Interview With A Psychopath | DEEP
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ก.ย. 2024
- In our DEEP series we interview fascinating people who have lived unique lives. In this episode we have talked to Lewis Raymond Taylor, who has shared story of his abusive childhood that led to violence and crime in his younger years. Lewis explained how he was in and out of prison and was eventually diagnosed as a psychopath. Since then he managed to turn his life around and become a successful life coach and entrepreneur, recently featured in Netflix documentary "The Psychopath Life Coach'.
Thanks to Lewis for taking part!
You can follow his journey here: / lewisraymondtaylor
/ lewisraymondtaylor
/ lewisraymondtaylor
/ @lewisraymondtaylor
Welcome to DEEP - a brand new channel that brings you incredible people with amazing stories from all over the world.
If you've seen the team's previous work - Minutes With/The Gap/Agree To Disagree...then you know what to expect!
Let us know if there's anyone in particular you think we should speak to - we love bringing you stories and want to hear what you like.
Thanks and we hope you enjoy!
People are saying “I see emotion so he’s not a psychopath” or “He described being angry when his gf cheated on him so he’s not.” Watched an interview with a psychiatrist who said “the idea that psychopaths have NO emotion is a misconception. They feel a range of emotions, they just feel for THEMSELVES, not for YOU.”
Exactly. I'm diagnosed with anti-social personality disorder. And yes, we do feel emotions. My primary are rage boredom.
Annoyance. But most of the time everything is flat. I always need a level a stimulation in order to feel stimulated. Another thing. I wonder with him is if he experiences Alexathymia and Alexathymia can be with AS. P. D., Major depression and psychotic disorders. Yes, You are right, we only do feel for ourselves. Another thing, people don't realize that in order to be diagnosed with psychopathy. And it's not really psychopathy, is what you're diagnosed with. Depending on the crime you are sent to prison for they will do a PC. LR on you And depending on your score, you could end up with having psychopathy. Or the clinical definition of it, but most of the time, they will slap you with the label. Antisocial personality disorder.
They can have more limited emotional range. They also tend to not regulate them well when they are extreme which is rare. One emotion they especially struggle with and also have trouble recognizing in others is disgust. Which explains why serial killers could often and even chose to get their hands dirty. Disgust is a protection emotion, IE you see a nasty festering contagious wound, you'd probably avoid it. That and gore isn't safe to be around, it's a biohazard.
interesting point and likely true. however thinking that all psychopaths operate in the same way is problematic when people study human nature and the brain. we are all wired differently so no reason to think psychopaths are an exception to that rule
No thats a narcissism thing
Having a nap was ya an ur a liar if u was that bad u would be sectioned
Pausing to think about if you give a fuck is nasty work 😂😂
☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️ “hmmm… nnnehh” 🤣
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Love that guy.Relatable as F😂
Hilarious
He was putting on an act. He knew damn well he didn’t give af before the pause😂😂😂
Bro actually stopped the interview for a solid 10 seconds to close his eyes and “try to feel remorse” 😂 😂 💀
No normal person dose that proves he must be a psycopath 🤣
He's got a bit of troll in him! 😂
Looool
yeah...lol what an actor. this is bs. forget about what you see on the surface and maybe youll get what you see and hear
@@davewade30 I laughed out loud after he says, "nah I don't even know what that feels like" ahaha. so what were you looking for when you closed your eyes then? obviously just for show.
"I think sorry. I just don't feel it."
That sums it up nicely.
More psychopaths and sociopaths please. We need more real interviews. The stereotypical film portrayal is often the only depiction people have of these personality types.
ya, theyre always the "evil" type, when in reality, not alot of them are psychopathic murderers, sometimes theyre just dick holes lol
I don't think he's a psychopath, though. He's an intelligent sensitive person completely dissociated by childhood trauma, seeking to make sense of things and fill the gap where emotion should be. Now that he's found his centre, I think he will start to get in touch with his capacity to feel. Because everyone's always treated him as an outsider, he may have a distorted view of what emotions feel like. I think we all pretend to feel more than we do, in quite a lot of circumstances. I really liked him saying he "thinks sorry" for the guy he hit, rather than "feeling sorry" for him. Being precise and honest about how he actually feels is the best way to find his own emotional compass.
I love how people on the internet ignore a professional diagnosis and just decide for themselves what they believe 🤣
@@bengrove97 I must admit, it's my favourite activity and I am totally unqualified for it!!!! 🤣
@AlisonWonderland999 yeah no...with this kind of disorder the brain is simply not wired to feel those emotions. There is a deformity in the grey matter on the frontal lobe of the brain. No amount of therapy or "finding yourself" will allow for these emotions to suddenly surface. It is all cognitive, not affective.
As an Autistic woman with off the charts affective empathy (I save worms in the rain), I am beginning to see why we get a bad wrap in terms of our body language and tone, as my body language matches the Psychopaths I have watched on here, and I process things analytically, but I am overwhelmed by empathy, people just don't believe it - which causes reactive bullying tbh. My cognitive empathy for Allistic society/thinking is not great as I don't vibe with power, control, popularity, money etc etc. My internal sense of justice and honesty is also overwhelming
I swear you just described me 👀
Ok nerd
I'm the same and autistic watch Dan Autism on youtube he is very good. I found out last year I didn't know. I used to safe snails a lot in the garden. People called me crazy and obsessed.
@user-wu3mw2iu7x how dare you , ugh what a comment. I think you need to sit there right to that guy in the video. Awful being
@@charlie-girl72 I get empathy for objects also.
I cried because of a lonely acorn when I was very young and would get sad when not finishing my dinner - I thought the leftover food was sad because it wasn’t able to be eaten. I have too much empathy man 😂
You’ve got all of mine
man that ice age acorn😢
@@Mansoor-Khan that’s the one 😭😂
@@-_Blitz_- shit i was not the only one🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@Mansoor-Khan No way! There are others!!! 😂
I’m sorry, but him pausing to close his eyes and check if he feels remorse had me fucking rolling. And when he opened his eyes to say “No” fucking hell, I can’t. 😂😂😂
Had a 7 year old in my class like this, got the parent to see sense and he's diagnosed and seeing a psychologist. He got this blank-eyed stare when angry, like his personality switched, when he was attacking his classmates. Scary...
Diagnosed with what? Psychopathy isn't a diagnosis. ASPD can't be diagnosed before adult age. At best the kid can be diagnosed with ODD which is often a manifestation of abuse and dysfunction. Why are you a teacher and encouraging this parent to scapegoat their child? Tell them to go to family therapy instead.
@sallyann985 he has the precursor to Anti-social Personality Disorder, which has a different name in children, as you say, although not ODD, rather Conduct Disorder. And no, I'm not stigmatising him, I got him help because I care deeply about my students. I care that he wanted to make friends with the other children but lacks all types of empathy and so struggled and was rejected by his peers. I am actually very knowledgeable about these issues and specialise in SEND, and have personal experience myself with a diagnosis. So try not to jump to conclusions!
@@sallyann985 because, well you know why. We can't diagnose because it's not right and we aren't clinicians, but we all know why she's doing this 😂
@@SkepticalTeacher ASPD doesn't have a different name in children. No child can be diagnosed with a personality disorder, period. CD and ODD can develop into ASPD but they may not. Your initial comment very much made it sound like you were labeling a 7 year old a psychopath...
@@AnimosityIncarnate what?
Him retelling the story of the man he punched & the man ended up in a coma, his entire body changed, he was so proud of what he’s done. I zoomed in into his eyes since the beginning of the interview - rewatched to watch the body language and it is insane how proud he is of what he’s done. Psychopaths are born, sociopaths are made and him being s.abused & physically abused as a child made him 10000 times worse. Thank God he hasn’t killed anyone.
its sad cuz hes proud of beating ppl weaker than him, not an accomplishment really
A natural animal impulse - we're built to feel big and grand when we're dominant. The dilemma with a sociopathic person is the restraints are off - a normal person will feel proud at winning the fight, but *also* sad about the suffering of the other party.
