I was wondering the same ! Honestly, if my bf's mother were to make such body shaming or constant remarks (which, thankfully, hasn't happened yet, and I hope it won't !), I would tell my bf about it and ask if I did anything wrong to "deserve" such remarks.
Considering Jaden was an only child, OP either didn't think Jaden would believe her, or she didn't want to ruin his relationship with his mother. You'd be surprised how much crap people put up with to make their loved ones' lives easier.
It's surprising that she hasn't told her husband about the constant body shaming from the MIL. He needs to know the full extent of his mother's behavior.
Yup! I'm almost done, but so far I like him much more than OP doormatting the last moment, in favor of MIL who never felt sorry and forced worried hubby to forgive her by lying that his mom has apologized and overall saint of a woman. Its like she wants psychological warfare to start again. Mom never shown hints to be the sort to be awed by the gesture and be nice from now on
@@Su-wo4id i mean, if she didnt know that the bride had taken meds its still a bit hard to throw everything on her, imo. the woman doesent seem like an awful human being, just a bit on the clueless side. the "body shaming" wasnt cool, but was it entirely malicious? we werent there so we cant know. also i think the 5k was probably cuz she felt bad she ruined the reception and wanted to give the money so they can have another big party to make up for it.
What’s the point of getting married, if you don’t even feel comfortable to tell your would be husband how his mom’s comments make you feel? The whole “bottle up your feelings” thing is for when you’re single or in a new relationship.
to everyone saying adding alcohol isn't spiking a drink, it most definitely is. as much as you dont like to admit it, alcohol is a drug. direct from Cambridge Dictionary "The term "drink spiking" refers to drugs or alcohol being added to a drink without the consent of the person consuming it." OP didn't know her drink had alcohol and did not ask for alcohol, she was given a Shirley Temple which any reasonable person would assume was non-alcoholic if not specified to be alcoholic
Thanks for the clarification. English isn't my native language and I've never drunk a Shirley Temple so I didn't know it was N/A (I had just heard the name). I was going to ask if "spiking" was used only when someone added alcohol to a drink and if another term was used when someone added drugs to a drink (I know alcohol is a drug, but you get what I mean). I thought "spiking" was used for alcohol and "roofied" (or something like that) was used for [other] drugs
The $5k check is definitely a form of financial manipulation. She’s trying to make it so OP and Jayden can’t cut her off in the future without feeling immensely guilty. She doesn’t actually care about their feelings, she’s just greedy. OP should just rip it up.
I know people like that and you're almost definitely wrong about her intents. No, people like this are just so deprived of emotional intelligence that they can only manage to express love through material goods. She simply has the emotional maturity of a 10 years old.
Gotta love when people don't want to accept responsibility for what they've done. If she had just apologized to OP it would've helped make things better but instead she just wants everything to go back to normal with NO accountability on her end. Absolutely ridiculous.
Don't accept any money from her, OP. By doing that, there's a chance she'll use that to her advantage in the future by saying something like "Well, I gave you five thousand dollars, so you have to do as I say!". I personally don't like feeling as if I owe someone in that regard, and given Maria's antics, I wouldn't be surprised if she pulls a stunt like this. God help you if you get pregnant and she's the one deciding baby names.
Serving someone alcohol against their will is disgusting! OP needs to write "VOID" on the cheque and mail it back to MIL with a note firmly stating that they will not accept it. If OP accepts the money, MIL will return to her old behavior and hold the money over their heads forever.
you see, thats the issue, she knew it was a shirly temple, she didnt say she was unaware. and last i checked, the main ingrediant to shirlys are alchol
@ix7958 Incorrect. A Shirley Temple is simply sprite and grenadine. It's a common children's drink. You can add alcohol if you like but then it would be a spiked Shirley Temple.
You don’t get to hide critical information from your spouse because you’re too busy being a martyr. OP’s husband never got to make an informed decision because he had a fraction of the needed and relevant information. Also, I’m going to go as far as to say, the situation at the wedding was only allowed to happen because of OP’s martyrdom. I’m also going to go as far as to say that OP saying her MIL “apologized” was extremely manipulative. Her withholding information is extremely unhealthy and manipulative. It may be manipulative with good intentions, but it’s still removing her husband’s individual agency.
wait I'm confused. The MIL is definitely rude and not a great person, but she didn't spike the OP's drink. The OP took an anxiety med and likely didn't tell the MIL. Now, giving someone an alcoholic drink without them knowing can be problematic, but she didn't drug her.
I mean...Alcohol is a drug. We dont think of it as a drug because its socially acceptable. But the impact it has on the body, and how organizations classify it, it is a drug. So OP was drugged with alcohol, her drink spiked with alcohol. MIL stated the drink was a shirley temple, a non-alcoholic drink, and then spiked it with alcohol.
How hard is it to not spike someone's drink? She could have just asked if OP wanted some alcohol, you know? This is grounds for going NC indefinitely with a person because they simply don't respect the person, no any boundaries what so ever.
OMG Thank you I 100% agree. It's a wedding, that OP organized you would think that any drink she was offered had alcohol, unless strictly stated that she didn't want any because she was on medication. OP isn't completely innocent in all this.
An apology means little, actually, because you can never be sure how sincere it is, but it definitely means absolutely nothing if it’s only given after it has been asked for or demanded.
I'd still be weary of Maria. Especially when she gave cash as an apology. There could be a chance she'll use the "but you took the check!" as a manipulation tactic of they cash it out.
What Maria did is unforgivable. Spiking your drink on your wedding day is a huge betrayal of trust and could have had serious consequences. You deserve an apology, not just money. Stay strong and don't let her buy your forgiveness!
How do so many people not know what a Shirley Temple is or what spiking a drink means? Spiking a drink means adding anything to a drink unbeknownst to the drinker (usually alcohol). A Shirley Temple is a classicly NON-ALCOHOLIC drink, named after the child star. What OP was offered was sprite and grenadine. That's why she didn't expect alcohol. If you add rum to it, the taste of the rum will be masked by the grenadine, making it easy to go unnoticed. Also, for those who assume a bar at a wedding is the same as a pub...at most weddings in the U.S. the bar is where all drinks are. So even if you want a tea or diet coke, you have to go to the bar. So stop saying "She went to a bar and accepted a drink". Context matters!
There has been no indication that the OP was an abstinent person, or that she informed anyone of taking any medication at all. Weddings are commonly recognized as alcoholic events unless stated otherwise. OP should have informed MIL that she didn’t want/ could not have be drinking alcohol the moment she agreed that MIL would make the beverage for her. It’s bare minimum. You know if you are on medication. You don’t blame others for effects of medication that happen because you didn’t inform anyone about the fact you took it. There ain’t no crime here, take it easy with the Reddit fake dramas.
