Girlllll if you’re reading this… I would absolutely sell it whether it’s a family heirloom or not. He didn’t give you any grace! He didn’t give you an explanation for the breakup when you paid for the entire wedding? He is not owed anything at this point. Sometimes you have to take what you deserve, not be a too nice fool in the sidelines. If you’re out 50k still you need to get your moneys worth, if he’s not willing to give it to you… you do what you have to do. Sell the ring… he could’ve been nicer! His family could’ve told him to talk to you. You are owed a conversation. If he couldn’t do any of that then he doesn’t deserve the ring and his family can blame HIM for his mistakes and being an asshole.
I hope she sells the ring. I can’t imagine being left in debt for something you thought would be an amazing life event. Also Jared’s vacations aren’t weird at all!! No one thinks any of those horrible things about him! In fact I think it’s fun to follow along with him on his adventures
@@uuppodcast omg lmao okay that commenter is a hater troll. People are allowed to vacay how they want to vacay lmaoooo. But I guess she’s allowed to have her opinion no matter how rude and judgmental? Adventure to me is laying on my ass and doing absolutely nothing because I work too damn hard.
I can really relate to Jared on solo vacations. The freedom and independence is nice when you’re out moving about and doing activities. But even in those moments or during down time, I usually get that feeling of “man this is fun but I wish I had someone to share these moments with.”
Jared please don’t let strangers bully you into thinking you’re doing vacations wrong!! Just because it’s not THEIR idea of fun, doesn’t mean it’s wrong. You work your butt off, you’re always “on”, you have a million avenues of income and jobs on your plate… the least you can do is spend your free time on your terms without any judgment or GUILT that you’re “doing it wrong”. Vacation is so personal, you have every right to go to even the Maldives and lay in bed and scroll through your phone if that makes you relaxed and happy. Love you J+J!! P.S. the girl should most definitely sell the ring!
Also, I remember when people would judge me for going all the way to Hawaii and only visiting Maui 3x (and none of the other islands). But it’s what I felt like doing, and for the most part I just laid and chilled ALL DAY. And guess what….. I met lasting friends that I formed strong bonds with over the time I spent there, and the last time I was there I came back with a boyfriend who I love & adore. 🤍 do what makes you happy
The fact that people go in debt for a wedding is insane to me and not a good way to start out the beginning of a new chapter. You can still get married and have a nice wedding without going to debt
But that’s the beauty of solo vacations :) you’re completely at your leisure to do as much or as little as you want without worrying over anyone else’s experience. I build entire trips around places I want to just eat and walk around sometimes
The guy handled it terribly and should’ve been a grown man and ended it with respect. This woman clearly thought she was going to spend the rest of her life with this man and he can’t even give her a simple conversation to end it. Idc if she’s being petty as she should! All this could have been avoided if he ended it in a decent way. Some men get detached so quickly it’s scary; imagine loving someone for years and they leave without giving a goodbye convo, of course she’s hurt! Fck that ring and him, sell it
Actually legally speaking an engagement is considered a gift and she's under no legal obligation to give it back - Jared's idea of selling it to the uncle is genius
Not True!! In most states, engagement rings are considered conditional gifts, meaning the recipient can keep the ring if they fulfill the condition of getting married. For example, in NY, the recipient is only entitled to keep the ring if they satisfy the mutually agreed-upon condition of going through with the marriage. In Colorado, the ring must be returned if the engagement is ended by the person with the ring. In Delaware, the ring has to go back if the recipient calls off the wedding without fault on the giver's part, or the breakup is mutual. I believe Montana is only state where ring is an absolute unconditional gift.
Being that he sprung it on her, I think he should reimburse her 100% and she should give the ring back. If he had had a civil conversation with her, then maybe a 50/50 split and they could figure out the ring situation because they would be losing money. Or he reimburses her 75% and gets the ring back. He lost that with his behavior. It's hard losing a family heirloom/jewelry. I know because I have been through it (different situation). It was years ago and it still makes me upset.
Jared just sounds more and more depressed on each episode lately. Stop drinking and start meditating (and get a more effective therapist). Get comfortable with yourself and enjoy your vacations that you take yourself on! Vacations alone are the best. It's very sad to listen to him go on and on when there's really nothing that he's telling us that's wrong with his life. But I agree with Jordana that nothing matters in the end. When I used to ask my much older and wiser cousin (first cousin once removed, she was in her 60's at the time), she would always say, "you can do that, or this, it doesn't really matter because we all die."
@@priska27 wait - this dude advertises for Better Help and tells other people to look into therapy but doesn’t have his own?! There’s part of his problem.
@@AllisonIntheCity Yeah I have the subscriber edition and unless something has changed, he doesn't go to therapy. As for Better Help, I feel like they sponsor every podcast. Plus I think that if a podcast is offered an ad, they are going to take it unless they are against it.
My kid called off a wedding a few weeks before. I lost $$$ from paying for reception food. I didn't get "paid back", but it's better than going through with the wedding & getting divorced. She is bitter & wants to get back at him. Give the ring back, get some therapy, have a civil conversation with him, ask for some reimbursement, cut your loses & be glad you don't have kids with him & a bitter divorce. You don't get much from selling the rings.
Girlllll if you’re reading this… I would absolutely sell it whether it’s a family heirloom or not. He didn’t give you any grace! He didn’t give you an explanation for the breakup when you paid for the entire wedding? He is not owed anything at this point. Sometimes you have to take what you deserve, not be a too nice fool in the sidelines. If you’re out 50k still you need to get your moneys worth, if he’s not willing to give it to you… you do what you have to do. Sell the ring… he could’ve been nicer! His family could’ve told him to talk to you. You are owed a conversation. If he couldn’t do any of that then he doesn’t deserve the ring and his family can blame HIM for his mistakes and being an asshole.