@@danielwalley6554I would never commit any crimes cause I don't wanna be in prison and I don't think I'm a psychopath but why would you ever feel sad if someone, who starts fighting you, suffers? Isn't that idealistic? Imo people, who attack me can't suffer enough.
How can you tell?
Yet.
For anyone doubting if this person is genuine, consider this: Would you willingly go public faking this particular mental disorder, fully aware of the consequences it might have on your life and the lives of your loved ones? This person views it as an opportunity, even seeming proud of it. Completely detached from normal human emotions.
Grandiose sense of self worth is a trait of Aspd.
He could just be an actor. A friend was cast to pretend to be a real person with a made up story of his life on national television. Now that's just on his CV
He ain’t no psychopath. I think he’s probably a Machiavellian Narcissist. That’s what he seems like to me. If he were a true psychopath he wouldn’t be so interested in sharing his story. He wouldn’t give af if it helped anyone else or enlightened others. Psychopaths usually have low IQs and usually don’t want to be fucked with. This guy seems to have atleast an average IQ. I’m sticking with Machiavellian narcissism for 1200 Alex.
His confusion at his own lack of inner life and other's reactions to him is striking.
We do care about people who are close to us, but not really about others. I was diagnosed as autistic from my teenage years to the few lasts months. I asked for another opinion, and they did an MRI, a few of them actually, and cognitive tests as well. They discovered that my brain didn't function properly and never developed the amygdala as it's supposed to be. I have a cognitive understanding of emotions, but I don't feel them to the same level as other people.
I'm 51, and I know what I have, finally. I'm also an adrenaline junkie. I love fast cars, and I currently drive an audi RS6 Avant 2016. It's heavily modified, so it can go faster. I don't want to go in detail, but this guy is telling the truth. I have a lot of superficial charms, and I use it to get away with many things. I never had any problems finding a girlfriend or being in a relationship, but I became bored easily. The part when he says he got angry because of his girlfriend is relatable, he didn't care about his girlfriend, he care about being humiliated and felt sorry for himself. We do have emotions, but usually, we have them for ourselves. He felt sorry for himself.
A lot of people really don’t understand antisocial personality disorder. They still feel emotions but it’s mostly centred around THEMSELVES, they learn to display emotions to appear normal. Psychopathic and sociopathic traits fall under cluster B. It’s also possible to have traits from multiple personality disorders, so he very well may display behaviour similar to BPD when it comes to interpersonal relationships but if they don’t serve his purpose he feels no emotion or empathy towards them. They lack empathy does not mean they don’t have empathy again it self centred
There isn t "empathy" towards myself. The word by itself means i feel/get others. So aspd = cognitive empathy. Misses the emotional part. Anger they feel yes & ego related emotions as you describe it. Healthy ppl have a self. In theory. Nowdays most NT live w the ego (like disordered ppl).. i mean having a self if the person doesn t bother to know his self/be aware/like i m Anna i beleive this & that etc.. means nothing. Point is healthy developed personality has emotional/cognitive empathy => understanding+feeling others. Why don t aspd emotionally bond if they have emotions? Bcs this isn t a choice for a NT it happens as a need. By watching babies (or ND ppl who totally lack empathy & are online trying to be seen/supported by other humans like ppl in victims of npd groups) humans are social creatures so NT get aspd..idk about psycopathy maybe it s somehow uniquely different..
Its basically thought that the disorder or personality core for men is malignant Narcissism.
BPD/ASPD with NPD.
Women is completely different (malignant hysteria, also don't get at me for the distinction, or sexism, it ain't me 😂) and tend to be more cunning and interpersonallly aggresive where men are more temper tantrum prone.
Hence the "urge to destroy stuff" and the EXTREME likelihood to be in prison because of it. 😂😂😂
Empathy means feeling others emotions Not oneselfs
I would elaborate that some living with ASPD have a severe lack of traditional ego. Many truly do not care if they or the people around them live, die, or experience severe bodily injury or social ostracization. These people will have no positive or negative sense of self, shame, pride, or public image. Some get just as much stimulus screwing themselves over as they do someone else. I say stimulus because I want to stress the point that these are people who neurologically don't experience the 'color spectrum' of emotions most people feel. It's like emotionally living in greyscale while everyone else lives in color. Joy, sadness, and pain all get reduced and equalized to a very small spectrum of types of 'stimulus'. Life revolves around the individual experience but the individual experience contains no desire to preserve or bolster the self. Many who fit the diagnostic criteria for ASPD are therefore ego-driven in a way that is not on par with modern or historical definitions of narcissism (though many understandably view the two concepts as synonymous).
A lack of self-preservation mixed with a severe lack of emotional discernment leads many with ASPD to seek out situations where others severely harm them because it is stimulating and feels no better or worse than them harming someone else. People with ASPD exist along a continuum ranging from an extreme level of traditional ego (aka narcissism) while others sit at the far end of the continuum and experience no sense of self and zero desire for self-preservation. They still have ego, it just looks VERY different from the way the general population conceptualizes the self.
Psychology as an academic field is in its infancy and one of the main downsides to the concepts of ASPD and 'cluster B' personalities is that it lumps those with a lack of empathy together with inadequate room for nuance due to a lack of research material. A lack of empathy can manifest in an extremely wide range of behaviors while simultaneously stemming from an extremely wide range of factors including emotional trauma, poor socialization, head trauma, exposure to environmental pollutants such as lead, or dozens if not hundreds of temporary or permanent medical conditions and neurological abnormalities. All of these unique causes can lead to incredibly unique manifestations of 'low empathy'. ASPD is a MASSIVE umbrella term that attempts to describe the behaviors of tens if not hundreds of millions of people using research which was almost entirely generated using the male prison population. There are most likely hundreds of sub-categories and unique manifestations of 'ASPD' that simply have yet to be discovered and documented in an academic context.
"Empathy" they have sharp cognitive empathy and pseudo presenting emotional empathy to extrapolate what they want out of people but inherently they have no emotional empathy.
I read the Jon Ronson book 'The Psychopath Test' which details about people like this. One guy said he only knew what fear was because it was the look on his victims faces as he killed them.
Wow. Dat guy must be the bravest guy dat ever lived. Wow.
@@whitemountainapache3297 not really, he’s a murderer who has no idea how to feel.
thats crazy, maybe im too paranoid, but i workout everyday nearly and carry non illegal weapons in case i come across a crazy like that
@@jamesjennings-yd2bc that's pretty brave
@@saberhap2639 pretty scary
I dated a psychopath. I came to see she had zero empathy; felt entitled; was superficially charming, but it was all false as she would continually put down any friend/ acquaintance behind their back. Taking a risk ( esp with sex ) was a big turn on for her. She was also a surpreme narcissist, had no empathy for anyone but herself; she was violent (I dumped her immediately); untrustworthy and a cheat. One in 200 people in the UK is a psychopath. You deal with them everyday. I hear she has a string of broken relationships behind her (incl. divorcing a rich older guy, but was infuriated that she got only the minimum she was entitled to out of him). I just _hope_ that she never has kids
To je mi líto. Zkušenost s psychopaty jsem taky měl. Jsou to extrémně nebezpeční lidé, snad už jste od té osoby pryč a je vám líp.
@@Fecius Dekuji. Ano, uz mam ceskou holku a ona je nejlepsi !
I've been there. Got into a fight with her and she started to lie to everyone in college about me. Everyone gives her the benefit of the doubt. Few ppl give it to me. It ruined my life on campus. I don't enjoy being there at all anymore. It started out so beautifully. Even my friends don't fully understand what i've been through and i don't feel truely comfortable with any of them. It's only those who have nothing to do with this that i am still fully relaxed around. I made mistakes but this is an incredible punishment for it.
