Do you have Controlling Parents? Sab wo Decide Karte hain?
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- Shwetabh Gangwar, author of the Rudest Book Ever, talks about controlling parents who create a negative environment for their kids. They limit their individual growth by not letting them experience life.
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Sir i am, going, through this right now... I am, 20 yr old girl battling with my toxic father..... What should I do?? Plz help sir
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My parents: *(emotionally abuse me)*
Me: *(depression, anxiety etc)*
My parents: stop being so depressed and anxious
Me: ya sure, I will just switch it OFF
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Holy shit I totally forgot that I commented here
I feel all that irl 😁
Swetabh: "Parents kaun hai?"
*"Insaan hai jinke bacche ho gaye"* 😂😂😂😂😂👌👌
Humans evolution in short.
😂😂
Thank you bro its for me
Yh this was really best ever
hahaha right
Children must be taught how to think, not what to think.
Correct❤️
Book padhi hai na abhi
Parents ko nahi na akal
@@adissadi Bhai Parents ki *actions* galat ho sakte hai but unki *Intention* kabhi galat nahi hogi
@@jaishreeram8045 toh action ki wajah se suicide hote hai na bhai
my parents didn't let me go anywhere while I was in school. Now, whenever I think about going somewhere I get extremely nervous and have butterflies in the stomach. I don't know how to overcome these self-confidence issues.
Yes, but your parent's intention was very right and very positive.
@@jagjitkaurpannu7686 parents decision May be wrong but thier intentions may not
still facing this same shit ...im 16 AND THROUGHOUT MY LIFE IF NEVER BEEN EVEN OUT OF MY HOUSE ON MY OWN ....IK MY PARENTS ARE TOXIC CUX THIS IS NOT THE ONLY THING THEY DID OR FORCED UP , I JUST DONNO HOW ILL GET OUT OF IT .
@@suhanidasgupta6917 just wait few years be something on your own.. Show them u can survive all by yourself
@@nikhilkamble7585 yes hope so
My parents provides me all sorts of facilities but they always belittled me, compared me, never understand me nor my dreams, never mentored me, didn't had time for me so I dont have a emotional connection with them.. all they care about is their social status
Main bhi apne parents se jyada emotionally connect nahi hoon
@@user-yt2kn8sr6y bhai bhai
@@brijeshmandavi6795 bhai main sayad logo se emotionally aise jaldi connect nahi hota ya pata nahi kya hai kyunki mere baba aur dadi bhi jab chal base the tab bhi meri aankhon se ek anshu nahi aya halanki kaafi memories rahi thi bachpan ki unke sath
रावण bhai utne aasun zyadatar logon ke nahi nikalte. Acting krni hoti hai ki bahut dukh hai.
@@rohankulkarni8314 haan acting karke 2 ansu nikale the
Parents: *forces kid to take up science
Kid: *commits sucide
Parents : **surprised pikachu face**
😞😞
Parents hee sabse bade Chutiye hote hain. Par koi keh Nahi Sakta ye baat
@@youtubeowner1266 tmhare parents nahi hote toh tum yeh comment nahi likh paate
@@youtubeowner1266 Bhai tu paida nahi hua hota
@@youtubeowner1266 10-12 saal ka hai kya tu
I wish my parents can understand 1% of this video
Unfortunately they won't
Even mine
😢
They wont.... They cant..... They dont
@@AP--zg5jn dimag kharab ho chuka h parents logo ka(mostly in my case)
Nothing more to say
Parenting school should start in India as early as possible to teach parenting to parents. Majority parents ko control karne ki bimari hai jiska medicine doctor ke paas bhi nahin hai.
Good suggestion
@Deepak Kumar and they have to get their report cards signed by their own kids. Then we will see how embarassing it feels. Ofc we can't hit you like you do to us but ofc we will make fun of you then you will see how it feels to be degraded when you work so hard and get a shitty result and are already so sad.
@@tusharchilling6886 yes bro this would be great idea for a dark comedy sketch 🤣🤣
@@Pdrock2001 I also thought the same while writing this 😂
It sounds like an AIB sketch
Loved the comment
*His words connect with reality*
*only connect with reality.
