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In these uncertain times, hopelessness and despair have become disturbingly common, especially among younger generations who have to contend with the difficulties of modern life, and constantly worry about the future. It's also become increasingly difficult to find and maintain relationships, so with all these factors in mind, some people have started to retreat from the world, resulting in them becoming what some have dubbed - Doomers: the people who have given up on life.
I want to explore why doomers have essentially given up on hope, by looking at the various societal factors, along with how capitalism has brought young people to their knees. I also want to explore my own past as a doomer, and share a very personal story on how I sunk into misery, and how I got out.
So yeah, it's a pretty uplifting video.
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So, what was the game?
Well, growing up i was told, that great mother Nature
should finally punish us (humanity) for our eco-sins,
since humans are nothing but parasites on earth....
Thank you, because getting to doomerism because of a broken heart is not the same as realizing you are kept in poverty because of structural matters that are beyond your control.
Got to the end of the video, you would not survive a week where I live. Consider yourself lucky that relationship problems are the hardest thing in your life. (Im being harsh, i need to be) thats childish. I found hope, im not gonna waste what I found in this coment section. Unless you are willing to hear gringo
I like how nihilism is like "nothing you do matters so lie down and rot" and Existentialism is like "Nothing you do matters, so live your life free from material attachments. And embrace your relationships they're all that won't leave you."
Nihilism is only the "nothing really matters" part, what you do with that philosophy is up to you. Some use as an excuse to lie down and rot, but you can also use it to find your own meaning, do what makes you happy.
You and, the video creator and basically everyone here is just (possibly intentionally) misunderstanding nihilism and its philosophy probably because the creator was never really one in the first place and just thought it was the same thing as being sad for a few weeks or akin to minor depression.
It really just reeks of toxic positivity I see in too many spaces like in the old conservative days because talking about it offends society or is deemed offensive to the society from telling the truth (which is a corruption of true progressive politics), especially since talking about it apparently "romanticizes" giving up. Which is just... Wow... So what? Do we just pretend that the deep seated problems in our world don't exist and ignore how dire things are because understanding how bad things are is just "romanticizing"
The problem can't never be fixed so why bother acknowledging it in the first place.
We're all going to die from the inevitable apocalypse anyway so might as well ignore the unfixable and wait until we finally all die. As if our action matter anyways
@@ADHDisYippeeeeeeeeee I would be interested in hearing some examples of toxic positivity from those older conservative days.
I do agree that a loooot of people misunderstand nihilism as being exclusively negative and honestly this parent comment seems a bit misinformed.
Im just curious since it's kinda hard for me to make sense of your comment without any kind og example.
@@Koijn2K Toxic positivity in the conservative old days was always based on people shutting up and for critics to be shunned from society for being "preachy" and instead are told they should "be happy", and the only way to do that was by following society by "respecting the law, its enforcers and its government", "manning-up" or "being a woman" and accept how you are treated no matter how dehumanizing, men having to work a soul-crushing office job for your whole life regardless of your own dreams or passions, and women having to do nothing but clean, cook, and taking care of their children also regardless of their dreams and passions. Going to Church every Saturday to be taught the "right" way to live and to be "cleansed" of your "sins", living the "ideal" nuclear family of a man and a woman and two or three white children, with its traditional values put center stage in society and seen as a virtue no matter how inauthentic and soulless it is in reality and how it masks the disgusting true nature of American society from classism, to racism, to sexism, to colonialism, Christian supremacy, and much, much more.
Anyone who was to bring in rational negative feelings for rightfully pointing out these things and how they not only don't really lead to a happy life, but actively take away a lot of happiness from people in such a society, such people who bring up such points would typically be excluded and often would become a target to things such as hate crimes which is absolutely things that have and still continue to happen in this country.
Kids. Listen to this man. It’s taken me until my 50’s to be this aware to make real change. Don’t let your life pass by without doing exactly what you want.
Thanks sir
Why not just let it pass by? You won't remember it when you're gone and it won't matter at that point.
@@Darkloid21 after so much time, I’m taking a more proactive approach to my mental health and seeking out what truly makes me happy. This video illustrates my process of late. But it’s also not bad if you are happy letting the tide take you but I wasn’t and I changed it.
when you were a kid, there was a possibility of a future, for you, nuclear war was a possibility but not a certainty. Kids today don't have that with climate collapse, because it is a certainty, dooming about that is rational, anything else is just cope.
@@endeavour3d Watch Gurren Lagann already, bud.
Disregard doomerism. Embrace bloomerism.
Coomerism ftw
Hate Groomorism
Ok bloomer 💩
“It’s not a tumour.”
Easy for you to say when you have a look advantage
my dad is a boomer, but I think watching the climate and the prospects for his children get worse and worse has brought him near this mindset, in a way. its hard to have hope, it really is.
Tell him to ask someone online if they want to play League with him. It seems to have worked once. ^^
My boomer parents seem like they're in the same boat, but with barely any political or media literacy it's what caused them to throw their weight behind Trump. That alone has caused me to really despair over the future in general, because I know decent people like my parents can be easily manipulated to do terrible things.