@@Czechbound ❤
@@thewouldyouratherguy Same same. When I confronted her about her cheating that I found out about, she tried to lie her way out of it. I let her talk, and then revealed that I had proof. She immediately became violent ( tried to knee me in the balls, bit my arm (!), spat in my face ). Then she wrote on her Facebook that *I* had hit *her*. I only knew she wrote it as a friend told me. I asked him to take a screen shot of it. I texted her that she had better remove that post immediately or I would sue her. I had already taken a photo of the bite mark and nail marks on my arm from her attack ( I see have the marks in my skin). I then met with one of the girls she didn't like, and during our catch up just dropped little bits of the story. This girl was a hopeless gossip, so over a couple of weeks the whole story got out. It turned out a lot of people didn't like her, and so my reputation was saved. But it could have been very problematic. A year after she left town my doorbell rang, and when I opened it, there she was, with professionally applied hair and makeup in a sexy outfit. I just said that prostitutes weren't allowed in the building, and if she was there when I left in 20 minutes, I would call the police. She knew I was serious, so when I closed the door, she left. When I came out of the building she had written in lipstick "I still love you xxx" and a big love heart on my letterbox. That was designed for my girlfriend to see, and so cause friction in my new relationship. Psychopaths - they are so weird. I had already told my girlfriend that I had dated a psychopath, showed her a picture of her and said that if we were ever to bump into her, to just ignore her and keep walking. And that's just the tip of the iceberg of her lying, cheating and weird behaviour.
This is SO important.
Too many people make the mistake of thinking everybody thinks/feels the same as them.
They are SO bewildered by the crimes of sociopaths/narcissists/psychopaths that the only way they can comprehend their actions is to label it as 'Evil'.
Evil does not exist,..
'Evil' is to Psychology what 'Magic' is to Science.
The more exposure there is of the entire spectrum of consciousness the sooner there will be adequate care for those who the hardest to care FOR.
That line he offered after he was asked if he felt remorse
"I think sorry. I just don't feel it.'' was a BRILLIANT way of illustrating the mindset of someone who lacks empathy.
Also its VERY important that we remember that these people didn't CHOOSE to have emotional bald patches in their feelings any more than others 'choose' to be colour blind.
I appreciate and respect this guy for sharing his story, as well as the genuine attempt to navigate his shortcomings.
He is the garden variety, your neighbourhood type of psychopath. There are what you could call evil psychopaths too, if we have decided as a society that we can truly judge people who have empathy disability.
I knew someone as a teenager who was most certainly like this man, his name is Tobias and he had formed attachment with 1 person, his friend since childhood. He most certainly didn't 'feel' in the typical way and the only way to hurt him was to hurt his friend or tell him his friend preferred someone else. He had many girlfriends and never felt anything for any of them, was always in a fight somewhere, showed absolutely no indication of sympathy or empathy - unless you hurt his access to something, he had plenty of angst over himself.
I think in 43 years I've met possibly 2 psychopaths, the second one has ADHD and possibly also high functioning Autism, he scored very high on psychopathy. I wouldn't say he necessarily have the same personality disorder, but he certainly has many psychopathic traits. I don't think there is a way to SEE them out and about, unless they are INCREDIBLY 'other' and 'different' to the absurd. Most are just garden variety - they feel a little wrong, you may feel a little creeped out around them and you slowly notice(those who don't learn to mask) that they are slightly off and don't respond appropriately. Some are GREAT pretenders.
Some are actors of the highest degree, some people confuse narcissism and psychopathy, not all psychopaths are going to automatically be as dangerous as a narcissist would be if you allowed them.
My ADHD/Autistic friend, he flips the switch and he's an outgoing and very CHARMING individual who says all the right things and laughs at all the correct times - but there is no real emotion there, it's a performance and it's chilling. He fool the absolute majority.
That “working on himself” part is probably a condition of his suspended sentence. He knows he’s incurable, but perhaps he’s got to look like he’s cooperating in some rehabilitation sense. This man really doesn’t care and never will care about anybody but himself.
ya, he knows deep down he cant change, he just has to put on a mask, i guess i can respect the fact that hes trying to look like it
Yup
You didn't watch the whole video clearly 😂 You missed out because he had a lot to say about the future
Tbh I feel sympathy for some of these. I'm not excusing any of their crimes at all, even a psychopath could stop themself from breaking the law (as high functioning psychopaths do) but its not their fault they don't have empathy, remorse, or strong emotional processing. Psychopaths are born, they literally have a problem in their brain that has been there since childhood and no amount of medical or psychological science can fix it. Sociopaths partly develop their disorder trauma but even they will most likely never be able to learn empathy or remorse.
The fact that you can be born into this world and be forced to live a life where you will never be able to love or feel like others do is frightening to me.
He has all the classic traits of psychopathy. Listen to what he says, it's all in relation to him (his brother, his girlfriend, etc.) and he gets great enjoyment when he recounts his behavior. This in itself is of great stimulus for him. Just like when psychopathic killers when caught tell of their kills, it's a form of reliving the experience, and they crave that.
Even after therapy his career involves helping people using himself/his story as tools, so a level of narcissism also, reliving his experiences again, breaking people down to build them up, involves a great level of control over someone. On the surface he's portraying a changed man, but his language is still in relation to him.
I dont think he thinks his diagnosis changed. He’s just saying hes done work to manage his mental illness, which does change you in a lot of ways and even if it doesn’t, its still admirable, especially when many people with his illness dont seek help because of the stigma.
He never claimed to have cured his psychopathy 🧐
It’s impossible to cure yourself of psychopathy.
Narcissism is not psychopathy. It’s a disorder. Maybe he’s also a narcissist but that is separate from being a “psychopath”.
@@emmettkeyser1110I mean most psychopaths are also narcissists, or at the very least a rock throw away from being one they don’t care about anyone else at all and only seek personal stimulation and if people have to get used or hurt to make that happen then that’s completely okay, and they’ll sleep like a baby afterwards I know that’s not narcissism to a T but it’s pretty damn close enough as a baseline for most psychopaths.
The fact that he has severe abandonment issues and (for example) slit his throat when his gf said she cheated on him, indicates that he has BPD in addition to ASPD
ASD is autism spectrum disorder. ASPD is what he was diagnosed with which is an umbrella term for both sociopathy and psychopathy. I dont think he's a psychopath because they're much, much more calculated whereas sociopaths are more impulsive and erratic (like how he said he slit his throat and doesnt know why or what he was doing). Sociopaths can fear abandonment too. So probably just ASPD sociopath because borderlines feel ALOT of negative emotions frequently which is not really what he described here
@@cm-yu6gusorry...I meant to write ASPD - not ASD.
I am a mental health professional:)
Without knowing anything about his except for this video, I'd say psychopathy and BPD. He shows no fear and doesn't crazy under pressure...sociopaths do
@jenniferhodgson1827 except he did crazy under pressure? Like when his gf told him he cheated he acted very wild and unexpected, even surprising himself like not sure what he's even doing, or like how he saw the guy and 'involuntarily' punched him. BPD also have ALOT of fear and are unstable under pressure so I'm not sure how you could be both a psychopath aswell as have bpd, esp as your reasoning for not being a socio is the pressure and fear aspect. Borderlines have an extremely high amount of anxiety which he said himself he doesn't. Most notably though he just doesn't have the 'deadness' behind the eyes that psychopaths have so i think he's a sociopath. Sorry, just trying to understand your conclusion esp as you work in mental health
I was thinking the same thing. For some reason, being around her family where he felt loved and loveable for the first time in his life, that seemed to have opened a tiny door somewhere.
His drunken parents sound like an absolute nightmare, kicking him on the ground? Then they banned him from the family for causing problem? smh This is a scapegoating story like I've never heard before. No wonder he is full of rage.
Also, BPD is pretty much the opposite problem of psycopathy. Borderlines are all over the place with their extreme emotional swings, and this guy is fairly close to emotionally flat, although not completely.
Psychopaths are very very calm. They can't feel fear like the rest of us, so when their life is threatened they feel exhilaration in stead. Borderlines are all anxiety, rage, grandiosity and worthlessness, and they bounce between all those things like a rubber ball.
Crazy? Should we be using that word as a mental health professional? It just feeds the stigma. @@jenniferhodgson1827
Why do I get a feeling this guy is a compulsive liar
They all are.
Evolution
Trust me chatting pure shit. "My parents didnt love me, I was an alcoholic at 17, I was addicted to gear, I used to scrap twice a night". Bet he was just a skinny little pussy growing up who never got into trouble once. Mad how many people have fell for it in the comments tho
@@ashleywhite4364 u wot
Because he's playing a role
The system suspended his sentence and let this animal out to attack others again? What a failure of a justice system. He deserved significant jail time for his first brain damage charge. Every attack past the first was the fault of the justice system.
