It’s crazy how this isn’t even about “emasculating” a man. It’s just about respecting someone’s boundaries and being a decent human being. Most of these are 100% emotional abuse!
Yeah, I feel like these don't have much to do with harming someone's masculinity (except the father or other person helping one), but like basic respect for a partner. That's so sad 💕
Yeah and men do some of these as well. You can see the clear boundaries being crossed. So a woman may say that she feels the man doesn’t love her, while the man calls it “emasculating.” Either way, it’s crossing boundaries and damaging relationships. Not gonna hide it, I might feel the same, for example if my husband asked someone else for help with something I can do. But I think this one is a little different for men because they like to be helpful for respect (it’s like someone is trusting them so it’s a form of respect). **Watch out here guys, women like to help for love… so if you don’t praise her for her cooking, etc, she might be hurt … this counts for your mom/sisters too
Most of these are very messed up! However I gotta say, I distinctly remember when I was a kid my mom asking my dad to fix things around the house. He wouldn't fix them for weeks or months, so she'd eventually get fed up and do them herself, and then my dad would get annoyed at her and say "I was getting around to it!" from the couch 😁 I don't think it's unreasonable to be expected to do things in a somewhat timely fashion. But all the other things are pretty mean to do or say to someone.
Yes. This is exactly what I said in my comment. We ask yall to do something because we want it done now or in the next few hours or days. We aren't trying to imasculate you, we just want it done and if you're not going to do it then we will.
@zerofox1490 - YOU are a model of maturity taking these examples as good information. I'm sure you're a loving partner and are a gift to your man! Thank you for caring enough to read, listen. So many men don't have the luxury of a partner who does what you are doing. Well done.
@@ten-ub4xd I gave up trying to do several things that she didn’t like the way I did them. This was a mistake, but I figured if my way which was just as good as her way wasn’t good enough she could do it herself since since stayed home and had time. I gave up too much control to a control freak and now she owns me after the divorce with four young kids.
@@trumpetpunk42 The context in Genesis was the creation of men and women and God's intention for women to be a mate for a man. Nothing in Corinthians changes this, it just draws out how individual circumstances may vary, but God's intent in creation remains the same. If you will live a better or more Godly life as a single, it's clearly ok for you.
I have a couple ones that I’d like to share from my last relationship. My ex-wife, would constantly ask if I knew what I was doing with house projects. She also told me to stop mansplaning one time, and since I do not know what that is I looked it up and I was like are you for real?! But I try to keep my cool and ignore it. Here is the most absolute biggest one that hurt me, she worked at a university in the Veterans department, and she berated me because other veterans with PTSD went to college, and constantly asked why I couldn’t! I told her all PTSD events are different, she told me I just hang around with bums who do not work either, even though we are all 100% disabled from the Marine Corps/Navy. That one hurt the most!
@@bekkahtaylor she's not only threatening leaving. She probably knows the courts are going to favor her, so it sounds like from his POV she's using the threat of never seeing his kids again to keep him "in line"
Ooh, harsh. That’s intentional. Not cool. I’d say, “I don’t know why she’s asking you because she knows I’m an expert on this.” Then watch the other person look right at her and think “WTF?” Her reaction: ➡️🥴
I did a somewhat reverse UNO card and did this to her, in response to her continued not giving a damn about what my opinions. To do this, Go shopping for a tie with your wife / GF, and when she suggests a certain one, and the FEMALE store person suggest a different one...... Go with what the female store person suggests....... still makes me smile all these years later 🙂
@@notsureyou we WERE married...WITH kids...but I still ran...after YEARS of staying, wrongfully, just for the kids! Yeah. I'm not a quitter...And I love my kids DEARLY...but there are some things you just SHOULDN'T tolerate. I learned this a little slower than I should've. But at least I learned it!
Ms. Moore, I can only say with a bit of pride that I cannot relate to this. I found a woman who for the last 28 years has treated me better than I could ask for. Way too many positive attributes to list all of them, from making my lunch every day to asking me what I want for dinner. 80% of the time she also serves my food to me. She works 40 hrs a week also. I EXPECT OR TAKE NONE OF THIS FOR GRANTED.....NONE !!!!!! I reciprocate the best I can. I am extremely lucky from what I've been hearing about relationships these days. I haven't dated since the mid 90's. I just wanted you to know the other side of that. Wisdom about my experiences turned into advice is a short list of things #1 being your partner should be as much committed as you are to the long haul relationship. 😀 Thank you for your channel.
Being single for so long its emphasized to me that being patient and really being sure of someone you want to be with forever is a careful process. Life can be an absolute hell if you pick a terrible partner like some of these men's choices.
@@briandadelgadorodriguez6786 well in that case. Go talk to a guy thats my advice. If you whant to understand men or people... talk to them. Listen carefully and how they word things you catch alot that way too. You have one mouth and 2 ears i sugest you use the Ears.
@@briandadelgadorodriguez6786 i have my reasons. Firstly: nothing beats first hand and field experince. You can read and theroize but that will only get you so far. If you whant to learn in life you do it faster and better by first hand field experince. Secondly: I am a bit rude cause of a few things i learned and picked up. If you are cheeky and sometimes a bit rude you can actually get very far. When i bought my second car brand new. Do you know what i did? i blocked the dealers entrance. Why? cause now he have to take contact to me and now we can speak about what i whant. Wich happended. He also moved the car cause i told him your problem heres the keys. You see my point? a bit rude and a bit cheeky is always helpfull in some situations. Yourse yeah i might have typed it nicely but would you care so much? answer is no.
One that used to drive me crazy with my ex was if we were fighting I'd try to get her to sit down and talk it out. I would sit and listen as she laid out why she was mad, offer solutions, look for common ground, etc. Any time I spoke she would interrupt me and start yelling. If I interrupted her, accidentally or intentionally, it was like the world was coming to an end with how angry she would get. If you're with somebody who can't at the very least *match* the respect you give them, get out.
😭 this channel keeps me on my toes and I cry a lot. This channel makes me aware of how I treat my husband and brings things to my attention that I might be doing wrong. Last thing I want is for my husband to feel this way since he’s out there “shankin that ass” as he says it working 14-16 hour days to care for our home, our family. Good bless you guys. 😭
That is really great that you can see this. Most women probably just ignores this. You are already a better person recognizing mistakes. I am a single woman. I don't want to burden a man with my aches and pains. I have days I can barely move, so I don't bother being a burden. Good luck with everything.
“Talking to her friends about intimate details of our relationship “. Totally unacceptable. Why do women do this ? Is it all about control ? Humiliating men ? Hate ? For the vast majority of men, the most important thing in a relationship is trust. Knowing that everything you do and say is immediately reported to all her friends, relatives, colleagues, gym buddies, neighbours etc is a huge 🚩
Thanks for speaking up/ bringing out tough topics / neutral playing field/ an awareness that tend to deal with issues by ourselves and isolated. Thanks for your encouragements !!!😊
Typically, American women are raised with all this BS girl power, entitlement, goddess, I am woman, hear Me roar nonsense. The end result in most cases is that they end up as mean, nasty hellions and mentally ill. Get your passport and GO.
I'm 71 years old, a crusty old curmudgeon. A Navy veteran who doesn't get sappy about most things in our culture. But I gotta say, this hurts my heart. Thank you for sharing this with us.
Reading these made me sad. I have a husband and 2 sons and I never want to make them feel that. Have told all of them about you and how much you’re helping folks. God bless you and real men
I have a good husband... not perfect but he treats me like a princess and he is proud to introduce me to everyone when we go out. I love him. He works hard to make sure i stay home with our 3 kids. Gives me a life i never thought i would have. People look at us when we out coz we behave like we now start dating lol... been marries for 9 yrs and together for 12. Marriage is awesome. I pray for him every day. You have to pray your man... they are human still and they can have temptations of every sort. Be kind to him, do not nag, speak kindly and respectful to him, have regular sex with passion, cook fresh meals for him, just do all the things you can when you were dating. It works.
@@rehannabridjlall3928 "not perfect" ...nor are you. No one is. Should we actually PREFACE our statements about our husbands with "he's not perfect, but"? Is that even necessary? Imagine him, when describing you, "well she's not perfect ..."
I like this. I've always been willing to hear from men and understand what makes them tick or ticks them off. It's a great refresher for ladies to listen and take in what is being said too. Thanks for the men who were willing to share!
You need to look her in the eyes and tell her to cut that BS out my man. If she doesn't then refuse to be talked over. Instead of going silent you just keep talked regardless so she can see that you will no longer let that happen.
