I really like this one. Cuz I'm too sensitive about stuff and when someone constantly puts me down, it hurts like hell and then I start being a recluse.
@@tomsheils1096 there’s a TeDxTalk about ‘Don’t take it personal.’ It is good. We need to learn to DETACH ourselves from others comments. Also there’s a great person here on TH-cam, young, but with wisdom beyond her life years, who is amazing at teaching us to think about our expectations from others, etc. (Edit: BK Shivani is her name and TH-cam channel) It is great as a foundation to detach ourselves from others. Only by making a conscious decision for ourselves, we can do this. Though we go into our ‘default’ system, just like a computer, we must make sure we stay with the ‘UPDATES’ on a regular basis.
As time passes by it gets easier and easier and really sends a clear message. I realized if people can not understand by you talking, let alone arguing😉
Bullshit, who u are is ONLY... what everyone around u wants you to be. ALL YOU ARE IS THE PERSON THAT THEY THINK YOU ARE . THATS REALITY UNFORTUNATELY. I doesn't matter if I have become a different person, the people around u will only see what they want to see, no matter how high you scream to the rafters in your own defense!! I've lost most respect for life and humanity because of it, SADLY
@@ninalarson9453 at least in your life and through your perception you can have a changed life ❤ I also struggle an ongoing struggle of family who identifies me as the angry person I used to be, even though I haven't been that person for decades. It's sad, but it taught me a great deal.
I grew up with a toxic mother that used to scream and yell all day long. She was explosive and reacted negatively to a lot of things. I’m trying to correct myself when I slip into her ways. This is a huge struggle for me.
Same here. The struggle is real because for a very long time thats all we knew. Is to be reactive and angry and negative. Im trying everyday and i fail all the time but thats ok cox over time, il get there. And you will too!!! Cheering for u Nicole!!
I understand and repent when I react harshly. But am sad when family “make up lies” w intention to harm/disrespect one. I finally walked away. Pray for them daily... but nothing to apologize for..
@Margo Ledbetter Not even than Any response is feeding the perpetrator. Complete stand still-no reaction- silence - another cases. No reaction -no response either. That is a science of not retaliating. Not engaging in the other's game of control.It is harder than we think
I cannot say enough how this message has helped me dissolve my reactivity. When I feel myself wanting to lash out, I listen to this message and I return to myself. Thank you.
How am I supposed to do what the video said to when I wouldn’t be allowed enough time to do any of it…? How am I supposed to do this when I have to heavily filter around them so my words don’t make them butt hurt…?
I love being calm and relaxed whenever am in trouble. Because it does make me feel mature and responsible. Training one's mind to see good in every situation in life is paramount.
This is the apathetic attitude that is a plague right now I bet you wouldn't help someone in need and I bet you wouldn't even be able to see if someone was truly in need.
This is exactly what I was searching for. I prayed prior & felt directed to this wise wisdom. I did have to listen to it several times due to his strong accent. I do want to share with two others but fear they will have difficulty understanding his English.
While I appreciate all the likes and accolades I need to give credit because this is a quote directly from this brilliant video and I just preserved it because I thought it was so memorable but if you copy it and paste it on your Facebook pages or whatever please credit the author of the video! I wish I'd said it by the way! LOL LET'S KEEP BEING POSITIVE AND THINKING POSITIVE EVERYONE! ❤️
I can't emphasize how absolutely important it is to take time for yourself . I dont mean just to rest and chill with a TV on. I mean seriously silent time. no interruptions at all. On a daily basis . It works wonders
My goodness I love this..I'm never ever going to be a victim of circumstances I'm not reactive I am a creator of the circumstances I wish to experience
Those are nice platitudes, but unfortunately none are actually true. So much better to face reality, than desperately holding on to false promises. Face reality head on, make a plan, & move on to the next level.
I've been listening to this almost everyday for 5months, and everytime it's a blessing, a beautiful reminder and I always walk away with a different message, I feel more present, I will continue to listen to this everyday to be a better human being. 💖
There are many sins and temptations. Try to have grace and forgiveness for people who sometimes struggle with evil thoughts in their mind and/or heart. There are times I struggle with sinful thoughts and I must pray for help and strength to overcome them and not act on them.🙏
That's exactly what I'm doing. Working on my own personal self and building a bigger and stronger relationship with Our Creator of the Whole Universe. I'm not concerned about what everyone else is doing. I'm focusing on making myself a better person and having a closer relationship with Our Creator of the Whole Universe.
Love this: “Our perception of life creates our reality. By choosing to direct our thoughts, our feelings, our words, our actions and our attitude consciously and positively, we can transform and improve everything around us.”
@Sunflowerlovely P narcissist projection...ugh it's ruined me. Trying now to escape that now that I too have realized his projection of how he views me was directing me to ruin. Seek God is right. Jesus Jesus Jesus
I wish I had this teaching 50 yrs ago.😭I have ruined relationships that I cared about that would have tripled my joy in life. I have been left with misery. I listened to false voices and feelings in my head and heart.😭It's SO HARD living with these regrets. I still cry over the losses, unforgiveness, anger, misunderstandings, and missed opportunities. The unforgiveness, anger, resentment, and the false reality of a situations that lead me down a dark path of repeated reactions for decades and left misery behind! I carried the anger of my childhood into my adulthood. I didn't realize this until I brought God deeper into my life. I failed to listen too many times. He's the great teacher and comforter in time of regrets. Rely on God's strength and never your own. Self control is not just what comes out of your mouth but, what goes into your mouth, ears, and eyes.🙊🙉🙈 Put on the armor of God's love and be fully protected. You will make mistakes, but fewer and fewer. Accept the peace and forgiveness God offers you. Repentance and forgiveness are a moments prayer away.💗💔💗
I also feeling regret with what I had done to a man I love because of my overactive, everything was destroy by me. Just got to hear this lesson after broken up 1 week. This is a big lesson that I most remember it always and apply it in my life.
I know right?! I believe that mindfulness could be implemented as a core subject similar to phys-ed right from grade one! It's a Toxic Culture , we are not shown life skills really until we find ourselves so deep in our demons , its either do or die. The individuals behaviors are result of generational trauma. They don't know any thing else...
This just healed me from a potential spiral down after my awakening..thank you so much One thing you said ..DO NOT ACCEPT ANOTHER PERSONS REALITY AS YOUR OWN..that just helped me anchor on being positive and concious thank you this was pure gold
I find myself reacting to things as they happen. I don’t even wait for the person to finish speaking or situation to play out. Once I think something is happening that I don’t want to deal with… I’m lashing out. My reactions are ruining my relationships and pushing people away.
Now that you're aware of it, just try to remain conscious of it at all time. Practice silence/non-reaction with every interaction and it will become your natural response. If you are interacting with people who consistently abuse you when you are doing your best to get along, it is probably best to minimize/cease contact as some people are just not going to stop. In time maybe you can deal even with them without being affected, but it's not something I am able to do yet. Peace and love to you.
I call it being indifferent. they hate it. but I do use mirroring at times. I will hold a mirror/light back at them, they will think on their own actions, you are helping anyone who really sees their own reflection. its out of love in that I do this because some people MANY you can love them you can do everything and anything for them to empower them but they will shit on you. this is fact so in a way what he is saying is true but one must know its pointless. I will say my truth and then move on. how is someone going to learn if you just go away without knowing why?
@@TereseJames3 Very True... For neg people, if you just walk away without helping them to see the truth, how would they learn to treat people kindly...? But we have to say anything with calm and kind mind as this dr. says...
its not our responsibility to enlighten a negative person you are and can only be responsible for yourself your own healing and enlightenment. pray for them and hope that your example teaches them something. because if u place yourself in a situation where you try to help a negative person you may intern harm yourself watch out for that. protect your energy and your mental health!
"Never accept another person's reality as your own". I like this phrase, especially combined with being mindful of my attachment to judgement against a narcissist's need for shifting my reality, rather than focusing on my own journey through what I see as reality. It's in how I react that has been holding me back.
Yes, so maybe you should stop trying to change my reality and quit bothering me and stalking me you know I'm right prove me wrong please stop you're grossly distracting me from an otherwise peaceful life.
I came looking for this because lately, I've been surrounded by a lot of negativity that's been causing me to react in a very angry way. I feel I need to take a step back and really think about where I want my energy to go and signs have been pointing inward. I need to do the inner work and stop reacting to others when I feel attacked, if I feel their energy is off, or if I notice distance. I need to realize that NONE of it is because of me. I need to listen to this on a loop over and over again and change my behavior. It's time now...
Well think about it, if it was right for you to get angry then why should you feel guilty about it. Sometimes a clear message needs to be sent so they realize the extent of their actions.
Appreciate the fact we all come from a different experience in life BUT we basically all have the same need.. the need to love and to be loved to be acknowledged to be seen
not reacting has helped me to have peace of mind and to think carefully on what to do and think, i normally do not get hurt anymore when i am triggered. i have learned that no giving in is power despite of what people may say against me, i believe i am a very powerful person with powerful characters.
