What To Do When A Girl Flakes On You (+Text Examples)
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I like that you actually push real Alpha moves - Calm, prepared, and tactical - not just angry at women.
Agreed. Anger is just a feminine trait
@@PlayingWithFireChannel hagahaaaa
@@PlayingWithFireChannel how
@@PlayingWithFireChannel It is human nature to get angry regardless you are Man or woman. To control anger as well as other emotions is mastery of self.
Few months of red pill awareness and their 3 hr long shows bitching on the same stuff got me nothing but loneliness and resentment.. 1 week of Alex and dates are lined up now! You’re the hero of our time ;)
exactly, red pill is for resentful men that hate women. Its a bunch of bull shit.
@@jordanmortensen Sounds like both of yall were watching the wrong channels 😂
Flakey girls = Move On I ain’t got time for immature crazy girls
That time I can use to work out or improve myself
Texting back and forth and no progress = waste of my time
I would rather play chess by sleeping with her first and then block her
"he who cares less wins" -- some guy
That last one broke my heart... You said you didn't want to validate her but you actually ended up passively doing it anyways by constantly reaching out after she showed you who she was the second time she ghosted you. You pretty much gave her the attention that you didn't want to give her. Lol
There's degree's to validation. Hence the clear distinction between being needy and being persistent. When girls say "I love a guy who goes for what he wants", that's literally what they mean
@@PlayingWithFireChannel Yeah but you were being needy and persistent. She actually won
@@TheRealRiddla Exactly. I'm not sure where the line is between needy and persistent, but this looked like chasing to me over a matter of months. I call needy, persistent, and chasing all the same. Hence my 1 strike rule.
PWF wants to meet, girl did not. At the time she just needed an ego boost, maybe she got railed the night before, maybe it's a horny dude trolling, who the hell knows. But her girlfriends will get some really cool entertainment from that text log.
Alas she won. She got validated, PWF walked off, she lost an e-orbiter. At least he got memories of that booty. I'll also give credit for him not simping or taking her out on a dinner date. (Coulda invited her out to one and flaked on her, not that it would help.)
I've never heard of a guy masturbating to social media likes, nor one who likes being a woman's new Onlyfans subscriber or gay male friend.
@@TheRealRiddla So how to turn this scenario to a win for the guy?
@@konnapoeg I think in this case where the woman has an agenda to get validation/social media follows, the best you can get is a draw.
To do that he'd have sent a message like this after the initial flake:
"I'm really busy at the moment, so can't make plans with people who flake, but I wish you well finding whatever you're looking for from this app 👍
You have to show her a sense of loss. Then if she messages something like: 'Oh, I don't usually flake and would like to meet some time...' you'd reinforce how busy you are, but she lets you know her schedule you'll see if there's a time that works.
If she:
Doesn't commit, I'd say ok, take care and good luck 🍀
If she says a couple of dates and times:
"Hmm, I have a couple of hours on the Thursday, but you're on probation after the last flake! 😉"
If she turns up = great.
If not unmatch her.
I think it's the first time I see a interaction where you didn't succeed. I would like to see more so I can learn when is good to walk away.
I do my due diligence at all times depending on the hotness of the girl
@@ParagKBhatt Delete her number never to speak to her again. Easy as that...But something tells me you won't do that lol
Super strong video. The "walking away" thread is *goals* when it comes to calling girls out
Definitely sir
I admire your persistence with the last one. I would've given up much earlier
IMO she just wasn't worth that much effort. I mean he was being very polite _(considering how she was treating him)_ and to the point. Ignoring him over and over like that was kinda rude. If she wants validation then she needs to start an onlyfans and stop wasting guys' time.
@@brandondaniels9471 I agree with you. I think he only continued putting up with her behavior because he really fancied her and it was exception from the rule.
@@boombastic321 Yeah I get that. I def woulda tried a few more times after the initial flake. Lol but I would've given up earlier than he did too.
Yeah he's chasing to much with double texting and shit wouldn't even bother
re: that last girl
Any girl who thinks I'm very cool... but won't meet up with me until I give her a ton of validation first is NOT my type. I don't care how good she looks! LOL! It's basically a red flag for narcissism which is a huge turn off for me no matter how she looks. It seemed like she wanted a "very cool guy" to $1mP for her
Yeah. In the end, I did my share of persistence. Strictly because the girl is hot
Only real dude on TH-cam around this type of content. Was persistent as hell with the last girl, and goes to show that even with grade A text game, sometimes the meet just doesn’t happen. Keep it up
"For exemple, Fresh and Fit, my favorite podcast..."🤣🤣🤣
I couldn’t resist
Broooo
"Just finished a nice workout, looking *_fresh and fit_* for our date" lmaooo
@@PlayingWithFireChannel very good and realistic content! Too many red pillers think from a theoretical viewpoint that is not practical at all, such as "if she cancels or reschedules, never ask for an other date", that's just silly advice and it's actually harmful advice. Good you're showing some common sense here!