Yes you are right 👉
Yes
I'm 22 and the only child and was raised by my grandparents, being controlled by parents is one thing but being controlled by your grandparents is on a *whole another level.* They restricted me from going on school trips, talking to someone of opposite religion or age range, I couldn't set my foot outside the house on my own until i turned 16... Hell i was prohibited to go to park which was 100 meters away from my house, I've missed countless picnics, trips, birthday events, celebrations, get togethers etc, I always felt jealous of other kids who were privileged with such benefits.
I had to *force* myself out of the bubble and fight verbally in order to break through the restrictive walls
My parents are doing same with me.....I can't even talk to anyone on phone
That's because of the extreme generation gap
Seriously man same!!! I can't talk to anyone!!
I’m facing this.I never go anywhere except School & Tuitions .Thats why I never skip a single day.But always my Dad decides what to wear even if it’s proper he won’t allow to wear.I hate it,I look like a balloon in over sized full sleeved shirt & jeans .💔
It’s proper but still I can’t wear too designer shirts,or wear sleeveless dress with shrugs .😞.Im always jealous of my friends.
Im sorry it happened to you. This also explains your DP here. Michael Jackson han?? I know cuz i've had the same experiences and imma huge MJ fangirl... and i think its cuz of the love we never got from our families. That dragged me into being obsessed with MJ. I find peace in his music. Anyways, MJ forever !! ❤
Even my worst enemy doesn't deserve over controlling parents.
next generation's parent will be 100x batter than nowadays parents 🤓
Nope.
@@tusharagarwal5306 why ?
The kids who were controlled by their parents will eventually do the same to their own kids.
I agree
@@tusharagarwal5306 that's not true we all generation Z people have gone through manipulation so we won't do it with our children
Parents teaching what to think and not how to think.
They don't teach u what to think they just tell u to follow their instructions blindly
Book mei hai ye toh
@@swatisaini6447 what if we follow. My parents decision help me took engineering but I wanted to be independent. But I got into IIT n hope for a better placement.
Sahi kahan bhai
For my parents love marriage is crime 😭😭😭
I have controlling parents & 3 years ago I come to college out of my city & I found I was really can't think by myself......& Now after 3 years I'm proud to myself that I got opportunity to go out of that environment.
Now I'm studying well & learnt many real life perspectives.
Really it's best to get out of controlling parents.
Settle some where else 😁
Best of luck for your Future 🤞
This Comment Helps me
Congratulations brother
My parents are exactly opposite. They encourage me to go out and do stuff by my own so that I can learn and become more experienced in every aspect and they also support me in everything that I do. They don't order me or make decisions for me, instead they share their experiences so that I can relate and get a perspective. I love them with all my heart. ❤❤
Same here man, I have wonderful parents!They have bought me up really well.
U r a real lucky guy...respect ur parents..
Me 2 bhai
Same here
I love my parents ♥️💪
So lucky! My parents are semi protective. But in my initial years my mother was very protective due to family problems.
Parents want the best of us however not knowing what would be the best for us.
Not all parents
@@armada70 of course not,most of them.
No I have had the worst parents in my life. They don't know what is best for us. They just wanna ruin our life
Right
@@armada70 yes. And they are super successful parents who know what they are talking about. In this case, the kid will be a dumbo. The parent, who is rich and successful, has reached that status through work and seen life different than what our failure parents have ever seen. So they know how to treat their kids. My father opened his startup in 2017 and I know this thing fo sure. There is a transformation in his thinking. Having said that he intentionally avoids us so that he doesn't have to connect emotionally with us coz he thinks we are dumb people (he has told us that). He comes at night watches TV silently and goes to office Monday to Sunday. Whenever he is talking, it is always about his office and no other topic. He doesn't force me though like he did in the past. But yes, he doesn't want to be emotionally connected with us and I once said this also in anger to him that you do whatever you want, you will end up alone in life the way you act. But he didn't care. He doesn't care what I have to say. My telling him anything is bullshit. So I have given up on him. When I talk about him it feels like I am talking about some relative and not a family member.
