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Hey lovely peeps, I normally don't comment. But I was reading all the comments and thought maybe I can help some of you. For the people who don't know how to hold a conversation: the very best tip I can give you is be actually interested in the person you are talking to. That's it! Be actually interested in who this person is, what he/she likes, why they do what they do, how do they feel about that, what is their actual dream if they were really honest and why, etc... Believe me, everybody can talk about themselves for a whole night when they feel like the other one is actually interested. Just be interested in who this person is without judging beforehand. And if you have a commonality, bond on that part tell your own story about it. And then after just go back to asking them about their life, their childhood, favorite holiday spot (and why). If someone says I love spain -> ask why etc.. This also will make you less scared to have a conversation because you don't have to worry about having an interesting personality (which is the main reason people are scared when talking to people). Just try it out, it will change your lives, hopefully😅
Use your everyday opportunities to get better at talking. One of the easiest ways I got over my shyness was strinking up convos with people in line, be store, restaurant, whatever. Cashiers... every opportunity to practice
Working in retail as a teenager was an education on how to interact with various personalities. But it’s something that you constantly learn and develop over your lifetime.
Haha I've been there before. The best way I have found to be comfortable around them and to get them comfortable around you is to IMMEDIATELY introduce yourself when you meet them and to try your best to jump into conversation instead of sitting there quietly
@@Avidcommentor32 well you are trying to insert yourself into them. In the scenario the original comment is talking about you are there because you have a friend in the group so you are meant to be there. If they are talking you shouldn’t feel worried about hopping in the conversation
the problem with me is my self awareness and awareness in general. I catch the micro expressions when people give that "why is this guy here (or still here or why is this guy here at all)" look but i try to ignore things like that and not let it get to me. I know most of this stuff is "in your head" but sometimes its really how it is.
So what if that is what they actually think? The people who react negatively will react that way no matter what. You don't need validation from people who don't appreciate you. Get it from people who actually do appreciate you for being you.
Big ups, Devin. I've always been someone who's good with talking, but bad with starting the conversation. What you've said is incredibly valuable, thank you.
It’s moments like these- when I’m scrolling on TH-cam and come across a smaller channel - it reminds me that there are good people out there still , just waiting to be found and have their art appreciated. In this case it’s you and your advice videos. I hope no matter how many subs you get one of these days, that it doesn’t change the types of genuine messages you wanna give. Thanks for such a deep and powerful video. Would love to see even more on the subject of social anxiety/ insecurities that hold people back from just living their life
One of the best comments I've gotten. I am grateful you took the time to leave it. I plan to keep posting videos like this and I hope it doesn't change from that as well. I am sure they will change with time, but the overall structure and intent I plan to keep the same! I have a good bit of other videos on insecurity in a playlist called "Confidence and Mindsets" and social skills videos in one called "Social Skills" if you want to check some out.
@@devmaurello sounds like I’ll be a regular viewer every week 🤟🏻 I’ve seen a few others of your videos on the subject of confidence , and you really do have every video mean something to you. It’s something you can feel through the screen- that you aren’t being fake and really wanna help people. Keep it going, not everyone has that selflessness
one of my problems is not being able to come up with something to say that'd be playful like how you did with the cashier. I think I can come up with some random general questions but there’d be no “flirtatiousness” to them
I’d say it’s more about how you say it than what you say. I said something playful because being playful is a big part of my personality, but as you do it more often you come up with things to say easier. It doesn’t necessarily have to be flirtatious, the main thing here is that you are actually having a social interaction when you usually wouldn’t. As you do it more just say whatever comes to mind and be experimental with it.
My coworker always ended his phone calls with "Did anyone tell you you're doing a great job today?" they'd say no and he'd say "Well you're doing a great job." and it always put a smile on my face. Crazy positivity. Maybe a good line for when someone is serving you at a gas station or restaurant
talked about my desire to be more open and less worried about people's judgements with my therapist today, and here comes this video of a neat trick to achieve just that. our phones do be listening lol
No joke the exact same thing just happened to me. Not even an hour ago I was telling my fiancé how I feel like I have no friends since moving and don’t know how to talk to people lol
yep this is all so damn true. Great vid. Talking is a brain a muscle that you need to train so you should practise on everyone at all times, even the easy targets like 80 plus year olds. You can learn so much from them as you're levelling up. Win win.