Absolute sign of an unhealthy, unbalanced relationship. Her opinion counts but yours do not. Does she also always hold the deciding vote in any contested decision?
I've experienced her asking another man for help with something I was perfectly capable of and even quite knowledgeable about. It was about something so small and trivial but it stung like almost nothing else I've ever felt.
in a past relationship, this got me so pissed off once, I escalated it into a huge argument. Right now I don't even remember what it was or how it was resolved, but what I remember is that disgusting feeling or her trying to shame me like that
I've lost all my friends cuz she didn't like them. She won't be friendly with my family so it's like I am ashamed of her because I know she won't like any of them
That she pulled away from me so many times claiming that she was playing.........now I don't even know how to touch her anymore and romance has been non existent. I miss the woman I feel in love with
same here 17 yrs married and didnt have sex for the last 3 yrs. On the day she left she told me she never liked our sex. never mentioned it through the whole marriage.
God bless you. You are the rare exception. I encourage men to go overseas as I did 20 years back. In all those years, my wife here in the Philippines has NEVER done a single one of those things.
Love to see this! it's is very good to be open to self improvement! I am learning as well. No shame in accepting mistakes and learning to make any relationship better. 😊
Empathy is really attractive to men, it’s commonly noted as a trait women claim to desire in men, but men also appreciate this trait. When a couple can imagine themselves in each other’s shoes a lot of conflicts can be avoided.
My happiness doesn't seem to matter nearly as much as hers does! NEVER cooks, I work 10+ hour days and never come home to a nice warm cooked meal and then the kids also get hungry after I've worked all day
Wow, this made me tear up a little, that was my life for 6.5 years, and I experienced every one of those listed! I'm so happy to be in a healthy relationship now
The money thing hit me. I had 10hr shifts at the job I had when I was with my daughters mother. Got called for a sixth day, and the rest of the week I came in two hours early to do extra work. So I worked 70hr. Id come home, exhausted and just wanting to cool down and sit for the first time all day. She said to me "think about how this affects our daughter". She was right. I knew it then, because I wanted to spend all the time I could with her. But she would also over spend on groceries(and somehow, we still didn't have any food), I still paid for her brand new car while I have an 8yr old car, and she wanted to buy all sorts of useless things we didn't need. I really want to sit down with her and get this closure, but I know it would end up heated, and it would cause problems. I feel so used and unappreciated still. I bent over backwards just to make sure she had a warm place to sleep and a full belly, yet I was told her mother was more of a father than I was.
Thank you Sahra!! There are few people and even fewer women who actually understand and can empathize with what it takes to be a man. Especially in this new world. Keep it up kiddo! You're an island in an ocean!
I couldn’t imagine doing or saying any of these things to my husband, never mind doing it. I respect him and appreciate everything he does for us. Love isn’t a word, it’s an action.
She just decided that "She doesn't feel *that* way for me anymore". We don't have sex, or even kiss anymore. I'm disabled and so my income is minimal. If I had an ounce of self respect I'd find a way to make it on my own, but we've been together 30 years! I'm at a complete loss...
@@CaymanDude76 I am sorry to say but you need to divorce her because it's strongly likely that she is cheating on you. Women crave attention and emotions from man they love, so if she is not having sex or any intimacy with you, then she is having it with someone else
@@CaymanDude76 bro if it ain't menopause or one of the other physical/mental health things that can drastically impact a woman, and she's not willing to try couples counseling of some kind, you don't need to respect yourself- do it for your health; the mental, emotional and spiritual aspects of your health are closely linked to your physical- and vice versa- what heavily impacts one will impact the other. But this is also true with Positives. If she is tearing you up on the inside, find and take the steps needed to Begin healing the inside, before you lose the outside and any financial capability that remains to you (before it's possible for her to take that from you on her way out as well.) Protect yourself.
In my case going to my friend's and people I don't know telling them things I keep to myself that I only told her because she insisted for months that I trust her with my issues. Just made me hurt more. And then got mad at me for not trusting her anymore after that.
Being denied intimacy consistently then starting fights about how I don't initiate anymore like it's a one way street and she won't tell me when it's good to go....
I’m sorry I used to do that to my husband, we got some serious help and now I just simply committed to never denying him he gets it when he wants and I love him so much I enjoy our time, I got over myself! And life is good
And this is why I told my girlfriend that if she wanted to be with me that she needs to know that I have high standards and I have boundaries if she's going to be with me and with that said she respects it and understands it.
But then women can turn on a dime . Don't be taken unawares know your rights & responsibilities. 50% of marriages end in divorce so bare that in mind . Good luck.
@@johnreed8336 Most definitely, as a young man I'm learning about things and how women are but with the way my girlfriend is her and I have so much in common and she even fallen in love with me first and wanted me first that I made my move to get her and I did save her from a abusive relationship but I will say that I appreciate the advice you have given me but I will say that what her and I have for each other is a beautiful cures that with the way I talk to her turns her on every time and she has never met another man like me before that her and I have plans to grow old with each other that she knows that I can't do everything on my own to make our relationship happen that she knows that I don't mess around in a relationship that I'll do what I can to provide and protect her but I expect her to do her part to that I expect respect and loyalty that she knows that I have options that she wants me so bad that she's to attached to me and doesn't want to lose me that I've been told by her that she doesn't want me to break her heart which I understand with what she has been through but I'm not trying to make this into a long story but all I gotta say is that I couldn't be happier and I feel so blessed that her and I believe that fate has blessed us in our darkest time when we needed someone the most to love and cherish.
Damn, I just had the first one happen the other day while I was snaking the drain in the bathroom. she doubted my ability the entire time even though I use to work for a local water utility, have basic plumbing experience, and even did repairs on main lines in the field; she still second guessed my ability. It's been three weeks and the sink and toilet are still flushing just fine. Her dad half assed projects, so now I get to be judged for his sins.
Okay this one is just uber toxic in general and I wouldn't tolerate anyone doing it. I have heard more stories about women doing it tho, never understood it.
That's so common on social media nowadays. Women complaining about their husbands publicly, no respect for the man. For me such a thing is the end of relationship. If she has a problem, we can talk and fix it home, but the moment she goes to social media to publicly humiliate me, we're done.
I’m absolutely not proud of it but I’m guilty of one of these and really needed to see this today. I also owe someone a apology and I need to start working on myself ASAP.
If we could all just not get all caught up and things and just actually do this simple thing of hey I was wrong I need to apologize and change my behavior I feel like we'd all be a lot better off. It's definitely a hard thing to do though I don't know if one ever truly can get past it that's why you just have to be able to admit when you're wrong and apologize and actually work on those bag
I don’t think I have a problem with her talking about our sex life. I actually would like her to talk about that and flex. Then when we get the looks and the friends know what we bring to the table it’s like a pump of testosterone, enough to grow a second beard.
I hate how I can still feel (also hear)the words of my ex which was a few of these comments shared and its so true how some of the time people don't understand that they are hurting people they claimed to love.
I have seen most of the views and can relate. my wife always throws divorce at me and blames me for everything, she told me basically that I do not make enough and that she is miserable with me. I feel that shevis right. I am an absolute failure and really feel that I am alone. I work all day and she lays in bed complaing of her anxiety, depression ,etc. I literally do n ot know what to do, but cry and drink myself to death. Thank you for you courage with men. we are truly treated like crap.
Sir, you deserve better. She is saying those things to keep you down and subservient - stop the cycle and leave her! Protect your money and assets and get out of there. Unless you own the home, then get her out of there.
My mom does a couple of these to my dad, it hurts to watch because I know it hurts him and if he said as much she'd turn it around on him, shit makes me scared to even try to meet women these days with how messed up a lot of them are
Ditto my mom. She is an incredible woman, but flawed. At 82, and still going strong, she stills says things like, " what are you? Stupid?" and doesn't understand why that's so painful to all of us and why we get mad at her for it. I tried to find ways to build my dad back up after mom lapsed into her b.s. Didn't happen all the time, but caused damaged nonetheless. They were married 55 yrs., were each other's best friend.
Good on you, @ambergray5641. Thank you for not just listening, but for really *hearing* what Sarah Dawn Moore presented hear. The health of your relationships with men will forever be impacted for the positive. Well done.
Put a restraining order on me then internet stalks me and hits me up on fake social media accounts and reports it to the courts trying to get me arrested for unknowingly talking to her.
