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This advice misses the key detail that you have to pay attention to how the other person responds to your advances. Understanding when to escalate and when to pull back is the real trick that nearly all dating coaches miss. When they say "be yourself" they mean be your best self who's easy going and just generally fun to be around. When you're in the vibe of just enjoying life that's when you're also most enjoyable to be around. And don't sweat being a little awkward, that shit is adorable as hell and most people understand.
You bring up a very good point! It's important to pay attention to the other person to see how they react to our behavior. In your experience, what is the best way to learn how to "be yourself" and relax so that you're in the vibe of enjoying life?
@@Psych2go I just wanna butt in here XD but to me, it's knowing that whoever will like me for who I am are the best people to be with while those who don't aren't the best to be with. With that said, I can just be who I am knowing that I will eventually bring in the people who will like me for me
Says who? Why is fear of rejection such a bad thing anyways? Ever think that maybe we have fear of rejection for a reason? Maybe the person that you are infatuated with isn't actually right for you and that is what fear of rejection is telling you.
@@mrsticky005 if you like to be rejected you also like to be hurt. The more you like a person the more is the fear of being rejected, so it's not like you say, fkin j*rk.
I clicked on this video because: 1: the topic is something I am lacking on 2: I have a crush rn 3: I know how her microphone and voice sound. Extremely satisfying.
I clicked on this video because: 1: I have a crush too. 2: I wanna help people in the comments too. 3: I dont wanna make dumb and awkward mistakes in life.
1. Have a crush 2. My friends are trying to get us together 3. I'm the only person he has spoken to abt his past 4. Bitch I love him 5. I love flirting with him for no reason
1. Stand with your back straight and shoulders back. 2. Glance around the room confidently as if you know everyone there. Don't be afraid to make eye contact with a handful of people and even give them a quick smile. 3. Keep direct eye contact with your crush when talking to them. 4. Nod and lightly smile when they talk to you (don't overdo the smiling) do more of a smirk rather 5. Give them one small compliment like liking that color on them, or liking their new haircut. 6. AFTER complimenting them, bring attention to something about yourself too like saying "I found that this haircut works best for me" or "This color is what suits me best" 7. Don't be afraid to make a joke or 2 at your own expense (this will open up the floor to teasing & sharing embarassing stories) 8. Once the floor is open to teasing each other, you can pretty much joke about everything
@@markh.6687 I know that feeling damn well my friend... But if I really like someone i won't give up until there is nothing more I can do, until I have no choice but to give up or it is completely pointless to go any further. I just don't like the idea of me not giving my best to obtain what I want. But it doesn't matter what you do, you will most likely get hurt as finding that ONE person is a hell of a difficult task...
✨ Timestamps and Major Points ✨ 1. 0:59 Flirtatious Facial Expressions 2. 1:26 Smile Slowly 3. 1:55 Brief Glances 4. 2:22 Feather Light Touch 5. 2:54 Mind Your Appearance 6. 3:28 Tickle Their Funny Bone 7. 4:00 Be More Yourself 4:36 Outro/Summary Remember that you don't need to change for someone to like you! Don't change who you really are just so that one person you like can like you back. They should like you for who you really are. Don't get lost in the love and be true to yourself. Only change if it's for your own self-improvement. Also, most importantly, even if that one person doesn't like you back, don't be sad! I know firsthand it sucks, but you must be strong. Even if you think there's no way you can get over them, know that one day there will be someone you will love with all your heart and they will love you back with all their heart, too. One day you will find the one! Don't lose hope! Love always finds its way.
Being yourself is pretty damn important, but if "yourself" is someone who is not very agreeable or not easy to get along with, then you should realistically try to improve on how you act, or put on a facade.
@Pan Kaszkieciorz Being yourself is what you have and not what you think is the best way to be not another version of someone because you not trying to imitate any body you will not be or get disappointed once you not meet the expectation.
I think change is ok as long as it's for my own development and not just for pleasing someone else and matching their standard. For each has their own faith. If someone didn't like me, then it's just they didn't choose me and that's all. There will be somebody else for me for sure. Move on.
I think it’s important to flirt without the intention to flirt or expectation to where it will get to. Coz the process is like getting to know a friend and we act very naturally when showing interest to a person as a friend than a crush. So I just keep telling myself I would like to know this person better as if I want to be a closer friend with them. And have fun with them!
Beyond cope this one. You can do whatever you want in your life (even k1lL), but your reproductive/romantic sucess will still be dictated by, or have these as necessary components: physical looks, neurology and resources.
I think it takes a real heart to see you for how you wanna be seen. Rejection will happen to u because the ones you want can't see you so it hurts u. When someone loves you they prove it to you. When someone wants you they prove it to you. You dont feel like yull fond the one now, but remember that feeling your feeling is only for a time and place in your life. Eventually the right one will show up in your life.
@@classysubliminals4121 Haha I appreciate your concern but you know I feel this a real social issue nowdays, like.. Chad: Looking good Susan Women: Aw, you're sweat Average Joe: Looking good Susan Women: Hello human resources
In a similar-ish boat. I don't know if the woman who catches my eye has been dealing with unwarranted male attention all day, so I err on the side of caution and leave her alone. It's not worth risking potentially pushing someone to their breaking point and causing an incident.
I think if you U know deep down someone's gonna reject you or if you simply just k ow that your gonna be rejected then that person is not the one for you. When someone actually likes you they will show their interest in you, they will chase you and confess to you little by little or a lot. That's the difference between someone wanting you and someone not wanting you at all. It's that simple :) I'm speaking from experience btw
@@jamtrap_edits haha exact same here, I really do believe that if you’re right for each other then showing interest kind of abruptly won’t ruin it. The right person is hard to scare away.
I think me and an old friend did all of these unknowingly (to me at least) last year but what I needed the most from this was the last part, being at ease with myself and having fun. I failed the friendship because of the lack of that back then and it became stressful for both of us. It's one of my worst regrets not being able to keep our friendship, which is why I've worked so hard on myself with my therapist to never lose a relationship like that again. And now, I'm reaching out to her again soon, after finals, to at least try to be on better terms. I'm doubtful much will happen, but I need to at least try! I can't just do nothing when I've lost a friend like her, even if it's been a year
@@starbangles3252 Thank you! I didn't really expect people to actually read let alone reply to this lmao... But it's comforting to hear other people support me, so really, thank you again!
Make sure you never lose sight of the real goal, to improve yourself for yourself. Doing it for someone else or to get someone else can lead to a huge backfire if what you want in your heart of hearts doesn't pan out. I wish you luck on mastering your own heart ♥️
@@MetalSolidCrisis TRUE, even though I'd like to be friends with her, she isn't the end all be all. There are many people in the world who can be just as great of a friend 💯
Timestamps 1). Flirtatious facial expressions 0:57 2). Smile slowly 1:24 3). Brief glances 1:53 4). Feather light touch 2:22 5). Mind your appearance 2:53 6). Tickle their funny bone 3:28 7). Be more yourself 3:59 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I found it difficult to flirt. I am on the autism spectrum, though was only diagnosed at age 40, and when I was younger I used to get shamed for flirting even though I wasn’t aware I was doing it, so I grew up believing it was wrong (though I didn’t know why, perhaps because the people who shamed me never gave a reason). I would watch other boys/men flirting, often with women I liked, and I would feel frustrated and angry because I get like I had ended up in a position where I would always have to watch while others were successful and never know what it’s like. Then, as I got older, I found ways to get past whatever it was that was stopping me and started to try flirting with women. It was fun, and still is, and it doesn’t need to be toxic. I’ve had moderate success, because I managed to break out of the mindset others had raised me into. Now I find these kinds of videos indispensable, not least because they’ve helped me learn what it looks like when women are interested in me. Ordinary human desire should never be shamed. Society has a strange approach to desire, but so long as no-one’s being hurt there isn’t really any problem.
I am autistic too. I find it very hard to flirt because it’s all about how the person responds to flirting. You have to be able to tell how the other person feels in response to flirting and, with autism, it’s so hard to tell how others are feeling. I’m afraid I’ll ruin any chance I have at finding a girlfriend just because I’m autistic.
I’m autistic too, I never really knew how to flirt the right way and so I’d observe too and just think that some ways of other girls doing it was a little weird. But a little playful teasing came naturally to me when teasing but I’d try to cut it back because I didn’t want to come as offensive to the person I was talking to. Like for example my boyfriend hates carrots and I’d tease him about that here and there but not too much and he also loves ketchup on most things so a lot of people actually tease him about that so I would too. But I agree with what you’re saying about the observation of how to flirt right. I observe like everything that other people to so that I can come around as “normal” and not weird from another dimension type of person if you know what I mean. I mask a lot and I got diagnosed with autism a couple years ago and like it all makes sense now how they say I’d act as a kid and the way I think differently than others and can relate so much with other fellow autistics. Also I tend to make paragraphs out of no where for some reason but can’t write and English paper the irony am I right.
