Best Cold Approach Conversation Starters! These conversation openers are the best because they come across as natural feeling (they've all worked on me more than once). *Attitude + aptitude = a successful dude!* Wingmam Get a GF video program: members.wingmam.com/get-women/
There's this chic I approached this week...we had a short conversation (I'm a bit shy...I also had a huge crush on her) I took her number also......I texted her the next day.....she replied back but now she isn't replying.....give me the way forward with this girl.....I really like her 😊
Eric Ndigah did you over pursue? Text can also get boring quickly. Be playful, fun, flirty and teasing. But also be brief. Go for the clothes as soon as possible. The clothes is… Making plans to get together. If you kind of bombed, wait a week and text or something unexpected. Or cute. With an open ended question. If she replies, don’t be too anxious to answer back right away. Find and watch my video on “when to text a girl back. If she doesn’t reply, next! :(
Honesty is the best policy. "I'm approaching you because my dating coach instructed me to practice breaking the ice with someone who is less attractive than me."
I met my wife 32 yrs ago in a traffic jam. She was in the car next to me and I asked her if she caused it. She said no, I replied; well you're certainly pretty enough to stop traffic. She laughed and in 32yrs we still haven't had our 1st argument. I watch these because I enjoy listening to your voice. Have a beautiful day.
Back in the late 1960s, I was at a party and there was this absolutely beautiful woman that I wanted to meet but felt that I would be rejected. She approached me and said, “Hi my name's Annette what's yours?” That started a 50-year relationship that included a happy marriage. I once asked her what it was that prompted her to approach me and her answer was that I had “beautiful kind eyes.”
I’m goin for “Do you mind if I chat with you a moment, I really didn’t want to loose this opportunity because I’m attracted to you and may never see you again.” Bravery takes courage.
I'd change "I'm attracted to you" to "I found your eyes/smile alluring" it is basically the same thing but it's sly in actually complimenting her while also letting her know you find her attractive.
I'm not afraid to talk to girls because of what they'll say or how they'll respond to me initiating a conversation; I'm actually self-conscious about other people listening in on my attempt to talk to a girl at a coffee shop or a bakery. I feel like it turns into an audition when people are just sitting 3 feet away, hearing my patter. Meeting a girl alone in an isle of a store or sitting/standing outside of a door for an appointment is so much easier.
Especially me as black, when I try it here in the US the entire shop stands still to watch this movie, I can only imagine the anxiety she would feel, probably 10 times mine!!
Yes! I remember at dances going up to a girl or a table of girls and asking one to dance. You knew every guy was watching to see if you were going to be "shot down". Sometimes when none would say yes, I would say "come on, I'm not asking you to marry me, it's just a dance", and sometimes that would work.
There is a girl at a convenience store that I stop at and I've seen her many times, but recently I've been attracted to her. She complimented me on a shirt I was wearing, and it sounds cheesy, but that was enough for me. Now I'm working up the courage to talk to her more. I finally asked for her name. Now I need to compliment her so maybe she notices I care. This video has some good things to start with. There are a lot of attractive women out there, but this girl seems very kind and she has a very sweet and soothing voice.
I was about to enter a mall and there was a beautiful lady waiting for someone or something outside the main entrance; without any hesitation I went straight to her and said in apologetic tone "sorry I am late", as if she was waiting for me :). That really worked and we ended up having dinner and spending the evening together
my father gave me a good approach method, back when I was about 18 (early 80's) his advice was to ask a woman for help. it required some thinking and creativity, because the help needed to fit the surroundings. his idea was that by asking for help you were elevating the other person and putting yourself in a more humble position. in my experience it usually worked well as a conversation starter. I am not sure if in 2020 it would be as successful because people in general are more guarded about being approached, and asking for help could be construed as "I need money" ! my example would be such as: If i saw a "shining star" out in public i might approach and ask " hello can I ask for you help? do you know where (someplace relevant and close by ) is? and then her reaction would tell you whether you could build any conversation, interaction from that. it also is pretty good way to get a. conversation started with someone you may know just a little, but asking for a short easy help might open a deeper discussion... worked for my dear old dad! and for me too!
oh I also wanted to add this...unfortunately Ted Bundy many times asked girls for help, using fake casts, crutches, carrying slot of books etc.... there is some psychology involved in making yourself appear vulnerable and safe by asking for help... be careful ladies!
@@majortolleson8799 Lol thats what I initially thought you were going in your comment about asking for help. I thought you were making a Ted Bundy joke
I once read an article written by a woman and her biggest complaint was that nice guys never asked her out. Only overconfident jerks would approach her. If she wanted to meet a guy that she thought was a decent person she would have to approach him. My buddies once asked me how I ended up with a girl that was way out of my league. I simply replied, "I worked up enough courage to ask her." I learned a lot from that article.
Meeting girls is a lot like going for job interviews. It can be very nerve wracking. But I found the more interviews I had, the more comfortable I was. It became no problem at all. I did contract work for over 10 years and went for many interviews. Not a second thought.
A simple compliment...I told a woman that she had beautiful hair...she really did. She was so grateful that I noticed, then told her. Then, she said her husband never notices, or compliments her. I wasn’t looking to have a conversation, but we did. It was just a simple observation. Compliments cost nothing, but they are received as a gift.
Did she Even compliment you back? I never undertood why guys give atention, compliments and make girls laught for free without Even earn it. I mean sure, it's good to break the ice and funny but, it's not a man's job to entertain womans or come up with sly jokes just to see them laughting. Smh
i have been a sales manager almost as long a some people have been alive. Your approach is so simple and open that most guys don't think it will be effective, I promise it is. this is so similar to a sales approach most guys just don't realize that it is. like a good sales approach, you have indicated that interest in the lady will in some cases capture her attention, simply because people like to feel that they are interesting. How to win friends and influence people. Once a lady has been open to a conversation, she is somewhat interested, it almost doesn't make a difference what you say next, in fact given a guy can keep his mouth shut, the lady will carry the conversation if the guy fails a bit. self confidence is really the key, in my opinion. a woman loves to see that in some men, because many do not have it. good article, once again, nice delivery. I could have used this a long time ago, but, here i am at a senior level and it is still working for me. thank Anna, good job. ciao.
If she rejects you just say "look it's no problem just take it as a compliment and move on" shows you're not really affected by it negatively, and more than willing to move on
@@charliepatterson9321 This channel was free but I think I get your point. Yep, too true, women haven't changed in all these centuries. Since the beginning of time women would choose the ugliest male if he was considerably wealthy. Looks don't matter, you can be a toilet to her if she's got your money to drain. Personally I prefer not prostitutes because I'd recognize so many from my college lol
No way man you play to win or don't play at all. You need to keep in mind that not every play this game is going to be a score, but you're going to win the game!
You hit the nail on the head. I tend to be an introvert so I try to overcome that by talking to people, particularly women. Most times its easy to find an opening comment just because of the circumstances like waiting in a queue somewhere. Then politeness, confidence and being a good listener almost guarantees success.
#1 is the standard. It works well because you just say hello, my name is X. If she doesn't respond, don't waste your energy. No clever lines to remember, just tell the truth, be congenial/friendly. If you can't get her telling the truth, you can't keep her either. #3 is clever but better get that line right. If you flub it, you could be considered deceitful. Not a good start. #2 if it fits into the situation, why not? For me, I find it best to not complicate things by giving myself a specific line, trust me I've tried. The more clever I get the more likely I look like Kramer tripping over a footstool delivering it. Just keep it simple, honest, humble but undeturred.
