6 Lessons I've Learned About Online Dating

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  • @aliabdaal
    @aliabdaal  ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Would highly recommend checking out Brilliant, go to brilliant.org/Ali to get a 30-day free trial + the first 200 people will get 20% off their annual subscription.

  • @sj4267
    @sj4267 ปีที่แล้ว +119

    This is the post-date 8:
    1. What side of me did they bring out?
    2. How did my body feel during the date?
    3. Do I feel more energized or de-energized than before the date?
    4. Is there something about them I’m curious about?
    5. Did they make me laugh?
    6. Did I feel heard?
    7. Did I feel attractive in their presence?
    8. Did I feel captivated, bored, or something in between?

    • @frankkennedy6388
      @frankkennedy6388 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sounds like these apply mostly to women. #7 Specifically confuses me as how are you supposed to feel attractive without obvious cues?

  • @croguy
    @croguy ปีที่แล้ว +401

    I love the fact that you associate dating with productivity 😂

  • @arin20
    @arin20 ปีที่แล้ว +875

    Only Ali can do 6 step routine for dating. 😂

    • @unknownname3295
      @unknownname3295 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      When brand deals calls 😀. Ali will always deliver

    • @FizaKhan-zx5rq
      @FizaKhan-zx5rq ปีที่แล้ว +2

      😂😂😂

    • @Lawand
      @Lawand ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I swear😂

    • @shellyt556
      @shellyt556 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Dude is methodical in everything. Not a bad thing. Glad he has found a formula that works 😅

    • @12345ury
      @12345ury ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I laughed so hard when I read the title of the video

  • @EvelynMoore629
    @EvelynMoore629 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +63

    *I don't know who needs to hear this, but don't chase comfort at the age of labor, so you won't labor at the age of comfort.*

    • @EvelynMoore629
      @EvelynMoore629 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Always put your finances in good care to ensure that your income rises. Wealthy people achieve there financial goals and acquire riches by seeking help from finance pro(s) but many claim to have achieved success themselves.

    • @EvelynMoore629
      @EvelynMoore629 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      “The greater the passive income you can build, the FREER you will become.” I feel fortunate to have made productive decisions that have had a lasting impact on my life. Through my finance coach, I've accumulated over a million and recently purchased my first house in January. I've also managed to pay off my mortgage and student loans, and now I'm focused on working towards my retirement by next year.

    • @EvelynMoore629
      @EvelynMoore629 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I operate a wide range of investments and have achieved massive growth in my finances with the help of my financial professional, making my financial goal a reality.

    • @EvelynMoore629
      @EvelynMoore629 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sear ch the names if you care!

    • @EvelynMoore629
      @EvelynMoore629 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      *DONALD NATHAN SCOTT.*

  • @thetechcornerbusiness
    @thetechcornerbusiness ปีที่แล้ว +56

    Me & hubby met online. 10 years later we are happy married with 2 great kids. Good luck for you Ali 😊

    • @someonev3
      @someonev3 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’m 17 and friends with many people. Online dating isn’t the greatest method, as if you just so happen to live in different countries, or even regions, then chances are you won’t meet. I haven’t seen a single online relationship - and I’ve seen many - go past a year or end in meeting up. Good for you, however. Hope you’re doing well!

    • @minatwice6062
      @minatwice6062 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@someonev3ur comfusing online dating with internet relationships

  • @JillWhitcomb1966
    @JillWhitcomb1966 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I've been meeting people from the Internet since 2001-- sometimes for dating, other times just to meet up with friends. I've always been open to meeting outside of my geographical area, way way outside of it. I currently live in North Dakota where the dating pool is just a tiny puddle, and it's difficult to make friends here, too. Meeting friends or dating from the Internet has given me opportunities to learn about new cultures, travel hundreds if not thousands of miles away to meet up with friends, show friends around when they have traveled here, and opened up entirely new worlds for me.

  • @PokhrajRoy.
    @PokhrajRoy. ปีที่แล้ว +315

    I’m just happy that Ali is dating someone and is happy in life. I wish you both well.

