I Feel So Guilty All The Time... How Do I Overcome It?
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I have so much guilt from my past, so much so that it makes me fear success. I've been hurt so much but I'm sure that I've caused some hurt for other people too, not intentionally. I've grown a lot and am a different and imporved person and yet, I'm burdened everyday with an overwhelming sense that I'm an awful person.
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i feel guilty all the time no matter what i do i have this knot in my stomach always no matter what i do i haven’t done anything wrong i always just feel guilt
Me too
Dude it’s the butterfly in the stomach feelin
I'm Sorry. For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I always feel guilty. I don't know why. I feel guilty like I've robbed someone or murdered someone, which I've obviously never done. I haven't done anything bad. But I feel like I have done something so bad that I don't deserve forgiveness. So I put myself in situations that can hurt me cause I feel like I deserve it and the only punishment that can fit my crime is death.
AnimeL0v3r AndPotatos DEPRESSION
Jesús is forgiveness
AnimeL0v3r AndPotatos I feel the same way.
Yess I feel that same thing. Guilt for being alive
Yea , that’s why i self harm which is very very stupid
I don't know why but I feel like I am guilty but I didn't do anything
Chloe Frazier yeahh man it sucks
Same. :/
same😭
Samee 😭
Every waking moment is spent feeling like I'm a piece of shit human being. I feel like I've let everyone down. Especially my dad. I didn't do anything wrong, but I constantly feel like I let him down.
I feel that people who do feel guilty, unworthy, not good enough and alone are often the better people in this world.
Well I feel none of those things and i actually do wrong. Maybe I'm a psychopath or something
Not me
@@jasesjandrn9479 same
I'm sorry. For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I feel like I’m the only one with feelings like everyone else can do anything and not care but if I do one little things I feel so bad
Me too 😔
i feel this 💯
Well I feel the same when I was a child u was all happy and playful and HAPPY I could do everything like I felt like reaching the sky it was like the whole world hugged me and melted my heart with happiness but now my heart is shattering I don't know why maybe it's because I just keep thinking about problems like feeling im unhealthy and everytime I see something bad on Netflix I feel bad too I mean I'm already like 16 or 18 but now I don't use the netflix for grown ups because I don't really like that it's all bad like curse words murder and robbery I like the kids section more I miss childhood when I was a kid I wanted to be a grown up until now because now I I see the real world and I liked the real world the bad one and I feel so guilty for it I'm scared what if I get sent to hell? I need help please.
same this is why i’m here i been feeling so bad and i say sorry a lot and still feel bad
@@tyyanniabyrd5203 same here. I stand up to somebody for their wrongdoings and later I feel bad. I lack confidence in myself and what I do. I'm often overwhelmed with guilt which later leads to overthinking and mood swings.
I feel guilty all the time.
I keep bringing back moments in my head and stressing and feeling guilty about them. A lot of the time these are things I didn’t think that much of at the time. I’m only 19 but I feel so much guilt for my teenage years. I know I was never a ferocious bully or abuser but there’s these moments that when compiled together make me feel terrible. And I feel like I don’t deserve success or happiness because of them.
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I have a lot of intrusive thoughts, and My psychologist Said to say Quack (like a duck) out loud. It has helped since it is a weird noise to pulls your attention to that weird sound.
GoTiSkA_GöTtIn are you diagnosed with OCD ?
the problem is - I am just an average person with average skills, and get overwhelmed by the too great people who do things that are faar outside my capabilities..... That is no crime, it is honest overwhelm and incapability to measure up.......
you sound sane.
OP please have empathy. What this person is saying sounds like it makes sense to me.
I did this and it made me laugh. Thank you for that tip it actually helped lol.
I feel so guilty and I just blame my self for everything that happens around me😓
Yes I do
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
At this point I just want to destroy my life and become as miserable as possible I believe I have severe self sabotage and guilt shame and embarrassment
Behind You never give up , when u give up u lose so don’t do it
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.I
I find myself overcome with guilt/embarrassment when I think of minor embarrassing things I’ve done in the past. It hits me suddenly. These trivial events happened years and years ago. I hate it.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I feel guilty because there are always things I could have done better, but it is not always my behaviour is under my control. Sometimes I just feel overloaded and then I become very needy.
