I was married to my narcissist for 35 years and had wanted out for a long time. He found new supply and he treats her completely different than he treated me. It’s a definite master and slave relationship. He’s terrible with her and she tolerates behavior I would never put up with. Narcissist definitely only get worse over time. I’m just grateful to be out!!!!!
I have been married to my narcissist husband for 22yrs .. I have also wanted and needed out for a long time due to my health mentality and physically being absolutely terrible .. I am waiting on God to show me my way out .. Our children are finally grown .. And I have to save myself , it's even harder without my kids living at home .. May God Be With You 🙏❤️💯
@@mitchlizreece7945 I feel your pain! My relationship with the narcissist affected my physical health as well. I know how hard it is to leave. Please check out Dr Ramani and Melanie Tonia Evans on TH-cam they have helped me tremendously. Rebecca Zung is also a good resource she’s a lawyer who specializes in narcissist and divorce. There is a good life away from the narcissist. Continue to pray for gods guidance and he will show you the way. Sending hugs and prayers your way
Can I ask, how do you know he’s treating her awful, from stories people have told you/stuff you’ve seen, or you’re thinking he is? I only ask cos my ex narc is still with his new supply and I don’t understand how he’s still with her cos our relationship was a rollercoaster
When you’re with a narcissist, you’re always thinking there’s some formula you need to work out that’ll make them consistently love you. So, when you see them “happy” with someone new, you think this person discovered the formula and is reaping the benefits. But the only formula lies with the narcissist turning inward and embracing their true selves, which they’re too afraid to do.
I’ve been on both ends.. at one time I WAS the new supply. And the script is EXACTLY the same, even hearing the same words VERBATIM, except swapping places.. but I DON’T think-why not me.. I think thank god my eyes were opened, because I’ve endured this torture long enough
narc's "style" will reflect _your_ personality style. If you are more independent minded, they will be micro-managing to try and gain control. If you are more passive, then they will just be more unconcerned about it, as they already are confident they have you under their thumb.
It's so upsetting after 7 years of all that was put into this is he going to be different for the next woman because it has destroyed our life having to sell our new home etc.
Thank you 🙏 I needed to hear this! I’ve been having nonstop nightmares and it’s been 7 months of no contact 😔 my brain has a hard time processing everything. I left him for cheating yet he ends up with that girl the same day I called off our engagement 🥺 He’s given her all that he future faked with me. Its 100% different and it feels like 5+ years was all fake 🤯 It’s helpful to remember he’s the same person and it’s not better with the new supply.
You were a kind, loving ,sweet woman to him ,and he didn’t deserve you, plain & simple . Something or someone, that’s meant to be in our lives won’t fathom hurting the one that they truly care for. If somebody can treat you that way , them leaving your life is a blessing in disguise. One thing that I keep reminding myself, is that you can’t lose someone that was truly meant to be with you, it just would not happen. Hope that helps, Love and light ✨💖
@@Launicanumba1 Thanks Christina. I get what you mean… although he didn’t leave me and begged me to stay with him, I know leaving him was the best thing for me. There was too much abuse and chaos to ever feel safe with him. It just took seeing a girl’s Instagram with pictures of them together to be 100% done and go no contact. It’s hard sometimes but I keep remembering I deserved better and once I heal, I will have real love ❤️I hope you’re doing wonderful 🤗
I was with him all my life. We met at 16, married at 19 and divorced at 67. He was SO ANGRY AND ABUSIVE. Now he has a new girlfriend and IS POSTING IT ALL OVER FB. HE NEVER POSTED ON FB BEFORE! This is killing me!
