0:28 totally describes me. I am so sensitive to people's body language, facial expressions, etc., looking for ANY sign they are unhappy. If they are anything less than neutral, I get anxious. I thought this was just me.
Good news, Dr Aziz and comments page! I went to a Ross store and they only had one cashier working and two were standing around at their registers, ignoring the customers. The old me would have just stood there and waited for the one cashier, but today I spoke up and said, "Are either one of you open?" I wasn't rude, but was assertive, even though I felt jumpy inside after asking. I then had to deal with the nice guy postmortems after I left (geez, was I rude? Should I have just waited it out?) I then started chanting "I am completely independent from the good or bad opinions of others" and I felt confident again. :-) thanks again
There are times on Fridays when a person will say something to me that makes me feel that they don't like me and I will take that into my weekend and think about it the entire weekend. I really do appreciate this video!
Great video. I spent years thinking I was stupid because SO many people used to say that. It was a confusing. I couldn't see the board at school and I still was called stupid and thought I was stupid. At the workplace people played pranks on me for years; I was seen as a target as I was nice. Over the;past few years I have had to work on my inner self esteem and one of the things i did was volunteer in the community and now volunteer with the police. I have even WON wards... so in my head. I am that person must be good at something as I have won awards so i have EVIDENCE I am good at something.. Building up qualifications and skills really helps build up your self esteem. T
What a perfect analysis of not care/worry about what other thinking about me. I think this is the first thing to break to be come a confident person.in life if u know want a needed change then what other people think about me was blocking all of our activity..
My mom terrified me when I was younger and in school; she always SCREAMED if I didn't get the best grades in my class. I would even hide the grades sometimes. After that, I always felt inferior to my friends who got better grades than I did. I still don't feel confident in my abilities.
Confidence is a skill you can learn and improve. It's also like a muscle that gets stronger with exercise. Try this daily exercise and see what changes you notice in a couple of weeks: th-cam.com/video/0xUUEWW1baY/w-d-xo.html
Over the last few months I've been really putting into practice being w myself and sitting w no distractions. Its been one of the best practices I've ever cultivated. Cool hearing your take on it man! Great advice as usual in this vid.
I did have a hard time. It feels like I'm not enough, not suitable enough to carry my responsibilities, not enough to be equal to new people I have to live with. Ive done many stupid things that made me embarrass myself and know I'm trying too hard to not do it again becoming like a plain background to my surroundings. This video did striked more than enough points for me so I'll give it a try. I'll try to live up on my expectations to myself, I'll try the methods you introduced to me
Also, I think it's very helpful to understand your rights and have perspective. You have the right to say NO to people, a right means you can choose however you see fit, regardless of if anyone else like it or not. Whether they approve of it or not, is irrelevant when we're talking about rights. When people are trying to use their approval to manipulate you, it is them who are crossing the line, not you. When something is not your problem, well, it's not your problem. Perspective can be very empowering.
+Steven Li And, a lot of Royal Highness these days, they think they can make you do whatever they want, just because they asked nicely. Sorry, you can ask me nicely, and I still have the right to say no to you. Understanding my rights is not the same as being a jerk. Disrespecting other people's rights, however, would qualify.
I like what you say here about introspection. All of my remembered history is in this ultra-connected world, so I honestly forget that I need to just be with myself sometimes. It sounds so obvious, but it's not to me, and I suspect this is endemic to my generation. My alarm goes off and I immediately look at reddit or Facebook before I even have time to really form thoughts. I go to sleep the same way. Thanks for the wake-up call.