Plenty of stupid judges
Exactly!!
agreed
Any disorder falls on a spectrum. You also have to take into consideration the GENDER, nationality and socio-economical status of the sufferer. I'm a girl who was born in a nice rich neighbourhood...of course even though I have aspd, Ive always been less inclined of some bloke in some degraded area to commit violent crimes. I would shoplift and get drunk...I wasnt on the streets punching people. Sociopath CAN feel amotion like anger and sadness.
He's a psychopath. They don't care. Sociopaths can still care about their own people. Slight difference
You can’t even spell emotion
Hurt people hurt and healed people heal... this guy is a case in point. Broken family, sexually abused as a kid etc. Impressive how he's turned things around.
Yes but psychopaths are born that way. Sociopaths are made.
@@WildandFree4 Untrue on both counts... also the term "sociopath" (which in any case was previously used interchangeably with 'psychopath') is no longer used as a diagnostic category at all. Much like BPD, psychopathy is largely understood today as arising out of a mix of genetic and environmental factors.
Emotional "burdens" are what makes a person strong. If you don't have internal conflict about morality, then you can never understand the level of strength that comes from having that conflict within. People with empathy can do 100% of the same things psychopaths can. It's just more of a challenge and therefore is more meaningful. The most empathetic person to ever exist can achieve 100% of all the same things, plus more. Empathy is the future.
Não é o que eu vejo a sociedade aplaudindo.
i dont think i will ever get tired in the study of certain pathological issues such as psychopathy and other anti social disorders. its definitely a throwback evolutionary trait that was necessary for one reason or another but detrimental in other areas of human interaction. its a survival trait of some kind
Yeah. I also find it fascinating that it’s now being discovered that it’s possible to develop these personality traits - sociopathy, lack of empathy - histrionic personality disorder, bpd ect due to childhood trauma apparently. I would imagine that most cases are genetic but some are developed in childhood.
It’s a right hemisphere deficit disorder.
Same! I think I'm going to write my upcoming thesis on psychopaths
So, there is a fundamental misunderstanding on what empathy is, specifically emotional. Cognitive is the ability to read peoples emotional state and what autistic spectrum persons can struggle with. Emotional is anchoring shared emotional states with another person. Let me explain:
I give my friend a gift. Friend is happy with gift. My brain, due to my emotional empathy being functional or even highly developed interprets their happiness/joy as my own. Because my friend is connected to me, my empathy responds and my empathy is my brains ability to take another separate human being (or animal's) emotional status and interpret it as ones own.
What's the benefit of this? Again, quid pro quo. Guess what my friend is doing? My friend sees that I'm happy, because they are happy. Their brain is doing the SAME thing mine is doing, because we are close. Their brain sees my happiness at there happiness and feels even more happy than they did before, because there are two happy people and I'm happy directly because they are happy (the mechanism not being altruistic doesn't matter) They get happier because not only is their baseline happiness over the gift still there because a good friend gave them one, but their friend is also happy about their happiness. My brain sees them get even happier and it becomes a feed back loop.
This is why when people get excited to see each other or happy over something with another person it can escalate to screeching, laughing or other technical coping mechanisms for extreme emotion.
And yes, the same can happen when someone is sad (this is why you learn to be able to allow someone else to feel what they feel with out amplifying negative emotions. Which people fail at, that's why people escalate in a fight)
People think empathy is some magical weird ideology or some choice, but it is a mechanical functional mechanism in the brain taken care of by various parts that interplay with eac other. It is not a choice. It can be increased and decreased both with practice, but also with circumstance. We also have selective empathy. If you feel very little or even aggression to another human being, you think they are less than you. If you find someone to be equal and they suffer even if you don't know them, you tend to get PTSD to their suffering or other issues. We can only hate that which we find lower than ourselves.
The danger in psychopathy is that this is the default. Everyone is lower than the self if they can't connect to anyone but the self. This is why people are tools, toys or obstacles, not people and they don't have capacity to care.
Some psychopaths have had stable loving childhoods and come to the conclusion that it is beneficial to act or try to understand empathy and mimic caring about others because it benefits them (they're also not wrong, that's why empathy as a developed mechanism in the brain has made us top dog on the planet. I can name a pen bob, lose it or have it break and feel sad legitimately for a little while for an inanimate object. It's why we tell stories and get engrossed in them. We experience another's life and exercise theory of mind.)
Psychopaths generally have extremely limited to outright missing ability for this quid pro quo exchange. Their brain doesn't extend others well being and suffering in the same measure as part of their own.
They do not feel the "part of me is missing" when they lose those close to them. Because it is a literal interpretation from the brains empathetic parts to see someone missing as part of ones self. When loved ones die or leave us in some way, we feel like we lose pieces of ourselves. This is exactly why and why many characterize it as that and also why heart break and loss can actually ruin a persons life.
Last but not least, ASPD is a spectrum and psychopathy is generally on one of the ends as something more extreme. A lot of serial killers tend to be psychopaths, also because disgust response is not functioning in people with that level of psychopathy.
While there are definitely ways society can help psychopaths integrate and thrive with out risking harm to others, there is a reason the disorder has a negative reputation.
It's also not fair of society to expect someone who physically due to brain construction can't do something well or sometimes at all.
And no, there is no benefit to the disorder. A lot of the touted ones are things regular people can learn. A common one is bomb defusal due to lower fear response. But thing is, if a psychopath could get away with it and not get in trouble, they might choose to eat a sandwich instead of diffuse the bomb. Others dying doesn't matter because their brain doesn't have capacity to care. It's not a choice, it's mechanics. Where as someone else trained in the same job will diffuse the bomb because they will think about all the people who would die otherwise. Surgeons are the same thing. I'd rather have one that does care about a person surviving rather than only "beating" the game of removing or fixing something internally, especially because psychopaths are super prone to boredom.
Having to police someone who doesn't have this innate mechanism going on is more taxing on society. Deterrents like jail time or even corporal punishment only go so far too. If we can find a cure for the disorder as a developmental problem as we have for other things in the past, like common diseases and such, I think we should. There are lots of mental health disorders that are misunderstood, but most of them don't go into territory where they can become a danger to others. And those that do, get different treatment and help to minimize impact on others well being (or at least should. Mental health overall is not taken seriously, even though the brain is nothing but a fleshy mass of pink tissue run by chemicals, hormones and electricity.).
I agree with everything you’ve said though I’m not sure about the aggression and seeing people as lesser part. My dad was a boxer/boxing coach so maybe it’s as simple as that, but Idk I’ve always just had people try pick on me at times I’ve been in bad state of minds, though admittedly my bad state of minds is mostly just self pity but for whatever reason life tends to have a way of people picking on me in these moments and I’ve always enjoyed being able to beat the breaks off them in these moments.
The most recent example of this is one of my sisters committed suicide this year actually, the literal day after her funeral I was riding an electric scooter home (lol) and life being life, 2 pricks in a car slowed down while passing me and one egged me.
I felt honestly violated but calm it was weird, I followed them to the end of the street and they had to wait for traffic, the idiot that threw the egg at me still had the passenger seat window down and I put my hand in grabbed him by the hair pulled his head halfway out the window and, started to elbow his head trying to break his neck in all honesty punched him several times too really just tried to f him up as bad as I could in the short time I had, before the driver got so scared that he just put his foot down and started driving off hoping I’d let go of his friend out of not wanting to get ran over lol.
People like that I hate and I happily enjoy hurting them and seeing the laughter from egging me turn into, absolute terror realising I’m about to f them up badly. And all that might sound near psychotic i honestly don’t know but anyone who’s good to me i would never even raise my voice to out of respect.
I also love animals, I was cutting wood once years ago and I was with one other guy, there was a bunch of small bats (I guess babies because they couldn’t fly) in one tree and I went to pick up one of the logs, to see one of the bats stuck to the log trembling in fear and hearing the loud chainsaw in the background and tbh it made me feel sick, there was no fiber in my being that would allow me to hurt the little guy and I spent probably 20-30 minutes or so just trying to find him a semi safe spot with his other bats instead of just squishing them and be done with it.
