Literally asked if her ex and her were still together or not?? I asked her ex and told him her and I were friends since her and I didn't disclose any relationship status together. What a fucking joke.
Here's the thing, some people need both. My ex husband BLATANTLY refused to ever say sorry and he would get upset when I apologized because he didn't want to talk about anything. You have to be able to COMMUNICATE with your partner to "do better". So, both, both is good.
When wronged, I do not need someone to show they are sorry nor say they are sorry. I delete people from my life with great ease. I consider myself someone not really very relevant for anybody to know. Thus, deleting others from my life is extremely easy for me. I am valuable to nobody. Deleting others will not effect them negatively. My findings that I am not of value to anybody are confirmed in that nobody even tries to appologise to me when I am wronged, through actions nor through verbal communication. I delete the person from my life and never hear from that person again. It is as if they never truly cared for me at all. But this has benefited me a lot. It just makes true deletion of others from my life a rather conscious free, simple, quick, task. The last deletions I made in my life were in the 8th of August 2000 at 18:34. I finished deleting everyone from my life. I never even bothered replacing any of them. Why bother if I am not of value to anybody. Not all of us need friends, nor a romantic interest.
Same situation as yours and was truly terrible! Most of my mom's family are narcisists, sociopaths and psycopaths 😔😒 I do not pretend to change them but yes draw my line with them, take healthy distance 💙💜🙌❤ And never accept them in my life again !
I have found that if someone seems as if they like your, there are alternative, nefarious, reasons for it. Thus, if someone seems too friendly with me, or seems to want to get to know me, or seems to find me attractive, I quickly withdraw from their presence to protect myself from becoming a victim of a social predator again. One must always be aware if someone really likes them or if it is all a cruel ruse so you let your guard down. Since I can not tell who is genuinely interested in my or who is looking for their next victim, I just keep things simple and avoid everyone.
OR....people visit this tutorial to find justifications of what we already know to be true and to hear the explanations for the similarities within situations from the insight of a stranger makes the thoughts and feelings feel more factual and more justified.
You are codependent to him. It's unhealthy. Take care of your self, do your hobby. It is already mentioned in this video. Dont make him your only source of validation.
Singles who are watching this, are trying to learn how to improve a future relationship. People who are in a relationship, is learning how to improve it :)
Most people are here to have their victim status validated. They are looking for confirmation that they are the good intentioned partner and it’s their significant other who is “narcissist”. People love picking up new vocabulary that they can use when talking about the things he “always does” and how they are the partner who “does everything”. There’s likely a few here who are looking to improve themselves. A few.
Been married 26 years and we had our rough times. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship but you can grow and change if you really want to. You just can't force another to change. My problem was spending way too much on frivolous items or trying to make the perfect house. In actuality she just wanted to spend time with me. As my father told me once " slow down and enjoy life , you don't have to have the greatest of everything ". That came from a self made multimillionaire that has been extremely poor as well as wealthy. I started following that advice several years ago. I don't try impressing anyone. If you don't like my house , car or anything else that doesn't matter then don't come over. Pretending to be rich nearly caused me to go broke. Don't try to spend money to get the girl. If she truly wants you for you that's all you need.
I do not understand. I have always thought that people in love tend to play games together and enjoy each other's company, playing games, living together, making financial decisions, and the such. As you may be able to tell, I have never been in a romantic relationship and my last friends were back in elementary school. I have very little social experience.
you must be foreign. He means "playing games" as in manipulating, being dismissive, etc etc with one another. People in loving relationships don't do this, they DO however play games as you mean. (jenga, connect 4, charades, etc)@@indridcold8433
This is okay because my husband doesn't care a single bit about image and impressing others. He doesn't dress up, he's the type of guy who will be happy to wear singlet, shorts and slippers any day so I adapted the same lifestyle and basically I learned that being a high maintenance woman will only make us broke. We do take care of ourselves still and we make sure we eat healthy and exercise to live longer. However, it really depends on the couple. Some may want to keep up with their style of being glamorous and always looking presentable but being with my husband for close to 10 years now, I've learned that simplicity, respect and honesty makes the marriage stronger and often leads to a happier life. Trust me girls, your beauty will fade, you will have to erase your makeup at the end of the day, your high heels only gives you temporary height and of course your push up bras will no longer support those babies when it's removed. So be you, the man who will not appreciate your natural beauty is only after your appearance and body but not your heart and soul.😉
Sometimes it's hard cause one person makes it hard for no reason.. u can have a good person that works faithful and chills look nice etc.. But sometimes the other person wants it to be harder.. some people destroy what's good without knowing it
This really hits home with me. I feel like I’ve made all of these mistakes in my relationship. I want to be a better person for myself and for him even if we aren’t together. I never meant for these things to happen, but I am working on my short comings.
Since my love passed away.. and many failed relationships after.. it took many years to finally find my soulmate. I will never take for granted TRUE LOVE! And I will keep myself tight and fit and I want to always have goals for him and myself where we believe in our dreams and make money. Being responsible is very important 👑 I’m trying so hard to change as a mature woman so I can be a great woman for a great man. Also it’s always important to have our own passions and happiness alone and together. I’ve learned so much after so many failed relationships I will try my best and ask God to bring fruition!!! To all the good people
I'm now a codependent...and this is my first ever codependent relationship. You'd be surprised what can happen to your mental state after falling for a narcissistic boyfriend! It's quite intense.
Never bring up past mistakes and unhappiness in an argument, especially in a heated one. It is so tempting to hold their past mistakes over your partners head, guilt trip them, let them see the 'wrong of their ways'. But literally, don't. Keeping score of mistakes (he/she did this X number of times to me, and I only did it Y times) is the worst thing you can do to your relationship. Each time you do this, it creates a snowball effect. When every argument you have with your partner is a compound of all the 1000 arguments you had in the past, it's no wonder that these things can never be resolved. Instead, be in a very present state of mind when you argue, and pull yourself back to the present when you wander to the past. Only talk about the matter on hand, that's going on at the present moment. Play fair (especially us ladies). Even if you've got tons of unresolved issues, in the middle of a fight is the wrong place to start talking about them. Relationship issues are like knots, they have to be untangled slowly and gently, and treated individually. Especially for couples who fight all the time. If you reduce the momentum of your fights, there will be a point when things grow calm enough for you to get through to your partner. When both of you are calmer, it's much easier to negotiate and discuss.
@Jose Elizondo Glad to contribute! I'm just someone who managed to turn a really bad relationship around, and am now in a happy, loving, peaceful marriage with my partner. This has worked wonders for us, so I thought I'd share this tip here. Hopefully it might help someone else with their relationship.
Very well said! And it must be applied in every aspect of your relationship/marriage. However, when past mistakes?; are still continuously in the present. And sadly, tomorrow. Even when said husband allows, dismisses the mother in-law Hitting said wife, upside the back of your head. This is when it’s time to part. Or one will forever hold their self down! And loose themselves to their ways. Ok maybe I went too far. But I had to vent. For I had allowed them to do to me. I started out with all good intentions throughout our first 5 years of marriage. Now 16 years later I am in shock?! And it gets worse! Sorry to vent out on you guys. Any advice?! Or should I just stop sobbing and get out of this page?!
I just noticed I've never experienced a real relationship. I wasn't taught to be in healthy relationships, I am happy to learn this information to know what to do to attract a real one. This video has given me hope to be in a real relationship now. Thanks.
I would guess that you're watching this to learn information for your next relationship? I'm single and I really don't know why I'm watching it either. When I look back, the things in this video seem like they're pretty accurate. I feel that it's better to be single then in a bad relationship. I get lonely once in awhile, but overall I'm pretty happy right now.