Well dude, it must have left a good impact on my life because i have changed a lot It was a long process and i have watched much more different videos and reading more books thus today i am a totally different person Thanks for reminding me this ! All the best to you, too
Dr aziz thank you so much thank you thank you thank you,,, i thank god that i found you're videos I was so sad and just so nice to every one especially Where I work and I know thats wrong but I keep Being so nice because I get regular to that and thats how people know and see me and I can't change it because I think thats me !!! And because of you I learn alot alot alot about my self,, and now I really feels so upset from me for being so nice with people thats don't deserve just helping them and never say no, not being myself but just being nice so nice ,, and things get worse especially the last tow years I start to lose my real self and just be fine and nice with everyone.. But You changed my life now .. Dr aziz I'm writing this and there's a tears on my eyes.. Because. Of your vids I feel strong and good. Thank you and btw you're name Aziz is arabic name right? Because i'm Arab from the Middle East And I knew this name عزيز.. And I've seen your book on amazon I absolutely going to order it ,, cant wait to read it God bless you,, :) 🌹 and thank you
Thanks! That's unfortunate about the book. Can you at least get my E-Book? If you just go to my website and enter your email, I'll send you a free copy. Good luck!
Hey, I been watching some more videos from different ppls but I love ur videos much better. I am practicing to build my confidence, most of the time after I started a nice conversation with people's I can't make it continuous I'll be like out off word to make it longer and important I start back shy. solution for this pls?? Thank you so much
Assefa Meshesha Overcoming our fear of conversations is a super-important thing to develop. My program The Confidence Code is all about this. If you want to go deeper, that's the best training to do: YourConfidenceCode.com
Its kinda like do what you want to do and say what you want say in balance. right? I've been doing this for about a year now and I"m more free than before . so go and do this it will get rid your anxiety as well. and you will become free living in a free world.
Dear Aziz I wanted to ask you how the best technique to deal with clients who pay well but they are annoying and require too much stuff how the technique both consider them and maintain self-esteem and assertiveness both what do you think and what would offer I would appreciate you very much
Hey, Aziz. You are the best coach man. Love what you do. I have a question. What do you think about taking a Public Speaking class? Will this help me any?
Hey nice video, I appreciate the concepts you address here. I look forward to watching the rest of your videos. I feel you would be a good candidate to be a guest on a podcast about this topic. Keep it up :)
Hi Dr Aziz, thanks for the helpful videos. One issue I encountered was when I try to lower my filter, I end up blurting some things that pop into my head but they are quite irrelevant to the conversation or even if they are relevant, I blurt out quite short and quick phrases that people don't really respond to and the conversation ends. Is there anything I can do to solve this? Also do you have any advice on improving my general ability to hold conversations besides improving confidence, in terms of the content of what I say? Thanks very much
Hello Dr Aziz When you say you had social anxiety, was it the actual disorder, or are you using "social anxiety" colloquially to mean shyness etc? Thanks
Social Anxiety covers a host of symptoms. Any one, or combination of them, can mean you're experiencing social anxiety. But there is a more technical application called Social Anxiety Disorder. You can learn more about that here in WebMD: www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/mental-health-social-anxiety-disorder#1 If you read that description you'll see a breakdown of what my life used to be like.
@@GetMoreConfidence Thanks for the reply. It's very impressive that you overcame such a debilitating condition. As someone who has had social anxiety almost my whole life, I'm 29 now, your example gives me hope. I also like your view on niceness, as I too suffer from being overly nice.
You suffered long enough my friend! You can rise above this. Dive into all the videos here on my channel and keep working on it. Also, don't forget about all my other online resources you can use to support your journey (it may not be as hard and lengthy as you imagine): 1) First, stay in the loop by going here and signing up for my newsletter: socialconfidencecenter.com/products/5-steps-to-unleash-your-inner-confidence/ In the process, you’ll receive my ebook that has helped thousands of people, “5 Steps To Unleash Your Inner Confidence.” You’ll also receive a lot of helpful tips and information on a regular basis as well as access to resources only available to subscribers. 2) Subscribe to my podcast here: www.ShrinkForTheShyGuy.com If offers great information for both men and women, including interviews with other leaders in the field of confidence and social anxiety. 3) Subscribe to my TH-cam channel here. (Don’t forget to click on the notification bell icon!) I release at least one new video every week! th-cam.com/users/GetMoreConfidence 4) Follow me on Facebook! facebook.com/DrAzizGazipura/ 5) Browse through my published books on specific confidence issues and how to crush them! DrAzizBooks.com 6) Check out my next live event. These weekend intensive experiences are life changing! socialconfidencecenter.com/events/
your advice is reaally good but- to break free from those habits takes time and dedication and patience- u didnt feel bad about yourself just one day when u woke up- its a thought turned to a belief over time- also even if your parents were nice to u but you looked up to your older sibling more and they were harsh to you- your self estemm will be low to nonexistent, thats a very superficial explanation but you get the idea
To live a happy life, don't worry about this crap. Be yourself and be comfortable with whatever you're comfortable with. If you keep trying to be "normal" like this guy is explaining, only then will you live a miserable life because you are so worried about changing. Just be yourself.