Anyone I see people mistreating animals in person I have no problem hurting them for being such a weak coward though.
@@vixxcelacea2778 eat a sandwich ☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️ naaahhh🤣🤣
@@Jackmonkey66666hghinnv I completely understand, I’m the exact same way which is why I love Muay Thai
Cheers for the discussion, mate. One question: If he was abused by someone and then they died, should he care?
I was abused by my whole family. Now they’re all dead and I never once felt sorrow but relief and peace. Would I be a psychopath if I felt absolutely nothing? Isn’t being numb a counterproductive defense mechanism to keep people away emotionally? I just don’t like to use stuff like that as diagnostic criteria since , unfairly, there are only three responses to stress and trauma. He chose “fight.” But he’s got a mental illness?
I have antisocial personality too, people misunderstand a lot of times and usually I don't disclose. I'm not a monster, but i have the potential to be really cruel if someone crosses me, for the most part I see it as having different motivations. Life can seem a bit meaningless at some point when I see myself missing out on stuff, but even if i have this thought I end up not caring. I'm quite impulsive(have adhd too) but meds take care of that. I usually conform to the world or people around me because it makes things easier for me, going completely against the current is just not a good place to be. If you are nice to me though I will be nice to you and you can be sure I don't do it because I feel obliged to or because i care deeply about you, I ACTIVELY CHOOSE to be nice to you in return, which is meaningful I believe. I see a lot of people doing or saying things only because it is expected of them or they are driven by some emotion, for me it's a conscious thought to do something nice idk if that makes sense
As a close family member of a person with aspd, it will get deeper than that, when my stepfather died he KNEW he was evil. He knew that for all his meticulous public relations management, it was all a lie, and that he had wasted his life. In the end he had nothing.
Makes perfect sense. I'm not encumbered with empathy, but when I'm nice to people they're nice back and my life tends to go better, so I err towards being a decent human being (unless people cross me).
i am guessing the fact he's good looking and well spoken has saved him from repercussions that would have seen him punished far harder and institutionalised for far longer than occurred. anger is often poison for the person feeling it, but for lewis his anger is poison and dangerous for others who 'trigger' him. fascinating telling and honest though. great video.
I can't help but wonder if this is some form of dissociation, like having ' no access' rather than an actual absence? I dissociate a lot but in the opposite way, like I don't feel things that happen to me but I feel mostly empathy. I can't help but think he might have something similar.
I feel for him.
Also at 23:06-23;07: i went to the cell and I looked in- it looked in the mirror.
From all the research I've done on this, the latest study I could find was that it's not a matter of lack of connectivity, IE some wire mixed up (like with foot fetish or even sadism (not the BDSM type, but the other one)) but grey matter is missing and never develop, around 13% in areas we think pertain to empathy if I remember right.
it's a totally different ball game to find out the lights don't turn on because there is no electrical wiring, vs simply needing to go to a circuit board.
It makes addressing it a lot more complicated if not impossible with current understanding about the human brain.
There are also studies that show trying to teach psychopaths empathy through exercises mostly just makes them better at manipulating other people.
Not dissimilar to how narcissistic personality disorder gets worse with therapy and is incurable. In fact, both disorders have similar problems. It's possible that NPD is a person with psychopathy that through environment becomes NPD. Especially since it can be genetic, but not a guarantee when a narcissist has kids.
That said, there might be new research that expands on it or has totally new findings which change the way we think. That's what's cool about science.
There's most likely the cause and effect with the interplay of both things. IE: because they have blocked themselves off from accessing and therefore developing for one reason or another, then there is no grey matter and connectivity. You know what I'm saying? Both things can be true at once. I believe it is possible for one to be ok psychopathic and have a change or radical shift that changes things. I can say from personal experience that the key to that in part if this is actually the case Is having someone you respect in your life that is very empathetic to teach you and then the combined use of MDMA. No joke that's what I believe. @@vixxcelacea2778
@@mejzzwejz713what a bore,probably friendless,
You are weak both intellectually and emotionally. Let me explain something to you. I have no reference point to understand you and you have no reference point to understand me. And the more you try, the more of an amusing toy you become to me. For your own sake, grow up.
you cab see him (at least apparently) feeling pleasure when he speaks about punching the guy...not feel guilt etc
very creepy
Love this. It really goes to show the spectrum of a disorder like Antisocial Personality. He clearly has a desire to feel remorse, but an inability to access it. I wish him well and hope that exposure like this can help propel science to better aid those who suffer from the disorder and disorders like it.
It's higher-order emotions like compassion & empathy that elude them. Anger and even regret they can probably get to. As in, "I regret killing that person - bc now I'm in prison."
Props to this guy for recognizing his pathology. Sadly, he may not be able to develop these emotions. Mimicking them may be the best he can do, and of course this will help him to "pass" as normal.
It's a very scary realization when you figure out there's people like this in the world who you never, ever want to cross because they literally feel nothing in response to your pain. They will ruin your life and not bat an eye.
He reminds me of the the guy on the show breaking bad, who shoots that kid on a dirtbike, while they are robbing a train
yess
that was Todd, i liked that character alot, glad he came back El Camino. I feel he depicted a psychopath in a more realistic way, he seemned more confused with emotions than someone inherently evil
Wow, it’s amazing how many fully licensed and trained psychologists there are in the comments section!
I got manipulated by a guy who was very much like him - energetic, engaging, good looking, charismatic. It didn't go well.
It’s not your fault, they are really good at what they do. Hopefully you are better now
I’ve Autism and I recognize the flat reduced feeling combined with wanting to feel happiness en the fuzzy love. Wanting to Feel interested in life. Wanting to care and not fake my kindness. Pretty strange since my doctor told me I apparently can adapt to others non verbal clues. 😅
I can strongly relate to this. I've been diagnosed with ASPD, I recognize when people become nervous about things they consider important, such as a job interview or an exam. However, I never understood what makes them so nervous or where that fear comes from, because I don't care about what people think of my actions. As for love, I've never loved a partner; I just find them entertaining, and once they no longer are, I leave. I also have to stop and think, 'If I say this or do that, he won't stop bitching for days... Ah well, better to ask for forgiveness than permission.' As a child and teen I was violent, it made me feel something for once, but that went away with age.
I also dont understand what makes me nervous, scared ( i have social anxiety), but it does and it sucks, i blush all the time.
The only way to cure social anxiety is to throw yourself into new social situations over and over again until you prove to your own brain that you're safe. Nothing else works. Try it and see.
@@Miche- do you feel lonely or empty?
@@user-gb6kn1pp1g No, I find the company of others, often than not, annoying. I have to "perform" everytime I go out and meet people.
@@Miche- it went away with age because everybody became more of a physical threat than you🤣 the way you act is nice and all but you better be glad police exists or you’d be COOKED acting that way
It's funny, when he paused I thought when he paused that he would do the thing where you pretend to feel some small amount of remorse just so you can try to make the other person feel less disgusted, and I thought: "He knows damn well that he still thinks that guy got exactly what was coming to him" but then he said no. I was like: "Atta boy". There's a thing I heard of called "Grey rage" that ASP people feel when someone tries to treat them with disrespect or mistreat them. It's an low grade almost subconsious anger that comes from the idea that someone dares think they could do that to you and still feel safe. That is real. When I've hurt people in response to them thinking they could get away with treating me badly, I've always been completely straight-faced, like a robot that administers punishment. I'm older now and I am much better at staying inside the framework that you need to work in to get along in society, but I still can't get to the point where I actually did something wrong. It seems so clear to me that they "effed around and found out" so to speak. It seems outrageous that someone could even ask if I feel bad. It seems to me that they must be stupid or something. When something bad happens to someone else, I can understand what they are probably feeling, but I literally cannot feel it with them. I can feel that emotion if the same thing happens to me, but I can't feel it with others, and when I try, it's like a vague old memory of a feeling, like just a factual understanding. It's really interesting that he has learned how to help people because of the ability to see through bullshit, cause I always think I'm doing people a favor, but never seem to think I am that's for sure.
