As an empath l realized l have never learned how to process anger. I thought l was not entitled to feel it...this process is very hard...in the past suppressing it caused depression and feeling it caused anxiety. I feel neither today...depression kept me captive to my past...anxiety keep me fearful about my future. Processing anger keeps me in my present its fustratung cause l want to suppress it but...l nolonger can do that ...my sprit refuses ...those parts of me are burnout (thank God). I want to say thank you for your videos. In one of your video's you mentioned that an empath has to give up worrying about the outcome with the narrcist...those words and prayer transformed my life. Once l gave up the outcome and thought about what really would make me happy...it was not the narrcist. Your work is by far both spiritually and psychologically impactful keep it up😊😊😊
Truly, as a person of faith, these great resources offered by Abdul Saad almost always intersect with the truths of the sacred writings I am so familiar with, but in a concise, systematized form, easily accessed and digestible.
Very difficult to heal when unstable... broken. Not a victim, still work, pay bills... things stab at my emotions. Stay strong through it, with help from videos and things I am doing. Building, researching, and finding value in who I am.
Re an earlier original comment- it is possible to self sufficient and a ‘victim’ My mother falls under the ‘victim’ personality and she is self sufficient; ie had a job all her life; pays bills and runs her own house, but her whole mental and emotional life has been lived in ‘victim’ mode.
I was Broken. I was driven to discover how, and why, doing all the typical things... working, going to college, finding new friends and boyfriends. Digging deep inside myself, always.
Dr. Saad is probably the only clinician on youtube who has effectively addressed the correlation between empaths and narcissists. His videos are full of invaluable guidance for empaths on the road to recovery. I cannot thank him enough.
I had to make the conscious decision not to stay in the victim suffering cycle,I was in that dark place for many years,until something sparked inside me to wake up and take back my control!.I am now working on a more realistic level of ‘not been the victim’,it is a slow progression but I’m noticing Good results!.thank you for Your contribution towards my emotional empowerment!.
rekha pydala I meditate daily,I read a lot about living with and understanding a Narcissist,but I mostly read about helping myself to become a stronger person emotionally and to love myself for whom I am,Not what the other half expects me to be!.I hope this helps!?.i will tell you however you must remain in a positive mind frame to achieve balance in your life!.
@@rekha5543 It was essential for me to be radically and fearlessly honest about my compliance in the matter. Trusting that feelings like sadness, grief and anger are transient and inert helped to mitigate the degree of fearfulness.
What you are saying so applies. Overt narc mother, co dependant silent accomplice father. Golden child brother, I have attracted narcs my whole life. I am 55. Thank you very much.
What an EXCELLENT video....I always wondered about those who "SEEM" to never suffer...and you are so clear about that psychic defense... THANK YOU...I LEARN SO MUCH FROM YOU AND YOUR ENLIGHTENING VIDEOS that
56 , Also prey since the day I was born. 4 months ago the scales fell from my eyes. It's hard to accept that my fundamental beliefs about myself and those I was closest to are false. And always have been. And yet the evidence is incontrovertible. Oh me oh my
Nathalie Dufour 64 I have lived a parallel life. It’s a God’s blessing that I found Dr. Abdul Saad. Finally there is a name for me I am an empath. I am devouring every video playing them over and over and reading the comments. It’s not just myself! I’m amazed that there are other girls raised with unloving mothers
I've noticed that those who do not wish to self-reflect use the television as a tool to take the focus off themselves and their "stuff." I find that they're also judgmental of others.
The narc in my life freaked out because I started seeing a therapist. He wanted me to sign a piece of paper stating I wouldn't discuss him in my sessions, because he wasn't there to defend himself. I tried to explain it wasn't about him but how I was learning how to respond not react. I didn't sign it because it's absurd.
Oh honey, no, no, no, no! Get away, rebuild your life and liberate yourself with self understanding of how you hot in the situation. I've partnered w 2 narcs, you dont have to do that.
This was EXACTLY what I needed this morning. I have been feeling extreme inner turmoil and very, very hopeless the last few days. Your talk gave me such a clear insight into how I was framing this that wasn’t allowing me to keep moving through it. I popped right out of the defeated hopelessness which was preventing me from connecting with my grounded adult self. Once I accessed her, I could see that, while I am dealing with a long-standing traumatic experience, I’m encountering it higher in the spiral of of the healing process. I envision the healing process much like birthing... only instead of moving down and out, we’re spiraling up and out into the light. I can not thank you enough for your channel and for launching life rafts for us shipwrecked survivors to climb into. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Congratulations on hitting 3 million views! This is a great one. I thought of another block to self transformation. ‘Selflessness’ where a person distracts them-self from their own suffering by living vicariously off other people’s happiness.
