I Was Losing Myself - 5 Things I Had To Change To Survive 65
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 24 ก.พ. 2023
- 5 crucial things I had to change about my attitude to be happy. I was losing myself. This video was sparked by a lovely viewer who wrote a comment about her desire to change her thinking. She felt overwhelmed by aging. At 73 she felt there is just too much to change.. her life was behind her and she was losing hope of ever being happy again. Let's really talk about this!
I share with you a crazy week I had with healing from a cold, an ice storm, and house hunting for the perfect place to move to in Big Rapids.
My grandfather was the biggest influence in my life and he taught me the importance of a swing-and- a miss compared to the failure of never making it up to bat.
Please feel free to jump in and make this one great wild conversation about aging, womanhood and never giving up!
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I'm a 72 year old widow. When I was 65 I felt great. I was retired, but kept active. Then I was diagnosed with breast cancer and had a double mastectomy. Then I was starting reconstruction surgery and got a staph infection and almost died. Two years later my husband died.
I moved several times with my daughter and her husband. I'm in pretty good health now, but I'm afraid of what's in the future.
Then a miracle happened and I found out I am going to be a grandmother for the first time.
I'm still afraid of what will happen. I still have depression and anxiety. I pray for more years to watch my grandchild grow up.
I also grew up in an Italian Catholic family. I was 11 during the Cuban Missile Crisis in 1962. I remember crying and being so afraid of a war. My father was so mean to me and he yelled at me for crying. He said I wasn't the only one who was going to die if we had a war.
He and my mother gave me no comfort or any hope we would be okay. I'll NEVER forget that.
I cried when I read about your miracle! You are going to be a new grandmother!!! Congratulations! You are going to love every minute of watching her grow up!!!! You are so strong and on a mission...you didn't come this far to turn back now...you have decades left to take care of yourself and that granddaughter! As far as your father...what a cruel thing to say to a frightened little girl...you must have learned how to self-nurture....in my times of great fear I turn on music ... that's what I did when I was a young kid to sooth my heart. Motown...The Beatles...in the middle of the night if I get scared...that's me singing " Love Me DO' really loud and calming down....I am not sure if our parents knew how to love a child but it seems they taught us what not to do. My love to you, Sues & Dez
Parker Rose, you are a survivor and have more strength and courage then you give yourself credit for. Congratulations on the impending birth of a grandchild. Imagine all the love and nurturing you'll give this child and the pearls of wisdom you can share from your own life experiences. Time to celebrate!
@@LittlePoet 🎀❤️🎀. We Love you Susan.
Many families did not know how to love and nurture children. I am also Irish Italian . I also love Music. "Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and Life to everything". Plato
@@wildhorses6817 oh yes! Music is magic....
Parker Rose, I had a wonderful M.D./ Homeopath many years ago who treated me successfully with homeopathic remedies. I recommend finding someone to help support your health. I am older and studying homeopathy to better understand what remedies can help me so I can avoid too many drugs. You may be interested in doing that also or finding a good Homeopath to work with in your area. We never give up nor give into fear, we keep growing, learning and caring for ourselves and our families. Sending you healing prayers. 💜 I take Boiron Remedies, HYLANDS, Helios, Washington, Hahnemann and others. There are many Books, materia medicas and online classes. I am in my 70's and happy to be learning so much to help myself and my family. Oh, even M.D. Anderson Medical Center is using homeopathic protocols for Cancer. ❣️
I am 66 years old. In 1996, I was having a bit of a hard time dealing with turning 40. My feeling was that my youth was disappearing. Then a colleague of mine died from cancer 2 weeks before my birthday. And a friend from church laid down to take a Sunday nap and didn’t wake up. Having to go to 2 funerals in the week before my 40th birthday, I vowed that I would cherish every birthday and appreciate every day that I wake up! And I have done that. There have been very difficult times since then but I have kept my promise to myself to be happy to be alive every day. I hope that you, Susan, and everyone reading this will remember that we are all blessed to be on this planet for another day!!!❤
You are a beautiful woman Susan and so far this is my favorite post from you. Thank you for reminding all of us that we are vibrant and valuable people and age is just a number. You are so blessed to be able to communicate, choose your beautiful music and scenery for each video. Such a creative person. I know your mom and grandpa are watching from heaven and smiling from ear to ear...
Well said!🙏👼💕
Good for you, Janie and I'm sorry to hear so much trauma and tragedy has hit you at such a young age. I too have lost so many friends at a younger age and been to so many funerals that I appreciate Life (and my health) more and more each day and when I'm gloomy I go sit in my local cemetery for half an hour or so and everything just falls back into 'reset' mode. I hope Life gets better for you. xx
Hi Janie, I’m 71 and recently lost my only sibling and big brother. This has been extremely difficult. I’ve lost best friends, parents, family members, co workers and others that I spent good times and sad times with. That’s the one part of getting older that is difficult. Saying goodbye. My brother told me that he was thankful for each day he was given and I am doing my best to do the same. Thank you for reminding me to be thankful. ❤️
Thank you Janie....what a wonderful comment. God Bless you today and always. Sincerely, Debbie and Dexter-Dog my sweet tiny rescued Chihuahua companion living a quiet crafty life in southern California.💞
I saw a t-shirt the other day that said " It's weird being the same age as old people". I turned 68 in Oct and I still think I'm 35. Volunteering is a wonderful way to get your mind off yourself. When you see how many people are in need, your insecurities go away. You realize how blessed you are.
That is so cute!!
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I want that T-shirt! I feel 35 and like I don't fit in with those myage. It's frustrating because I just don't feel old.I think it is all a state of mind. You're absolutely right about volunteering and helping people and animals. We feel good about who we are and we learn so much about how lucky we are to be able to help others. It is a Blessed feeling for sure. I have three dogs, two are old and won't be here too much longer. My last one a Yorkie just turned eight. He is a love and makes me smile. I'm soon to be 66, and I'm going to try to stay positive and be happy for what I do have and not sad about what I don't.
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Riding for the disabled always needs volunteers. Most of us are retired. The highlight of my week 😊
One thing that really helped my anxiety was getting my vitamin D level up.
Prescription D2 caused an amazing change for me.
I wish more MDs knew that low D causes anxiety. It's not a vitamin, but an important hormone. With all the modern sunscreen, many people, especially us on the heavy side don't get enough vitamin D.
This is so inspirational for me. My grandma always said getting old is not for sissies and the worst part is losing your friends. It takes courage and strength, doesn’t it?
Especially when you loose them...and they are living...very difficult in death as in life....❤
I have an elderly relative who, at the age of 82 and after three bouts of cancer, moved to Europe! She had a fourth bout of cancer shortly after moving, but is thriving and has never been happier. She is an economist and a dancer, and has never stopped learning and moving. I think that has a lot to do with her attitude and zest for life.
Whoa. That is a WONDERFUL story. Where did she get the courage? The sense of adventure? Man. Here I am, at 70, wondering if I am too old to move to a different state!
@@nancykelly9393 I know! She's primarily making friends through church, but she still amazes me. She's full of enthusiasm about all the new things she is experiencing.
Amazing will to live! God bless her!❤
Now that's my kind of woman! No-one I admire more than someone who lives their life to the beat of their own drum rather than following the 'norm' that society places on people: I'm sure she'll have a great life. Give her my best - she's a real trailblazer! x
How wonderful for her how did she do it wonderful I’m happy for her ❤
Dear Susan, I'm not sure if you realize how significant and articulate this is...your insight into aging, what it brings, is just amazing! Thank you so much 👏👏👏
Hello Susan, my husband and I are in our late 70s, we live in a very quiet neighbourhood and very rarely see anybody pass our door. In the beginning when we moved here 10 years ago, we relished this quietness but now as we get older we realise that we feel isolated from all that is alive around us, so we have decided to sell up and move to the vibrant city we left 10 years ago. We would like to live in a new, modern apartment, with a balcony. To us this is an exciting move, an adventure, a challenge, something to energise us and start a new chapter. I love watching your videos, you speak from your heart and say some extremely wise things. Thank you.
