So we had a bad day... // Vlogmas 2019 Day 17

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ความคิดเห็น • 721

  • @chewy1921
    @chewy1921 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1091

    I love that Claudia just dug a hole for her problems I need to try that

    • @glittery_cucumber
      @glittery_cucumber 4 ปีที่แล้ว +94

      Jessica: "Hello!! :)"
      Claudia: "-_- *angry digging intensifies*"

    • @clearcontentment3695
      @clearcontentment3695 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Zero from the movie holes

    • @danaz227
      @danaz227 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      tip: there may be reforestation crews in your area in need of volunteers. You can dig a whole and brighten the community!

    • @LadyJustice86
      @LadyJustice86 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I was thinking maybe Claudia wanted to bury someone...

    • @chewy1921
      @chewy1921 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Dana Z that actually sounds like a good idea I’ll check- because honestly our area really needs it right now lol

  • @Grace-E-21
    @Grace-E-21 4 ปีที่แล้ว +414

    "Feeling unwell makes me feel emotionally vulnerable." I needed this. Thank you.

  • @hannahw3068
    @hannahw3068 4 ปีที่แล้ว +397

    I feel like Claudia's really on a journey of self reflection at the moment and I'm here for it. It's so refreshing to hear someone talk frankly about their feelings.

  • @notacanadian278
    @notacanadian278 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Its now 2021, Claudia is pregnant and they live in a building site. I love how this video has aged 😍

  • @HiImHipster
    @HiImHipster 4 ปีที่แล้ว +142

    The captions called Claudia "Tortilla" and I'm still not over it 😂

  • @jessicaoutofthecloset
    @jessicaoutofthecloset  4 ปีที่แล้ว +290

    Thank you so much for watching! How do you cope with your bad days...? xxx

    • @Zanderren
      @Zanderren 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Sending my love to you we love you and people that love you it is ok to not be 100% I would rather you put your health first then good content.

    • @e.g5843
      @e.g5843 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I just lie in bed, and sing, then decide I'm really bad at singing, so I watch TH-cam and try to make myself happy, and cuddle my dog

    • @user-bj6hj8ng3v
      @user-bj6hj8ng3v 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I go back and look at the photo's i have taken to help me! Xx

    • @Zanderren
      @Zanderren 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Eveanna Goulding yeh same and people ask why are you in bed my exercise is I am disabled an why sit in a cramped in a wheelchair wen you can be comfortable and not in pain.

    • @keldakellie9164
      @keldakellie9164 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I'm 49 and it has been 25 years now. Didn't expect by flicking through dally paper had a moment that had an associated memory of tragedy. Was doing well until. Allowed myself a day on the couch watching screens.

  • @HannahHodgson
    @HannahHodgson 4 ปีที่แล้ว +651

    You’re smashing Vlogmas with a chronic illness and really tough life struggles. Your (and Claudia’s) honesty is very refreshing and I really appreciate you putting yourselves out there. Thank you for being yourselves ❤️

    • @hopegold883
      @hopegold883 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Just so awesome the way it starts out with honesty about how bad the day is for both, and moves through introspection to healing. Like a freakin 3-act play.
      I feel so much better. I hope you two do.
      My mom died years ago, but still Xmas is hard, because she was all about it.

  • @francescaelizabeth7584
    @francescaelizabeth7584 4 ปีที่แล้ว +420

    There literally the best couple ever, they know each other so well and take such good care of each other , there so kind and gentle with each other I wish I could find a relationship like this .........or a relationship at all😢

    • @britischenadligen3760
      @britischenadligen3760 4 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Please don't settle for anything, honey! I'm sure there's someone wonderful waiting for you out there, just hold your chin up and respect yourself enough to wait until someone worthy of you appears ❤

    • @mustbeinwantofawife
      @mustbeinwantofawife 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Britischen is right, at this point if my future wife doesn't treat me like Jessica and Claud treat each other then I don't want it

  • @KatieLovesSleep
    @KatieLovesSleep 4 ปีที่แล้ว +141

    Doggos always know when you need them for a cuddle ❤

    • @reesaforrester4266
      @reesaforrester4266 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Aren't they just the best, most intuitive creatures.

  • @beans_for_days
    @beans_for_days 4 ปีที่แล้ว +125

    The fact that Claudia diped her chocolate in the tea makes me think she'd love Tim Tams

    • @enzopenguin
      @enzopenguin 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      claudia should deffo try a tim tam slam!

