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Girl here ✌🏼just saying... guys cussing is one of my BIGGEST turn-offs. It’s so rare to find even Christians who take not cussing and watching their language in general, seriously. Thank you for saying something!
That is so true, I don't like the cussing either and slang, I thought christians didn't cuss, and when I started meeting some I was surprise but I know now. Everyone is still learning & growing. I pray to God for my future husband not to speak that way, that's not acceptable at all.
Swearing is a social construct. The Bible doesn’t say anything about it. Depends where and how you grow up. I personally don’t swear, and I would date someon who does swear as long as I know why they do.
@@luikssmart7751 Here are a few. There are plenty more. Ephesians 4:29 Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. Psalm 19:14 Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O LORD, my rock and my redeemer. Colossians 3:8-10 But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.
I cuss in a daily bassis, but there is a reson for it. I do it when I do somting extremely stupid or clumsy, reson for that atitude, is cuz I douth myself for my overal skill as a human being to function normaly in a home or society, and when I cuss it's like a calm sensation for me to let out my confusion of my own existens. questions like these: "why am I doing this?" "what was that now!?" "It slipt out my hand! I hade good grip, HOW!? "what is the meaning of this?" "am I not good enoth to function normaly?"
Body hair is a natural part of God's creation, even on females. While everyone is allowed to have their own preferences, it's nothing to be ashamed of. God make us perfect and in His image, and that includes body hair.
That is some way to take it...but just as i would wanna dress and shave for my wife... my wife would do so.. that is why Solomon talks about woman spending time in the bathroom. It is about being loving and respectful
It’s like saying no cutting your nails is natural and it’s gods creation. Most guys and I agree with this, wants a well groomed woman just like most women want a well groomed man
@@davidvalle3068 Not really, it’s not. Body hair is very self-limiting. Nobody’s ever walking around with 3 ft long leg hairs, thinking about how they need to stop by SuperCuts that weekend. Nails, on the other hand, will literally grow and grow and grow until they break or you die, if you let them. So the issue people have is more about the double standard. Men & women could each allow their body hair to grow, and both could make it look equally as neat and tidy. But societally, we’re not used to seeing it on women - even though that’s a very arbitrary opinion. (I know, I know: you’re thinking “nuh uh, it’s just common sense! Women just _look_ better smooth!” In reality, societally ingrained opinions just feel like common sense.) To borrow your nail analogy, though, it’s more like saying: “Men and women should both keep their nails reasonably trimmed. But while men can do sensible straight lines, women must clip elaborate little wavy edges.”
I think there's a difference between mere looks, and being attractive/finding someone attractive. We all know people who are very physically good looking on the outside, but maybe have an awful personality or we don't find engaging. And then there are those people who just have such a wonderful personality and we feel drawn to them, and love spending time..and their looks become more secondary 💕🙃
As for the burping and farting, I feel that’s a double standard. It’s natural and everyone has to do it. Now obviously don’t be obnoxious with it, but if you’re just the two of you, let it out. It’s funny for my husband and I.
Yeah, totally agree. The problem is the man who doesn't let the woman be human enough to do so obviously is more concerned with preserving his pornographic/ objectifying imagine of her to fulfill his selfish shallow sexual needs.
As a man who has experienced porn addiction I would give a much different answer as to why men watch porn. It's generally just like most addictive behaviors. It's a coping mechanism for some kind of chronic emotional pain or trauma. One of the biggest helps to me was to detach the shame from it, dig into the root cause and address that rather than the behavior, which is really more of a symptom than anything.
Nate use to watch porn as well... before they married. He talks about it in a old video. So his answer was just from bis perspective and not necessarily a wrong one.
18:35 I totally agree with Nate on that one. When a girl asks deeper more pressing questions my attraction for them increases tenfold because I instantly see them as more than just a pretty face, but as a pretty soul too
As a woman I can see why a man would feel this way. Women can be brutal during a divorce. Married twice divorced once. I didn’t even read my divorce papers I just signed them. I was so distraught I didn’t care about anything else and he wasn’t exactly fair. In the long run no regrets. I didn’t need revenge my life/marriage now is so much more fulfilling and my ex and I get along great. God can turn the bad into his glory. God is so good!
That body hair issue really depends on culture. I mean I'm African (Cameroonian) and it's a problem for no one. Instead most guys say they prefer "hairy" girls. Granted underarm hair is still a no no😂
I know a young male pastor that does this each time he is tempted! Instead he prays for the woman working out in tight clothing that bends down right where he is lifting at the gym 🤷🏽♀️ I think that’s GREAT! Your perspective on the person changes + they get prayed for 💓
Nate and Sutton, you two have truly changed my life for the better! My dad passed away about 1.5 years ago and my once strong and powerful faith suffered greatly. I lost sight of God and struggled. In 2021 I slowly found my way back to God and learned that he was with me all along. I am now stronger in my faith than ever before, and your videos have helped me and answered many questions I have. The two of you are very inspiring and uplifting in so many ways, and I am blessed that this channel exists. God Bless both of you!!! ❤️
Wow wow that is such a blessing to us! Thank you for sharing 😭 and I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. I can’t imagine that pain. I am so happy to hear you found your way back to God and you’re relationship is stronger than ever. I’m sure that makes your dad smile! 💛
I agree with the “wanting to look if someone with a good-looking body passes by”! It is definitely an instinct to look. But correct: capture those thoughts!!
I like how direct Sutton is - you never have to wonder what she is thinking and Nate appreciated that she doesn’t play games. I laughed out loud a couple of times i.e. Nate saying “You little wuss.” You both have great senses of humour. Now I have to go read the other comments!❤️🇨🇦
Thanks for being honest as always! I still think it's sad that we are being conditioned by commercials, porn, etc. to see hair as something disgusting even though there is a good reason why God created us that way and hair (especially down there) is so important and protects us from infections, irritation, etc.