AVeril UK X
Your post brought me to tears...you made me see so clearly that what we want in life is such beautiful simple things...love, kindness...and an apartment with a balcony....I pray that you and your husband get your life in the city...my love to you...keep us posted!!! xo Susan & Dez
Did you move to the apartment with the balcony?
I lost my 49 year old daughter. Her memorial is next Sunday. She was so loving and my best friend... Such a terrible grief!! I could go on and on... She told me she was going to Heaven but I didn't know it would be so soon from bronchitis .... my heart is broken in a million billion pieces..... I love your videos and I love the outside scenesx
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I am so sorry for your loss. Please keep in touch on these pages.
I’m so sorry for the heart ache you are suffering, I can’t imagine. You will be in mi prayers 🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
Thank you so much for responding and keeping me in your prayers. I've lost a parent and when my grandfather died it really tire me up since I had always lived with them, but losing a child is something you'd have to experience to understand the depth of the loss!!! Lord bless each of you and keep you safe. Love is sent to each of you!
I am so very sorry, I pray for God's peace to be with you. She is in his care now
6 years ago I tried to purchase a house for me and my beautiful mother. Was told No!! I had to wait 3 years and try again. Well I cried for about 10 minutes and wallowed in self pity and felt bad that I could not get my mom out of this apartment and I could not get my little dog a yard she deserved. There we go again doing for others. But. Thani wiped those tears away and in the next year I did not purchase anything that was a waste of money. Worked my ass off doing overtime saved every penny and paid off every one I owed. Got my tax money so I had some thing in the bank and applied again. Than I cried for a different reason that day. I got the loan for more than I wanted. Hell yes we woman can do anything we want we just need to want it bad enough. In June we will have lived her 5 years Dont ever tell me No I can’t do something cause I will prove you wrong. I bought my 1st home by myself at 52 never felt more proud of myself.
Congratulations!
Toronto, Canada ... Way to go!!! That is truly inspirational ...
I'm 68, been a widow 8 years, have several chronic, serious health issues. I still talk to God, and my husband, daily. It gets me through the day. Loneliness is my big struggle, but I usually count my blessings every day. My dog and cat are family, and a huge comfort. Love your videos, and the comments, a bit of human family!
I am so glad you have pets, mine are good company, too. I am sorry you have to deal with health issues. We watch tv together and listen to music.
I understand how you feel as a widow of 4 years. There are many of us who are lonely and who’s most frequent contact are our pets. I’ve made a friend through part time work. I joined a club. I spend a lot of time managing and physically working on my too-large house. I plan a few trips. So I stay busy. But I miss having a life partner. Still have some bad weeks.
Animals are Blessings. They are our family and our buddies. Lots of hugs and kisses. And yes, such a comfort.
@@Tails_of_Life I agree about animals they are like two-year-olds I have a dog and a cat I will some days say to them "You two are driving me nuts (they are spoiled)" but I dearly love them they are a fur gift from God.
Karen, I’m 65 and have no husband, no family. My dog is my family & my best friend. I have pretty serious health issue but you know what? As soon as I got accepted into a graduate school program -- I got almost COMPLETELY better! Like magic!! Hardly any symptoms. Off all medications! I feel better than I ever have including from childhood. I’m just putting it on the table, little fawn……
I am 67 years old and back in college pursuing a degree, and I'm planning to finish my retirement in the South of France so I won't need a car and should be able to see the surrounding countries at leisure. A few years ago, I moved to California to be near my adult daughter and be involved with my two grandchildren. One of them was 4 years old and the other one was 8 months old when I moved there. When the 8-month-old grandson turned 15 months old, my daughter called me one morning and told me she found him dead in his crib. It was considered a suspicious death by the authorities, and I started asking questions. My daughter's response to my questions was to cut me off with no explanation. This also meant that I was no longer able to see the surviving grandson. One night I was on the internet at about 2 am and got on a forum about estranged families. There was a woman from the UK who was contemplating taking her life due to her adult son and daughter-in-law cutting her off from their lives - just like my daughter. I immediately started to encourage her and I told her not to give them the satisfaction, etc. After that online conversation, I felt that I still have a purpose for being here. That purpose is to help lift people up when they can't get up by themselves. We're all in this together. Hopes this helps someone.
I'm 76. My life changed dramatically at age 70. I became a widow. I had no idea what to do or where to go. I had to make changes!! I love travel and nature. So I decided to start traveling and camping. I cried a lot!! But little by little I started to change. The sadness was slowly leaving. My happiness starting to come back. Its been 6 years now. I am content, even at home, when I'm not on the road. I am relaxed and happy now. I will never stop, no matter what. Cherish every moment, every experience, every person in your life.
How did. You decide to travel. I am 70 years old and feel lost.
@@melapost9207 I just did it. My husband and I traveled a lot. I decided I wasn't going to stop. I was going to do it for both of us! It was hard. In time it got better.
@@sherryhicks4156 thank you!
Really enjoyed this video on aging, Susan. Changing how we see ourselves and our capabilities is the best. I'm 71, been alone many years. Aging sometimes makes us feel physically weak, less capable. It's annoying, so we often won't even try. Many things have broken down this year (other than me)...and it's only February! My refrigerator stopped working, clothes dryer stopped heating, gas oven quit working, and a ceiling fan I use nearly year-round to move heat and A/C through the family room gave up an died too. Well, I felt like crying, because on a fixed income, a very fixed income, I can't get things repaired when I want to. The refrigerator was a priority and thankfully, wasn't too expensive $90, definitely cheaper than a new refrigerator. So then I thought, instead of feeling sorry for myself and overwhelmed, I was going to do my own repairs! Sounded a bit crazy and it was a little scary at first...but I prayed and asked the Lord to help me. I took things step-by-step, watched numerous TH-cam DIY repair videos, investigated troubleshooting the parts via official GE website, also for my Kenmore dryer, and spent a whopping $70 for parts for both my dryer and my oven! I started with my gas oven, recalling several videos I watched...had no idea how easy an oven door could be removed. Removed the old part, installed the new one, and now my oven works, and didn't blowup the house either! I was so excited. Even manged to put all the oven pieces back together. Well that repair motivated me to tackle the dryer, which required a kit containing fuses, heating element, thermostat. I changed the parts and now my dryer heats again! I knew the ceiling fan might be the hardest, because they come in way too many parts like a jigsaw puzzle, they're heavy, and was probably gonna be a challenge without a ladder...and believe me, near the end, my neck was pretty sore from looking up for nearly 2 hours...but I did it! And all 3 things totalled $100 for my the beautiful matte black fan with a frosted bowl uplight which I bought on clearance and $70 for the igniter for my oven and the kit for my dryer. I can't imagine what the cost would have been for the three things I took care of myself. Sometimes age really is a state of mind and we just stop trying. We self-sabotage and tell ourselves we can't do that. But I know now I'm not going to be intimidated by the next challenge that comes my way!
You go, girl! So proud of you! Be very proud of yourself!
You are Amazing!
That is amazing ! Congratulations. TH-cam is wonderful for instructions, I have done minor auto maintenance after learning online. Saves me $$$$ . Wish I could do the oil change too but would need help with that. We are pretty amazing . 💜
CONGRATS!!!!🥰
I am so very impressed and inspired! Than you
I turn 65 in 9 days, so this was perfect timing!! I find people who complain age faster. People who smile & laugh, garden, volunteer and do the best that they can do are younger. My life has not been easy, but I refuse to complain and blame. I feel grateful every second of everyday.
Oh yeah and it is hard to be friends with a complainer who even imagines others are doin them wrong and accuses others of things they didnt do! I have said to the complainer, I am stayin out of what you perceive was done wrong to you by my other friend (examine yourself) and that the person you think did you wrong cant read your mind!