I am on a 21 days mental clean up of , weeding out my reactivity. Practicing QuiGong every morning aligning my mind, body so that I can manage to see through the clouds that hold me back. I am addictive, codependent to reactivity and fear; so working on my cleaning process and this video comes as a light and support to this process. THANK YOU!!!
@@ashleynm2296 Ashley is the best gift I have given to myself , looking inward is the greatest investment we can do. Is never late or too old to change , to improve yourself. I am surprised how when you are able to see yourself you can be ahead of your emotions and manage any potential reactiveness. Is a blessing, if anyone wants to do the fasting take 40 days exactly and either pray for the awakening as I did through the psalms or meditate. I did both, is a life time exercise to transform ourselves . Love 💝🙏👏
@@ashleynm2296 one more thing, my “enemies” do not defeat me anymore by steering my emotions. They are shocked am battling them with no reaction; you become more intelligent I must say without any pretension but I see that I am more creative 🤷🏻♀️
This video literally broke the “Negative Spell” that was controlling my internal dialogue and thought processes. I’ve been playing this on repeat all day, and will continue to listen to this everyday to reprogram my mind pattern! ☺️😊🙂😇
Listening for a third time. I need to listen to this everyday. Incredibly powerful stuff in here. “When you control your mind, you control your reality.” Basically every line is amazing
Amazing ! I react in different circumstances because I can’t control my anger not realising I get the same cycle back as I’m creating it by reacting , now I’m just cool calm and collected and don’t rise to the bait and get back all positivity in return♥️
"By taking time for ourselves, we allow divine intelligence to work on a subconscious level in ourselves and in others, so that we may be shown what to do next". This said it all..
You learn a lot about people when you don’t react. All the pettiness and how they view you. In the end, you come to realize that they don’t really know you and their attacks are just the lens from how they see the world from their own past experiences. It’s not the same lens you are looking out at them from. For the person that was cheated on, everyone is a potential cheater. For the person who was robbed, everyone is a potential thief. Reacting doesn’t solve anything. Waiting and discussing in a calm matter might help, but if a relationship is destroyed, ask God to give the person peace and love and remove yourself from further harm.
My Goodness that’s unbelievable! I’ve been dealing with a tough situation the past couple of days, I would have reacted negatively soon or later and regret it right the way, then I came across this POWERFUL MESSAGE! that’s what I needed to hear 👂🏽 to diffuse the situation by not reacting. I thank God and I thank you sir for this superb work 👍🏾🙏🏾😊
I have outbursts occasionally and I always try to control it but sometimes it doesn't just work. But I've been praying to God to help me with my emotions so that I can be able to relate well with my siblings, parents and others.
I learned that it takes practice and.when i lose my power and get upset and I just tell myself that I'll do better next time. When I manage to control myself and realize that people show you who they are and you have to show them who you are.....strong, calm confident, unafected
You can practice the silence.. try to be silent for 30 minutes in the morning and 30 minutes at night.. eventually you will manage to enter in that state at any time you need it or want it. 💖
Try to identify your emotions when they come, I promise you one thing, all emotions pass♡ its ok to feel, its what we do, when I'm mad, i will announce "I'm F'ING MAAAAAD, LET ME BE MAAAAAD. SO IM NOT GUNNA MAKE SENSE TO ANYONE THAT GETS IN MY WAY RT NOW" if others choose to engage with an angry person that's on them, I think if we warn others of where we are at, and they choose to engage and it blows up, we can at least allow ourselves the forgiveness that we did make an attempt to have some accountability, by being open about our emotional status, that is in its own way keeping our side of the road clean, we are never wrong about how we feel..
@@PH7018c this is brilliant! Thanks Sunshine, I screen shot this advice, to write it out and put it next to my bed to implement this habit, I hope you don't mind. Again thank you, this is a new one I've never heard of this one. ♡
I'm trying my best to STOP reacting negatively to stressful situations or difficult people. "I am in Control of my thoughts, behaviors, and actions!" I am learning how to respond in a more respectful, assertive, and positive way! 😀
Some great advice on here and positivity, I myself have found by not reacting you grow ,feel happier, feel more mature, and realise that silence is so powerful, so never react and walk away with peace let them live with the hurtful words just set yourself free .❤
So true I was told that many yrs ago never speak to anyone in a negative way cause the damage can cause pain through out life this is good to listen to.
I suffer with BPD and this is something I’ve never been able to do.... finally someone explained this in a way that is validating as well as clear. Sometimes my emotions are so severe that I can’t even use my calm voice
Dear Lee, so many of us "fit the profile" of BPD at times in our lives, but what I've come to believe is that BPD is just unresolved trauma habits from our childhood. I used to not be able to control my emotions/reactions either, but when I realized THAT WAS NORMAL given my life experiences, it soothed me so, so much. And since that realization, the tangle of old habits has come undone to a large degree, and I'm much less reactive. HOWEVER--I am still healing and still have so much practice to do in my new habits. I've recently realized one of my residual trauma-habits is thinking, when I don't get a response from someone, that they hate me. It's completely unhelpful and useless to think that, and it's definitely a reactive thought habit that I need to continue working on. Anyway, just wanted to share my experience with you. I abhorr the stigma around BPD because it's not fair to those of us who have struggled so much due to psychological trauma during our youth. Also, I do believe BPD can be overcome. And I think the label of BPD is often just a cop-out for a biased/lazy/uninformed psychiatrist!!
My mom had BPD. She said it gets easier with age and I assume experience. Even though she couldn’t control her emotions at times, she was the most amazing compassionate person because she understood pain. I wish you the best and I hope you surround yourself with people who can understand who you truly are.
At 52 i have sadly lived my reactions unconciously causing much pain, this is an amazing video & i am so grateful "better late than never" as hard as it is to change a lifetime of limiting beliefs & behaviours due to obvious childhood damage imbeded, i am determined to implement what i now know to heal & listen to this beautiful video everyday, especially within this troubled world we face right now, Thankyou so much again, this needs to be posted to the world right now!! ❤🙏
I agree with all you say.....it’s taken me till 60 to undo the damage that I have embedded in me from childhood & to try to make myself a kinder more loving person to live with, ALL of the time!.......like so many comments I have just read: this video will become my daily meditation. Life is too short to hold onto the hurts and anger that I am still processing when meeting challenging people that I have no choice but to try to get along with (relatives). I’m not a religious person, but I love the meditation at the end. Anything that can help to diffuse my reaction when I am taunted by bullies in my family and to try to see that there is a kinder, more positive way through a disagreement than to destroy all the love and positivity that I have built over the years, by exploding.....Please ‘let there be light’ at the end of a very difficult tunnel!
In these uncertain times.. I have had many "Reactions" to my posts when I was just trying to spread some positive vibes..Some were argumentative, insulting etc.. This video put it all in perspective.. I shared it on my page and I hope it helps to heal the world.. ALL of us need more love and less reaction...Even just the music and voice.. is very soothing and healing.. I can truly feel the energy flowing through me...All these other videos.. just dont compare..
I am so thankful for this video. I listen to this message almost everyday. Some days twice. This is one of my weak areas I will conquer and get control of.
I can attest, that 9 times out of 10, any big time reactions to things (hyped up arguing and outbursts), never worked out in my favor......so that is why for the last twenty years I do the best I can to regain composure and rethink things before confronting etc. its not easy. but at the same time you have to weed out what your programming is (and who you modeled it from) to get the insights you need.
Life with a malignant narcissistic man , nearly killed my ability to respond. in recovery from this negative abuse I now see the gift in all experience s. I am the victor of my life as I respond and move toward the light.
I suggest listening to Vernon Howard or Dr. Joe Dispenza “There is an energy that can continue to operate in eternity as long as we make a firm connection with it now here in the human body” - Think on that 😉
I don't think this person who's spewing poor began to watch it to be like It's using false labels and perhaps the truth comes out and you should have your last word and leave that person. No reason into Brian washing herself and staying in an unhealthy situation
I've been listening to this for over 6 months straight. It's part of my daily routine. I was in a bad relationship where it became toxic and I started reacting. This changed my life. I'm so calm now. And if I feel myself being triggered. I follow these instructions
was a super reactive person, until I started practicing meditation and with prayer and the daily practice of mindfulness I began to notice changes, I no longer reacted or took anything personal.
Ps I followed your meditation from a Christian perspective and ask that the light of God is within me, above me, beside me etc “Where there is light, darkness must flee”
Dr. Levry, without knowing my future, I came upon this video and listened to the material about 10 times in the past months. You literally saved my life. In my darkest hour, you saved me. I am truly in great gratitude for your existence. Thank you.
When my father passed away, I was the only sibling that was on speaking terms with him. I also did not speak with most of my relatives because of trouble with them through the years. When he died, I was left his property and his money. My relatives came at me with all kinds of disgusting phone calls and harassed through text messages. All the while, I decided to just ignore them and do what needed done through court. I went against the urge to get down right evil because it wasn't really needed...As it turned out, the harassment stopped when they saw it had no effect...I got through it by not giving them the satisfaction or ability to control my decision making.....Sometimes, silence is the better path.....I knew their words were used by them to hurt me....I didn't take the bait...I maintained control by not responding....
