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- In this video, we're going to talk about the phenomenon called projection. Projection is a defense mechanism used to deal with feelings of insecurity and inadequacy. We all have times when we project our own insecurities onto other people. Sometimes, this happens unconsciously, and we don't even realize it. In this video, we're going to explore the different ways in which projection can occur, and how you can overcome it. By understanding projection, you'll be able to stop falling victim to it and start living your life to the fullest!
DISCLAIMER: This article is meant for educational purposes. We are not attacking or diagnosing any individual(s). If you feel you or a loved one is projecting onto others, please contact a mental health professional.
Did you know that your trauma can cause unhealthy coping mechanisms? We made a video all about that here: • How Your Trauma Explai...
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References
ChoosingTherapy.com. (2022, October 11). Projection: Definition, Examples, & Use as a Defense Mechanism. Choosing Therapy. www.choosingtherapy.com/projection/
Gillette, H. (2021, October 22). What Is Projection? Psych Central. psychcentral.com/health/what-is-projection
Newman, L. S., Duff, K. J., & Baumeister, R. F. (1997). A new look at defensive projection: Thought suppression, accessibility, and biased person perception. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 72(5), 980-1001. doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.72.5.980
Brenner, G. We Project Onto Romantic Partners Our Own Desires to Cheat. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/experimentations/201710/we-project-romantic-partners-our-own-desires-cheat
MyTherapist.com. What Is Projection Psychology and What Does It Reveal About People? www.mytherapist.com/advice/psychology/what-is-projection-psychology-and-what-does-it-reveal-about-people/
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Are you guilty of projecting? If you are, how do you prevent yourself from doing it?
by learning about it :0?
Propbaly By learning about it
Unfortunately this is something I’m definitely guilty of. Sometimes I don’t even realize I do it but when I do the main way I prevent it is by being more self aware about how I feel and why I’m scribing the way I am. Just being honest with yourself really helps so I hope this helps someone else! ❤
By learning psych2go
I'll admit, I'm guilty of this. I think the best I can do is learn about and monitor my actions. I do fail from time to time since I'm only human, but at least I'm doing my best to not become so projective and those of you who are in the same boat as me should feel proud for trying your best.
I think projection happens because the insecure person wants to believe that another person has that same thing that they're insecure about, so they can feel better about themselves.
interesting!
Wow i’ve never really thought about it that way.
Yep
As someone who does defensive projection, *yep*
The way people continually project onto me is the reason I’ve become even more selective social than I already am. I don’t have the patience for it 😭
Predators have almost telepathic skills to detect ppl’s weaknesses. I think its better to learn about all kinds of predators, narcissists, etc etc to be at least fully educated and develop one’s strategies and tactics for defence at different situations.
Me too now there is no one left, o well 😊 better no one than to deal with toxic miserable people
Timestamps
1). Repression 0:40
2). Reaction 1:36
3). The blame game 2:33
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Welcome back, A55a551n5.
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@@sbplankton_1999 I never leave but thank you
Thank you so much❤without your help i would have to watch the video twice bc it is not my mother language
@@graceandglory9743 not a problem happy to help
We all know and love this guy
I just lost my “best friend” two days ago because they projected their insecurities onto me and I couldn’t be bothered fighting for someone who actively wanted the worst for me. Sucked, but I’ll find better cause I deserve it and I’ll keep moving forward.
Great mindset 🙌🙌🙌
Yea u will!!!!
Great attitude!!
same girl that girl only saw the worse on me
Tell her I think she sucks. Or don’t. Yeah you probably shouldn’t talk to her. But if you do, tell her a random internet person said she sucks 😎
word for word my dad once told me "you'll never succeed in life without me." he really never could've been more wrong.
You are more courageous then you know, stronger beyond measure and worth more to your fellow humans then one can imagine! :)
I’m going to give him the benefit of doubt without full context. I have a feeling he meant the statistics of children without active fathers on their lives.
@@ceasetheday87 no trust me his intentions were malicious. he was/is a raging alcoholic and abuser simple as that.
@@ceasetheday87 he was an/is a abusive alcoholic. second off keyboard warrior why are you running to this man's rescue. of all people
@@thatguy7249 Thank you for giving additional context on your father. I am no keyboard warrior and didn’t really rescue or defend anyone. As an impartial third party, I was providing what I thought was additional context to what your father might have meant.
Unfortunately this is something I’m definitely guilty of. Sometimes I don’t even realize I do it but when I do the main way I prevent it is by being more self aware about how I feel and why I’m acting the way I am. Just being honest with yourself really helps so I hope this helps someone else! ❤
Me too, I've accused people of being Insecure and indecisive multiple times, when that description could easily apply to me as well! 😂
You are humble and that is holy...