I'm sorry. For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I actually talk to myself on a regular basis - with the racing thoughts I try to force myself to focus, and distract myself when I am stressed. If I am really upset I use just words - like "i don't know" or "what ever" and I just keep repeating over and over until I get my composure back. When I am at home I always have noise in the background, even when sleeping so I can try to crowd out the constant thinking. Use music, or soothing documentaries I like about sea or space. Even playing games, or reading articles. I actually have problems with input over load to the point that I am loosing hours thinking. I can stave off emotional distress but still not able to function.
I don't entertain negative thoughts, usually the out loud talking is when I am trying to remember tasks that I have to do, like do I have my keys, did I feed the cats, what do I have to do today, kind of thing. Try to focus on the hear and now when I talk out loud. Avoid bad thinking - I do have some OCD - that is not the obsessive counting or washing hands, but just negativity against myself about past issues that eat away at me. I do everything to stave them kind of thoughts off.
Same
I know you said this six years ago but same you sound like you know my life
Hello! If it is okay, can I ask how are you today? I hope, you are healthy and happy. I just have read your comment and I am in almost the same situation, very close. I am loosing so much time thinking and I can't stop doing it
I'm sorry. For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I had a breakthrough when I realised that my whole life was a gift given to me free-of-charge - I didn't do anything to deserve it and I don't understand why I'm not punished for all the wrong and evil things I've done in my life... It's like I'm under grace and it's too much for me to handle when I realise that I take this life for granted.
All the the blessings I've been given in this life were completely underserved and that's partly why I feel guilty.
I often take life for granted and I don't practice the gratitude for just being here and being alive and being able to experience anything at all.
I find that if I take it back to the most fundamental level of giving thanks to the universe just for my existence then I don't feel so guilty. Hope this helps.
Hmm makes sense a lot of my guilt stems from regretting not appreciating things and fear of being arrogant
yes but i don’t even deserve the gift of life
@@maxxywaxxyy To "deserve" something is based on merit. A gift is something given freely.
@@yourkingdomcomeyourwillbedone my parents taught me all my life that gifts are deserved
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough .
I feel so weird watching these videos. I have tried many therapists and in my country I haven't found any good ones yet.
and I just feel sad and lonely watching all these videos alone in my room trying to fix myself but it's so hard without a proper theraphist I wish I had a nice theraphist like you :(
same. same same same. i hope you're doing better now.
Prayers for u dear!
hope you are doing better !!
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
i feel guilty that my parents dont know, it makes me feel guilty and shameful and unworthy when people are nice to me and treat me specially...
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Thanks for talking about how to deal with toxic parents. Helpful
all your videos help but this one really shed light on what ive been experiencing, , Unjustified guilt , and shutting up those negative thoughts.... Keep doing what youre doing because you really are helping people... Thank you
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Just want to say thank you for making these. I'm seeking help now and hope to find someone as helpful as yourself. Binging on your videos, wish watching videos would be enough xoxo
Just so glad to have found you online Kati, and to have met you recently...never felt more inspired. Sick of the unhelpful services available, and reliance on medication. :)
Im always guilty. Its becuz ive done alot of things.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
KATI! Congrats on 10,000 subscribers!!! You have no idea how much I appreciate all you do for us, and I'm sure others will agree, your fantastic!! Love you so much and thanks and congrats :*
5 years later and she has over 600 000 subscribers🎉
You remind me of my old counsellor. She put everything so into perspective for me. I'm 17 at the moment and I'm currently getting therapy for an eating disorder and a currently (undiagnosed) disorder. (Bipolar disorder). Thank you for helping out xxx
Thank you so much for this video, the advice was gold and was stuff I've been looking for for ages!
I wish you were in my life as a teen!
Your energy is so good and sweet!
Ohh you answered my question you absolute babe. THANK YOU (I do love a good caps lock ;)) I've been in such a slump since my last appt ruminating in the guilt of what I've said and this was really helpful. I've been in therapy for a month and Its definitely in the 'worse before better' phase, I feel so overwhelmed all the time and its really hard to push through the pain and not run for the hills. Thank you again XXX
I just LOVE your videos. You are helping me so much!