I love how you say to calmly respectfully reject them as in the polite as opposed to these women that as soon as you say something of interest to them their immediate responses "my boyfriend's a killer" like they say rejection for protection approach instead of taking it as a compliment you don't want her anyway
2:25 "The guy actually approached me, I was in a park. And this is when I was living in Seattle." I was just relieved she didn't then say, "He hit me with a bike lock and yelled ANTIFA!"
Just on a point of order (and perhaps interest) if you observe person 1 approach person 2, person 1 assaults person 2 while yelling "anti-fascist!": what do you conclude about the political stance of the people involved? from my experience, the utterances in these scenarios tends to be accusatory. Assuming the accusation is in good faith (!) person 2 is presumably anti-fascist and person 1 is anti-anti-fascist, presumably.... im not here to argue the merits of either case or comment on the ethics of assaulting people.
I had lots of friends when I was younger. I have got rid of almost all of my so called friends as an older adult because they all kept using me for crap! Most of the few left are married and never seem to want to do anything anymore so rarely will I be caught with a friend at 47yrs old.
Anna, I agree that it is important to tell a woman right away that your Mom says that you are a catch. You are right. This will immediately convey to her that you are indeed a very high status male and that your Mom even validates this fact. Thanks WingmamTV for this great advice. Your channel is chock full of helpful tips such as this one.
Another great video. It's a pity you weren't around when I was a young guy, haha. Still learning lots though. We had a guy I used to work with wh was an absolute legend. He was invariably successful. His standard line was "Hi, my name's Mal, how am I doing so far?" I always thought that this was mega cheesy, but I couldn't argue with his results. I have seen him walk into the club, ander over and say hello to his workmates while scoping out the talent. He would then say: "She looks ok, se you guys later." We would them watch him walk over, talk for a few minutes and not long after he would leave with an obviously excited lady. Even his kids used to say "Hi My name's Mal, how'm I doing so far.'
*It’s important to engage in a way that feels natural, and the examples shared here really demonstrate how to do that. The focus on being genuine while also making the other person feel at ease is invaluable for anyone looking to improve their social skills!*
Wingmam, wanted to point out the often times shyness is actually caused by something physical. Mercury fillings will make a person's nervous system damaged. One must determine if it is shyness or nervousness. Not sure, but believe shyness is simply nervousness which can be helped dramatically by removing toxins, healthy diet, and B vitamins which are beneficial to the nervous system. When younger, approached by many, many girls but could not even really talk to them. I never knew until recent years that it was the mercury as it causes somewhat of a Parkinsons effect. If women like confidence, they won't like that as it would appear to be lack of confidence....it is not. People always accused me of being shy but explained that was not shy, but nervous. After removing the mercury, I could now make a speech to a trillion people and not be nervous one bit but had to drop from school as no chance could do the required speech class back then. Thanks for your video content and Merry Christmas!
@@YourWingmam yes, destroyed my whole family one way or another. I trust dentists and drs ZERO!!! I was not generally depressed but one of my brothers was from the same poisoning. I had 17 mercury fillings by the way but fortunately no root canals which are another horror to health. Your mercury was from fillings or something else? And how did you find out? Were you nervous more than shy? How did you resolve the poisoning? TY. If haven't, may want to do a video on that issue as it may be causing many people out there to be unable to ask someone out on a date. Got to build the proper foundation to get the best results from the quality and heart-felt information that you provide. Mouth health = gut health=brain health=proper thought vibration to attract the proper person ….and all else.
A simple compliment on a article of clothing or their hair. Does wonders to get a smile or a conversation started. It seems woman are more than ever back into eyebrows soooo. Thank you
I read the smarmy comments that others posted. It takes courage to put yourself out there by doing these videos. You are attempting to help others find love and a relationship, even if they don’t realize it. That's admirable and commendable. Just wanted to say Thanks! Someone understands and appreciates where you’re coming from and what you’re trying to do. … Carl
Hi @WingmamTV, Ive just found your videos and they are all really helpful. Its great to see a mature Women helping guys to approach women, its not easy to do for a lot of us sensitive types. Regards from New Zealand
I promise you that I could never get bored of you, as a fellow INTJ, you've put things across with a sense of humour I can understand. I like your accent (Canadian is in my top 5). Keep up the good work.
excellent advice because yes it does take courage to talk to a stranger out of the blue, and when you get that ''no'' it is tempting to think that it was a lot of effort for nothing. In fact firstly it is simply exciting to challenge yourself and not just meet people through mutual acquaintances in predictable situations and you feel good that you had the self discipline to overcome all the excuses you find it in your head to not walk over.
I have learned if you are in the right place and that can be in a supermarket sometimes you can strike up a conversation by just talking about the food they are selling. I find, just be yourself and talk casual and low key... If their not interested they will let you know and if that happens that just means there is someone better out there... It is like fishing, just keep casting and sooner or later you just might hook one... Then you will be sorry LOL...
Anna, You're simply awesome. I've been watching your videos for one week+. Initially specific topics, then I just now after work let them roll. More like an after work classes for me, some several re-watches. Don't worry I watch the ads too...peradventure you can get a cent from there. I'm typically a picky 55 year divorced well educated, reserved & very private...Mr Nice guy. So now, while I know I need a partner because I enjoy sharing my live...I've resorted to just developing friendships. Long story short, I woke up to your videos and watched as I got ready for work, pumped up I went in to Starbucks for a to-go Mocha. While waiting I used your conversation starter # 3...after a few glances....then combined it with #1 ...How's your day really going...we spoke for like 10 minutes, I really had to go to work...she ended up giving me her business card first & I gave mine.. Now I have no expectations and haven't called since 2 days...I plan to call her on my lunch break on the 3rd day...I will begin with what are you having for lunch...then within 10 minutes escalate to a possible dinner or just a Saturday hang out. Your technique worked so well...I had to share it. Eventhough I'm still not exactly ready. Anyway that's it...you successfully made me speak...back to shell now...hahaha.
One time I was in Seattle, and I saw this gorgeous and sexy girl sitting on the grass reading a book. I walked over and asked her what she was reading. Without saying anything she flipped it over and it was a book on narcissists. She completely blew me off but I never will forget how beautiful she was. I still think of her from time to time and wonder what happened to her. I hope she is having a good life.
Hey have to say I like your channel especially from women's perspective and the one thing I absolutely love is that unlike most "how to"videos u don't go into a 20 minute pointless introduction before actually getting to the reason someone clicks on video in the first place...u just get right to the point ..
Of these three options the one that seems most likely to work for me is the "How's your Day" ploy , but I can't say for sure I will be in a position to play that role this week - The right opportunity has to show up - Thanks for your encouragement !
I met my husband after he asked if the seat beside me was taken. I smiled and said it wasn't, he smiled and said thank you. Then I felt flushed with embarrassment as I realized there were oodles of empty seats around me. I was just thinking about the event . . .
@@ericsmith6677The reasons that would bring that is when HE DOESN'T have a good personality. I have had plenty of moments to take a glance and say "I'd rather you didn't" or glance around for some girl I don't like and say "Why don't you try that over there?" "Magic" smiles" and "magic" moments" don't come all the time.
I’m really digging your videos. Excellent information. I’ve used the simple, hey, how are you doing a lot. I worked the front counter of a health food store and found myself doing that with everyone, and then realized I was carrying it over into ice breaker situations. So, how are YOU doing? If she’s attracted to you, she’s going to invite you in a little. “I’m doing alright. I just...
