This is such an important message! Taking time to connect with our kids is everything. Just 20 minutes a day can make a huge difference! And if you're looking for more tips on managing screen time, read this book Breaking Kids Free from Screen Addiction by Richard Bass! It’s packed with helpful strategies to keep our kids engaged and happy. 📚✨
Hello brothers and sisters. I would just like to recommend that everyone read the book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’. Reading that book was the best desicion I ever made.
No one is born knowing how to be a parent. It is appreciated to have individuals like dr Amen dedicated to work, research and share his findings. I am not the perfect mom, but definitely his work is helping me to get better as a mother.
1. time - spend at least 20 minutes doing things you child love to do (no threat ,no questioning, no everything, listen more 2. active listening -repeat back what u hear and stay queit for they continue talk , listen their feeling
My 6 yr old is super sweet and still sleeps next to me for bedtime(has been ever since he was a newborn). He does face my personality, he’s sensitive like me. I’m grateful we have a great relationship and good connection. He doesn’t have any video games or iPads. We do play Pac-Man on our smart tv for maybe 30 min together once a month, and he doesn’t get upset when we turn it off. I’m very hesitant for when the time comes to give him a cell phone. Perhaps we won’t get a smart phone and just one for communication when needed and that’s it.
Well done 👏🏻 6 years old is too young to have a cell phone or an iPad, I agree. However it’s important to start allowing him to sleep in a separate bed to support his independence and individuality. You or him might find it challenging at the beginning, eventually both will get used to it. Best of luck to you 🎉❤
We aren't meant to sleep alone. 6 is not really a good time and doesn't hurt anything waiting longer you will find that 8 is the age where a room and bed to themselves is fun. @@fifihappy
like button hit.. i don't agree with everything Daniel says but, the experience and knowledge is of an extremely high standard and this man has done so much for the promotion of neurology / electronegativity in the brain etc... Big respect for you!
Thanks Dr. Amen. You've really had a profound impact on my own brain health - and this video struck a chord with me as well. I'll incorporate this with my son, makes a lot of sense to me.
Thank you so much, i have learned some very important things from you here dear Dr.Daniel. 🙏🏻🕊❤️🔥Time is Love❤️🔥🕊🙏🏻 🙏🏻❤️🔥Full attention is Love❤️🔥🙏🏻
I have 4 and you're right. But if you come from a place of unconditional love and an absolute resolve to connect. Your heart will find the will to do it and your intelligence will work for you to make it happen.
@@Prodigalpro i try my best, definitely. But right now my oldest just turned 6 two weeks ago and my youngest is 6 months and i breastfeed so of course the littlest takes most of my energy. Either way, we live in a 1 bedroom house and im a stay at home mom, and my husband works 12 hour shifts 4x a week, so definitely we spend A LOT of time together. But sometimes my husband feels left out and often i feel like im not adequately distributing my time with the kids. Its hard. Mom guilt sucks.
My husband guilted me all the time- “ I had no energy left for him etc”. I had 4 kids, did all the housework. I had to return to work as a teacher after 15 years, increasing my guilt. If 67 year old me could give young me advice.. .refuse to accept guilt. His family ran their relationships on guilt. It is how they got what they wanted . His dad did absolutely no house work or help with kids.( just like my dad) I was so grateful for any help , the little help I received that I took on the guilt and tried to be superwoman and do all, be all for my family.After, 15 years into the marriage and many marriage books, I finally learned to say - “you want more time for us… help me with the housework & child responsibilities and things I think are important.” He never found housework important-- but he started helping. I refused to live and walk in guilt any longer. I think many books helped, but Boundaries stands out as a real Christian book that helped me learn to not feel that I had to sacrifice myself totally and walk in guilt to make my family happy. Our 4 kids are grown, God serving, resilient, responsible adults who all help their spouses. They have close relationships with us and each other and we get to enjoy our grandkids. So WONDERFUL!! Read Boundaries by Henry Cloud.
