3 Reasons He Leaves You and Comes Back!

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  • @ladyboss2944
    @ladyboss2944 2 ปีที่แล้ว +447

    Dear women, please let's stop stressing Tony. He is doing all he can do, am so thankful for you Tony. You have changed my mindset and am at peace with life.
    Continue doing the lord's work, those that want to listen are listening and getting the RESULTS! Thank you Tony , once again.

    • @beefaye6861
      @beefaye6861 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Yasssss....this man is doing the most.

    • @marshagarrison8670
      @marshagarrison8670 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Chatt Cole 0⁰ĺ

    • @proudblackwoman4824
      @proudblackwoman4824 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      When I say this man has changed my life, he honestly has no idea. I haven't slept with a man since December 17th of 2020. I remember the day, time and hour. I been playing the game by MY rules all year long. These niggas won't so much as smell my perfume again until they learn to value me. Period. His messages helped me learn to truly love myself. I'm on a whole different playing field now and I have never been happier!

    • @Itismytime-Amen
      @Itismytime-Amen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ty Mr and Mrs Gaston. 💝

    • @vahuny2103
      @vahuny2103 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Chatt Cole
      0⁹ s.. a z .

  • @marilynking527
    @marilynking527 2 ปีที่แล้ว +713

    Ladies remember that no matter how many women some men sleep with or who they are with it’ll never be enough. It’s an empty void that only God can fill. No one outside of you should be responsible for your happiness. If a man leaves let him go or you’ll learn the hard way

  • @MultiNailz
    @MultiNailz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +668

    I married my high school sweetheart and have been married for 40 years. I put my husband on a pedestal and he left too many times than I can count. Now I know my worth and I’m a queen and now he wants to come back. I’ve shut that door and moving on. I now know what I’m worth and I will not settle. ❤️

    • @nikkif9873
      @nikkif9873 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I know that’s right 👑❤️

    • @ThePhoinix33
      @ThePhoinix33 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      ♥️♥️♥️♥️👑👑👑

    • @tiaisblessed5961
      @tiaisblessed5961 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I know that’s right Queen don’t look back ❤️

    • @micheleprice9771
      @micheleprice9771 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Settle FOR the BEST! AND LET GOD DO THE REST! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD HAS US COVERED! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT AND! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US ! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! SMILE ALWAYS!( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE In YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! SEPT 2021

    • @deelish1933
      @deelish1933 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Love it!!

  • @ltconyers78
    @ltconyers78 2 ปีที่แล้ว +310

    "He sees you as a wife...but he's not a husband." That says it all. Men ain't stupid. They know what a good woman looks like. They just hope they can get one with a low enough self esteem so that when he pops back in, she will be willing to deal with the bs. Over and over and over. I know. I have been there. If he wants to walk, let him. God was taking out the trash for you. Don't bring that filth back into your home. Cause after they been with somebody else, they don't even smell the same.

    • @Shae_3
      @Shae_3 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      💯

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      exactly, once your are gone, you are damaged goods, and I see you in a whole different light--things will never be the same!!

    • @MultiNailz
      @MultiNailz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      God was taking out the trash and I did just keep bringing it back in. Ugh. I thought it was good to try to keep the family together but I was not only bringing the trash back in but feeding it to my kids and everybody else. Never ever again. I think of myself as a Queen now and I know what a good man looks and feels like now and I’ll never go back to that.

    • @danaglover6801
      @danaglover6801 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      💯🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @shevettejackson.
      @shevettejackson. 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      100%

  • @RoosterLemonDoodles
    @RoosterLemonDoodles 2 ปีที่แล้ว +169

    But I’m telling you as a woman! These men and their Momma’s be the main ones who need counseling..

    • @stacybynum427
      @stacybynum427 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      YESSSSSSSSS

    • @reneef.874
      @reneef.874 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      This! Their moms coddle them, never hold them accountable. The upbringing says everything you need to know about a person.

    • @jillmariaplatteaux6083
      @jillmariaplatteaux6083 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      So true! Spoiled narcistic egocentric pricks!

    • @deniser.826
      @deniser.826 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Just found this channel n I'm already grateful. Thank you!
      And I agree with this comment,, totally!

    • @kerri.janelle
      @kerri.janelle 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      💯

  • @cherh
    @cherh 2 ปีที่แล้ว +270

    Women love asking that question. He come back cause he know he got a fool in you. You're his revolving door. You give him s*x, a place to lay-up, & food. If you don't love yourself enough to know you deserve better, what makes you think he loves you? He loves what you can do for him. Would you want a man to treat your daughter like that?

    • @laina1976
      @laina1976 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      They ask cause they know they gonna let him come back.

    • @cherh
      @cherh 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@laina1976 just wasting TG time. He can be helping someone that really wants the help.

    • @laina1976
      @laina1976 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That part

    • @mojadah10
      @mojadah10 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Want somebody to tell them something different.