Lol.
Smashing things shows people that you’re scary… so it’s a protective factor.
Scary is a bad word, I guess that's what is probably the best term for others.
I'd describe it as self destructive and needing to diffuse internal tension...
It's very rarely ever about the other person or caring about what they think. That's more NPD. They care about being scary.
If Psycopathy has sadistic edges or traits, it's still more about aggression being released then seeing fear in another, maybe even stimulation and maybe even feeling powerful.
You see how it's all self centered tho? It's very much so about chronic lack of self soothing ability and about soothing those pesky emotions. It's not even emotions as he's stated, more so just this indescribable tension feeling and need to be aggressive in the moment. 🤷
Um. No. Fighting with people when your normal emotional state is completely flat (in other words you don't feel good, you don't feel bad, you feel nothing much) is like a high. This is exactly why psychopaths so often get into crime and violence. It causes them to feel something. The adrenaline of an uncertain conflict that could go very wrong; upsetting or hurting other people and seeing that happen. It's a rush when you otherwise feel nothing. The fact that they genuinely don't have empathy for anyone else allows them to do this.
They are not merely acting reactively to the world like people who have been hurt. They literally don't have the ability to feel empathy; that part of their brain isn't developed and this difference can be seen in brain scans. You can actually tell a brain scan of a healthy person from someone who has psychopathy because of how their brain is structured. The most a psychologist can really do with an adult psychopath (and it has to be with someone who *genuinely* wants to cooperate, which is already extremely difficult to establish) is teach them what appropriate boundaries would be and how to navigate the world in a way that doesn't victimize, where they would need to refer to this taught roadmap constantly in life because they would never just personally FEEL sorry about something and so not do it. They'd need the roadmap of how not to victimize to refer to and then the commitment to stick to it even though it doesn't really benefit them.
Most psychologists simply focus on harm reduction with such patients and only a small percentage of patients would even use this info in a healthy way to better their lives rather than to use this psychological education to better manipulate people for their own benefit, so loads of psychologists won't even do proactive therapy with them because of literally ethical concerns.
People so fundamentally misunderstand sociopathy/psychopathy these days and it's strange.
He was sexually abused by someone in his childhood ,
He doesn't speak about his sexual abuse trauma.
There's a correlation, it appears sexual abuse creates personality disorders .
To not feel anything, to block out emotional anguish that overwhelmed a powerless child .
Survival in feeling no emotion.
That sounds more like a sociopath, which unlike a psychopath, is more environmentally driven rather than inborn
Are you projecting? Or do you know him personally?
Stop lying
true. As someone with a pretty rough past, ASPD and sociopathy are environmentally driven whereas psychopathy is genetically driven. As defense mechanism to violence (physical and sexual) the brain finds ways to detach and feel less. If it happens repeatedly and with high enough intensity at an early age, it gets hardwired
@@hyperadapted ya my mother broke my nose with a baseball bat, starved me etc. l view people as cattle, don't distinguish between homeless or celebrity...
Tbh, I personally think almost no one naturally would feel remorse hurting somebody. Almost every child I‘ve seen as a kindergarden internee had to be „forced“ to feel or tell they are sorry for hurting another child or are at some point convinced that it is more beneficial to them if they say „I regret what I did, I‘m sorry.“
I'm Autistic, high functioning, diagnosed at the age of 10 by the NHS. My special interest is in a combination of personality, psychology and psychiatry, what motivates people, why they are motivated by what they are, how this presents in their life, what their morality, character and moral compass in relation to that are etc..., to form a cohesive image of those around me. This does come from a need for control over people, if i can in their head i can drive their actions and feel less anxious. Seem Psychopathic? I do to me.
@@catattack885 I agree NDs can come across as psychopathic but from a vibe perspective you’re opposite ends of the spectrum to me. An autistics desire to learn all about humans and what makes us us is from a very human desire to mimic and mask so they fit in and to be accepted by the tribe. Yes it’s controlling but it’s how autistics protect themselves from being ostracised from the group. A psychopaths driver ,to me, is to learn people’s behaviours to fit in so they can ultimately control the group. I know that there’s some overlap though so it’s totally possible to be autistic and psychopatic! I think I know a few tbh lol
I don’t think this seem like a psychopathic trait. I actually think it’s how most people socialise, most people do everything for their own gain. Considering that you have autism, it makes sense that you try to control social situations with your knowledge of psychology etc.
You are trying to gain insight and even though it’s for your own good, you don’t try to gain insight in what people are thinking/feeling to hurt them. That’s were the difference is.
What I noticed about people diagnosed with Autism is that they tend to be very logical and study people's behavior because they don't always understand social cues. Some might have the aspd as well but more often, they just think differently. One thing that differentiates psychopaths from the rest is that they don't feel fear and anxiety, so if I were you, I'd ask myself that.
Every greatest strength has the opposite weakness and every weakness has a opposite strength
This has been a fascinating interview, I've learned so much, hes very in tune with himself and his behaviours which really helped to understand him.
So fascinating as he is truly searching to find empathy, but the thing with this condition is that it simply isn’t there
The self development section of the video is very good and relatable for me
Alcohol had given me nothing but court fees and prison time along with a very rocky 4 year relationship.
going through that self developing stage now since getting sober.
It’s very tough out here.
Individuals with ASPD may engage in risky or harmful behaviors, but these actions are usually directed toward others rather than self-inflicted. Self-harm is more commonly associated with borderline personality disorder (BPD), which involves emotional instability, intense interpersonal relationships, and self-destructive behaviors.
I think there is a evolutionarily reason for psychopaths, when were were tribal and waring we needed people who could do terrible things and then still act normal after...like a secret weapon
...like Nazi prison officers in Germany?
Logical thinkers like him also seem to have excellent leadership qualities... so others will follow I guess.
(Hence why there were sooo many people willing to do the terrible things the nazi officers did in Germany & German East Africa )
I think it's just a mess up. I think evolution throws everything including the kitchen sink and as long as it doesn't cause total collapse, it sticks around. Blue eyes are useless too. Things don't have to have purpose. Sometimes things just are. Many disorders are just disorders. I get wanting a silver lining, but I think that also dismisses the suffering a lot of people go through when they struggle through their body and/or brain simply messing something up.
thats dumb ..whats the point of war in the first place.. its the psychos that are even starting the wars.
statistically during WW1 and WW2 by far most of the killing was done by psychopaths. it was found that most soldiers deliberately fired above or missed their target, unwilling to knowingly take a life.
No. Hominids evolved to live in tight-knit groups. Empathy is required to form these deep bonds. Psychopaths are incapable of doing that because they are only interested in themselves. They would have been a threat to these well-established groups, not a gain.
You can teach a child (in early infancy, between the ages of 0-2) to respond to others in an anti-social way. You can do it through a few methods.
1. Mostly ignore the child. Do not respond to crying or laughing or anything really. Think about yourself mostly. Do what suits you. Don't pay attention to the child. Definitely don't be very affectionate. Don't ever indicate or tell the child that you love them or care for them deeply.
2. Be abusive to an infant. Be neglectful. Be harmful. Be inconsistent. Make it difficult for the child to know when you are going to be neutral, positive or negative towards them. Put your child into harmful situations. Let your child hear you arguing or being abuseful towards others frequently. Let yourself be abused by someone. Don't leave an abusive or harmful situation. Keep the child in a volatile situation.
3. Over-indulge your child. Be too much of a helicopter parent. Make them totally dependent on you so they are unable to make decisions for themselves easily. Put your child's needs before your own at all times. Stop to listen to them whenever they interrupt you. Make all family outings and holiday decisions based on what the child wants. Give in to the child's wants whenever you can.
Unfortunately, even being super 'loving' (as in example #3) is just as harmful to the psyche of your child.
How you are treated and spoken to in the first couple of years of your life will teach you how to respond. For most people, these patterns set up their behaviours, thoughts and responses for the rest of their lives.
If you are someone who has had one of these childhoods, and you want help, look into 'schema therapy.' There's a good series that explains this therapy here on YT. Look up 'the PSYCH collective' for an indepth explanation. Better than that, find someone who can help you identify your automatic thoughts and responses and help you to retrain these thoughts. It will be a lot fo work, and it will be a lifelong work on yourself, but it will be worth it.