Like you said, it’s tough to not let it affect you and not take it personally if sometimes the other person isn’t vibing or giving you anything back but it’s important to keep doing it. Need to keep in mind people are gonna be having a bad day, or just not on your wavelength, and of course plenty of people are shy just like you are! When you get those good interactions it massively outweighs the bad ones.
As a teen in high school at the minute with minimum friends, as well as not being able to make any new friends or conversations, I have found this video very motivating to try harder and relax more, so thank you bro
i think an important part you mentioned is how it makes other peoples day better when you “flirt with the world” or engage with them. often i’d feel uncomfortable like a nuisance but in reality you’re often doing good for others and yourself. Almost owe it to the world to make other peoples days just a little bit better. Flirting to me is really just showing interest and putting out feelers to see if they like you back. Flirting is zero risk because worst case they show no interest and you can let them be. In my opinion this is much better than being super direct and asking for a number or asking someone to be a friend without easing into it. Great video, i like how you showed a real example of you putting it into practice in a little way!
This is so true, particularly if you're trying to attract and flirt with a girl you like. If you don't practice with other people you're not attracted to then you're less likely to pull it off with that girl you like.
Why am I just seeing this after a firework show I went to alone with a bunch of people near me who I didn’t say a thing to lmao. Walked up confident and just stood like a weirdo waiting for fireworks to start. I gotta watch this everyday to remind myself to try to interact more
I can relate to this and I’ve been using the same strategy for a few years now without even realising it and how I talk to people in public has improved a lot, not everyone is out there to get you people are actually quite nice haha
I always say I'm not scared to do this "flirt with the world" tactic but as soon as the moment strikes, and I actually have a plan of what I want to say, part of me just says "naaaaahh". I think the positives far outweigh the negatives, so I'm not gonna let those thoughts get in the way. Thanks man, subbed!
That's part of the process. It can be pretty intimidating at first so your brain tries to convince you not to. Do it 2-3 times and it'll be like nothing for you! Hope you try it.
That’s like exactly what I do I literally flirt with everyone and seeing it through that lens helps me so much. I love seeing someone that gets it, and knowing that someone is carrying the purpose to inspire others 🤘subscribeeeed
Just start talking to people. You get better as time goes on. I got a job recently where I’m on the phone a lot and it has helped me exponentially. You can’t think your way out of an overthinking problem. Take action.
Energy is in everything, everywhere. Energy is a part of nature, and we are nature. I feel like you shouldn’t have to force yourself, but just be aware of how your energy is and how might the other individual might feel.
the gas station interaction was so wholesome omg.. flirt with the world.. great advice I find myself fearing that people will get the wrong impression if i'm too "flirty" ??
Hmm I could see that. If that happens just let them know they took it the wrong way. But flirty doesn’t necessarily have to be in that sense, it’s really just being playful and lighthearted and being yourself. Bring a positive energy basically
Hey man I liked the video a lot. It kinda felt like I was getting custom tailored advice even though it’s just a TH-cam video. The whole flirting with the world thing seems like a really good idea and I’ve been trying it out a bit since watching. That part where you ask the guy “you ever tried these before” and tell him “I’ll blame you if I don’t like them” and he laughs really appealed to me and made me want to get better at talking to people. I have a few questions I wanted to ask you though. One thing I wanted to know is how do you come up with these things to talk about? That was just small talk, but it seemed a million times better than “enjoying the weather?” I never really know what to say when I try to approach people, but that conversation seemed perfect and like it just came to you naturally. Another thing I wanted to ask is how to control the tone of your voice better. I could relate to you when you mentioned that you barely ever spoke in school and you lost your social skills a bit. I wondered if you ended up with the same problem as me where you start to lose control over the tone of your voice and it ends up being monotone all the time. For that reason every time I try to joke around with people or etc. they just kinda go “what?” or “huh?” like I was making a statement or asking a question or something.