Lol, “some hobo in Oregon”..you’re cracking me up Nate. You two are just awesome! Praise God for the example you are setting and presenting a Godly standard. Been a follower of Raw brahs for years and years. Glad to see you turned out to be a very authentic man of God. Love your family/this channel. God bless y’all.
I think my best friend and I are an exception to the "one has to be attracted to the other" idea. He's been my bestfriend for almost four years, and we both have been so brutally honest with each other. He's actually really is into this other girl we both know, and has for most of our friendship. I couldn't ever see myself dating or marrying him; just thinking about that made me laugh hahaha. He's my life long bestfriend, and if that's gonna bother my significant other... I'm sorry, but he isn't going anywhere. I'm willing to talk to my significant other about me having a bestfriend that is a guy and maybe set some boundaries, but I'm never going to just cut him off like that. He's my bestfriend for a *reason*.
I agree with Nate on all of these, but want to elaborate on the ghosting. It is crappy to do. I’d only ghost someone who is bothering me or overloading my phone with text messages. Another thing in regards to texting, don’t rely on text messages to build a relationship. I don’t know about all guys, but many of the guys I know (myself included) don’t like texting and would much rather talk to women in person. Text to make plans, and do the actual talking when you’re with us.
Love that advice! Nathanael actually did that to me! We didn’t text at all in the beginning, only to make plans which gave us a lot to talk about when we would see each other!
My sister doesn't shave anything because she believes that's how God made her. If a guy has an issue she tells him to take it up with the man upstairs 🤷
@@tinamcguire3660 our bodies are meant to defecate, but that doesnt mean we should defecate in front of others. I think we can apply the same logic to burping and farting
On question one I definitely am one of those guys that do that but I wanna share my perspective. Sometimes I see a message and I will think to myself, “Okay, I’ll respond to that later after this”, then I forget and feel bad when it’s the next day. Also another reason why I don’t focus on texting is because I don’t like texting and wanna FaceTime/hangout. Then lastly and most true for guys is we just aren’t interested
Interesting. Part 2? About guys hesitating to commit to relashionships, I'm not a guy so I'm rlly not an expert, but I think another reason they are hesitant to commit is the fact that once they get married they r the sole provider and support for their future family. That is a huge responsibility to take on. I admire men who do. It takes a lot to be responsible for the welfare of those he loves. I would never want that responsiblity and guys r amazing to take on that challenge. This is just one reason. I'm sure there r many others
I would agree that marriage is most likely a bigger step for men than women, but I also feel like the man who will take that step and responsibility is really far more the man.
yep this is the biggest hurdle my fiance is overcoming with the thought of having children in the future and the emotional and financial support that comes with that. he knows he can support me and that he wants to be with me for the rest of his life, but handling parenting, making the right choices for children and finding a job that allows him to provide abundantly is the mental hurdle right now (for both of us a little if I'm being honest lol)
I was thinking the same. Many men don't want to have the responsibility of leading and providing for a family. They just wanna mess around - which is why it ends up so many times that they get the girl pregnant and walk away.
@@MrsMuffin11 That's why it's important to lean on God's will for our lives. Everyone thinks they need to make so much money but what if God just wants a basic small family and you guys bringing in a combined 60k a year is enough. Not saying this is for you forsure but it's a thought
When he said “slutty”, I immediately knew you guys were gonna get hate 😂😂 even though I completely agree!!! But our culture doesn’t like getting called out like that!
Agreed! I love Nate & Sutton, but it was a tad bit uncomfortable to hear them use this word instead of using terminology such as “modest”. To me, it was almost like he was implying that, we girls, MUST all dress conservatively in order to attract those certain type of guys. When in reality, it’s much more than what we wear. Don’t get me wrong, it def a factor, but not the “end-all-be-all”. To me, personally, it’s all about intentions. For instance, if I was to wear an “off-the-shoulder” top it would be considered inappropriate and not modest to some older folk, when in reality my intention was just to wear it because I thought it was cute and I was comfortable in it. Not necessarily to attract “slutty guys” OR make myself the center of attention. No hate to Nate & Sutton AT ALL, just wanted to point this out and hope they are a bit more sensitive to the words they use to convey their message(s).
For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life. John 3:16
I like how respectful you guys talk in general. I know you are Christians but the way you speak or respond to questions sounded a lot like Muslim people to me💓
Praise the Lord for bringing up the relationship advice at the end. It’s something I do and it felt like I was interrogating or putting a guy through the test all the time. I have to examine everything in the Spirit. Some would see it as if I’m being a detective lol. You guys are amazing! Not to forget hilarious also. So Thank you for addressing these questions for us. Blessings to you beyond measure!🕊🙌🏾💕
Sutton has a beautiful glow! Happy wife, mother and Godly woman. I hope you are feeling good with your little one growing. Happy New Beginnings in 2022! Love your family!
I think having to train your mind to look away from someone attractive is pointless and almost "toxic." People are attractive. There's nothing wrong with looking at someone attractive, the difference is if you want to take it further with that person, or if you do it while with your S/O. I've been with my girlfriend for several years. If my girlfriend were to see an attractive guy in her day to day, that's fine, it's part of life. If she talks to him is a different story. If she stares him down is also different. But if she just looks at him and then keep it moving, nothing wrong with that. You shouldn't have to train yourself to look away, just don't have lustful thoughts or engage with the person.