  • @Aleksa_Milicevic
    @Aleksa_Milicevic 4 ปีที่แล้ว +111

    Claudia is our favourite grandpa ♥️

    • @xzonia1
      @xzonia1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      My grandfather was a farmer, so seeing Claudia digging a hole did literally remind me of him (utterly adorable). I'm glad she does something constructive to deal with her grief. Working with plants is very therapeutic, too.

  • @sheiladelong7112
    @sheiladelong7112 4 ปีที่แล้ว +352

    This literally made me cry, just for being so relatable.

    • @trishroscoe8273
      @trishroscoe8273 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Right? I love this channel. Makes me feel less alone

  • @miyataipale7173
    @miyataipale7173 4 ปีที่แล้ว +148

    When they Claudia said that they are hoping for a baby in 2020 my heart melted!!!!❤

  • @domsusefulstuff
    @domsusefulstuff 4 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    When I realise it's one of those days I stop trying to be productive and think, "What can I do that I would utterly enjoy?" and do whatever the best answer to that is. It's the second day that devastates me.

    • @yanad6980
      @yanad6980 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      innocent_fugitive this is an excellent advice, thank you for sharing ❤️❤️❤️

    • @domsusefulstuff
      @domsusefulstuff 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@yanad6980 Thank you for saying so! Hopefully you won't need it much.

    • @Readera
      @Readera 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      💗

  • @Nursepractitionerd
    @Nursepractitionerd 4 ปีที่แล้ว +130

    Absolutely couple goals, even on the bad days.
    Any baby born into this family will be so very lucky.

    • @Natalie-101
      @Natalie-101 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Update: yes they will!

  • @SarahBent
    @SarahBent 4 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    I love watching how you support each other. I think the general perception is that the non-disabled partner does all the supporting. It is wonderful to watch it go both ways.
    Additionally my darling lesbians this is the part where I remind you that straight couples dont always plan their pregnancies. I have 2 children who are happy accidents. We moved when the first one was 3 weeks old.

    • @ericafox5098
      @ericafox5098 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Always? My god, half of pregnancies are unplanned. I'd surmise that over half of pregnancies conceived "naturally" are unplanned. I can't name a single planned pregnancy that has ever taken place on the Catholic side of my family.

    • @jenniferwells2291
      @jenniferwells2291 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That's why we have birth control :D 42 yrs and no accidents

    • @SarahBent
      @SarahBent 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@jenniferwells2291 lucky. It doesn't always work that way.

    • @chantellemusumeci5504
      @chantellemusumeci5504 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Jennifer Wells I was conceived on birth control! It is rare but it happens. Poor mum had quite the shock

    • @skeletoninyourbody9896
      @skeletoninyourbody9896 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jenniferwells2291 thats a very ignorant view that you have, and that kind of view is harmful to those who need abortions.
      Theres a percentage in all the birth control types, that indicate a a failure which most probably leads to unwanted pregnancies. We are usually harassed for not using it, but most of the abortions that happen aren't form of birth control, but a last resort after birth control fails, rape, and similar.

  • @perstephanies
    @perstephanies 4 ปีที่แล้ว +198

    There's an airway clearance system called The Vest that might be helpful for you. It's a vibrating compression vest that helps shake up the lungs. We had one for cystic fibrosis.
    Take care. Y'all are wonderful ❤️

    • @diannemartino3464
      @diannemartino3464 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Steph LJ My mom, who’s 90, uses that vest twice a day to keep her lungs clear.

    • @perstephanies
      @perstephanies 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@diannemartino3464 I always love to hear about how it helps others! Hope your mom is well!!

    • @erindixon2877
      @erindixon2877 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      I have cystic fibrosis and use my vest 2-3 times a day. It’s helped me so much. Unfortunately, the NIH in Britain doesn’t believe in it nor will they pay for it. They would rather shove antibiotics at their cf patients rather than give them equipment that will help them in the long run.

    • @caitlingraves5102
      @caitlingraves5102 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I was coming in the comments to suggest this exact thing!

    • @bcarr5163
      @bcarr5163 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Where can I purchase one of those vests?

  • @clairem1612
    @clairem1612 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Claudia: “Maybe in the new year we should spend some time apart”
    2020: “Yeah, no, sorry, that’s not happening.”

