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- Let's delve deeper into you overcoming your fears of going out alone to meet quality, high value men. Here is how to do it! Part One: • LADIES GO OUT ALONE TO...
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I believe you get a lot further by going out alone, if the goal is to meet a certain type of man. I sometimes go out with my girlfriends and it can be 10 of us. Men aren’t typically approaching a group of 10 women. Going out alone shows confidence and men like that. Plus it is less intimidating on them.
I don’t even have 10 female friends. Wow 10! Lmao
@@CJ-jy4vd lol same
I totally agree!
50/50 one can go out alone countless times and still not be approached.
I'm curious though, why don't m3n approach a wom@n if she's with her girlfriends? Even as few as one or two 🙄
I travel and go out alone all the time. It doesn’t bother me at all. I have met not only really great guys for dating but also have met new friends, business partners, etc.
Can u please help how can one go out to elite restaurants alone without looking weird?
It doesn't matter if it is elite or not. Eating is a normal, daily things that all humans do every single day. Taking yourself out to eat rather than eating indoors is exactly the same except one has service and one does not. It isn't a big deal. I also used to feel odd about it initially but it really isn't a big deal. You are actually more likely to see people eating alone in nicer restaurants than you would in KFC.
Awww love that for you Trek Star Sam x
@@ZIVAZIVA thanks beautiful!!
Interestingly for me when I travel it comes natural to meet people in a second, it does not matter what kind of scenario or place it is but somehow when I'm home in my local areas I turn in to weirdest and shy person that is scared to say or do anything...
Went to a Cafe in an affluent part of town. It was nerve-racking at first. We had to have on our masks, but I dressed nicely and I got compliments on my outfit. I was struggling to not fidget but I forced myself to sit down for an hour and just take in the scenery outside. It was a pleasant experience. Will be doing this more often. I am working on being more approachable-looking. Slowly but surely.
I go out to eat by myself all the time. I’ve moved around so much as an adult that it doesn’t make me self conscious anymore. If you’re at a restaurant or coffee shop you can bring a book (can be a conversation starter). Another great video Ziva
LOVE this Michelle! Thanks for sharing because it will help other women to feel like they can do it as effortlessly as you do ❤️❤️❤️
Another thing I would add is to possibly find a way to act like a damsel in distress. It gives a man an opportunity to feel like a hero by helping you in some small way. Example: ask a man that you have discretely noticed that would be safe and may be of your type and may be well off financially... ask him to watch your scarf or jacket or something that you won't miss while you go to the restroom or to the bar for a drink. Just say "excuse me, would you mind watching my scarf/jacket while I grab a drink at the bar really quickly?" 9 times out of 10 the guy will say yes.
In my opinion, going out alone makes you far more sociable than when in a group. I'm a full time student, so to get over the pain of all my classes being online with Covid (lol) I dress myself up nicely on a daily basis and go to different cafes or different towns to attend my classes and work. I've made so many good friendships with people of all ages and backgrounds, and have had many men approach me. I would not have had the opportunity to meet any of these people on my campus or if I had stayed in my comfort zone and went out with friends. I just turned 20, but over the year I've had successful men in the 30's approach me many times. I was baffled :D
I love this Jasmine 🥰🥰 thank you so much for sharing!! 🎀💋💕
Last night, I decided to go out today alone in an affluent part of my city. Then I woke up and saw this video, and it gave me more confidence. Thanks for these helpful tips. Wish me luck 😉
Amazing! I hope your solo outing went well :))))
How did it go?
@@damselindenimanddior3580 She's pregnant now
I have the best story for this. I went out alone and i usually cant go out with guys who asked me out because my girlfriends want to stick together. This time, i finally could say yes and was taken to the races in luxury cars. 🤩 such a fun night
Oh wow!
I am a single young black women in nursing school. I always thought I was too busy or stressed out to date but as I get older I realize it's important to have a well rounded life. I don't want my 20s to go by with any regrets. I am going to try going out on my days off from school. Excellent content, you are giving me things I can actually apply and also "not break the bank." Thank you for finding the goodness in your heart to take the time to share with us.
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I can competently relate! Hope it’s been going well for you
I'm scared! But I wore a cute outfit and went shopping in the nicer part of town. Tried my best to walk slower and look more open. It's a scary experience but I definitely noticed more looks and people smiling back at me and I really liked the ego boost. I love your content and your message!
Yay I love this for you ❤️☺️☺️
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I love doing stuff by myself, I’ve travelled all over the world solo… I dunno why people don’t have courage to be themselves. What you think of yourself is the most important thing, if you believe most certainly someone else will!
