What Is Self-Transformation And Why You Need It
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ก.ย. 2024
- This is the first part of a new multi-part series on the self-transformation process. Join me as we explore the process of self-transformation. In this first video I:
-Define what self-transformation is
-Outline multiple perspectives of understanding self-transformation
-Explain why We Need self-transformation
-Outline the fruits of self-transformation
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Abdul Saad
Clinical Psychologist
www.vitalmind.com.au
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You are super intelligent man. A true professional.
agreed. And damn handsome, too. :-)
And his voice is so nice to listen to.
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Let's not be superficial 😉😉😉
@@private-gg8qo agree! 😍😍
I can't help it. The doc is smart and handsome. Lethal combo!
Being a nobody and a somebody at the same time is that internal conflict that plagues both the empath and the narcissist! They both need radical self transformation. Our first step in healing from narcissistic abuse is to recognize the weakness and the desperation of the narcissist to be a somebody! I started to feel pity for the narcissist and that automatically transformed me from feeling like victim!
Narc's are lost souls they do not know what they are doing, they are on autopilot self preservation with little regard to how that might effect others , very damaged .
It is possible to feel pity for the narcissist while still protecting yourself from her or him. They mean it personally when the attempt to hurt you. But you need to take it personally only insofar as to move them out of your life. If you understand how captive they are to trauma, then you come to see them as people who can't help themselves.
@@bedebill I think they know what they are doing, because the covert smeared my name, but degraded and tried to destroy me in secret, he did not show the degrading in public, however, my understanding they know they are hurting, but do not understand your pain or the damage they do. They just understand you deserve it. I think it is possible to feel sorry for them, understand the trauma they carry and keep your distance from them. I look at their behavior, try to read their behavior and read what is going through their mind. They mimic the parent that did this to them. I try to understand it. At some point in life, one might not take it personal, if you still socialize or see them, but not in an intimate level. I try to see him as the injured child, feel empathy for him, but not when the true Narc, Mr. Hyde, gives you a warning. I find they warn you when they give you that calculating stare then you see the true Narc in their dark eyes, then that is my cue to leave the next day Dr. Jekyll comes back. I am afraid they are very damaged. Just figure being damaged since birth by a caretaker that was damaged, through no fault of their own. They know no other way. They mimic people behavior, but incapable to mimic the soul and spirit.
@@gracewright7938 yes they are emotionally disabled , social norm nerves removed , blind to how healthy respect for others might be , they are so panicked through PTS . The over shadowing terror of childhood negative role models has hard wired them into a awful distortion , no wonder there are murders. Abdul please correct me if this is out at all , and thanks for the Vids.
I can't believe how prevalent and how blind I was to narcissism, my sister is always noisy and condesending. She won't admit to her pathelogical behavior
Fantastic! In biblical terms this is called “renewing the mind” Romans 12 . Great to see this explained in psychological terms.
Yes 😊
How can someone be so fluent in their knowledge of a subject and have the capacity to communicate their thoughts so clearly.
It's called, "knowing your shit"
John Smith He is Fantastic right? I have listened and been to Dr’s and he is Stellar ⭐️
John Smith He is an Aussie, he can't help being deep !-
@@jassetttreasurestewart458 I think the deep part is an INTP thing..
Steve Wright INTP???
My spiritual awareness is more than ever vital and omnipresent during this very dark time...i believe that i am being given divine strength, i never set foot in any church my home is my sanctuary. The ray of light will get brighter and brighter as healing happens.
To tell u the truth, your previous series have caused me to do some radial self transformation!
I think you mean radical?
I'm feeling delighted you're next session is starting. Listening to you is like listening to a good friend. I like your warm voice and your thoughtful way of speaking. I appreciate all the wisdom you're sharing. For me personally, there hasn't been a single video from your from which I didn't learn anything. Cheers!
Somebody give this man an award! Your work has been so helpful to me. Thank you so much. Have you ever thought about doing any content on addiction? There's a great deal of overlap between theories and models of self-transformation within psychology, and theories of addiction and the 12-step model of recovery or "spiritual awakening" (which, to my mind, seems to be the same as self-transformation). I think your approach could be very popular for addicts who have trouble swallowing the 12-step culture and language. Food for thought.
I agree. Revolutionary Psychology and Revolution of the Dialectic by S.A Weor saved my life. Best of luck to all who have decided to go through the transformation.