@@somedudeok1451 Not gonna lie, I'm about halfway through the video and "doomers don't see the value in making friends" just seemed like an easier point to argue against than, "Doomers have been royally screwed like everyone else, are often financially insecure, isolated (geographically or ideologically) from their families, and unable to seek treatment for their mental illness..."
A for effort. I like the video, but at points it does just feel like another TH-camr doing storytime.
Fuck hope smoke dope
@@monstermoo4191 The reason why they don't see value in relationships, is exactly because life has fucked this generation so hard. It's an understandable reaction to being massively disappointed by society and life.
I didn't realize that this video was going to be about me. I'm a former idealist, now fully disillusioned and 100% afraid of the human race. I was disappointed how much I saw myself in all the hopeless parts, and part of me wishes I could be hopeful again. But... I also don't want to lose it again, so it feels like wanting to hope is an act of self-harm. So many parallels. I'm very alone and it hurts, but it feels like that's how it's supposed to be. I'm going to be 35 and I thought I'd have love and light in my life. The absence of laughter and togetherness stings, and I'm actively battling the urges to become bitter. Seeing others happy with family makes me feel small and hopeless. No one will love me like that, and I fear I lost my ability to love. I find myself in strangers' feeds, trying to give them the light and hope I lost a long time ago. It feels better to give it out, rather than let it fade in me. Others should have it.
Darn I wish I could interact with you.
I hope you will find people who are as empathetic as yourself, so it might help you not feeling alone. Someone who is able to listen and try to understand, and willing to bring light in your life like you do for others.
Wow, this really resonates with me. What usually helps me in this situation (and what I hope will help you too) is to remember that one can only get what they aim for. If you don't aim for anything, you will most likely get it. So no matter how scary it is and how much it will most likely hurt you along the way, it's always worth allowing life to surprise you. From one human fellow to another, I wish you all the love and luck in the world ❤️
I;m 41 and alone. sorry, but it gets worse.
Me too.
The vulnerability is amazing. Thank you so much for sharing this deeply personal story. It takes strength and is very appreciated!
As a semi-reformed doomer myself, i can confirm : it's always beter to get lost than to go nowhere at all. So, go and get lost ; it's never too late, and never too soon.
Doomerism was best covered by Second Thought,
not only in his video named Optimism, but just in general by his whole channel.
Please just see for yourself if that guys known as a Voice for the Worker-Class + an
Antidote for Helplnessness-Feelings for no reason.
Whew, the personal stories you showcased in this video. Thank you for your vulnerability. It's really hard out here to be somewhat positive in this current climate (I was about to list all the reasons why it's hard but you know what? Maybe not), we've just got to try our best to cherish anything that's good right now. Your videos are one of those good things and you inspire me for sure.
great channel, Raheem!
My husband and I met on an online music forum. We started going to shows and to the record shop together when we found out we lived in the same town. We both made it really clear up front that we weren’t interested in a relationship so for a few years we just had this really chill friendship that slowly got more serious and more romantic leaning as we learned more of each other’s secrets and vulnerabilities… turns out we were both… I guess not traditional doomers on the global scale but def people so depressed and with such low self esteem we’d basically convinced ourselves by the time we met that no one would ever love us and that we weren’t long for the world anyway so it was best to not get attached to anyone. Over the course of maybe 5 years we chipped away at each other’s walls and went from suicidal young adults with no plans for the future to happy adults with a loving home and family. Now it’s become kind of a joke that we have no idea what we’re doing in life bc we never expected to live this long.
oh my God this almost made me cry that was so beautiful
i’m an insecure 20 something who feels unlovable (slowly improving my mindset but insecurities are hard y’know)
but if you and your husband were able to find each other under such circumstances like that this gives me a lot of hope in the future
thanks 😊
@@Doctor-Infinite thanks man, I wish you luck. The world isn’t always a great place but there are lot of great people in it. You’ll be surprised what life will throw at you if you give it time.
@@charlottemartyr Doomerism was best covered by Second Thought,
not only in his video named Optimism, but just in general by his whole channel.
To reach more people, i will comment this comment multiple times, so no Surprise if
you see it multiple times.
Please just see for yourself if that guys known as a Voice for the Worker-Class + an
Antidote for Helplnessness-Feelings for no reason.
First if all. Thank you. I've been staring into the Doomer cave for a while now. I felt things were hopeless because the world is cruel. I'm also a fat black 35 year old woman soooooooo yeah. But this year I kinda gave up, on giving up. For the first time, I started wearing make up, something I've always wanted to do. I'm joining communities on reddit for my hobbies I've been doing alone. And even though I'm always scared I'll be the next Black life that doesn't matter, I'll still try to do what I want.
And what happened to you after you post this? You shouldn't label yourself how you did in your post. You are more than "black", "fat", "woman", so don't stress that one. Like I would write everywhere that I am just a puppet from old czechoslovakia kid show about two neighbours and their creative way to get out of problems. I am more than a puppet. And you are more than how you describe yourself above.