  • @missaurora08
    @missaurora08 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    100% how a good relationship should work. ‘What will make you feel better?’

  • @soleilmarshall8865
    @soleilmarshall8865 4 ปีที่แล้ว +173

    I understand how Claudia is feeling, especially as of late. I'm approaching my first Christmas without my best friend, who passed away on August 31. Christmas was always a big thing that we've celebrated together since we were eleven, and this is the first time I haven't decorated her tree with her, or exchanged gifts with her. I've felt the same way a lot of mornings these past few months. Lots of love 💕

    • @gongalicious
      @gongalicious 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      so sorry for your loss ❤ I hope you can find a little joy this christmas even if she is not there physically

    • @bevsims1982
      @bevsims1982 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I'm so sorry for your loss.

    • @LillyAlara
      @LillyAlara 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Decorate a tree in her memory if you feel up to it. It takes a long time to adjust to a new reality after losing someone. It's important to hold onto traditions, especially if it reminds of someone dear, but only when you're ready. And give yourself lots of space to not be okay, the next year or two will be really important in caring for yourself, people often underestimate how much losing someone close will actually affect them.

    • @Charlotte-yn8dt
      @Charlotte-yn8dt 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I lost my best friend suddenly 6 years ago now. Certain times of the year are still incredibly hard. Remember them and be kind to yourself!

    • @lyndabird9401
      @lyndabird9401 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      She would have wanted you to be happy, to enjoy the sights, sounds and traditions of her big holiday. Going on isn’t leaving her behind. She is an intrinsic part of you. You carry her and all those wonderful memories with you.

  • @eyeleecat
    @eyeleecat 4 ปีที่แล้ว +116

    next time i have a problem im gonna try digging a hole
    that sounds pretty stress relieving tbh

    • @Chyja
      @Chyja 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Angrily washing dishes always helps me :D

    • @atmreads
      @atmreads 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I tend to rage reorganize/clean my room

  • @JustBeeCharmer
    @JustBeeCharmer 4 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    Oh man when I was 9 years old my great grandmother had a heart attack and everyone panicked and cried, she recovered at that time but while I was too young to fully understand I was old enough to pick things up, so I went to our little garden and dug holes the whole day to plant some flowers it and since then I just have this thing when I'm too stressed or sad that I have to dig holes, so this is very relatable Claudia!

    • @mjp2palmtree
      @mjp2palmtree 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      BeeCharmer I like your profile name, it reminds me of the movie/book Fried Green Tomaoes

  • @MissRnH
    @MissRnH 4 ปีที่แล้ว +92

    Claud wearing her birthday present while digging a hole ❤

  • @katiemorgan2716
    @katiemorgan2716 4 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    My sister died on December 23, 2015. I really sympathize with Claudia and how she feels this time of year. It’s supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year. For some people this is the hardest time of the year. I’m glad she has a coping mechanism that works for her.
    You’re both adorable and deserve happiness. Much love ❤️

    • @KindCountsDeb3773
      @KindCountsDeb3773 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My condolences. That's a really hard thing to deal with. I hope memories and family can comfort you.

  • @aarishowton8037
    @aarishowton8037 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    “I was a bit annoyed that you let me sleep to 9:30 because I’m like, half the day is gone!”
    Me, whose official wake-up time is noon: 😐😬

  • @1015SaturdayNight
    @1015SaturdayNight 4 ปีที่แล้ว +215

    It has taken me this long to figure out Lemsip is like American Theraflu (holds hands super far apart)

    • @Nursepractitionerd
      @Nursepractitionerd 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Emily Rachel Gilley saaaaaaame

    • @freedakaye6720
      @freedakaye6720 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I had no idea

    • @marljusweety
      @marljusweety 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Now all I need to know is what Theraflu is... We have neither in Norway.

    • @sweets4life230
      @sweets4life230 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Theraflu? Never heard of it 😂

    • @angelagallant5887
      @angelagallant5887 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Neocitran here in Canada. Lol

  • @gravelrhoads
    @gravelrhoads 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I absolutely love watching the love between you and your wife. It makes this older CIS white male believe in humanity again. Thank you for your channel.

  • @zerobatsu
    @zerobatsu 4 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    The “mometer” thing was adorable.

