The toxic persons accès you thru the inner child. This is a real fact. The problem for empaths is to become emotionally adultes empaths without loosing our inner child. A BIG challenge. But some are able to afford it.
THAT PART. That’s why it’s easy to feel like a kid again during their initial love bombing phase. I’m learning to nurture my inner child so that I’ll be able to manage the narc more carefully in the future by repelling them w/ an aura of self-love.
Li Lu Hi, he’s saying remember yourself as an actual child & do now what should’ve been done to protect & nurture yourself back then. Bc wherever your inner child was (& sometimes continues to be) abandoned or ignored, this is the entry point for narcissists. You have to nurture & protect your vulnerable areas, not dismiss them. Doing so, shields the inner child & therefore you, from narc tactics such as love-bombing & gaslighting.
Sometimes we can be surrounded by narcissists. I changed my location, hobbies and career and now have incredibly minimised my exposure to them. It is much easier to heal in healthier environments.
@@ginaheaton2203 It took me a long time to get the cash. It's not an immediate fix, but it's great to have a goal. I'm going to move further away again soon to reduce contact even further.
It’s cruel. I make the most money I ever have in my life with my career. This career requires me to oscillate between elderly peoples care needs, making my company money off their needs, and deal with my consciousness of what feels correct... which there is no room for.
@Anton Me too! But flying monkeys, using other members of my family to get through to me, social media allowing them to keep tabs on me have made me literally disappear into reclusive oblivion now.
Dr. Saad. You are a rare gem. Everything you have shared is the my truth and 'the' truth. Frankly, you are a wayshower for the rest of the conventional psychologists community. Thank you for your insights, your grounded-ness and this dissemination of wisdom. God bless!
I love the idea of being quieter. I always feel bad about myself after I talk too much or share too much. I've been trying to curb this tendency for a while with limited success. I hope Dr. Saad does more on this topic.
@@Raminakai :I think it's very helpful to look at the Briggs Meyers personality stuff. It teaches us that there is nothing really wrong with us, we were born this way, and that we are not alone. It's just our particular row to hoe, as they say.
Thank you. Its a hard pill to swallow but empaths who have suffered abuse from a narccicists must take responsibility for our part as well. Healing the inner child is so crucial hard work almost ''naked vulnerability'' but so empowering and healing. Thanks. Peace
Don’t you think an empath would have to understand what has happened to them before they could work on it? Not everyone has knowledge on narcissistic people or empaths.
I love my inner child very much and she is safe with me. Thank you for helping me reconnect with her. The battle is overtaking the negative and out of the ashes I found myself, wounds and all. I will be okay on my own two feet.
I really don’t have the words to express just how valuable these videos have been in my life. This particular one confirms thoughts that I’ve recently been having, as I realize that my inner warrior has begun to appear in my life, and I’m so grateful! These videos are helping me to heal, not only what I feel has been one of this hardest time periods of my life, but also helps me get to the root of decades of pain that I could never seem to get the core of. This information, for me, has been an answer to a prayer. Eternal blessings to you!
Finally, a message which addresses being an empath but with emotional maturity. Thank you for your contribution towards our humanity, inner child and the healing of our world.
Could you maybe do a video on coping with or overcoming loneliness and social isolation? This is something many struggle with after getting away from narcissistic relationships.
Social isolation is also our peacefully respite. I had to change my perspective to understand my gift. When everything leaves you. You can heal yourself by being with yourself. Nature all that you are and be strong with it. Surely after a time we will be able to strengthen the adult within us.
@@noorhamza Very nicely put. I am also a psychologist, and, in my opinion, you are absolutely right. Before we can stop tricking ourselves into thinking that we could ever be or feel alone we have to learn who we are and how we want to be, and we can only do this "alone". And enjoy it!
You are a champion for people suffering from mental health problems. Your sincerity is seen through your deep insights. You truly want to help. May Allah bless you with highest.
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As an abuse survivor, I thought I had fully healed and done a lot of work towards individuation/integration. When you're swatting narcissistic tendencies away from both individuals and corporations over the last year or so and currently and noticing these more in several people around you, maybe it reminds me healing is a life-long process. That said, I HAVE indentified it and then set firm boundaries to not put up with narcy rubbish - definately identify with protective warrior too...God is teaching me boundaries in oh so many ways to protect me and I appreciate that thankyou x
I’ve just ran into this channel. I am crying. I can’t thank u enough. I’ve felt so lonely for so long, for having to keep habits and avoidances that even I couldn’t understand why I had to do all that. I feel less weird now
Can't thank you enough for the comments about gaslighting. Drives me straight up the wall how many people use it to define any disagreement, no matter the context or the types of people involved. :/ Disagreement is rarely pleasant, but not every person who disagrees with you is out to get you or lay you low.
Learning the art of Discernment is the key 🔑 component to truly achieve what was shared in this message. If you don’t know what it means to truly Discern ... then read, study, practice & it because as natural as breathing. It will help you tremendously to see how little you protected your gift 🎁 as an Empath. ... it’s about observing not absorbing 🧽 ... it’s about not letting go your experiences... instead understanding what you can no longer let into your life. Discernment... is the covering offer by our creator to protect both the inner child 👶 & the adult!
I wish all psychologists were trained in this field as you are, Dr S. Your insights and work are amazing and so clearly presented. Would love to see more guidance on integration of inner child and adult and warrior. Blessings to you.
NOW I UNDERSTAND.....I never knew this at all....Now I get the push and pull with my Wife and I. I told her to watch this channel but she is in total denial about having ANY issues at all. I have never seen anything like it in my life. I am doing my best to deal with her because we are separated and my Children is what matters the most at this point. I fear for them so much because she loves chaos and drama.
*Revelatory!* I had always connected the activation of the _'inner child's_ emotional immaturity to negative life events, the activation of the _'inner child'_ from a seemingly positive life event i.e., *love bombing,* was a profound revelation to me and perfectly explains why my rational defenses disarm when love bombed by a narcissist.