Yeah, I'm INFP so that hits home. Genuine selflessness is a tendency we're already infamous for and narcs are very good at farming. Fairly well developed INFP's can actually feel other people's feelings. I have times when I realize I don't even know when was the last time I've eaten, and it's been days. Making others happy has been very satisfying...well, until I've burned-out physically and emotionally, and stalled out spiritually to the point of not being able to sense any connection with God. I recognize selflessness isn't healthy. I think you've helped me find another piece of an ongoing puzzle, so I appreciate you! :) Now I'll see how it fits into the fabric of who I'm still discovering myself to be.
Self transformation can be terrifying at first especially when you wake up to realize what you’ve allowed in your life and how you have acted at times that brought problems in your life. It can be embarrassing, and terrifying all at the same time. Still transforming is still better than not transforming. There is only one obstacle for me now and that is money. Having the money to totally changed your location, job and to buy what you know you need to work the way you want too. Money is the only obstacle that prevents me from completing my transformation. I know it doesn’t buy happiness. I’m not naive but it does hold the power to transform your life. It just a means to an end. To get from point A to point B. And no I’m never going to achieve what I want unless I find a way to pay for it. Been doing that and all I’m doing is spinning my wheels with little progress. I keep pushing forward anyway because how can I not. I feel like I’m in the movie Shudder Island. I appreciate your videos also Dr. Saad. You are one of the most practical voices that I’ve heard in awhile. I’m just too pissed off at not being able to change my situation. I’ve come as far as I can come without major changes now. Still your videos help me to think. I don’t know whether that is bad or good for me right now.
Narcissist in my life never wanted me to work buying my essentials needs was a problem last thing really shocked me I accept that Narcissit to buy my underwear 😭😭😭 and I didn't buy new ones for almost 3 years .
@@wakeup608 My covert narc mom wears new dresses daily . And I had shifted many a places ,and I had always left my clothes because my narc mom told me to so. I was so married to her, I never knew she is envious of me. God wanted me to see the truth. I will buy my dresses myself. And you will buy lots of under-wears and whatever your heart desires. Just move on.
Helpful? Way beyond that -actually truly self transformational information! I’m eagerly awaiting the unfolding of your work! I thank you so much. In gratitude, Victoria
Thank you so much Dr Saad for putting all this knowledge out of us, is been very helpful for me. I took the decision of leaving my partner even though we just have a baby because he refuse to treat his sexual addiction I've been trying everything and now I understand that he will change only if he take the decision by himself. Is really hard for me to accept that I cannot "fix him" but your videos gave me a wider view. GOD bless you for take the time of sharing your knowledge
Judy CC I'm happy for you Judy! Not an easy decision but your future self will thank u over n over. I did the same thing with a baby in arms, wasn't as difficult as being with a man that won't evolve past pubescent behaviour. And blessings to for for protecting your baby from that low energy vibration 😇
Narcissistic abuse breaks all those myths you mention. Expecting reciprocity without set boundarys a emotionally dangerous cocktail. Thank you for the informative work.
Your video’s are so incredibly helpful. I grew up in a family of covert Narc mother, emotionally absent father, golden child sister, now turned covert Narc. I’ve been in a slow path to transformation, and your video’s have helped me look back and understand the process. ❤️
My map is going in the bin I’m a strong empath a realistic woman Independent in all areas in my life. I’m definitely still treading my old well worn paths. But I am ready to make new routes as the N opened my eyes to my past. Congratulations on your channel growth.
I am so glad I found this channel. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and expertise so freely. Your videos are always useful, informative and intruiging. I am hoping these further videos contribute to my journey towards coming as close as possible to the authentic ground man. Your work is greatly appreciated.
Guided Meditation sessions and ongoing mindfulness are good non-religious methods to release to a higher power. They allow you to feel ok in a sea of 'not ok', noticing and choosing your own valid responses instead of being compelled to respond to your environment and map. It's a peace alongside the non-acceptance, as you do _not_ have to accept things, but you do have to feel ok near them and select a response.
I love how you explained the barriers to self transformation. I can relate to the first two of refusing to suffer externally and indulging in suffering internally. I'm happy with my path of recovery that's been developing for these past two years. I also related to being hyperrational which is why I'm blessed to have discovered exploring my passion in music and the unknown through that outlet. It's helped so much in my transformation.
I spent decades in righteous indignation. It had a profound effect on my life. I was so certain that I never let up. The last few months have been incredible. What has happened is that the entire world is transforming. I was very upset about overpopulation and what is now called climate change. Instead of transforming, I'm witnessing the world coming over to my side. It's rather liberating, although very sad and eventually tragic.