I always say, just semi-joking, that if I took a polygraph test and was asked if I shot JFK, I'd prob fail. Feeling guilt is my default setting.
You are an awesome person, Kati. Thank you so much for doing these videos. :)
"How dare you watch tv and relax" haha yeahhhhh I get that one a lot. Oh Kati I'm moving back home with my parents. I left because it was too triggering at the time but I'm in a better place now and my parents know about my issues so I'm going to try again AND I'm going back to school (one course for now) and going to major in psychology (:
You are Amazing!!
Thank you
I feel guilty for opening up, and be real to people
Thanks again! As always so helpful. Love u kati xxxx
Can't thank you enough for your helpful videos :)
i always feel guilty for no reason. For the context, i have had a lot of traumatic experiences during my childhood, and i use maladaptive daydreaming as a coping mechanism. My therapist has told me to try to work on stopping by myself for two weeks and if i don't succeed then we should take the matter more seriously, i feel really guilty for coping this way because my parents have told me multiple times that i am insane for doing so and if i continue, then they will get rid of me. I don't know just-- my parents were only one example, i feel guilty for my coping all the time and i don't know what to do
Hey Kati :) I was just wondering if you could maybe do a whole video on distorted thinking?
Great video, as usual ;)
I went to therapy once a week last year and the year before. I did exactly what she described in the video. In the beginning most of the session if I mentioned one bad thing anyone in my family did that made me feel bad I’d immediately defend them because I didn’t want the therapist to think bad about them I even asked several times before I left if they would keep it between us. Of course they assured me everything was confidential. It really helped when my therapists assured me that they knew I wasn’t saying my loved ones were bad people and they just did or said something that I was uncomfortable with or not ok with. Bottom line we are all humans and we have all hurt someone even if it’s unintentional. Don’t be afraid to open up. It really helps to let things out and eventually you can feel a little lighter.
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Hey Kati. I'm 17 and I've suffered with depression since I was 13. I have one person who I feel I can talk to about it and she is unsure how to help as she is not specifically trained in this area. We see each other twice a week but I text her and phone her when I'm down. Could you make a video on how other people around you can help get you out of depression. Love your videos!!
Dear Katie
my name is bradley, for all of my lif i have thoguht that my concious was there with this voice that always made me feel bad.
eaxample, bradley you didnt do enough for that person to be able be calm and comfortbalea round them.
i just did it normally enough i had alo less money hah but alot mor undivided attention and respect, not the good type.
so to bring to now, i watche yoru video, being bipolar i struggled in every aspevt of my life only being diagnosed rcently at 21 while being undiagnosed throguh my young to teenage hood.
the point of this message, at 2.50-4.25
i started tearing hearing the relation then bursted out crying
you have absolutely bought somethign to my eyes that i would have lived my life not knowing the differnece.
every single day, so muc energy worrying, thinking, stressing and feeling guilt of not being deserving of life, friends, family, love, happiness absoltuely everything that has created me.
i bless you and i send yoy so much energy of my life katie, you have forever changed my life and for that i owe you my life genuinely and honestly. without this information, katie and her channel i would have believed to feel guilty of innocent things, feeligs, relationships, life everything until i have died TG. i now am literally chain from my neck removed free, you ahve changed my lif katie and honetly i ask that nothing but goodness love energy and good boding be bestowed upon your life, you have contributed so much and i aknowledge all that you have done thank you katie.
sincerely
thank you , from bradley
my mom shamed me a long time for me gaining alot of weight. It wasnt even my fault as the medication i was on at the time made me gain weight.
She is a narcisisstic micromanager towards my life and now that ive lost alot of weight she does this push pull thing where she flatters me and then most of the time stresses me, also trough shame, out with the worrying concept that i could potentially gain all the weight back.
It has made me please her by overexcersising lately. That has made me lose alot of sleep and ive forgotten my own actual needs...its insane :(
ive come to realize that she doesnt respect my integrity (my own personal needs) and ive gone grey rock on her for the last three weeks because of this. i see now that she has placed alot of unjustified guilt and shame on me and your educational video has helped me see that more clearly. Thank you :)
Thank you sweet lady! I find that I respond better to negative rather than positive feedback. It is more stimulating, especially if you are a not so satisfactory version of yourself. Maybe defensive pessimists are all like that... Thank you!