Those are some good questions. I'll probably make a video soon on the first question you asked about how I know what to talk about. In short, I guess I'd say to just be in the moment and don't sit there and overthink what to say. Just say whatever comes to mind. If you sound dumb, then oh well, it's not like you aren't about to leave anyway lol. Talking to people is just like any other skill. The more you do it the better you will get at it, so if you keep practicing the whole flirting with the world thing, eventually things to say will just come to you like it did to me in the video. Me saying, "I'll blame you if I don't like them" was me just being me. I am a very playful person and tease my friends a lot, so even though he was a stranger I still acted like myself and teased him, that's one of the biggest pieces of advice I can give you is to be yourself and let your personality shine even if it's a stranger. As for the tone of voice thing, I actually did struggle with that a good bit. I didn't have a problem with it around my friends, but when I was talking to people I didn't know I was very monotone. Honestly the only way to fix that is by being consciously aware of it when you are talking to people and forcing yourself to change tone while you are speaking. Eventually it will become a habit and you won't have to think about it. Also, it's pretty hard to be monotone when you are smiling so don't be afraid to show emotion in your face when you are talking.
I'm a bit older than you, and I'll tell you how I do it. It's very simple and doesn't require anything. In fact, it requires you to lose something. Basically, just stop thinking. That's all you need to do-stop thinking and just let your mouth do the talking. Your brain will come up with things on its own. So, stop thinking, and turn off your brain.
Yes just be more playful when talking, doesn't mean you need to be so weird but just however you can talk and be okay with laughing and just have a good time and don't worry about rejection
because of my shyness, when I go out I wear a very closed and cold face like a shield. I though every one guess "that guy is inconfortable" but people think "he has a bad day, he has no time, he is angry" And this face is like a closed door. You have no interaction with it. But if someone do a little joke or start small talk with a little humor, all disapear ^^ those social skills... hard to work on it at the beginning. Thanks for the motivation.
As a late diagnosed autistic guy that learnt socializing. Its hard as fuck. I learnt that alot of people just dont like me and learing and accepting that helps me socializing.
I used to afraid to talk to people, With many thing l been through. And now l not afraid to talk . Sometimes l talking a lot sometimes l don’t. I just don’t care what other people think !
one of the biggest problems is environment, I swear I got into every quiet class this year and my social skills plummeted. sad when all my teachers say "why don't any of you ever talk?"
One person can drastically change the attitude of the class. If you want to change the class environment, you definitely can. However, if you see no benefit in doing so, then you don’t have to.
Hey man. I just found your channel and I’m an introvert. I try to speak more but sometimes I just get awkward or don’t know what to say. There’s a person who I speak to but I feel like he’s gets upset when there’s awkward convos.
Be flirtatious with the world. Man you just made me discover fire. Man you can have my kids, hollly shitt have you just gave me a reason to keep going. This video needs more traction and i hope my girl don't see this, she'd leave me in a heartbeat. JK she already left :( Just wanna wish you luck Devin, you're not what i wanted but you are what I needed. Love you man...
i feel pathetic because i dont have alot of homies to hang out with. i have alot of girl friends and i cant just brush them off, their chill people. but i just wanna do dude things and be a dude with dudes. shit i find myself being scared to even ask “hows your day” after someone even asks me. ill say “im good” then ill go on. im also horrible at roasting people back, so i chuckle and tell them to shut up in a funny way. what do we think gang, am i cooked for life? edit: shit thanks for the advice guys, im late but thanks dev
You're not cooked bro don't worry lol. You pretty much gave yourself the answer to your problem. You said you find yourself being scared to even ask someone how their day is. All you need to do is push yourself out of your comfort zone and overcome that fear. Go about your day with the intent of talking to some guys that you feel like you'd want to be cool with and just say whatever comes to mind. I meet most of my new friends at the gym and I will walk up to guys I have never even seen before and be like "Damn bro, your arms are massive" and boom, basically friends now. Talk to them every time I see them.
I'm in the exact same situation, but with genders reversed. All my mates are dudes (because we have a lot of common interests) and I just really need feminine energy in my life. It can be saddening.
Nah bro you’re in a good position. For most dudes it’s way harder to talk to girls than guys. Just ask a dude about sports or video games straight up and you’ll find friends. Literally ask someone to play your favorite game with them online and boom u probably got a friend lol.
I see where you're coming from. One time whn I was working wwe had a fire alarm and everyone in the shopping center (mall) had to go outside for about 30mins. After finishing work I to a card shop. I saw cute lady at the cahsier and I asked her "Can I ask you a question" she said "sure" and I responded "Do you like fire alarms as much as I do?" and she ended up laughing. It's just being playful and talking about the situation, like the candy bar in your example.
