My Husband left me with 2 little babies /many years ago / I often think if my marriage had worked out I would not have to work so hard now trying to pay for my house / I did loss everything / I had my kids and 5 dollars in my pocket / My parents took me and my kids back in so we would have a place to live / now I work in a plant lifting boxes at 57 years old hurt my back last year / still their / wonder how in the world I can continue till I get my house paid for / after that Zi plan to get a less physical job /I hope / but don't have much office skills but maybe their is something I can do ! Sorry didn't mean to go into all that / it just flowed out
You sound strong and resourceful you should be proud of those qualities and skills, don't give up life can change around in 24 hrs, we are all on a journey 🙏
At 60 years my husband left me for another woman. I actually made much more progress physically, emotionally, psychologically and financially too. I am 70's years old woman, I had to start all over from the start but God stood by me and never failed. There's better life after divorce if we looked at it as change.
I've been there. My husband one day said I don't want to be married anymore, got up and left. I had no job , he left me with only $10.00. But the good Lord never abandoned me. I have a job now and I also have my little apartment with my fur baby Marley. Life is tough but if we have faith and trust in God we can overcome everything. Thanks for sharing my dear.
Oh Amen!!!! I know how hard that is to endure. Sounds like you are a true warrior! God has provided for me in miraculous ways since my ex left...over 27 years ago. I have built a life for one but only with God's help. Have faith, be grateful for every little thing. Bravo to you for being so faithful!
My husband cleaned out the bank account and ran off with a woman our daughters age. No best of times. Just hard times, worst of my life. Still so very hard. My life savings gone. I can't afford an apartment. I am disabled ( lupus) and had to find a room mate. Still struggle, but I'm getting better. Good luck to all the women who've had this type of calamity. Thank you *, knowing others are fighting the same as me, gives me hope.
I'm so sorry you are going through this, how heartbreaking. I will keep you in my prayers. Seek the Lord and ask for his help. Prayers and hugs for you honey.
So sorry about your situation.... I'm going through uncertain changes as well and it is really scary to not know which move to make next;like a game of chess but your life and well being is at stake.....never give up hope, it's free and sometimes it's all we have to hold onto🙏💜☮️💜🙋
My husband had several affairs and after 30 yes I said no more. Living in an apartment has been hard and working full time at 69 yrs old is harder. But I enjoy these videos which gives me hope. Thank you .
Thank you for sharing. I keep beating myself up for not leaving when I knew it was time to go. 😔 I stayed and suffered and lost everything that I need to get out.
Trish I’m sending you a hug. I’m 62, almost 63, and starting my life over. You got this! It’s hard yes, but you had the strength to look out for yourself and know your worth and you walked away from an abusive relationship. I will keep you in my prayers.
Having gone through a unexpected divorce after 27 years of marriage, I understand about starting over with nothing. That was 5 years ago. The first 2-3 years were absolute torture. Like you I cried everyday for the first 6 months. I did have my job ( I am a Medical Coder) and continued my education and soon was making a very healthy income. Now as I look back, I realize all of my relationships were need based..my need. That is no longer the case. So today, I own a condo which I’m getting ready to sell. I have had much opportunity to learn new things...how to change out electrical sockets, redo countertops, problem solve because there isn’t anybody else around to ask. 😀 I also own an small RV which I drive out West (by myself) every winter and meet interesting, new people and see my children. My life is truly an adventure and I love it! Oh btw I am 67! 😀
I’ve joined you all on the 5th of May. During the COVID lockdown, after 38 years of a miserable marriage, I finally packed my car and left with my dog. That’s it. I am now fumbling in the wilderness repairing my broken self esteem and garnering the missing and broken building blocks of my life. One day at a time.
Join the club. You did the right thing. Its is so hard, don't feel like you have to hide. Its hard both emotionally and physically. But don't give up, don't. The days seem bleak and miserable but don't give up. Pray a lot and I don't mean become a religious fanatic, its your conversation between you and God. So glad you have a dog. LOL. My dog and cat was my structure of strength. God Bless and have a good day.
My abusive husband walked out December 22nd 2018.After 37 years of marriage.He was a nightmare to live with and got worse with age.I shall be single the rest of my life.If I can't trust the man I was married to all my adult life,then I can't trust any man.Im ok,I like my own company. My life is mine now.No abuse from a covert narc.I eat what I want,when I want I have money In my purse.I have my self respect.I have my children and grandchildren.My heart is full. Thank you for your open,honest heart Susan.Your Irish sister.☘️❤️🇺🇸 My very wise cousin said to me recently "when you don't know what to do,do nothing"
Hey !! I read your Comment and just wanted to Say . . . I also went through an Abusive Relationship. It for Sure Teach's us, What we Don't Want. Have now been with my (2nd) Husband, for "48" year's. Don't Let "1" BAD Apple, Spoil the Bunch, for maybe in the Future, but on the Other Hand, if You are Happy being Single, that's What Count's, and that's Great. Hope you Have a Wonderful Life. 😊 Forgot to Mention, that if it wouldn't have been for THAT Relationship, you wouldn't have Had your Kid's and Grand-kid's. So, it Wasn't ALL in Vain.
Hello Jane, I feel I know you and so many other women who have suffered years of marriage to a malignant narcissist, only to have him turn on me .... I was married 29 years, together 35, and one day he said it was over, but conived behind my back for ten more years of psychological and financial abuse, then divorce and owing the IRS big penalties! I lost my home and garden, packed up the junk leftovers,band Modesto Michigan to be close to my son and his family. Then my son got promoted and moved to Austin Texas ... So here I am, no friends, no family, a tiny job, but I'm happy and free !!!! I hear you all and feel your pain, but like Susan, we GOT this 💕
Kiki I have same story I've been with my second man for 46 years! There are good men out there even after we have been abused by our first husband 💕💕Barb
Dee Zahm My daughter was married to a narcissist and he was a crazy nightmare! After 9 years she got out only to find out he paid no bills lost her beautiful home her car was towed and with two small kids started over! I am so very proud of her and she always looked forward ! Been 5 years now and worked hard got her own home for her and the kids and us very happy and free! Narcissistic behavior is the worst bc they make u feel its ur fault then they gaslight u then abuse U again! He was a mother's nightmare ! Congrats on getting out ! You are ur own hero 💕💕Barb
My mother left my father after 23 years of marriage. She was tired of being treated poorly and as a servent rather than a partner. Dad remarried quickly because I don't think he could bear being alone. My mother stayed single for the rest of her life. She knew she would never marry again and never regretted learning to take care of herself. Her life would have been much easier if she would have remarried. However, her independence meant much, much more to her.
@@nomsantsoane3984 time heals or you get stronger as you get tired of trying to heal and fed up with feeling sick over it, which ever comes first, but yes, we always heal. If you can identify the Psychology of the one's that hurt you and study It deeply, getting to it at its core, then healing comes even faster. Meanwhile, if we find a way to help others in need... People or animals💞🙏
You probably have no idea how much your transparency has helped other women who find themselves in a divorce situation now with no money, no income and with loneliness and despair. It's hard to open up to the world your personal life but without a doubt you have help many women. I know I can answer for all of us that we appreciate you and what you do. Love you and your content.
Thank you Jenny so much...you touch my heart...we women are so strong...and it helps so much I think when we share our journey....:) love to you always, Susan
My husband left me after 39 years for my very best friend. I was blindsided. It’s been 2 years ago and I’m getting better. Thank you for sharing these videos. They give me hope when I see how beautifully you are doing❤️
I am at a turning point, sure I have a home I am paying on always broke. Kids grown up 9 hours away they don't visit, I had always visited them, but it is strained due to distance, now this covid thing. I work with seniors so I am always giving, I have had many failed relationships never found my best friend. Recently been a wake up call and I believe I will go back to England to live out my last few years with my family I left behind at 21 years old. At least I will be around friends and family and I can come visit my kids for a month at a time which is more than I see them now. I want to start again , and can't wait to downsize and get rid of all the stuff around me. Had two robberies since living here and I am just done. I don't care if I have a caravan by the sea, I know I can make it, and I am 60.
Hi darling I hope yr now settled in England. With close family. Rember new friends are always be around you. Blessed be. Let me know how you are luck 🙏🏻🧚
If there is an open door, walk through it. If there is a closed door, don’t force it open. God says that He will open doors no man can shut or shut doors no man can open. Bless you!
I am looking at divorce don’t know if I can make it I am 75 years old and I have cancer Parkinson’s disease diabetes. My husband is doing strange things now that I can’t talk about. I am glad your channel came. Up bless you dear one ...joan ❤️❤️❤️
Ah...so sad. Before divorce, why don't you find out what the issue is with your husband. Hugs to you and know that your instinct will tell you what to do.
If you think it is strange behavior for God's sake talk to someone..senior services, police, lawyer, there is protection out there for you..ask your doctor for help so someone can speak up for you if you can't do it for your self!
I stumbled across your videos a few years ago. And thought I wish I could leave this dead end marriage of mine. It’s so draining. Just wanted to thank you for sparking a spark in me. In 9days I begin my new life. After 34 years of emotional abuse and the many losses along the way. I did it. I finally did it.
Married for 31yrs when my husband divorced me. I was in total shock & disbelief bc I thought we were happy & still in love when he said he needed to leave. I never saw it coming so I was devastated. He's changed so much since then. I could never love the man he's become & I'm thankful we're not together anymore but that doesn't mean I don't miss the wonderful yrs we had before. He was Everything I ever wanted in a man so I don't think I'll ever find that again. I just want to be happy again & not feel so sad. It's been 3 1/2yrs now
Thought it was only me took more than ten years to see he did me a favor. We didn’t argue and he seemed faithful. I’m finishing my PhD with no plans to ever remarry🤦🏾♀️
Hey sweetheart, my man left me one Friday morning without a word after seventeen years, he was sixteen years younger than me and it nearly killed me, but now eight years later I'm starting to rebuild, have a little flat and have no money but do have my sense of humour, which keeps me going.. Take care angel Paula in UK xx
I was 62 when my husband of 42 years and I finally divorced. Thankfully I had my Mom living with me at the time and she was able to help with the bills but now I am struggling. Thank you for sharing. It is very scary to start over after 60.