@Jules playing it smart, huh? You are a cynical demented fool! You have no idea what the situation was! By your ignorant statements, I can tell what type of nutty relative you would be in this type of situation? What happened, did mom or daddy leave you out of their will? If so, did you ever stop to think that maybe you were the problem? No! That can't be! You come across as a self serving and entitled idiot! I never tried to come across as an amazing person. I was simply stating how I got through a sad situation and had mentally ill relatives making it worse...If my father's wish were to split his estate " equally", he would have done that in his will...You have no idea what you are talking about!
Now this was perfect. We are in control of our on emotions. Don't play with the devil, and he'll get the point. My peace is important to me so pray for others, and don't feed into others negativity. ♥️♥️♥️ Enjoyed this video I really did. LOVE And Faith makes things work. ♥️👼
This video was so moving. It begs you to ask yourself the question, how am I living my life? Do we spend our precious time on earth reacting and getting upset? It made me realize that when one does not react to every person and event in our lives, that we can actually connect with a higher state of consciousness and have the ability to see our reality on a much deeper level. What a blessing!
Allowing situations in life can make or break you but try not to react and keeping your eyes on Jesus through it all ...no matter how difficult - God’s Will prevails❣️
Dr. Levry has changed my life in so many beautiful ways. I feel so blessed that God has given us such an amazing Spiritual Master who has inspired millions of people through his divine teachings and healing music. This powerful message about not reacting and controlling our emotions really resonated with in so many levels. I was reminded how important it is to be kind and smile through our challenges so we can change our reality as well as others. Thank you so much Dr Levry for your Divine Guidance and Inspriational Words of Wisdom!!!
When my life abruptly changed it was because I reacted instead of thinking logically about all of my options. Most importantly I didn't think about my future😕
Mistakes are not definite. They're lessons on what you need to within yourself to respond better next. They grow for the better. I can relate to how you're feeling. Once you find out what the lesson is, you improve. That's also the best lesson I learned from art. You send your work for criticism so that you can improve. Then you keep records of your mistakes, to show you how much you have improved. 🤩
THE FIRST MINUTE AND A HALF OF THIS MESSAGE LITERALLY MADE A CHANGE IN HOW MY MIND WILL WORK FROM TODAY ON! I NOT ONLY NEEDED TO HEAR THIS DESPERATELY BUT THIS IS LIFE CHANGING!
I also learned this through working in the mental health field and dealing with unintentional harmful behavior by people with true deep and dark mental health issues, disease, etc. Working with these people in everyday life, has made me a more patient and caring person and a better person myself! !Thank You again,!
Great meditation guidance! I am repeating to myself "Let there be light within me" "Let the light surround me" Practice, practice, practice to prepare myself for challenging situations so that I may respond with grace and compassion vs react with fear and anger. Namaste 🙏💗
This video is the way to unconditional love. the most significant and deep concept now made absorbable by any and all. I am so deeply touched and moved by Dr. Levry and his gift of unconditional love to the universe in all ways always. Thank you thank you thank you 🙏
Oh my god this was truly amazing! I have a huge issue with reacting in anger bc that’s all I grew up around and I absolutely hate it! Trying to break the generational curse and this video really helped me thank you so much!! Blessed be 🙏❤️
It’s not easy to stop reacting when others put distress into your body with their untreated mental illness, especially if nobody knows how to set healthy boundaries.
Powerful man..The problem is that some peoples idea of "a better person" gets distorted by the harsh realities this world brings. So instead of self improvement it becomes self destruction.
I’m trying to become a better person. My friend often states I overreact, and I have justified it by saying that he has stated incorrect information. But I’m tired of fighting this way. I want to become better, regardless of who it affects in the end. And I hope this video will help.
The best way to deal with negative people when you can't ignore them is, only answer questions, have no comment, don't bother talking to them when you are in a good mood it will only put you in a bad mood, this is good advice in this video.
There is no law against provacation, so people use provacation as a tool, if you do not react, you collect good karma as the Universe and sometimes even Heaven or God will feel sorry for you and then bless your life, (this my advice), I will be watching this video as guidance as I now realise I am not alone from being provoked by those who are in envy of who I am and my life.
"We must appeal to the higher angel of our nature". Wow. Those words were heartfelt. Hard to describe how I totally understood the importance of this. Thank you for this video.
What a profound message of pure light! So grateful! I think i need to continue to play it on repeat- and of course put it to practice - feeling deeply grateful and empowered by the clarity and joy of this call to action !
I'm going to be daring and say this: I think reacting is an essential part of responding. I say this because for most of my life I didn't know how to trust my feelings. I had been undermined and confused by my two mothers and my father so I wouldn't challenge them. My reactive habits were completely out of whack for a long time. I couldn't figure out what was right, what was wrong, how I was supposed to feel, etc. When I broke away from my family a few years ago, and starting seriously reflecting on my life, I came to see how my reactivity had been manipulated. If you don't allow a child to feel confident in her feelings, she will not know how to react healthily to things. I had to accept the ugliness of my reactive tendencies in order to grow emotionally. I have had to learn how to feel and know and trust my reactions, while not giving into them. Personally, I think reacting is a crucial part of responding. If you can't react to something, how can you move forward? Please know that I am NOT saying "react out loud," I mean, react internally. Trust your inner voice. Also, avoid large shots of tequila on an empty stomach. :)
reacting is not an issue,how you choose to reACT MATTERS,and its not wrong to react you have all the rights to do so,but its in our power to choose how to do so, choose your peacee over anything else, learn about God how he made you and let him guide you how to live,, its a journey though, but its a culture worth adopting to
I can relate with you dear.. me too was not given the privilege to have a healthy environment in my childhood up to my growing up years. I have been deprived of expressing what's inside me..on how I feel. Therefore, reacting is somewhat confusing to me. But mostly, when I encounter similar treatment at present with people I am with, it triggers my past hurts, it hurts me as the old wound was touched again. I pray that God ,our Creator will heal them all in His Perfect Time. I just fix my eyes on our Wounded Healer-Jesus Christ. Though, its not that easy really. But this pain taught me to rely on the One who created my beautiful heart.
I think it is dangerous to add the caviate " unless it makes you a better human being." This is how cults get people entrained to their narcissistic policies. Just keep it clean: DO NOT STEP INTO ANOTHER'S FRAME FOR YOUR LIFE. DO NOT IDENTIFY YOURSELF BY BEING ENTRAINED ONTO ANOTHER PERSON'S FRAME. DO NOT GIVE AWAY YOUR OWN POWER TO SELF IDENTIFY ACCORDING TO YOUR OWN FRAME FOR ANY REASON. Also, make sure that you are not giving away your aelf attunement. So many children became empathic due to being forced to attune themselves into pleasing a narcissist for survival. Now, since they( we) are used to doing that we are already people pleasing and need to learn and practice staying separate from people that use emotionally manipulative tactics to get us entranced to pleasing them and making us believe that their needs are more important than us taking care of ourselves first. Watch these 3 important shows on Netflix now to see how narcissists lied in order to take everything away from their followers/believers. So many people have been enculturated with lies to give everything away to those who believe that they are entitled to take take take everything down to the last drop of life energy away from anyone they can ensnare into their draining web of lies. Don't let anything be a reason to give your life away to another person. OWN your life, your work, your money, your time, your resource, your attention and your energy. Even of it means that you will not become a better person. And not save the planet. Don't let your believing that you are supposed to be a "good" person cause you to allow yourself to be abused ( used wrongly) for the sake of a liar who would take everything from you with no guilt about it at all. The 3 important shows to watch: 1. Leah Remini Scientology and the Aftermath. 2. Be Sweet, Pray and Obey. 3. John of God the crimes of a spiritual healer. In cults, the crimes of abuse could not have been done without followers/believers. Many of these cults teach how to not react, then abuse and control people into not reacting healthfully and honestly about the abuse because the followers have been entrained to trust the leader/narcissist more than they trust their own inner voice or eyes. They can no longer see the lies because their minds are trained to see the belief/lie over their own inner knowing or what their eyes are seeing.
Same here.. ! I see myself. I can relate to all the mistakes I made. I wish i had learned this before I destroyed my life . This is something I wish i knew... I reacted in low vibration and has caused low vibrations in my life.
I'm here at this point in my life; correcting my path (to my specifications), and, yes, clearing Blood Karma. Yes, releasing the Akashik Records. Thank you, Mom, for sharing this information so I could take a more proper path. I am using the information at 57. I know that you did the best that you could. And, all is in Divine Order. I am grateful for every grain of salt and sand.
Best way to start the day ever, thank you, thank you, thank you, Dr. Levry! Now I can take this wisdom with me wherever I go. Wait. Don't react. Repeat. We truly can create our reality, I'm playing on repeat, my morning walk, driving, before I go to sleep. The power of the word has real power, I so love the meditation at the end, it's a life saver!
