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- Fake love is when someone only cares about themselves, while true love is when both partners compromise each other. We don’t decide who to fall in love with, so it can’t be helped when we fall for the wrong person sometimes. Are you looking for a more elaborate explanation of the signs of fake love? When we're blinded by love, how do we know who’s worth letting into our hearts and who’s not, who really loves us, and who’s just pretending? We've made this video to help you distinguish the differences between true love and fake love. We've also made a video on how to identify a fake nice person if you want to learn more about that: • 10 Signs of Fake Nice ...
#fakelove #psych2go #relationships
Credits
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Storyboarder: Yi Lin
Animator: Andrew Buchaneon
TH-cam manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
www.powerofpositivity.com/10-signs-youre-fake-relationship/
www.anne-pearl.com/10-undeniable-signs-of-a-fake-love/
www.lifeadvancer.com/fake-love/
www.inspiringtips.com/true-love-vs-fake-love-differences-you-must-know/
www.relrules.com/8-signs-youre-in-a-fake-relationship/
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I'm so sick of this FAKE LOVE! Any BTS fans here? :)
yes!
Here I am!! 💜
Yesss
hereee
Omg meeee
“Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary.”
― Oscar Wilde
Brilliance...this.
Ooooh love that! I shall keep that in my mind!
i treat everyone ordinary
I love reading all your quotes, I search for ur comment in every pysch2go video :))
This is another reason why I admire Wild's intelligence!
Sometimes, it is better to be alone than to be with someone who will make you feel alone throughout your relationship.
Myra you are wise!
It's not our responsibility to make someone complete and happy.
Love yourself❤
You got that shit right!!
@@synthiacollins2139 she meant if you're in relation with a person yet you feel like you're alone, you're better off alone bcz it doesn't make any sense to be with them anymore when you're feeling the same as before. Relation generally don't mean like I should depend on this person for my happiness but its about having someone by your side, dependence also ruins relation
True!!!!💯💯
I couldn't agree more. At least, when alone, you got a lot of freedom, despite not having anyone to share your moments with. But in a fake relationship, you don't have anyone to share with, and you have no freedom.
I was worried my love was fake and this video helped confirm that it was just my anxiety because I don't do any of these things. :)
there is also yr partner part
@@raphvdl they definitely don’t do these
Don't totally depends on videos like this.. There's much more need than only love
Same here, lol 😭😭
Lol I imagine later down the line first 5 points were red flags
I was in a rut for months trying to figure out why my 5 year long relationship ended so abruptly and for little to no reason. This video has not only helped me understand what went wrong, but has finally given me the closure that i so desperately needed. Thank you.
Narcissistic partner I bet.
Is it OK to admit I'm 51 and have never experienced real relationship love? I hope that makes everyone feel better
I think the fact that people in theirs 80’s and 90’s can STILL find and fall in love with someone as if they’re 20 years old again, proves that true love can happen to anyone, at any age, at any moment in time and I find that to be so beautiful!
I hope that one day you experience a real relationship love. I will pray for that! 😁
Yup...I'm 40 and never had unconditional, reciprocal love neither😞
I’m not an adult, but I believe that any age can find and fall in love. It may take what feels like forever, but it’ll happen one day. :)
Hey Bigdog
Nothing wrong with not feeling love. The good thing is you will never suffer the pain of heartbreak.
Honestly, after being in and leaving a committed romantic relationship for the first time, I have never been so happy. I wasted so much time. I don’t know who needs to hear this but don’t get in a relationship just because of how great the idea of dating is. Being single is way better than being in a relationship with the wrong person. I’m so serious btw. I cried almost every night and I lost so much confidence in myself.
Update: I can’t lie that it was hard in the beginning, but I’m far over it now and I’m slowly piecing my life back together. :) Thank you for all your wishes.
I'll remember this
♡
I hope you heal soon
I so strongly agree, can't emphasize more. After being in one for 10 years and then out of it, I literally had the best night sleep for the first time. Though I still can't believe that I wasted an entire decade over someone who wasn't ready after everything.
Mann💯🙏🏽I needed this I’m lost rn so confused
Thanks a lot for this. I am 3 months out of a 7 year relationship and I said ‘yes’ to every single point in this video. There was no love for me to grieve over losing, I deserve better ❤
I had a similar situation. Long sad story, but hopefully this break is permanent
I sometimes truly wonder how people can't be genuinely self aware all these years!!
Yes sweetie you deserve the best!! 💕
Infidelity is such a bad thing to have in any relationship. My advice will be for anyone having such thought to fully understand that it will always inhibit one giving his or her best in any relationship. So the best thing to do when infidelity issues arises is to find out for sure. I used to have allot of doubt about my partner and had to find out for sure. It was heart breaking what I found out but the best thing to do to keep my already troubled mind at peace. Thanks to the help I got which enable me to find out everything and see things for myself. I was really happy I did take the step and now my heart is peaceful after everything.
The email address above helped me discover everything. If you are having any doubts? send him an email and thank me later.
So how did you get to find out?
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There’s a big difference between being loved and making someone feel loved
Hello
I actually went through this in my past relationship all 8 signs.this made me feel glad it ended.
It’s also okay to want the love in return that you’re giving. One sided relationships break people.
There is an even bigger difference between faking love for someone and being in love with someone. In the 21st century, I believe nobody is capable of true love. They are either on their highest guard against being hurt again and allow nobody to get close to them. Or, they are the type ready to attract someone with the ruse of love, but is actually looking for a victim. There is no way I am ever letting anybody ever get close to me again. I need no friends nor a girlfriend, not the kind that exist today. Modern version of love and friendship is toxic and dangerous. I require none of either.
@Lacey Man bb bb if bb is bb vs BBC non
If you become uninterested in your partner or don't want to connect with them, THEN TELL THEM AND LEAVE. So many people stay even though they act distant. Do yourself and the other person a favor and leave.
My ex left me hanging for a year🙂 He could’ve just exited & spare me my 365 days
I relate on this because my last relationship is so much toxic all the signs in this video are the signs he's been giving on me
i did this and he still wanted to stay with me n he got a girlfriend after a month because he couldnt stand being alone and he told me if i ever changed my mind hed drop her in a second 🙄
Exactly! Even worse when they cheat on you,
actually you are right 😭
I feel attachment styles also play a huge part in certain behaviors. Clear communication is key for sure.