That's certainly something you deserve to work on and improve. Have you grabbed my free ebook on confidence? If not, go get it now and I think it will help you. It's at the top of the page here: www.SocialConfidenceCenter.com
@@GetMoreConfidence Well, I started introspection and found that the small achievements that I've been having everyday, be it cleaning my place or being regular at the gym and being social despite the bumpy experience, added more to my confidence and eventually to my self-satisfaction and that, eventually led me to say that its okay to not get the same "you are awesome" result everytime you do something. And I learnt that taking every thing to the ego route is probably the reason one feels that way so I just started an ego check. But again, thanks for you kind words man. Really helped reaching there. 😊👍
0:28 totally describes me. I am so sensitive to people's body language, facial expressions, etc., looking for ANY sign they are unhappy. If they are anything less than neutral, I get anxious. I thought this was just me.
Not at all, this is very common. It's also something you can completely overcome.
@@GetMoreConfidence thats awesome to hear
Good news, Dr Aziz and comments page! I went to a Ross store and they only had one cashier working and two were standing around at their registers, ignoring the customers. The old me would have just stood there and waited for the one cashier, but today I spoke up and said, "Are either one of you open?" I wasn't rude, but was assertive, even though I felt jumpy inside after asking.
I then had to deal with the nice guy postmortems after I left (geez, was I rude? Should I have just waited it out?) I then started chanting "I am completely independent from the good or bad opinions of others" and I felt confident again.
:-) thanks again
That sounds awesome, thanks for sharing.
I only fell sorry to not found your channel before.
Looool 😂😂😂😂🤭🤭🤭
Same
You are a fantastic human being. Thank you so much for your help. I will be ordering your book once I get enough money. Keep it up man.
There are times on Fridays when a person will say something to me that makes me feel that they don't like me and I will take that into my weekend and think about it the entire weekend. I really do appreciate this video!
Glad I could help!
At least they said " nah thanks "
Great video. I spent years thinking I was stupid because SO many people used to say that. It was a confusing. I couldn't see the board at school and I still was called stupid and thought I was stupid. At the workplace people played pranks on me for years; I was seen as a target as I was nice. Over the;past few years I have had to work on my inner self esteem and one of the things i did was volunteer in the community and now volunteer with the police. I have even WON wards... so in my head. I am that person must be good at something as I have won awards so i have EVIDENCE I am good at something.. Building up qualifications and skills really helps build up your self esteem. T
Congratulations!
What a perfect analysis of not care/worry about what other thinking about me. I think this is the first thing to break to be come a confident person.in life if u know want a needed change then what other people think about me was blocking all of our activity..
So true!
So glad I found your channel, only watched two videos so far and already feeling so much more energetic, confident and manly! Thanks
same here!i have social anxiety and had gone through few horrible doctors but now i think i find my doctor!
i have been implementing your methods for abt a week now and i can confidently say that i am feeling great and doing great,thank you Doc
Awesome, glad you're noticing there results Dagem!
My mom terrified me when I was younger and in school; she always SCREAMED if I didn't get the best grades in my class. I would even hide the grades sometimes. After that, I always felt inferior to my friends who got better grades than I did. I still don't feel confident in my abilities.
