What We’ve Been Told About Death & Grief is WRONG | E76

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  • @ari_mas_cas3484
    @ari_mas_cas3484 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    It's not "getting over it", but going THROUGH it is the key 🔑

  • @stephenulmer3781
    @stephenulmer3781 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    In the last 10 years my entire family has passed away from various causes. All I have left are a handful of 3rd cousins that live in other states. You dont get over the grief of losing people( especially my mom) you just learn to live with it and go on 😢😊

    • @patriciamariecunningham306
      @patriciamariecunningham306 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Am so very sorry to hear this, your now in my thoughts and prayers always and forever

    • @IMeMineWho
      @IMeMineWho หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes. It is a club no one wants to be in and one that no one understands until they are there. Adult orphans are now 12% of the population and few are there for the adult orphan. "I see ppl turn their heads (Paint It Black).." could be a theme song. And the government has plans for everyone but the adult orphan..but ignores the subject of AOs as if none exist! I have written the candidates..no response yet.. It is never-ending grief.😢Love to other AOs.

    • @tinatochi5131
      @tinatochi5131 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Just lost my brother the other day .Just can't comprehend it.Still feel alone and cry daily 😢.

    • @chocolab3014
      @chocolab3014 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      🫂

  • @charlessedlacek5754
    @charlessedlacek5754 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    No, it never goes away. After a while you can compartamentalize it, storing it in a different part of your brain, but it is still there. A song, a scent, a phrase can trigger past memories of it. I lost my sister 2 years ago and there are days, not many, but days where i cannot go outside. Her death hit me more than all the death and mayhem i saw as a soldier overseas and a career in law enforcement..you just live with it.

  • @Arno-x4k
    @Arno-x4k 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    As for the question. Grief will never go away. Its part of who you are now. But over time .. the person you lost grows with love. Because that is also a part of you. ❤

  • @tinaojukwu
    @tinaojukwu 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Yes, my son once (5years) post my mother's death, said to me "mom, you don't heal from loss of loved one but time dulls the pain and enables you to function, and you know what? He is 💯% right. Never healed but passage of time has dulled the pain now so I can talk about it and function.

  • @usuk9316
    @usuk9316 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Grief is a road without an end.

    • @iselacowen5441
      @iselacowen5441 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Yes Grief Has 😔 no moving On And The heart ❤is Always hurting so No one can tell you how to feel.And no one really cares. Sorry for your loss is just a word 😔.

  • @Jburnz
    @Jburnz 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    “Pain can break your heart down or open.”
    🔥🔥🔥

    • @MaryannNunes
      @MaryannNunes 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I agree I agree

  • @charlottemacdonald4167
    @charlottemacdonald4167 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Release any criticism of yourself. ❤. Well done. I've had grief from my father's seeming rejection of me. This session helped me. Lots of tears. ❤ Both of my parents were remarkable. I am so blessed. I will pass this on. Thank you.

  • @wendypedersen1463
    @wendypedersen1463 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I'm losing my mum very fast to Dementia n it's a process of losing the person bit by bit n hospital visits and a waiting game fr the enevitiable Death . I am actively grieving already finding ur podcast n listening to your story and listening to alot of what you have to say I can relate to and just like u I believe the medical profession only manage the symptoms Thankyou for this conversation it helped me many regards wendy in Dublin 🇮🇪 Ireland

  • @isabellegarcia9205
    @isabellegarcia9205 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Your mother would be proud of you, she would want to to live on, for her.i lost my mother heart failure, in 2022, I miss her so much.i cry on the weekend, I used to call her on the weekend, I'm getting better as time goes by.🤧🙏🏼

    • @diveloopthrills7613
      @diveloopthrills7613 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I want to encourage you with this. If you’re mom was a Christian a born again Christian she is in heaven right now with the lord

  • @ASHEN_ONE_GAMES
    @ASHEN_ONE_GAMES 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I lost my dad when i was ten I'm 44 now and it still haunts me

  • @club-girl2809
    @club-girl2809 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Time heals nothing we just learn to live with the pain