I can imagine you getting hit on and saying "hey, you didn't do that right, go back over there, wait a moment, then come back and try it again." You need Olympic style score cards lol
I think this video is full of really useful advice. I agree with the idea of it's all practice. Each encounter is a learning experience. One approach I take is to point out something small. "Hey nice nail polish. What colour is that, is that a kind of teal colour?" this is guaranteed to get engagement. Cause women appreciate small details being noticed. Or alternatively....the playful dorky approach......"hey, nice jacket. It wouldn't suit me, but it looks good on you. where did you get it?" etc. Rule of thumb.....is something that will make them smile or flattered you noticed and you got that ice broken!!
I for one, appreciate your videos. They are down to earth & truthful. I recommend anyone dating or trying to find someone to share their life with to listen and watch your videos. These videos should be taught in high school. Anyway TYVM ;-)
@@gordongekko2781 it shouldn't be creepy to greet and talk up someone even in the church of jesus himsef!! But we're living in a brutal society .. here in the US you won't just be pepper sprayed, you will be talking to the police ....
A woman once told me how hard it was for her to say “no” to guys asking for her phone number and how it led to dates or calls she didn’t really want. I said, “Let’s practice you saying ‘no’ to me.” So I asked for her phone number - and she gave it to me. No joke. We started seeing each other and were together for a couple years.
I guess it depends on how you look at it. Getting successful yes responses to going out with you is different from the skills needed to sustain a relationship. Just because someone agrees to go out with you is not a guarantee it will all work out.
I guess it depends on how you look at it. Getting successful yes responses to going out with you is different from the skills needed to sustain a relationship. Just because someone agrees to go out with you is not a guarantee it will all work out.
Anna, this is wonderful advice! You have a very kind spirit as I can tell by your nuanced explanations. Thank you for your insightful videos, I enjoy hearing your perspective. I look forward to keep following your great work
I was walking to the self-checkout register when a lady cut me off. After I scanned and paid, I walked up to her and said: "not everyday I get cut off by an attractive lady like yourself." But it didn't help anyways - she seemed in such a hurry and just gave me the short: "have a nice day" phrase. It was worth the try, I'm glad I tried - better than going home and thinking and regretting not talking to her.
Thank you for giving advice to women I'm being nice and respectful when a man approaches them and they're not interested. It does take a lot of Courage for a man to approach a woman and when a man is trying to be a gentleman and nice and a woman's response is nasty toward them, it really gives me a bad taste. Also for your woman out there. You could be the most attractive human on earth, but once you're nasty. You're no longer attractive. The true ugliness and truth about yourself comes out. So in some aspects that makes it a lot easier for like-minded men who don't want to waste their time on such women. Great video and advice thank you.
Part of why I’m still single in my middle 50’s is that I’m tired of being rejected and I’m tired of failing at finding a relationship or even getting a date. Yes I live with my loneliness and I miss the last woman I fell in love with but in a way loneliness is something that I have had to live with my whole life. My family isn’t warm or loving and I don’t have any friends to do anything with. This is a world in which too many people are selfish.
I found the video very interesting to watch.There is a saying :-,It’s not what you say,it’s how you say it.Expressing yourself in Communication is in Important,so is Eye Contact.I believe in keeping Cool, Calm and Collective.Being Confident plays a great part as well.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️.
Attitude and aptitude: For decades I was terrified of rejection on the first approach. It only dissipated when I thought "Heck, an attractive woman is just another person, so who cares?" This is attitude and you have to convince yourself about yourself (tricky, huh?) before you can sail. These days I am too old to give a damn - pity I wasn't like that before.
Hey, I have them at "Hello". Another is, "Is your day going better than mine?" I find saying this invites intrigue. Aside from that, I tend to ignore attractive women, but they do approach me. Here's my tip. Have a conversation with a person (man or woman) within an earshot of her in a public setting and observe her behavior. Talk about some current events happening around town. She may enter into the conversation. Then, say something that may cause her to turn to you and make eye contact. Perhaps, something self-deprecating, funny, or chauvinistic. (I've noticed how women would laugh or talk a little louder to get my attention (or other men's attention), so I have adapted this tactic into a strategy.)
Anna, you are so easy to listen to and bring valuable, practical information as well. You are pretty easy on the eyes but, I most love your calm and low toned soothing voice. It indicates a sense of knowing who you really are and that you are comfortable in your own skin. Thank you. Jeffrey Z. in SC
Don't act interested in anything beyond a friendly moment. Smile..be genuine.. even if just in small talk. Find something humorous to comment on.. make life a little lighter for a moment..try to get a smile from her. If it doesn't work, still smile as you walk away.
Your extraordinarily honest and candid approach to reality is refreshing! And, you are uniquely beautiful… Just saying I would like to believe that I'm becoming a better person because of you and your videos.
Met my wife in a class at a trade school. So captive audience. She would not even say hi back to me. One day, mad after being snubbed again I asked her if she was deaf and dumb or just stuck up. She got mad chewed me out but after that would say high. Unknown to me she had been told I was married. She did not have a car so I would ask if she would like a ride. She always said no. Thought I was a creep. Finally the last day I was going to ask her, she would say no and I was done chasing her. Guy that lied to her told her I was not married. She slugged him in the jaw. Waited for me to offer a ride, said yes. I was so prepared for no I was speechless. Was married 34 years. She is passed and I am watching videos trying to figure out where to start.
you have a great style, that is, a way of speaking and looking engaged, open. Also lots of good common sense advice.... I hope you are with someone you love, Ana, and that it is mutual..... thanks for video,,,, all the best from Bellows Falls, Vermont
I enjoy your vids but this video there was something that made me laugh . You were reading a book in the park about narcissism then decided to write a book with the main word in the title being ME 🤣🤣. I'm glad you got your rewrite and are helping lots of people . Shows you have legit strength of character.
I saw a beautiful woman once walking by a house I was digging a ditch for a new sewer line, and I shouted out THANK YOU! She stopped and asked me for what? I said, for making my day. She just smiled and kept walking but I knew I got her attention and she loved it.
At the beach in San Diego, 1980, I said to a beautiful Pinoi girl, “Hey how are you?” She answered with “Are you going to be trouble for me today?” I answered “No. I’m sorry” and left. We’ve been great friends with occasional benefits ever since.
Henry - I find your story a little confusing. If you left, how did you become FWB’s? Wouldn’t it have been better to say ‘ damn right I am!’ or something along those lines?
The easiest icebreaker is just comment on a song that maybe in the background . It works often times for no other reason than musical conversation are fun to have anyways .
Thanks Anna, thanks for all your videos from all us men. I have used no 1 and it has worked. I have also gone up to a woman and asked her for her opinion or advice, or for her directions (can you please tell me how I can find " whatever" or "whoever"?).
@@conorm2524 No. Michael left the blank to fill in your name, not to suggest not offering it. That would likely be what is known as "to cute by half". Women have many ways to let you know they are not interested. No need to make it easy for them.
Here’s one. “ Excuse me but I think you have my seat “. Song lyrics helped me develop confidence, later didn’t need them but that was a first. Worked great.
