and I'm gone. Hearing every single one of those questions and saying yes to every single one of them has kind of made me realize just how important it is that I get my act in order. I don't want to quit gaming but I know that it will lead to my downfall regardless. This series is helping me motivate myself and I am looking for resources to make this change a reality. I need help and I want help, and I'm ready to change myself.
Hows it going man, are you getting any progress done?
AMAZING
Youre amazing man
This was really eye-opening, fuck. Thanks Alok
Facts
The thing I hate about addiction is that a "How to cure X" addiction video could be 100% accurate but will not work if the person can't see they even have that issue. Instead of only saying here's how to cure this problem, it also identifies it.
I was a really bad alcoholic out of college and I couldn't even tell. I was just a college boy who likes a little dizzy-fun from time to time. It felt like I was just 'occasionally' having a few nips. But I would walk from my job to the store down the street every day, sometimes multiple times, on the clock, to pick up some nips, drink some on the way back, and some in the kitchen. Lather rinse repeat every day.
I was there, I was watching myself leave my job to go buy 100 proof plain vodka shots and down them like it was nothing just for some happy chemicals. I know what alcoholism looks like, and it didn't look like alcoholism to me.
I stopped drinking solely because I thought it would be funny if I did what the alcoholic mom from friday the the 13th did.
"You know, I've decided I'm gonna stop drinking, I just don't feel like it anymore."
I did it for the memes, not because I had a problem in my eyes, but when I noticed how my life and mood drastically improved, I realized in hindsight how sick I was. If someone told me themselves, I'd likely tell them fuck off I know it looks like that but you're wrong. I'm an adult, adults have drinks sometimes, lay off."
einfach hammer!
Hmm it's interesting you say if gaming is a source of tension between you and your parents then you think it's a problem. So, a few years back I took a gap year to work, do some travelling, and relax after highschool before doing collage. On my trip out west I bought a switch and botw to play on the train ride and if I was ever super board and just needed something to do, I loved the week out West and loved playing zelda after dinner while relaxing in my room. The switch was new, gaming was not, prior to that I regularly put 20 hours onto my 3ds every week. During my days off from work over the summer (I prefer to travel during spring and fall) aswell as time off work during the winter, my parents were exposed to the fact I like playing video games as much as I do, I also read books, watched TV, and did knitting during my time off. But gaming was the one that caused tension, I had to essential say "look. I'm an adult now, that means I can do with my time as I see fit. Now, I'm awake for 112 hours a week, assume I spend an hour showering over a week, and 2 hours a day at meals, I clouding chatting, cooking, and eating. That's what 97 hours left. If I spend 20 of those hours playing video games because they are fun that's what 2.9 hours a day that's a particularly long movies worth of time a day, I spend more than that reading every day and yoy don't wonder if I have a reading addiction. The reason this upsets you is that it's a novel activity you are either unaware of how to engage eith, unable to engage with, or unwilling to engage eith. So how about we make a deal. I will go and buy a few games we can play together that I was already planning to buy, you can try them, we can play them together. If you still don't get why I enjoy this and spend as much time as I do playing it, then we can go talk to a therapist about it and see if I'm the problem or you, but if you get why I play games, I don't want to here a word about it again unless it starts actually affecting me" so I went about and bought mario kart 8 delux, super mario party, and 1 2 switch by the end of the week they realised it wasn't a problem. By the end of the month they had bought their own switch and a copy of mario kart 8 delux. And you know what, I did go talk to a therapist anyway just to be sure. He figured it wasn't a problem because it wasn't actually causing a problem, it was an unwillingness on both parties to communicate that caused the issue.
Can there be a ambiguous arrangement of cause and effect here.
I remember having these conversations with my self, when I was younger. Gaming was the only cheap enough way for me to spend my time.
Not being able to do anything else (that I was interested in) led to spending time on video games, as supposed to spending time on video games leading to not doing other thing.
There is a good argument to be made on some sort of leaned hopelessness condition, but I do not see the way out. Would that not be the case with any other escape mechanism? There might be true escapes that one does not notice while engaged in any escape mechanism.