Dear Kathleen, He is doing this to taunt you. Don’t believe the portrayal on FB, it is not the truth. He does this to seek validation. Your relationship probably looked this way on the surface to onlookers, but the reality is hidden from the public Take heart, we’ll done for getting out of it. Stay strong, time will heal 😊
It’s all fake and done to hurt you. She’s see’s red flags, she’s probably broken and searching for any inkling of happiness for the moment . It won’t last…
Kathleen it’s all fake!!!!!! Don’t look at Fakebook. He’s doing that on purpose to hurt you! Enjoy the fact that he is HER PROBLEM now!!!!! Your life will be so much better without his toxic presence. Be happy, you deserve it!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Broke up in the fall, of course narc ex found a new supply almost immediately…I used to be so concerned he’d magically change for her and then I just found out he’s been lying to her since the beginning. We still live together for the time being and have a 5 year old daughter, broke up not long after finding out I’m pregnant with our second (partially why the breakup happened, he said having another child would ruin his life, as if his entire personality wasn’t doing that already) A couple of months ago he told me this new supply was aware of the new baby coming, cut to yesterday he finally admitted she has no idea. So much for “I don’t want to be the way I was with you anymore” Once a liar always a liar
How old is she? Trust and believe it won't last. He married her to punish you. How awful to use the new supply to get to you. Now she gets to be lied to and cheated on and getting STDs while you're free.
@@janicemontecalvo110 well she's his age. But yes he was trying to get a reaction from me, but all I could do was laugh. She's a big girl that was lied to by him and his family. They had her thinking she was getting something special. I'm thinking she's not feeling that as much anymore. He's disrespected her to our children and they haven't even been married a year. He just keeps complaining about her and all what she isn't.
He literally told me at one point that he wanted a slave. “You don’t want this Amanda. I want a slave.” … then lead me on to think he also wanted a committed monogamy in all of the cognitive dissonance.
Thx. I totally got that understanding. It's like they find your arcles heal and use it against. They find our vulnerabilities and use them as tools against us. Wow. I observed how he used others also and it disgusted me. I'd be away from him for one year no contact, then he slowly hoovered me back over another year.... But I had out grown him and saw it all happening.... unfortunately I had moved in with him for the Summer holidays.... OMG!! I couldn't wait to get out faster enough.... had a plan to find a flat back in the city I'm doing my degree in, but became violent before my escape plan.... But some weeks after... in temporary horrid accommodation still looking for a flat. But came away with my life!! Settling back into study a struggle, but getting. Just need a nice living environment now which will help but so hard to find. I also discovered how evil he has been to me. The last time I left him he phoned me and told me my best friend had died!! Of which he haddened.... could contact him as he was in hospital but my friend phoned 4 weeks later... a call from heaven... I was so shocked... but pleased he was not dead. Told he needed to phone me more often. How cruel is that! Telling me news that was a total lie to hurt me??!! No contact now so he can't play those mind games with me ever again. I'm done!! 10 years of back and forward... so done.
He discarded me at a time when I thought we were trying to rebuild and when my brother was seriously ill. I found out that, even though I knew he was in "contact" with other women (he always was in some way), he had actually lined her up and cheated on me earlier on.
Both of my naccisiste boyfriend try to come back in my life. When I rejected them Both of them and to hurt me and get revenge. Went after 2 of my child hood best friend and now have a relationship with them. I no the best thing for me was still to have regretted them. But it still hurt that my friends would do that to me as well. I feel so betrayed. By both. But at the same time I feel sad for them because they will get played and betrayed to and they will go trough what they did to me. How to survive it. I say to my self that we all have lessons to learn.