The most practical video I have watched in a long time. This answered a question I’ve had my entire life. I never knew how to take overly critical people and what to do with their criticism. This will change my life...! Thank you!
Totally agree with what you say about overly critical people. Also remember as I try to now, when people criticise you, they reveal more about themselves in their criticism and what they say, than they do of you as a person. It’s called ‘shadow projection’. When remembered, ‘shadow projection’ removes the hurt in the criticism towards you. It’s the other person’s failing in themselves that they are talking about.
The issue many of us face is that others have intentionally damaged us (engineered us) to the point of post traumatic stress disorder, and then they try to trigger us to get the reaction they need to paint us the way they need us to be perceived
@@klanderkal I’m sorry to hear that. If you haven’t already, I suggest you look into complex post traumatic stress disorder or CPTSD to see if that is something that seems to fit your situation.
@solvated_photon I have.. thanks. I was going through multiple stressful events at the same time... it was horrible. I couldn't handle,.. the insomnia and the anxiety, stress , confusion and worry made me unable to think right, and without positive thoughts, I reacted negatively to everything. I ended up throwing in the towel at my job... later, I realized what a stupid decision that was, I couldn't believe what my brain was thinking .. It totally devastated me. My job was everything to me. I loved it and had plans to be a superintendent soon,.. I had 20yrs, driving the city bus. Hundreds of friends and coworkers. I couldn't return, because of the policy,.. I lost all my seniority. I feel into horrible depression. I feel so guilty and regretful. I had no reason to quit, I was just under too much stress from deaths in the family, and my young adult children were both in terrible situations.... and more things also. My mind is in shock that I do have my job anymore. .y whole life, revolved around my work schedule... it was perfect. I did all my training, workouts, swimming, working on the car.. before work.. then, I really enjoyed my job, so that was fun also... I ruined my life. I can't accept what I did. ... depression is so inhumane to have. I can't function normally anymore... I just stay in isolation, unable to do anything... psychologist said I had ptsd... that the life altering event, put my system into shock,.. and I not able to accept it. Thanks for caring
This video made me cry.. describes the way I'm striving to be but I dont know how to get there! I cant go a few days without going off on somebody. Some weeks are better than others. But I wanna be better overnight and it's not gonna happen that way.
I totally understand and feel your pain.. keep hanging in there because the devil wants to see you quit and I today after having another episode with my fiance last night felt like quitting on myself today and letting her go because I can be toxic if I react sometimes and that's not who I am but I'm suffering for my own impulsive behavior and it's not fear to her at all
You already see what is going on the realization is i n you that mean you getting where you want to be slowly but surely You are all right don't worry You will be fine Always seek the truth and grow personally Lots of love and blessings for you
I tend to get so frustrated or stressed. I just feel like things upset me that shouldn’t. I need to remain more calm and not get so angry or upset over dumb stuff...😫
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Jasmin, I had a brother we used to taunt (when we were kids) just to see how angry we could make him. One day my mother told him the story of the BERSERKER. The berserker was a fictional story about a man the townspeople put in a cage in the middle of town square. The townspeople would taunt him mercilessly until he went berserk and this was their sick form of entertainment. After my mother told my brother that story, he changed. We could no longer get a rise out of him, so we stopped trying.
I feel sometime not get upset little things want to grow more spirituality this video helps me to not get anger because of their narrow minds it's not god who watching us want to learn to be like jesus
I know someone like that and it's because she had been abused all her life from everyone. It left her in such a bad state that she is literally rotting from the inside. From her health to her spiritual state. She has only but a short time to live and she is my wife of 9 yrs.
Be tolerant and act with Grace and it will help others. You don’t have to point their flaws but how you show up and show them love and help heal them During challenges/trails- show what you learn during the challenges/trails. True love removes suffering Remember love makes everything easy. Faith makes everything possible
'Do not identify with another person's opinion unless it makes you a better person' I'm going to keep this one close to my heart. thank you.
Such a fantastic thing to remember. I'm going to keep this one too! It may just have saved me from more anxiety.
I really like this one. Cuz I'm too sensitive about stuff and when someone constantly puts me down, it hurts like hell and then I start being a recluse.
Ur so right now on that one. I find myself wishing that one a lot so I'm gonna be extra careful from now on. Thanx for the advice.
@@tomsheils1096 there’s a TeDxTalk about ‘Don’t take it personal.’ It is good. We need to learn to DETACH ourselves from others comments. Also there’s a great person here on TH-cam, young, but with wisdom beyond her life years, who is amazing at teaching us to think about our expectations from others, etc. (Edit: BK Shivani is her name and TH-cam channel) It is great as a foundation to detach ourselves from others. Only by making a conscious decision for ourselves, we can do this. Though we go into our ‘default’ system, just like a computer, we must make sure we stay with the ‘UPDATES’ on a regular basis.
This is critical in so many ways.
I learned to walk away when I have nothing calm to say. I no longer argue😉pray pray and pray🤷🏻♀️
Will copy u
Will copy you too
Me too. Especially in environments where it is needed
As time passes by it gets easier and easier and really sends a clear message. I realized if people can not understand by you talking, let alone arguing😉
I'm learning to do that now and it's not always easy. Oh how I admire you!!❤
When u control ur mind u control ur reality. That's definitely true there.
Bullshit, who u are is ONLY... what everyone around u wants you to be. ALL YOU ARE IS THE PERSON THAT THEY THINK YOU ARE . THATS REALITY UNFORTUNATELY. I doesn't matter if I have become a different person, the people around u will only see what they want to see, no matter how high you scream to the rafters in your own defense!! I've lost most respect for life and humanity because of it, SADLY
@@ninalarson9453 God! U on the rag or something? Ur a bitch!
@@ninalarson9453 at least in your life and through your perception you can have a changed life ❤
I also struggle an ongoing struggle of family who identifies me as the angry person I used to be, even though I haven't been that person for decades. It's sad, but it taught me a great deal.
Don't allow anyone to pull you into their negative storm
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I grew up with a toxic mother that used to scream and yell all day long. She was explosive and reacted negatively to a lot of things. I’m trying to correct myself when I slip into her ways. This is a huge struggle for me.
Same here. The struggle is real because for a very long time thats all we knew. Is to be reactive and angry and negative. Im trying everyday and i fail all the time but thats ok cox over time, il get there. And you will too!!! Cheering for u Nicole!!
@@yamjam0101 I'm right there with you.
same. i’ve been doing so good. she called me last night to yell at me for inviting her out to see chrismas decorations.
Oh poor you. That's sad. Parents should be good examples to their children. Someone you look up too. Xx
You are fighting the good fight.
"Use your words to heal,bless and uplift everyone,do not use your words to divide and destroy others, what you say can never be erased"❤
That was so awesome I'm going to listen to this every day I pray. Airhugs of positive energy to you and yours and the world.
Thanks for the wisdom
I understand and repent when I react harshly. But am sad when family “make up lies” w intention to harm/disrespect one. I finally walked away. Pray for them daily... but nothing to apologize for..
Great comment 👍
What you do can cause plenty of hurt forever.
Act - do not react! Reacting is allowing someone else to control you. As simple as that.
@Margo Ledbetter Not even than Any response is feeding the perpetrator. Complete stand still-no reaction- silence - another cases. No reaction -no response either. That is a science of not retaliating. Not engaging in the other's game of control.It is harder than we think
I cannot say enough how this message has helped me dissolve my reactivity. When I feel myself wanting to lash out, I listen to this message and I return to myself. Thank you.
You can react with kindness.More than no react.
@@bomminification Wow. Yes.
This could save your life.
When you control your mind, you control your Reality. 😀😀😀 Every time you don't react, you gain will power over your life. 💪🏿
Love this one ❤
You can not control your mind, anything you do , it spoils, just be a watcher of your thoughts and emotions.!!
So good
Thanks for this one
How am I supposed to do what the video said to when I wouldn’t be allowed enough time to do any of it…? How am I supposed to do this when I have to heavily filter around them so my words don’t make them butt hurt…?
I love being calm and relaxed whenever am in trouble. Because it does make me feel mature and responsible. Training one's mind to see good in every situation in life is paramount.
Thank you so much for that
This is the apathetic attitude that is a plague right now I bet you wouldn't help someone in need and I bet you wouldn't even be able to see if someone was truly in need.
Me too
How about when you witness violence, vandalism or theft?
It's easier said than done but NOT when you have a NARCISSIST in your life. It takes a long time to heal from such abuse.
♥️ “Every time you resist the urge to react, you are gaining more light, and your will power strengthens”
This is exactly what I was searching for. I prayed prior & felt directed to this wise wisdom. I did have to listen to it several times due to his strong accent. I do want to share with two others but fear they will have difficulty understanding his English.
"Love makes everything easy,
Faith makes everything possible,
Hope makes everything work."
Love that!
Brilliant
These thoughts are nice but really doesn't happen in reality....