I'm curious about the autism ! How this have the possibility to make you feel not aware of flirt or any responses of someone not only in the flirt situation?@@baileyplayz1844
@@Psych2go I think i have sozial anxiety and i cant look in nobodys eyes longer than 2 seconds. At the Moment i have a crush on a Girl and my trick is also to look her on her nose or mouth. If i tried to look direktly into her eyes it was so difficlut for me... The Problem of these flirting Tips are that she is a Introvert and I dont see her often because she says that she meets her friends only a few times a month...
Being yourself really does most of the work for you. Chances are you'll make them laugh or smile just being yourself. Intimacy imo is harder because you have to know exactly what your partner enjoys versus things they dislike. There are women who don't like when you overdo flirting. It's just a matter of preference i suppose. I've never dated anyone, but I've been so connected to someone that she literally doesn't mind anything I do because she wants to enjoy my company. It's pretty sweet once you click with somebody.
@@Danny328DT surely it's amazing once you connect, no doubt! I have a few girls I'm very close to, but nothing beyond cuddles and kisses on the cheeks, honestly that makes me super happy already. The problems for the rest are crippling gender dysphoria, not having nearly enough trust in my social skills (that I am trying to develop but I guess scars from all those bullying years and... various events in my life are still in effect) and... just being super shy maybe. It's not a bad thing just that in the conventional sense of dating people should be confident... I think😅 Though I know I can show a lot of love and care once I get close to someone, at least that helps a bit I guess
@SparkOfCorn It all starts with working on the confidence. For me I just stop letting people bother me. Everytime someone said I was being too weird, I just didn't care because I made my friend smile. I don't need to change for anybody if I care for myself. I hope you can find something that makes you happy to be yourself.
It's difficult with anxious people to even look someone in the eye, maybe start with eye contact imo as a way of cueing the other person and apply a facial gesture to see if they are interested. Works for me in noisy places
Thank you for sharing! Great point about eye contact. I think the point you shared can be very helpful for people who may struggle with some of the more outgoing advice from the video. In your opinion, what other tips is great for people who struggle to make eye contact with others?
I would just like to say that if you are being subtle and they don’t take the hint, it doesn’t mean they aren’t interested in you. It means they’re completely oblivious. At that point, the best thing you can do is just say it outright. It doesn’t matter who they are, they can just not pick up the hint. I’m speaking from experience here. I’m a trans woman and APPARENTLY, my boyfriend was flirting with me before he outright said anything. Being oblivious to flirting isn’t something men and only men suffer from, unlike some people would claim. It happens to everyone. So just tell them if they don’t get the hint. People often will assume that you aren’t flirting with them because they’d rather look oblivious than like a creep.
It’s not even fear of rejection for me, I’m just naturally very sincere and straightforward. It literally doesn’t occur to me most of the time to be lighthearted, and joke or have fun. I’m not super serious or a downer, I’m friendly and nice, but I think I’m on the spectrum or something… I don’t even think to play around or banter with people. It feels like it holds me back socially, and like there’s a whole world of human connection that I’ve never experienced.
High five for the "I think I'm on the spectrum". 😶 All those attraction/flirt videos go on with step 1: Make eye contact. But that's just a one way ticket to a panic attack for me. I do notice when someone flirts with me, but I just freeze. Also the whole "touch" thing, it's incredible hard even when I'm 200% sure we both want to.
Yet another video that came at a good time for the story I'm writing! I'm trying to figure out how I'm going to write the interactions between two characters that eventually fall in love after being best friends for a while, and content like this will most definitely aid in my quest! :D
Gurl I wanna read this now if you are making this as a google doc could you click share and look at the 2nd column that says general access and you put anyone with link and link it here anyway this is just a request good luck with the story
@@01.618 Totally felt that! A tip I found helpful was to just jot ideas down. As long as you are writing something it will come together trust me! Even if you start from the middle. I have been polishing a story and changing it for over a year now and I am finally happy with it. It is absolutely nothing like how it first started! Good luck!!
On the opposite end of the spectrum, her voice infuriates me to the point of me wanting to throw this brick through my computer screen very badly. Although I would never! such a waste.
Can I ask sth? This dude glanced me time to time. I sometimes looked back and sometimes didn't. We have never talked each other lol. But we had many eye contacts. How can I know that someone has crush on me only with glances?
I honestly feel a "Lingering hand on their waist" is a little (or a lot) too creepy. If I was just like standing in line behind someone I liked... And I wanted to flirt with them... I think they'd get a restraining order against me if I just reached out and grabbed their waist. (Okay maybe a restraining order is an overexaggeration but you get the point)
@Kai Sälis It works good if you're in a party setting and things seem to be flowing well. You can invite them to dance and it should make you and the other person comfortable with touch. Sometimes outright asking to dance can work but it depends a whole lot more on their mood and whether they find your appearance attractive or not.
Same, I guess the only reasonable place to do it (if you are still in the "advancing" stage) is if you are in a crowd, and assuming there are a lot of people pushing by her, you can try to move her a bit by doing that lmfaooo
The slow smile thing is interesting. That resonates. But I guess it's more about knowing why you slow smile instead of just forcing it. But overall I feel like the main tips here are "be funny" and "be confident/secure" which, you know, is really hard for most people.
Very interesting point. It's always advisable to do what's natural instead of forcing yourself to do something. Do you have any experience with "smiling slowly" without meaning to and naturally?
@@Psych2go I'd rather smile and don't break eye contact. A slow smile can scare people away from looking at you. It's awfully intense. Not breaking eye contact has the same effect.
You don't have to be funny, especially because trying to force it never works out. Also I don't care if my partner is funny as long as they have a similar sense of humor.
Being funny is not easy as everybody perceives ''funny'' in a different way. Jokes are usually appreciated, but some might not find a joke funny others found hilarious. So I guess it's also about knowing and predicting the other person to decide how to really act.
This is interesting info! I find flirting extremely confusing because most of these social cues and body language feel very unnatural to me, and so I end up feeling very unauthentic and uncomfortable when I go out of my way to attempt to make particular expressions, touch others, read/communicate body language, etc. I’m definitely trying to learn, but I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place of “do the things that society says is how you do the thing” and “be authentic to my feelings even if it actively makes it significantly harder to connect”
@@ladyteebugluv Thanks for the reply! I guess I’m overthinking it and trying to be something I’m not. I don’t know what my unique way would be but I suppose the only way to find out is just do what comes natural like you say and try! Appreciate the advice.
Own that. I know it sounds cliche but make those strengths your weaknesses. Dont be afraid to tell that to strangers. Youll be surprised how many people relate and respect that you have the 🏀🏈 to actually speak what many try to hide out loud
I get it, none of these things are natural to me either and I find flirting very hard, except for joking and teasing, I can do that but it comes across as me just bring funny rather than flirting I think
Of those tips I think the most effective for man is this ability to flirt with a joke. Because it’s rejection proof. If the person doesn’t receive well it’s just a joke, but if the person receives well she will still be intrigued about if you’re or not interested romantically in her and the she’ll think a lot about it. Also it’s a thermometer to whether or not advance in the flirting to be more direct.
Flirting is the war of a glance ❤ In an instant, we see ourselves fixing our eyes on each other’s eyes. Your beauty has spoiled you. Few resist the third second without looking away, without blushing. One second, two seconds. And I keep my posture. I know what I came for. The paused breathing thaws and leaves the mouth slightly open, releasing a sigh. The heart rises. I stand. Three seconds. I feel cold in my arms and heat in my face. All sound stopped. Four seconds that have already dilated into many. If you lose, we both lose. But neither of us surrenders. A sketch of a smile begins to form. The eyes tighten and a different glow alerts us. The smiles open. The last second is complete. Two victors emerge from the war 🎉
Who knew that flirting could be so effortless? These tips are a game-changer for anyone who's ever felt nervous about approaching someone they're interested in. With these subtle yet effective techniques, you can feel confident and in control while still being true to yourself. Thanks for the great advice! ✍✍✍
one time i was in school and a friend said "anything on the floor is mine!" so i got on the floor and said "well _i'm_ on the floor" i don't think she got it but it was my best attempt at flirting ever
In Summer I started hanging out with a group of kids and teenagers too. There was this boy my age that I wasn’t sure if I liked him or not, but one day we were in the playgrounds and completely ignored the others as we talked about our schools, our inderests, our teachers and friends and I felt like I’ve known him for a long time. I think I am falling for him
Ahh yes, the feeling of falling in love with someone. I really miss that feeling, not because I don't want to be rejected, but because I don't want to hurt someone or be hurt by someone again.
The bit over being yourself is so true, I'm generally funny because I'm sarcastic and witty most of the time, people say I portray a calm and confident demeanor, that I'm smart and dependable, yada yada, but then when I'm interested in someone I'm a wreck...
I've actually contemplated on "what is the best way to flirt with this girl?" for a while, but I never found a way that seems to be subtle. I can confirm that rejection is my biggest fear. Now that I've seen this, I hope this will help me communicate with someone I crush on. But a little doubt I have: What are subtle ways IF it's done via texting, voice chatting, or online communication?