Self-love is not selfishness per se. A person who truely loves oneself will not treat another person badly. Selfishmess does exactly the opposite. Some people can't tell the difference and they go the wrong way,yes.
I agree. I guess i had crush on of the "love yourself kinda girl". Ended up her fading away for one month, amd rejected after i came to her house, after i tried to meet her at her office. She refused to see me in person for both occassion. It destroys my confidence, self worth, self respect, and part of my identity. That was my mistake, i choose to love her still after what she did to me. Giving it my all. Ended up with "love yourself first, so you can love others, fully". Dang that hit the mark. Does love yourself means that if we found someone else better, we have to monkeybranch? Does love yourself means to ditch someone because his/her flaw/mistake? Does love yourself means that you can neglect someones feelings, without telling them anything, so you can focus on yourself?
I agree! The ignorance about what “self love” is, and how it applies to human relationships with others is blazing these days. This is the apex moment historically of selfishness of every kind. “Me first, me first, me meeeee!” is not self-love. It is self-CENTEREDness. Very different. Narcissistic in nature. And sadly, what far too many “embracing my self love” types mistakenly believe to be healthy for themselves and others. Putting one’s self first all the time is toxic AF. And it’s demolition for primate species communities, and for our collective survival...
I just got out of the grip of a narcissistic relationship, so the biggie to me is the “No excessive criticism or excessive nagging” rule. After years of that, I felt like I couldn’t even walk or drive correctly or fricking breathe right. The criticism was endless & THAT BAD.
I am waiting to see if my husband is love bombing me this last year or actually trying to change... I started ignoring him first. If he wasn't halfway decent most of the time and we didn't have 3 kids I would have left him because of how much he complained about every day things that needed to be done; so exhausting!
That sounds exactly like my ex. He was always correcting every single thing I did, down to the way I spoke and dressed. I finally asked him one day, why in the hell are you with me if you don't like anything about me. Also, I was the one constantly giving the compliments, he never gave me any. I was sad when we divorced, after he cheated with a girl the same age as our children, but after much thought, it wasn't much of a marriage and I am better off. The only thing I miss is my house.
Yes! My now ex was awful when trying to tell me how to drive all the time , it caused endless arguments, she was so codependent and narcissistic at the same time
Hate to say this but most ppl are far too selfish to be in relationships with those of us who have issues. We are seen as emotionally draining or too needy and get cast aside....
yeah, this is me too.... I lost the love of my life, and a woman who thought I was amazing even with all my flaws... god she was my dream come true. my supermodel goddess, my rock, my right hand. but I was so much alllll the time in fear of losing the first woman to ever accept me for me and not try to change me, but love me instead. :(
No sadly we are not hun..... she left me.... its been almost a year to the day. And im no where near over losing her. She was what felt like home. Nothing and no one can even hope to fill her shoes.
@@drifter61 God: Hol up Swole up, I'm working on some fire shit just for you, in the mean time You should kick it with me so I can show you how I move.
My previous relationship ended because of my own mistakes and flaws. I love my girl so much that I don't want to lose her at any cost. So I'm here to learn. ☺
Don’t be like my 24 year old son and kill your self over a girl whom can’t appreciate. Amen. Get some sleep. The next days will be better. Lost Sean Clark last week - sorry I didn’t step in and have him backeracted
Being with someone who didn't (or was too immature) to appreciate me for who I was. He wouldn't discuss a issue but preferred to curse me and walk away and watch TV instead. Lack of mature communication skills.
Long term commitment is a choice. It is a constant compromise, extend patience and limitless efforts. It should be "Two Against The World". Both of you should have the willingness to invest yourself in able to build a strong, loving relationship. You have to be ALL-IN as Jordan Peterson's advice. Because each of us are different in so many ways, therefore, in a relationship, there will always be a constant battle, not to break you but to teach you how to be the right person for your partner and vice versa. If you feel that you've found the ONE, give your best self and keep improving yourself coz you will be the mirror of your partner😊😉
This is almost every relationship destroying behavior, besides being overly suspicious and jealous. Trying to compete with each other all the time. Assuming. Blaming. Being too passive about your requirements. Holding up standards that aren't reasonable. Complaining about everything. The biggest one I'd say is acting single, that one does the most damage. No one is really ever opposed to you having cute friends but if you're waving around this big I'm single flag and you have so much shame in your relationship with me, I'm out. Another one is when a person doesn't take info on their partner with a grain of salt, they just consider all that is said to be the way of it. Looking for excuses to close off the relationship will kill a relationship, this to me shows more of a lack of enthusiasm for the relationship than dressing to the nines all the time.
I think my partner did that behind my back and when I found out he was saying that she was just a friend .. but I have no proof that he was flirting with her .. I just found it odd that if she did know about me, how was she ok with hangout with him all the time and not even mention me once?
@@nancyalywahby2784 I'm sure there's more important things than food. I'm saying like once I had someone inbox message me "I'm claiming you" I let that mean nothing because what was the person to everyone else, single. The relationship status says a lot.
@@throughbellaseyes if I were to guess, I would say maybe she was just a friend. Maybe he wasn't actually flirting with her. I can't say that she might not have had feelings for him, but I could say that it's very likely your partner can shut it down should things get out of hand. I have been on both sides of this kind of scenario.
I've literally done most of these and recognized when I did them and corrected them to become a better person, for myself, and for the love of my life.
The luck of communication is the top of destruction of a relationship. If you don't hear or understand or talk the person next to you, its a dead end. 🇨🇾
After the honeymoon phase wore off and the excitement and butterflies of love, I realized we weren't as compatible as I thought. Sounds right? Absolutely not. What happened after this phase was we stopped listening, learning and understanding. Drastic shift from "Ours" to "my". I really wanted to make my relationship work. I also tried couple question games like Lovify. And it actually did help us learn more about each other. But what really made a difference was my willingness to listen and learn more about my partner 💗💗
Relationships take hard work. Me and my ex broke up because of finance, he was a spender, irresponsible with money and got himself into debt but would still continue to spend despite it, I am a saver and have my finances under control. We always argued about it until it broke us apart in many ways
Same thing happened to me. My ex was just not good with money. She hardly saved and mostly asked me for cash that she wasn't going to refund anyway. So I found myself just giving her cash like that, for free. It became a burden on me financially.
Thank you a lot for this video clip. This is all problems facing people who are in marriage . If everyone who is in marriage watch this , I think everyone will be faithful to one another in marriage!!!!
If someone doesn’t love you You don’t need a house to fall on your head you just know it. And when you see there’s no hope there you’ll know that’s it you had enough.
And diffently apologize and being honest and opening up to your partner I feel friendship first is most important before getting involved with someone because I feel that's what builds a strong foundation for marriage or relationship .
i feel the same way, but I'm being like that because it's hard for me to express my love, i'm not good with words and he thinks I don't love him and yesterday, he ended the relationship💔 I've explained it to him but it seems like he has got tired of me and doesn't care anymore, idk what to do anymore😔
Well being with someone that suffers from depression, anxiety and low self esteem, yes it is hard and makes one tired at times.. but instead of leaving I do my best to help him get through the depression and find ways to overcome and manage the anxiety. To build his self esteem so he can feel good about his self and that he is able to handle things on his on. I don't find those thing an excuse for me to leave him, only if he wouldn't want to help himself, get in a worse state and push me away/shut me out I would have to leave, cause otherwise I would only enable it. You can't help someone that doesn't want to be helped. I too suffer from anxiety and depression but it's been worse for me. He tries the best he can to help me up aswell. I have more knowledge though to manage it myself. But he does take good care of me when my body acts up, like having seizures or having migraine. It's about taking care of each other, to give and to take. Look for the perfection is what's good about the person, not the lack of it because of it's faults. We all have sides of ourselves that aren't all that great.