In this instance, anecdotal evidence seems like the preferred thing, anyhow. You can't assign a numerical value to the melancholy experienced by those that believe being alone is the easier path in life. I've been down it myself, my doomer ideology was that I was unlovable, but I was proven wrong. Of course it isn't your partner's job to show you that life is worth living, but they can help begin that chain reaction that leads you to that conclusion.
I love that you filmed this in your kitchen, I'd imagine that for you the kitchen is a place of comfort and respite given your passion for baking, so that really connected to this one being especially personal and vulnerable. A very nice touch!
There's one thing you touched upon that deeply resonated with me here. It's this idea that, when I'm in the throes of a depressive episode, I often feel an intense amount of guilt over being in a depressive episode. "Things aren't so bad for me, really" I think. "I don't deserve to feel this way when other people have it so much worse."
Naturally, it's exceedingly rare to encounter people in miserable situations who are eager to tell a depressed individual that their feelings aren't valid. Still, such a sensation resonates regardless; I suppose it's the lapsed Catholic in me.
no, you aren’t alone my dude
i’ve been through depressive episodes as well and you’ve described how i would feel WORD FOR WORD during an episode
You are loved.
Me deciding to become heavily tattooed led to my first big tattoo, to me showing it on a social forum, to a woman contacting me out of interest, to us connecting and now we are married and have kids.
Yeah. You never know what stupid nonsense will lead to a life changing events.
That's based af m8. Awesome for you 👏
This is heavy. I don't know if I can handle the topics right now. I will need to come back to it later, but after the first 4 minutes I can tell I will enjoy this quite substantially. Thanks, Salari
It's the same for me, its to much for now but I look forward looking and listening when I'm more relaxed
I only get teary eyed at certain things - Lord of the Rings, Matthew McConaughey in Interstellar, and Maroon 5’s Songs About Jane - but that made me shed a tear so thank you for sharing.
Doomerism was best covered by Second Thought,
not only in his video named Optimism, but just in general by his whole channel.
To reach more people, i will comment this comment multiple times, so no Surprise if
you see it multiple times.
Please just see for yourself if that guys known as a Voice for the Worker-Class + an
Antidote for Helplnessness-Feelings for no reason.
Oh, my heart. The step from nihilism to existentialism is a hard one to take, but I'm glad you did.
Life has no inherent meaning- but what you make of it can be beautiful.
Thank you for this video. The loneliness has been gobbling me up, especially because i just got one year ago diagnosed with Autism have a really really bad time connecting and making friends. But actually this video reminded me that slipping into the doomer thinking is absolutely not helping at all. And if you are feeling like this as well, I do like Nihilism as well. To take the "there is no inherent meaning" and add a "But!" We can excist to make others happy with our creations if you are also a creative person. We excist to bring happiness to our families. We all can make it through this somehow, and I hope that after the pandemic people open up for social connections once again, because despite all this the loneliness is a bit tough to accept.
Hope whoever reads this knows you are a lovely person, melancholy is good and fine but its not solving anything, better use it as a drive to change :)
"there is no inherent meaning,but-"
this right here is exactly how I think. sure it can be a bit scary from a certain angle but the way I see it is who really cares why humans are here? some people do I'm sure but I don't. I'm here and that's it, why not make the most of it?
there's terrible things in this world but there's also so many beautiful things as small as they are.
not to get sappy, but laughing until you ache, a perfect spring day, etc.
those are super small and trivial but anytime I get caught in my own thoughts and I start to spiral I remind myself eventually I'll get to experience those things again even if it doesn't feel like that
I suggest trying to find other neuro divergent people as I find they are more understanding of our idiosyncrasies and quirks
Definitely the most peculiar remake of End of Evangelion I've ever seen.
Seriously though, I went into rehabilitation for alcoholism a year ago, has been sober for half a year now, and got my life going somewhere. It is quite refreshing to hear about your story.
I mean, if there’s one thing End of Evangelion and humanity as of now have in common, it’s that if there is a positive ending it will be after a really mind-bending apocalypse that eliminates so many people. And unlike End of Evangelion where humans may someday reform out of the LCL, humans will either not have the revelation that is supposed to happen, or we will actually kill ourselves, if not by climate change, then by conventional war and nuclear war.
My useless statements aside, congratulations for your sobering up and I hope it is everlasting. And if there is one positive thing about all of this, the personal moments and achievements will mean so much more now that we know there is no future to compare it to, and therefore will be enjoyed as-is.