Definitely give her a light touch on the arm if you walk up to her and she doesn't see you coming. Be funny when you talk to her because your touch will mean more because it's followed up with humor.
For chatting? That's hard because it can vary wildly per person... I like goofy and lighthearted girls for the most part. I love to joke around and be silly. I can't name anything specific, but if both like to talk to each other generally, that's the only thing you need to know. (If you make her happy it may just be a friend thing or not ready for something more but there's no other way either way lol, if you make someone happy then they want to see more of you) This probably doesn't help at all lol Whatever you do, though, be genuine. You don't want a girl that want something you're not. Yes people grow somewhat over time but that's not really how this works. If anything, it's more about showing her why "you" can be likeable, *NOT* to change _yourself_ to your perceived (her) interests. Find out what she likes by talking. A person can like a ton of things. If you're even remotely similar on anything at all, chances are you have at least one common hobby or experience that you (or her) genuinely wants to hear more about. Music? Concerts? What kind of genre? When? Festival? Studies? What? Ambitions? Interests? Experiences? Family fields of work? Creative? Made anything? How does she/do you do it? Simple? Teach? Sports? What? Where? Fan? My OCPD got the best of me, I forgot the question lol but I'll keep this regardless... Hmm Well I'd just keep it light hearted and with the occasional winks ;) Use humour (I'm almost incapable of flirting without humour :P) Vulnerability 🫣 Tease (this is the best of all if she likes it) Test the lines while trying to stay classy Maybe even say something outrageous and get away with it as satire/humour etc if the convo is already lighhearted (do *NOT* overdo it) However many of these can be difficult if you don't SEE each other If you don't then you kinda need to know many other things about her/him When I was a teenager, my crush was friend (we did not end up together) and she told me randomly without prompt that she seemed to be the only ones liking how her thong went up her crack lol. We did chat a lot but I can't be anything but generic because I've had so many different experiences. If you do sports you can drop subtle hints like being "soaked" after a session and such. Check if she likes to imagine it. I mean there's not straight answer to this. What do YOU want and what do SHE want and who are you... Others may be better at answering, I just wrote a ton because I can't be stopped once I get going 😂
@@krashplays3211 Oh I didn't check how long ago all of this was posted. Hey, regardless of how it went, you got to the point to meet up, that's great! ☺ Take everything at face value and follow the flow Two people are like two wavelengths and you most likely need time to adjust/synchronise , don't become overeager like I get sometimes (but not appearing uninterested either)
She usually made the first move with some of these. I think she's done at least one facial expression. I've used brief glances and feather light touch myself, my shoulder brushing gently against hers. She's even initiated holding hands, which felt nice. My appearance may have something to do with it. And we show each other our fun sides. She's one person I can be myself around.
This is really what I want to achieve but it feels so hard and I don't know what to do next. Basically I know two of my guy friends like me and I don't know what to do because I don't want to lose friendship with either of them
I love your videos and this was really helpful! I’ve always been afraid of rejection and I have social anxiety, so the facial expressions part really helps.
Here's a little tip. Expect rejection. There are 6 Billion people on the planet, it's almost inevitable to be rejected. So expect rejection. After, it'll feel really good once someone finally accepts you.
Very useful. Would like to try these ways because I am always afraid of rejection. Honestly, I have been rejected many times and watching this video kinda gave me a boost of confidence
Making prolonged eye contact worked wonders for me. In my case the person had trouble keeping eye contact in general so I offered a safe way to practice eye contact through a sort of game.
"...and physical attractiveness." Yeah, that's the bit that makes all other pointless for me. To my experience, looks is the easiest divider that decides whether something counts as flirting or harassment. Aside from that, being myself has never helped with anything.
The only one of these flirting tips that can be considered harassment is the touching, the rest can be seen as being friendly at worst, dosen't matter if you are ugly or not.
I'm pretty much in a similar situation with the being myself thing, as I feel I'm way too awkward to anywhere near a relationship, let alone a date. I'm also not the best looking, am autistic and in my early 30s with no dating experience and have only faced rejection. Being shy and introverted doesn't help me, either
@@FFRrox Tbh, some of the dating advice I got could be summarized as "Just be yourself! ...no, not like that." And all that "looks don't matter" isn't anything I can confirm. I've been told that so often, but never found any prove that this is more than people that wanting to be the case as if they want to think of themselves that way rather than actually working out in reality.
Tell that to Grigori Rasputin. That guy knew it was all about trying your hand as much as possible and being good at being mysterious and charismatic. You can be good looking and intimidate a lot of women too. The key is keeping it playful.
@@FFRroxYou need to find some girl or girls you don't care much about to practice getting over your fear and awkwardness. Find your comfort zone and then branch out to more desirable targets. You can even do it online and get better at playing things along. A friend of mine was terrified of girls even when he knew they liked him and met his wife on a college site while in school just talking chit. She flirted back and he ended up going all in. They now have kids and have been married for over a decade. So make the most of your opportunities and build up your game. Experiment and figure out what works for you. Eventually you will get in a zone and it gets easier to do. Everyone is awkward when they start and I do mean everyone. Your thirties are a good time for that kind of thing too because it is when a lot of women leave a first marriage and re enter the dating world.
I avoided being attracted to anyone my whole life ,and now I made it to old age where no one is attracted to me and I'm not attracted to another. Loner life has more benefits!
@@Pault3788 u went that long without being attracted to people and now ur old. I’m 16 and have hella social anxiety so my fear is i’ll never find someone for me because i’m too awkward
Social skills are like weight lifting, the more you do it the better you get. Most surefire way to get a connection is to get the other person talking about themselves.
@@Psych2go Prior info and observations. Body language when a subject is brought up. If you know something about their background(work, school, town) ask them detailed questions demonstrating prior knowledge of the subject. Commiserating over a subject may get you friendzoned so its a dangerous play romantically. Steering conversation in a positive way is critical.
@@Psych2go I really appreciate the glancing tip because I’ve noticed someone doing that repeatedly and have been confused. And the joke one, I’ve noticed they crack jokes near me more often than usual.
1. Address them with a relaxed, welcoming posture. 2. Ask about an obscure interest of theirs. 3. Listen actively, ask questions, and segue into step 4. 4. A six hour PowerPoint presentation on the evolution and anatomy of horseshoe crabs.
@@KarlMacmillann You think your life is wrecked, and I agree. However! Things will improve. All you've got to do is start community yiffing in an expensive horseshoe crab costume: the sexiest of all chelicerates.
I'm going to be honest. I notice immediately when a girl sees me as attractive. It's just a thing that you feel. They get very upbeat & sway their body around you. When other girls are just, you know? I've taken rejection to the face. A girl flashed her phone with her bf on it. I was like, damn... I got it, girl. Though, I never ever... Well, I'll be upfront about it. She remembered me each time I showed up to look at watches. I guess, it was a form of revenge because I never really flirted with her anyway, but I guess that's what I get for not doing so? I think most people are just looking for a partner these days. Mainly to pay for rent. Sex & everything else is just an added bonus~ People are becoming introverted these days, so that doesn't help matters
I've experienced that but I have had people like me that I never was aware of and didn't think they did. It's really a person to person thing. Ultimately you never know unless they say so or you ask
the last one is so true because im nice and when i catch a girl may have feelings for me i just play along, smile, laugh, and generally be myself. another big thing i recommend you do (especially if they're catching feelings for you) is hold eye contact, not in an intense way but in a sort-of passionate and innocent way.
I don’t normally make comments under these videos but I have to ask. Is subtle touching acceptable? As a man I’m comfortable flirting in pretty much every way except touching. This is because I have a deep-rooted fear in being labeled a creep. Is this a reasonable fear or am I being too extreme and nervous about the subject?
No. Honestly if you want to learn some good ways to know if she’s interested or not just check for signs of attraction. Going for touching is only done once you have confirmed she’s into you.
I think if you do the other kinds of flirting first, and she seems to like that and flirts back, these short, incidentally touches are kind of nice. And see how she reacts before you touch her longer or more intentional. Then you'll be fine ^^
I got rejected 5 years ago but we stayed in touch and we have this weirdly intense connection that neither of us has probably never felt before. We've done all the flirting in this video. I'm about to ask her out again and I'm nervous even though I probably shouldn't be.
@@thevegancupid77I did ask her out last Sun nothing big just breakfast after church. It's on hold until our schedules align. We won't know each other's schedule until those sundays we see each other. I'm not in a rush I can wait for a few weeks. It gives her time to think about it and as time goes on wonder when I'm going to ask if she's free.
0:25 PUA tactics? lol 😆 I think I remember a line someone said recently: “Pick Up Artistry is not about making a girl like you but to find a girl who is open to you” Umm 🤔
Hey, ya made me laugh with that joke so I bet you can make someone you wanna flirt with laugh, you'll be fine XD (Sorry for the random comment just wanted to show my appreciation for the good laugh)
Absolutely! It's repeated so much that it almost sounds like a cliché but many people say that being oneself has been the most effective way to flirt. In your experience, has "being yourself" helped you when flirting with others? If so, could you share with us?