The bottom line is no matter where you are in the world. You need confidence. You have to take care of yourself, You have to already be happy with your life and with whom you are as a person. You have to learn to like yourself and keep working on your own happiness. The rest falls into place. Physical attractiveness is helpful but is not necessary. You have to show you are already happy and do not need anybody to make you happy. That is attractive. Is all about the emotion. You can sell anybody with logic. But they will "buy" out of emotion. The key is how you make them feel. Yes it is a numbers game. like she said, the more NO's you will get, the closer to a yes you will be. Like they used to teach us in sales. if you don't offer you are guaranteed failure, but if you keep going somebody will say yes and you will become even more confident. Simple.
Excuse me do you have the time? I mean the exact time down to the second. Because, someday when my grandchildren ask me: When did you first meet grandmother, I want to be able to tell them exactly.
Number one rule about meeting people or getting to know about them. People like to talk about their favorite subject, themselves. It isn't narcissistic, just a comfortable normal topic. If you ask a girl about them selves and they don't want to talk about it, they're not interested, but you can still have a conversation based on small talk. Any of the examples she mentions first can be followed up by simple questions about herself. Say your in line at Starbucks or in a checkout line at the grocery store. You open with one of her suggestions, then ask something like do you like that brand of wine or whatever. Turn the conversation into one where she's telling you about her. It's ok to answer a question about yourself if she asks, or if it pertains to the topic you asked her about. But keep it simple. And good luck!
I spent my career in the corporate world and the women who worked in it were always easy to talk to. It's the culture and most men and women who were in that culture can easily get along. I've been approached by these ladies when working or traveling and I have also approached them. Introducing yourself to a stranger is something that just comes naturally in that culture. That helps with approaching people outside of the corporate world, but I usually find outsiders to be not as conversational, interesting, refined, cultured, educated, etc. That's not to say that I haven't met several women outsiders that I like, some of who are friends.
Anna you are so Beautiful ! I will try option 2 this week and see how it works out for me and I hope I could get my confidence level higher to go on with option 3 in the near future Thanks A Bunch For These Wonderful Advices
The late great psychologist, Albert Ellis, who you probably never heard of, and who died at 94 years old in 2004, and had an Institute in NYC and gave his infamous "Friday night workshops" (open to the general public) at the Institute for over 45 years, all ways told the story of how he set the goal and approached 100 women with "cold approaches" and how he was rejected 99 times and the 1 yes he got didn't show-up for the date. He told the story to show that rejection will never kill you, that it gets easier with practice and eventually you can succeed. He was eventually married. Should try to read his books if they are still in print. Was the 2nd most quoted psychologist by a survey conducted by the APA.
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Best Cold Approach Conversation Starters! These conversation openers are the best because they come across as natural feeling (they've all worked on me more than once). *Attitude + aptitude = a successful dude!*
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There's this chic I approached this week...we had a short conversation (I'm a bit shy...I also had a huge crush on her) I took her number also......I texted her the next day.....she replied back but now she isn't replying.....give me the way forward with this girl.....I really like her 😊
Eric Ndigah did you over pursue? Text can also get boring quickly. Be playful, fun, flirty and teasing. But also be brief. Go for the clothes as soon as possible. The clothes is… Making plans to get together.
If you kind of bombed, wait a week and text or something unexpected. Or cute. With an open ended question.
If she replies, don’t be too anxious to answer back right away. Find and watch my video on “when to text a girl back. If she doesn’t reply, next! :(
Jeremy Lui 😳
@@YourWingmam thanks
@@YourWingmam should I call her ?
Honesty is the best policy. "I'm approaching you because my dating coach instructed me to practice breaking the ice with someone who is less attractive than me."
Classic.
Love it!
"My mom says I need to get out of the basement and meet new people...so here I am!"
Ya but say that to a really hot chick, that might actually work, lol
Otis your kidding,right!
I met my wife 32 yrs ago in a traffic jam. She was in the car next to me and I asked her if she caused it. She said no, I replied; well you're certainly pretty enough to stop traffic. She laughed and in 32yrs we still haven't had our 1st argument. I watch these because I enjoy listening to your voice. Have a beautiful day.
Did she pull over to talk with you when this happened?
wow, talk about luck, you must have met an incredible women. unfortunately those are few and far between nowadays
You have not argued for 32 years? I don’t believe you
@alexanderchenf1 I don't mind if you don't believe me. That's your right and it doesn't change the truth one bit. Have a blessed day 🙏.
@@alexanderchenf1 yea that's definitely such a fucking lie lol
Back in the late 1960s, I was at a party and there was this absolutely beautiful woman that I wanted to meet but felt that I would be rejected. She approached me and said, “Hi my name's Annette what's yours?” That started a 50-year relationship that included a happy marriage. I once asked her what it was that prompted her to approach me and her answer was that I had “beautiful kind eyes.”
I made it 25.
I’m 49 and never been married, maybe one day I might when I’m 130.
Wonderful
Very heartwarming story. Thanks for sharing!
some of us get lucky. But that's no approach
I’m goin for
“Do you mind if I chat with you a moment, I really didn’t want to loose this opportunity because I’m attracted to you and may never see you again.”
Bravery takes courage.
I'd change "I'm attracted to you" to "I found your eyes/smile alluring" it is basically the same thing but it's sly in actually complimenting her while also letting her know you find her attractive.
If you say that you're are a brave dude.
Why would you simp like that? Just talk to her like a normal person
Lame
I'm not afraid to talk to girls because of what they'll say or how they'll respond to me initiating a conversation; I'm actually self-conscious about other people listening in on my attempt to talk to a girl at a coffee shop or a bakery. I feel like it turns into an audition when people are just sitting 3 feet away, hearing my patter. Meeting a girl alone in an isle of a store or sitting/standing outside of a door for an appointment is so much easier.
Good insight - I tend to feel the same
Especially me as black, when I try it here in the US the entire shop stands still to watch this movie, I can only imagine the anxiety she would feel, probably 10 times mine!!
Exactly which is why even if i get looks, like at the gym i won't approach because i know so many eyes are watching and ears listening...
Yes! I remember at dances going up to a girl or a table of girls and asking one to dance. You knew every guy was watching to see if you were going to be "shot down". Sometimes when none would say yes, I would say "come on, I'm not asking you to marry me, it's just a dance", and sometimes that would work.
if they are not with her, I seriously dont give an F… You must be really insecure
There is a girl at a convenience store that I stop at and I've seen her many times, but recently I've been attracted to her. She complimented me on a shirt I was wearing, and it sounds cheesy, but that was enough for me. Now I'm working up the courage to talk to her more. I finally asked for her name. Now I need to compliment her so maybe she notices I care. This video has some good things to start with. There are a lot of attractive women out there, but this girl seems very kind and she has a very sweet and soothing voice.
I was about to enter a mall and there was a beautiful lady waiting for someone or something outside the main entrance; without any hesitation I went straight to her and said in apologetic tone "sorry I am late", as if she was waiting for me :).
That really worked and we ended up having dinner and spending the evening together
Did u guys do the dirty dirty ??
SMOOOOOOTH!!
Wow, you spent an evening with her!
B.S.