@@stineldo Exactly
I agree with everything you did except for that last segment of the video with the girl who was sending out those nudes to you. You wasted too much time on her and she was definitely not interested in seeing you. She totally had low interest or as another TH-camr usually says, she had a "lack of burning desire" for whatever reason. Otherwise, this was a very good video overall.
He sent out a few texts and waited days in between. Doesn't sound like a waste of time to me. Low investment persistence. Non-reactive, non-emotional, masculine guy going after what he wants.
Women don’t know what they want, they don’t want you “too cool” but also they don’t want a “simp”. Anything in between is just luck
not all girls are honest like this girl, they directly ghosting once they flake. and at the beginning if there was no stripper story then she was totally hooked.
Idk I think she was the type of girl only looking for confirmation and nothing else
Me a single introverted weeb who might never find love: "ah yes, that's some useful information"
We all need to start from somewhere
It's a tough game out there. And there are a lot of super creepy women out there who like to play games.
Well handled on all three situations in my opinion.
I think the first two girls were okay, and just nervous like you said. but the last girl was super creepy.
Alot of gold here... I was today years old when I found out that asking" what is your schedule like?" is not just asking "what is your schedule like?" but is actually good intel you're supposed to use to plan a better date, lol!
Thanks for the tips. These days, dating is frustrating especially when you know what you want so when you get flaked on by a girl you like, it feels really disheartening.
Omg bro happened to me 4 times dispute begin so nice understanding and me talking to her for so long and all of a sudden it all bam on read. Sorry but if your gonna waste my just tell me honestly and say your not interested. But nope sorry but ima put the girl on blast and save others guys time if she wants to manipulate men and that’s wrong in so many levels.
That text validation is 💯. Had a girl flake several times in the past. Soooo many excuses. The last one i remember she sent a text late night before our plans saying she was throwing up all night. Right then I knew it was coming 😂. The next day I pretty said that sucked and still planned to head there. Said I needed gas after work then she responded "I'm sick". I said she could've mentioned that earlier before I was about to make a 1hr drive then she said she just woke up. It's like 4 o'clock pm! I quit responding after that due to all the previous flakes awhile back. I also saw that a messaging app showed her logged on 1-2 hrs BEFORE she said she just woke up. That was it man. I'm not initiating contact or making plans. She tried messaging me 3-4 more times after all that with dumb shit like "hey" or selfies like none of her flakes even happened. I just left her ass on read. 👏🏽💪🏽
Really appriciates this channel and the down to earth tips you provide. Thanks for not being a scammer
Good tips but the last girl I personally would have walked away earlier. Girls like that will exhaust you after dealing with a few of them.
I appreciate your texting tips and your patience with these types of girls but I don’t get it. You’re spending months on your phone chasing one narcissistic girl just because she’s hot. Just... why? Is this what you want to do for the rest of your life? I honestly don’t get it. I’d rather just go out, socialize, meet and take a girl home that I genuinely connect with and has something else going for them besides them being hot. Beauty >> Hot IMO. Maybe I’m just getting old for this stuff
In my opinion this is a hail mary for a guy who she has low interest for. Girls with high interest don't play these games. They can't afford to for fear of losing you.
Thanks man. You're really next level and helped me out with a girl who just flaked on me before the 2nd date. I've slept with 100+ women so I got some game but you have a deep understanding of female psychology
How old r u?
@@dman8557 35
Yup. It's a no-win scenario for someone who flakes. Especially on the first date. I found that when I tried OLD, girls on there were NOTORIOUS for this type of behavior.
The reality is that she flaked because some other thirsty guy showed her more attention. Yes. Absolutely call her out on it and don't allow yourself to be played. But she really doesn't care honestly. She's got another thirsty bum in her queue she can run to. And so the cycle repeats for her.
If she flaked on you, you dodged a bullet. And step back and look at it objectively. She's still single (sans a pump and dump) because of attitudes like this. No self respecting man would ever deal with that.
Yeah definitely, I had a dude do this to me. He said we’d go in his car at 11PM, and he had me waiting there until 11:30 and not once gave me a reply to my message. Pissed me off and made me cry, and had me waiting out in the cold night for half an hour just for nothing
If someone flakes on you the fay of the date..... Throw their number into the bottom of the ocean, and never look back.