@@Psych2go it helped me, it really did. It makes us both feel more comfortable happy & safe around eachother. My goal? me right now, is gonna be the exact same in the future. Because i don't wanna disappoint her. I'm never gonna change, just to get her attention. Honesty is the best :> For example, i like dubstep💀but she likes jazz🎷. I don't have to act like im into jazz, then disappoint her in the future, that i actually dislike jazz. That's just so wrong :< Instead, slowly... i got her into dubstep + she got me into jazz, and it's all good!! Thank you psych2go, i love you guys so much. If you're readin this, hope you an absolutely fantastic day!!
You click because you want to learn how to subtlety flirt. I click because that hyouka scene was one of things which will be forever etched in my memory because of how amazing it was. We are not the same.
3:13 There is also no scientific evidence (evaluated by the scientific method) that hair style and/or a specific type of cloathing can decrease or increase attractiveness, unless extremes come into place, of course. And that because extremes can signal neurological unfitness normatively. In other words, you can dress whatever the way you want because what is to be discriminated is your facial aesthetics, body composition, skin quality and neurology (dressing too off the road can pretty much make people assume you could have been neuroatypical or something like that).
Hey Psych2Go, I’m not sure if you will see this but this is worth a try. I’m continuously feeling a chest pain when a sad emotion triggers when someone has hurt me mentally or emotionally, do you think you could look into that and have reasons of why I’m feeling that way? If you do it would mean a lot to me knowing the cause of why I’m hurting so much. ❤️
The chest pain thing sounds similar to Takotsubo Cardiomyopathy. Since it’s emotional, you may want to consider talking to someone about what your feeling (emotionally and physically).
I'm no expert, but I think that's a symptom of anxiety (anxiety comes with unexplained pains). Maybe research symptoms of anxiety and see if they apply to you, it might be why these chest pains are happening. Again, I'm no expert, but this is just my guess of what's happening.
I've never flirted with a girl but girls have tried to flirt with me or try to talk cute to me. Although I never had a relationship with a girl. But girls have liked me for who I was. I did get phone numbers from different girls a few times. But the good thing was I never pursued a relationship. I never knew how to flirt and I probably won't.
1:15 ahh man I’ve probably sent so many wrong signals to so many people Me: tilting my head to one side cause I’m tired Putting my chin down cause I’m tired Moving my hair around cause it’s in the way of my face Bitting my lip because there is a loose piece of skin on it
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Thanks for the video
Can you tell me a small tip on how i could become a better listener?
Oo
@USAKO if she/he still talks to you, they are also starting to OR already have feelings for you
HELP!!!!! My friend likes me but I don't want to reject them😢😢😢
Nothing worst than being able to flirt with almost everyone but the person you actually like 😭
Amen! 😂
For real 😂
Yep
Why is this so real, though 🤣
I really thought that I was the only one with that dumb problem. It sucks so much.
It’s embarrassing how fast I clicked on this video
come on
the most funny comment ever
Same 😂❤😂😂😂😂 😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳
Same😭😭
Man. I feel u
same 😭😭
This advice misses the key detail that you have to pay attention to how the other person responds to your advances. Understanding when to escalate and when to pull back is the real trick that nearly all dating coaches miss. When they say "be yourself" they mean be your best self who's easy going and just generally fun to be around. When you're in the vibe of just enjoying life that's when you're also most enjoyable to be around. And don't sweat being a little awkward, that shit is adorable as hell and most people understand.
Big Amen. You can't do any of these tips to anyone who aren't comfortable with you
You bring up a very good point! It's important to pay attention to the other person to see how they react to our behavior. In your experience, what is the best way to learn how to "be yourself" and relax so that you're in the vibe of enjoying life?
@@Psych2go I just wanna butt in here XD but to me, it's knowing that whoever will like me for who I am are the best people to be with while those who don't aren't the best to be with. With that said, I can just be who I am knowing that I will eventually bring in the people who will like me for me
@@Psych2go boxing 😱😂🎭
Imagine enjoying life, wish it was that easy just have emotions bro
The fact that nobody talks about the book Casanova Playbook of Magnetism speaks volumes about how people are stuck in their dating life
Please explain
Yeah frs could you? Explain...
@@LSM_OPTiX thank you homie back me up we need answers
Seriously? Literally just go read that book. Lazy *ass*@@Nemesis0513
@@LSM_OPTiXread the darn book he mentioned, dummy.
"smile slowly"
proceeds to smile very slowly, thus activating your flight or fight response
yo no way only 34 likes bro/ hella good comment
Chandler from friends was the master of smiling slowly
@@aliray7833 True
When I read “smile slowly” I thought of that meme with the troll face slowly going from a frown to an evil grin
@@leonardorolingstella8554 lolololol exactly my point
Fear of rejection is still a fear that we need to overcome. No matter the circumstances
Yeh
I don't fear rejection anymore, because I know that I will be rejected no matter what I do. Better not play a rigged game and play something else.
Says who? Why is fear of rejection such a bad thing anyways?
Ever think that maybe we have fear of rejection for a reason? Maybe the person that you are infatuated with isn't actually right for you
and that is what fear of rejection is telling you.
@@mrsticky005 if you like to be rejected you also like to be hurt. The more you like a person the more is the fear of being rejected, so it's not like you say, fkin j*rk.
Worst she can say is "eww".
You all clicked to impress them, didn’t you?
Never have. Never will.
how'd u know😔
Nope i dont even have a crush just here to teach my friends if they ever need it
For "next time"
N-No >~
I clicked on this video because:
1: the topic is something I am lacking on
2: I have a crush rn
3: I know how her microphone and voice sound. Extremely satisfying.
I clicked on this video because:
1: I have a crush too.
2: I wanna help people in the comments too.
3: I dont wanna make dumb and awkward mistakes in life.
I have a huge crush on someone at school, I don't really care if they like me back, (cause we're sorta friends anyway) I just want them to know.
Good luck boys
I clicked on this video because:
I am bored
1. Have a crush
2. My friends are trying to get us together
3. I'm the only person he has spoken to abt his past
4. Bitch I love him
5. I love flirting with him for no reason
1. Stand with your back straight and shoulders back.
2. Glance around the room confidently as if you know everyone there. Don't be afraid to make eye contact with a handful of people and even give them a quick smile.
3. Keep direct eye contact with your crush when talking to them.
4. Nod and lightly smile when they talk to you (don't overdo the smiling) do more of a smirk rather
5. Give them one small compliment like liking that color on them, or liking their new haircut.
6. AFTER complimenting them, bring attention to something about yourself too like saying "I found that this haircut works best for me" or "This color is what suits me best"
7. Don't be afraid to make a joke or 2 at your own expense (this will open up the floor to teasing & sharing embarassing stories)
8. Once the floor is open to teasing each other, you can pretty much joke about everything
Sorry I forgot to bring a crown for you
@tanlimgreendaless2839 Were not talking about exaggerated or highly intentional movements. Glancing is extremely natural in downtimes.
Nice roadmap we got here
I just realized I was doing all of these when I talked to my crush a couple of days ago.
When in doubt, whip it out.
Flirting can be a fun and exciting way to show your interest in someone, but it can also be nerve-wracking, especially if you fear rejection.
Yeah
Nerve wracking for me for sure
Absolutely nerve-wrecking. You constantly fear you might do something wrong and ruin everything...
@@_the_eversor_lad_ ...I save time and just figure it will all end in tears no matter what I do/say or don't do/say.
@@markh.6687 I know that feeling damn well my friend... But if I really like someone i won't give up until there is nothing more I can do, until I have no choice but to give up or it is completely pointless to go any further. I just don't like the idea of me not giving my best to obtain what I want. But it doesn't matter what you do, you will most likely get hurt as finding that ONE person is a hell of a difficult task...
im dying alone
same
Broh, this comment killed me for 10 straight minutes 😂
Me too 🙂✌️
Kind of breed who's gonna die alone
Same 😀
✨ Timestamps and Major Points ✨
1. 0:59 Flirtatious Facial Expressions
2. 1:26 Smile Slowly
3. 1:55 Brief Glances
4. 2:22 Feather Light Touch
5. 2:54 Mind Your Appearance
6. 3:28 Tickle Their Funny Bone
7. 4:00 Be More Yourself
4:36 Outro/Summary
Remember that you don't need to change for someone to like you! Don't change who you really are just so that one person you like can like you back. They should like you for who you really are. Don't get lost in the love and be true to yourself. Only change if it's for your own self-improvement. Also, most importantly, even if that one person doesn't like you back, don't be sad! I know firsthand it sucks, but you must be strong. Even if you think there's no way you can get over them, know that one day there will be someone you will love with all your heart and they will love you back with all their heart, too. One day you will find the one! Don't lose hope! Love always finds its way.
Thank you for including the timestamps!