When Fadime, the daughter of Muhammad (peace be upon him) came home, our Prophet showed her his seat , let her seat tjere ,kissed her by the hand, and valued her. He Did this 1400 years ago, he would visit the child whose pet bird died and sit there and chat with him. The last prophet Muhammad .When we want to learn something, we look at what he did in his life time .He is our guide❤️.Just few things he did from million . just like drop from oceon❤️ We Muslims❤️
How old were the girls of early Europeans when they married? Did they choose? Did the women have their own rights? Or were they owned by their father first and then their husbands? @@HelloCurve111
Enjoy our kids. Some of my best memories are playing Barbie and Construction Zone Trucks with my kids in the yard. Or setting up the sprinklers to spin around for running through in the summertime or slip & slides or crafting and coloring with them and just reaponding to whatever comes up. Love the point here about these days everybody is talking at each other rather than with one another. It makes the world feel so cold and hard. So those moments of Barbie or Excavation time to build the racetrack for the hot wheels is amazing.
This is what I attempt to do.. but anymore my son has become so combative & argumentative.. I struggle immensely to not be reactive despite my best efforts. 😔We used to be close, special time used to bring great connection. Now all he wants is screens & talks back & I feel like I’m failing & he pushes me away more & more.
Screens are the root of all evil. Mine are still young, oldest is 9.5 yo, so I can still control screen time. When I cut screen time they become happy playful children again.
@@shaymashiach3320 I feel that sentiment.. but reality is they need the knowledge & skills to navigate the world, which has become very tech driven whether we like it or not.. plus all their friends are online bc I’m apparently the only parent that doesn’t let my kids sit in front of screens for hours. So I try to emphasize *balance* without them feeling deprived bc then they get obsessed. And they have to do their other stuff chores, outside time, learning time etc before screen time. But they are obsessed & addicted despite all these efforts so idk anymore 🤷🏻♀️ it’s so frustrating
@@sexywarriorwomen she doesn’t have a phone only an ipad and it has screen time and downtime 😔 i will try to do one to one outings i used to do it when she was younger
Definitely will listen more which i already do as my 2 twin boy's nearly 5 are chatter boxes 😅.. i always try and acknowledge what they say but again being busy mum and giving me time can make children unhappy and not listening
I have 2 so do the special time together or each child gets their own time with mom? This would work better for me, as i am currently going thru my childhood trauma issues to break the generational curses. ❤
My job was scheduled around my daughter’s schedules all her life. I always believed Time is love. I always have an active listen and comfort her, I supported her in every way. Unfortunately, when she turned 26, she moved out and cut me off. What did I done wrong? I left as is. Now she turns into religion. I wanted her to see you, but she didn’t care for.
You did well, you did not do anything wrong, and she probably needs time to figure out her identity outside you. Once she is done with the discovery phase, she'll connect again. Hopefully,it's a true religion.❤
Yes, you did well. One counselor told me there is not one thing we say or do that guarantees that our children will want a relationship with us as grown adults. That allowed me to rid the idea of being a “perfect” mom.
Dr. Amen, even after active listening the teenage child is too stubborn and does not change their mind, then what should the parents do? How do we set the boundary?
Respond not React- Tell your child calmly that you understand why they want it that way , however you have these boundaries for a good reason and explain the reasons and the consequences of not having it with examples if possible. When the child is treated with love and empathy with respect for their choices without judging, it will have a positive effect on the child and the child will surely be bound to think about your decision trying to understand it, even if they disagree. When this approach is followed over a period of time, the child will start to respect and thereby trust the parent more , leading to.a more healthy positive relationship with less conflicts and more acceptance.
Can I do this now that my 2 children are 35/36 or is it too late?😢 Relationship with son is great but my daughter has psychological problems/ we love each other but she is distant...problems communicating and she avoids me often. I KNOW I have have problems active listening😢. I would like to rewind time. EXCELLENT ADVICE THANK YOU
Thanks so much Dr Amen, this is really an insight. I grew up with toxic parents and now that I'm raising mine, I've started noticing some traits in my parents in me that I don't want for my children. Applying this teaching will really help me.