    • @ugurfidan9639
      @ugurfidan9639 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I do not know you but i hope you are (or will) date someone and be happy as well.

    • @ssrini2002
      @ssrini2002 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      @LaMelo Ball he’s dating his girlfriend

    • @SimonLiftsLife
      @SimonLiftsLife ปีที่แล้ว +2

      good luck to you and everyone who reads this comment!!!!

    • @Youtuberapiuser
      @Youtuberapiuser ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @LaMelo Ball Izzy Sealey is his GF.

  • @tyrone_music
    @tyrone_music ปีที่แล้ว +71

    lol, that transition to the Brilliant sponsorship was so smooth! Nicely done 6:30

  • @sohinidutta97
    @sohinidutta97 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    The romantic in me is quaking. The scientist in me appreciates this and is invigorated 😂

  • @omerdoganci1802
    @omerdoganci1802 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    The thing about dating is app that they make money based on user retention. The longer single you are the more money they make. There will be matches and dates but it won’t meet the effort you put. I think joining social clubs and activities are much better to have dates.

    • @bonkadoom
      @bonkadoom 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      some people don’t have much of those in their area tho or they don’t really have the time to actively participate. tbh dating apps are cashing on people who are busy and don’t have the time to go out, meet and connect with people regularly enough to build a relationship with someone organically. or lonely people who have no friends and don’t get introduced to new faces often. kinda sad but nowadays this is the reality for many of us

    • @kasuki800
      @kasuki800 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Step 1: Do Not Buy Any Paid Subscriptions. Ever. Even outside of dating apps.
      Step 2: idk man what else am i supposed to do, talk to people?

  • @steff.y2001
    @steff.y2001 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It's weird but ever since I have known you married Izzy, I can't stop thinking how you're so good together. It's just crazy for me how two seemingly unrelated TH-camr from billions of TH-camrs have found each other and get married? I adore you both and I extend my warmest congratulations. 🎉🎉

  • @anniethecherie
    @anniethecherie ปีที่แล้ว +52

    The way you integrated sponsorship into this video killed me 😂 great video as always!

    • @kagisot5479
      @kagisot5479 ปีที่แล้ว

      lol the way he did it so funny🤣🤣🤣

    • @ledieuanhnguyen3198
      @ledieuanhnguyen3198 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kagisot5479 definitely didn't skip the ad this time 🤣🤣

    • @WhatIsThereTo
      @WhatIsThereTo ปีที่แล้ว

      It was the worst!

    • @hammadwaseema3309
      @hammadwaseema3309 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hey lets be friends if u don't mind me

  • @legendofzoloxolo1425
    @legendofzoloxolo1425 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I tried for online for 3 years. It’s only people trying to catfish me. Fake accounts. I never got 1 date

  • @mitchellmcminn4928
    @mitchellmcminn4928 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Appreciate this. I’m about to try it, because I’m tired of being alone in life and want to meet someone that actually wants to be around me. Tired of fakes and flakes.

  • @s.dittrich8829
    @s.dittrich8829 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Your videos are so professional! I love your style of editing and I can clearly see the amount of work you've put in :)

  • @YuvirCharles
    @YuvirCharles ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Thanks Ali this really worked , I know have 3 wives and am struggling witth child support

  • @AlexPresa
    @AlexPresa ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I really appreciate those Date Evaluation questions, super helpful with determining how to move forward!

  • @ArtAngelMouse
    @ArtAngelMouse ปีที่แล้ว +59

    Security concern should be for everyone. I've had multiple female stalkers in the past despite telling them I'm gay and I've had unwanted touching/flirting at work from men. I'm sure victimization of men is underreported, I've never gotten interviewed or surveyed. I've heard some stories about Grindr so I'm keeping my guard up and letting my family know what I'm doing and stuff lol.

    • @kyrinbuffalo2244
      @kyrinbuffalo2244 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hope you doin well man

    • @myoutuber77
      @myoutuber77 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I understand the "stalking" women. Gayism is in fashion right now so when you say you are gay they do not automatically fall for it. If you want to shake women you will need to be more original.