I dont think you are really getting to the root of the change (not for everyone I mean). You basically just said "do it". And "do it in little steps". But for some there are key underlying reasons why they have trouble talking to people. They may not have developed their social skills muscle much either, but many people simply have a way of seeing reality that makes other people out to be hostile, stupid, unlike oneself, etc. In such cases it is the persons feelings about themselves and others and ultimately life itself. This could turn around by having meaningful social interactions but unless that thrusts itself upon us we have to desire to connect with others and embrace that desire; that joy that comes from participation in life and being apart of the whole instead of an isolated misfit who people wont understand.
@@olabodowabolothethird7980 I don't mean to imply the video is unhelpful. It is true what is being said. So much is just because people aren't used to social situations and have negative expectations from past hurts. This can be untrained. It's true. And I commend him for talking about this
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I use to have social anxiety and was really quiet. Drinking Alcohol 🥃 changed that 😂 when I drink social anxiety is scared of me. I will talk to anyone and anybody!!
Tried microdosing on shrooms, honestly brooo. They're easy to grow. Give it a month with daily doses of the same amount and you'll be an immovable object hahaha
I am a man and i always struggled talking to people. i really like the idea of flirting with the world so from now on i will flirt with every man I meet. I am going to make so many boyfriends.
Be yourself bro. Don’t MAKE people like you. At the end of the day people are gonna like who they like and dislike who they dislike. Just be yourself and your life will be a lot better. You won’t get fake friends and you won’t have to fake it yourself.
It can come off fake af too, so don't think it's all frolicky fun shit. You get in the habit of doing that and you're caught in manipulative lying before long.
@@CadoPack Going one layer deeper, it's all in your psychopathology and intention, so be mindful of the way you're looking at human interactions. If you're looking at it like it's a game to play/toy around with other people to get a certain feeling or reaction out of the interaction, you're entering into a world of being manipulative and using other people to your own selfish end, all while lying to yourself about the kind of person you really are inside. So my advice instead would be to just be yourself, but instead put yourself in social situations where you can express yourself authentically, instead of relying on tactics to get a certain reaction or end result.
i’m glad this video is on my recommended, i feel like flirting with the world is such a great way to put it. i just wanted to say to people trying this to not shy away from awkwardness and failure when it doesn’t go your way! been trying this approach at my new(ish) job and found myself shying away from conversation again, but this video helped me realise i should keep trying🫡
Hey lovely peeps, I normally don't comment. But I was reading all the comments and thought maybe I can help some of you.
For the people who don't know how to hold a conversation: the very best tip I can give you is be actually interested in the person you are talking to. That's it! Be actually interested in who this person is, what he/she likes, why they do what they do, how do they feel about that, what is their actual dream if they were really honest and why, etc... Believe me, everybody can talk about themselves for a whole night when they feel like the other one is actually interested. Just be interested in who this person is without judging beforehand. And if you have a commonality, bond on that part tell your own story about it. And then after just go back to asking them about their life, their childhood, favorite holiday spot (and why). If someone says I love spain -> ask why etc..
This also will make you less scared to have a conversation because you don't have to worry about having an interesting personality (which is the main reason people are scared when talking to people). Just try it out, it will change your lives, hopefully😅
it really makes senses, thank you
Then they didnt even ask me, they just answered the question, it made me feel boring
*what they like, not “he/she”.
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@@20000dinoit’s he/she that’s it, what else is there?
Its the tiny ass channels that feel like the real hidden gems
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@@gravelor78 😂😂
True, I've had the same realization
@@gravelor78😭😭😭
Facts
Try and talk to people like you’ve known them for years. Don’t be too afraid of what they’ll think of you
That’s what I do
This is great advice. Thank you
@@coltonc8894To an EXTENT. But be authentic, because then it makes life easier in the long run.
That’s a great advice, you should make your own channel 😂.
@@nanayawamankwahowusu5681 I’ve thought about that. But I like spreading info in the comments. My video making skills are not exactly sharp
“Flirting” with the world is being joyful and trying to bring that joy out of others.
Use your everyday opportunities to get better at talking. One of the easiest ways I got over my shyness was strinking up convos with people in line, be store, restaurant, whatever. Cashiers... every opportunity to practice
Idc what you say man you got that gas station worker blushing, giggling and kicking his feet 🤣
😂
lol you got that man blushing 🥰😂😂😂
LOL he's the homie now. I've gone back and talked to him a couple of times haha
@@devmaurelloyou should go on a date.