Both parents need to ensure the other parent is able to do this special time. I found in my marriage, that I facilitated my ex husbands special time with our children. Even now. He lives in a different state and gets the kids occasionally and every time he does it’s just this “special time,” because he has no real responsibility to their raising. I’m the on call parent. I’m so busy meeting needs that it’s so difficult to find the time to spend individually with my kids.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 *📜 Wpływ wartości i relacji rodzinnych na dzieci* - Nurturing bonds with children fosters healthy influence. - Quality time and active listening are essential for building strong relationships. - Spending dedicated, undirected time with children is crucial for connection. 01:30 *🕰️ Wartość specjalnego czasu i jego wpływ na relacje rodzic-dziecko* - Specjalny czas, czyli 20 minut dziennie bez poleceń czy pytań, wzmacnia więzi. - Koncentracja na obecności i aktywnym słuchaniu dziecka buduje zaufanie. - Przykłady skuteczności specjalnego czasu w poprawie relacji rodzic-dziecko. 04:06 *👂 Aktywne słuchanie jako klucz do budowania relacji* - Aktywne słuchanie polega na powtarzaniu słów dziecka i skupianiu się na jego emocjach. - Pozwala to na otwartą komunikację i zwiększa zrozumienie między rodzicami a dziećmi. - Unikanie narzucania własnych opinii i zainteresowanie uczuciami dziecka wzmacnia więzi rodzinne. Made with HARPA AI
I've a major challenge creeping up in my parenting journey. My 2 year old son is the only child who has been born to us, in the later part of our lives. I left my career and became a full time stay at home mom for him. I and my toddler play, sing rhymes, read books, do chores and almost everything together in the day while his father goes to work in the day. Occasionally, when i ask him to do something, he mostly ignores me or is disobedient. With this in the background, nowadays, when his father returns from work, he clings to him and wants to have nothing to do with me. It hurts. I know children are not responsible for their parent's happiness, but my concern is, "Why is he going away from me? Is he just bearing up with me in the daytime because his favourite parent is away at work?" What should i do? Pls guide
Hey there! Thank you for the comment! I recommend checking out our blog Tips for Parenting Oppositional Children: www.amenclinics.com/blog/tips-for-parenting-a-child-with-odd/
How about if you have multiple kids - can you a play a (card) game with all of them together for 20/30 minutes - is that enough ‘special’ time? With multiple kids, work, school - 20 mins per day for each becomes difficult. But if it’s not the same as individual - I’ll have to work much harder than I guess.
I allocate 20 minutes for each (3), sometimes I ask them what they want to do, and then write it down and work in a time, other times it is spontaneous, during the weekdays it is hard to get the time, but they have learned to respect each others time. Definitely worth the effort though.
My daughter always asks me to draw( she draws soon she get up until time going to bed) so whenever she ask me i drop what im doing and draw with her. I have 3 little and i have one on one time with each of them.
@@saoundenerval9995 when Dad's day off, I take them out for an hour at a time. I have 8 year old and 4 year old twins, so I try to balance between them.
So, being that I totally screwed up with my first who is now 18 and just graduated high school, what do I do? I didn’t take the time I should have as I do with almost 10 yr old. Two different relationships.
The connection has to stay in place though. My mother had a great connection with us when we were little, as we got older though we could tell she didn’t really want to be around us anymore.
Probably a narcissist when she couldn’t control the kids because they become more of their own I saw this with my husband and each child when they turn 11-12 he wasn’t the same
What about kids that witnessed atrocities deaths of their parents and saw dead bodies in front of them, how can we help them, persevere what’s left of their mental health, pleeasse guide 😢
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@@omnipotentwiz5101 lol I totally disagree. My wife is stuck in her ways and there’s nothing I can do about it. The kids on the other hand are still growing and learning and they have a chance to become the people they ought to be
Animals are not tutored like this. They just give their offsprings what is necessary despite personal hardships. But humans can't do it, unless they honestly want to.
There’s nothing hard about raising kids, I had my kids coming with me to nice restaurants when they were 3 years old and they would sit there nice and well behaved, not moving or making noise. Everything can be taught, manners and discipline. And you start when they are 3 years old, not when they are teenagers. Both my kids are professionals and successful now. I never had an issue in the years.
This is such an important message! Taking time to connect with our kids is everything. Just 20 minutes a day can make a huge difference! And if you're looking for more tips on managing screen time, read this book Breaking Kids Free from Screen Addiction by Richard Bass! It’s packed with helpful strategies to keep our kids engaged and happy. 📚✨
Hello brothers and sisters. I would just like to recommend that everyone read the book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’. Reading that book was the best desicion I ever made.
Who is the author of raising warriors
@@naimarmm1736Benjamin Johnson
We had 6 kids. My wife made a schedule of MY TIME with each of them, each night. The 7th night was for her.
No one is born knowing how to be a parent. It is appreciated to have individuals like dr Amen dedicated to work, research and share his findings. I am not the perfect mom, but definitely his work is helping me to get better as a mother.