I got 85% in 12th boards and wanted to choose a good college outside the city, but they made me join a college in city which I never wanted to:(
Im so sorry to hear that😞
mine too
Same here with me Bhai idk what to do very toxic behaviour
U r not alone bro. Same goes with me
Bro damn ..I'm fucking going through the same thing..and I'll fucking fight back..I've seen this happen to people around me, before me..not me..I hate the environment I've created due to this conflict at home..but it's important...but then I feel guilty to disobey themmm...I've been obeying everything they say for my whole life..every fucking thing..but not now
Best solution is leave them.. and follow your own path and dream..be strong,take risk in life.Have relation with only those person who can understand you ,help you .make new relationship in life.but make sure that you are financially self dependent...
Yes
True
Aap bhai ho ya uncle?
When I showed this to my parents they completely ignored this.
It wasn't even for them, but ppl goin through similar situations😂 he even clearly mentioned that u can't change them...
@@gunjanthakur6016 yes we cannot change
We can change ourselves. Not Them.
Did you really show them?
@@yomaddy biggest mistake of my life 😂😂
I wanted to become a doctor. But according to my dad, more educated and more earning girls don't get married off easily so he forced me to become a teacher even though we can easily afford medical education. Never allowed me to study outside hometown...study in girls college only.... no guy friends no parties... and also no treatment for my depression 🙂
Hypergamy and misogyny at it's worst. I can't even think what do you feel. Hope you get out of this and go ahead in your life
@@ayushsrivastava1672 thanks 🙂
Tune 1 ko jhel liya,magar apna partner khojne me galti mat karna...
Warna baad me bhi pachtayenge aap.
Same with me
Parents are the most toxic people that we can't ignore
My parents pushed me in to depression. They stopped me to think what i want to be. My goal was big. But everything is burnt inside my heart. When ever I am alone I feel to cry but I can't cry no tears comes from my eyes deep inside I am dead and I sit silently . my relatives says I am not active , it is because of my parents.
Some time my parents also say that they have given me freedom but truth is 'no'
*I hate my parents, proudly* 🙂
These are very heavy statements, u know??
Will u kill them
Na u dont have enough hate
@@-Prakriti kyo kre hum apne haath gnde
@Aditi Kumari keep respecting we all are just respecting getting nothing they have more expectations than they did in life they like imposition of their failure on us .
me bhi
Nobody literally nobody
Le me reading comments section to satisfy myself that after I achieve my goal I will be freed from the controlling parents
But seeing above 25 Yrs also being controlled
*Cries in corner*🙄
No sister you can come out of it. Your life your decisions. Please for God's sake don't take any bullshit from anyone who says. They are your parents respect them. Fuck that ideology and get yourself freed. You go queen
They are controlled because they are not financially independent or can't stand up for themselves as adults
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I also wish to separate myself from my parents some day if it's financially possible, but I assume they will try to blackmail me by saying "Hamara khayaal kaun rakhega" that sort of thing... I don't know how I will deal with that, but since I'm not even employed right now, that's in the far future.
Even financially independent adult women are also controlled
agree with you some parents make their child sheep
99% indian parents do that
Almost all*
100% he boldo ab koito🤣🤣🤣
@@mandystop1077 100%
scapgoat too
I HAVE A VERY NARCISSISTIC TOXIC FAMILY AND AM LOST AT THE MOMENT!
Same here😭😭😭😭
Same here and my life is hell
@@sangeetadwivedi4311 how old are you and what do you do?...
@@shoorapriyanshi2106 how old are you and what do you do?..
My parents are so controlling that they never let me took any important decision of my life and that's why evem after engineering i didn't know who i am. I was hard working and had dream bit was not smart enough to make them happen. Parents were so negative specially father that he would not let me try anything he always would say its not worth it. Never tried, never faile, never learned. Never dealt with outside world, didn't know how it works. After college didn't have skills to get a good jpb and be independent. Got place in college, father said not worth it (25k salary). Came home prepared for bank couldn't clear because was not smart enough to make good strategy to beat the competition. I feels my parents destroyed golden years of my life, they are still like thar want me to just get married off.
Don't get married. Otherwise, your husband and in-laws will make your remaining life a living hell.
I was up bring in a toxic parenting now i m worst engineer coz my dad wanted to m feeling sad now dependent on parents 24 years old engineer not getting job life ruined and still parents blame me for my score 😥😓😓😓 daily blames rants and cant speak a single word against them
@@AliWantsToBattle bro i can understand what u are saying but daily job interview rejections due to low scores mentally harassing daily from outside world and inside negative thoughts life is very bitter 😢
@@Chaljachalja37541 bhai I hope u r ok
DM me on insta if u want @400mandy
Got your book a couple of weeks ago...