If he made me pay 4$ for a protein bar imagine how much I’d be spending on a date ☹️
@@devmaurellothat’s fine.. it doesn’t have to be fancy date..😁
Working in retail as a teenager was an education on how to interact with various personalities. But it’s something that you constantly learn and develop over your lifetime.
Working in retail made me not want to deal with people at all lol
@manzer41 lol gave me the skills but took away the desire
No one:
Literally, No one:
Me: "have you went to krispy kreme? is it krispy?"
😂 good question tbh
is it kreamy?
@@Kontaras987 and a bit salty.
Always feel awkward being the 1 guy of a friend then being introduced to all his people that know each other for years
Haha I've been there before. The best way I have found to be comfortable around them and to get them comfortable around you is to IMMEDIATELY introduce yourself when you meet them and to try your best to jump into conversation instead of sitting there quietly
@@devmaurello I have had similar problems jumping into convos. I'm worried it'll look like I'm trying to insert myself into them.
@@Avidcommentor32 well you are trying to insert yourself into them. In the scenario the original comment is talking about you are there because you have a friend in the group so you are meant to be there. If they are talking you shouldn’t feel worried about hopping in the conversation
My problem is I’m not good at small talk. I never know what to say so then I feel like it’s just awkward silence
the problem with me is my self awareness and awareness in general. I catch the micro expressions when people give that "why is this guy here (or still here or why is this guy here at all)" look but i try to ignore things like that and not let it get to me. I know most of this stuff is "in your head" but sometimes its really how it is.
That's insecurity caused when brain is rotted, mostly due to consuming porn.
But if we continue with what Devin’s saying that’s cuz you’re far with 100. Once charismatic, less and less will respond that way
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So what if that is what they actually think? The people who react negatively will react that way no matter what. You don't need validation from people who don't appreciate you. Get it from people who actually do appreciate you for being you.
The key is it doesn't matter what people think , do whatever you want , say what ever you want
all you need to do is work in retail, as much as I hated it, I'm able to talk to people very easily now
Big ups, Devin. I've always been someone who's good with talking, but bad with starting the conversation. What you've said is incredibly valuable, thank you.
It’s moments like these- when I’m scrolling on TH-cam and come across a smaller channel - it reminds me that there are good people out there still , just waiting to be found and have their art appreciated. In this case it’s you and your advice videos. I hope no matter how many subs you get one of these days, that it doesn’t change the types of genuine messages you wanna give. Thanks for such a deep and powerful video. Would love to see even more on the subject of social anxiety/ insecurities that hold people back from just living their life
One of the best comments I've gotten. I am grateful you took the time to leave it. I plan to keep posting videos like this and I hope it doesn't change from that as well. I am sure they will change with time, but the overall structure and intent I plan to keep the same! I have a good bit of other videos on insecurity in a playlist called "Confidence and Mindsets" and social skills videos in one called "Social Skills" if you want to check some out.
@@devmaurello sounds like I’ll be a regular viewer every week 🤟🏻 I’ve seen a few others of your videos on the subject of confidence , and you really do have every video mean something to you. It’s something you can feel through the screen- that you aren’t being fake and really wanna help people. Keep it going, not everyone has that selflessness
one of my problems is not being able to come up with something to say that'd be playful like how you did with the cashier. I think I can come up with some random general questions but there’d be no “flirtatiousness” to them
I’d say it’s more about how you say it than what you say. I said something playful because being playful is a big part of my personality, but as you do it more often you come up with things to say easier. It doesn’t necessarily have to be flirtatious, the main thing here is that you are actually having a social interaction when you usually wouldn’t. As you do it more just say whatever comes to mind and be experimental with it.