Just forwarded this to my gf. She apologised as she recognised a lot of her self in it. Now I wont ask her to marry me no matter how much I love her. She cannot fully yield and submit to me to lead. Without that then there is not the respect I deserve and should have as a husband, love,honor and obey. If she cannot be this mow then I can never trust it will be there just because of a ceremony. Just some food for thought for others if you read this
So why stay with her? Does she want to be married? Does she know you will NEVER marry her? Being fair and honest is for both of you. As long as you are honest and forthcoming with your boundaries and intentions, it’s all good.
Did you share with her to let her know these are reasons you’re breaking up with her? OR did you let her know if she doesn’t make a change??? this is a deal breaker? Healthy Break ups with a clean break should not be a surprise but to provide the lessons and clarity for both to move on. If there’s too much hurt and trust is broken... you’re right about ending it. Successful marriages have a ratio where the good outweighs the bad. Her apology says a lot about her... and if she makes changes even more about her good character. As for you? Marriage is about forgiveness and giving your partner equal value with mutual understanding and respect as you grow together learning better to love one another more and more over the years. The Bible speaks of 1) submitting to one another. 2) Wives respect your husbands. 3) Husbands live with your wife in an understanding way AND love her like Jesus. 4) Practicing grace and forgiveness to grow in love more and more. 5) Even after marriage, you both belongs to Jesus more than you do to one another and are still required to follow Him together and individually. 6) Praying daily together and for one another: verbally together. 7) Bringing out the best in one another and believing or trusting one another. You don’t want to stand in Heaven before Jesus (in the end) and He says you that, “you kept your wife from following Him and fulfilling His purpose for her in the earth because you demanded her worship and lordship.” In Marriage, the goal of communication IS mutual understanding, not superiority. Clearly you’re not ready for marriage anyway unless you grasp the biblical basics I just pointed out and 1 Corinthians 13
Every time I thought we were getting ahead in the money dept. so we could break the work routine, she would surprise me with a new debt or some shit. It only took me a year to bring my credit score back to 790 , after she left. I can actually breathe now, and finally after 22 years I'm going weekend fishing today. FINALLY !!!
That's financial abuse! Surprised with a new debt?! I can't even imagine how that went. I've had so little for so long, I respect the shet out of every dollar. Enjoy that trip! 🎣🚣♂️🐟🎏
I got one: they ask you to take care of something, and you do it like it's an emergency ( quickly you just do it so she doesn't have to be bothered with it), and when the problem is solved " oh I meant to let you know". Before the acknowledgement, you are wondering did I take care of it well enough for her.
@Bill Chisholm you're right but with how theclimate has been, men who speak up are getting banned and canceled quicker than women. well women don't get banned and that's even worse. I think it's good to have allies to spread awareness. I dream one day men will put their foot down and take their power back. Because this ain't it. stay strong men.
I suffered all of those it was not until we divorced that I realized how blue pilled I was. then I changed everything and now I am more positive and working harder on my purpose
I know and have felt every single one of these things. Currently separated and she blames it on me. I married into 3 kids and have worked 2 and 3 jobs including giving plasma for the family I love and its never enough. Not to mention I cook, clean, do laundry and dishes and maintain the yard.
@@ericpowell4350 One of my friends best relationship was becoming a step dad. It's amazing for them and they been together for years. Step parents can be amazing.
To all men out there if your wife is threatening divorce and and is actually saying you won’t be able to see your children you need to record her saying it than file for divorce
Yeah these days even with a recording of her saying shit like that the judge would still give her full custody and nail him with a hefty side of child support. It's just gotten stupid these days.
@@robreesor5011 Ok than expose her ass post on all over the internet and let your family and friends and hers know just who she is, You already lost getting married in the way it financially benefits woman so why stay if you are unhappy divorce her, Better yourself and make more money, Be happier and nothing will piss her off more
I don’t know if it’s good or bad that I am watching your videos. It’s pointing out a lot of shit that I’m having a hard time dealing with, but you put it into words so I can understand it better.
Or worse... she COULD do it herself but wants you to do it for her. In your kindness, you do it for her... and then she proceeds to tell you how you're doing it wrong.
Like the phrase some use is Aus, “Man up” or “be A Man”. I used to let this trigger me (young insecure guy) , then I woke up to the manipulation tactic. Always a man, become an even better man and walk away.
That’s your trauma talking. You deserve to find someone that will cherish you the same way you cherish them. Don’t close your heart to the others. It will make you feel lonely and bitter as time goes on.
I’m so glad I never had kids to stop me from leaving and being treated like shit. Granted dating is horrible at 48 and I’ve stopped completely. But it’s much better than all this shit I see. I much rather be alone than being alone but yet with someone. Godspeed gentleman!!!!
Same boat here man...48 and single after being with her for 18 years...starting for think after watching this channel as well as others its not even worth stepping into the dating pool again.
It's harder for a woman at 58 than a man at 48. I feel terrible for these guys. I never knew women were that evil. I do know 2 . I know there are nutcase men out there. Good luck and find a nice woman that treats you wonderful
Truth. I was married to a woman for 18 years and had to deal with this crap but everyday. It was a battle but I would not allow her to do it. That's why it was a battle. I stood my ground and ultimately divorced her making the decision that I'm not living the rest of my life like this.
They've all been programmed to believe that they're perfect and always right. They honestly couldn't care less about anyones elses opinion. They'd only ask for someones opinion in hopes of affirmation and confirmation bias. 9 times out of 10, they've actually committed themselves to the bad decision they've already made prior to their asking.
@@gracec1665 Yes, she said that several time in front of me and the kids. She doesn't say it anymore: she died in her sleep eight years ago. The boys and I are much happier now.
Because dads don’t they be getting mad at their kids over the littlest things because they was “stressed from work “ and dads be strict on things that they don’t need to be strict on
@@eerierevenant742 There are plenty of anecdotal stories of mothers giving their kids well intended but incorrect advice. The fact that you see this one sided makes you part of the problem.
Worked 3 jobs to support my family. So I wasn’t home much. Because I wasn’t home to support her she found support with her ex hew she regularly told me she didn’t want to be with me she was just staying for the kids. You can imagine that hurts. I gave her my hart and she left with my Sole She had a bag packed one day when I got home after a 14 hr shift. She had enough she said and walked out the door saying I’m leaving the kids with you. (That’s imprinted like it was yesterday) That was 2018 and we never saw her again. My youngest with cystic fibrosis was only 13 months old. My other son was 3. Since then I’ve been unable to work and I’ve raised both children by myself and it’s been difficult to trust anyone since. Men don’t really have outlets to say what we think we have to hold it in everyday because we are men and nobody else gives a crap. Unfortunately the ex she went back to was a junky and in 2021 the both overdosed leaving my kids without a mother. I’ll never be able to fully explain to my babies but I’ll try my best
You don’t have to explain it to them anytime soon but know when they’re older, they will see your strength & know Dad has & will always be there. You didn’t make her poor choices, but you’re left cleaning them up. She was no mother in my book. I don’t know how anyone could leave their babies for some loser. You could talk to a therapist if you feel you need a outlet to get stuff off your chest. There’s no shame in it.
@@abchansler1335 she definitely wasn’t a good mother 🤦♂️ she had 2 children in a previous relationship but she put those up for adoption and she kept that secret until social services turned up to see her one day.. the reds flags came in the first year after my son was born. I new she had a checkered past when I met her but she was off the stuff until our first born came along kept that secret too because I was working long shifts Every Friday I hand her my wage she gave me £20 for the pub. And I remember my anxiety anytime I was coming home. What mood will she be in today. Ah well I feel I’ve made the right choice I made my babies their my responsibility and they both no no matter what daddy will never give up. That’s my youngest favourite saying I try my best 🤦♂️😅
That work one hits hard. Dad worked 3 jobs to keep our family afloat while mum just splurged. He’d come home, do yard work or the housework that wasn’t given to us kids as chores. He’d get maybe half an hour to relax on a Facebook game, 3 or 4 hours sleep and then he’d be off to work again. Mum cooked dinner maybe once or twice a week, every other night it was takeout or dad doing to cooking. Then she’d complain to him about never doing anything with her, not doing enough etc. It feels shit looking back, because I wish I was a little more mature and took up some of the slack around the house to help dad. I was so naive back then I actually thought mum was in the right because dad never did spend any time with us. He eventually broke down and left, and it was my first time ever seeing him cry. 19 years (my older brother was 18) of no joy in life, nothing but hardship and degradation. I can’t hate mum as a mother, but as a partner she was the absolute worst.