Great insights, thanks a million ! What I've learned from this video: Outdated Patterns cause suffering e.g. empath patterns. ***Suffering continues, due to : Denial of suffering Indulging in suffering Inflicting suffering onto others **Blocks to self transformation Anger Fear Arrogance Victim Mentality Hyper Rationality Being too busy
Thank you for your informative words , You are helping pave the way for sencertives , personality disorders, empaths ,and generally people that have been abused early on in their lives ,To break free from the recurring ,and addictive patterns of behavior . People Please be Kind to each other out there!.
You really are the best. I first found you in reference to your videos on narcissism. I've stayed bec/ you are always spot on for me. Thank you so much for all your hard work on these videos.
This is incredible. Please keep this series up. It's helping me immensely. I am this and so need strategies to change, not sympathy or validation which is the case with talk therapy. I need feedback on strategies to change my thinking, which will then change my behaviour. Thank you so much. Your work is helping me.
Fascinating! You nailed in a single sentence what is slowing down self-transformation. I’ve been “refusing to suffer” and “busy with busyness” in a big way... Were these strategies better than my covert N mom’s “victimized need to suffer” mentality? I tried so hard to be opposite of her. Now I know all of these are roadblocks to self-transformation... and that it’s ok to slow down. How do I allow myself to suffer ? The emotions are too intense and not easily identifiable. I think I need to let go of a fiercely independent ambitious ego, and be in the comfort of others because it’s quite frightening alone and that’s when addictions and workaholism kicks in. Thank you for your beautiful words of wisdom!
Thank you so much for this knowledge. It’s so reinforces where I was and how I have transformed by the help of my life coach and by Almighty God! God bless you.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge without monetary payment. I use your videos to confirm, enlighten, guide, and also at times your comment section let's me not feel bad for myself. Humans get a little greedy sometimes without even realizing until you hear or see a situation a bit worse.
As a Super Empath I've practiced not giving advice or help if I didn't acknowledge what it would be like for me so I feel I'm always on a non stop journey of self transformation. I reflect on my many memories and experiences in order to always be on edge to become better for the future.
I like listening to you and I am trying to establish a relationship with a therapist but find it hard because I have developed so many layers of my psyche. I have had quite a few over the years and now I joined Adult children of alcoholics to work on healing my soul
Thank you, I appreciate you bringing in the higher power who I refer to as God. I do have an intimate connection to God but due to lack of discernment was dupped by one who appeared as one of the sheep. True at some point theres need to submit to the highier power (God) though many feel going that way is being forced to be religious and its a sign of weakness for some but God is exclusive from that. I know its thru His guidance I stumbled on this knowledge and am getting helped a great deal. They say knowledge is power, am truely being empowered, am not where I was b4 this information.
Thanks so much for your videos. I like how you give real explanations for why a person is suffering and point us in the right direction. It’s the perfect blend of empathy and accountability which is rare to find on TH-cam.
Thank you for being a diligent seeker and sharing your wealth of knowledge with us. I appreciate the time it takes to both research and create these videos. I love that these clips have both psychological and bio chemical insight. They have been extremely beneficial to my recovery and healing process. I would be very interested in hearing a series on the borderline personality disorder. What are the differences and similarities between NPD and BPD, how they could even exist together and how those dynamics play out between an empath and a borderline.
Thank you very much for indicating at (about 2;30) that survival issues need to be addressed prior to expecting people to overcome their circumstances. Victim blaming from professionals seems to be rampant in this area and it is cathartic to hear this wisdom come from yourself as a professional in this field.
So true. Every time when I hear ordinary Psychiatrists asked Pts those routine screening questions without going further, I feel we miss the best chances to help pts with transformation again. Thanks!
Would you please do segments on introverts. How to not live in constant fear. Does being an empath lead to being introvert. For me yes Being an introvert can be lonely but ultimately is safer. What causes tendance to not trust or like ALL people?
An eye opener !! Thank you very much , that’s the most useful info I ever found , you are a life saver. Personal sessions are not affordable for me, I am just nhs doctor, your videos are precious... , so systematic and science based , helping identify the problem and direction , so important , much appreciated
I have so many of these issues and have gone through several phases. External locus of control (blaming parents, friends, social circle, life circumstances), explosive anger (towards the before mentioned), suppressed anger (nice guy mentality and behavior) as well as extremely logical and overanalytical thinking in order to cope with uncertainties.
Excellent video !!!! Especially the last part with the universe trust. Life is unfolding for us, it is difficult to accept as we always want to be in the control.
I was to thank u sir,doc and a thank u isnt nearly Enough! I'm new to ur vids. I find them very helpful, hopeful and in-depth u answer all of our questions,curiosity from a personal and medical prospective. Thanks again
Hello. I really love your videos. I think you can help more people that don't speak english. Would you aloud me to translate them to spanish (subtitles) I am very very good on it and you are very clear in your presentations during the videos. Just let me know. Thanks for everything you do. It is great!