Two unwell people can't help each other. You both require space, techniques and time to heal. Whoever takes the first step will be the one to quickly begin that process. Best wishes!!!🤗🤗🤗
That lie bit is no joke.. worse thing I ever done was the beginning of our relationship and my untruthfulness. Its made a rough situation out of the best thing that could've ever came my way
Honestly the whole relationship thing shouldn't even have rules/laws....if someone loves you he/she will find every reason to make it work, if someone doesn't he/she will find every reason to end it. However, its always better to love than to focus on being loved cause even when it doesn't work out knowing you loved someone genuinely will give you peace.
Some things you just can't accept even tho u love that person and tried your best to make it work and eventually you have to accept and come to terms that being with them will destroy you and your life.
@@DrJ-hx7wv ... Wrong. Manipulation is at its very core based on deceit and lies. Whether or not the other person "finds out" does not lessen the fact that one person chose to manipulate another person by being untruthful. The result is NOT a "relationship": it is a manipulative abuse of trust. The manipulator deprives himself as well the moment he chooses to remove TRUTH from the equation.
My father often says, "Just because you ordered the steak dinner does not mean you can not read the dessert menu. But do not dare place in order for that dessert. Your steak dinner came with one." My mum and dad often partook of reading the dessert menu in front of each other. They never sampled the extra dessert around them. They both know their steak dinners come with pleanty of dessert. They celebrated 52 years married in April.
@@winstongoodman3244 Strangely, my last girlfriend was back in 2000. Being now 50 years of age, it is likely there will be no marriage for me, ever. However, I rather accepted there will be no marriage back in 2000 when my last girlfriend finished using me, betraying me, then painfully abandoning me. I got frustrated with trying and simply gave up and no longer looked. I have had two girlfriends my entire life. One moved far away. The other found her high school boyfriend but was not done using me nor doing her worse to me and she pretended to love me for another year. Her other boyfriend from high school knew she was going to take all she could from me and allowed her to continue to fake being my girlfriend. After the painful realisation of what was going on, I just stopped the chase after she dumped me. It was likely the best decision I have ever made. Loneliness is far milder than the emotions a fake girlfriend or false friends can stimulate in us. Alone is better than risking being hurt again.
If that is you in the picture, don't accept your current state, get in shape, and become more feminine. This shaved side haircut and everything else is masculine, I doubt you don't understand that men like and are attracted to feminine traits and are turned off by masculine traits.
Yup, lack of affection, lack of communication are some of the reasons I’m out ✌🏽. I’m not going to beg for something I can get elsewhere without asking once and I’m tired of repeating myself. Super annoying trying to have a conversation with someone who can’t take their eyes off their phone for 2 seconds. Not to mention him constantly lying to his family when he doesn’t want to be bothered saying he’s cleaning the house when he’s really asleep. They think I’m a slob.
Behaviour that destroys relationships are@ not right intention, no candid communication, lack of courage & commitment beside of course all the very important points in the video. Thanks for sharing
Hi please I have a serious problem I lack communication skill I don’t even know what to say to a woman,please someone should help me I am so depressed and fucked up,there was a girl who we exchanged number she has crush on me for a long time ,when she started calling I could not pick because I was afraid I had nothing to say and did not want to feel awkward and i did not call back for a long time she is now avoiding me and has been refusing to even let me talk to her or hold her hands,it’s feels I am disgusting
Wow, this video hit the nail on the head! It's so true that certain behaviors can wreak havoc on relationships. Avoiding these common mistakes is key to preserving the love and connection we share with our partners. Thanks for the reminder and the valuable advice
Excellent things every relationship should know... A very educational video. Every couple should take a few minutes to watch it....who knows you might learn a few things you thought you knew..
Thanks for the video, it's throwing light on many good and important things, but many important things are missed out I suppose. While certain facts like dressing up etc are new and surprising to be in this list, there so many more that are far more relevant but absent in your list! Eg: never taking responsibility of your actions, being a hypocrite, never accepting mistakes and defending endlessly, using the partner to ones advantage, it's also a form of cheating! Dismissing the needs of the other one as a constant pattern etc.
I got it! You need to be heard and valued. I don’t feel that. Especially being emotionally and sexually neglected. This has been going on for 20 years. I have communicated my needs, we hav been to life coaches and still he did not hear me. This is a great video.
I never dated, not seriously, until last May. I'm 35 now and honestly, waiting this long was worth it. My love and I met almost 10 years ago and were in/out of contact throughout, with the exception of the about 5 year period that he got back with his teenage sweetheart, until realizing the relationship was toxic and last May texted me out of nowhere. Things happen in crazy ways, but don't look for love. Let it come to you.
Yep my girlfriend lost her husband 2 years ago been with him 36 years she said she needs space so I told her go find yourself and work on you then she text me we were in no contact she said we can talk so I realy love this girl she my keeper amen❤
Lying can ruin even platonic relationships. I ended a 25 year friendship due to her deception & lies. If there is no trust, there can be no friendship.
Communication and Boundaries can solve 90% of these. If yours aren't being respected.... red flag. But also recognize that there is a thing as hypersensitivity
No relationship should be hard and difficult if we both identify our flaws ..work on it individually and then together has a unit...at the age of 41 I don't want another complicated relationship everyone should be heal and ready to enjoy what life we have left
the worst relationship mistake was getting with someone who was more immature then I thought ( cheating, lying to me, disrespecting me in front of her family, she wouldn't learn about relationships and communication like I asked her to.) so I withdrew emotionally and stop giving her affection.
Found my soulmate... nothing to.wrry nothing to fear ..nothing to stress...hes there to support n guide...i make the final decisions. I feel freedom ie no.1 importsnce in my life.if u feel threathen u will nt hv PEACE wo peace u cannt achieve anything...remmbr tht. Love must inckude peace . Love wth chaos is a failed love...
After my 60th birthday I had the type of relationship I thought only happened in books and movies. Most beautiful feelings until I awoke to her,gone forever.
God says.. "Love is kind and patient. It does not boast r dishonor r point others wrongdoings!" Every relationship Every relationship should add value, meaning n strength to one's life. It should deepen our insights, thoughts n attitudes towards positive, loving co-habituation n growth as a secured family,community, nation n global peace!!!!
My last relationship ruined me....he broke me & destroyed my faith in men, myself & God..I don't think I'll ever be able to trust someone enough to let them in long enough to have a relationship.
Im sorry to hear that, he destroyed ur faith in yourself and God. That's pretty deep. I don't even know you but i hope you gain your faith back in God and yourself!
Lisa Elliott, don't let this betrayal destroy you! You just did not get in relationship with a We SPIRIT! .......LISA YOUR AWESOME!!! DON'T FORGET THAT!
I also would recommend a book, " How one of you can bring the two of you closer together " but wouldn't waste my time reading it if addictions are the source of the problem
Respect is easy to give when you are mature and honest nd knows your limit by practicing to apply all of these nd you can both surely building a strong foundation on your relationship😎😍❤🎧🎶💕😘
Insecurity comes from within. I think sometimes it has to do it with emotional scars. I have known very secure ppl, which society wouldn't deem the most beautiful. However confident and secure ppl do not base their worth on how others see them. Hang out with confident people and they will show you a whole new world🥰.
