Reacting To Dating Profiles- How To Get MORE Matches & Biggest Mistakes Guys Make! | Courtney Ryan
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- In this video, I go over my honest feedback on your dating profiles! I go over some things the guys are doing well as well as things they could improve and change. If you want to participate in a future video like this, be sure to follow me on Instagram!
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Thanks. I increased my matches by 5.000%. From 0 matches per year to 0 matches every day!
Lol as guy on dating apps you can’t really do much. Women have such an advantage. It’s not even the same game
@@tylerdecker6994 its like fanatic xenophile meeting devouring swarm
lol
Its just the apps, we, men, struggle a lot more.
Lol
I think the big issue is guys don’t have male friends take their photos specifically for this.
Yea true it's kind of a girl thing... I've never once asked my male friends to take a pic of me because it feels like it will be awkward
I’m 26y old and have never took my male friend’s photo in my life 🤣
Only drunk picture
For sure lol but you can definitely do it yourself!
Completely agree. Hell I barely have guy friends lol. Which is why I bought a nice selfie stick that also doubles up as a tripod so I can do self pictures without being selfies
hire a photographer or just get a very good quality camera
Here's a tip: Don't use a photo of you and your friends if you aren't the best looking one in the group. Sounds harsh, but it's true. If someone sees your group photo and thinks the person standing next to you is better looking, you're instantly getting swiped away.
Last year i got a girl match With me and ask: whould you give me your friend's Phone number?
Instant dismatch, that friend is on a relationship.
How sad
Most my pics are of me with my friends from uni and work who happened to mostly be female. Maybe that's why I get OK number of matches, at least 2-3 matches a day. From my observations, instinctively women are like sheep (may seem un-PC to say). If they see you with lots of other women they'll either think you've got something or they'll just feel safe with you because other women seems to trust you. I remember going out clubbing with a really hot female friend from uni, that night I noticed getting lots of looks and smiles from girls and them starting the conversation more than usual. She was the best wingwoman I ever had.
Ofc that's harder to do if you don't have a group of female friends to take them pics with.
Sucks when you friends are better looking then you.
Another tip: Do not post photos of you with children. Especially if you have none.
I don't care for dating apps. I'd prefer to be rejected in public as God intended.
I think I prefer to have the ability to wallow in my own depression on my own schedule thank you very much. Can’t be depressed right before work. Gotta keep a calm mind.
LMAO BASED
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Then why’d you click on this video
Based
Message for women on dating apps: please don't post your main photo with multiple people in it, especially other women your age. I want to know who you are and what you look like. I am not trying to guess which person you are out of your 15 friends. Also, I don't need 12 photos of the same freaking selfie. Lastly, don't have a mask on or have those stupid puppy-dog filters.
Don't forget the face only looking with the camera up pointing down so they look 50 lbs thinner than they are
@@Last-Lap-Lando4 Agreed, I want to see your face and your body (to see your relative size). If I have to put my height, I should at least get an idea of how much you weigh.
@@bruceleeroy8302 100%
If I see a profile and the girl only has selfies and filters then it’s an immediate swipe left for me. They’re all the classic ingredients for a catfish scenario
If the girls main photo has more than one woman in it, trust me, she’s the fat one
TIP: Guys take the worst pictures, but there is an easy way to take a GREAT shot.
Don't take a picture. Take a video. With basic editing software you can move the frame to the exact point where your expression is perfect. Let the camera roll for a few minutes. Try a few expressions. They are going to look bad, but the transitions will capture that rare moment when you look just right. I hate taking pictures but, this technique saved me.
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It's best to be extremely good-looking and photogenic for your dating profile. If you are not, then it's best to avoid the shallow pit of online dating.
Makes total sense to me
You don’t need to be “extremely good looking.” It’s about your vibe and your look. Dress well and look confident in your photos.
As someone who looks below average I can confirm this. I tried different apps, optimized the profiles including good pictures with nice clothing, but I never got more than two or three matches a year and not a single date out of this in the last ten years.
Exactly
yep
I once matched with a girl on Tinder. And then I woke up.
Hahahah fuxxing hilarious
It's UNBELIEVABLY tough on the dating apps for us dudes if we don't look like Brad Pitt and/or obviously have money. And we've got to be charming and funny right off the bat too. I don't want to sound like I'm whining about how unfair life is, because I'm not, but it does get to be pretty frustrating. I'm a fairly handsome (but not hot) guy with a good profile but I'm lucky to get 5 matches a week in a major city, and I'm even more lucky if one or two of them replies more than once or twice.
I feel you on that one Alex! Then certainly have a lot tougher on dating apps and women. I believe or not, even the beautiful girls get rejected on the apps too. I was talking to someone at speeding event and she told me that she deals with rejection all the time, and this girl is at the very least at eight out of 10
I would kill for 5 matches a week. I'd take 5 matches a year...
@@josephpeters2619 I've got all 3 of them plus Facebook dating. I very rarely get anything on hinge or bumble though
@@BlargeMan For some reason, the girls on bumble seem to like me the most, idk why. I've also found that if I stay in the app trying to get a match it won't happen. So I just open it once per day, swipe a bit and then close it and the matches usually happen in the background and I'll just get notified.