Spot on! No parenting manual anywhere. I find this helpful,I have shared with other parents.❤
Thank you for being here!
Wow! Amazing.
Amen 🙏🏽
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1. time
- spend at least 20 minutes doing things you child love to do (no threat ,no questioning, no everything, listen more
2. active listening
-repeat back what u hear and stay queit for they continue talk , listen their feeling
Needed this been struggling with getting my daughter to listen to me but I'm learning that I need to listen to her
I love that u can recognize that ! Ur a good mama ❤I’m struggling with my 11 year old daughter to 😢we got this ! You got this 💜
Wow! In 7 minutes, so many good things to run with here as a parent.
Thank you Dr amen 🙏 and thank you Jesus for showing me this absolutely eye opening
From what I've seen when there's a connection there's respect and they seem to care more about their behavior and they care about your opinion.
Mother of six - this will help our family thank you 😊
So glad.
Too many kids
How will you manage 20 minutes per child?
@@RevealedFilms Your a kid
@@sophisticatedsteph3447 that a great question 🙋🏻♀️
Great lessons. This video appeared on perfect time in my life. Thank you doctor! 🙏
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Perfect!
I needed this lesson today. Thank you Dr!
Just subscribed because this video tells me I will find great help here to be a better custodian of God's precious treasure committed to me.
My 6 yr old is super sweet and still sleeps next to me for bedtime(has been ever since he was a newborn). He does face my personality, he’s sensitive like me. I’m grateful we have a great relationship and good connection. He doesn’t have any video games or iPads. We do play Pac-Man on our smart tv for maybe 30 min together once a month, and he doesn’t get upset when we turn it off. I’m very hesitant for when the time comes to give him a cell phone. Perhaps we won’t get a smart phone and just one for communication when needed and that’s it.
Well done 👏🏻 6 years old is too young to have a cell phone or an iPad, I agree. However it’s important to start allowing him to sleep in a separate bed to support his independence and individuality. You or him might find it challenging at the beginning, eventually both will get used to it. Best of luck to you 🎉❤
Sounds like you are the best mum.
We aren't meant to sleep alone. 6 is not really a good time and doesn't hurt anything waiting longer you will find that 8 is the age where a room and bed to themselves is fun. @@fifihappy
I have a 3 year old and this is wonderful.
like button hit.. i don't agree with everything Daniel says but, the experience and knowledge is of an extremely high standard and this man has done so much for the promotion of neurology / electronegativity in the brain etc... Big respect for you!
Thanks!
Thanks Dr. Amen. You've really had a profound impact on my own brain health - and this video struck a chord with me as well. I'll incorporate this with my son, makes a lot of sense to me.
So happy to hear this!
Thank you so much, i have learned some very important things from you here dear Dr.Daniel.
🙏🏻🕊❤️🔥Time is Love❤️🔥🕊🙏🏻
🙏🏻❤️🔥Full attention is Love❤️🔥🙏🏻
Thank you for the wonderful reminders! God bless you and your family!
You're absolutely right. The hard part though is when you have 4 kids ... 20 minutes of uninterrupted 1:1 special time for all 4 is hard to achieve
I have 4 and you're right. But if you come from a place of unconditional love and an absolute resolve to connect. Your heart will find the will to do it and your intelligence will work for you to make it happen.
@@Prodigalpro i try my best, definitely. But right now my oldest just turned 6 two weeks ago and my youngest is 6 months and i breastfeed so of course the littlest takes most of my energy. Either way, we live in a 1 bedroom house and im a stay at home mom, and my husband works 12 hour shifts 4x a week, so definitely we spend A LOT of time together. But sometimes my husband feels left out and often i feel like im not adequately distributing my time with the kids. Its hard. Mom guilt sucks.
My husband guilted me all the time- “ I had no energy left for him etc”. I had 4 kids, did all the housework. I had to return to work as a teacher after 15 years, increasing my guilt. If 67 year old me could give young me advice.. .refuse to accept guilt. His family ran their relationships on guilt. It is how they got what they wanted . His dad did absolutely no house work or help with kids.( just like my dad) I was so grateful for any help , the little help I received that I took on the guilt and tried to be superwoman and do all, be all for my family.After, 15 years into the marriage and many marriage books, I finally learned to say - “you want more time for us… help me with the housework & child responsibilities and things I think are important.”