Being yourself is pretty damn important, but if "yourself" is someone who is not very agreeable or not easy to get along with, then you should realistically try to improve on how you act, or put on a facade.
it's also helpful to know how not flirt accidentally
@Pan Kaszkieciorz Being yourself is what you have and not what you think is the best way to be not another version of someone because you not trying to imitate any body you will not be or get disappointed once you not meet the expectation.
I think change is ok as long as it's for my own development and not just for pleasing someone else and matching their standard. For each has their own faith. If someone didn't like me, then it's just they didn't choose me and that's all. There will be somebody else for me for sure. Move on.
I can't with how soft the voice is, this is my ASMR
How do you like Amanda's voice?
@@Psych2go Absolutely ✨beautiful ✨
weirdo
facts
I think it’s important to flirt without the intention to flirt or expectation to where it will get to. Coz the process is like getting to know a friend and we act very naturally when showing interest to a person as a friend than a crush. So I just keep telling myself I would like to know this person better as if I want to be a closer friend with them. And have fun with them!
❤
Yes! This is called "leading someone on" and it's a great way to hasten the demise of this dystopia so we can start afresh.
Beyond cope this one. You can do whatever you want in your life (even k1lL), but your reproductive/romantic sucess will still be dictated by, or have these as necessary components: physical looks, neurology and resources.
I am not afraid of rejection, I am afraid of getting called names for harassment because 'I am not attractive or just aint good enough'
I think it takes a real heart to see you for how you wanna be seen. Rejection will happen to u because the ones you want can't see you so it hurts u. When someone loves you they prove it to you. When someone wants you they prove it to you. You dont feel like yull fond the one now, but remember that feeling your feeling is only for a time and place in your life. Eventually the right one will show up in your life.
@@classysubliminals4121 Haha I appreciate your concern but you know I feel this a real social issue nowdays, like..
Chad: Looking good Susan
Women: Aw, you're sweat
Average Joe: Looking good Susan
Women: Hello human resources
In a similar-ish boat. I don't know if the woman who catches my eye has been dealing with unwarranted male attention all day, so I err on the side of caution and leave her alone. It's not worth risking potentially pushing someone to their breaking point and causing an incident.
I think if you U know deep down someone's gonna reject you or if you simply just k ow that your gonna be rejected then that person is not the one for you. When someone actually likes you they will show their interest in you, they will chase you and confess to you little by little or a lot. That's the difference between someone wanting you and someone not wanting you at all. It's that simple :) I'm speaking from experience btw
@@toxictric5ter155 if that's how she will react. Then it's not worth your time
That feel when you’re all or nothing and only know how to either avoid your crush altogether or ask them out out of nowhere. I neeeed this.
YES
I asked them out of nowhere, and I don’t think it worked because I think I put them on the spot 😅
@@jamtrap_edits "What are you doing in my house? who you even are?"
@@jamtrap_edits haha exact same here, I really do believe that if you’re right for each other then showing interest kind of abruptly won’t ruin it. The right person is hard to scare away.
@@joycor1419 you give me faith ty😌, gl on ur journey
I think me and an old friend did all of these unknowingly (to me at least) last year but what I needed the most from this was the last part, being at ease with myself and having fun. I failed the friendship because of the lack of that back then and it became stressful for both of us. It's one of my worst regrets not being able to keep our friendship, which is why I've worked so hard on myself with my therapist to never lose a relationship like that again. And now, I'm reaching out to her again soon, after finals, to at least try to be on better terms. I'm doubtful much will happen, but I need to at least try! I can't just do nothing when I've lost a friend like her, even if it's been a year
Rooting for you ^
@@starbangles3252 Thank you! I didn't really expect people to actually read let alone reply to this lmao... But it's comforting to hear other people support me, so really, thank you again!
go get her, you can do it !
Make sure you never lose sight of the real goal, to improve yourself for yourself. Doing it for someone else or to get someone else can lead to a huge backfire if what you want in your heart of hearts doesn't pan out. I wish you luck on mastering your own heart ♥️
@@MetalSolidCrisis TRUE, even though I'd like to be friends with her, she isn't the end all be all. There are many people in the world who can be just as great of a friend 💯
For those in a rush
1facial expressions
2smiling
3brief glances
4light touches
5freshen up
6be funny ig
7be yourself
Flirting (in my opinion) is kind of scary because you don't want it to be too obvious but not too confusing either.
Just be Tsundere. That way you can use lines like "D-don't get the wrong idea!" and "It's not like I like you or anything, B-Baka!"
I dont think anything is wrong with being obvious once you decided that he/she can be a great partner.
@@markh.6687 bro what😭🙏
@@Stxrleigh You are not one with the Tsundere; you have many lessons to learn.
@@markh.6687 wdym. also why would you call someone a "baka".. Isn't that a bit offensive😰
Timestamps
1). Flirtatious facial expressions 0:57
2). Smile slowly 1:24
3). Brief glances 1:53
4). Feather light touch 2:22
5). Mind your appearance 2:53
6). Tickle their funny bone 3:28
7). Be more yourself 3:59
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
My timestamp get it Now better.
@@sbplankton_1999 okay
I found it difficult to flirt. I am on the autism spectrum, though was only diagnosed at age 40, and when I was younger I used to get shamed for flirting even though I wasn’t aware I was doing it, so I grew up believing it was wrong (though I didn’t know why, perhaps because the people who shamed me never gave a reason). I would watch other boys/men flirting, often with women I liked, and I would feel frustrated and angry because I get like I had ended up in a position where I would always have to watch while others were successful and never know what it’s like.
Then, as I got older, I found ways to get past whatever it was that was stopping me and started to try flirting with women. It was fun, and still is, and it doesn’t need to be toxic. I’ve had moderate success, because I managed to break out of the mindset others had raised me into. Now I find these kinds of videos indispensable, not least because they’ve helped me learn what it looks like when women are interested in me.
Ordinary human desire should never be shamed. Society has a strange approach to desire, but so long as no-one’s being hurt there isn’t really any problem.
God this world sucks
I'm happy for you! 😊
I am autistic too. I find it very hard to flirt because it’s all about how the person responds to flirting. You have to be able to tell how the other person feels in response to flirting and, with autism, it’s so hard to tell how others are feeling. I’m afraid I’ll ruin any chance I have at finding a girlfriend just because I’m autistic.
I’m autistic too, I never really knew how to flirt the right way and so I’d observe too and just think that some ways of other girls doing it was a little weird. But a little playful teasing came naturally to me when teasing but I’d try to cut it back because I didn’t want to come as offensive to the person I was talking to. Like for example my boyfriend hates carrots and I’d tease him about that here and there but not too much and he also loves ketchup on most things so a lot of people actually tease him about that so I would too. But I agree with what you’re saying about the observation of how to flirt right. I observe like everything that other people to so that I can come around as “normal” and not weird from another dimension type of person if you know what I mean. I mask a lot and I got diagnosed with autism a couple years ago and like it all makes sense now how they say I’d act as a kid and the way I think differently than others and can relate so much with other fellow autistics. Also I tend to make paragraphs out of no where for some reason but can’t write and English paper the irony am I right.
I'm curious about the autism ! How this have the possibility to make you feel not aware of flirt or any responses of someone not only in the flirt situation?@@baileyplayz1844
Me tryna flirt by smiling slow: 😐…🫤…😏…😀…😈👹
Bro i try it and, i do look like a missing clown
this made me giggle
@@ccchain9498giggle? I laughed like a crazy psychopath
HAHHAHAHA! Bro turned into an Oni xD
Eye contact... it's the biggest thing for me as I tend to avoid it.
A tip is to not look at the eyes but look at the nose!
@@Psych2go interesting...
@@Psych2go I think i have sozial anxiety and i cant look in nobodys eyes longer than 2 seconds. At the Moment i have a crush on a Girl and my trick is also to look her on her nose or mouth. If i tried to look direktly into her eyes it was so difficlut for me... The Problem of these flirting Tips are that she is a Introvert and I dont see her often because she says that she meets her friends only a few times a month...
@@KVMONFN Let us know how it goes!
@@Psych2go sure 😭 I'm so nervous
My homies doing these to me 💀
On god
The homies are the real ones.
W homies
WORD 😭
😂 such is the loneliness 😢
I'm now in the early stages of my first long-term relationship, and these tips can help a lot!! ❤
[UPDATE]: I'M MARRYING HER NEXT YEAR
Congrats!
Yo thats awesome
Congrats
didn’t ask
>Early stages
>Long term
?????
I pray for your downfall 🙏
I'm actually scared of dating for... lack of experience and just... don't know what. But your videos are always so cute I can't avoid clicking🥰
Being yourself really does most of the work for you. Chances are you'll make them laugh or smile just being yourself. Intimacy imo is harder because you have to know exactly what your partner enjoys versus things they dislike. There are women who don't like when you overdo flirting. It's just a matter of preference i suppose. I've never dated anyone, but I've been so connected to someone that she literally doesn't mind anything I do because she wants to enjoy my company. It's pretty sweet once you click with somebody.
