I'm new to all of this. I also am dealing with complex childhood trauma, hypersensitivity has made me vulnerable to trauma. *It's bigger than it really is,* that in itself makes me feel like I have invalidated myself. I also am on the autism spectrum, so ADHD added in as well. Happy 61 birthday Lisa! I spent all of my past masking to fit in, never feeling included and, even when sitting with my children and grandchildren, I feel alone, left out. Both of my grown sons had tried to tell me and their dad about ADHD, but I didn't hear it. I can't believe I was so ignorant to discount it. They both struggle with it, and I couldn't be bothered to look into it. What is THAT? I love my children, but I believe all I heard were the voices from the past and they weren't supportive of ADHD, now my husband, their father recently passed away., I've realized he was my support human, if you will, and I haven't a clue who the real Lisa is. I got married before 19 and I have been wife and mother, those were my mission, my focus. I have been sitting and rehashing his last week here, and all the trauma I experienced watching my best friend, the one God stitched me to, falling down and incoherent and eventually passing away. I realized I had been in a state of fight or flight for those long days. Always listening in case he was trying to get up, then hearing the dreadful thump of him falling because I missed it. When he left, I lost that stable part in my brain and I was able to see all these wonderful letters that go along with this 61 year old misunderstood brain. No I won't go in for formal testing, I'm not impressed with the medical people anymore. Thanks for letting me get this out, I don't have friends because I expect too much, I miss the idea of them, but not them. That's another thing, am I a stone cold person because I have out of sight out of mind when it comes to people? I don't miss them unless I see something that reminds me of them. Makes grieving my husband difficult, I guess......
My body went into vagal shutdown because of emotional dysregulation & executive dysfunction. I wound up having to check into a part-time in-patient program just so I could actively learn these skills.
I recently discovered your channel and so appreciate you. I actually have a tattoo on my right wrist that says Breathe. I was just recently diagnosed and you are a great help providing insight are clarity about my uniqueness. Thank you 🙏🏽
My biggest hurdle right now is my five year old son. He has been so defiant lately with everything. I am constantly losing my mind and blowing up on him. Still waiting for medication. I feel so bad. Both of us are at fault, but damn.
At work my boss can trigger tears, then I get embarrassed, and then I hyper focus on that conversation and play it over and over and over in my head. Then I'm stuck in the Bermuda Triangle and can't get out.
I am a ruminator. And if a work colleague nags me to do something, not only do I have to get myself focused, I have to overcome my irritation as well. If it was at the top of my emotional priotity list, the nagger has just thrown it to the bottom, even though I know it should be at the top, and 5 minutes earlier, I was eager to work on it next.
I have been looking for something to center myself but they all seem to focus on breath work and I'm not capable of doing that yet...I literally choke and panic while focusing on my breath in a meditation. I will definitely explore the NSDR.
I’m feeling like I’ve been too vulnerable lately and my friends are sick & tired of me because I have anger issues from my past. I may be somewhat passive aggressive as well. Don’t want confrontations with a particular person I grew up with & still get together annually with a group of other girlfriends I grew up with. We are 70-ish!!! She probably doesn’t even remember how rude she was as we grew up together. I remember all of the mean comments she made. I try to forgive but I’m still thinking about it too much. I have ocd & am hypersensitive to criticism. I’m very critical of myself too, but only sometimes. Probably need to find a good cognitive behavioral therapist. Am tired of my messy home, although my bedroom, bath, kitchen & living room are in good shape. It’s the guest bedrooms & family room I need to declutter. Overwhelming job. I’m wanting to feel okay, but it’s not easy.
What do i do to deal with people saying a bunch of words and dragging out points instead of just quickly laying out the points with short direct explanations while simultaneuosly speaking slowly in a quiet or whispery voice idk if its add but it is MADDENING TO AN EXTREME
Great video (and your other videos) I do have a question. I notice I have 80% (minus the static voices) of ADHD symptoms from people's experiences online. I've gone to many therapists but not for ADHD. Do you think that medication could help with the emotional regulation? I dont have depression and anxiety (anymore), thank goodness. But then I dont want to keep going to doctors when I can probably address a lot of things on my own (outside of medical intervention). Just asking everyone's thoughts, really.... nothing serious.
My issue is that I sometimes pause (yaay) but then decide to continue on in the inappropriate mode. Saying something damaging to the relationship. What is the matter with me?! Why am I so mean?!
I just feel so inadequate and yes, a bad person because I read stuff about this and watch videos and even have seen professionals about what to do. And yet just today I hurled at a bunch of innocent acquaintances. I kinda saw it happening but almost felt dissociated from it all. I can't seem to stop the outbursts. I feel like i must look like an ill mannered toddler in a tantrum. Same old same old. I am 64. I wish I was dead. I seem unable to change. I am aware yet I can't seem to do the action to avert the disaster I create. One professional called me helpless and hopeless. Yeah I guess so...
I either over-react and regret or it or I see-react and regret it! It’s a rare occasion when I look back at my actions and feel neutral about them.
I'm silent or Over sharing hits me very much..... Overstimulation n also Understimulation
I have the same tendency to be barely breathing at times. Good talk, thanks Caren.
thank you!