Definitely 4 of those for me. My wife definitely encourages my friend time and makes dinner every night, sees I’m lost in work let’s me finish before she ask anything of me. She always makes sure I’m eating healthy and working out, takes amazing care of our children’s brains and mental strength. I have a great woman, no need for perfect, those women are nuts 😂
Someone said that …”people” 👀 ahem…who are attractive enough (the ones for whom smv is based) do not develop in character (integrity, emotional regulation and such) bc they have no external pressure to do so. They’ve many times never had that external pressure. They can get whatever they want whenever they want without having to have anything great going on internally.
@@heartsquaremusic2953 This statement is incorrect. It all depends on how that individual was raised. If they were spoiled and told their whole life, "oh, you are so pretty!" Then perhaps, that statement is correct. However, if the child was never aware of their gift of beauty (and of course that totally depends on the eyes of the beholder), then, no. That statement is completely incorrect and you could very well be assuming the that beautiful woman is crap. Therefore, making room for another man who is willing to take the risk to get to know her.
@@gracec1665 Meh. Its not really in the eye of the beholder. Thats a cliche that makes no real sense since there are most definitely objective beauty standards. And yes, the comment you responded to is true generally speaking. In fact, its true for most women generally speaking. Women are coddled and catered to from the moment they're born. God forbid if you tell a woman she looks fat when she actually looks fat....thats considered rude and often just plain mean so better not say it huh. And heres an example...i recently saw a vid where a girl was trying to buy lemons...in an arts and craft store. When her bf asked her why she wanted them she said to make lemon water. He then pointed out they were fake lemons and she proceeded to look confused and pouty and just was plain dumb. Many of the comments from guys were talking about how cute she reacted bc she was a very pretty girl. One even said something like "I can only hope to find a girl as cute as her." I then asked him if her stupidity mattered and his response was "it only adds to her cuteness." So yeah, that girl has never had to develop any type of critical thinking skills and she gets a pass on being dumber than a box of rocks bc shes pretty. Blond air, blue eyes and nice body apparently means you can act like a reta*d and thats ok😂
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It’s crazy how this isn’t even about “emasculating” a man. It’s just about respecting someone’s boundaries and being a decent human being. Most of these are 100% emotional abuse!
Yeah, I feel like these don't have much to do with harming someone's masculinity (except the father or other person helping one), but like basic respect for a partner. That's so sad 💕
Yeah most of these seem like intentionally toxic behaviours and not really “emasculating”
Yes and this makes the term "emasculating" kinda misogynistic because that means that respecting someones boundaries is something only men deserve.
Yeah and men do some of these as well. You can see the clear boundaries being crossed. So a woman may say that she feels the man doesn’t love her, while the man calls it “emasculating.” Either way, it’s crossing boundaries and damaging relationships.
Not gonna hide it, I might feel the same, for example if my husband asked someone else for help with something I can do. But I think this one is a little different for men because they like to be helpful for respect (it’s like someone is trusting them so it’s a form of respect).
**Watch out here guys, women like to help for love… so if you don’t praise her for her cooking, etc, she might be hurt … this counts for your mom/sisters too
@@vanillepuddingsonnenschein4727 Was wondering how long before I saw this turn into a "hate women" thread.
Most of these are very messed up!
However I gotta say, I distinctly remember when I was a kid my mom asking my dad to fix things around the house. He wouldn't fix them for weeks or months, so she'd eventually get fed up and do them herself, and then my dad would get annoyed at her and say "I was getting around to it!" from the couch 😁
I don't think it's unreasonable to be expected to do things in a somewhat timely fashion. But all the other things are pretty mean to do or say to someone.
This!
Yes. This is exactly what I said in my comment. We ask yall to do something because we want it done now or in the next few hours or days. We aren't trying to imasculate you, we just want it done and if you're not going to do it then we will.
Agreed. I think there is a healthy amount of time one should be patient in this. Depending on what the task at hand is.
It's almost like he had a job and it takes awhile to get things done at home.
@@alphacat9302 yes, because, as females, we don't have jobs and still get stuff done. That's completely unheard of right?
As a woman...thank you. And thank you to the men that shared this. This will really help me be a better partner in the future.
@zerofox1490 - YOU are a model of maturity taking these examples as good information. I'm sure you're a loving partner and are a gift to your man! Thank you for caring enough to read, listen. So many men don't have the luxury of a partner who does what you are doing. Well done.
@@JamesMedema no she is not. Not UNTIL she incorporates them in her life and her man experiences them.
You will never be a better partner. Women only care about their children and the next person they will f*ck. It is your nature and that's ok.
This why a lot of men focus on their careers, we don't need the HEADACHE of a relationship.
A lot of women feel as you do. Such a messed up world.
I’ve been single by choice for the last 20 years. They have been the best and most peaceful years of my life. Women are just pure EVIL.
That's right and why men just want peace when they come home
@Wojtek Bear That's why a lot of us sit in the driveway for a half hour when we get home.
@@ruminantmelanoid5444 Or hang out with the guys at the bar.
Not hitting on women or anything. Just being with guys.
She criticizes you for not doing things "her way", when all you really wanted to do was help her.
This!
@@ten-ub4xd I gave up trying to do several things that she didn’t like the way I did them. This was a mistake, but I figured if my way which was just as good as her way wasn’t good enough she could do it herself since since stayed home and had time. I gave up too much control to a control freak and now she owns me after the divorce with four young kids.
I used to get this frequently. She never directly criticized, it was her demeaning, subtle comments that replaced criticizing.
That's not a woman emasculating you. That's a woman who doesn't love you.
Fact
Don’t need women, don’t need men, just need God. blessed are the lonely, for they shall never be alone again.
@@spensergreenwood8530 That directly contradicts the biblical account where the creator of the universe said, "It is not good for man to be alone."
@@aphilippinesadventure9184 "not alone" does not necessarily mean "married." Look at 1 Corinthians 7 for a different take on this.
@@trumpetpunk42 The context in Genesis was the creation of men and women and God's intention for women to be a mate for a man. Nothing in Corinthians changes this, it just draws out how individual circumstances may vary, but God's intent in creation remains the same. If you will live a better or more Godly life as a single, it's clearly ok for you.
Contempt is the most effective weapon to destroy a relationship.
This.
I have a couple ones that I’d like to share from my last relationship. My ex-wife, would constantly ask if I knew what I was doing with house projects. She also told me to stop mansplaning one time, and since I do not know what that is I looked it up and I was like are you for real?! But I try to keep my cool and ignore it.
Here is the most absolute biggest one that hurt me, she worked at a university in the Veterans department, and she berated me because other veterans with PTSD went to college, and constantly asked why I couldn’t! I told her all PTSD events are different, she told me I just hang around with bums who do not work either, even though we are all 100% disabled from the Marine Corps/Navy. That one hurt the most!
ouch, brother. I don't know you but I stand with you.
So sorry
"Threatening divorce because she knows how much I love my kids"
That's just evil
Agreed! That one went to the gut. Not cool. 😢
I’d like to know why she’s actually ‘threatening’ divorce though. Loving your kids doesn’t make you a good husband.
@@bekkahtaylor Very valid point. For me, with the video titled emasculating men, it makes a viewer think along the unwarranted/abusive rational.
@@bekkahtaylor she's not only threatening leaving. She probably knows the courts are going to favor her, so it sounds like from his POV she's using the threat of never seeing his kids again to keep him "in line"
It's normal because the government says it's OK. If your husband resists family court is always ready to punish his a**.
When she believes a complete stranger we met 5 minutes ago on an issue she knows I'm well versed about...
Ooh, harsh. That’s intentional. Not cool.
I’d say, “I don’t know why she’s asking you because she knows I’m an expert on this.” Then watch the other person look right at her and think “WTF?” Her reaction: ➡️🥴
Oh dear , you too ?
Hopefully you weren't married, and you did the right thing....... and freaking RAN!!!!
I did a somewhat reverse UNO card and did this to her, in response to her continued not giving a damn about what my opinions.
To do this,
Go shopping for a tie with your wife / GF, and when she suggests a certain one, and the FEMALE store person suggest a different one......
Go with what the female store person suggests....... still makes me smile all these years later 🙂
@@notsureyou we WERE married...WITH kids...but I still ran...after YEARS of staying, wrongfully, just for the kids! Yeah. I'm not a quitter...And I love my kids DEARLY...but there are some things you just SHOULDN'T tolerate. I learned this a little slower than I should've. But at least I learned it!
“My option is opinion and her opinion is fact”. That’s too accurate.
Women are not logical. Their world is based upon how they feel.
Yells at me in public or while visiting friends. Yes , I divorced her!
Ms. Moore, I can only say with a bit of pride that I cannot relate to this.