I’m only in my 20’s and going through a massive heartbreak. Watching your video definitely inspires me and gives me hope. That there’s more to life than being settled down with another person who doesn’t value their significant other.
As a man in his 60's, I would suggest loving yourself above all, learn to respect yourself, then someone will come along who will look you straight in the eye, not down at you, but appreciate you in every way.
Dear Susan, very moving. After my marriage ended someone asked me if I regretted getting married, I answered I had loved my husband very, very much and anything you do out of love you should never regret.
Like everyone else, I watched this with tears, finding myself in a situation I never thought I would be in at 67 years of age. It seemed like I was young forever...until I wasn't. I have had health problems with chronic conditions for several years, and never really feel too well. Difficult times in my marriage that most probably can't be resolved. And as a result, a broken heart. I have lived on my own for awhile, and I can tell you that finding a quiet place is everything. I came from a peaceful house but landed in the middle of lawnmowers, leaf blowers, construction and barking dogs. Culture shock! So having the peace and scenery AND security that you now have is everything. It is definitely hard to find...even on vacation. So think long and hard about it for those reasons. Living alone doesn't bother me, but navigating the world does. I dont really know how to take care of myself financially, or how to even live beyond buying groceries and gasoline. Lol. I relied too much on my husband for the business side of things. So that's the part that scares me...petrifies me really. Small things make me happy. Thrift shopping, walks, flowers, writing, singing and decorating. I can be happy alone. I just never thought I would be. You are a beautiful woman in every way, and you give me courage and hope, for however my story goes. And most of all, I trust the Lord, Who will never forsake me. 💙💜💚
Gloria Dancer, you sound like you are doing better than you believe. Look in the mirror and tell yourself how proud you are of yourself! You are taking very well care of yourself. You don't sound like your overspend and you are thrifty. There's many marriages out there, that spend so MUCH that the family is in big time debt. You seem to know all the wonderful things that make you happy and are free in life, like singing, walks, writing etc. Perhaps, challenge yourself twice a week, do something you haven't done on your own. Hey, you can always ask questions and there are a lot of young people I meet that are so sincere and willing to help. I thank them and tell them how kind they are. (make sure you write down the steps, for next time. Until you have it, whatever it is, in your head and you can rely on your memory). God will take care of you !! And we both know it !!
I lost my husband to cancer 18 years ago after 29 years. I was scared to death, numb, had two in college no money. I know the fear. A lot has happened. I'm still here. If I can help you please reach out. We have a lot of people to help if we just ask.
You will be ok, have faith. Went through this nearly 14 years ago and I'm still standing, stronger than ever!!! Cried enough to fill an ocean at that time, felt like I lost my identity and watched my husband move on with someone I thought was my close friend (ouch). Raised my kids, got involved with their school, I went back to school, started to work out at the community center, and made new friends that shared my family values. Life is good!
My husband left me when I was 43 and my son was it I am now 50 and I can’t even remember what it was like to depend on him. I’m truly happy now independent and I call my own shots but it was painful and it’s a very difficult process
I agree Diane....saying good-bye even to someone who caused us pain can be so sorrowful. I think we grieve for what might have been....thank you so much or stopping by...xxoo Love form me and Desi
stay ... when you are 100 percent sure , with no quiver in your heart , that is when you move ... but having a place you love (no matter the size ) is priceless.
Oh dear…..my husband of 36 years died. He was and is my true soulmate. I was 25 when we got married and I just turned 66. The hole that’s left in my heart….it’s been 3 years. I still can’t seem to find myself but I am enduring. I love your optimism. Yes we must change the way we see our life - and as we age - it’s really challenging. But you inspire me thank you dear soul. 💟💟💟💟💟
Thank you, a good one for me. My husband and I were together 46 yrs. when he walked out the door. Heart shattering. After watching this video, I listed my positives and negatives. He hasn’t taken ANYTHING from me! I have “0” financial issues. I still have all of our possessions, including our family And HIS family. I guess I need to snap out of it.....If it weren’t for my damn shattered heart! 💔
Roylene Kornovich. Your heart will mend in time but like a broken vase, you can mend that, too, but it will never hold water again. All is changed and broken. Best to take the pieces and make something new. Best wishes moving forward.💥↗️💪🏻
oh dear! The tears just flowed, my heart broke for you. I've read a few of the comments below and my heart also breaks for those people whose lives have literally been shattered into a thousand pieces. I have faith that one day we will all live in a kingdom, where every tear will be wiped away, where there will be nothing but peace and joy and where our Lord will take care of us and guide us through a world that is the richest most rewarding life there is to live. The best is yet to come! May God bless you all in this world and in an Eternity beyond our wildest dreams.
This VERY same thing happened to me.(and I mean VERY) from VN vet to dying of cancer, to the 4000' sq ft house. But the words that saved me were these, just keep moving forward,and one day when someone asks you "hey how ya doin?" you always say the standard answer, fine how bout you. But one day your going to answer that question, and you'll realize "hey I really do feel great! Then I knew I was free.God bless Sometime we just need to know we are not alone in our life travels.
I’ve been through a very parallel experience to yours. I’m in my early sixties, single and still working. Its not where I expected to be at this age, but I walk by faith. And I live in dignity. Like you, my home is small, but it means everything to me. Everyone who visits tells me how charming it is. Thank you for sharing your story. You’ve made me feel less alone.
I love your videos. My marriage ended around a year after my first and only baby died of complications from a terrible birth defect. I felt so horribly rejected by my then husband, as if I'd been kicked to the curb. That was twenty years ago. I am blessed with wonderful friends, but I have always felt my life is not complete because I have no partner, no one to come home to, or to be there to welcome him home. I love what you said about realizing your former life was not coming back, and you had to really move on. You're so right. You are inspiring me to find beauty in my life, and realize I have much to be grateful for. Thank you and God bless.
My words, when I find myself going to that dark place, ie the past, is "Nope, not going there. Moving forward". And I get my mind on something in the here and now. Works every time.
Susan, you are such a beautiful story teller and can weave the experiences’ of life into such a meaningful video. You have a gift and are a gift Thank you.
Your home is adorable you really should rethink moving Home is Where the Heart is. Desi only needs your love around him not a bigger space Keep up your wonderful video’s P. S. You make me cry in a good way stay happy and healthy
BaraJara, I too cry just about everytime I listen to Susan. She always, always touches my heart. Her and Desi are a joy to 'know'. I'm so glad I found them. Blessings to you, Debra
Change is so sure in our lives. My husband has ALZ and has been in a nursing home for 6 years now. He is never coming home. But I have finally decided that I must live my life without him and “start over”. It is difficult, but when we need the strength, God gives it to us. It is hard to know what to do, but I am sure you will listen and follow your heart.
Your apartment looks a perfect size for you and Desi. It’s beautiful and the grounds are gorgeous. Do you really need to move? Most people are downsizing these days. 🌼🌞
Fiery Belle , I think she should upgrade. You can’t cook in that kitchen, it’s just for show. As for her husband, no matter what, if he did care about her and had the money he would have protected her.
I love your place. I would stay there till you're old, then move near your son. I love the grounds & the videos you post of the changing seasons. The world us a crazy place right now. Stay in your safe haven.
This was beautiful thank u for sharing! I went through something similar..... my x husband left me and the kids cleared the bank account after 25 years..... talk about a hard time in my life. However I realized that wasn’t anything compared to losing my mother, father & sister all within 13 months years later. Today I am remarried to a wonderful man of 10 years and so very blessed but yes it took years to get over that part of my life.
I've just watched two of your TH-cam videos and want to thank you. My husband passed away 4 years ago and I've been totally lost. I moved from our home on the coast back to be near my daughters and grandchildren. I too have a one bedroom townhouse and live with my precious dog. You have given me a lot to think about and as I watched and listened to you, I laughed and cried along with you. I see a deep sadness in you that I feel I share. My husband was the only man I've ever loved as well as my best friend. I've been stuck in a rut, not knowing how to move forward, just plodding through each day trying to be strong for my girls who also miss their Dad so very much. I'll continue to follow you as I feel you are a light to show me the way. Thank you so very much for being so open and caring while reaching out to others struggling through life.
Hello. I have felt this way for a really long time since I separated from my boyfriend that i met in toddler day care center. I don't know how you are doing, but I hope you do well best of luck.
I'm so grateful that I stumbled across your sweet spirit in this video. At 53, I finally found the strength to put en end to my 25 year marriage to my alcoholic husband.
My wife just walked out of the door after 20 years. I’m having to downscale housing wise as she’s entitled to half after not paying a Penney towards it. She was handsomely rewarded for her spousal duties throughout the marriage by my wages/pensions/shares/savings but that’s the law. She treated me horribly which caused me to be verbal to her which resulted in divorce. If only I was perfect. This last year has caused me mental and physical sickness. I’m now rising up like a Phoenix to overcome these inflictions and I’ll live in my tiny humble abode in my new town. I’ll make new friends and a new life! To infinity and beyond!
You are beautiful inside and out. Yes, we will be all right. My husband left me too. I met someone else. He has left me 3 times. I realize that it's always going to be this way. He is currently gone again. It doesn't hurt so much this time. I can't change it, but I will be all right.
Thank you so much for this video - I needed to hear your honesty and your perspective at this time in my life. I'll be turning 65 this Oct, I lost my home and everything I owned in the Camp Fire of 2018 (my whole town of Paradise burned down), and I had to create a whole new life out of nothing. I could not ever go back to the home and town I lived in for 10 years as it was gone, and I had to forge on or give up. I forged on like yourself and now I have done what I never thought was possible - I have a beautiful little home with my dog Tippy and I learned that we will be alright and I am stronger from this experience. Love Debrah
You have been through a lot and fortunately are in a place now that makes you happy. Your home is lovely, Desi is happy and that has to make you happy and feel good. Proud of you.