I'm a doomer because I've spent the entire life being crushed under the weight of my mother. I won't be able to move out for at least a year and coming from someone with 5 suicide attempts, the first of which happened at age 6, I don't think I can do it. I have no support system other than my mother who is actively trying to keep me as codependent as possible. No friends or family. I have 0 memories of accepting touch because of the degree of isolated I've been and I've hit a limit. I'm lonely to the point that other than work I can't really get out of bed anymore. I've done EVERYTHING by myself for 19 years and I can't really do it anymore. Literal hours of self soothing every day just to not break down. I pace around the house screaming at myself from the perspectives of different people for hours. There's literally nothing I can do until I move out and I don't think I can make it to that point. Even if I could I don't want to, I would rather be dead than be alone for another week
that's so horrible, i'm so sorry you're in this situation. i can't even imagine the pain you're in, i really hope it gets better. would you want to be friends? i'm not the best listener but i like being there for people and i need friends too. feel free to ignore this if you're not interested.
do you by any chance have minecraft cus i wouldnt mind hanging out online and playing some games
might make you feel less lonely and the same might count for me😁
I'd think this is a lie but I know a guy with the same issue he still has a girl friend but they've been going out for more than a year and they only get to o see each other twice a week in church while she's around. It happens and it seems really sucky.
@@manwhoismissingtwotoenails4777 OPs comment is a narcissist mother to a T. It's not as uncommon as you think.
you will make it, if you keep going. you know the solution. chase it, make it.
I hate to admit that I needed to hear this, but I needed to hear this.
I'm a recovering doomer. I try to remember a quote from Fleabag: "people are all we've got"
These video essays are always a treat, the editing is top notch and your voice is like butter, not to mention bringing actual perspectives instead of data points, which don't inspire as much understanding.
I’m a gen Z (born in 2001), and probably a doomer myself. I try really hard to find meaning in life- I have family, a partner, and my cat to take care of, but everyday it’s a struggle to keep going. I think loneliness does play a big role, as becoming an adult, in a long-term relationship, working full-time, it’s almost impossible to make new friends/keep in contact with old friends. I also hate every job that I’ve had. I feel like at 21 my youth is gone, because I don’t have the financial stability or free time to live my life. That’s aside from mental illness, climate change, the pandemic, and everything else happening right now. I’ve never in my life felt such a collective feeling of grief and depression. I know I’m not alone, but that doesn’t make the feeling any better. We deserve a chance to live, considering none of us asked to be here.
We were really born just to be thrown into labor… social security/retirement funds don’t account for inflation and the retirement age is constantly raising. People can’t afford to retire now, how will it be in 20, 30, 50 years? Meanwhile the youth can’t find jobs because the elderly aren’t retiring. Meanwhile prices for anything and everything except for wage increase every year. Even imagining 60 years from now… none of this matters if the people in office continue prioritizing quick money and power over our planet. It’s extremely hard not to be a doomer when you genuinely believe you’ll be seeing the apocalypse in your lifetime
Doomerism was best covered by Second Thought,
not only in his video named Optimism, but just in general by his whole channel.
To reach more people, i will comment this comment multiple times, so no Surprise if
you see it multiple times.
Please just see for yourself if that guys known as a Voice for the Worker-Class + an
Antidote for Helplnessness-Feelings for no reason.
Well, the problem with trying to find meaning in life is that no matter how hard you look, it's not there to find. The good news is, since life doesn't come with a ready-made meaning, you get make your own. You decide what you want your life to mean, and you live that meaning in whatever way you can. I don't know if that will help you, but it made a difference for me. It was a huge weight off my shoulders to realize the universe didn't have some grand plan I was failing to live up to.
Two years into a global pandemic that people are basically ignoring, with climate crisis accelerating, and with my country falling into an inflation crisis that our corrupt government is almost fully ignoring, I'm now a doomer after spending my whole life being an optimist, and I don't know how to stop.
For me I’ll try to show niceness. Uplift people. That’s the only way I keep my sanity. I don’t know if I’m a Doomer or not but I know I was in high school. But now I realize the only way I’m happy is if I make other people happy. Getting to know them them getting to know me. Even the dark side. I try to be nice in this doomed world.
@@woobeewooo to some depressed people, this might not be an uplifting message. never worked for me, for one.
being reminded that your life, however absolutely horrible, is still much better than that of most living things across space and time, may provoke feelings of guilt and shame and an even bleaker outlook on the world.
what works for me personally, is to think of the things that are currently in the process of getting better. the hope that tomorrow could be better than today.
@@woobeewooo oh, i see that was what you were implying. but from my personal experience i've found that it's usually better to state it outright. it may be a subtle difference, but it really changes the perspective imo
I find it helpful to focus on small/local things that I can directly impact. Once the last frost has passed where I live, I am going to plant milkweed in the empty patches of dirt in my neighborhood to help butterflies. I am also working on starting a community fridge where people can freely give and take food.
Why do you care about things you cannot control whatsoever? You are but one person.
Ex Black/Redpiller here. My descend into the madness of the Man O Sphere was from being lost and having no actual social networks in IRL due to circumstance outside my control.
Doomer and Incel content tend to overlap in their bleak outlook. I would say nowadays it is easier to be a pessimist rather than a optimist due to chaotic current events and the social dynamics of our time being online 24/7 rather than the past where you had to learn from IRL experience.
The avoidance of others creates a void of longing and wanting to be part of a group; in ancient times to go alone and be headstrong in ego as well as in the physical was a death sentence. Group survival was better for everyone but not guaranteed either due to long brutal winters or long hot droughts that create famine.