Susan, in January I will be turning 62. I plan on retiring. Not to quit life but to be able to do things that I desire.
Your channel has helped me in so many ways.
I no longer call myself old, I will start my retirement living life, writing the book I have started, painting, and even photograph this lovely life.
Thank you dear lady for sharing your life
I’m a 75 year old widow of three years. It has been terribly hard. I had not celebrated any holidays after 40 years of sharing them with the love of my life. I have isolated myself gained weight and depressed. One evening I came across your channel where you talked about not isolating ourselves. You have a very gentle and calming effect. I celebrated my first Christmas with my family since my husband passed. I look forward to your new videos every week.
I love Desi! You are a beautiful, intellectual strong women whom God has blessed you with many artistic gifts.
Thank you for your beautiful beautifully created videos. You have a way of touching my heart and soul.
I don’t know who you are or why I felt compelled to stop and watch this video but I’m moved to tears listening to your words and seeing your facial expressions. I turn 60 this week and most people that know me think I’m living my best life now and I am most days but when I’m alone my fear of aging and being alone and time flying by too fast is crippling. You have such a calming presence and it felt like a much needed therapy session watching you. Thank you and congratulations on getting approved for your home mortgage ❤
I am so glad you stopped...you are so young at 60...but I felt afraid at 50...it's a journey and it's so much better when we trale with friends that understand! Love to you, Susan & Desi
@@LittlePoet you are so wise and kind to respond. I am surrounded by friends and it definitely makes a difference in life. ❤️
Attitude is everything!!! I wear torn jeans, Boho styles, decorate my home in bright colours, and still sing, paint and write... even more than before!!! Experience needs to be used, and wisdom, shared. You do this, beautifully, Susan! I'm 67, and have even more to share and give, than I ever had, before. Hugs to you, dear Susan.🤗🥰❤
Susan..you have come such a long way since the beginning of your channel
You have become more positive..stronger..self confident..independent and an influencer to so many
You have a real gift that keeps growing
You are such a gift to me...and such a gift to other women here who need a group that is pure love and understanding. we are all just walking each other home...
we had an ice storm and lost 6 trees! but luckily we were spared losing electricity
Susan, you and I are just a few months apart in age. I still have my Midge doll. I kept her mostly as a reminder to always be grateful.We usually received one special gift at Christmas. That year, 1965...I asked for a Barbie doll with a case. My parents bought my younger sister Barbie and I got Midge. That was a huge lesson in humility. I cried (in private) not because I didn't get a Barbie. I cried (in private) because I was ashamed for the lack of appreciation for what I had. We were not wealthy, and I knew my parents sacrificed for us. The next year, I asked for a chemistry set, and I made freckle remover. It did not remove my freckles but did eat the finish off of the dresser top my mom just painted. I cried then too. Ha! Midge...red hair and freckles. She needed me as much as I needed her. Right now she's in a box wearing a bronze strapless jumpsuit with bronze lace over dress. That girl!!!
I got Skipper as my older sister had Barbie. Still have her and the few outfits. ❤
OMGosh, I also got Midge (Barbies best friend). My younger sister got Barbie too. My Midge had dark hair. We didn't have the Barbie dream house or, the car. My mom had a small table and it was Midge's apartment. I still have mine too, lol.
I have the same exact story! How funny.
One year my poor mother is f seven children from ego t Santa had not placed anything in my chair ....we cried. But I'm grateful me sister Martha shared her barbie with me for the day......Martha could fix anything
What a sweet story! I had a Midge doll too and it's so special that you still have yours, thank you for sharing.
My grandmother would always tell me "Never say you can't, can't isn't a word to consider. You can do anything you want, you just have to want it bad enough." And then she'd smile, with a twinkle in her eye. That was over 50 years ago and has been a roadmap I've lived by.
Exactly take the T of can’t and you have can 👍
Single woman here, living alone with two dogs,my family is far, far away in a different continent ( Italy). You made me feel so much better.. I just love you!! ❤
68 years and I love my isolation.
Hi Susan: I’ve been following you a couple of months now and I look forward to our visits. You do have a lot of insight that I admire. I’m 87 and I’m living in a senior facility and I’m surrounded by wonderful people. We have “happy hour” twice a week (that starts at 3:30) and life is good for the most part. I’m thankful everyday for my apartment and warmth. Good luck in your search for a home for you and Desi. Keep smiling.
Hi Shirley. Welcome to the group. Susan is very personable, isn't she. Love her sense of humour and vulnerability. Although I've never met Susan in person I feel as if she is a friend. She has a real gift.
I found that my mother's overall health and emotional wellbeing greatly improved when she moved into retirement residence. She was no longer isolated. She was eating well balanced, delicious meals. She was making friends and participating in activities and outings. The staff were wonderful and really took an interest in her health. It was such a relief and joy for us to see our mother blossoming in a way that she hadn't in a very, very long time.
I'm impressed that you have embraced technology, Shirley. You Tube and other social media platforms provide us with the means of connecting to people like Susan that we otherwise would not be able to. It, also, allows us to dive into topics of interest. I love all things archeology. Recently I had cataract surgery. During the healing process (especially during the time in between the two surgeries) I rediscovered audio books. Found a multitude of free recordings on You Tube. My eyes are healed now but I'm still listening to the stories.
Best regards, Shirley - Nancy from Canada
Your positive attitude is so uplifting! Thank you for sharing a little about your life!
I'm in such a dark place and having trouble digging myself out. I'm 78 a widow since 2019. I'm constantly anxious thinking of finances. Guilt regrets lonely and sad. Lost relationships broken-hearted. I have faith that the light will open my heart my mind and my soul to an amazing life.
I understand. God bless you and keep you safe.
In my town they have seniors helping seniors. One thing they have is a roommate program. A senior pays a few hundred dollars for a spare room.
@Toni Y that's a great idea to share space with someone and share a good morning and goodnight and walks in nature or visiting a library but in today's world of strangers I'd be a little afraid. I will certainly think about it. Thank you for your kindness.
@@roxy4158 You are wise, Roxy4158. There are people who exploit seniors who are looking for companionship. You can't be too careful these days. There are Senior Centers and churches with activities for their senior citizens.
Roxy.......That's not sum thing I like to hear. Wow, I'm sorry for your having to go thru
that.. Maybe you heard of
Wayne Dyer.. look up his books or videos. He knew everyone, n been all over the earth. had fantastic family.. He's very fun to listen to..
He just passed recently, but was amazing& so kind & helpful..
one thing i liked he said, thoughts become things. I had to research that ..
He was very generous.
Hope you find better
feeling thoughts.. & heart healing..
Every woman over 60 needs to watch this video.
Oh Susan! This video hit me in a place where it really needed to. I am 60 years old, and am currently taking care of my 34 year old son who has ALS. It is so emotionally and physically draining that if I think about it for very long, I can get into a really dark place. I have learned to do each day one at a time, not worrying about what hasn't happened yet. I often feel like I have lost myself and that I am just a shell of the woman that I once was. However, on a good day, when I have my head in the right place, I realize all of the incredible lessons that I am learning. Things that I would never have learned any other way. Someday, I will get my life back, and hopefully I will be a better person for having lived this time of my life in service to someone besides myself. I am determined to keep living each day with hope and as good of an attitude as I can muster. Thank you for the much needed pep talk! You are a treasure to me.
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It us so hard Tobe a caregiver, but so very rewarding. God bless you.
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Do you have the opportunity to get out sometime?
I’m 71 and widowed for 3 years, just bought a new home in a 55 and over community. I am going to try and have a new positive attitude and I am grateful for all that I have I am blessed! Thank you for your inspirational words, you are special!
Brenda congratulations on your new home❤️
Are you willing to share the City State. I am still considering a 55+ community. Thank you.
Glad you are happy in your new home.
Good for you Brenda ! We always have to have goals no matter our age ! ❤
I understand precisely. Wishing you the very best.