The synchronicity is uncanny as I believe this is exactly what I need at this stage of my healing. Very much looking forward to this series.
Never ever think magical my man, believe me :)
@@TheMehkey Maybe I should have said "coincidence" or "timing" I don't think magically. But I do believe when the student is ready the teacher will appear. God knows what we need and when we need it. Oh and im a woman lol. Blessings to you :)
Free Spirit Love that teacher/ student thing. I think I came upon it somewhere when it was EXACTLY what I needed at the time.....yep, I don’t think it’s magical or coincidence either ! It’s a whisper from God, the universe, your Higher Power, etc.
@@freespirit2194 that is magical thinking. You really have to be carefull with synchronocities
@@TheMehkey @TheMehkey But knowing that interest guides attention and that attention determins which fractions of the vast information an individual conceives of in order to construct their current reality, there really is no need at all for any magical thinking to explain why e.g. the teacher *appears* when the student is ready. The teacher put himself out there, he's been waiting already, not materialising out of nowhere but finally being noticed. Can you follow that?
It's vital to find out who you really are. Without it, our lives are totally frustrated and never at peace. When others's prevent you from doing so, and they force you to become everything their sick minds needs, be it good, bad and everything to satisfy their mindset, being free to just be and get to see who you really are is something money cannot buy. Not always easy, but fascinating at the same time. And when you see yourself making decisions you were never allowed to make, and surprise yourself, often, and just recognising who you are in your own space, it feels good whatever the outcome is, just to be free to do it, and growing into yourself, to fit in your own body, as such.
Angela Nicholson Thank You for describing this experience🤗
Angela! This is how it is played-out with the Control by the few too as you will know and we have experienced this on a personal level. We can Co-Create a place of harmony then that grows Endlessly eventually🤗💫💜
@@bernadettemcmaster4560 welcome :)
@@bernadettemcmaster4560 yes, and it's not "selfish" to get to know yourself, as you/we were told.
Angela Nicholson 🤗
Marvellous😍 What a revelation Angela, Phew😓
Thank Youxxxxxxxxx
I am nobody; yet I am somebody. It is the ultimate sadness with a glimmer of hope. Beautiful.
Your work is exceptional. I spend a lot of time contemplating similar processes, and you are so articulate and clear. You make complex concepts clear, accessible, and memorable. Thank you!!!
The writings of Carl Jung also are deeply connected to the Heroes Journey, and the process towards ' wholeness'. He was/is a pivotal figure that hypothesized on human individuation as an alchemical, dramaturgical, spiritual process...
Somewhat disconnected, but felt to share, I have been really disturbed by the hateful vitriol concerning people who are deemed or classified as Narcissists. I am not trying to condone their painful behaviors or the effects on anyone- but they too whether they are able/ willing to acknowledge it, suffer a deep, deep, wounding.
Even narcissists have their story, and are a vital teaching/ learning aide- if we choose to see them as such and it is no surprise to me at this point in history that we are having such a visceral reaction to narcissists- look at the society in which we live!! Look at our leader's, look at the incredible disparity in wealth and access to basic necessities in different parts of the world... Look at what our governments spend on death and defense. Look at his we treat the least of our society- persons with mental health issues, prisoners etc.. It is deeply narcissistic! I believe we all need to take the journey inward, towards self transformation- to bring about the change collectively, globally.... I believe that when you heal and integrate the Self, you are able to view Life in its totality, looking at ALL that life has to offer both good, bad, arbitrary and everything in between and a result is more self awarness, respect of ones boundaries and love and empathy towards others and our environment at large.
I can't wait for more videos.
Thanks Doctor!!
Good to see you sir.
Please make a video on toxic shame, and how to overcome it.
Love from India 🙂
@Sarangha K I'm glad to hear that it is helping you, unhealthy shame is a terrible thing to live with but for
many people it is their family who are shaming them.
dimmity jones Agreed Sadly
Sarangha K haha. Said to my family I got diagnosed with BPD and struggle a lot financially. Heard from dad, who is a doc, that it’s all my egoism and weakness. 🤷♀️ pff
I would love a video about toxic shame and guilt traps and how to deal with them
not sure what I did to deserve finding these videos, but man, am I happy the algorithm sent these my way. learning about liminal space...SUCH a game changer
I believe that conflicts or traumas in one's life are times when the 'invisible becomes visible' briefly and a great opportunity as one seeks understanding 'within as without' during this period of fragmentation that questions former self beliefs and a time where the ego tries to override, to dull the pain, and put one back to sleep. What has been called 'the dark night of the soul'.