This is why I feel like a narcissist because I’m never happy, I’m not a happy person. I may laugh a lot of make jokes but deep down I hate myself. I hate everything. I don’t have friends, I don’t trust easily either. I don’t wanna be a narcissist
Exactly what’s happening to me. I moved out and into our house next door but somehow got hoovered into still being intimate with him while he lied and set up his next supply then ditched me 😂. Luckily I was detaching more from not living in same house , but as soon as I found out I had to sell up ( which I’m doing now) , and move away Luckily I had been using this type of info and NARP to begin to heal, so I can see it for what it is and was hurt at first but briefly. Now I’m swinging between brief moments of anger and ( mainly ) relief in my new home and freedom. The info about how they act differently depending on what each supply has as inner wounds is the new thing that’s clicking into place for me. I didn’t believe what his ex said about him at the start , that he’d been violent with her, because he never was with me. Recently I realise I had different vulnerabilities and strengths and was no way he could have physically abused me ( I was never going to tolerate that ), but his occasional sexual abuse type weird stuff and mostly pretty insidious and occasionally really overt emotional abuse and blackmail did my head in… I pity the new young naive woman he is currently love bombing, and wonder what his abuse will look like for her 😞. What a horrendously awful way to live ( being the communal/ covert Narc ( as mine was)… a truly horrid existence. I wish everyone trying to heal so much love and light to go forward whole and healthy…I’m getting there.
I have been watching HOURS of narc abuse videos and finally a penny dropped, well two pennies! 1. I was basically a drug dealer, once my supply ran out, he was onto looking for a new drug dealer. 2. They will always intentionally hurt you through triggering unhealed wounds WOW!!!!
I discarded my ex took him 8 weeks 2 find a grade A she fell pregnant 1 month later 🤦♀️ he's an absolute coke head , gambler, addicted 2 porn aswell can inly imagine how its going .
I have been trying to get my ex back since she left back in 2021. We are still legally married but she now has a boyfriend. They have been seeing each a lot the past month and have been traveling across country. We been married since 2002. I feel devastated and hurt! She asked me to stop contacting her while she with this dude until she comes home. What should I do?
Melanie could you please explore the love bombing phase and some natural male tendencies to want to step and offer help, fix it attitude, rescue attitude which can be a kind, caring thing vs a potential control, dependency set up? What are some differences to take notice of?
I found information verifying he treated the 2 before me and the one during our whole relationship and the one near end of our relationship. At the time I found this out, I could tell the newest relationship was new, just by honey moon, on the "peddle stool" yet. Jayne
Why don't narcissist get mad when you spend time with family every single trip I have made to family with family has been an issue and he won't answer his phone I get silent treatment it's ridiculous
When you catch them, they will deny it straight to your face even though they are getting f*** in the roommate's bed while you were asleep and thought they are in bed with you sleeping you wake up catch them in the other room, and they still dare to deny it and say no I was helping him falling asleep by reading a bedtime story cause he has food poisoning and cannot fall asleep, heh heh:)))) HOW GREAt and truly "intelligent" of an answer is that? Then your birthday arrives and you think after a night out and since the narc proposes to go to sleep at 4am, you agree and cannot wait to sleep together, only to see that after you have fallen asleep the narc left the apartment ( thanks to the ring cameras) and had appointments all set up already “ On the significant other’s BIRTHDAY NIGHT” and you see the narc dragging 2-3 guys in the apartment and in the neighbor's apartments, couldn’t care less about the cameras, sometimes they act as they wanna get caught, like when they ask you to be monogamous but then “accidentally” pocket dialed you while they are having sex with the ex-boss, you record the “accident-call” make them listen to it and they start screaming in your face that is not them, it is all prefabricated in your head and that you are crazy, that is absolutely not them and then you showed them the date and time of the phone call from their number and they still deny it. Then the best phase is when they come up with excuses of death or birthday recurrances but they are all fictous because then you check facebook and none of those people have birthdays or deaths on those days, only to found out later on, they were having a cum-dump in a sleazy motel with numerous guys one after the other, the cold truth is that you didn’t even move an inch for how petrified you were by such shocking behaviour and you cannot even recall when was the last time that you allowed yourself to even prounounce a word out of your mouth in their presence, finally you recall you said "good morning" yesterday