  • @annaonar37
    @annaonar37 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I’m just watching this video in August 2020. And I have to say Claudia was wise with her expectations this year - a couch 👌🏻

  • @Skip6235
    @Skip6235 4 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    IT is so important to acknowledge that it is perfectly alright to not have an amazing day every single day, especially during the holiday season. Of course we always hope to never have a bad day ever, but feeling down for any multitude of reason is perfectly normal. There seems to be so much pressure to "be in the holidy spirit", and I LOVE Christmas, but to be happy 100% of December is too much for everyone.
    Hope you and Claud feel better ASAP, but feel free to take time to feel bad for as long as you need!

  • @payne-pw6jn
    @payne-pw6jn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Claudia is so adorable “yes i cleaned up leaves with a rake” so precious. Im glad you both have each other to help thru difficult times.💕

  • @ShigekoOtori
    @ShigekoOtori 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I love how you say "waking up on the wrong side of the bed", in German we say "Getting up on the wrong foot" and it means just the same.
    Also I love how you support each other!

    • @furmidable5498
      @furmidable5498 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I speak both French and German (though whether I speak them well is another matter entirely) and I just realised that I have been using "waking up on the wrong foot" in French for years

    • @Berantzino
      @Berantzino 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      In danish we say "getting the wrong leg out of bed" which in hindsight is such a weird saying because you obviously get both legs out when you get up, but oh well!

    • @KindCountsDeb3773
      @KindCountsDeb3773 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      same saying in the U.S. Oh. Claudia said a funny phrase that is a bit different than what I've ever heard - at 15:54 : "that will come back to eat us in the ass". we say "bite us in the ass". Funny how some sayings are exact all over, but some are changed up a bit. Which is fine. It's fine. lol

  • @midnight_sniper_wolf8992
    @midnight_sniper_wolf8992 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Claudia trying to name the Kardashians made me laugh a little too much 😂🤣😂🤣

    • @bellamckinnon8655
      @bellamckinnon8655 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same here! But by golly do I get it. I have no idea what the Kardashians are doing haha.

  • @zoctalk6077
    @zoctalk6077 4 ปีที่แล้ว +77

    When I first glanced at this I though it said “So we had a baby” 😂

  • @leah3801
    @leah3801 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    All my support to Claudia. I've lost both my parents and understand just how hard it can be. And in case she doesn't say it, THANK YOU for supporting her and letting her deal with it in her own way even when that's just literally digging a hole

  • @ilznidiotic
    @ilznidiotic 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    If I ever open my own bar, I'm calling it Claudia's Therapy Hole.

  • @GardeningatDouentza
    @GardeningatDouentza 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I love how you girls are very different but so suited. Kudos to Claudia for her understanding of the therapeutic power of gardening.

  • @ambercloud
    @ambercloud 4 ปีที่แล้ว +77

    If the GP won't give it to you, Boots are providing pneumonia jab I saw the leaflet when I was in their pharmacy yesterday.

    • @0firelili0
      @0firelili0 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I second this - most vaccines can be done privately and they don’t cost much in the U.K.

  • @Caroline28483
    @Caroline28483 4 ปีที่แล้ว +223

    I thought this said "So we had a baby" and got whiplash so hard. Edit: Thanks for the heart!!

  • @Dutchandfrench
    @Dutchandfrench 4 ปีที่แล้ว +69

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    • @xzonia1
      @xzonia1 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I thought this same thing watching this video! :)

  • @strawberry1025
    @strawberry1025 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I always get blue and lost in September even before my brain registers that's the time of year when I lost him. It's like a date stamped emotional storm. I'm learning to accept it, let the wave of grief and 'wrongness' break and eventually the sun starts shining again. A big hug to Claudia.

  • @sheilafrancl1423
    @sheilafrancl1423 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Sorry had to laugh when you carried the tea, cause that is so me.

  • @gothempress
    @gothempress 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I would highly recommend the book "Unlearn Your Pain". It's a book that helps deal with the emotions and trauma that come with chronic pain and it helps you reprogram how you think of your pain so that it isn't as traumatic when you're sick or in a ton of pain. I have chronic pain from multiple sources and it has literally changed my existence to one of much more peace and happiness. Also, it's extremely science based, backed by science and not hokey "drink my potion and feel better but this will actually kill you" type thing.