There is no better time for seeking help or advise or nurturing from someone of wisdom as this is such a wondrous opportunity to discover a greater understanding of self and that of life. I believe such are hurdles that even great people face and who fear just as anyone but push through emotions and self doubt so as to feel empowered by each trauma experience along ones chosen path.
It's not often a doctor would operate on self hence it may also apply to one's own advice... so my words are that of expressing my thoughts out loud so I can listen for I live alone and somewhat isolated. Much appreciate for your time and for sharing your knowledge and wisdom... I sense an iceberg as I listen with certain keys and the essence of far greater depths... Regards D
Glad you're back
From the Empaths view, give to receive. Do unto others as you would be done by, be kind to others and kindness will come back to you, its hard to know how to do things differently, except trying not be so giving or kind to others, but be kind to your self first, to respect yourself first. I am listening, thank you for your videos.
Thank you man! Absolutely love your work. Striving to become more fair dinkum
Dr. Abdul Saad. A humble, smart and very knowledgeable psychologist. A great listener. Book a session. You will not regret it.
Yet another excellent video. Thank you! Just one note re: a minor correction: you mentioned "William Campbell" when I believe you meant "Joseph Campbell." Again, many thanks for everything.
Great video. One of the best I've seen on Self-Transformation. Thank you for sharing!!
A very interesting and helpful topic. Transformation has always been a deep part of my desire, while unaware of how to reach this destination.
I look forward to exploring this journey with your help, as I believe it is a never-ending journey just the same.
Please continue helping people like me, I am a bona-fide empath and I can't express how u have helped me
I'm so glad and thankful that you are sharing this information and this series. Incredible work. I used to say, I'm nothing and nothing is everything. Self sabotage was huge.
wonderful guy...one of the tops! Fantastic Dr. Saad...thank YOU
Dr Saad, thank you. I have been wrestling with some of the issues you talk about here, and my line of thinking on the issue is very similar to you. I am hoping to find new practical ways in aiding me through this journey.
Many useful and much needed insights here.
Looking forward to the series.
Thank you, Dr Saad! I have been on this exact Path for decades, imagine my delight and surprise to find you now offering this mini-series which I hope will take me from painfully & secretly more or less highly self-aware to more calmly serenely joyfully quietly open and spiritually self-realized. Being an American, I don't instinctively know what "fair dinkum" means exactly, but I hazard a guess I'm about to find out!
I have realized I've become Co-Dependent and last year began working various 12-step programs to extricate myself from those patterns. It's a shock to us to realize how selfish, flawed and human we really are. Talk about an inaccurate map!!! Ouch.
It's interesting too, about 3 days ago I was, during meditation, fully struck by the Nobody+Somebody conundrum you mention here, Dr. Saad, and walking around 24/7 applying it both to mySelf and to each person I interact with has been [another] radical Level Up on my journey.
I will be listening to this several more times, to make sure it sticks & percolates into my brain/heart/Life. Thank you again & looking forward to doing this Transformation with your help!
PS:
For anyone new to this type of thinking or Path, the writer Dr Saad is referring to pronounced "Mace" is Dr Caroline Myss, if you want to Google her or read her books.
You might find the process is on going and intimately expansive, with no end.
Fair dinkum simply means real, honest, the real deal. If used in a sentence about something it would mean "really" eg "she's fair dinkum beautiful".
Andrea Wallenberger yes check out the video I posted above on Caroline Myss its transforming 🙏🏻☝🏻☝🏻
I've made big transformations in the last few years. I still have many things that need to be worked on. You describe this stuff really well. I look forward to this with hope that I can improve upon who I already am.
Dr. Saad, your videos are wonderful. Just so insightful. Can't thank you enough.
This series is the best video I have ever seen. Simply worldly knowledge. I always kept myself busy and block my transformation but didn't understand it from the point of view you have.
I'm so lost sometimes. But I know for a fact I don't like evil!!! Went no contact with 2 narcissistic people. Have been healing from 1 narc for 3 years and the other for 1year. I've seen your other video's on empaths and healing from the narc person. These video will be very good for me. I would love to transform into who I really am. Thank you for the road map to transform so that I may find my true purpose in life of which God has for me. God bless 🙏
I'm very happy that I found you, dr Saad.