I'm definitely guilty of it as well
I think that everyone is guilty of it, but no one should blame theirselvs for it as its just human nature to have flaws, no one is perfect but we can strive to be better as its great to be a better person
“Every human walks around with a certain kind of sadness. They may not wear it on their sleeves, but it’s there if you look deep.”
first episode of mr robot,
and the legion of warhammer that likes warp talons and jetpacks alot.
to know where you live is knowing you cant escape it,so you like things that have to do with it and look cool/intersting.
if i like it,it might make the warp weird because it just keeps saying whats already real and says its real in the warp too now.
When I was younger, I would project my insecurities to people who were either more mature than me or were successful and I was jealous of them. One of the several things I suffer particularly the most with is comparing myself with others
, without being content with myself. I really want to solve this and build confidence. It's really painful to struggle with my overthinking controlling my insecurities 😢
Just love urself
Projecting insecurities onto others is a common defense mechanism used by people to avoid dealing with their own issues.
Actually, the way I stopped projecting my ideas and own worries to other ppl is the same way I stopped worrying about other ppls projection, I simply stoped caring too much about others opinions on me. Yes when someone important like family or friends say something about you it's harder not to worry about it but I started analysing every opinion and if it's suitable for me and my own thoughts and goals in life. And at the same time this helps with my own projections because now I think more if my opinion is worth or not to say it. It's more simple than it looks...
I had to change myself for myself.
Let them be wrong about You.
There is nothing for you to prove.
This seems like something everyone has done a least once in there lives.
Everyone does it.
If someone is extremly emotional and blaming people for everything,
they probally are really guilty.
Lmao not me
Projection is so painful & it can actually mess you up mentally. Seriously, i just found out someone was projecting their insecurities onto me & tbh it’s quite sad. It took a toll on my mind tremendously and made me have thoughts i never have. She also made ppl harass me also.
IKR a coworker at work projected on to me and it broke my trust with her and also made me upset that she thinks I'm some disney type villain when I'm minding my own business & doing nothing.
I was raised by a mother and a father who had a very difficult childhood and they projected EEEEEEVERYTHING ON ME. My mom told me stuff to me that regarded my appearence such as "you're too fat, no man will like you like that, "I'm thinner than you and I'm older (when she was obviously not thinner than me)", "no man will like a person that behaves like you (talking about my personality and my way of being)" and more and more.. My father always told me I'm dumb. I remember being a kid and doing math homework, and he was teaching me and I couldn't understand, and he would just be soooo mad when I did a question and said I didn't understand, he was like "HOW DID YOU NOT UNDERSTAND????!!!! OMG.." and then I just felt sooooo bad cause I really wanted to understand it and I just wanted him to explain me again. I learned English by myself and my father listen to songs in english and he calls me to translate it for him, and if I take A SECOND to process the phrase he says "HA, YOU DON'T KNOW ENGLISH!!!!". Dude, I'm starting to realize soooooo much stuff in my life! No wonder I ended up being in a relationship with a BIG NARCISSIST who told me "I ALMOST CHEATED ON YOU AND IT WAS YOUR FAULT" and I STOOD IN THAT RELATIONSHIP EVEN AFTER THAT AND MAAAAANY OTHER HARD STUFF FROM HIM. He was really inconsiderate of me and my needs, just like my parents were, and would always put me down when I came to him talking about something that I achieved. Everyone says I'm a good singer, AND I KNOW I AM! I LEARNED IT BY MYSELF AS WELL! My boyfriens would say stuff like "people on the internet are fake and they will tell you good things just to bootlick you", and I would answer "C'MON.... More than a hundred people liked my video that I was singing and once a person from another country found and shared my video out of nowhere!" and he would say nothing. I think I'm adhd and since I was a kid I was treated differently by my family, which led me to think that I'm worthless or just dumber than everyone cause I was very clumsy since I was a child, and being treated differently made me feel like a burden or a shame, and till this day I do EVERYTHING TO SHOW OFF and show my parents and my family that I have good stuff about myself so they can value me. I know I'm very intelligent, creative, kind hearted, but not accomplishing material things make me feel like shit and less valuable. I never have dated someone, like, in a reaaal relationship till last two years ago and I was soooooo desperate to be in a relationship with someone that would love me and want to spend time with me and love me for who I am, and I started to think that my mom was actually right, that I was not pretty enough and that I couldn't find any boyfriends because of that and because of my personality, that I'm too outgoing and too outspoken when someone does something wrong to me and "man don't like woman that are like that" (cause they like quiet and submissive woman who can't voice themselves right? Hahaha), and I ended up being with a narcissist that would lie to me ALL THE TIME, not considerate things that were important to me, only what was important to himself. I would accompanied him on whatever he liked to do, and I supported him as well on