@@Danny328DT surely it's amazing once you connect, no doubt! I have a few girls I'm very close to, but nothing beyond cuddles and kisses on the cheeks, honestly that makes me super happy already. The problems for the rest are crippling gender dysphoria, not having nearly enough trust in my social skills (that I am trying to develop but I guess scars from all those bullying years and... various events in my life are still in effect) and... just being super shy maybe. It's not a bad thing just that in the conventional sense of dating people should be confident... I think😅
Though I know I can show a lot of love and care once I get close to someone, at least that helps a bit I guess
@SparkOfCorn It all starts with working on the confidence. For me I just stop letting people bother me. Everytime someone said I was being too weird, I just didn't care because I made my friend smile. I don't need to change for anybody if I care for myself. I hope you can find something that makes you happy to be yourself.
i would start by changing your pfp.🤣
@SparkOfCorn I'm 100% with you there.
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It's difficult with anxious people to even look someone in the eye, maybe start with eye contact imo as a way of cueing the other person and apply a facial gesture to see if they are interested. Works for me in noisy places
Thank you for sharing! Great point about eye contact. I think the point you shared can be very helpful for people who may struggle with some of the more outgoing advice from the video. In your opinion, what other tips is great for people who struggle to make eye contact with others?
^^
I would just like to say that if you are being subtle and they don’t take the hint, it doesn’t mean they aren’t interested in you. It means they’re completely oblivious. At that point, the best thing you can do is just say it outright. It doesn’t matter who they are, they can just not pick up the hint. I’m speaking from experience here. I’m a trans woman and APPARENTLY, my boyfriend was flirting with me before he outright said anything. Being oblivious to flirting isn’t something men and only men suffer from, unlike some people would claim. It happens to everyone. So just tell them if they don’t get the hint. People often will assume that you aren’t flirting with them because they’d rather look oblivious than like a creep.
Wise words captain rex
It’s not even fear of rejection for me, I’m just naturally very sincere and straightforward. It literally doesn’t occur to me most of the time to be lighthearted, and joke or have fun.
I’m not super serious or a downer, I’m friendly and nice, but I think I’m on the spectrum or something… I don’t even think to play around or banter with people. It feels like it holds me back socially, and like there’s a whole world of human connection that I’ve never experienced.
High five for the "I think I'm on the spectrum". 😶 All those attraction/flirt videos go on with step 1: Make eye contact. But that's just a one way ticket to a panic attack for me. I do notice when someone flirts with me, but I just freeze. Also the whole "touch" thing, it's incredible hard even when I'm 200% sure we both want to.
Yet another video that came at a good time for the story I'm writing! I'm trying to figure out how I'm going to write the interactions between two characters that eventually fall in love after being best friends for a while, and content like this will most definitely aid in my quest! :D
Gurl I wanna read this now
if you are making this as a google doc could you click share and look at the 2nd column that says general access and you put anyone with link and link it here
anyway this is just a request good luck with the story
Meee tooo!!
Hope your story turns out well! I wanna write too but somehow I know the ending and what happens but don’t know how to start-
@@01.618 Totally felt that! A tip I found helpful was to just jot ideas down. As long as you are writing something it will come together trust me! Even if you start from the middle. I have been polishing a story and changing it for over a year now and I am finally happy with it. It is absolutely nothing like how it first started! Good luck!!
@@simrahsyedda2222 I'm a guy, but yeah, I could leave a link to a rough draft of the story once it's done if ya want. :)
I am in love with this woman's voice... It's literally so calming, I can sleep listening to it
On the opposite end of the spectrum, her voice infuriates me to the point of me wanting to throw this brick through my computer screen very badly.
Although I would never! such a waste.
@@sappireflames0009 Uhhmmm... Different people, diff pov
@@sappireflames0009I have never seen someone have this opinion on this psych2go voice narrator goodness.. wonder why you feel that way
He’s glanced, smiled and showed subtle touch. Whenever he’s with me. And yet he started dating a girl as of yesterday.
I feel that happens to me a lot, they’ll seem to be flirting but then aren’t actually interested and date someone else
Could be that he was interested, but someone was interested in them and they took the chance.
Can I ask sth? This dude glanced me time to time. I sometimes looked back and sometimes didn't. We have never talked each other lol. But we had many eye contacts. How can I know that someone has crush on me only with glances?
Remember regret is worse than rejection
No
Yes
🧢 of the day goes to this comment
No
I instantly clicked the moment I saw the word: Flirting tips.
I needed to know if my characters are well-versed in flirting in my novel or not.
But you'll definitely find someone and think that he/she is better than you in flirting skills
Mmhmm
I honestly feel a "Lingering hand on their waist" is a little (or a lot) too creepy.
If I was just like standing in line behind someone I liked... And I wanted to flirt with them... I think they'd get a restraining order against me if I just reached out and grabbed their waist. (Okay maybe a restraining order is an overexaggeration but you get the point)
I think it's in the context of a date, not just meeting someone
No waist. Try her arm until you know her a little bit.
@Kai Sälis It works good if you're in a party setting and things seem to be flowing well. You can invite them to dance and it should make you and the other person comfortable with touch. Sometimes outright asking to dance can work but it depends a whole lot more on their mood and whether they find your appearance attractive or not.
Same, I guess the only reasonable place to do it (if you are still in the "advancing" stage) is if you are in a crowd, and assuming there are a lot of people pushing by her, you can try to move her a bit by doing that lmfaooo
@@peregrine3400 omg that’s perfect!! Exactly!!
The slow smile thing is interesting. That resonates. But I guess it's more about knowing why you slow smile instead of just forcing it.
But overall I feel like the main tips here are "be funny" and "be confident/secure" which, you know, is really hard for most people.
Very interesting point. It's always advisable to do what's natural instead of forcing yourself to do something. Do you have any experience with "smiling slowly" without meaning to and naturally?
@@Psych2go I'd rather smile and don't break eye contact. A slow smile can scare people away from looking at you. It's awfully intense. Not breaking eye contact has the same effect.
You don't have to be funny, especially because trying to force it never works out. Also I don't care if my partner is funny as long as they have a similar sense of humor.
Being funny is not easy as everybody perceives ''funny'' in a different way. Jokes are usually appreciated, but some might not find a joke funny others found hilarious. So I guess it's also about knowing and predicting the other person to decide how to really act.
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This is interesting info! I find flirting extremely confusing because most of these social cues and body language feel very unnatural to me, and so I end up feeling very unauthentic and uncomfortable when I go out of my way to attempt to make particular expressions, touch others, read/communicate body language, etc. I’m definitely trying to learn, but I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place of “do the things that society says is how you do the thing” and “be authentic to my feelings even if it actively makes it significantly harder to connect”
Yeah! Just express the way you would non-script wise to someone you love in ur own unique way if you want!:)) just do what comes natural to u!
@@ladyteebugluv Thanks for the reply! I guess I’m overthinking it and trying to be something I’m not. I don’t know what my unique way would be but I suppose the only way to find out is just do what comes natural like you say and try! Appreciate the advice.
Own that. I know it sounds cliche but make those strengths your weaknesses. Dont be afraid to tell that to strangers. Youll be surprised how many people relate and respect that you have the 🏀🏈 to actually speak what many try to hide out loud
I get it, none of these things are natural to me either and I find flirting very hard, except for joking and teasing, I can do that but it comes across as me just bring funny rather than flirting I think
Remember guys, liking other people is so 2008, we need to stay on the grind
amen brother 🙏 dont let dem hoes fool you or bring you down 💪
KEEP COOKING 🗣️🔥
shut up
Very halal 🗣️🙏
Sigma grindset is the only grindset.
Of those tips I think the most effective for man is this ability to flirt with a joke. Because it’s rejection proof. If the person doesn’t receive well it’s just a joke, but if the person receives well she will still be intrigued about if you’re or not interested romantically in her and the she’ll think a lot about it. Also it’s a thermometer to whether or not advance in the flirting to be more direct.
Step 1: BE HANDSOME
That's fair cause how do you expect to pull a hottie when you look like a rat unless you have money.
Aw darn..
Nope. Confidence does the trick.
@@paresaquadir8568no it doesn’t
Step one cleared
Rest of them Failed
Flirting is the war of a glance ❤
In an instant, we see ourselves fixing our eyes on each other’s eyes.
Your beauty has spoiled you.
Few resist the third second without looking away, without blushing.
One second, two seconds.
And I keep my posture.
I know what I came for.
The paused breathing thaws and leaves the mouth slightly open, releasing a sigh.
The heart rises.
I stand.
Three seconds.
I feel cold in my arms and heat in my face.
All sound stopped.
Four seconds that have already dilated into many.
If you lose, we both lose.
But neither of us surrenders.
A sketch of a smile begins to form.
The eyes tighten and a different glow alerts us.
The smiles open.
The last second is complete.