Confidence is a skill you can learn and improve. It's also like a muscle that gets stronger with exercise. Try this daily exercise and see what changes you notice in a couple of weeks: th-cam.com/video/0xUUEWW1baY/w-d-xo.html
You are like a miracle to me, I am what you described in your videos, A Freak. I am starting to practice your techniques. Thank you
+Furqan Aziz You're not a freak, bro. You're a king in the making.
Thanks :-) Frederick0220
This is extremely powerfull . Really helped me to break through the wall of anxiety and fear.
Over the last few months I've been really putting into practice being w myself and sitting w no distractions. Its been one of the best practices I've ever cultivated. Cool hearing your take on it man! Great advice as usual in this vid.
Wonderful!
I did have a hard time. It feels like I'm not enough, not suitable enough to carry my responsibilities, not enough to be equal to new people I have to live with. Ive done many stupid things that made me embarrass myself and know I'm trying too hard to not do it again becoming like a plain background to my surroundings. This video did striked more than enough points for me so I'll give it a try. I'll try to live up on my expectations to myself, I'll try the methods you introduced to me
good stuff. spot on. I think that you and I must of had a similar past. I also used to make alot of those "yes man" people pleaser mistakes.
Also, I think it's very helpful to understand your rights and have perspective.
You have the right to say NO to people, a right means you can choose
however you see fit, regardless of if anyone else like it or not.
Whether they approve of it or not, is irrelevant when we're talking about rights.
When people are trying to use their approval to manipulate you, it is them
who are crossing the line, not you. When something is not your problem,
well, it's not your problem.
Perspective can be very empowering.
+Steven Li
And, a lot of Royal Highness these days, they think they can make you
do whatever they want, just because they asked nicely.
Sorry, you can ask me nicely, and I still have the right to say no to you.
Understanding my rights is not the same as being a jerk.
Disrespecting other people's rights, however, would qualify.
I like what you say here about introspection. All of my remembered history is in this ultra-connected world, so I honestly forget that I need to just be with myself sometimes. It sounds so obvious, but it's not to me, and I suspect this is endemic to my generation. My alarm goes off and I immediately look at reddit or Facebook before I even have time to really form thoughts. I go to sleep the same way. Thanks for the wake-up call.
Good stuff. Keep it coming. Prayerfully one day I'll be truly happy. Thx.
Chris 123 I believe in you. Keep up the work and you will get there!
Great video, thank you so much Aziz!
This is the best video I’ve ever watched in my life
High praise indeed! I'm glad you enjoyed it.
It's like you're narrating my life. Seriously, thank you for making these videos
You're very welcome!
Great video! You dont know how much you're helping!
well listening to it explained makes more sense than trying to convince myself alone.... ill give it a shot
Thank you for linking me this video, I’m going to put these tips along with the others in to good use I promise!
Awesome, so glad!
I can relate to the old you, really great advice! It's amazing how you were able to change your persona. Thank you.
This is awesome. I need to work on just listening to myself but also being my own best friend. Thanks for the video
You are on the right track my friend!
Thanks Boss,
I promose to act what you suggested ..
I think it can helps me because i wanna show my reality which i have been hided for 23 yrs old.
Did anything chance sir after 5 years
Well dude, it must have left a good impact on my life because i have changed a lot
It was a long process and i have watched much more different videos and reading more books thus today i am a totally different person
Thanks for reminding me this ! All the best to you, too
@@alanomer6523 OK
Enjoying your videos! To the point and easy to follow through with in life
Dr aziz thank you so much thank you thank you thank you,,, i thank god that i found you're videos I was so sad and just so nice to every one especially Where I work and I know thats wrong but I keep Being so nice because I get regular to that and thats how people know and see me and I can't change it because I think thats me !!! And because of you I learn alot alot alot about my self,, and now I really feels so upset from me for being so nice with people thats don't deserve just helping them and never say no, not being myself but just being nice so nice ,, and things get worse especially the last tow years I start to lose my real self and just be fine and nice with everyone.. But You changed my life now .. Dr aziz I'm writing this and there's a tears on my eyes.. Because. Of your vids I feel strong and good. Thank you and btw you're name Aziz is arabic name right? Because i'm Arab from the Middle East And I knew this name عزيز.. And I've seen your book on amazon I absolutely going to order it ,, cant wait to read it
God bless you,, :) 🌹 and thank you
You are simply great.. Thanks...