the things he liked, but I never got that back. He would only make promises and promises and I was there, patiently waiting for him.. he was never wrong.. it's not like I accepted everything and didn't voice my opinions, I FRICKING DID IT, A LOT OF TIMES, but the thing is: I WOULD ALWAYS STAY AND GIVE HIM ANOTHER CHANCE.... I've always found people in my life that would abuse me and project their insecurities in me, cause I'm a good listener, a good friend, I care about people genuinely, and I'm basically a magnet of abusers 😅 I had many "best friends" that would do that to me and I wouldn't say a thing when they made "jokes" about me, always putting me down. I take a long time to cut these people out of my life cause I forgive and forgive and forgive their bad actions... But I'm learning how to protect myself more and after this relationship with the narcissist I'm beginning to realize SOOOOO MUCH STUFF!!!! My parents till this day abuse me and project their insecurities on me, but I'm trying each day to set my boundaries and not let them do bad stuff to me! My mom aaaaalways victimize herself when I call her out but I don't fall for this anymore, cause I know she's trying to make me feel like a horrible person for not accepting her bad behavior and arguing with her... I've had abusive people next to me and I didn't learn how to protect myself but I promise you (I mean, I promise MYSELF hahaha): I WONT LET ANYONE PUT ME DOWN ANYMORE!!!! I know I'm not perfect and that I have lots of stuff to better in myself but I'm not useless, I'm not stupid, I'm not ugly (I'm fucking pretty, to be honest hahaha), I'm a nice and kind person, I'm bubbly and like making people laugh and have a good time, I change people's lives and I want to become a therapist cause I'm a good listener and a I give good advices, I KNOW I'M WORTHY OF TRUE LOVE AND EMPATHY AND RECOGNITION!!!! I'LL TAKE CARE OF MYSELF AND I WILL NOT LET PEOPLE RIDICULE ME ME ANYMORE! I'LL BE MY OWN BEST FRIEND AND I'LL BE A PERSON WHO CAN TAKE CARE OF MYSELF AND BE INDEPENDENT, EVEN THO I MIGHT STRUGGLE!
Weeew.. I just had to let that out haha thanks if you read all of this 😅
I actually did read it,hope you are doing well 🙏🏻
@@alek8600 thank you so much for reading and wishing me well! I really appreciate it! 🙏🏻
@@ingrid5944 no problem,you know when you are a good person we should learn to value and appericate ourselves more. I learned that recently and i am grateful for that. So props to you also,hope you do the same!
I feel like I just read my whole life. Thank you for sharing. I am in the same boat, and it’s the most amazing feeling to know we see our worth, despite everyone trying to bring us down. That takes real strength ❤️
@@rawr417 Hi! I didn't even remember I posted this comment. Now, you answered to it and I read all of it again, and it's funny and bizarre that I'm feeling very very down lately, because of ex boyfriend and my mom (we had a big argument, she threw things at me, including a glass cup, saying that she wanted to kill me. Yep, that's what happened), and thanks to you I can remember that I'm on this journey of protecting myself for spoon long! It's like I had to remember myself through my 8 month late comment here that I have to keep it going. Thanks for that! Thank you for reading an replying! I'm sorry that you've been through all of that. I know how you feel. I feel really sad, numb, tired and empty right now. I feel like I lost my boyfriend and my mom at the same time. I don't trust her and now I'm sure I don't trust her. Respecting myself is hard, I'm not used to it, and it causes a lot of anger in people that abuse you, when you stand for yourself and reply back to them. They feel like they've lost control. Yes, you're right! It's amazing to recognize our own worth! I'm fighting to have that feeling again inside me. I will start college in psychology this year, and I'm hoping to meet like-minded people and learn more about the human mind. I will overcome all of this, and so will you! I wish you good luck! ❤️❤️❤️
I’m that one person who took people’s comments about me seriously. My insecurities got the best of me and now it’s causing me frequent mood swings and strive to be perfect. I feel the pain but don’t want to admit in front of all the people that I trusted. As a result, i started to hate and look down at myself. I just want to be normal.
Try being alone or talking to someone?
just remember you are loved :) and that you are the ONLY YOU!!! isn't that beautiful?!?!? there are millions of people and you are the only one like you, you can be, pretty, smart, handsome, and whatever you want :) dont let others get you down
You aren't alone remember to love yourself though like look at yourself or something like that and tell yourself one thing you love about yourself it personally helps me whenever I'm feeling really insecure and wanting to feel normal or wanting to be perfect
It sounds like itd be nice if you could shift your perspective a little. For example, take a break and travel somewhere far where no one knows you and make some social connections or activities there. Or, you can start visiting psychologist sessions to work this problem out.
You Are Normal. My mantra is watch don't fix. The way people speak to you is your own projection and judgment and insecurities. I'm currently dealing with this, pitting hand is just up palm toward the person and saying live and let Live, for them somewhere else
I can definitely relate to the reaction one. My ex had expressed concerns that she would never be able to become a therapist (her dream job), and I told her that my goal was to become a professional musician. When we broke up, she said "I don't see you going anywhere in life, you'll just be sitting in your hole, playing guitar and writing songs that no one listens to."