RUN A MILE COMFORTABLY no I can't I didn't know that was a thing
I once heard that once you were addicted to something (I was betting on e-sport) you couldn't completely get rid of it, you just changed your addiction, is that true? (I said I was addicted because I haven't bet for a long time, but maybe I just changed my addiction)
Do you think video game is a problem when it's all I do, and yet I'm satisfied with that, and don't feel the need nor want to pursue better things in life?
Depends on how old you are, but the answer is probably yes.
@@patrickcogan1998 Why would it be a problem if you're content at the moment? If you couldn't stop playing violin between all the things you're doing, would it be a problem if you're content doing just only that?
@@Nikzzza playing videogames doesn't pay the bills for most people. So you would end up either fucking up your life or be a burden on the lives around you that support you.
@@patrickcogan1998 music doesnt really pay the bills either but that wasn't the point. If you desire/need money and video gaming is in the way of that, then you have a problem.. money is not the prime objective in life for a lot of people. Im not an expert but i recently learned about Maslow's hierarchy of needs which basically says that at the height of achieving all of the physiological and safety needs (i.e. food, shelter, love and belonging, etc.) that you should feel a need for self actualization and trying to be the best that you can possibly be. It sounds to me that OP may be lacking in one or more of these other areas, in which case i highly recommend looking into Maslow and his studies on this subject. Like i said im no expert, but if you dont feel fulfilled in life i'd start here
@@quantum_tk the original premise of your response (playing violin when you have time) is not reflective of the original comment (I only want to game, nothing else matters and I'm happy). I think we're in agreement.
GAMERS RISE UP WE ARE THE MOST OPPRESSED PEOPLE IN SOCIETY RISE UO GAMERS amen
My spouse is a gamer. He will game up to 7 hours a day on weekdays, and maybe more on weekends. He comes home from work, sleeps for a few hours, games from 8pm to 3am, sleeps for a few more hours, than goes to work.
It's a strain on our marriage, but he doesn't see it. He says he's a night owl, and this is how he spends time with friends.
He has no problem with it, but I feel I'm married to a ghost. What to do?
Thanks youtubee
5:00 mark just killed me, started crying because I feel it is exactly describing me. I just want to be able to do what I want to do in this life, which is creating games:(
Have you started moving towards your goals mate?
Interesting approach but the difficulty that I have with the question "Does it impair what I want to do?" is kind of a hen&egg problem. Sure you can argue "I am addicted to video games so I can't find a gf". But you could easily argue just as well (and that's what I have always done) "I can't find a gf/the other kids are mean to me/my life is shit so I flee into video games". You can always try to abstain from any kind of addiction but if the patterns that caused it are still there I believe the addiction will come back or maybe you'll replace it with another one (I have done that as well, did sports 6x/week instead). I should really pick that up again, it was the only thing that stuck because it felt like "At least by the end of it I will have improved my attractiveness even if it may be damaging long term."
Hmm
what if i don't have any goals in my life and i only play games because i don't know how to use my time meaningful other then gaming?
How Intelligence Leads To Avoidance has 1 million + views it's funny how watching that video leads to avoiding this one.
If the last minute of this video hit you in the feels then the answer to the title is yes 😢
Eu jogo bastante Warzone mas só quando meus amigos chamam, quando não tem nenhum amigo online eu não jogo só por jogar
What’s your version of gaming?
based on this video, not only am i a tiny bit addicted but actually addicted. some family problems, a lot of exercise problems, study problems, sleep problems, all the things, but i hope to change all that when i get into game development school
Wait though, if in psychology that is the definition of "illness." And impairing your function would include getting along with your parents, then shit ton of thing such as religious beliefs, sexual orientation, sense of fashion,... would be considered a psychological illness.
The same shadow could be cast upon that idea for ones ability to work within the society in general, but at least there you could defend it with some sort of questionable but still arguable value set, that would suggest you need to adapt the religion of the majority in your society in order to get along with them.