OMG Linda You just hit the ball out the ballpark with those comments TRUE DA 4SURE!!! LOVED IT😊😊
While I appreciate all the likes and accolades I need to give credit because this is a quote directly from this brilliant video and I just preserved it because I thought it was so memorable but if you copy it and paste it on your Facebook pages or whatever please credit the author of the video!
I wish I'd said it by the way! LOL
LET'S KEEP BEING POSITIVE AND THINKING POSITIVE EVERYONE! ❤️
Patient people are more likely to experience enduring happiness than impatient people.
I can't emphasize how absolutely important it is to take time for yourself . I dont mean just to rest and chill with a TV on. I mean seriously silent time. no interruptions at all. On a daily basis . It works wonders
Amen
You are exactly right if that means staring at a wall or just looking off into who-knows-what space or the air that silence is everything
True
meditation is the best.
Yes before going to bed spend 15 mins alone. Think what good we did today and what went wrong. Assess ourselves.
“You are no longer the victim of circumstances. Instead, you become the creator of circumstances”
My goodness I love this..I'm never ever going to be a victim of circumstances I'm not reactive I am a creator of the circumstances I wish to experience
Exactly!
“Think of your circumstances as a test of your spiritual character…. “
That was so powerful and resonated with me 🔥
Yeah I have blew it quite a few times react bad and then say things I should never say
This resonated with me too, 😊
And me .❤
Me too ❤
"If you can’t control yourself, you cannot control your reality" wisest quotes I got this year. Thanks you and respect. 🙏🏻👍🏻
"Remember, love makes everything easy, faith makes everything possible and hope makes everything happen!"
Light is the principle of perfection
love that a lot....only hope got me out of a bad marriage of 35 years
love is never always good as soon as dead depression comes
And the greatest is love
Those are nice platitudes, but unfortunately none are actually true. So much better to face reality, than desperately holding on to false promises. Face reality head on, make a plan, & move on to the next level.
I am going to challenge myself by listening to this every day, for 30 days! - I feel if I commit to this, it will positively change my life.
Absolutely...thats the way to impress our subconscious mind
Did your 30 day challenge help you????
I've been listening to this almost everyday for 5months, and everytime it's a blessing, a beautiful reminder and I always walk away with a different message, I feel more present, I will continue to listen to this everyday to be a better human being. 💖
I like this idea
30 days?
“As a man thinketh in his heart so is he!” “Out of the mouth, the abundance of the heart speaks!”🥰🙏🏽💯
There are many sins and temptations. Try to have grace and forgiveness for people who sometimes struggle with evil thoughts in their mind and/or heart. There are times I struggle with sinful thoughts and I must pray for help and strength to overcome them and not act on them.🙏
@@manuelcarrillo7607 Amen 💖💝🙏🏽❤️🩹💯
If thad is true my son is really sick ! 4:18
That's exactly what I'm doing. Working on my own personal self and building a bigger and stronger relationship with Our Creator of the Whole Universe. I'm not concerned about what everyone else is doing. I'm focusing on making myself a better person and having a closer relationship with Our Creator of the Whole Universe.
great but the universe was not created it is eternal be concerned with everyone as we are all together be able to go out and get.
Love this: “Our perception of life creates our reality. By choosing to direct our thoughts, our feelings, our words, our actions and our attitude consciously and positively, we can transform and improve everything around us.”
That's the Secret! You found it!
I so wish that was true, it's just mostly garbage you decide to buy into, meanwhile none of the UGLY HATEFULNESS around you seems to get any better
@Sunflowerlovely P narcissist projection...ugh it's ruined me. Trying now to escape that now that I too have realized his projection of how he views me was directing me to ruin. Seek God is right. Jesus Jesus Jesus
@@ninalarson9453 so what is the way foward ? Die of depression? Surely,we need to change our mind set
@@ninalarson9453 The ugliness around you will not end but how we perceive and react.I will learn to be non reactive
I wish I had this teaching 50 yrs ago.😭I have ruined relationships that I cared about that would have tripled my joy in life. I have been left with misery. I listened to false voices and feelings in my head and heart.😭It's SO HARD living with these regrets. I still cry over the losses, unforgiveness, anger, misunderstandings, and missed opportunities. The unforgiveness, anger, resentment, and the false reality of a situations that lead me down a dark path of repeated reactions for decades and left misery behind! I carried the anger of my childhood into my adulthood. I didn't realize this until I brought God deeper into my life. I failed to listen too many times. He's the great teacher and comforter in time of regrets. Rely on God's strength and never your own. Self control is not just what comes out of your mouth but, what goes into your mouth, ears, and eyes.🙊🙉🙈 Put on the armor of God's love and be fully protected. You will make mistakes, but fewer and fewer. Accept the peace and forgiveness God offers you. Repentance and forgiveness are a moments prayer away.💗💔💗
I know what you mean.
Amen.
Let go of regrets,use the clean canvas to start over and create something beautiful from all you’ve learned
I also feeling regret with what I had done to a man I love because of my overactive, everything was destroy by me. Just got to hear this lesson after broken up 1 week. This is a big lesson that I most remember it always and apply it in my life.
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This should be thought in schools. Life changing
I know right?! I believe that mindfulness could be implemented as a core subject similar to phys-ed right from grade one! It's a Toxic Culture , we are not shown life skills really until we find ourselves so deep in our demons , its either do or die. The individuals behaviors are result of generational trauma. They don't know any thing else...
I agree
Taught at home**
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This just healed me from a potential spiral down after my awakening..thank you so much
One thing you said ..DO NOT ACCEPT ANOTHER PERSONS REALITY AS YOUR OWN..that just helped me anchor on being positive and concious thank you this was pure gold
I find myself reacting to things as they happen. I don’t even wait for the person to finish speaking or situation to play out. Once I think something is happening that I don’t want to deal with… I’m lashing out. My reactions are ruining my relationships and pushing people away.
With you on that, I pray God heals our hearts and gives us more of His compassion, patience, and love.
I pray that you master being slow to react
Well you can always learn from. Mistakes. At least are accepting where you are going wrong. Just pause and think then reply. It's not hard at all.
Now that you're aware of it, just try to remain conscious of it at all time. Practice silence/non-reaction with every interaction and it will become your natural response. If you are interacting with people who consistently abuse you when you are doing your best to get along, it is probably best to minimize/cease contact as some people are just not going to stop. In time maybe you can deal even with them without being affected, but it's not something I am able to do yet.
Peace and love to you.
@@wordup897 Thank you for your wise words. You got this.
With some people, meaning negative people, when you don’t react it makes them angry.
I call it being indifferent. they hate it. but I do use mirroring at times. I will hold a mirror/light back at them, they will think on their own actions, you are helping anyone who really sees their own reflection. its out of love in that I do this because some people MANY you can love them you can do everything and anything for them to empower them but they will shit on you. this is fact so in a way what he is saying is true but one must know its pointless. I will say my truth and then move on. how is someone going to learn if you just go away without knowing why?
@@TereseJames3 Very True... For neg people, if you just walk away without helping them to see the truth, how would they learn to treat people kindly...?
But we have to say anything with calm and kind mind as this dr. says...
its not our responsibility to enlighten a negative person you are and can only be responsible for yourself your own healing and enlightenment. pray for them and hope that your example teaches them something. because if u place yourself in a situation where you try to help a negative person you may intern harm yourself watch out for that. protect your energy and your mental health!
Hehe vert true
Or happy considering you weak
As Eckhart Tolle says “Do nothing & see what happens “
Yes, the power of letting go!! The energy you give off once you've let go of something actually attractive to the people and things around you
It’s not about not reacting, it’s about reacting properly Sometimes we need to react, such as ridding ourselves of the darkness in our lives..
Respond, not react. There is a difference.
@@deenasayed2333 whatttt
Deena Sayed
Whenever I've reacted, I went from 0-100!
When I respond, I'm calm, clear and straight to the point!
If someone talks shit let them talk shit, when you comeback at them your feeding them more shit to give to you.
so agree by all non violent means necessary. Mirroring is sometimes a must. showing someone a mirror is a light. it plants seeds
"Never accept another person's reality as your own". I like this phrase, especially combined with being mindful of my attachment to judgement against a narcissist's need for shifting my reality, rather than focusing on my own journey through what I see as reality. It's in how I react that has been holding me back.
Yes, so maybe you should stop trying to change my reality and quit bothering me and stalking me you know I'm right prove me wrong please stop you're grossly distracting me from an otherwise peaceful life.
I came looking for this because lately, I've been surrounded by a lot of negativity that's been causing me to react in a very angry way. I feel I need to take a step back and really think about where I want my energy to go and signs have been pointing inward. I need to do the inner work and stop reacting to others when I feel attacked, if I feel their energy is off, or if I notice distance. I need to realize that NONE of it is because of me. I need to listen to this on a loop over and over again and change my behavior. It's time now...
Well think about it, if it was right for you to get angry then why should you feel guilty about it. Sometimes a clear message needs to be sent so they realize the extent of their actions.