And all only cost me 150 dollars for the dinner and 250 for the sex !!!! They are called Hookers buddy .
my father gave me a good approach method, back when I was about 18 (early 80's) his advice was to ask a woman for help. it required some thinking and creativity, because the help needed to fit the surroundings. his idea was that by asking for help you were elevating the other person and putting yourself in a more humble position. in my experience it usually worked well as a conversation starter. I am not sure if in 2020 it would be as successful because people in general are more guarded about being approached, and asking for help could be construed as "I need money" ! my example would be such as: If i saw a "shining star" out in public i might approach and ask " hello can I ask for you help? do you know where (someplace relevant and close by ) is? and then her reaction would tell you whether you could build any conversation, interaction from that. it also is pretty good way to get a. conversation started with someone you may know just a little, but asking for a short easy help might open a deeper discussion... worked for my dear old dad! and for me too!
oh I also wanted to add this...unfortunately Ted Bundy many times asked girls for help, using fake casts, crutches, carrying slot of books etc.... there is some psychology involved in making yourself appear vulnerable and safe by asking for help... be careful ladies!
That help method isn’t good because it shows you’re a non confident beating around the bush. Just be straight up with a girl and approach.
@@majortolleson8799 Lol thats what I initially thought you were going in your comment about asking for help. I thought you were making a Ted Bundy joke
@@TheHamzaalikhan Just ask her for directions then strike up a conversation. Thats a good method, probably one of the best I can think of
Excellent idea. It's what Ted Bundy did to lure his victims, asking for help.
I once read an article written by a woman and her biggest complaint was that nice guys never asked her out. Only overconfident jerks would approach her. If she wanted to meet a guy that she thought was a decent person she would have to approach him. My buddies once asked me how I ended up with a girl that was way out of my league. I simply replied, "I worked up enough courage to ask her." I learned a lot from that article.
Meeting girls is a lot like going for job interviews. It can be very nerve wracking. But I found the more interviews I had, the more comfortable I was. It became no problem at all. I did contract work for over 10 years and went for many interviews. Not a second thought.
Good stuff
A simple compliment...I told a woman that she had beautiful hair...she really did. She was so grateful that I noticed, then told her. Then, she said her husband never notices, or compliments her. I wasn’t looking to have a conversation, but we did. It was just a simple observation. Compliments cost nothing, but they are received as a gift.
Shes letting you know she has a husband and that you shouldnt ask her out. But shes being low key about it
@@ghostridersinthesky21 avoid that bullet
Did she Even compliment you back? I never undertood why guys give atention, compliments and make girls laught for free without Even earn it. I mean sure, it's good to break the ice and funny but, it's not a man's job to entertain womans or come up with sly jokes just to see them laughting. Smh
Wow! That's very original. She's only heard that same lame "introduction" perhaps a million times. Or more.
i have been a sales manager almost as long a some people have been alive. Your approach is so simple and open that most guys don't think it will be effective, I promise it is. this is so similar to a sales approach most guys just don't realize that it is. like a good sales approach, you have indicated that interest in the lady will in some cases capture her attention, simply because people like to feel that they are interesting. How to win friends and influence people. Once a lady has been open to a conversation, she is somewhat interested, it almost doesn't make a difference what you say next, in fact given a guy can keep his mouth shut, the lady will carry the conversation if the guy fails a bit. self confidence is really the key, in my opinion. a woman loves to see that in some men, because many do not have it. good article, once again, nice delivery. I could have used this a long time ago, but, here i am at a senior level and it is still working for me. thank Anna, good job. ciao.
Light hearted humor can really brighten up somebody’s day. I wish I had the capacity to think of a comment. Someone brightened up my day.
You're absolutely right!
Being widowed for almost 3 years after being married for 4 decades dating its no walk on the beach...thank you
for your.much needed advice
Joe Arango just call it quits. Ur wife would appreciate it
I hear you brother. Widowed 2 yr after 3+ decades. Lost now
Yeppers. +2 decades married (and widower too). Finished raising the kids and now, not sure I even want to try to get back into the dating scene.
Sorry for your loss. And good luck out there.
Hey joe, I’m in the same boat..hopefully it works out for you
If she rejects you just say "look it's no problem just take it as a compliment and move on" shows you're not really affected by it negatively, and more than willing to move on
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
I did.
All these videos are really informative, I made up my mind I need a psychologist.
@@charliepatterson9321 This channel was free but I think I get your point. Yep, too true, women haven't changed in all these centuries. Since the beginning of time women would choose the ugliest male if he was considerably wealthy. Looks don't matter, you can be a toilet to her if she's got your money to drain.
Personally I prefer not prostitutes because I'd recognize so many from my college lol
The paradox of getting rejected is that it's good for you but before you hit on a dame make sure to expect rejection most of the time.
FALES, READ MY LONG PST ABOVE, THIS IS THE MISCONCEPTION!V
Totally agree! BUT, don't let her sense that expectation in your approach, or it is doom for sure...
Hope for the best but prepare for the worst.
No way man you play to win or don't play at all. You need to keep in mind that not every play this game is going to be a score, but you're going to win the game!
Wow!! Last time someone said “dame” was in a Humphrey Bogart flick. LOL
You hit the nail on the head. I tend to be an introvert so I try to overcome that by talking to people, particularly women. Most times its easy to find an opening comment just because of the circumstances like waiting in a queue somewhere. Then politeness, confidence and being a good listener almost guarantees success.
#1 is the standard. It works well because you just say hello, my name is X. If she doesn't respond, don't waste your energy. No clever lines to remember, just tell the truth, be congenial/friendly. If you can't get her telling the truth, you can't keep her either.
#3 is clever but better get that line right. If you flub it, you could be considered deceitful. Not a good start.
#2 if it fits into the situation, why not?
For me, I find it best to not complicate things by giving myself a specific line, trust me I've tried. The more clever I get the more likely I look like Kramer tripping over a footstool delivering it. Just keep it simple, honest, humble but undeturred.
I love how you say to calmly respectfully reject them as in the polite as opposed to these women that as soon as you say something of interest to them their immediate responses "my boyfriend's a killer" like they say rejection for protection approach instead of taking it as a compliment you don't want her anyway
"Your eyes are as blue as my toilet water" - A classic that never fails... or never works. I forget which.
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Lol!
HA HA HA HA HA HA HA!!!!
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lmfao
2:25 "The guy actually approached me, I was in a park. And this is when I was living in Seattle." I was just relieved she didn't then say, "He hit me with a bike lock and yelled ANTIFA!"
haha! - or skateboard
LMAO
Just on a point of order (and perhaps interest) if you observe person 1 approach person 2, person 1 assaults person 2 while yelling "anti-fascist!": what do you conclude about the political stance of the people involved?
from my experience, the utterances in these scenarios tends to be accusatory. Assuming the accusation is in good faith (!) person 2 is presumably anti-fascist and person 1 is anti-anti-fascist, presumably.... im not here to argue the merits of either case or comment on the ethics of assaulting people.
"If you don't have friends you'd better get friends!" Lol, I LOVE it!
What if they just don't want to be friends with you? In Europe that happens often 😃
I had lots of friends when I was younger. I have got rid of almost all of my so called friends as an older adult because they all kept using me for crap! Most of the few left are married and never seem to want to do anything anymore so rarely will I be caught with a friend at 47yrs old.
Anna, I agree that it is important to tell a woman right away that your Mom says that you are a catch. You are right. This will immediately convey to her that you are indeed a very high status male and that your Mom even validates this fact. Thanks WingmamTV for this great advice. Your channel is chock full of helpful tips such as this one.
LOL!!
Another great video. It's a pity you weren't around when I was a young guy, haha.
Still learning lots though.
We had a guy I used to work with wh was an absolute legend. He was invariably successful. His standard line was "Hi, my name's Mal, how am I doing so far?"