My attachment style is avoidant. I am not exaggerating. As soon as I feel any sort of attraction to anybody, whether amicable or amorous, I delete that person from my life permanently and never look back. I will never allow a friendship nor a romance to ever develop again. Both social bonds are unnecessary, end in extreme emotional pain, and are nothing but a ruse for a social predator to take everything they can from you then move on to their next target. Avoid being used, betrayed, and painfully abandoned. Make your attachment style avoidant and never be emotionally devastated again.
true. psych2go is dying lately and is out of information they just make things up out of 15 year old's opinions
@@indridcold8433 maybe you're fearful-avoidant?
@@daegugloss1231 That may actually play a part. I never thought of that. I really am rather fearful of experiencing what I did again. However, if I do not learn from my errors, the entire experience of being social would have been a waste of time and resources. If nothing else, I have to gain, at least, a learning experience. That painful year and a half did actually teach me a lot. It has kept me from making friends or another girlfriend again. This is a good thing.
@@indridcold8433 I hope you heal your trauma and find good friends/a partner eventually.
I dated a girl seven years ago, which had spot on most of those traits, including one, two, seven and especially eight. Eight was the most prominent one. Back then, I cried a lot, nowadays, I'll just take those memories as a face value lesson about fake love and fake relationships.
I was married to someone like this for 5 years and it completely destroyed me. I finally left while he was out of town because he always tried to stop me before. I was single for 2 glorious years before meeting the love of my life and the timing was perfect. I’m not sorry I went though what I did in the last relationship, because it allowed me to truly appreciate this one so much more.
This made me cry, I realized I was in a relationship like this when it was too late. I sacrificed a lot for that person and it was worthless.
I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️
Whtsaap him**
Same i am so mentally exhausted i have been with a toxic guy since last 4 years and now when i realise i am so done i feel so bad for myself 😞😞😞😞😞 i am still unable to move on
@@Anonymous-lr3xj don't give up on you, just try to do things that bring you joy, small things are important in moments like this. I moved on by doing things that make me smile, like music or food. You will be okay 🧡
@@OdzuchiKodzuchi yeah i will be okay soon...hopefully and congrats to you for moving on in life May ALMIGHTY Bless you
Summary:
1. They change you 0:39
2. They try to control you 1:11
3. They dont trust you 1:36
4. They dont prioritize you 2:06
5. They emotionaly distant 2:38
6. They seem unintrested 3:12
7. They dont meet you halfway 3:43
8. They easily give up on you 4:18
Thank me anytime
Faced number 4 the most
Heaven help us all...i can't pretend, if i love,i love.if i don't love i don't...
🙌
Mine is all except for no. 3.
Thank you!❤
The worst is the 1st one for me and when I was reading the comment I was in "they try to control you " and suddenly I read your name. Now it means "they have always tried to control you"
"Relationships don't need to be perfect to make you happy." ❤️
This is false on so many levels. Your partner might love you as much as you love them, but they might be really depressed and have traumas that make them distant. Also maybe they aren't making excuses to not hangout, they just really like their alone time mostly, and if the other partner is really needy and clingy it's difficult. I feel the same way, and I keep telling my partner it's not fair to him. I've tried to break up with him numerous times, but he shows up at my house or my job immediately after I try to break it off. He shows up and cries and guilts me into being back with him so I do. It isn't his fault at all, it's mine. I don't want to be with him anymore, because of my own issues. He's great, and he deserves a woman more his own age who lives closer to him and had a real career and a house and stuff. He needs a real human being, not me. I don't know what to do.
Honestly this is my exact situation. My bf isn’t perfect but he is also not all flaws. I’ve been having this weird feeling of just not being right for him and thinking he deserves a different type of woman that has an open schedule and can just go with the flow and someone who isn’t as traumatized and depressed as me. When I’ve tried to breakup or express this to him he always comes back and cries to me and I cry to him because I know I really love him and don’t wanna give up but it’s hard when you’re sad and your relationship kinda makes you sadder cause it makes you see the worst abt yourself. I always end up feeling the sane right after we make up. When I watch these type of videos they make me feel even worse but remember these videos are like looking up your symptoms on Google. Ofc it’s gonna tell you the worst possible thing.
@@freefloo5126 Is there some healing or therapy you think you would need to help cope or heal from trauma. It's always good to do self-healing when single and while you're in a relationship.
As a man, traumas hit really hard and we are expert repressing. He should solve his traumas before he gets to shove those traumas to other people. Seek help in therapy and so on
Ppl with so many traumas and issues need therapy NOT a relationship, get you and your stuff sorted out before getting involved with someone else, I myself refuse to get involved with another avoidant it is waaay to hard.
Psych2go: "Have you ever fallen in love?"
Me: *with someone who doesn't exist, of course*
Yes
XD
Who is your anime crush? :)
@Alex 999 haikyuu?
@@Psych2go I donut have a anime crush but im a simp for spongebob
Can someone talk about how soothing her voice is?
Okay I can talk to you 'bout that..
Her voice is sooo sooooooothing omg
LOL
Euphoric....I hope she's a counsellor/psychiatrist therapist. She could really help relax people.
I actually like her voice, too. Very relaxing to hear.
Yes, she should make a fall 😴 video as well
Who you telling... He voice was sooo sooooootttthhhing until it made me fall back in love with the lady I was falling out of love with... 🤣🤣🤣💪🏿🤞🏿💯
All of these resonate with me so much. My first relationship lasted 5 months and I suffer from depression and anxiety really bad, so I went into the relationship feeling lonely and wanted to get rid of that feeling. It only made it worse in the long run and I ended up feeling even more alone. Just a word of advice, NEVER go into a relationship feeling lonely and depressed. Make sure that it is what you really want first.
Wish you the best!!!😘 Take your time....
I actually just ended a 6 year relationship where they did the passive version of these checks. Meaning they were never too vocal, it was subtle enough to just wave it off but ended up building over time. I wish I saw it early in the relationship. I fell head over heels while to him, it was just ordinary. I was always on the back burner. I always considered him in every aspect of my life, my schedule, groceries, bills. And he showed very little for me. When we had a discussion, he shut down. Sometimes even cried because he couldn't handle a serious conversation. At first I was sympathic, making excuses for that behavior. But then it happened more and more. He made comments that stung me. A recent change in me broke that last thread and finally he saw reason.