Thank you very much that helped a lot
Thanks for these videos u sure make me feel alot better after watching your videos.😆
Happy to know that you are so successful on TH-cam
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.b
I'm guilty all the time......
Actually same the way I try to help it is to read
me too.....cuz im never doing what im supposed to be doing....
it's not a rime, more I ain't psychologically capablle of, that's it....... no need to destroy me
for my incapacities
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Hi I keep saying these things to one of my teachers, they are never bad but after I say them I get really anxious and can't stop thinking about them.
Thank you for this video. I've been feeling quite suicidal lately, and feeling agitated. My parents excommunicated me because I'm gay. And my mother told me she wishes the worst for me, and that she doesn't want to see me prosper, because it am deformed in her words. She has been abusing me psychologically for my whole life. And no therapist had helped me with these feelings of guilt and shame. Constant verbal abuse such as "crack your demented head open, you're sick the way you dress" and "your never going to be happy being gay is a curse" and the thousands of other things she has said to me, its so hard, I'm beside myself at the moment and I've been crying watching this video. Knowing there is hope but at the same time still feeling hopeless.i feel guilty for existing.
It's horrible and insane to say something like that, especially to your own child. I wish you all the best❤
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I had a suicide attempt in 2022. I was in my old apartment back then. I overdosed on my Medication. I went unconscious the same night. Although I still woke up, fell around, puking, shitting myself, broke things accidentally. I wasnt eating or drinking for 4 - 5 days. At one point I just layed there unconscious. My mom and two friends rescued me 4 days after I attempted suicide. I was brought into a Hospital with kidney failure and a sitting and laying trauma. Because I was on the hard ground in uncomfortable positions for over 100 hours. Some time after in the Hospital I came back to consciousness. Luckily I survived. I drink alot of water and my kidney is working again. But due to my pain in the back, from the suicide attempt, I had to quit my old Job. I hope you dont commit suicide. Im thankful I failed. I wish and pray for you strength
I feel guilty for having a great life, amazing parents and everything I could ask for, I see people who are in horrible situations and feel so guilty for everything, and sometimes trying to deserve this life can be a bit exhausting
I feel this every day. 💗
Omg this helped soo much
I was in my room trying to draw something and my mom asked me to help her clean So I got up and smashed my pencil on the desk and left with a big "UGH" and when I started cleaning, I was super mad, but I felt really sad and guilty at the same time for making my mom feel bad about asking for help because she had been cleaning all day. When I was done I couldnt stop crying and feeling guilty.
I feel guilty for every single thing I did back then. And some of it I brought up to a few of the people I felt guilty for doing something to them, and it's been so long they either forgot it even happened or they seemed to think I was silly for still holding onto it. But I can't stop holding onto it. Sucks.
I'm sorry for what you are going through. For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Thank you so much Kati this was helpful for me and others.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.b
i think about things that i did that werent even bad but it always makes me feel so guilty
God, I've never met someone so happy... lol
I'm the same, I stopped restricting but now I tend to just eat a looooot of food all the time. I believe I am not really in extreme hunger anymore, because I remember that, that was definitely more extreme then again. But still...I think I eat more than feels good most days.
I did a really fucked up thing a few years ago and lately it's resurfaced in my mind quite humorous
Katie could you respond please, I feel guilty all the time even when I haven’t done anything wrong. I feel guilty for hanging out with my friends, i feel guilty for not being my absolute best a school, and i feel guilty for everything and have that cweezy feeling in my stomach all the time and it’s hard to focus when you feel guilty
You don't have to be perfect in life. We all have flaws. Embrace yourself and find your qualities. A lot of people show off but they are broken inside. Someone must have put that pressure on you. People expect a lot from you but you also have your own dreams and needs. Enjoy your youth - it won't happen a second time.
I so agree first question I sometimes have the guielty feeling
I wish to everyone that they feel better ❤️💖💖❤️💖💖
That voice: "why did you do that, you should be guilty of yourself"
Me: "I am in love with all of my imperfections"
Everytime!