I find it very frustrating for sure. very few matches ever on any dating sites and most do not reply to any msgs, tough game dude.
One time just to see my competition I made a girl profile. It was just a name and a black screen. As a "girl" I got 300 matches in on day. HOLY!! And most us guys maybe get on average 10 matches, half my friends cant even get 5. And a black screen got over 300 in a day.
I did the same exact thing and got the same results lol I'm 6'3 and relatively handsome and ill be lucky if I can get 5 matches a week
I’d be lucky to get 1 match a week. Feeling stuck because I am not charming right off the bat which is a disadvantage. How do I meet someone without dating apps?
@@BRBallin1 if you’re in California or are willing to visit I will teach you how to approach women in person.
Oh that's easy to explain because men are far less picky when it comes to dating let's be honest for a single man the vast majority of single men would happily fuck any woman who gives them even the slightest attention you can call me whining if you want it doesn't change the fact that it's far easier for women in dating
Interesting experiment, with equally interesting results!
I did a Masters Class project on this for my Stats class. I did the same 5 photos - same text. I changed the parameters only. HEIGHT played the most. At 6-2, my inbox was full - at my real height (5-6) absolutely nothing. Why? because women start main search parameters with height about 6-0 as their first requirement.
What else? Divorce was better than Single. Smoking was better than not. Engineer / Doctor / Lawyer better than Construction / Corporate desk jockey - best (bass player) - Education - Masters played better than Bachelors.
Location - Bellevue > Seattle / Seattle > Portland / Portland > Spokane. Money - 100K+ good, under 100K - nothing, trending lagged off at 185K. aaaaaand this is why I will never darken any dating app. Completely - totally worthless for the 'real' me.
I long suspected this type of reality. Thanks for giving the thumbnail sketch of your investigation. I had already given up online dating, but had considered trying again. Certainly won't after reading your statistical discovery.
This is not the least bit surprising
Smoking was better than not?
Anything that differentiates you from the masses of guys will help, especially with filters on dating apps. Divorce - gets lots of divorced women right swiping. Smoker - lots of female smokers wanting someone that isn't going to criticize them for being a smoker. etc.
@@Iceblade423 I ran this gambit for my Econ Stats class - All factors exactly the same, Divorced played better than single. In their mind, being divorced shows that you can 'commit' ....really, it means if you were dumb enough to do it once, and you are back out in the market - you are dumb enough to do it twice. You are a casino payout to her.
No lie, but that first Hinge profile was fire. I was also cracking up on the Richard Nixon joke. 20/10, bruh
Right 😂
Guys, never lead with things like "Homeowner" or "". There are gold diggers out there and I promise, you want to steer clear of them.
I noticed, with women, a lot of people put that they love traveling. It actually got to the point it makes me either almost swipe left on them or to swipe left. To me it shows little creativity. Most people I believe like to travel.
100%. it's not a personality trait and if anything only shows that your privileged. Like "I love going to my cottage"
They love traveling on YOUR dime
Most women I know, don't like to travel.
When a woman's Insta or profile features a drink in every pic, it is a massive turn-off. I assume it's the same for them.
Same. I don’t go out to bars every weekend so why would I want a girl who obviously does? Lol
@Town Crazy I think you like nice teeth
That screams alcoholic so yea
Lmao you're boring then
@@tatestockwell ↩️
I have one suggestion when it comes to choosing prompts and it has helped me out. Since you have to pick 3 prompts, choose one that is focused on the following three categories. One about you, one that focuses on the "us", and lastly one that focuses on her.
I'd like to add something as well.
-Put what you're bringing to the table instead of what you're looking for. E.g. I make incredible pancakes.
-Add something funny that happened to you. Share a once-sentence anecdote.
I've made a video on these.
@@IEVAKambarovaite Good tip!
THANK YOU. It’s so nice in TH-cam or life when you see someone who is honest and gives good criticism. This so easily could’ve been “this profile is great! Honestly all your photos are good this one is a bit weird but it works! “ just thank you for telling these guys this photo does not work and here’s why.
Wow Courtney this is a great series! Please do more of these in the future as there is sooo much use case behind something like this. Love your content
As a man… me and my male friends have never ever not once taken pictures of each other or ourselves. Closest thing to anything like that is our wives or girlfriends taking a few pictures and even then when the guys are together we are usually doing something silly and non-flattering
So true, I’m fresh out of a relationship and hardly have any solo photos
The dating apps themselves are set against you to put you in the position to pay money. It's not that you're ugly and tons of women are ignoring you, they just aren't seeing you. Compared to them, you're simply ranked behind everyone else in the queue. This is by design. Who knows how shallow the algorithm is when it comes to ranking you.
I'll tell you why guys post a picture of themselves holding a fish. Because in many cases that's the only picture they have of themselves taken by somebody else!