Thank you I just found your channel . I was feeling so bad s marriage that dissolved many years before it was over , feeling lonely , wrote a book a publisher picked it up , I fly a plane , COVID, my asthma laid off moving back home ,eating healthier and drinking only water , exercising all this and I am ready to move and start over I am I the “ gray “ of change . My son and my dog is my only joy . I felt really bad today I feel lost at 60 , thank you for your words wisdom don’t want to eat , just numb. You look just wonderful ...❤️
Hello Feliscia....I am so happy you are here...I feel lost too at times...but I feel so much stronger with every passing year. Not every day is a good day but every day is an important day...I felt so down this summer...and I got back up. I think that is what we women do best...survive. You are so accomplished and beautiful...let me know how you are...xxoo with love, Susan & Desi
Oh my, you never fail to touch my heart. Your bravery, wisdom and positivity are truly inspirational. So many if us find ourselves in circumstances we never thought we would be in. It would be so easy to let disappointment and regret take over. Thank you for the message of gratitude, acceptance and strength to start over and be the best we can be. No matter what our circumstances. Wiping my tears and finding the beauty in each day with you. 😘💕❤️
OH thank you so much Tamara for stopping by. I know in this busy time it's not easy to watch and then leave a comment. Thank you so much...I so enjoy your channel and your grace. You are so special! xxoo Susan
This video is such an inspiration. I was divorced in 1990 with 2 small children aged 8 and 5. I also started over with nothing. Times were tough financially, but we enjoyed little things like Friday nights getting a $2 video and making homemade pizza. I remember having $25 to buy groceries for the week at Aldi. Things got better as I moved up from legal secretary to a paralegal position. All those hard times built character. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you Jeanette so much for being here...$25 for food...you brought tears to my eyes. I know that well...nobody ever wants to talk about it...standing in the store deciding what is more important...peanut beyyer or jelly...because you can't afford both in one week. Those little things that ding your pride and heart...we never really forget and I think it makes us beter people...I am so happy to see you!!!
@@LittlePoet I know! My go to recipe for a cheap dinner was a box of Mac n cheese, added one can cream of celery soup, a can of drained peas, and a can of drained tuna. My own tuna helper for under $2 and it filled up my kids. We've come a long way baby!
I also had my husband leave me after 25 yrs of marriage and the divorce didn't happen until 7 yrs later. It was more than difficult it was devastating!. My heart was so broken....
I love your beautiful little place. I went threw heartache at 41 years old after years of marriage I am now 64 and live on my own with my dogs and cats but I am happy. After divorceing I had a horrible relationship for 12 years with a younger man. I doubt in my lifetime I will ever get into anything but a friendship with a man.But all of it has made me a stronger woman I know now a house is not a home I carry home in me where ever I am. I wish the best for you and Desi despite everything I would not have changed a thing about my life it was for me to live to bring me to where I am today no longer afraid and strong enough to roll with the changes whatever they might be❤🌈❤
Good Morning, I went through the Same, Except the difference is my Husband Passed away. It was So hard, Prayers helped me Very Much. I'm glad Your O.k. Thank You. DESI IS SO CUTE!
Yes it took me a long time after he passed away probably six weeks to sleep and then I got busy working two jobs. I still had a 13 year-old and videos have helped a lot. I can relate. It’s always nice if you have somebody you can either talk to you or relate with so thank you for your videos little poet. You do a fine job.❤
I don't know what happened to that fearless girl I was. I do move easily but seem to be afraid to risk new people and places with people I don't know. No more. I'm vowing to be fearless. To travle..ask for what I need. Let people know if what they said hurt me. To risk being vulnerable. To live in the now not the past or future. To love and honer who I am. Love you Susan for your humer and compassion
Sharon: When you live without "fear" it is a very liberating existence. I KNOW - I'm living it. My biggest challenge was confronting people when they said hurtful things to me but I did it and now I would NEVER allow someone to do or say something so hurtful to me. Learn how to graciously tell someone to "F*" off (with a smile of course!!)
Wow I'm blessed after reading the lives of these women!!! I was married for 52 years and we were together for almost 60 years! Widowed in September 2019. I'm 76 August 12th and embrace everyday with faith and hope and love my Lord.
Gratitude is the key to happiness. I've been in those shoes more than once. I wouldn't go back, I've made a good life for myself. My children are grown now and turned out to be great people. I struggled as a single mom but the freedom and the confidence I gained was priceless. So much of life is how you perceive it to be. I've always felt blessed no matter how many material things I had.
Dont ever depend on another person/ partner for happiness! You will be disappointed ! Love yourself before you Love anyone .Don't get attached to material stuff! Du everything that makes you happy ! Life is short tomorrow is Not guaranteed...
I’ve been divorced 4 years after a 33 year marriage. We separated 7 years ago and I’m struggling with moving on. You make it sound so easy getting over and getting on. For me, I just can’t see an end to this struggle. It’s tearing me up inside and it’s affected my relationship with my oldest daughter as she doesn’t understand why I’m not over this by now. I’ve begun therapy and I lean heavily on my faith so there’s that. If I can’t have my life with him back then I’ve got to find a way to move on.
Maybe you are putting to much pressure on yourself. Let your mind and emotions rest. Then give yourself an opportunity to envision a Different direction that offers up a new story. Wishing the best.🙂
We will pray for you. The Lord is a Master Weaver, Who specializes in making beauty where there are torn pieces. Hold on, please. Find things that speak to your heart. Search for You. 💞‼️🌈✝️
I so feel for you. I have lost my confidence but getting good help presently. My ex has bad mouthed me in his subtle way, one of my sons took his life 3mths after my ex left as I was shattered with the breakup , my son felt I would never recover and I understand that but I did eventually after many years ... never give up we can get thru ..Bless you and I will pray for us both that we will be reunited with our estranged children.
Your video found me and brought me to tears. You are a lovely person and I mean when I say it. I walked through divorce too and be alone in the country that is not my own. It was very hard to push myself to the place I am now but I made it. I am finally able to stand strong on my own feet in foreign country. But I also know that, without God, I won't be able to come this far. I hate moving, as since divorce, I already moved 2 times, and this September I have to move again. And again I know that God will be with me. If you're not sure or don't know what to do or make decision about moving, remember that you can ask God and he will give you the answer. Sometimes we just forget to ask him because we are so much busy trying to figure everything out of our own. May God bless you and Desi and always be with you both. I send you both much love from Germany. Remain healthy and happy. ❤️
I'm so glad I found you. What a treasure your videos are! Desi is so handsome 🐶💙 Your home and outdoor surroundings look like heaven. Thank you for sharing your world and your experiences with us. Many blessings to you🌹
Such a beautiful touching video Susan. You should be so very proud of all you have accomplished. Your apartment looks so warm and cozy just like a big hug. And all the nature around you is incredible. One of my favorite songs from the group Jupiter Coyote has the best line - "did you ever see a uhaul behind a hearse? did you live your life as a blessing or a curse?" Bigger and more things aren't always better. You certainly are living your life as a blessing. Sharing your deepest thoughts and feelings help so many of us. Thank you❤ I hope Desi stays well.
Starting over. wow. Been there too Sus. I think only time really heals a broken heart and it stood still for me. What a lovely video! i think you should stay right where you're at. Why not? The grounds are beautiful, Desi loves it, and you've still got that grumpy neighbor that hates you, lol ! Now, i've gotta dry my tears. love you & the Dez. xo, donna.
Donna Rhodes, I totally agree. I am apartment hunting and I have never seen such beautiful grounds. The grass is definitely greener there than where I am at. I hope whatever Little Poet decides, I just wish her much happiness and love. 💕
OH Donna.....we need to get together and compare notes....it seems the older I get the more old memories dance in my head...sometimes I like it....aging is not for the faint of heart! I miss you my friend...xxoo
I m from Malaysia. I married to a Danish man and just had my divorce in 2018, I going through the life all alone and flying back to my origin country and hv to start my life from zero all by myself at my old age. Well life hv to start somewhere and I hv to move on all alone. Your video really helps me to structured and formatted my life to move on. I can feel deeply how you go through it... And I will make it too....thanks for you video I found it by chance.. may God blessed you and all those woman out there that bring divorce and all alone in their life. Hv believe in your ouw faith...God is with you always.
I’m so glad I came upon your utube. I’m 64 going through a divorce. Lost my house. Expensive lawyers. I left a alcoholic and a abusive man Sad women are financially destitute when men do this. To all the divorced older women .. big hugs. Your not alone. We are strong . So nice to have utube like this to give us strength
Oh wow Susan! Well, one thing I can count on when I watch your videos is, I'm gonna cry, lol. You surely do speak to my soul, you surely do. I think, well if she can do it, live alone, then I can do it too, maybe. I haven't been able to go home to live for 8 months. I'm still living with my daughter after my husband passed away in March. I'm going to try at the beginning of July to just see if I can spend just one night there. We'll see. You've given me courage to at least try. I've got to at least try. Thank you from the bottom of my heart Susan. You are amazing!!!
🌺 Hey!! I Read your Comment. Losing a Spouse, has Got to be the Worst. Being all Alone, Losing a Close Companion, and Where do I Go from Here ? So many Question's. Most People are Afraid of the Unknown, but That IS really, What LIFE, is ALL About, as we're ALL Seeing, with What is Going-On right now. I have Found, that as Hard as it IS, it's Best to Face Your Fear's, Head On. It Take's ALOT of Courage, but GOD, Has Our Back !! We are Never really Alone. It does Make a Difference too, if We are more of a Dependant Type of Person, or an Independent Type of Person. Like Susan Did, you Develop Strength, as you DO, What you Have to DO. Put On Your Big-Girl Pantie's, so to Speak.😊 Say to yourself, I CAN Do This, and in even the Lil' Thing's, Be Proud of Yourself, Give Yourself Credit, and Keep On Keepin'-On, and as Time move's on, You Will be Surprised, How Much STRENGTH You Will Feel. It will also, Make your Daughter Feel Better, Seeing YOU Trying to Make the Best, out of a Sad Situation. She is Feeling a Loss too. Having to Go Back, you will Feel many different Emotion's. LET yourself Feel them, that is part of the Grieving Process. Best of Luck. You will Be OK. Prayer's, for Comfort and Peace. 🙏
I just had to Wish You The Best Of Luck. When you get back to your old home get yourself a pet. Dog or cat or both. I have been on my own 7 years now and my animals bring me so much love and joy. I am 64 now and know how to live by myself now. I always had kids and friends and husbands around me now its just me.