Hes more a sociopath than a psychopath.
What makes you say that
@@rossl5908IMO his emotional volitililty points to Factor 2 Psychopathy (Sociopathy), which has to do with reckless behavior and emotional dysregulation. Basically, the common characteristics of ASPD. People with Factor 1 Psychopathy are more cold, calm, and fearless.
If a psychopath is going to hurt someone, they’re likely to be very meticulous about it. And plan it out. Sociopaths, on the other hand, have a hard time with impulse control. Psychopaths rarely “rage out”. And many never feel the desire to hurt people.
@auroraborealis13579 Psychopaths do feel the need to torture others psychologically out of boredom. They don't rage out, but let's say you are alone on a long road trip with one. You will become their verbal pin cushion for the psychological games they will play on you to alleviate the boredom and lack of stimuli. Narcissists need fuel, psychopaths need stimulation.
Sociopath is an older word for psychopath though. Nowadays sociopath often means factor 2 psychopaths. They are often quite outgoing in their criminal behavior. They are not always manipulative or narcissistic.
Almost all serial killers are factor 1 psychopaths, and they are always manipulative and narcissistic.
If a factor 1 psychopath has been raised by good parents and so on they would be called prosocial psychopaths. They have not been abused and will most likely behave quite good in most cases, and not commit any crime. Of course they will encounter some problems in their lives when they lack empathy for other people even if they are prosocial.
Even his jokes are insane lol. You can tell he finds the humor then looks to analyze your response. Very interesting!
Thank you for this interview. I appreciate Lewis for agreeing to come on and share his story.
Why are the only emotions they feel usually always rage and anger and why is it only bad things like crime and pain inflected on themselves or others that seem to alleviate their boredom?
My guess is because those emotions give them a sense of being powerful and important.
Psychopathy is a right hemisphere deficit disorder. Anger heavily lateralises to the left hemisphere. They feel emotions but everything is perceived through the left hemisphere’s prism of values which are power, control and utility. You can even spot psychopaths by the lines on their face. They will have more lines on the right sides of their face.
Not always the case just the ones we hear about the most in the public. Substances, sex, gambling and high risk business ventures are another "lighter" side of psychopathic outlets
@@rachelmazza4079 my comment was deleted.
@@therealthiccupstandingciti1674 extreme sports probably as well
Physical attention is what’s familiar, violent childhood seems to attract violence which is familiar which is interpreted as attention /affection … you were never unworthy , your father felt unworthy and beat you . Glad you are here and successful in your honesty now . Feelings can be frightening, be kind to yourself ❤you’ve come so far !
One of my mates is definitely a psychopath, he says and does some very questionable things sometimes. The rest of us are sometimes dumbfounded by the lack of empathy he has and the way he thinks
hey you should watch that one, he could turn on you or do something dumb and leave you holding the bag. I had to tell myself at one point: "the things they are saying they do to others could one day be done to you" and that is a fact. I used to have a bad habit of befriending people on the anti-social spectrum. I've been triangulated and discarded by narcissists and preyed upon by psychopaths. For those of us who don't think in the same opportunistic way, it's hard to grasp... i just think you have to listen very closely when people tell you who they are and don't just overlook it. He is likely gaining something from your 'friendship'...
Get rid of that friend
20:37 Me when someone says something stupid and I have to wait and see if their supposed joke is funny enough to make me laugh.
Wow...nature or nurture and he is a fine example of nurture. It is amazing how he skipped over the SX abuse in his childhood, his parents drinking, so it does not surprise me that this guy ended up as with ASPD.
I am also unable to experience emotions, which also includes remorse, empathy, guilt, shame, anxiety My cognitive empathy is incredibly strong though, which makes me able to understand others easy or help them if it’s in my interest to do so.
I am not diagnosed with ASPD (what would be the point anyway) but I would say a lot of what this man says resonates with me. But he says the ‘flatness’ can be uncomfortable, whereas for me it’s more of a peace, like a still lake. Can’t experience fear either.
For a long time I didn’t know what to make of this emotionlessness. But then I got over it when I realised it is what it is.
Guy has to meditate to see if he cared 😂
I believe the only emotions some, like psychopaths, and those with NPD and BPD can truly feel are FEAR and RAGE. That's it.
If feelings were a dial, mine is set on high, so interesting to me. I’ve had to train myself, to turn down the dial, to feel less so I don’t get overwhelmed. I cannot imagine what it must be like simply not to experience empathy. That being said, compassion and empathy are different and not a lot of people differentiate between the two. Like why is the limited emotional range always negative?
it's not about understanding.
it's about feeling.
I wept listening to this. I wept for the child that was so abused that they couldn't afford to feel because it was just unbearable pain and so they had bo choice but to shut down and so that part of their brain psyche and soul couldn't develop. Your redemption is a symphony. We're all God's children. Thank you to the wonderful work of the therapists who worked with you. I also stopped feeling as a result of what my father did and just vomited anger for so much of my life but once I understood his hell and why my mother made the worst choice of her life, I was healed. It took 60 years to get there but it was worth it. It lifted the depression, confusion and pain. The journey is worth it. Never give up on trying to understand yourself and those around you. You'll get there. Face those who abused you. Have them charged. It'll relieve their burden and give them the opportunity to find a better path. You're amazing and a lovely human being. Love and light to you.
If you can find it, check out the BBC horizon episode Are You Good or Evil, I believe that is what it was called. That was incredibly fascinating because here it was argued that there are genetic markers and biological components that make certain people predisposed to becoming psychopathic. However, as part of the research they looked at brain scans of psychopaths. I don't want to spoil things but one of the reasons that not all psychopaths do as this person did is the socio-environmental factor in childhood. One can't use therapy to heal psychopathy. This guy would always have had limited access to his feelings and his morality but in a different set of circumstances he might have used his high risk threshold and confidence to contribute to society. So it comes down to society, all of us, failing and allowing that children are so miserable that they become the offenders our indifference manifested.
@@alexblainelayter7703 Thanks for the recommendation, I found it easily and will try make time soon to watch it. The thesis you describe intuitively makes sense, however I strongly disagree with your sentiment regarding fixing lil monsters before they become manifest.
If you have time/interest you may care to look into the NDIS in Australia. It has (and always was destined to) grown explosively since inception, conservative government estimates of circa $2Billion in fraud per year. Much of it syphoned off by ___paths and their allies. Statistics of psychological wellbeing across the community: never been worse. And declining precipitously.
“I really wanna get to the point in my life where i can say ‘yes’ to that.”
Whooooaaaaa… 😳
Fascinating interview, really well put together.
Imagine not being able to feel and experience emotions and thus happiness. That must be so empty.
i wish i was one. i suffer from huge amounts of anxiety. social anxiety. my anger is explosive especially drunk. i feel depression. life sux having feelings
Depression is longing for the past. Anxiety is fear of the future. Live day by day. And don't wish you wouldn't feel anything cause you heard him in the beginning of the video. On top of that he committed crimes and hurt people. I don't think you want to cause pain to others. It is his cross to bear. I have mine. You have yours.
31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34 THEREFORE DO NOT WORRY ABOUT TOMORROW, FOR TOMORROW WILL WORRY ABOUT ITSELF. EACH DAY HAS ENOUGH OF ITS OWN. (Matthew 6:31-34) I printed the last sentence, frame it and hanged it on my kitchen.
Me too. Severe social anxiety.
Got anxiety?
Then do The Linden Method. No need to thank me, just do the method and you'll bring your disorder (anxiety) back into order.
to quote a songs lyrics that i always connected to "Im so full of love it deeply sickens me"
Wow such an interesting video! Please release more like this
Incredibly fascinating and also so sad. This poor chap
Who?
Dr Ramani talks about the range of ASPD well. It sounds to be like Lewis is perhaps sociopaths rather than psychopath so I don’t think he was born this way. There certainly is hope for change and it’s amazing how he has gotten to the place he has.