In current times the Sigma/Alpha male bravado has led men to becoming more narcissistic in superficial traits that harm others and most of all himself if he chooses to be the "best". Ultimately this inner grind mindset leads to burnout and a desire to connect to others subconsciously as Modern Capitalism favors the narcissistic and cruel over the empathetic and humanitarian of minds.
To say it is over before you even started your own life is a self defeating inner battle of nihilism and optimism. Behind the despair is a human being who longs for someone to care for their own existence while unknown to the person of despair he/she lacks self compassion; letting the external world define them for the interests of the narcissistic.
To let the external have control over your mind and body is a life of self repeated despair and agony. Focus on what you can control rather than trying to be something you are not, life is ultimately short and the things we want today will be a afterthought in the future as are all events that come to pass.
The event does not lead to despair, it is the thought process that reacts to said event that leads to feelings of hopelessness and depression. Accepting things as they is hard, being a social media deity among those you deem inferior is delusion especially in regards to the sigma male and influencer types that have grown over the years.
Beautifully said
I felt so alienated and lonely in my youth and i only am not getting accessed for adhd after failing years at uni. I am so sad about this situation.
I was diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder and ADHD at 30, and I graduated the same spring. There's hope, but you also have every right to mourn the years you spent without help and medication and the explanation that the right diagnosis can bring. Take care!
@@palapeura375 yea its a process
Thank you :)
I dropped out of college 2 times. I was diagnosed with ADHD recently at 31. It made everything up to this point make more sense. I speak with a counselor every 2 weeks and I am now medicated for the ADHD. I decided I have to do SOMETHING, and I looked into the trades. I'm going to apply for an Electrician apprentiship program. College isn't for me, that's okay. I can still learn a lot and build a good life.
I totally get how you feel. You feel like you wasted important years, like you have failed so hard you are "behind" where you *should* be by now.
But life is complicated and different for everyone. As I heal from these things I try to be hopeful and confident for the future. I hope that you can get there too.
as a disabled transfemme millennial I don't understand how I remain hopeful, it almost doesn't make sense.
I‘ve been living with depression for a while now and I am slowly starting to get help. People, never give up. Even if you fall down.
Getting up is the first step before taking the first step.
That's how I see it, too. There is no such thing as "The meaning of life." We're an accident, etc. So, like... just go out and do stuff. Create stuff! Just be for the sake of being. If this is all the reality of the situation, then we might as well make the most of it!
@@waifu9501 How do you know we're not?
@@Fyrsiel How do you know we're?
@@russelljackson2818 How do you know ?
@@Fyrsiel How do?
FD sent me here and now I'm crying and ready to binge to rest of your videos.
I read "groomer" at first and I can't even begin to describe the mental damage I just suffered.
I thought it was about people who play the video game Doom, and when he started talking about Persona 4 I almost felt confirmed 🤣
@@Pa5an1now that is finny.
i cannot explain to you how every single video of yours is a topic i find super interesting and always want to listen to from beginning to end i genuinely love how you articulate your thoughts and the time put into each video!
Oddly I think I'm consolidating my doomer phase in my mid thirties. I was always kind of a gloomy type, but youth allowed me to exist in a social orbe of anti-glamorous attitude that granted me some cool exchanges with a lot of weird people (the good and the bad kind of weird). Now that countercultures are seemingly "out of fashion", and the algorithms that rule our interactions will bury anything that isn't sexually cute or fascistically enraging, I feel not only alone, but sort of "culturally defeated". I'm slowly coming out of a relationship that ate a chunk of my life bigger that what I'm able to contemplate, my thyroid resolved that I should weight 95kg and grow hair everywhere except my head, while late stage global capitalism resolved that my 3rd world country is being demoted to 4th world. My pandemic-related job is logically about to end, while I unnapologetically still live with mother and I have zero perspective of what I'm going to do next. I know for a fact that unemployment will only rise and the mere idea of attending to a job interview gives me a burst of panic and disgust: I feel simultaneously inadequate and "too old, tired and sick of this shit". Everywhere I look I get that I have little to no place to exist in this reality, and i'ts clear that i'll only get worse with years, so I left the steering wheel alone and I'm wating for the impact.
You are, at least, a good writer :)
@@hellionshark3197 That's a kind thing to say to someone who isn't native speaker, thanks.
This video brought me face to face with how close I've been to the Doomerism mind set over the last few years. Granted it's been hard living in a place with no privacy and with a section of family that sees the world wildly different than I do. Anyway, thanks for this. I didn't know how much I needed it.
Also, as a person who's feelings for any of their past interests have never truly gone away, and recently found out he's polyamorus, the whole section about unrequited love hit me like a truck.
This video really brought out so much emotion in me. I was a doomer for the longest time but after so much improvement and pushing myself, I've become a bloomer who absolutely loves life and all it has to offer. For me, Camus has always been a source of inspiration and I've been familiar with his philosophy for years but last year I finally sat down and read The Myth of Sisyphus all the way through and it renewed my Absurdist worldview. I also realized that I have the choice to actively change the person that I am. Since then I've been far more outgoing and social than I have ever been in my life and all these connections bring so much joy to my heart. To anyone who feels like they are at their lowest of lows, things will get better but you have to find something that pushes you forward and gives you some sort of meaning. For me it was the gym that got me out of my pit of despair, now I decided to go back to school and seriously pursue a degree and apply myself. I don't know what your situation is but I want you to know that I believe in you like I believe in myself. We can find joy in life. We are gonna make it.