It is encouraging to know that I am not the only one that is having to start completely over with zero....for the second time! I found myself in this situation in January at age 60, and I'm just now starting to come out of the deep depression that came with it. A lot of what you say is touching and true. I didn't lose everything. I have my health and a tiny, but like yours, adorable little apartment that makes me very happy....oh and my cat, Boris! I call him my emotional support kitty! You really do touch lives and encourage others. Thank you.
You are so lovely and your home looks beautiful, warm & inviting. I felt the greatest love, married for over 45 years but suddenly 4 & a half years ago the love of my life passed away. Devastated is an understatement but I have my family and I am grateful everyday for them.
You are such an inspiration Susan and yes, you made it to the other side. Your mother would be so proud of you. Look at all the ladies you are helping by sharing your story. If you’re not ready to move yet just stay where you are, don’t put any pressure on yourself. Little Dezi loves his big yard for sure. Thank you for sharing your heart.
I have never seen anything like this on you tube before. I really needed to hear this, I’m so glad I stopped and watched. Thank you for being so real. Thank you for this perspective and the lessons you shared. I hope rebuilding myself brings me such clarity. Proud of you!
I'm so glad I came across your Channel, you give me hope. My husband left me after 34 years a marriage I'm 50 years old and having to start over, and it is scary. I haven't worked since the early 90s, I have been a stay-at-home mother and still have two kids at home. You're a beautiful person with a beautiful message of Hope. Thank you
I left my marriage 8 years ago and found your channel shortly after... I am right there with you at rebuilding our lives. Thrift store shopping, moving to the Midwest, helping my son finding peace and comfort in this big world.... we did it!!!! Life is beautiful ❤️🌸💐❤️
It’s not the big house when you reach certain age. It’s about peace of mind. I think your now home is a beautiful home. Home is what you make it. Don’t cry too much darling, try to be happy dear bill maybe gone, but while there’s life there’s hope. Do the things that makes you happy.
Susan what an amazing woman you are , I am sure this was not an easy video to make but I know it will have meant so much to all of us xx Thank you xxx You have made a beautiful life for yourself xx Well done xx
What a touching and intimate video. I loved your “tour” and your photos with precious Desi. You have created a magical and welcoming home. I can’t imagine why you would think of leaving it. Hoping you will realize how incredibly special it is and decide to stay. I must keep watching your videos to find out. Sending you all the love and peace you gave to us.
Wow, you are an amazing story teller. Great editing. Yes, we don't imagine the strength we have until we are thrown into circumstances where we must draw from it. Glad you and Desi are okay.🙂💕🙏🏽
I had to give up my home in the divorce. The day I left, I walked across the street and thanked the house for the memories, and knew my life would change forever. I moved into a condo that is much smaller, but like you it is my home.
Thank you so much for leaving me such a lovely comment...it means the world to me. I too said goodbye to my home...it is an amazing feeling. I love it you said "goodbye! Do you like condo living? The weekend is near and I will see you tomorrow! xxo Susan &; Desi
I just discovered you and want you to know that I thoroughly enjoyed listening to you. You are a beautiful lady inside and out and I wish for you much happiness. I have tears in my eyes now. May God bless you daily.
Thanks you for sharing. What a beautiful testimony. I also survived a divorce. I had more going for myself than you did, I was younger, had a degree, work experience, savings and our children wanted to stay with me, but I did feel deeply like I had lost everything. I was however starting over. And I read somewhere that I was not starting over so much as starting better. I did have much more than in my early twenties I realized and I had my values, my work etic, health and I realized that never again I was going to have anyone screw up my budget. It was at first, one moment at the time, then two and then one day at the time. I learned how to pray. I aimed to provide that best life I could for our children. Then I met someone and we have been together now for 24 years. Each day with him is easy, lovely, and peaceful. During my first marriage each day was stressful, like a roller coaster, and full of disappointments. So, I can surely agree with you that change is not always bad. Also, that as a woman we do have what it takes to survive and take charge of our lives.
I so love time with you each week, sweet lady. I, too, experienced divorces and challenges and learned much about myself and life. Of course you must decide what is best for you and Dezi but I would urge you to reconsider moving. Sometimes we miss blessings because we allow ourselves to yearn for what's around the next corner, believing it's better than what we already have. You have an adorable apartment you have decorated beautifully and you have outdoors that Dezi enjoys with nature's beauty to soothe and rejuvenate you. Many blessings, my friend. Hang on to them. May you have joy and peace in the coming week and for always.
My husband of 38 years and three children and 7 grandkids , I had retired and he had an affair and within three months of separation she was pregnant. He turned my children and grands against me. So yes I know what it feels like . Tears just roll even now eight years in a contentious divorce. The person I married was a mask of a man who was nothing of what I thought I knew. Pathological lies and his financial control I am now stronger and continue my quest for equality and some sort of justice. His kid is now almost 8 . My children rarely come around .
I have started over several times. I have been widowed twice, at 34 and then again at 56. Even though I was not divorced, I can identify with so much of what you talk about in this video. I guess the big difference for me is, I knew I couldn’t go back because both of my husbands were gone. I tried another relationship, but he had mental illness and was scary. I had to leave that person for my safety. Then, I married again last year. Our plans to travel and have fun in our mid 60s have been thwarted by the COVID 19 virus. I try to find peace and goodness in everyday while my husband stresses out over everything and I am afraid I might lose him too. I guess you worry about what you know. I don’t worry about divorce, but I do worry about being widowed again, or me passing before him. I don’t think he would survive if I went before him. Anyway, I am glad I found your channel and look forward to following your journey! Big hugs!
You are an inspiration to all of us. Some days we all feel like throwing in the towel but you & Desi make me realize, God has blessed me more than I could have ever imagined. All the hard times actually make us better more loving & compassionate people. Going to Animal Rescue with my Sister tomorrow to see if I can’t find me a little Desie. Had a little Sammy for 16 years but he went to dogie parodies in 2006. Please say prayers I find a new little friend tomorrow. You are a Beautiful woman with a Beautiful heart. God Bless
Hi there! I found your channel today, and have to tell I got very sentimental with your video... but in a good way! I got divorce just one month ago but separated for almost a year, and you just described my feelings (and my situation) at the beginning of this new journey. I had to start all over with no family here and knowing almost nothing about how things work in this country. But, guess what? I did it!!! I figured it out!!! And today I feel very proud of myself!!❤️❤️❤️ GIRLS CAN! No matter what your age (I’m 55] or your situation is. You just have to tell to yourself “Yes, I can” “I got this too” and I promise, you will☺️ Loved your video! Thanks for sharing.
I was reflecting back on moving into this little trailer a year ago. I was so happy. I decorated it with thrift shop finds & offer up furniture lol,,,but it was my own private little peaceful place. Flash forward a year & I have my moments with too much solitude. I love your place it's cute & what a great view😍
Ty so much for this! I think sometimes we get so caught up in material things that we forget what blessings we already have. God bless you hon with the power of story telling. It's wonderful. Hope Desi is all better.
If you love your apartment with those stunning grounds, you are very blessed to have such a peaceful place. Thank you for sharing your truth. You’ve helped many people. 🙏
My Husband left me with 2 little babies /many years ago / I often think if my marriage had worked out I would not have to work so hard now trying to pay for my house / I did loss everything / I had my kids and 5 dollars in my pocket / My parents took me and my kids back in so we would have a place to live / now I work in a plant lifting boxes at 57 years old hurt my back last year / still their / wonder how in the world I can continue till I get my house paid for / after that Zi plan to get a less physical job /I hope / but don't have much office skills but maybe their is something I can do ! Sorry didn't mean to go into all that / it just flowed out
I wish you well God bless
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Beverly Hill sometimes it just all has to come out
You sound strong and resourceful you should be proud of those qualities and skills, don't give up life can change around in 24 hrs, we are all on a journey 🙏
At 60 years my husband left me for another woman.
I actually made much more progress physically, emotionally, psychologically and financially too. I am 70's years old woman, I had to start all over from the start but God stood by me and never failed. There's better life after divorce if we looked at it as change.
I've been there. My husband one day said I don't want to be married anymore, got up and left. I had no job , he left me with only $10.00. But the good Lord never abandoned me. I have a job now and I also have my little apartment with my fur baby Marley. Life is tough but if we have faith and trust in God we can overcome everything. Thanks for sharing my dear.
$10/-??
Amen
Oh Amen!!!! I know how hard that is to endure. Sounds like you are a true warrior! God has provided for me in miraculous ways since my ex left...over 27 years ago. I have built a life for one but only with God's help. Have faith, be grateful for every little thing. Bravo to you for being so faithful!
AMEN SISTA ☝️🙌🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏
The Lord bless you and keep you,
The Lord make His face to shine upon you… Numbers 6:24-26
My husband cleaned out the bank account and ran off with a woman our daughters age. No best of times. Just hard times, worst of my life. Still so very hard. My life savings gone. I can't afford an apartment. I am disabled ( lupus) and had to find a room mate. Still struggle, but I'm getting better. Good luck to all the women who've had this type of calamity. Thank you *, knowing others are fighting the same as me, gives me hope.
I'm so sorry you are going through this, how heartbreaking. I will keep you in my prayers. Seek the Lord and ask for his help. Prayers and hugs for you honey.
Fires And Flowers I agree about the plant based diet, such good advice 🥦🥬🥒🍅🌽🥕
So sorry about your situation.... I'm going through uncertain changes as well and it is really scary to not know which move to make next;like a game of chess but your life and well being is at stake.....never give up hope, it's free and sometimes it's all we have to hold onto🙏💜☮️💜🙋
Do not listen to that person suggesting a love spell, that is NOT of God and will NOT help your situation. ⬆️
God bless you sister ❤️
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My husband had several affairs and after 30 yes I said no more. Living in an apartment has been hard and working full time at 69 yrs old is harder. But I enjoy these videos which gives me hope. Thank you .
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Wow! God bless you; you certainly have a full plate. Good luck to you💕
Thank you.
Thank you for sharing. I keep beating myself up for not leaving when I knew it was time to go. 😔 I stayed and suffered and lost everything that I need to get out.
Trish I’m sending you a hug. I’m 62, almost 63, and starting my life over. You got this! It’s hard yes, but you had the strength to look out for yourself and know your worth and you walked away from an abusive relationship. I will keep you in my prayers.