OMG, my marriage is doomed. However, I have known this for a long, long, time know, but it's funny how this list of "doomed behaviors" confirms it. Just basically hanging in there until the last child graduates college. I'll be moving to Canada and living under an alias within the next year. WOOOO-WHOOOO! I'm actually very excited about it! Wish me luck folks!
LOL! I'm the male in this doomed relationship, so it will not be my maiden name. Sorry, I cannot divulge the alias I will be assuming. When I get out, it will be abrupt, and the wake it will cast could possible be far, wide, and catastrophic. However, there's a small chance that life back on the home front will go on without hardly a ripple, and they all will find some much needed, and deserved, peace in their lives. Either way, I will not be caught up in it, and the only way to insure that is to operate under an alias for some length of time. Maybe until my life's journey comes to an end. Who knows? All I know for certain right now is that my future is bright!
Also you need to find someone you can connect with and that simply may not be the person you initially liked and you to accept it, everyone's an individual with different veiws, interests, hobbys, etc
One of major of the relations is call communicate with your partner and respect in a honest, trust in a effective way wat is the intention of the person experience in the relationship...
I have been there for my girlfriend unconditionally but she has been with most characters you mentioned so I decided to leave her last week God will bring me one to understand my companionship to her. Thanks for sharing
@@keneilrichards3014 Thanks, but I'm a confirmed bachelor. I'm one of those few, and rare, individuals that do not ever - and I mean NEVER!!! - plan to get joined to someone else in headlock... err... I mean wedlock. As a God-fearing man I purposely remain celibate in order to not displease our Father and to keep my congregation free from sin.
The first hygiene one is so true my sister broke off an eight year relationship because she’d spend hours to get ready for date night while he couldn’t even brush his teeth disgusting and disrespectful
He may have been depressed from being with a cruel self centered person that never gives him any feeling of love, so what's the point of doing anything, nothing matters because she is a self centered user, everything he does is used and nothing goes back to him in return, she wasnt looking good for him anyway, it was all fake bullshit and one sided. I bet that guy is way better being with someone else.
@@righteouswhippingstick no he’s in jail now cuz he assaulted an ex gf when his ex told my sister he had a secret baby with her 😂 so she dodged a bullet there sorry your personal experience didn’t fit with mine lol
What's the worst relationship mistake you've ever made?
Ignoring partners feelings
Literally asked if her ex and her were still together or not?? I asked her ex and told him her and I were friends since her and I didn't disclose any relationship status together. What a fucking joke.
Put all the effort and commitment for too long! 😕
Being shy and not being able to communicate properly with my so without fear or avoidance.
Always nagging.all of the above you've mention..
A relationship is only hard if one person is doing all the work.
Oh, you know my Ex?
Oh, you know my Ex? (2)
i know how that feels, been there
100 % right
I do all the work in my relationship
Saying sorry is just words we learned when we were kids. Actions say sorry more than any comforting words
Yes exactly!!! And don’t be the one constantly saying you’re sorry because they won’t!!!
Here's the thing, some people need both. My ex husband BLATANTLY refused to ever say sorry and he would get upset when I apologized because he didn't want to talk about anything. You have to be able to COMMUNICATE with your partner to "do better". So, both, both is good.
Actions do speak louder than words.
Don't ever apologize. Ask for forgiveness and don't do it again
When wronged, I do not need someone to show they are sorry nor say they are sorry. I delete people from my life with great ease. I consider myself someone not really very relevant for anybody to know. Thus, deleting others from my life is extremely easy for me. I am valuable to nobody. Deleting others will not effect them negatively. My findings that I am not of value to anybody are confirmed in that nobody even tries to appologise to me when I am wronged, through actions nor through verbal communication. I delete the person from my life and never hear from that person again. It is as if they never truly cared for me at all. But this has benefited me a lot. It just makes true deletion of others from my life a rather conscious free, simple, quick, task. The last deletions I made in my life were in the 8th of August 2000 at 18:34. I finished deleting everyone from my life. I never even bothered replacing any of them. Why bother if I am not of value to anybody. Not all of us need friends, nor a romantic interest.
Don’t lose your identity... that one is crucial! I’ve been in relationships with narcissists and that’s the first thing they take...
Me 6 years with a toxic narcissist who is ironic,high control,liar, flirting full of envious and jelous.God will let me free .
@@mindind6829 Who is to say you are not the narcissist???
100%
Yep.
Same situation as yours and was truly terrible! Most of my mom's family are narcisists, sociopaths and psycopaths 😔😒 I do not pretend to change them but yes draw my line with them, take healthy distance 💙💜🙌❤ And never accept them in my life again !
If someone likes you, they will find a single reason to accept you. If someone doesn't like you, they will find a thousand reasons to reject you.
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Yes🤟even if you give them the world.
I have found that if someone seems as if they like your, there are alternative, nefarious, reasons for it. Thus, if someone seems too friendly with me, or seems to want to get to know me, or seems to find me attractive, I quickly withdraw from their presence to protect myself from becoming a victim of a social predator again. One must always be aware if someone really likes them or if it is all a cruel ruse so you let your guard down. Since I can not tell who is genuinely interested in my or who is looking for their next victim, I just keep things simple and avoid everyone.
You are here because you accepted your ignorance and you want to learn🥰 good job, accepting ignorance is often the first step in education
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OR....people visit this tutorial to find justifications of what we already know to be true and to hear the explanations for the similarities within situations from the insight of a stranger makes the thoughts and feelings feel more factual and more justified.
Nope im just here to see whats up
Allan Besley, why are you here?
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My mistake
Loving him too much and always available for him, but I was his last priority
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I'm certain in these cases, it's exactly being unavailable that keeps the dependent relationship going. If he showed you love, you'd lose interest
@@DrJ-hx7wv I showed him love and he lost interest
You are codependent to him. It's unhealthy. Take care of your self, do your hobby. It is already mentioned in this video. Dont make him your only source of validation.
You'll never be "good enough" for the wrong person.
Honestly just clip off “for the wrong person” and the comment still holds water.
Singles who are watching this, are trying to learn how to improve a future relationship. People who are in a relationship, is learning how to improve it :)
Yes! That’s what Im here for ❤️
Most people are here to have their victim status validated. They are looking for confirmation that they are the good intentioned partner and it’s their significant other who is “narcissist”. People love picking up new vocabulary that they can use when talking about the things he “always does” and how they are the partner who “does everything”. There’s likely a few here who are looking to improve themselves. A few.
So you claim that narcissts don't exists? It's all made up?
A best friend is often a good husband. Because being who you are together, is a beginning of a good relationship, without losing yourself.
How do you address a scenario where only one person keeps texting and the other is quiet
Been married 26 years and we had our rough times. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship but you can grow and change if you really want to. You just can't force another to change. My problem was spending way too much on frivolous items or trying to make the perfect house. In actuality she just wanted to spend time with me. As my father told me once " slow down and enjoy life , you don't have to have the greatest of everything ". That came from a self made multimillionaire that has been extremely poor as well as wealthy. I started following that advice several years ago. I don't try impressing anyone. If you don't like my house , car or anything else that doesn't matter then don't come over. Pretending to be rich nearly caused me to go broke. Don't try to spend money to get the girl. If she truly wants you for you that's all you need.
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He thinks I want fancy stuff but I just want to spend more time with him doing nothing. I don't impose my standards on other people.
Just a communication problem. Ask her what's important to her and what she wants, don't assume.
A relationship is only hard when games are being played. If it's true love, it's not hard whatsoever. It's the best feeling you will ever experience.