Connecting on an emotional level is so important. Otherwise you are living in two different world mentally 🥺 Real love includes letting people in and seeing the things you normally hide from the world. A true partner loves and accepts your full self, not just what is on the surface. ♥️
Emotional bonding is so crucial to a healthy relationship
@Ferzzy I had a guy who we shared all the same values and morals... dreams? But still that was not enough. He was emotionally distant. Never opened up about anything on his own, I brought everything up and was open and initiated everything. There are many aspects of emotional connections and just putting in for emotional effort is one of them. This really broke the relationship for me because I tried really hard to get him to understand what I wanted from him, but he just never understood or didn’t want to...
If the surface is what makes them happy I say go for it.
Love takes many forms, there is no right or wrong way to love.
Besides, life is far too short to not be chasing whatever makes us smile.
In the end that's what matters, that we found our happiness in life.
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The person we should all probably be dating is ourselves.
Loving ourselves as much as we would love another, is real-true love.
It's probably the longest and most important relationship we will ever have.
Jada Pinkett 👇 Singing the Entanglement Song!
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here are the 8 signs of fake love:
1. they change you (not for the better!!)
2. they try to control you
3. they don’t trust you
4. they don’t prioritise you
5. they’re emotionally distant
6. they seem uninterested
7. they don’t meet you halfway
8. they easily give up on you
be aware and careful of who you are with!! i hope you’re staying safe, healthy and happy 💛
I think my friend Nina doesn’t like me idk cause she seems uninterested- but she does like someone else so I’m happy of that ☺️😌🏳️🌈
Actually, Slightly more than half
Lol tath was a good description of my x internet girl frend
Here's something funny.
I'm with someone who was interested and genuinely loved me at one point.
But then came someone and shared their feeling towards him and he got confused whether he wants someone irl that he can cuddle and fuck or his guaranteed permanent soulmate (he knows we're soulmates and soul bound so all other relationships will fail) who is willing to meet with him irl once we get our lives stabilized.
And you know? He started acting out of character out of nowhere and became even more apathetic and unwilling to talk with me or even communicate.
Like if the value of what we have suddenly decreased the moment he found that other people will fall in love with him and that I'm simply replaceable.
I'm already getting ready and working on distancing myself from him for the time being until he matures and realizes his mistakes, but yeah, I find a few of these signs pretty relatable.
So I just found out my bf is toxic af😌
I’m in my 3rd relationship and I have never felt this in love with a person before. The feeling of being deeply loved and deeply in love with someone is the best ❤
Thank you for sharing it. It make me realize my last ex gf was so toxic. She doesn't even care to me, didn't make time for me, and so emotional to solve the problems we have. But I am happy right now. I hope I could find the better one, soon.
1. They change you 0:37
2. They try to control you 1:10
3. They don't trust you 1:36
4. They don't prioritize you 2:05
5. They're emotionally distant 2:37
6. They seem uninterested 3:11
7. They don't meet you halfway 3:42
8. They easily give up on you 4:17
Except for one and two this sounds much like me ):
How r u from 3 months ago i-
3 months-
**laughs nervously @ my bf**
wowa how old is this video
Me: reads the title
My brain: I’m so sick of this fake love, fake love.
Me too I thought this too ARMY
@@kookietaeuwu3960 hehe 💜
lol same😂
Armyyy
Same🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈💜💜💜💜💜
She missed THEY DON'T RESPECT YOU
All of that was my ex, so glad to be out of that. It's miserable to be with someone who wants to control you and has no interest in anything you do. That relationship did teach me one thing. That I'm okay being single.
I think another sign is when they say they love you early on...like 2 weeks after meeting and push hard for exclusivity. RUN Away
Can you tell me reasons why? Please.
Love bombing. Narcissistic and abusive relationship tactics.
Amen! I dated someone many years ago who on our third date wrote me a terrible poem that ended you are the most important person in my life. The night that I dumped him a few months later I found out that he considered us going steady, and we never discussed that.
In most cases I think your statement is likely to be true. However it is not always so. The strongest kind of romantic love can also come on just like that. At least with my particular love story it did. My husband told me he loved me within the first week and normally that would of had me running because normaly it's a red flag. But it was different with him and I finally admitted to myself that I already loved him to. It would of course still take me another week b4 I said I love you back instead of thank you 😂. I've been married to my soulmate for 11+ years now. Hugs 🤗
Yeah...that happened with this one guy early on 2 or 3 yrs ago I think. It was online & he streams on Twitch, I stream on Twitch as well & I kinda knew deep down like..."Why did he say that he loved me real early?". I knew it felt kind of off. But my young silly self just said it right back. I kinda don't know why I did. That relationship was kinda weird to be honest. Some of the friends that him & I talked to knew that him & I were together. It got kinda messed up. And one person who him & I were kinda friends with...she kinda tried to mix things up about me & the other friends. Made up lies about me & shit. It was not pretty haha
This fake love issue is everywhere. At this point I have hardened my heart, because the more I try to find love, the more I get hurt. I have given up o love.
Why do you want to find love?
@@Dio-fw4bm because at a point, one will need someone to talk to, share their plans and burdens with. Someone to fill that vacuum in one's heart.
@@plamialuisa823 jesus
@@Dio-fw4bm so u will get married to Jesus right
@@plamialuisa823 no, it was an exclamation not an answer
That moment when this video points out both the flaws of your partners and of yourself. That last one totally has been me, but I’m working on that the best of my ability. It’s clear that despite the drama and differences, I am very much cared for and valued, as much as I value those partners.
Hi l got my relationship was fixed back again with the help of a great man my ex is back to me we loving and happily together again after many years of separation, I will suggest y'all get help from him and it's works within 48 hours.
He was the one who helped me restoring back my ex 3 days ago without delay 🌹🌹
Whatsaap him"**
I’m thankful to have experience real love twice and I’m only 23. It hurts to lose it, but if you let that break you down then you won’t be ready when the right one comes around. The phrase “it’s better to have loved and lost” holds true, in my experience
If it ended, it wasn't love
A narcissist won't call it quits with you until they drain the last drop of blood from you
Currently not seen my 2 sons in 10 weeks for no reason other than I'm a good dad that wants to be there dad and not leave them like other parents are guilty of in the country and unfortunately all over the world only just learn I was living with a narcissist however I new something was extremely wrong .hopefully your out of the mess you must of found urself in to comment in that manner good luck .🙏
But they will threaten to if they think it will control you.