To give y’all another persons insight these are just my opinions from what I’ve seen and about myself and if y’all have other questions y’all can reply and ask them and I’ll try and answer - Why do men ghost? They don’t have the back bone to cut it off - size of body parts? Depends on the dude honestly. Most don’t care - fear of commitment? Nate hit the nail on the head. “What if” bugs us - what girls wear? It matters, you can be fully clothed and still be gorgeous - we think about seggs a lot ngl - girls starting convos? Initiate the first interaction. After that let him pursue you. - guy best friends? For me no. Period. We can have couple friends but not individual friends - natural beauty or make up? Nate said it pretty well, we like natural beauty with a little make up. - looks matter but they’re not everything, I want to be attracted to my wife but I’m not looking for a Victoria secret model. Most guys like ig you could say “simple pretty” - I don’t mind hearing girls talk just don’t fuss, for lack of a better word. I’m sure most girls know but guys cannot multitask at all so make sure you have his full attention or it likely won’t register - initiating seggy time? Just ask. It’s literally that simple. No tricks, no magic formula, just ask - I try not to compare current girls to my ex honestly. If I’m dating someone new I want to focus on them and leave the past in the past - Why do some guys watch P? It honestly gets to the point where it’s an addiction you can look it up there’s science behind it they know it’s wrong but they continue to do it - hard working or feminine? Prefer feminine and delicate but i’m not gonna turn down a great girl just because she’s not 100% feminine. Hardworking is always good - Think about other women? I don’t. But I know that some guys do some guys dont. Honestly a majority of guys will never admit to it but once they find that one girl they’re down for they tend to stay pretty locked in on her from what I’ve seen. I know because of stereotypes that’s hard to believe but most good guys and once they found the one they love they stay locked down
Haha my husband when I txt him before we dated, didn't answer much either just because he wanted to get gods answer first for his opinion about the 2 of us. Ones he god confirmed he could not stop texting and calling lol
Yesss! I was so happy someone brought this up. I was literally thinking Nate sounded/looked like him in this video. And Nate doing an impression would be epic 😂😂
2:20: Men can "just change the channel" and ignore a text and never think about it again. 3:23: Yes 3:55: Because men end up paying for the divorce. It can end at anytime, and the man will have to pay alimony and perhaps even child support. 4:50: Yes. It matters to them so it matters to us. Good answer by Nate on this one. 5:40: Once in the morning / afternoon / evening. Good answer by Nate. 7:17: Love it when women initiated the conversation. It's a rare thing though. 8:08: Yes 8:27: No 8:55: Both. It's the variety that's needed. (Nate's on point). Agreed on all answers and then.. 11:39: How? Often. Blatant. Scandalous..
I noticed you guys try to stay healthy and eat well. Would you consider doing what you eat in a week vlog? I'd love to know what you eat for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
Of course they don't have to. Their entire bodies?? Because of cultural norms? If one has very sensitive skin, it may not even be possible. No fun being covered in red pimples all the time
The first question I believe was about the guy ghosting us. Well I had met someone that literally had almost every potential I was looking for in a guy. Even on our few dates he seemed so interested but after a couple of days of texting he never replied. I felt pretty sad and disappointed for like 2 weeks almost 3 (I even cried a lil) lol I wondered if it was something I did or said or simply him just not being interested enough. I then began to think well if he wanted to he would. He has his phone he can text me if he wanted to but he didn’t. I guess now I’ve accepted it and just trying to move on, I like to be pursued and not pursue a guy. Anyways that resonated and answered my own question! Thank you guys 🥰🥰
Same thing happened to me! But looking back, I see that God had a much better guy out there for me. We are getting married in a few months! Getting ghosted sucks but trusting in the Lord and His plan is the only things to get past it peacefully.
@@jessimitchell2051 thank you!! It definitely sucks to just be ghosted but Yes, I trust God has that person for me and in it’s own time it will happen and they won’t do that to me :( Yay! Congrats 🥳💜👏 I’m glad it all worked out in the end for you 🎉
If a guy doesn't respond or provide closure while dating (girls too) then they're not ready for the direct communication needed in a real relationship. If your old enough and still struggling in dating I highly recommend eharmony, especially if your one who doesn't like to pursue. It'll match you up with people you'll like and they'll mostly be as serious about their faith as you.
@@jdkayak7868 yep, that’s what I took it as, perhaps he’s not ready to be in a committed relationship which I respect. While I may have said I don’t like to pursue a guy, I mean that in the sense of I don’t like to be the only one hitting him up, or wanting to plan something for the both of us, or doing all the work. Yes I put effort but it’s nice to be pursued.. if that makes sense. And oh cool haven’t heard of it. Will check it out 👍🏼
Thanks again guys for honesty & transparency...Nate too funny- there's a person for every size :)..& Sutton luv your fearless & smart questioning..Miss you guys- pray the kids are well. Happy & Blessed 2022...
Does anyone else get quite a a misogynistic/patriarchal vibe from Nate? Not specifically calling out this video, just in general from a couple of videos I've seen (& liked!). Not hating, just makes me uncomfortable! Am I the only one??
Another thing to point out: she's always pregnant. Because, with their religion, she can only be a "godly woman" if she's popping out kids. Expect her to have 4+ kids.
I don't necessarily ghost, but I give space. Sometimes it's interpreted as ghosting. Not to play games, but because I think being too obsessive can be unhealthy in a relationship. So I like that talk on the phone and try to not worry about feeling like I need to text right away.
This sounds like religion not relationship. He is being honest, what else could you want from a man? I’m so happy mine is honest and walks with the word of the Lord
It is interesting that Nate would say that guys don't like it when girls make the first move because most videos I watch with this title say that guys love it when girls make the first move.
Well, they probably ought not to lol, imo guys need to have courage to ask a girl out, cuz if they can't muster the courage for even that, you can hardly trust them to have courage in other situations. Speaking as a guy lol, do correct me
Nate is completely right. If a man isn’t willing to lead and start the relationship who’s to say he will start leading once they get married and more stressful things happen.
@@Sharpman76 As a girlie, I think men should lead out. For the most part women have taken over the men, but it’s the men’s fault. Stand tall, take the reins and be manly men. We’ll probably fight it, but we’ll get over it😀! It really is what we need.