I'm new to all of this. I also am dealing with complex childhood trauma, hypersensitivity has made me vulnerable to trauma. *It's bigger than it really is,* that in itself makes me feel like I have invalidated myself. I also am on the autism spectrum, so ADHD added in as well. Happy 61 birthday Lisa! I spent all of my past masking to fit in, never feeling included and, even when sitting with my children and grandchildren, I feel alone, left out. Both of my grown sons had tried to tell me and their dad about ADHD, but I didn't hear it. I can't believe I was so ignorant to discount it. They both struggle with it, and I couldn't be bothered to look into it. What is THAT? I love my children, but I believe all I heard were the voices from the past and they weren't supportive of ADHD, now my husband, their father recently passed away., I've realized he was my support human, if you will, and I haven't a clue who the real Lisa is. I got married before 19 and I have been wife and mother, those were my mission, my focus. I have been sitting and rehashing his last week here, and all the trauma I experienced watching my best friend, the one God stitched me to, falling down and incoherent and eventually passing away. I realized I had been in a state of fight or flight for those long days. Always listening in case he was trying to get up, then hearing the dreadful thump of him falling because I missed it. When he left, I lost that stable part in my brain and I was able to see all these wonderful letters that go along with this 61 year old misunderstood brain. No I won't go in for formal testing, I'm not impressed with the medical people anymore. Thanks for letting me get this out, I don't have friends because I expect too much, I miss the idea of them, but not them. That's another thing, am I a stone cold person because I have out of sight out of mind when it comes to people? I don't miss them unless I see something that reminds me of them. Makes grieving my husband difficult, I guess......
My body went into vagal shutdown because of emotional dysregulation & executive dysfunction. I wound up having to check into a part-time in-patient program just so I could actively learn these skills.
I'm glad you have tools to help yourself now!
I recently discovered your channel and so appreciate you. I actually have a tattoo on my right wrist that says Breathe.
I was just recently diagnosed and you are a great help providing insight are clarity about my uniqueness. Thank you 🙏🏽
My biggest hurdle right now is my five year old son. He has been so defiant lately with everything. I am constantly losing my mind and blowing up on him. Still waiting for medication. I feel so bad. Both of us are at fault, but damn.
At work my boss can trigger tears, then I get embarrassed, and then I hyper focus on that conversation and play it over and over and over in my head. Then I'm stuck in the Bermuda Triangle and can't get out.
I am a ruminator. And if a work colleague nags me to do something, not only do I have to get myself focused, I have to overcome my irritation as well. If it was at the top of my emotional priotity list, the nagger has just thrown it to the bottom, even though I know it should be at the top, and 5 minutes earlier, I was eager to work on it next.
i couldn't take the feelings anymore... i came to you for help. Thank you. ❤
Been binge watching all your videos. And they've been so helpful that, I feel like I need to rewatch them all again & take notes💕
Just keep them in a playlist. I took notes and now I can't find them. 😊
I am to hard on myself with school and if I mess up I just get so upset or sad I need to give myself some grace
I have been looking for something to center myself but they all seem to focus on breath work and I'm not capable of doing that yet...I literally choke and panic while focusing on my breath in a meditation. I will definitely explore the NSDR.
I’m feeling like I’ve been too vulnerable lately and my friends are sick & tired of me because I have anger issues from my past. I may be somewhat passive aggressive as well. Don’t want confrontations with a particular person I grew up with & still get together annually with a group of other girlfriends I grew up with. We are 70-ish!!!
She probably doesn’t even remember how rude she was as we grew up together. I remember all of the mean comments she made. I try to forgive but I’m still thinking about it too much. I have ocd & am hypersensitive to criticism. I’m very critical of myself too, but only sometimes. Probably need to find a good cognitive behavioral therapist. Am tired of my messy home, although my bedroom, bath, kitchen & living room are in good shape. It’s the guest bedrooms & family room I need to declutter. Overwhelming job. I’m wanting to feel okay, but it’s not easy.
Oh brother, that’s me at times especially when my BF is an introvert and I see and hear idiots in power demand stupid crap!!
What do i do to deal with people saying a bunch of words and dragging out points instead of just quickly laying out the points with short direct explanations while simultaneuosly speaking slowly in a quiet or whispery voice idk if its add but it is MADDENING TO AN EXTREME
Great video (and your other videos) I do have a question. I notice I have 80% (minus the static voices) of ADHD symptoms from people's experiences online. I've gone to many therapists but not for ADHD. Do you think that medication could help with the emotional regulation? I dont have depression and anxiety (anymore), thank goodness. But then I dont want to keep going to doctors when I can probably address a lot of things on my own (outside of medical intervention). Just asking everyone's thoughts, really.... nothing serious.
My issue is that I sometimes pause (yaay) but then decide to continue on in the inappropriate mode. Saying something damaging to the relationship. What is the matter with me?! Why am I so mean?!
yoga nidra is THE BEST 🙌🏽💯☯️
Yoga is awesome for adhd. It gets you out of your head for a little while. Breath work, love it.
I just feel so inadequate and yes, a bad person because I read stuff about this and watch videos and even have seen professionals about what to do. And yet just today I hurled at a bunch of innocent acquaintances. I kinda saw it happening but almost felt dissociated from it all. I can't seem to stop the outbursts. I feel like i must look like an ill mannered toddler in a tantrum. Same old same old. I am 64. I wish I was dead. I seem unable to change. I am aware yet I can't seem to do the action to avert the disaster I create. One professional called me helpless and hopeless. Yeah I guess so...
I’m so sorry. I feel your frustration, but no one is hopeless 💗
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Have anyone told you yet that you look like the (younger) Kim Basinger? :-)
I'm still so shocked that people have romantic relationships cuz how 😮
when you find the right person, it will make sense :)
I knooow!!! I’ve tried and gave up been single 4 years and it’s been the least stressful ever whew thank you Lord
Fix the audio to your mouth movement so people will watch