I appreciate that you mentioned how much is perceived as gaslighting that truly might not be. It has taken me years to discern what is intentional manipulation versus what is simply the other’s perception. That has been so freeing. Thank you so much for this series and I hope that you stay well. :)
Somebody's Falling You’re humility is inspiring. I just wish empaths could learn the lesson you learned more quickly. My feeling is that the inner warrior might need to enter earlier- developing a compassionate toughness so that we do not operate from a place of fear (of being taken advantage of, of being emotionally hurt) but from a place in which we are constantly seeking greater awareness while forgiving ourselves continually for the mistakes we will certainly make during our lifelong journey
Yes. I think that once we've worked out the narcissist/empath dynamic and recognised our part in this, it could be easy to develop a compensatory 'victim mentality'. Sometimes even if someone really is gaslighting us it's best to just see it and let it go.
Thank you so much. You are such a big help. I woke up this morning hearing deep inside me that I could just dissappear and no one would notice. I realized that my inner child talks to me just as I am waking up and I need to pay attention to these thoughts and not push them away. Thanks again.
I’ve been waiting for this message. This series gives empathic people knowledge and direction. Good to see you’re feeling better. Thanks for all you do 🙏
Thank you so much for providing us with a balanced and mature antidote to anti narcissist hysteria! Not that narcissistic abuse doesn't exist, it does. However, you help us concentrate on the fact that working on our inner child helps us to become more discerning and less vulnerable in dealing with the character disordered.
Yes, there is hysteria lately regarding narcissism. Dr. Saad is the first resource I found on the subject who actually discusses mistakes empaths make and the tools to improve overall functioning of the empath.
This is exactly what happened to me 5 years ago. I went from feel like a functional adult male to feeling like a child. It’s really bizarre because i was doing really well.
100,000 strong. So many people learning so much. I'm really grateful to you. May your kindness be returned to you. I love, love, love the suggestion to be quiet and present and observant. I think true gaslighting is when a person deliberately acts to make the other doubt their sanity, and eventually start to lose it. Yes, there are the sneaky ways like in the old classic story and film, but there is also outright, deliberate, psychological torture. And it too can be covert , i.e. disguised as inadvertent and not intentional. You are right on about becoming able to see through the games. Thanks! I don't want the series to end, b because it brings me so much hope 🌄 and teaches me that I m not alone in the struggle👭👬👫👭👬👫
Thank you. This is an excellent conclusion. It also confirms that i have truly been making progress. I appreciate the list of next steps as well, things I've been working on, however it helps reinforce that I'm on the right track. Thank you Dr. Saad.
This video was full of wisdom. I’m going to go back and watch the series. Important information. It’s not about the even genuinely narcissistic person anymore for me. It’s about my own... finding and deepening my connection with true self, and creating a new life from that internal point 💗🙏💗
Thank you for sharing this knowledge. I lost my adult footing today when my ex narc persuaded me to break no contact with him. I was proud of my intergrounded authority I successfully displayed when he previously showed his games and was gravely disappointed in myself today by allowing him to get my inner child to resurface again. This video has helped me by allowing me to realize that he simply reactivated my inner critic and reminded me of the techniques I utilize during the last 6 months that allowed me to regain my adult warrior (ie: reclaiming my budget, interesting fasting). I know realize he told no power over me and how to remain focused wilhen triggered 🙏💪
I am so grateful for your guidance and what you have taught us in this series of videos. I can see the difference in my life. My inner child thanks you, too!
Thank you so much for releasing the content you do, on TH-cam. Accessing content like this would be so much more difficult were it not for this type of generosity. I enjoyed the theory but also some of the practicable information i.e. improving listening, quieting the mind, reflecting modestly and releasing the need to judge or at least not attaching a lasting negativety to it - it would be great if you could elaborate and extend. I think part of the reason I got caught in narcissitic relationships was that my high energy (need to please) was hijackable or at least they could hide within it for a while, it kept me ignorant. Combine that with a lack of assertiveness and dampening down of intuition was quite emotionally destructive by the end. Stillness, I feel, could help a lot.
Thanks! Food for much thought. Gaslighting is happening here in USA on a national scale. So upsetting to watch and live in the midst of continual fighting and blaming. Talk about emotional immaturity-omg-it’s been a national freakout since 2016. Very scary to witness the lack of emotional maturity, the intense blaming going on; meanwhile the blamers cover themselves in a cloak of compassion and “values.” Trump is constantly called out as a narcissist while the accusers hide their own covert narcissism. They are not aware covert narcissism even exists. We need more people like you, Dr. Saad, to help us. I see the online narcissism you refer to in the media-an very intense narcissistic echo chamber! You are providing key Insights! Many thanks! 🙏
As an altruist empath, I am so excited for finding your channel! I have been searching for someone to help me navigate some things emotionally that have been bugging me for awhile now. I look forward to watching more videos!
Intellectually you can only grow so much, you must heal your inner child. When he mentioned this it was an AHA moment that is exactly what I’ve been doing, then I imagined myself when I was a little girl and the tears started flowing. Still not sure what triggered me as a child but the feeing I got was she was hidden, misunderstood, not loved etc. This is a breakthrough of some kind wont try to analyze it too much intellectually, but a healing I am grateful for. God sends breakthroughs when you least expect them! Thank you!
Empaths demise isnt always about narcissist,for my life that only accounts for 10%.Talk about when nothing goes right,for me everyday hasnt gone right no matter how much i try or how mature i view the world.48 years of dealing with drama every single day on some level.Only now it finally broke me.Thanks for the work you do!
I understand how you feel. For me, it seemed like everytime I was anticipating being finally able to heal, and to deal with trauma and pain (emotional and physical), something or someone would knock me down again. But I m still determined and still trying. I swear sometimes we just need to cry, not in defeat or self pity...but just to release the pain, and reset. Maybe it is a way of letting that inner child seek comfort. Don't give up, I wish you progress and peace.
Much appreciation for your insight as to how the empaths journey towards recovery unfolds. Thank you for putting it into words for me. I knew I was feeling stronger about the “I am” of myself but you helped explain it. The warrior adult in me has been present lately and it’s a quiet strength. I feel ok being me even when I’m being belittled for the way I express my joys. I will listen to this a few times so it can be present in my mind when the times arise . 🙏🏻
Thank you !!! Loved this video. Finally some valuable insight on what are the core issues not being addressed on how to grow and protect our empathic inner child .