    • @arania.exumai
      @arania.exumai 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I may check that out. I suffer from a chronic pain issue that used to really get me down. But I found a lot more peace in my condition when I just sort of... accepted it? Stopped trying to fight it, and just let myself have the time I need to recover from a flare up. I think a lot of it was to do with guilt and frustration for the things that I couldn't do with and for people, and the things I'd miss out on. Once I accepted that it wasn't my fault, I found myself living more peacefully with it, with less negativity associated. Funnily enough, that positivity has actually lessened my symptoms too!

    • @gothempress
      @gothempress 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@arania.exumai This book actually helps rewire the brain's opinion on pain and it's brilliant. It really does help a TON. It's science based, not some hokey "drink my potion and feel better but it's gonna actually kill you" type book. I find the science behind it fascinating and keep reading it just to try to absorb as much information as I can! :D

    • @gothempress
      @gothempress 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@arania.exumai Also, I had the name wrong originally because I am sick and my brainhole isn't working lol. It's Unlearn Your Pain, not Your Pain Unleashed. Haha! Whoops.

  • @katiieproctor
    @katiieproctor 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    when claudia literally dug a hole for her problems i felt that

  • @barghast
    @barghast 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    This was so wholesome to watch even with the sombre undertones. I want to face the bad things with the person I love and still be able to make plans for the future 😭❤️

  • @NoaLeighMaxwell
    @NoaLeighMaxwell 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I may have had a small heart attack when you threw the tea bag /and/ its string/tag into the mug xD One of those days

  • @amandaiosua9269
    @amandaiosua9269 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for sharing your occasional wobbles. They happen to everyone and seeing this really lets us know we all have our days and we aren't alone in that.

  • @Lamdennison
    @Lamdennison 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I'm sorry to hear that Claudia is having a rough day. Grief and the anniversary of it is rough. Our little household had a tough day (few days) as well, so we're feeling you too. I'm also glad to hear she got some garden therapy to help herself feel better. Sending some love "across the pond" to your both. Cheers! Leigh-Anne & Liz

  • @sierramagnotta9156
    @sierramagnotta9156 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    To Claudia - I think it will be so nice when you're planting everything in the spring and remember turning over the soil and getting through a difficult time and remembering your mother and getting to watch that turn into a beautiful garden. im sure it will be lovely

  • @emilygifford4159
    @emilygifford4159 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Genuinely refreshing to see lovely folks on a not so good day. We’ve all had days like this and it’s so good to see you just deal with it and find your way through. Hope tomorrow you both wake up into a good day ☺️

  • @psychedelicpegasus7587
    @psychedelicpegasus7587 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I have to say that Claudia is particularly adorable in this video.

  • @richardvelez3151
    @richardvelez3151 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I completely understand where Claudia is coming from. I lost my father around this time 10 years ago unexpectedly. It's still a struggle, but it is getting easier. And I have come to enjoy the Christmas season again and recapture the joy I shared with my father.
    Thank you so much for sharing your stories, thoughts and and feelings. I truly adore you both, Jessica and Claudia. And I am sincerely hoping for your new year goals and dreams to come true. Again, thank you. Take care the two of you. Lovely as always 👍🤟💝

  • @laurastarbrook1308
    @laurastarbrook1308 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Claudia as a sexy grandpa and Jessica as a pin-up Barbie.. They make a lovely couple because they compliment each other. Sometimes opposites really do get along.because they meet each other where they are instead of trying to change the other one, love you both so much have a great Xmas♥️💋 Don't worry Jessica you'll be okay as long as you have Lemsip💚🎄

  • @kaptainkayje
    @kaptainkayje 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Grief is weird. 9 months ago my lovely Grandad passed away suddenly and I still have wobbles throughout my life. I know it must be different losing a parent, but hold on to the fond memories you have. These moments are just your loved ones saying "I'm still here in mind." ❤💙
    Stormy, bad days are rough, but the rainbows and sun that will eventually fall through will be worth it. You got this ladies.
    Much love. ❤

  • @cynhanrahan4012
    @cynhanrahan4012 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I love your sofa, have you considered having it re-upholstered using modern safety standards? Jessica looks so appropriate sitting on it. Claudia, I do the dig a hole thing, too. And pull weeds by hand. And rake leaves, but I put them on the turned earth and stir them in a bit for soil improvement. It really works to get those bad day feelings out of my body. My late fiance's birthday is the day after Christmas. It's already starting to get to me more than a bit, even though she's been gone 8 years now. I'm doing things she would do - giving to charity, supporting friends in need, even talking to her because I can still feel her around me. So today I made a huge dent in organizing my storage space, just so I didn't grump and cry all day. Bless you both, you make my bad days better, even when you are having one yourself.