I always thought that this was mega cheesy, but I couldn't argue with his results. I have seen him walk into the club, ander over and say hello to his workmates while scoping out the talent. He would then say: "She looks ok, se you guys later." We would them watch him walk over, talk for a few minutes and not long after he would leave with an obviously excited lady. Even his kids used to say "Hi My name's Mal, how'm I doing so far.'
*It’s important to engage in a way that feels natural, and the examples shared here really demonstrate how to do that. The focus on being genuine while also making the other person feel at ease is invaluable for anyone looking to improve their social skills!*
Wingmam, wanted to point out the often times shyness is actually caused by something physical. Mercury fillings will make a person's nervous system damaged. One must determine if it is shyness or nervousness. Not sure, but believe shyness is simply nervousness which can be helped dramatically by removing toxins, healthy diet, and B vitamins which are beneficial to the nervous system. When younger, approached by many, many girls but could not even really talk to them. I never knew until recent years that it was the mercury as it causes somewhat of a Parkinsons effect. If women like confidence, they won't like that as it would appear to be lack of confidence....it is not. People always accused me of being shy but explained that was not shy, but nervous. After removing the mercury, I could now make a speech to a trillion people and not be nervous one bit but had to drop from school as no chance could do the required speech class back then. Thanks for your video content and Merry Christmas!
Yes! True! Big topic but mercury poisoning can cause all kinds of things like anxiety and depression. I had mercury poisoning.
@@YourWingmam yes, destroyed my whole family one way or another. I trust dentists and drs ZERO!!! I was not generally depressed but one of my brothers was from the same poisoning. I had 17 mercury fillings by the way but fortunately no root canals which are another horror to health. Your mercury was from fillings or something else? And how did you find out? Were you nervous more than shy? How did you resolve the poisoning? TY. If haven't, may want to do a video on that issue as it may be causing many people out there to be unable to ask someone out on a date. Got to build the proper foundation to get the best results from the quality and heart-felt information that you provide. Mouth health = gut health=brain health=proper thought vibration to attract the proper person ….and all else.
Anna, i have to say you radiate an amazing energy. I think it’s because your humble, calm and supportive.
I appreciate that 🙏
A simple compliment on a article of clothing or their hair. Does wonders to get a smile or a conversation started. It seems woman are more than ever back into eyebrows soooo. Thank you
My pleasure ❤️
I read the smarmy comments that others posted. It takes courage to put yourself out there by doing these videos. You are attempting to help others find love and a relationship, even if they don’t realize it. That's admirable and commendable. Just wanted to say Thanks! Someone understands and appreciates where you’re coming from and what you’re trying to do. … Carl
I LOVE the third one!!! Great great advice on going into the situation with a "practice" frame of mind and every NO gets you closer to the one YES.
Guy: "Excuse me"
Woman: "Oh...what for?"
Guy: "I just farted"
You may not get the date, but she'll always remember you.
Imma use this
@@destroya_2345 actually ask the girl to smell the fart
Ask her to guess what you ate last night for dinner based on the smell
This is the hardest thing for me to do. Thank you. I will use your advice.
Glad I could help 🙏
Hi @WingmamTV, Ive just found your videos and they are all really helpful. Its great to see a mature Women helping guys to approach women, its not easy to do for a lot of us sensitive types. Regards from New Zealand
I promise you that I could never get bored of you, as a fellow INTJ, you've put things across with a sense of humour I can understand. I like your accent (Canadian is in my top 5). Keep up the good work.
Thanks, Kristian! :))
the same personalities are normally not compatible. You need differences to gell -2 is best [INTP speaking]
Anna, you always have great advice. I could have used it years ago !! I really like your honest insight !! Thank You !!
excellent advice because yes it does take courage to talk to a stranger out of the blue, and when you get that ''no'' it is tempting to think that it was a lot of effort for nothing. In fact firstly it is simply exciting to challenge yourself and not just meet people through mutual acquaintances in predictable situations and you feel good that you had the self discipline to overcome all the excuses you find it in your head to not walk over.
I have learned if you are in the right place and that can be in a supermarket sometimes you can strike up a conversation by just talking about the food they are selling. I find, just be yourself and talk casual and low key... If their not interested they will let you know and if that happens that just means there is someone better out there... It is like fishing, just keep casting and sooner or later you just might hook one... Then you will be sorry LOL...
Anna,
You're simply awesome. I've been watching your videos for one week+. Initially specific topics, then I just now after work let them roll. More like an after work classes for me, some several re-watches. Don't worry I watch the ads too...peradventure you can get a cent from there.
I'm typically a picky 55 year divorced well educated, reserved & very private...Mr Nice guy.
So now, while I know I need a partner because I enjoy sharing my live...I've resorted to just developing friendships.
Long story short, I woke up to your videos and watched as I got ready for work, pumped up I went in to Starbucks for a to-go Mocha.
While waiting I used your conversation starter # 3...after a few glances....then combined it with #1 ...How's your day really going...we spoke for like 10 minutes, I really had to go to work...she ended up giving me her business card first & I gave mine..
Now I have no expectations and haven't called since 2 days...I plan to call her on my lunch break on the 3rd day...I will begin with what are you having for lunch...then within 10 minutes escalate to a possible dinner or just a Saturday hang out.
Your technique worked so well...I had to share it. Eventhough I'm still not exactly ready.
Anyway that's it...you successfully made me speak...back to shell now...hahaha.
You forgot to mention you're a pathetic Beta.
One time I was in Seattle, and I saw this gorgeous and sexy girl sitting on the grass reading a book. I walked over and asked her what she was reading. Without saying anything she flipped it over and it was a book on narcissists. She completely blew me off but I never will forget how beautiful she was. I still think of her from time to time and wonder what happened to her. I hope she is having a good life.
She isn't. Nobody to date has met her expectations. Hollywood has had its influence over the years.
So she was learning how to be one? I would have asked her that.
She is a miserable person. She did you a favor.
she blew you off? i thought you guys went for lunch 🤓
Sounds like this lady lol
Hey have to say I like your channel especially from women's perspective and the one thing I absolutely love is that unlike most "how to"videos u don't go into a 20 minute pointless introduction before actually getting to the reason someone clicks on video in the first place...u just get right to the point ..
Agree. Not of the 15 minutes of BS.
I love the information you discuss and I think you are amazing and beautiful. Keep up the great work and thank you for what you do.
Of these three options the one that seems most likely to work for me is the "How's your Day" ploy , but I can't say for sure I will be in a position to play that role this week - The right opportunity has to show up - Thanks for your encouragement !
I met my husband after he asked if the seat beside me was taken. I smiled and said it wasn't, he smiled and said thank you. Then I felt flushed with embarrassment as I realized there were oodles of empty seats around me. I was just thinking about the event . . .
SMOOOOOTH!!
Well you must have a good personality because most girls would have moved seats
@@ericsmith6677The reasons that would bring that is when HE DOESN'T have a good personality. I have had plenty of moments to take a glance and say "I'd rather you didn't" or glance around for some girl I don't like and say "Why don't you try that over there?" "Magic" smiles" and "magic" moments" don't come all the time.
Oodles? WTF?
I’m really digging your videos. Excellent information. I’ve used the simple, hey, how are you doing a lot. I worked the front counter of a health food store and found myself doing that with everyone, and then realized I was carrying it over into ice breaker situations. So, how are YOU doing? If she’s attracted to you, she’s going to invite you in a little. “I’m doing alright. I just...