morning, Then there is the phase that they feel asexual, they do not wanna touch you, hug you, kiss you and they tell you straight into your face with an insultive and offensive tone that if you require to have sex with them in the next six months you need to go check yourself into rehab cause you are a sex addict and that taking a break from sex in your 20s and 30’s for six months is good for the overall health and well-being. In other words, in the Oxford dictionary of CLuster B under the chapter NPD the translation of the last sentence translates this way: I am getting pounded by numerous guys in different motels, what a brilliant idea right? For a moment you remain incredulous that this person in front of you after telling you that they're going through a "6 months no sex involved detox program" actually has the audacity to ask you how genius they are? Right, what a grandiose generosity, I answered immediately. NArc continues: " In the mid-time, even my friend from the neighboring country is coming back to visit me, then on Tuesdays, I have the all-black group, and on Thursday, my ex-boss keeps inviting me to these steamy lunch appointments that I constantly go to them with no underwear, and after I am done with them, I do not understand how I am dripping wet all over, I am sorry you gotta see me in these wet conditions, please do not think anything bad, you know I am not having sex for six months so please do not doubt me. Then Fridays, don't you remember that I have my hometown friends coming to visit me downtown and we have our shopping spree at this penthouse of a friend of mine who has all designer clothes exposed, sometimes these gatherings of clothes last until Monday, but they were supposed to only be for one day on a Friday, and they end up lasting three days. After this long laundry list of how exceptionally well the "detox from sex" program is actually working for the narc; how dare you to confront the NARC about all that during a period that narc is detoxifying for six months from sex….right…. all that I have listed above truly looks like a phenomenal detoxifying recipe where it assures to detoxify even the most toxic person completely, it is 100% proven results, please do not ever doubt the narc or question them that the recipe for detox they have is not the best in the world, the most efficient, the most popular and results are number one in the universe. All those actions are precisely how any person should abstinent from intimate activities for six months, and the detox will be life-changing… but life-changing, in which sense is the real question, I was quietly thinking to myself without having not even 1% of energy left to pronounce anymore breaths necessary for the vocalization of forming words?!
I can't mention anything. It's to dangerous. I supposed to be getting arrested for something I didn't do. Narcissistics need to grow up and stop trying 🙄 to make other people like them. Such a waste of time
My ex narc lend me a large amount of money but she also damaged all three of my vehicles and i have done so much at her house and she even damaged things at my house. Now she is wanting her money back but i am asking her to first repay my damage.... she is now pissed at me...Hahahahaha.... Karma is a BITCH....
My ex narcissist husband is different with the new supply - he treats her worse.
I was married to my narcissist for 35 years and had wanted out for a long time. He found new supply and he treats her completely different than he treated me. It’s a definite master and slave relationship. He’s terrible with her and she tolerates behavior I would never put up with. Narcissist definitely only get worse over time. I’m just grateful to be out!!!!!
I have been married to my narcissist husband for 22yrs .. I have also wanted and needed out for a long time due to my health mentality and physically being absolutely terrible .. I am waiting on God to show me my way out .. Our children are finally grown .. And I have to save myself , it's even harder without my kids living at home .. May God Be With You 🙏❤️💯
@@mitchlizreece7945 I feel your pain! My relationship with the narcissist affected my physical health as well. I know how hard it is to leave. Please check out Dr Ramani and Melanie Tonia Evans on TH-cam they have helped me tremendously. Rebecca Zung is also a good resource she’s a lawyer who specializes in narcissist and divorce. There is a good life away from the narcissist. Continue to pray for gods guidance and he will show you the way. Sending hugs and prayers your way
Thank You So Much ❤️ , and right back at you 🙏💯💖
Can I ask, how do you know he’s treating her awful, from stories people have told you/stuff you’ve seen, or you’re thinking he is? I only ask cos my ex narc is still with his new supply and I don’t understand how he’s still with her cos our relationship was a rollercoaster
@@laaaah4577 I witnessed it all firsthand!!!
When you’re with a narcissist, you’re always thinking there’s some formula you need to work out that’ll make them consistently love you. So, when you see them “happy” with someone new, you think this person discovered the formula and is reaping the benefits. But the only formula lies with the narcissist turning inward and embracing their true selves, which they’re too afraid to do.