@@Sharpman76 Interesting point of view. I don't see it as a lack of courage. Sometimes the girl just gets to it first. To me, it seems like the opposite of a lack of courage. If a girl making the first move makes a guy so insecure that he is turned off by that, then he may not be emotionally stable.
I’m usually very encouraged by your videos but this one was in poor taste. Not ever having a boyfriend or dating is a big insecurity of mine. I was born with a digestive disorder that do make gastrointestinal issues worse for me than the average female. I don’t have a very typical feminine personality, and I’ve endured years of having guy friends “treat me like a bro” while my more feminine friends are asked out and flirted on left and right. Luckily, God has brought me to a point where I’m happy with my current state of singleness, but that doesn’t mean my insecurities have gone away. For any young, insecure female out there watching this video and feeling like “oh guys could never be attracted to me”, please know that God cherishes you. You were beautifully and wonderfully made by Him. You do not have to be stereotypically feminine to be beautiful. What does make you beautiful is a heart that pursues Christ and trusts him in all things, and I’m sad that this video did not address more of that.
I’m 27, recently married with IBS, and possible chrohns being investigated. I am also pregnant which doesn’t help matters in that department - my husband even when dating has always been very supportive and never once ‘grossed out’ by any of this! We talk very openly. Also, we are all human beings, who have to function, please try not to put yourself down or tell yourself you’re less attractive because of this ❤️
We of course agree with this. No where did we say that people aren’t cherished or beautiful or not feminine by what they do or don’t do. All the answer to that question was was a personal preference. Yes, they are normal body functions, does it mean we want them done intentionally in front of each other? No (a personal preference that no one else has to have). Does it happen sometimes by accident? Yes. Does it make us less attracted to each other? No. Obviously that answer came off in a way we didn’t intend for it to to you and for that we’re sorry!
1:35 I usually answer all texts but if I leave you on read it’s probably because theres a dead end in the convo or did it by accident. Some guys do it to be Hollywood and never open any of there messages have like 100 unopened messages
Girl here ✌🏼just saying... guys cussing is one of my BIGGEST turn-offs. It’s so rare to find even Christians who take not cussing and watching their language in general, seriously. Thank you for saying something!
That is so true, I don't like the cussing either and slang, I thought christians didn't cuss, and when I started meeting some I was surprise but I know now. Everyone is still learning & growing. I pray to God for my future husband not to speak that way, that's not acceptable at all.
Swearing is a social construct. The Bible doesn’t say anything about it. Depends where and how you grow up. I personally don’t swear, and I would date someon who does swear as long as I know why they do.
@@luikssmart7751 Here are a few. There are plenty more.
Ephesians 4:29 Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.
Psalm 19:14 Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O LORD, my rock and my redeemer.
Colossians 3:8-10 But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.
I cuss in a daily bassis, but there is a reson for it.
I do it when I do somting extremely stupid or clumsy, reson for that atitude, is cuz I douth myself for my overal skill as a human being to function normaly in a home or society, and when I cuss it's like a calm sensation for me to let out my confusion of my own existens. questions like these: "why am I doing this?" "what was that now!?" "It slipt out my hand! I hade good grip, HOW!?
"what is the meaning of this?" "am I not good enoth to function normaly?"
Body hair is a natural part of God's creation, even on females. While everyone is allowed to have their own preferences, it's nothing to be ashamed of. God make us perfect and in His image, and that includes body hair.
That is some way to take it...but just as i would wanna dress and shave for my wife... my wife would do so.. that is why Solomon talks about woman spending time in the bathroom. It is about being loving and respectful
@@achilles6445 interesting point! Could you reference Solomon speaking of that? I’d love to read it myself
10000% agreed 💛
It’s like saying no cutting your nails is natural and it’s gods creation. Most guys and I agree with this, wants a well groomed woman just like most women want a well groomed man
@@davidvalle3068 Not really, it’s not.
Body hair is very self-limiting. Nobody’s ever walking around with 3 ft long leg hairs, thinking about how they need to stop by SuperCuts that weekend. Nails, on the other hand, will literally grow and grow and grow until they break or you die, if you let them.
So the issue people have is more about the double standard. Men & women could each allow their body hair to grow, and both could make it look equally as neat and tidy. But societally, we’re not used to seeing it on women - even though that’s a very arbitrary opinion. (I know, I know: you’re thinking “nuh uh, it’s just common sense! Women just _look_ better smooth!” In reality, societally ingrained opinions just feel like common sense.)
To borrow your nail analogy, though, it’s more like saying: “Men and women should both keep their nails reasonably trimmed. But while men can do sensible straight lines, women must clip elaborate little wavy edges.”
I think there's a difference between mere looks, and being attractive/finding someone attractive. We all know people who are very physically good looking on the outside, but maybe have an awful personality or we don't find engaging. And then there are those people who just have such a wonderful personality and we feel drawn to them, and love spending time..and their looks become more secondary 💕🙃
Yeah! Very well put-completely agree :)
As for the burping and farting, I feel that’s a double standard. It’s natural and everyone has to do it. Now obviously don’t be obnoxious with it, but if you’re just the two of you, let it out. It’s funny for my husband and I.
Yeah! Same thing with body hair! God made males and females with it and it shouldn’t be shameful if you’re not perfectly shaved all the time.
The questions starts out with assuming that it’s a double standard. There wasn’t any real reason for pointing this out
Yeah, totally agree. The problem is the man who doesn't let the woman be human enough to do so obviously is more concerned with preserving his pornographic/ objectifying imagine of her to fulfill his selfish shallow sexual needs.
Can't hold what's not in your hand.
I love the way they look at each other.just melts my heart
As a man who has experienced porn addiction I would give a much different answer as to why men watch porn. It's generally just like most addictive behaviors. It's a coping mechanism for some kind of chronic emotional pain or trauma. One of the biggest helps to me was to detach the shame from it, dig into the root cause and address that rather than the behavior, which is really more of a symptom than anything.