Two victors emerge from the war 🎉
Who knew that flirting could be so effortless? These tips are a game-changer for anyone who's ever felt nervous about approaching someone they're interested in. With these subtle yet effective techniques, you can feel confident and in control while still being true to yourself. Thanks for the great advice! ✍✍✍
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one time i was in school and a friend said "anything on the floor is mine!" so i got on the floor and said "well _i'm_ on the floor" i don't think she got it but it was my best attempt at flirting ever
W’s
In Summer I started hanging out with a group of kids and teenagers too. There was this boy my age that I wasn’t sure if I liked him or not, but one day we were in the playgrounds and completely ignored the others as we talked about our schools, our inderests, our teachers and friends and I felt like I’ve known him for a long time. I think I am falling for him
You got this 💪
How it go
you survive?
Ahh yes, the feeling of falling in love with someone. I really miss that feeling, not because I don't want to be rejected, but because I don't want to hurt someone or be hurt by someone again.
The bit over being yourself is so true, I'm generally funny because I'm sarcastic and witty most of the time, people say I portray a calm and confident demeanor, that I'm smart and dependable, yada yada, but then when I'm interested in someone I'm a wreck...
Hope you can get over it
I've actually contemplated on "what is the best way to flirt with this girl?" for a while, but I never found a way that seems to be subtle. I can confirm that rejection is my biggest fear. Now that I've seen this, I hope this will help me communicate with someone I crush on.
But a little doubt I have: What are subtle ways IF it's done via texting, voice chatting, or online communication?
Definitely give her a light touch on the arm if you walk up to her and she doesn't see you coming. Be funny when you talk to her because your touch will mean more because it's followed up with humor.
@@NoName-zb1gm I'll be meeting up with her in-person very soon so I'll take that into account
@@krashplays3211How did it go?
For chatting? That's hard because it can vary wildly per person...
I like goofy and lighthearted girls for the most part. I love to joke around and be silly. I can't name anything specific, but if both like to talk to each other generally, that's the only thing you need to know. (If you make her happy it may just be a friend thing or not ready for something more but there's no other way either way lol, if you make someone happy then they want to see more of you)
This probably doesn't help at all lol
Whatever you do, though, be genuine. You don't want a girl that want something you're not. Yes people grow somewhat over time but that's not really how this works. If anything, it's more about showing her why "you" can be likeable, *NOT* to change _yourself_ to your perceived (her) interests.
Find out what she likes by talking. A person can like a ton of things. If you're even remotely similar on anything at all, chances are you have at least one common hobby or experience that you (or her) genuinely wants to hear more about.
Music? Concerts? What kind of genre? When? Festival?
Studies? What? Ambitions? Interests? Experiences? Family fields of work?
Creative? Made anything? How does she/do you do it? Simple? Teach?
Sports? What? Where? Fan?
My OCPD got the best of me, I forgot the question lol but I'll keep this regardless...
Hmm
Well I'd just keep it light hearted and with the occasional winks ;)
Use humour (I'm almost incapable of flirting without humour :P)
Vulnerability 🫣
Tease (this is the best of all if she likes it)
Test the lines while trying to stay classy
Maybe even say something outrageous and get away with it as satire/humour etc if the convo is already lighhearted (do *NOT* overdo it)
However many of these can be difficult if you don't SEE each other
If you don't then you kinda need to know many other things about her/him
When I was a teenager, my crush was friend (we did not end up together) and she told me randomly without prompt that she seemed to be the only ones liking how her thong went up her crack lol. We did chat a lot but I can't be anything but generic because I've had so many different experiences.
If you do sports you can drop subtle hints like being "soaked" after a session and such. Check if she likes to imagine it. I mean there's not straight answer to this. What do YOU want and what do SHE want and who are you...
Others may be better at answering, I just wrote a ton because I can't be stopped once I get going 😂
@@krashplays3211 Oh I didn't check how long ago all of this was posted.
Hey, regardless of how it went, you got to the point to meet up, that's great! ☺ Take everything at face value and follow the flow
Two people are like two wavelengths and you most likely need time to adjust/synchronise , don't become overeager like I get sometimes (but not appearing uninterested either)
Idk why you didn’t say this in any of ur vids but when I’m working out it helps me to watch videos such as this, it’s weirdly rewarding
Glad you're staying in shape both physically and mentally! 🏋️♂️
how is your voice so comforting and relaxing
She usually made the first move with some of these. I think she's done at least one facial expression. I've used brief glances and feather light touch myself, my shoulder brushing gently against hers. She's even initiated holding hands, which felt nice. My appearance may have something to do with it. And we show each other our fun sides. She's one person I can be myself around.
Dangg can relate. Such a great thing when she actually does these to you as well...
Now if only I didn't take forever in telling her about my feelings
This is really what I want to achieve but it feels so hard and I don't know what to do next. Basically I know two of my guy friends like me and I don't know what to do because I don't want to lose friendship with either of them
Sounds like you're both fans of Psycho2go...
@@ja4309 It took me a lot longer to realize what was right in front of me.
@@Luffy-su1ho I'm not sure she knows about them but I'm a big fan
This helped me get 3 restraining orders, I recommend!
I love your videos and this was really helpful! I’ve always been afraid of rejection and I have social anxiety, so the facial expressions part really helps.
Here's a little tip. Expect rejection. There are 6 Billion people on the planet, it's almost inevitable to be rejected. So expect rejection. After, it'll feel really good once someone finally accepts you.
Okay
Very useful. Would like to try these ways because I am always afraid of rejection. Honestly, I have been rejected many times and watching this video kinda gave me a boost of confidence
Making prolonged eye contact worked wonders for me. In my case the person had trouble keeping eye contact in general so I offered a safe way to practice eye contact through a sort of game.
How
"...and physical attractiveness."
Yeah, that's the bit that makes all other pointless for me. To my experience, looks is the easiest divider that decides whether something counts as flirting or harassment. Aside from that, being myself has never helped with anything.
The only one of these flirting tips that can be considered harassment is the touching, the rest can be seen as being friendly at worst, dosen't matter if you are ugly or not.
I'm pretty much in a similar situation with the being myself thing, as I feel I'm way too awkward to anywhere near a relationship, let alone a date. I'm also not the best looking, am autistic and in my early 30s with no dating experience and have only faced rejection. Being shy and introverted doesn't help me, either
@@FFRrox Tbh, some of the dating advice I got could be summarized as "Just be yourself! ...no, not like that." And all that "looks don't matter" isn't anything I can confirm. I've been told that so often, but never found any prove that this is more than people that wanting to be the case as if they want to think of themselves that way rather than actually working out in reality.
Tell that to Grigori Rasputin. That guy knew it was all about trying your hand as much as possible and being good at being mysterious and charismatic. You can be good looking and intimidate a lot of women too. The key is keeping it playful.
@@FFRroxYou need to find some girl or girls you don't care much about to practice getting over your fear and awkwardness. Find your comfort zone and then branch out to more desirable targets. You can even do it online and get better at playing things along.
A friend of mine was terrified of girls even when he knew they liked him and met his wife on a college site while in school just talking chit. She flirted back and he ended up going all in. They now have kids and have been married for over a decade. So make the most of your opportunities and build up your game. Experiment and figure out what works for you. Eventually you will get in a zone and it gets easier to do. Everyone is awkward when they start and I do mean everyone. Your thirties are a good time for that kind of thing too because it is when a lot of women leave a first marriage and re enter the dating world.
I am Autistic and don't have much experience with dating. But i'm interested in trying and I think this will help me! thanks a bunch
Completely unrelated to this video, your voice is really soothing. I actually once fell asleep to your voice a few years ago, very proud of myself.
I avoided being attracted to anyone my whole life ,and now I made it to old age where no one is attracted to me and I'm not attracted to another. Loner life has more benefits!
Sigma
this scares me
@@nkem3524 why?
@@Pault3788 u went that long without being attracted to people and now ur old. I’m 16 and have hella social anxiety so my fear is i’ll never find someone for me because i’m too awkward
@@nkem3524 I have social anxiety, which led me to being a loner,I got used to it after many years
Social skills are like weight lifting, the more you do it the better you get.
Most surefire way to get a connection is to get the other person talking about themselves.
Great advice! In your opinion, what's the best way you can get the other person talking about themselves?
@@Psych2go
Prior info and observations.
Body language when a subject is brought up.
If you know something about their background(work, school, town) ask them detailed questions demonstrating prior knowledge of the subject.
Commiserating over a subject may get you friendzoned so its a dangerous play romantically.
Steering conversation in a positive way is critical.
Thanks for your videos, it’s hard for me to pick up on body language and non verbal cues, these really help!
Thank you so much for your kind words! We're so glad that this video was helpful for you. Which part of the video did you find helpful?
@@Psych2go I really appreciate the glancing tip because I’ve noticed someone doing that repeatedly and have been confused. And the joke one, I’ve noticed they crack jokes near me more often than usual.
1. Address them with a relaxed, welcoming posture.
2. Ask about an obscure interest of theirs.
3. Listen actively, ask questions, and segue into step 4.
4. A six hour PowerPoint presentation on the evolution and anatomy of horseshoe crabs.
Even an ancient species all the way from Paleozoic Era has a better chance in dating than me its SO over 😭😭😭
@@KarlMacmillann You think your life is wrecked, and I agree. However! Things will improve. All you've got to do is start community yiffing in an expensive horseshoe crab costume: the sexiest of all chelicerates.