Thank you! I am eager to take responsibility for my life in order to live like an adult which I am, despite infantilization and financial abuse, but was not able to separate cause and consequence. I don't know how to be an adult but I will learn fast. This was the exact answer I needed.
This has been more helpful than I can express Dr. Saad. This help has come at such a crucial time for me, coping with a severe pain/fatigue disorder that forced me to move in with my parents. Your sharing these insights could help preserve my relationships with them. You've helped me repair my relationship with myself, so thank you for sharing this information.
Thank you for giving of your knowledge. Just realized how far I've actually come over the past couple of years thanks to people as yourself. Much love to you:)
This video is an absolute blessing and a gift to start the new year. It encompasses all the personal issues that I have been dealing with for decades and somehow everything makes sense all of a sudden. All the elements of the work I have been doing for decades are brought together and integrated into a coherent flow of knowledge, caring wisdom, and insight. Thank you!!
I am so glad you’re sheding light on gas lighting!! I feel a lot of channels are still coming from that inner child reminisce of pain. There have been a few times Ive listen to a few other channels talking about empaths and after listening to there words I felt not really good (unhealthy, uncomfortable). Most were un-consciously still permitting negative energies through their videos that were stirring some fear. Maybe it was my fear that was being mirrored that I recognized. 😅 But either way I am aware of my inner being. Listen guys, anything that is not put out in a uplifting way, do not listen. 😅. As empaths we are better when light is shed on the positives, not negatives! 👍👍🙏
Abdul I have learnt so many important lessons from you over a period of three years now. I'm a psychotherapist and had lots of therapy and I'm still learning and healing myself. Married to a narcissist for many years long. Even had couples counselling. Yet none of them identified the problem as that of one person Saboteurs and my own process as my inner child experiences was one of wounded and loss. My father died in my teens my first close boyfriend died and my flatmate took an OD. A recent relationship with a man who was narcissistic. Now with grace and compassion towards myself and inner work, I'm growing into a warrior..not for war. But to stay connected and anchored in my life. Thank you and bless your work.
Thank you THANK YOU, thank you for being you!! Best advice I’ve heard on this topic. Every video of yours is extremely valuable. You have helped me so much. I cannot thank you enough ❤️
I have listened To the entire series and have given it very deep thought. I am 60 ,for the best part of my life I was the victim,not of every body but some people who BETRAYED ME much earlier on A prison of my own making because for the large part felt totally entitled to feel that' way because after all,I WAS BETRAYED!! Now,after going through EXACTLY what Mr Saad has spoken of,I now see things as he says. How you Sir can be so accurate is astounding to me.I have listened to hundreds talk on this subject and you put them to shame! I never thought I would ever be freed from this,I am now and it fantastic The energy I put into trying to deal with the issue is NOW MINE FOR ME!! It is the closest thing to being REBORN that I think anyone could ever feel, FEEL being the real core of it. Those feelings,affected my whole body,I was always running on empty. Now I have a full tank and am excited because there are so many possibilities ahead of me. This is what awaits the empath who is HONEST and BRAVE enough to defeat the BELIEF SYSTEM they installed by themselves. I think the spiritual event is actually the realization of our own power and potential. Just think about that word,,potential,,,that mean POTENT,thats serious power and influence! Thats what awaits the Empath that stops crying and decides to crush the inner demon that rules them. I currently see a specialist for so called Adhd,which was no doubt a contributing factor in things I will insist they sit with me and listen to the whole presentation,they will learn a lot,from a thorough professional!
Good on you! There’s a saying, “I can explain it to you, but i cant understand it for you”. Im happy for you that you were able to apply his wonderful, helpful advice to your own life. It’s not easy to take responsibility in our part of where our lives go wrong, ESPECIALLY when someone hurts us. Taking responsibility is empowering though, as this means we can steer our own ships in the future.
Excellent lecture. Great depths of insight and wisdom, Sir. Thank you. Your videos have helped me to more clearly identify and check my life work of healing from narcissistic abuse from childhood by a narcissistic psychiatrist father. By the grace and Word of God I was able to remain separate from the narcissistic family cult with 8 younger siblings, and I have no contact. Sad and disappointing. I think you’re a most gifted friend. And all the best to you.
This talk was very good. After escaping from my Narc Ex after 30 years, life was tough because I felt like a child even though I was 50. I made some bad choices in people. I was a Christian, but not a very good one because of those choices. I finally got fed up with myself and cut out everything that prevented me from following Jesus with a clean heart. Isolated myself to focus on the Bible, work, and self improvement. 3 years later, I'm not perfect, but I'm out of debt, feel grounded in God's Word, quiet and observant, and now very careful about people. It feels good to be a whole mature person, not a victim or child. Making responsible decisions. Thank you, Jesus, for transforming me.
You are spot on. Thankfully I've have finally achieved the mature adult warrior status you discuss here. The result has been complete inner peace and calm happiness due to my full understanding of what is really happening when interacting with others. I am now at peace with an Economy of words and being my true self. True joy and happiness have finally been experienced and understood and it is so satisfying. I encourage everyone here to continue to study and learn about themselves and their inner child so they can finally control it and be free of self induced pain and anxiety.
“Inner child activated” , as another poster stated, that is def something to reflect on. And, I have an inner warrior alright. And thats been activated too, but I think in a disorganised, fumbling kind of way. Like learning to fly, its rough and dangerous but hope to smooth it out. Im at a loss for how to connect the inner child to the warrior for protection.
Dr. Saad, you are a kind man. My daughter is the narcissist and I'm deeply conscious of the spiritual emptiness that is her lot. I love her. I'm not vengeful. I want to be well, not triumphant.
Thank you Dr Saad, I have learnt so much from these videos on my road to recovery from narc abuse. I am in a much better place in my life , I have lots of friends who have also helped me to reintegrate back into life again. I think the hardest part about healing is learning to forgive and understanding what that really means. I still lapse sometimes but recover more easily now that I've learnt how to let go. Thank you once again for all your great knowledge and advice on this subject, I'm sure many people have been helped on their journey from your wonderful work.