That’s what I learned in counseling!
Nate use to watch porn as well... before they married. He talks about it in a old video. So his answer was just from bis perspective and not necessarily a wrong one.
@@kindnessmatters4068 "before"
Bahaha I forgot how funny you guys are❤️❤️ I lol’d multiple times!
😂💛💛
18:35 I totally agree with Nate on that one. When a girl asks deeper more pressing questions my attraction for them increases tenfold because I instantly see them as more than just a pretty face, but as a pretty soul too
Same for the girls. 😄
Why was this so wholesome 😭😭
In terms of commitment, choose the one you love, and love the one you choose!
Sutton: in marriage, how would you want the woman to initiate sex?
Nate: I like it
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🤣 bless him
About the commitment question:
Men aren’t scared of marriage. Men are terrified of divorce.
Great comment!
As a woman I can see why a man would feel this way. Women can be brutal during a divorce. Married twice divorced once. I didn’t even read my divorce papers I just signed them. I was so distraught I didn’t care about anything else and he wasn’t exactly fair. In the long run no regrets. I didn’t need revenge my life/marriage now is so much more fulfilling and my ex and I get along great. God can turn the bad into his glory. God is so good!
Really? Why would you assume there will be a divorce?
As a 22 yr old with so many questions this helped a lot! your guys' humor was just a bonus 😂💗 u guys r an adorable couple
That body hair issue really depends on culture. I mean I'm African (Cameroonian) and it's a problem for no one. Instead most guys say they prefer "hairy" girls.
Granted underarm hair is still a no no😂
Praying for a woman that comes into my mind has helped me quite a bit. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
I know a young male pastor that does this each time he is tempted! Instead he prays for the woman working out in tight clothing that bends down right where he is lifting at the gym 🤷🏽♀️ I think that’s GREAT! Your perspective on the person changes + they get prayed for 💓
Nate and Sutton, you two have truly changed my life for the better! My dad passed away about 1.5 years ago and my once strong and powerful faith suffered greatly. I lost sight of God and struggled. In 2021 I slowly found my way back to God and learned that he was with me all along. I am now stronger in my faith than ever before, and your videos have helped me and answered many questions I have. The two of you are very inspiring and uplifting in so many ways, and I am blessed that this channel exists. God Bless both of you!!! ❤️
Wow wow that is such a blessing to us! Thank you for sharing 😭 and I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. I can’t imagine that pain. I am so happy to hear you found your way back to God and you’re relationship is stronger than ever. I’m sure that makes your dad smile! 💛
I agree with the “wanting to look if someone with a good-looking body passes by”! It is definitely an instinct to look. But correct: capture those thoughts!!
I like how direct Sutton is - you never have to wonder what she is thinking and Nate appreciated that she doesn’t play games. I laughed out loud a couple of times i.e. Nate saying “You little wuss.” You both have great senses of humour. Now I have to go read the other comments!❤️🇨🇦
Wow the clap was on sync lol y’all should do every intro like that from now on!
Thanks for being honest as always! I still think it's sad that we are being conditioned by commercials, porn, etc. to see hair as something disgusting even though there is a good reason why God created us that way and hair (especially down there) is so important and protects us from infections, irritation, etc.
Lol, “some hobo in Oregon”..you’re cracking me up Nate. You two are just awesome! Praise God for the example you are setting and presenting a Godly standard. Been a follower of Raw brahs for years and years. Glad to see you turned out to be a very authentic man of God. Love your family/this channel. God bless y’all.
Lol y’all just looking at each other answering these questions and laughing is adorable 😂🥰🥲
I used to ask my husband direct questions to get to know him but he hated it. He thought it was intrusive and made him feel like he was weird.
I think my best friend and I are an exception to the "one has to be attracted to the other" idea. He's been my bestfriend for almost four years, and we both have been so brutally honest with each other. He's actually really is into this other girl we both know, and has for most of our friendship. I couldn't ever see myself dating or marrying him; just thinking about that made me laugh hahaha. He's my life long bestfriend, and if that's gonna bother my significant other... I'm sorry, but he isn't going anywhere. I'm willing to talk to my significant other about me having a bestfriend that is a guy and maybe set some boundaries, but I'm never going to just cut him off like that. He's my bestfriend for a *reason*.
I agree with Nate on all of these, but want to elaborate on the ghosting. It is crappy to do. I’d only ghost someone who is bothering me or overloading my phone with text messages. Another thing in regards to texting, don’t rely on text messages to build a relationship. I don’t know about all guys, but many of the guys I know (myself included) don’t like texting and would much rather talk to women in person. Text to make plans, and do the actual talking when you’re with us.
Love that advice! Nathanael actually did that to me! We didn’t text at all in the beginning, only to make plans which gave us a lot to talk about when we would see each other!
Love this!!!!
Yes l love these types of videos and l love that’s it is a respectable, faith-based guy answering the questions.
I'm half female. PAUSE, WHAT?!? Nate got jokes. lol Interesting to hear a Christian male perspective. Tfs and Happy New Year!
🤣 happy new year!
While I absolutely adore Nate & Sutton, Nate is not the norm when it comes to these questions.
He is just very honest , which is very valuable. I truly appreciate his honesty in all questions 😇
My sister doesn't shave anything because she believes that's how God made her. If a guy has an issue she tells him to take it up with the man upstairs 🤷
😂😂
The same is true of burping and farting. Our bodies are literally designed to do those things.
I do the same, I don't feel the need to shave. I only shave my legs and armpits once every one to two months during shorts season and that's it.
@@tinamcguire3660 our bodies are meant to defecate, but that doesnt mean we should defecate in front of others. I think we can apply the same logic to burping and farting
Does she also abstain from getting haircuts and from cutting her fingernails and from plucking her eyebrows?