That is spot on ❤
Honestly my feeling is good riddens, have fun bye bye!
I was never prioritised, ever, but every woman he met aside from me was put above me
I can answer this. As soon as the narc feels comfortable it will revert to type.
I’ve been on both ends.. at one time I WAS the new supply. And the script is EXACTLY the same, even hearing the same words VERBATIM, except swapping places.. but I DON’T think-why not me.. I think thank god my eyes were opened, because I’ve endured this torture long enough
narc's "style" will reflect _your_ personality style. If you are more independent minded, they will be micro-managing to try and gain control. If you are more passive, then they will just be more unconcerned about it, as they already are confident they have you under their thumb.
It's so upsetting after 7 years of all that was put into this is he going to be different for the next woman because it has destroyed our life having to sell our new home etc.
I went through this, got out of a 30 year marriage .Now I am so at peace and free ! Melanie's method works
Thank you 🙏 I needed to hear this! I’ve been having nonstop nightmares and it’s been 7 months of no contact 😔 my brain has a hard time processing everything. I left him for cheating yet he ends up with that girl the same day I called off our engagement 🥺 He’s given her all that he future faked with me. Its 100% different and it feels like 5+ years was all fake 🤯 It’s helpful to remember he’s the same person and it’s not better with the new supply.
You were a kind, loving ,sweet woman to him ,and he didn’t deserve you, plain & simple . Something or someone, that’s meant to be in our lives won’t fathom hurting the one that they truly care for. If somebody can treat you that way , them leaving your life is a blessing in disguise. One thing that I keep reminding myself, is that you can’t lose someone that was truly meant to be with you, it just would not happen. Hope that helps, Love and light ✨💖
@@Launicanumba1 Thanks Christina. I get what you mean… although he didn’t leave me and begged me to stay with him, I know leaving him was the best thing for me. There was too much abuse and chaos to ever feel safe with him. It just took seeing a girl’s Instagram with pictures of them together to be 100% done and go no contact. It’s hard sometimes but I keep remembering I deserved better and once I heal, I will have real love ❤️I hope you’re doing wonderful 🤗
Hugs…
Thank you for explaining why he acted different with the new supply - it's all about our individual unhealed wounds.
I was with him all my life. We met at 16, married at 19 and divorced at 67. He was SO ANGRY AND ABUSIVE. Now he has a new girlfriend and IS POSTING IT ALL OVER FB. HE NEVER POSTED ON FB BEFORE! This is killing me!
Dear Kathleen,
He is doing this to taunt you. Don’t believe the portrayal on FB, it is not the truth. He does this to seek validation. Your relationship probably looked this way on the surface to onlookers, but the reality is hidden from the public
Take heart, we’ll done for getting out of it. Stay strong, time will heal
😊
It’s all fake and done to hurt you. She’s see’s red flags, she’s probably broken and searching for any inkling of happiness for the moment . It won’t last…
Kathleen it’s all fake!!!!!! Don’t look at Fakebook. He’s doing that on purpose to hurt you! Enjoy the fact that he is HER PROBLEM now!!!!! Your life will be so much better without his toxic presence. Be happy, you deserve it!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Broke up in the fall, of course narc ex found a new supply almost immediately…I used to be so concerned he’d magically change for her and then I just found out he’s been lying to her since the beginning. We still live together for the time being and have a 5 year old daughter, broke up not long after finding out I’m pregnant with our second (partially why the breakup happened, he said having another child would ruin his life, as if his entire personality wasn’t doing that already) A couple of months ago he told me this new supply was aware of the new baby coming, cut to yesterday he finally admitted she has no idea. So much for “I don’t want to be the way I was with you anymore” Once a liar always a liar
Yep, it's part of their dna.
He didn’t find the supply almost immediately, he already knew them and was lining that up already.