In psychology it is indeed different but the overall difference of such fields is that psychiatry takes on the approach of remedy as for psychology is to understand, with that in mind psychology perceives it differently and would opt for what appears to be perceived upon, as for psychiatry again he states it crosses a line or a marker to basically remedy the problem since it would affect them even worse.
i like to practice csgo while i listen to some video about investing and finance. i dont like to watch a video or someone talking about something without me playing or practicing in the game, is that a bad thing or a good thing?
you're not fully focused on neither so I don't think it's a good thing, but I do that too :D
every time spend on gaming is a good time spend
So if your are satisfied with your life and things you do in life are good so, then you are not having problem with video games right? And why other people let decide that where should i be in 5 years if you are satisfied then it's okay right?
what to do if someone want to become a professional gamer? Then is it ok to play games all day and forget everything else?
Depends if you can get sponsored, streamers and pro are playing games all day because it is their job.
hmm
All of the question was a yes for me, i was really good in school and i ended up dropping out of high school because of video games and yet, here i am 21 with no job no goals just mindlessly playing video games. I wish I could stop but I don't know how. I want to get help but i have no money to seek help. do you have any advice?
WarrenGG it costs money in your country? In mine therapy is free
Learn how to meditate. It gives deep insight into your own mind and your toxic patterns, an also it just makes you better at literally everything imaginable. That's how I stopped being a loser with no pursuits, smoking weed, fapping and gaming my life away.
I had to cold turkey on games man. Its hard though if you don't have something to replace it with. If you get a job, any job, you could probably break the addiction from that preoccupation.
that is literally me, same age and path. still have no idea where i am going in life but i recently started a therapy 2 months ago, i dont know where you live but some insurances can partially cover costs. wish you the best.
@HealthyGamerGG A good friend of mine doesnt have to work anymore (he inherited enough money so he never has to work) he can play what ever he wants 10 hours a day and after that hangout with his gf. In his case gaming doesnt have any obvious bad impacts on his life. If I would play 3 hours a day just to have fun and relax a bit it would impact my life in a bad way (there are many more examples) so isnt there a diffrence between the question "are you an addict?" and "has gaming a bad impact on your life?"
therefore I think that you can be addicted to gaming without having
any negative consequences and at the same time gaming can have
negative consequences without being addicted (lets say you play with your best friend to share time with him instead of studing for your exam). Sorry for my bad english I hope you get my point =P
I am an addiction counselor and i like video games so I can try to answer this with a short answer. To my knowledge the term "addiction" means that you have lost control over a repetitive behavior despite the occurrence of negative consequences. The main measurement when diagnosing addiction isn´t the quantity of the behavior but the negative consequences and the loss of control (f.x. Loss of interest in other things, using gaming as a coping mechanism, tolerance/withdrawals, negative effects on relationship with family etc. ) You should not be able to fall under the criteria of being addicted without the negative consequences. Your friend dosn´t need to be addicted even tho he plays 10 hours a day f.x. some streamers and professional gamers have to play 10+ hours a day as job (despite not feeling like playing everyday). However, this is not his job so its very likely that he is addicted even tho the bad impacts aren´t obvious. f.x. you say he hangs out with his GF after playing for 10 hours. If you find it odd how much time he is spending infront of the screen his GF probably sees it that way as well. Relatives and spouses of addicts are usually ashamed and scared to talk about the problem and often deny there is a problem so she might just look okey with it even tho she isn´t. If he keeps on playing 10+ hours for a longer time the impact will show naturally. There will be little personal growth and happiness without any goal, motivation, responsibility (aside from the game) over a long period of time. Good question and i'm looking forward to seeing HealthyGamers answer :)
10 hours a day probably poses some amount of health risks. Being seated too long, repetitive injuries, etc etc
@@baki9191 This is an important point. Sitting for too long doing anything is not healthy, physically and even mentally.