He never found housework important-- but he started helping. I refused to live and walk in guilt any longer. I think many books helped, but Boundaries stands out as a real Christian book that helped me learn to not feel that I had to sacrifice myself totally and walk in guilt to make my family happy.
Our 4 kids are grown, God serving, resilient, responsible adults who all help their spouses. They have close relationships with us and each other and we get to enjoy our grandkids. So WONDERFUL!! Read Boundaries by Henry Cloud.
@@KateTheMama yes ma'am I understand. Love is the main thing that helps us press through. God bless your family.
We all make up excuses we choose to have kids but we must stop making excuses
This goes for marriages too. Thank you so much.
I wish I could go back and do a redo with my now grown sons. Grandparents get it right after making many mistakes.
never too late!
Say that to them! It may help heal wounds or trauma they've experienced.
When Fadime, the daughter of Muhammad (peace be upon him) came home, our Prophet showed her his seat , let her seat tjere ,kissed her by the hand, and valued her. He Did this 1400 years ago, he would visit the child whose pet bird died and sit there and chat with him.
The last prophet Muhammad .When we want to learn something, we look at what he did in his life time .He is our guide❤️.Just few things he did from million . just like drop from oceon❤️
We Muslims❤️
I am so much enjoying listening to his biography by Yasser Qadhi
@@TheConservativeHippieI love his Sira by Yasir Qadhi. I have listened to 23 videos (2 or 3 times each) so far and I can't get enough of it.
How old was aisha when he married her?
How old were the girls of early Europeans when they married? Did they choose? Did the women have their own rights? Or were they owned by their father first and then their husbands? @@HelloCurve111
@@HelloCurve111marriage was at 6..
Thank you for this information Dr.Amen 🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾❤️
Thanks!
Basic truths but so easy to forget. Thanks for the reminder!😅
I want to spend more time with my kids and actively listen to them
You got this!
Enjoy our kids.
Some of my best memories are playing Barbie and Construction Zone Trucks with my kids in the yard. Or setting up the sprinklers to spin around for running through in the summertime or slip & slides or crafting and coloring with them and just reaponding to whatever comes up.
Love the point here about these days everybody is talking at each other rather than with one another. It makes the world feel so cold and hard.
So those moments of Barbie or Excavation time to build the racetrack for the hot wheels is amazing.
This is what I attempt to do.. but anymore my son has become so combative & argumentative.. I struggle immensely to not be reactive despite my best efforts. 😔We used to be close, special time used to bring great connection. Now all he wants is screens & talks back & I feel like I’m failing & he pushes me away more & more.
I feel the same, my daughter is 14 and we the same issues as you which is sad 😢
Screens are the root of all evil.
Mine are still young, oldest is 9.5 yo, so I can still control screen time.
When I cut screen time they become happy playful children again.
@@shaymashiach3320 I feel that sentiment.. but reality is they need the knowledge & skills to navigate the world, which has become very tech driven whether we like it or not.. plus all their friends are online bc I’m apparently the only parent that doesn’t let my kids sit in front of screens for hours. So I try to emphasize *balance* without them feeling deprived bc then they get obsessed. And they have to do their other stuff chores, outside time, learning time etc before screen time. But they are obsessed & addicted despite all these efforts so idk anymore 🤷🏻♀️ it’s so frustrating
Disable the phone and put in a land line maybe?
@@sexywarriorwomen she doesn’t have a phone only an ipad and it has screen time and downtime 😔 i will try to do one to one outings i used to do it when she was younger
This is so accurate and is great advice. I do this with my younger 2 kids but have such a hard time doing it with my older daughter.
I wish I could rewind my time with my kids!!
How old are your kids? It is never too late.
Never too late!
Me to
Do the things now. What good does it do you to spend today regretting yesterday? Make today good.
@@hubibi33 very well said.
I was a great listener, but 20 years with a covert narcissist ruined my communication's abilities.
thanks for the reminder.
This is valuable instruction, thank you.
Thanks!
Love it, love it, love it. I already started to apply (it is not easy but I am optimist😊). Thank you sooo much.
Awesome!
Definitely will listen more which i already do as my 2 twin boy's nearly 5 are chatter boxes 😅.. i always try and acknowledge what they say but again being busy mum and giving me time can make children unhappy and not listening
Thank you so much for sharing 🙏🏻❤
Active listening is essential but harder than it seems...