I found a woman who for the last 28 years has treated me better than I could ask for. Way too many positive attributes to list all of them, from making my lunch every day to asking me what I want for dinner. 80% of the time she also serves my food to me. She works 40 hrs a week also. I EXPECT OR TAKE NONE OF THIS FOR GRANTED.....NONE !!!!!! I reciprocate the best I can.
I am extremely lucky from what I've been hearing about relationships these days. I haven't dated since the mid 90's. I just wanted you to know the other side of that. Wisdom about my experiences turned into advice is a short list of things #1 being your partner should be as much committed as you are to the long haul relationship. 😀 Thank you for your channel.
Well said!
Blessings to you and partner!!
Congratulations to having your soul mate. I needed to read a great one. These comments were getting me depressed until now.
@@donnalawrence8593 🙂🙂🙂
GOD has found favor in you. Enjoy
Being single for so long its emphasized to me that being patient and really being sure of someone you want to be with forever is a careful process.
Life can be an absolute hell if you pick a terrible partner like some of these men's choices.
Can we have some more of these videos please? I want you guys to be heard and understood as well ❤
There's been a flood of questions on r/ask about things men and woman normally keep quiet about, you can find a lot there too.
@@asora6790 thanks 😊
@@briandadelgadorodriguez6786 well in that case. Go talk to a guy thats my advice. If you whant to understand men or people... talk to them. Listen carefully and how they word things you catch alot that way too.
You have one mouth and 2 ears i sugest you use the Ears.
@@sebulller little condescending but I appreciate that it comes from a good place
@@briandadelgadorodriguez6786 i have my reasons.
Firstly: nothing beats first hand and field experince.
You can read and theroize but that will only get you so far.
If you whant to learn in life you do it faster and better by first hand field experince.
Secondly: I am a bit rude cause of a few things i learned and picked up.
If you are cheeky and sometimes a bit rude you can actually get very far. When i bought my second car brand new. Do you know what i did? i blocked the dealers entrance.
Why? cause now he have to take contact to me and now we can speak about what i whant. Wich happended. He also moved the car cause i told him your problem heres the keys.
You see my point? a bit rude and a bit cheeky is always helpfull in some situations.
Yourse yeah i might have typed it nicely but would you care so much? answer is no.
I've learnt over the years, when you get to the point in a relationship that you can't do anything right, it's time to go...
I agree. Sad, but true.
Yep that's also some of the reasons of "22 a day"
yup looking that way
Nothing but facts.
What if I can't do anything right?
Yep! Been through all of that, and trying to find a woman in America that doesn’t do those things is almost impossible!
@@donnalawrence8593 yep
One that used to drive me crazy with my ex was if we were fighting I'd try to get her to sit down and talk it out. I would sit and listen as she laid out why she was mad, offer solutions, look for common ground, etc. Any time I spoke she would interrupt me and start yelling. If I interrupted her, accidentally or intentionally, it was like the world was coming to an end with how angry she would get.
If you're with somebody who can't at the very least *match* the respect you give them, get out.
😭 this channel keeps me on my toes and I cry a lot. This channel makes me aware of how I treat my husband and brings things to my attention that I might be doing wrong. Last thing I want is for my husband to feel this way since he’s out there “shankin that ass” as he says it working 14-16 hour days to care for our home, our family. Good bless you guys. 😭
That is really great that you can see this. Most women probably just ignores this. You are already a better person recognizing mistakes. I am a single woman. I don't want to burden a man with my aches and pains. I have days I can barely move, so I don't bother being a burden. Good luck with everything.
The divorce one got me. How can someone be so monstrous as to use kids in mind games is beyond me. But it hurts when I see it.
They don’t really love you at that point if they are willing to fall back on that to control you. It doesn’t make me wanna get legally married
⭕️happens regularly
@@prepertruckin8525 never said it didn't. Just that I cannot understand why they do that. I love my kid.
@@theblackcatvieweraccount5402 ⭕️...no... happens regularly... to me.
@@theblackcatvieweraccount5402 ⭕️ my daughter is now 4 and the past 3 years it's a regular occurrence on a weekly basis...
“Talking to her friends about intimate details of our relationship “.
Totally unacceptable. Why do women do this ? Is it all about control ? Humiliating men ? Hate ?
For the vast majority of men, the most important thing in a relationship is trust. Knowing that everything you do and say is immediately reported to all her friends, relatives, colleagues, gym buddies, neighbours etc is a huge 🚩
Thanks for speaking up/ bringing out tough topics / neutral playing field/ an awareness that tend to deal with issues by ourselves and isolated. Thanks for your encouragements !!!😊
This is why I'm not married. I'm in no hurry, I'm not living my life with a narcissist.
Typically, American women are raised with all this BS girl power, entitlement, goddess, I am woman, hear Me roar nonsense. The end result in most cases is that they end up as mean, nasty hellions and mentally ill. Get your passport and GO.
I was married for eighteen mostly happy years that ended in soul sucking misery...Amen, brother.
I've been a victim of some of these but the one that hit hardest for me is when she "puts me on punishment for not agreeing with her "
Ignore her and go do something that brings you joy.
I'm 71 years old, a crusty old curmudgeon. A Navy veteran who doesn't get sappy about most things in our culture. But I gotta say, this hurts my heart. Thank you for sharing this with us.
Frank, "a 71 yrs old crusty old curmudgeon"? What is that?!!! Good to know that species has feeling too!😀😀😀
Thank for you for your honor, duty and sacrifice 🙏 🇺🇸
Reading these made me sad. I have a
husband and 2 sons and I never want to
make them feel that. Have told all of them
about you and how much you’re helping
folks. God bless you and real men
Thank you lady. You are doing great on your part. And I applaud you!👏
God... damn! That is some brutal stuff right there. Stay strong fellas.
They always know exactly when and how they are doing it.
This honestly made me cry... thanks for helping me as a woman to better understand my husband and open my eyes... thank you
You're gonna have a very happy man if you get this.
I have a good husband... not perfect but he treats me like a princess and he is proud to introduce me to everyone when we go out. I love him. He works hard to make sure i stay home with our 3 kids. Gives me a life i never thought i would have. People look at us when we out coz we behave like we now start dating lol... been marries for 9 yrs and together for 12. Marriage is awesome. I pray for him every day. You have to pray your man... they are human still and they can have temptations of every sort. Be kind to him, do not nag, speak kindly and respectful to him, have regular sex with passion, cook fresh meals for him, just do all the things you can when you were dating. It works.
@@rehannabridjlall3928 "not perfect" ...nor are you. No one is. Should we actually PREFACE our statements about our husbands with "he's not perfect, but"? Is that even necessary? Imagine him, when describing you, "well she's not perfect ..."
@@susansmith493 facts. It's like that video out now of a certified 🐖🐷 telling people on line that she settled for her husband.
@@rehannabridjlall3928 . Wow you giving me hope that still some non toxic feminist women left in planet .
I like this. I've always been willing to hear from men and understand what makes them tick or ticks them off. It's a great refresher for ladies to listen and take in what is being said too. Thanks for the men who were willing to share!
The first one. My wife had our neighbor guy come over and mow my lawn I About divorced her ass on the spot
How'd it work out?
I treat my husband and our relationship with respect. What I say about him says things about myself as I choose him next to me
When a woman won't let me finish what I am saying. Constantly interrupts. To the point where we just shut up. And don't interact.
You need to look her in the eyes and tell her to cut that BS out my man.
If she doesn't then refuse to be talked over. Instead of going silent you just keep talked regardless so she can see that you will no longer let that happen.
That’s just rude. No home training.
“Her opinion is fact and my opinion is opinion.” That hit different
Yeah that one definitely resonates with me.
Same
Guilty of doing. I’m learning so much with her videos.
@@sunshine9993 the fact that you’re holding yourself accountable is HUGE.
Absolute sign of an unhealthy, unbalanced relationship. Her opinion counts but yours do not. Does she also always hold the deciding vote in any contested decision?
I've experienced her asking another man for help with something I was perfectly capable of and even quite knowledgeable about. It was about something so small and trivial but it stung like almost nothing else I've ever felt.
in a past relationship, this got me so pissed off once, I escalated it into a huge argument. Right now I don't even remember what it was or how it was resolved, but what I remember is that disgusting feeling or her trying to shame me like that
I will die happily single alone, and happy.
No drama, no debt, and no need to ask permission.