So freaken true. Or I finally just couldn't do it anymore and left.
Right and I texted the narcissist today telling him I miss him I’m an idiot
@@athena4518 And if them leaving doesn't scare you they get worried they are losing whatever it is they are draining from you. They worry they have lost their supply like an addict.
Guys..."if someone wants you, nothing will keep them away. But if they don't want you, nothing will make them stay. Period."
Mmmm word
ooh preach it
Ayye
I like, that it's beautiful, sad & true all @ once
You are a *wizard*
You posted this 5 minutes ago and already have a few comments and likes. Like damn bruh.
Dude, i lived for 5 years in a relationship where the other one ticked all 8 points you explained in the video, but i was so blinded by my love that i ignored it all and thought the problem was with me
wow, that rly hurt, but i guess i finally know, what was going on and that i also no longer need to fight. Thanks for this brilliant Video.
"TRUE love doesn't take away from your Shine OR your spirit."
Then true love does not exist in the confines of a relationship. Spirit crushing seems to be an integral part of the package.
Syrvivorship, but some times it does and you have to find yourself, who you were and be even better.
True words!
Bruh i read it just as she said it
never waste your time on someone who doesn’t appreciate how friggin amazing you are. i’m being serious. they literally do not deserve you!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
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What if I'm not amazing at all?
Lol.
2nd question: htf then complement woman/men?
Try asking why do they say it. Loving ones answer constantly.
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True, thanks
I have been the victim of fake love. I gave her my all efforts. In the end despite my pure love for her she still decided to break my heart. My heart feels so hurt at some point it starts hurting in my stomach. I hope no one has to go through this feeling. I feel so empty and hopeless. May god give me patience.
yes, all checked. Deeply hurt inside and still healing. Advice for singles, better know than sorry. Take these words to heart. God bless.
This made me cry. Current partner is almost all the signs mentioned 😭
Edit: Wow. Can’t believe people are right with their comments. My partner has been cheating this whole time. Fucking hell
Same girl. I honestly feel like I need to leave him but I love him so much and I'm stuck in the cycle of doing everything i possibly can to make him love me more and I'm just running out of patience.
Yeah the girl I love shows also the tendency to all these signs, I think it has much to do with the toxic relationship she was in for 2 years but I don’t know what to do shes already so stressed out
@@enygma9596 Hmm would make sense because my boyfriend admitted he was never like this until he dated his ex. She messed him up physically and mentally so much. He has to still deal with her too because she had his kid.
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Damn that’s tuff sorry to hear that…. Wouldn’t let that happen to me thoooooo
“Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.”
― Maya Angelou
not with the same person again tho >.
I don't know why but im single and still watching this video😅😅
Lucky for me, I just met the most "Fake Love" recently, And boy oh! Boy all these things were so clear. thank God I'm already out on that SO "One-sided Relationship"! what a breathe of fresh air!
Probably it was too intense at the beginning but then you realized that you have nothing in common
@@alexanderg8466 You said it right Mr. Alexander.
What if your partner is very depressed? It may be difficult to show too much love if you are going through depression.
@Marchell Rhyn and if u become distant because u have depression, but they’re the first that u respond to when u can... and... in the end they start to leave u behind... being there only when u can be “able” and “enough” for them. What can I do?
I struggle with depression but I communicate with my partner. I always tell him when I'm having an episode and then he gives me my space if I need it. But if I need to talk something out, I tell him and he listens and I appreciate that. Even though he might not have answer, he's there to listen and I do the same for him too.
I hate talking to anyone when I am having an episode bc I don't like having negativity around people so I close myself off but I always try to leave a little message for my partner so he knows than him thinking that he did something wrong or him thinking I'm planning to breaking up with him lol. He always be thinking of the worst for some reason.
normally there are signs you can look out for, to see if it's depression. all depressed people kinda stick to the, 'glum, reserved, quiet' theme. just ask them how they are doing, and if there's hesitation in their answer, try to ease them into opening up to you. there's always signs to look for, whether it's fake love, or they're actually depressed.
I struggle with depression and my boyfriend is the person I always talk to when I feel really down. No matter if I understand the reason behind my depression or not all I know is when I feel depress I'll sit and talk to my boyfriend about it and try to overcome it together.
I feel like depression can be a little bit selfish. You can't force a person to be mentally healthy and a person can be so depressed they can't be in a healthy relationship. That's just what I've experienced.
As someone who was on the other side of this for a couple of points, I always felt terrible. I was aware I wasn’t prioritizing her, and not meeting her halfway, so I talked with her about it often. I had had trauma from a relationship in the past that made me feel like I was incapable of feeling my love for her. The two of us discussed my troubles with this often, and it was really just two years of working out whether or not we were truly in love. We couldn’t figure it out. Or certainly, at least I couldn’t. But in hindsight, it was so obvious the whole time that it wasn’t JUST my trauma; I probably didn’t really love her either. And I hurt her for no reason. She’s doing wonderfully now, and I removed myself from her life after knowing she was doing great.
But that’s why I dislike the attitude toward the person on the other side in these videos sometimes. They’re just portrayed as “selfish” or “manipulative,” like caricatures of evil. But in reality, I believe those people are often dealing with their own struggles, mental conflicts, and trauma, which causes them to act in the way they do. I would appreciate if we could have a more neutral view on subjects like these, or even make understanding videos about what causes people to act like that. It would also help people like me self-reflect.
this is exactly my case, but I apologize immediately and move on. No one deserves to get hurt for whatever reason and leaving is the best choice if you aren't ready for relationship and needed the time to heal.
Exactly
Most don't realize it's trauma that is the sole cause of Most negative behaviors
This. This takes extreme humility of oneself to seek why your partner is acting a certain way towards you. To find a logical validation as to why they may be distant or disregarding you. I am going through this right now. and much worse that I don’t know how to handle.
Well, you want people to understand you but remember nobody has the responsibility to do that. If it is all guilts and shame that make you feel uncomfortable, embrace that uncomfortableness and fix your problem with actual behaviors before you got another innocent human being involved.
Really nobody wants to deal with that if you’ve been in their place you know it.
I find that respect is a stronger foundation for a relationship than love is.