On question one I definitely am one of those guys that do that but I wanna share my perspective. Sometimes I see a message and I will think to myself, “Okay, I’ll respond to that later after this”, then I forget and feel bad when it’s the next day. Also another reason why I don’t focus on texting is because I don’t like texting and wanna FaceTime/hangout. Then lastly and most true for guys is we just aren’t interested
This was 100% more helpful than most dialogue out there. Thank you
Interesting. Part 2? About guys hesitating to commit to relashionships, I'm not a guy so I'm rlly not an expert, but I think another reason they are hesitant to commit is the fact that once they get married they r the sole provider and support for their future family. That is a huge responsibility to take on. I admire men who do. It takes a lot to be responsible for the welfare of those he loves. I would never want that responsiblity and guys r amazing to take on that challenge. This is just one reason. I'm sure there r many others
I would agree that marriage is most likely a bigger step for men than women, but I also feel like the man who will take that step and responsibility is really far more the man.
yep this is the biggest hurdle my fiance is overcoming with the thought of having children in the future and the emotional and financial support that comes with that. he knows he can support me and that he wants to be with me for the rest of his life, but handling parenting, making the right choices for children and finding a job that allows him to provide abundantly is the mental hurdle right now (for both of us a little if I'm being honest lol)
I was thinking the same. Many men don't want to have the responsibility of leading and providing for a family. They just wanna mess around - which is why it ends up so many times that they get the girl pregnant and walk away.
@@corinnefolks5996 Yes. Possibly. But a girl getting pregnant is just as much the girl’s fault as the man.
@@MrsMuffin11 That's why it's important to lean on God's will for our lives. Everyone thinks they need to make so much money but what if God just wants a basic small family and you guys bringing in a combined 60k a year is enough. Not saying this is for you forsure but it's a thought
Said that on an another video of yours , and saying it again “you both are soothing”. Indeed 🤍 Calm, wise, mature, and beautiful inside out❤️
…. Girls burp and fart because we literally can’t help it because it’s human?? Lol what you want us to do, explode?
Well how else are you gonna keep your breasts from deflating? /s 😅
I agree 😂😂
Yeah, I was like... umm what? 😅
Yes! I am pregnant and have IBS, I am sorry for my husband at times but I can’t stop my body from functioning 🤣
When he said “slutty”, I immediately knew you guys were gonna get hate 😂😂 even though I completely agree!!! But our culture doesn’t like getting called out like that!
Agreed!
I love Nate & Sutton, but it was a tad bit uncomfortable to hear them use this word instead of using terminology such as “modest”.
To me, it was almost like he was implying that, we girls, MUST all dress conservatively in order to attract those certain type of guys. When in reality, it’s much more than what we wear. Don’t get me wrong, it def a factor, but not the “end-all-be-all”.
To me, personally, it’s all about intentions. For instance, if I was to wear an “off-the-shoulder” top it would be considered inappropriate and not modest to some older folk, when in reality my intention was just to wear it because I thought it was cute and I was comfortable in it. Not necessarily to attract “slutty guys” OR make myself the center of attention.
No hate to Nate & Sutton AT ALL, just wanted to point this out and hope they are a bit more sensitive to the words they use to convey their message(s).
So glad to see y’all back!!! Would Love a Q and A about the baby and your pregnancy🤰🤍
Yeah that would be fun!
For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life. John 3:16
I like how respectful you guys talk in general. I know you are Christians but the way you speak or respond to questions sounded a lot like Muslim people to me💓
me too, I'm muslim, may ALLAH give us heavens. AMEEN
Happy New Year Nate & Sutton!! God bless your beautiful family and help you to continue this small ‘big’ ministry on TH-cam 🤗🙏🏼
Praise the Lord for bringing up the relationship advice at the end. It’s something I do and it felt like I was interrogating or putting a guy through the test all the time. I have to examine everything in the Spirit. Some would see it as if I’m being a detective lol. You guys are amazing! Not to forget hilarious also. So Thank you for addressing these questions for us. Blessings to you beyond measure!🕊🙌🏾💕
Sutton has a beautiful glow! Happy wife, mother and Godly woman. I hope you are feeling good with your little one growing. Happy New Beginnings in 2022! Love your family!
Thank you! Yes, feeling good so far thank God! Aside from normal aches and pains that come with a growing belly!
I think also that clothes tells a lot about a person ! Loves from Germany 🇩🇪 :)
Grüße zurück! Auch aus germany
How does Sutton know a guy’s mind more than most girls do? 😂😂😂😂😂 it’s scary!
This video made me thankful for my husband.
Yes same. I am very glad my man doesn’t get grossed out when I need to burp🙄
@@lexigray473 yes!! Or me having a little body hair every now and then when life gets hectic God forbid. Lol
I think having to train your mind to look away from someone attractive is pointless and almost "toxic." People are attractive. There's nothing wrong with looking at someone attractive, the difference is if you want to take it further with that person, or if you do it while with your S/O.
I've been with my girlfriend for several years. If my girlfriend were to see an attractive guy in her day to day, that's fine, it's part of life. If she talks to him is a different story. If she stares him down is also different. But if she just looks at him and then keep it moving, nothing wrong with that. You shouldn't have to train yourself to look away, just don't have lustful thoughts or engage with the person.
To give y’all another persons insight these are just my opinions from what I’ve seen and about myself and if y’all have other questions y’all can reply and ask them and I’ll try and answer
- Why do men ghost? They don’t have the back bone to cut it off
- size of body parts? Depends on the dude honestly. Most don’t care
- fear of commitment? Nate hit the nail on the head. “What if” bugs us
- what girls wear? It matters, you can be fully clothed and still be gorgeous
- we think about seggs a lot ngl
- girls starting convos? Initiate the first interaction. After that let him pursue you.