@@marycampbell4251 Weddings are also occasions where the Bride might be Preggers. You don't EVER get someone a drink without asking what they'd like, if it's TRULY a nice gesture from someone who doesn't have ill intent. THIS wasn't that! MIL had been a nightmare during the entire process of planning the wedding and the Engagement. She absolutely at the very least, intended to make her look like a fool!
Why didn't Rachel tell Jayden 'everything' from the moment she met Maria, and instead rather opting to tell him about the cafe intervention? ... If I were her, I would've laid it all out and told Jayden all the numerous passive comments Maria made about her weight, to her trying to control her wedding dress and the constant backhanded badmouthing she'd unleash on Rachel in a passive manner. ... Context matters, and Jayden deserved to know everything from the very beginning.
Stuff like this is why I don’t want to have a huge wedding: they cost a fortune and all it takes is one AH to ruin the day. It’s like trying to make a giant display of glassware, only for someone to bump it and it all comes crashing down 😢
Things this comment section needs to understand. Shirley temples do not contain alcohol, they are sprite, grenadine syrup, ice, and a cherry on top. Spiking a drink means putting alcohol in a nonalcoholic drink, Shirley temples are non alcoholic so the MIL putting, or having the bartender put alcohol in it is spiking the drink. Bars at weddings is where everyone gets drinks, there isn't another place to get drinks at a wedding, bars have non alcoholic drinks too.
What kind of bs is that how tf did OP not tell her MiL about how disrespectful and spiteful she is. She should have told her husband from the beginning or left him smh
The alcohol thing was a genuine mistake. I want to know if the husband knows how passive aggressive his mom is, cause it sounds to me like they never communicated about that
Ah yes, everything on the internet is fake. Especially completely mundane and non-extraordinary stories with the most normal interactions. You both get an F on critical thinking.
@@Dice-Z nobody's drink was spiked and none of it was done maliciously. In fact, the bride either is an idiot or took someone else's prescribed medication. Either way the author is making mountains out of ant hills I do not accept the fail that clearly belongs to you, king
@@Dice-Z and Im leaning into the illegal action of taking someone else's medicine because she didn't say she had any regularly prescribed medications to EMS. "She" just blaming her MIL because its trendy 🤣
Is it wrong that I am actively annoyed by people who don't stand up for themselves? I used to be very sympathetic, but now? Ugh... The victim mentality is just tedious... And feels manipulative.
When she wanted to go dress shopping with her OP should of said 'no thanks, I have other things to do to and just need to make sure I get them all done and am not distracted'
Honestly OP, keeping secrets causes problems. If he ever finds out you hid MIL’s behaviour from him he could feel betrayed. How would you feel to find out he hid verbal abuse received from your mom?
What MIL is not understanding is that even if it was just alcohol and OP "only" got drunk against her will THAT IS STILL NOT OKAY TO DO TO SOMEONE. That is still messing with someone's sobriety and wellbeing without their consent. What if OP had trauma around drunkenness or just reacts really poorly to alcohol and avoids it for that reason? "I didn't mean for it to go like this I just intended to humiliate you in front of everyone" is not as effective as these people want to believe it is.
A Shirley temple is a non alcoholic, bride wasn’t drinking because she took meds. Adding alcohol to a non alcoholic drink without telling someone is spiking the drink.. spiking the drink doesn’t just mean drugging it..
One drink and half a benzo? Yeah that's not gonna make her pass out, there are so many other things that make this feel fake but that's the nail in the coffin for me.
If she hadn't eaten all day, had a small stature, and wasn't a drinker, that could absolutely do it. For all we know she's 5' and weighs 120 lbs. For someone that small, that amount could have done worse than knock her out.
@@jkrenee That's not true of benzos as their effect is not proportional to body weight, not only that but if she took them she would know that's it's clearly on the bottle not to mix with alcohol so she couldn't have claimed not to know that afterwards, and even if she didn't know that then how could she not taste alcohol in a drink? Furthermore, who doesn't drink on their wedding day?!
@@courtadbobtail600 1) Benzos are always dangerous no matter their dose. Doubly true for CNS depressant mixes. 2) Many people who are prescribed are not aware of highly dangerous interactions with other CNS depressants 3) Cocktails can hide the taste of alcohol pretty well. Especially to someone who doesn't drink often 4) People who have medication that doesn't mix with alcohol don't take alcohol on their wedding day 5) The drink she was given is supposed to be a non-alcoholic cocktail. 6) Weight or not, people still have unique metabolisms, and unique reactions to certain medications and interactions, including benzos 7) You don't know how much of what benzo she might have been taking, nor how strong the drink was, nor how well she tolerates alcohol, which if she's not someone who tends to drink, which seems likely, would be poorly
@@courtadbobtail600 I don’t drink alcohol on any day and if you spiked my drink I’d immediately boot you out of my life. Do you have a drinking problem, to consider it an integral part of “normal” life? And body weight definitely affects how someone reacts to benzos.
Putting alcohol in someone's drink doesn't mean the OP was drugged but that also doesn't mean that the OP wanted or was okay with alcohol. She should've definitely asked to make sure the OP was okay with it but it definitely feels like it was meant to be harmless but that carelessness put the OP in danger and that is definitely a serious problem.
I genuinely don't think the mother-in-law had any malicious intent, but her utter obliviousness to how her words and actions can affect the people around her is a MAJOR issue. Obviously, I'm not trying to justify her actions or anything, but I think it's important that the mother-in-law understands that her actions have consequences. And even though OP literally had to lay it out for her and make her apologize, I do think that afterwards, mother-in-law actually realized just how bad she fucked up, which was why she insisted on giving her that check.
Just imagine OP having a daughter you don't think mother-in-law's going to do the exact same thing to her about weight that woman is a walking talking abuse and it's going to take until it's too late for OP to see it.
I’m sorry while I think MIL was absolutely wrong, OP is a shit communicator. Did she tell mil the comments upset her? Did she tell her why she didn’t want her at the dress fittings? Did she tell her fiancé/husband about what was happening between her and the mil? Based on how the situation resolved, I feel like mil might have respected boundaries if they had been clearly stated in the past. And for those who think that it shouldn’t be needed to say “don’t make comments about my weight” in some cultures that is actually how a parent shows love, even though it is awful. Boundaries need to be set. If she doesn’t like it she needs to use her words like an adult and say “please stop commenting on my weight, I do not find it supportive or caring. Even if you mean well it is hurtful and I will not accept that behavior.” Instead she tried to ghost her mil and exclude her. Not justifying mil. I see the alcohol as her being overbearing, not trying to get revenge as it seems like op painted it to be.
Idk i mean…i get that Op is non-confrontational but like…SOOOO many of her issues could have been avoided if she either a) told her husband all this sooner or b) stood up for herself
While I agree that giving someone alcohol without their knowledge is definitely wrong, I truly don’t think she meant any harm. It’s sadly a pretty normal thing for people to drink small amounts of alcohol to calm down and she genuinely meant it as an olive branch. Personally, I’d cash the check and keep the money in savings. She ever brings it up, I’ll happily refund every penny.