I am a single woman and live in a 55+ community in Texas, but am a Michigan native. I downsized and live in a neighborhood of garden homes, where the people, men and women, are friendlier than the people, usually couples, who live in the neighborhoods of much larger, pricier homes. You can be as active/inclusive as you want with all the activities put on by the groups and clubs at the clubhouse. Get involved in what you enjoy doing and you will make like-minded friends and aquaintances.
Yes! Susan!! Attitude of Gratitude!! Haha!!Yes! I did that, too! I’m 75 now, had my hair done after the pandemic subsided in a sassy, curly Bob! No more self- talking about being an “old lady”! Yes! Isolation had it’s lessons, so there is gratitude that I reached out to God and He lifted me out of a mirey pit! During this pandemic, I tired of coloring my hair, and I gained over 40 pounds! Whoa! Now, I’m in a 12 Step program, and in seven months, I’ve lost 30 pounds and gained some beautiful friends! I’m going to my OA meeting tonight, welcoming some newcomers! Yes! Never ever give up!! Beautiful friends! New home by the ocean soon! Divorced now, so very grateful! There is so much to live for! God bless you all! No failures! Success in overcoming! Thriving not surviving!❤❤❤
As a three time cancer survivor ( first diagnosed at 32) I am very grateful to lead a happy full life at the age of 61. Every new year that we age we are winning. 💕
I lost my Mother when she was 32, I was only seven years old. Well done!
@@flossyflue4305 thank you so much for your kind words. I just saw this. I’m so sorry you lost your mother so young. It truly breaks my heart. I had just had my second child with a two year old as well. I know I fought harder than I would have had I not had them. Each and every time cancer showed its ugly face I just looked at their beautiful faces and knew I had to be here for them. I thankfully was lucky and won. My oldest daughter is getting married this summer! You too must know getting older is a privilege we are not all given.
Its true, we can get stuck in a loop of thinking too much about ourself, life, aging, time limitations... We worry... We cant sleep... Sometimes we really need a distraction for our own good 💕🦋
Hi Susan, Great message in this video. I'm 70, feel 40. Still coping with the death of my husband in 2020, but am getting better every day. I know that I will never be the person I was, so I am looking forward to new adventures and changes. I try to stay away from thoughts of regrets and mistakes. I cannot undue anything. Life is very short. Find happiness in little simple things. Take time to appreciate the sun, snow and all the beautiful nature. Slow Down.
It was great seeing Cooper. He will always be a part of your life. I always love seeing Desi, as I lost 2 of my dogs in 2022. I want to get another dog, but it's not time yet. So happy for you and Desi about your future home. I hope you will show some of the properties that you tour. Please give Desi a big hug. Take care.
When I was 9 years old my only parent, my mother died. That traumatic experience had jolted me into the realization that life was not going to be easy.
Now that I am almost 71, I cannot count the number of days I wasn’t afraid of what could happen. It’s been 60+ years since my mother’s death and every day, is as if I am experiencing that dreadful feeling over and over. Losing my mother early in life made me who I am today, a determined survivor.
Thank you Susan and Dezi . I am loving my older year’s , we all need to be able to laugh at the silly things we do it’s life .
75 is a great age I do intermittent fasting eating living healthy , look after my skin still enjoy wearing my makeup just a little less . Wearing nice clothes and trying to look my best.
YIPPEE - another lady who's 'got the memo'. Don't know if you've read my long reply in these comments, but you're doing the right thing to stay young and relevant. Good for you. xx
Yes, I practice Intermittent Fasting. Prayer and Meditation and Energy Healing practices.
Very Grateful. 🌺
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Yeeessss! That’s how you do it, you beautiful creature!! ❤️
Yes!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you Susan! You are helping all of us understand aging. We need to be gentle with ourselves and grateful that we are blessed to be alive. Growing old is a privilege.
Such a beautiful sentiment! I feel blessed every day to be here for my husband and grown children.
Instead of self pity, I have self compassion. At 67, I am not the maiden or the mother, but I am the crone. I have visions and goals and mostly I have self acceptance. You haven't seen the last of me yet! Your home is waiting for you to find it!
I too am the crone…we are wise women, we are confident and sure of ourselves…we are beautiful!!
I,m 63 on my way to 65 lol I don,t think we,re old til we,re 80+ these days.
I turned 60 in January. Im feeling good, but I'm feeling sad a lot. Time has flown. My mom said age is just a number. I agree.
Susan that is how I’m feeling like my life is over and I’ll be 57 next month. I feel young in my heart but old in my head and I really feel like people looks thru me now not to me. I’m told all the time how great I look but I just feel like I’m running out of time to be happy or to look good. And I’ll set and think we’ll if I live as old as my mom I’ve only got 12 years I obcess over these things. I just want to feel happy ❤ And I never quit thinking about myself. And I dream I’m young and pretty all the time with a nice firm body. But you do look so wonderful bSusan just beautiful and so smart too❤❤❤
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I feel that I lost my youth in doing nothing. I lost lots of time and sometimes I get saddened by it. I should've had done more. So now I'm paying for the consequences of things I did and didn't do. Sad but true. I feel like if I'm racing for my life now that I'm 57! I'm not were I want to be, but I'm still trying to get there.
@@lolita748 Sounds so much like me. I’m chasing something but it’s like I’m rocking in a rocking chair you never get anywhere. This is what happens when you are consumed with fear, worry and anxiety it’s like rocking in a chair you do a lot of rocking but never get anywhere. But I’ll keep trying also. My husband is the opposite he says he never worries about age just lives for the moment. I’ve never lived for the moment always for the past and the future.
Try talking to God, open up and say what you feel and ask for strength and help. It does work.
@@karendegraaf1146 I definitely talk to God I guess his time is just not my time 🙏
♥️ This made me cry a little. Not sure why. Maybe because you just made me think. And maybe because I'm a little envious of your peace and contentment. My daughter just went off to college last Fall, and out of the blue has stopped speaking to me. It's devastating being 60 and alone. Sometimes I think I could die and be laying here for days before anyone would even notice... Anyway, I always so look forward to your videos, Susan!
Hi Loving Truth, I hear you. I feel the same but maybe more than…I have not spoken to my son since last April. We have became strangers for reasons known and reasons unknown. I decided to just let it go, to let him live his life at his own choosing is also LOVE. Meantime I have to start over again to learn to Love myself a new way! Please leave your grieving over this loss and let your daughter decide when will be time to connect again! There is a time and season for everything….live in your peace is the best gift you could give to yourself. Blessings, Chantelle ❤
Same. About the crying and adult children at arms length - or further. I blamed myself for years. It hasn’t helped.
Be strong ,she will come back to you,this often happens,when they get their first taste of independence.just get on with your life until ,she grows up…. but she will.
@@chantellucky4565 Thank you! I'm trying.... It's just she an I did Everything together... we were a team, and now she's acting like she hates me. Where did I go wrong (I'm racking my brains). I came upon a Groupon parents with adult estranged kids, and I'm dumbfounded as to the NUMBER of parents to whom this is happening. 💔 Prayers appreciated!
I love Susan's channel, I love this community as well. Often Susan's videos make me feel weepy, it's very bittersweet, which I guess is what life can be. The reality stares us in the face and often times it's overwhelming. I'm sorry about the issue you have with your daughter, this too happened with my son in the past. He did come around, but it was one of the most the most painful time of my life. My relationship with Christ grew tremendously and I discovered much about myself, but it was a lonely time. It seems as though this is occurring more and more with our children, you hear so many parents grieving how their kids have forsaken them. I find much comfort from this channel & community, a place where we can share and be understood. 🙏for you and your daughter.
Thank you for expressing my truth . I AM 68 and you are right, this is not for the cowards.
I'm 65 and have been feeling the same way. Don't recognize myself in the mirror, and trying to figure out who the OLD me is now!
