How to Deal with Parents Fighting Each other at Home
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ก.ย. 2024
- Shwetabh talks about how to deal with parents fighting each other, being abusive toward the kid, and living in a toxic hateful home. He first talks about the definition of adult, the blind notions we have about parenting, and how to take control and power in such a situation. He talks about how to deal with the anger, frustration, and hatred inside that home. You cannot corrupt your state of mind and give in those dark thoughts too.
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This video was needed for sure. Also I want you to make video on HOW TO HANDLE WIFE & MOTHER EQUALLY.
Sir 2 sal tk k meri life ajeeb chali h mai apse share krna chahta hu bahot ache level me b hu n nahi b hu
Stammering pr video bano na
Sir write one more book ❤
You deserve 10m,
Karvi satchai bolte ho ap
It hurts the most when you meet with your friends family and realize how lucky they are.I even forget how the happy family looks like. Since childhood i have seen my father fighting with my mom.all this thing makes me an insecure, low self confidence and introvert.
I can't match eye contact with my neighbors
I always regret having this kind of life and this asshole dad
@@AnkitkumarSingh-qg4cq Bro you should become successful and give your mother a better remaining life my father is also same and always beat my mother but I only live my life for my mother and siblings
@@Rahul-ko1oy ME too😭😭
Same happening with my life.. totally dipressed ho chuka hu
Thats true buddy.we feel very unlucky right that time.when a good family is seen by us.we think we cant describe it in words.truly amazing families are really living.awesome family.
Watching this and crying...cause no one would understand what we go through mentally due to their behaviour towards one another...it just hurts so badly...but I'm still trying to put a fake smile...
i can relate to u completely😭😭
I can relate completely 😪😞
Yes😭
I can totally relate 😭😭😭
🥲
My parents are fighting and i am watching these , Crying also
Same
Same brother
Same
Same
Bro me too
I wanna to take care of my parents but without living with them...
Yes!! I'm also🙏🏼🙏🏼😭
Exactly😂
Same here 😔
You stole my line 🥺🥺
Me too🙂
Lets Make promise when we become parents we wont behave like our parents to our child
Yes 🥺❤️🩹
I,m so concerned about that,,,i would die rather than doing like my father...bt irony is that everyone calls me like i am like my father...i hate myself🫥😣
I promise
I promise and I’ll try my best to keep it
Absolutely
Parents fighting is one of the worst things for child confidence, studies and for overall life
Brother, cure me😢😭
Wrong it is normal
I'm writing this while my parents are fighting, it's traumatizing to grow in this kinda household. Can't even focus on boards or any kind of academic achievements.
I thought I was the only one going through it, but after reading the comments it says a lot.
I really wish everyone here suffering or suffered from this may have happy life ahead.
Are you giving 12th boards?
Us💔 my exams are 18 days away n I can’t focus as I feel so depressed coz of toxic parents Astaghfirullah
Can relate 😓😓
My exam is in 2 days but I am in traumatized situations by my parents.
Same situation. It's not feel like a home anymore
My mom is an angel....
My grandmother and my father abuse her both mentally and physically still she bears all of this only for her kids..
Love u mummy ❤️
Everything will get better
😑😑
Same 🥺 bro , our mom's are warrior
I don't know how she control all problems mentally and physically.
She never give up and always support their kids and make them secure.
Fight for your mom
Don’t sit
I can seriously understand this thing
I hope so your problems go away as soon as possible 🥺
I have also faced similar kind of problem
Mine too she's a goddess, the only hing she's still crying fighting so on with my mad dad is because of her kids otherwise she would've gone away,I will make her worries and struggle pay off
This guy literally has solution to every problem...This guy is magic
Because he reads a lot and observe the person
He's got an OPINION on every issue, a solution would be a solution when it's coming from a professional who has experience dealing with 100s of issues of the same kind say for example on this issue, no matter how good his opinions and advice are they will be no match for an actual solution coming from a family therapist/psychologist.
He has some good rational opinions but they're just that, opinions.
@@vccv9785 atleast he tried, he raised this issue & that's it.
Jb God ki marzi ho to cheezo me logic nahi sirf magic kaam krta hai
@@HUMANITIII yeah, more power to him he's making people aware about stuff BUT to everyone who's reading this, if you're going through something like that PLEASE consider seeing a therapist, even a basic session with a free psychologist from say Fortis mental health helpline will be extremely benefitial.
The timing of this could not have been better.
Good luck👍
Same bhai
Yes buddy
Same here😟
Same bro
When I was young, I witnessed domestic violence daily, and it has scarred me for life.
My father used to beat my mother for no reason, bad mouth her, grab her by the neck, etc. He used to bring toys for me afterwards thinking that I only need toys to be happy.
After becoming an adult when I confronted him about his behaviour, his reply was, " ye sab ghar mein chalta hai, its common".😔
The mental wounds that it inflicted on me, I have to live with it my whole life.
Indian culture dictates that children should respect their parents. But how can I respect someone who beats my mother 😠
Yes I understand your situation...I have also been through similar situation...it remains throughout your life..
take care king
JISKE SAAMNE TUMHARE PAPA ACCHE BANTE HAI NA,UNKE SAAMNE UNKI POLE KHOL DO. KI KYA KYA KARTE HAI GHAR MAIN, KAISE MUMMY KO TREAT KARTE HAI. HAWA NIKAL JAYEGI.UNKI
@@sandipankumar7833 that's not the solution
You should earn good money and prove that you're not dependent on him. Take your mother away. We are with you brother.