I can imagine you getting hit on and saying "hey, you didn't do that right, go back over there, wait a moment, then come back and try it again." You need Olympic style score cards lol
I think this video is full of really useful advice. I agree with the idea of it's all practice. Each encounter is a learning experience. One approach I take is to point out something small. "Hey nice nail polish. What colour is that, is that a kind of teal colour?" this is guaranteed to get engagement. Cause women appreciate small details being noticed. Or alternatively....the playful dorky approach......"hey, nice jacket. It wouldn't suit me, but it looks good on you. where did you get it?" etc. Rule of thumb.....is something that will make them smile or flattered you noticed and you got that ice broken!!
Those are great ice-breakers! :))
I tell women "I want money" and "i want to be taken care of" .... they run for the hills
Lol dont blame them, if a woman said I want money, thats a no no
I for one, appreciate your videos. They are down to earth & truthful. I recommend anyone dating or trying to find someone to share their life with to listen and watch your videos. These videos should be taught in high school. Anyway TYVM ;-)
I wish I could claim originality on this...
You: Did it hurt?
Her: Did what hurt?
You: When you broke through Earth's crust ascending from Hell?
Ha! Some women would feel flattered or at minimum amused by that one!
Lmao
I hear Sam Kennison screaming in the background.."OHHHH!!! OHHHHHH!!"
A B lmao
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You too?
I tried the Hello Lovely one How is your day really going ....Oh Crap my eyes !!!!! What did you do it burns is that pepper spray ?
Yeah. I think that one is likely to backfire. Seems creepy to say that to a stranger.
@@gordongekko2781 it shouldn't be creepy to greet and talk up someone even in the church of jesus himsef!! But we're living in a brutal society .. here in the US you won't just be pepper sprayed, you will be talking to the police ....
A woman once told me how hard it was for her to say “no” to guys asking for her phone number and how it led to dates or calls she didn’t really want. I said, “Let’s practice you saying ‘no’ to me.” So I asked for her phone number - and she gave it to me. No joke. We started seeing each other and were together for a couple years.
I love that story, Daniel! :))
Dude no way that's awesome!
Just a couple of years? That's it? Sounds like you ultimately lost.
I guess it depends on how you look at it. Getting successful yes responses to going out with you is different from the skills needed to sustain a relationship. Just because someone agrees to go out with you is not a guarantee it will all work out.
I guess it depends on how you look at it. Getting successful yes responses to going out with you is different from the skills needed to sustain a relationship. Just because someone agrees to go out with you is not a guarantee it will all work out.
Hi, I’ve just started to listen to your channel the past few weeks and I really appreciate your honesty and I really like who you are! Thank you
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Anna, this is wonderful advice! You have a very kind spirit as I can tell by your nuanced explanations. Thank you for your insightful videos, I enjoy hearing your perspective. I look forward to keep following your great work
You are such a clear thinker and i love that. Thanks for everything. I think I enjoy listening to your thoughts. 👍🏿
Great content and delivery! I especially like the “but how are you really doing!” 🙏 Thanks 🙏😊
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I was walking to the self-checkout register when a lady cut me off. After I scanned and paid, I walked up to her and said: "not everyday I get cut off by an attractive lady like yourself." But it didn't help anyways - she seemed in such a hurry and just gave me the short: "have a nice day" phrase. It was worth the try, I'm glad I tried - better than going home and thinking and regretting not talking to her.
I never regret not talking to them anymore. That's how many Ls I have caught in the streets. 😂
Thank you for giving advice to women I'm being nice and respectful when a man approaches them and they're not interested. It does take a lot of Courage for a man to approach a woman and when a man is trying to be a gentleman and nice and a woman's response is nasty toward them, it really gives me a bad taste. Also for your woman out there. You could be the most attractive human on earth, but once you're nasty. You're no longer attractive. The true ugliness and truth about yourself comes out. So in some aspects that makes it a lot easier for like-minded men who don't want to waste their time on such women. Great video and advice thank you.
My pleasure ❤️
I am really glad that you put that into my head! I am going to use the phrase “ you look like a nice girl and I wanted to talk to you.”
Part of why I’m still single in my middle 50’s is that I’m tired of being rejected and I’m tired of failing at finding a relationship or even getting a date. Yes I live with my loneliness and I miss the last woman I fell in love with but in a way loneliness is something that I have had to live with my whole life. My family isn’t warm or loving and I don’t have any friends to do anything with. This is a world in which too many people are selfish.
Trust me, you are not alone. Same here. It's very hard to attract a high value woman when you have no family.
Facts this world is too selfish
morbid
I found the video very interesting to watch.There is a saying :-,It’s not what you say,it’s how you say it.Expressing yourself in Communication is in Important,so is Eye Contact.I believe in keeping Cool,
Calm and Collective.Being Confident plays a great part as well.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️.
Anna, I really appreciate you sharing parts of your own, personal, experiences. Thanks.
Thank you for watching and commenting! :)
Attitude and aptitude: For decades I was terrified of rejection on the first approach. It only dissipated when I thought "Heck, an attractive woman is just another person, so who cares?" This is attitude and you have to convince yourself about yourself (tricky, huh?) before you can sail. These days I am too old to give a damn - pity I wasn't like that before.
Hey, I have them at "Hello". Another is, "Is your day going better than mine?" I find saying this invites intrigue. Aside from that, I tend to ignore attractive women, but they do approach me. Here's my tip. Have a conversation with a person (man or woman) within an earshot of her in a public setting and observe her behavior. Talk about some current events happening around town. She may enter into the conversation. Then, say something that may cause her to turn to you and make eye contact. Perhaps, something self-deprecating, funny, or chauvinistic. (I've noticed how women would laugh or talk a little louder to get my attention (or other men's attention), so I have adapted this tactic into a strategy.)
I do believe I have seen this in action! Smooth, Not Scorpio, smooth 😎
@@YourWingmam Yep, the indirect approach is a keeper. It breaks the ice, allowing her to engage when she's ready (if she cares to).
Anna, you are so easy to listen to and bring valuable, practical information as well. You are pretty easy on the eyes but, I most love your calm and low toned soothing voice. It indicates a sense of knowing who you really are and that you are comfortable in your own skin. Thank you. Jeffrey Z. in SC
Thank you, Jeffrey, glad you enjoy my videos and great compliment! 🙏
Don't act interested in anything beyond a friendly moment. Smile..be genuine..
even if just in small talk. Find something humorous to comment on.. make life a little lighter for a moment..try to get a smile from her.
If it doesn't work, still smile as you walk away.
Your extraordinarily honest and candid approach to reality is refreshing!
And, you are uniquely beautiful… Just saying
I would like to believe that I'm becoming a better person because of you and your videos.
Met my wife in a class at a trade school. So captive audience. She would not even say hi back to me. One day, mad after being snubbed again I asked her if she was deaf and dumb or just stuck up. She got mad chewed me out but after that would say high. Unknown to me she had been told I was married. She did not have a car so I would ask if she would like a ride. She always said no. Thought I was a creep. Finally the last day I was going to ask her, she would say no and I was done chasing her. Guy that lied to her told her I was not married. She slugged him in the jaw. Waited for me to offer a ride, said yes. I was so prepared for no I was speechless. Was married 34 years. She is passed and I am watching videos trying to figure out where to start.
These are awesome! They're so simple and non-threatening. They don't come across as canned or fake.
Exactly why they're effective!
I think Anna Jorgensen is a beautiful woman inside and out.