    • @cherh
      @cherh 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@mojadah10 but in the end they'll get the same results from him...nothing

  • @breannn
    @breannn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +308

    I was so naive when it came to men until I found tony! I’m only 22, but I’m glad I’m learning about men at a young age.

    • @sunnyshonte5367
      @sunnyshonte5367 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      You are blessed took me over 20 years to figure this stuff out and I'm still learning

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      great !! stay young and single until GOD sends you your KING !! take nothing less and never compromise ... your morals, dignity, or body!!

    • @brittblessed
      @brittblessed 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      You are blessed. When I was your age, I was somewhere playing house with my ex....getting cheated on and abused. Glad you are learning early.

    • @ieshjust16
      @ieshjust16 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I'm 28 but I agree

    • @SugarfootHoney
      @SugarfootHoney 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I’m 22 too!

  • @Dr.Elaine1
    @Dr.Elaine1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +476

    “1. He wanted to cheat in peace.
    2. She didn’t want him.
    3. She was a downgrade.” TG

  • @ThePhoinix33
    @ThePhoinix33 2 ปีที่แล้ว +205

    Ladies know your worth.. Grown boys don’t deserve your time

    • @marilynking527
      @marilynking527 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Facts!!

    • @Salma_143
      @Salma_143 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Amen!! Never again!!!!! 🙌

  • @ms.liszz.9206
    @ms.liszz.9206 2 ปีที่แล้ว +321

    A wise woman will only get played one time when she is young and naive. After she mature she is the one that gonna rule the game with her wisdom. She knows when and how to stop foolishness in a heartbeat.

  • @Anonymiss-tp8ym
    @Anonymiss-tp8ym 2 ปีที่แล้ว +97

    Tony isnt lying. My ex started to act different, im not green so i knew he was cheating. I told him lets just be friends, he wanted to keep ties w/me & still do him. I hung on for a while bc i was attached then i had an epiphany and CUT HIM OFF out of nowhere. He sends random texts every blue moon but i never reply. He has a regular job but hangs w ball players and want their lifestyle. Im not a bookmark for you to come back after u feel youve had your fun. I went on bout my business.

  • @1999wrestler
    @1999wrestler 2 ปีที่แล้ว +171

    IF A MAN WANT TO WALK AWAY.. LET THEM GO.. BECUZ IN THE END GOD, WILL TURN EVERYTHING AROUND FOR OUR GOOD.. AND MUST I SAY A MAN KNOWS A GOOD WOMAN WHEN HE SEE ONE.. MOST OF THE TIME THEY ARE NOT READY FOR A COMMITMENT 😄😃..THANKS TONY FOR YOUR EXCELLENT ADVICE.. GREAT PERSENTATION 👍

    • @Lana-wd3nm
      @Lana-wd3nm 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      🙌

    • @micheleprice9771
      @micheleprice9771 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING AMAZING ENLIGHTENING WORDS OF WISDOM! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD HAS US COVERED! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! SMILE ALWAYS! ( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU!( GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOWL! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! SEPT 2021

  • @tiffineyena7001
    @tiffineyena7001 2 ปีที่แล้ว +172

    Tony said these men not doin right for Allah, Yeshua, Yahwey, God, Buddah, Prophet Muhammad, Hazos Christos, or Jesus Christ. That took me out. This was a total treat. Matter fact, let me rewind this. Lol!!! 🤣🙌🏾

    • @wechwech695
      @wechwech695 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      He’s so funny omg 🤣🤣🤣😭😩

    • @ericamcinnis7926
      @ericamcinnis7926 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😂😂😂😂

    • @TheEstherAcademy
      @TheEstherAcademy 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂😂

    • @SimplyFitwithJay
      @SimplyFitwithJay 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      That was the best part of the video 😂

    • @valgal36
      @valgal36 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      He covered it, sad but true!!

  • @wendywilliams3962
    @wendywilliams3962 2 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    I just can’t with men anymore. I am trying to believe there are good ones. But Lawwwd they keep showing me they are so selfish. The lies and betrayal. Women as objects.
    When will have to stop protecting ourselves from the ones that are supposed to protect us. Love to all the ladies who are rising. 👑

    • @Alabasterbox
      @Alabasterbox 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Fr fr its like we a hunting 🎮 for these assholes

  • @stephanienelly90
    @stephanienelly90 2 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    Tony was super young back then. Men still have these silly antics at 30.

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      55

    • @danaglover6801
      @danaglover6801 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@peacefaith560 Yes Lordt at 55. And that’s the sad part.

    • @danaglover6801
      @danaglover6801 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@mstenacious274 62 is even worse🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @danaglover6801
      @danaglover6801 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@mstenacious274 I’m 45 and they’re these kind in my age group as well, definitely. You just have to wonder really Y? Just Y? I hear Tony surely but what is there? A 40+ yr old man playing games is scary but at 62 still tryn it?😳😓

    • @danaglover6801
      @danaglover6801 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@mstenacious274 Facts on top of more facts👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @jennymoll442
    @jennymoll442 2 ปีที่แล้ว +154

    Also, I forgot to add, there are some men who won’t change for anyone. And who will marry who ever will put up with them.