Beautiful video. The way you shared your story was touching, it felt like that miraculous moment when someone opens up to you in person, like a spotlight is on you and it feels like you’re briefly privileged to witness something special that speaks straight to your heart. Much less pruned or curated than most TH-camrs, who often seem like merely personas in the clear written-ness of their videos.
This kind of video is an argument for why TH-cam is it’s own distinct type of media, because it represents the kind of storytelling that defines the specific utility and strengths of the medium. Love it.
what helped my get out of being a doomer, was looking a photos of beautiful places here on earth.
like there are still beautiful landscapes and cityscapes that are worth protecting.
also small things like sleepy sunday afternoons, and summer nights, and cozy rainy days, cuddling a cat.
experiences that are worth having.
it's worth it to live a full life just for those moments.
I don't need to be rich (although I'll take that money tho~) to have a full and comfortable life.
my life goal somewhere along the line became "to live life as comfortable and peacefully as possible."
I ain't tryin to start drama or start fights, I just wanna have comfort.
like people make fun of cottage core and things like it, but I see it as people seeking comfort in a world that seems cold and mean.
and now you have me weeping, thank you, I needed to hear this today
Hey, some people did indeed say hi! Just wanted to thank you for the shout-out; the channel is slow to grow, as you noted, so I really do take encouraging words like yours to heart.
(also this video is excellent, well done)
You're more than welcome! Your videos are amazing and I'd really love to see more of them, so I'm more than happy to help in some way. Also, your new video on Hope in FFXIII was superb.
The health anxiety makes it so hard during the pandemic. I can't even walk into a gas station without every inch of my skin crawling and feeling itchy. I can't go home after being around a group of people without feeling an anxiety driven shortness of breath. I couldn't hold a job because my brain was constantly racing irrelevant anxious thoughts. Thanks for the video, I guess I needed to cry for an hour.
I relate to this video so much... I wish I was there for every person who ever felt that way. What got me out was the realization that I couldn't stand idle. I am still depressed, still suffering, still feeling isolated but apparently my actions have effects and I can reach out to people who feel the same way so.. I keep going. Maybe that's not super healthy, but honestly, I don't want to think about this too much, I have found a sliver of hope for now and it's enough to make me want to help and do something.
Thank you for all your vudeos and especially this one. I hope it wasn't too painful to look back on those years and assure you, your message was heard and appreciated
This is such a wonderful video. Really touching stuff
Thank you for this video, thank you for a lot of the videos you have made actually. It seems like the common motif in all your work is showing compassion and understanding to troubled people and then trying to show them that there is hope. Your videos have helped me and for that thank you!
Lmao big fan of the “not incel shit,” line
Doom/Hope was best covered by Second Thought,
not only in his video named Optimism, but just in general by his whole channel.
That Guy really has the most mature Anttitote for the VALID feelings of hoplessness.
probably the best video essay i've ever seen. this was so so unbelievably lovely
I feel like this will be painfully relatable. Thanks for more excellent content 🖤
Gen X, been a doomer ever since we illegally invaded Afghanistan back in my early 20's, had some hope from 2008-2012 but it's all been back downhill ever since
Illegally invade Afghanistan? WTF are you talking about?
@@theq6797 the US told Afghanistan they had to turn over Bin Laden or we would invade to go get him and they agreed to turn him over but since we didn't care about Bin Laden and only wanted to stop the Taliban from burning down our heroin crops we invaded in spite of Afghanistan being willing to turn over Bin Laden and we spent 20 years there protecting the heroin while at first refusing to even look for Bin Laden and then pretending like Bin Laden had nothing to do with why we were there after we captured him in a totally different country, how do you know so little about modern history?
@theq6797 the US told Afghanistan they had to turn over Bin Laden or we would invade to go get him and they agreed to turn him over but since we didn't care about Bin Laden and only wanted to stop the Taliban from burning down our heroin crops we invaded in spite of Afghanistan being willing to turn over Bin Laden and we spent 20 years there protecting the heroin while at first refusing to even look for Bin Laden and then pretending like Bin Laden had nothing to do with why we were there after we captured him in a totally different country, how do you know so little about modern history?
@theq6797 the US told Afghanistan they had to turn over Bin Laden or we would invade to go get him and they agreed to turn him over but since we didn't care about Bin Laden and only wanted to stop the Taliban from burning down our heroin crops we invaded in spite of Afghanistan being willing to turn over Bin Laden and we spent 20 years there protecting the heroin while at first refusing to even look for Bin Laden and then pretending like Bin Laden had nothing to do with why we were there after we captured him in a totally different country, how do you know so little about modern history?