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I do not understand. I have always thought that people in love tend to play games together and enjoy each other's company, playing games, living together, making financial decisions, and the such. As you may be able to tell, I have never been in a romantic relationship and my last friends were back in elementary school. I have very little social experience.
you must be foreign. He means "playing games" as in manipulating, being dismissive, etc etc with one another. People in loving relationships don't do this, they DO however play games as you mean. (jenga, connect 4, charades, etc)@@indridcold8433
This is okay because my husband doesn't care a single bit about image and impressing others. He doesn't dress up, he's the type of guy who will be happy to wear singlet, shorts and slippers any day so I adapted the same lifestyle and basically I learned that being a high maintenance woman will only make us broke. We do take care of ourselves still and we make sure we eat healthy and exercise to live longer. However, it really depends on the couple. Some may want to keep up with their style of being glamorous and always looking presentable but being with my husband for close to 10 years now, I've learned that simplicity, respect and honesty makes the marriage stronger and often leads to a happier life. Trust me girls, your beauty will fade, you will have to erase your makeup at the end of the day, your high heels only gives you temporary height and of course your push up bras will no longer support those babies when it's removed. So be you, the man who will not appreciate your natural beauty is only after your appearance and body but not your heart and soul.😉
Best comment so far 🙏♥️ God bless ❤️ much love ❤️
Heels are magical
So nicely and true words you have written
So nicely and true words you have written
Being me is being high maintenance
Sometimes it's hard cause one person makes it hard for no reason.. u can have a good person that works faithful and chills look nice etc.. But sometimes the other person wants it to be harder.. some people destroy what's good without knowing it
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This really hits home with me. I feel like I’ve made all of these mistakes in my relationship. I want to be a better person for myself and for him even if we aren’t together. I never meant for these things to happen, but I am working on my short comings.
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Your girl is so precious because she can become the love of your life. Keep her safe
It takes two people to make a relationship work. But it only takes one to ruin it!!!
Since my love passed away.. and many failed relationships after.. it took many years to finally find my soulmate. I will never take for granted TRUE LOVE! And I will keep myself tight and fit and I want to always have goals for him and myself where we believe in our dreams and make money. Being responsible is very important 👑 I’m trying so hard to change as a mature woman so I can be a great woman for a great man. Also it’s always important to have our own passions and happiness alone and together. I’ve learned so much after so many failed relationships
I will try my best and ask God to bring fruition!!! To all the good people
The best relationship you’ll ever be in, is the one with yourself.
Very true!
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That is the essence of a narcissist. What happens when you want to move on from yourself?
No
I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems
I'm now a codependent...and this is my first ever codependent relationship. You'd be surprised what can happen to your mental state after falling for a narcissistic boyfriend! It's quite intense.
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Is there a part of you that likes it? Are you becoming addicted to it?
It's unhealthy for you. You need to get free or you're liable to take on his behaviors.
At least the make up sex is good....
Never bring up past mistakes and unhappiness in an argument, especially in a heated one.
It is so tempting to hold their past mistakes over your partners head, guilt trip them, let them see the 'wrong of their ways'. But literally, don't.
Keeping score of mistakes (he/she did this X number of times to me, and I only did it Y times) is the worst thing you can do to your relationship. Each time you do this, it creates a snowball effect. When every argument you have with your partner is a compound of all the 1000 arguments you had in the past, it's no wonder that these things can never be resolved.
Instead, be in a very present state of mind when you argue, and pull yourself back to the present when you wander to the past. Only talk about the matter on hand, that's going on at the present moment. Play fair (especially us ladies).
Even if you've got tons of unresolved issues, in the middle of a fight is the wrong place to start talking about them. Relationship issues are like knots, they have to be untangled slowly and gently, and treated individually. Especially for couples who fight all the time. If you reduce the momentum of your fights, there will be a point when things grow calm enough for you to get through to your partner. When both of you are calmer, it's much easier to negotiate and discuss.
Preach! Preach 👏🏿👏🏿
Respect 🙌🤛👏 well worded, great message to follow
@Jose Elizondo Glad to contribute! I'm just someone who managed to turn a really bad relationship around, and am now in a happy, loving, peaceful marriage with my partner. This has worked wonders for us, so I thought I'd share this tip here. Hopefully it might help someone else with their relationship.
Tis true thank you.
I wilm better effort in not bringing up past issues and prayer God to help me and him.
Very well said! And it must be applied in every aspect of your relationship/marriage. However, when past mistakes?; are still continuously in the present. And sadly, tomorrow. Even when said husband allows, dismisses the mother in-law Hitting said wife, upside the back of your head. This is when it’s time to part. Or one will forever hold their self down! And loose themselves to their ways.
Ok maybe I went too far. But I had to vent. For I had allowed them to do to me. I started out with all good intentions throughout our first 5 years of marriage. Now 16 years later I am in shock?! And it gets worse!
Sorry to vent out on you guys.
Any advice?! Or should I just stop sobbing and get out of this page?!
I just noticed I've never experienced a real relationship. I wasn't taught to be in healthy relationships, I am happy to learn this information to know what to do to attract a real one. This video has given me hope to be in a real relationship now. Thanks.
I am married for 5years now, but I like the content of this video thanks for sharing
Why am I watching this when I'm single🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤣😝?
Aww😀😀
I would guess that you're watching this to learn information for your next relationship?
I'm single and I really don't know why I'm watching it either.
When I look back, the things in this video seem like they're pretty accurate.
I feel that it's better to be single then in a bad relationship.
I get lonely once in awhile, but overall I'm pretty happy right now.
Because you are a subscriber so am I.
Watching this even though shes with someone else now 😢
Contact me Jupiter.
Some people can't be in relationships. People call selfishness "self love". Those people need to stay single.
Self-love is not selfishness per se. A person who truely loves oneself will not treat another person badly. Selfishmess does exactly the opposite.
Some people can't tell the difference and they go the wrong way,yes.
In other words, they're not single. They are self partnered .
Self love is not selfish
I agree. I guess i had crush on of the "love yourself kinda girl".
Ended up her fading away for one month, amd rejected after i came to her house, after i tried to meet her at her office. She refused to see me in person for both occassion.
It destroys my confidence, self worth, self respect, and part of my identity. That was my mistake, i choose to love her still after what she did to me. Giving it my all.
Ended up with "love yourself first, so you can love others, fully". Dang that hit the mark.
Does love yourself means that if we found someone else better, we have to monkeybranch? Does love yourself means to ditch someone because his/her flaw/mistake? Does love yourself means that you can neglect someones feelings, without telling them anything, so you can focus on yourself?
I agree! The ignorance about what “self love” is, and how it applies to human relationships with others is blazing these days. This is the apex moment historically of selfishness of every kind.
“Me first, me first, me meeeee!” is not self-love.
It is self-CENTEREDness.
Very different.
Narcissistic in nature.
And sadly, what far too many “embracing my self love” types mistakenly believe to be healthy for themselves and others.
Putting one’s self first all the time is toxic AF.
And it’s demolition for primate species communities, and for our collective survival...
Summary: Stay away from the narcissist!!!
I just got out of the grip of a narcissistic relationship, so the biggie to me is the “No excessive criticism or excessive nagging” rule. After years of that, I felt like I couldn’t even walk or drive correctly or fricking breathe right. The criticism was endless & THAT BAD.
I am waiting to see if my husband is love bombing me this last year or actually trying to change... I started ignoring him first. If he wasn't halfway decent most of the time and we didn't have 3 kids I would have left him because of how much he complained about every day things that needed to be done; so exhausting!