Dude got told that he was cheated on and slit his throat 😂😂
People don't realize how normal this disorder is! So much more common than we think
Very interesting. I can’t help but wonder what The Behaviour Panel would make of this guy. Fascinating viewing.
that would be a good episode, i love TBP!
My favorite thing about this is when we see him bring up how he's learning how to mask and explaining himself when the mask slips.
Most psychopaths aren’t this self aware. Not that this guy reminds me of Jeffrey Dahmer but Dahmer was also really self aware of his psychopathy. So interesting. This guy seems like a good guy who had some fucked up things happen to him as a child and this is how it presents in adulthood. I understand a lot of what this guys says because I can relate to the knowing how I should feel but not actually knowing what that would be like. Like to feel bad about something most people would feel bad about. I also don’t have joy or happiness but I had to shut all that off in order to not feel the immense and debilitating fear and depression from my childhood. Fortunately not all my emotions are shut off, I have empathy and am capable of feeling love. But almost all my emotions are in some ways stunted. I can fully imagine I could have turned out like this guy. Easily.
Psychopaths can try to emulate empathy and emotion on others, but the main emotions they feel revolve around self-interested and self-beneficial things.
Yes, my former sister in law, scary and sneaky violent. It was much later told me, it wasn't she was only hating me, I'm childhood she already cause trouble. Had also sexual interest in my ex husband, gladly he never let her do things. Sad is that we didn't knew better and our marriage stranded. My ex husband is now aware the actions of his sister had such great impact he really needs therapy.
He’s describing a “narcissistic injury”… the rejection from her brought out all his abandonment trauma and it became like a psychotic break. That’s when their mask comes off. It’s really just about their ego, and they will punish anyone around them, in the worst ways, when their ego is suffering a narcissistic injury. That’s when sometimes, Narcs or sociopaths can finally kill their victims. There is never one spec of taking accountability. Not in the moment and not post the event. Like here, he is very emotionally removed from the consequences of his rages, as in how they would affect others. Yet he speaks positively about his feelings of satisfaction when he describes attacking other males.
I didn’t hear that. He seems to be self aware enough to know his limitations and weaknesses and seems to be actively focused on growing and learning and becoming more emotionally equipped.
Also, clearly you have no obligation to respond but what’s wrong with a mask when society hates and fears what’s behind it?
Hurting himself to hurt his gf sounds more like a borderline behavior than a psychopath. he felt immense pain and needed to stop it and secretly wanted her to care.
My thoughts too. The overwhelm from rejection & immersion into GF family. Males rarely get diagnosed borderline, but they should be.
Agree. That's a 100% BPD behavior. But in combination with all his other behaviors, I'm certain he has ASPD as well
Sounds like a life driven by feeling significant.
I wonder what psychooaths would feel on MDMA since it is thought of as a drug that makes you feel love
A friend of mine is a psychopath and he said he felt nothing on a strong dose.
@@Lenningx thanks for satisfying my curiosity
You’re not his friend
Am i the only one who thinks it's absolutely fascinating for someone who by default doesn't feel empathy for others to be helping them and be successful at that? A position where you would, theoretically, have to have some kind of emotional empathy for them. I guess the "cognitive empathy" and the understanding of people's behaviour is the key here. Nevertheless, amazing
Yeah no. Psychopaths are psychopaths. Run.
Crazy how normal and polite this dude comes up
exactly!
They walk amongst us
@@Heresy1987 yeah? they're still people. you act like every single one of them is a murderer
@@desiree2401 he literally is a murderer.
lewis mentioned abuse and addiction in his childhood. alcohol abuse around him and sexual abuse to him. it's highly probable various traumas evolved to a desensitised blank robotic outlook, where emotions weren't possible, but acting was. hope he's able to manage his life towards at least a little empathy for others and for the boy he was. we are often our own very worst enemies, but trusting, time and acceptance can work literal psychological wonders.
Has anyone seen his netflix doc? Absolutely awful ego stroke turns out he commissioned it himself...I suggest watching that not because it's any good but bc you can see what a narcissist he truly is. Even brushes over the fact his business is basically a self-help cult...
All psychopaths are narcissists. It's part of the pathology, it's inherent.
What’s it called
@@dewilew2137 the psychopath life coach (:
Well he is a psychopath. You sound surprised he is a narcissist when it is probably one of the leading traits of one.
@@SilentAssassin01234 not surprised. Just a lot of people in the comments seemingly taking his side and I think the doc shows another side of him (:
So he can feel anger and anger is an emotion.
Not much in the way of empathy or empathic related emotions from a psychopath though.
So interesting to watch. 10/10
Thank you so much!
that uncomfortable feeling when you are doing nothing is actually your emotions wanting to come out. if you can sit with and explore that feeling it will usually lead to alot of pain and grief.
but i think alot of "psychopaths" will never get there, because the addicting feeling of chasing highs like power, status and money is more attractive as the pain.
nobody likes to hurt.
but that's where the good stuff is.
after you let all pain and grief out, that is.
It scares me because i would take this guy for a regular chap, and even believe i could handle him in a fight.
But i've come across people with mental issues who are freakishly strong, i'm guessing he has psychopath strength or motivation
Being a psychopath doesn't make you stronger lmao
@@Schnirt Oh but it can. Even some mental illnesses can bring out a strength that the person wouldn't normally expect possible of themselves.
It's more about what the mind allows the body to do (within physical limits).
Adrenalin is an example of enhancement, as is rage and anger.
Some mental health conditions can give people superhuman strength.
Bipolar springs to mind.
Probably the adrenaline makes them more resistant to keep up with a fight for longer 🤔
The term Psychopath isn't a real thing it's an umbrella term with no defined meaning,people have grades/traits of personality disorder there's no such thing as the cold blooded "psychopath " if there was they would only understand and see the world in pure logic this guy wouldn't be bothered about his girl cheating or getting revenge if he was "emotionless"
Very energetic guy
Steepling= authority
Licking of lips= excitement (or anxiety, but not in his case)
Touching mouth and chest= self soothing (when he talks about his dad)
Sigh= does not want to talk about it (when talking about his dad)
Raising of eyebrows= wants you to really listen to the thing he is saying
When he talked about segg abuse he started touching his upper lip a lot it definitely brought up feelings
@@momog5615 it's not that a psychopath is unable to feel but it's the ability to feel for other mostly.
@@inexmoonpatrol yeah I understood that. I think you missed an obvious body language tell from your list. Hope this helps your learning.
Love things like this, really interesting to see how he experiences the world
Shoutout to the fellow psychopaths out there 💪
Psychopaths vs malignant narcissist.....psychopaths never fear but narcs do
All psychopaths are inherently narcissistic
Psychopaths can feel some fear-but only for themselves. Their fear manifests as a feeling of lack of control. They absolutely need to feel that they are in control over others.
I think sorry is a good way of putting it
Psychopaths do not have the equipment necessary to have these feelings of empathy come up. It's like expecting someone with no legs to get up and run.. it's not possible. Same with psychopaths.. it's not possible for them to have these experiences involving empathy. They are designed to be predators, not normal people.
Everyone diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder are different. You can take 5 people with that disorder in a group and they will be all different. ASPD is not a cookie cutter diagnosis
He seems like a sociopath more than a psyhcopath.. it seems like his family experiences, especially from his father, were traumatic which created the sociopathy. Psychopaths are born due to neurological issues, sociopaths are bred.
Antisocial Personality Disorder (sociopathy and psychopathy) are almost universally agreed to be caused by mixed of both nature and nurture. Meaning you probably need to be predisposed, but it probably typically also needs the right environment to trigger those genes.
If what you said was ever considered true, it's definitely not anymore by psychology.
I'm still confused by the apparent difference because I read The Psychopath Inside and the author calls himself a "psychopath lite" or borderline psychopath. He said that psychopathy develops due to a 3 legged stool effect of bad genetics, brain chemistry and abuse. He didn't find reason to use the word sociopath.
.. But it does seem some people become psychopaths despite a good upbringing- like the gangster Mad Frankie Fraser who tortured people for the Richardsons.
Phsycopath is an undefined umbrella term
I don't fear nor feel since my son passed away. Completely flat line