    • @shutit4024
      @shutit4024 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yup my dad did that

    • @tenea24
      @tenea24 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      My fiancé is that man..so I took my baby and left two days ago. I’m giving myself at least two months and if I don’t see him doing what’s necessary to get US back, He’s out of luck. Im tired. 💁🏽‍♀️

    • @deniser.826
      @deniser.826 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@tenea24 that's awesome tho. You shld feel really good about yourself cuz I'm older n this is my 2nd Marriage n I've let him by w way too much n now I'm paying the price.....it's not good for your confidence (mine atleast)

  • @patwilson1257
    @patwilson1257 2 ปีที่แล้ว +141

    So to me it’s still a “stay off your back” situation. If he leaves YOU, you haven’t lost any thing. If You Leave him, you haven’t lost anything. He didn’t get a part of you, no soul ties.

    • @proudblackwoman4824
      @proudblackwoman4824 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Exactly sis! If you are not SLEEPING with these fools, you've lost absolutely NOTHING!!! The power we hold between our legs is priceless. These men are so butthurt when they realize their penis don't run shit over here! LOL

    • @joycewatt800
      @joycewatt800 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      U got it!!

    • @downbad2874
      @downbad2874 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ummm 🤔 your speaking as if this doesn’t apply to long term committed relationships

  • @Itismytime-Amen
    @Itismytime-Amen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    So in other words. Your Husband will listen to you. if he doesn’t then 1. HE’S NOT YOUR HUSBAND. 2. KEEP YOUR STANDARDS. 🙏🏾

  • @jessicascreenwritingservices
    @jessicascreenwritingservices 2 ปีที่แล้ว +110

    Over the years I've learned that a man can only leave and come back if we as women allow him to leave and come back into our lives. We as women have to adopt the attitude and mindset of once you blatantly disrespect and disregard me there is no coming back. Let them know that door is closed forever.

    • @irlandaise5631
      @irlandaise5631 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      if you have an opinion and your home and legs are closed until marriage..they dont come back..

  • @CoachLove
    @CoachLove 2 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    Whew. Once we're over, it's a done deal for me. No off and on revolving door policy. God gives chance, after chance, after chance, after.... My name is not Jesus...😅

  • @shawandabeasley142
    @shawandabeasley142 2 ปีที่แล้ว +108

    YES, going from relationship to relationship and still unhappy and miserable, the grass is never greener on the other side, and my ex is now regretting everything he has done to me, hes a grown boy that needs so many prayers and therapy.

    • @kudalavida3494
      @kudalavida3494 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      The grass is always greener where there is more manure... Mine has aged 3 centuries in 3 months since we broke up. Looking like who shot Johnny and forgot to kill him with his cougar old enough to be his grandmother. Left me a stable 34 year old. They need prayer, fasting, exorcism and therapy for life.

    • @helenaxxxx5015
      @helenaxxxx5015 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Don't you waste your time praying for him lol a man will change for who he wants to change for . Facts

    • @shutit4024
      @shutit4024 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same his ex girlfriend cheated on him with his friend 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      exactly !! they dont wanna do better, I warned my ex 25 years ago--prison or death if you dont leave those streets along...he got 28 years in prison!! hes almost 60 and nothing to show for it but aches, pains, misery and regret!!

    • @alyssakalette
      @alyssakalette 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I don't wish my ex of almost 12 years any harm or ill will, but i pray God will allow him to see my worth and how much of a treasure i am.. it's been a little over a month and i am still heartbroken.. i hope one day it hits him like a ton of bricks and he can't be without me and will do the work to win me back.. just my honest feelings.. i hope that grass ain't greener on the side he's on.. please pray for me 🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @kreeves7819
    @kreeves7819 2 ปีที่แล้ว +113

    At 32 minutes you are speaking the absolute truth! Men change for the woman he wants. A woman has the right man when he's willing to be accountable and you grow together. It has to be MUTUAL. Anything you name in a relationship has to be MUTUAL. You can't love enough for "the both of you" etc etc

  • @sherryj738
    @sherryj738 2 ปีที่แล้ว +196

    I believe they come back to see if you have grown as an individual or if they can come back over and over again and wreak havoc on your life. Don't ever take a person back once they leave.

    • @annywalessa6433
      @annywalessa6433 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Word! Another coach I listen to said they come back to check if you’re still foolish and dumb🤦‍♀️🤭 May sound harsh and unreal but so true most of the time. God, wisdom and discernement please🙏

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      yes and after 25 yrs he hasnt changed I told him years ago if you dont leave those streets alone its prison or death...he did 30 yrs in prison ...he spent over 1/2 his life in jail almost 60.. no job, no pension, no skills !!!