I always scared of my parents fighting that I wouldn't loose my career dreams.😩🥺
Same here😞
Exactly 😖😖😖😖
Same situation . Some times it leads my mind towards suiside.
Same dude 😫😩
Same here 🥺
I cried after watching this............ I'm living in this environment since I opened my eyes... This situation is so normalised for me that I don't even think about it....
Me too
Be strong and raise your voice. talk about it with them. The moment you start talking about it, it starts to get better.
Same here
Same here....... You're not alone brother
I'm trying to be as strong as possible ✊
We will overcome it don't worry
Mee to
A subject no one cares to actually talk about. Thanks Shwetabh. Kudos for showing courage to speak on this one. More power to you and to us as well.💯💯
i feel ashamed in front of my friends who were raised in loving family
It's almost impossible to change your parent's mentality. The only solution to this problem is to finish your education asap, and leave home forever.
The fear is that if we leave ... we do get depress that what's going on at home 😰😰
@@paramdholakia1339 exactly... And they also at home will fight a d get depress which i never want .... What a cruel world man
@@anonymous-mu9ke what do you do? Are you a student?
@@anonymous-mu9ke surely Things will change between them if you cleared the exam... Think about it, you can clearly tell them you want to achieve that
Vro but my mother struggles 😩
jin logo ke ghar me aisa nahi hota hai wo sach me boht lucky hai
I am a little relieved to see that there are many people dealing with this. 😷😅
😐
Me too
true that i am relieved too
You're not alone brother!
But I'm not
The worst thing is even if you try to stay strong everyday, somewhere you know something has broken forever. But people who are dealing with toxic parent, all power to you :)
For you, It's easy to say but can't feel
Bro the worst part is that there is always a lingering feeling that this will happen again
Not a day goes by where i thank god and be grateful when my parents don't fight
I was the happiest girl in the world in my childhood days...now I'm studying 11th std really really tired of my parents fight... I'm highly depressed...need some rest😔it really sucks when I see my cousins happy with her parents... I'm fed up😭
Same with me I am also in 11th preparing for jee but I cannot focus.......
Same.... I am preparing for neet 😞😞
Same condition
@@anonymous-jj2vr me too 🥺
@@mannatmahi0 dropper??
For these kids, Hostel life is way better.
In fact it's awesome, just make sure to keep Toxic people away...
@Spongrik exactly
@EG true 😭
@EG what when that child's mother is already dead🙂🙂
Yes,,,, bt is Corona k wajah se me 4 mnths se ekdm fnsh hogai hu maa baba k ladai me... Or me spiritualty me khudko aage badhana chahri hu par me ekdm idhar hi fnsh ho rhi hu or Kya hi kru kch na smjh aaa rha
Right
Everything is on that point. I once got out and I lived the best moments of my life. But then my father told me beta aa jao, hum nahi karenge.
He is 60 years old and still abuses my mother.
I am financially independent and I will move out again as soon as the covid goes away.
But what about my mother? She does not live his side. She daily gets abused and yet lives with him.
I often tell her I can provide her a satisfactory life with my money. But no she won't leave his side.
I have lost hope in marriage and relationships. I just want to live a life where nobody yells at me and I have to give away everything because I am a girl.
Same
I relate a lot
I also have given away hope in marriage and relationships
Aap to financially independent ho but mai kya kar sakta i dont know what should I have to do mera present situation just passed out 12 kya karna samaj nahi ara ji aap koi mera help karo na didi. Isley puchra mera bhi same situation hey without any help what to do samaj nahi ara 😞please help mera help karo
@@exveller1085 jis course main padhai kri hai usme taiyari karo. Ya koi job dhundho taki ghr se nikal sako. I know kehna bohot asaan hai pr ek hi to life mili hai .jo karna hai krlo vrna life to abhi bhi jhand hai.
Same sis same😪
There are still wise men out there I'm sure you'll find him
Because of that reason I'm working 15 hours every day to improve my self that one day I'll be able to create the solution thank you making videos for us
That's the spirit! :)
👍
@Out in the night all alone it can
Salute to those who is surviving because of their parents like me
🥺💔
Can we talk more about this
@@j.o.t9787 yaa sure are you on insta?
@@j.o.t9787 you are also surviving?
@@mihirrparab what ?
Damn!
Felt like he was narrating my childhood. The worst of them all is having mixed feelings. Times when my father who loves me a lot used to show love to me, I'd forget everything but sooner everything would change again.
I think it's better to be financially independent first which takes away about 60% of the problems.
@Kingsman true
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I can relate.Sometimes i would be like he isnt that bad but then he acts all insane.
True🙂
@@kirankunwar4288 True af, it's really a rollercoaster and really exhausting
*Kichad me Rehkar Kamal Ka Phool Banna Seekhna padega* Apne Mind ko itna strong karo ki aapke head se koi mess nhi kar paaye.
nice 💪
Kya baat!
@Atharv Pathak wah betaa bade tez ho rahe aajkal 😂
Bro meri body bhut strong ha mai gym jata hu par mentally bhut weak hu chotti chotti ghar ki ldayio me rone lag jata hu
@@pottymaster919 koi ni adat par jaegi meri bhi par gayi ha . Befizul me marne aye to betha dena mu pe . Bas agli bar se hath nahi marega .