When I started a dating profile I realized I had absolutely no pictures of myeself on my phone. Why would I? I don't fish, so now I'm stuck taking selfies or putting together some kind fake photoshoot, which is not how most guys want to behave.
I think it's a great idea for you to pretend to be a guy on dating apps. A lot of women make assumptions on how it is for men and it's quite difficult.
I used to pull hotties back in the day when I was in college because it was so easy, then got married for six years, now I’m 30 and divorced and depressed about my relationship life and these apps are so awkward and weird.
@@SophisticatedDogCat Head up king, you’re the prize
@@amoongsoos Appreciate it. 🙌 Back at you. 💪
@@SophisticatedDogCatI hope ur feeling better bro
I'd really like to see a vid of you trying dating sites as a guy. I'm betting it would be an eye opener.
Especially an unattractive guy, not some hunk who looks like a young Brad Pitt. Us 5's and lower got it tough, VERY tough!
Totally agree on the pics with alcohol. I ended up dating a guy who had a drinking/gambling problem and looking back the majority of his pics were in a bar.
Bars kinda suck lol if I’m gonna drink, I’d rather just chill with friends at home or something
Who would have right that...
As someone who will soon take the (somewhat daunting) step of getting back on dating apps/sites, this video is so helpful! Given me a great photo strategy. All your videos are super helpful. Thank you, all the way from the UK!
Great photos are SUPER important on apps like Tinder
You really need to find male advice. Too many women are cashing in on the sheer numbers of blue pilled guys. No offense to Courtney but if you haven't already, start with content like Rollo Tomassi or even CGA. After that as the foundation, you would have clearer vision of "modern dating" and modern women. It will make it much easier to properly analyze content like Courtney's or like those "dating guru" guys sporting button down shirts and nice guy smiles.
Simps gonna simp.
Simp
As a woman, I would actually advise against having group pictures in your profile. It’s happened that, as I was swiping, I came across a cute guy, but the other guy in his group picture was way cuter, and I was thinking "Damn, is THAT guy single?" You don’t what this to happen to you, so I would recommend pictures of yourself only, keeping in mind Courtney’s tips. Great video Courtney, as usual! 👌🏼
Would a woman go as far as still matching with you to attempt to get to my friends?
@@navit3ch I've never done that, because I find it's kind of messed up, but maybe some women would 🤷♀️
I think that's a problem with you then, if whether you like them or not if contingent on if someone looks better to you.
I will put group photo with uglier people, got it. Cheerleader effect :D
Lmao, what if wrong with you insane women.
You all act like your god gift to men yet on average your 5'3 and 166 pounds. AHAHAHAHAHABA
When I'm out with friends or doing someone I enjoy, generally the last thing on my mind is taking a picture of it. If a girl is going to judge me because I took a picture of myself, she's probably not worth my time anyway.
Yeah I do the same, but on dating apps girls judge on how you look on a photo, same as we do to them. It just makes you look better to have photos taken from you. This kinda bullshit is one of the reasons I dislike dating apps.
@@danethenice I mean yeah but also not my problem. Her loss. Changing how you live to impress someone in that way is a bad start to any relationship.
Thanks for the feature, Courtney! Yes, I did take that first picture myself. 😂 Second, I’ll take your advice and take down the second picture off of my profile. Thanks for being honest!!
Which person were you?
Courtney!! Thank you sooo much for reacting to my Bumble profile! I wanted to explain what reggaetón and trap music is! Basically it's the most popular music genre there is right now in Latin America. But it is extremely vulgar and definitely not my type of music hahaha! That is the two truths and a lie section in my profile obviously that is the false one! Your feedback has been wonderful! Thank you!
Oooooh it makes sense now! Thank you, my friend and thanks for participating! Love your profile!
@@CourtneyRyan To expand on it a little more, Reggaeton is an urban style of Latin music that originated in Puerto Rico. Daddy Yankee popularized it with "Gasolina" almost 20 years ago. Latin trap music is newer on the scene
Would you ever do another video like this? I (and hopefully other guys) definitely would want to hear more perspectives, especially from the ladies you bring on to your channel.
Yes absolutely! I have the second part of this video planned to go out in a week or 2 😊 and I’ll definitely do more in the future!
@@CourtneyRyan Sweet Courtney, I will keep an eye out for this. Btw, I never used Hinge, i heard rumour is it actually better than Tinder? I used Bumble and Badoo ....they are good and on Badoo I did get a few matches but I didn't really find it all that interesting. Tinder, with which I got up to 15 matches, I hadn't used for like close to a year cuz I decided to hold off until I got some better quality pics from a pro photographer but just wondering if Hinge is any good? Thanks!
Oh and btw, if I can get your amazing advice? Can I take a picture with me and one or two of my platonic female friends if I were to cross out the face? Some people say yes and some others advise against it...which leaves me to be quite confused? Not sure if it is a good idea but with me and my dog or me and my cousins step son who sees me like a brother almost, yes absolutely. I would love to hear what Courtney advises?