Appreciate the fact we all come from a different experience in life BUT we basically all have the same need.. the need to love and to be loved to be acknowledged to be seen
To be acknowledged!
To be Seen👌🏽
No lie, I say this ALL OF THE TIME, except I add in "The need to be heard" as well.
"When you are more conscious, your character starts to change!"
"If we choose to go through our challenges with a smile on our face, then our challenges will never have a chance to "cling" to us like mud!"
True.Its better to face it . You become stronger than before
Get vaccinated. UNITY go to soul CIRCUS . # Life well CVS Life.
Stay calm....every moment....I WON the battle!! Thank you for sharing....love and peace!!
not reacting has helped me to have peace of mind and to think carefully on what to do and think, i normally do not get hurt anymore when i am triggered. i have learned that no giving in is power despite of what people may say against me, i believe i am a very powerful person with powerful characters.
I am on a 21 days mental clean up of , weeding out my reactivity. Practicing QuiGong every morning aligning my mind, body so that I can manage to see through the clouds that hold me back. I am addictive, codependent to reactivity and fear; so working on my cleaning process and this video comes as a light and support to this process. THANK YOU!!!
Hope it helps me too
This was great! How's it going?
@@ashleynm2296 Ashley is the best gift I have given to myself , looking inward is the greatest investment we can do. Is never late or too old to change , to improve yourself. I am surprised how when you are able to see yourself you can be ahead of your emotions and manage any potential reactiveness. Is a blessing, if anyone wants to do the fasting take 40 days exactly and either pray for the awakening as I did through the psalms or meditate. I did both, is a life time exercise to transform ourselves . Love 💝🙏👏
@@ashleynm2296 one more thing, my “enemies” do not defeat me anymore by steering my emotions. They are shocked am battling them with no reaction; you become more intelligent I must say without any pretension but I see that I am more creative 🤷🏻♀️
God bless everyone! We are positive humans!
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This video literally broke the “Negative Spell” that was controlling my internal dialogue and thought processes. I’ve been playing this on repeat all day, and will continue to listen to this everyday to reprogram my mind pattern! ☺️😊🙂😇
Hmmm negative spell is the right word.
That’s exactly what I’m doing. Each word he speaks is perfect. His message is uplifting and powerful. We all know he speaks the truth.
I see that you posted this a year ago. How are you doing now?
I Endorse This Understanding.
Listening for a third time. I need to listen to this everyday. Incredibly powerful stuff in here. “When you control your mind, you control your reality.” Basically every line is amazing
To bad the narrator chooses not to subscribe to his own philosophy.
Amazing ! I react in different circumstances because I can’t control my anger not realising I get the same cycle back as I’m creating it by reacting , now I’m just cool calm and collected and don’t rise to the bait and get back all positivity in return♥️
"By taking time for ourselves, we allow divine intelligence to work on a subconscious level in ourselves and in others, so that we may be shown what to do next". This said it all..
Remember: Not reacting doesn’t necessarily mean you’re playing victim!☺️🔥
Edit: Don’t react, instead respond. Very powerful!
True, you are not giving power to those who insult you
You learn a lot about people when you don’t react. All the pettiness and how they view you. In the end, you come to realize that they don’t really know you and their attacks are just the lens from how they see the world from their own past experiences. It’s not the same lens you are looking out at them from. For the person that was cheated on, everyone is a potential cheater. For the person who was robbed, everyone is a potential thief.
Reacting doesn’t solve anything. Waiting and discussing in a calm matter might help, but if a relationship is destroyed, ask God to give the person peace and love and remove yourself from further harm.
I sense that in many cases its the opposite of that. Reacting is being a victim of circumstances and conditioning. Responding is powerful.
@@jolaola1987 Don’t react, instead respond ?
@@Just1Independent1 what really does this mean? Instead Respond ? How?
My Goodness that’s unbelievable! I’ve been dealing with a tough situation the past couple of days, I would have reacted negatively soon or later and regret it right the way, then I came across this POWERFUL MESSAGE! that’s what I needed to hear 👂🏽 to diffuse the situation by not reacting. I thank God and I thank you sir for this superb work 👍🏾🙏🏾😊
Wow I will share a .. heaaaallll yeahhhh! That makes me feel connected to your positive thoughts
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This video changed my life
More I listen more I believe there is good in the world and it's start with ourselves
I haven't heard this for a year and this is such a great grounding tool for not reacting into the anger and pain. ❤
I have outbursts occasionally and I always try to control it but sometimes it doesn't just work. But I've been praying to God to help me with my emotions so that I can be able to relate well with my siblings, parents and others.
I learned that it takes practice and.when i lose my power and get upset and I just tell myself that I'll do better next time. When I manage to control myself and realize that people show you who they are and you have to show them who you are.....strong, calm confident, unafected
With God nothing is impossibe, He can change us to be a good person. Read the Bible and find wisdom!
You can practice the silence.. try to be silent for 30 minutes in the morning and 30 minutes at night.. eventually you will manage to enter in that state at any time you need it or want it.
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Try to identify your emotions when they come, I promise you one thing, all emotions pass♡ its ok to feel, its what we do, when I'm mad, i will announce "I'm F'ING MAAAAAD, LET ME BE MAAAAAD. SO IM NOT GUNNA MAKE SENSE TO ANYONE THAT GETS IN MY WAY RT NOW" if others choose to engage with an angry person that's on them, I think if we warn others of where we are at, and they choose to engage and it blows up, we can at least allow ourselves the forgiveness that we did make an attempt to have some accountability, by being open about our emotional status, that is in its own way keeping our side of the road clean, we are never wrong about how we feel..
@@PH7018c this is brilliant! Thanks Sunshine, I screen shot this advice, to write it out and put it next to my bed to implement this habit, I hope you don't mind. Again thank you, this is a new one I've never heard of this one. ♡
I'm trying my best to STOP reacting negatively to stressful situations or difficult people. "I am in Control of my thoughts, behaviors, and actions!" I am learning how to respond in a more respectful, assertive, and positive way! 😀
"The mind follows the breath."
Some great advice on here and positivity, I myself have found by not reacting you grow ,feel happier, feel more mature, and realise that silence is so powerful, so never react and walk away with peace let them live with the hurtful words just set yourself free .❤
So true I was told that many yrs ago never speak to anyone in a negative way cause the damage can cause pain through out life this is good to listen to.
I suffer with BPD and this is something I’ve never been able to do.... finally someone explained this in a way that is validating as well as clear. Sometimes my emotions are so severe that I can’t even use my calm voice
Understood. I'm glad you're coming to an understanding on how to do it.☺️
same. I'm using DBT to regulate my BPD
Dear Lee, so many of us "fit the profile" of BPD at times in our lives, but what I've come to believe is that BPD is just unresolved trauma habits from our childhood. I used to not be able to control my emotions/reactions either, but when I realized THAT WAS NORMAL given my life experiences, it soothed me so, so much. And since that realization, the tangle of old habits has come undone to a large degree, and I'm much less reactive. HOWEVER--I am still healing and still have so much practice to do in my new habits. I've recently realized one of my residual trauma-habits is thinking, when I don't get a response from someone, that they hate me. It's completely unhelpful and useless to think that, and it's definitely a reactive thought habit that I need to continue working on.
Anyway, just wanted to share my experience with you. I abhorr the stigma around BPD because it's not fair to those of us who have struggled so much due to psychological trauma during our youth. Also, I do believe BPD can be overcome. And I think the label of BPD is often just a cop-out for a biased/lazy/uninformed psychiatrist!!
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My mom had BPD. She said it gets easier with age and I assume experience. Even though she couldn’t control her emotions at times, she was the most amazing compassionate person because she understood pain. I wish you the best and I hope you surround yourself with people who can understand who you truly are.
At 52 i have sadly lived my reactions unconciously causing much pain, this is an amazing video & i am so grateful "better late than never" as hard as it is to change a lifetime of limiting beliefs & behaviours due to obvious childhood damage imbeded, i am determined to implement what i now know to heal & listen to this beautiful video everyday, especially within this troubled world we face right now, Thankyou so much again, this needs to be posted to the world right now!! ❤🙏
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♥️ I hope you find the healing you deserve. I know what it's like battling childhood trauma and trying to heal. God bless!
I agree with all you say.....it’s taken me till 60 to undo the damage that I have embedded in me from childhood & to try to make myself a kinder more loving person to live with, ALL of the time!.......like so many comments I have just read: this video will become my daily meditation. Life is too short to hold onto the hurts and anger that I am still processing when meeting challenging people that I have no choice but to try to get along with (relatives). I’m not a religious person, but I love the meditation at the end. Anything that can help to diffuse my reaction when I am taunted by bullies in my family and to try to see that there is a kinder, more positive way through a disagreement than to destroy all the love and positivity that I have built over the years, by exploding.....Please ‘let there be light’ at the end of a very difficult tunnel!