I was just going to said that 😊
I have 2 so do the special time together or each child gets their own time with mom? This would work better for me, as i am currently going thru my childhood trauma issues to break the generational curses. ❤
Thank you Dr! First time seeing your video 📹 already subscribed and shared your vedio started from husband then to friends
My job was scheduled around my daughter’s schedules all her life. I always believed Time is love. I always have an active listen and comfort her, I supported her in every way. Unfortunately, when she turned 26, she moved out and cut me off. What did I done wrong?
I left as is. Now she turns into religion. I wanted her to see you, but she didn’t care for.
You did well, you did not do anything wrong, and she probably needs time to figure out her identity outside you. Once she is done with the discovery phase, she'll connect again. Hopefully,it's a true religion.❤
Yes, you did well. One counselor told me there is not one thing we say or do that guarantees that our children will want a relationship with us as grown adults. That allowed me to rid the idea of being a “perfect” mom.
Thank you!! Wonderful video. ❤❤
Thank you so much for this!
Dr. Amen, even after active listening the teenage child is too stubborn and does not change their mind, then what should the parents do? How do we set the boundary?
I’d be very curious to hear his answer on this.
Respond not React- Tell your child calmly that you understand why they want it that way , however you have these boundaries for a good reason and explain the reasons and the consequences of not having it with examples if possible.
When the child is treated with love and empathy with respect for their choices without judging, it will have a positive effect on the child and the child will surely be bound to think about your decision trying to understand it, even if they disagree.
When this approach is followed over a period of time, the child will start to respect and thereby trust the parent more , leading to.a more healthy positive relationship with less conflicts and more acceptance.
If there is no built up bond with the child since tender age it will not happen. One should not expect to be listened to if they did not listen.
Thank you dear Daniel ❤
Your children will listen to you if you are truth yourself!!
Can I do this now that my 2 children are 35/36 or is it too late?😢 Relationship with son is great but my daughter has psychological problems/ we love each other but she is distant...problems communicating and she avoids me often. I KNOW I have have problems active listening😢. I would like to rewind time. EXCELLENT ADVICE THANK YOU
It’s never too late. All human beings crave attachment at any age. Connect at any age
Thanks a million😊
That was just very good.
This is fantastic
Thank you for this great advice!
But you grew up really well with that father.
Yep parents have to slow down and really try active listening and responding. Our children would really take away so much from it
Thanks so much Dr Amen, this is really an insight. I grew up with toxic parents and now that I'm raising mine, I've started noticing some traits in my parents in me that I don't want for my children. Applying this teaching will really help me.
Thank you so much sir.
Blessings ❤
Thank you, it’s great advice.
Brilliant, as always 👌🏼
What if you have 4 kids? Do you give them 20 minutes each or together ?
Great advice
This is so true, thank you for phrasing it so precisely!
Thank you for this!
Thank you for sharing 🙏🏻
Your videos are very good
Thanks so much
Both parents need to ensure the other parent is able to do this special time. I found in my marriage, that I facilitated my ex husbands special time with our children. Even now. He lives in a different state and gets the kids occasionally and every time he does it’s just this “special time,” because he has no real responsibility to their raising. I’m the on call parent. I’m so busy meeting needs that it’s so difficult to find the time to spend individually with my kids.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 *📜 Wpływ wartości i relacji rodzinnych na dzieci*
- Nurturing bonds with children fosters healthy influence.
- Quality time and active listening are essential for building strong relationships.
- Spending dedicated, undirected time with children is crucial for connection.
01:30 *🕰️ Wartość specjalnego czasu i jego wpływ na relacje rodzic-dziecko*
- Specjalny czas, czyli 20 minut dziennie bez poleceń czy pytań, wzmacnia więzi.
- Koncentracja na obecności i aktywnym słuchaniu dziecka buduje zaufanie.
- Przykłady skuteczności specjalnego czasu w poprawie relacji rodzic-dziecko.
04:06 *👂 Aktywne słuchanie jako klucz do budowania relacji*
- Aktywne słuchanie polega na powtarzaniu słów dziecka i skupianiu się na jego emocjach.
- Pozwala to na otwartą komunikację i zwiększa zrozumienie między rodzicami a dziećmi.
- Unikanie narzucania własnych opinii i zainteresowanie uczuciami dziecka wzmacnia więzi rodzinne.