I have a very pamparing family so,I am not used to hard languages...but, someone had to provide that for shaping my future...and, your book is that someone.
I wouldn't exaggerate but I had the exact thaught process like yours from childhood... and my parents taught me 'how to think'.
True to my life. I have also controlling parents. I feel like I'm worthless & lonely too.
Thanks sir for the video, this is needed very much to my life. #motivation
Same!
So I am not the only one phew that was close
Sabka yahi hai 🥺🥺
Bhaiya do u know what is the best part of ur every video is the first question u ask - "Aur mere bhai kaisa hai haal chaal, Kam kar rahe ho ki nahi kar rahe ho?!" Which is more than enough to boost me. Before I used to have an answer "Nahi kar raha hoon kam" with a sad feeling what have I done those many days. But today in this video when u asked that question I smiled n i had that answer " Haan main kam raha hoon". Thank you bhaiya for all ur support. U have done a lot for me. U motivate me the best. Thnx a lot
My parents also used to control my lyf and I feared that how badly I would be punished if I raise my voice.
But when I started to talk I found that they are flexible. Yeah it takes tym to make thm understand things but finally they support me. Toh it's fyn... I'm happy with this.😋
If I show this to my Parents they will ......
You know...
I Can't even show this to my Parents
They keep comparing me....
I feel like I am useless
I am one of them ❤️
U r useless I am also useless don't worry bro 😔😔😔
Sabka yahi hai ...no one cares🥺
They are useless to put their own failure reflections on you. You are a great individual. Just fuck them and do your thing. I know this for a fact, there will be very ugly arguments and you might get slapped also even if you are 25 above but you have to develop thick skin. I literally reached a stage where I told them that even if you beat me with rod, I don't care. I will do whatever the fuck I want. They gave up on physically abusing me but now they try to emotionally manipulate me. I am learning to reply to those things from Shwetabh's videos but still, their manipulations are too strong.
My parents and i live in ENGLAND and i am an INDIAN and you know that we INDIANS love cricket my parents gave me academy from past 3 years im now 14 then suddenly i got an Indian Neighbour who told that if your son plays cricket then he will never be sucessfull.Wtf is this i am tired of this
now it will almost be 1 year i am not going to academy just for that neighbour :(. Now i am checking ways to earn money then go back to academy.
Omg, just by hearing that i feel like hitting that indian neighbour
The only way to get out of controlling parents is to get out of the house. No other option. we can't change parents.
You are right ....but its not that simple ....very bold decision...This decision should be taken in early stages specially at the age of 20
0:21 exhausted AF😂
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So true. I just started exploring myself. My mother hates it because that is completely against her rules. But problem is that people like me never got the experience in what is so called life, confined by constrains by parents. Kuch galat karo, mar khaoge, bhezzti hogi vo alag. And to add that, I have depression.
I think I miss much of my teenage life. I never experienced how teenage life looks like
Rob your home and run away
@@youtubeowner1266 LOL
@youtubeowner Foolish, LOL😂
🥺🥺 i can relate
Pichle 10 salo se is topic pe video dhund raha tha me aaj mil gaya
My parents always trying to make me understand that they're more experienced than me and everything they say is correct, even if they don't know anything 🙄
True
I've controlling parents too, but I'm the one who can clash for his choice. Even going to the extent of either going for my choice or not going for it. I prefer being accountable for my own choices, rather than for other's choices.