As for being someone with an inheritance gaming all day that can still be a problem even though the issue of money is not a problem and he can do "whatever he wants." It reminds me of a saying: Just because you can does not mean you should. This goes doubly for anyone who might have a predisposition to becoming addicted to things to cope with social or generalized anxiety, OCD, depression, etc... which causes more problems.
Life is all about balance and I think that is the overall message Dr. K is trying to drive home.
It's not right to think that way. Blaming "video game addiction" is a cop-out and an excuse to avoid the real health problems you're facing, and will forever remain in that unhealthy state since you're focusing an effect and not the cause. Focusing on the problem instead of the solution to the problem will only lead to a vicious and never-ending cycle.
Mental health is what's important. We're using video games as a means of escaping or coping with the real issues. Much of that can be corrected through cognitive behavioral therapy. Some can manage this on their own albeit slow and painful. If you can afford it, it's best to seek help from a qualified therapist. If you can't find one, then start the process yourself sooner rather than later.
That’s the same with every single addiction, though, the addiction is the effect and not the cause.
He actually mentions that at 2:45.
Naming it as an addiction doesn’t make you avoid the real health problems, it actually helps you realize that the problems are there. The treatment for addiction isn’t “ok let’s make you stop using x”, it’s “ok let’s figure out why you’re using x as an escape mechanism so this usage won’t be a problem anymore”.
Hey, how's it going ? I wanted to know if I can use your content in my live when I start streaming again. I'm a psychologist and I think it's very pertinent to see your content live and comment on it. Will you release me???
I'm sorry to say this but this is just stupid.
"Is gaming creating stress between you and your parents?" So if someone's parent actually think the child should not play any games at all and that creates a tension, then a chield even playing 15 mins a day makes his gaming a problem? How is that helpful?
It's not. But being serious no one is playing 15 min a day and the issues usually arise when parents sense that the time spend playing is a problem. Maybe they are wrong as they base those sentiments on their own perceptions and not every time knowledge comes with age. But that also doesn't mean that there are ill intentions at play.
I'd rather bet that if a kid is spending too much time playing, to the extend of being an issue regarding his future and not just being annoying for the parents because probably of some jealousy related sentiments that probably they themselves have not clue what they really feel and why. The parents messed up somewhere in creating the environment around the kid and how they interacted with him. As where gaming too much become a more logical option, if not the only one, says a bit or a lot about the environment in which that kid developed.
I remember reading some time ago a news article about a pretty weird situation. The parents of a 30 something man were suing him in order to force him out of the house as he was living with them. That doesn't happen just by mistake. I mean, that's what is happening in the transition period we call puberty. An independent person is created who wants to go in to the world and make a name for itself. And for me it seemed like caring for a plant, cutting its branches in order to influence its spreading direction and grafting it in order to bare a certain type of fruits. And later you complain that it's not like what you wanted to be, you wanted something else. And arguing with the plant why it's not producing peaches instead of plums. So get out of my house!
but if i want to avoid my parents playing videogames and they disagree on the amount and if i wanna stab them unless they do am i addicted?
4:06 it seems to me here that he is saying, effectively, "Because your parents say you video game too much, they are be correct that it's a problem." I feel like I have this wrong and he's trying to say something different, but I missed it. Any help with clearing it up, or is he actually saying that? IMO, parents can be wrong/unreasonable. Do I have this right, and if not, what is he saying?
@Calvin Jewett: He is actually, ' like literally ', saying that.
I'll break it down for you:
If your gaming creates conflict between your parents and you, it is a problem.
This is because your parents are the humans who raised you, love and care about you (in their human, imperfect ways), and, most likely, give you shelter, food, care, possibly bought your device, and pay for internet and electricity.
Now if you, hypothetically, not only take that shit for granted, but also heavily prioritise spending your time and energy with stuff that is someone else's (often 2nd rate) story, with built -in psychological narrative/ reward structures to make you feel like you achieved something, when really you just 'spent' your lifetime pushing some inconsequential pixels around,
*then* you have a problem.
And your idea of what is 'reasonable ' is, well, based on pretty bad, short term reasoning.