- guy best friends? For me no. Period. We can have couple friends but not individual friends
- natural beauty or make up? Nate said it pretty well, we like natural beauty with a little make up.
- looks matter but they’re not everything, I want to be attracted to my wife but I’m not looking for a Victoria secret model. Most guys like ig you could say “simple pretty”
- I don’t mind hearing girls talk just don’t fuss, for lack of a better word. I’m sure most girls know but guys cannot multitask at all so make sure you have his full attention or it likely won’t register
- initiating seggy time? Just ask. It’s literally that simple. No tricks, no magic formula, just ask
- I try not to compare current girls to my ex honestly. If I’m dating someone new I want to focus on them and leave the past in the past
- Why do some guys watch P? It honestly gets to the point where it’s an addiction you can look it up there’s science behind it they know it’s wrong but they continue to do it
- hard working or feminine? Prefer feminine and delicate but i’m not gonna turn down a great girl just because she’s not 100% feminine. Hardworking is always good
- Think about other women? I don’t. But I know that some guys do some guys dont. Honestly a majority of guys will never admit to it but once they find that one girl they’re down for they tend to stay pretty locked in on her from what I’ve seen. I know because of stereotypes that’s hard to believe but most good guys and once they found the one they love they stay locked down
Glad I got more info from a guy's perspective.
Thanks so much! This video came right on time for me. I surely have received seeds of truth, love and inspiration from your videos!😁
Please do another one where Sutton answers questions guys are too afraid to ask
Haha my husband when I txt him before we dated, didn't answer much either just because he wanted to get gods answer first for his opinion about the 2 of us. Ones he god confirmed he could not stop texting and calling lol
Wait, I'm a girl and I thought breast always have milk. I guess I learned something today
I love you guys ❤️🔥. May God richly bless you all
😂I love the honesty!! Cracking up the whole video but I loved this type of video good job
Nate sure put on the honestly hat! 😂
the last tip he gave is a winnnn!!!
Nate would have a killer Matthew Mcconaughey impression 😂
🤣 I (sutton) would like to see that!
@@nateandsutton Allright.. Allright....Allright!
^chuckles^. Please do a clip. Sutton is asking after all!
Yesss! I was so happy someone brought this up. I was literally thinking Nate sounded/looked like him in this video. And Nate doing an impression would be epic 😂😂
Hi from Colombia, love you guys!❤️🇨🇴
2:20: Men can "just change the channel" and ignore a text and never think about it again.
3:23: Yes
3:55: Because men end up paying for the divorce. It can end at anytime, and the man will have to pay alimony and perhaps even child support.
4:50: Yes. It matters to them so it matters to us. Good answer by Nate on this one.
5:40: Once in the morning / afternoon / evening. Good answer by Nate.
7:17: Love it when women initiated the conversation. It's a rare thing though.
8:08: Yes
8:27: No
8:55: Both. It's the variety that's needed. (Nate's on point).
Agreed on all answers and then..
11:39: How? Often. Blatant. Scandalous..
Do a guys ask girls questions!!
You answered all the questions exactly as my husband would answer.
I noticed you guys try to stay healthy and eat well. Would you consider doing what you eat in a week vlog? I'd love to know what you eat for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
Same!
Very good questions, and Nate was pretty nice answering them 😊 thank you for the tips, Nate ❤️
*happy new year Nate and Sutton and God bless you*
Thank you for answering my question! Your advice was very helpful :)
The camera quality is Devine
Lucky...guys don't have to shave if they don't want to. But girls have to shave their entire bodies all the time. It's exhausting.
Of course they don't have to. Their entire bodies?? Because of cultural norms? If one has very sensitive skin, it may not even be possible. No fun being covered in red pimples all the time
You guys are so funny! I was laughing throughout the whole video🤣🤣🤣
The first question I believe was about the guy ghosting us. Well I had met someone that literally had almost every potential I was looking for in a guy. Even on our few dates he seemed so interested but after a couple of days of texting he never replied. I felt pretty sad and disappointed for like 2 weeks almost 3 (I even cried a lil) lol I wondered if it was something I did or said or simply him just not being interested enough. I then began to think well if he wanted to he would. He has his phone he can text me if he wanted to but he didn’t. I guess now I’ve accepted it and just trying to move on, I like to be pursued and not pursue a guy. Anyways that resonated and answered my own question! Thank you guys 🥰🥰
Same thing happened to me! But looking back, I see that God had a much better guy out there for me. We are getting married in a few months! Getting ghosted sucks but trusting in the Lord and His plan is the only things to get past it peacefully.
@@jessimitchell2051 thank you!! It definitely sucks to just be ghosted but Yes, I trust God has that person for me and in it’s own time it will happen and they won’t do that to me :(
Yay! Congrats 🥳💜👏 I’m glad it all worked out in the end for you 🎉
If a guy doesn't respond or provide closure while dating (girls too) then they're not ready for the direct communication needed in a real relationship.
If your old enough and still struggling in dating I highly recommend eharmony, especially if your one who doesn't like to pursue. It'll match you up with people you'll like and they'll mostly be as serious about their faith as you.
My same experience,3 guys at that but learning to let it go
@@jdkayak7868 yep, that’s what I took it as, perhaps he’s not ready to be in a committed relationship which I respect. While I may have said I don’t like to pursue a guy, I mean that in the sense of I don’t like to be the only one hitting him up, or wanting to plan something for the both of us, or doing all the work. Yes I put effort but it’s nice to be pursued.. if that makes sense. And oh cool haven’t heard of it. Will check it out 👍🏼
I laughed out loud during this video quite a few times 😂
Love how he said farting 😂😂 I literally have to make sure the guy knows because if not them he is in for one heck of a surprise 😂😂
Thanks again guys for honesty & transparency...Nate too funny- there's a person for every size :)..& Sutton luv your fearless & smart questioning..Miss you guys- pray the kids are well. Happy & Blessed 2022...