Before even 1 minute of the video is complete, I want to say... Thank you for picking this question
भाई जब भी मुझे लगता है की मुझे फिर से प्यार हो रहा है , तो मैं तुम्हारी वीडियो देख लेता हूँ ।🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂
Me too🤟😂
Pyar = A lot a pain and shit
@@rahulpandey2022 PKMKB = Pyar Ki Maa Ka Bhosda
Sahi bola😃😃😂😂
Me too
Ek advice dunga apni personal life mein se, mere parents bachpan se bade strict thee. But as I grew older 16-18 ki age tak main unke uss environment se Bahar aa gaya. Unko hurt karna pada. Ek bohot small example dunga, and this is not the right thing that I did and not for the right cause as well. But yeh example baaki cheezon mein bhii apply ho jayega. I was 16 and my dad disconnected the WiFi at night, and I couldn't say anything against it (log toh 20 saal ke ho gaye aur abhi bhii same haal Hain unka), but that night I took charge, main zor se chilaya ki mujhe wifi chahiye, 3-4 baar zor se chilaya Mera baap gusse mein apne kamre se Bahar nikla mujhe thappad lagaya and main aggression mein aur zor se chillaya aur usko aakhon mein aakhein daalkar dekha, unko shock mehsoos hua ki how can this happen, and he suddenly said laa apna phone de. Then Maine gusse mein apna phone patka aur bola jao le jao (ekdum bezzati ke way mein bola). He got mad, bola Ghar se nikal jaa. Main nikal gaya and ek lambi duur ki walk par nikal gaya raat ke 11 baje, 3 ghante baad raat ke 2 baje waapis aaya building ke neeche baith gaya. Meri maa uthi Hui thii bechaari and phir neeche aayi rone lagi aur bola Ghar chal. Jaate hi Maine unse wifi maanga, unhone de dia.
Maine disrespect karri apne parents ki, aur reason bhii ek achhe cause ke liye nahi thaa.
But do you know what happened uske baad? My dad never took away my phone or wifi ever. It was all over for once and all.
Ab main 20 ka ho gaya hoon aur dekhta hoon abhi bhii mere kisi kisi dost ke maa baap phone ya WiFi cheen lete hain.
Aap hi decide karlo kaisi life jeeni hain. Maine ek baar mein karke hamesha ke liye baat khatam kardi.
Ab yahi kisi achhe cause mein bhii use Kar sakte ho.
Learn to train your parents from the age of 16. I can go on and on about this topic in detail.
Sahi tha bro..😅🤣
@@gunjan6465 himmat lekar aao. Jitna jaldi apne liye stand up kar sako utna better. Warna parents toh marte dum Tak control karke rakhna chaahenge.
Jitni age badhti jayegi utna mushkil aur ho jayega change karna.
@@gunjan6465 can I see your business? Do you have a website or something?
@@gunjan6465 these are all expanding fields, and future only looks stable and bright in these. Seriously any rational parents shouldn't have an issue with this. As long as you're working hard, have some results to show. Stay determined. Keep struggling, keep looking your family in the eyes and tell them confidently that this is what you want to do, and if they not support you then you'll never forgive them, and in any case you don't need validation from them. Tell them that if they support that's amazing, otherwise you'll do it alone and not stop
@@gunjan6465 sent follow req
Agar bacha gum hojaye -
Other countries: Maa sidha Gale laga leti hai.
In India: Pehele kut ti hai fir Puch the hai
Are bhai ish comments ne mujhe itna guilt karke hi rakha hai 😡😡😡😡😡😡😡
Im 21, going to be 22 in 4 months. I still don't know how to drive, i can't go anywhere even with my friends, forget all that i dont even have a phone, because im still a student and student's dosen't need a phone according to my parents (I can use my dad's or mom's phone) Even when i used to go to college (now we're not attending college due to pandemic) everyone will have a phone, and will be glued to it, people will be complaining about their camera quality, their phone perfomance etc and I'll feel so left out. My dad is very very protective of me and i think it is making my life worse. Im not allowed to go to any parties or just hang out with friends, because it means im wasting my time and instead i should be stuyding. In the beginning I'd ask my dad, if i can hang out with my friends, he'd say no everytime, now i don't even ask him, I'll just say to my friends that i can't attend. They all think I'm being rude, but i dont want to tell them the truth, i dont want to potray my parents are bad. Beacuse at the end of the day, they're my parents and they have their heart in the right place no matter what they did to me. Omg im having so many things going on in my mind right now, and idk how to comprehend it
Parents logic: You shouldn't hang out for 1 day only in a month, because it may hamper your 1 year study schedule
I can understand
They want to make you SCHOOL SMART.. Which is of no use in real life If u r not STREET SMART
go get a phone with your own money!
Well I have to die because of my narcissistic father, there's no other way to escape from the claws of that monstrous psychopath.....
That's too harsh...God Bless you...Be Brave
I reallyyyyy hope you didn't do anything like that🥺
You should not keep any contact with narcissist ..thats only a solution because they will never change untill they die.