Love this!!
You’re smart to put “hv” in the title instead of the actual term because it draws in annoying hater men when people use certain words
Our wise sista!!
It's so odd how upset people can actually get about youtube titles and I hadn't even thought of that tbh lol... I was just trying to make the title shorter but if it works as a deterrent then yay!!!
Even if it does attract the Kevin samuels fanatics it does not take away from the message ziva is saying
I was actually wondering how comes this comment section is so peaceful and clear 🙃 guess this is why.
I went out by myself and had a decent time, though like you said before I was thinking too hard about wanting to get approached, and that made me nervous and anxious and not have a good time. The key is to just enjoy yourself and let the men come! Such a good learning.
Good for you for taking the first step and doing it! ♥️
I started doing this more recently. Put together my shopping lists then go to the affluent parts and take my time shopping while looking my best, smelling good and in a happy mindset. So far, I've definitely gotten attention- stares, double takes, smiles and hellos. Very positively motivating. Can't wait to do more... as soon as my isolation period is over and I'm completely healed. I'm not certain cough's and sniffles are highly attractive with the global bug going on. Thanks for this video. I love the bar sitting tip!
I've been doing the same 😊
This summer, I've been adoring strolling down affluent neighborhoods in flowy sundresses; wistfully manifesting my dream home with a gorgeous glossed smile on my face.
I get so many smiles, waves and kind gestures; It makes me feel magical 💫
This is great to hear!!! Keep going girl !
@@ZIVAZIVAHow sweet! Thank you doll 🌻
I do it . I go out alone for fun. I gotta work on more eye contact staring at ppl until they smile and speak lol and me being cordial to all strangers men and women as well .
My only issue with going out alone is that when I've done it before a few times, I end up having guys look at me with me with pity as though I've been stood up and it feels embarrassing
Maybe you looked nervous?? I'm just trying to understand why they would be looking at you in that way....
This is perfect advice. And when you look like you are genuinely enjoying yourself, you are then likely to draw the right type of attention.
I totally agree !!!
Thanks for this video. Fear of doing this alone has held me back and I really can’t wait for anyone anymore - I move in confidence now. Blessings
This is amazing to read because you will see once you have done it a few times, that it isn't actually a big deal ❤
Good morning! First comment and I totally agree with going out alone!
Morning hun!!! Yay first!
I am gonna do this! I often make plans with friends and with the busyness of life I often get cancelled on 😞 I think this is a great option because I want to go out and meet people and experience life, and that shouldn’t depend on someone else showing up for me! I think a good option would be to sit at the bar area of a nice restaurant, you don’t even have to drink but it’s usually a hub of activity 😛
Love that you're not going to wait on other anymore! Good for you Melissa
OMG me too! I'm going out alone esp since they stay cancelling on me...
Omg so pretty 🤩🤩 I really love that you're switching up your looks
Thank you!! It's about time I try something new 🤪
LOA and your videos really elevated my life! It's crazy to even think about it. One day we shall meet in first class. ❤️ I hardly fan-girl but you're my exception.
It really does wonders simply using your mind!! YAY I love being that exception hehe
Loveee this video❤❤ thank you for being the sister/ friend that we all need!
I enjoy going by myself, it's so freeing!
Exactly lol 🙃😬
Gorgeous! Always a delight to see you on my feed.
I really appreciate you and your continued support 💖💖💖💖💖
Thank you, for this advice. I’m going to get over my fear of going out alone💯 You look gorgeous🌸
You got this!
@@ZIVAZIVA yes ; we r all here to support one another 🌸🤍
Absolutely 🙏💛
Hi Ziva, love the content hun. I really need to have to courage to do so myself. But I’m working on it. … I don’t want to miss opportunities and experiences just because I’m too scared. Thanks doll✨✨
You seem so sweet. This comment really resonated with me! I also don't want you to miss out on anything because of nerves. You've got this!!! ❤️
I go out alone from time to time. I probably should start going out alone more often. This video has inspired me.
Do it 😎
Good morning beautiful 🌸🤍 lovely hair & makeup . Totally agree with this topic. Thanks Ziva.
Good morning Marciel 💖 thank you so much angel! Check your ig because I replied back to you x
youtube doesn't pay u enough for this info to be be free ur s blessing babe 🙏🏽
Hehe 🙈☺️
'Your shoes aren't talking!' Hahaha love it
Such perfect timing. I needed this!!
Perfect!
I like that you say it’s up to them to do the chasing!
Omg this is what I’ve been waiting for!
I hope it was worth the wait 🌸
I’m going to try! Thanks for the tips ❤️
Keep me updated hun!