Having gone through a unexpected divorce after 27 years of marriage, I understand about starting over with nothing. That was 5 years ago. The first 2-3 years were absolute torture. Like you I cried everyday for the first 6 months. I did have my job ( I am a Medical Coder) and continued my education and soon was making a very healthy income. Now as I look back, I realize all of my relationships were need based..my need. That is no longer the case. So today, I own a condo which I’m getting ready to sell. I have had much opportunity to learn new things...how to change out electrical sockets, redo countertops, problem solve because there isn’t anybody else around to ask. 😀 I also own an small RV which I drive out West (by myself) every winter and meet interesting, new people and see my children. My life is truly an adventure and I love it! Oh btw I am 67! 😀
Deb Clements wow I admire you! You are an inspiration. Hugs Barb 💕
Take Control Beauty Awww..thanks for the kind words!
Deb Clements I am weighing the pros and cons between an apartment and an travel trailer. Any advise you have will be greatly appreciated.
Terri Lunsford Hello Terri - my email is debclements1953@gmail.com if you would like to shoot me an email with specific questions. 😀
You are such an inspiration
I’ve joined you all on the 5th of May. During the COVID lockdown, after 38 years of a miserable marriage, I finally packed my car and left with my dog. That’s it. I am now fumbling in the wilderness repairing my broken self esteem and garnering the missing and broken building blocks of my life. One day at a time.
Join the club. You did the right thing. Its is so hard, don't feel like you have to hide. Its hard both emotionally and physically. But don't give up, don't. The days seem bleak and miserable but don't give up. Pray a lot and I don't mean become a religious fanatic, its your conversation between you and God. So glad you have a dog. LOL. My dog and cat was my structure of strength. God Bless and have a good day.
me too 38 years, so happy I cry now. He cheated since day one.
When you said you packed up your dog, it made me want to cry for you. I heard you. God bless you on your journey.
Marietjie Hildebrandt,You deserves better 🙏
Your a Very brave person. You may have less but at least you'll have peace!
My abusive husband walked out December 22nd 2018.After 37 years of marriage.He was a nightmare to live with and got worse with age.I shall be single the rest of my life.If I can't trust the man I was married to all my adult life,then I can't trust any man.Im ok,I like my own company.
My life is mine now.No abuse from a covert narc.I eat what I want,when I want I have money In my purse.I have my self respect.I have my children and grandchildren.My heart is full.
Thank you for your open,honest heart Susan.Your Irish sister.☘️❤️🇺🇸 My very wise cousin said to me recently "when you don't know what to do,do nothing"
Hey !! I read your Comment and just wanted to Say . . . I also went through an Abusive Relationship. It for Sure Teach's us, What we Don't Want. Have now been with my (2nd) Husband, for "48" year's. Don't Let "1" BAD Apple, Spoil the Bunch, for maybe in the Future, but on the Other Hand, if You are Happy being Single, that's What Count's, and that's Great. Hope you Have a Wonderful Life. 😊 Forgot to Mention, that if it wouldn't have been for THAT Relationship, you wouldn't have Had your Kid's and Grand-kid's. So, it Wasn't ALL in Vain.
Hello Jane, I feel I know you and so many other women who have suffered years of marriage to a malignant narcissist, only to have him turn on me .... I was married 29 years, together 35, and one day he said it was over, but conived behind my back for ten more years of psychological and financial abuse, then divorce and owing the IRS big penalties! I lost my home and garden, packed up the junk leftovers,band Modesto Michigan to be close to my son and his family. Then my son got promoted and moved to Austin Texas ... So here I am, no friends, no family, a tiny job, but I'm happy and free !!!! I hear you all and feel your pain, but like Susan, we GOT this 💕
Kiki I have same story I've been with my second man for 46 years! There are good men out there even after we have been abused by our first husband 💕💕Barb
Dee Zahm My daughter was married to a narcissist and he was a crazy nightmare! After 9 years she got out only to find out he paid no bills lost her beautiful home her car was towed and with two small kids started over! I am so very proud of her and she always looked forward ! Been 5 years now and worked hard got her own home for her and the kids and us very happy and free! Narcissistic behavior is the worst bc they make u feel its ur fault then they gaslight u then abuse U again! He was a mother's nightmare ! Congrats on getting out ! You are ur own hero 💕💕Barb
My mother left my father after 23 years of marriage. She was tired of being treated poorly and as a servent rather than a partner. Dad remarried quickly because I don't think he could bear being alone. My mother stayed single for the rest of her life. She knew she would never marry again and never regretted learning to take care of herself. Her life would have been much easier if she would have remarried. However, her independence meant much, much more to her.
I am 59 and in March my husband, after 19 years together simply walked out. Thank you for giving me hope and not feeling so alone. You are amazing.
You are amazing and I am so glad you are here!!!
Emotionally after divorce do you heal heal or you just learn to live with the pain
@@nomsantsoane3984 time heals or you get stronger as you get tired of trying to heal and fed up with feeling sick over it, which ever comes first, but yes, we always heal.
If you can identify the Psychology of the one's that hurt you and study It deeply, getting to it at its core, then healing comes even faster.
Meanwhile, if we find a way to help others in need...
People or animals💞🙏
@@selfesteem3447 thx
THIS IS HARD
You probably have no idea how much your transparency has helped other women who find themselves in a divorce situation now with no money, no income and with loneliness and despair. It's hard to open up to the world your personal life but without a doubt you have help many women. I know I can answer for all of us that we appreciate you and what you do. Love you and your content.
Jenny Little; Amen!! She sure has!! Couldn't have said it any better!!
Yup, she said it!!
Jenny, you said everything I am thinking so perfectly. Our little poet, Suzanne, touches our hearts every week. I look forward to her videos so much!
Jenny you are so right. It is soooo soo hard more so for women. Men move on, we seem to get stuck.
Thank you Jenny so much...you touch my heart...we women are so strong...and it helps so much I think when we share our journey....:) love to you always, Susan
My husband left me after 39 years for my very best friend. I was blindsided. It’s been 2 years ago and I’m getting better. Thank you for sharing these videos. They give me hope when I see how beautifully you are doing❤️
Double betrayal. What a cruel 'friend' I hope you are well.
@@talllala thank you. I am healing finally.
Double betrayal.... that's no best friend, sharing too much with "friends " can actually put us in danger and destroy our family.
@@talllalaI am well thank you! Been divorced almost 5 years now…retired and I have a wonderful new man👍😊
For your best friend😮. Sorry for the pain. God bless you
Never depend on another person to support you!
Support yourself, have 401k always AND never support a man. A supported man is there for just that and sex.
My sentiment exactly.
Never ever!
Amen.
NEVER EVER !!!!👍👍👍
I am at a turning point, sure I have a home I am paying on always broke. Kids grown up 9 hours away they don't visit, I had always visited them, but it is strained due to distance, now this covid thing. I work with seniors so I am always giving, I have had many failed relationships never found my best friend. Recently been a wake up call and I believe I will go back to England to live out my last few years with my family I left behind at 21 years old. At least I will be around friends and family and I can come visit my kids for a month at a time which is more than I see them now. I want to start again , and can't wait to downsize and get rid of all the stuff around me. Had two robberies since living here and I am just done. I don't care if I have a caravan by the sea, I know I can make it, and I am 60.
Lady G you are one brave adventurous lady, I hope thing's are turning out well for you, Love from Anne in the North East England.
Hi darling I hope yr now settled in England. With close family. Rember new friends are always be around you. Blessed be. Let me know how you are luck 🙏🏻🧚
I sold my home,divorced at 70.What a relief.
How are things going for you?
If there is an open door, walk through it. If there is a closed door, don’t force it open. God says that He will open doors no man can shut or shut doors no man can open. Bless you!
Choose kindness every time. Let God take care of the rest. Surrender and let God. Words for me and you if you like. ❤️
thank you for that comment..it just reached out to me..thank you
Amen
Kat...Words to live by...
I am looking at divorce don’t know if I can make it I am 75 years old and I have cancer Parkinson’s disease diabetes. My husband is doing strange things now that I can’t talk about. I am glad your channel came. Up bless you dear one ...joan ❤️❤️❤️
You will make it...we always do.
Keep safe, I’m sending you love and a hug X
Do it. You deserve peace:)
Ah...so sad. Before divorce, why don't you find out what the issue is with your husband. Hugs to you and know that your instinct will tell you what to do.
If you think it is strange behavior for God's sake talk to someone..senior services, police, lawyer, there is protection out there for you..ask your doctor for help so someone can speak up for you if you can't do it for your self!
I stumbled across your videos a few years ago. And thought I wish I could leave this dead end marriage of mine. It’s so draining. Just wanted to thank you for sparking a spark in me. In 9days I begin my new life. After 34 years of emotional abuse and the many losses along the way. I did it. I finally did it.
I'm sure you did nothing wrong in those 34 years.
Married for 31yrs when my husband divorced me. I was in total shock & disbelief bc I thought we were happy & still in love when he said he needed to leave. I never saw it coming so I was devastated. He's changed so much since then. I could never love the man he's become & I'm thankful we're not together anymore but that doesn't mean I don't miss the wonderful yrs we had before. He was Everything I ever wanted in a man so I don't think I'll ever find that again. I just want to be happy again & not feel so sad. It's been 3 1/2yrs now
Thought it was only me took more than ten years to see he did me a favor. We didn’t argue and he seemed faithful. I’m finishing my PhD with no plans to ever remarry🤦🏾♀️
No, not everything you wanted... he left.
My story exactly.
Annie your story sounds so much like mine.....but trying
Take trips overseas!
Hey sweetheart, my man left me one Friday morning without a word after seventeen years, he was sixteen years younger than me and it nearly killed me, but now eight years later I'm starting to rebuild, have a little flat and have no money but do have my sense of humour, which keeps me going.. Take care angel Paula in UK xx
Helo Paula 🥰
I was 62 when my husband of 42 years and I finally divorced. Thankfully I had my Mom living with me at the time and she was able to help with the bills but now I am struggling. Thank you for sharing. It is very scary to start over after 60.
Hello Beth 🥰
I’m only in my 20’s and going through a massive heartbreak. Watching your video definitely inspires me and gives me hope. That there’s more to life than being settled down with another person who doesn’t value their significant other.
Just keep a close eye on your money!