Subhrajyoti pati ...I hope you will not take that step any day.
Remember one day they will become old and their word will not seem to have an effect on u. The struggle seems so much similar but becoming financially independent and distant relationship will do it.
Hey hey hey just don't. You know what many a times I too think the same.. ending my life. But thn realize that is that even the solution? We will be loser thn. Instead ghar se bhag jao bt plzz don't end your life for someone who doesn't care for you
The point shouldn't be to completely abandon the child in the name of growth while he is still learning to walk, but parents should allow children to learn to walk and fall with assuring the children that the parents will be there to pick them up no matter what. Children need reassurance that they are loved and cherished!
Stuck in between my parents 😢😭. Broken home and I'm all alone. My life's situation and this is lyrics of a song. #paparoach #brokenhome
Such a toxic parents.. They won't respect our dreams and golas.. If a girl have dreams den dey should say dat "u are girl u must not have ambitions and dreams just get marry and have children" they spoil der children.. it's too bad no more words it's srsly hurts more😞
7:15 he was adjusting the mic. It wasn't fart
Aisa hee koi cmnt dhundh rha tha
Why did he say then mazza aagya and made that face?
Soumyajit Sen Sarma even if he farted why will he even say ds on farting...😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@dreamersdestination4248 point
Last night i broke down and it happens alot many times , my mum noticed it and i expected her to understand me but instead i was scolded by my mum and dad and they told me i cry unnecessarily like someone has died.
Its horrible in here.
Very good video for students...
I passed class 12th in 2015
Then cracked some top 10 law college under CLAT and SLS and other good central universities for B.A. but my parents and brother didn't let me go because *they* wanted me to get in the top 3 tier colleges... Cracking whatever I had cracked was like a milestone for me because I was very average in studies.... All of my good friends moved to their respective colleges like JNU and etc...with time I have built Social anxiety and depression
I am sorry to hear that, when you put in so much effort in achieving an actual milestone then your parent comes in and calls your entire journey a walk of bullshit coz it didn’t quite reach their idea of a destination.
My parents don't even allow me much to go outside, even if i go they get really worried. And because of this i didn't go out to study from my hometown.. I really don't know what to do. Im confused, don't know how to stand up for myself, how to make decisions..
Do you know Eroll Musk was also agaisnt his son wishes to go to USA ?? But does his son Elon Musk listen to his dad ?? No. He didn't give a shit to his dad. He leave his dad and go to USA agaisnt his dad's wishes & become THE ELON MUSK. Why can't you do the same ?? Why don't you become financially independent and than live your life Independently ??
@@pushpakdeepak9875 not have enough money for pay collage fees then what to do
I lose 12 kg with my diet but my parent not agree specially mom my aim is to achieve big and them I will left my house forever I will live my life not depend on them
You are doing great job man!.... keep it up!
They need to understand. Providing necessities of life for their child ≠ Good parenting.
In fact its their responsibility to provide for child’s necessities. Child doesn’t owe them anything
Yup my parents are like this
I liked the line ki " we have certain amount of energy that is needed to be consumed in some better way".
Sir you have changed my life... from frustration of breakups...to a motivated hardworking guy.... still you are changing my life...I am happy to be a hardworking guy.... that's all for me.... thanks a lot...🙏🙏🙏
How much I love my parents
That much I miss myself 😭
Due to over parenting
The idea behind this video suits to conservative nature of society, but as explained in video, they give advices based on their experiences and learnings which is far different from today's reality. So instead of emotionally batteling for support, accept it and give your all energy in whatever you want to pursue. Thanks shwetabh bhai, You understood the life in a depth, specially related to youth.
Hi friends, i have a problem that my mom ask me why i am sad and when i tell her my problem and issues , she sympathises with me and then after 3 to 4 hours she starts taunting , and then complaining to my dad that i am the cause of her headache , she even shouts and become violent with my sister as well , if she dont listen she can shout but she beats her , and regarding me she first invite me for discussion and then blame me for her headache and then starts shouting and blaming me for chaotic condition in home , i am really stressed , that she always sympathise and invite for discussion and then after 4 hours , start blaming me for her sick health
Same kya kare 🥺
@@cookwithjazz8114 kutte kitna bhi bhaukle,ek kaan se sun kar dusre kaan se nikal dena chaiye bhai,mein bhi vahi krta hu,I don't care my parents anymore
@@bhargavsai8014 esha naa kaho yrr ...chahe jitna marzi ho unka dabab uh should never disrespect them 🙂....
