Hello , I am a Japanese. My mother is in her seventies and shows signs of developmental disabilities, but I find it inspiring that she still challenges herself by taking certification exams. I am in my forties and have both ADHD and ASD, but I want to keep trying new things without giving up. Thank you for the informative videos.
60. Right now I'm retiring early to try to heal from Long Covid. It's also the time I've always wanted to continue to write novels, and to try to get published. Thanks for the pep talk! It's both a joy and a challenge, being in charge of my own time.
I can relate, I have read so many books on how to write a novel, so many, too many, and I have started several times and then never had the belief in myself and just dropped it and moved onto the next shiny thing. I wish you a lot of luck in your Covid recovery and writing your novel - you put it so perfectly - a joy and a challenge when you have all the time.
Diagnosed 20 years ago but told repeatedly that it wasn't real 🙄 Luckily now in a better environment and full acceptance for who I am. Yet I still can't get myself to finish painting this room I started redoing 2.5 years ago 😬
Almost 60 diagnosed in my mid 30s, the struggle to focus is still a reality even now with a grown family, grandchildren & seperated from their dad for 20 yrs. We are still friends but i just ferl its easier to live with my own expectations as the pressure of trying to fit in to life the way its traditionally done, rattles me and leaves me feeling as if im never going to be good enough. My 2 youngest, who are also Adults with ADHD live with me due to a lack of available housing. This works because they both work but is frustrating as they are both messy and are potential hoarders, which makes my struggle to focus on de cluttering our home quite burdensome. Nevertheless i plod on, grateful i have my own home to be able to share. Ive tried to focus on changing how i think about something if i cant physically change my circumstances. At nearly 60 though i cant help but feel that i have less time than more to turn my lofe around. Sorry bout the life story, I dont know where that came from. Im usually very a very private person. Thank you for your thought provoking podcasts. I appreciate thst they are relatively short, as thats my attention span still lol ❤
You know I think Jesus had you share because your story touched my heart. I appreciated your honesty and am hoping that you have some special ways to treat yourself. I also hope that your kids appreciate you and don't make you feel like you are supposed to carry them I hope they respect you. Your comment was clear and easy to read. You have a good mind and you were able to share in a way that was meaningful to me. I love Jesus and he is helping me to understand my mind. I have to start all over as my job which I loved got too overwhelming for me. I will soon be 70 and this path is harder to figure out! ❤❤❤❤
I just got my diagnosis this week. Unfortunately, in the uk, there is very little help or support and private care is very expensive. My only goal for most of my life is to lose my excess weight and maintain a healthy weight. I’m 53 and still can’t find my way and the support out there is for neurotypical so doesn’t work. Any advice you have would be welcome. Adele 😊
@ hi Leanne, I just got the diagnosis this week. When I spoke with the assessing consultant psychiatrist, she said there wasn’t any ADHD specific help for weight loss. She could only recommend my gp referring me to a dietician. However, I’ve been there before and the advice they give is generic and wasn’t helpful for me. I’m so glad you’ve had a breakthrough, it’s no mean feat! I waited 18 months for the appointment here in Wales which is quite short from what I hear. At least I can now stop blaming myself for not being able to follow the general advice. That really is a revelation and a weight off my shoulders. Are you diagnosed or waiting? Adele
@ I was nervous about the process to but it’s really straight forward. They have an assessment tool. They ask question about what you were like as a child, then the same question about being an adult, like. As a child, was your bedroom messy, could you keep still in class, could you concentrate on work, or did you favour looking out the window. So they are looking for just yes or no answers, no need to explain. I found it really freeing, knowing my experiences were really common for ADHD, that the challenges I faced were not my fault. Despite the nerves, it was a really positive and somewhat enjoyable process ☺️ Yes, I would love to hear about your strategies around eating 😃
@ so, if I have this right. You mainly eat whole foods and eat full fat versions. Prioritise proteins and have lowered your carbs? Do you drink diet drinks? (I too gave up alcohol 3 years ago 😁) Do you eat any sweet things at all like biscuits or dark chocolate? Thanks so much for the help ☺️
@@livechangechallenge this has also been a game changer - I stopped trying to do cardio as it just makes me hungry and started lifting weights instead, using this channel: www.youtube.com/@LiftwithCee
All this resonates with me. But I find it very hard to let go of my self-limiting beliefs (which I have plenty of). I hate the image I have of myself, but it's the only one I got. Without it, I feel like I have no identity. (no idea if that makes sense...)