Bro nobody cares what these women thinks about photos...They going off pictures instead of hearts and mindsets bro! They turn down good men off pictures not knowing the man making big bucks (facts) they loss not yours..it's like 3-4 billion women in the world stay focus on god and yourself eventually the best woman will choose you.
i wish this would help but i live in a college town, plus they have a frat and a sorority, knowing colleges have their own dating ecosystem, its pretty hard on dating apps, even with all these good tips, cant get passed most women since most of them want sex, which i dont really care for, its nice but not my focus.
Girl here- Dont expect girls to match you if you say looking for friends in your bio. This is a dating app and most women aren’t looking for friends on these apps. You can replace that with “looking to date and see where things go”. That way it still keeps it casual if you don’t want to come off too strong, but it makes it clear you’re looking to date.
Thank you!
That’s a good one. A lot of guys think because half of the women’s profiles say that they think it’s the best option. Listen to her fellas.
I don’t think any guys saying that
Yet loads of women say the same thing in their bio
@@chucknorris2726 ikr
What I don't understand about Tinder (and most dating apps) is if women swipe right on you and you match, how come they don't respond when you write them a first message? I mean if you're not interested in a guy, don't give him the false hope of swiping right on him and possibly matching with him. Women should just swipe left if they don't want to respond to the guy they match with. I get my hopes up when I match with a pretty girl and then when she doesn't respond, that's a total downer. Sure, I move on because there's nothing I can do but seriously ladies...WTF!
Because they can swipe right a bunch of times and then just see who they like the most after isn't that obvious
There are only 2 rules to online dating!
Rule #1: Be attractive.
Rule #2: Don't be unattractive.
:P All jokes aside, great video, Courtney!
Don't use dating apps. It's a waste of time. If you can't meet a woman in person to date, don't bother. Just focus on bettering yourself. If you've improved yourself as much as you think you need/want, don't pursue women. Just focus on yourself and your purpose.
Is this because woman prefer men that are "further along in life"? Where is this data coming from? As far as focusing on yourself and purpose? This just sounds like "hey just work out and stay in your career" type of advice saying that women only want a man who has a good career and is fit?
Did I misunderstand your comment?
@@navit3ch I know this is late but essentially yea. No woman from 18 to her early 20s is going to swipe on some guy 18 to his early 20s unless you’re very attractive/living an appealing lifestyle. You’re gonna have far better chances being like 24+, outside of college, having some kind of stable job/income, living alone, etc.
@@vallano8970 better late than never lol. So I've been watching a lot of Fresh and Fit and I found a ton of answers to questions I didn't even realize I had 😅. Dating is nothing close to how I remember it a shit ton of rules were added on while others were disregarded. It's all fine I'm just shocked at the change lol.
@@navit3ch Yea online dating, in particular, has just become an even more shallow environment, and especially when it comes to apps like tinder I'd venture to say most women use it just for attention without the intention of smth more. As for F&F, I'd just advise you to be careful. I've seen some of their stuff like "not caring about a woman's orgasm" or generalizing all men and women which is ridiculous. They're going to have unique experiences living in Miami which is where people go to fuck around so keep that in mind.
@@vallano8970 lmfao I literally in Miami. It's actually everyone else that comes here to fuck that gives us the bad reputation haha. I have friends who's entire job is find people from out of state who have no idea where to go in Miami and take them to where he's paid to go to. Then use social media to bring locals to wherever the outsiders are heading to. It's pretty hilarious how predictable it is.
FNF like to talk a lot of shit to trigger people which is a nice change actually. That entire bit about women's orgasms is taken out of context. Myron's only point about that was the biological process of making a child. Technically his logic works both ways, a man's orgasm isn't required either along with a woman's lol. We can extract both an egg and a sperm from any 2 humans and place it into a 3rd person to handle the pregnancy lol no risk or orgasm required.
FNF bring up old success methods of dating and translates that what women declare they want from men. It's actually pretty easy. Have some money so your family don't have to suffer being poor because no one likes being poor. Stay in shape, mostly for your own health so that you can live a long and happy life. Develop something unique to you, could be a life goal or skill like being an porfessional athlete or learning to play a certain type of music. Could even be a unique set of things to do in life like a bucket list.
This is all they really preach, everything else is just shit talking for views. Myron is Muslim so his view points are going to be triggering from the start so it's really entertaining to see women who haven't dating Muslim men figure out what that's like. Fresh is a millionaire so a lot of his own opinions are going to be unique to him since there isn't very many millionaires to begin with. Watching fnf just like this channel actually haha I just realized we're not on a FNF comment section. But just like this channel pulling any data from these clips has to be ran through a verification process in your own life. That's what I'm doing at least because there's so much information out there it's hard to tell what is real and what isn't.
Honestly, the best advice ... DUMP the dating apps 😎!!! This is the lazy way to meet someone and only leads to a ton of frustration (particularly from a guy's perspective). Go out into "the wild" and real possibilities will dramatically improve 🕺💃!!!
I'm a female and these tips are PERFECT. I will be utilizing them when creating my dating profiles. Thanks love!