I am half way to 58, and aging is not as I expected. It is rough, realizing that my body and brain do not respond as I did 20 (or even 5!) years ago! During this Pandemic I had an agreement to but a home nearby, and as a single woman, I was proud and excited to move forward with my life! It was not to be, thru no fault of my own. Patience. Grace. These are things I am continually learning, and that we are all in this life storm together.... even though we sometimes feel so alone. I am grateful that I found your channel in these past 3 months, because I find we all have much in common. Thank you for sharing, and thank you for each member of this community!
Half way to 58 is 29! 😊
I love your inspiration. I'm a 63 yo woman who has a lot of heartache. I shattered my femur 17 months ago and after an intensive surgery, it never healed and finally a month ago I had another surgery to remove and replace my distal femur and knee. I'm still healing but I started watching your videos and just had an epiphany. My whole outlook changed. As soon as I rehab, I'm going to start volunteering at a local women's shelter, start taking classes and volunteer at my local community garden. My only child, my daughter estranged herself from me 10 yrs ago. I'm finally realizing I have a life to live, with or without her. I'm tired of moping around, feeling sorry for myself. I got a 2nd chance from being an invalid to becoming a vibrant person that still has alot to learn, alot to give and alot to enjoy. God bless you for giving more to your viewers than you can possibly imagine.
I have struggled with anxiety my whole life, but it has really ratcheted up several notches in recent years. I’m a 62 yo recent retiree and I’ve really struggled. I thought retirement would fix a lot of problems but it didn’t. One thing that has helped my anxiety enormously is focusing on gratitude instead of fear.
Oh dear, I'm also 62 and retiring in a week and was hopeful that retirement would solve a few of my problems 😮I also have anxiety but like you wrote , I'll try to focus on gratitude
@Patricia Schramm Strangely enough, it took some time to adjust to retirement. Not sure why, except maybe it changed my routine. I'm doing much better now and really enjoying my time off. Are you a retiring teacher, too?
@@loriar1027 I'm glad that you're doing better and now enjoying your retirement 😊. I'm now retired and haven't really found a routine yet, but I'm working on it. I too, am concentrating on gratitude. And no, I wasn't a teacher , I worked for an airline , in their premium lounges.....though sometimes it DID feel like I was a teacher as the passengers oftentimes acted like children 😏
I retired 4 years ago and I felt off balance , like my work life is over and now I'm old. It took another couple of years and a knee injury that took a long time to heal and for me to join the gym and now I feel younger than I did 4 years ago. Think young and you will feel young!
I'm 62, and for the first time ever my two adult sons have moved away - in different directions - all within a month of each other. The rest of my family have all passed, and I've never felt as isolated as right now. I'm blessed to have a few deep friendships that have lasted many years, and they will continue, but my family is my entire world. And, getting older has put me in somewhat of a tailspin. I know my spirit is prompting me to seek a brand new fresh start, and so your video came at just the right time. Knowing there are many women experiencing the same thing, is, in some strange way, a comfort. Thank you for sharing your story. ♥
How painful your son's moved away. Did either of them ask you to join them? To move nearby? Life changes and we have no say, no control. One day we're busy with life and children and then it all changes... I hope your life becomes full... push yourself... just get out there and get involved in something... doors will open... blessings to you 💜
@leahnorman9629 Thank you so much for your kind words. Yes, my youngest has asked me to move close to where he is, out of state. I'm making plans for later this year. The destination isn't where I normally would choose to be, but being near him is what's important. I'm welcome where my oldest son is, too, but he's there for work, and he's unsure if he'll need to uproot again. Life does have its twists and turns! I'm just so grateful my business is mobile, and I can take it with me when I move near my son. May your life be blessed also.
@@lisadailey So happy you're moving to be near your son. I wish you happiness, health and peace of mind. Hugs to you, Lisa❣️
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Don’t make your family to be your whole world. Your children are meant to leave. That means you raised healthy boys. Something is calling you… I hear it… Listen carefully and get going!! I think your life is just beginning….
You are so right! I wish I could go back to the 80's and correct my decisions.
Me too
Me three.
Thank you so much for truly giving me a dose of reality each week. I'll be 69 this yr and since I lost my Mom when she was 70 I keep thinking my life will end when I too, turn 70. It's completely irrationally and I know it but it still haunts me. You really bring a wonderful dose of reality to my life. Thank you.
Both my lovely grandparents passed at 62 Buț their daughter , my mother lived till 96 So try not to dwell on this as you will probably have a good long life dear. My fathers parents passed in their 50’s all their children have only just passed in the last few years. All lived till their mid 90’s too. You just enjoy each & every Year doing things that help lift you. Im 73 soon & I thought I would be s my grandparents were early to finish my earthly life, Buț no am still here, & feel blessed. Kindest thought from UK 💐
I ‘m also 69 and my Mom died at 70. Much too young. My heart goes out to you❤
I am 71. My father died at 50, and my youngest brother was 16. He was with our dad when he died--very traumatic for him. He truly believed since then that he would also die when he turned 50. He is now 66. When he survived 50 he began to feel free. Don't let a thought take your enjoyment of life from you. No one knows the future. I lost a 16 year old son in an auto accident 19 years ago. I felt like I too was going to die in an auto accident very soon. But it didn't happen. I don't know what puts these thoughts in our heads when we are grieving, but try to erase them. They are the boogeyman in our brains, I think.
Trish? I have those same "haunting" thoughts. I think your feelings are shared by many of us but we have to realize that "our" reality is much different because we have greater access to all the advances in medicine and science that our mothers did not and will therefore live much longer, healthier lives than they did. I hope that truth eases your worries.❤️
Only the good Lord knows how time will pass for any one of us. We don’t know when we will be born nor when we die. So, live each moment to its fullest so you don’t worry so much about a future you cannot control anyway.
Thank you Little Poet. You gave me hope today that as I turn 65 on the 28th of this month, I can accomplish anything I want. If you can be approved and buy a house, so can I and others with a little hard work and determination. I want my children to see I’m not just a little old lady that’s their Mom. I want them to say when Mom makes her mind up, look out, she’s never going to stop. Yea, I want to be a successful “ME”. At our age anything is possible. Remember ladies it’s just a number…. It’s not our identity. I CAN! ❤
I’m so very Happy for You Susan! Your such a Beautiful Soul ! Your an amazing woman ! I’m 63 and a Widow and last summer I closed on my Dream home on top of a mountain 🏔 just me and my fur babies , and I had some Realitors just like you said , just plain mean spirited ! But remember, Good always Wins ! I’ve never been happier, and you will be too ! Good luck 🍀 ❤
My beautiful husband died twenty nine years ago today at two days before he was to turn fifty.
How grateful I am to be still be here all these years later to remember him and pass memories of him to our grandchildren. This is one of the most wonderful posts from you Susan. Thank you.x
I ordered tge other day a few boho style tops for spring and summer. Though Cali is under blizzard warnings now, we have a few weeks of spring, then 5 months of summer. You, Susan inspired this tired, warn down 59 yr old. You have given me permission to like who I am now, chubby, hair thinning, skin not so tight, crows feet, arthritis and all. You turned me onto great new skin care products and ideas. Thank you. Thank you for your bravery and humor and enthusiasm.
Dear Susan, three years ago at 64 I did exactly what you’re about to do. I left my city, friends and all that was familiar and moved three hours away to a smaller town to be near my grandchildren. I cannot express with words the love that I feel spending time with my grandsons. They make me feel valued, appreciated and my focus shifts away from my problems to them. My small garden makes me appreciate the beauty in life. Thank you for all your videos you are a true artist, and I can’t wait to see your new videos of your garden, I am so very excited for you. (I had a Tammy doll, wanted a Barbie but I still loved her)
I still have my Tammy doll! 💛
Tammy was a great doll! I had friends who had Tammy dolls, so I played with Tammy at their house.