Thanks!!
I feel like that when I am with my family... Also when I am happy or smth good is happening to me I feel guilty.. in front of my friends and other people...
This is so spot on for me hahahaha thank you! :)
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.
I did something many years ago that I’m not proud of but I know that I was a teenager and I didn’t know better, this action didn’t have a victim it was something that isn’t aligned with my morals now. I can tell myself that it was like 6 years ago and I feel I am a different person now but the guilt from my action remains. Just not sure how I can get past these feelings.
I feel yoy
I’m searching for this exact answer now!
i have so much guilt from my past, I hurt my closest friends and did so many bad things and had a horrible behavior and mindset and so much more, I gave them an apology gift and they said it’s okay and to not think about it anymore. But everytime I wish something bad would happen to me, the guilt I feel is extremely unbearable and I can’t take it anymore. I want to improve and change and that’s what I’m doing, but I feel like no matter what I do I feel horrible. Everything I see lot hear that’s similar to what I did brings back the guilt heavier than ever. I always feel like I’m doing something wrong to my friends right now and apologize for every little thing. I just can’t get rid of the guilt and I want to tell them but I don’t know how to.
It's so weird that you mention that we should write a letter to our future self because today during school we were asked to write a letter to our future self
"Guilt doesn't solve anything, really", "It hurts you ... I guess I am in the enviable position of not having to deal with guilt I think i am one, a true psychopath, without any remorse or empathy at all
i feel guilty for feeling bad and being sad. I always tell people that I'm sorry. I know why I feel that way,,, I'm just- being blamed for everything either by myself or others and it's so so tiring
I just wanna cry and tell everyone sorry :( and I always want attention :(
I said something awful to someone yesterday and went way out of my lane, and I’ve never felt so awful.
Hey Kati! I am new to your channel and I absolutely love them!I hope you read my comment! Here is the situation: I have some times where my brother/sister will call me a liar,and even though I am 9,I will cry,I know it isn’t helping but it makes me feel better!What do I do if they accuse me of doing something I didn’t do?
In face of the sentment of guilt, it's impossible to take stock of what happened and decide to be a better personal. Only then can we be responsible human beings that are willing to take care of ourselves and others. Remember, a positive attitude, in the sense of affirmativeness, is the way to redemption. That includes self-forgiveness, responsability and , most of all, compassion.
I feel guilty for having such great parents and friends and being so depressed I’m mad because why am I so depressed I feel I’m ungreatful :(
I feel guilty most of the time for small things even if I accidently stepped on someone's foot and I feel awful and I keep apologizing and I return home and feel awful I stepped on the person's foot.
I feel near constant guilt over something specific I did. Most people would say that I should never forgive myself.
II find it helpful to think of someone's else voice to talk me down our out of myself... Because i knwo that my own voice is triggering and gets distracted.
Hello, I love your channel. Can I possibly see an example of one of your journal prompts?
I have done so many messed up things that I have learned from and I feel so bad about it. Even if it’s a thought That I can’t control if it’s remotely bad I feel physically sick. I can’t control my thoughts nor my past actions and I don’t know what to do
I feel guilty for the smallest things.. it really hurts :(
I dont have parent problems or a therapist i just feel guilty over little things or things from years ago. Like when i was in Primary school (Elementary) i ordered packed lunch but i had school dinners and i feel guilty over eating it even though it was spare. It's frustrating
Looking at you reminds me of my guilt and makes me feel guilty :(
Remember, you are not the villain, you are the hero.
#kati faq Why do I feel stupid all the time? Like I don't know enough things or my opinion is silly, I don't feel intelligent and other people are, sometimes I want to read something to know more things but reading makes me sleepy, etc. What can I do?
It's a matter of building on your confidence. You already have all the knowledge you'll ever need! If others are willing to share their knowledge with you, listen. There is nothing wrong with staying quiet and thanking others for sharing what they know. ❤️
A KL it sounds like low self a steem tbh it’s something we all have it on occasion. You just need to learn to validate yourself. Your opinions,feelings,and thoughts matter just like anyone else’s .
You are so cute, like not in a creepy way but in a charming way. I wish you could be my personal therapist, you seem like you’re such a non judgemental person.