Dude you got to see her insides?
imagine being born and having random guys always telling you how beautiful you are
I’m not really this tall I’m just sitting on my wallet
you have a great style, that is, a way of speaking and looking engaged, open. Also lots of good common sense advice....
I hope you are with someone you love, Ana, and that it is mutual..... thanks for video,,,, all the best from Bellows Falls, Vermont
I applaud your effort to make the world a better, more positive place 😊
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Women try to talk to me all the time. I give them a half smile and walk away. No woman, no cry.
😂😂
Just say you don't speak Spanish and walk off.
I enjoy your vids but this video there was something that made me laugh . You were reading a book in the park about narcissism then decided to write a book with the main word in the title being ME 🤣🤣.
I'm glad you got your rewrite and are helping lots of people . Shows you have legit strength of character.
I saw a beautiful woman once walking by a house I was digging a ditch for a new sewer line, and I shouted out THANK YOU! She stopped and asked me for what? I said, for making my day. She just smiled and kept walking but I knew I got her attention and she loved it.
Nice but it got nowhere.
@@stephenpowstinger733 It was not the point, just a nice compliment to see her engage and smile.
Giving them validation is like cash -apping a billionaire you're life savings.
@mateaukalua4426 my compliments are free and out of kindness and nothing else.
i really love your content. i find it actionable and easy to digest. thank you :).
I appreciate that!
At the beach in San Diego, 1980, I said to a beautiful Pinoi girl, “Hey how are you?” She answered with “Are you going to be trouble for me today?” I answered “No. I’m sorry” and left. We’ve been great friends with occasional benefits ever since.
Henry - I find your story a little confusing. If you left, how did you become FWB’s? Wouldn’t it have been better to say ‘ damn right I am!’ or something along those lines?
Liar
Physical attraction is great however mutual values goals and genuinely good people are most important traits.
The easiest icebreaker is just comment on a song that maybe in the background . It works often times for no other reason than musical conversation are fun to have anyways .
Nice!! Also, it’s an excuse to ask her to dance.
@@mattslupek7988 Alpha's don't dance. They hunt.
Ah, you are so good. Most people are not to be as beautifully honest as you are.
When I say "Hi" and she replies with "Get away from me or I'll call the police!" can I say we've had a conversation?
Absolutely.
You didnt miss out on ANYTHING if she behaves like that
Yes. And if she kicks you in the nuts you can say you escalated to intimate physical contact. :-)
You too! My brother😬
Very wise and insightful video...thanks
I love when you casually look at a woman and they give you a look as if you are the Elephant man. Love that look...
Thanks Anna, thanks for all your videos from all us men. I have used no 1 and it has worked. I have also gone up to a woman and asked her for her opinion or advice, or for her directions (can you please tell me how I can find " whatever" or "whoever"?).
Here's one I used successfully once: "Hi, my name is ______ and I figured I'd regret it if I didn't introduce myself to you."
That's actually pretty good. But you've got to have followup ready if she bites.
It's good to not offer your name straight up. Wait til she asks for it.
If she doesn't ask, she's not interested. Simple.
@@conorm2524 No. Michael left the blank to fill in your name, not to suggest not offering it. That would likely be what is known as "to cute by half". Women have many ways to let you know they are not interested. No need to make it easy for them.
Here’s one. “ Excuse me but I think you have my seat “. Song lyrics helped me develop confidence, later didn’t need them but that was a first. Worked great.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I really could have used these videos twenty years ago...
The bottom line is no matter where you are in the world. You need confidence. You have to take care of yourself, You have to already be happy with your life and with whom you are as a person. You have to learn to like yourself and keep working on your own happiness. The rest falls into place. Physical attractiveness is helpful but is not necessary. You have to show you are already happy and do not need anybody to make you happy. That is attractive. Is all about the emotion. You can sell anybody with logic. But they will "buy" out of emotion. The key is how you make them feel. Yes it is a numbers game. like she said, the more NO's you will get, the closer to a yes you will be. Like they used to teach us in sales. if you don't offer you are guaranteed failure, but if you keep going somebody will say yes and you will become even more confident. Simple.
Me too and I'm 26
Your comment cracked me up. That was some classic humour there.
Or 30 years ago, or ...
40 years ago.
If she says no i have a bf or says she is married, just say " I don't mind sharing" That show confidence!!!
Excuse me do you have the time? I mean the exact time down to the second. Because, someday when my grandchildren ask me: When did you first meet grandmother, I want to be able to tell them exactly.
Sounds desperate.
@@parsizaban1 Yeah I wouldnt use this personally
Number one rule about meeting people or getting to know about them. People like to talk about their favorite subject, themselves. It isn't narcissistic, just a comfortable normal topic. If you ask a girl about them selves and they don't want to talk about it, they're not interested, but you can still have a conversation based on small talk. Any of the examples she mentions first can be followed up by simple questions about herself. Say your in line at Starbucks or in a checkout line at the grocery store. You open with one of her suggestions, then ask something like do you like that brand of wine or whatever. Turn the conversation into one where she's telling you about her. It's ok to answer a question about yourself if she asks, or if it pertains to the topic you asked her about. But keep it simple. And good luck!
I hand her a handkerchief and ask her "Does this smell like chloroform to you?"
This is the best classic p/u line ever......
lol
Oh my god dude, so funny !!!!!!!!!!!
LMAO
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Lmao,yet it's true tactic ice breaker. She thinks before she answers. Her eyes will answer 1st !
Juan Alvarez lol
I spent my career in the corporate world and the women who worked in it were always easy to talk to. It's the culture and most men and women who were in that culture can easily get along. I've been approached by these ladies when working or traveling and I have also approached them. Introducing yourself to a stranger is something that just comes naturally in that culture. That helps with approaching people outside of the corporate world, but I usually find outsiders to be not as conversational, interesting, refined, cultured, educated, etc. That's not to say that I haven't met several women outsiders that I like, some of who are friends.
I'm a 56 yr old male and....LIKE if you think WINGMAM is exceptionally attractive in this video.
If you are actually 56 years old wouldnt you be too old for this stupid statement?
Guys like you are the reason women her age are on dating apps acting like they're hot catches. Stop gassing these women up.
I wouldn’t say it’s an exception, because she’s always this attractive in every video.
I agree with you she is exceptionally in this one
@@TheRealTVA2 Why? Because you don't think Wingman is hot? Then go look at some 18+ sites.
Anna you are so Beautiful ! I will try option 2 this week and see how it works out for me and I hope I could get my confidence level higher to go on with option 3 in the near future
Thanks A Bunch For These Wonderful Advices
Good for you! I'm cheering for you :))
The 'false time constraint' seems like a good one. Can't wait until I can actually be 'allowed' to approach a woman again!
Wdym allowed what did u do before???
So, you cant make your own decisions! LOL!
I love you. You are changing my life to the better🤩 with your fantastic advices.
"Hi there, you look like my future ex- wife."
No lie, had a coworker that used this as his go to
The late great psychologist, Albert Ellis, who you probably never heard of, and who died at 94 years old in 2004, and had an Institute in NYC and gave his infamous "Friday night workshops" (open to the general public) at the Institute for over 45 years, all ways told the story of how he set the goal and approached 100 women with "cold approaches" and how he was rejected 99 times and the 1 yes he got didn't show-up for the date. He told the story to show that rejection will never kill you, that it gets easier with practice and eventually you can succeed. He was eventually married. Should try to read his books if they are still in print. Was the 2nd most quoted psychologist by a survey conducted by the APA.