Op might be having a bit of a truce right now with mil but if they decide to have kids it's going to blow up. There's no way in hell she's going to not make snarky comments about what she's eating while pregnant and so on
I feel like MIL was trying to pay her back for ruining a very expensive and happy day for OP and such like that, but I really think she was trying to buy back forgiveness I guess
Was there any sign that the bride was not drinking alcohol that day? xD Normal human interaction: "Oh you look like you are enjoying yourself. Here I get you a drink." "Nah sorry I dont drink today. Or is it without alc?" I mean I would get the poison part if Mil swapped water with vodka but wtf. With the setting everyone is overreacting. Not saying Mil is nice. But they are both kinda ridiculous. Imagine taking medication and not being able to handle to spot alcohol when someone hands you a drink.
The MIL gave her a drink that she said was non-alcoholic but this one had alcohol in it. MIL called it by it's non-alcoholic name, and 99%+ of the time this drink is made in it's non-alcoholic fashion. You cannot tell the difference by sight between a shirley temple and a dirty shirley. Unless it's made poorly, you can't even tell by taste. It tastes just like cherry sprite with or without vodka in it.
Ok, I remember this story. OP WENT TO THE BAR AT HER WEDDING and MIL says, “go enjoy yourself, I’ll get you a drink [AT THE BAR YOU WERE JUST ABOUT TO ORDER A DRINK AT]”. MIL gets the OP a drink [AT THE BAR SHE WAS JUST STANDING AT]. OP blacks out and realize SHE TOOK AN ANXIETY MED BEFORE THE WEDDING. And MIL apparently drugged her after getting her a drink AT THE BAR SHE WAS JUST STANDING AT… like, that’s not drugging. That’s OP affirming her wack communication, specifically that she took a medication that she should not drink on, after someone just clearly said “let me get you a drink” at a wedding bar… like what???
Have you ever been to a wedding? There are other things served at a bar that aren't alcoholic, they have all sorts of drinks from soda/pop to nonalcoholic mock drinks. Long story short OP wasn't drugged she was spiked, she didn't know she was given a drink with alcohol in it. MIL not being transparent about the drink being alcoholic is a form of spiking a drink. Yeah OP was a bitch baby and should either have told the MIL to eat shit and fuck off with the shitty comments, or told her husband what was going on. However that doesn't mean that MIL just gets to give her alcohol. There is no where where OP said she wanted to have alcohol, the mother gave her a drink that under normal conditions doesn't have alcohol in it. It would be like if someone gave you something and told you it was like peanut M&M's and then you found out it want peanuts, it was crickets or something like that. It doesn't matter that OP was at the bar, it doesn't matter that she took meds before, it matters that OP didn't agree to drinking alcohol and was given alcohol without her consent.
@@Finn_the_stoned have you ever drank alcohol before?? Have you ever had a Shirley Temple before? How do you finish a drink and not tell the difference after taking a sip or even smelling????? You can slice this anyway you want, but OP is still the idiot here. MIL is a nightmare that should have been dealt with from the beginning. But OP is Clark Griswold in every National Lampoon’s vacation movie.
My parents had a small party once with my grandparents with spiled and normal lemonade when i was in middle school, i accidentally drank the wromg lemonade, i went to be with a headache feeling awful. Thats the only time ive ever drank alcohol.
If it wasn't for the fact that OP state that when they got hope the MIL was there and apologized for the "prank". I'd say other then MIL being condescending and making references about OP's weight. MIL didn't do anything wrong. I'm going off information shared. It's a wedding and MIL handed her new DIL a alcoholic beverage. For those out there in comment section land that were married. Did you have an alcoholic beverage at your wedding? Unless there is missing info where the MIL was told specifically that OP couldn't drink, I just don't understand how she is the bad guy. I'd like to hear the MIL and husbands side of the story for that day. Just to be clear I'm not saying the comments the MIL made were ok, but from life experience I've learned most MIL of females are overly particular to them.
MIL spiked a non-alcoholic drink with alcohol. A Shirley Temple is a completely non-alcoholic kid's drink named after the child star Shirley Temple. So when given a Shirley Temple, anyone would expect it to be non-alcoholic. This is why MIL is considered the bad guy; for tampering with OP's drink like that without letting her know because she wouldn't have drunk it had she known. :)
Apparently not only is the OP not nearly as confident in her body as she claims to be if some near stranger MIL to be can so easily knock holes in her confidence, but she's also a coward who doesn't have the spine to just tell her to sit and be quiet while she looks if she insists on coming along. Likewise with not informing her fiancee that she wanted to shop alone - you can't expect him to be a frickin psychic since you are too spineless to even discuss the matter with him.
K so Shirley temples while usually are non alcoholic can also be alcoholic. To say the MIL is not a nice person is fine but to say she spiked op is a little aggressive.
I kinda dont get this story like OP meets the mother AFTER the engagement and likes her but then she says how the mother ALWAYS commented on her weight when Jayden was not there and in the end you are telling me that the couple of days before the body shaming MIL was NEVER ALONE with the OP???????? Jayden should let them have alone time the are both female dont worry. WHAT IS HAPPENING???
Agree. The most common fast acting anti anxiety med is Ativan and it only starts in your system for about 1-2 hrs. And one sip of alcohol (hours after) isn't going to do much, let alone have an "immediate" effect. 😅
@@jmasey52 You clearly don't know much about benzos, alcohol, biology, ODs or drug interactions if you think that. Ativan only starts after an hour and doesn't work for hours... lmao right, as if.
@@Dice-Z Idk if you know this chief but it takes time for meds to metabolize and enter your bloodstream. A few can take minutes, the ones that are inhaled or are injected are near immediate but more than likely an ingested medication will take about an hour or a little less to be administered to your body. Also people may naturally be tolerant to medications or become tolerant to specific medications which happens most often due to regularly taking that medication and something like an anxiety pill is generally prescribed to be taken semi regularly. Add to that the fact that the most common anxiety pills are prozac and lexapro, both of which have been more or less been given a pass for light to moderate drinking (which a few sips definitely falls under). Lastly the fact she didn't notice it was spiked initially means the alcohol to drink ratio wasn't significant. Idk mann it just seems like a non issue
Ok, MIL is a bit clueless, but she's not malicious. If her name is truly Maria and telenovelas are being referenced, then likely she's Italian or Hispanic, in which case it's pretty common for comments about her body to be made with loving intentions and to not mention it in front of the males as to not embarrass her. It's not nice, but I don't think it was done to hurt her and she should have stated it hurt her feelings. Next, she had a bar at her wedding, so presumably alcohol is available, mil offered to make her a drink and gave her what op assumed was a Shirley Temple, there was no specific requests. Next, OP stated she took a small dose of anxiety meds, for the interaction to be that severe, there has to have been something else in the drink or a large amount of alcohol, enough that it would have been detected under all the syrup. Also, that was not enough time for a reaction to occur... Anyhow, the mil feels bad for "ruining their wedding" which was obviously expensive, that is why she's offering the money. She's not trying to buy forgiveness, she's just trying to do what she thinks she can to repay the damage to the wedding. I don't see malicious intent anywhere in her actions, a little bit clueless and not exactly kind, but not evil. Some people get too worked up about some of these stories and want to crucify the supposed bad guy without considering it could've all been an accident. Sometimes accidents hurt people, but this was easily forgivable and really nothing to hate mil over.