I hope she sells the ring. I can’t imagine being left in debt for something you thought would be an amazing life event. Also Jared’s vacations aren’t weird at all!! No one thinks any of those horrible things about him! In fact I think it’s fun to follow along with him on his adventures
What adventure? Of him going somewhere and doing NOTHING? :D You don't know what adventure means....
@@esikazemese if you missed his kemo sabe stories, it's ok to just say that 🥲
@@uuppodcast omg lmao okay that commenter is a hater troll. People are allowed to vacay how they want to vacay lmaoooo. But I guess she’s allowed to have her opinion no matter how rude and judgmental? Adventure to me is laying on my ass and doing absolutely nothing because I work too damn hard.
@@uuppodcast No idea what you're talking about :D
Of COURSE she’s owed a conversation. lol she was the fiancé and paid for the entire wedding
I can really relate to Jared on solo vacations. The freedom and independence is nice when you’re out moving about and doing activities. But even in those moments or during down time, I usually get that feeling of “man this is fun but I wish I had someone to share these moments with.”
Jared please don’t let strangers bully you into thinking you’re doing vacations wrong!! Just because it’s not THEIR idea of fun, doesn’t mean it’s wrong. You work your butt off, you’re always “on”, you have a million avenues of income and jobs on your plate… the least you can do is spend your free time on your terms without any judgment or GUILT that you’re “doing it wrong”. Vacation is so personal, you have every right to go to even the Maldives and lay in bed and scroll through your phone if that makes you relaxed and happy. Love you J+J!!
P.S. the girl should most definitely sell the ring!
Also, I remember when people would judge me for going all the way to Hawaii and only visiting Maui 3x (and none of the other islands). But it’s what I felt like doing, and for the most part I just laid and chilled ALL DAY. And guess what….. I met lasting friends that I formed strong bonds with over the time I spent there, and the last time I was there I came back with a boyfriend who I love & adore. 🤍 do what makes you happy
@@babycakes130 lying on the beach in Maui is amazing
Jared talking about how he feels about life at the start was relatable and comforting. Also glad he talks about that unspoken about vacation feeling.
The fact that people go in debt for a wedding is insane to me and not a good way to start out the beginning of a new chapter. You can still get married and have a nice wedding without going to debt
But that’s the beauty of solo vacations :) you’re completely at your leisure to do as much or as little as you want without worrying over anyone else’s experience. I build entire trips around places I want to just eat and walk around sometimes
The guy handled it terribly and should’ve been a grown man and ended it with respect. This woman clearly thought she was going to spend the rest of her life with this man and he can’t even give her a simple conversation to end it. Idc if she’s being petty as she should! All this could have been avoided if he ended it in a decent way. Some men get detached so quickly it’s scary; imagine loving someone for years and they leave without giving a goodbye convo, of course she’s hurt! Fck that ring and him, sell it
Sell the ring! It's his fault
Actually legally speaking an engagement is considered a gift and she's under no legal obligation to give it back - Jared's idea of selling it to the uncle is genius
Not True!! In most states, engagement rings are considered conditional gifts, meaning the recipient can keep the ring if they fulfill the condition of getting married. For example, in NY, the recipient is only entitled to keep the ring if they satisfy the mutually agreed-upon condition of going through with the marriage. In Colorado, the ring must be returned if the engagement is ended by the person with the ring. In Delaware, the ring has to go back if the recipient calls off the wedding without fault on the giver's part, or the breakup is mutual. I believe Montana is only state where ring is an absolute unconditional gift.
Really relate to jared on how I feel on vacations
I say do what makes you happy and feel at ease :) if that's drinking a martini and buying a Kemo Sabe, so be it! lol
If he paid you back his half of the costs just give the uncle the ring back, not the ex-bf. He's shown he's not mature enough to have it.
Being that he sprung it on her, I think he should reimburse her 100% and she should give the ring back. If he had had a civil conversation with her, then maybe a 50/50 split and they could figure out the ring situation because they would be losing money. Or he reimburses her 75% and gets the ring back. He lost that with his behavior. It's hard losing a family heirloom/jewelry. I know because I have been through it (different situation). It was years ago and it still makes me upset.
Judge J&J ... love it. solving heirlooms one ring at a time.
Jared just sounds more and more depressed on each episode lately. Stop drinking and start meditating (and get a more effective therapist). Get comfortable with yourself and enjoy your vacations that you take yourself on! Vacations alone are the best. It's very sad to listen to him go on and on when there's really nothing that he's telling us that's wrong with his life. But I agree with Jordana that nothing matters in the end. When I used to ask my much older and wiser cousin (first cousin once removed, she was in her 60's at the time), she would always say, "you can do that, or this, it doesn't really matter because we all die."
He doesn't have a therapist. I agree that solo vacations are fun but they are not for everyone. It seems like it's not really his thing. :/
@@priska27 wait - this dude advertises for Better Help and tells other people to look into therapy but doesn’t have his own?! There’s part of his problem.
@@AllisonIntheCity Yeah I have the subscriber edition and unless something has changed, he doesn't go to therapy. As for Better Help, I feel like they sponsor every podcast. Plus I think that if a podcast is offered an ad, they are going to take it unless they are against it.
My kid called off a wedding a few weeks before. I lost $$$ from paying for reception food.
I didn't get "paid back", but it's better than going through with the wedding & getting divorced.
She is bitter & wants to get back at him. Give the ring back, get some therapy, have a civil conversation with him, ask for some reimbursement, cut your loses & be glad you don't have kids with him & a bitter divorce. You don't get much from selling the rings.
if it’s any constellation jared, you’re looking hot