Thank u Dr. Saad truly the story of my life as a codependent for at least 36 of my 41 years. Self transfirmation is what I am going thru slowly but surely punctuated of occasional a-ha! moments throughout ever since my awakening. Feels very hopeless though to realize many just won't go near this process for themselves and will continue spreading abuse hurt and emotional toxicity on their paths like my abusive parents. I wish I could redeem them and have it different from here on but it is just not happening. Thank u so much. So very well put!
I expect the turning point is when someone decides to help themself and they stop projecting their own trauma outward. Congratulations! Even if your family still expects other people to take care of their pain, I bet you will quickly learn to separate from their antics and take care of your self 😃
How is it that you understand this journey so well, Dr Asad? I, myself could never have found these words, nor do I have the skill to string all these thoughts and concepts together to give a description of this difficult and incredible journey that is possible for those who are determined and strong. Blessings to you, Dr. Asad.
Thank you Abdul, great to see you back and I will be following with great interest 👍🙏🏻
Dr. Saad, you are onto something BIG may your message and clarity reach as many human beings on this planet as possible. Thank you for being an agent of POSITIVE GROWTH & CHANGE.
Love this new enlightened unfolding!
Wow. You are good.
Jordan Peterson said that transformation comes frm learning something new. He said: "You never learn anything new with out old self dying first."
Fundamental Nature of a person 👍
Thank you so much for the fantastic metaphore on maps and navigation! It's so compact and gives me a new, enlightening perspective on conscious mind and my own personality.
I really really appreciate you. I am learning a lot from you. I hope God increases you in your knowledge so that you may pass on the knowledge to the rest of us.
Thank you Abdul for extending this life preserver to all that need it! This is life saving information!
You convey such life-saving messages that are extremely accurate to “dissect” those pathological conditions. Thank you!
Thank you so much! I like the way you explain things and I agree, there is a huge collective thirst for knowledge of these things.
I am very thankful for having found this videos from Dr Abdul H. Saad. He has really opened my mind and blessed me with his insights and deep understanding of the human-mind and body system. Keep up the good work and may God richly Bless you Dr.
🌸 love this. Thanks for sharing. I will be tuning in.
Love this man and his lessons.
You're back! So good to continue with you...
Dear Mr. Saad the level and depth of your knowledge and the way you present it amazes me again and again.
Trully appreciative of it!
WoW!!!! Very Profound. Thank you.
The insight is amazingly revealing.
Welcome Back !! Will be looking forward to hearing what you have to say !
Been there done that
Transformation:
I've suffered and have learned much from One can gain much by
Be True and real to the self
thank you for sharing you are very intelligent you make a difference
Respectfully yours
Ce
I'm in!!!!! Thank you for sharing. Love from USA.
Love the way you explain things for everyone to understand especially about Empaths/Narcissism and yes you are ahead of the crowd and even my Psychologist didn't do as much as you did simply because you shared the insights of both so we can transform :)
Love Caroline Myss! Thank you.
Glad you back with a new journey of self-discovery. Looking forward to future videos.
I love this series. I think the Hero’s Journey is Joseph Campbell.
I've just found this channel and what a find! Super informative, very direct and clear. Thank you! I hope you'll be making more videos soon..!
THANK YOU SO MUCH! Looking forward to this series. A much needed topic, and to hear your perspective would be priceless. Wishing you continued success on this and every one of your journeys!
Nice explanation of the self-transformation process or journey toward the scared. Looking forward
to your series of lectures during the holidays. Thank you, what a gift!
Joanne,
Thank you for the ‘Freudian Typo’...journey towards the SCARED as opposed to sacred.
If it was intentional I think it’s very witty. Cheers
Thank you SO MUCH for the wonderful infomation that you've provided here. It has been tremendously encouraging and helpful to me. I definitely identfy with being an empath as well as a "nice guy." I've been working hard at the suggestions you've made to leave the nice guy paradigm of living life as well as the 5 steps empaths should take to improve their lives. It has been helping me out A LOT, but I have a long way to go. Thank You! :-)
Thank you for all your videos. I have been working on overcoming Narcissistic abuse over the last 12 months and your information and insight has helped immensely.
Dr. Saad thank you for your remarkable series of videos. This is the best talk on the journey of self transformation I have ever come across. The image of the crowded room versus the large house and of the truncated map is very illuminating. Looking forward to learning about the paradox of being nobody and somebody at the same time. I used to feel a separation but now I feel like an everybody thanks to the work I have been doing. Thanks again for sharing your expertise.