What about when you are an INFJ and you use both logic and feeling at the same time, so your logical side says that anger and self indulgence of suffering is self defeating, but your feeling side is absolutely uncooperative because of past abuse?
I think Dr Saad is saying that to become angry isn't necessarily a bad thing (that it may be an appropriate response in some situations) but that losing ones temper is a block to self-transformation. Feeling angry and losing ones temper aren't the same thing, one can be angry without losing ones temper.
@@stephena1196 That is probably correct about the good doctors perspective, however that is irrelevant to the context of my question. But thank you for your input.
@@338684q Evidently, /:) ..and not just that but the fundamental mechanisms of my INFJ personality tends to enhance the logical aspects of processing in the face of "feeling" and therefor compounds my suffering. Think "living contradiction" ..know right/feel wrong ..simply put.
I understand that great progress can and will be made for a person when they honestly face what is in their shadow. In my shadow are things I do not want, things that I will not allow. These are behaviors and mind sets that I witnessed growing up. Beliefs or ways of speaking of others that I decided was not how I wanted to live my life. When I was on chemo for 6 months though, these unwanted and undesirable shadow parts presented themselves in the same manner that I remember from my childhood. It was awful, just awful. That is not who I am, it is not how I chose to be as a responsible adult, it is not how I had lived my adult life up to that point. But I got it back together after a year or so and reestablished my own set-points of mind and forgave myself. Now after listening to your videos, I realize that there are good qualities and abilities in my shadow that are repressed. These I do want. These I do need. These are acceptable assets that I need to be a more complete and whole person; for myself first and secondly for those in and around my life. Courage have I to do so. My sincere gratitude.
What happens if the locus of control is external? By leaving things as they are, which I can not, I will be the victim whether I like it, or not. I feel as though I’ve got what ‘locked in syndrome ‘ must feel like, but to make any impact and reverse the situation, at least at an intellectual level, the damage done might have taken hold too deep, to reverse the hurt.
Thank you for this information.Dr could you please make video on breaking these patters that would help us to stop thinking linearly ...!!!👍👍👍👍👍Your doing a fabulous job God bless you 👌😇🙏
Self-transformation is not for the cowardly.
Arguably, they need it most.
Nathaniel Ziering :)
Sometimes it’s not being cowardly per sei
Just strength and determination
Which I have both
Good luck on your journey and for all of us who want it.
Boo to old maps lol
Neither is living
As an empath l realized l have never learned how to process anger. I thought l was not entitled to feel it...this process is very hard...in the past suppressing it caused depression and feeling it caused anxiety. I feel neither today...depression kept me captive to my past...anxiety keep me fearful about my future. Processing anger keeps me in my present its fustratung cause l want to suppress it but...l nolonger can do that ...my sprit refuses ...those parts of me are burnout (thank God). I want to say thank you for your videos. In one of your video's you mentioned that an empath has to give up worrying about the outcome with the narrcist...those words and prayer transformed my life. Once l gave up the outcome and thought about what really would make me happy...it was not the narrcist. Your work is by far both spiritually and psychologically impactful keep it up😊😊😊
Truly, as a person of faith, these great resources offered by Abdul Saad almost always intersect with the truths of the sacred writings I am so familiar with, but in a concise, systematized form, easily accessed and digestible.
BYS 4ever
Thankyou for sharing
Can I ask which is the video you mentioned about letting go of the outcome plz 🦋
@@rayleapaterson6627 l m looking for it when l find it.. l will send link😊
@@bys4ever136 : ❤️
I've yet to not find the first comment I read on these videos ( and I've watched so many) help me so much and seem tailored to me. Thank you!
Very difficult to heal when unstable... broken. Not a victim, still work, pay bills... things stab at my emotions. Stay strong through it, with help from videos and things I am doing. Building, researching, and finding value in who I am.
Jason Bell keep going. : )
Keep going :)
i feel your pain man...same here.. let's hope for the best and not give up!
Re an earlier original comment- it is possible to self sufficient and a ‘victim’ My mother falls under the ‘victim’ personality and she is self sufficient; ie had a job all her life; pays bills and runs her own house, but her whole mental and emotional life has been lived in ‘victim’ mode.
I was Broken. I was driven to discover how, and why, doing all the typical things...
working, going to college, finding new friends and boyfriends. Digging deep inside myself, always.
Dr. Saad is probably the only clinician on youtube who has effectively addressed the correlation between empaths and narcissists. His videos are full of invaluable guidance for empaths on the road to recovery. I cannot thank him enough.
I had to make the conscious decision not to stay in the victim suffering cycle,I was in that dark place for many years,until something sparked inside me to wake up and take back my control!.I am now working on a more realistic level of ‘not been the victim’,it is a slow progression but I’m noticing Good results!.thank you for Your contribution towards my emotional empowerment!.