That is wierd, its not like mil spiked the drink, I mean in my country it would be more wierd if, the not pregnant wife, not drink Atleast 3 alcoholic shots.
IRL thw EMT would be a mandatory reporter and would have reported the piking to the police. OP is an AH for not being honest with her fiancee; he need to know what his mother was doing. Sh's also an idiot or not recording the abuse. Maybe I'm just lucky, but all of the in-laws and step parents that I've encountered have been decent people, nothing like the monsters on youtube. Is that just creative license, or are they out there?
Putting anything in someone's drink is wrong, no matter the reason/excuse. The OP could have died, and an autopsy would have exposed "Marie", and then "Jaden" would have most likely sued her and pressed murder charges.
Honestly, Maria might have been rude and everything but it seems like she's genuinely sorry about what she did. And to make it clear, SHE DIDN'T SPIKE THE DRINK! There was just some alcohol in it and that's all. There wasn't any substances inside of it, it was just bad luck and she didn't know OP took something. As for the check, although I understand OP's perspective, I also understand Maria's. Maybe for her, it's a way of making it up to her. If there was only the money, then yeah she would have been an asshole. But since her attitude seemed to have changed, I feel like it's a way for her to make amends.
She did spike the drink. OP wanted/asked for/expected a nonalcoholic drink. MiL knew that and put alcohol in it anyway. "Just some alcohol" IS a substance, and it IS spiking a drink. Even without the anxiety meds what MiL is absolutely not okay.
The MIL didn't spike anything. OP mentioned that the MIL offered her a "Shirley Temple" unless OP had specified that she doesn't drink alcohol or the wedding was alcohol free why would a person consider a cocktail to be without alcohol. Normally it wouldn't have affected her and only OP and her maid of honor knew OP had taken anxiety.
A Shirley Temple is sprite and grenadine over ice with a garnish. It's named after a child star because it has no alcohol. It's the world's first mocktail. OP would have no reason to think a Shirley Temple would have alcohol.
A dirty Shirley is the version of a Shirley Temple with alcohol in it...... Shirley Temple was a child star so the drink named after her is not with alcohol.
Literally no one was drugged here, she didn't know she took medicine and op didn't turn down literal alcohol yes the mother in law is rude, but op is obviously either AI or overexaggerating the entire thing
thats what im saying. people, are acting like something was done without OPs knowledge, but this was all done within her sight and knowledge, she has to be stupid
@@Dice-Z A single drink wouldn't cause someone to be instantly drunk, the fact that she took an anxiety med and never told anyone about shows how terrible she is at communicating. I'm surprised her stupid ass is getting married at all.
How has she not told her husband about the constant body shaming that her mil did 😑
I was wondering the same ! Honestly, if my bf's mother were to make such body shaming or constant remarks (which, thankfully, hasn't happened yet, and I hope it won't !), I would tell my bf about it and ask if I did anything wrong to "deserve" such remarks.
Considering Jaden was an only child, OP either didn't think Jaden would believe her, or she didn't want to ruin his relationship with his mother. You'd be surprised how much crap people put up with to make their loved ones' lives easier.
@renadu30. perhaps she should have recorded her comments
That is partly my thought as well.
It's surprising that she hasn't told her husband about the constant body shaming from the MIL. He needs to know the full extent of his mother's behavior.
Finally! A husband who is not a mama’s boy!
almost everyone else trusts their mom and then they wonder why get divorced
Yup! I'm almost done, but so far I like him much more than OP doormatting the last moment, in favor of MIL who never felt sorry and forced worried hubby to forgive her by lying that his mom has apologized and overall saint of a woman. Its like she wants psychological warfare to start again. Mom never shown hints to be the sort to be awed by the gesture and be nice from now on
Rather being a mama’s boy than being a simp at least my mom will loves me until death unlike a random woman that can leave when ever she want
Ikr? I was about to comment the same. Finally a man who stands up to hid crazy mom for his wife!
I'm sorry but idc if someone DRUGGED MY WIFE and then REFUSED TO APOLOGIZE????? They would NEVER hear from me again.
I completely agree. Drugging someone is a serious offense, and refusing to apologize just makes it worse. They would be out of my life for good too.
She did not drug her dil.
Lmfao this guy is sure to get cheated in future if ever gets married or already married.
@@colinlamb4563 alcohol is considered a drug my guy
@devhxh1558 what is bro yapping about ‼️‼️🔥🔥🔥🗣🗣🗣
“I know spiked my sons wife, but why would he cut me from his life😭😭” ahh MIL
Exactly! It's shocking that the MIL can't understand why her actions would lead to being cut out of their lives.
She wasn’t spiked she offered her a sherley temple which is an alcoholic drink and it mixed with her anxiety meds that’s not mils fault
@@lukkylulu That drink is known as a NON-alcoholic drink.
@@Su-wo4id i mean, if she didnt know that the bride had taken meds its still a bit hard to throw everything on her, imo. the woman doesent seem like an awful human being, just a bit on the clueless side. the "body shaming" wasnt cool, but was it entirely malicious? we werent there so we cant know. also i think the 5k was probably cuz she felt bad she ruined the reception and wanted to give the money so they can have another big party to make up for it.
What’s the point of getting married, if you don’t even feel comfortable to tell your would be husband how his mom’s comments make you feel? The whole “bottle up your feelings” thing is for when you’re single or in a new relationship.
I get what you are saying but even single people should avoid bottling their feelings up
to everyone saying adding alcohol isn't spiking a drink, it most definitely is. as much as you dont like to admit it, alcohol is a drug. direct from Cambridge Dictionary "The term "drink spiking" refers to drugs or alcohol being added to a drink without the consent of the person consuming it." OP didn't know her drink had alcohol and did not ask for alcohol, she was given a Shirley Temple which any reasonable person would assume was non-alcoholic if not specified to be alcoholic
To me, spiking a drink is adding literally ANYTHING to the drink without my consent
Thanks for the clarification. English isn't my native language and I've never drunk a Shirley Temple so I didn't know it was N/A (I had just heard the name). I was going to ask if "spiking" was used only when someone added alcohol to a drink and if another term was used when someone added drugs to a drink (I know alcohol is a drug, but you get what I mean). I thought "spiking" was used for alcohol and "roofied" (or something like that) was used for [other] drugs
Tell her if she wants forgiveness, it's going to cost a lot more than 5k
She'll give them 6k😂
People need to stop being A holes to themselves and stop dealing with people who act like this. Or at least have the backbone to talk to your spouse.