    • @yanad6980
      @yanad6980 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Cyn McCollum oh bless you and thank you so much for sharing, made my eyes well up. Sending you lots of love from a stranger ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @samsteed00
    @samsteed00 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    The best thing about British people is calling everyone "darling." It's literally so adorable

  • @merkinbutch
    @merkinbutch 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Being a gardener for a living I can confirm digging is great for sorting out moods and having thinking time. Clay soils hold a load of nutrients so the main thing needed is to improve the drainage with digging or ‘turning’ in lots of organic matter.

  • @user-di9wo4qy1o
    @user-di9wo4qy1o 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I can relate to what Claudia's going through. My mother died in 2006 and it took me a good 10 years top stop feeling the grief all over again at every holiday. Every year I would hate everything from February (her birthday) through April (death anniversary) through May (Mother's Day). And Christmas was always bittersweet. Only in the last couple of years has time managed to make things better by helping me forget. And I'm kind of the same way with my emotions as Claudia. I have a hard time identifying the root cause, but I try to make sure I'm not taking things out on everyone around me. Solitude helps sometimes, but not too much of it.
    Thank you guys for pulling back the curtain a bit to let us know that even the best relationships have bad days. Nobody is perfect--although you two come pretty close! Love to you both (and the dogs) and happy Christmas!

  • @kodykline2097
    @kodykline2097 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm so used to bad days I feel more emotionally vulnerable on good days. I don't know what to do when things go right.

  • @DanielleStJohn
    @DanielleStJohn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Claudia is out here being at peace with living her best life and I am here for it.
    Also, watching Jessica trying to hold the smile when the tears are trying to come out was like looking in a mirror

  • @ekl1457
    @ekl1457 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love Claudias acknowledgement of her bad day! I've definitely coming to my place of work and been like "listen. I'm having a crap day." and it just makes things go so much better.

  • @minimarn1220
    @minimarn1220 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    “Like just a mermitor” omg you made me laugh on a rough evening 😂❤️

  • @Victoriasm31
    @Victoriasm31 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This was the most relatable thing I've seen in a long time. And I must compliment you on your choice of garden tools. That's a quality fork. I learnt the hard way - don't cheap out on a garden fork.

  • @jazwhoaskedforthis
    @jazwhoaskedforthis 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I know those days, and I think having a partner like you two do must be so comforting. I love both of you and your energy

  • @lyndao7356
    @lyndao7356 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I just love you girls! You are girls to me; I'm granny-aged and feel a great affection for you both.
    Many kisses, many hugs. ♥♥

  • @DecolonizingAvocados
    @DecolonizingAvocados 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I just want to give Claudia some gardening tools and Jessica some Lemsip to make them feel better at all times. 😭💖⛏️🍵

  • @BeverleyButterfly
    @BeverleyButterfly 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Aren’t dogs the best for looking after us? I’m struggling at the moment too so I’m going to be talking about that on my channel this week too it’s so important we talk about these feelings we get when chronically sick and fear takes over. Sending so much love to Claudia thank you for being open about how you are feeling grief is definitely a journey with lots of twists and turns. Xxxx

  • @ignatique
    @ignatique 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Awwwww, that Claud dipping her KitKat in the tea moment is so precious.
    I remember when I just started seeing my boyfriend I saw him dipping chocolate in tea and it seemed quite weird, because I was used to dipping cookies and such stuff but not the chocolate, and my reaction was just like Jessica's in this video.
    Time passes and now I'm also dipping in tea just everything I can get my hands on haha

  • @kittyrose4992
    @kittyrose4992 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Moments like when your dog comes up to you when you're sad, is why I love my cat Brown paw when I feel horrible and I lay there and don't do anything he comes up to me and I can see that he's concerned, and it makes me feel so much better especially the fact that he can't talk, to ask me any prying questions he just cuddles with me and loves me.

  • @PuddingCat101
    @PuddingCat101 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I just love watching your stuff honestly. And it's weirdly nice to see the off days, makes me feel less alone x

  • @KindCountsDeb3773
    @KindCountsDeb3773 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Doing things the way we want is a superpower. You both are very evolved that way. yay

  • @minimarn1220
    @minimarn1220 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I’d wish it could always be vlogmas because I feel less alone watching you everyday. I genuinely like you two!