That sounds exactly like my ex. He was always correcting every single thing I did, down to the way I spoke and dressed. I finally asked him one day, why in the hell are you with me if you don't like anything about me. Also, I was the one constantly giving the compliments, he never gave me any. I was sad when we divorced, after he cheated with a girl the same age as our children, but after much thought, it wasn't much of a marriage and I am better off. The only thing I miss is my house.
I was engaged to a Narcissist for 5 yrs. I finally left him.
Yes! My now ex was awful when trying to tell me how to drive all the time , it caused endless arguments, she was so codependent and narcissistic at the same time
Criticism is a massive killer
Yes, I am frequently in huge emotional distress and have many triggers. That makes relationships hellishly difficult.
Hate to say this but most ppl are far too selfish to be in relationships with those of us who have issues. We are seen as emotionally draining or too needy and get cast aside....
yeah, this is me too.... I lost the love of my life, and a woman who thought I was amazing even with all my flaws... god she was my dream come true. my supermodel goddess, my rock, my right hand. but I was so much alllll the time in fear of losing the first woman to ever accept me for me and not try to change me, but love me instead. :(
No sadly we are not hun..... she left me.... its been almost a year to the day. And im no where near over losing her. She was what felt like home. Nothing and no one can even hope to fill her shoes.
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My previous relationship ended because of my own mistakes and flaws.
I love my girl so much that I don't want to lose her at any cost. So I'm here to learn. ☺
Good for you. I commend you for getting help.
That's a good idea 💡☺️ never hurts to listen !
Don’t be like my 24 year old son and kill your self over a girl whom can’t appreciate. Amen. Get some sleep. The next days will be better. Lost Sean Clark last week - sorry I didn’t step in and have him backeracted
So did it work? It's been a couple years
Then why don't you marry her ? 🙄
Being with someone who didn't (or was too immature) to appreciate me for who I was. He wouldn't discuss a issue but preferred to curse me and walk away and watch TV instead. Lack of mature communication skills.
True
Long term commitment is a choice. It is a constant compromise, extend patience and limitless efforts. It should be "Two Against The World". Both of you should have the willingness to invest yourself in able to build a strong, loving relationship. You have to be ALL-IN as Jordan Peterson's advice. Because each of us are different in so many ways, therefore, in a relationship, there will always be a constant battle, not to break you but to teach you how to be the right person for your partner and vice versa. If you feel that you've found the ONE, give your best self and keep improving yourself coz you will be the mirror of your partner😊😉
This sounds like you think one person should change for the other. I don’t agree.
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This is almost every relationship destroying behavior, besides being overly suspicious and jealous. Trying to compete with each other all the time. Assuming. Blaming. Being too passive about your requirements. Holding up standards that aren't reasonable. Complaining about everything. The biggest one I'd say is acting single, that one does the most damage. No one is really ever opposed to you having cute friends but if you're waving around this big I'm single flag and you have so much shame in your relationship with me, I'm out. Another one is when a person doesn't take info on their partner with a grain of salt, they just consider all that is said to be the way of it. Looking for excuses to close off the relationship will kill a relationship, this to me shows more of a lack of enthusiasm for the relationship than dressing to the nines all the time.
Actting Single is buying only the food items you like and not include your partners
items.,
That’s cluster b behavior
I think my partner did that behind my back and when I found out he was saying that she was just a friend .. but I have no proof that he was flirting with her .. I just found it odd that if she did know about me, how was she ok with hangout with him all the time and not even mention me once?
@@nancyalywahby2784 I'm sure there's more important things than food. I'm saying like once I had someone inbox message me "I'm claiming you" I let that mean nothing because what was the person to everyone else, single. The relationship status says a lot.
@@throughbellaseyes if I were to guess, I would say maybe she was just a friend. Maybe he wasn't actually flirting with her. I can't say that she might not have had feelings for him, but I could say that it's very likely your partner can shut it down should things get out of hand. I have been on both sides of this kind of scenario.
I've literally done most of these and recognized when I did them and corrected them to become a better person, for myself, and for the love of my life.
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I almost lost her,
But today she gave me another chance, thanks for making me believe I was wrong
You were wrong🌈
@@Jackgritty28 yes bro I did alot of mistakes, now she's the one doing them
Being in the wrong relationship is the top thing that breaks a relationship.
I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend and the content of this video is highly truthful. Thank you for your work.
The fact that you took the time to watch this means you care.That is awesome.
"I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend"
I lol'd
this is so rare these days
most people just using one another haha
The luck of communication is the top of destruction of a relationship. If you don't hear or understand or talk the person next to you, its a dead end. 🇨🇾
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After the honeymoon phase wore off and the excitement and butterflies of love, I realized we weren't as compatible as I thought. Sounds right? Absolutely not. What happened after this phase was we stopped listening, learning and understanding. Drastic shift from "Ours" to "my". I really wanted to make my relationship work. I also tried couple question games like Lovify. And it actually did help us learn more about each other. But what really made a difference was my willingness to listen and learn more about my partner 💗💗
Underrated comment!
Love this comment 😎
Just a question, how long did your honeymoon phase last?
I found this video to be so useful that I literally wrote down all 12 behaviors and will be using this to my advantage.
Diane Frank, you are absolutely right 🤙🤙🤙
Relationships take hard work. Me and my ex broke up because of finance, he was a spender, irresponsible with money and got himself into debt but would still continue to spend despite it, I am a saver and have my finances under control. We always argued about it until it broke us apart in many ways
That kind of boys gets the most women.
You saved alot of money breaking up with him. I'm glad you didn't let him make the mistake of bringing you into debt like I did.
Same thing happened to me. My ex was just not good with money. She hardly saved and mostly asked me for cash that she wasn't going to refund anyway. So I found myself just giving her cash like that, for free. It became a burden on me financially.
You dodged a bullet girl. You are better much without that kind of guy
Best move you could make
My now ex had tons of money , the final straw for me was her deception with money and the Laws
This is so accurate. Almost of these have been done by my ex. I was hurt so bad but I'm grateful now that I finally made up my mind to let go.
Am hear for you.❤
Thank you a lot for this video clip. This is all problems facing people who are in marriage . If everyone who is in marriage watch this , I think everyone will be faithful to one another in marriage!!!!
With RESPECT (and a bit of common sense) for your partner, most of these behaviours die a natural death.
Amen!
If someone doesn’t love you You don’t need a house to fall on your head you just know it. And when you see there’s no hope there you’ll know that’s it you had enough.
And diffently apologize and being honest and opening up to your partner I feel friendship first is most important before getting involved with someone because I feel that's what builds a strong foundation for marriage or relationship .
Absolutely and totally true. We're living proof of that.
That's true my love you are very correct
True
The best weapon to be used in relationship is honesty, it can take the relationship far,far away!
You have to also be mindful of whether the other person is doing this intentionally ie personality disordered, abusive
Jack Goodings true
Yo they are all abusive
@@sgtmuffinbadger6147 :(
how do you know if you someone is just abusive..