Wow! I had a similar situation. When I tried to reconcile at one point with my ex he told me I had abandonment issues and I was sick. I am diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and CFS. He has a mild brain injury that he refuses to get help with 🤔. Oh and he told me I was projecting. I had no response at all. I actually felt sad for him.
Gaslighting and projection...what many do online especially trolls online.
I find it likely that every single one of us has projected our insecurities at some point. What we NEED to do is embrace our insecurities as an integral part of ourselves. As long as we project them we avoid taking responsibility for actually addressing them. When we don't address these insecurities our inner demons eventually come out and start causing damage. When we embrace our insecurities and then continue to embrace them we ironically begin to slowly improve in those areas, laying the foundation for turning our inner demons into inner angels. So, embrace your insecurities. It's going to be okay, in the end. 😇❤
How can i embrace my insecurities?
@@yuu_miran
Conquering and then embracing your insecurities comes down to letting go of pridefulness. As uncle Iroh said, "Pride is not the opposite of shame, but its source". And the way to let go of pridefulness is to identify the area of life in which you should take responsibility. The way to identify your area of responsibility is to look at what gives you joy.
If you delight in freedom of choice then take responsibility for getting your performance right and never cutting corners.
If your idealism is what gives you joy then always keep gathering new information and points of view.
If you get joy from solving problems for others then make sure to adhere to proper social norms.
If exploring new things gives you joy then give everyone warnings against danger.
If you delight in being desired then be dedicated and dutiful.
If caring for others is what gives you joy then be sure to always try to find the solution.
If you get joy from learning what smart people think then always stick to the morals, values and principles you believe in.
If giving others great experiences gives you joy then take responsibility for your destiny.
In taking responsibility you force yourself to let go of pride, because prideful people never take responsibility. And as they say, "Pride comes before a fall". When you are being prideful you tell yourself that you have no flaws. Your insecurities and the associated shame come from knowing that you actually do have flaws but still telling yourself or others otherwise. When you let go of pride the source of your shame is gone and the shame will be gone not too long after. There is no shame without pride just as there is no burning without oxygen. Without shame it is suddenly ok to have your flaws and insecurities.
In a nutshell, identify what brings you joy and then take responsibility based on that. Taking responsibility results in letting go of your pride. As a result of that you will eventually no longer feel shame for your insecurities. And at that point you have embraced your insecurities.
I love your videos and how much I've learnt from watching them, I've successfully been diagnosed with Anxiety and panic disorder from learning my signs, keep it up 😊
did you know everyone can hear really high or low sounds?
anyone can hear dogwistles too now.
anyone can know now,if your from a cold place or really hot place,
you cant hide on the internet anymore.
I extensively know by experience telling the other person they are projecting only makes matters worse
Same here. Got into an argument with a close friend of 10 years over petty minor issues and she started verbally attacking me, bringing up problems that were never discussed prior and accusing me of being a selfish person who thinks I’m better than everyone (which isn’t true at all), and so I tried pointing out that it feels she might be projecting. Then she said I was gaslighting her because I said that lol… needless to say I haven’t seen or spoken to her since. It’s sad but life goes on.
Very true. When someone tells me I am projecting on them I listen to see if I can correct the problem. I have noticed that when I tell someone they are projecting negatively on me, the get extremely angry at me. You see, I have held my tongue so much in my life that #1 they are shocked that I spoke up and didn't just roll with it like I use to. 2) they get so angry with me they end the friendship, block me, erase me. People do not want to be held accountable for what they do and say to others. Losing friends that I never thought I ever would broke me from investing more time into them because they would not do it for me. Obviously, my circle is very small nowadays.
Thank you for these signs ❤ people are always projecting themselves onto others and if you're not careful you can really be negatively affected by these projections
This happens all the time..like I can be just enjoying myself, then some mean people start criticising me all of a sudden based on how I look, what I wear..I mean com'on, don't project your expectations on me, just live and let live? I avoid such people like the plague.
Me too! Like the plague.
It’s painful when you loved someone deeply, and first knowing u were deeply wronged in a relational standpoint, but also the final nail in the coffin being a projection against u in a most painful manner that made you doubt your capacity for love of the one thing you loved more than anything, and then believing the doubt and fuelling your self-perception on it for the longest while afterwards
I'm sorry to hear that you've gone through such a painful experience. It can be incredibly difficult to heal from emotional wounds inflicted by someone we trusted and loved deeply. However, it's important to remember that the hurtful actions of others do not define your worth or your capacity to love. It's okay to take time to grieve and process your emotions, but please don't let this experience define you. You are strong and resilient, and you deserve love and happiness. Keep moving forward and focusing on your own healing and growth.
Do you know why their behaviour hurt you that much?
@@yuu_miran I send this comment in hopes for people to learn from my mistakes.