Op is a pushover
the title is already a nightmare…
No wonder
I agree, the title itself already hints at a horrific situation.
"Wedding straight out of a telenovela"
The AI had just one job.
Never send a machine to do a humans job
The $5k check is definitely a form of financial manipulation. She’s trying to make it so OP and Jayden can’t cut her off in the future without feeling immensely guilty. She doesn’t actually care about their feelings, she’s just greedy. OP should just rip it up.
I know people like that and you're almost definitely wrong about her intents. No, people like this are just so deprived of emotional intelligence that they can only manage to express love through material goods. She simply has the emotional maturity of a 10 years old.
Gotta love when people don't want to accept responsibility for what they've done. If she had just apologized to OP it would've helped make things better but instead she just wants everything to go back to normal with NO accountability on her end. Absolutely ridiculous.
Yes, finally a husband who stands up for his wife and doesn't let his mother control everything. It's refreshing to see.
Don't accept any money from her, OP. By doing that, there's a chance she'll use that to her advantage in the future by saying something like "Well, I gave you five thousand dollars, so you have to do as I say!". I personally don't like feeling as if I owe someone in that regard, and given Maria's antics, I wouldn't be surprised if she pulls a stunt like this. God help you if you get pregnant and she's the one deciding baby names.
Serving someone alcohol against their will is disgusting! OP needs to write "VOID" on the cheque and mail it back to MIL with a note firmly stating that they will not accept it. If OP accepts the money, MIL will return to her old behavior and hold the money over their heads forever.
Had she been a recovering alcoholic it would have been a total disaster to her life and recovery.
you see, thats the issue, she knew it was a shirly temple, she didnt say she was unaware. and last i checked, the main ingrediant to shirlys are alchol
@ix7958 Incorrect. A Shirley Temple is simply sprite and grenadine. It's a common children's drink. You can add alcohol if you like but then it would be a spiked Shirley Temple.
@@ix7958you checked incorrectly, Shirley Temples are non-alcoholic by default.
You don’t get to hide critical information from your spouse because you’re too busy being a martyr. OP’s husband never got to make an informed decision because he had a fraction of the needed and relevant information. Also, I’m going to go as far as to say, the situation at the wedding was only allowed to happen because of OP’s martyrdom. I’m also going to go as far as to say that OP saying her MIL “apologized” was extremely manipulative. Her withholding information is extremely unhealthy and manipulative. It may be manipulative with good intentions, but it’s still removing her husband’s individual agency.
Absolutely, both the wife and the MIL are well meaning people, but completely devoid of any emotional intelligence and both manipulative.
wait I'm confused. The MIL is definitely rude and not a great person, but she didn't spike the OP's drink. The OP took an anxiety med and likely didn't tell the MIL. Now, giving someone an alcoholic drink without them knowing can be problematic, but she didn't drug her.
That's what i was asking myself .
I mean...Alcohol is a drug. We dont think of it as a drug because its socially acceptable. But the impact it has on the body, and how organizations classify it, it is a drug. So OP was drugged with alcohol, her drink spiked with alcohol. MIL stated the drink was a shirley temple, a non-alcoholic drink, and then spiked it with alcohol.
She gave OP an alcoholic drink knowing OP didn't want alcohol....she did drug her
How hard is it to not spike someone's drink?
She could have just asked if OP wanted some alcohol, you know? This is grounds for going NC indefinitely with a person because they simply don't respect the person, no any boundaries what so ever.
OMG Thank you I 100% agree. It's a wedding, that OP organized you would think that any drink she was offered had alcohol, unless strictly stated that she didn't want any because she was on medication. OP isn't completely innocent in all this.
An apology means little, actually, because you can never be sure how sincere it is, but it definitely means absolutely nothing if it’s only given after it has been asked for or demanded.
I'd still be weary of Maria. Especially when she gave cash as an apology. There could be a chance she'll use the "but you took the check!" as a manipulation tactic of they cash it out.
What Maria did is unforgivable. Spiking your drink on your wedding day is a huge betrayal of trust and could have had serious consequences. You deserve an apology, not just money. Stay strong and don't let her buy your forgiveness!
How do so many people not know what a Shirley Temple is or what spiking a drink means? Spiking a drink means adding anything to a drink unbeknownst to the drinker (usually alcohol). A Shirley Temple is a classicly NON-ALCOHOLIC drink, named after the child star. What OP was offered was sprite and grenadine. That's why she didn't expect alcohol. If you add rum to it, the taste of the rum will be masked by the grenadine, making it easy to go unnoticed. Also, for those who assume a bar at a wedding is the same as a pub...at most weddings in the U.S. the bar is where all drinks are. So even if you want a tea or diet coke, you have to go to the bar. So stop saying "She went to a bar and accepted a drink". Context matters!
It's not a joke, a prank, or a misunderstanding! It's a literal CRIME! She did drug her & could've killed her DIL!
There has been no indication that the OP was an abstinent person, or that she informed anyone of taking any medication at all.
Weddings are commonly recognized as alcoholic events unless stated otherwise.
OP should have informed MIL that she didn’t want/ could not have be drinking alcohol the moment she agreed that MIL would make the beverage for her.
It’s bare minimum. You know if you are on medication. You don’t blame others for effects of medication that happen because you didn’t inform anyone about the fact you took it.
There ain’t no crime here, take it easy with the Reddit fake dramas.
@@marycampbell4251 Weddings are also occasions where the Bride might be Preggers.
You don't EVER get someone a drink without asking what they'd like, if it's TRULY a nice gesture from someone who doesn't have ill intent.
THIS wasn't that! MIL had been a nightmare during the entire process of planning the wedding and the Engagement. She absolutely at the very least, intended to make her look like a fool!
Most real story from this channel so far
Guys she did spike the drink a shirley temple is non alcoholic 😊
Wow, OP was willing to go to almost any length to avoid sticking up for herself.
Why didn't Rachel tell Jayden 'everything' from the moment she met Maria,
and instead rather opting to tell him about the cafe intervention? ...
If I were her, I would've laid it all out and told Jayden all the numerous passive
comments Maria made about her weight, to her trying to control her wedding dress
and the constant backhanded badmouthing she'd unleash on Rachel in a passive manner.
... Context matters, and Jayden deserved to know everything from the very beginning.
Stuff like this is why I don’t want to have a huge wedding: they cost a fortune and all it takes is one AH to ruin the day.