Worthwhile long term reasoning, based on decades of experience, of how bad that *can* turn out can be found in one of the 1st ten or so comments.
You're welcome.
Parents are right far more often than their children care to admit. Besides, having a harmonious household and a positive relationship with your parents is an invaluable thing, even if it requires a small amount of misplaced/unnecessary obedience.
Not having a screaming match with your dad twice a week > An extra four hours of League
Felt like an addict when I predicted he was gonna use world of Warcraft as his example
Looks like i got a bunch of problems ;)
This opened my eyes so much i hate myself now, time to go actually do shit and not be an addicted idiot
So, the content creators based around video games are also addicts?
I purchased adult diapers for cyberpunk 2077, am I an addict??
Same but I doubt it
Bro you said you want to help us then video endded!😂😂😂
So screw us? 😂😢
o shit im fucked
i got a problem chat
Time spent directly in a game is only a part of the problem. Just think about all the effort and brain power spent to write a freaking simulator to help people min-max is some stupid MMO, while real world problems have to wait in line.
But what if you don't actually care about having a career, relationships, and about your parents? Unlimited video game time.
Thank god I am addicted to heroin (:
You should switch to meth, that will improve your work output.
Is this a personal attack? /s
There's literally no good reason to play videogames, specially as an adult
Would you had rather do something else? Seems like a useless question. Because if you would rather do something else than gaming you would had probably done it.
An addiction is when you are negatively influenced as a result. But not just that. Is also a filler, a coping mechanism in absence of other options. Like with the mice utopia where having meaningful options the mice didn't abused the cocaine water. So it's about the other options besides gaming in this case. Or better said the lack of those. May be real or not it doesn't really matter as long the person feels is like that. Like starting to work towards making that game or movie idea in to reality may lead to something concrete but the randomness of reality tells you the chances are really slim even if you have a clue about what are you doing, let alone being a complete noob. Then again learning the ropes starts somewhere for everyone and everything is possible, at least in theory. But theory and reality are two completely different things. Bottom line, it's complicated. Nothing happens without effort and no matter how much effort you may spend there are not guarantees for success. There is also the perception of success, and the rabbit hole goes on...
I could say i'm sick, addicted to games and porn. But at the same time i could say i'm perfectly fine as those do not interfere with my ability to keep healthy, make money, have food, a roof and so on. The same approach can be applied to cocaine, tobacco, alcohol and others. Like if you're functional from a social perspective, does that mean you have a problem just because you consume or even abuse some things? In the same category would fall in things like food, water and even air. Should we stop consuming those too? Lack of balance brings issues, like eat too much and get fat and suffer from related illnesses, but that doesn't mean necessarily that it's an addiction as it may be a cultural or economical issue regarding knowledge and access to proper food. So it's rather a matter of perspective, hence pretty difficult to define some absolute standards.
Gru
Is there even anyone in the class? lol
Well there's one other person at least
Shouldn't we teach people to fall in love with playing video games rather than supporting their subjective opinion of addiction? He mentions that issues occur when playing video games such as not being able to socialize, failing school, etc. (because they feel the need to play video games) but I think it is these social "standards" that usually push people away from what they really want to do. Ironically, finding a girlfriend these days is less important than playing video games due to the lack of babies we need (almost 8 billion and counting). Furthermore, if you look at the history of humanity, we live in a much more sane and realistic environment playing video games than we do living "real life" which has been dumbed down to filing 20 of the same reports everyday, or sweeping the same tiles every other. Why would someone discourage the desire to play video games when seemingly the topic is more in line with our nature than the society that we have created "for ourselves" today. You would rather run after the rich, authoritarian anti-socials who laid down rules in the past thousands of years to make you do what they want you to do which in my eyes is pathetic (the school system was literally designed to make you followers of authoritarianism and it is still going on). Enjoy your video games and let the rest suffer in their unnatural world for which we were never made for anyways. If society collapses because too many people wanted to play video games rather than doing "important stuff" then it already should have a long time ago in my opinion. Society is sick and the same could be said about any other "addiction".