    • @MultiNailz
      @MultiNailz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      They do come back because they’ve scammed everyone else and there’s nowhere else for them to turn too. They love to see people in fear and torment. It makes their day and it boost their huge egos.

    • @joycewatt800
      @joycewatt800 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Amen! Wish I had learned this valuable lesson when I was younger!!

    • @MultiNailz
      @MultiNailz 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@joycewatt800 me too. We know now. ❤️

  • @wol3335
    @wol3335 2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    Not "go on over there with stank wig". 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣. Tony you are hilarious !!!!!

  • @kayladaniel2814
    @kayladaniel2814 2 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    You are the wind beneath my wings.
    I truly used to think my innocence was a virtue. It hurts me to say, it was the source of my every pain. That we must be knowledgeable of these toxic worldly ways is more than disappointing.

    • @Salma_143
      @Salma_143 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Me tooooo!!! Years of being taken advantage of because of my innocent naive ways. Never again!!

    • @annywalessa6433
      @annywalessa6433 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You and me both🤦‍♀️ Thank God for his faithful servant Tony here🙏

    • @rjlondon5801
      @rjlondon5801 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This 👌

  • @laina1976
    @laina1976 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Yesss TG. My ex led me on for 7 months after we broke up. We hung out took trips slept together like a whole couple. Smh. Then dump me saying he seeing someone else and now they in love talking bout marriage. Smh. I just walked away hes a tattoo artist told me he would still do my tattoos uh no sir. Hurt but time heals all wounds and this too shall pass

    • @laina1976
      @laina1976 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Nope met her while doing her tattoo. They hooked up one night and 3-4 weeks later they swear they in love. Chile bye.

    • @verasoamiitisaveryburtbeau6062
      @verasoamiitisaveryburtbeau6062 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I've been there

    • @la6136
      @la6136 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I feel bad for the girl that is marrying him she has no idea what she is getting herself into

  • @Inspired768
    @Inspired768 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    That is why I use my block industry once they leave, I block and block on every side.. You can't eat your cake and have it back.

  • @theresenydahl9531
    @theresenydahl9531 2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    The one that leaves you is not the one wasting your time, it's the one who keeps coming back who is.
    And please stop tattooing each others names on your bodies🙄

  • @jewelsafire6844
    @jewelsafire6844 2 ปีที่แล้ว +75

    The lengths these men will go to keep us in their web of lies are appalling. If they leave, turn them loose. If need be, let them go for good. My name ain't BooBoo The Fool or Wanda Walk All Over Me.😩😆💪🏽

  • @Corin1peace
    @Corin1peace 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Ladies take note like seriously, he really dropping game on how these men really
    are and the lies they tell

  • @ilenek.5428
    @ilenek.5428 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    When I told a therapist (who was a man btw) that my husband was being difficult, bad attitude and all, the therapist said "Then why wont he leave? If hes so miserable then he would leave!" Lol. So basically he was telling me that it was all games for attention! So tired of this bull.

    • @ilenek.5428
      @ilenek.5428 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@p_tiffanii Thank you. He is the issue! Lol. I dont work harder for him anymore. I'm so done. I'm working harder on my job & my Paralegal degree ;) My kids r big.

    • @ilenek.5428
      @ilenek.5428 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@p_tiffanii Thank you girl! I'm just really learning what all of that means. Yes, I'm trying to put the energy on myself ;)

  • @sonjashirley3038
    @sonjashirley3038 2 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    Block, block, block. I let him come back one time, yup I was stupid. Never again. Too old for games.

  • @trulyshanell3143
    @trulyshanell3143 2 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    Love how transparent Tony is. The lies he told his ex. I was told the same lies but I was naive then. Glad I can laugh about it now 😄

  • @ShermekaG
    @ShermekaG 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    From my experience the reason why they come back is because Plan B did not work out. They are bored you have the supplies that they need. Most of all you keep taking them back when they come back.

  • @misspeacelove7395
    @misspeacelove7395 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    I think that´s why men love listening to the man in the dark, because they´re not looking to better themselves or get proper knowledge; they want their toxic perceptions about women and relationships validated and he sure does an excellent job at making them continue the damaging cycle. But what´s astonishing is how all those men fail to realise that they´re role models to their sons and daughters and their words and actions matter in ways they don´t get due to their ego having first priority. Children pick up on far more than what adults give them credit for - just because they can´t verbalise it doesn´t mean it didn´t make a lasting imprint. These men have the power to change for the better and yet they happily and ignorantly choose the unhealthy path.

    • @dublingirl3554
      @dublingirl3554 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Love your amazing spot on explanation. “those men fail to realize they’re role models to their sons and daughters”!!! So very true! 🙏🏼

    • @patwilson1257
      @patwilson1257 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      What you said is true about them doing it ignorantly. They don’t understand the damage they are doing as the head. They don’t realize that because they don’t know their real purpose as men.