Its a mixture of both an unhealthy need for love and an inability to stand up for who one truly is (I'm talking about myself foremost). I did love this girl deeply, and obviously one gets more connected in a relationship over time. She was also my first, so the emotional connection was at peak and so was the idealisation.
However, I did not take care of myself well, and thus I couldn't take care of her, didn't stand up for my boundaries (didn't even completely know them at that time, or maybe it was bc I was afraid to lose her) and, the largest mistake in my eyes was solely tying my self-worth to the relationship. Such was what contributed to the growing pain.
I wasn't a responsible man entering the relationship and once the honeymoon phase fades, then we have to face ourselves and we weren't strong enough to face ourselves together. We had different responses to the dissoanance and ik both of our responses hurt each other, involuntary and voluntary.
In the end, she made some mistakes that I knew better to tolerate. I made mistakes too, but not to that level and I had to let her go, but the pain was unfathomable. Took almost a year and a half to heal, and I still have a long way to go
The core pain was knowing that I tried my best and It wasn't enough
@@Depletion13 now you have such a valuable experience. Hope your true love comes your way when the time is right🙏🏻🤗
@@yuu_miran Thank you bro🙏🏻
This is BY FAR my favorite video. Going through the worst right now, abandonment issues to the max just got out of a year and a half of this bull projection & abuse in all aspects. So ready for this new chapter really keep up the videos i love the diversity of the depth y’all research in all the videos
It's amazing how we subconsciously project our own insecurities onto other people. You are what you hate, indeed.
I project more happiness for my friends to feel better in the dark times.
Would lie that I never had a negative projection. But that's in the past.
Recently confessed to my only irl friend I known for years that I love them. They are currently not looking for a relationship at the moment due too relationship experiences (which was online for them). I am fine with them taking a break from that. I love them equally for who they are and will try to protect them.
Even though me and him are different, him being a extrovert, plays VRChat, and gets popularity to the friend group.
Me, an omnivert(mostly introvert) that plays games and relax for most part and have fun with life.
I only hope that people never project their harsh mindsets onto others. Instead, cherish with those before you. In the end, people are with you for a reason.
I can can hear the voice.
Suprise type if you were lieing.
People lie,and munipulate criminals always lie.
@@soccerandtrack10 You are correct, people do lie, manipulate, and do so much worse.
I'm sure everyone has done something that they regret doing in their lives, I know I did.
That taught me to be a better person.
Brought up with my father doing this. I am never felt good enough and still have a issue with admiration from others. I wished I had of learnt earlier about Narcesstic father's it all made sense when I began to research why I am the way I am. I believe that this stuff show be learnt in school's.
If you want it in schools,the crazy criminals need to be in insane asylums first=they dont wear masks,
the other criminals are still wearing masks and pretending their for demicrats,(theres still criminals even if you get nazis away,the dark triad/evil empath type and other unknown ones dont care about politcal parties,criminals use 1 or all of them to get power or hide,
hiding is why not everyone with a mask is for freedom,they just say they are and do the same stuff the nazis do but wear a mask(litterly and wearing a mask.)
if their for corperations/monopilees and wear a mask=criminal.
other criminals=?
i do know i could be making paranoid.
just focus on what you want for fun or other stuff.
Indeed. If only children could be taught about narcissists as early as in school years so many grief coukd be prevented. But im afraid the rulers of this world who are narcissists themselves are not interested in people getting more educated on the topic.
It's ok, everyone is good enough, it's just assholes who act like you're not good enough because they also think they're good enough.
My mother and several others I’ve met have this tendency. It may come off as cold to them but I just started rather exhausted my explaining why I understood their point but didn’t agree with it and wouldn’t be taking their “advice”
My mom was projecting on me a few days ago, but the thing she’s accusing me of, she’s good at. But she’s saying I can’t be a wife, a mother, or an employee how I am. I think she doesn’t want me to be these things because she knows I will leave her & she doesn’t want to be alone. She even told her sister that night “why did you let me marry (my dad)? I would probably still be with my husband” they got divorced a while back
Let your mother take responsibility for her life choices. Not leaving her side wont help that.
Why didn't I find this channel sooner?!
so sad when i explain my insecurities to them
and felt close enough
for her to project her insecurities and blame me
How does she always know what is happening in my life?
I remember I was in a group of friends in a fandom, and even though I was diagnosed with autism at the time. I had some people projected their insecurities to me and they were... emotional damaging. Like it was upsetting as idk why they acted like that. What made it worst, only a few people defended me but I ended up getting rejected by friends... im getting better now with threapy but it still hurts
Unfortunately, not many people can fully understand and empathize with the ppl on the spectrum. However, its not only them who get damaged by the insecure theres a whole bunch of people out there who sadly get damaged by all kinds of evil every day - narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths, just insecure or dishonest people. The thing we can always do though is growing some bone day by day, theres really no benefit of waiting others to treat you nice. Stay strong and focus on yourself and whats most important to you, your values.