Genuine and heartfelt love is mandatory too❤
@@LisaKautjaa True, but people fall out of "love" all the time. But respect must be actively lost.
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Your voice is so calm, I really like it!! 💗💗 it’s so beautiful
I watched this video when i was still with my ex, ignoring many of these signs, and here i am months later watching the same video after we broke up and i can literally tell you guys that these things are none to be ignored. Listen to this. Trust me.
I’ve been with my girlfriend for about 3 months now and she exhibits 2 signs: not prioritizing and not meeting halfway. I’m always the one hitting her up to hang out and spend time, but she never does it for me. She’s also always busy and i never feel as though she goes out of her way to find time for us to be together, meanwhile i do it all the time. It makes me feel really insecure and as though I don’t mean as much to her as she does to me. I brought it up to her cause we both agree communication is key and she’s done a bit of improving, but it’s starting to go back to square one. I’m willing to make this work, but I hope she is too.
I feel like I’m the toxic one doing these things, not them. But I don’t want to be like that, I even tell my partner that. They spend time with another person, and have told me that they have a crush on them. How am I not supposed to act this way? How am I not supposed to be wanting to read their texts and be concerned and untrusting, they have hid away their feelings from me, because they are afraid of how I will react, but that only makes me more paranoid because how can I know what is the truth and what isn’t? I am not supposed to make it a them or me situation, but he has barely known this person for like a month or two, so why is it so cruel and controlling to say it’s rather him or me. Maybe I should say that, because I feel like I’m being toyed with, like I’m stuck in a game. But I don’t blame them, because they feel horrible themselves, I love this person so much, but idk what to do. I’m completely lost. They have been reassuring, but he spends so much time with his new friend who he had a crush on and who he sent n3des to, and the other guy wants him, I mean I really don’t want to be controlling, but like I said maybe in this case it should be a him or me, reassurment is one thing, action is another, what do you think? Please help me
My partner had 7 of the 8 signs shown here...I left and never regretted leaving
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@@lobear3074 in your case I will say that once you love someone you can never get attracted to other person. He/ She told you that she/ he is having a crush on each other. It is very obvious for any partner to suspect it his/ her partner is loyal to him/ her. In your case I myself is having doubt on your partner's loyalty. It is also our responsibility to give our partner that comfort to trust us, we should not make our partner insecure by getting interested in other guys.
After getting cheated on by the same person twice, I learnt things the hard way and can confirm that each of these signs are absolutely correct!
It's all I went through. Nothing but cheaters. Single for 8 years and that's permanently where I stay.
@@SinisterScoundrel6562 I agree with you. It's better to stay alone than deal with cheaters.
Same, girl 💕
May you shine and get the strength to deal with anything in this world. You deserve every bit of happiness. May you get whatever you wish for. Keep smiling :) ❤
Once feelings change there's no saying they can change again, I put some tests which gives least 70% accuracy.
I was just diagnosed with generalized anxiety and critical depression and I've exhibited the last one to my partner many times. I've learned to be more open and honest with them, instead of assuming that my problems or questions aren't work anything and to just break it off. Being insecure in a relationship sucks, especially because it causes my partner to constantly reassure me. I have never exhibited the others. Also this is only my second relationship and we are long distance. I'll be visiting them in a week! It'll be the first time we've seen eachother in person in almost two months.
Be strong. It's same for me. I have bpd and other disorders, it's better to be honest than to not be cause you are afraid of the dude/girl leaving you. I have been honest from day 1. I am also in a longdistance so meeting is rare.. :/ AND if they don't support you, you will know they are not the one for you.
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My gf too lives there.
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I was like this before. I have toxic behavior when I had a girlfriend. But now, I am trying to changed my behaviour to others, my parents, brother, and sister. Thank you for this. It helps a lot for me as a guy.
That's good to hear
So real
This is probably not toxic this is the way u speak love. U have an opinion on where they go what they wear who they are with because u care . But once they give u an answer u gotta trust and let her that's love . If u stop them and question further that's unhealthy
@@ericaroundtheworld stop justifying over possessiveness as 'not toxic'
I can relate to a lot of these, only I just now realize that I was the antagonist. Not too long ago my girlfriend broke up with me and we had a lot of these issues only because I wanted to not overcomplicate things, but meanwhile I didn't know how much I was ruining it that way. I am 22 now and she is 19, but we've been together for 3 years. I cannot believe the person that I was to her at certain times especially nearing the end. I want to say I had a lot on my plate with work, getting my driver's license and such, but in no case does it make sense now. She should've been the priority and my carelessness didn't even think about it for the sake of keeping things simple and going with the flow, not realizing how much I was hurting her with it. I hope I didn't scar her too much and that by working on myself I can get her back, but in a way I'd understand if she was too scared of trying again. It's definitely left a big scar on me, the realization that I was the problem 😢
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@@michaelvasquez3544 Yeah wait a minute
You are so awesome for admitting your wrong doing, seeing it for what it is and fixing it. You needed it for yourself, you did the work for your highest good, it appears your Ego wants her back, your higher self is ready to move on.
i think an apology would go a long way towards healing the situation. even if you didn't end up together, it would be really beneficial to her. and you as well, for owning up.
(a lot of times showing self-awareness and accountability will earn you another chance because a change is coming from within. don't make promises of new behavior, DO new behavior.)
I didn’t realize how much I wasn’t doing for my partner until a big issue occurred. It broke me down, and I started looking at all the small things. I’m in a similar boat as yours. Work on yourself and try to understand your actions.
I wish you the best, 🤞
This video confirmed my thoughts about my past relationship. Thank you
This hurts a lot. A lot of these things were false until the end. The slow death of a loving relationship is the greatest pain I've ever known.
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Loving relationship dont die.. Until its false
I am starting a relationship right now and that kinda scares me... I am usually bad at expressing emotions.
@@tingle2323 A seed that have never sprouted does not die as well. But once it happens, a young plant always needs someone to take care of it. There is a price for carelessness.
@@alexanderg8466 Always be honest and open. Don't hide anything.
And don't be afraid to communicate.
Trust and Honesty are keystones of relationships.
Much luck and love to you in your Life Journey. ❤️
This resonates with my last relationship in so many levels i'm amazed
Never treat someone like a priority when they consider you an option
I've been remorseful over the past week over how I let an amazing girl go years ago and seeing this video, along with now understanding I was a narcissist and an avoidant, further shows me the work I need to do on myself. Thank you for your work.