If you have only just found out/realized you will have to go through the grieving process. There is no way round it, only through it. But then you do fell better. I promise. I’ve never met a person who didn’t achieve anything so you need to start there. Do the grieving but in-conjunction give yourself some credit for showing up now with a new understanding.
I think the hardest thing for me is that. Time, meaning all of your college friends graduating. You getting older. The constant need to be better at providing for yourself as you age. Adds the need for you to take on commitments and find allies to help you. So you people please and commit to people or careers for survival. Then when you get help later in life and discover how to have full agency over your heart and mind. You look around and you have 15 years or more of commitments you would have never made if you knew how to show up each day focused with a healthy self esteem every day. ( I'm starting to get Y.O.L.O. on this though. Can't do it over. But I think I might still try. 🙂)
Hey guys, head to zocdoc.com/CARENMAGILL to check out ZocDoc!
Empty nester, recently divorced, restarting a career. Diagnosed at 54. No pressure.
You got this!
😂 relatable! 53, not diagnosed but right there with you, Love. Let's start something new!
same here feel like crying.
Diagnosed at 53...Impulsivity is still a problem for me...
diagnosed twenty years ago. now mid-seventies. i just don't start anything
because of the pain and shame of failure to finish
I get that, but what is the cost you pay to never try anything new again?
Hello , I am a Japanese. My mother is in her seventies and shows signs of developmental disabilities, but I find it inspiring that she still challenges herself by taking certification exams. I am in my forties and have both ADHD and ASD, but I want to keep trying new things without giving up. Thank you for the informative videos.
I love that you have such an inspiring role model!
60. Right now I'm retiring early to try to heal from Long Covid.
It's also the time I've always wanted to continue to write novels, and to try to get published.
Thanks for the pep talk! It's both a joy and a challenge, being in charge of my own time.
I can relate, I have read so many books on how to write a novel, so many, too many, and I have started several times and then never had the belief in myself and just dropped it and moved onto the next shiny thing. I wish you a lot of luck in your Covid recovery and writing your novel - you put it so perfectly - a joy and a challenge when you have all the time.
I totally understand what you mean!
Diagnosed 20 years ago but told repeatedly that it wasn't real 🙄 Luckily now in a better environment and full acceptance for who I am. Yet I still can't get myself to finish painting this room I started redoing 2.5 years ago 😬
only 2.5 years? you are fine
@zezezep Thank you! 🥰 😂
Make a plan to have guests stay over. Nothing will motivate you more!
@CarenMagill Lol! My past self would come down with a migraine and cancel, but now that you say that, I could have a painting party 🤔
@@CarenMagill the power of guests staying - it's truly amazing how it makes the impossible possible, especially when it's the inlaws 😂
I was diagnosed 2 years ago at 61..... I am not sure where to go from this knowledge
Allthough I am 37, Im feeling it so much! Love your Videos!
thank you!!! XO
Almost 60 diagnosed in my mid 30s, the struggle to focus is still a reality even now with a grown family, grandchildren & seperated from their dad for 20 yrs.
We are still friends but i just ferl its easier to live with my own expectations as the pressure of trying to fit in to life the way its traditionally done, rattles me and leaves me feeling as if im never going to be good enough.
My 2 youngest, who are also Adults with ADHD live with me due to a lack of available housing.
This works because they both work but is frustrating as they are both messy and are potential hoarders, which makes my struggle to focus on de cluttering our home quite burdensome.
Nevertheless i plod on, grateful i have my own home to be able to share.
Ive tried to focus on changing how i think about something if i cant physically change my circumstances.
At nearly 60 though i cant help but feel that i have less time than more to turn my lofe around.
Sorry bout the life story, I dont know where that came from. Im usually very a very private person.