@@gracedavies1776 Much Love, Peace & Happiness to you Grace 🙏❤
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In these uncertain times.. I have had many "Reactions" to my posts when I was just trying to spread some positive vibes..Some were argumentative, insulting etc.. This video put it all in perspective.. I shared it on my page and I hope it helps to heal the world.. ALL of us need more love and less reaction...Even just the music and voice.. is very soothing and healing.. I can truly feel the energy flowing through me...All these other videos.. just dont compare..
I am so thankful for this video. I listen to this message almost everyday. Some days twice. This is one of my weak areas I will conquer and get control of.
Go ahead. All the best
Actions speak louder than words. Cowards don't speak up. They stay silent which is much more underhanded and dishonest.
I can attest, that 9 times out of 10, any big time reactions to things (hyped up arguing and outbursts), never worked out in my favor......so that is why for the last twenty years I do the best I can to regain composure and rethink things before confronting etc. its not easy. but at the same time you have to weed out what your programming is (and who you modeled it from) to get the insights you need.
Thank you for this. I thought I was the only one. I am really struggling now.. 😭
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Yaaasssss! True there.
Oh wow! It’s not easy but it must be done
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Thank you for your comment!
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To be tolerant is the key to success
I tolerated a cheating husband for 35 years
Life with a malignant narcissistic man , nearly killed my ability to respond. in recovery from this negative abuse I now see the gift in all experience s. I am the victor of my life as I respond and move toward the light.
Feeling so much of myself in this. Thank you. ❤️
I suggest listening to Vernon Howard or Dr. Joe Dispenza
“There is an energy that can continue to operate in eternity as long as we make a firm connection with it now here in the human body” - Think on that 😉
Just came from your recent video where you mention this video, thank you for the recommendation 💞
Now i realize what a non conteolled maniac i ha e been. Anger is such pointless foolishness
I don't think this person who's spewing poor began to watch it to be like
It's using false labels and perhaps the truth comes out and you should have your last word and leave that person.
No reason into Brian washing herself and staying in an unhealthy situation
Thank you..🥰💜
I've been listening to this for over 6 months straight. It's part of my daily routine. I was in a bad relationship where it became toxic and I started reacting. This changed my life. I'm so calm now. And if I feel myself being triggered. I follow these instructions
was a super reactive person, until I started practicing meditation and with prayer and the daily practice of mindfulness I began to notice changes, I no longer reacted or took anything personal.
Ps I followed your meditation from a Christian perspective and ask that the light of God is within me, above me, beside me etc
“Where there is light, darkness must flee”
Dr. Levry, without knowing my future, I came upon this video and listened to the material about 10 times in the past months. You literally saved my life. In my darkest hour, you saved me. I am truly in great gratitude for your existence. Thank you.
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Happy you’re still here Gibbie ❤️ I know you’re so much stronger now!
Same!!
Thank u
love makes everything easy, faih makes everything possible, hope makes everything work...
When my father passed away, I was the only sibling that was on speaking terms with him. I also did not speak with most of my relatives because of trouble with them through the years. When he died, I was left his property and his money. My relatives came at me with all kinds of disgusting phone calls and harassed through text messages. All the while, I decided to just ignore them and do what needed done through court. I went against the urge to get down right evil because it wasn't really needed...As it turned out, the harassment stopped when they saw it had no effect...I got through it by not giving them the satisfaction or ability to control my decision making.....Sometimes, silence is the better path.....I knew their words were used by them to hurt me....I didn't take the bait...I maintained control by not responding....
@Jules playing it smart, huh? You are a cynical demented fool! You have no idea what the situation was! By your ignorant statements, I can tell what type of nutty relative you would be in this type of situation? What happened, did mom or daddy leave you out of their will? If so, did you ever stop to think that maybe you were the problem? No! That can't be! You come across as a self serving and entitled idiot! I never tried to come across as an amazing person. I was simply stating how I got through a sad situation and had mentally ill relatives making it worse...If my father's wish were to split his estate " equally", he would have done that in his will...You have no idea what you are talking about!
Thanks for sharing this
Now this was perfect. We are in control of our on emotions. Don't play with the devil, and he'll get the point. My peace is important to me so pray for others, and don't feed into others negativity. ♥️♥️♥️ Enjoyed this video I really did. LOVE And Faith makes things work. ♥️👼
Amen!!! The devil is a liar.
Amen God bless us and all people of godly heart 🙏❤️
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This might be the best video I have ever seen on TH-cam-thank you!
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I absolutely agree. I just found it and it's already changed my life.
Me too
You might be right!!!
@@DrLevry so difficult in a marriage
This video was so moving. It begs you to ask yourself the question, how am I living my life? Do we spend our precious time on earth reacting and getting upset? It made me realize that when one does not react to every person and event in our lives, that we can actually connect with a higher state of consciousness and have the ability to see our reality on a much deeper level. What a blessing!
Allowing situations in life can make or break you but try not to react and keeping your eyes on Jesus through it all ...no matter how difficult - God’s Will prevails❣️
Ganster saying 19:38 Love makes everything easy. Faith makes everything possible, & Hope makes everything work. DANNNNNNNNNNG GINAAAAA... 💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪
Dr. Levry has changed my life in so many beautiful ways. I feel so blessed that God has given us such an amazing Spiritual Master who has inspired millions of people through his divine teachings and healing music. This powerful message about not reacting and controlling our emotions really resonated with in so many levels. I was reminded how important it is to be kind and smile through our challenges so we can change our reality as well as others. Thank you so much Dr Levry for your Divine Guidance and Inspriational Words of Wisdom!!!
When my life abruptly changed it was because I reacted instead of thinking logically about all of my options.
Most importantly I didn't think about my future😕
Mistakes are not definite. They're lessons on what you need to within yourself to respond better next. They grow for the better. I can relate to how you're feeling. Once you find out what the lesson is, you improve. That's also the best lesson I learned from art. You send your work for criticism so that you can improve. Then you keep records of your mistakes, to show you how much you have improved. 🤩
Ksy B I am in same position.
Most of the people are sad and depressed here of there own life lets hope for love and peace to everyone .
THE FIRST MINUTE AND A HALF OF THIS MESSAGE LITERALLY MADE A CHANGE IN HOW MY MIND WILL WORK FROM TODAY ON! I NOT ONLY NEEDED TO HEAR THIS DESPERATELY BUT THIS IS LIFE CHANGING!
Wow this was EVERYTHING I needed ! I challenge myself to listen to this daily & intake all, to uplift me spiritually & mentally . 🙏🏾
I also learned this through working in the mental health field and dealing with unintentional harmful behavior by people with true deep and dark mental health issues, disease, etc. Working with these people in everyday life, has made me a more patient and caring person and a better person myself! !Thank You again,!
There is no mental illness, only low frequency mortal mind seeming to be in control.
Great meditation guidance!
I am repeating to myself
"Let there be light within me"
"Let the light surround me"
Practice, practice, practice to prepare myself for challenging situations so that I may respond with grace and compassion
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react with fear and anger. Namaste 🙏💗
This video is the way to unconditional love. the most significant and deep concept now made absorbable by any and all. I am so deeply touched and moved by Dr. Levry and his gift of unconditional love to the universe in all ways always. Thank you thank you thank you 🙏
Oh my god this was truly amazing! I have a huge issue with reacting in anger bc that’s all I grew up around and I absolutely hate it! Trying to break the generational curse and this video really helped me thank you so much!! Blessed be 🙏❤️
It’s not easy to stop reacting when others put distress into your body with their untreated mental illness, especially if nobody knows how to set healthy boundaries.
It is because I humbly asked for patience...
For people needs that, not just one, two, three but everyone.
Powerful man..The problem is that some peoples idea of "a better person" gets distorted by the harsh realities this world brings. So instead of self improvement it becomes self destruction.
I’m trying to become a better person. My friend often states I overreact, and I have justified it by saying that he has stated incorrect information. But I’m tired of fighting this way. I want to become better, regardless of who it affects in the end. And I hope this video will help.
It already has❤️
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My emotional development goal for April is to be less reactive and respond with purpose and clarity.
Thank you for posting
The best way to deal with negative people when you can't ignore them is, only answer questions, have no comment, don't bother talking to them when you are in a good mood it will only put you in a bad mood, this is good advice in this video.
There is no law against provacation, so people use provacation as a tool, if you do not react, you collect good karma as the Universe and sometimes even Heaven or God will feel sorry for you and then bless your life, (this my advice), I will be watching this video as guidance as I now realise I am not alone from being provoked by those who are in envy of who I am and my life.
"We must appeal to the higher angel of our nature". Wow. Those words were heartfelt. Hard to describe how I totally understood the importance of this. Thank you for this video.
Yes, it is a Mark Twain quote which has always resonated with me, too. I think it originally goes, 'Find the angels of your better nature'. God bless
What a profound message of pure light! So grateful! I think i need to continue to play it on repeat- and of course put it to practice - feeling deeply grateful and empowered by the clarity and joy of this call to action !