Otto, You can't be too much of a narcissist if you have remorse. Everyone has traits of narcissism, you my friend will make it! You realize things and admit things that a true narcissist would never do. God Bless you.❤
“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”
― Carl Gustav Jung
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Oof... I'm a chemistry student and this is deep😂
fake love. i'd almost just call this toxic rships. spot on with all the points, though. and you can see this in both relationships AND friendships.
This really eased my mind. I just told my partner I love them for the first time last night, and I’ve been really paranoid (rough past relationships). I’ve been in fake love before, and this isn’t it. There’s nothing from this list in our love, and I’m so happy.
I think everyday you should say to her that you love her. (But only if you really feel it.) Your past shouldn't be in present. Coz if you keep yourself in the past it's gonna be unfair to your partner because she will do things for you and yet you will still remember the past relationships you had that can ruined the present situation.
Maybe that's why there are ppl that hesitant to do so. They afraid the history may repeat. But it's totally unfair. Lol. Just saying .
Giving a second chance just gives them an opportunity to take advantage of your trusting and forgiving nature
yea but not always
there are some people who actually ask for a second chance only because they completely understand and regret their mistake
but yea,as i said,"some" people
I couldn't agree more
Yup
@@maithreyi5928 It's a gamble. What if the person you are dealing with is not among "some" people like you are describing?
Better to not play that gamble
@@berkaydemirbas3841 i do agree tho
I'll be honest, a couple of years ago some of these were definitely a problem between my partner and I. It took a lot of work and improvement, but I am very happy to say I don't see any of these in us today. We've been together for four years now and I can truly see a future with him.
I'll be honest. I have trust issues but I do love my lover. However we did have a bad past together of hurting each other, but fake love can't be defined by trust issues, but if someone is constantly in control or doesn't care at all is two great ways to find out if they love you or not. A lot of this in this video is kinda true, but some people who do have real love just have some problems from the past that they need to open up about.
Agree
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Please, if you can make a video on giving your ex a second chance or not
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Thank you so much
Agree! And great topic idea ♥️
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@@Psych2go at first I thought this was one where it tells *YOU* if you actually love some not other way around lol
That's an awesome idea!
I feel like the jealousy one could also be scars from bad past relationships right? Besides that great video!
Everybody can get jealous every now and then, but jealousy to an extent isn’t healthy or romantic. It normally hurts both you and the other person in the end. It can be controlling and suffocating, and sometimes it’s best for them to heal before dating someone else, because for you both to be happy you need to trust each other. Relationships are built on trust. I hope what I said makes sense😅
I think that's why they said "constant *unreasonable* jealousy", key word being unreasonable
I was accused of being jealous, but upon looking through his phone, I was right 😞 I think if you feel you have to look *that* is a red flag too.
Or not structured development
that’s why we should heal first before entering another relationship.
LLLOOOOOVVVVEEEEEE this video. Been there and agree with everything!
This one really kicked me in the chest... great videos as always.
Just in my many decades of experience and many relationships. I eventually got married (and only once).
Love isn't some magical event. That feeling is called lust or infatuation. Love comes over time. When people say "I loved you from the moment I met you", that was actually infatuation caused by overwhelming excitement.
Love comes from appreciating something/someone. But you only learn what you appreciate over time.
Some reasons people love something/someone:
- The way they make you feel
- Someone who appreciates you
- Objects comfort you
- Successful teamwork through communication and compromise (which is terribly difficult for most humans)
- The most important thing is that you can tolerate somone and vice versa. Sounds harsh but it is exceptionally difficult to tolerate people for long periods. You have to be able to to tolerate the individual (possibly for life). The good, the bad, the quirks, the noises they make, the flaws in character and judgement.
The main point is, love is not instant. It is an example of something that humans have to earn. It is not a right that you just instantaneously receive.
granted. This is true when the person marries you and has some, genuine interest. I married a man whose culture and religion does not allow dating. We both thought that the love would come eventually with patience, respect and trust. He would do most of these signs. So no, even if we had an agreement, this man is ready to throw the towel, criticizes me for all my short comings and weaknesses, doesn't value my time, and i sacrifice a lot for him. He is not interested in teamwork, and he is not interested in me as a person. I have experienced several humiliations due to this. So no, no, no , no....love may not be instant, but neither does it come overtime if one of the parties does the things in this video. I am more convinced that he is just using me, or has decided that he likes someone else.
Love this ❤️
Nailed it! 🙌 Every word true and could potentially save people alot of pain and money unfortunately you could put this on every billboard and most will still learn the hard way 😞😕
people need to realise the feeling of love is not always constant either. theres ups and downs. but true love is also more than a feeling, its real effort, and a choice to make.
I think you hit the nail on the head, squarely.
Who else jumped to the comments without finishing the video?
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If you are reading this, this is a positive sign. You are worthy. You are brilliant. You are loved. May all your worries wash away and you find pockets of peace throughout your day. 💗 Dr. Liz
Thank you for the positive reassurance!
thank you! ^^
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Or something?
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or you just don't have much of an attention span. potentially jump to conclusions without hearing someone out first... lol
Thank you so much for your great videos. They are very helpful and also sometimes they confirm things for me
This is HELPFUL
A majority of these sound more like history of bad relationships , insecurity depression than not loving someone you love. You can also be happy in the relationship but don't meet each other's true expectations, so if you love eachother make time for eachother go on dates, go for walks together play hames together laugh at videos together have a movie night together when ever you can and try to meet what you each talk about when it comes to little requests. Most importantly communication is simple,... You ask questions, you say sorry and explain what you misunderstood, if you don't feel comfortable with something make sure you aren't controlling about it but instead try to get them interested in another end, just remember a healthy relationship is the definition of understanding patience and love
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@@jeffersonmary8500 only a fool will take an ex back.
@@EternalHaVoc I was that fool, once. don't ever take your ex back, if it ended, it ended for a reason.
Wish I saw this 8 months ago. He literally did EVERYTHING in this video.
You live and you learn
same situation here. My heart and soul are torn into pieces :(
"Just move on" is just a word
No adjectives will be sufficient to convey our pain 💔
@@chandrahasdeepak438 i hate hearing that phase too. How the hell am I supposed to move on after leaving a 16 month relationship?