Anee Van even, I too am in victim mode what are you doing to come out of it ,
I will be grateful if you shared.
rekha pydala I meditate daily,I read a lot about living with and understanding a Narcissist,but I mostly read about helping myself to become a stronger person emotionally and to love myself for whom I am,Not what the other half expects me to be!.I hope this helps!?.i will tell you however you must remain in a positive mind frame to achieve balance in your life!.
@@rekha5543
It was essential for me to be radically and fearlessly honest about my compliance in the matter. Trusting that feelings like sadness, grief and anger are transient and inert helped to mitigate the degree of fearfulness.
What you are saying so applies. Overt narc mother, co dependant silent accomplice father. Golden child brother, I have attracted narcs my whole life. I am 55. Thank you very much.
Similar family. I am 56. I have been doing so much healing. Relieved to discover what the heck was going on!
Me three
What an EXCELLENT video....I always wondered about those who "SEEM" to never suffer...and you are so clear about that psychic defense... THANK YOU...I LEARN SO MUCH FROM YOU AND YOUR ENLIGHTENING VIDEOS
that
56 , Also prey since the day I was born. 4 months ago the scales fell from my eyes. It's hard to accept that my fundamental beliefs about myself and those I was closest to are false. And always have been. And yet the evidence is incontrovertible. Oh me oh my
Nathalie Dufour 64 I have lived a parallel life. It’s a God’s blessing that I found Dr. Abdul Saad. Finally there is a name for me I am an empath. I am devouring every video playing them over and over and reading the comments. It’s not just myself! I’m amazed that there are other girls raised with unloving mothers
Knowledge is power! 💪👊. You are the BEST!! ❤️
I've noticed that those who do not wish to self-reflect use the television as a tool to take the focus off themselves and their "stuff." I find that they're also judgmental of others.
Our negative believes block our ability to transform into someone better.
The narc in my life freaked out because I started seeing a therapist. He wanted me to sign a piece of paper stating I wouldn't discuss him in my sessions, because he wasn't there to defend himself. I tried to explain it wasn't about him but how I was learning how to respond not react. I didn't sign it because it's absurd.
Jennifer Smith it is totally absurd.
Oh honey, no, no, no, no!
Get away, rebuild your life and liberate yourself with self understanding of how you hot in the situation. I've partnered w 2 narcs, you dont have to do that.
Hope you gave him a roll of toilet paper
This was EXACTLY what I needed this morning. I have been feeling extreme inner turmoil and very, very hopeless the last few days. Your talk gave me such a clear insight into how I was framing this that wasn’t allowing me to keep moving through it. I popped right out of the defeated hopelessness which was preventing me from connecting with my grounded adult self. Once I accessed her, I could see that, while I am dealing with a long-standing traumatic experience, I’m encountering it higher in the spiral of of the healing process. I envision the healing process much like birthing... only instead of moving down and out, we’re spiraling up and out into the light.
I can not thank you enough for your channel and for launching life rafts for us shipwrecked survivors to climb into. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Karen Hartman beautifully said. ❤️
Thanks for you're videos. Both my parents are Narcissists, my little brother, my whole family is narcissistic. I'm escaping tonight, I'm 20
Congratulations on hitting 3 million views! This is a great one.
I thought of another block to self transformation. ‘Selflessness’ where a person distracts them-self from their own suffering by living vicariously off other people’s happiness.
Yeah, I'm INFP so that hits home. Genuine selflessness is a tendency we're already infamous for and narcs are very good at farming. Fairly well developed INFP's can actually feel other people's feelings. I have times when I realize I don't even know when was the last time I've eaten, and it's been days. Making others happy has been very satisfying...well, until I've burned-out physically and emotionally, and stalled out spiritually to the point of not being able to sense any connection with God. I recognize selflessness isn't healthy. I think you've helped me find another piece of an ongoing puzzle, so I appreciate you! :) Now I'll see how it fits into the fabric of who I'm still discovering myself to be.
Self transformation can be terrifying at first especially when you wake up to realize what you’ve allowed in your life and how you have acted at times that brought problems in your life. It can be embarrassing, and terrifying all at the same time. Still transforming is still better than not transforming. There is only one obstacle for me now and that is money. Having the money to totally changed your location, job and to buy what you know you need to work the way you want too. Money is the only obstacle that prevents me from completing my transformation. I know it doesn’t buy happiness. I’m not naive but it does hold the power to transform your life. It just a means to an end. To get from point A to point B. And no I’m never going to achieve what I want unless I find a way to pay for it. Been doing that and all I’m doing is spinning my wheels with little progress. I keep pushing forward anyway because how can I not. I feel like I’m in the movie Shudder Island. I appreciate your videos also Dr. Saad. You are one of the most practical voices that I’ve heard in awhile. I’m just too pissed off at not being able to change my situation. I’ve come as far as I can come without major changes now. Still your videos help me to think. I don’t know whether that is bad or good for me right now.