Shwetabh sir aaj mere boards ke result aae and I scored 91% thank you,you ve helped me a lot .
❤️ next level respect for those who had scored 90+ in boards...
Hey,
Just to tell you , you are not alone in here buddy...It felt good seeing that there are people who face the same things and it felt good how strong they are to the winds of life...so buddy just dive into the comment section annnd...realize ...you are not alone...annd you'll go thru these things...be goal focused and strong....lots of love to you and Hope a better future for you.
Bro you are a legend I saw you in reply someone in someone's comment I really appreciate you for this mann
You are a seriously a motivational speaker for me and thanku for the motivation ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️much love bro👍❤️
@@Ekaksh9 aww ..thanks for that bro...means alot...but I am not some motivational speaker...I just want people to see things differently...and I hope you help people like you...like US...do the same...One family brother💜
I left my home yesterday.....,
My father used to oppress, depress and abuse me in my home since my childhood.....
I started studying...and got into corporate.... After seven months....,
Now, I am an HR of a startup company and earning enough money to meet my needs....
Now I am living with my girlfriend in a separate home... Happy and Peaceful....
Maybe I have done wrong to leave my home but I can not bear that toxic home anymore......
I salute you sir! You have done the best thing in your life and I wish to do the same
Bro don't repeat his behaviour when you will deal with your child in future, that's more important.
Best of luck with your future.
Respect you bhai
पर अपनी माता को मत भूलना
Tum khush ho to Sahi hai
I was so amazed that how one can be so mature at the age of 30...
Then I realized that this is the same thing he is trying so say in this video that maturity has nothing to do with the age...
Sahi baat hai
This is all we need, in the current phase. Lockdown has made people go crazy at home.
It brought dark secrets outside...
That's true bro...😢
@@savitathombre1827 yeah, i agree that too.
Can't even play PUBG !
@@AkashSingh-ir3xm raat ko khelta hoon 😅😂
My dad is one of the irresponsible person of this world and mom is one of the super humble person. I wana come out of this devil's web. I have been watching them from last 30 years and I clap for them. No use to share all this with anyone. So thought of writing it here. Thanks to an autoimmune disease as a gift given by family.
when my parents were fighting like always ,
I looked at the ceiling fan , and couldn't hold my tears but I came to far to quit .
hope you find this comment when I'm famous
I will remember you Raj parmar
I will remember you
Same with me
Tuze famous hone ki pade ki😢
Mere neet ke last 18 days bache aur mere parents ld re hai me pura depression me hu
This was so needed...i am an jee aspirant. And fir the last two years i have never been able to speak to both my parents heartily. Both have different opinions on the same matter and a day has not passed by when they have stopped fighting. In this 18 years of journey of my life i have spent most of the tym seeing my mother and father fight with each other. This has affected my own relationships and has drained me emotionally too......i am only working hard so that i can go out of this mess and live a life. No one cares how the child feel when they see their parents fighting. That so hurts!
Thanks for bringing this matter into light.😊
uttaran gogoi I have exactly the same conditions like you.can feel you pain brother stay strong keep studying.💪
All the best for September attempt 👍
Raghav Garg true
Same but neet aspirant
Bhai sinta nkoriba, I'm also going through all these shits, it does nothing but hurts the most. Exam valke diba, best of luck❤️
@Raghav Garg hi bhaiya big fan
This question was asked by me. Thank you so much.
KO
Take care 🤍
I've been through the same. Trust me, we've the strength to deal with it and get independent. More power to you.
Thankyou so much bro ❤️
I don't know when this cycle will end . I have been living in this environment from since as long as I can remember and I'm extremely depressed and suicidal . I have potential but living under such environment , I am not able to focus on anything in my life. I don't even know how a normal family looks like and when I see my friends with their families I just feel so happy for them . I just wonder how different my life would have been if I was brought up in a normal family
May God bless us 🥺
Same condition as yours
Same condition as you bro❤
My Dad has left his job for 15 years and drinks alcohol daily. My Grandfather left two houses renting which we survived......but we sold it 10 years ago and kept money in bank. So from 10 years we survived from interest from the money. My Dad used to drink daily and used to abuse my mom and us when we were 5-6 years old. And gradually we become poor ....year by year because of inflation( because value of money decreases as time passes). He didn't wanted us brothers to study so that he can drink to his satisfaction. And every time we used to tell him to work he used to say 'yeh sab Mera hi toh paisa hai' which was actually provided by my grandfather( and remember he didn't worked these 15 years) . But my mom managed my house.... actually by using the money properly and actually wanted us to study. I just turned 20 this year and will start working. Now we(me and my brother) don't allow him to abuse my brother. My dad didn't change and he is a very bad human being. And I will most probably start earning soon.
Ps : I just went to state research competition in this college year.
Don't loose hope brother. Good things take time. God Give You Mental & Physical Strength to win your battle. I'm sure one day your mother will proud on you.
Everything will be alright ! I know it’s difficult to be there! But remember There’s always a day after a dark night
@Olivaaa Olivaa try your best protecting her.
@@PrTk_Scholar Thank you brother for your wishes. I will surely make her proud
@@reb_9919 Yes. That hope keeps me going.