Thank you for this video! It makes me feel empowered and hopeful. I see the path and next steps for me. Thank you so very much! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👑
Wow... this video has helped me understand things about myself a lot deeper. I'm so grateful for people who take the time to make videos like this. The amount of doors that have been opened for me watching quality content like this has been so helpful on my journey and my children's!
Dr Saad, you talk about the warrior archetype in this video. Please, can you expand on the archetypes of the King and the lover relating to empaths? I find it easy to be in my warrior, to live purely for myself, but harder to progress into the king or lover without becoming immature.
You are describing what Pete Walker calls an #emotionalflashback, the fact that Narcissits only have power over us as long as they trigger us into Emotional Flasbacks, love bombing being the "positive" trigger that gets us hooked in looping such, by many called a #traumabond. You are putting words to my understanding of this dance and I realize that am finally becoming a more mature empath, fully able to connect and even evolve relationships with people with a fairly high level of narcissitic defense mechanisms (she gets triggered I don't, she blocks/rejects me, it hurts but I don't flash and she soon returns 😊)
I found you at the right time by the will of Allah. and I've only listened to your work for two days. And it is by the best work out there, and I've watched 100s hours, read books, read clinical books, papers, psychology journals, forums but your work is very in depth! Subhnallah
This is exactly what i have been doing..my inner child healing and integrating her back have changed my life..my inner warrior will protect her at all costs to the point of walking away from my entire dysfunctional family of origin nearly 2 years ago...and moving countries to escape the overt and covert abuse for nearly 52 years...forgotten wellness has returned..my health on every level is returning..my inner child is safe..the empowered mature empath is a force to be reckoned with!....thank you for your validation wisdom and love...so appreciated. .💖
Please do more videos. I have identified with every word you have said and you have no idea how much it resonates with me and helps me understand me. I am developing. You are helping. Thank you for you.
Dear Dr. Saad, you made the point. Thank you so much for the clarity, for the structured way of explaining and facing aspects which help me recognise and overcome the obstacles in my own soul, regardless of the nature of the narcissist. I see the chance to break free from my own beliefs and gain integrity for myself. Thank you. Many greetings from Germany.
Thank you so much for ur information- You have catapulted me toward healing and been a integral part of my new recognition, education and empowerment. Thank u for helping me towards attaining the strength to step into my own power and stability- *also: because of ur education and videos on TH-cam I reached out to Rick Malter Institute and pursued a HTMA test - Such Gratitude for u and ur on point messages.
Hi Abdul, I want to thank you the information you are so generously sharing. I relate STRONGLY to most of your points in this series, it's alarming to be honest. My life has been more chaotic than I can handle. This information is valuable to me. Thank you.
How do you shield? I really need to learn that. I feel stressed out when some people express their problems, it’s almost like I’m feeling it for them. I realize it’s their life lesson and it’s their journey. I’d like to be able to listen without taking that energy on myself.
You can listen to people's problems, but if you feel overwhelmed there are ways you can protect yourself, thats what boundaries are for, you have the right not to listen once in a while. Plus, friendship is not just listening to peoples problems, thats what empaths get trapped in, thinking they only have value when they care for people. I totally understand, i have been my family's therapist for all my life bc im the quiet good one, but as soon as i need someone to lean on, they just cant take it. I am now working on having my own life and finding people who i can rely on as well. Cheers from a recovering codependent you dont know enough to judgem
You hold a very balanced perspective and that's why i resonate with this so strongly. You look at both sides of the equation in order to create true integration. I fully support what you do bro and thank you.
"The narcissist can only access us through our inner child [when it has no protection]" is one of the best quotes I've ever heard on this topic.
Jennyverse so true! I learned so much today.
Brilliant!
Agreed Jenny. Instructive coaching is valuable to plot the path out of a confused state.
When a narcissist engages you in conversation, limit what you share!
WOW
Wow! Your quote "The marcissist can only access you through the inner child." I am going to reflect on that!
An even better way to say it is, "The narcissist can only get to you through the inner child. " They sure can "get to you".
The toxic persons accès you thru the inner child. This is a real fact. The problem for empaths is to become emotionally adultes empaths without loosing our inner child. A BIG challenge. But some are able to afford it.
Never heard that before
THAT PART. That’s why it’s easy to feel like a kid again during their initial love bombing phase. I’m learning to nurture my inner child so that I’ll be able to manage the narc more carefully in the future by repelling them w/ an aura of self-love.
Li Lu Hi, he’s saying remember yourself as an actual child & do now what should’ve been done to protect & nurture yourself back then. Bc wherever your inner child was (& sometimes continues to be) abandoned or ignored, this is the entry point for narcissists. You have to nurture & protect your vulnerable areas, not dismiss them. Doing so, shields the inner child & therefore you, from narc tactics such as love-bombing & gaslighting.
Sometimes we can be surrounded by narcissists. I changed my location, hobbies and career and now have incredibly minimised my exposure to them. It is much easier to heal in healthier environments.
I’ve been beating my head against a wall trying to do this but without enough cash 💰, I haven’t found a way.
@@ginaheaton2203 It took me a long time to get the cash. It's not an immediate fix, but it's great to have a goal. I'm going to move further away again soon to reduce contact even further.
@@ginaheaton2203 Do your hobby thing and sell online :)
It’s cruel. I make the most money I ever have in my life with my career. This career requires me to oscillate between elderly peoples care needs, making my company money off their needs, and deal with my consciousness of what feels correct... which there is no room for.
@Anton Me too! But flying monkeys, using other members of my family to get through to me, social media allowing them to keep tabs on me have made me literally disappear into reclusive oblivion now.
Dr. Saad. You are a rare gem. Everything you have shared is the my truth and 'the' truth. Frankly, you are a wayshower for the rest of the conventional psychologists community. Thank you for your insights, your grounded-ness and this dissemination of wisdom. God bless!
I love the idea of being quieter. I always feel bad about myself after I talk too much or share too much. I've been trying to curb this tendency for a while with limited success. I hope Dr. Saad does more on this topic.
