I'm 61 years old and I still have no idea who I am. I cried constantly from the first day I was born. Whatever I was trying to communicate wasn't heard. I know when I look back that I needed to be held. I was born very underweight and my nervous system wasn't quite developed. Every time I was put into my cold crib and left there alone, I was suffering. As I got older and I acted like myself, I didn't fit with the way that society expected me to be. I was hypersensitive and aware of everyone around me. When we went to the zoo, I wasn't looking out through my eyes to see the animals. I was picking up the feelings of the child who had dropped their ice cream on the ground and was crying. I was looking at the anger on the man's face who was yelling at his wife. I was overwhelmed. I wanted to just scream and run out of there. Instead, I heard that I ruined everything for everyone, always. I look at everything through my heart and after my husband passed away with no notice on our kitchen floor one evening, I have been completely isolated. No one in this world knows me anymore. Not even me. I have to be sad a lot. I know that's a strange sentence. But, my child is right here and she is still crying. God bless you, doctor. My question is always why? 😞
I am so sorry for your suffering and your loss I can very much relate to what you wrote , helps me to know I’m not the only one. Daily crying helps in some way
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m truly sorry for all the pain you’ve been through. It’s okay to feel lost sometimes, especially after so many difficult experiences. Please know that your feelings matter, and it’s never too late to start understanding yourself. Grief can be so heavy, especially when we feel alone, but you are not alone in your journey. Your inner child deserves the love and care she needed back then, and it's never too late to give that to her. Sending you so much warmth and strength. God bless you, dear. 💖
I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. It’s heartbreaking, and I truly understand your pain. You’re definitely not alone, and I hope knowing that brings some comfort. Take care of yourself, and if crying helps, let it out. Sending you strength and love. ❤
Your emotional development has been stunned. To grow you need to create a safe and comfortable environment, and start self reflection and maybe someday you will grieve what was denied to you as a child. More info on Daniel Mackler's channel
In this video, Dr. Gabor Maté’s insights on the emotional needs of children really made me think about how important it is to support kids in feeling seen, valued, and connected. What part of this video resonated most with you? Let’s share our thoughts and learn from each other! Your insights can help others who may be on a similar journey. 🙏#DrGaborMaté, #ParentingTips, #EmotionalNeeds, #ChildDevelopment, #RaisingConfidentKids, #SupportEachOther
Dr MATAE Every one of us should learn to develop humility Compassion gratitude Forgiveness with Healthy Relationships and Healthy Boundaries with Respect Responsibility Resilience Relience HONESTY with Integrity and coordination Cooperation Focused Committed Honoured Attitude Behaviour Discernment Unconditional emotional support with patience Perseverance with Oneself Primarily and ONE Another in parents Carers Teachers day 1 of every child Obeying the COMMAND "LOVE THY NEIGHBOUR AS THYSELF"
Absolutely! These values are necessary for creating a harmonious community and nurturing healthy relationships. It's a beautiful reminder for all of us.
Jean Liedloff's book; The Continuum Concept, mentioned in this video by dr. Mate, is absolute essential reading if you want to understand actual human nature.
Absolutely! "The Continuum Concept" are proound for understanding our true nature as humans. It really opens up a whole new perspective on parenting and relationships.
Panic is wired into the brain - now our nervous system does not know how to down regulate in a safe healthy way. We are stuck in fight or flight… or freeze- “let them cry it out” when they fall asleep crying it out it is not healthy rest & digest down regulation in is collapse from panic into a disregulated freeze response. Interesting enough, fight or flight is anxious behavior- anxiety, freeze response is lethargic sluggish behavior-depression…
Judge not, lest you be judged! Dr Mate is a survivor of the Holocaust, that's part of his childhood trauma and generational trauma. Like many of us, he has suffered a lot and has spent much of his life trying to come to terms with his past. In addition to that, he is a highly intelligent person, living in a world full of morons and probably dismayed at the bleak future humanity is heading towards and how capitalism is destroying the planet and all life on it. If that's not cause for looking depressed then I don't know what is. Anyway, who are you to judge? Maybe you're one of those billions of morons running around, thinking you're important or something!