I'm going to be daring and say this: I think reacting is an essential part of responding. I say this because for most of my life I didn't know how to trust my feelings. I had been undermined and confused by my two mothers and my father so I wouldn't challenge them. My reactive habits were completely out of whack for a long time. I couldn't figure out what was right, what was wrong, how I was supposed to feel, etc. When I broke away from my family a few years ago, and starting seriously reflecting on my life, I came to see how my reactivity had been manipulated. If you don't allow a child to feel confident in her feelings, she will not know how to react healthily to things. I had to accept the ugliness of my reactive tendencies in order to grow emotionally. I have had to learn how to feel and know and trust my reactions, while not giving into them.
Personally, I think reacting is a crucial part of responding. If you can't react to something, how can you move forward?
Please know that I am NOT saying "react out loud," I mean, react internally. Trust your inner voice.
Also, avoid large shots of tequila on an empty stomach. :)
reacting is not an issue,how you choose to reACT MATTERS,and its not wrong to react you have all the rights to do so,but its in our power to choose how to do so, choose your peacee over anything else, learn about God how he made you and let him guide you how to live,, its a journey though, but its a culture worth adopting to
I can relate with you dear.. me too was not given the privilege to have a healthy environment in my childhood up to my growing up years. I have been deprived of expressing what's inside me..on how I feel. Therefore, reacting is somewhat confusing to me. But mostly, when I encounter similar treatment at present with people I am with, it triggers my past hurts, it hurts me as the old wound was touched again. I pray that God ,our Creator will heal them all in His Perfect Time. I just fix my eyes on our Wounded Healer-Jesus Christ. Though, its not that easy really. But this pain taught me to rely on the One who created my beautiful heart.
I think it is dangerous to add the caviate " unless it makes you a better human being." This is how cults get people entrained to their narcissistic policies.
Just keep it clean: DO NOT STEP INTO ANOTHER'S FRAME FOR YOUR LIFE. DO NOT IDENTIFY YOURSELF BY BEING ENTRAINED ONTO ANOTHER PERSON'S FRAME. DO NOT GIVE AWAY YOUR OWN POWER TO SELF IDENTIFY ACCORDING TO YOUR OWN FRAME FOR ANY REASON.
Also, make sure that you are not giving away your aelf attunement. So many children became empathic due to being forced to attune themselves into pleasing a narcissist for survival. Now, since they( we) are used to doing that we are already people pleasing and need to learn and practice staying separate from people that use emotionally manipulative tactics to get us entranced to pleasing them and making us believe that their needs are more important than us taking care of ourselves first.
Watch these 3 important shows on Netflix now to see how narcissists lied in order to take everything away from their followers/believers. So many people have been enculturated with lies to give everything away to those who believe that they are entitled to take take take everything down to the last drop of life energy away from anyone they can ensnare into their draining web of lies.
Don't let anything be a reason to give your life away to another person. OWN your life, your work, your money, your time, your resource, your attention and your energy. Even of it means that you will not become a better person. And not save the planet.
Don't let your believing that you are supposed to be a "good" person cause you to allow yourself to be abused ( used wrongly) for the sake of a liar who would take everything from you with no guilt about it at all.
The 3 important shows to watch:
1. Leah Remini Scientology and the Aftermath.
2. Be Sweet, Pray and Obey.
3. John of God the crimes of a spiritual healer.
In cults, the crimes of abuse could not have been done without followers/believers.
Many of these cults teach how to not react, then abuse and control people into not reacting healthfully and honestly about the abuse because the followers have been entrained to trust the leader/narcissist more than they trust their own inner voice or eyes. They can no longer see the lies because their minds are trained to see the belief/lie over their own inner knowing or what their eyes are seeing.
This is me!
What is react out loud. Reacting means you don't have to give answer to everything but rather just stop breathe and then respond.
There are some pieces of content that I return to over and over- this is one. Thank you so much for this.
Same here.. ! I see myself. I can relate to all the mistakes I made. I wish i had learned this before I destroyed my life . This is something I wish i knew... I reacted in low vibration and has caused low vibrations in my life.
I'm here at this point in my life; correcting my path (to my specifications), and, yes, clearing Blood Karma. Yes, releasing the Akashik Records. Thank you, Mom, for sharing this information so I could take a more proper path. I am using the information at 57. I know that you did the best that you could. And, all is in Divine Order. I am grateful for every grain of salt and sand.
Best way to start the day ever, thank you, thank you, thank you, Dr. Levry! Now I can take this wisdom with me wherever I go. Wait. Don't react. Repeat. We truly can create our reality, I'm playing on repeat, my morning walk, driving, before I go to sleep. The power of the word has real power, I so love the meditation at the end, it's a life saver!
I am going to listen to this every day until responding and not reacting becomes a habit with me. Thank you for this!
The most practical video I have watched in a long time. This answered a question I’ve had my entire life. I never knew how to take overly critical people and what to do with their criticism. This will change my life...! Thank you!
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Totally agree with what you say about overly critical people. Also remember as I try to now, when people criticise you, they reveal more about themselves in their criticism and what they say, than they do of you as a person. It’s called ‘shadow projection’. When remembered, ‘shadow projection’ removes the hurt in the criticism towards you. It’s the other person’s failing in themselves that they are talking about.
I know what is is to REACT. IT AIN'T PRETTY!! This one of the BEST presentations that I have ever heard on "NOT REACTING".
The issue many of us face is that others have intentionally damaged us (engineered us) to the point of post traumatic stress disorder, and then they try to trigger us to get the reaction they need to paint us the way they need us to be perceived
So true... well said. I'm a victim to this...
@@klanderkal I’m sorry to hear that. If you haven’t already, I suggest you look into complex post traumatic stress disorder or CPTSD to see if that is something that seems to fit your situation.
@solvated_photon I have.. thanks.
I was going through multiple stressful events at the same time... it was horrible. I couldn't handle,.. the insomnia and the anxiety, stress , confusion and worry made me unable to think right, and without positive thoughts, I reacted negatively to everything. I ended up throwing in the towel at my job... later, I realized what a stupid decision that was, I couldn't believe what my brain was thinking
.. It totally devastated me. My job was everything to me. I loved it and had plans to be a superintendent soon,.. I had 20yrs, driving the city bus. Hundreds of friends and coworkers. I couldn't return, because of the policy,.. I lost all my seniority. I feel into horrible depression. I feel so guilty and regretful. I had no reason to quit, I was just under too much stress from deaths in the family, and my young adult children were both in terrible situations.... and more things also. My mind is in shock that I do have my job anymore. .y whole life, revolved around my work schedule... it was perfect. I did all my training, workouts, swimming, working on the car.. before work.. then, I really enjoyed my job, so that was fun also... I ruined my life. I can't accept what I did. ... depression is so inhumane to have.
I can't function normally anymore... I just stay in isolation, unable to do anything... psychologist said I had ptsd... that the life altering event, put my system into shock,.. and I not able to accept it.
Thanks for caring
You can do a hundred things right but it takes ONLY ONE thoughtless reactive action to destroy it all...powerful!
That was so dynamic
This video made me cry.. describes the way I'm striving to be but I dont know how to get there! I cant go a few days without going off on somebody. Some weeks are better than others. But I wanna be better overnight and it's not gonna happen that way.
I totally understand and feel your pain.. keep hanging in there because the devil wants to see you quit and I today after having another episode with my fiance last night felt like quitting on myself today and letting her go because I can be toxic if I react sometimes and that's not who I am but I'm suffering for my own impulsive behavior and it's not fear to her at all
The fact that you want to change is the first step. You’re on your way.
Humans are flawed. It's not necessarily *the devil*. Try talking to a counselor. Tools for your success can be learned.
@@Aunit1984 please seek professional help before you end up hurting her.
You already see what is going on the realization is i n you that mean you getting where you want to be slowly but surely
You are all right don't worry
You will be fine
Always seek the truth and grow personally
Lots of love and blessings for you
I tend to get so frustrated or stressed. I just feel like things upset me that shouldn’t. I need to remain more calm and not get so angry or upset over dumb stuff...😫
Jasmin, I had a brother we used to taunt (when we were kids) just to see how angry we could make him. One day my mother told him the story of the BERSERKER. The berserker was a fictional story about a man the townspeople put in a cage in the middle of town square. The townspeople would taunt him mercilessly until he went berserk and this was their sick form of entertainment. After my mother told my brother that story, he changed. We could no longer get a rise out of him, so we stopped trying.
I feel sometime not get upset little things want to grow more spirituality this video helps me to not get anger because of their narrow minds it's not god who watching us want to learn to be like jesus
God watches good we do try not react i feel most People don't understand where my spiritual gifts
I know someone like that and it's because she had been abused all her life from everyone. It left her in such a bad state that she is literally rotting from the inside. From her health to her spiritual state. She has only but a short time to live and she is my wife of 9 yrs.
I listen to this every morning when I go for my walk❤
Be tolerant and act with Grace and it will help others. You don’t have to point their flaws but how you show up and show them love and help heal them
During challenges/trails- show what you learn during the challenges/trails.
True love removes suffering
Remember love makes everything easy. Faith makes everything possible