Let’s just be real. Online dating is for good looking people. You can take 100 “good” pictures, but if you weren’t blessed with looks then you’re at a major disadvantage. For average looking men I’d be best to just get a social circle and meet women through it.
If you're going to be a guy then please do it on multiple platforms with 2 different profiles. Make everything the same except swap out the pics, do one profile with a really good looking pic & another with a completely average looking guy & I bet you'll get WILDLY different results.
Love these types of videos courtney! How would you go about submitting a profile for a future video?
Just found out this channel. She is so chill, I love it. Definitely subscribing.
i remember i found online dating incredibly easy, because i read a lot of other guys profiles to get a sense of competition was doing. I am by no stretch a good looking guy and i ended up meeting my wife online.
No offense, but chances are you look a lot better than you think you do. You'd probably be the first guy in existence who thinks online dating is easy while he's not a good looking guy.
This. Tinder can definitely be hacked and gamified. This was also why I stopped, it got too addicting.
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I had a work accident at the start of the year where I lost most of the fingers on my right hand.
I’m now looking at getting back into the dating scene would you advise that I put that in my dating profile to get it out there straight off the bat?
No. You've got a cracking story for the first date though.
Sorry to hear that. Maybe make a joke about it 😅 I think girls would react well to that
Enjoyed the tips you gave, really helpful. Please do more of these!
Can u address to not have pictures with any girls? Because no girl will match them if they with another female.
“So again you want to pay attention to angle” lolllllll the fact that you keep things professional and didn’t roast some of these pictures just proves your awesome and wifey material
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Great video Courtney, I will add one thing I was never able to get good photos from a tripod or someone taking them so I had them done by a pro photographer and huge difference just put them up a few days ago and seeing more reaction already. Thanks again for your tips and help !!
Yeah I’d feel a little odd take a photo of myself out and about with a tripod setup. It’s just not something guys do. I should probably try the photographer route
Yep. Pro photos are a game changer for many guys. Imma do it myself soon
Curious to hear what results you getting
This video was extremely helpful. I totally changed my profile while watching this. Thank you
The recommendations and examples were very helpful. - Very much appreciated. 🙏
it’s designed like that on purpose. The apps know how female psychology works so they intentionally design it so women get pickier than they normally would be. (Even more so than usual). It relies entirely on looks and usually on quick hook ups which isn’t good for developing relationships. People meet you and leave before they can develop any feelings. Because their under the impression love is supposed to happen instantly after meeting you. The reality is love develops with time. On tinder People meet. They smash and then they leave. It’s great for hot guys, but ultimately cheats most men and women of actually getting anything, but long term psychological dis satisfaction from using the apps. Even the best apps make it extremely hard for most men. Because there is no motivation for having a good personality. Just who has the best looks.
If anything online dating incourages men to simp or act like a cheating player. While turning women into dopamine (obsessed) seeking, greedy, and self centered individuals.
If you put up a group photo, you better be the best looking person in the group.
Very helpful video and I will probably re-tool my dating profile this weekend!
I get that photos OF you look more natural but I still dont understand why selfies are such no nos? Sometimes its just the best photo I have of myself. I see women use their selfies all the time I dont get what the difference is!? Next time Im out with my mates I guess ill try have them take a good photo of me but you bet your ass it might feel embarassing to ask them... I really appreciate all your kind advice on this video though! it does help
Selfies aren't the worst but you can show off more of the background and your body with photos taken by someone else/tripod
Good morning, Courtney. Your videos are amazing. Thanks again for the wisdom. By the way, anybody seen that fly flew by Courtney?
That fly was driving me nuts! 😂
I did not even see it
Started online dating a few months ago and was pretty shocked at the lack of likes. I film for celebrities, in shape, never been married, and don’t have kids so if I can’t get a date who the heck are these woman going for?
Been wondering this for years
Hahahahahahshaha, the way you pronounced reggaeton really cracked me up! I had to go back and replay that part, no offense but it really gave me a great laugh! I love and appreciate all you do Courtney, God bless you!
Hey Courtney! What are your thoughts using pro photos for casting or buisness! Does it come across as try hard?
I don’t know why I hadn’t thought about using a tripod to take selfie’s for dating apps. Im not good at taking selfie’s and asking my friends to take pictures of me is awkward, especially if they know it’s for a dating site. I think that most men think that if you are using a dating app, it must mean you are bad at getting women. Which might be true in some cases but isn’t always the case.
Self timer is a game changer for this reason!
As a girl I just can't get over the fact how guys are ansupportive to eachother. It is sno frustrating to me. A good friend shouldn't judge you but support and help on your journey. You deserve better friends Red!
@@AxelShepard your opinion is coming from girls perspective. No heterosexual man is going to ask fashion or dating advice from a guy friend. Last 3 friends I asked were ages 28-34 and 50. There replies for too younger ones were I would F you. Older dude was I hope you get laid. I guarantee you whoever took their pics was a x , a possible girl that is friend or their mom unless it was a group pic. If guy does help and take a pic. He is going to put minimal thought and effort into it. Actually last time I asked buddy to take pics. They came out horrible. He got a great one of my crotch. 🤣
@@Brett7777 Yeah! And that's terrible! Being heterosexual man shouldn't automatucly mean that someon is rude and unsupportive.