It’s like trying to make a giant display of glassware, only for someone to bump it and it all comes crashing down 😢
Things this comment section needs to understand. Shirley temples do not contain alcohol, they are sprite, grenadine syrup, ice, and a cherry on top. Spiking a drink means putting alcohol in a nonalcoholic drink, Shirley temples are non alcoholic so the MIL putting, or having the bartender put alcohol in it is spiking the drink. Bars at weddings is where everyone gets drinks, there isn't another place to get drinks at a wedding, bars have non alcoholic drinks too.
If OP would have just talked to her husband a lot of this probably wouldn’t have happened
To anyone saying the drink wasn't spiked: a Shirley temple is a mocktail, so not a drink you'd expect to contain alcohol unless otherwise specified.
I haven't finished the video yet but why the hell is OP such a doormat? TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND. Set boundaries with MIL. Jeez.
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That was such a half assed apology "i’m sorry you had a reaction" tf typa "im sorry you feel like you deserve an apology" type shit
getting engaged without meeting and deeply bonding with inlaws is insane
"Secret love for karaoke although nether of us is very good." I felt that.
So... she never met his family BEFORE getting engaged?
What kind of bs is that how tf did OP not tell her MiL about how disrespectful and spiteful she is. She should have told her husband from the beginning or left him smh
"he yelled at her, and the whole reception was ruined" lol, i guess her passing out was cool 😂
The alcohol thing was a genuine mistake. I want to know if the husband knows how passive aggressive his mom is, cause it sounds to me like they never communicated about that
I hope OP gets that A+ at school for their creative writing assignment.
B- at best
Ah yes, everything on the internet is fake. Especially completely mundane and non-extraordinary stories with the most normal interactions.
You both get an F on critical thinking.
@@Dice-Z nobody's drink was spiked and none of it was done maliciously. In fact, the bride either is an idiot or took someone else's prescribed medication. Either way the author is making mountains out of ant hills
I do not accept the fail that clearly belongs to you, king
@@Dice-Z and Im leaning into the illegal action of taking someone else's medicine because she didn't say she had any regularly prescribed medications to EMS.
"She" just blaming her MIL because its trendy 🤣
Is it wrong that I am actively annoyed by people who don't stand up for themselves? I used to be very sympathetic, but now? Ugh... The victim mentality is just tedious... And feels manipulative.
When she wanted to go dress shopping with her OP should of said 'no thanks, I have other things to do to and just need to make sure I get them all done and am not distracted'
Honestly OP, keeping secrets causes problems. If he ever finds out you hid MIL’s behaviour from him he could feel betrayed. How would you feel to find out he hid verbal abuse received from your mom?
What MIL is not understanding is that even if it was just alcohol and OP "only" got drunk against her will THAT IS STILL NOT OKAY TO DO TO SOMEONE. That is still messing with someone's sobriety and wellbeing without their consent. What if OP had trauma around drunkenness or just reacts really poorly to alcohol and avoids it for that reason? "I didn't mean for it to go like this I just intended to humiliate you in front of everyone" is not as effective as these people want to believe it is.
Op didn’t meet MIL until he proposed. WOW. Body shaming by mil.
op and husband needs to grow atleast ONE backbone.
A Shirley temple is a non alcoholic, bride wasn’t drinking because she took meds. Adding alcohol to a non alcoholic drink without telling someone is spiking the drink.. spiking the drink doesn’t just mean drugging it..
Use the $5000 to host another reception and make sure that mother-in-law is not invited
One drink and half a benzo? Yeah that's not gonna make her pass out, there are so many other things that make this feel fake but that's the nail in the coffin for me.
If she hadn't eaten all day, had a small stature, and wasn't a drinker, that could absolutely do it. For all we know she's 5' and weighs 120 lbs. For someone that small, that amount could have done worse than knock her out.
@@jkrenee That's not true of benzos as their effect is not proportional to body weight, not only that but if she took them she would know that's it's clearly on the bottle not to mix with alcohol so she couldn't have claimed not to know that afterwards, and even if she didn't know that then how could she not taste alcohol in a drink? Furthermore, who doesn't drink on their wedding day?!
@@courtadbobtail600 1) Benzos are always dangerous no matter their dose. Doubly true for CNS depressant mixes.
2) Many people who are prescribed are not aware of highly dangerous interactions with other CNS depressants
3) Cocktails can hide the taste of alcohol pretty well. Especially to someone who doesn't drink often
4) People who have medication that doesn't mix with alcohol don't take alcohol on their wedding day
5) The drink she was given is supposed to be a non-alcoholic cocktail.
6) Weight or not, people still have unique metabolisms, and unique reactions to certain medications and interactions, including benzos
7) You don't know how much of what benzo she might have been taking, nor how strong the drink was, nor how well she tolerates alcohol, which if she's not someone who tends to drink, which seems likely, would be poorly
@@courtadbobtail600 I don’t drink alcohol on any day and if you spiked my drink I’d immediately boot you out of my life. Do you have a drinking problem, to consider it an integral part of “normal” life?
And body weight definitely affects how someone reacts to benzos.
Putting alcohol in someone's drink doesn't mean the OP was drugged but that also doesn't mean that the OP wanted or was okay with alcohol. She should've definitely asked to make sure the OP was okay with it but it definitely feels like it was meant to be harmless but that carelessness put the OP in danger and that is definitely a serious problem.
Honestly it sounds like Op has communication issues.
Just record MIL, edit the remarks back to back and post it into the family group chat without a word.
I genuinely don't think the mother-in-law had any malicious intent, but her utter obliviousness to how her words and actions can affect the people around her is a MAJOR issue.
Obviously, I'm not trying to justify her actions or anything, but I think it's important that the mother-in-law understands that her actions have consequences. And even though OP literally had to lay it out for her and make her apologize, I do think that afterwards, mother-in-law actually realized just how bad she fucked up, which was why she insisted on giving her that check.
Just imagine OP having a daughter you don't think mother-in-law's going to do the exact same thing to her about weight that woman is a walking talking abuse and it's going to take until it's too late for OP to see it.
I’m sorry while I think MIL was absolutely wrong, OP is a shit communicator. Did she tell mil the comments upset her? Did she tell her why she didn’t want her at the dress fittings? Did she tell her fiancé/husband about what was happening between her and the mil? Based on how the situation resolved, I feel like mil might have respected boundaries if they had been clearly stated in the past. And for those who think that it shouldn’t be needed to say “don’t make comments about my weight” in some cultures that is actually how a parent shows love, even though it is awful. Boundaries need to be set. If she doesn’t like it she needs to use her words like an adult and say “please stop commenting on my weight, I do not find it supportive or caring. Even if you mean well it is hurtful and I will not accept that behavior.” Instead she tried to ghost her mil and exclude her. Not justifying mil. I see the alcohol as her being overbearing, not trying to get revenge as it seems like op painted it to be.
on top of that op had to have known it was achoholic, she saw her walk tot the bar
@@ix7958 She was given a non alcoholic drink.