Narcissist in my life never wanted me to work buying my essentials needs was a problem last thing really shocked me I accept that Narcissit to buy my underwear 😭😭😭 and I didn't buy new ones for almost 3 years .
@@wakeup608 it's a manipulation, maybe your mother did the same with you
@@wakeup608 My covert narc mom wears new dresses daily . And I had shifted many a places ,and I had always left my clothes because my narc mom told me to so. I was so married to her, I never knew she is envious of me. God wanted me to see the truth. I will buy my dresses myself. And you will buy lots of under-wears and whatever your heart desires. Just move on.
@Gina Heaton
How are you today?
Helpful? Way beyond that -actually truly self transformational information! I’m eagerly awaiting the unfolding of your work! I thank you so much. In gratitude, Victoria
Brilliant stuff. I am using your videos as a talking point with my therapist. Thank you.
Ha, hope your therapist is humble and responsive 😉
Another priceless video with extremely important information delivered concisely! Thank you very much! God bless you 🙏🏼
Thank you so much Dr Saad for putting all this knowledge out of us, is been very helpful for me. I took the decision of leaving my partner even though we just have a baby because he refuse to treat his sexual addiction I've been trying everything and now I understand that he will change only if he take the decision by himself. Is really hard for me to accept that I cannot "fix him" but your videos gave me a wider view. GOD bless you for take the time of sharing your knowledge
Judy CC I'm happy for you Judy! Not an easy decision but your future self will thank u over n over. I did the same thing with a baby in arms, wasn't as difficult as being with a man that won't evolve past pubescent behaviour. And blessings to for for protecting your baby from that low energy vibration 😇
Narcissistic abuse breaks all those myths you mention. Expecting reciprocity without set boundarys a emotionally dangerous cocktail. Thank you for the informative work.
Abdul, you have an unusual level of wisdom! Thank you for sharing it with us.
So informative, interesting and in my case, accurate. Thank you.
Yes. And really looking forward to the next instalment.
Omg thank you soo much Dr Saad!! This explains everything so hard to break patterns. I’m so sick of the old patterns and don’t know where to go 💥
Your video’s are so incredibly helpful. I grew up in a family of covert Narc mother, emotionally absent father, golden child sister, now turned covert Narc. I’ve been in a slow path to transformation, and your video’s have helped me look back and understand the process. ❤️
My map is going in the bin
I’m a strong empath a realistic woman
Independent in all areas in my life.
I’m definitely still treading my old well worn paths.
But I am ready to make new routes as the N opened my eyes to my past.
Congratulations on your channel growth.
I am so glad I found this channel. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and expertise so freely. Your videos are always useful, informative and intruiging. I am hoping these further videos contribute to my journey towards coming as close as possible to the authentic ground man. Your work is greatly appreciated.
Right on. I am self transforming while learning embracing paradox.
Guided Meditation sessions and ongoing mindfulness are good non-religious methods to release to a higher power. They allow you to feel ok in a sea of 'not ok', noticing and choosing your own valid responses instead of being compelled to respond to your environment and map. It's a peace alongside the non-acceptance, as you do _not_ have to accept things, but you do have to feel ok near them and select a response.
I love how you explained the barriers to self transformation. I can relate to the first two of refusing to suffer externally and indulging in suffering internally. I'm happy with my path of recovery that's been developing for these past two years. I also related to being hyperrational which is why I'm blessed to have discovered exploring my passion in music and the unknown through that outlet. It's helped so much in my transformation.
I spent decades in righteous indignation. It had a profound effect on my life. I was so certain that I never let up. The last few months have been incredible. What has happened is that the entire world is transforming. I was very upset about overpopulation and what is now called climate change. Instead of transforming, I'm witnessing the world coming over to my side. It's rather liberating, although very sad and eventually tragic.
Great insights, thanks a million !
What I've learned from this video:
Outdated Patterns cause suffering e.g. empath patterns.
***Suffering continues, due to :
Denial of suffering
Indulging in suffering
Inflicting suffering onto others
**Blocks to self transformation
Anger
Fear
Arrogance
Victim Mentality
Hyper Rationality
Being too busy
Would appreciate even more videos on this topic. Need help with making a decision and staying the course.
Appreciate all you’re doing doc!
Thank you for your informative words , You are helping pave the way for sencertives , personality disorders, empaths ,and generally people that have been abused early on in their lives ,To break free from the recurring ,and addictive patterns of behavior . People Please be Kind to each other out there!.
I like how you explain without demeaning or criticizing. You are a very good teacher.