Thanks for uploading.
You're welcome!
Thank you
You're welcome!
Hey man, your videos are so nice. thank you very much for choosing to upload these videos ❤️❤️
Glad you like them!
So glad I found you Dr Aziz!
Me too!
This is really good stuff! Thank you so much!
You're very welcome!
Thank you this lesson of a lifetime, Aziz
Glad you enjoyed it!
great video! thanks a lot
Great tips, really! I will watch all you videos. Keep doing them! You're great.
The problem is that I can't get your books in my country
Thanks! That's unfortunate about the book. Can you at least get my E-Book? If you just go to my website and enter your email, I'll send you a free copy. Good luck!
I've just sent my e-mail. Thank you very much! Good day.
Thank you so much
You're most welcome!
Your videos are spot on.
tompski Thank you so much!
Why do I find you so attractive, Aziz?
LOL I have no idea.:-)
Thank you so much for this video. You're so on point.
Thank you as well!
Thank you! This is what i needed to hear.
Hey, I been watching some more videos from different ppls but I love ur videos much better. I am practicing to build my confidence, most of the time after I started a nice conversation with people's I can't make it continuous I'll be like out off word to make it longer and important I start back shy. solution for this pls?? Thank you so much
Assefa Meshesha Overcoming our fear of conversations is a super-important thing to develop. My program The Confidence Code is all about this. If you want to go deeper, that's the best training to do:
YourConfidenceCode.com
+Get More Confidence are you irani
Great video, thank you so much.
this is so accurate . thanks
thank you so much!
I'm really glad I found your channel, thank you for taking the time to make them. :)
Its kinda like do what you want to do and say what you want say in balance. right? I've been doing this for about a year now and I"m more free than before . so go and do this it will get rid your anxiety as well. and you will become free living in a free world.
Dear Aziz I wanted to ask you how the best technique to deal with clients who pay well but they are annoying and require too much stuff how the technique both consider them and maintain self-esteem and assertiveness both what do you think and what would offer I would appreciate you very much
It's your right to fire a client if you need to.
Thanks Buddy!
Great video.
Thank you!
Thank you, Dr Aziz.
thankz man .Really helpfull
Great video. Just brought your book 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Awesome, thank you so much!
Excellent and very lively.....perfect body language ......love you mate
Right now i m reading page no 60 of ur book.
Awesome! Let me know what you think when you're finished, and which book it was.
Get More Confidence " The solution to Social anxiety" and i will definitely let u know when finished, THX sir.
Hey, Aziz. You are the best coach man. Love what you do. I have a question. What do you think about taking a Public Speaking class? Will this help me any?
YES. Getting practice public speaking is a powerful way to build confidence. The more you do, the better. And improv classes, those are great too.
thanks man
Hey nice video, I appreciate the concepts you address here. I look forward to watching the rest of your videos. I feel you would be a good candidate to be a guest on a podcast about this topic. Keep it up :)
You're incredible really.
Plz where can I find your book in Saudi Arabia. I need it so much.
Youre a good dude
Hi Dr Aziz, thanks for the helpful videos. One issue I encountered was when I try to lower my filter, I end up blurting some things that pop into my head but they are quite irrelevant to the conversation or even if they are relevant, I blurt out quite short and quick phrases that people don't really respond to and the conversation ends. Is there anything I can do to solve this? Also do you have any advice on improving my general ability to hold conversations besides improving confidence, in terms of the content of what I say?
Thanks very much
U R SIMPLY GREAT MAN.....
Hello Dr Aziz
When you say you had social anxiety, was it the actual disorder, or are you using "social anxiety" colloquially to mean shyness etc?