My scenario is even worse as my parents constantly fight and on top of that my mother is so toxic that she discusses her personal problems with me which I don't want to hear. Kitna emotionally aur mentally exhausting hota hai! Then she has a habit of blaming me for everything. God knows when will I get relief from all this
Same case with me bro. Contact me on Instagram @aryan_bute800
@@aryanbute877 not bro. Call me sis 😆
@@debkrishnadas4923 hii can we both talk on Instagram I am a 14 yrs old girl, and have the same case like you 😭
Wish u luck sis😔
@@sanyachugh8270 am not on Instagram, so sorry
News and Society: Maa-baap ko chhor diya. Aisi aulad na mile kisi ko
Reality: Man couldn't tolerate the sick impact on his kid's mental state influenced by the fighting of his parents..
Society will ignore the fact even after knowing the truth so that they can create a base to defend themselves when they practice the same thing.
The truest thing
Ha bhai Mai Bachman me samajh gya tha ki aise kyu hota hai kai baar aapko rakshass milte hai Maa baap ke Roop me .
I so jealous of those who have never been through this in their life. I just wanted someone to understand me but never shared it with anyone I think it's wouldn't bring any change to my situation. I always pretend to be happy in front of other. I'm currently in class 12 and instead of supporting me my father said I won't achieve anything in my life I can't do anything. It hurts seeing how my friend's family support them always they worry about their children's future they are so aware of their child's life. I feel so bad I wish I was never born.
Seems like we are same😄
It’s okay, this experience will also give you a lot of clarity about what is important in life. Lot of people are lost in other ways. We all get our share of good luck and bad luck. Now focus on getting yourself out of this situation. Work hard, become financially independent, earn your freedom.
@@greensky9236 it's easy to say bro... i will be giving my term 1 exams in few days but situation I'm suck in you can't imagine . All my peers are preparing for exams peacefully but I can't even concentrate . I hate this . I just wanna die.
@@Peaz144 same bro
@@May-yp4we bro i want to tell you just one thing i was in same situation 3-4 years back when i was in 12th my father was also same he said like tu kuch ni karega physical and mental abuse but i will suggest ye baate dil pe mat lagne do ek kaan se sunke dusre se nikal de aur unse discuss mat karo isse discussion aur badega aise samjo vo kisi aur ko bolre h hai and this will help you so much i have gone through physical and mental abuse from childhood till engineering but i make sure it will not effect my studies now i have got job in barclays 10lpa living happy life with my friend which is my room partner and ill never go back to them and live with my family and i also never bother what will happen to them i dont bother also if they die
That's true. In India this is way too common. People say respect your Mother and Father. Respect is earned. It's not a right. Just because you have a child doesn't mean you demand respect from a child even though you did horrible things to them.
People say respecting the parents is Indian culture. Well we fundamentally need to change that culture and mentality. There are youtubers who spread this "culture". Like Animators.
Yes bro 💯
My father never talked to me, explained me how life works or even asked how I am doing in life. Never felt responsibility for family and yet he DEMANDS respect from me and mom, and that too by screaming. I feel sad when people share "my dad is my hero" stories.
It’s common everywhere..
@@michaelcorleone7297 same 🙃😶
@@prashantKumar-lw4jg I feel you 😔. How do you deal with it?
Sometimes its nt just about physical voilence but also mentally and emotionally.. Half of my life has gone in this nd still not solved.. Its just so stressful even when they dont talk its like negative energy all around.. Cant even run away from this situation.. Dealing with this nd dont know how it will get solved.. Now i dont like talking to them but cant help it.. Just pissed off with my lide
Your story is totally mine story. Can't explain it but I totally get it. Every day in this lockdown period feels like a mental torture.
@@whatever7461 yaah i totally understand yrr.. even now also things are nt changed much.. u can msg me on insta id is ishan_1101
@@whatever7461 if u feel like getting things out from head.. hope ull things also get over soon
@@ishansharma7980 I don't ever feel like things will get change because things can only change when a person is ready toh change himself now the only solution is to escape as soon as you can and live your life
@@whatever7461 yaah true.. can we talk somewhere else.. can u msg on insta ?? My id is. Ishan_1101
Low Self-esteem, Complexities, OCD, and other kinds of mental disorder, premature baldness, relationship issues may it be friends or cousins or Girlfriend, which later leads to Depression, Anxiety, and even lower self-worth. Later leading to other health problems one as stated above.
Mark my words
" U can get out of poverty if your family is together
U can get into Poverty if not!"
True
Absolutely brother same happening with me quite tragic I don’t want to live anymore .
I m suffering same problems as mentioned by u.. Its so so true toxic parents why this issue not taken seriously and discussed to bring awareness.
It makes me want to die every time my parents fight, a few days pass and I'll be put back to the same situation. It's like an endless loop, and there is no way out...
They are far beyond the stage of consoling and sobering up. Despite being 20 years old I still cry in my pillows all nights long when my parents fight.
I can't explain it to even closest of my friends, the reason behind why i turn blue every now and then as this shit is so embarrassing. That's why I will never start my own new family...
Same here yaar.... I am feeling very sad.... I need someone to talk to.....😭😭
Haha, i just solved this problem, which I faced from childhood.
Some incidents happened in my parents life that made them fight for years,
My mother has PTSD and OCD
She just starts fighting even if she doesn't want to.
I discovered that and I just took my parents in a room and just cut the crap out of them for fighting for stupid reasons.
After a few hours , they really realized that they weren't right.
On that day we all burst into tears.
For the first time I felt like I won in life.
I know they may keep on fighting in the future, but I will be there to stop them.