If someone can't be just kind as a human being to another human being because he might bee seen as nonhetero than it's just... I don't wont to live on this planet anymore 😅
If being kind is a gay trait than it means than is Keanu Reeves gay?😂
Besides what happend with magical spell "no homo" wen a guy says something kind to another guy? XD
I take all my pics, on my tripod. It’s a game changer. I don’t bother anyone, I do it all by myself lol. Only thing, is getting by the anxiety, of people looking at you when taking your pics lol.
Dating apps are a colossal waste of time and money. I tried it this year and immediately stopped a month later. Too many fake profiles or scams being run on the site.
Hahah I've heard it's even at a stage where alot of the " profiles " are just women advertising their only fans
Thanks for the advice, it’s very helpful. Also, Courtney, wow! You are ethereal!
Dating apps are basically for trash tier people. Even if you beat the odds, jump through all the hoops and BS, the chemistry probably still won't match. It's an exhausting lottery not worth playing.
I love your idea of posing as a male looking for girls on tinder. I have zero matches, ran out of people in my area in two different states now. I think it would be very interesting. It's hard out here
"looks cute in this photo" while a public toilet is right next to him. :D
The thing I hate about dating apps is people do swipe on me but they don’t bother to message back and it gets people’s hopes up. I don’t have anybody to help me take a good picture of myself
Same here.
The group photos is very annoying. The amount of girls I have seen on Tinder with group pictures or a picture with someone else as their first photo or multiple is annoying. I’m not trying to play Blue’s Clues and figure out which one you are until the fourth or fifth picture.
Well women think a man should be smart enough to pick her out of a group photo esp if she has a photo of just herself on her profile..
@@johnnythekid4601 But with profiles with just strictly group photos, okay then.
Men, do not take photos from a low angle. Most of you may not realise it, but looking at pictures from that angle, fills like i'm on you crouch level looking up at you. No woman wants that, the first time they lay eyes on you .
Have 4-6 photos guys.
Headshot, full-body, doing an activity, group of friends, cute animal and physique or training pic.
Use good lighting.
Avoid selfies, put your phone on a tripod.
For the love of God, do not be in your car or bed.
Don't pose, try to be as natural as possible, DO NOT make stupid faces or overdo the smile.
Don't have pictures with girls, the assumption will be she's your girlfriend, wife or you're looking for a 3rd.
Always avoid having children in your profile pics.
Comb and clean up your damn hair.
Don't use emojis in your bio, keep it short, use humor.
Women generally don't care about your bio, they'll usually read it after you match.
Hi hi!! If you do a profile as a guy, please make sure you check different zip codes. Please don't only check cities, but more rural and less densely populated areas. There's not a lot of options unless you're willing to drive 40+ miles. Thanks you and keep up the awesome work
Love your videos Courtney!
Happy Autumn Courtney 🍃🍂🍁💋
However I don't use dating apps, but I gotta admit it Courtney; you are doing a great job helping - us - guys to make our dating life easier. So thanks.
This makes me so happy! ❤️
My friends started using dating apps and boy do some men need advice on how to take selfies. I've seen some just show their side profiles while wearing sunglasses in every pic and not much info so it was hard to tell who he was or how he looked like. I would gladly take their pics to improve their chances because all they needed were better angles
Thanks Courtney!😁
I never used dating before bc I thought it was silly and only for hookups but you change my mind I may do it
cant really say that taking mirror selfies or selfies in general is bad when girls have the same type of pictures
Courtney doesn't know what reggaetón is, she is too pure for this world. 🥺❤
And innocent
Too white
Great video, I loved the way you pronounced reggaeton! Now I can’t image how you try to pronounce when I message you in Portuguese sometimes!
Is it true if there's no photo's with teeth showing a girl will assume you don't have any?
Please guys, do take notes on the photo tips! I cannot believe how many of you don't even bother in the slightest, and you'd literally tripple your matches if you only used decent pictures. Don't hide your face, don't look silly on every photo, don't look away completely, etc. No need to be a model, but I need to be able to tell how you look like.
Also, I get awfully annoyed by those who don't bother to write anything in bio. Yes, photos will make it or break it, but when you get my attention, I'll want to get a hint of your character. I have swiped past handsome guys, only because the message I got was ''I'm good looking, I don't need a personality''. That could be far from the truth, but it's exactly why I'm pointing this out. Pro tip: avoid cliche copy-paste catch phrases. Good luck!
Triple of 0 is still 0, at least the way I learned how to do math :(
Chad can take a selfie at a shower, laugh, cry, dress as mistress and still gets dates.
@@ibracadabra180 are you a Chad? If not you'll have to more. It is what it is.
@@danethenice the cold truth people are afraid to hear. It's so bs that you have people litteraly born to be goodlooking, no merit or whatsoever.