  • @miyamae.miyamae
    @miyamae.miyamae 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So happy to hear more about Claudia's inner life in the past few videos. I am grateful that you share how each of you copes with the challenges of your lives as well as how you support and understand one another. Your love and insights give me happiness. ❤️ Happy holidays.

  • @TheMetatronGirl
    @TheMetatronGirl 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Much love to you and Claudia. Thank you for being so honest and real in your videos, and thank you for including us in your life. May tomorrow bring you nothing but joyful tidings.

  • @whambam7221
    @whambam7221 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Claudia, you are not alone. I too rage when I sad. Good on yah Jessica for taking it in stride. Hope the foot is okay

  • @oliviaeverett141
    @oliviaeverett141 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Claudia that song thing TOTALLY happened to me...and I still think of her as the "mean girl" lol

  • @AMVactivists
    @AMVactivists 4 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    I saw your title and thought you were going to talk about the election ....
    Friday was a bad day.
    I watched the crown on Netflix and pretended Boris didn't exist 😅

    • @NamiNuitsuki
      @NamiNuitsuki 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      that's what I've been doing the past couple of years with Trump lmao, just pretend it never happened as the world falls apart all around you. I haven't seen The Crown, yet, though. Is it any good?

  • @rachelclapshaw8918
    @rachelclapshaw8918 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love how supportive they are of each other, like Jessica just says "my wife wants to dig a hole coz she is upset, go wife!"

  • @jenellegast8547
    @jenellegast8547 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I lost my grandma on Christmas Eve and I totally get where she is coming from! She is blessed to have you

  • @Staynab
    @Staynab 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I've been watching your vlogmas before going to bed and it's so calming and lovely. I usually have trouble falling asleep but watching your videos make me feel all nice and fuzzy inside ❤ it also makes me want to move back to england again, I miss a good cup of Yorkshire tea!

  • @datumzinememories
    @datumzinememories 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I wanted to hug you two both through the screen. I definitely get having a illness and know your getting sick and having issues getting the medication you desperately know you need. To prevent things from going down the rails. Also I love the blogs this is the best Christmas spirit.

  • @natacharicher
    @natacharicher 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm having a bit of a hard time lately for various reasons (tonight I got quite emotional because I'm missing my Grandma -we were close and she died a little over a year ago-, and also my 19 years old cat who died a few weeks ago...), and I'm sorry you had a bad day, but thank you for being so real and honest, it was very relatable (and quite comforting I have to say) ! I hope tomorrow's a better day for all of us (and I very much concur with the digging holes/gardening to make yourself feel better approach, it's pretty amazing how well it usually works for me ! ) !! xx

  • @carlyblack42
    @carlyblack42 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm sorry for Claudia's loss. Anniversaries are hard, and I totally understand turning sadness into angry energy. Digging in the garden sounds like a great way to release the energy and do something productive. Jessica, I hope you stay as healthy as possible this winter. I know you have had 1 cold already, and I hope it's the only one. Good luck for remodels and maybe baby in 2020!

  • @amysinyard2239
    @amysinyard2239 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m rewatching this a little over a year later and they’re pregnant and living in a bit of a building site 😂. Also I completely understand where Claudia is coming from. I get like that when it’s close to my mom’s birthday or the day she died. Thank y’all for helping me through my grief. Sending y’all lots of love.

  • @tastyw0rm
    @tastyw0rm 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The loss of a loved one is something that is never forgotten and at this time of year it becomes an even more vivid reminder.
    Thank you both for sharing. Nothing sugar coated... Just as it is.... I love that you still post, reminds us that we all have crappy days.

  • @normallyautistic50
    @normallyautistic50 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m watching it that “next year” 😉🤩”having a baby” uh?! And “spend some time apart” right?! You are irremediably adorable 🥰

  • @lenajoens7103
    @lenajoens7103 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    This is a beautiful and honest video, thank you so much.