ANYONE WHO HAS FACED SUCH PROBLEMS PLEASE NEVER GIVE UP, LIFE DOES NOT GIVES YOU EVERYTHING, BUT YOU SHOULD NEVER GIVE UP.
Good for you
Bhai me toh baat krke bhi khuch nhi kr pa rha hu.. Saala koi solution hi nhi he.. Sirf ek chiz enko chod ke bhag jao jld se jld
I fell 3 times in my life. But ye khatam hi nahi ho Rahi ye problem wapas aa jati hae
Same hare
@@prathambhargava3941 same here baat krne se thode din to chup baithenge then fir se start
The comment section is always overwhelmingly positive. Great job Shwetabh! Respect!
How do u bring up so relevant topics ....and ur review and analysis are so convincing....hats off!!🙂
one thing we victim son/daughter Learned from all these Violence is -
1. love marriage karna hai, Partner khud choose karna hai.
The romanticisization of Parents by Indian TV and Bollywood makes them untouchable. Parents can be wrong just like every other human being. People are toxic - doesn't matter if they give birth to children or not. I know so many people who have taken drastic steps and are emotionally wounded because their parents have said damaging things to them. And Parents more often than not affect your mental health more than the World combined together. When are Indian Parents going to realise how they are ruining their children by being mean to them? When are they going to be answerable for their actions? Why do they get away with everything?
Just because "Humne tumhe paida kiya hai"!? We(the children) didn't ask them to reproduce. Why are we the punching bags?
Because their parents forced them to marry and produce you. It's not their fault bro.. 😂 😂. But according to shwetabh they play their role as a parent which they have been learned fromtheir parents. It means their way of parenting is a traditional.
Well said
👏👏👏
Finally Someone Write this Comment.
I Finally Found a this type of Comment.
When my parents fight, I go out somewhere because every abuse in their fight makes me angry and then my mind gets spoiled, so it is best not to hear anything😞😫😫😫
Mine is the same case bro
STOP THEM BRO
Same bro
Same bro
I feel u bro
Only one solution is possible....finish education asap and then leave for ever by becoming independent
True I am 13 and having same thoughts about my life 🥰
Definitely 👍👍👍....I wanna to care my parents but without living with them....
@@snehagupta1980 me too
True
1 more solution
Suicide
I'm 18
Facing these shits since my childhood
As I'm single child
I easily , again and again face depression
Crying alone and sometimes even hurting myself!
Dueing childhood I used to manage as I didn't face depression
But nowadays things are going worse in mah brain!
Hey guys, for ones who feel lonely 😔 LISTENZ
WE ARE IN THIS TOGETHER
But now this can't be tolerated
I really feel depressed now
Bro I felt postivie now and we are together now
I feel better now
This guy talks about the real practical issues. Everytime you come up to my expectations. Thanks Mensutra.
No one can understand the pain that we children face these problems
Reading comment section,I realized that I am not alone.
So we all will work on it and pass through it💯♥️
Parents ke jaghde....bacho ke rashto ko bhi bigad dete he...fir bacho ki to life akele hi ho jati he
Ye baat Mai apne parents ko kaise batu
"Unthinking belief in authority is the greatest enemy of truth" -Albert Einstein
I would like to share my experience on this...
My parents used to fight like this... And ignore us (me ) ..but i was damn good in studies and worked very hard.. .
Now i have some achievements in my name and i have seen how my parents now don't fight infront of me and also talk very politely to me..
Just 1 thing i would like to say is don't give a shit(if both are at fault) ..
Forget what society has taught you...
Become powerful..
Million Dollar word there
Become powerful person.
that is what I also experience and mine is same as yours.
Atleast your parents don't fight in front of you
Mere pass sb kuch hai yaar paisa hai property hai itna achha business hai fir bhi mai khus nhi bcz mere baap k karan GOD HELP ME 😭
@@sugardaddyx7711 bhai baap se expect krna he chodh dou... Just find other things jin se khushi miltii hai..
Every one is not blessed to have a good family..
And we have to stop expecting anything from them because its our misfortune being born in a toxic family..
To be honest, I was thinking that I am the most Unluckiest child in the world who is suffering from mental harassment everyday. But after going through this comment section, I came to know about so many sad stories related to different individuals which made me really sad 😔. What the hell did we do in our past life that we are suffering now 😣😩 whenever I shared my feelings with my friends, they have never taken it seriously cause they are leading a peaceful life and also I am not blaming them cause they have never experienced the feeling that we all are going through 😞
Same brother.....same thing is happening with me
No one understands us, brother.
I can understand your feeling I feel same Sometimes I even try to suicide but I know when I die then also they blame to each other for that
@@roshanijha217 In the morning, I formatted my Laptop & Mobile. In the Afternoon, I went to the terrace & convinced myself that things will never be the way they should be. Repeatedly tried slashing my wrist, but got scared everytime & ended up damaging my hands.
But then, I realised that I don't have the guts to quit. Then I packed my things & left my house (read as 'their house' because I never felt comfortable there). This time, I will never return to that hell on the earth.
I will never socialise like other normal people, because I am damaged beyond repair.
There are many people like me, I will meet them. I think they can pull me out of this shit.
I hope that you are still alive.
Just try to find people like you. Keep looking. There must be someone who could help you.
💯💯💯😭😭
Thank u sir. My both parents beat my like hell every time . I hope I clear my neet exam and get out of this help.I was trying hard to focus on studies but I could not because of anger of my physical pain my parents create ..now I hopeeee I will be able to do studies.