Triple 🤣🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣🤣
Why make a fake guy acc, just have your boyfriend re-download the dating app and compare how many matches he gets vs you to show the disparity between girls and guys
That would be a good idea - they should really be as equivalent as possible given that they matched for real.
Courtney has no idea how rare and special those pappy van winkle bottles are. That's not just any type of alcohol that's like taking a picture in front of a monument
15:00 I'm in the UK and I believe thats a dating show he was featured in. So he's pretty lucky to be showing it off.
I’ve given up on apps, I’d rather just deal with my social anxiety.
My advice is to have an interesting bio never the less. I am a girl who reads it and gat really frustrated when there is nice photo but no reasone to talk to a person.
Second thing... my Gosh... say something interesting. I know I'm weird but wather a guy likes me or not I am the one who makes most of the talking and my conclusions are "Yeha, I had a very nice conversation with my self.... but I have no Idea who is the guy I am talking to."
And yeah... I really agree that sucks for guys on dating apps at getting maches but... I get a lot of likes from people who just swipe not even looking on the screen... and I rearly get maches. And even if i do... there are almost no messages.
Wish we all hahe more luck out there :)
Thank you for sharing this. I actually put a lot of time and thought into writing my bio. It was more of an exercise of discovery: where am I at my life currently, what do I desire, what do I desire in a woman. I’m surprised to hear / see that no bios with meaningful depth such as mine where highlighted. I’m not in my twenties though.
@NimaA What? 😂 I culdn't care less about those gigachads. They are mostly boring as f***. I don't even give them likes because I know there is like 0% chance that the conversation is going to be interesting. I do 't have time for people who bring only muscles and handsome face to the table.
@NimaA I can't speak in the name of every woman. In fact I find it very difficult to relate to women and when I hear the redpill guys I' m like: what? So there really are girls like that? To be with someone just because someone is handsome?
But... It doesn't mean I don't look at apearnece. In my expirence the belowe average guys to whom I've given a chance were super insecure and not that interesting as well. I rejectet those belowe and the everage guys for the same reason- I couldn't find anything interesting about them. The difference was that those of normal confidence were like "ok, no problem" and those below were like "you don't like me because Im ugly." "Your shallow." Or "You played me".
I mean like wtf? Why should I give chances to guys who will make me fill like a monster? I honestly felt sorry for those guys till they started to attack me. Come on! I've learnt on my expirence and now I rearly give likes to anyone.
So the moral is- the fact that someone is ugly doesn't mean automaticlally beautifull on the inside. And it goes the other way arou d. Handsome guy doesn't have to be a dick.
But it's so easy to generalise and say- that the oposite gender is shallow.
Sorry if i bucher english. I'm not a natove speaker.
@NimaA I'm from Poland.
I know. Its actually impossible to show personality when You don't get the mach. But but there is a place in bio to write something interesting.
I'm into fantasy writting and if I se someone not very attractive but with simmilar interests I give a like.
I date to find a long relationship partner so I can't imagine being with someone who doesn't sher my enthusiasm for the same topic as I do. I need simmilar way of creative thinking, simmilar humor and need of being creative in my partner in order to be happy with him. So when I talk with someone and they give my dry informations about they'r work as a programmer (Idk why I alvays mach with informatics xD) I yawn and don't feel like talking to them again 🤷♀️
And sometimes I can feel this "dry energy" by just reading a bio that says "I'm jus a normal guy... Bla bla bla"
As a weirdo for my entaire life I wont someone who would understen me not only intelectually but also emotinally.
In my expirence there aren't many guys like that out there... Or when I find someone close the turn out to be atheists (I m Christian) or antyvaxer (I'm a med student) so it's like- no I can't go with that.
@NimaA I have a question. Why do guys don't write bios? Aspecially when they are not fisically attractive? When I see this kind of profile i wonder "what is the strategy behind this?"
If you dont count the women on dating apps that are: overweight, single moms, or instagram models on someones boat the ratio of normal guys to normal girls has got to be 20:1 or worse.
thanks for the solid advice! also love your black and beige top! 👏
This girl who I see at the gym everyday matched on Tinder. I really didn’t know it was her until we matched and then I felt awkward even though I always though she’s very attractive. She has also constantly looking and smiling at me BUT after I sent a message her a message she hasn’t responded. Talk about awkward !! Guess some good news is that she swiped right and also didn’t unlatch us . Haven’t seen her at the gym in a wk lol
How is it going?
@@rogier195 I feel like she's not gonna come back chief..
@@Jason-cl6yp she came back and stares at me and always smiling but I will not make a move unless she messages me on Tinder. Call me a p***y but not trying to be banned from the gym if she’s playing games
@@alexspicer6043smart man that woman is playing games in my opinion what I would have done is ignore her woman nowadays get too comfortable with false accusations if you know what I mean by that it's not worth it bro
YES plz make a vid when u pretend to be a man on Tinder and make it a 1 week observation documentary type of vid cause girls r bid on one word replies
So there is a good image of me smiling and laughing (which is rare to catch a good one) but the only people in frame are me and a female friend, that would be a bad picture to use for a profile right?
