How to get better at dating apps (Tinder, Bumble and Hinge)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 6 ก.ค. 2024
- Dating apps are easy to download and try, but they aren’t so simple to master. In this episode of Workflow, The Verge’s Ashley Carman offers the best tips to succeed on dating apps. You’ll learn how to send the first message, pick your photos, and respond to prompts.
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Which dating app do you use and why?
i use tinder because i want both of us to be matched like a magic
I use some tweezers for cable management
All of them
I used Instagram and that’s how I met my girlfriend
I’m swiping
1. Be Handsome / Pretty
2. Be Attractive
3. Don't Be Unattractive
a fellow reddit user I see
I am attractive but i dont recieve likes so its not only the reason to be attractive
Add “be fit”
Trust me…there’s a lot more than that, I mean yes it’s the number 1 rule, but it’s DEFINITELY not enough
A few years ago I was watching videos on How to get better at dating. Now I'm watching a video on how to get better on a dating app. Man, the Black Mirror days are beginning.
The bad thing is I didn't improve my chances.
This is sad... education is opening more doors...give it a try.🐦
Something tells me if a guy did this video, it would be very, very different advice.
"It's a numbers game"
Men and women are different?!!? What?!?!!?
You forgot step one: be attractive!
Quick Fix - Thought Provoking Videos Anyone can look attractive with a good photographer! Bring a good friend and go take photos of each other for a day
Step 2 .. don't be ugly
Step three: be white
@@donjulio1166 that'd be semi-catfishing. People would eventually meet you in real life and see how unattractive you really are and never want to see you again
Anyone can look good on photo with the right angle and proper selfcare
Avoiding all photos with friends is actually shown to be a bad thing, because it indicates isolation. Having last as group photo signals you as socially desirable and if other people find you valuable, the potential partner might trust you more too. Humans are social animals after all.
Women actually like it when you have pictures of other women. It's an instinct that women ahve to want to see tha tyou're wanted.
@@cartonet8186 nonsense
@@cartonet8186 clearly coming from a guy
Sooooo shouldn’t we be getting advice from someone who actually went through this and formed a real relationship? Obviously if she’s still on the app and is teaching us something’s not right.
5:00 - 'try a confident statement' ... 'spinach and artichoke dip is the best'....
How about: I'm gonna binge watch Ozark, wanna join?
Watched it already it's amazing
@@rodneydsouza2454 I hate the daughter she gets on my nerves.....why was this video in my recommendations anyway? welp i watched it and here we are
@@YoungBlaze TH-cam knows that what you need is a new partner sooo gl
@@rodneydsouza2454 yeah......."i love you youtube,"
Hi there @@YoungBlaze
I could use a video about 4x as long as this one for each app, I need that deep dive and love the visual examples!!
Taking tips from someone single... sound good.
“I’m a tech reporter, that’s not very exciting...”
Me: What?!!
Honestly, I quit dating apps a long time ago. I’ve had way more luck just randomly finding people on Instagram I have mutual friends/interests with.
I fee like this could have made into its own series but I still loved the video!
Hey Ashley, I was reading through the book of numbers and realized I didn't have yours 😁
ThatWasEpic......All one word..... Video will be up tomorrow 😂
Hey Ashley which is that eye glass frame you are using
Nice video, but separate app for serious relationship and another app for fling etc? I thought I could find a variety of people with different objectives on any of these popular dating apps.
To be honest I'm sort of frustrated with dating apps and "dating life" but I can tell that you are an awesome person so I really wish you luck and finding someone who will truely deserve you.
Simp
Step 1: be perfect
You cannot be perfect because human made from gold is not exist
2:00 "It takes a long time to fill out your Hinge profile. You have to include a bunch of photos and answer a bunch of questions."
lolwut? You only have to upload six photos, answer three prompts, and fill in some other basic info.
If someone can't be bothered to fill out their profile then they'll not be good relationship material. We all have cameras in our phones, it takes 5 sec to upload more than one terrible picture of yourself in sunglasses.
"How to get better at dating apps" 1. Uninstall 2. Go out 3. Speak to people. 4. Repeat steps 2-3 until you find an significant other
I’m just watching this video, and I liked your response . I completely agree with it, but it’s difficult after you graduate from school. School is the one place where you can meet people and of course, work , but that’s off the table for many. Where do you meet people besides work?! Bars and clubs, been there done that and nothing good came from it. It is difficult to date now, especially when everything is done online. Has your advice work for you ?