Save ur money. Learn to count yourself above anyone😎
As a man in his 60's, I would suggest loving yourself above all, learn to respect yourself, then someone will come along who will look you straight in the eye, not down at you, but appreciate you in every way.
Dear Susan, very moving. After my marriage ended someone asked me if I regretted getting married, I answered I had loved my husband very, very much and
anything you do out of love you should never regret.
Hello Magdalena 🥰😊
Like everyone else, I watched this with tears, finding myself in a situation I never thought I would be in at 67 years of age. It seemed like I was young forever...until I wasn't. I have had health problems with chronic conditions for several years, and never really feel too well. Difficult times in my marriage that most probably can't be resolved. And as a result, a broken heart. I have lived on my own for awhile, and I can tell you that finding a quiet place is everything. I came from a peaceful house but landed in the middle of lawnmowers, leaf blowers, construction and barking dogs. Culture shock! So having the peace and scenery AND security that you now have is everything. It is definitely hard to find...even on vacation. So think long and hard about it for those reasons. Living alone doesn't bother me, but navigating the world does. I dont really know how to take care of myself financially, or how to even live beyond buying groceries and gasoline. Lol. I relied too much on my husband for the business side of things. So that's the part that scares me...petrifies me really. Small things make me happy. Thrift shopping, walks, flowers, writing, singing and decorating. I can be happy alone. I just never thought I would be.
You are a beautiful woman in every way, and you give me courage and hope, for however my story goes. And most of all, I trust the Lord, Who will never forsake me. 💙💜💚
Gloria Dancer, you sound like you are doing better than you believe. Look in the mirror and tell yourself how proud you are of yourself! You are taking very well
care of yourself. You don't sound like your overspend and you are thrifty. There's many marriages out there, that spend so MUCH that the family is in
big time debt. You seem to know all the wonderful things that make you happy and are free in life, like singing, walks, writing etc.
Perhaps, challenge yourself twice a week, do something you haven't done on your own. Hey, you can always ask questions and there are a lot of young
people I meet that are so sincere and willing to help. I thank them and tell them how kind they are. (make sure you write down the steps, for next time. Until you
have it, whatever it is, in your head and you can rely on your memory).
God will take care of you !! And we both know it !!
@@MagsChase1229 Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement. Hope you have a lovely weekend! 🌹⚘🌹⚘
Glory Dancer j
There's no way you were broke if you were married to a Vietnam vet
@@babushkapoponick3384 Dont know who you were referring to, but I was not married to a vet.
I am starting over after 29 years. I’m very numb but I know I’ll be ok.
I lost my husband to cancer 18 years ago after 29 years. I was scared to death, numb, had two in college no money. I know the fear. A lot has happened. I'm still here. If I can help you please reach out. We have a lot of people to help if we just ask.
🤦🏾♀️💃🏽you will, 30 years then blindsided
Yes, you will. Chin up.
The numbness is normal, and you WILL be okay!!❤️
You will be ok, have faith. Went through this nearly 14 years ago and I'm still standing, stronger than ever!!! Cried enough to fill an ocean at that time, felt like I lost my identity and watched my husband move on with someone I thought was my close friend (ouch). Raised my kids, got involved with their school, I went back to school, started to work out at the community center, and made new friends that shared my family values. Life is good!
When you're emotional, confused, unsure....those are bad times to make big decisions. 💟
When I could pray for him, I knew I had forgiven him.
My husband left me when I was 43 and my son was it I am now 50 and I can’t even remember what it was like to depend on him. I’m truly happy now independent and I call my own shots but it was painful and it’s a very difficult process
I agree Diane....saying good-bye even to someone who caused us pain can be so sorrowful. I think we grieve for what might have been....thank you so much or stopping by...xxoo Love form me and Desi
LittlePoet Thank you, your videos mean so much to me. I look forward every Friday night to them. You’re a sweet soul I hope you’re well
Your home and grounds are beautiful. At this stage of our life we don’t need big houses, just experiences will do. Be well
stay ... when you are 100 percent sure , with no quiver in your heart , that is when you move ... but having a place you love (no matter the size ) is priceless.
Oh dear…..my husband of 36 years died. He was and is my true soulmate. I was 25 when we got married and I just turned 66. The hole that’s left in my heart….it’s been 3 years. I still can’t seem to find myself but I am enduring. I love your optimism. Yes we must change the way we see our life - and as we age - it’s really challenging. But you inspire me thank you dear soul. 💟💟💟💟💟
Thank you, a good one for me. My husband and I were together 46 yrs. when he walked out the door. Heart shattering. After watching this video, I listed my positives and negatives. He hasn’t taken ANYTHING from me! I have “0” financial issues. I still have all of our possessions, including our family And HIS family. I guess I need to snap out of it.....If it weren’t for my damn shattered heart! 💔
Roylene Kornovich. Your heart will mend in time but like a broken vase, you can mend that, too, but it will never hold water again. All is changed and broken. Best to take the pieces and make something new. Best wishes moving forward.💥↗️💪🏻
oh dear! The tears just flowed, my heart broke for you. I've read a few of the comments below and my heart also breaks for those people whose lives have literally been shattered into a thousand pieces. I have faith that one day we will all live in a kingdom, where every tear will be wiped away, where there will be nothing but peace and joy and where our Lord will take care of us and guide us through a world that is the richest most rewarding life there is to live. The best is yet to come! May God bless you all in this world and in an Eternity beyond our wildest dreams.
Thank you Linda...how beautiful you are with such a big heart!
This VERY same thing happened to me.(and I mean VERY) from VN vet to dying of cancer, to the 4000' sq ft house. But the words that saved me were these, just keep moving forward,and one day when someone asks you "hey how ya doin?" you always say the standard answer, fine how bout you. But one day your going to answer that question, and you'll realize "hey I really do feel great! Then I knew I was free.God bless Sometime we just need to know we are not alone in our life travels.
I’ve been through a very parallel experience to yours. I’m in my early sixties, single and still working. Its not where I expected to be at this age, but I walk by faith. And I live in dignity. Like you, my home is small, but it means everything to me. Everyone who visits tells me how charming it is. Thank you for sharing your story. You’ve made me feel less alone.
Tracy Lopez,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌷,I think you deserve better dear 🙏🙏🙏
I'm going to have to start over at 60 and physically disabled..I SO SCARED!
Prayers for you! You got this!
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Prayers for you. Stay strong.
Lisa, how are you coping with things now, best wishes from Anne.
Lisa be strong darling, God bless you.🙏
I remember some one told me years ago the best revenge is do well:)
HELL YEAH!!
"Living well is the best revenge" That was the old saying.
I love your videos. My marriage ended around a year after my first and only baby died of complications from a terrible birth defect. I felt so horribly rejected by my then husband, as if I'd been kicked to the curb. That was twenty years ago. I am blessed with wonderful friends, but I have always felt my life is not complete because I have no partner, no one to come home to, or to be there to welcome him home. I love what you said about realizing your former life was not coming back, and you had to really move on. You're so right. You are inspiring me to find beauty in my life, and realize I have much to be grateful for. Thank you and God bless.
My words, when I find myself going to that dark place, ie the past, is "Nope, not going there. Moving forward". And I get my mind on something in the here and now. Works every time.
Maybe you were meant to lose the footage and the interview in order to make this video. It was perfect 👌 Blessings to you and Desi from Midas and me
Deb you absolutely so right
Susan, you are such a beautiful story teller and can weave the experiences’ of life into such a meaningful video. You have a gift and are a gift Thank you.
Your home is adorable you really should rethink moving Home is Where the Heart is. Desi only needs your love around him not a bigger space Keep up your wonderful video’s P. S. You make me cry in a good way stay happy and healthy
BaraJara, I too cry just about everytime I listen to Susan. She always, always touches my heart. Her and Desi are a joy to 'know'. I'm so glad I found them. Blessings to you, Debra
I use to watch her 3 or 4 years ago and she was thinking about moving!
I cried too
Change is so sure in our lives. My husband has ALZ and has been in a nursing home for 6 years now. He is never coming home. But I have finally decided that I must live my life without him and “start over”. It is difficult, but when we need the strength, God gives it to us. It is hard to know what to do, but I am sure you will listen and follow your heart.
You are TRULY blessed in that apartment and with Desi.
True, some don’t ever have a love like you did. My son is 30, I hope and pray he has love at some point in his life, he hasn’t found it as yet
Hello Holly 😊
Your apartment looks a perfect size for you and Desi. It’s beautiful and the grounds are gorgeous. Do you really need to move? Most people are downsizing these days. 🌼🌞
Fiery Belle , I think she should upgrade. You can’t cook in that kitchen, it’s just for show. As for her husband, no matter what, if he did care about her and had the money he would have protected her.
I love your place. I would stay there till you're old, then move near your son. I love the grounds & the videos you post of the changing seasons. The world us a crazy place right now. Stay in your safe haven.
This was beautiful thank u for sharing! I went through something similar..... my x husband left me and the kids cleared the bank account after 25 years..... talk about a hard time in my life. However I realized that wasn’t anything compared to losing my mother, father & sister all within 13 months years later. Today I am remarried to a wonderful man of 10 years and so very blessed but yes it took years to get over that part of my life.
@@oscarwilliamson1264 thank you
I've just watched two of your TH-cam videos and want to thank you. My husband passed away 4 years ago and I've been totally lost. I moved from our home on the coast back to be near my daughters and grandchildren. I too have a one bedroom townhouse and live with my precious dog. You have given me a lot to think about and as I watched and listened to you, I laughed and cried along with you. I see a deep sadness in you that I feel I share. My husband was the only man I've ever loved as well as my best friend. I've been stuck in a rut, not knowing how to move forward, just plodding through each day trying to be strong for my girls who also miss their Dad so very much. I'll continue to follow you as I feel you are a light to show me the way. Thank you so very much for being so open and caring while reaching out to others struggling through life.
Hello. I have felt this way for a really long time since I separated from my boyfriend that i met in toddler day care center. I don't know how you are doing, but I hope you do well best of luck.
I'm so grateful that I stumbled across your sweet spirit in this video. At 53, I finally found the strength to put en end to my 25 year marriage to my alcoholic husband.