You look so girly and flirty!! Love the look! 💕💕
Thank you!! 🌸
What an excellent video! Thank you so much
Glad you enjoyed it! 🤎
You always motivate me to go out ALONE!
Yay!! Love that for you Nella 🌸🌸🌸
I love all the tips in this video, thank you so much ❤️✨
Glad it was helpful! ✨💗💝🤍
I'm trying to pluck up the courage to go to afternoon tea alone in a moderately priced place.I have travelled alone , but lost my confidence about , being alone in restaurants /cafe since lockdown , but want to get back to it! I really enjoy my own company & people watching and taking time to get away from my work ha ha
Hey hun, I wouldn’t do afternoon tea alone because that is typically a lot of sandwiches and cakes etc for two or more people. If you enjoy scones like I do, head to Harvey Nichs. You can get 3 scones and any tea of your choice x edit: if you’re in London try Harvey nichs…
Pretty!!!good advices!💕💕
Glad you think so! & thank youuuuu 💖💖💖
This is so inspiring. Im going to go to a jazz bar.
Sister u are so calm and bring about great details and ideas you've earned my subscription great video am going out now❤.
Aww I’m glad you feel inspired 💕 Go girl!
Needed this , Thank you X
YAY!! I'm glad it was helpful 😊
Sorry I’m late for class !! grabbing note pad.
Hehehe ❤❤❤
Thank you Ziva! 💋❤️
Hey lovely! ❤❤
I have planned a solo date severally but just haven't gone yet... my parents are strict so I rarely go out, the funds for it comes and goes, now exams!!! One excuse or another, I think I might just be self sabotaging. Thank you Ziva.
You could even just take yourself for a nice stroll around these areas and sit down and have a herbal tea. It doesn't have to be time consuming or extravagant x
I feel you chiamaka, I'm nigerian and I face the exact same situation
@@Bodisere Really? And I have to go out on intentionally because I'm not around these affluent areas
When you said your parents are strict, I thought, "I bet she's got Nigerian parents" my eyes immediately went to your name afterwards and BOOM! Story of my past life.
@@kayade5305 You lived in Nigeria before?? That’s rad, where are you now?
Ziva could you do a video on how to go out alone and where to go to meet feminine friends please?
MORE VIDIES LIKE THIS LOVE U ZIVA
Okay girlie 🙃 love you more ❤️❤️
I have to start doing this again, thank you for this 😁
Get out there girl and be seen ❤️
Thanks for sharing your wisdom ☺️. Gorgeous as always 😍. X
You are so welcome! Thank you once again for watching and showing love & support
I'm going out tomorrow, close to noon. Bringing my sketch book
Good for you 🙏😘😘
I love this video thanks! ❤️
I'm really pleased you enjoyed it babe!
Good morning, doll. You look stunning😍😍😍
Good morning sweetie :)))) awwwww thank you so much!
I wish I lived in a country where there is more chance to meet affluent men. I live in The Netherlands and men here are known for their greedyness, often wanting to split the bill. It’s practically impossible to find a high calibre man who’s willing to provide. You’re lucky to be living in London girl lol. Also, great video and you look absolutely fabulous! 💕
Move to London :)))
@@ZIVAZIVA haha if only it was that easy 🤦🏻♀️
Your top is so cute ! You look really pretty today.
Thank you so much girl 😊 xxx
Thank you so much for this🥰
You’re welcome 😊 hehe
Thank you for the video, you're looking lovely ❤
Thank you sooo much Cassie
I do it . I gotta work on more eye contact staring at ppl until they smile and speak lol and me being cordial to all strangers men and women as well .
Thanks. I need to start doing this.
Love this energy Steph!
Thanks Zika! Yes you're right, I think I looked nervous before that's why I was looked at strangely before xx
I find having a drink before you go out helps ease the nerves 😬
Giiirrrlll LOL xx
I was thinking I could go out to a nice restaurant and sit at the bar to eat, only have a drink, maybe two, but I feel like it would be a spot with more conversation 😛
I need this boost
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wow...great video!
ladies...smile, say hi, be friendly and feminine. it's that simple! If you're feeling really brave, throw in a compliment :)
Ziva! Thank you for the longer videos I really enjoyed watching them! You have changed my life for the better I'm eternally grateful 🥲❤️. I feel we are extremely similar on many levels, and we would be great friends someday if our worlds ever collided.
Continue ascending beyond the Queen that you are.
You changed my life. ❤️ Thank you Ziva.
Awwww Bianca I hope so ♥️♥️ would be lovely to meet you one day! Your life being changed is amazing and is definitely fabulous to know :)
Ziva where do you like to shop because all your outfits are 🔥 straight fire?!?