More power to you sister👭
Don't depend whether NEET will allow you get out of the situation.
If u crack NEET then great otherwise there are plenty good colleges.
Are u preparing for neet 2021 ???are u preparing for neet only bcz of toxic parent ???
@@puza3964 "only becus of toxic parents" pls explain what u mean by this bro, do you want him to take huge part in that corp and become a permanent employee and help other kids suffering from same situation and being happy also or you want him to become another one of those morons waging their tail for the government sayin "I'll do my best and I devote myself to the country" bro having this kind of life isn't easy at all, I been mentally and both physically abused since childhood, my parents have been seperated 2 times since I was 2, and they fight every night bout their shitty past like they have 3 kids now and being past 35s both and they still act like this, they don't care bout how their kids thinks or feels bout these, when they get over the same line I will hear everyday "dw it's common it runs in the indian culture and others also", "everything will be fine I promise it will end from tmw" all lie...
I been going thru depression, social anxiety and stress headache these past years, I used to be a bright student also, I would always get As in my exams and stuff till 7th, as I couldn't rlly picture the situation what was going around me, I simply pretend like I didn't care and hold it against with me, now that I'm in 10th physically much bigger and more matured realizing how fked up my life was and how I never got to experience childhood like other kids had, I can't even make contact with people on road I get this feeling as it someone is staring at me knowing my whole life how pathetic I am, I get scared there's thousands of things I have left to say and more thousands of things which hasn't been revealed yet, I just wanna live on my own at least for a whole year experience true life and how to survive on my own, I hope I could try hard and get in a college which is suited best for me and made me change my life and perspectives toward this society and culture and help other kids also if possible, kids around my age has big dreams to make mutual partnership with other companies or have a really big role in society making millions, while I only dream of finding myself a right girl and love her with all my heart and don't make the same shid happen again plus by chance if I got rich I want to help other kids out who are in need of shelter like I did but wasn't helped by no one, anyways that's all I rlly said too much now my phone is lagging haha, pls be sure to rethink what u are typing next time and cheer for the other person instead, it may not change the world for the people, but it may change the world for that one person...
@@jaylenackerman9349 oh bro I m in same situation I m not understanding what to do in life bcz neet m abhi pura 1 saal lgega drop krne m but my head is about to dead at times and I m not able to figure out is it the only thing I want to do but I have no choices bcz my only aim is to go hostel and earn for me as well but mbbs is gonna take 5 yrs so I m confused should I go for drop or should I change my stream and start earning after 12th , so I was asking for someone who is studying like me with not too much interest just to fulfil their needs bcz however my parent are but I can't see them unhappy bcz that's against my rules , so ab wo itna kaam nhi kr paate so I have to see ki m unhe support kru ya apna future secure kru but at times there toxicity kills me but now I have learned to do ignore it . So I was not trying to demotivate her bro , my condition is same that's why I was asking 😔
Shwetabh took Mensutra to 1.3million subscribers in which he could have earned lakhs of rupees per video because of European subscribers but he hasn't uploaded a single video on that channel since a year, instead he is helping us in hindi. Hatts of to this guy. Let's make this family bigger than Mensutra's family.
I needed this soo much
I come from a highly dysfunctional toxic family...
Emotional manipulation is so hard to deal with ...
Being an adult it still haunts me ...
Thank you bro 😭😭😭😭😭
Watching this and crying...cause no one would understand what we go through mentally due to their behaviour towards one another. I'm living in this environment since I opened my eyes.It's traumatizing to grow in this kinda household.
Me too💔 everytime my parents are fighting I always want them to understand that nothing will be alright if it continues but they are always guarding their so- called ego and continue their conflict.they don't even try to realise that we have a future also we want to make a better life..
If you can’t make your kids happy please don’t have kids
True af
To the the point
He is right , I have been to this situation, unfortunately my mom committed suicide whn I was 14, she could not bear domestic violence, I kept controls on my nerves and focused on studies and working as Software engineer in fortune 100 MNC, looking back at the time I was not sure if I will end up as rickshaw driver or labor. I moved to different city and living peacefully.
OOOOOHHHHHMMMMYYYYGGGGOOOODDDDDD... IT WAS MUCH NEEDED... SOCHA NI THA KOI DALEGA ISPAR... BAAAP RE... LUV U SHWETABH BHAIYAAA
Kabhi socha nahi tha yaha ana padaga par reality yahi ha 😔
Same bro 😢😭😭
Same but plz always think that 1 day wiil be come and made only for us on which we will get everything which we lost those days 👍
@@VanshikaSindhu-nh3ws some people are like infection avoid them and take step to make ur life better don't wait for luck
@@shady_096 i have a one' question how you can handle this worest situation .mere father ... always mom se ladai jgda krte h mar pit bhi krte h ....bhout abuse krte h bo. ..even night ko bhi woh unko marte h ...daily ..m so bhi nh pati hu puri night ...yeh sb soch kr ...even pdhai bhi nh ho pati h kahi man nh lgta h ....mujhe lgta tha shif mere gahr hota h ...but yaha toh bhout se student h joh face kr rhe h ..pls suggest me some .tips ...and if m mere fathe ko rokti hu toh mujhe hi mar dete h .... 💔
The biggest stereotype other than - LUCK , 7 LIVES is BADO KI BAT MANNI CHAHIYE .
it should be considered not directly implemented .