  • @nataliem7144
    @nataliem7144 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Don't worry Claudia, I'm crap at emotions too. Once around my (stillborn) son's birthday, my husband awoke at the grand old time of 10 o'clock to find I'd not only rearranged the living room, but that I was taking my frustrations out on the garden... Digging an entire flower bed complete with half-circle bit that sticks out... In thick clay soil.
    My back was ruined for a few days, not to mention the poor shovel, but it works 🤷‍♀️😅

  • @Liam-fh2cu
    @Liam-fh2cu 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    This helps me so so much. I’ve never known anyone else to be so open about struggling and having fragile days around Christmas. I’ve been trying to handle C-PTSD over Christmas since starting trauma therapy for the first time and it’s been so different. Bad days are different and good day are different. It’s just weird overall, everyday is a weird day. Thank you Jessica & Claudia

  • @PunkyDino
    @PunkyDino 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for being so honest, both of you. Christmas tends to be a tough time of year for me, and I usually try to make it better with xmas music & films & baking, but there are still those bad days. This year has been particularly rough, but your videos, esp the ones with some vulnerability like this help a lot.

  • @Blondythedragon
    @Blondythedragon 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have not laughed at a youtube video for months, thank you both for being so lovely and sharing your silly views on your troubled day, it somehow made me feel really happy!

  • @roebearwhat
    @roebearwhat 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Being emotionally vulnerable when ill is the story of my life, I cry every time, to everyone. Grateful for you sharing though, hopefully you can get the pneumonia jab from another doctor!

  • @QueenBloom
    @QueenBloom 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love videos like this because they are real even though everything you put out is real but I think it helps to know even you can't smile every second

  • @CassandraMonsterrr
    @CassandraMonsterrr 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    I wish my boyfriend could understand me the way you understand claudia. Claudia and I are so much alike and some how YOU can absorb the information and my significant other cannot. . Forever living vicariously through your relationship.

    • @dcnjosacbeoqj
      @dcnjosacbeoqj 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Cassy Clark get a new boyfriend who does understand you that way!

    • @Zissithegreat
      @Zissithegreat 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Living with someone who neither understands nor supports you is the worst thing you can do to yourself.
      It took me five years of my life and a divorce to finally value myself. It is hard, and often lonely, but I never regret this decision, because it led me to the freest, happiest and best person I could ever have become.
      Don't accept anything less. ;-*

    • @jci8972
      @jci8972 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Franziska Koch oh I wish I could do this. I am gaining the courage to do so but I suffer from chronic illnesses and neuro issues similar to Jessica and it’s hard for me to see that anyone out there would want to take this on, let alone adding kids to the mix. I am hopeful that I muster enough strength to do so tho.

  • @affabletoaster
    @affabletoaster 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You two are just the sweetest, and when you started talking about your pregnancy hopes for 2020 I just had to chime in -- this time last year I was a mopey wreck because we hadn't yet managed to get pregnant. On January 4th I had a positive pregnancy test, and this Christmas I have a 3-month-old who is just the most delightful wee thing I have ever known. You will be marvelous parents, and I am hopeful and excited for you to get to meet your own wee one(s)! Happy Vlogmas!

  • @TheProductofyourmind
    @TheProductofyourmind 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I can totally relate to having a bad day... I'm currently waiting for my insurance to approve my physical therapy again so I'm without it currently for the first time in a year and everything hurts so much. A lot of good things are happening too, but I can't really enjoy any of it because my head wants to explode and my back is constantly begging stabbed. 😫

  • @PastelOddity
    @PastelOddity 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I found out I was pregnant in December and had my son in August, so it’s totally possible!! Sending baby dust your way, and I love the idea of a baby that grows up a mix of you two. Such cute parents ❤️

  • @l.baughman1445
    @l.baughman1445 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    We are all living one day at a time and there are going to be bad days. Your adorable pups are also taking such good care of you, as you two also try to take care of each other. And J, the fear and anxiety about lungs, breathing and anxiety triggers from illness, means you do what you did here--listen to your body’s signals. Rest when you need to, etc. and your little pups are so precious and love you so much-comforting you when you were feeling sad. They are telling you that you are going to be ok. 😘🐾🐾🐾🐾

  • @Kevin-wo3kp
    @Kevin-wo3kp 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Absolutely lovely on many levels.
    Claudia says the ground is clay-ey... you should dig in the leaf material into the clay which will help break it down and enrich it. Otherwise stack and store the collected leaf and over 3 years it will decompose (a bit like your shed! Ow!) and become great free compost.

  • @gigidodson
    @gigidodson 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Youre picking up on Claudia's grief.
    Im so sorry for your loss Claudia.
    Having a cronic illness myself, i detest people telling me to get well soon. I just will send kindness your way. Blessings and joy to you both.