  • @CalicoCooperFan
    @CalicoCooperFan ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Good "How to" video. Great content. I like it when you combine information from your personal experience, interviews with thought leaders, and insights you gained from books in your videos. Thanks!

    • @hammadwaseema3309
      @hammadwaseema3309 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hey hammad here nice to meet u lets be friends if u don't mind

  • @Squintillions
    @Squintillions ปีที่แล้ว +37

    My productive guide to online dating: delete dating apps from your phone = save yourself loads of potentially wasted time. Go enjoy your life out in the world.

    • @T-Bone99
      @T-Bone99 ปีที่แล้ว

      yup, absolutely

  • @musaibsaid
    @musaibsaid ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Man I was not prepared for that advertisement transition. I fell for it

  • @kristinaluginina3437
    @kristinaluginina3437 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Omg thank you so much for this video, I think it will save lots of people from trauma.

  • @matthewbridges3147
    @matthewbridges3147 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The "I'll fall for you if.." transition was smooth

  • @sx3r952
    @sx3r952 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I absolutely love how he blends the ads with the content! 😂❤

  • @this_is_sha_me_em8426
    @this_is_sha_me_em8426 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    That Brilliant Sponsorship transition just popped out the almonds & raisins i was eating out of my mouth😦

  • @PartosBarbos
    @PartosBarbos ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Dating market is market. You should understand demand and supply and your competitive advantages.

    • @feyyazkasl8640
      @feyyazkasl8640 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I am probably losing in stock then.

    • @Dinomite1
      @Dinomite1 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      im bankrupt

    • @feyyazkasl8640
      @feyyazkasl8640 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey buddy, what can I do for you to feel better

  • @riddley4382
    @riddley4382 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    7:10 The sponsor turned up unexpectedly😂

  • @Murk.mp4
    @Murk.mp4 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    that sponsor transition caught me off guard! well played Ali

  • @jensenc___
    @jensenc___ ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i gotta say that ad was smooth, didnt see it coming...

  • @dewi9611
    @dewi9611 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm a muslim, and I was on online dating but this is my first time hear about Mus, lol. Gonna find someone potential in the local Mosque, ig.

  • @LuisPedro9
    @LuisPedro9 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    The beginning is so ridiculous lol. "Why should we care about dating?"
    "WELL THIS STUDY SAYS... !!!"

  • @perksinc.4674
    @perksinc.4674 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    🥺🥺Never thought I'd see a video with him talking about dating ❤️❤️

  • @TheKonkehagia
    @TheKonkehagia ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thanks for the video! I read also the book that you in the past proposed "How to not die alone" and it was SUPER HELPFUL! thanks also for that!💙

  • @devilinthebelfry7292
    @devilinthebelfry7292 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Know what people also never do, stike up conversation on dating apps. From personal experience. I actually get more conversation from someone in person cos they feel rude ignoring you like they apparently do on dating apps.

  • @shravangubbi5670
    @shravangubbi5670 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Your sponsor plug in was (wait for it..) Brilliant!

  • @winandasworld
    @winandasworld ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Your videos have been helpful Ali. I hope to jump on this as well.
    I also love the quality of your videos, this is so clean and professional 👏👏👏👌

  • @tornado831
    @tornado831 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This is legit reverse clickbait. I thought its gonna be fake and it was exactly as advertised

  • @varunvarma6028
    @varunvarma6028 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That segue was probably the smoothest one I have ever seen on TH-cam 6:35

  • @CapslockActive
    @CapslockActive ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Your placements are great, they almost fit seamless into the video.

  • @kushagrakanoi
    @kushagrakanoi ปีที่แล้ว +2

    He is the only guy in the world who can associate the word productive with anything and I would believe him 😂

  • @leventemezo5607
    @leventemezo5607 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Congrats on your relationship for both of you!

  • @Dinomite1
    @Dinomite1 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That ending speaks volumes

  • @selian_
    @selian_ ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Very smooth sponsor transition, Ali. Have you been taking cues from Graham?