Most bade log chutiye hote ajkl
Hume sahi baate he follow karni chahiye
@@chandrabhushan8597 han mostly 👍
@@sidharthajain7001 yup
@@chandrabhushan8597 generalisation is bad.
This hits me hard , exact thing I'm going through...
We can contact vivekbhatiadelhincr@gmail.com
Bro, heartiest thanks. For considering this issue 💯💯💯 wo banda tapak jaaye, wow man so bold, straight honest statement.
Dear gen z, lets break this chain of toxic parenting, parents should not be an authority, they should be mentors. 😢😢. We are thinking that parents are happy by mentally torturing there kids. But thats not true, they are frustrated, really really frustrated with there lives. We are the generation that needs to 'teach' there parents about what a life should be❤
Very interesting topic for young kids..
That's great that you solve teenagers' issues😀
I am lucky one
My parents love me 💛
They know very well, how to behave in front of us.
I am really jealous of you. Everyone not has same life you are really blessed bro
@@leviuchiha6214 💯😒
You are very very lucky bro Apne parents ki har iccha Puri karna
I am so unlucky.
I deal like this everyday I hate my life
Yes you are lucky bro
I still remember when I was around 6-7 years old, one night I saw my parents were fighting and it escalated quickly, I was too young to know what was the reason, but I knew something was serious and then I saw my mother holding a knife telling my father to kill her, my father threw the knife. It was horrifying, I couldn't imagine it, but the next day everything was ok, they behaved normally as if everything was alright...till today I see them the same way, I am 23 now! they fight a lot, verbal abuse is too much even though there were no physical abuse involved but sometimes I felt they were about to kill each other, sometimes it lasted for 1 day, they won't talk to each other and then everything will be normal...it baffles me that the amount of fight they put on, everything becomes ok the next day, they behave normally and happily! how? its very sad and mentally frustrating for me..I don't know what I feel, sometimes I am relieved that they made it work and the next day they fight so much as if they can't stand each other even for 1 second. Imagine to be around this kind of environment...too much of bashing/shouting every night, god!
Same situation .
Same..but added to this is the physical abuse...Wich is so traumatizing to watch...
My anxiety is literally high..my heart pounds so fast whenever they fight...
And the verbal abuse is literally headache..i am done with this....
This is getting worser and worser
Very similar situation. Just try to diffuse the fights and get a job asap then you will be able to assert some dominance with your power.
Once my father beaten my mother slap i can't even explain its sooo traumatized with that but i 😭 🥺 i Reversed and slaped my father to stop with that then i literally can't sleep for 4,5 days that i slapped my father but then he also slapped my mother but they stoped physical abuse but whenever they fight with verbal abuse and now i can't even with my parents i just want to leave them sorry but........i. Can't even concentrate in my studies, i am in 10th giving final board exams neet aspirant this is so heartbreaking 😭🥺
@@_extrasuga_ I don't know but yours and mine situation is totally samee . I'm also in 10th std . And my boards are going on . 3 days later I have my maths exams . Added to this , I'm also financially weak . Do not know how , am I going to manage my school fee in class 11 and 12 becoz they have no worry about my study . My father just want me to marry someone after that and in addition they fight everytime that my English exam was also ruined becoz of depression.😖
i stopped victimizing myself and focused on my career
still there are so many disturbance
and obstacles but
its fine.
Most of the people in my life had confused me more whether intentionally or unintentionally but u are one person who i have not met in person but still is able to bring me clarity in life.thankyou
Currently im going through the same situation where we are trapped in a situation we cannot do anything and the person whom i call fathere he is an retired army person and its been almost 20 year where we are stuck in a situation everyone once or twice a aweek he threats us i tried to do a job also but its not enough to pay our experience for all 4 of us but i believe have no choice and have to do more hardwork to rescue my mother and my othere two siblings as soon as possible and this video is motivation for me today 👍
Give your life to achieve your goals.... because that's how you can rescue them....it's do or die situation....right👍👍
You can consult a doctor for him
@@mindsetxd20i tried buddy but if someone don't even listen to you and tells you that you are wrong then can't do anything but iam trying my best and thankyou very much for care 👍
@@krishnadesilva5161 😊 brother u r nt alone
Aftr going through many comments i got someone who told my story.. and this much similarity dt he is also ex army 😊 hahaha...
All the best for ur future 🙂
@@krishnadesilva5161 I feel you, stuck in the kind of same situation . 😔
I teared up when he said society me sabko pata hota hai ..thanks a lot yaar ..really thanks a lot ..I no longer have this huge burden on my head to look upto them as Gods which is literally something our religion has told us ...I seeked advice from many ..including my cousins ..they kept saying "unhone tujhe sabkuch dia hai" ..they said everyone goes through it ..I knew somewhere that nahi hota yaar ye sabke saath ..25 years ..25 bloody years ..tried explaining pyaar se ..gusse se ..sabkuch try kar lia ..nothing ..just nothing ..but thanks for making this video ..I feel like this might help me ..
I thought my parents only fight like this, but here is so many people like this😔🙂
best topic u've ever picked , make some more on it, it is more depressing than breakup, as most of ur videos filled with stuff like brekup, thats not real problem bro, for me atleast
Truee
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The stories in the comment section are just heartbreaking. I hope for a better future for all those who've had to live through this!
We really have stopped seeing our parents as people and it's actually hurting our relationship with them more than anything. The relevant literature in your book was eye opening to say the least. Though all this should have been fairly obvious, Indian society and Indian culture will always give excuses to support anything and everything parents do to their children and yours is the only book I could find that states the contrary and sees parents as humans too. Thank you.