Within 5 minutes, 1000 views, power of Swetabh.
Never let us follow the passion
Never let u live independently
Just getting marks makes his carrier
And always compare with someone
At the end
you will be a LOOSER
I'm the one who say... I hate my parents especially father... I don't even know how some people says that parents are next to goods... I hate these sayings..
Ps. Pls tell me how u can do study while u r facing such a violence at home, i can't do this.... This distracts me and makes me regretting my life... Wht can i do 🥺😞
@Nareshkumar boina yah.. . vohi khaa mnne v
Thank you Shwetabh. Badly needed this.
Bachcho ko samjhanewala, sahi rasta dikhane wala chahiye hota hai.
Control karnewala nahi...
Thank God ! Lucky daughter of my amazing parents ♥️
Please no need to show it off and rub it on others face. Some people have terrible parents. So need to show off your oh lovely parents. Keep it to yourself
@@Courtjester1700
Hehe ok didi ❤
@@nikitasingh9516so you've not been through those moments.
You are speaking right... I feel same
I get many reward in poetry n singing social service. But even I do lots of good stuff my parents think I am dumb. Even they feel good at some point but never change after it..
Yahi hota 🥺😭🥲
0:22 Best starting ever :)
What a miracle, nowadays depressed,unsuccessful people,free people are giving advices, which they don't even follow in thier life ever, just for some fame and money, advices are not a content they are life experiences which can't be given by a person who is not even in that phase
@Lifesutra no to all people who are giving free advices to youth
Me: *Mom I'm depressed*
Mom: *That's just a phase... and gives 5 hrs of lecture*
*Me: Even more depressed*
It's because of your damnnnn phone
@@dayyanahmad117 my mom always says this :(
bhai lecture de diya ye badi baat hai!!.Mere yha to bola jata abhi teri age hi kya hai jo tu depress ho.vese i am 22.Teri bass padhne ki age hai,tu vahi kar.
@@Aryansingh-fk7hy lol same. That's why I've chosen spiritual path, now they're like "age hi kya hai jo spiritual path le li, better depression tha". Unawakened soul. 🙃
@@yomaddy good choice. I have also started reading bhagwat geeta. My whole family, including my elder sister mentally harassed me since childhood. But, the Strange part is they Aren't aware of that. Every time when I think How I have been treated, I go into deep thinking. I met with an accident on 7jan-2019 , got a head injury &was in ICU for 4days laying unconscious, there were mere chances of my survival, I saw my parents How well they treated me with love, but same people went back to the same path of harassing me. Becz, of head injury, I have become to anxietic, but See, they make fun of this, unke hisan se, I AM using it as a Tool against them. Or sbse gussa tb ata jb meri sister(26yrs) old say the same.
I wish my Parents Watch this.😔
I hate my parents.... And I'm really proud of it.
Even I hate my parents I am proud of it
7:15 Wait!!!!! what was that???😅😂😂😂 MAZA AGYA BHAI....
mujhe bhi samjh nahi aaya
Kahi meme na ban jae bhai ka😉🤣🤣🤣
Sayad pet mein chuhe doud rahe hain
I think he fart
@Kenzi Mi nhi bhai ye mic ki awaz nhi, kisi dusre chiz ki hi awaz h😂😂😂
I still love my dad no matter how he is , if he says something I just ignore him
I finally read your entire book. My favorite chapters are learning how to think and people are weird. Thanks for writing this amazing book.
Thankyou Shwetabh Sir. Your all videos are so motivational and helps to remove all bullshit from mind, make mind clear for futher steps in life.
I had a friend, her family was very strict about her talking to guys but she found a way around that. We had a good friendship but unfortunately she left for the UK to study further and lives with some family and they are strict to the point of checking her phone occasionally to see who she's chatting with, I miss her now and just hope she isn't going crazy with such level of restrictions.
I can't go out of my own from house...with frnds or even 10 steps from my house. They don't allow me to wear clothes of my choice. They feel like i m still child. I m a girl n so they feel over protective.