Nate = Great Value Billy Currington
Part two. God bless you!
Does anyone else get quite a a misogynistic/patriarchal vibe from Nate? Not specifically calling out this video, just in general from a couple of videos I've seen (& liked!). Not hating, just makes me uncomfortable! Am I the only one??
Lol muh patriarchy
You’re not the only one.
Another thing to point out: she's always pregnant. Because, with their religion, she can only be a "godly woman" if she's popping out kids. Expect her to have 4+ kids.
@@ExistentialIzzy You don't have a grasp on what you're talking about.
@@ExistentialIzzy huh??
Honestly, I’m 18 and waiting for God to place the right woman into my life. I feel like looks play a big part in it though.
God is taking a while to send me the right guy.
@@emilyahlbaum3417 what’s your IG? I don’t know why, I’m just curious.
I don't necessarily ghost, but I give space. Sometimes it's interpreted as ghosting. Not to play games, but because I think being too obsessive can be unhealthy in a relationship. So I like that talk on the phone and try to not worry about feeling like I need to text right away.
“There’s a guy out there for every size.” 😅😅😅
Being married to Nate truly seems miserable.
Why?Im curious?
I nearly died at the comment about hair and a Oregon guy liking it 😂😂😂😩
Love y'all so much! Thanks posting all these amazing videos:)
Good to see you two! Nice video
Great video! Thank you guys God bless
Goodness, this does not sound like a man walking in the word of the Lord
This sounds like religion not relationship. He is being honest, what else could you want from a man? I’m so happy mine is honest and walks with the word of the Lord
It is interesting that Nate would say that guys don't like it when girls make the first move because most videos I watch with this title say that guys love it when girls make the first move.
Well, they probably ought not to lol, imo guys need to have courage to ask a girl out, cuz if they can't muster the courage for even that, you can hardly trust them to have courage in other situations. Speaking as a guy lol, do correct me
Oh really?? That’s interesting! Welcome to 2022 I guess 🤣
Nate is completely right. If a man isn’t willing to lead and start the relationship who’s to say he will start leading once they get married and more stressful things happen.
@@Sharpman76 As a girlie, I think men should lead out. For the most part women have taken over the men, but it’s the men’s fault. Stand tall, take the reins and be manly men. We’ll probably fight it, but we’ll get over it😀! It really is what we need.
@@Sharpman76 Interesting point of view. I don't see it as a lack of courage. Sometimes the girl just gets to it first. To me, it seems like the opposite of a lack of courage. If a girl making the first move makes a guy so insecure that he is turned off by that, then he may not be emotionally stable.
I’m usually very encouraged by your videos but this one was in poor taste. Not ever having a boyfriend or dating is a big insecurity of mine. I was born with a digestive disorder that do make gastrointestinal issues worse for me than the average female. I don’t have a very typical feminine personality, and I’ve endured years of having guy friends “treat me like a bro” while my more feminine friends are asked out and flirted on left and right. Luckily, God has brought me to a point where I’m happy with my current state of singleness, but that doesn’t mean my insecurities have gone away. For any young, insecure female out there watching this video and feeling like “oh guys could never be attracted to me”, please know that God cherishes you. You were beautifully and wonderfully made by Him. You do not have to be stereotypically feminine to be beautiful. What does make you beautiful is a heart that pursues Christ and trusts him in all things, and I’m sad that this video did not address more of that.
Try to ignore basically all of this video - it was garbage.
I’m 27, recently married with IBS, and possible chrohns being investigated. I am also pregnant which doesn’t help matters in that department - my husband even when dating has always been very supportive and never once ‘grossed out’ by any of this! We talk very openly. Also, we are all human beings, who have to function, please try not to put yourself down or tell yourself you’re less attractive because of this ❤️
We of course agree with this. No where did we say that people aren’t cherished or beautiful or not feminine by what they do or don’t do. All the answer to that question was was a personal preference. Yes, they are normal body functions, does it mean we want them done intentionally in front of each other? No (a personal preference that no one else has to have). Does it happen sometimes by accident? Yes. Does it make us less attracted to each other? No. Obviously that answer came off in a way we didn’t intend for it to to you and for that we’re sorry!
@@SophieMelissa in Jesus name, be healed.❤
Jesus paid for our healing already, so may he get what he paid for. In Jesus name, be healed❤. Also, receive grace and peace in Jesus name.
Part 2 please.
"If you have underarm hair, you may be able to find some hobo but that's it" 😂 😂 😂
I'm so glad this guy doesn't have a daughter.
When Nate said “some hobo in Oregon” I laughed because I’m from Oregon and that’s kind of true!
🤣🤣
I also laughed out loud because I’m from the PNW and we make those kind of jokes.
Same
I was fascinated to hear what people think of Oregon 🤣😆
I love this!! Really good answers Nate, and the both of you are so funny 😂
You guys are soo funny. You make me so excited for marriage. For real yall are so funny i cant even express
I'm a guy and everything Nate said I agree with 👍
Sutton is so beautiful, you guys are such a sweet couple!
Thank you guys!
1:35 I usually answer all texts but if I leave you on read it’s probably because theres a dead end in the convo or did it by accident. Some guys do it to be Hollywood and never open any of there messages have like 100 unopened messages
I love how Nate keeps it 100!
Haven’t watched for a while. Boy! You guys have really opened up! Lol!
😂
One man I Dated turned away after He Noticed I was too interested...
Can you do a video of what are a few examples of bold questions please?
Being grossed out by body hair and burping? Are you 12? Grow up.
" What if the girl is just fun" that was soo funny 8:42
I can’t wait for the opposite version of this video :)
You,LL be waiting!!