Brilliant as always. Looking forward to the series. You are incredibly helpful in ways and with a depth I have not encountered before.
Welcome back Doc. Hope you had a refreshing break! Looking forward to this serious, er, series. :D
Thank you Abdul. Your guidance is Life changing if anyone can dedicate themselves to this. Humility is the most amzing trait i have ever learnt.
It is connected to so many other qualities .
Peace and God Bless you Sir.
So glad I came across your channel.
You are so spot on. I am even a different person than I was two days ago and I am certainly not even close to the person I was one, two, three years ago. Even though I am still not where I want to be, thank God that I'm nowhere close to being where I was. I call my transformation, " Out of the Darkness I came." I can't wait to see the rest of the series. I learn so much from you. I love the quotes. I share them. I gain so much inspiration from you. And Hello from South Carolina, USA.
Hey Gina Heaton! 🙋 We are neighbors! ☺
Yes Neighbors 🙋🏼♀️SC
Profound and eloquently expressed. Thank you!
This has been an amazing video for me. I have searched & I've been counseled for close to 20 years and it is only after viewing this video that I can now identify some of my biggest issues. Up until today I have read and studied and identified with these issues but did not have the understanding or knowledge to see as clearly as I do right now. To use an analogy all these years it has been like I have heard a scary noise outside the house but did not have the confidence or clarity to actually go out to check on what it might be. I am now ready to leave the house fully equipped to investigate the noise with confidence! Thank you Dr.Saad🙏
Thanks for another great video on self transformation or evolution in the personal level. This is a great subject in which it can help me personally be above daily low-energy viewpoint and instead take a higher level of spiritual path through meditation and self discovery.
Can't wait to see the entire series.
All the best to you.
Excelent!
This is THE best explanation I have ever heard of what self-transformation is - wonderfully clear and concise - thank you!
Just listened again. You provide a cohesive view of my resonance journey which has gone to a much deeper level this year. Well done!
"I am nobody and a I somebody at the same time" reminds me of the quote "humility is not thinking less about yourself but thinking about yourself less" Watched most of your videos and this one is my favourite. should have had many more likes. Holy book talks about putting on the new personality collosians 3.10. and what the new personality consists of.
Thanks. This is helping me to feel more hopeful about the discomfort, yet relief, caused by risking new direction.
Thanks for sharing🌱
THANK you. I learn so much from you like in a classroom.
i try to be myself and try not let others change my ways, i look at the logical and emotoinal ,
Hi Vital Mind! At 11min.28sec you mention William Campbell. I believe you might be thinking about Joseph Campbell, the author of The Hero with a Thousand Faces, the book about the hero's journey you mentioned. Anyway, that's all! Thank you for these brilliant videos. They are invaluable.
I love your videos... ❤... so I'm glad you'r back here...🦋🦋🦋
Awesome sounds like jungian individuation looking forward to thé serie
Trying so hard to change myself and feel I am doing ok but still hit brick walls every now and then
I felt totally lost after
The ex left thought I would break into pieces but using meditation music changed my outlook in faith looking after my health and finding happiness
Very excited to experience the evolution of this series! It very much aligns with where I am at with my own transformation process. Thank you for your articulate speech!
You have a clear way of explaining this information. Thank you very much for your time in making these videos.👍🏻
amazing I'm in this stage of my life and that was empowering thank you so very much
So good to see you again! Really looking forward to the rest of the series. You have so much insight. Thanks Abdul.
13:50 analysing everything but we are sterilising ourselves in process as well.
Adler 33 Sterilizing the toxicity😉
Very excited about this new series of videos. Thanks.
Thanks so much.
Wow!
Thank you for the knowledge .. nothing quite like it on youtube ..looking forward to the rest of the series .
I ❤ your channel!..Thanks for sharing this vital knowledge! 👍👏👏
I just became aware that a series of lectures by William Campbell is now available on Netflix. Hope you don't mind the advertising, but as he has now passed on this is archival material and may be of interest to some viewers of this channel (since you mentioned him).
moirasmith isn’t it Joseph Campbell Dr Saad is referring to? I have his book “The Hero With a Thousand Faces”. Interesting stuff, but as with most people, I think some of his ideas aren’t so great. Definitely worth a read!
“Is it a pilgrimage? Towards what?” Laurie Anderson - Heart of a Dog. ❤️
so grateful