Same here
same thing i do,it's a tuff one...
We are probably all INFJs. That appears to be a common problem for us.
@@Raminakai :I think it's very helpful to look at the Briggs Meyers personality stuff. It teaches us that there is nothing really wrong with us, we were born this way, and that we are not alone. It's just our particular row to hoe, as they say.
Same!
Thank you. Its a hard pill to swallow but empaths who have suffered abuse from a narccicists must take responsibility for our part as well. Healing the inner child is so crucial hard work almost ''naked vulnerability'' but so empowering and healing. Thanks. Peace
Don’t you think an empath would have to understand what has happened to them before they could work on it? Not everyone has knowledge on narcissistic people or empaths.
I love my inner child very much and she is safe with me. Thank you for helping me reconnect with her. The battle is overtaking the negative and out of the ashes I found myself, wounds and all. I will be okay on my own two feet.
I am very happy for you,it truly is a great thing to be at peace inside.
The Phoenix truly does arise from the ashes,,re born.
Very inspiring - heartfelt gratitude to you :o)
Amen
Hi Michelle, What a beautiful comment you made.
@@suzannebunbury2961 thank you, your comment warmed my soul ❤
I really don’t have the words to express just how valuable these videos have been in my life. This particular one confirms thoughts that I’ve recently been having, as I realize that my inner warrior has begun to appear in my life, and I’m so grateful! These videos are helping me to heal, not only what I feel has been one of this hardest time periods of my life, but also helps me get to the root of decades of pain that I could never seem to get the core of. This information, for me, has been an answer to a prayer. Eternal blessings to you!
This was so we'll written thank you for putting my thoughts like yours to words.
Finally, a message which addresses being an empath but with emotional maturity. Thank you for your contribution towards our humanity, inner child and the healing of our world.
Could you maybe do a video on coping with or overcoming loneliness and social isolation? This is something many struggle with after getting away from narcissistic relationships.
wholy cow, um, that's me. I didn't know this accompanied post narc abuse. I would love a video on this too! Thanks Polopunk.
Social isolation is also our peacefully respite. I had to change my perspective to understand my gift. When everything leaves you. You can heal yourself by being with yourself. Nature all that you are and be strong with it. Surely after a time we will be able to strengthen the adult within us.
@@noorhamza Very nicely put. I am also a psychologist, and, in my opinion, you are absolutely right. Before we can stop tricking ourselves into thinking that we could ever be or feel alone we have to learn who we are and how we want to be, and we can only do this "alone". And enjoy it!
Yeah I’m kind of in that place
You are a champion for people suffering from mental health problems. Your sincerity is seen through your deep insights. You truly want to help. May Allah bless you with highest.
Aamiin.. Thank you 😇
Thank you Dr Abdul for your humanity shared. Arohanui from New Zealand.
Nice to see another kiwi on this journey.
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Talk less, observe more. I love this and it did help me integrate
As an abuse survivor, I thought I had fully healed and done a lot of work towards individuation/integration. When you're swatting narcissistic tendencies away from both individuals and corporations over the last year or so and currently and noticing these more in several people around you, maybe it reminds me healing is a life-long process. That said, I HAVE indentified it and then set firm boundaries to not put up with narcy rubbish - definately identify with protective warrior too...God is teaching me boundaries in oh so many ways to protect me and I appreciate that thankyou x
I find Shaggy's song "It wasn't me" is a good example and way to explain gaslighting : ) Thanks for the video!
I’ve just ran into this channel. I am crying. I can’t thank u enough. I’ve felt so lonely for so long, for having to keep habits and avoidances that even I couldn’t understand why I had to do all that. I feel less weird now
me too
Very valuable insight. I truly appreciate your work, Dr. Saad.❤️
Can't thank you enough for the comments about gaslighting. Drives me straight up the wall how many people use it to define any disagreement, no matter the context or the types of people involved. :/ Disagreement is rarely pleasant, but not every person who disagrees with you is out to get you or lay you low.
Learning the art of Discernment is the key 🔑 component to truly achieve what was shared in this message.
If you don’t know what it means to truly Discern ... then read, study, practice & it because as natural as breathing.
It will help you tremendously to see how little you protected your gift 🎁 as an Empath.
... it’s about observing not absorbing 🧽
... it’s about not letting go your experiences... instead understanding what you can no longer let into your life.
Discernment... is the covering offer by our creator to protect both the inner child 👶 & the adult!
AMEN!!
I wish all psychologists were trained in this field as you are, Dr S. Your insights and work are amazing and so clearly presented. Would love to see more guidance on integration of inner child and adult and warrior. Blessings to you.
This is so good and such sound therapy talk. Thank you, Dr. Saad, for helping me understand these things.
NOW I UNDERSTAND.....I never knew this at all....Now I get the push and pull with my Wife and I. I told her to watch this channel but she is in total denial about having ANY issues at all. I have never seen anything like it in my life. I am doing my best to deal with her because we are separated and my Children is what matters the most at this point. I fear for them so much because she loves chaos and drama.
*Revelatory!* I had always connected the activation of the _'inner child's_ emotional immaturity to negative life events, the activation of the _'inner child'_ from a seemingly positive life event i.e., *love bombing,* was a profound revelation to me and perfectly explains why my rational defenses disarm when love bombed by a narcissist.
I appreciate that you mentioned how much is perceived as gaslighting that truly might not be. It has taken me years to discern what is intentional manipulation versus what is simply the other’s perception. That has been so freeing. Thank you so much for this series and I hope that you stay well. :)
Somebody's Falling You’re humility is inspiring. I just wish empaths could learn the lesson you learned more quickly. My feeling is that the inner warrior might need to enter earlier- developing a compassionate toughness so that we do not operate from a place of fear (of being taken advantage of, of being emotionally hurt) but from a place in which we are constantly seeking greater awareness while forgiving ourselves continually for the mistakes we will certainly make during our lifelong journey
Yes. I think that once we've worked out the narcissist/empath dynamic and recognised our part in this, it could be easy to develop a compensatory 'victim mentality'. Sometimes even if someone really is gaslighting us it's best to just see it and let it go.