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      yesss, and thats why our youth dont have role models, you cant teach your son FAMILY values, because most dont work, lie, cheat, and manipulate their way through life,

  • @audreycathcart3685
    @audreycathcart3685 2 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    Such a sad situation to be in. If they left you…Let them go!♥️

  • @kay-annclarke9501
    @kay-annclarke9501 2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    Tong Gaskins: "A man does not leave something that he loves." When he leaves and returns it is because he does not respect you and he KNOWS that you do not respect yourself. Let us now move on to a hard question like how to solve world poverty...

    • @toneyfox6328
      @toneyfox6328 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It’s set up to be that way love ain’t changing til God come back

    • @mahletalem
      @mahletalem 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      OMG this hit hard.

    • @Fantasyisland25
      @Fantasyisland25 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      That's not always true thou

  • @bonbonsongbird5650
    @bonbonsongbird5650 2 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    He dropped so many gems other than the three reasons men leave.The biggest thing that stood out to my spirit was, when he said as a wife your husband will listen to you more than anyone else, and if he doesn't that's not your husband.🤷🏽‍♀️ He then backed it up with scripture "..a man shall leave his mother/father and cleave to his wife.(Genesis 2:24) To me staying and honoring one another is love. The Bible says the devil roams around seeing who he can devour (1Peter 5:8) Men that go back and forth roaming from one woman to the next snatching souls through sex are dangerous like this. I truly appreciate all this wisdom and Tony's humor as well 😁. Ladies let us love on ourselves and who God created us to be.🙏🏽💜

  • @shaylanewlife
    @shaylanewlife 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I just focus on God myself I do not have no time for a man. Thank God I am single, thank God I left social media. Thank God for everything that I have no relationship drama I am at peace in my life.

  • @kimjones3262
    @kimjones3262 2 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    The problem is he treated me like I was ‘a dime a dozen’ when I’m actually ‘ 1 in a million’

  • @lovepink7804
    @lovepink7804 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I give a man one strike and he's out. I don't have time for the nonsense and game playing. I don't want no man that doesn't want me. His loss and another man's gain. It hurts sometimes but at least I have a piece of mind. Be positive! Let love find you💕

    • @lydiawilson4013
      @lydiawilson4013 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello friend do you need help saving your relationship

    • @lydiawilson4013
      @lydiawilson4013 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hope not lost

  • @michelleluciusblackbeautytv
    @michelleluciusblackbeautytv 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Yessssss!!!!! I left my husband of 9yrs because he didn’t want to get financially right, it’s been 2yrs and we are back dating and he is a different person!!!! He making more money than me now!!!

  • @sherryj738
    @sherryj738 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Do the work on yourself and do the proper healing so you never find yourself in a situation like this

  • @rosagreene4364
    @rosagreene4364 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Let’s take a moment to thank Queen Sheri for standing her ground ❤️

    • @joycewatt800
      @joycewatt800 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      💯 Which shows how a woman can benefit a man for good. If God can use you to push a man into His purpose that’s a worthy calling.

  • @jhastings35
    @jhastings35 2 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    Amen, I could have not said it better. " He sees you as a wife, but he is not a good husband.

  • @gambinored81
    @gambinored81 2 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    I don't chase them I replace them. So yeah take a break. When break time is over you've lost a job.👏🏾😂 Learned that in my early 20's Im not a game show. Sometimes it hurts but that pain is growth yo💕😂😂😂

    • @deniser.826
      @deniser.826 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I love that, same here, don't chase but replace....altho my 2nd marriage n I'm feeling pretty stuck....gettin old n tired of it all for sure.

    • @gambinored81
      @gambinored81 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@deniser.826
      Sending 🕊️ peace blessings 🕉️ and clarity ✨🤍✨

  • @tiffineyena7001
    @tiffineyena7001 2 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    Tony videos be so juicy and funny that u dont even wanna watch regular TV. Lol!!😁🙌🏾

  • @geedee38
    @geedee38 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    These men won’t Do Right! Point blank PERIOD. ✌🏽❤️❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @shereeh8566
    @shereeh8566 2 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    I have heard of a hall pass and I have never experienced a cheater until recently . So true that " the player" makes up fights to leave. I do not like games

  • @NekeishaWise
    @NekeishaWise 2 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    😂 The lies you told that woman after being gone for three days lol

    • @miamore1421
      @miamore1421 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Sometimes I wish I could act like a boy🎤🎼

    • @beefaye6861
      @beefaye6861 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Lol....cant they come up wit em 😂😂😂😂

    • @fluffysox6072
      @fluffysox6072 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      😂 i was thinking the same thing

    • @sweetandy232002
      @sweetandy232002 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You're going to get killedt 🤣

    • @rosagreene4364
      @rosagreene4364 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lmboo

  • @lindageiling5922
    @lindageiling5922 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Some men no matter the age never grow up. I dealt with a 51 yr old that was in n out of my life. But he was also abusive to me verbally , physically n mentally. I was afraid of him. Men never grow up

    • @itsdrea2353
      @itsdrea2353 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hope you are safely away from that situation now.