Sadly one of the people in my friend group project their feelings on to most people. One time, to sum it all up, I got a better test grade than her on a math test and I didn't think it was a big deal. She then started calling me stupid and that she was smarter than me. No, I didn't listen to her and my friends were kind enough to back me up.
Timestamp about 3 Sings someone is projecting their insecurities into You
0:00 intro
0:40 Num 1# Repression
1:36 Num 2# Reaction
2:33 Num 3# The blame game
3:23 final thoughs/outro
Projecting or not? If You can do, How You prevent By yourself from The others? ❤️🙂🙁😨😡❤️
I have been projected onto ALL MY LIFE!
Anyone else wish they could time travel to when you were a kid and give yourself a lesson in what this is?? That would be sweet. There are things that others said that seemed to come out of nowhere growing up, that I played over and over and over in my mind. We do crazy things to each other! Good to know about it so we can heal.
I watched this and was like, man I wish I’d seen this sooner! This would have helped me so much! I honestly feel like personalizing projections and being so enmeshed and hooked on others’ approval has taken a huge toll on my mind. I am working on myself actively. But man it eroded my self-worth through the years. I know I’m responsible for that - I’m the one who let it. I guess I didn’t know what I was doing either. Anyway. I have also projected plenty. I think I’m getting healthier and facing the hidden insecurities … but I do feel the blame and finger pointing creeping in. Let healing come.
I appreciate my soulmate 💞💋 for sharing this video with me 💓🙏🏾
when people being judgmental to you or always bringing you down they are projecting themselves so Don’t take it as your fault or personal because it’s their own business and not on you
another video for us viewers. thanks!
My narcissistic ex tried to use literally anything he could possibly think of as a reason/excuse for our breakup when it was sooo obvious he was projecting all of his own insecurities and issues onto me.
It was embarrassing to see this coming from an almost 30yr old.
my mother is like this sadly..
Same.
Oh shoot! My music therapist, my mom, my husband and everyone else is right! I do bottle up my emotions and expect my life to be perfect all the time, and I am expecting everyone else to live a life without struggles. I am using a lot more healthy coping skills to deal with my emotions. Music is my best friend, plus a number of other coping skills. But I expect these coping skills to erase all negative emotions for good to where I never feel them again. And I expect other to never feel negative emotions, even if it’s natural sadness or anger or crying. I really need to work on this. I honestly don’t mean to project anything onto anybody.
This is realistic.
@@soccerandtrack10 understandable
Does it make any better if you DONT MEANT IT?
@@yuu_miran that’s why you have to work your butt off and put in the effort in doing it. Some people don’t mean what they said, but I do. I’m just extremely uncomfortable with feeling unpleasant emotions. Are you saying this because you feel this way about yourself?
@@yuu_miran oh, I’m so sorry, I miss-read your comment. I understand what you’re saying now. I’m not sure if it does make it better if I don’t mean it or not. But I’d have to guess probably not. Again, I do apologize for miss-reading your comment. Just ignore my previous reply. I’m totally blind, so I use text-to-speech on my phone, and I’m currently using a voiceover with an Australian accent, and I thought she was saying something different than what the comment actually said.
You have a nice therapist…
Yep and thanks for your help today.
Thankyou for this good and helpful video
Psych2go !!!!
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Well can u make a video how undiagnosed depression can affect on you?if u can plz do bc I really love your content and it helped me more to know about mental issues and illnesses, it really helps and the way you represent stuff is so comforting do plz keep it up
There is an anonymous saying: “It’s not happiness that brings us gratitude. It’s gratitude that brings us happiness.“
If you look around yourself right now (or look within) listen for a surge of gratitude. Or even a little trickle. Breathe in. Let your shoulders drop as you exhale. When it comes to you, note it here.
Hey Psych2Go, I’m not sure if you will see this but this is worth a try.
I’m continuously feeling a chest pain when a sad emotion triggers when someone has hurt me mentally or emotionally, do you think you could look into that and have reasons of why I’m feeling that way?
If you do it would mean a lot to me knowing the cause of why I’m hurting so much. ❤️
First, you need to get tested at the hospital. Ive been recently having chest pains and i think its a serious problem to address
@@yuu_miran
Thank you for your concern, I will ask my parents to take me. But it really depends on my emotions at night cause it doesn't always happen. Though if it really starts to hurt or burn I will go. But thanks again!!
@@kiranannanananna it doesnt really matter when and if, generally if you feel slightest discomfort in the chest its really necessary to get checked. Heart is a very important organ to be ignored.
People who project can never self reflect their own emotions.
great content ❤❤
recently i’ve felt like i’ve been getting cheated on due to the distance between who i love and me and the decrease in time spent together overall. i accused her of cheating but i never thought of cheating on her nor did i ever i just want to spend time with her yet idk how to word it to her in order to make sure we end up not getting annoyed at each other as anything i mention that im concerned about she seems to not even care to acknowledge. if someone has a suggestion? please tell me as i love her and don’t wish to lose her.