Thank you so much. You are such a big help. I woke up this morning hearing deep inside me that I could just dissappear and no one would notice. I realized that my inner child talks to me just as I am waking up and I need to pay attention to these thoughts and not push them away. Thanks again.
I feel the same way at times, if I disappear no one would notice.
I’ve been waiting for this message. This series gives empathic people knowledge and direction. Good to see you’re feeling better. Thanks for all you do 🙏
The truth is so refreshing.
Thank you, this is wholesome, informative, empowering and do-able. Lots of Love from the UK🙏🏾
Thank you so much for providing us with a balanced and mature antidote to anti narcissist hysteria! Not that narcissistic abuse doesn't exist, it does. However, you help us concentrate on the fact that working on our inner child helps us to become more discerning and less vulnerable in dealing with the character disordered.
Yes, there is hysteria lately regarding narcissism. Dr. Saad is the first resource I found on the subject who actually discusses mistakes empaths make and the tools to improve overall functioning of the empath.
This is exactly what happened to me 5 years ago. I went from feel like a functional adult male to feeling like a child. It’s really bizarre because i was doing really well.
What caused this?
1:31 = Is exactly what he said happened to me. Getting back to feeling like an adult again has been very difficult.
What a wise man you are.
100,000 strong. So many people learning so much. I'm really grateful to you. May your kindness be returned to you.
I love, love, love the suggestion to be quiet and present and observant.
I think true gaslighting is when a person deliberately acts to make the other doubt their sanity, and eventually start to lose it. Yes, there are the sneaky ways like in the old classic story and film, but there is also outright, deliberate, psychological torture. And it too can be covert , i.e. disguised as inadvertent and not intentional. You are right on about becoming able to see through the games. Thanks! I don't want the series to end, b because it brings me so much hope 🌄 and teaches me that I m not alone in the struggle👭👬👫👭👬👫
Thank you so much Dr. Abdul. The gift of your kindness and deep knowledge remains forever.
Thank you. This is an excellent conclusion. It also confirms that i have truly been making progress. I appreciate the list of next steps as well, things I've been working on, however it helps reinforce that I'm on the right track. Thank you Dr. Saad.
This video was full of wisdom. I’m going to go back and watch the series. Important information. It’s not about the even genuinely narcissistic person anymore for me. It’s about my own... finding and deepening my connection with true self, and creating a new life from that internal point 💗🙏💗
Thank you for sharing this knowledge. I lost my adult footing today when my ex narc persuaded me to break no contact with him. I was proud of my intergrounded authority I successfully displayed when he previously showed his games and was gravely disappointed in myself today by allowing him to get my inner child to resurface again. This video has helped me by allowing me to realize that he simply reactivated my inner critic and reminded me of the techniques I utilize during the last 6 months that allowed me to regain my adult warrior (ie: reclaiming my budget, interesting fasting). I know realize he told no power over me and how to remain focused wilhen triggered 🙏💪
I am so grateful for your guidance and what you have taught us in this series of videos. I can see the difference in my life. My inner child thanks you, too!
Thank you so much for releasing the content you do, on TH-cam. Accessing content like this would be so much more difficult were it not for this type of generosity.
I enjoyed the theory but also some of the practicable information i.e. improving listening, quieting the mind, reflecting modestly and releasing the need to judge or at least not attaching a lasting negativety to it - it would be great if you could elaborate and extend. I think part of the reason I got caught in narcissitic relationships was that my high energy (need to please) was hijackable or at least they could hide within it for a while, it kept me ignorant. Combine that with a lack of assertiveness and dampening down of intuition was quite emotionally destructive by the end. Stillness, I feel, could help a lot.
Thank you for helping me understand me.
Thank you so much for this and all you do. I am highly empathetic and appreciate the insight and direction. Big hugs from the USA
Thanks! Food for much thought. Gaslighting is happening here in USA on a national scale. So upsetting to watch and live in the midst of continual fighting and blaming. Talk about emotional immaturity-omg-it’s been a national freakout since 2016. Very scary to witness the lack of emotional maturity, the intense blaming going on; meanwhile the blamers cover themselves in a cloak of compassion and “values.” Trump is constantly called out as a narcissist while the accusers hide their own covert narcissism. They are not aware covert narcissism even exists. We need more people like you, Dr. Saad, to help us. I see the online narcissism you refer to in the media-an very intense narcissistic echo chamber! You are providing key Insights! Many thanks! 🙏
Thank you so much! 👍🏼Your vids are so appreciated!
Love your content! So glad I found you! Thank you❤
As an altruist empath, I am so excited for finding your channel! I have been searching for someone to help me navigate some things emotionally that have been bugging me for awhile now. I look forward to watching more videos!
Thank you. I found this at exactly the right time. And I appreciate that you can speak to intelligent, self aware empaths in a dynamic and useful way.
Thanks Abdul - I think this is the best yet. Fantastic insight and presentation.
Intellectually you can only grow so much, you must heal your inner child. When he mentioned this it was an AHA moment that is exactly what I’ve been doing, then I imagined myself when I was a little girl and the tears started flowing. Still not sure what triggered me as a child but the feeing I got was she was hidden, misunderstood, not loved etc. This is a breakthrough of some kind wont try to analyze it too much intellectually, but a healing I am grateful for. God sends breakthroughs when you least expect them! Thank you!
The feeling I had was not good enough, sound familiar? I’m still working through it at 41.
Daily mindful meditation, heals the mind, heart, body and soul.
Empaths demise isnt always about narcissist,for my life that only accounts for 10%.Talk about when nothing goes right,for me everyday hasnt gone right no matter how much i try or how mature i view the world.48 years of dealing with drama every single day on some level.Only now it finally broke me.Thanks for the work you do!
I understand how you feel. For me, it seemed like everytime I was anticipating being finally able to heal, and to deal with trauma and pain (emotional and physical), something or someone would knock me down again. But I m still determined and still trying. I swear sometimes we just need to cry, not in defeat or self pity...but just to release the pain, and reset. Maybe it is a way of letting that inner child seek comfort. Don't give up, I wish you progress and peace.
You deserve all the subs.
God has brought so much light in a way we can understand.