@@destinyup1710 accept the fact
Fight with your demons
No one is really helpful to you unless you stand up for yourself.
No need to make peace with her.But make peace with in yourself.
All good reminders, thank you
I NEEDED THIS TWO WEEKS AGO
My brain: What are you doing here you are single af
Me: why do you have to remind me?
And not the only one wishing they were not.
hi
you are getting experience, and when you are in a relationship, you know what you shall do and know.
@@murilo2330 tru
Better single than with the wrong person!
Everyone is talking about their girlfriend boyfriend...but here im seeing these signs in MY PARENTS
they r trying to change me, to control me,dont trust me,dont prioritize me,they r emotionally distant from me😔🤧
sometimes we have these parents to learn things from them the things they put you through may be toxic but you should learn from them and never let yourself feel resentment, things and situations are only temporary we're always in constant change just believe and know that things will get better
Sounds like neglect / narcissism, been there . Leaving that soon , prayers too u
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@@3dozen943 yeah im also learning something..tq for ur kind words🥰
Oh that hurts
This is video is very good and right to the point.
Some people are just so tough and cold hearted that they will not let anyone get unti their soft side.
A lot of this also applies to friendships too. Friends can break your heart too. Take care of yourselves
I agree. Good friendships take time and effort to be built and over time I have realised what true friendship should look like.
People in any relationship should show interest in you as a person and be supportive of the things you love as well. This should also be reciprocated in one way or another. When an argument occurs, there must be some compromise from both parties to fix things up and strengthen the relationship. If this doesn't happen, oh well, it wasn't the right person...
Exactly !!
Sounds more like “how to know when a person just doesn’t want you” ; this doesn’t even seem like fake love
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@Kabrina I agree
Same thing really they pretend because they want something from you but won't give back only take
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Image this circumstance but they keep saying with their mouth, “I love you”. That’s fake love.
4,5 and 6 fit perfectly for my gf. At times, when im depressed I don't feel loved or appreciated. But i believe its because of her insecurities and the way she copes with her own stress, anxiety and depression. She has different ways of showing me her love. It isn't always easy for me, but im 100% sure it isn't fake
I think the same about my ex sometimes. But then again, if the love was real he wouldn't have broke off things with me
If those are the only symptoms, it might be that they don't feel 100% safe with you. It doesn't always matter if you are 100% safe, because trauma can bubble up in weird ways.
I was that person, and I mostly still am.
The way to tell if your gf is like this, ask her what safety feels like for her.
It's a PHYSICAL feeling. A quiet fuzzy warmlth that goes down the back of your body sort of the opposite of having your hair stand on end. And I felt it for the first time last year in my late 30s.
I. Had. No. Idea. I thought safety was a concept, or or the absence of fear. It took a particularly patient person to respect me fully during some major triggers for me to get glimmers of this feeling.
For people who don't often feel stressed they might not notice a dramatic sense of safety but they should feel it sometimes. Also, people with alexithymia won't notice always, even of they have it. Alexithymia can be caused by nurodivergency but also trauma and culture.
I went into this confident. But she spoke like she knew my whole relationship.
yes yes, it's fake love. i've been doing everything to keep our relationship strong, and ask him if we could hangout, play a game, or just talk. but he never wants to anymore. i've told him once that i needed to talk to someone because something came up that's been bringing me down, and he said "oh alright hold on i'll be back" so i wait, and he got off for a week. i asked him if everything was okay when he finally came back and he said "well i just wanted to do something else since you're kinda boring to talk to" honestly broke my heart. best part, everytime i say "i love you" to him, he says "okay" what??? okay?? absolutely everything in this video is what he's been doing.
After I recently broke up with him (didn't even feel like a relationship in the first place lol), I've been realizing how sad he made me. I changed into a person who nobody recognized only so he gave me some attention (which he thinks is difficult to do, while I kept trying different things to make the relationship work). I started to breakdown because of him, couldn't share anything with him. He only texted when he was horny and made me feel like there's nothing else I had to do in his life. I don't even understand why I cared for such indifferent person when I had so many people loving me for who I am. He thinks he's ready for a relationship but I don't think he is. I hope I never make that mistake again.
Exactly same thing happened to me.. and now I'm single, very happy..
The same thing happening with me now.. I even knew that he's also having a relation with another girl, today I broke up with him however I'm still missing him And crying for him idk why.. but I know that I'll be Happy. It was a toxic relationship
@@fitnessbeauty7385 Don't you worry.. I have gone through exactly the same thing my bf was cheating on me and now he's with the same girl.. I still miss him.. but if we miss someone it doesn't mean we have to live with them.. I hope you'll soon realize that this is a really good decision of yours.. Stay blessed..
I make your words mine. I've had my insecurities as teen but now as an adult, I'm pretty self aware of the things I do, the things I want and most of all, of what I am. And yet, I've met this person, and just like that, without realizing, I started to do everything to please him, everything to accommodate his dreams into my life and nothing was reciprocated. And the immaturity, gee. How hard it was for me to deal with so much nonsense and waste of time. I can say now, that what I was doing was waiting. Waiting for him to grow up, to become an adult, to notice me, and to realize that together we could be so much more. But like it says in the video, he found some flimsy excuse and broke up with me after 5 years of relationship. I was really lost and depressed. I still feel like that. I lost a lot of weight. Well, some of that was intentional. But anyway, what hurts me the most is not that I lost him. Or that he was "the one", because I don't believe in that. What hurts me is that I feel violated in the sense that I gave so much of myself and for what? For that little sh*t? F*ck.
I feel the same, I changed dramatically and the more I did, the more miserable I felt, hell, I even got a job I despised just to be worthy. In the end I completely forgot who I was and I was suffocating, I broke it off with her. It sucks because I imagined the world of her but she didn't do the same, to her I was just another one. On the bright side, it gets better after you go through hell, you forget who you were but you discover who you can be and that is the best part of being single right now. Chin up and keep moving forward.
I have a legitimate question.
Jealousy was mentioned in this video. The person I dated for a long time was very jealous, then he did things he knew were crossing my boundaries. He would be mad if I was around friends, and he’d drive around town until he found me. In turn I became just as jealous as that person and was having terrible urges to always check his phone, and being upset if he was around girls. I didn’t drive around trying to find him, but I’d call him over and over. Which led me to panic attacks, crying, and begging for him to come home.