@@devmaurello Alright thank you Devin, much appreciated!
keep doing it non stop, you're gonna start getting creative trust me
My coworker always ended his phone calls with "Did anyone tell you you're doing a great job today?" they'd say no and he'd say "Well you're doing a great job." and it always put a smile on my face. Crazy positivity. Maybe a good line for when someone is serving you at a gas station or restaurant
@yesteryearr i'll def be using that one. Thanks for sharing!
talked about my desire to be more open and less worried about people's judgements with my therapist today, and here comes this video of a neat trick to achieve just that. our phones do be listening lol
I’m about to start getting ads for a therapist now
No joke the exact same thing just happened to me. Not even an hour ago I was telling my fiancé how I feel like I have no friends since moving and don’t know how to talk to people lol
yep this is all so damn true. Great vid. Talking is a brain a muscle that you need to train so you should practise on everyone at all times, even the easy targets like 80 plus year olds. You can learn so much from them as you're levelling up. Win win.
Thank you for this video and advice! I appreciate your honesty and transparency!
Like you said, it’s tough to not let it affect you and not take it personally if sometimes the other person isn’t vibing or giving you anything back but it’s important to keep doing it. Need to keep in mind people are gonna be having a bad day, or just not on your wavelength, and of course plenty of people are shy just like you are! When you get those good interactions it massively outweighs the bad ones.
This is great if you want ppl to talk to you. I don't so I will stick to please and thank you, have a good day.
Im going to start doing this tomorrow, thanks for the info bro.
Talk about the universe sending me exactly what was needed when needed. Thank you for this bro. ❤😁
Fr bro a day later but seriously
As a teen in high school at the minute with minimum friends, as well as not being able to make any new friends or conversations, I have found this video very motivating to try harder and relax more, so thank you bro
i think an important part you mentioned is how it makes other peoples day better when you “flirt with the world” or engage with them. often i’d feel uncomfortable like a nuisance but in reality you’re often doing good for others and yourself. Almost owe it to the world to make other peoples days just a little bit better. Flirting to me is really just showing interest and putting out feelers to see if they like you back. Flirting is zero risk because worst case they show no interest and you can let them be. In my opinion this is much better than being super direct and asking for a number or asking someone to be a friend without easing into it. Great video, i like how you showed a real example of you putting it into practice in a little way!
This is so true, particularly if you're trying to attract and flirt with a girl you like. If you don't practice with other people you're not attracted to then you're less likely to pull it off with that girl you like.
i appreciate this advice!
Why am I just seeing this after a firework show I went to alone with a bunch of people near me who I didn’t say a thing to lmao. Walked up confident and just stood like a weirdo waiting for fireworks to start.
I gotta watch this everyday to remind myself to try to interact more
I can relate and love that rule too. It makes interactions and life in general so much more fun. Still an ongoing process for me but a worthwhile one
This is a good habit to be in, i also like making observations, "well you seem in good spirits today" etc. people love opening up
I can relate to this and I’ve been using the same strategy for a few years now without even realising it and how I talk to people in public has improved a lot, not everyone is out there to get you people are actually quite nice haha
I like this concept a lot I’ll be trying it out thanks man
I always say I'm not scared to do this "flirt with the world" tactic but as soon as the moment strikes, and I actually have a plan of what I want to say, part of me just says "naaaaahh". I think the positives far outweigh the negatives, so I'm not gonna let those thoughts get in the way. Thanks man, subbed!
That's part of the process. It can be pretty intimidating at first so your brain tries to convince you not to. Do it 2-3 times and it'll be like nothing for you! Hope you try it.
That’s like exactly what I do I literally flirt with everyone and seeing it through that lens helps me so much. I love seeing someone that gets it, and knowing that someone is carrying the purpose to inspire others 🤘subscribeeeed
How do you start?
Thank you Devin this helped a lot
Doing a good thing big dawg💯
I don't know why this video appeared in my recommended feed, but maan, I really needed it. Thanks, sir!
I certainly don't have a problem with socializing I just realized that some people are very picky with who they conversate with.
Just start talking to people. You get better as time goes on. I got a job recently where I’m on the phone a lot and it has helped me exponentially. You can’t think your way out of an overthinking problem. Take action.
great video!
Great advice, I will try this
Awesome content mate. Hope you grow a lot :)
Subscribed, I have antisocial tendencies but I understood all these answers to my problems. Literally
good stuff bro thank you
Floating with the world.
Damn. Thanks buddy, I'd definitely try this out soon
he said flirting
Great tips, thank you
Energy is in everything, everywhere. Energy is a part of nature, and we are nature. I feel like you shouldn’t have to force yourself, but just be aware of how your energy is and how might the other individual might feel.
Thanks man this helped a lot make more vids about this topic
Such a good video very underrated plz keep it up
Thanks man.