The "be yourself" thingy would probably backfire horribly in my case
I'm going to be honest. I notice immediately when a girl sees me as attractive. It's just a thing that you feel. They get very upbeat & sway their body around you. When other girls are just, you know? I've taken rejection to the face. A girl flashed her phone with her bf on it. I was like, damn... I got it, girl. Though, I never ever... Well, I'll be upfront about it. She remembered me each time I showed up to look at watches. I guess, it was a form of revenge because I never really flirted with her anyway, but I guess that's what I get for not doing so? I think most people are just looking for a partner these days. Mainly to pay for rent. Sex & everything else is just an added bonus~ People are becoming introverted these days, so that doesn't help matters
I've experienced that but I have had people like me that I never was aware of and didn't think they did. It's really a person to person thing. Ultimately you never know unless they say so or you ask
As a boy, the side smile has been a killing move for me. My girl can tell you all how well that worked for her hahaha
Did she do it or you
I did, but just at the beginning. It was subtle, but effective@@blankslate8002
the last one is so true because im nice and when i catch a girl may have feelings for me i just play along, smile, laugh, and generally be myself. another big thing i recommend you do (especially if they're catching feelings for you) is hold eye contact, not in an intense way but in a sort-of passionate and innocent way.
I don’t normally make comments under these videos but I have to ask. Is subtle touching acceptable? As a man I’m comfortable flirting in pretty much every way except touching. This is because I have a deep-rooted fear in being labeled a creep. Is this a reasonable fear or am I being too extreme and nervous about the subject?
No.
Honestly if you want to learn some good ways to know if she’s interested or not just check for signs of attraction.
Going for touching is only done once you have confirmed she’s into you.
you can touch her in such a way that she doesn't necessarily know why you did it. like it was by mistake and so you can see what reaction she has.
From experience, if you think that both of you feel comfortable around each other, small touches are fine
I think if you do the other kinds of flirting first, and she seems to like that and flirts back, these short, incidentally touches are kind of nice. And see how she reacts before you touch her longer or more intentional. Then you'll be fine ^^
Also of course just touch unproblematic areas of her body, nothing that is usually sexualized 😅
I got rejected 5 years ago but we stayed in touch and we have this weirdly intense connection that neither of us has probably never felt before. We've done all the flirting in this video. I'm about to ask her out again and I'm nervous even though I probably shouldn't be.
don't do it since there is a high chance she will be doing the same
updateee
@@thevegancupid77I did ask her out last Sun nothing big just breakfast after church. It's on hold until our schedules align. We won't know each other's schedule until those sundays we see each other. I'm not in a rush I can wait for a few weeks. It gives her time to think about it and as time goes on wonder when I'm going to ask if she's free.
@@NoName-zb1gm Updateee
Their voice is so calming they could read a horror story to me and I'd be calm--
Avoiding approaching anyone so there's no risk of getting rejected 👌🏻
Sigma
0:25
PUA tactics? lol 😆
I think I remember a line someone said recently:
“Pick Up Artistry is not about making a girl like you but to find a girl who is open to you”
Umm 🤔
Advice: Be yourself.
Me: *does so*
Advice: NO, NOT LIKE THAT!
Hey, ya made me laugh with that joke so I bet you can make someone you wanna flirt with laugh, you'll be fine XD
(Sorry for the random comment just wanted to show my appreciation for the good laugh)
4:07 so cliche, yet so true & EFFECTIVE
Absolutely! It's repeated so much that it almost sounds like a cliché but many people say that being oneself has been the most effective way to flirt. In your experience, has "being yourself" helped you when flirting with others? If so, could you share with us?
@@Psych2go it helped me, it really did. It makes us both feel more comfortable happy & safe around eachother. My goal? me right now, is gonna be the exact same in the future. Because i don't wanna disappoint her. I'm never gonna change, just to get her attention. Honesty is the best :> For example, i like dubstep💀but she likes jazz🎷. I don't have to act like im into jazz, then disappoint her in the future, that i actually dislike jazz. That's just so wrong :< Instead, slowly... i got her into dubstep + she got me into jazz, and it's all good!! Thank you psych2go, i love you guys so much. If you're readin this, hope you an absolutely fantastic day!!
As someone who needs this, i am very glad this is here
good luck bro!
The text at 0:54 says 6 ways but the voiceover and title say 7.
Your first problem is "fearing rejection". You can't be successful if you keep holding yourself back by being "scared" for trivial reasons
This guy gets it
i was today years old when I realised I have accidentally flirted with my whole school 😳
watching this made me realize that i would very much be alone for my life
2:49 how to get jailed for sexual harassment
FR
I don't fear being rejected. I fear weirding the other party out with a botched, awkward confession.
**whispering** _meeee_
thats tough. no one cares
@@Ex-pq6rl sigma comment
Also fr tho how are you not afraid of rejection you must like not be super in love or smthn
Rejection matters less and less the more it happens to you. You love the idea of a person. Not the person.
Not me practicing smiling slowly after watching this vid 😏😂
Underrated comment
the being yourself is probably one of the most important part if they don't like u for who u are they probably aren't the one
Cool...
Can't wait to probably not use this information
Haha 😂 there is a lot of truth in that.
😔 i've been so scared of confessing to my crush for fear of rejection
Me too, but I can’t even confess to my crush in the first place because I have social anxiety
@@fl7ffy they even ask if im ok then i panic and talk to one of our other friends-
@@evansleepypotato24-7 my crush has done something like that too and I’m really afraid of rejection
@@fl7ffy i hope one day you'll be able to confess to your crush! ^^
@@evansleepypotato24-7 Thank you, you too! ^^
4:31 i have this as my lockscreen background now
So true🐸
Am I aroace? Yes. Am I ever going to need this to flirt with anyone? No. Am I going to watch this anyway? Yes.
You click because you want to learn how to subtlety flirt. I click because that hyouka scene was one of things which will be forever etched in my memory because of how amazing it was. We are not the same.
@SparkOfCorn lmaoo
3:13 There is also no scientific evidence (evaluated by the scientific method) that hair style and/or a specific type of cloathing can decrease or increase attractiveness, unless extremes come into place, of course. And that because extremes can signal neurological unfitness normatively. In other words, you can dress whatever the way you want because what is to be discriminated is your facial aesthetics, body composition, skin quality and neurology (dressing too off the road can pretty much make people assume you could have been neuroatypical or something like that).
Hey Psych2Go, I’m not sure if you will see this but this is worth a try.
I’m continuously feeling a chest pain when a sad emotion triggers when someone has hurt me mentally or emotionally, do you think you could look into that and have reasons of why I’m feeling that way?
If you do it would mean a lot to me knowing the cause of why I’m hurting so much. ❤️
The chest pain thing sounds similar to Takotsubo Cardiomyopathy. Since it’s emotional, you may want to consider talking to someone about what your feeling (emotionally and physically).
I'm no expert, but I think that's a symptom of anxiety (anxiety comes with unexplained pains). Maybe research symptoms of anxiety and see if they apply to you, it might be why these chest pains are happening. Again, I'm no expert, but this is just my guess of what's happening.
def obesity stay off the calories for a little.
@@Ex-pq6rl 💀
Bro I’m gonna confess to this dude and had no idea how to I opened TH-cam randomly and saw this video perfect timing!
I've never flirted with a girl but girls have tried to flirt with me or try to talk cute to me. Although I never had a relationship with a girl. But girls have liked me for who I was. I did get phone numbers from different girls a few times. But the good thing was I never pursued a relationship. I never knew how to flirt and I probably won't.
Me too, but idk how to talk to them haha 😅
@@jamtrap_edits Like normal people?
@@roxassora2706 I see where ur coming from but ppl face anxiety issues and have other things going on for them.
sucks to suck
I don't even have a crush on any one.
why am i watching it?
Perhaps just to be prepared in case you should have one.
2:03 THATS FLIRTING? I JUST DID THAT BECAUSE I DONT WANNA GET SEEN
OH, CRAP- MY TERRIBLE MATH CLASS THINKS I'M INTERESTED. (Even though I'd sooner punch them.)
Apparently I unknowingly have been doing this right. My major problem is starting the conversation
1:15 ahh man I’ve probably sent so many wrong signals to so many people
Me: tilting my head to one side cause I’m tired
Putting my chin down cause I’m tired
Moving my hair around cause it’s in the way of my face
Bitting my lip because there is a loose piece of skin on it
Still, there’s a clear difference between doing it because you’re tired/taking off a loose piece of skin and doing it flirtatiously
@@30_fps53 Im aware, was a joke
Real
POV: you're trying to impress your fictional crush in that fake scenario in your head
IM DYING ALONE WITH THIS ONE FR🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️
Even though you’re joking, I believe that you will pass away surrounded by your family, friends, or loved ones.
Good luck to those who saw this video to train for that next interaction with your crush. You got this!!!