    • @nooranarnold258
      @nooranarnold258 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I DATED, A 57YRLD DIVORCED MAN..THINKING HIS MATURED ENOUGH TO KNOW, WHAT HE WANTED..SUPRISE HE STARTED TO VERBALLY AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSE ME..I ,SPOKE TO HIS X WIFE, AFTER A YEAR THAT HE DUMPED ME..SHE TOLD ME, HE ALSO,ABUSED HER..SHE SAID SHE HAD ENOUGH..HE LEFT ME..IS BACK WITH HIS X GF..WHOM HE BROKE UP WITH 9X,ALREADY..HE ALSO ABUSED HER....SHE BELIEVES SHES GOING TO CHANGE HIM...🤔

  • @MsColetha
    @MsColetha 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I am single and formication free for the rest of this lifetime. ⭐️⭐️⭐️

  • @bellaapple2166
    @bellaapple2166 2 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    Great messageI now I need a sweatshirt or shirt that says "This woman is from the blessed tribe" ❤️🙏🏻

    • @ilenek.5428
      @ilenek.5428 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I need a t-shirt that says " Let's get some UNDERSTANDMENT now!" Lol.

  • @oshunsweets
    @oshunsweets 2 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    Tony is so real but his expressions and the way he tells his stories is absolutely hilarious!! :0

    • @terrybrown7510
      @terrybrown7510 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      💯😂😂😂

    • @jacquelineclark6058
      @jacquelineclark6058 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ok. I be cracking up

    • @MegaLadylove2012
      @MegaLadylove2012 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @Rebirth1904
      @Rebirth1904 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      When he said "women haters with stuff spinning on the desk!".. lord I hollered....lol

  • @RoosterLemonDoodles
    @RoosterLemonDoodles 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Yes.. stay the hell over there!!! He leaves me.. u don’t like me like that… keep it moving and kick a whole entire bag of rocks… u have what u wanted! Now keep it!! Straight truth!!

  • @jessepera2457
    @jessepera2457 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Ladies this why u have to level up cuz then no matter what she's a down grade

  • @jehannedufresne3998
    @jehannedufresne3998 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Giving credits to whom it's due. I'm giving it to you, Tony. I started listening to you in Fall 2019. Before I had standards, but they were weak where I would be willing to compromise. Now 2 years later, you helped me understand men better. I'm like a sponge learning and applying. All you shared are tools I use to help navigate the dating scend. Plus tips you shared about how to meet men are accurate; me not doing online dating, I've been meeting single men everywhere nowadays. So, we shall see what God is doing. Thank you, Sir!

  • @toriyt2714
    @toriyt2714 2 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    I’d make you proud Tony. Not going to list credentials but just know there are a few guys out there now that walked away thinking dang how she know that lol. And there will be plenty more until it’s right.

    • @InTheRecoveryRoom
      @InTheRecoveryRoom 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes!!… I listen to him like he’s the most interesting man I’ve ever met.., -- them when he starts SHOWING UP as “ one of Mr G’s warning videos”……
      Me: Ughhm.. I’ve enjoyed our time talking and coffee outings but this is not a good fit ……
      They don’t even see it coming ..,, lol

    • @jo355
      @jo355 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm proud of you. It's a very difficult thing to do !

  • @tiffineyena7001
    @tiffineyena7001 2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    Tony, u should have a t-shirt that reads, " Oh my Goodtness." I been saying it all day, just how Tony says it. Lol!!!😄

    • @dariabat1837
      @dariabat1837 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Love tony !

    • @ashleybeverly7328
      @ashleybeverly7328 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I actually do say that now as a regular part of my vocabulary 🤣🤣 you are not alone! Lolll

    • @mariebrii
      @mariebrii 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      i be copying him too lmao.

    • @dublingirl3554
      @dublingirl3554 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Great idea!

  • @nolaladii8296
    @nolaladii8296 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    He thought the grass was greener on the other side but it was mildew he was slipping and sliding 😂😂😂

  • @jonesnat87
    @jonesnat87 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    We can all put someone on a pedestal and ignore the things that they say or do , because we're in love with idea of them, in love with the perception of who their are in our own minds.
    I was with a guy off and on . He was seeing others and I wasn't, over a few years of going through this he left and got engaged to another women. He partially blocked me of social media because I sent a not pleasant message when I found out. After a year he sends me a message wanting to be friends then practically begging for me and to start of where we left off. I said No . Then he would use the line of I'm having lots of sex , are you ? Card and I knew then he came back out of his ego not out of heart. After a few months I decided to block him and not return back. Looking back I have realised we both put each other on a pedestal also I went into it expecting more when really there was nothing in it . I am only responsible for my own actions and choices. I am human I make mistakes . Reflecting on this helps me see where I went wrong and also knowing if a guy was genuinely interested in me or not .