  • @rosaliafeal671
    @rosaliafeal671 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    ❤I've been in an eternal grief for 2 yrs now and I'm soo afraid of this soo called modern society which is in this culture all-out how old are you and hoe much money do you make and really don't. Understand that losing your 30yr marriage partner and consequently business and home life alters a person to substantially become upset when you have to uproot yourself to another country which seems soo unfriendly and totally aloof.❤

    • @charlottemacdonald4167
      @charlottemacdonald4167 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      The best way is to begin again. Remember who you are, and continue to appreciate life. A new path will open, , and the past will remain with you in a loving way. ❤❤️❤️

  • @sadiedetoles4235
    @sadiedetoles4235 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I lost my sister, father, husband and my dog within the last 10 years. You can’t really get over grief but in time you learn to accept it. At the end the day you make decision to start living again. The 2 choices you have is to get to living or get to dying. I think it’s important to live for yourself because you are still here and for the people you love who died, otherwise what is the point of their death? Before getting to acceptance I went through so many degrees of grief. It was the hardest 10 years of my life. A friend of mine lost her husband and was now a single parent. It was very hard for her. She was married For 30 years. I believe I went through what I went through to help her. I’m thankful for that.🦋

  • @Avapreppy563
    @Avapreppy563 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    I lost my husband 11 years ago I was with him and although sudden I went into broken heart syndrome now have a pacemaker now my daughter supposedly committed suicide( don’t know how she shit herself in the back of the head) and she left no note she left five children 22 2o 16 11 and 10 I feel like I failed her I can’t get over this I feel like screaming but I can’t because I have her kids

    • @GymAndSun
      @GymAndSun 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Condolences for your losses you are a great person for caring for them

    • @DefiantAngel87
      @DefiantAngel87 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I'm so deeply sorry

    • @rosaliafeal671
      @rosaliafeal671 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ❤my condolences Sweetie......I pray that you have or find someone to share all of this which is your reality...but thank God that you have an opportunity to be a blessing to your immediate family...God BLESSED ❤

    • @isabellegarcia9205
      @isabellegarcia9205 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm so sorry Ava, your husband and daughter are with jesus now, one day will see them again. 🤧🙏🏼❤❤❤

    • @sandralouth3103
      @sandralouth3103 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The hitting in the back of the head is suspicious. Bless you for taking in the children. My husband and I took in my nieces children after her husband caused her death (2 and 5 and molested by that POS) so I have an idea how soul deep tired you are. It will work out and they will help you as much as you help them.

  • @evelibertone4188
    @evelibertone4188 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Glad I found this, really good, thank you. Am a therapist and sharing with others.

  • @seanmerch1605
    @seanmerch1605 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Careful who your sharing your grief with it can also cause trauma bond with the wrong person

    • @MaryannNunes
      @MaryannNunes 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      You're so right

  • @rosaliafeal671
    @rosaliafeal671 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    ❤Thank you Sweetly for opening a space to lighten this subject Sweetie Sweetly Blessed ❤

  • @christinespiers-wy9kr
    @christinespiers-wy9kr 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I’m so sorry for the loss of your Mother.

  • @reginajohnson1818
    @reginajohnson1818 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Grief losing a child can break your heart

  • @aprilshowers3331
    @aprilshowers3331 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    My mom passed in 2020 from uterine cancer but it was really the fluid that collected in her lungs that made her pass. No condolences please, just sharing and relating. Let’s just try to live better lives🙏🏾

  • @AgnesBereczki-r5n
    @AgnesBereczki-r5n วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Yes, your experience and insight is very helpful to me, thank you for sharing! Forgiving myself is also my hardest task in life, if you get more insight on your journey toward this , please share! Thank you ❤

  • @christinespiers-wy9kr
    @christinespiers-wy9kr 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Praying for those who are battling cancer.