They will go through the same nightmare!
“It’s about the idea not the person.” Spot on 👌🏽🤣🤪 Deja Vu to my Narcy ex & the new supply he called “man’s legs.” 👀
Yep, he had his new supply waiting in the wings. Once I left he ushered her in and made her his 3rd wife. He's 72 yrs old🤦♀️
He will soon be miserable the now wife is trying to make her way out....These people get real miserable at that age
How old is she? Trust and believe it won't last. He married her to punish you. How awful to use the new supply to get to you. Now she gets to be lied to and cheated on and getting STDs while you're free.
@@janicemontecalvo110 well she's his age. But yes he was trying to get a reaction from me, but all I could do was laugh. She's a big girl that was lied to by him and his family. They had her thinking she was getting something special. I'm thinking she's not feeling that as much anymore. He's disrespected her to our children and they haven't even been married a year. He just keeps complaining about her and all what she isn't.
This is actually an amazing explanation of it and makes a lot of sense. Melanie you are a saviour to so many of us survivors
She really help but she can not save. Only God along.
Melanie… I love your down to earth comments when explaining 👍🏼😂🤗
You are such a great help ..... a whole new perspective is raining in , in such a beautiful way 🌹👑🙏🏼🥂
Dear Mel, your videos are amazing. They explain evetything. Thank you so much ❤🧡💛
This has been SO lovely to see you so often!! 😆💜
Agree
Narcissists don't "change", they just "develope" their "skills" to suit the situationship they are involved in.
He literally told me at one point that he wanted a slave. “You don’t want this Amanda. I want a slave.” … then lead me on to think he also wanted a committed monogamy in all of the cognitive dissonance.
You Are A Gem! Thank you, Melanie. And....Please Don't Stop Your Amazing Work! We NEED You!
Thx. I totally got that understanding. It's like they find your arcles heal and use it against. They find our vulnerabilities and use them as tools against us. Wow. I observed how he used others also and it disgusted me. I'd be away from him for one year no contact, then he slowly hoovered me back over another year.... But I had out grown him and saw it all happening.... unfortunately I had moved in with him for the Summer holidays.... OMG!!
I couldn't wait to get out faster enough.... had a plan to find a flat back in the city I'm doing my degree in, but became violent before my escape plan.... But some weeks after... in temporary horrid accommodation still looking for a flat. But came away with my life!! Settling back into study a struggle, but getting. Just need a nice living environment now which will help but so hard to find. I also discovered how evil he has been to me. The last time I left him he phoned me and told me my best friend had died!! Of which he haddened.... could contact him as he was in hospital but my friend phoned 4 weeks later... a call from heaven... I was so shocked... but pleased he was not dead. Told he needed to phone me more often. How cruel is that! Telling me news that was a total lie to hurt me??!!
No contact now so he can't play those mind games with me ever again. I'm done!! 10 years of back and forward... so done.
Amazing stream Melanie Tonia Evans. ♥️ so uplifting, fabulous community and support ❤️.
He discarded me at a time when I thought we were trying to rebuild and when my brother was seriously ill. I found out that, even though I knew he was in "contact" with other women (he always was in some way), he had actually lined her up and cheated on me earlier on.
Awesome, you are helping the healing process
Both of my naccisiste boyfriend try to come back in my life. When I rejected them Both of them and to hurt me and get revenge. Went after 2 of my child hood best friend and now have a relationship with them. I no the best thing for me was still to have regretted them. But it still hurt that my friends would do that to me as well. I feel so betrayed. By both. But at the same time I feel sad for them because they will get played and betrayed to and they will go trough what they did to me. How to survive it. I say to my self that we all have lessons to learn.
This is very clear and informative thank you very much
Melanie , you're adorable. The OG on this insidious disorder. Much love, sharing grapes w you too. Stay tuned in it' gets better !. Blessings all 🙏✝️
This is why I feel like a narcissist because I’m never happy, I’m not a happy person. I may laugh a lot of make jokes but deep down I hate myself. I hate everything. I don’t have friends, I don’t trust easily either. I don’t wanna be a narcissist
You'd not even be aware if it if you really were.