I've lost all my friends cuz she didn't like them. She won't be friendly with my family so it's like I am ashamed of her because I know she won't like any of them
That she pulled away from me so many times claiming that she was playing.........now I don't even know how to touch her anymore and romance has been non existent. I miss the woman I feel in love with
same here 17 yrs married and didnt have sex for the last 3 yrs. On the day she left she told me she never liked our sex. never mentioned it through the whole marriage.
Sorry bro . I think you need to Run , RUn , RUN !
Something going on with her. Trust
@@dojocho1894 wow, that was a dagger. Her lost bro, go get another one. Keep it moving.
My heart goes out to these men! 🥺
Also thank you for sharing these videos because now I have so much understanding and compassion for my husband ❤️
they need to stop being weak.
God bless you. You are the rare exception. I encourage men to go overseas as I did 20 years back. In all those years, my wife here in the Philippines has NEVER done a single one of those things.
WOW! Thank you for this! I will try to always keep these in mind because a relationship is 💯/💯 and that includes feelings!
Ohh no I'm got giving that they didn't know they are doing it. They know exactly what they are doing.
I just read a comment that the woman is seeing herself a little and wants to change.
This was a big eye opener for me ♡ ways I didn't realize my husband could be feeling. I definitely will do better. Thank you.
Love to see this! it's is very good to be open to self improvement! I am learning as well. No shame in accepting mistakes and learning to make any relationship better. 😊
Empathy is really attractive to men, it’s commonly noted as a trait women claim to desire in men, but men also appreciate this trait. When a couple can imagine themselves in each other’s shoes a lot of conflicts can be avoided.
So can i.. and i wonder why the love is fading.. now i get it
Liar like all. My sons have left America as women want men to be frightened of them.
I am not even in a relationship and this scared me for my future husband.
My happiness doesn't seem to matter nearly as much as hers does! NEVER cooks, I work 10+ hour days and never come home to a nice warm cooked meal and then the kids also get hungry after I've worked all day
Dude, if she's a stay-at-home, you married a deadbeat. Give her a hard time until she begs for divorce, then give her your conditions.
I'm so happy you asked them this, I will bring this up with my fiance and ask what I do.
Wow, this made me tear up a little, that was my life for 6.5 years, and I experienced every one of those listed! I'm so happy to be in a healthy relationship now
can't be certain but i think those were the ones with the most upvotes indicating that a lot of guys have experienced them
How did you find one? I have no idea how to find a quality person
Lol 12.5 for me...
key word: healthy. hope everything works out for you
Happy for you, Joseph!
There's no accountability for her actions..everything is my fault.
Gained weight, she handed me an old picture of myself and told me to use it as a reference.
The money thing hit me.
I had 10hr shifts at the job I had when I was with my daughters mother. Got called for a sixth day, and the rest of the week I came in two hours early to do extra work. So I worked 70hr.
Id come home, exhausted and just wanting to cool down and sit for the first time all day. She said to me "think about how this affects our daughter".
She was right. I knew it then, because I wanted to spend all the time I could with her. But she would also over spend on groceries(and somehow, we still didn't have any food), I still paid for her brand new car while I have an 8yr old car, and she wanted to buy all sorts of useless things we didn't need.
I really want to sit down with her and get this closure, but I know it would end up heated, and it would cause problems. I feel so used and unappreciated still. I bent over backwards just to make sure she had a warm place to sleep and a full belly, yet I was told her mother was more of a father than I was.
That’s messed up. I hope you find peace, joy and comfort
This is sickening that women treat their husband's this way.
True , but it's happening
My ex-wife did all but 1. The few I've dated since don't get half way thru the list before I cut ties with them.
Just one of these is enough to cut ties
Damn this is so true. I'm in it it 10 years and can't even take a nap without judgement. I can't wait u til my youngest graduates.
I hope it's soon. Crazy.
Then Run , RUn RUN !!!
Boy break now. If all possible
Thank you Sahra!! There are few people and even fewer women who actually understand and can empathize with what it takes to be a man. Especially in this new world. Keep it up kiddo! You're an island in an ocean!
I couldn’t imagine doing or saying any of these things to my husband, never mind doing it. I respect him and appreciate everything he does for us. Love isn’t a word, it’s an action.
When we go on vacation, she argues about what work is not getting done at home. When we go home, she argues about why we don’t go on vacation.
That’s profound
She just decided that "She doesn't feel *that* way for me anymore". We don't have sex, or even kiss anymore. I'm disabled and so my income is minimal. If I had an ounce of self respect I'd find a way to make it on my own, but we've been together 30 years! I'm at a complete loss...
@@CaymanDude76 be as indifferent to her as she is to you if not more so.
@@CaymanDude76 I am sorry to say but you need to divorce her because it's strongly likely that she is cheating on you. Women crave attention and emotions from man they love, so if she is not having sex or any intimacy with you, then she is having it with someone else
@@CaymanDude76 bro if it ain't menopause or one of the other physical/mental health things that can drastically impact a woman, and she's not willing to try couples counseling of some kind, you don't need to respect yourself- do it for your health; the mental, emotional and spiritual aspects of your health are closely linked to your physical- and vice versa- what heavily impacts one will impact the other. But this is also true with Positives.
If she is tearing you up on the inside, find and take the steps needed to Begin healing the inside, before you lose the outside and any financial capability that remains to you (before it's possible for her to take that from you on her way out as well.)
Protect yourself.
I felt so many of these too deeply. There's always the "trash him, then berate him for his frail male ego" game. That's always a hoot.
Yeah. I’ve noticed when the wife is upset or angry, it’s a justified anger. When I’m upset or angry?? I’m acting like a baby.
@@robkeel100 yep been there
In my case going to my friend's and people I don't know telling them things I keep to myself that I only told her because she insisted for months that I trust her with my issues. Just made me hurt more. And then got mad at me for not trusting her anymore after that.
Being denied intimacy consistently then starting fights about how I don't initiate anymore like it's a one way street and she won't tell me when it's good to go....
My ex would joke and brag to others about how little we were together physically.
I'm sorry this has happened. So wrong.
I’m sorry I used to do that to my husband, we got some serious help and now I just simply committed to never denying him he gets it when he wants and I love him so much I enjoy our time, I got over myself! And life is good
@@thebigness71 ex for a good reason. why even brag about that...
This
And this is why I told my girlfriend that if she wanted to be with me that she needs to know that I have high standards and I have boundaries if she's going to be with me and with that said she respects it and understands it.
But then women can turn on a dime .
Don't be taken unawares know your rights & responsibilities.
50% of marriages end in divorce so bare that in mind .
Good luck.
@@johnreed8336 Most definitely, as a young man I'm learning about things and how women are but with the way my girlfriend is her and I have so much in common and she even fallen in love with me first and wanted me first that I made my move to get her and I did save her from a abusive relationship but I will say that I appreciate the advice you have given me but I will say that what her and I have for each other is a beautiful cures that with the way I talk to her turns her on every time and she has never met another man like me before that her and I have plans to grow old with each other that she knows that I can't do everything on my own to make our relationship happen that she knows that I don't mess around in a relationship that I'll do what I can to provide and protect her but I expect her to do her part to that I expect respect and loyalty that she knows that I have options that she wants me so bad that she's to attached to me and doesn't want to lose me that I've been told by her that she doesn't want me to break her heart which I understand with what she has been through but I'm not trying to make this into a long story but all I gotta say is that I couldn't be happier and I feel so blessed that her and I believe that fate has blessed us in our darkest time when we needed someone the most to love and cherish.
Trashing a man in front of others is the absolute worst thing - other than cheating.
Damn, I just had the first one happen the other day while I was snaking the drain in the bathroom. she doubted my ability the entire time even though I use to work for a local water utility, have basic plumbing experience, and even did repairs on main lines in the field; she still second guessed my ability. It's been three weeks and the sink and toilet are still flushing just fine. Her dad half assed projects, so now I get to be judged for his sins.
When she calls out my faults in a group of her friends as if I am entertainment.
That is always wrong on either side of the fence. Treat each as how they would want to be treated
Okay this one is just uber toxic in general and I wouldn't tolerate anyone doing it. I have heard more stories about women doing it tho, never understood it.
That's a "deal breaker!"
Leave her crying in divorce....
That's so common on social media nowadays. Women complaining about their husbands publicly, no respect for the man. For me such a thing is the end of relationship. If she has a problem, we can talk and fix it home, but the moment she goes to social media to publicly humiliate me, we're done.
Or her family of all things
I’m a single gal, but I really appreciate this. It’ll help me be more aware of how I speak to the men I do have in my life. ❤
🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
Warms my heart.