  • @chocolab3014
    @chocolab3014 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    My husband died suddenly in April... we worked together and we were on a job together when he had a brain bleed and for some reason I was completely calm when I did the CPR but I knew when he left his body and I knew that he would never come back ...but grief is getting worse and worse and worse for me every single day. I completely isolate myself and cut off some friendships because they were negative people and now I'm sitting here alone with my two dogs and wonder what the heck happened to me.
    I'm not scared of death or dying but I just miss him so much and it's not getting any better.

  • @tinaojukwu
    @tinaojukwu 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Lost my mother 2009. Still hurts, The hole never healed, pain is so dull no, and I can function in this life.

  • @kathyfann
    @kathyfann 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Yes Absolutely 💯 though Jesus

  • @TimHartley-yk2hc
    @TimHartley-yk2hc 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Don't let 'Grief ' eat you alive ! AND ' DONT ' PUT YOUR SORROW OUT FOR EVERYONE TO PICK ON . BE GROWNUP !!!

  • @MajorAFubar
    @MajorAFubar หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The big problem is getting people to believe that you've healed from grief. I've completely healed, my wife passed away suddenly 7 years ago, our daughter and I have gone through it all together. But...people are absolutely sure that I'm always going to be on the verge of a complete mental collapse. Daughter is fully functional at med achool despite her trauma, we lead very fulfilling lives and are able to talk about her mother's death in a reasoned and pragmatic way but people are always giving us the sideways glance waiting for us to crack up. Its patronising.

  • @teresareed7358
    @teresareed7358 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Grief Share group is really good.

  • @ValerieGoodman-cu1wv
    @ValerieGoodman-cu1wv 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    It is possible. God, our father Jesus Christ can heal grief, and turn it into Joy for anyone who completely surrender it to him and trusts/believes in him. ❤ I tried it with faith, believing he would heal me and he took control and healed me. All Glory to out father, Jesus Christ ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏✝️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @irishravr632
    @irishravr632 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Everyone deals with grief in their own way.

  • @DefiantAngel87
    @DefiantAngel87 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This is very inspiring. Thank you.

  • @MareeMarshall
    @MareeMarshall 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    We lost our eldest daughter,the heartache will never end till i die,its not a injury to your body that can heal,its a terrible damage to your very soul that never heals,time does not heal all pain,you never expect your child to die before you,

  • @juanitacrocker2474
    @juanitacrocker2474 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think the answer to that question depends on the definition of healing...
    If healing means never crying again, or feeling sad or missing the ones we grieve over or talking about them or wishing they were still here, then the answer is no...our 1st born and only son died 17 years ago and i still cry, feel sad, talk about him, miss him, wish he was here...if healing means something different then im im not sure the question can be answered. Our son meant everything to me, and a part of me is missing, our loss had a tremendous impact on me and im forever changed and i was very traumatized by the loss, how does one ever fully heal or get over that? i dont think its possible....and i am so, so sorry for your pain and trauma and loss. My heart hurts for you. God Bless you, i hear what youre saying....😢

  • @debbiecreter2005
    @debbiecreter2005 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I know this is mainly about grief due to death of a loved one, but I would like talks to also address grief from other life losses as well, like friendships, jobs, homes, loss through family estrangement, divorce, medical
    Issues like Alzheimer’s or dementia in a loved one. This would be very helpful to many people. Thank you.

    • @EveningTV
      @EveningTV 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I have lost a son, but I have also had a lot of other losses that were possibly even more difficult. Estrangement and betrayal are sources of something called ambiguous or disenfranchised grief because they are not validated in our communities. You don't get sympathy cards when your husband leaves you or you go bankrupt for instance. Those are losses grieved alone.

    • @debbiecreter2005
      @debbiecreter2005 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@EveningTV You’re so right. Anyone who hasn’t experienced these other types of losses can understand the impact on others and the toll it takes.

    • @debbiecreter2005
      @debbiecreter2005 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I

    • @debbiecreter2005
      @debbiecreter2005 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I meant can’t understand.