Thank you again. I've been working in myself according to your advices and my life has grown so much. Thanks.
Much appreciation for your insight as to how the empaths journey towards recovery unfolds. Thank you for putting it into words for me. I knew I was feeling stronger about the “I am” of myself but you helped explain it. The warrior adult in me has been present lately and it’s a quiet strength. I feel ok being me even when I’m being belittled for the way I express my joys.
I will listen to this a few times so it can be present in my mind when the times arise .
🙏🏻
Thank you !!! Loved this video. Finally some valuable insight on what are the core issues not being addressed on how to grow and protect our empathic inner child .
this channel is a gift to the world
Thank you! I am eager to take responsibility for my life in order to live like an adult which I am, despite infantilization and financial abuse, but was not able to separate cause and consequence. I don't know how to be an adult but I will learn fast. This was the exact answer I needed.
So helpful thank you!
Please do more on the inner warrior😊
This has been more helpful than I can express Dr. Saad. This help has come at such a crucial time for me, coping with a severe pain/fatigue disorder that forced me to move in with my parents. Your sharing these insights could help preserve my relationships with them. You've helped me repair my relationship with myself, so thank you for sharing this information.
God bless you Dr. Saad. You are spot on ...your work is doing alot of good may God grant you paradise. .
Thank you for giving of your knowledge. Just realized how far I've actually come over the past couple of years thanks to people as yourself. Much love to you:)
Thank you so much, Dr. Saad. Stay blessed.
He’s absolutely right about stepping into the warrior. I went through my transition over ten years and his description is spot on accurate
This video is an absolute blessing and a gift to start the new year. It encompasses all the personal issues that I have been dealing with for decades and somehow everything makes sense all of a sudden. All the elements of the work I have been doing for decades are brought together and integrated into a coherent flow of knowledge, caring wisdom, and insight. Thank you!!
This clarifying & liberating video is very much appreciated❤
I am so glad you’re sheding light on gas lighting!! I feel a lot of channels are still coming from that inner child reminisce of pain. There have been a few times Ive listen to a few other channels talking about empaths and after listening to there words I felt not really good (unhealthy, uncomfortable). Most were un-consciously still permitting negative energies through their videos that were stirring some fear. Maybe it was my fear that was being mirrored that I recognized. 😅 But either way I am aware of my inner being. Listen guys, anything that is not put out in a uplifting way, do not listen. 😅. As empaths we are better when light is shed on the positives, not negatives! 👍👍🙏
The healing journey getting to that stage where you can have true compassion for the narcissist illness. Awesome Thank you God.💐✨
Thank u Dr. I love your videos I am almost to the warrior stage thanks to u!
Abdul
I have learnt so many important lessons from you over a period of three years now.
I'm a psychotherapist and had lots of therapy and I'm still learning and healing myself. Married to a narcissist for many years long.
Even had couples counselling.
Yet none of them identified the problem as that of one person Saboteurs and my own process as my inner child experiences was one of wounded and loss. My father died in my teens my first close boyfriend died and my flatmate took an OD. A recent relationship with a man who was narcissistic.
Now with grace and compassion towards myself and inner work, I'm growing into a warrior..not for war. But to stay connected and anchored in my life. Thank you and bless your work.
I Love your Videos Abdul.....You give a different take on empaths and Narcissists and I'm absorbing it a ll like a sponge....Thank you
Sir very good valuable lesson for empath like me...
Thank You so
Much for wisdom clarity and union of Both spirit side and "ground" side of all of this
Dr. Saad! You are a gift from God to us , the collective ! Thank you for all your contribution . ❤️
Thank you THANK YOU, thank you for being you!! Best advice I’ve heard on this topic. Every video of yours is extremely valuable. You have helped me so much. I cannot thank you enough ❤️
Thanks for sharing these angles on the why’s and how’s of Empathic behaviour.....
Very helpful
I have listened To the entire series and have given it very deep thought.
I am 60 ,for the best part of my life I was the victim,not of every body but some people
who BETRAYED ME much earlier on
A prison of my own making because for the large part felt totally entitled to feel that'
way because after all,I WAS BETRAYED!!
Now,after going through EXACTLY what Mr Saad has spoken of,I now see things as he
says.
How you Sir can be so accurate is astounding to me.I have listened to hundreds talk on this subject
and you put them to shame!
I never thought I would ever be freed from this,I am now and it fantastic
The energy I put into trying to deal with the issue is NOW MINE FOR ME!!
It is the closest thing to being REBORN that I think anyone could ever feel,
FEEL being the real core of it.
Those feelings,affected my whole body,I was always running on empty.
Now I have a full tank and am excited because there are so many possibilities
ahead of me.
This is what awaits the empath who is HONEST and BRAVE enough to defeat the BELIEF
SYSTEM they installed by themselves.
I think the spiritual event is actually the realization of our own power and potential.
Just think about that word,,potential,,,that mean POTENT,thats serious power and influence!
Thats what awaits the Empath that stops crying and decides to crush the inner demon
that rules them.
I currently see a specialist for so called Adhd,which was no doubt a contributing factor in things
I will insist they sit with me and listen to the whole presentation,they will learn a lot,from a
thorough professional!
Good on you! There’s a saying, “I can explain it to you, but i cant understand it for you”. Im happy for you that you were able to apply his wonderful, helpful advice to your own life. It’s not easy to take responsibility in our part of where our lives go wrong, ESPECIALLY when someone hurts us. Taking responsibility is empowering though, as this means we can steer our own ships in the future.
Excellent lecture. Great depths of insight and wisdom, Sir. Thank you. Your videos have helped me to more clearly identify and check my life work of healing from narcissistic abuse from childhood by a narcissistic psychiatrist father. By the grace and Word of God I was able to remain separate from the narcissistic family cult with 8 younger siblings, and I have no contact. Sad and disappointing. I think you’re a most gifted friend. And all the best to you.
🙏Wonderful teaching/ teacher. Thank you, Abdul Saad; Vital Mind Psychology.
This talk was very good. After escaping from my Narc Ex after 30 years, life was tough because I felt like a child even though I was 50. I made some bad choices in people.