Ikr
Hey Ashley! So, did you meet someone online, some time later?
What song is in the background at the beginning?
Great video! I recently discovered your podcast, really love it!
Hey hammad here nice to meet u lets be friends if u don't mind me il
I have gotten 2 dates from bumble....guess how many years that took?
Hey Ashley, spinach artichoke dip is the best
I believe I'm a decent 7 in real life but on tinder i was like a solid 4. I think I'll keep my rejection prospects to just face to face interactions.
At first: oh look another video by Ashely going over something more personal and less tech.
0.2 seconds after she refers to every one as trash humans for why she's single: ok I am 100% on board and feel this
I like how she keeps saying what the app's CEO keeps saying works, but the user-interface doesn't make people do these things enough.
Thanks 😊
Totally put a pic of u at work, its a cool job
sometimes go out and have conversations with real person
2020 was rough
Wow, this is depressing.. So nobody meets people these days outside before totally knowing each other from an app or is it just a New York thing?
Grindr is a "dating" app? What heterosexual nonsense is this
To get better on Tinder for average and below guys is easy ask your attractive friend if you can wear his face for your Tinder photos. Works 100% 50% of the time
Buffalo chicken dip is awesome! I thought it sounded terrible, but I'll try something even if I think I won't like it, because that's fair, right? Anyway it was awesome!
Can The Verge do a video on How to get better at dating offline, like the old days?
Wear google glass everywhere you go
@@SomeDudeQC and swipe with my eyes
Playing with our insecurities!
Hey hammad here nice to meet u lets be friends if u don't mind
is the Saturn V at the wall the one made by LEGO ?
Why did capital one sponsor this video ?
Maybe it’s the apps that need to be better.
Honestly someone like her doesn’t even need to try. She’s already really pretty
Paid by Hinge* Lolol
best dating app is real life!
Ashley! ❤️
I got grinder thinking it was just a dating app once and I was all like "why is everyone a dude though"
Dating app not work for me 😢I don’t know how but never work
How about I binge watch season 3 of Daredevil
Just follow rules 1 and 2 and your set
Sadly, we don't have Hinge in Europe
May the odds be ever in your favor! Also, spinach dip is WHERE IT'S AT!
Message someone, "you can trust me. muhahaha"
This is kind of like reading the cosmopolitan. I don’t think the advice is bad, but it’s presented in a simplistic way that turns off more sophisticated users away.
Also, why are you emphasizing one medium where you obviously haven’t met success? If this were to be truly useful, you’d give equal emphasis on how to better on all media. Not to mention that it’s easy to say “trash humans out there,” but there are millions of humans out there in New York. Are they all trash?
I dated in New York for 10 years. And I met some very wonderful and compatible women. And they met me. If you really want to find someone amazing, you can.
But also, most importantly, be honest. Even if an answer isn’t the most popular, but it fits you, choose that answer, what if someone else likes being with their dog too, for example.
The whole video just seems so futile.
Hey Ashley, I know you posted this back in October of 2018. But this information was very helpful I didn't even know about hinge until watching this video. Good luck in the dating app world I wish I lived in New York City. Lol
All I have are selfies ‘cause I have no friends 😭
I love technology
great stuff
Hey hammad here nice to meet u lets be friends if u don't mind
I got scammed out of thousands of pounds on Tinder. I recommend being incredibly careful as I thought I knew what I was doing.
Number one hack be a good looking
There really isn't a means of "getting better" at dating apps. Either you're visually attractive and in the upper 5% of men on said services or you're not. No amount of rewriting your profile, taking photos with beautiful women or bullshitting your height will change that. Everything I said applies to men only as women have it far, far easier and literally have to do NOTHING outside of make an account and watch the thirst pour into their inboxes, where they have an infinite number of choices and likely end up never making up their mind and actually meeting who they match up with. So the question is: Do dating apps actually help the majority find love or hinder it? Easy answer: absolutely not. The developers of dating apps don't actually want you to find love because that means one less user for their fan base, which means less exposure and revenue. Dating apps are a massive ripoff on all counts for the majority, so don't use them. Meet your future ex wife/husband through a friend or something.
If all I want is to smash then yeah it's super easy but I don't want the casual b.s.
where are you supposed to get like 20 photos of yourself doing things?