I’m 74 and I’m as busy as I care to be. I don’t feel old, as a matter of fact I had a group of hospital staff that took turns coming into my room. I was there for a simple test. They couldn’t believe I was 74. I’m silly , quick with a joke and feel mentally 35. I’m a happy soul for the most part. I’m blessed to have a husband, who I still like and love, family close by. Being happy is the key. Politics are depressing. I prefer a good movie or some good music. I have hobbies I love, painting, reading, piano,granddaughters,cooking,and decorating our home. I have two ridiculous girlfriends that are crazy funny but live in different states, we torture each other with teasing and picking on each other, we laugh like crazy. I enjoy cleaning , it’s part of my exercise. Life is wonderful. Now go do something fun that you love!
I too have similar hobbies, and friendships are important and keep you happy too!
Ladies - we are still here. I cannot stand these stereotypes around age, especially around women. Life has different stages. Ageing is not for the faint hearted. See how strong you are for successfully getting to this stage in your lives. And yes, youth is wasted on the young. But each life stage has something to offer that is worth celebrating 🎉.
Love this channel. Thank You ❤ 🇦🇺🦘
Correct!! ❤️❤️
I tell people that I'm 18 years old with 50 years of pracice. Attitude is everthing!
Hi Susan As a 71 year old, I have been having these feelings too about being in this stage of life. I had a good career that is now finished. I had good friends who have either passed away, moved away, or have moved on from me. I’ve been happily married for 53 years and it makes me sad to know we have more time behind us than ahead. So, here’s what I do- I appreciate all the things that remind me of happy times and especially listen to long lost favorite songs that now can be found online. Over the past few years colors have really triggered memories of experiences or clothes I wore back in the day -I have fun wearing clothes that recall those earlier looks-it’s part of the “ fabric” of me. And, I refuse to go gray. When I look in the mirror I want to see the me I remember with my hair color. Not me with gray hair. Thank You as always for these very special visits. Hi Desi❤
I also enjoy music and fashion, and whenever see clothes that look like the ones I had I would like to buy them or better still, I also would like to sew them! Another hobby of mine, sewing and knitting very relaxing.
I agree! I refuse to go gray because I have a choice!
Susan, I'm older 72 and all of a sudden I was without transportation. Lost two cars in one year. No Buses where I live. I decided, I was tired of feeling sorry for myself n I called a taxicab. Took myself out to dinner. After dinner, cab unable to come n get me. I refuse to be down. I went window shopping. While doing that. Here come a good friend. Who knew I probably needed a ride and gave me one. I had just said, Lord I hope someone give me a ride. What a beautiful ending! Life is too great to worry. Be Grateful for what you do have and what you can still do! Thanks
Big Rapids? Love•Love•Love that college town! I even love the area north of there, cutest small towns that make me swoon- I used to live in Cadillac for a snippet of my life - and adored it there while I delivered flowers for my Aunt & Uncle’s flower shoppe- Those were the most glorious days! We will need to meet for whatever warm drink you prefer one day- and to go thrifting! Yay! One of my favorite pastimes where we live in Indiana is antiquing with my brother and learning about historical places and items- I also have set new rules for myself and just to enjoy every single minute of every single day- 😎
Attitude is so important. I will be 75 in a few months but I have never felt old or finished. I have new friends, new interests, dress in a non dowdy way, laugh, learn new things. I never thought that my age defined me so it hasn't.
Brilliant
Well done
May God continue blessing you
As I turn 75 this month, I’m grateful to have lived this long. I’m an artist and still run a small studio gallery with another artist - she is 85! Making art keeps us young and in the flow.
Love your channel and just noticed you are almost at 100K subscribers. You go, Girl!
Thank you so much for being here!! Happy weekend! xo Susan & Desi
Hi Susan, I’m Bill. New husband of Sandra Brown Life passed 80. We watch your channel all the time. I personally am very impressed with your production of your videos. Where you add photos or excellent videos which make your videos so entertaining. I love the stories you shared about events in your life, some sad, some happy but always enjoyable. You are a beautiful lady and so talented. I wish for you to find the special home you are looking for. I pray for you Susan that you find a true and happy love to fill your life. I know Sandy and I have found each other and I wish that for you too. Okay back to my writing. God Bless you and Desi. If you ever vacation to Tennessee, let us know. We would love to have was our guest. Thank you for your videos.
Im so happy you are becoming a home owner. Im a realtor for 30 years so I know it's not an easy thing to do in life.Congratulations! "Faith can move mountains". Mathew 17-20. I became more successful when I went through my divorce being alone to to support my 3 kids I had no choice but succeed. FYI I have dolls that I could never have as a child and enjoy looking at them even in my 60s. So go buy yourself a doll.
Congratulations on receiving approval for a mortgage Susan, can’t wait to see your new abode and how you decorate- of course can’t wait to see Desi zooming around the backyard 😂, how exciting 🎉🎉
That blouse looks beautiful on you♥️
When I husband was dining I ask him what would I do without him . He did not answer right away . He thought a while and said we have had a good life get on with your life and don’t let anyone tell you what to do . And be happy .
Aging on the outside is frightening to me. I miss me. Inside the maturity is nice. When I watch shows of yesteryear and listen to music, I really miss me. I miss my parents, friends, many has passed but yes, I am grateful for everything. I'm slowly surrending to the now, but these times in our world is awful. Surrending is in a way welcoming.
Can so relate with you on this. For myself, I learned that I was going through (and still am ) an identity crisis. So many reasons why but I'm trying to figure it out. It's common and it's normal. I'm so excited for you that not only will you be a new homeowner but I noticed that you are very close to 100K subs! You are a truly amazing woman. So happy I found you and Desi who I love to the moon 🥰
Can never comprehend why Susan doesn't have triple the amount of subscribers
A lot of things you talked about really hit home with me today. I am rapidly approaching my 70th birthday. And I was in the mind set that this, my life was over and it was too late for anything new. I felt un-needed, un-wanted, basically useless. My friends have all passed away, My father has passed away, and a year ago, we lost our Mom too. My marriage is pretty much dead and has been for a long while. My children are grown, one lives close by, and the other has a home far away. My oldest is dealing with seriouis health issues, so much so that there is a possibility of losing her. But I am trying to be more hopeful and positive that there something out there left for me. There has to be a purpose for my still being here, although there are some naysayers that have pretty much written me off. I am one of those people that if you tell me I can't...I will...twice...just to say HA! I have decided to give it all I can and find my purpose! thank you and I wish you well and a long beautiful life!
Pamela, you are SO needed! Naysayers?? Stay away from them. If you are still here then you have work to do. Figure out what you love. Then do that. There are lots of videos on TH-cam to help you figure out what you really want to do now. Get back to living now! It’ll be fine!!
This was awesome! Every word was music to my ears. I'm 57 and realized I bought my first house at 50, all by myself and I love it. I'm 57 now - will be 58 in July. Most days I think age is a number, not a definition but I have days where I have a pity party of one but soon get myself out of it. God intended life to be an experience with all kinds of feelings, ups and downs but He's always there with me. My beloved dog Lucky passed away on Nov 7th and I'm only now starting to feel less sad and MORE grateful I was blessed to have him in my life for 8 years. Life has been very good to me , looking back I know I took it for granted but not anymore! I love your channel, and this video in particular hit home for me in all the best ways. Thank you ❣❣
I think you'd like (or love) Chynna Phillips' channel: California Preaching.
"Don't let the old lady in!" is an adaptation of a line by Clint Eastwood in "The Mule," In 2018 I had a medically challenging year that included among other issues was a double mastectomy. Now in 2023, I am younger than ever, even creating a vegetable garden, exercising, eating well, and returning to others that which they gave to me that year. My mantra has been this: as we navigate life, we have a choice. We can get BITTER, or we can get BETTER. It's a choice. Choose wisely dear ladies. Don't let the old lady in!