Hey! I was just wondering if you could maybe do some stuff with online friends! I sometimes see that some of the stuff you guys do is like in real life! I would love to watch a good online one of your videos so I can double check a friendship-
Anyways thank you for all yall do! It truely helps!!
in the last year of high school before graduating, i met someone who criticized the way i communicate and behave in the first place and tell me I'm "illegible" and want me to work on my skills. even though i tell them i'm learning but turned out they're weirded out. which they're projecting insecurities due to its obvious they have mental problems based on their trauma. so, i decided if i stay away from these types of people because of my barely familiar experiences with them. it is what it is
Hi tysm for ur content
“I’m not projecting. You’re projecting!”
Please do a video about overthinking and self harm.
"I am not the demon you refuse to see in yourself." Craig D. Lounsbrough
Clicked as soon as I got the noti😎
this background music go hard
I would say this is by far the most difficult emotion to contain and to discover in others.
to be honest i do sometimes project my insecurities to others, but mostly through my thoughts, i don't really say it out loud. It kind of scares me sometimes, because im a kind person. But when i see somethin like a happy couple i feel bad that i dont have that, then i see someone whos single like me, and i kinda feel bad about them. and despite me knowing this is wrong i keep feeling this way, and i just wonder. would i see others as inferior if i ever find a lasting relationship? I don't want to be this type of person. So everyday i try to tell myself to stop thinking that way, its mean.
what really helped me was seeing happily single poeple, who i kinda look up to because of that, and it helps me feel better about myself when i see and have proof, that people can strive no matter that kinda stuff. kinda weird to explain, But i'm trying not to judge everyone i see so negatively, and i try not to think about those silly little things, and i can say depsite the regressions, i've grow more so a little bit stronger and more self-confident.
Same here about being single and feeling bad about it. What I know is any unhealthy relationship feels worse than that and Jesus always helps to control my thoughts and see others with more loving eyes.
@@graceandglory9743 you should try to have a ()freind if you want one,
i dont know if you get turned on though but dont want one.
Werent you calling a "dooooog"?,
because dogs protect from wolves who acts like sheeps.
How do you say to a friend in a nice way that he/she is projecting onto you and needs to stop it? Maybe it's done unintentionally but it needs to be stopped...for the health of everyone!
Something complicated is that sadly the things people projected onto me were true on some level. I went to college in Stem and got ragged on/picked on. Something to note is that I was in an environment full of people who were also intellectual like me and there were no stereotypical jock bullies. So what I’d say is that in an intellectual environment, smart bullies are more dangerous than regular bullies. These people are dangerous because they study others and dig deep. What I’d hear is stuff like why specifically I’m stupid or weak. What’s worse is that I was in an environment where people encouraged this behavior. They thought that it’s wonky logical to scrutinize and “destroy” weakness.
But what I’d say is that even if a bully is partially right by making fun of your intelligence, you should not take it anyway. I don’t think anyone should take stuff like that because anyone can have insecurities like that and being right (factually correct) doesn’t make it right to do what you’re doing. Me personally, I’m never going to pick on someone I think is stupid nor would I even try to find or see why someone is stupid in the first place.
I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through such a difficult situation. It's never okay for someone to belittle or bully others, regardless of their intellectual abilities. It's important to remember that you are not defined by what others say about you, and you are capable of achieving great things regardless of what they may think. It's also important to recognize that true intelligence involves empathy, kindness, and respect towards others, and not just academic achievements. Don't let the actions of others dim your light, and keep shining bright. - Cindy
I bet those intellectual bullies are perfect hunans themselves thats why they feel like they have right to put fingers at someone else’s weakness and mock them without giving a gentle direction to move to turn your weakness into a strength, right?
Thank you Psych2Go for sharing this video😊😊...but the question is how to deal with these type of people...in our daily life ??
I’m so tired of “friends” doing this to me. It’s so annoying and frustrating.
Thank you for this video ❤ This is what I needed to be a better boyfriend
projection is my biggest problem...
Listening to someone project insecurities is for reaching for damaging when you don't put a stop to it. It's easy to remove yourself from a situation it's even harder to try to help the person in the midst of trying to help someone right. I guess you have to remember that they're sick and that they need to deal with it the shadow work if they don't want to do it how do you help them? Perseverance at what cost does that come to the person that's helping
I remember being so proud of myself the first time I was able to quickly notice someone projecting onto me. It’s such an interesting insight you can gain into someone w/o them even realizing what they are sharing.
For context: I’m the type of person who likes to taunt and tease for my own amusement.
There was this girl who I remembered saying “don’t let him mess with you, he just wants attention”.
I was so amused by that assessment - considering it was so far removed from my intentions - that I couldn’t help but feel that was her attempt to rationalize my behavior, by using herself as an example.