@theq6797 the US told Afghanistan they had to turn over Bin Laden or we would invade to go get him and they agreed to turn him over but since we didn't care about Bin Laden and only wanted to stop the Taliban from burning down our heroin crops we invaded in spite of Afghanistan being willing to turn over Bin Laden and we spent 20 years there protecting the heroin while at first refusing to even look for Bin Laden and then pretending like Bin Laden had nothing to do with why we were there after we captured him in a totally different country, how do you know so little about modern history?
i was a doomer when i was like 14-16 ish and tbh the thing that changed it for me was just that my best friend was always there for me. i was suicidal at the time and so was she but we'd both promised each other that we would live. after a few years i guess i just realized that there IS good in the world because through all the shit i'd gone through my friend had never once made me feel lesser than. i also read a couple of books that just really changed the way i see the world (the giver was one of them and so was the book thief) and it took me a few more years to really work through all the negative emotions i'd built up i guess the key is really to find things that make life worth it
I was allowed to leave early due to having a really bad mental breakdown at work. I've been in a not too great place as of late and hearing this has helped. Thank you.
I hope things have gotten better since then
Thanks for your work, Salari. I need these perspectives now.
Thank you so much for doing this video
I can't thank you enough for this video. It resonated from beginning to end -- exactly what I needed. ❤
ive only recently discovered your channel and i appreciate you so much for talking about these topics, especially using your own experiences. this is a heavy video to get through subject wise, but as always you approach it with empathy for all involved, and i cant thank you enough for that. i still struggle with doomerism and the impact the romanticisation of mental health in the 10s left on me - especially as somebody who was born in 2000, it was my entire teenage years, and now as a trans person living in the UK it's so difficult to want to keep going. and yet.. i work every day to get out of the nihilist hole dug for me, which sucks big time, but seeing other people who have gone through it and come out the other side comforts me a lot
Thank you so much for this video ❤❤❤
I NEEDED this! Thank you
I love your content man, thanks for sharing your experiences.
Don't stop making videos!
Thank you so much for this video so much! Thank you for telling your beautiful story. Really appreciate your openness and vulnerability. I identify with this so much and it feels so cathartic to listen to. Thank you so much!
I relate so much to this, I worked so hard all through university and maintained an almost perfect GPA only to get to my final year in 2020 when the covid pandemic happened and we were given an exam that almost the whole forgot failed. The exam was my clinical exit exam which tanked my GPA by almost an entire point which impacted me massively. I'd sat the Gamsat and was hoping to get into medicine. I went from being a shoe in to barely being eligible which, in Australia, is just not good enough. I still struggle to this day - I am going to get there by I still resent the system that made it possible for the arbitrary decision of one person to almost destroy my dream.
Not sure if someone has mentioned this already, but the timestamp at 30:25 is incorrect (it points backwards), to skip the sensitive topic in question, skip to 32:20.
Brilliant video, and well said
your videos are so important and insightful, i hope your channel grows more!
this is an amazing video. Thank you for making this
I really needed this video. I hold very similar beliefs and outlooks to the one you mentioned at the end of the video. I'm currently going through a very rough patch of my life this year. Hearing your thoughts about why it's beautiful to simply exist made me tear-up but also smile (and hope) in a way that feels like I haven't experienced for months.
Every time I've tried to do something or put myself out there for this year so far, I've had a lot of it thrown back in my face. This past week I felt like I was on the verge on giving up all the progress I've made, and was really contemplating slipping back into my old cloak of misery and isolation.
Hearing your story, seeing the similarities with my own, and hearing you reach similar conclusions to me reeeeally helped me mind to refocus on where I am right now and what matters most to me.
TL;DR:
Thank you for this video. I needed it ♥︎
Edit: grammar
Post edit: I didn't know you lose hearts if you edit your comment 😱 (Well, you live and learn I guess 😪 )
Thank you for this
It's not the universes job to have meaning, you are the meaning machine. Just cause the locus of meaning is located in us rather then "out there" isn't a cause for despair nor is it a profound insight at all. Anything else is just existential laziness.
Doomerism was best covered by Second Thought,
not only in his video named Optimism, but just in general by his whole channel.
To reach more people, i will comment this comment multiple times, so no Surprise if
you see it multiple times.
Please just see for yourself if that guys known as a Voice for the Worker-Class + an
Antidote for Helplnessness-Feelings for no reason.
This video made me cry. I lived a long time as a doomer, and though I'm young, it feels like I lived that way for forever. It took me reaching out for help and getting on medication to move away from that mindset, and be happy with myself and my life. Thank you for making this video, and thank you for being so open with your audience.
I didn’t know how much I needed this video. Thank you for sharing this
Seen my comment?
3:29 god damn Salari. Your content always hits so hard. Thanks for another great video.