I like your content keep it up. That being said, I don’t like how you still gave the last girl too much free attention and validation. If a girl flakes on me but offers to reschedule and gives me at least half day notice, I would be happy to reschedule w her and ask her for her schedule. But if she flakes again or if she cancels last minute w no mention of reschedule, I would just leave her on read. Women who are unwilling to make plans or keep her plans should be left on read bc it triggers an emotional response since they are not used to guys willing to walk away. Calling her out does nothing to raise her attraction anyways like proven on last girl so leaving her on read has most positive effect bc it’s actually pretty good chance she reach out to
I feel like even though you didnt give her validation per say,she was still getting it by you messaging her and her not responding.I think she was catfishing or just really likes the attention 🤔
Man you know exactly what i need, cause that girl started giving me corona objections
"I have been socially distancing myself for the past month already. And I stocked up on purell, toilet paper. You’re in good sanitized hands" is my go to line
@@PlayingWithFireChannel thanks alot man, gonna be using it haha
@@numetalguitarist2377 You're welcome
FAIAP, a covid excuse is a show of disinterest. So move on. Ask if she'd give this excuse to Lebron James if he asked her out. Exactly, she wouldn't.
@@1bosstv Brah. So silly. If you're not lebron, why compare yourself to Lebron? And even if you're at the level of Lebron, how does she know? She never met you
Always love watching your videos man, truly worth my time. At 2 body count so far (virgin before discovering your channel)
AMS, Corey wayne, and you. That’s my big 3 lol
Lmaoo same 😂💯
Fresh and Fake podcast is also my favorite podcast
I like this video but it doesn't matter how nervous you feel, you're not going to pass up on potentially meeting the man of your dreams due to nerves. That's more likely low interest.
You also helped me a lot next Saturday i have a date with you’re dating techniques
Love it
Man, clear and good advices. Respect.
Thank you
Some of the most relevant dating techniques I have come across on TH-cam 👌🏼 well done sir!
"pet my dog" !!! Ultimate wingman
I’m do understand your point on the text game. Texting here and there before the date and confirming but i think it comes off somewhat needy. Guys should have shit going on in there life other than texting women all day
Exactly red pill dudes would've just said fuck her and went to go find another
Nobody has so much going on that they can't send two texts a day
My reason is that I am done with that Buddy challenge. I even went to Craigville Beach to show everybody, peace....
Lmao Alex I busted out laughing when I heard what you said about Myron and Fresh
Haha. I'd call anyone out if they give bad advice
I actually have my first date tomorrow thanks to your great texting game man :D, any small tips?
Relax don't put pressure on yourself girls can sense your emotions, and girls will follow your lead if they like you
I'm assuming the date went well and the girl on your profile picture is _that same girl_ you went on a date with?
@@Rude_Boi no that date went very bad , took me about 1 extra year to get a girlfriend, it was worth it tho
@@mississippitornado6842 Well, you live and learn; good thing you rebounded and kept going bro.
hey bro i really love your videos! One of the best channels out there. Hope you maybe can a video why it's that women almost never feel chemistry with you from the first date and then just go cold on you... But can't really put a finger on it what the reason could be. Because i try to disagree and not being too nice. But also i feel they even try to play with me and give little lies
honestly bruv, youre just so fucking cool bruv.. learnt so much from you. love the way you style your mastery. much love and appreciation from south africa
WHY the hell would any self respecting guy who values himself and his time give a CRAP if one woman in the entire world flaked or doesn’t text back? (assuming you’ve done everything right).
I did reply to a recent flake, then deleted her number. My reply was “ok”.
Thank you so much for this video.
If y’all want to NOT get laid and/or NOT make a woman happy then listen to this dude lmao
Dude the amount of patience you have is insane. If you were a saint meditation under a tree, you'd have seen God by now 😂😂😂
I agree. I think you should really show more of you not succeeding and explaining why it went wrong there's are very helpful and most other pick up artists don't show them cause they think it'll make them look bad which isn't the case
Thanks for the valuable information
You're welcome ;)
Not a dificult question to aswer
That last texting was hard to watch. I think it would have been best to cut ur losses earlier coz it still concluded to the same result
Going from a controlled enviroment of clubbing/ texting to meeting a virtual stranger is hi risk for females. She is at a disadavantage. Thats why they get cold feet. This even happens to handsome dudes. If a female is talking to you with undivided attention , even if briefly, there is initial interest. However, the sober follow up can be daunting, with all that momentum now lost.
also, for a 1 st date, go for an off night like thurs or sun. most women have plans fri/sat. this also gives the impression you have plans as well. Keep
it simple: drinks/apps-starters. No fancy dinners.