Thank you for your thought provoking podcasts. I appreciate thst they are relatively short, as thats my attention span still lol ❤
You know I think Jesus had you share because your story touched my heart. I appreciated your honesty and am hoping that you have some special ways to treat yourself. I also hope that your kids appreciate you and don't make you feel like you are supposed to carry them I hope they respect you. Your comment was clear and easy to read. You have a good mind and you were able to share in a way that was meaningful to me. I love Jesus and he is helping me to understand my mind. I have to start all over as my job which I loved got too overwhelming for me. I will soon be 70 and this path is harder to figure out! ❤❤❤❤
Caren, I absolutely love your interiors. Can you do a home tour? As an adhd, I just can’t decide on furniture even if I can afford it.
I appreciate that! But keep in mind, this is just my youtube background. it's not a representation of the rest of my home :)
I just got my diagnosis this week. Unfortunately, in the uk, there is very little help or support and private care is very expensive. My only goal for most of my life is to lose my excess weight and maintain a healthy weight. I’m 53 and still can’t find my way and the support out there is for neurotypical so doesn’t work. Any advice you have would be welcome. Adele 😊
@ hi Leanne, I just got the diagnosis this week. When I spoke with the assessing consultant psychiatrist, she said there wasn’t any ADHD specific help for weight loss. She could only recommend my gp referring me to a dietician.
However, I’ve been there before and the advice they give is generic and wasn’t helpful for me.
I’m so glad you’ve had a breakthrough, it’s no mean feat!
I waited 18 months for the appointment here in Wales which is quite short from what I hear.
At least I can now stop blaming myself for not being able to follow the general advice. That really is a revelation and a weight off my shoulders.
Are you diagnosed or waiting? Adele
@ I was nervous about the process to but it’s really straight forward. They have an assessment tool. They ask question about what you were like as a child, then the same question about being an adult, like. As a child, was your bedroom messy, could you keep still in class, could you concentrate on work, or did you favour looking out the window. So they are looking for just yes or no answers, no need to explain.
I found it really freeing, knowing my experiences were really common for ADHD, that the challenges I faced were not my fault. Despite the nerves, it was a really positive and somewhat enjoyable process ☺️
Yes, I would love to hear about your strategies around eating 😃
@ so, if I have this right. You mainly eat whole foods and eat full fat versions. Prioritise proteins and have lowered your carbs?
Do you drink diet drinks? (I too gave up alcohol 3 years ago 😁)
Do you eat any sweet things at all like biscuits or dark chocolate?
Thanks so much for the help ☺️
@@livechangechallenge this has also been a game changer - I stopped trying to do cardio as it just makes me hungry and started lifting weights instead, using this channel: www.youtube.com/@LiftwithCee
@@livechangechallenge this is the metabolic biologist channel I mentioned - sorry if this sends you down a rabbit hole! www.youtube.com/@benbikman
All this resonates with me. But I find it very hard to let go of my self-limiting beliefs (which I have plenty of). I hate the image I have of myself, but it's the only one I got. Without it, I feel like I have no identity. (no idea if that makes sense...)
It takes time. As Caren says you have to hold an image of yourself and then work towards it. Maybe you are still in the grieving stage. Baby steps. X
When I was young we didn't know anything about ADHD at all and now at the age of 50 I feel ADHA had taken everything away from me. what now?
If you have only just found out/realized you will have to go through the grieving process. There is no way round it, only through it. But then you do fell better. I promise. I’ve never met a person who didn’t achieve anything so you need to start there. Do the grieving but in-conjunction give yourself some credit for showing up now with a new understanding.
@@meaningfulmakings thank you for sharing this video .
I think the hardest thing for me is that. Time, meaning all of your college friends graduating. You getting older. The constant need to be better at providing for yourself as you age. Adds the need for you to take on commitments and find allies to help you. So you people please and commit to people or careers for survival. Then when you get help later in life and discover how to have full agency over your heart and mind. You look around and you have 15 years or more of commitments you would have never made if you knew how to show up each day focused with a healthy self esteem every day. ( I'm starting to get Y.O.L.O. on this though. Can't do it over. But I think I might still try. 🙂)
Yes! This is beautifully said and so true. thank you for sharing that insight.
You need to get a microphone on a stand, the mic in your hand is very distracting.