Thanks
Social Anxiety covers a host of symptoms. Any one, or combination of them, can mean you're experiencing social anxiety. But there is a more technical application called Social Anxiety Disorder. You can learn more about that here in WebMD: www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/mental-health-social-anxiety-disorder#1 If you read that description you'll see a breakdown of what my life used to be like.
@@GetMoreConfidence Thanks for the reply. It's very impressive that you overcame such a debilitating condition. As someone who has had social anxiety almost my whole life, I'm 29 now, your example gives me hope. I also like your view on niceness, as I too suffer from being overly nice.
You suffered long enough my friend! You can rise above this. Dive into all the videos here on my channel and keep working on it. Also, don't forget about all my other online resources you can use to support your journey (it may not be as hard and lengthy as you imagine):
1) First, stay in the loop by going here and signing up for my newsletter:
socialconfidencecenter.com/products/5-steps-to-unleash-your-inner-confidence/
In the process, you’ll receive my ebook that has helped thousands of people, “5 Steps To Unleash Your Inner Confidence.”
You’ll also receive a lot of helpful tips and information on a regular basis as well as access to resources only available to subscribers.
2) Subscribe to my podcast here: www.ShrinkForTheShyGuy.com
If offers great information for both men and women, including interviews with other leaders in the field of confidence and social anxiety.
3) Subscribe to my TH-cam channel here. (Don’t forget to click on the notification bell icon!) I release at least one new video every week!
th-cam.com/users/GetMoreConfidence
4) Follow me on Facebook! facebook.com/DrAzizGazipura/
5) Browse through my published books on specific confidence issues and how to crush them!
DrAzizBooks.com
6) Check out my next live event. These weekend intensive experiences are life changing!
socialconfidencecenter.com/events/
your advice is reaally good but- to break free from those habits takes time and dedication and patience- u didnt feel bad about yourself just one day when u woke up- its a thought turned to a belief over time- also even if your parents were nice to u but you looked up to your older sibling more and they were harsh to you- your self estemm will be low to nonexistent, thats a very superficial explanation but you get the idea
u understand this video when you watch 4 to 5 times and listen
Thank you!
I think I'm confident, but I'm not confident of my confidence!
Sup... hey you look like the singer of Zebrahead... great video by the way!
Yes 👍
Yes!
To live a happy life, don't worry about this crap. Be yourself and be comfortable with whatever you're comfortable with. If you keep trying to be "normal" like this guy is explaining, only then will you live a miserable life because you are so worried about changing. Just be yourself.
agent475816 Sounds like you've found a philosophy that works for you.
your personality or something you said
But what if my opinion about myself is even worse than the ones from others? (Wich aren't that great too tbh xD)
That's certainly something you deserve to work on and improve. Have you grabbed my free ebook on confidence? If not, go get it now and I think it will help you. It's at the top of the page here: www.SocialConfidenceCenter.com
Damn, needed it so bad
Did you get it?
@@GetMoreConfidence Well, I started introspection and found that the small achievements that I've been having everyday, be it cleaning my place or being regular at the gym and being social despite the bumpy experience, added more to my confidence and eventually to my self-satisfaction and that, eventually led me to say that its okay to not get the same "you are awesome" result everytime you do something. And I learnt that taking every thing to the ego route is probably the reason one feels that way so I just started an ego check. But again, thanks for you kind words man. Really helped reaching there. 😊👍
Awesome, keep up the great work!
I have to listen to this bc ppl are rude to me
The only thing I am worrying about is how to make money to better my life.F all those stinking haters if I have any.
Funstar Tv your a f .... f for posting
IT'S ZYZZ!!!
No
Sabse bada rog kya kahenge log
Your talks are really boring. The content is good, but how you deliver is really boring. Puts someone off.
Google Johnny lol that's just u
shane i agree
Thank u for helping.
My pleasure; thank you for being here!
I needed this. Amazing points.
I'm glad it was beneficial.
Thank you so much!