Your words resonate because after several spouses I chose to be alone almost 20 years ago. No children, no spouse, now 74 years old with just a couple of siblings. It has been very freeing in some ways, disappointing in others, such as some lack of love missed along the way. But the lesson for me has been to step back and stay as the witness of life as much as possible, and deepen this practice more and more to increase connection with the Self that is all of us. For this I have the help of Mooji, a great sage. Very grateful to see you here, and thank you.
Hello Marie, Thank you so much for your comment. This is a very interesting period of my life, and I find myself at a crossroads like never before. It feels like the quietest and darkest moment before dawn, but I know the light is coming. Every area of my life feels like it's shifting with each step I take, and I perceive this as a sign from the Universe to slow down, nurture myself, and really consider what I want. I’m choosing to focus on myself for now, increasing my connection with my Higher Self and being aware of the present moment because this is the only thing that matters. When I look back, many of my struggles, passions, and desires seem like smoke. All the best!
First of all, a fantastic choice of you Alina to share such personal topics from nature and while walking with the world. We also chose a life without children a long time ago. We still fully support the choice we made then and the fact that we did not create those "bonds" then makes a big difference for our spiritual life now. In my opinion, having a life partner with whom you "share a close friendship" is a great blessing in life and is the best basis for any relationship. How you/you really want to give substance to this man-woman relationship is entirely up to the two of you, ... as long as every decision takes both into account so that honest support can continue to exist.
Hello Vicky, Thank you so much for your insight. I agree with you. Having a life partner to share with is truly important, but there's also this deep connection with parents that seems to linger, no matter how far away they are. It’s almost like an invisible thread that remains, regardless of how often we talk or see them. When it comes to life partners, though, it’s different. It’s really about reflecting shared values and providing mutual support. Observing my own parents, I see how my mom does everything for my dad, and it’s a powerful example, even if their relationship has its own complexities. I also believe that for life to feel comfortable, we must first feel self-reliant and whole within ourselves, which only spiritual growth can provide. From that position of strength and self-reliance, we can then choose a partner who complements us. If we enter a relationship out of neediness, it often leads to playing roles that do not reflect who we are. Thank you again for your thoughtful comment. I truly appreciate it!
I don't think it should matter what choices a person has made up until now. To what degree one wants to live alone, or not, or have control over how much time is spent in social situations, should be completely renegotiable with themselves and their lifestyle. usually by our ages, I am 59, we have a good idea our tolerance level for social interaction. Right now, I am in a marriage, but we spent a lot of time apart. I am more social outside of the home, because I work and teach ceramics, both part time. My husband seems fine without outside interests. I know I am good for about 2-3 hours of socializing a day, and preferably not everyday. If I was to lose my husband, as many women do, I wouldn't want to live alone indefinitely. I'd probably like to share a house with someone as a roommate, but not a spousal situation. Or I'd live alone but teach more often. I'd continue to volunteer, because of the rewards of being a person recognized and known in my community. It's especially beneficial for older people to have the whole community watching out for you. I am lucky to live in a small town where that is easily achieved.
Your words resonate because after several spouses I chose to be alone almost 20 years ago. No children, no spouse, now 74 years old with just a couple of siblings. It has been very freeing in some ways, disappointing in others, such as some lack of love missed along the way. But the lesson for me has been to step back and stay as the witness of life as much as possible, and deepen this practice more and more to increase connection with the Self that is all of us. For this I have the help of Mooji, a great sage. Very grateful to see you here, and thank you.
Hello Marie,
Thank you so much for your comment. This is a very interesting period of my life, and I find myself at a crossroads like never before. It feels like the quietest and darkest moment before dawn, but I know the light is coming.
Every area of my life feels like it's shifting with each step I take, and I perceive this as a sign from the Universe to slow down, nurture myself, and really consider what I want. I’m choosing to focus on myself for now, increasing my connection with my Higher Self and being aware of the present moment because this is the only thing that matters. When I look back, many of my struggles, passions, and desires seem like smoke.
All the best!
First of all, a fantastic choice of you Alina to share such personal topics from nature and while walking with the world.
We also chose a life without children a long time ago. We still fully support the choice we made then and the fact that we did not create those "bonds" then makes a big difference for our spiritual life now.
In my opinion, having a life partner with whom you "share a close friendship" is a great blessing in life and is the best basis for any relationship. How you/you really want to give substance to this man-woman relationship is entirely up to the two of you, ... as long as every decision takes both into account so that honest support can continue to exist.
Hello Vicky,
Thank you so much for your insight. I agree with you. Having a life partner to share with is truly important, but there's also this deep connection with parents that seems to linger, no matter how far away they are. It’s almost like an invisible thread that remains, regardless of how often we talk or see them.
When it comes to life partners, though, it’s different. It’s really about reflecting shared values and providing mutual support. Observing my own parents, I see how my mom does everything for my dad, and it’s a powerful example, even if their relationship has its own complexities.
I also believe that for life to feel comfortable, we must first feel self-reliant and whole within ourselves, which only spiritual growth can provide. From that position of strength and self-reliance, we can then choose a partner who complements us. If we enter a relationship out of neediness, it often leads to playing roles that do not reflect who we are.
Thank you again for your thoughtful comment. I truly appreciate it!
I don't think it should matter what choices a person has made up until now. To what degree one wants to live alone, or not, or have control over how much time is spent in social situations, should be completely renegotiable with themselves and their lifestyle. usually by our ages, I am 59, we have a good idea our tolerance level for social interaction. Right now, I am in a marriage, but we spent a lot of time apart. I am more social outside of the home, because I work and teach ceramics, both part time.
My husband seems fine without outside interests. I know I am good for about 2-3 hours of socializing a day, and preferably not everyday.
If I was to lose my husband, as many women do, I wouldn't want to live alone indefinitely. I'd probably like to share a house with someone as a roommate, but not a spousal situation. Or I'd live alone but teach more often. I'd continue to volunteer, because of the rewards of being a person recognized and known in my community. It's especially beneficial for older people to have the whole community watching out for you. I am lucky to live in a small town where that is easily achieved.