Oh Ziva, wish I had the courage to go out on my own. I am so annoyed with myself for not doing that, especially because where I live is a goldmine for wealthy people. :(((
Just feel the fear and do it regardless! Once you've done it a few times, it will get easier and easier and will then become the norm for you. That is how it was for me 💖
@@ZIVAZIVA thank you.
@@nene-b6p i totally agree with you it can be scary ! But ziva is right try fight the fear , as this what holds us back
But its far more fun when u have some one with you so u dnt feel alone
I am in the same boat
Where you live sis? 🤔😂
@@CJ-jy4vd im based in east london hun 👌🏾
I need to find the right places to go to. I've gone out a couple of times alone, once to a bar and then to a movie party thing.
In the bar I had one drink, guy next to me started talking to me but was a loser and the experience was very awkward.
At the movie party one guy who had a girl was like cross examining me about why I came alone. I was like well why are u here... Idk I feel like I stand out too much and my intent is too obvious lol & I'm surrounded by losers or rich fuck boys 😪 I need a more serious man who is a provider
This is relatable because those awkward experiences are bound to happen and have definitely happened to me too lol. It hasn't stopped me though and I am happy that I've had those experiences because now I have even more clarity and by the sounds of things, so do you!
@@ZIVAZIVA that's true, I did learn through those experience and I guess its good to train your awkwardness tolerance lol. it also made me think going to bars alone is not for me...cafes and restaurants are fine and easy. & I feel in restaurants men don't really approach cos they're usually sitting with someone already?
@@LifeofMinna I totally agree with you which is why I say restaurant bar seating areas, cafes and brasseries mainly
I'm going to try to go out to eat alone this weekend. I really need to get comfortable doing it.
You’ve got this Arina 🤗🙏🎀
You look gorg Ziva!
Oooh thank you sooo much sweetie pie ❤️
I put on a nfl shirt from popular team of my city ..i got hit on more than ever. Im going to try this again with another player in the nfl
Great video
Thank you soo much hun ❤❤❤❤❤ I'm pleased you like it :)
Love your videos, I’ve been watching you since the start. Would you recommend hotel restaurants? .. I’m not bothered about being alone just wondering the best sort of places to head to .. ❤️
Awww I love that ❤️ & yes I would suggest hotel restaurants especially during summer, one with outdoor seating doesn't look seedy at all xx
@@ZIVAZIVA thank you gorgeous girl. Dubai is harder than you’d think! Ha! 💛
Woam listen and follow this
I'm willing to try this, to see what happens. Who know I could meet someone .
I hope it works for you xx
Love this look. You look young and girlie.
Thank you so much Shana
I did not get into college I need to do something
I love the top. Where did you get if from?
Hey hun! It's from Shein xoxo
@@ZIVAZIVA thanks hun xx
Can anyone recommend some 5 star/upper class bars, restaurants or cafes in Henley?
What is the latest time you would recommend going out?
I’m not too sure about Henley. Maybe try googling the lavish eateries and bars etc in Henley ❤️
@Ziva, do you think it is desperate to move to another country to find better dating prospects? I live in Antigua and girl ...
I would move if I was in your shoes.. if you want to be in a different setting to meet different men, then moving would be a great idea x
@@ZIVAZIVA I feel that way. But some people are so negative. They see this as a desperate move.
I guess it depends what lifestyle you want. The Western world is very different to the West Indies in soooo many ways. If you’re not happy where you live in terms of men and lifestyle then it’s a no brainer for me. People move all the time. If it didn’t work out then there’s always the option to move back or somewhere else x
@@ZIVAZIVA I know. I'm not letting anyone stop me from moving. I am working on getting the funds first.
Good for you!!!! :)
Hey Ziva have you done a storytime on the first you say alone and was approached? How was that experience and how did you both get on after the fact? :) xxx
Hey hun, I can't remember that experience tbh because I've been going out alone for yearssssss and have been approached and dating has stemmed from that many times. I will try to remember for you hehe x
You are so pretty 😻
Thank you so much queen 🙏🙈💋
Hey Ziva, I’m a pretty girl men have told me that but I don’t get asked out when I go to Starbucks in the affluent areas- what do you think about gL lamberts book men don’t love women like you- his principal about you taking the first step by sitting down next to someone smiling at them or asking them a question, etc. sometimes I want to do that but my family (coming from Caribbean descent says no that’s too masculine) but at the same time I’m getting older and I want to be married and have kids but I don’t want to come off as desperate I don’t know- can you maybe do a video on how to make the first move. I mean the fear of rejection sucks- but isint tht just life? Isint it better to know than to always wonder???