My wife just walked out of the door after 20 years. I’m having to downscale housing wise as she’s entitled to half after not paying a Penney towards it. She was handsomely rewarded for her spousal duties throughout the marriage by my wages/pensions/shares/savings but that’s the law. She treated me horribly which caused me to be verbal to her which resulted in divorce. If only I was perfect. This last year has caused me mental and physical sickness. I’m now rising up like a Phoenix to overcome these inflictions and I’ll live in my tiny humble abode in my new town. I’ll make new friends and a new life! To infinity and beyond!
You are beautiful inside and out.
Yes, we will be all right. My husband left me too. I met someone else. He has left me 3 times. I realize that it's always going to be this way. He is currently gone again. It doesn't hurt so much this time. I can't change it, but I will be all right.
You are one of the most sincere individuals and your stories and how you tell them does you so much credit.
You are so kind...thank you so much!!
You are more than welcome xxx@@LittlePoet
Thank you so much for this video - I needed to hear your honesty and your perspective at this time in my life. I'll be turning 65 this Oct, I lost my home and everything I owned in the Camp Fire of 2018 (my whole town of Paradise burned down), and I had to create a whole new life out of nothing. I could not ever go back to the home and town I lived in for 10 years as it was gone, and I had to forge on or give up. I forged on like yourself and now I have done what I never thought was possible - I have a beautiful little home with my dog Tippy and I learned that we will be alright and I am stronger from this experience. Love Debrah
Oh my Susan ,please don’t leave TH-cam, your apartment is beautiful and so homey 🥰😢
Hello Maureen 😊
You have been through a lot and fortunately are in a place now that makes you happy. Your home is lovely, Desi is happy and that has to make you happy and feel good. Proud of you.
Thank you I just found your channel . I was feeling so bad s marriage that dissolved many years before it was over , feeling lonely , wrote a book a publisher picked it up , I fly a plane , COVID, my asthma laid off moving back home ,eating healthier and drinking only water , exercising all this and I am ready to move and start over I am I the “ gray “ of change . My son and my dog is my only joy . I felt really bad today I feel lost at 60 , thank you for your words wisdom don’t want to eat , just numb. You look just wonderful ...❤️
Hello Feliscia....I am so happy you are here...I feel lost too at times...but I feel so much stronger with every passing year. Not every day is a good day but every day is an important day...I felt so down this summer...and I got back up. I think that is what we women do best...survive. You are so accomplished and beautiful...let me know how you are...xxoo with love, Susan & Desi
Oh my, you never fail to touch my heart. Your bravery, wisdom and positivity are truly inspirational. So many if us find ourselves in circumstances we never thought we would be in. It would be so easy to let disappointment and regret take over. Thank you for the message of gratitude, acceptance and strength to start over and be the best we can be. No matter what our circumstances. Wiping my tears and finding the beauty in each day with you. 😘💕❤️
OH thank you so much Tamara for stopping by. I know in this busy time it's not easy to watch and then leave a comment. Thank you so much...I so enjoy your channel and your grace. You are so special! xxoo Susan
This video is such an inspiration. I was divorced in 1990 with 2 small children aged 8 and 5. I also started over with nothing. Times were tough financially, but we enjoyed little things like Friday nights getting a $2 video and making homemade pizza. I remember having $25 to buy groceries for the week at Aldi. Things got better as I moved up from legal secretary to a paralegal position. All those hard times built character. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you Jeanette so much for being here...$25 for food...you brought tears to my eyes. I know that well...nobody ever wants to talk about it...standing in the store deciding what is more important...peanut beyyer or jelly...because you can't afford both in one week. Those little things that ding your pride and heart...we never really forget and I think it makes us beter people...I am so happy to see you!!!
@@LittlePoet I know! My go to recipe for a cheap dinner was a box of Mac n cheese, added one can cream of celery soup, a can of drained peas, and a can of drained tuna. My own tuna helper for under $2 and it filled up my kids. We've come a long way baby!
Going to remember this video. Tough times with my wife .... forward we go, either way.
I hope you guys did what's best for both of you ❤
Hi Brian....I didn't see this comment until just now....how are you doing?
I also had my husband leave me after 25 yrs of marriage and the divorce didn't happen until 7 yrs later. It was more than difficult it was devastating!. My heart was so broken....
2 Timothy says that the Lord does not give us a spirit of fear but of power and love .....
Do it afraid!
Dreaming of starting over...your place is perfect for you. Dont move you will regret it.
I love your beautiful little place. I went threw heartache at 41 years old after years of marriage I am now 64 and live on my own with my dogs and cats but I am happy. After divorceing I had a horrible relationship for 12 years with a younger man. I doubt in my lifetime I will ever get into anything but a friendship with a man.But all of it has made me a stronger woman I know now a house is not a home I carry home in me where ever I am. I wish the best for you and Desi despite everything I would not have changed a thing about my life it was for me to live to bring me to where I am today no longer afraid and strong enough to roll with the changes whatever they might be❤🌈❤
Good Morning, I went through the Same, Except the difference is my Husband Passed away. It was So hard, Prayers helped me Very Much. I'm glad Your O.k. Thank You. DESI IS SO CUTE!
Rose B,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌷,hope you are with a good man!
Rose B,You deserves better 🙏
Yes it took me a long time after he passed away probably six weeks to sleep and then I got busy working two jobs. I still had a 13 year-old and videos have helped a lot. I can relate. It’s always nice if you have somebody you can either talk to you or relate with so thank you for your videos little poet. You do a fine job.❤
I don't know what happened to that fearless girl I was. I do move easily but seem to be afraid to risk new people and places with people I don't know. No more. I'm vowing to be fearless. To travle..ask for what I need. Let people know if what they said hurt me. To risk being vulnerable. To live in the now not the past or future. To love and honer who I am. Love you Susan for your humer and compassion
Sharon: When you live without "fear" it is a very liberating existence. I KNOW - I'm living it. My biggest challenge was confronting people when they said hurtful things to me but I did it and now I would NEVER allow someone to do or say something so hurtful to me. Learn how to graciously tell someone to "F*" off (with a smile of course!!)
Wow
I'm blessed after reading the lives of these women!!!
I was married for 52 years and we were together for almost 60 years!
Widowed in September 2019.
I'm 76 August 12th and embrace everyday with faith and hope and love my Lord.
Gratitude is the key to happiness. I've been in those shoes more than once. I wouldn't go back, I've made a good life for myself. My children are grown now and turned out to be great people. I struggled as a single mom but the freedom and the confidence I gained was priceless. So much of life is how you perceive it to be. I've always felt blessed no matter how many material things I had.
Dont ever depend on another person/ partner for happiness! You will be disappointed ! Love yourself before you Love anyone .Don't get attached to material stuff! Du everything that makes you happy ! Life is short tomorrow is Not guaranteed...
I’ve been divorced 4 years after a 33 year marriage. We separated 7 years ago and I’m struggling with moving on. You make it sound so easy getting over and getting on. For me, I just can’t see an end to this struggle. It’s tearing me up inside and it’s affected my relationship with my oldest daughter as she doesn’t understand why I’m not over this by now. I’ve begun therapy and I lean heavily on my faith so there’s that. If I can’t have my life with him back then I’ve got to find a way to move on.
Maybe you are putting to much pressure on yourself. Let your mind and emotions rest. Then give yourself an opportunity to envision a
Different direction that offers up a new story. Wishing the best.🙂
We will pray for you. The Lord is a Master Weaver, Who specializes in making beauty where there are torn pieces. Hold on, please. Find things that speak to your heart. Search for You. 💞‼️🌈✝️
You need to dream for a better future and take baby’s steps to achieve your goals.
I so feel for you. I have lost my confidence but getting good help presently. My ex has bad mouthed me in his subtle way, one of my sons took his life 3mths after my ex left as I was shattered with the breakup , my son felt I would never recover and I understand that but I did eventually after many years ... never give up we can get thru ..Bless you and I will pray for us both that we will be reunited with our estranged children.
You used your very hard times to help a whole lot of people through our bad times. Thank you so much🤗
Oh, Suz, this one brought a few tears!
You've proved your strength and have such a beauty-filled life...
You are so sweet Lisa...thank you so much for being here..it means the world to me. Sending love to you adn yours always, Susan & Desi
Your video found me and brought me to tears. You are a lovely person and I mean when I say it. I walked through divorce too and be alone in the country that is not my own. It was very hard to push myself to the place I am now but I made it. I am finally able to stand strong on my own feet in foreign country. But I also know that, without God, I won't be able to come this far. I hate moving, as since divorce, I already moved 2 times, and this September I have to move again. And again I know that God will be with me. If you're not sure or don't know what to do or make decision about moving, remember that you can ask God and he will give you the answer. Sometimes we just forget to ask him because we are so much busy trying to figure everything out of our own. May God bless you and Desi and always be with you both. I send you both much love from Germany. Remain healthy and happy. ❤️
Hi Patti and congratulations on your freedom and new life! You sound like such a great woman!!!
Stay put until you have peace. I pray about everything and wait , don’t give up just keep praying.
I agree.
Thank you for sharing. My husband died December 10 and I'm lost right now. God bless you.
I'm so glad I found you. What a treasure your videos are! Desi is so handsome 🐶💙 Your home and outdoor surroundings look like heaven. Thank you for sharing your world and your experiences with us. Many blessings to you🌹
Such a beautiful touching video Susan. You should be so very proud of all you have accomplished. Your apartment looks so warm and cozy just like a big hug. And all the nature around you is incredible. One of my favorite songs from the group Jupiter Coyote has the best line - "did you ever see a uhaul behind a hearse? did you live your life as a blessing or a curse?" Bigger and more things aren't always better. You certainly are living your life as a blessing. Sharing your deepest thoughts and feelings help so many of us. Thank you❤ I hope Desi stays well.
Starting over. wow. Been there too Sus. I think only time really heals a broken heart and it stood still for me. What a lovely video! i think you should stay right where you're at. Why not? The grounds are beautiful, Desi loves it, and you've still got that grumpy neighbor that hates you, lol ! Now, i've gotta dry my tears. love you & the Dez. xo, donna.