  • @MaryannNunes
    @MaryannNunes 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Your memory goes when grief attacks and after grief attacks it it hurts but one day it will be released out of your head and out of your heart but never too far because grief is always there I wish I could write a book on it that'd be pretty cool the books I've seen they don't say what they're supposed to say it's more harder than that it's more deeper than that I would write I would write really deep about it it would be the number one bestseller I bet

  • @PortsmouthCherokee
    @PortsmouthCherokee 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I am 41 years old and of all the people or things I've lost that i miss the most. I miss my hedgehog. He was the most awesome, beautiful little friend I've ever had. He had a tumor keeping him from eating, and putting him to eternal sleep broke my heart. It absolutely broke me. He was my little dude. What makes it harder might be also because I interacted with him on LSD (me not him). He was truely my friend

  • @davidcrawford1616
    @davidcrawford1616 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Never ever is it easyto forget

  • @DefiantAngel87
    @DefiantAngel87 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I'm so sorry for your loss

  • @MaryannNunes
    @MaryannNunes 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I'm new here and this is going to be more educational I hope so I lost my husband 4 years ago and I still can't stop crying I still can't not miss him and yeah I need someone to talk to everyday but I'm trying to do it I'm trying to be in control❤

  • @rajifonte6703
    @rajifonte6703 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I just lost the love of my life my soul mate 5 weeks ago. I jus woke up from a dream of him rt now, and didn’t want to start crying so i decided to open up utube to forget, and oddly i just saw this ad of u speaking on top of the feed. And it didn’t even have volume. But the c.caption words got my attention the words about when u said something about grief,don’t go crying in a closet, talk about it. I don’t think im ready rt now. My husband heart i think just stopped. And 911 wouldn’t answer. Then the amemt worked slow, and they were struggling to get him out the building cuz bronx elevator was so tiny they had to stand him in the elevator tied to that board thing. And then i dont think i did chest compressions hard enough. Its a nightmare i relive every day. I wake up trying to redo the compressions correctly. Im weak. So i was thinking maybe i should have just used my legs. And his last look i cant get it out of my head. And i dont want to talk about it cuz it hurts so much brings me back. Im also from nyc. Im 39 i hate that i have many years to live without him.

  • @ari_mas_cas3484
    @ari_mas_cas3484 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Mom passed in 2009 from lung cancer (non smoker) I still call out her name to this day 🗣️... 🧑🏻

  • @williameverett9288
    @williameverett9288 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I don't like this guy, watched a few videos, before i even heard he had to say, i just got this almost , "bad vibe" from this dude,, call it my intuition😮. I go along with what my gut feelings, or intuition are trying to tell me! It never fails me❤ so unfortunately, i will not be continuing with this channel.. just my personal opinion , not saying anyone should feel the same as me😢
    Xo love and light sent to all going through anything difficult in their life❤

  • @ScottSheridan-t9w
    @ScottSheridan-t9w 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Grief can be healed through Jesus christ ❤
    God bless you 🙏

    • @rocoe9019
      @rocoe9019 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 trash! Garbage! Rubbish! 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

  • @ShaShaLuva414
    @ShaShaLuva414 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Never ever heal you learn to live with the death of your love ones just like you live with them ❤ good days and bad days for the rest of your life

  • @MaryannNunes
    @MaryannNunes 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    It's not your fault I promise God has got your back

  • @MaryannNunes
    @MaryannNunes 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I understand it's a normal thing to go to heaven I do I believe in God it still hurts and you'll never be able to take away that pain grief goes off like hot and water on me and it how do I do with it grief is an uncontrollable word unbelievable

  • @kirbywaite1586
    @kirbywaite1586 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    All injuries heal, but none without scars.

  • @bryanfoster8936
    @bryanfoster8936 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Time is a great healer 😮😮

  • @reginajohnson1818
    @reginajohnson1818 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I lost my son of 23 years
    U wont get over. Not to be rude but no pain is like losing your child

  • @kellyslack7469
    @kellyslack7469 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    All my family have past away am 43 and cant talk to children ive list all my family nanna grandad uncke aunty uncle my mam and my dad works away this was yr after yr aswell i cant just go out because of health reasons i feel like am not dead are alive am lost and alone 😢

    • @IMeMineWho
      @IMeMineWho หลายเดือนก่อน

      In that club. I have written our candidates about this (12% and growing are AOs in our situation) and many are in the boat with no safety nets and few to call on. No response yet except to my mind, we are the group in most need of a plan for us. I would urge those in the boat to wrote their reps and the candidates to demand assistance for us. I wish to go back in time to when they were here, if only that were possible. This "club" no one understands the magnitude until they get there. Many of the ppl I thought would be there were not and a few I didn't expect were. I wish I could give you a virtual hug..but know that someone understands. Condolence.