  • @John-3692
    @John-3692 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is beyond my expectations. I had the privilege of reading something similar, and it was absolutely astonishing. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

  • @guillermo5782
    @guillermo5782 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Didn't see that Brilliant sponsorship coming. Nicely put!

  • @pinkman1845
    @pinkman1845 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Never expected to see "Productive Dating" line in my life lol

  • @fahanibrahimhashi
    @fahanibrahimhashi ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is so on brand, I love it!

  • @HondaVolk
    @HondaVolk ปีที่แล้ว

    My Top 3 Favourite Channels: Ali Abdaal, Alex Renko, Iman Gadzhi! Make my week complete!

  • @sophiewong8501
    @sophiewong8501 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ali is so smooth with the sponsored ads 👏🏻👏🏻 well played 👏🏻👏🏻

  • @lewu492
    @lewu492 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    loved that photo in the right upper corner at 3:47 😂

    • @blinkwithlisa
      @blinkwithlisa ปีที่แล้ว

      What was that 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @johnwilliamson10
    @johnwilliamson10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Activity dates are the way to go

  • @suhanivbhatt
    @suhanivbhatt ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The very title of the video got me goosebumps 😂

  • @Ashishvatsav
    @Ashishvatsav ปีที่แล้ว +4

    his next video, will be like: How to enjoy productively

  • @RonPalacio
    @RonPalacio ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Yooo productive dating 🧠🧠

  • @sak91902
    @sak91902 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is absolutely one of the best channels for life!

  • @abelsiji2481
    @abelsiji2481 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    Not everything has to be "productive" smh🤦‍♂️

    • @sergiearruda443
      @sergiearruda443 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      It's not that deep, nothing wrong in optimising all aspects of life, plus the term is just part of his videos brand...

    • @soundscape26
      @soundscape26 ปีที่แล้ว

      Agreed

  • @beaugreenwood712
    @beaugreenwood712 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Idk why I’m watching (I’m married) but I also co-sign Hinge! I met my husband off there 3 years ago !

  • @princethemack
    @princethemack หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    12:55 cuz yall don’t want that

  • @bayyleaf
    @bayyleaf ปีที่แล้ว +7

    thanks for sharing your perspectives around this!

    • @hammadwaseema3309
      @hammadwaseema3309 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hey hammad here nice to meet u lets be friends if u don't mind

  • @nin9249
    @nin9249 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Why jump from texting to meeting? Usually a phone or video call can rule out wronguns

  • @MySpiritualJourney22
    @MySpiritualJourney22 ปีที่แล้ว

    You never disappoint on your content . I like your contents.

  • @sigurdk13
    @sigurdk13 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am literally on my way to my first date and this video popped up 😅😂😂they are spying on ussss😭😩

  • @Marceline374
    @Marceline374 ปีที่แล้ว

    You should make a vid on making genuine friendships in your 20s

  • @MedDeviceEngineerX
    @MedDeviceEngineerX ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ali talk about anything else but dating. Ali ain't red-pilled

  • @banandababa
    @banandababa ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Omg Ali is in love so cute 🥰

  • @huskygaze
    @huskygaze ปีที่แล้ว

    Productive Dating.... Letsss goooooooo!!!!

  • @katiewilkinson5593
    @katiewilkinson5593 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Is there an app to meet fellow creatives and musicians?😊

  • @juanpablorios8294
    @juanpablorios8294 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Captain simbad’s video came true

  • @AnthonyRecenello
    @AnthonyRecenello ปีที่แล้ว

    Great tips Ali! 👌🏻

  • @DarKcuS_
    @DarKcuS_ ปีที่แล้ว +6

    funny how this is not joke video

  • @snehaarvind4773
    @snehaarvind4773 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    that sponsorship timing tho - too smooth

  • @hydrogendioxide483
    @hydrogendioxide483 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The lady said so many messed up things. Like as a woman I would rather meet my date for the first time in a crowded and safe place like a cafe, I dont care if it looks like a job interview, go to the park with them and what? Let them murder you in the bushes in case they are a psycopath?