9:30 that's very true. My ex girlfriend used to lie very frequently. And I wasted a lot of time and energy thinking that I could change her. Finally I realised and broke up with her. It took me several months to move on from her but now I'm happy in life.
I am fed up of my parents and just tired just tired,i wanna some space.
I am a girl and i love your channel. What i like the most is ki aap faaltu ki baatein nahi karte seedha to the point baat karte ho. Keep it up
With parents also teachers are also kept at high pedestal
I have the worst parents in the world. They didn't ever became successful in life and nor want me to be successful. I regret of becoming a child of them.
I cracked all india fashion college entrance exam but my parents wanted me to go for ias exam, so here i am, left my dream and pursuing normal B.A. from an ordinary govt college in my city to sit for upsc someday 💔
Hope you clear it in your very first attempt
- From a Fellow Aspirant 🖤
@@p.smishra1702 hey please don't do that, please. Agar sab kuch end karna hee hai toh apna dream leave karke marne se toh accha khush hoke jaao. As toxic as our parents are, no-one would like to see their kid's dead body. Abhi apne dreams pe focus karo, success milne pe parents maan jayenge.
@@kritika791 yhi problem h indians ki wo bndi mrne ki baat krri h or tumhe isne bhi. Parents ki hi pdi h nice
@@p.smishra1702 fuck those parents just follow your dream. Unko liye nhi jee rhe ho tum
@@aditibisht22 don't abuse ......Kabhi kabhi ham bhi galat hote hain ... Delete your abusive word please .... I can't control fir
7:15 Shwetabh Farted after controlling for 7 minutes 😂😂😂
"Waah Maja Agya Bhai" 🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣😂
Bakk...be wo Mike ke khiskane ki awaaz thi 🤣😉😉
@@Rahulkumar-og5gi malum hai Bhai 😂😂 but wo padne ki sound aa rhi thi🤣🤣🤣
I know padane ki hai
Mansutra sir kya bole aahhaa mja aa gya 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Dislikes are parents who think only they are correct
My parents doing the same since long...no escape at all...anytime i try to escape, they come up with all sorts of bashing and guilt inducing actions.
I am 51, my father is 80. Still, he feels property should be in his name only, I am not allowed to decide to change paints, replace old furniture, replace indian toilet with western toilet, cannot change curtains or dusty bed sheets. He says after he dies only I can do all those things.He says he is house owner and threatens he can will it to ashram if we back answer.He keeps creating rift between myself and my brother. Still, he wants to decide that my son take up engineering after plus 2. He gets angry if I come home after 8 pm. And calls my wife as your wife instead of his DIL
Leave your dad's home
Absolutely amazing video, I was also stuck between controlling parents and controlling sibling.
Indian Parents are never going to change. But next generation should change. Bro this relates to me. I know parents are not even going to change even one point of this topic. Parents will try to avoid this video. I am related this to my parents
Tu khud bhi waisa hi banega,baat likh ke rakh le
I don't blame my parents , I feel that we need to guide children but at the same time we need to understand them and always try to solve their problems..then child will be able to do good
7:18 I can see ur passion 😊
Thats asmr
It's mic
I just showed this to my dad 😂😂
Kya hua?
What he said ?
What he said
Y are u not replying lol r u ok bro
ye to maar gaya shayd
So true man. We are always taught that age is directly proportional to wisdom. But it is sooo not true so not true.
So it's not only me whose parents are toxic...... reading the comment section I am now clear that yes parents may also be toxic and wrong
I m 23 and earning well but still my parents don't allow me to go out, they don't allow me to take basic decisions of my life... i wish they could understand that they are not protecting me by this behaviour even they are making me for aggressive and frustrated person...
Just move out
Hi Shrishti, I have the same story.
Leave your home
I never had bf bt at 21 had a relationship n my bro told about it to my parents ( he had my whatsup hacked) n I was about to go out for my studies n then when my parents came to know about it...they just didn't send me...they said we want u to study from home
.it's been four years n my peers has became much more successful than me n now i m regretting my life.
Now I don't have relationship not an understanding parents..
Exactly what I suffered for 40 years , now I don’t want to , always made felt belittle
I cant show this video to my parents because he using abusing language becoz same problem with me also
Stand up to your abusive parent