Acting like I don’t love him when In reality I’d die for him
i feel the same way, but I'm being like that because it's hard for me to express my love, i'm not good with words and he thinks I don't love him and yesterday, he ended the relationship💔
I've explained it to him but it seems like he has got tired of me and doesn't care anymore, idk what to do anymore😔
Memeiisyaa it’s your fault. But good luck
@@memeisyaaa6808 stay strong
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@@memeisyaaa6808 did it to yourself
Well being with someone that suffers from depression, anxiety and low self esteem, yes it is hard and makes one tired at times.. but instead of leaving I do my best to help him get through the depression and find ways to overcome and manage the anxiety. To build his self esteem so he can feel good about his self and that he is able to handle things on his on. I don't find those thing an excuse for me to leave him, only if he wouldn't want to help himself, get in a worse state and push me away/shut me out I would have to leave, cause otherwise I would only enable it. You can't help someone that doesn't want to be helped. I too suffer from anxiety and depression but it's been worse for me. He tries the best he can to help me up aswell. I have more knowledge though to manage it myself. But he does take good care of me when my body acts up, like having seizures or having migraine. It's about taking care of each other, to give and to take. Look for the perfection is what's good about the person, not the lack of it because of it's faults. We all have sides of ourselves that aren't all that great.
Two unwell people can't help each other. You both require space, techniques and time to heal. Whoever takes the first step will be the one to quickly begin that process. Best wishes!!!🤗🤗🤗
Feeling Good by Dr. David Burns. Take some action these things can be beat down. You two are feeding each other’s sickness. Find out why and stop.
That lie bit is no joke.. worse thing I ever done was the beginning of our relationship and my untruthfulness. Its made a rough situation out of the best thing that could've ever came my way
Sorry about that dear . You just got to be careful next time
Honestly the whole relationship thing shouldn't even have rules/laws....if someone loves you he/she will find every reason to make it work, if someone doesn't he/she will find every reason to end it.
However, its always better to love than to focus on being loved cause even when it doesn't work out knowing you loved someone genuinely will give you peace.
Are you me?
@@Haddasahssecret 😊maybe..why do you say so?
Some things you just can't accept even tho u love that person and tried your best to make it work and eventually you have to accept and come to terms that being with them will destroy you and your life.
Yes.
Love is not everything in a relationship
True ! Take care of yourself and it Will give you and your dearest more hapiness ❤️
Manupilation kills it faster
Only if the other doesn't know it
@@DrJ-hx7wv ... Wrong. Manipulation is at its very core based on deceit and lies. Whether or not the other person "finds out" does not lessen the fact that one person chose to manipulate another person by being untruthful. The result is NOT a "relationship": it is a manipulative abuse of trust. The manipulator deprives himself as well the moment he chooses to remove TRUTH from the equation.
My father often says, "Just because you ordered the steak dinner does not mean you can not read the dessert menu. But do not dare place in order for that dessert. Your steak dinner came with one." My mum and dad often partook of reading the dessert menu in front of each other. They never sampled the extra dessert around them. They both know their steak dinners come with pleanty of dessert. They celebrated 52 years married in April.
That's actually really cute
Great analogy!!!
34 years married
@@winstongoodman3244 Strangely, my last girlfriend was back in 2000. Being now 50 years of age, it is likely there will be no marriage for me, ever. However, I rather accepted there will be no marriage back in 2000 when my last girlfriend finished using me, betraying me, then painfully abandoning me. I got frustrated with trying and simply gave up and no longer looked. I have had two girlfriends my entire life. One moved far away. The other found her high school boyfriend but was not done using me nor doing her worse to me and she pretended to love me for another year. Her other boyfriend from high school knew she was going to take all she could from me and allowed her to continue to fake being my girlfriend. After the painful realisation of what was going on, I just stopped the chase after she dumped me. It was likely the best decision I have ever made. Loneliness is far milder than the emotions a fake girlfriend or false friends can stimulate in us. Alone is better than risking being hurt again.
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Humm I think the only things I need to work on in my relationship would be my insecurities with my body, and of course communication
make sport. change nutrition.
if you have the body your man want, you dont need communication.😎
sound like.... " Billy....no mates " I can not dress-it- up ....you are "'Doomed'"
If that is you in the picture, don't accept your current state, get in shape, and become more feminine. This shaved side haircut and everything else is masculine, I doubt you don't understand that men like and are attracted to feminine traits and are turned off by masculine traits.
Yup, lack of affection, lack of communication are some of the reasons I’m out ✌🏽. I’m not going to beg for something I can get elsewhere without asking once and I’m tired of repeating myself. Super annoying trying to have a conversation with someone who can’t take their eyes off their phone for 2 seconds. Not to mention him constantly lying to his family when he doesn’t want to be bothered saying he’s cleaning the house when he’s really asleep. They think I’m a slob.
:ggg
This is a good 1.
Behaviour that destroys relationships are@ not right intention, no candid communication, lack of courage & commitment beside of course all the very important points in the video. Thanks for sharing
Hi please I have a serious problem I lack communication skill I don’t even know what to say to a woman,please someone should help me I am so depressed and fucked up,there was a girl who we exchanged number she has crush on me for a long time ,when she started calling I could not pick because I was afraid I had nothing to say and did not want to feel awkward and i did not call back for a long time she is now avoiding me and has been refusing to even let me talk to her or hold her hands,it’s feels I am disgusting
It's sad people don't know these things.
Teamwork requires both sides to win. Win lose relationships are lose lose.
Social media is the downfall of relationships.
People, ditch Facebook, Twitter and the rest.
You will be happier.
@DORCAS T ACHIMI
If they are already an ‘ex’, to late.
Never go backwards.
Cheaters will always have excuse to cheat in a relationship... It's best to let go these dishonest cheaters from your life .
Wow, this video hit the nail on the head! It's so true that certain behaviors can wreak havoc on relationships. Avoiding these common mistakes is key to preserving the love and connection we share with our partners. Thanks for the reminder and the valuable advice
Excellent things every relationship should know... A very educational video. Every couple should take a few minutes to watch it....who knows you might learn a few things you thought you knew..
Thanks for the video, it's throwing light on many good and important things, but many important things are missed out I suppose. While certain facts like dressing up etc are new and surprising to be in this list, there so many more that are far more relevant but absent in your list! Eg: never taking responsibility of your actions, being a hypocrite, never accepting mistakes and defending endlessly, using the partner to ones advantage, it's also a form of cheating! Dismissing the needs of the other one as a constant pattern etc.
This is probably the most fantastic piece of information on the Internet. Thank you so much for creating this video. I will definitely be sharing.
I got it! You need to be heard and valued. I don’t feel that.
Especially being emotionally and sexually neglected. This has been going on for 20 years. I have communicated my needs, we hav been to life coaches and still he did not hear me.
This is a great video.
I decree and declare healing in your relationship❤
Dating someone who relies on me financially and making excuses why.
You can simply walk away from that relationship. You would have better luck with a pond leech and a leech will not lie to you.
Sounds like a parasite living off you LMAO 😂🤣
swt p I’m gonna give your money back.🙂
don't date your mumma
Depends on whether you have the ok , and if you have kids .. do they at least do the house work and cook ?
I never dated, not seriously, until last May. I'm 35 now and honestly, waiting this long was worth it. My love and I met almost 10 years ago and were in/out of contact throughout, with the exception of the about 5 year period that he got back with his teenage sweetheart, until realizing the relationship was toxic and last May texted me out of nowhere. Things happen in crazy ways, but don't look for love. Let it come to you.
Yep my girlfriend lost her husband 2 years ago been with him 36 years she said she needs space so I told her go find yourself and work on you then she text me we were in no contact she said we can talk so I realy love this girl she my keeper amen❤
All relationships are worth fighting for ....however you can't be the only one fighting🤔🙄🙏❤
Lying can ruin even platonic relationships. I ended a 25 year friendship due to her deception & lies. If there is no trust, there can be no friendship.
i havé a LOT of work to do, but if this is what i need to work on, this is what i will work on.
Communication and Boundaries can solve 90% of these. If yours aren't being respected.... red flag.