Kinda as if she was thinking: “well I do it for such reasons, therefore that must be why he does it too”.
Can you make a video on how to know when you need a mental hospital? And what to expect etc?
*Of course I know that someone, it’s me!*
I thought everyone had same problems as me i was prejudiced..and there were people who would have outburst if anger on me but i knew i was not at fault.
Hello I live phsych2go and your videos always make me happy, I was wondering if I could ask a personal question
welp thats my friend,
thnx for letting me know bc your signs actually were right
@2:52 desire to cheat...you mean the person has cheated!"🙄
nice video 👍
I’ve dealt with this a lot in my life
Learning to see projection allows you to know if an argument is between the two of you or if they are arguing with themselves. Learning to see when people are arguing with themselves gives you the ability to let up and change the subject. If they are arguing with themselves, you have zero chance to win that argument.
after watching this video it's still hard for me to spot projection
I love the background music, what is it called?
Yes. I have been a frequent victim of this... All three of these... But not from a romantic partner... but from a family member which is worse.
My sister. she's done all three because she sees me as weak, she's even said that she's not happy unless she's dominating everything that's happening at a party she's at.
I want to have chats with people and I won't always agree with them, this is fine as it shows they value my company enough to be able to disagree with me on various subjects.
My sister however, gets angry about it.
My family does this via "drilling" where you just keep saying the samething over and over again as the only topic of conversation...no new solutions just kind of nagging and pondering...
If someone close to you is projecting onto you, like calling you a narcissit, what are effective actions to take?
After watching this i now have this in my mind you know that drama about twitter trying to cancel mrbeast maybe the people who are trying to cancel mrbeast have insecurity like try to think in almost every drama twitter always get overreacted when mrbeast is doing something good even when he did not do anything wrong and tried to cancel mrbeast even when they dont have any single envidence they still try to cancel mr beast so maybe that is why there is so many drama about twitter cancelling mrbeast
Thank you. I have a question I'm an introvert but I've noticed I've become a bit less hard to get along maybe is the people. But my character is sometimes introverted or extrovert. Im not sure whether I'm an Ambiavert. Could you do a video on Ambiavert. Their character, love life and interaction with people🙂😔👋
At times I may have and then some did project those. Most would be those relatives of mine.
this is a very useful video… for more social analyzing lol
People have projected their insecurities onto me which lead me to project mine onto my brother and others.
I was looking for this. Parents do this.
It’s 4:00 am, I cannot sleep, so I’m going to watch this
4:00 AM and can't sleep so watch this. then lay awake until 8, overthinking everything said in this video and the rest of the rabbit hole it sent you down?
I have told my coworker that the way he speaks to me is aggressive ever since he is walking around telling everyone that I am aggressive 😅
I think i have been doing it, and vice versa
This is weird... just posted a comment on your second newest video yesterday about being told off by someone for being untidy on my section at work when it really wasn't that messy... not sure if that's projecting or not, I took it personal as I assumed I was very defensive, got more defensive when I heard it snigger at me saying "Ok." in quite a stern tone... hmm..
I've probably projected onto many people but I now notice that my mom might have projected something onto me. When I told her I weighed 65 she said "that's what I weighed when I met your dad, I was 20" she might have projected her own insecurity of her own weight and how she's having a really har time loosing any weight
Projecting is sometimes a more comfortable defense mechanism... In other situations, however, people just get tired of your bullshit whether you're being honest with your feelings or not (like my boyfriend, for example). I just feel like I'm circling back into this one habit because dealing with my insecurities is easier said than done.
Regardless, it’s still not okay
I have a certain friend who recently has acted kinda strange. Kinda like what they were saying didn't seem to match up with their actions or what they've said in the past. I kinda had a feeling they were somewhat projecting, even though they didn't get super mad or frustrated. When I watched this video, I was surprised to have answered "yes" to all of these signs (except the overreaction one was more of a "maybe"). I wish there was some way I could help my friend, I'm pretty sure they're going through something right now but they won't tell me anything 😔
Maybe if they won’t tell you, everyday you can tell them that it’s going to be okay and that you love them. It could make them feel better about themselves and maybe they’ll heal.
@@funnycadedishserver The thing is, I have a really good idea of what's going on (I've been through it). I fear that part of why they're acting this way is because of the high anxiety and therefore stress I've had recently. That is why I think your idea is a really good idea. Perhaps it will help them if I don't let my anxiety get the better of me
My oldest brother was always my favorite brother!
Later in life when I went through puberty I heard rumors about him being gay.
My mum even told me he was seen having sex with someone in our graden! He decided to merry and has two children now.
When I grew up to be a happy gay man, he never liked the fact that I was out.
He tried to "protect his children from me" even though they loved me because of who I was
Later he told me I am not a real man because a real man can't be "like you"!
i have been projecting my insecurities to my friend...how do i get help?