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I've a major challenge creeping up in my parenting journey. My 2 year old son is the only child who has been born to us, in the later part of our lives. I left my career and became a full time stay at home mom for him. I and my toddler play, sing rhymes, read books, do chores and almost everything together in the day while his father goes to work in the day. Occasionally, when i ask him to do something, he mostly ignores me or is disobedient.
With this in the background, nowadays, when his father returns from work, he clings to him and wants to have nothing to do with me. It hurts. I know children are not responsible for their parent's happiness, but my concern is, "Why is he going away from me? Is he just bearing up with me in the daytime because his favourite parent is away at work?"
What should i do? Pls guide
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How about if you have multiple kids - can you a play a (card) game with all of them together for 20/30 minutes - is that enough ‘special’ time?
With multiple kids, work, school - 20 mins per day for each becomes difficult. But if it’s not the same as individual - I’ll have to work much harder than I guess.
I allocate 20 minutes for each (3), sometimes I ask them what they want to do, and then write it down and work in a time, other times it is spontaneous, during the weekdays it is hard to get the time, but they have learned to respect each others time. Definitely worth the effort though.
My daughter always asks me to draw( she draws soon she get up until time going to bed) so whenever she ask me i drop what im doing and draw with her.
I have 3 little and i have one on one time with each of them.
How do you manage to have one on one time with each other ?
I have three, too and it's a complex equation...
@@saoundenerval9995 when Dad's day off, I take them out for an hour at a time. I have 8 year old and 4 year old twins, so I try to balance between them.
I never used the term “My house” to any of my kids it was always Our house:)
Appreciate and want more of your guideline....
This is seems to be more practical!
Worth hearing....
So, being that I totally screwed up with my first who is now 18 and just graduated high school, what do I do? I didn’t take the time I should have as I do with almost 10 yr old. Two different relationships.
The connection has to stay in place though.
My mother had a great connection with us when we were little, as we got older though we could tell she didn’t really want to be around us anymore.
Probably a narcissist when she couldn’t control the kids because they become more of their own
I saw this with my husband and each child when they turn 11-12 he wasn’t the same
Is it 20 min per kid a day or all kids combinrd?
The sense of irony of ignoring your kids to watch a video of listening your kids.
Screen time when kids sleep:)
I'm taking a shit and educating myself, the irony is I'm smelling it longer to reply to this comment
You could’ve been in that conference instead of in front of the screen. Be grateful you’re able to get that much wisdom without even moving anywhere.
Well… my son is sleeping, so I’m good.
Thanks
What about kids that witnessed atrocities deaths of their parents and saw dead bodies in front of them, how can we help them, persevere what’s left of their mental health, pleeasse guide 😢
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Or remain Child-Free by choice and you won’t have to worry about it.
I love him
So many regretful poarents here who were not communicate well in the beginning with their children.
How to get this started when you ask them to spend time if they dont want to 😢
Can you do another one about your wife
No!
We can change our wives. We cannot change our kids.
@@omnipotentwiz5101 lol I totally disagree. My wife is stuck in her ways and there’s nothing I can do about it. The kids on the other hand are still growing and learning and they have a chance to become the people they ought to be
Animals are not tutored like this. They just give their offsprings what is necessary despite personal hardships.
But humans can't do it, unless they honestly want to.
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Hard when you have autistic non verbal grandsons.
2:25 special time, 20 minutes with no questions
..and no demands or directions
I wish my son want to spend time with me instead of his gadget
There’s nothing hard about raising kids, I had my kids coming with me to nice restaurants when they were 3 years old and they would sit there nice and well behaved, not moving or making noise. Everything can be taught, manners and discipline. And you start when they are 3 years old, not when they are teenagers. Both my kids are professionals and successful now. I never had an issue in the years.
In our country, if the kid stubborn, we use ROTAN. And then they will learn lah... 😂😂😂
"I voted for the senator, and the country went to hell...."
soooo.... it was you! * *believer in the butterfly effect* *
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You guys need to learn it from Asian moms. They are pros in this case. Their weapon of choice were a wooden stick, electrical wire and thier sandals.
Spare the rod, spoil the child.
Lot's of doodoo. You can actively listen, without allowing your kid to cheat at a game, or allow blue hair.
Step one. Don't have kids 😅
This guy🙄
But it’s good to learn