Absolutely not ! A leopard 🐆 don’t change its spots!
Exactly what’s happening to me. I moved out and into our house next door but somehow got hoovered into still being intimate with him while he lied and set up his next supply then ditched me 😂. Luckily I was detaching more from not living in same house , but as soon as I found out I had to sell up ( which I’m doing now) , and move away Luckily I had been using this type of info and NARP to begin to heal, so I can see it for what it is and was hurt at first but briefly. Now I’m swinging between brief moments of anger and ( mainly ) relief in my new home and freedom. The info about how they act differently depending on what each supply has as inner wounds is the new thing that’s clicking into place for me. I didn’t believe what his ex said about him at the start , that he’d been violent with her, because he never was with me. Recently I realise I had different vulnerabilities and strengths and was no way he could have physically abused me ( I was never going to tolerate that ), but his occasional sexual abuse type weird stuff and mostly pretty insidious and occasionally really overt emotional abuse and blackmail did my head in… I pity the new young naive woman he is currently love bombing, and wonder what his abuse will look like for her 😞. What a horrendously awful way to live ( being the communal/ covert Narc ( as mine was)… a truly horrid existence.
I wish everyone trying to heal so much love and light to go forward whole and healthy…I’m getting there.
I have been watching HOURS of narc abuse videos and finally a penny dropped, well two pennies!
1. I was basically a drug dealer, once my supply ran out, he was onto looking for a new drug dealer.
2. They will always intentionally hurt you through triggering unhealed wounds
WOW!!!!
The nasty is now using my grand daughter as her supply since I’ve gone no contact
You answer a lot of my questions God bless you Melanie thank you so much.
I discarded my ex took him 8 weeks 2 find a grade A she fell pregnant 1 month later 🤦♀️ he's an absolute coke head , gambler, addicted 2 porn aswell can inly imagine how its going .
He discarded me month ago and he has a new supplier I saw them kissing ....I'm devestated
Very helpful, helps me see my relationship from a whole new perspective.
No you guys! The devil doesn't CHANGE
What if a covert narcissist is with a malignant narcissist? Do they gel together or do they conflict ?
Thank you awesome great phenomenal information many continuous blessings
For the looks of it, since my ex is married to her 2nd husband her next victim, She'll act different.
I have been trying to get my ex back since she left back in 2021. We are still legally married but she now has a boyfriend. They have been seeing each a lot the past month and have been traveling across country. We been married since 2002. I feel devastated and hurt! She asked me to stop contacting her while she with this dude until she comes home. What should I do?
Melanie could you please explore the love bombing phase and some natural male tendencies to want to step and offer help, fix it attitude, rescue attitude which can be a kind, caring thing vs a potential control, dependency set up? What are some differences to take notice of?
I found information verifying he treated the 2 before me and the one during our whole relationship and the one near end of our relationship. At the time I found this out, I could tell the newest relationship was new, just by honey moon, on the "peddle stool" yet.
Jayne
Incredibly helpful.
How do I get this quantum healing and get more info
Strip off Mel lol I love you.
Hi very happy to see you
Why don't narcissist get mad when you spend time with family every single trip I have made to family with family has been an issue and he won't answer his phone I get silent treatment it's ridiculous
Yes I always wanted to know
Absolutely!!