Yeah I thought this was going to be a bs list of oh my wife negs me garbage. But the list was real talk and I feel a lot of sympathy.
thank you :)
thank you :)
True
I’m absolutely not proud of it but I’m guilty of one of these and really needed to see this today. I also owe someone a apology and I need to start working on myself ASAP.
If we could all just not get all caught up and things and just actually do this simple thing of hey I was wrong I need to apologize and change my behavior I feel like we'd all be a lot better off. It's definitely a hard thing to do though I don't know if one ever truly can get past it that's why you just have to be able to admit when you're wrong and apologize and actually work on those bag
I don’t think I have a problem with her talking about our sex life. I actually would like her to talk about that and flex.
Then when we get the looks and the friends know what we bring to the table it’s like a pump of testosterone, enough to grow a second beard.
👏 It's a hard thing to recognize. God gave me grace to change and saved our marriage.
Is this.... Is this a woman taking accountability for herself? 🤯
Good. Because he may not tell you, and might be looking for the door if you don't stop it.
Yep. I quit doing stuff around the house for her because she always complains about how I did it. Then she complains that I quit doing it. Lol.
I hate how I can still feel (also hear)the words of my ex which was a few of these comments shared and its so true how some of the time people don't understand that they are hurting people they claimed to love.
I have seen most of the views and can relate. my wife always throws divorce at me and blames me for everything, she told me basically that I do not make enough and that she is miserable with me. I feel that shevis right. I am an absolute failure and really feel that I am alone. I work all day and she lays in bed complaing of her anxiety, depression ,etc. I literally do n ot know what to do, but cry and drink myself to death. Thank you for you courage with men. we are truly treated like crap.
Sir, you deserve better. She is saying those things to keep you down and subservient - stop the cycle and leave her! Protect your money and assets and get out of there. Unless you own the home, then get her out of there.
She is a witch. You deserve better
My mom does a couple of these to my dad, it hurts to watch because I know it hurts him and if he said as much she'd turn it around on him, shit makes me scared to even try to meet women these days with how messed up a lot of them are
Ditto my mom. She is an incredible woman, but flawed. At 82, and still going strong, she stills says things like, " what are you? Stupid?" and doesn't understand why that's so painful to all of us and why we get mad at her for it.
I tried to find ways to build my dad back up after mom lapsed into her b.s. Didn't happen all the time, but caused damaged nonetheless. They were married 55 yrs., were each other's best friend.
wow literally in tears. I didn't even know that some of this was bothersome to men. I hope to be a better partner for my fiancé from now on.
Good on you, @ambergray5641. Thank you for not just listening, but for really *hearing* what Sarah Dawn Moore presented hear. The health of your relationships with men will forever be impacted for the positive. Well done.
Of course you don't You're a woman. Women only think of themselves and their children and that's ok.
Put a restraining order on me then internet stalks me and hits me up on fake social media accounts and reports it to the courts trying to get me arrested for unknowingly talking to her.
Just forwarded this to my gf. She apologised as she recognised a lot of her self in it. Now I wont ask her to marry me no matter how much I love her. She cannot fully yield and submit to me to lead. Without that then there is not the respect I deserve and should have as a husband, love,honor and obey. If she cannot be this mow then I can never trust it will be there just because of a ceremony. Just some food for thought for others if you read this
So why stay with her? Does she want to be married? Does she know you will NEVER marry her? Being fair and honest is for both of you. As long as you are honest and forthcoming with your boundaries and intentions, it’s all good.
Did you share with her to let her know these are reasons you’re breaking up with her?
OR did you let her know if she doesn’t make a change???
this is a deal breaker?
Healthy Break ups with a clean break should not be a surprise but to provide the lessons and clarity for both to move on.
If there’s too much hurt and trust is broken... you’re right about ending it.
Successful marriages have a ratio where the good outweighs the bad.
Her apology says a lot about her... and if she makes changes even more about her good character.
As for you? Marriage is about forgiveness and giving your partner equal value with mutual understanding and respect as you grow together learning better to love one another more and more over the years.
The Bible speaks of
1) submitting to one another.
2) Wives respect your husbands.
3) Husbands live with your wife in an understanding way AND love her like Jesus.
4) Practicing grace and forgiveness to grow in love more and more.
5) Even after marriage, you both belongs to Jesus more than you do to one another and are still required to follow Him together and individually.
6) Praying daily together and for one another:
verbally together.
7) Bringing out the best in one another and believing or trusting one another.
You don’t want to stand in Heaven before Jesus (in the end) and He says you that, “you kept your wife from following Him and fulfilling His purpose for her in the earth because you demanded her worship and lordship.”
In Marriage, the goal of communication IS mutual understanding, not superiority.
Clearly you’re not ready for marriage anyway unless you grasp the biblical basics I just pointed out and
1 Corinthians 13
Ok, this is really tricky. People can change.
Every time I thought we were getting ahead in the money dept. so we could break the work routine, she would surprise me with a new debt or some shit.
It only took me a year to bring my credit score back to 790 , after she left.
I can actually breathe now, and finally after 22 years I'm going weekend fishing today.
FINALLY !!!
Enjoy that fishing! Any woman who abuses a man's hard earned money doesn't deserve to be in a relationship.
Have a great time buddy. And remember. There’s plenty more fish in the sea
Have a great fishing trip !
Damn Bud ... Good on Ya!
That's financial abuse! Surprised with a new debt?! I can't even imagine how that went. I've had so little for so long, I respect the shet out of every dollar. Enjoy that trip! 🎣🚣♂️🐟🎏
That “opinion” one was mine… 😊 thanks for adding… and I’m sure others deal with this a lot!
That one really put words to my feelings. So true..
To all those men who shared… thanks. You’re not alone.
I got one: they ask you to take care of something, and you do it like it's an emergency ( quickly you just do it so she doesn't have to be bothered with it), and when the problem is solved " oh I meant to let you know". Before the acknowledgement, you are wondering did I take care of it well enough for her.
No reaction is the best reaction. Your attention is vital to her - do not give it easily.
Stay strong Brothers we got Sisters spreading the word for us.
Thank you 😢❤
Women are doing this because there is money to be made in doing so
ya more female empowerment. what could possibly go wrong?
That's the problem. That's like the devil preaching the gospel. Women speaking on us is the problem
You deserve the best
@Bill Chisholm you're right but with how theclimate has been, men who speak up are getting banned and canceled quicker than women. well women don't get banned and that's even worse. I think it's good to have allies to spread awareness. I dream one day men will put their foot down and take their power back. Because this ain't it. stay strong men.
showing disrespect is a relationship killer .. over and out
I suffered all of those it was not until we divorced that I realized how blue pilled I was.
then I changed everything and now I am more positive and working harder on my purpose
I know and have felt every single one of these things. Currently separated and she blames it on me. I married into 3 kids and have worked 2 and 3 jobs including giving plasma for the family I love and its never enough. Not to mention I cook, clean, do laundry and dishes and maintain the yard.
That's terrible. It sucks when you love the kids so much, but your partner is Evil. You deserve better
You signed to be the step dummy. You'll not in a lifelong relationship. You're in a temporary transaction.
@@ericpowell4350 I wasn't prepared for that part. The brutal reality of it has been painful.
@@ericpowell4350 One of my friends best relationship was becoming a step dad. It's amazing for them and they been together for years. Step parents can be amazing.
This has to be the most important video I have ever seen. Thank you.
You're getting it, this is very big stuff with us men, good for you.
They need to be more appreciated and understood....All human beings need deeper emotional connections. 🙏
When I was younger, I used to be quite sad not being married. As I got older, much less so. Reading some of those responses, I thank G-d.
To all men out there if your wife is threatening divorce and and is actually saying you won’t be able to see your children you need to record her saying it than file for divorce
Very good advice
Yeah these days even with a recording of her saying shit like that the judge would still give her full custody and nail him with a hefty side of child support. It's just gotten stupid these days.
@@robreesor5011 Ok than expose her ass post on all over the internet and let your family and friends and hers know just who she is, You already lost getting married in the way it financially benefits woman so why stay if you are unhappy divorce her, Better yourself and make more money, Be happier and nothing will piss her off more
I don’t know if it’s good or bad that I am watching your videos. It’s pointing out a lot of shit that I’m having a hard time dealing with, but you put it into words so I can understand it better.
Same here.
If you have a woman who shames you for wanting sex you need to get rid of her immediately bro, Dont even play with your soul like that
@@Layerlol I couldn’t agree more
When she asks you to do something beyond her skill set but then proceeds to tell you how to do it.