This was absolutely beautiful. Thank you for sharing and opening up your heart so others can see the strong woman in you. I too have had so many trials and some very life threatening. I don't look back. I look forward. I live each day as it unfolds. I'll be 65 this spring. I don't mind and pretty much accept who I've become. Accepting and moving forward in your circumstances is the key. Life will throw so much at you but you can fine one thing to enjoy. One cup of coffee with a favorite treat and drink from your favorite cup will get you through one day. Find some favorite things in which to surround yourself. Make the view out your window one of happiness with birds, or flowers, or a fountain. But have that one window and that one favorite cup. Soon you'll have a set of cups and a garden of treasures in your heart. That is happiness when you look within and not without. I'm so happy you are getting a home near your grandchildren. I will pray it's a little retreat for you and Desi. hugs sweet girl and puppy
Thank you for your inspiration about aging and embracing it. I live in a building for people over 55, and there is this one lady in her 70's and she is so much fun. I honestly thought she was 60. Her outlook has changed my mind. It really is how you look at things, and your attitude.
I am an 85-year-old widow. I have been alone for 20 years. I did really well until a few years ago. I was active and busy and life was good but in 2016 I woke up one morning with a stiff neck which was the first symptom of spinal stenosis. In 2017 I had back surgery and I am better but I cannot be as active as I once was. The pandemic also added to my isolation and depression. My mobility is not good and so I stay at home instead of struggling with a walker out in public. My sleeping habits aren't good and I don't eat right. I am losing hope of ever having a rich full life again. Your video showed up at a time when I really needed it. My back problems aren't going away, but my attitude can change, there are things I can do and I know I need to be doing them. I have so much to be grateful for. Thank you for your encouraging video.
Good evening. This is my first time seeing your TH-cam channel. Just kind of came over it. Isn't it funny how that happens. I am in tears now, just little ones. I am 75 and trying to grow old as tastefully as possible. Thank your for your kind words tonight. I will be back. I am trying to 'shed my skin' to be a healed and normal person again. I have done it before and will do it again. We all need to give ourselves a break. Blessings to all.
Thanks for subbing...you sound so wonderful and I can relate to what you are feeling...I feel it too.
I'm 35 but you are an inspiration for me, I truly respect you for honoring your time and your life this way. I think we all put ourselves under so much pressure, each stage of life comes with its struggles and we often get trapped in our ideas of what our life should look like. Thanks for reminding us all of the value of Life and how to stay connected to it.
You've produced another masterpiece, Susan. I wish I were younger, though. I'm struggling because of being very ill at 81. Your background music and lovely face do make things better for me. I can hardly wait to see you find and settle in to your new home. Lots of hugs.
I am so excited for us to find our new home!!!
I wish you improving health. Try to pamper yourself a little everyday. I am working on labels for my photo albums. I have some pictures from the 40's that Mom is in, but who are the other people??!
Last year when I was 66, I began to feel lonely, abandoned and unloved. I started praying about it and asking God to help me. I started thinking about what hobbies I might be interested in starting. I used to do a little photography and thought I might try that again. My husband and I started a you tube channel and it has really helped us find a new adventure in life. You have been a real inspiration to me. During this time of struggle in my life, is when I found your channel. You are a real help to women that are struggling with aging. Please keep up the good work and allow Jesus to use you! You are a Blessing to Everyone!
Hi! I love your videos!!!! It gives me hope …..I am 76 years young. My mom died at 76 so I know how she felt in 2003. I wonder if this is my year to die too as we were like sisters instead of mother and daughter as we talked ever day and I miss her so much. I took care of my I’ll Dad for 10 Years as the gift to know him from the 3 job hardworking Dad that we never knew. My real blessing. Now I understand his lack of strength and loss of interest at times due to our failing bodies. I was married to a narcissist for 27 years who threatened my life almost daily . I stayed for my 3 children who he claimed her would kill. Today almost 56 years later he still uses our children as threats including grandchildren. I know how he destroyed the family. And he blames me to be a victim. I have not seen my sons since 1993 and that is terrible pain as I fight loneliness. I saw my daughter and granddaughter a after 17 years and we had a 10 year relationship. I found out the X was using my daughter to take inheritance since that was why he married me in the first place. My daughter claimed on June 26, 2022 the her dad divorced me because I was a lousy wife. He still lies to his children, has no feelings for them and I want to set the record straight, but don’t want to cause my children pain. I don’t know if I can stand to see him again and stay calm in a lawsuit to expose him. My children are the most important and their biggest hurt is still to come when the ring out he used them for his biggest revenge against me as he claimed almost 30 years ago with threat of their deaths. I want to just die quietly alone, so they don’t have to deal with his mental illness. I have grandchildren I have never met (3). He is 80 and married one of his 6 affairs after my filled divorce on January 5. 1995 after he stole $200,000.00 from his employer as one of many crimes. I had no other way out and lost my babies.😢
What made me happy was getting a divorce at 60. I didn’t realize how hard my life was as a married person. My life is full and happy now. So little more stress but so worth it. My life is not easy by any means, but I’m grateful and humble and therefore happy. I just turned 64 last week. My hair is down to my waist and totally silver. I am an old lady and I love it. I am a survivor of 14 heart attacks and I treasure every wrinkle that I have because I am a survivor. I am definitely a hermit, I love being by myself. For me it’s very comforting. Good luck in your house hunting.
Chrisgilmore, I am 73, will be 74 in August, and I feel like a hermit also. Sometimes, I feel content, but I wish I had a friend who would scrapbook with me.
@@denizewhitsell1882 hi Denize! I laughed when I saw your scrapbook comment because when I was 40 I owned a scrapbook store. I still, if you can believe it, have tons of supplies from when I sold it. I use them, outdated by today’s standards, but they’re still very pretty. I scrapbook for my grandson who is two. I wish you health and happiness, that is something that we all deserve.
You survived 14 heart attacks?! Look at you! You're so vibrant and happy... proof that, generally, ur happiness is our choice. Why don't you start a speaking career!
@@leahnorman9629 I freeze in front of people, not my comfort zone. I make the most out of every day that I have. We never know how many days we have left, but I sure am pushing it. I hope and pray that you and Desi are settled and enjoying your new home and your family. That truly is the most precious gift in life. Sending you prayers and love.
I was waiting for you to post this weeks video. You always do such a great job. You make me feel better each time I see your channel. You have a way about you that I can relate to you just like we are close friends. Thanks for all the encouragement you give and it really helps. I am 63, divorced and have my health problems to deal with right now. I have a hard time feeling good about myself and you make me feel better when I watch your channel. Again, thank you for what you do. God has put you in this place to help people like me to have the strength to keep on going. Love you, Ms. Susan!!
Well done if I’d been rejected three times I wouldn’t have managed to try again.
I'm getting ready to turn 64 yrs old this month. I cant believe it! I work out and try to eat right but sometimes I call myself an old lady. I fluctuate between wanting to look and feel younger and just thinking what the heck does it matter just give in. But, then I wake up and start anew, turn on the music and dance and feel good! God has blessed me with another day and I am grateful! I remember when JFK died and my Mom cried. I grew up with a Dad who was not affectionate and never told me he loved me until right before he died. What I learned is that there are different types of love languages. My Dad's love language was that he was a good provider for his family. We had what we needed and I am proud of him and grateful.
So beautiful and touching Susan! I was in 2nd grade and my teacher came into the room crying and told us Our President had been killed. We were let out of school too! I will never forget that day nor the days that proceeded. My family loved President Kennedy, our whole nation was in mourning! That was my very first time to experience grief in my family. It most definitely was an impactful experience.