When you catch them, they will deny it straight to your face even though they are getting f*** in the roommate's bed while you were asleep and thought they are in bed with you sleeping you wake up catch them in the other room, and they still dare to deny it and say no I was helping him falling asleep by reading a bedtime story cause he has food poisoning and cannot fall asleep, heh heh:)))) HOW GREAt and truly "intelligent" of an answer is that? Then your birthday arrives and you think after a night out and since the narc proposes to go to sleep at 4am, you agree and cannot wait to sleep together, only to see that after you have fallen asleep the narc left the apartment ( thanks to the ring cameras) and had appointments all set up already “ On the significant other’s BIRTHDAY NIGHT” and you see the narc dragging 2-3 guys in the apartment and in the neighbor's apartments, couldn’t care less about the cameras, sometimes they act as they wanna get caught, like when they ask you to be monogamous but then “accidentally” pocket dialed you while they are having sex with the ex-boss, you record the “accident-call” make them listen to it and they start screaming in your face that is not them, it is all prefabricated in your head and that you are crazy, that is absolutely not them and then you showed them the date and time of the phone call from their number and they still deny it. Then the best phase is when they come up with excuses of death or birthday recurrances but they are all fictous because then you check facebook and none of those people have birthdays or deaths on those days, only to found out later on, they were having a cum-dump in a sleazy motel with numerous guys one after the other, the cold truth is that you didn’t even move an inch for how petrified you were by such shocking behaviour and you cannot even recall when was the last time that you allowed yourself to even prounounce a word out of your mouth in their presence, finally you recall you said "good morning" yesterday morning, Then there is the phase that they feel asexual, they do not wanna touch you, hug you, kiss you and they tell you straight into your face with an insultive and offensive tone that if you require to have sex with them in the next six months you need to go check yourself into rehab cause you are a sex addict and that taking a break from sex in your 20s and 30’s for six months is good for the overall health and well-being. In other words, in the Oxford dictionary of CLuster B under the chapter NPD the translation of the last sentence translates this way: I am getting pounded by numerous guys in different motels, what a brilliant idea right? For a moment you remain incredulous that this person in front of you after telling you that they're going through a "6 months no sex involved detox program" actually has the audacity to ask you how genius they are? Right, what a grandiose generosity, I answered immediately.
NArc continues: " In the mid-time, even my friend from the neighboring country is coming back to visit me, then on Tuesdays, I have the all-black group, and on Thursday, my ex-boss keeps inviting me to these steamy lunch appointments that I constantly go to them with no underwear, and after I am done with them, I do not understand how I am dripping wet all over, I am sorry you gotta see me in these wet conditions, please do not think anything bad, you know I am not having sex for six months so please do not doubt me. Then Fridays, don't you remember that I have my hometown friends coming to visit me downtown and we have our shopping spree at this penthouse of a friend of mine who has all designer clothes exposed, sometimes these gatherings of clothes last until Monday, but they were supposed to only be for one day on a Friday, and they end up lasting three days. After this long laundry list of how exceptionally well the "detox from sex" program is actually working for the narc; how dare you to confront the NARC about all that during a period that narc is detoxifying for six months from sex….right…. all that I have listed above truly looks like a phenomenal detoxifying recipe where it assures to detoxify even the most toxic person completely, it is 100% proven results, please do not ever doubt the narc or question them that the recipe for detox they have is not the best in the world, the most efficient, the most popular and results are number one in the universe. All those actions are precisely how any person should abstinent from intimate activities for six months, and the detox will be life-changing… but life-changing, in which sense is the real question, I was quietly thinking to myself without having not even 1% of energy left to pronounce anymore breaths necessary for the vocalization of forming words?!
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With glasses *swooon*
I can't mention anything. It's to dangerous. I supposed to be getting arrested for something I didn't do. Narcissistics need to grow up and stop trying 🙄 to make other people like them. Such a waste of time
Hi Mel ❤️❤️
UNTIL...THEYRE NOT...
Hi😘
Way to lay it out.
Hey Mel, long time subscriber and fan! I have a question. Are you single? Your absolutely gorgeous! X
My ex narc lend me a large amount of money but she also damaged all three of my vehicles and i have done so much at her house and she even damaged things at my house. Now she is wanting her money back but i am asking her to first repay my damage.... she is now pissed at me...Hahahahaha.... Karma is a BITCH....