@@ix7958Bars make more than alcoholic drinks and a Shirley Temple is a non-alcoholic drink. :)
All of them needs therapy
Idk i mean…i get that Op is non-confrontational but like…SOOOO many of her issues could have been avoided if she either
a) told her husband all this sooner
or b) stood up for herself
While I agree that giving someone alcohol without their knowledge is definitely wrong, I truly don’t think she meant any harm. It’s sadly a pretty normal thing for people to drink small amounts of alcohol to calm down and she genuinely meant it as an olive branch. Personally, I’d cash the check and keep the money in savings. She ever brings it up, I’ll happily refund every penny.
Op might be having a bit of a truce right now with mil but if they decide to have kids it's going to blow up. There's no way in hell she's going to not make snarky comments about what she's eating while pregnant and so on
The AI couldn't even keep the facts straight 🙄. And i almost did believe this too...
tell her if she paid for a new wedding and if everything work you forgive her
I feel like MIL was trying to pay her back for ruining a very expensive and happy day for OP and such like that, but I really think she was trying to buy back forgiveness I guess
what kind of person thinks 5 thousand dollars would make up for a near death experience then may as well try to give op a old shoe 🤦♂🤦♂
AITA for refusing my ex-husband visitation rights after therapy?
Use the 5k for a party on the wedding anniversary and maybe a recommittment ceremony. Good way to reuse op's dress. Make the party alcohol free.
Lying to your SO is not good
MIL told the OP she's fat and now OP hates her and looks at everything MIL does like its evil. The end.
She is so gullible!
Run from this crazy family. No marriage is worth all this turmoil.
Was there any sign that the bride was not drinking alcohol that day? xD
Normal human interaction:
"Oh you look like you are enjoying yourself. Here I get you a drink."
"Nah sorry I dont drink today. Or is it without alc?"
I mean I would get the poison part if Mil swapped water with vodka but wtf. With the setting everyone is overreacting. Not saying Mil is nice. But they are both kinda ridiculous.
Imagine taking medication and not being able to handle to spot alcohol when someone hands you a drink.
Alcohol and Medicine doesn’t mix well which is obviously.
@@bubblegum_flavor551 everyone knew that she took meds?
@TheLuc224 only the maid of honour knew she took meds
@@Chonts well then the Ai fucked up the story a bit
The MIL gave her a drink that she said was non-alcoholic but this one had alcohol in it. MIL called it by it's non-alcoholic name, and 99%+ of the time this drink is made in it's non-alcoholic fashion. You cannot tell the difference by sight between a shirley temple and a dirty shirley. Unless it's made poorly, you can't even tell by taste. It tastes just like cherry sprite with or without vodka in it.
This OP is pretty frustrating to listen to. I hope this is fake
just 200 guest you have that much tension in my country every marriage least have 500 to 1200 people
I farted
@@Look-e2j I sharted
That's crazy
@@MeBeingMyselfXD cool
@@shok_s2594 yeah right
Congratulations
I’m confused by the “prank”
“I was just trying to lighten the mood”
The mood was already light, though…?
Ok, I remember this story. OP WENT TO THE BAR AT HER WEDDING and MIL says, “go enjoy yourself, I’ll get you a drink [AT THE BAR YOU WERE JUST ABOUT TO ORDER A DRINK AT]”. MIL gets the OP a drink [AT THE BAR SHE WAS JUST STANDING AT].
OP blacks out and realize SHE TOOK AN ANXIETY MED BEFORE THE WEDDING. And MIL apparently drugged her after getting her a drink AT THE BAR SHE WAS JUST STANDING AT… like, that’s not drugging. That’s OP affirming her wack communication, specifically that she took a medication that she should not drink on, after someone just clearly said “let me get you a drink” at a wedding bar… like what???
The wedding could have been dry wedding and the MIL added the alcohol after… that’s spiking the drink.
@@aikoj9607 where in OP’s post does it say that???
Have you ever been to a wedding? There are other things served at a bar that aren't alcoholic, they have all sorts of drinks from soda/pop to nonalcoholic mock drinks. Long story short OP wasn't drugged she was spiked, she didn't know she was given a drink with alcohol in it. MIL not being transparent about the drink being alcoholic is a form of spiking a drink. Yeah OP was a bitch baby and should either have told the MIL to eat shit and fuck off with the shitty comments, or told her husband what was going on. However that doesn't mean that MIL just gets to give her alcohol. There is no where where OP said she wanted to have alcohol, the mother gave her a drink that under normal conditions doesn't have alcohol in it. It would be like if someone gave you something and told you it was like peanut M&M's and then you found out it want peanuts, it was crickets or something like that. It doesn't matter that OP was at the bar, it doesn't matter that she took meds before, it matters that OP didn't agree to drinking alcohol and was given alcohol without her consent.
@@Finn_the_stoned have you ever drank alcohol before?? Have you ever had a Shirley Temple before? How do you finish a drink and not tell the difference after taking a sip or even smelling?????
You can slice this anyway you want, but OP is still the idiot here. MIL is a nightmare that should have been dealt with from the beginning. But OP is Clark Griswold in every National Lampoon’s vacation movie.
Tbh the constant comments about her body were way worse than the "spiking" of the drink
I would charge her 20k and tell her that only gets her to say a 5min explaination
Most of the stories that start with a whole love story are fake. Or some kind of creative writing exercise.
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AI leaned too hard on spineless op
My parents had a small party once with my grandparents with spiled and normal lemonade when i was in middle school, i accidentally drank the wromg lemonade, i went to be with a headache feeling awful. Thats the only time ive ever drank alcohol.
If it wasn't for the fact that OP state that when they got hope the MIL was there and apologized for the "prank". I'd say other then MIL being condescending and making references about OP's weight. MIL didn't do anything wrong. I'm going off information shared. It's a wedding and MIL handed her new DIL a alcoholic beverage. For those out there in comment section land that were married. Did you have an alcoholic beverage at your wedding? Unless there is missing info where the MIL was told specifically that OP couldn't drink, I just don't understand how she is the bad guy. I'd like to hear the MIL and husbands side of the story for that day. Just to be clear I'm not saying the comments the MIL made were ok, but from life experience I've learned most MIL of females are overly particular to them.
Right? I'm so lost
MIL spiked a non-alcoholic drink with alcohol. A Shirley Temple is a completely non-alcoholic kid's drink named after the child star Shirley Temple. So when given a Shirley Temple, anyone would expect it to be non-alcoholic. This is why MIL is considered the bad guy; for tampering with OP's drink like that without letting her know because she wouldn't have drunk it had she known. :)
She would’ve had lessened teeth… my anger issues
Apparently not only is the OP not nearly as confident in her body as she claims to be if some near stranger MIL to be can so easily knock holes in her confidence, but she's also a coward who doesn't have the spine to just tell her to sit and be quiet while she looks if she insists on coming along.