Yay long arms for selfies that look less like selfies 😂
I gotta make my bios shorter...although they DO say I'm a writer and I'm loquacious so 🤷 😅
My biggest note for women is actually have a freaking bio! I know women critique ours like you did quite a bit. Some women are way judgmental and quick to swipe left too, but those women lack a dang bio anyway for any initial specific chat approach to be possible beyond pics. My word of the month seems to be reciprocity, but again, it's a thing modern women need to learn and practice.
I love how perfect our photos have to be to get matches... Can't girls just like, y'know, accept that we're not all photographers and give us a go?😂
Never gonna happen, women are way too picky because they have literally hundreds, if not thousands of matches to filter though. Men should avoid dating apps
u say that but guys only go for the hot girls smhhh
@@ArtIsDrawing Not really, I disagree
you're competing bro, anything that helps just do it
@@brettlessard2532 Trust me, i've tried all of her advice. No luck...
Also i feel like if youre even moderately handsome/muscular, all you have to do is put “6’[X]” and leave it at that. Maybe have a picture of you with another woman for pre-selection
Love your vids Courtney. We all appreciate your dedication to helping us🤠
There are still 40 dudes for every chick. Remember that as it's tough to get swiped. Women get +100 replies a day if she is pretty
Am 6'4 and lift 6x a week
Can confirm this is not the case.
I know I could have better pics, but simply being tall doesn't = a flooded inbox. It certainly helps in real life but the whole be 6ft earn 6 figures and you're set online is a bunch of bs.
It really isnt that simple. I am 6ft tall and i have a six pack (the six pack pic is third or fourth on my profile though, not the first one, i'm trying to meet decent people and not the thirsty ones). Matches do come from time to time, but they sure as hell dont come easy. Dating apps are seriously skewed against men no matter what, unless you are ridiculously good looking
@@RideTheTrack I’m a 6’4 rower (very broad shoulders), full head of dark hair and I get a few matches a day on Tinder, I am quite picky who I swipe on however. On Bumble you can put your height in a searchable filter for the ladies and I get 10x the matches on the identical profile- lesson of the story, if you are blessed with being tall don’t use Tinder, use Bumble and make it work for you. If you are short stick to Tinder as your Bumble profile is probably just being filtered out. Also don’t put topless pics in your profile, you have to be more crafty than that, a tight top in a good action pose that implies your have a 6 pack is WAY more effective. Good luck 🤞
Thanks for this Courtney it helped alot
Do you as a woman recommend that a man wears a pink shirt for a profile picture? I'm perfectly comfortable wearing pink, as I do so every Wednesday. Yes, it's because of Mean Girls. Would you advise against it or for it? Please give me your honest opinion. Thank you.
Lol, if it's a good looking piece of pink and suits you then why not?
Women like this get hundreds of thousands of responses. They do not understand what it is like to be a guy whose desire is to find a cute girl and then meet her and see if she is also someone with behavior and beliefs with which he is comfortable. But all the cute girls are always really unavailable already.
Shout out to Alex for that Pappy bottle flex photo!
Yeah I think the context is probably missing. Those are EXPENSIVE bottles. lol
I never go online I do this stuff in real life, but you're just pointing out a lot of stuff that doesn't matter, people are not how they appear to be on the internet anyway. And you don't want a man to have a lot of friends, a lot of friends=a lot of options, unless you just want him for a short period of time.
I LOVE your taste in fashion! 😍
I think the idea of you making a mans profile would be really interesting and could make a good video
I think your chances of standing out in a woman’s life are much greater if you approach. Especially hot girls.
Think about it, guys don’t approach that often anymore and they especially don’t approach hot girls cause they’re stereotyped as more bitchy (not a coincidental trend lol).
If you’re just another dude in her messages on IG, Tinder, Bumble, or Hinge then you’re just another option to her. Plus you didn’t have to lift a finger to earn having a high quality girl in your life…
Approaching can be scary, but it’s also a huge confidence booster. You also get all 3 forms of communication (voice tonality, body language, and actual words), so you’re more likely to have a good interaction.
That's true, i actually find it more easier and less stressful to talk to girls in person than online. Which is surprising to me cuz i was soo shy when i was younger 😄. Now if I'm in close proximity with a woman i find attractive; ill just ask her how her day is going and make a lighthearted compliment to brighten up her day. Then i just go off how she responds to that. It may be scary to some guys but practicing small talk can do wonders for your confidence.
10O% correct. Words,Tone and Body Language are Lyrics, Music and Dance. If you can use all three to project confidence in a real life approach you can spike her attraction WAY higher than possible with a dry old text. Plus you are evaluating her also for looks, vibe and behaviors.
Of course some loser will now come say that you’ll get #metoo’d nowadays for IRL approach……🤪
It’s also why you should phone a girl instead of calling where possible. Tone is really important in conversation. Plus you get a spontaneous response from her that you can use to gauge her attraction much quicker when you ask for that date. Which is why you are calling her anyway. No idle chit chat!
The dual color cloth is so intriguing
This was honestly helpful. Thanks