Hi hun, I'm sorry about your situation. The next time you go out and are seated, get off your phone and imagine your happiest moments you'd have to have with your future hubby or get happy moments in general. It'll affect your aura and draw them in. Best wishes to you :)
@@mystique907 that's such good advice! Thank you so much, I'll definitely be trying this!
@@icedcocoa221 you're welcome darling :)
Can I read my book or work on my laptop then? The times I went alone for lunch I enjoyed the food but my stay at the restaurant was quite short as the only thing I could do was eat/drink what I ordered 😅😂
For me, this isn’t an issue because I like to eat at home without the television on etc. Eating and enjoying food is normal and doesn’t need to be done whilst doing something else. I think you’re hiding behind a book and your laptop because you don’t feel comfortable in your own skin when out eating alone…yet! Practice makes perfect so the more you do it, the more normal it will begin to feel 😘 Ask yourself if you would feel more comfortable starting a conversation with a guy who is reading a book or engrossed in work on his laptop, or to a guy who looked happy living in the moment eating his food.
Are malls or museums ok,?
Starbucks? A restaurant?
i went out at this fancy hotel in our city and so i was feeling all confident but all these men nearby didn't approach and it kinda made me feel bad and reduced my confidence please tell me how i can make them approach me
A couple of random people not approaching you shouldn’t knock your confidence. I think you need to work more on feeling totally secure whilst being out and about THEN worry about the approaches once you’ve mastered that x
I would really like to meet men. I’m starting to feel a bit lonely that I haven’t been approached yet. Idk what I’m doing wrong
Get in their line of sight( sit by them, stand close in line)
But you have to realise that certain men do not approach every single woman they see. When dating more established men, you will have less approaches. Don’t feel discouraged my love ❤️
I don’t want to go out alone though. I want to go out in groups majority of the time.
You don’t have to go out alone. I personally don’t have the choice to go out in a group because I don’t really have friends so I have had to learn to enjoy solo fun days. If you like going out with your friends then go for it but I doubt more mature men will approach. Younger guys absolutely will still approach Im sure so I guess it just depends what you’re looking for x
@@ZIVAZIVA oh ok. I do want to attract older guys. Also, I didn’t think you would reply to my comment. Thank you. I also think I should have friends that also prefer older guys.
I think it’s a good thing to be solid in yourself and your own company so even if it’s just for self growth purposes, maybe you should do this every now and then for some good old “you” time 😘
I'd like to know where to meet guys, descent guys.
Where is your top from?
It's a knee length dress from Oh Polly ❤️
I’m not baiting anyone. 😂
Thanks doll 💕
Thank YOU for watching darling 💘💖
Would you say it’s weird to go to the movies alone?
I don’t think anything is weird hehe… if you go the the cinema alone, maybe go around lunch time when it is quiet. That actually sounds like nice alone time 😊
@@ZIVAZIVA I'm a guy who would like to meet a descent guy , I just don't know where since I'm so secret about it, I'm afraid I'd been seen with him.
Omg heyyy boo
Hey girl heyyyyy 🌸🌸🌸
@@ZIVAZIVA glad to see you happy :D
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Hello ziva 😍 as always looking lovely, I would love to wear dress like yours but my small boobs ain't helping hh
Don't worry about your breasts being smaller than mine. You can still wear this kind of dress and look amazing. Clothing would be boring if we all looked the same when wearing it ❤️
How to go out alone, to meet quality men WITHOUT SHOWING OFF SKIN thanks..... 😊
Simply go out alone and don’t show skin. It’s very simple
Lol I read ''how to go out ALONE to meet HIV MEN''
Oh girl haha
These videos are very interesting, but with all respect would it not be easier to get a high paying job or start a Business of your own. That way you won’t have to pretend to like someone just because they are wealthy. Independent Woman.
I appreciate this comment even though it shows your inability to understand what is really going on. Just because a woman prefers to date established men, it doesn't mean she dates every single established man. It still comes down to compatibility etc..... Some women are attracted to men who spend entire days in the gym for muscle gain, "bad boys" or even simply because they have the "look" that they like..... On this channel, we do not care about dating men for muscles and image.
@@ZIVAZIVA 👏🏼👏🏼
You look Beautiful.. p.s. Ladies find a man on your Level. Hypergammy is a misconception.
Thank you :) & it's the only conception to be had!
Your Instagram isn’t linked in the description or your about page. What is it please, would love to follow
Hey hun, my Instagram is @sarastyleguru