  • @Eddie-km4do
    @Eddie-km4do 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I pray to god every night to take me before i wake up but unfortunately im still here

  • @chocolab3014
    @chocolab3014 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    A lot of people I have approached with my grief do not like to talk about death and dying in grief. Did you feel uncomfortable about the whole topic so I don't bother anymore and it's just my husband's mother and I who know talk

  • @kev60154
    @kev60154 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you

  • @Twocentssyss
    @Twocentssyss 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Jesus is the glue that binds broken lives.

  • @bethschneider5223
    @bethschneider5223 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I lost my son to suicide he had mental illness. I have shame and guilt and so much stigma about both these things

  • @philipb2134
    @philipb2134 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The Moving Finger writes

  • @kevinhead6464
    @kevinhead6464 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    IT TAKES TIME.

  • @leeyaferguson9019
    @leeyaferguson9019 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    In time.😔

  • @kev60154
    @kev60154 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @MaryannNunes
    @MaryannNunes 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I understand we're all going to die yes but 20 years of my life was awesome our anniversary is coming up and it's the 25th of October every holiday every anniversary everything hurts hurts hurts all over and over and over and over again how do you stop it

  • @exiromero7597
    @exiromero7597 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Siento por lo que pasaste pero No pude terminar de mirar este video, es demasiado escuchar palabras malas. ☹️sin necesidad de usar tantas palabras malas.

  • @WinterShadow131
    @WinterShadow131 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Dear doctor my nme is Michael I’ll leave it at that for now well the reason I’m texting is tht in the year 2020-2021 I lost my mother and my two sisters and my brother in law and my nephew all too that damn covid 19 yes all in the month of Dec24-25 I come from a family of 6 girls 3 boys now it’s gotten smaller I loved my family my grief doesn’t seem too go away I’ve hidden away from my rest of my family we all caught Covid 21 family members we were at a Christmas party a week before Christmas Eve I find myself crying in the strangest of times when I’m working I had too go to the restroom too cry I’m sorry I need to talk to someone I appreciate it Thank you

  • @rosaleyvas
    @rosaleyvas 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

    👉🏻💯💪🏻🙌🏻

  • @sethhornaday5943
    @sethhornaday5943 หลายเดือนก่อน

    No

  • @tonysmith6940
    @tonysmith6940 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    No you can't cure it I'm still dealing with it after 47 years

  • @iselacowen5441
    @iselacowen5441 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    No one Can help you Heal and you Are trying To get people To Subscribe To make money 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

  • @drosplandagreen5483
    @drosplandagreen5483 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yeah. I don't think I'd take real life advice from someone with a neck tattoo.

    • @Jburnz
      @Jburnz 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Im taking his advice. I got real vibes.
      “Victim mentality creates victim reality.”
      This vid was deep. I saved it. It was moving that you had the strength to share. And the wisdom to move forward and share your advice with people.
      People dont talk about this real stuff enough. Sometimes people turn their backs.
      Thank you man. I can see your spiritual growth .

  • @LuciFeric137
    @LuciFeric137 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Never trust a "new age guru" with a tattooed neck

  • @TheresaMean
    @TheresaMean 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Not really ever. We carry ppl with us in heart and soul if they are ppl we cared about only

  • @AlejandraDeLaCruz-ws5ec
    @AlejandraDeLaCruz-ws5ec หลายเดือนก่อน

    No

  • @peteroliver3578
    @peteroliver3578 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    No

  • @jujun6465
    @jujun6465 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    No