GREAT CONTENT BRO!!!
Absolutely solid video
I have experienced some of this helpful and some not. Recently I had a 2nd date setup and hear it was best to have radio silence till then. All my friends where telling me I was overthinking it and to text her. I asked how she was and she replied and asked how I did. I said good night and she ghosted me.
your exprinxc is gold , i am 32 old and when see your smart feel more smart for my age
and i have kid :D
just now singel /some time life need find new love
The most chadest Alpha Chad ever on YT
Great stuff.
Bruh how are you fine with investing so much into a chick that's clearly toying with you. I'd have been out of there after the first denied date request
Prob the best PUA content I've seen in a long time.
A big red flag for me with the last girl is calling out your response time.. reverse the roles and imagine a guy doing that to a girl. They'd think we are needy AF.
What do you do if they flake, give you a seemingly valid reason, but won't offer a reschedule?
Move on dude, it’s that simple, anyone really interested would reschedule, and you don’t want anyone uninterested in your life.
Again you are all about natural manly genuine seduction. Not too gamey high-school crush bs.. Keep up the good work
No time to figure out better go with another girl
You spend way too much time on girls that dont have interest in meeting up. You should have charged her longtime instead of chasing after her
Did you gather lessons from these in the end? I did
So I asked this girl out on a date and she said yes but when the day got here she says she forgot and that she accidentally made plans with her bestfriend but she still invited me is that good ? Like does that mean that she actually wants to spend time with me and she’s not flaking ?
on that last example, do you think it would have been better to feed into her "blueprint" and give that validation over text?
This is good
god damn it bro where were you when i needed this!!!!
I've been around for 2 years now ;)
Had someone flake on the day (several hours before). I had a few suspicions anyway as she didn't clearly answer previously when I asked her exact plans/time. She gave a work/deadline excuse which may be genuine, and said she would still like to meet me when she can. Based on that I would be open to meet her but I ain't going to be texting loads and wait for her to arrange.
What happened bro
@@HdHd-hp6qz Nothing mate. I never met her. Some women just want text, pics, attention. I moved on. Recently started banging someone else. Nice little slim/petite woman 🔥
Thank you champ
Nice ill try it
Yo if a girl flakes on you it should be over it shows she has no respect for you.
I think we would love to see more of your failures, more like self-respect coz this video hit me really different
Did you learn from it?
@@PlayingWithFireChannel ofc mate always learn something from your videos and this is one of my fav
@@gopinathm4556 Thank you
Another thing if she flakes (says to reschedule, or says she can't come to the date) and you talk let's say in whatsapp or telegram (you say to her yah sure np and you reschedule for another day), wait like 10-15 minutes and text her in instagram or just another app something along the lines: "hey, I got some free time today (say the time of the date you had with her). Wanna come over/meet/hang out?"
She wil understand that you obviously didn't want to text her this, but next time she will be less likely to flake on you knowing you got options.
You only have the patience to wait 10-15 minutes before you double text?
@@PlayingWithFireChannel ok or 5 minutes =)
There's no game here... it's just neediness
You should do a video on hinge when you are 'invited to chat'
Treat it as a match man. So simple
She flaked after agreeing to come to my place after a nice dinner on the first date then apologized and ghosted me. The f*ck is wrong with these chicks? Would have been totally ok with her just rejecting me or saying she didn’t want to come over on a first date. This was after her simping for me like crazy over text and asking me out
A girl asking you out on a date is a huge red flag because she is trying to control the situation which is masculine behaviour. I used to think it showed high interest until i was the results. Never except a date from a women you haven’t fkd yet she is trying to friend zone you.
@@HdHd-hp6qz that is the dumbest shit I’ve ever heard
What to do if her objection is she doesn’t want to talk to see you because used to talk to her friend? Even though you had no idea that said girl and her friend knew each other. And you didn’t do anything with that girl. If she throws the “sorry I’m loyal to my gal pals” is it a lost cause? Her friend was a time waster and bad mouthed me. At first the girl said she was willing to give me a chance but had a change of heart? Just curious if there’s a way around this or it’s totally lost?
It is a lost cause. Move on
Many people disagree with talking to them before the date.
You lose the connection and they take it as being disinterested
You put in like 8 messages more than you should have. I don't think even 1 in 1000 of those types are going to get "turned around"
Do you think it would work on whatsapp? Or it needs a different approach?
Bro, thank you.