I was a Christian, but not a very good one because of those choices.
I finally got fed up with myself and cut out everything that prevented me from following Jesus with a clean heart. Isolated myself to focus on the Bible, work, and self improvement. 3 years later, I'm not perfect, but I'm out of debt, feel grounded in God's Word, quiet and observant, and now very careful about people. It feels good to be a whole mature person, not a victim or child. Making responsible decisions. Thank you, Jesus, for transforming me.
Vital video for all empaths. Thank you very very much.
I LOVE your videos so much!! Thank You for your amazing insights!! ❤
You are spot on. Thankfully I've have finally achieved the mature adult warrior status you discuss here. The result has been complete inner peace and calm happiness due to my full understanding of what is really happening when interacting with others. I am now at peace with an Economy of words and being my true self. True joy and happiness have finally been experienced and understood and it is so satisfying. I encourage everyone here to continue to study and learn about themselves and their inner child so they can finally control it and be free of self induced pain and anxiety.
“Inner child activated” , as another poster stated, that is def something to reflect on. And, I have an inner warrior alright. And thats been activated too, but I think in a disorganised, fumbling kind of way. Like learning to fly, its rough and dangerous but hope to smooth it out. Im at a loss for how to connect the inner child to the warrior for protection.
Dr. Saad, you are a kind man. My daughter is the narcissist and I'm deeply conscious of the spiritual emptiness that is her lot. I love her. I'm not vengeful. I want to be well, not triumphant.
Thank you Dr Saad, I have learnt so much from these videos on my road to recovery from narc abuse. I am in a much better place in my life , I have lots of friends who have also helped me to reintegrate back into life again. I think the hardest part about healing is learning to forgive and understanding what that really means. I still lapse sometimes but recover more easily now that I've learnt how to let go. Thank you once again for all your great knowledge and advice on this subject, I'm sure many people have been helped on their journey from your wonderful work.
Thank you for this video! It makes me feel empowered and hopeful. I see the path and next steps for me. Thank you so very much! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👑
You deserve to be on a tv show. Life changing talks.
This is probably the single most helpful video I have on my Mental Health playlist. Thank you 🙏🏼
Wow... this video has helped me understand things about myself a lot deeper. I'm so grateful for people who take the time to make videos like this. The amount of doors that have been opened for me watching quality content like this has been so helpful on my journey and my children's!
Dr Saad, you talk about the warrior archetype in this video. Please, can you expand on the archetypes of the King and the lover relating to empaths?
I find it easy to be in my warrior, to live purely for myself, but harder to progress into the king or lover without becoming immature.
You are describing what Pete Walker calls an #emotionalflashback, the fact that Narcissits only have power over us as long as they trigger us into Emotional Flasbacks, love bombing being the "positive" trigger that gets us hooked in looping such, by many called a #traumabond.
You are putting words to my understanding of this dance and I realize that am finally becoming a more mature empath, fully able to connect and even evolve relationships with people with a fairly high level of narcissitic defense mechanisms (she gets triggered I don't, she blocks/rejects me, it hurts but I don't flash and she soon returns 😊)
I found you at the right time by the will of Allah. and I've only listened to your work for two days. And it is by the best work out there, and I've watched 100s hours, read books, read clinical books, papers, psychology journals, forums but your work is very in depth! Subhnallah
This is exactly what i have been doing..my inner child healing and integrating her back have changed my life..my inner warrior will protect her at all costs to the point of walking away from my entire dysfunctional family of origin nearly 2 years ago...and moving countries to escape the overt and covert abuse for nearly 52 years...forgotten wellness has returned..my health on every level is returning..my inner child is safe..the empowered mature empath is a force to be reckoned with!....thank you for your validation wisdom and love...so appreciated. .💖
Awesome videos on the empath (I’m one!), Dr. Saad; thank you!
Please do more videos. I have identified with every word you have said and you have no idea how much it resonates with me and helps me understand me. I am developing. You are helping. Thank you for you.
Dear Dr. Saad, you made the point. Thank you so much for the clarity, for the structured way of explaining and facing aspects which help me recognise and overcome the obstacles in my own soul, regardless of the nature of the narcissist. I see the chance to break free from my own beliefs and gain integrity for myself. Thank you.
Many greetings from Germany.
Perfectly timed, perfect message! Thank you!
Truly valuable analysis 🤗
Thank you so much for ur information-
You have catapulted me toward healing and been a integral part of my new recognition, education and empowerment. Thank u for helping me towards attaining the strength to step into my own power and stability-
*also: because of ur education and videos on TH-cam I reached out to Rick Malter Institute and pursued a HTMA test -
Such Gratitude for u and ur on point messages.
Hi Abdul, I want to thank you the information you are so generously sharing. I relate STRONGLY to most of your points in this series, it's alarming to be honest. My life has been more chaotic than I can handle. This information is valuable to me. Thank you.
Thank you, Dr Saad, the whole set of videos has been excellent. I look forward to going through them all at least once more.
Thank you Dr. This series was valuable and insightful.
How do you shield?
I really need to learn that. I feel stressed out when some people express their problems, it’s almost like I’m feeling it for them.
I realize it’s their life lesson and it’s their journey. I’d like to be able to listen without
taking that energy on myself.
Maybe stop listening to people's problems so much. You can pull away from any conversation that is not comfortable to you
grey rock
@Dexy Nash i dont believe u know me to make judgments on my character ;)
Dexy Nash
Agree....some ppl don’t understand.
How many friends will you have, if you tell them, nope...can’t listen to your problems...
You can listen to people's problems, but if you feel overwhelmed there are ways you can protect yourself, thats what boundaries are for, you have the right not to listen once in a while. Plus, friendship is not just listening to peoples problems, thats what empaths get trapped in, thinking they only have value when they care for people. I totally understand, i have been my family's therapist for all my life bc im the quiet good one, but as soon as i need someone to lean on, they just cant take it. I am now working on having my own life and finding people who i can rely on as well. Cheers from a recovering codependent you dont know enough to judgem
You hold a very balanced perspective and that's why i resonate with this so strongly. You look at both sides of the equation in order to create true integration. I fully support what you do bro and thank you.