I'm 61 years old and I still have no idea who I am. I cried constantly from the first day I was born. Whatever I was trying to communicate wasn't heard. I know when I look back that I needed to be held. I was born very underweight and my nervous system wasn't quite developed. Every time I was put into my cold crib and left there alone, I was suffering. As I got older and I acted like myself, I didn't fit with the way that society expected me to be. I was hypersensitive and aware of everyone around me. When we went to the zoo, I wasn't looking out through my eyes to see the animals. I was picking up the feelings of the child who had dropped their ice cream on the ground and was crying. I was looking at the anger on the man's face who was yelling at his wife. I was overwhelmed. I wanted to just scream and run out of there. Instead, I heard that I ruined everything for everyone, always. I look at everything through my heart and after my husband passed away with no notice on our kitchen floor one evening, I have been completely isolated. No one in this world knows me anymore. Not even me. I have to be sad a lot. I know that's a strange sentence. But, my child is right here and she is still crying. God bless you, doctor. My question is always why? 😞
I am so sorry for your suffering and your loss
I can very much relate to what you wrote , helps me to know I’m not the only one. Daily crying helps in some way
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m truly sorry for all the pain you’ve been through. It’s okay to feel lost sometimes, especially after so many difficult experiences. Please know that your feelings matter, and it’s never too late to start understanding yourself. Grief can be so heavy, especially when we feel alone, but you are not alone in your journey. Your inner child deserves the love and care she needed back then, and it's never too late to give that to her. Sending you so much warmth and strength. God bless you, dear. 💖
I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. It’s heartbreaking, and I truly understand your pain. You’re definitely not alone, and I hope knowing that brings some comfort. Take care of yourself, and if crying helps, let it out. Sending you strength and love. ❤
Your emotional development has been stunned. To grow you need to create a safe and comfortable environment, and start self reflection and maybe someday you will grieve what was denied to you as a child. More info on Daniel Mackler's channel
Koszonom hogy letezik Dr Mate. Maga nagyon sokat segített nekem, remelem hogy meg sokáig fog élni mert szükségünk van magara. ❤
That part of a village or community coming together for such a task is most fulfilling. Thank you.🙏
I completely agree! It's nice to see how communities can unite for a common purpose. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
In this video, Dr. Gabor Maté’s insights on the emotional needs of children really made me think about how important it is to support kids in feeling seen, valued, and connected. What part of this video resonated most with you? Let’s share our thoughts and learn from each other! Your insights can help others who may be on a similar journey. 🙏#DrGaborMaté, #ParentingTips, #EmotionalNeeds, #ChildDevelopment, #RaisingConfidentKids, #SupportEachOther
Dr MATAE
Every one of us should learn to develop humility Compassion gratitude Forgiveness with Healthy Relationships and Healthy Boundaries with Respect Responsibility Resilience Relience HONESTY with Integrity and coordination Cooperation Focused Committed Honoured Attitude Behaviour Discernment Unconditional emotional support with patience Perseverance with Oneself Primarily and ONE Another in parents Carers Teachers day 1 of every child Obeying the COMMAND
"LOVE THY NEIGHBOUR AS THYSELF"
Absolutely! These values are necessary for creating a harmonious community and nurturing healthy relationships. It's a beautiful reminder for all of us.
This is great advice. Thank you❤
Thank you so much for your kind words! It means a lot to know the advice resonates with you.
I grew up when “kids were to be seen and not heard.”
Thank you for sharing your experience!
Jean Liedloff's book; The Continuum Concept, mentioned in this video by dr. Mate, is absolute essential reading if you want to understand actual human nature.
Absolutely! "The Continuum Concept" are proound for understanding our true nature as humans. It really opens up a whole new perspective on parenting and relationships.
Panic is wired into the brain - now our nervous system does not know how to down regulate in a safe healthy way. We are stuck in fight or flight… or freeze- “let them cry it out” when they fall asleep crying it out it is not healthy rest & digest down regulation in is collapse from panic into a disregulated freeze response. Interesting enough, fight or flight is anxious behavior- anxiety, freeze response is lethargic sluggish behavior-depression…
Thank you for sharing your insights! It’s always enlightening to hear different perspectives on such an important topic.
Is he chronically depressed???
Yeah him
Gabor Mate
Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Judge not, lest you be judged! Dr Mate is a survivor of the Holocaust, that's part of his childhood trauma and generational trauma. Like many of us, he has suffered a lot and has spent much of his life trying to come to terms with his past. In addition to that, he is a highly intelligent person, living in a world full of morons and probably dismayed at the bleak future humanity is heading towards and how capitalism is destroying the planet and all life on it. If that's not cause for looking depressed then I don't know what is. Anyway, who are you to judge? Maybe you're one of those billions of morons running around, thinking you're important or something!