Why the word yes Is holding you back | Dia Bondi | TEDxSonomaCounty

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  • @aceapollos
    @aceapollos ปีที่แล้ว +47

    Indeed. Refusing to say yes to everything has made me a better negotiator. It's frightening at first to say "no" to your superiors but once you do it they respect you all the more for it.

  • @is062_priyeshjain3
    @is062_priyeshjain3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I started working in B2B sales recently. The fear of my client saying "no" was chilling enough to avoid picking up the call. But one of my colleague just asked me, what's the worst thing they could, "no" and that's not the end of this world. This did not just change my confidence in my career,but in my day to day life too. Again this talk gives better insight to this topic. Thanks for the talk.

  • @mariusang_
    @mariusang_ ปีที่แล้ว +18

    It's not the world it's you. You must stand up and shine 🌞

  • @richardaustin939
    @richardaustin939 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This video just changed my life and I know it. That rarely ever happens

  • @brightsideperspectives991
    @brightsideperspectives991 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I appreciate your delivery. I have my talk memorized, now I’m working on delivery. My talk is on September 23. nice job.

  • @NYCFITFAM
    @NYCFITFAM ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Dia you rock... this is amazing!!

  • @englishwithmrbasit9495
    @englishwithmrbasit9495 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I believe saying 'No' is the toughest act .when we own it we save a lot ...

  • @rvianodude23
    @rvianodude23 ปีที่แล้ว

    So powerful! Thank you Dia!!!

  • @funnytv-1631
    @funnytv-1631 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You can alter your environment so that it nourishes you. Start with something little, like leaving out your journal and a pen. Or having a clean teacup ready. Or a blanket that has a soothing scent. Or a clear path to the window to let in some fresh air.
    All these details may sound tiny, but don’t underestimate how things add up. Sow tiny habits into your day as silent as an unnoticed breeze.

    • @Anonymoose66G
      @Anonymoose66G ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's called convenience and yes it has major effects on our habits and actions. People need to learn about convenience and perception and harness it's power, Apple does this at their HQ. For example making it easier to eat healthy food rather than less healthy food, even if it only takes you a few more seconds to get the unhealthy food makes you way more likely to pick the healthy food. An example is to put all the healthy food the first thing you see when you open your fridge and put the junk food in behind it or in an inconvenient location. There's endless use cases and examples.

  • @SimonClarkstone
    @SimonClarkstone ปีที่แล้ว

    This is why ISPs increase their existing customers' bills by 20% or whatever every year.

  • @munamohamed470
    @munamohamed470 ปีที่แล้ว

    Tedx talk

  • @manishisharma2072
    @manishisharma2072 ปีที่แล้ว

    True Sir

  • @МаксМакс-х3у
    @МаксМакс-х3у ปีที่แล้ว +2

    omg, being an English learner it was so hard to understand what she's saying, especailly some of those native word like lowball or hand-wringing (last one even subtitles couldn't defien correctly). So I think I need some easier for now. Don't pay attention on this comment I'm just trying to improve my skills)

  • @niloybiswas645
    @niloybiswas645 ปีที่แล้ว

  • @RichardCurryO
    @RichardCurryO ปีที่แล้ว

    It seems like people are commenting without listening to Dia Bondi's TED talk.
    Question: What is the definition of "ZoFO"?
    What is the function of "no" in her examples? Who says no? Is it her or the person to whom she pitches the "ASK"?

    • @RichardCurryO
      @RichardCurryO ปีที่แล้ว

      ZoFO ... getting to "no", then dialing down just one notch to "yes".

  • @mr.c2485
    @mr.c2485 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I said “no” to the American system a long time ago. Working away my time and life is a huge “no” . I’ve been “using the system” for 43 years and haven’t worked at all but for a few early years before I learned to say no to “the man”. It’s awesome! Unlimited time and free resources just for the asking. I’ve left absolutely nothing on the table. Thank you all for making this possible!
    ..guess I’ll go golfing…

    • @SimonClarkstone
      @SimonClarkstone ปีที่แล้ว

      How do you get money? Do you have your own business?

  • @venust.4119
    @venust.4119 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Just watch out with that mentality, you maybe abusing people-pleasers, the people who have a hard time saying "no" to others. I know what it's like to be a victim of those "auctioneers" who are very comfy in their zofos, I call them "freeloaders" they push and push looking what they can get away with. They aren't thankful for special favors i did for them, they praise themselves for being so gutsy.

    • @anastasiaonushko
      @anastasiaonushko ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, there is that possibility. Just can you tell what's 'zofos'? Sorry, English is my second language

  • @HakuCell
    @HakuCell ปีที่แล้ว +3

    it takes her 12 minutes to make her point? sorry, that's a no for me.

  • @DangenDanges
    @DangenDanges ปีที่แล้ว

    00:06:38

  • @BlessingKafula975
    @BlessingKafula975 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Nice

  • @ieBrazil
    @ieBrazil ปีที่แล้ว

    Have you seen YES, SIR! the movie? J. Carrey stars on it.

  • @cindyhalpern3187
    @cindyhalpern3187 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This can backfire badly. If you ask too much in salary, you don't get hired!.
    If you want to get a contract and you bid wrong, you don't get it.
    What you want, you might not get.
    You don't want no. Because no stays no.
    Sorry, wrong advice!

  • @priyanshugupta7265
    @priyanshugupta7265 ปีที่แล้ว

    nice video

  • @deansullivan4353
    @deansullivan4353 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Epstein would disagree that Yes is the word that held him back, not that the word no did either..

    • @clusterstage
      @clusterstage ปีที่แล้ว +1

      really? you must mean TED Bundy of TED Talk

  • @DelaliEkar-i5l
    @DelaliEkar-i5l ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Price is a measure of value and not worth 🤓

  • @munamohamed470
    @munamohamed470 ปีที่แล้ว

    Why is she want the word not😢

  • @sarjeetsingh1949
    @sarjeetsingh1949 ปีที่แล้ว

    Bhaiya khna kya chateho

  • @r.santhanakrishnanrsk2060
    @r.santhanakrishnanrsk2060 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hello

  • @DangenDanges
    @DangenDanges ปีที่แล้ว

    00:05:50