  • @eyeswideopen82
    @eyeswideopen82 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Married 5 years to someone who presents Narcissistic Traits, great provider, attempts at fathering the best he can, HORRIBLE HUSBAND. Religious but broken and doesn’t know God. Knows of God via childhood “religious exposure”. This next comment is to the wives on here, when Tony says, “the same toxic energy I had in that relationship I brought it to my wife…” he’s right! Wives, don’t run for divorce! Leave, separate, value yourself. Let pray and God whip your husband. Don’t sleep with him. Love him. Love him via kindness and working on yourself . I am learning this daily. Don’t give in to his “love bombing”, change and time is the only answer. Reclaim your celibacy with God. Recalibrate you thinking. Let GOD deal with your husband! DO NOT SET A TIME. ONLY GOD KNOWS. Pray the God’s will be done in your life/marriage. Pray, Cry, take boxing lessons, watch laughing TH-cam’s, sing, pray, cry, … To be continued… Thanks for the topic Tony.

  • @DebtDemolisherTV
    @DebtDemolisherTV 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    “I got some spray for my wig” 🤣🤣🤣 I am crying laughing!!

  • @robbinpryor2391
    @robbinpryor2391 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Most men don't want to listen to another man who is not where you at Tony,God bless you for your service ty

  • @AshliePW
    @AshliePW 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Tony be speaking the truth! I cant even bear to hear it always cause it hurts too bad. Love the comments for the cliff notes

  • @dimediamond
    @dimediamond 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    U pick your side........ You stay there......forever. ♥

  • @terrybrown7510
    @terrybrown7510 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Not "Stink Wig" 😆😆😆😆😆 Tony, you are hilarious, may God continue to bless and keep you and your family!

  • @misst72
    @misst72 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Another great message!!! Thank you, Mr. Gaskins!!!!

  • @shecreates365
    @shecreates365 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Thanks Tony for what you do....you have saved this woman in so many ways👏🏾👏🏾
    We ladies love and appreciate what you do!!

  • @christineporter9914
    @christineporter9914 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    God Bless you Bro Tony thank you for so much wisdom I will always keep to heart if a man leaves let him stay gone. And of course so much more nuggets you've given out. Am so grateful for your teaching and wisdom.❤️🙏🏾😊

  • @leslieweir7051
    @leslieweir7051 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I've just recently been listening to u and I just want to say thank u for always being straight forward, listening to u saves alot of "why why why," talk.....most of the time it's the hard truth that the man doesn't want u and its the woman not seeing the truth!

  • @jessicagrant9748
    @jessicagrant9748 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Tony you got ur gas on the pedal & not letting up 👏🏾👏🏾 keep doing the Lord’s Work though . You helping restore balance/ order . Some people like myself want to do relationships right 💎💕

  • @miss_aye8755
    @miss_aye8755 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you for your wisdom and taking the time off to help us...your words do not go on deaf ears from my side...🙏🏽 God bless you and your family...

  • @herhairfetish1
    @herhairfetish1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Pleassssssse don't ever stop blessing us with these jewels!!! I'm very thankful and appreciative!!!!

  • @kristenivory628
    @kristenivory628 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are spot onTony!!! I know one got another girl pregnant and now wants to be alone for a while! Poor girls hurting a lot of them.
    You speak the truth Tony, this is needed for so many women.

  • @tlashai9902
    @tlashai9902 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Much respect Tony, be blessed.

  • @sadelynn2235
    @sadelynn2235 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Honey 🍯 pot, TG I fell out of my chair 🪑. Be blessed.

  • @dorothysambucci9468
    @dorothysambucci9468 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Tony thank you so much! Your absolutely right! I admit that I have no idea what goes on in a mans head but I also know we do have the power woman to help them to do right by us! For me I’m using the word No! I’m not doing anything with my ex till I see a change in him! Not talking about sex I mean nothing! He knows that and he knows I’m listening to you! I even send him a few videos of yours! But until I see a change I’m all about me! It feel wonderful! Thanks so much for teaching me a lot! I have become a different person and friends/family have noticed the change in me! I really appreciate your knowledge! God bless you and your family! 😇😇😇

  • @lindacrossland7429
    @lindacrossland7429 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you Tony. You are the first man that I have ever seriously listened to that tells it like it is. It may be very hard for most women to walk away from a man they love, but why stay with anyone that disrespects you and doesn't truly love you? Women out there- protect yourself. Keep telling them Tony. If it helps only a few it's worth it. Bless you and your wife & family.

  • @Samira-jc5gu
    @Samira-jc5gu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Omg I love him! He knows what and how to say it. I don't anyone else that can have my attention and keep me listening/ watching a video for over an hour. Thank you for all you do and say!!

  • @allthatjazzxxx
    @allthatjazzxxx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Right on time! It’s the season of the past returning.

    • @feyfey8762
      @feyfey8762 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      😒😒 girllll lool

    • @allthatjazzxxx
      @allthatjazzxxx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      😩 like why.. and they always wanna come back.