I often think at length about how things in the distant past are still messing up my life in the present. But when I watch your videos, I can recontextualize my experience and remember what's possible to do now. Really appreciate your mellow sincerity and reasoned outlook
This was a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing. ❤
this is an amazing video. thank you for sharing your experiences with us ❤️
This is a phenomenal video Salari. Kia aroha ❤️
This is so beautiful, thank you ❤❤❤
I have so many yet so little words to say, but thank you. This might be tmi, but lately I’ve been feeling very unmotivated and overall just sad, and I was starting to just fall into a rabbit hole of negativity, depression, and anxiety, especially since I haven’t been able to afford treatment for my mental health. I literally asked life for a sign to keep going, or for at least a reminder that I’m not alone, and I feel like this was it. Thank you again, I understand that some of the topics you shared are very hard to open up about, especially to thousands of strangers on the internet, but thankfully, in the process you have helped some of those strangers out. I hope you are doing well, and I’m happy that you are on a path to a better mindset/outlook on life.
All your videos are thoughtful and well researched. Thank you for making me believe again and providing so much vunerability and authenticity. Its so nice to see that channels like yours exists. Thanks for making the internet a safer and more empathic place.
Thank you for this, I hope someone who needs to hear this hears it from you.
absolutely beautiful video, trying not to cry right now.
Your video helped me feel less alone in this world. I unfortunately have been viewing the world and life in a dark, morbid way and have been fighting a uphill battle with it for about 5 months now (it comes and goes throughout the years)
I dont know if youll see this but thank you…sincerely thank you. ironically ive been listening to your videos while gaming my life away but this one really spoke to me you are a gem for being so open with your story
Excellent video. Incredibly strong and well scripted ending. Camus is adorable 😍
Thank you for this.
Thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much Salari, I can't express how meaningful this video was to me
I really cannot thank you enough for the work that you do Salari. Every time I see an upload for this channel it makes my day, keep up the great work ❤️
Amazing video! You are my favourite youtuber
This video couldn't have come at a better time. I'm at one of my biggest lows personally and I'm still trying to find myself. But my biggest curse is that I've been unable to tangibly make what I feel I am clear. It's been a constant battle, but out of the few other people that have helped me come back to having empathy for myself, your words here have definitely added to that.
Thank you. ✨
I owe you my life man you were right about small steps Thankyou for sharing your experiences and wisdom truly
the intro alone made me feel seen and understood. we're grateful you took your time to make this even though it must've felt difficult to allow yourself to be this vulnerable. thank you. :)
Cried the whole way to work. U are an a amazing person!
Always find it great spending time watching your videos 😊👍
Thank you for this video! I am 17 and somehow I feel like my life is already over, but this helps me feel that there is more hope than I believe.
Love these vids, also glad to see I'm not the only one who shares that same feeling of longing with Persona 4.
When I was at my lowest point at the beginning of my twenties, not being a doomer but just wasting all of my time and potential on soft drugs and hating myself, my best friend was working abroad for a year. One thing led to another and a friend of hers approached me, saying that they would love to go to Japan for a 2 week voluntary service, but are afraid to go alone because it was so far away from Europe. I still feel of this moment as being 'luck' because it was not something in my control - if my best friend would have been present at the time, the two of them would have gone to Japan without me. Simply for the tiny reason that my best friend wasn't there, I was able to take her place. Almost ten years later I speak fluent Japanese, am married to a Japanese man and am living in Japan. My wasted past self could have never imagined me to come this far and my present self is still unbelieveably thankful to this day that this one time, an opportunity came up and I didn't even think twice when saying: "If it's okay with you, I'll come with!"
I teared up at this. I’m so proud of you.
@@duncanbug Thank you ❤️ I wish all the best for you and your life too.
Ya know, just last night, I had a bit of a realization that my life has become so monotonous that I find myself with no regular friends outside of work, hardly any hobbies, I’m not even sure what I like to do anymore. It was a pretty emotional night. That said, as I listened to the video I was taken aback by the timing of the subject. It really hit me hard, but it helped me immensely, and I want to thank you for it. I’ve become a fan of yours over the last year or so and I always look forward to your uploads. I’m glad you’re doing better and keep up the amazing work!
Thank you for your openess here. And I am so proud of you for doing better. So... Good job!
Thank you for being so open. It is rare for me to tear up, but this video just relates so much to my personal life. (although I didn't realize it was called being a doomer back then).
Thanks for existing, thanks for being here. Will probably end up donating someday after I get my finances in order.
Thank you for sharing your story, Salari. It is painfully similar to my own in many aspects, including the nihilism, setbacks and even moving countries for a lover I met through a video game. I’m in my late 30s now and still recognise myself slipping to my doomer ways of thinking sometimes, but I’m fortunate to now have wonderful friends who I’m open and close with, and I recognise how healthy that is.
When he said about not being able to be with someone who loves you back, it brought a tear to my eye. I've been there and it's indescribably painful.
However, the fact that he could find the courage to put his heart on the line again, makes me think that maybe someday I can too.
Really enjoyed this one. I find the doomer mindset to be one that can be tempting to slip into in light of...everything, but I also have a history of suicide ideation and lots of related mental health issues so getting stuck there for too long can become very scary. Thank you for making this.
Loved hearing your story and the advice to do something… as someone who’s shut himself off from the world (and have amassed quite a few Lana Del Rey vinyl records) this hits RIDICULOUSLY close to home… thank you.