Testify brother
Or worse... she COULD do it herself but wants you to do it for her. In your kindness, you do it for her... and then she proceeds to tell you how you're doing it wrong.
This is so painful to admit but so true. 😔
Literally my aunty.
Like the phrase some use is Aus, “Man up” or “be A Man”.
I used to let this trigger me (young insecure guy) , then I woke up to the manipulation tactic.
Always a man, become an even better man and walk away.
If she's talking about her exes like that, direct her to the curb.
Amen, brother.
Be wise, my brothers. STAY SINGLE. Keep your freedom, keep your peace of mind, keep your self-esteem, keep your money, keep your DIGNITY.
Glad I’ve decided to die alone without being married again: I’d rather be happy controlling my life than to have some woman dictate everything.
You made the right decision
Guard your heart but don't let it get hardened. I hope you find someone who genuinely loves and cherishes you 🙂
Passport and SEA. Stay strong King
That’s your trauma talking. You deserve to find someone that will cherish you the same way you cherish them. Don’t close your heart to the others. It will make you feel lonely and bitter as time goes on.
Treats her own arguments as fact and mine as oppinion - spot on!
Thank you for sharing these answers.
Some of these responses were hurtful. Some were damaging to the ego. And some were indeed emasculating.
Im with Wheeler, this is why I've stayed single for 15 years. Just not worth it. My goal in life is to be happy not owned.
No one needs to be treated bad. Women or men
I’m so glad I never had kids to stop me from leaving and being treated like shit. Granted dating is horrible at 48 and I’ve stopped completely. But it’s much better than all this shit I see. I much rather be alone than being alone but yet with someone. Godspeed gentleman!!!!
Same boat here man...48 and single after being with her for 18 years...starting for think after watching this channel as well as others its not even worth stepping into the dating pool again.
It's harder for a woman at 58 than a man at 48. I feel terrible for these guys. I never knew women were that evil. I do know 2 . I know there are nutcase men out there. Good luck and find a nice woman that treats you wonderful
The divorce one hits home. So much manipulation it’s unbelievable
Truth. I was married to a woman for 18 years and had to deal with this crap but everyday. It was a battle but I would not allow her to do it. That's why it was a battle. I stood my ground and ultimately divorced her making the decision that I'm not living the rest of my life like this.
Hell, she can even just ask your opinion on something. Make him feel wanted and he will be with you forever
They've all been programmed to believe that they're perfect and always right. They honestly couldn't care less about anyones elses opinion. They'd only ask for someones opinion in hopes of affirmation and confirmation bias. 9 times out of 10, they've actually committed themselves to the bad decision they've already made prior to their asking.
@@LiberPater777 true yeah. I mean, just show respect, be loyal and don't cheat
@@cstarvariety7034 You ask too much lol...
@@LiberPater777 I know sadly. But it's true. A relationship is built on trust, love and loyalty
When she tells the kids, "Don't listen to your father, he doesn't know what he's talking about!"
I'd divorce a bitch if she ever said some crap like that. Zero respect.
What? She says that to your kids?!
@@gracec1665 Yes, she said that several time in front of me and the kids. She doesn't say it anymore: she died in her sleep eight years ago. The boys and I are much happier now.
Because dads don’t they be getting mad at their kids over the littlest things because they was “stressed from work “ and dads be strict on things that they don’t need to be strict on
@@eerierevenant742 There are plenty of anecdotal stories of mothers giving their kids well intended but incorrect advice. The fact that you see this one sided makes you part of the problem.
"Threating divorce as a means to control me because she knows how much I love my kids" Damn thats rough, and disgusting. 🤮
My ex thought her opinion mattered more than anything--even when it comes to the things I am PROFESSIONALLY TRAINED for.
Worked 3 jobs to support my family. So I wasn’t home much. Because I wasn’t home to support her she found support with her ex hew she regularly told me she didn’t want to be with me she was just staying for the kids. You can imagine that hurts. I gave her my hart and she left with my Sole She had a bag packed one day when I got home after a 14 hr shift. She had enough she said and walked out the door saying I’m leaving the kids with you. (That’s imprinted like it was yesterday) That was 2018 and we never saw her again. My youngest with cystic fibrosis was only 13 months old. My other son was 3. Since then I’ve been unable to work and I’ve raised both children by myself and it’s been difficult to trust anyone since. Men don’t really have outlets to say what we think we have to hold it in everyday because we are men and nobody else gives a crap. Unfortunately the ex she went back to was a junky and in 2021 the both overdosed leaving my kids without a mother. I’ll never be able to fully explain to my babies but I’ll try my best
I feel for you brother. You're a good man and I am proud that you stuck it out with your kids. My hat is off to you, sir.
@@savoy6 thank you 🙏
You don’t have to explain it to them anytime soon but know when they’re older, they will see your strength & know Dad has & will always be there. You didn’t make her poor choices, but you’re left cleaning them up. She was no mother in my book. I don’t know how anyone could leave their babies for some loser. You could talk to a therapist if you feel you need a outlet to get stuff off your chest. There’s no shame in it.
@@abchansler1335 she definitely wasn’t a good mother 🤦♂️ she had 2 children in a previous relationship but she put those up for adoption and she kept that secret until social services turned up to see her one day.. the reds flags came in the first year after my son was born. I new she had a checkered past when I met her but she was off the stuff until our first born came along kept that secret too because I was working long shifts Every Friday I hand her my wage she gave me £20 for the pub. And I remember my anxiety anytime I was coming home. What mood will she be in today. Ah well I feel I’ve made the right choice I made my babies their my responsibility and they both no no matter what daddy will never give up. That’s my youngest favourite saying I try my best 🤦♂️😅
Cystic fibrosis isn't cheap, brother. Sorry to hear all of that. It does sound ultimately beneficial that she cannot harm you more.
That work one hits hard.
Dad worked 3 jobs to keep our family afloat while mum just splurged. He’d come home, do yard work or the housework that wasn’t given to us kids as chores. He’d get maybe half an hour to relax on a Facebook game, 3 or 4 hours sleep and then he’d be off to work again. Mum cooked dinner maybe once or twice a week, every other night it was takeout or dad doing to cooking.
Then she’d complain to him about never doing anything with her, not doing enough etc.
It feels shit looking back, because I wish I was a little more mature and took up some of the slack around the house to help dad. I was so naive back then I actually thought mum was in the right because dad never did spend any time with us.
He eventually broke down and left, and it was my first time ever seeing him cry. 19 years (my older brother was 18) of no joy in life, nothing but hardship and degradation.
I can’t hate mum as a mother, but as a partner she was the absolute worst.
Definitely 4 of those for me. My wife definitely encourages my friend time and makes dinner every night, sees I’m lost in work let’s me finish before she ask anything of me. She always makes sure I’m eating healthy and working out, takes amazing care of our children’s brains and mental strength. I have a great woman, no need for perfect, those women are nuts 😂
Someone said that …”people” 👀 ahem…who are attractive enough (the ones for whom smv is based) do not develop in character (integrity, emotional regulation and such) bc they have no external pressure to do so. They’ve many times never had that external pressure. They can get whatever they want whenever they want without having to have anything great going on internally.
@@heartsquaremusic2953 This statement is incorrect. It all depends on how that individual was raised. If they were spoiled and told their whole life, "oh, you are so pretty!" Then perhaps, that statement is correct. However, if the child was never aware of their gift of beauty (and of course that totally depends on the eyes of the beholder), then, no. That statement is completely incorrect and you could very well be assuming the that beautiful woman is crap. Therefore, making room for another man who is willing to take the risk to get to know her.
@@gracec1665 Meh. Its not really in the eye of the beholder. Thats a cliche that makes no real sense since there are most definitely objective beauty standards. And yes, the comment you responded to is true generally speaking. In fact, its true for most women generally speaking. Women are coddled and catered to from the moment they're born. God forbid if you tell a woman she looks fat when she actually looks fat....thats considered rude and often just plain mean so better not say it huh. And heres an example...i recently saw a vid where a girl was trying to buy lemons...in an arts and craft store. When her bf asked her why she wanted them she said to make lemon water. He then pointed out they were fake lemons and she proceeded to look confused and pouty and just was plain dumb. Many of the comments from guys were talking about how cute she reacted bc she was a very pretty girl. One even said something like "I can only hope to find a girl as cute as her." I then asked him if her stupidity mattered and his response was "it only adds to her cuteness." So yeah, that girl has never had to develop any type of critical thinking skills and she gets a pass on being dumber than a box of rocks bc shes pretty. Blond air, blue eyes and nice body apparently means you can act like a reta*d and thats ok😂