Morning!
2 am in Northern California.
Appreciate your work and follow you whenever I can.
You really are the best. I first found you in reference to your videos on narcissism. I've stayed bec/ you are always spot on for me. Thank you so much for all your hard work on these videos.
Thank you. I am on the cusp of self transformation. Your videos are such a valuable guide.
Thank you, extremely helpful indeed! Made me realize many blocks I need to address. God bless 🙏
I love your thorough and sensitive exploration of these issues. I'm looking forward to next week's video! Thank you so much Abdul.
Always grateful for everything you present, helpful and enlightening as usual! Thank you
Sr Saad!
This is incredible. Please keep this series up. It's helping me immensely. I am this and so need strategies to change, not sympathy or validation which is the case with talk therapy. I need feedback on strategies to change my thinking, which will then change my behaviour. Thank you so much. Your work is helping me.
You are a Godsend. Many blessings for you help and integrity.
Fascinating! You nailed in a single sentence what is slowing down self-transformation. I’ve been “refusing to suffer” and “busy with busyness” in a big way... Were these strategies better than my covert N mom’s “victimized need to suffer” mentality? I tried so hard to be opposite of her. Now I know all of these are roadblocks to self-transformation... and that it’s ok to slow down. How do I allow myself to suffer ? The emotions are too intense and not easily identifiable. I think I need to let go of a fiercely independent ambitious ego, and be in the comfort of others because it’s quite frightening alone and that’s when addictions and workaholism kicks in. Thank you for your beautiful words of wisdom!
Thank you.
Thank you so much for this knowledge. It’s so reinforces where I was and how I have transformed by the help of my life coach and by Almighty God! God bless you.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge without monetary payment. I use your videos to confirm, enlighten, guide, and also at times your comment section let's me not feel bad for myself. Humans get a little greedy sometimes without even realizing until you hear or see a situation a bit worse.
Your insight is right on the on the dot.
As a Super Empath I've practiced not giving advice or help if I didn't acknowledge what it would be like for me so I feel I'm always on a non stop journey of self transformation. I reflect on my many memories and experiences in order to always be on edge to become better for the future.
Lovely video I'm getting older 47 , it's time too make healthier choices ,or nothing changes same cycles .
You don't look 47 at all 😮
I like listening to you and I am trying to establish a relationship with a therapist but find it hard because I have developed so many layers of my psyche. I have had quite a few over the years and now I joined Adult children of alcoholics to work on healing my soul
Thank you, I appreciate you bringing in the higher power who I refer to as God. I do have an intimate connection to God but due to lack of discernment was dupped by one who appeared as one of the sheep. True at some point theres need to submit to the highier power (God) though many feel going that way is being forced to be religious and its a sign of weakness for some but God is exclusive from that. I know its thru His guidance I stumbled on this knowledge and am getting helped a great deal. They say knowledge is power, am truely being empowered, am not where I was b4 this information.
Thank you sir, you have helped me so much and God bless you.
Your insights are really awesome. They really go deep. Thank you very much!
Thanks so much for your videos. I like how you give real explanations for why a person is suffering and point us in the right direction. It’s the perfect blend of empathy and accountability which is rare to find on TH-cam.
Thank you for being a diligent seeker and sharing your wealth of knowledge with us. I appreciate the time it takes to both research and create these videos. I love that these clips have both psychological and bio chemical insight. They have been extremely beneficial to my recovery and healing process. I would be very interested in hearing a series on the borderline personality disorder. What are the differences and similarities between NPD and BPD, how they could even exist together and how those dynamics play out between an empath and a borderline.
Very helpful. Yes, I have found that transformation in all people requires humility, and a 12 step-like interconnection.
Thank you very much for indicating at (about 2;30) that survival issues need to be addressed prior to expecting people to overcome their circumstances. Victim blaming from professionals seems to be rampant in this area and it is cathartic to hear this wisdom come from yourself as a professional in this field.
Thank you for doing these videos. I look forward to next weeks installment.
So true. Every time when I hear ordinary Psychiatrists asked Pts those routine screening questions without going further, I feel we miss the best chances to help pts with transformation again. Thanks!
Great video, great series! So helpful and straightforward, Thank you!
Blocks explained well - It's easy to identify blocks which blocks fit.
Absolutely brilliant video. Thank you so much..
Would you please do segments on introverts.
How to not live in constant fear.
Does being an empath lead to being introvert. For me yes
Being an introvert can be lonely but ultimately is safer.
What causes tendance to not trust or like ALL people?
Exceptional as always. A thousand thanks.
An eye opener !! Thank you very much , that’s the most useful info I ever found , you are a life saver. Personal sessions are not affordable for me, I am just nhs doctor, your videos are precious... , so systematic and science based , helping identify the problem and direction , so important , much appreciated
Drive is used for varying goals; even so, few people are driven to understand themselves, and curiousity is also lacking.