@@ramunrai383 yessssssss ✊✊
@@ramunrai383 Yesss
My mom and dad both are toxic. All I remember and know of humiliation I felt. They keep fighting in front of my friends, cousins extended family.
Same here I can't leave any one of them but at the same time I can't live with them don't know what to do
@@arpitajha6878 try to push them toward sprituality
@@knowledge-21234it's of no use... They still will fight if they don't like something about each other
This video makes sense. I been through this. Now after 30 years I understand why HE did what he did. My plan was to move out of my home as suggested in this video. Its now 16 years, I'm out of toxicity. Funny thing is, last year HE said something about me that was amazing for me. He said, "No matter how much I had scolded him in past, he never uttered a word. On the other hand, the younger kid is always in defensive position and giving me replies." This was the first time he was happy about me. One very important thing I'd like to add is, focus on your goals. don't blame anyone be it a bad childhood, abusive father or mother. Don't blame anyone, just learn to grow seek knowledge. Don't become what you hate. Instead, learn from it be practical and find solutions. Laughter is biggest solution. Now when I'm 31. I just laugh at any angry situation he puts me in because thats what confuses him. I recently made a career change which he didn't approve of because of low earnings. I know once I'm good with earning part he will end up saying I had complete faith in you. And I'm working towards that day.
The most wanted subject ever🙏🙏
Brother, you are an angle. Thanks. I was literally crying for help but I just couldn't think of anything but then this video came along and helped me a lot. Thankyou so much.
During the entire video, I thought as if SHWETABH SIR SPIED ON ME AND MADE A VIDEO ON MY SITUATION!
IT WAS SO HARD TO WATCH IT TILL THE END. I CRIED AFTER EVERY LINE THAT HE SAID.
I've been through a lot and faced a lot of difficulties right from my childhood that has made me an INTROVERT.
IN front of people I stay so normal that even my bestfriend doesn't have a clue about my situation.
Ohh GODDD!!! I'm crying....!!!!1
This is painful🙂when you are facing this
This is the video I've been searching for last 3-4 years, I'm tired of my parents fighting toxically multiple times everyday, Thanks shwetabh, Man I'm really thankful to you.
I know the pain of a child whose parents fight.
Not just random fights but even physical fights.
And,i wish my younger brother never goes through it.
But,i am not able to do it.😩
Thank you, you are right. I have been a victim. I moved out. However, its still the same. I am 30 and its still the same. I hear a lot of negative things till now. I am glad you talked about it. Most of my friends won't even listen to me, they assume I am telling them this to gain sympathy, so, I can't share this with anyone now. violence against children is real and it does not stop eveen when you are adult, even when you take up financial responsibility. It doesn't stop. Thank you for talking about it and debunking the myth about mothers and fathers.
If you want to discuss then join telegram channel unheardstoriesbyrish it will help you
Not just my mom but even I was beaten as hell by a beast. Can't forget those harsh childhood memories. Just want to pray no child should get as fucked up childhood as I got😭😭
Ab apki zindagi me sab sahi he kya didi? Me abhi 17 ka hu or har 15 din me physical and verbal abuse hota he meri mami ke sath. Apne apni problem se kese deal kiya?? Mereko bhi batau pls🙏🙏
@@dailyprocess5830 please try to focus on your career. I left my home for Kota after 12th and guess what, I got selected and just completed my MBBS this year and cleared NEET PG in the first go. And that beast is powerless now and wants to take credit of being father of a doctor 😂😂😂. I even scold the shit out of him now if he misbehaves with my mother and have even threatened him of filing a case against him if needed. That much is the power of your journey. Never stop believing in yourself.
My blessings to you. You will overcome this for sure and you are stronger than you know🤗.
And yes in case you need me just reply here again. I'll be more than happy to help ❤️❤️❤️
@@jyotsnasingh73 😇
If I had the help of this channel back in 2006 when I was 5 years old and I would see my parents constantly fighting violently, throwing things around and breaking them and yelling like mad people at each other it would have been so much better.
I was not expecting to find a video on this. Thanks for your solution. I know most of us are facing the same scenario, but as Shwetabh suggested, work hard and become financially strong. I have been in this environment from last 22 years and trust me, financial independence is the only way out.
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This video is 14 years late....wish it had come earlier!
The fact that so many people are facing the same thing. It's so disheartening
Sooo sooo sooo True man!!!!!! Each and every word hit me so hard!! This video is exactly made for me!!! Har ek word har ek example maine face kiya hai yaar!!! Revolt karne se 3 pe rukne wali baat 7 tak chali jaati hai... So true!! Aapki ye baat mai pakka yaad rakhungiiii aur itna zyada mehnat karungi... Ki mujhe waapis us insaan pe kabhi depend na hona pade!! Thank you so much man!!!
Shwetabh brother ❤️, you solved my problem 😭
Bhai, yaar hota hai Tere sath aisa
Itni jaldi solve bhi hogyi 🤣
😭😭😭Mine too
@@nikhilchauhan7914 Ap tum toh Facebook par meme share karte ho naa?
How can someone be so right. I have seen everything he has talked about in this video in my family plus relative. You are really awesome shwetabh sir.....hats off to you.
Shwetabh putting every violence that happens in my home in this video
Thanks for your perspective bro, bahut shukra gujar hai aapke.