Is that what people call reactive abuse?
I’m open to input, just please be respectful. Thank you!
It may be a consequence of their mistrust and abuse, but you should see a therapist to deal with the insecurities that you may have bc of that relationship so it doesn't hurt you or make you hurt others in the foreseeable future
@@lagrimas.de_flor I’m currently and therapy. We have touched base on this one. But, we are working on some other things at the moment. But, I fully intend to clean that wound out and let it heal so it won’t bleed on others.
Thank you for the input!
Maybe you wanted to convince yourself that what he did to you was out of love, eventhough you knew it wasn't, by doing it back to him, inorder to justify his actions to yourself because you knew that you loved him.
Same happened to me when I was with my ex. He was controlling, possessive and would choose what I wore, who I hanged out with... Even had the passwords to all my devices and social media. At the same time, he was constantly threatening me with leaving.
I stayed with him for more than two years and so I started mimicking his behavior in a way (unconsciously of course). I didn't control him but I was hyper-vigilating on every little hint that he may be cheating. So, yes, living or having a relationship with someone with this behavior can definitely impact on the way you act like in other relationships. I think in an attempt to protect ourselves, our brain convinces itself that it's love and it's supposed to be like that, so if that's how love works and we love our partner, of course my body will mimic their actions.
However, I do think reactive abuse is different. Reactive abuse must be intentional, a way of manipulating the other person. Usually projecting things that the abuser may be doing (ex.: accusing you of cheating on them when they are the ones who are actually cheating). Like a way of making the person you're abusing think the abuser is actually them (there's a lot of similarities with gaslighting).
These accusations may actually make the victims blame theirselves, which in turn can cause a reaction from them. Normally, people under this kind of abuse develop serious issues with anxiety, OCD, and such, which makes it easier for them to snap at their abusive partners if they're having some kind of outbreak due to the situation the abuser is putting them in. In any case, the victim is still the victim since they were trying to protect themselves (some kind of self-defense).
However, I am not a professional and this is just the info I have based on my experiences at therapy so I may be wrong 🥹
I do think in your case your body was just trying to survive the situation, which led you to those panic attacks. But your intention was never to harm/control the other person, you were just reflecting the way he made you feel. I know how it feels sis and I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. Glad to hear you're in therapy and working on it, I'm still there too :)
Hope you're doing well!
@@imaynotshow Thank you, for your kindness and fresh perspective. I do very much appreciate it. 🖤
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yes just yes
Yes
Don’t call me out like that 😭
no there is a girl that loves me but i am not sure about it
“single” is Bland I prefer “Free-Agent”
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"They easily give up on you." - My ex could be saying this about me. I wanted to break up ith him 4 times in 5 years and always chose to stay with because I loved him. But now I clearly see I was emotionally abused by him and was really frustrated with his behaveour towards me, even though I vocalised numerous times that he hurt me. Yes, he could say I tossed him aside, gave up on him easily, but he somehow always forgets how ignorant he was of my emotions and my demand of change. (And plottwist: After 5 years, he cheated and tossed me aside for another woman.) What I want to say with this: always do some retrospection on your behavoiur before blaming the other for leaving you. Maybe because you truly have some issues to work on.
Ok so I'm confused it's not you but can you summerze thus for me I just keep not focusing on the words and did not get to much of that I'm sorry I just get so destraced and miss a bunch of important words .
This sounds like my friend's relationship with her bf. They also broke up after 4 years, his bf finally give up on her. But my friend will never be the same again, 4 years is enough to destroy her mentally. I hate her ex so much i wanna puch him on the face😤👊👊
It’s because he is a narcissist.
Sounds like me and my ex. He actually cheated on me on purpose to get a valid reason to get rid of me from his life, then blamed me for everything. But I wasn't happy with him either. During our relationship he always compared me to his ex, and always talked about his ex in a way "Oh we were such a perfect couple" or "I was so happy with her, she was my true match". You can probably imagine how I have felt then.
anytime my ex and I got into an argument he always said he wanted to break up with me....I just wished I had listened to my now fiancé, who was trying to inform me about how horrible my ex treated me
Hard to be interested when one of the partners looks to be on their phone all the time. :/
I feel ya. 4 years like that.
Well say goodbye
If they don't value my time seee ya
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The reason I do this myself, no matter how toxic, I only implement control around who they hang out around when they cheat on me.
Woah! Cheat?
Yes. Cheat. It sucks giving too many chances. But I have the trauma and notice patterns enough to realize: They hangout with friends that i dont know, they cheat on me. Once it happens once, its okay.
It works for me, and if they leave that’s their choice and I support it, but I will only control my loved one if they break a boundary that I hard set at day one.
You may bash my actions, but to keep my mental health safe, I have done what I think was best.
U were right on that.. But only that u should not have wasted time After u got hurt
OMG! This video is so on point with my previous relationship it's scary. Wow! Should've seen this years ago. I would've walk away way earlier.
There’s also some of this can be linked to narcissist people too. Bear in mind, this info is great, but there are also red flags about certain types of folks too. Please note that too psych to go😃👍🏽
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this!
The point about giving up kinda reminds me of how I broke up with my first girlfriend. She got angry when I supported my mom over her in a disagreement (because I genuinely felt she was wrong) and she just went on and on about how she hates me and how it was a mistake for us to get together. Finally, I got fed up with her tantrum and accusations and agreed with her to break up. Literally five minutes later she messaged me saying she changed her mind. I told her, I didn't. I don't say things like "We should break up" lightly. I only say it when I really mean it.
my borderline girlfriend would do that - get bent out of shape if i didn't take her side. i'm logical and always said "look, it i think you aren't in the right, i'm NOT going to side with you"
some people treat things like a loyalty test. like you are OBLIGATED to agree with them. i had a friend i stopped talking to that was like that. i said "i'm an honest person, and i'm not changing that for you. go find other people to tell you what you want to hear, and don't come to me for stuff like that"
anybody who threatens breakups like that, and so easily, can go pound salt.
my view on it is that people don't threaten to destroy things they ACTUALLY care about. (and if they do, that's beyond stupid, and shouldn't be dating them anyway). people throwing their weight around like this are generally toxic. BYE. (it's not worth it.)
Meybe you right your No to them can be great push for them to change
You got rid of a mad woman. Thank God