But also recognize that there is a thing as hypersensitivity
My Rabbi once said all relationships arecodependent. I think so at least to some degree.
I don't wanna get a pet💲
Nah!
No relationship should be hard and difficult if we both identify our flaws ..work on it individually and then together has a unit...at the age of 41 I don't want another complicated relationship everyone should be heal and ready to enjoy what life we have left
the worst relationship mistake was getting with someone who was more immature then I thought ( cheating, lying to me, disrespecting me in front of her family, she wouldn't learn about relationships and communication like I asked her to.) so I withdrew emotionally and stop giving her affection.
Toss the gripe wayside...
yep I've met some type as that.
Dude cheating automatically means it's over and you're there to give her attention not a relationship
Huh.that sucks
Found my soulmate... nothing to.wrry nothing to fear ..nothing to stress...hes there to support n guide...i make the final decisions. I feel freedom ie no.1 importsnce in my life.if u feel threathen u will nt hv PEACE wo peace u cannt achieve anything...remmbr tht. Love must inckude peace . Love wth chaos is a failed love...
I'm proud of myself for taking the initiative to learn about this, so that "we" can be better
I see you've met my ex.
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Bruh hahhahaha
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Ac 🤣Thanks! I needed that.
After my 60th birthday I had the type of relationship I thought only happened in books and movies. Most beautiful feelings until I awoke to her,gone forever.
@Joseph Fontaine Oh dear😳, what happened?
Virus and it was fast,I woke up to her looking into my eyes. But she was gone forever. 😪
Virus took her,I tried to resuscitate her. She had passed in my arms.
I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems
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God says.. "Love is kind and patient. It does not boast r dishonor r point others wrongdoings!" Every relationship Every relationship should add value, meaning n strength to one's life. It should deepen our insights, thoughts n attitudes towards positive, loving co-habituation n growth as a secured family,community, nation n global peace!!!!
I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems
M e s s a g e h i m f o r h e l p o n w h a tsapp...☝️☝️
My last relationship ruined me....he broke me & destroyed my faith in men, myself & God..I don't think I'll ever be able to trust someone enough to let them in long enough to have a relationship.
Im sorry to hear that, he destroyed ur faith in yourself and God. That's pretty deep. I don't even know you but i hope you gain your faith back in God and yourself!
Lisa Elliott, don't let this betrayal destroy you! You just did not get in relationship with a We SPIRIT! .......LISA YOUR AWESOME!!!
DON'T FORGET THAT!
The Lord will heal and restore you Lisa. You are loved and dearly cherished by God.
I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems
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I also would recommend a book, " How one of you can bring the two of you closer together " but wouldn't waste my time reading it if addictions are the source of the problem
Anger 🤬 will and can destroy many relationships.
The best gift you ever get is to look after yourself ❤
@@kisskiess thanks zazuu
How are you doing
I’m doing good and you .nice to hear from you where are you from
@@kisskiess why asking. From Germany
@@TurnerJames-tz1re oh nice and do care for chat to know more about each other better and see where it’s goes in future
Alayeeee okay
Respect is easy to give when you are mature and honest nd knows your limit by practicing to apply all of these nd you can both surely building a strong foundation on your relationship😎😍❤🎧🎶💕😘
Insecurity is my biggest problem 😪 Never feel good enough
Trust yourself. That’s what one of my friends said
But why you look very pretty
Insecurity comes from within. I think sometimes it has to do it with emotional scars. I have known very secure ppl, which society wouldn't deem the most beautiful. However confident and secure ppl do not base their worth on how others see them. Hang out with confident people and they will show you a whole new world🥰.
Sameee . Do not know how to deal with it :(
Same here and I am working on it as I don’t want to drive my future partner away due to my insecurities.
OMG, my marriage is doomed. However, I have known this for a long, long, time know, but it's funny how this list of "doomed behaviors" confirms it. Just basically hanging in there until the last child graduates college. I'll be moving to Canada and living under an alias within the next year. WOOOO-WHOOOO! I'm actually very excited about it! Wish me luck folks!
.. wishing u luck. 🌹 blessings of strength to get u through ..
I’m coming out of the storm to see the rainbows 🌈✌🏻💌🥰
Thank you for the well wishes Mumma bear Cuddles!
lagaman11 Ur very welcome 👍🥰💌
under an alias? Meaning, going back to your maiden name?
LOL! I'm the male in this doomed relationship, so it will not be my maiden name. Sorry, I cannot divulge the alias I will be assuming. When I get out, it will be abrupt, and the wake it will cast could possible be far, wide, and catastrophic. However, there's a small chance that life back on the home front will go on without hardly a ripple, and they all will find some much needed, and deserved, peace in their lives. Either way, I will not be caught up in it, and the only way to insure that is to operate under an alias for some length of time. Maybe until my life's journey comes to an end. Who knows? All I know for certain right now is that my future is bright!
Relationship is hard when the other person doesn't care about the others feelings,giving respect to others feelings
Always go with your gut feelings & never ignore the red flags.
Understood, but also people that overtime all the time and kill a relationship even faster.
You should always be open and honest with your partner. Love each other. You'll thank each other.
This sums up why my marriage didn't last. My partner did all 12 of those things. My resentment was huge by the end of our marriage.😢
I decree and declare healing in your relationship
I decree and declare healing in your relationship 🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing. These are essentials to any relationship. Looking forward to more to come.
I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems
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Exactly
Also you need to find someone you can connect with and that simply may not be the person you initially liked and you to accept it, everyone's an individual with different veiws, interests, hobbys, etc
One of major of the relations is call communicate with your partner and respect in a honest, trust in a effective way wat is the intention of the person experience in the relationship...
I have been there for my girlfriend unconditionally but she has been with most characters you mentioned so I decided to leave her last week God will bring me one to understand my companionship to her.
Thanks for sharing
My name is Ali from Tunisia, I am 34 years old, single and looking for a serious and sustainable relationship
Being in a successful relationship is like walking on a thousand mile tightrope.
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@@keneilrichards3014 Thanks, but I'm a confirmed bachelor. I'm one of those few, and rare, individuals that do not ever - and I mean NEVER!!! - plan to get joined to someone else in headlock... err... I mean wedlock. As a God-fearing man I purposely remain celibate in order to not displease our Father and to keep my congregation free from sin.
@Amber Wallace That sounds like a practical and efficient relationship. Nice!
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Life's Wisdom, demystified. Thank you,
I wish this info was so widely available 25 years ago, when I was facing puzzlement of what went wrong.
Pride , ego, immaturity, and lack of communication skills destroyed my relationship
Very sorry about that, I also happen to find myself in same situation.
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When was yours
You will never again have to complain to anybody that I’m continuously hanging around!!
I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems
M e s s a g e h i m f o r h e l p o n w h a tsapp...☝️☝️
A good relationship doesn't need hard work... a relationship is only good if it' is easy... it should be easy...🎉🎉
The first hygiene one is so true my sister broke off an eight year relationship because she’d spend hours to get ready for date night while he couldn’t even brush his teeth disgusting and disrespectful
He may have been depressed from being with a cruel self centered person that never gives him any feeling of love, so what's the point of doing anything, nothing matters because she is a self centered user, everything he does is used and nothing goes back to him in return, she wasnt looking good for him anyway, it was all fake bullshit and one sided. I bet that guy is way better being with someone else.
@@righteouswhippingstick no he’s in jail now cuz he assaulted an ex gf when his ex told my sister he had a secret baby with her 😂 so she dodged a bullet there sorry your personal experience didn’t fit with mine lol