Donna Rhodes, I totally agree. I am apartment hunting and I have never seen such beautiful grounds. The grass is definitely greener there than where I am at. I hope whatever Little Poet decides, I just wish her much happiness and love. 💕
OH Donna.....we need to get together and compare notes....it seems the older I get the more old memories dance in my head...sometimes I like it....aging is not for the faint of heart! I miss you my friend...xxoo
I m from Malaysia. I married to a Danish man and just had my divorce in 2018, I going through the life all alone and flying back to my origin country and hv to start my life from zero all by myself at my old age. Well life hv to start somewhere and I hv to move on all alone. Your video really helps me to structured and formatted my life to move on. I can feel deeply how you go through it... And I will make it too....thanks for you video I found it by chance.. may God blessed you and all those woman out there that bring divorce and all alone in their life. Hv believe in your ouw faith...God is with you always.
I read this yesterday “ I was born to break the mold, don’t ever doubt a underdog”. Another fabulous video. Thank You.
I’m so glad I came upon your utube. I’m 64 going through a divorce. Lost my house. Expensive lawyers. I left a alcoholic and a abusive man
Sad women are financially destitute when men do this. To all the divorced older women .. big hugs. Your not alone. We are strong . So nice to have utube like this to give us strength
Oh wow Susan! Well, one thing I can count on when I watch your videos is, I'm gonna cry, lol. You surely do speak to my soul, you surely do. I think, well if she can do it, live alone, then I can do it too, maybe. I haven't been able to go home to live for 8 months. I'm still living with my daughter after my husband passed away in March. I'm going to try at the beginning of July to just see if I can spend just one night there. We'll see. You've given me courage to at least try. I've got to at least try. Thank you from the bottom of my heart Susan. You are amazing!!!
🌺 Hey!! I Read your Comment. Losing a Spouse, has Got to be the Worst. Being all Alone, Losing a Close Companion, and Where do I Go from Here ? So many Question's. Most People are Afraid of the Unknown, but That IS really, What LIFE, is ALL About, as we're ALL Seeing, with What is Going-On right now. I have Found, that as Hard as it IS, it's Best to Face Your Fear's, Head On. It Take's ALOT of Courage, but GOD, Has Our Back !! We are Never really Alone. It does Make a Difference too, if We are more of a Dependant Type of Person, or an Independent Type of Person. Like Susan Did, you Develop Strength, as you DO, What you Have to DO. Put On Your Big-Girl Pantie's, so to Speak.😊 Say to yourself, I CAN Do This, and in even the Lil' Thing's, Be Proud of Yourself, Give Yourself Credit, and Keep On Keepin'-On, and as Time move's on, You Will be Surprised, How Much STRENGTH You Will Feel. It will also, Make your Daughter Feel Better, Seeing YOU Trying to Make the Best, out of a Sad Situation. She is Feeling a Loss too. Having to Go Back, you will Feel many different Emotion's. LET yourself Feel them, that is part of the Grieving Process. Best of Luck. You will Be OK. Prayer's, for Comfort and Peace. 🙏
I just had to Wish You The Best Of Luck. When you get back to your old home get yourself a pet. Dog or cat or both. I have been on my own 7 years now and my animals bring me so much love and joy. I am 64 now and know how to live by myself now. I always had kids and friends and husbands around me now its just me.
It is encouraging to know that I am not the only one that is having to start completely over with zero....for the second time! I found myself in this situation in January at age 60, and I'm just now starting to come out of the deep depression that came with it. A lot of what you say is touching and true. I didn't lose everything. I have my health and a tiny, but like yours, adorable little apartment that makes me very happy....oh and my cat, Boris! I call him my emotional support kitty! You really do touch lives and encourage others. Thank you.
You are so lovely and your home looks beautiful, warm & inviting. I felt the greatest love, married for over 45 years but suddenly 4 & a half years ago the love of my life passed away. Devastated is an understatement but I have my family and I am grateful everyday for them.
You are such an inspiration Susan and yes, you made it to the other side. Your mother would be so proud of you. Look at all the ladies you are helping by sharing your story. If you’re not ready to move yet just stay where you are, don’t put any pressure on yourself. Little Dezi loves his big yard for sure. Thank you for sharing your heart.
I have never seen anything like this on you tube before. I really needed to hear this, I’m so glad I stopped and watched. Thank you for being so real. Thank you for this perspective and the lessons you shared. I hope rebuilding myself brings me such clarity. Proud of you!
I'm so glad I came across your Channel, you give me hope. My husband left me after 34 years a marriage I'm 50 years old and having to start over, and it is scary. I haven't worked since the early 90s, I have been a stay-at-home mother and still have two kids at home. You're a beautiful person with a beautiful message of Hope. Thank you
I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest anything you want to manifest within two-day ❤❤❤
He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three day ago with out delay💯💯
Whtsaap him**
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I left my marriage 8 years ago and found your channel shortly after... I am right there with you at rebuilding our lives. Thrift store shopping, moving to the Midwest, helping my son finding peace and comfort in this big world.... we did it!!!! Life is beautiful ❤️🌸💐❤️
It’s not the big house when you reach certain age. It’s about peace of mind. I think your now home is a beautiful home. Home is what you make it. Don’t cry too much darling, try to be happy dear bill maybe gone, but while there’s life there’s hope. Do the things that makes you happy.
Susan what an amazing woman you are , I am sure this was not an easy video to make but I know it will have meant so much to all of us xx Thank you xxx You have made a beautiful life for yourself xx Well done xx
What a touching and intimate video. I loved your “tour” and your photos with precious Desi. You have created a magical and welcoming home. I can’t imagine why you would think of leaving it. Hoping you will realize how incredibly special it is and decide to stay. I must keep watching your videos to find out. Sending you all the love and peace you gave to us.
Wow, you are an amazing story teller. Great editing. Yes, we don't imagine the strength we have until we are thrown into circumstances where we must draw from it. Glad you and Desi are okay.🙂💕🙏🏽
I had to give up my home in the divorce. The day I left, I walked across the street and thanked the house for the memories, and knew my life would change forever. I moved into a condo that is much smaller, but like you it is my home.
Thank you so much for leaving me such a lovely comment...it means the world to me. I too said goodbye to my home...it is an amazing feeling. I love it you said "goodbye! Do you like condo living? The weekend is near and I will see you tomorrow! xxo Susan &; Desi
Absolutely beautiful! You are an inspiration!
I just discovered you and want you to know that I thoroughly enjoyed listening to you. You are a beautiful lady inside and out and I wish for you much happiness. I have tears in my eyes now. May God bless you daily.
Thanks you for sharing. What a beautiful testimony. I also survived a divorce. I had more going for myself than you did, I was younger, had a degree, work experience, savings and our children wanted to stay with me, but I did feel deeply like I had lost everything. I was however starting over. And I read somewhere that I was not starting over so much as starting better. I did have much more than in my early twenties I realized and I had my values, my work etic, health and I realized that never again I was going to have anyone screw up my budget. It was at first, one moment at the time, then two and then one day at the time. I learned how to pray. I aimed to provide that best life I could for our children. Then I met someone and we have been together now for 24 years. Each day with him is easy, lovely, and peaceful. During my first marriage each day was stressful, like a roller coaster, and full of disappointments. So, I can surely agree with you that change is not always bad. Also, that as a woman we do have what it takes to survive and take charge of our lives.
I so love time with you each week, sweet lady. I, too, experienced divorces and challenges and learned much about myself and life. Of course you must decide what is best for you and Dezi but I would urge you to reconsider moving. Sometimes we miss blessings because we allow ourselves to yearn for what's around the next corner, believing it's better than what we already have. You have an adorable apartment you have decorated beautifully and you have outdoors that Dezi enjoys with nature's beauty to soothe and rejuvenate you. Many blessings, my friend. Hang on to them. May you have joy and peace in the coming week and for always.
My husband of 38 years and three children and 7 grandkids , I had retired and he had an affair and within three months of separation she was pregnant. He turned my children and grands against me. So yes I know what it feels like . Tears just roll even now eight years in a contentious divorce. The person I married was a mask of a man who was nothing of what I thought I knew. Pathological lies and his financial control I am now stronger and continue my quest for equality and some sort of justice. His kid is now almost 8 . My children rarely come around .
I have started over several times. I have been widowed twice, at 34 and then again at 56. Even though I was not divorced, I can identify with so much of what you talk about in this video. I guess the big difference for me is, I knew I couldn’t go back because both of my husbands were gone. I tried another relationship, but he had mental illness and was scary. I had to leave that person for my safety. Then, I married again last year. Our plans to travel and have fun in our mid 60s have been thwarted by the COVID 19 virus. I try to find peace and goodness in everyday while my husband stresses out over everything and I am afraid I might lose him too. I guess you worry about what you know. I don’t worry about divorce, but I do worry about being widowed again, or me passing before him. I don’t think he would survive if I went before him. Anyway, I am glad I found your channel and look forward to following your journey! Big hugs!
You are an inspiration to all of us. Some days we all feel like throwing in the towel but you & Desi make me realize, God has blessed me more than I could have ever imagined. All the hard times actually make us better more loving & compassionate people. Going to Animal Rescue with my Sister tomorrow to see if I can’t find me a little Desie. Had a little Sammy for 16 years but he went to dogie parodies in 2006. Please say prayers I find a new little friend tomorrow. You are a Beautiful woman with a Beautiful heart. God Bless
Hi there! I found your channel today, and have to tell I got very sentimental with your video... but in a good way! I got divorce just one month ago but separated for almost a year, and you just described my feelings (and my situation) at the beginning of this new journey. I had to start all over with no family here and knowing almost nothing about how things work in this country. But, guess what? I did it!!! I figured it out!!! And today I feel very proud of myself!!❤️❤️❤️ GIRLS CAN! No matter what your age (I’m 55] or your situation is. You just have to tell to yourself “Yes, I can” “I got this too” and I promise, you will☺️ Loved your video! Thanks for sharing.
I was reflecting back on moving into this little trailer a year ago. I was so happy. I decorated it with thrift shop finds & offer up furniture lol,,,but it was my own private little peaceful place. Flash forward a year & I have my moments with too much solitude. I love your place it's cute & what a great view😍
Ty so much for this! I think sometimes we get so caught up in material things that we forget what blessings we already have. God bless you hon with the power of story telling. It's wonderful. Hope Desi is all better.
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If you love your apartment with those stunning grounds, you are very blessed to have such a peaceful place. Thank you for sharing your truth. You’ve helped many people. 🙏