  • @arin20
    @arin20 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    Next video, Six step process of managing your girls tantrum.

    • @cedriceric9730
      @cedriceric9730 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      An evidence based guide

    • @isengaurd3795
      @isengaurd3795 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@cedriceric9730 😂😂😂

    • @adamsterdam9049
      @adamsterdam9049 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Just say "relax", if that doesnt work say these, "you must be on your period", "Now i understand why your ex dumped you"

    • @hammadwaseema3309
      @hammadwaseema3309 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hi

  • @candycandy319
    @candycandy319 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    4:31 This photo is so funny XD

  • @nicholaswilliams9492
    @nicholaswilliams9492 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Step 1: Don’t

  • @frankkennedy6388
    @frankkennedy6388 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I wish the ad didn't interrupt step 2. That being said, what if you have a deal breaker that you want to express even if it comes off as "negative"?

  • @AlfieGordonx
    @AlfieGordonx ปีที่แล้ว +2

    “Prospects” oh Lord god

  • @PartyCrewCoolPAD
    @PartyCrewCoolPAD 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Greetings and Salutations
    Well, online dating is a match making service
    It's nothing serious about giving someone the address you have for contact because only certain places are approved & appropriate for your lifestyle
    Great Upload Thanks good luck 👍

  • @himilo101
    @himilo101 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hey Ali, I really enjoy when I am watching your TH-cam.

  • @joshuachaires7220
    @joshuachaires7220 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Online dating apps consist of 66% men and 34% woman. Those 34% woman have more messages, likes, and more then men. That’s a fact

  • @potential2themax
    @potential2themax หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    NEVER DO IT !! time and $ waste

  • @emeraldchat
    @emeraldchat 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    despite of how much they've improved, everyone must still stay safe during online chats.

  • @TheMagdalenaBB
    @TheMagdalenaBB 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    What do you do about burnout? That part is very very real.

  • @TopLevelDating
    @TopLevelDating หลายเดือนก่อน

    A lot of people miss step 2.

  • @IluvKonig
    @IluvKonig 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I want a dating app that is more safe and secure, not popular.

  • @Gregski3
    @Gregski3 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I cant fathom why some girls have profile photos with guys 🤯

  • @ZainMiah
    @ZainMiah ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Forgot to mention divorce rates are now higher 🤣🤣

  • @wtfveganfood
    @wtfveganfood ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The "players" wink! 🤣

  • @trrra
    @trrra 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    How do you meet someone in a restaurant?! 🤷‍♀🤔

  • @anxen
    @anxen ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I haz so many deal breakers I can only match with K drama characters 😂

  • @otavioalexandre7575
    @otavioalexandre7575 ปีที่แล้ว

    Amazing stuff bro

  • @theamanmarskole
    @theamanmarskole ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i feel like dating is more complex than studying physics 😒😒😒

  • @Sandysitsattheseashore
    @Sandysitsattheseashore 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Not have others controlling thy phone 24/7 would be a good tip.

  • @birbtechy2329
    @birbtechy2329 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    productive dating? okay.

  • @aarondanaher9426
    @aarondanaher9426 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    2:58 I strongly disagree with allowing payment barriers to build up around one of the more fundamental aspects of social life. This is bordering on the commodification of people, given that the people are essentially the products of these dating apps that you are incentivising us to spend money on.

  • @SergioR00
    @SergioR00 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Lmao that title is wild. Only Ali could pull that off 😂

  • @joyfultrails
    @joyfultrails ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Never been on a dating app, but they say that a large percentage of the women are just bots. And that the actual women only go for the top 10% of guys. Whereas the guys will go for anything with a pulse. So it just doesn’t work.

  • @sibtain2827
    @sibtain2827 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Time to increase my productivity on Tinder😂

  • @envbyxk
    @envbyxk ปีที่แล้ว

    instructions unclear, they're all signing up for brilliant