For some reason I feel guilty for the fact that many people have it worse than me even though it's not my fault. Like, whenever i remember that someone is suffering while i don't feels unfair.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I feel guilty because of my past.. i have done a very sinful act in my past and I feel guilty over it
My best friend was bullying me and we aren't friends anymore, I stood up to him and told him to go away and stop chatting. I felt so bad.... idk why he made my high school journey suck
I feel so guilty even if I didn't do anything wrong
Remember guilt Is a good thing it shows you where you need to improve going forward
I almost have the same problem with no3. My mom turns a blind eye to all the info that my psychologist gave her about my BPD and she doesnt want to accept that i have it. She can be so mean and yelling at me all the time! I've been avoiding her as much as i can by not being are home or when at home not near her! She stills manages to make me feel like crap and i wish i could stood up for myself but i really cant and its terryfiyng :(
I struggle with feeling guilty in general. I don't like it. I feel like a bother in some circumstances but I'm sure it's in my head
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I feel quilty because my mom rudely talked to a lady I could see the sadness in her face I feel really bad for her I am crying
Hi! I feel bad for thoughts I have about people I like...is this dysthymia? I felt I needed to tell my mother if I thought something bad or embarrassing about her when I was a child. It was her ,because I was closer to her and like her the most. I even have social phobia,too much trouble.
Yes, exactly, I’m guilty when I don’t work out; take a walk; have a plan; follow the plan; do something creative; be positive; handle people; all the things that I’m informed will “help me” be “ok” or liked or authentic or acceptable. I truly, secretly, will be happy when this life is over. That’s very freeing. I’m 68 next week. It’s been a long haul.
I like the idea about countering the negative voice through self talk- however, what I find as the challenge is when its other people (boss, co worker, friend/ family, etc) who may make a comment that reinforces the guilt voice in my head. Their comment (often mild and not direct) validates the guilt I put on myself. I can give an example if this doesn't make sense.
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FYI. Not sure if I was supposed to hashtag you or not. Lol.
I'm really impulsive and my feelings tend to build and explode dramatically. I have had four or five big explosions in the past few years where I yell at an authority figure or a friend and get in big trouble. After each episode, I feel extremely worthless and miserable, and I cry many times a day for weeks on end. The guilt I feel over this increases with each outburst, and now it's at a point that I can't bear anymore. I am extremely sensitive about my anger issues, because it caused me a lot of shame, guilt, and embarrassment as a kid, and I had to transfer elementary schools because of it. I'm hard on myself for reacting so badly, but when other people blame me I put on a defensive facade. It hurts too much to let anyone criticize the part of me I'm most embarrassed about. My anger is well-founded, and everyone I get angry at has usually been getting on my nerves for months, and my anger is an explosion of bottled up feelings towards that person that I have not been able to express. Example include incompetent teachers, friends that have been using me, ect. The exception to this is sports, which brings out a completely different side of me. I love sports, but I have trouble keeping my cool on the field. The reason I'm writing this stupidly long paragraph is because a couple of days ago I yelled at a ref during a sports game. He gave me a yellow card(five minutes time out). As I was walking off the field one of the bossy freshmen players (I'm a junior so it was extra embarrassing) told me that I need to learn to control my anger better. This hit my sensitive spot, and I yelled at her to shut the f*ck up. I got a red card, was kicked out of the game and off the team. My parents are understanding because I've had problems with members of the team being mean to me in the past, and they don't blame me too much. But deep down, I know it's all my fault. I feel guilty that my parents don't blame me, I feel ashamed for always lashing out, and I feel guilty that I always ruin my life. Everything bad in my life is my fault. My bad grades are because I don't study enough or do my homework, my lack of friendships is because of my sporadic behavior, and my constant feelings of guilt and inadequacy are from my constant self-sabotage when I lash out at people. I can't bear to live with this pain in my life anymore, but it won't go away. I'm sorry for the long paragraph, but I needed to get this off my chest somehow, and the beauty of the internet is it's anonymity. Sorry for wasting your time, lol
I feel guilty talking to people even if all we did was laugh ..and it's a feeling and not a voice 😵
The negative voice part got me.