I wish I lived in New York... Here in my hometown I get that "there's no one to swipe to" message after 5 people
Emilio Martínez oops
When i used tinder and had matches, i opened with the silly message:
Because most guys usually will open with “hi”, “hey”, or “how are you”. I will tell you “Pizza” because i like them, so:
PIZZA!
This was a nice opener and most of the times i got answers, and even a pizza date!
"Sponsored by Hinge"😂
Hahahhahahah I love that full disclosure.. Im single too hahhahahahhahah. Lmao 🤣
I used Tinder and found my girlfriend and we are very happy together.
said 0.000000001% of the userbase.
Making me hungry with all those dips. Ughhh.
Well, that's a kind of a misleading title which I don't like
Hey hammad here nice to meet u lets be friends if u don't mind me
Nice pullover...
Ty, just got banned on Tinder for swiping left most of the time :(
Then I would get banned too. Wow.
I'm 62 does hinge do my age group!!!
Dont worry im here for u
But why would I want to date an app? 🤔
This is pure brilliance. I had the pleasure of reading something similar, and it was pure genius. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
So this is how Capital One chooses to spend it’s money?
Ummmm pretty sure the chat game needs to be more substantial than being about dips...
Hi
you'd be a great catch; smart, industrious, well spoken, and thoughtful. best of luck in your search.
Yikes. So glad I met my wife the old fashioned way.
Through a satanic cult?
Through an arranged marriage?
In a bar haha
Sean The Right Way Basically dating apps are like being in a bar where hundreds of dudes are competing for the same person. What I'm saying is they're creepy.
What does this have to do with your Workflow?
I'm single too and a tech nerd.
A tech professional, pretty boring.
I also like food, but I am on a seafood diet. I sea food I eat it.
Dips are essential to all parties ... when I dip, you dip we dip.
I have 20/20 vision but, I wear glasses because, they make me look smart.
From California.
i've been blessed with being 6'4" and cursed with being an introverted nerd.
Ok. I watched the whole video and did learn something. Going to use more statements and less questions.
That being said, I really disagree with your photo choices. Guys don't care that you like fancy food. We all eat food, it's not special. The beautiful picture of you that you self vetoed was my favorite.
Well, your very pretty I can’t imagine why nobody’s grab you up yet.
you'd think the stay away from group shots and potential SOs in your pics thing would be common sense but clearly it is not..........
So many preconceived notions...wish things were a lot simpler and straightforward. Peace !!
So basically we should lie when answering prompts? 🙄
There should be a dating app where you just pick one thing you're looking for and it pairs you with someone who can only list one attribute, and vice versa.
Example: "Nice Cleavage" gets paired with "Fully Loaded BMW Owner" for the shallow pond waders, "MMO Enthusiast" and "Makes Cosplay Costumes" for the geek set, etc.
"Down to Earth" cannot be an option (at least not until people understand the meaning of that term.)
"People say I'm 'down to Earth'.."
Who says that about you? How do you exemplify that description? STOP USING THAT TERM, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!!
Sorry. I ranted.
Yeeaaaaa I feel like this video is geared more towards women lol
WHAT ON EARTH IS PIZZA DIP???? TELL ME THIS INSTANT.
I just searched TH-cam and will be collating the best recipes and dreaming about pizza dip for the next 12 hours if anyone needs me.
Some dating apps are boring like meetme and skout...
WAIT.........
Is she really still rocking an iPhone 6 in 2018? Respect.
You can tell this was recorded a while ago with the phone having the old Uber icon
Sponsor approvals are fun
Maybe she just keeps older version of apps, because they run better on her older phone.
Karlton est Could be
@@HenryNavarroManof2moro Also, if you don't update the iOS, then you actually sometimes can't download the newest version of the app.
Karlton est That’s what I was asking myself. Why wouldn’t she have the latest version of iOS?
Blossom
"It has everything to do with the trash humans in New York City." LMAO 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 freaking Savage. You're the best, hahaha
Not exactly into the concept of the video, but I'll still leave a like because I can appreciate effort put Into a well made well researched video haha
I'm single too, just saying 🤷🏻♂️
Step 1: money
Step 2: weed
Step 3: wait
Step 4: didn't think this through
You are soo much more appealing and beautiful in this video, compared to your profile pictures