Likewise with not informing her fiancee that she wanted to shop alone - you can't expect him to be a frickin psychic since you are too spineless to even discuss the matter with him.
i never get that in these story's why they dont tell their partner right away and wait till something happens
🤣 I know right
I got nauseous around @0:51 and had to stop listening. Too bad MIL’s plan didn’t “work.”
K so Shirley temples while usually are non alcoholic can also be alcoholic. To say the MIL is not a nice person is fine but to say she spiked op is a little aggressive.
I kinda dont get this story like OP meets the mother AFTER the engagement and likes her but then she says how the mother ALWAYS commented on her weight when Jayden was not there and in the end you are telling me that the couple of days before the body shaming MIL was NEVER ALONE with the OP???????? Jayden should let them have alone time the are both female dont worry. WHAT IS HAPPENING???
Too many details to not be made up ngl
Agree. The most common fast acting anti anxiety med is Ativan and it only starts in your system for about 1-2 hrs. And one sip of alcohol (hours after) isn't going to do much, let alone have an "immediate" effect. 😅
Most of the time liars love to add details, plus ai has access to info like medicine so
@@jmasey52 You clearly don't know much about benzos, alcohol, biology, ODs or drug interactions if you think that. Ativan only starts after an hour and doesn't work for hours... lmao right, as if.
@@Dice-Z Idk if you know this chief but it takes time for meds to metabolize and enter your bloodstream. A few can take minutes, the ones that are inhaled or are injected are near immediate but more than likely an ingested medication will take about an hour or a little less to be administered to your body. Also people may naturally be tolerant to medications or become tolerant to specific medications which happens most often due to regularly taking that medication and something like an anxiety pill is generally prescribed to be taken semi regularly. Add to that the fact that the most common anxiety pills are prozac and lexapro, both of which have been more or less been given a pass for light to moderate drinking (which a few sips definitely falls under). Lastly the fact she didn't notice it was spiked initially means the alcohol to drink ratio wasn't significant. Idk mann it just seems like a non issue
Ok, MIL is a bit clueless, but she's not malicious. If her name is truly Maria and telenovelas are being referenced, then likely she's Italian or Hispanic, in which case it's pretty common for comments about her body to be made with loving intentions and to not mention it in front of the males as to not embarrass her. It's not nice, but I don't think it was done to hurt her and she should have stated it hurt her feelings. Next, she had a bar at her wedding, so presumably alcohol is available, mil offered to make her a drink and gave her what op assumed was a Shirley Temple, there was no specific requests. Next, OP stated she took a small dose of anxiety meds, for the interaction to be that severe, there has to have been something else in the drink or a large amount of alcohol, enough that it would have been detected under all the syrup. Also, that was not enough time for a reaction to occur... Anyhow, the mil feels bad for "ruining their wedding" which was obviously expensive, that is why she's offering the money. She's not trying to buy forgiveness, she's just trying to do what she thinks she can to repay the damage to the wedding. I don't see malicious intent anywhere in her actions, a little bit clueless and not exactly kind, but not evil. Some people get too worked up about some of these stories and want to crucify the supposed bad guy without considering it could've all been an accident. Sometimes accidents hurt people, but this was easily forgivable and really nothing to hate mil over.
That is wierd, its not like mil spiked the drink, I mean in my country it would be more wierd if, the not pregnant wife, not drink Atleast 3 alcoholic shots.
Op is a doormat
OP, youre doormat.
IRL thw EMT would be a mandatory reporter and would have reported the piking to the police.
OP is an AH for not being honest with her fiancee; he need to know what his mother was doing. Sh's also an idiot or not recording the abuse.
Maybe I'm just lucky, but all of the in-laws and step parents that I've encountered have been decent people, nothing like the monsters on youtube. Is that just creative license, or are they out there?
Op is the ah so is the mil op should have told everyone she took medicine and mil for slipping alcohol in the drink
Putting anything in someone's drink is wrong, no matter the reason/excuse. The OP could have died, and an autopsy would have exposed "Marie", and then "Jaden" would have most likely sued her and pressed murder charges.
Honestly, Maria might have been rude and everything but it seems like she's genuinely sorry about what she did. And to make it clear, SHE DIDN'T SPIKE THE DRINK! There was just some alcohol in it and that's all. There wasn't any substances inside of it, it was just bad luck and she didn't know OP took something.
As for the check, although I understand OP's perspective, I also understand Maria's. Maybe for her, it's a way of making it up to her. If there was only the money, then yeah she would have been an asshole. But since her attitude seemed to have changed, I feel like it's a way for her to make amends.
Yes she did spike it. She told OP that it was a Shirley Temple. That drink is commonly given to children as it has NO alcohol in it. MIL lied.
She did spike the drink. OP wanted/asked for/expected a nonalcoholic drink. MiL knew that and put alcohol in it anyway. "Just some alcohol" IS a substance, and it IS spiking a drink. Even without the anxiety meds what MiL is absolutely not okay.
If MIL told OP it was a Shirley Temple then yes, she spiked the drink.
Adding alcohol to a non-alcoholic beverage is the definition of “spiking” a drink.
@@reneeharper84 this is incorrect, op didnt ask, the mother in law just brought it to her
There was no malice here sure the mil is a rude person but how was she meant to know shed taken anxiety meds?
Op is not the smartest tbh
Doormat
The MIL didn't spike anything. OP mentioned that the MIL offered her a "Shirley Temple" unless OP had specified that she doesn't drink alcohol or the wedding was alcohol free why would a person consider a cocktail to be without alcohol. Normally it wouldn't have affected her and only OP and her maid of honor knew OP had taken anxiety.
A Shirley Temple is sprite and grenadine over ice with a garnish. It's named after a child star because it has no alcohol. It's the world's first mocktail.
OP would have no reason to think a Shirley Temple would have alcohol.
Mother in law clearly added alcohol to the drink to get her drunk which is still spiking the drink
A dirty Shirley is the version of a Shirley Temple with alcohol in it...... Shirley Temple was a child star so the drink named after her is not with alcohol.
Literally no one was drugged here, she didn't know she took medicine and op didn't turn down literal alcohol yes the mother in law is rude, but op is obviously either AI or overexaggerating the entire thing
thats what im saying. people, are acting like something was done without OPs knowledge, but this was all done within her sight and knowledge, she has to be stupid
OP wasn't offered literal alcohol. She was offered a non-alcoholic drink that the MIL had added alcohol to. That is the definition of a spiked drink.
@@ix7958She was offered a non-alcoholic drink without knowing it was spiked. How does that make her stupid?
Or you have no idea what you are talking about because alcohol is a drug, and giving it to someone without their knowledge is giving a spiked drink.
@@Dice-Z A single drink wouldn't cause someone to be instantly drunk, the fact that she took an anxiety med and never told anyone about shows how terrible she is at communicating. I'm surprised her stupid ass is getting married at all.