I love this video. It was so sweet the way you spoke about the Kennedys and how your family related to them. I wasn't born until after John F was killed. I was born in January 1966... but I was named after Jacqueline Kennedy. From what I understand my parents prayed hard for a girl so they could have their own Jackie. I had some big shoes to fill. I go by Jackie. I adore the Kennedys and all they represented at that time. I feel young even though I just turned 57. I felt like I was losing myself or had already lost myself when I turned 55. I decided to make some changes and finally put myself first. My children were grown and gone and have lives of their own... my husband has given up on living somewhat... totally lost interest in me... our marriage so I decided that I needed to put my energy into myself. I had weight loss surgery almost 2 years ago and Susie... I swear I've been reborn. I have lost 150 lbs and feel like a new woman. I walk 5 miles a day... I completely changed my eating habits... I work out... drink my water... take supplements... I take care of myself now. I know I'm in the last quarter of the game... but isn't the last quarter the most important? Well, it is to me! I've really started living this last year and can't wait to see what comes over the next few years. I feel like I'm on the verge of something amazing! Thank you so much for being so inspirational Susan. I relate to you so much! Thank you for all you do... I look so forward to your videos!!!
@@Rose-gw1nv thank you so much... much love to you!
Wow! The clip you showed at the end from several years ago- you seem like you are much older than you are now. Your attitude was much different. You now have life and hope in your voice!! ❤
I still cry when I see clips of Cooper.
We are all just walking each other home.
Thats is beautiful Kimberly....we really are family here
Just came across your lovely video. 66 and widowed for 10 years. Got sucked into the online dating thing instead of focusing on me. After two disappointing relationships and many many miserable dates, I decided I needed to figure out who I was. Long story short, I am selling my house this spring along with pretty much everything I own and I'm moving to France. I have dreamed of going there ever since I was little girl. This is 'my' time and I am hell bent on doing the things I have always wanted to do, but pushed aside while raising a family. I love my family and they can fly over to see me anytime they want. They are excited for me. Pilates also saved me from falling into the 'old lady' trap. I feel better and I move better. Also taking dance lessons and will be performing a Waltz for the spring Showcase before I move. You truly only go around once. Make it a good one! You owe to yourself.
Thank you so much for being here!! Happy weekend! xo Susan & Desi
Bon chance, mon Jolie Cher! You are doing things right!!!!
Susan, I have to tell you how RAW and Amazing this video you made for us was…. Every second I watched I was enthralled with each word you said. I could only imagine everyone of your subscribers listened and felt like you were talking to just them….WOW this video was truly a work of art.. 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
I agree.
I feel the same way when I watch her videos. It's like watching a beautiful movie that you don't want to end! Karen
I have watched a lot of videos….
this is the best videos I have stumbled upon ….as I am 70 yrs old , and could relate to the same kind of family upbringing as yours . I have been battling bladder cancer for 12 years now but I in remission now . These are the things important and essential to live life theses days …Prayer thanking God everyday, being kind to others , being grateful, taking a walk every day , even if it’s cold , vitamins , drinking lots of water , putting on a red lipstick, keeping my nice appearance makes me feel great too …thank you for the video
I'm finding 65 rather challenging. I'd like to retire but I can't. People have passed, people have moved on. I don't have the contacts I used to. It's definitely different.
Ice storm....better to be safe at home,.. you look marvelous tonight.
Holy cow, was that a thought-provoking video, especially the part about looking back at childhood and identifying something that informed how we are as adults. I had to think really hard as I had a wonderful childhood. I had two parents who loved me and were proud of me as well as a close-knit extended family.. But I also remember the many, many trips to see doctors. I was very young, around 2, when I was diagnosed with Juvenile Theumatoid Arthritis, something that would eventually cause me to become legally blind in adulthood. I can't tell you how many times I was told that "they" had to draw blood and if I didn't cry, I'd get something, usually a new Barbie (or a Mide... lol). I came to value self-control as a result and while that makes me wonderful in a crisis, I am uncomfortable and dismayed by those who lose their sh*t , either in grief or anger. I didn't cry at my beloved father's funeral; in fact, I spoke at it. But I've cried many times in private, still missing him 10 years later. A strength... and a weakness both.
Hi I like your title. I've been lost for a while. Lost 2 kitties, had surgery came out blind in one eye, my sister passed away. Numb, lost. My siblings wont contact me. No idea why. I pray all the time. You look amazing
Dearest Little Poet you hit a home run with this video! Time has its relevance and similarities for us all. My weakness stemmed too from Kennedy’s assassination. Only I was home sick from school that day and listened to Walter Cronkite choke up on TV as he expressed his shock and sadness at the news with his viewing audience around the world. I cried myself to sleep that night. I was all of 9 years old and didn’t understand exactly how to feel much less comfort myself. I, too, came from a family who loved me without hugs. During my recovery from German measles then I had more time than I anticipated to be home without being able to connect with my peers so I could talk and figure out what I was doing or supposed to be doing with such tragic news. My family members were not good at communicating. So, I learned to give a hug when sadness overcame me or someone else and to speak soft words of kindness when needed. I became very good at writing and reaching out through mailing letters and notes to others when the mood struck me. Over the years my writing skills improved as did the wisdom of age that tagged along to entertain the recipient. In the game of life, as in baseball, they say three strikes and you’re out. What they don’t tell you is how well you swung trying that gave you the courage to maybe hit that ball out of the park. So, keep on swinging or catching and see how many chances you will get to be at bat and actually win a game or two. It is in the trying that makes the difference and the challenge met. Hey…take me out to that ballpark any time. Maybe Desi might like to fetch a ball or two as well. Continue to feel better and inspire us all the more with your tenderness and thoughtful conversations. I so look forward to growing old with you!!💖🌻🙏🍀🎹
Thank you so much for being here. You have lifted my life so much. I got my first bottle of Genius Algenist from Safora. I can not live with out it now. Its the most incredible serum I have ever used. I bought a new jacket. I did it for me. Because of you, I started doing things for me again. Thank you Susan. I had forgotten about me for so long.
Yes, so true! Thank you Susan for all your wonderful inspirations.
Susan, my family was like yours. They never showed physical affection but I knew that I was loved. The way that my parents and grandparents showed their love was with material things. Buying me clothes, toys and other things was their way of saying I love you. When I had my daughter I showered her with physical affection. I constantly told her how much I loved her and how proud I was of her. I showered her with kisses and hugs constantly.
Susan, I can’t wait for you to take us along with you house hunting. Buying a new house is so exciting and I am so very happy for you. I just know that the house you buy will be as cute as a button and you will fill it full of love and warmth.
Love to you and Desi ❤
At 66, been single my entire life...I'm a 🏹 Sagittarius ( what else is new)... bought a Northstar camper and a used midsize Tundra truck ...sold the Prius... no more Uber driving for me, I did four years of that...now I'm so done. Inspired by John Steinbeck's book: Travel's with Charlie, began the on the road travels and began my writing practice. While traveling mostly off grid and sadly without a dog, later however, took to learning how to groom dogs professionally; might open a doggie day care in the future; as a dog walker now and not traveling... until Fall. So much fun thinking about expanding the possibilities...
Thank you so much for your channel. When I turned 60 I handled it very well. When I was 65 I was happy to get medicare! Yay! But now I'm 66 and I'm seeing myself in the mirror and I'm not liking what I see. My face is changing and I don't really recognize who that woman is in the mirror. I have had 2 knee replacements and 2 hip replacements. As I had one joint done and beginning to feel amazing the other joint would go out, this went on for 8 years. I am now the bionic woman! I have started to be more active now that I am done with pain for the most part. Needless to say I have gained weight in the past 8 years really past 10 years. I'm just not that happy with myself most of the time. I am struggling terribly with my weight and I can't wear the clothes I used to enjoy wearing and that bothers me. What you said in this video is so true!! I found myself feeling sorry for my self which made me feel worse!! I have been involved with a women's group at my church and focusing on other people instead of myself and that has turned me around some. I still have moments where I'm still not happy with the way I look (usually when I am getting ready to go out and have to get dressed up) but your video gave me motivation to look into the way I wear my makeup and change up my clothes and find a style that suits me! To lift up my spirits. Thank you for your channel and I look forward to seeing your past videos while waiting for your next one. I really love your spirit and attitude. Thank you.