    • @feyfey8762
      @feyfey8762 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @The Harmony Pill Lost dogs indeed 😂😂 I don't like dogs 😖

    • @rosagreene4364
      @rosagreene4364 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lmbo I swear everytime it gets cooler outside they return 😂😂

  • @TrishaBurris
    @TrishaBurris 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Yes! They can't run game on the Bless Tribe 💯

  • @mariesoars1297
    @mariesoars1297 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I appreciate what you do. God bless your heart brother.❤️

  • @goldenglowladore3842
    @goldenglowladore3842 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Amen. To God be the glory! Thank you for listening to the Lord and sharing "the game" with us women. Thanks from BC, Canada 🇨🇦 .

  • @djthinks22
    @djthinks22 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Tony, as a mother of (2) adult men I want to let you know that your honesty is well accepted over here. I must say that when my son and I have (son-to-mother private conversations), I sometimes find the stories they confess to me about what they were really up back in the days. I can't help but be astonished that they were doing more than I thought. As they have matured and grown into very respectful men I just thank the LORD for all his protection over my children's lives. I am so blessed and proud to see the development of my sons into adult men. I hold nothing against a real man taking responsibility for his past and changing his life into becoming a better man! GOD bless you Tony because you are truly living your "Authentic Self" by being transparent and helping others find their way into who GOD has chosen them to be!

  • @camuyana
    @camuyana 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    He no longer has me and is deeply regretting it. No return. Goodbye!

  • @joymacasieb9540
    @joymacasieb9540 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Yup my x introduced me to his whole family just to keep me around so he wouldn’t be lonely 😭

  • @tulip4169
    @tulip4169 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thanks for encouraging email today sent to the academy. It’s just what I needed to read! ❤️

  • @NellyMilligan
    @NellyMilligan 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was a good one! Doesn’t make me upset just preparing for whatever comes my way. Thanks TONY!

  • @lumintalocke7724
    @lumintalocke7724 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    ABSOLUTELY INCREDIBLE Tony I am laughing!!!! You don't know how funny you are!!! "I did not change for..... that whole spill you.did .... Ladies you have to understand what he just told us in this video. He said clearly one of the best reasons ever to that yoy need to ve the baddest thing walking mind body and so because that is the only way that you ate going to have a successful relationship. Tony I am laughing my butt off when you said..... "I got me and ol sucker here.... Oh my God! THE BLESSED TRIBE

  • @zandriarodman4056
    @zandriarodman4056 2 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    Thank you for this knowledge 🙇😊🙌✨only 23 year old

    • @allthatjazzxxx
      @allthatjazzxxx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yasss learn booo don’t wait. ♥️ I’m 29 and wished I was listening at 23.

    • @aneshrathomas
      @aneshrathomas 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same 🙌🏾 very thankful

    • @fabulousmdb7927
      @fabulousmdb7927 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Please listen to Tony and please do not waste your youth and beauty on men unworthy of you. Don't give men a million chances, cut 'em off quick if they aren't coming correct.

  • @aminaibrahim1649
    @aminaibrahim1649 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Mr gaskins love watching and listening, learn so much and I wish you all the best. I agree totally with what u said once we may not be able to change the game (men) but we can change the format by changing how women deal with men!! Forcing them to grow into grown men rather than staying as grown boys!!! Because all grown women will reject him!!! Peace and love

  • @vchild
    @vchild 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Tony and his transparency is real life. Tell the truth and shame the devil.

  • @mmxw2294
    @mmxw2294 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Mr. Gaskins coming with the brutal truth and hilarious comments 🤣🤣🤣🤣 love yourself change the locks 🔒

  • @valgal36
    @valgal36 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Tony Gaskins, Every since you stated your videos were for us women. I don’t share them with my male friends. However, based on the title of this video, I made an exception and share it with one of my brothers in the Lord and my friend girl shared it with her ex that she had an on and off again with. I must confirm you were absolutely correct!! Neither one of them refuted anything you said. My friend’s ex respond with “deep”. The other one said, “That brotha said some good stuff.” Big Thank you Tony for all you do, never doubted you by the way. 🙏🏽👍🏽😊

  • @brandypresley1869
    @brandypresley1869 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    So glad i found ur channel. You seem to help me with alot of different emotions im going thru right now

  • @ebonycurley6165
    @ebonycurley6165 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love you Tony your my brother from another mother grate advice and Hella Game teaching ..❤🙏

  • @the_infinity_channel
    @the_infinity_channel 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    God bless you and your family! Thank you for sharing your time with us. We appreciate it!

  • @shynelson2805
    @shynelson2805 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yesss Sooo TRUE.......Loveee this been threw.....this I was in love for 18 yr.....and two kids... I Love....how you saying this coming from A Real...Man....💯💪💪👌

  • @CaramelKissez
    @CaramelKissez 2 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    It's the 7 different tattoos on him for me. I keep saying males don't make sense for real. I say this everytime.