I have so many of these issues and have gone through several phases. External locus of control (blaming parents, friends, social circle, life circumstances), explosive anger (towards the before mentioned), suppressed anger (nice guy mentality and behavior) as well as extremely logical and overanalytical thinking in order to cope with uncertainties.
@6:27 The Empath's Map or pattern.... yes, spot on. I did just this, and it achieved nothing
This series is amazing. Thank you for posting!!
Wow, so deep, thank you very much
I learn so much about myself from your videos. I shared this with a healing forum I am on.
Thank you so much ... 🎯Family upbringing teaches a person how to deal with situations ☹️yia🙌
You are right . Believing in higher good power allows transformation
Extremely Helpful because it's communicated in a way that made it easy for me to understand. Thank You.
Very powerful and inspirational, thank you.
Addiction is a refusal to suffer, got it, thank you
Baseline of stability. Excellent.
Excellent video !!!! Especially the last part with the universe trust. Life is unfolding for us, it is difficult to accept as we always want to be in the control.
Quality material. Accurate, with depth. Love it!
I was to thank u sir,doc and a thank u isnt nearly Enough! I'm new to ur vids. I find them very helpful, hopeful and in-depth u answer all of our questions,curiosity from a personal and medical prospective. Thanks again
I want to thank you for your information. You are a lifesaver.
Brilliantly accurate, Grettings from Israel!
Hello. I really love your videos. I think you can help more people that don't speak english. Would you aloud me to translate them to spanish (subtitles) I am very very good on it and you are very clear in your presentations during the videos. Just let me know. Thanks for everything you do. It is great!
or could you put english suntitles?
Can you make videos on how to deal with PTSD? I think I have it.
So inspiring and true,thank you
I love your work... thank you..❤🦋
Absolutely super. Thanks so much.
Such a fantastic video.
"Why doesn't suffering usually lead to not self-transformation but just more suffering?" YES! Why?!?!?
Thank you for a very informative video.
What about when you are an INFJ and you use both logic and feeling at the same time, so your logical side says that anger and self indulgence of suffering is self defeating, but your feeling side is absolutely uncooperative because of past abuse?
I think Dr Saad is saying that to become angry isn't necessarily a bad thing (that it may be an appropriate response in some situations) but that losing ones temper is a block to self-transformation. Feeling angry and losing ones temper aren't the same thing, one can be angry without losing ones temper.
@@stephena1196 That is probably correct about the good doctors perspective, however that is irrelevant to the context of my question. But thank you for your input.
Rebecca Phillips you’re acknowledging that your emotional response is flawed due to a past trauma.
@@338684q Evidently, /:) ..and not just that but the fundamental mechanisms of my INFJ personality tends to enhance the logical aspects of processing in the face of "feeling" and therefor compounds my suffering. Think "living contradiction" ..know right/feel wrong ..simply put.
@@BindingTheYoke Clearly I had misunderstood your question, I wish you well and hope you find answers.
Thank you, you are a blessing to me
I understand that great progress can and will be made for a person when they honestly face what is in their shadow. In my shadow are things I do not want, things that I will not allow. These are behaviors and mind sets that I witnessed growing up. Beliefs or ways of speaking of others that I decided was not how I wanted to live my life. When I was on chemo for 6 months though, these unwanted and undesirable shadow parts presented themselves in the same manner that I remember from my childhood. It was awful, just awful. That is not who I am, it is not how I chose to be as a responsible adult, it is not how I had lived my adult life up to that point. But I got it back together after a year or so and reestablished my own set-points of mind and forgave myself.
Now after listening to your videos, I realize that there are good qualities and abilities in my shadow that are repressed. These I do want. These I do need. These are acceptable assets that I need to be a more complete and whole person; for myself first and secondly for those in and around my life.
Courage have I to do so.
My sincere gratitude.
thank you cant wait for next week episode..
What happens if the locus of control is external? By leaving things as they are, which I can not, I will be the victim whether I like it, or not. I feel as though I’ve got what ‘locked in syndrome ‘ must feel like, but to make any impact and reverse the situation, at least at an intellectual level, the damage done might have taken hold too deep, to reverse the hurt.
Really ❤️ these. You’re a gem.
bravo!
Thank you for this information.Dr could you please make video on breaking these patters that would help us to stop thinking linearly ...!!!👍👍👍👍👍Your doing a fabulous job God bless you 👌😇🙏
Jordan Peterson said: "You don't wan' security anyway, you wan't an adventure."
I have all of those blocks you mentioned. :S
Ppl find all sorts of distractions to avoid self trans...and we live in a culture (of sorts) that constantly rewards distracted behaviour.