Honestly, I just walk away most of the time. I really can’t be bothered follow up texting girls who pretend to like me and have medium/low interest.
If a girl actually likes me and wants to hangout, I want a bit of effort bad or else I’m gone.
They don't "pretend" to like you. They just haven't decided if they like you yet. And expecting them to actually like you without even meeting up in person is a selfish and egotistical mindset to have
@@PlayingWithFireChannel I’ll keep that in mind, thanks for ur help mate 👌🏽
@@The369Souljaman take note he made a valid point there
@@PlayingWithFireChannel what if they flake after the first date?
@@whoknowsbb5705 That means the interest is low. Assume the close didn't happen?
chick flaked on me recently 3 times i walked away. she tried to flake on our first date too but she eventually come over.
Dude! This reminds me of the Adam Sandler skit about Denise . Super simp
I love the intro with 🔥 song
Yo wassup playingwithfire bro already got girls lined up appreciate all the thelp man . Trying to close on this girl. This was her response was "sorry I'm just too nervous" how do I respond to this ?
"Would a phone call make you feel better" I'll need more context man. Make a post on the forums
@@PlayingWithFireChannel yee thanks alot , what do you do deal with the I'll let you know aftwr asking her out texts !
@@Copilot1204 "You don't sound too confident"
@@PlayingWithFireChannel thanks bro appreciate it 💯 If they respond with what ? Just Curious that is it just over or do I just troll them at this point lmao?
If a girl tells me she got nervous over a text I’m calling her a racist
What do you say when a girl doesn't respond to the "We should split a bottle sometime soon" line? Up to this point the interaction was going very well, but it's been 24 hours plus and no response.
it happened with me a week ago, i just said what alex recommends: "if thats cool with you" and she responded in about 40 minutes saying she does want to meet up.
You've clearly not watched most of my videos. Have you
@@PlayingWithFireChannel I have actually man. I was just unsure of what to say next because i'm talking with her on instagram, not a dating app.
@@pedroabreu2338 You've clearly not watched most of my videos. Have you
i think there's a lot of helpful insights in this video, but maybe you also actually played it too cool on her. The one time she took the most effort was in explaining why she's flaking. Yes, her sending pictures looks really needy and looking for validation, but what if at the same time, she'd really been looking for genuine interest? It seems like you're more into casual dating, so it might have been authentic on both sides. But probably she'd have acted differently if you'd shown more interest in her personality. Don't know if you did that before the screens you showed.
Anyway, thanks very much for your videos, it's very insightful!
Alex my text game comes across with Lack of context . And. Half baked Incoherent thoughts. Usually I’m paragraph orientated expressive but it’s difficult keeping it short.
Keep it fun n playful ask how she plans to make it up to you
Yo I met this girl somewhere and she texted me saying she wants to hangout. I set a date and she says ok. The day comes and she doesnt even bother. Wtf!??
There was not enough investment from her end... Simple
11:04 hahahaha
this is why we sub tbh
1. A girl adds me on instagram
2. She DM's me
3. She double texts me
4. We text for a day or so then I stop texting her for about a week
5. We start texting again and she's super responsive
6. I suggest a date in about a week when we are both off work
7. She says,nah what about today ?
8. I say Ok
9. Then she continues to cancel 3x during the day
10. Wtf is that ? lol
Also a huge lol at his last conversation with that woman. Is he crazy ? That's a horrible way to text with a girl.
You are too avaiable and look like you have nothing to do if youre able to drop your today for her is one thing wrong here
@@TheActionTourist I didn't drop nothing. I was free that day. Later that night she again texted me,saying we can go out tomorrow night. I said I can't since I'm going out skating with the boys. That was it.
I think you made an error with the last girl. granted we did not see the previous texts but still. I hypothesized that some Latinas that are unusually good looking one simpy guys and actually do go on dates with them because these women are so used to guys and players who keep it cool and only use them for sex and then leave.
I think this guys game was terrible but he probsbly is still pretty successful because girls are attracted to him.
2 many invitations for her to disrespect him. If you ask to meet up more than 2x without her following thru... she's fuckin w/ your head.
Why can’t women just communicate clearly …. Why is communication so difficult for women.
They're vetting you thru your texting games
Q: a hot black girl at work who i barely ever talk to tells me the other day its her last day and i may never see her again. We exchanged numbers and made plans.
She showed investment in the beginning initiating contact with me. Sending me ❤emojis….she has now flaked on me twice.
I message her back “hope youre feeling better, feel free to contact me when you’re ready”
You got any advice? Could she just be on her period both flakes happened within days