Well thanks for breaking through your challenges with communication because your voice is like soft butter being spread on something delicious!!!!
Thanks I needed this. Earned a New Sub ❤
hahaha that was a god interaction man, I also went until 25 not ever starting a convo with a stranger. Great idea, I'll start implementing it.
Great video! I'm trying to up my social skills in general and become a more charismatic and sociable person, thanks brother!!
You look like someone who's lived in new Jersey
Saw the video, started practicing it an hour later and I’m having a lot of fun with my day flirting with life 😁
really helpful video bro
Nice video bro 💯
the gas station interaction was so wholesome omg.. flirt with the world.. great advice
I find myself fearing that people will get the wrong impression if i'm too "flirty" ??
Hmm I could see that. If that happens just let them know they took it the wrong way. But flirty doesn’t necessarily have to be in that sense, it’s really just being playful and lighthearted and being yourself. Bring a positive energy basically
I started going to techno and now I am fucking great at talking
Thank you
Hey man I liked the video a lot. It kinda felt like I was getting custom tailored advice even though it’s just a TH-cam video. The whole flirting with the world thing seems like a really good idea and I’ve been trying it out a bit since watching. That part where you ask the guy “you ever tried these before” and tell him “I’ll blame you if I don’t like them” and he laughs really appealed to me and made me want to get better at talking to people.
I have a few questions I wanted to ask you though. One thing I wanted to know is how do you come up with these things to talk about? That was just small talk, but it seemed a million times better than “enjoying the weather?” I never really know what to say when I try to approach people, but that conversation seemed perfect and like it just came to you naturally.
Another thing I wanted to ask is how to control the tone of your voice better. I could relate to you when you mentioned that you barely ever spoke in school and you lost your social skills a bit. I wondered if you ended up with the same problem as me where you start to lose control over the tone of your voice and it ends up being monotone all the time. For that reason every time I try to joke around with people or etc. they just kinda go “what?” or “huh?” like I was making a statement or asking a question or something.
Those are some good questions. I'll probably make a video soon on the first question you asked about how I know what to talk about. In short, I guess I'd say to just be in the moment and don't sit there and overthink what to say. Just say whatever comes to mind. If you sound dumb, then oh well, it's not like you aren't about to leave anyway lol. Talking to people is just like any other skill. The more you do it the better you will get at it, so if you keep practicing the whole flirting with the world thing, eventually things to say will just come to you like it did to me in the video. Me saying, "I'll blame you if I don't like them" was me just being me. I am a very playful person and tease my friends a lot, so even though he was a stranger I still acted like myself and teased him, that's one of the biggest pieces of advice I can give you is to be yourself and let your personality shine even if it's a stranger.
As for the tone of voice thing, I actually did struggle with that a good bit. I didn't have a problem with it around my friends, but when I was talking to people I didn't know I was very monotone. Honestly the only way to fix that is by being consciously aware of it when you are talking to people and forcing yourself to change tone while you are speaking. Eventually it will become a habit and you won't have to think about it. Also, it's pretty hard to be monotone when you are smiling so don't be afraid to show emotion in your face when you are talking.
Good video quality bro keep it up 👍
I'm a bit older than you, and I'll tell you how I do it. It's very simple and doesn't require anything. In fact, it requires you to lose something. Basically, just stop thinking. That's all you need to do-stop thinking and just let your mouth do the talking. Your brain will come up with things on its own. So, stop thinking, and turn off your brain.
Yes just be more playful when talking, doesn't mean you need to be so weird but just however you can talk and be okay with laughing and just have a good time and don't worry about rejection
because of my shyness, when I go out I wear a very closed and cold face like a shield.
I though every one guess "that guy is inconfortable" but people think "he has a bad day, he has no time, he is angry"
And this face is like a closed door. You have no interaction with it.
But if someone do a little joke or start small talk with a little humor, all disapear ^^
those social skills... hard to work on it at the beginning. Thanks for the motivation.
Explaining with example wow
As a late diagnosed autistic guy that learnt socializing. Its hard as fuck. I learnt that alot of people just dont like me and learing and accepting that helps me socializing.
awesome
And you create your own reality
Most important point.
And then you can twerk for mission accomplishment
Either live other peoples reality or live in your own its your choice… follower or leader?
valid
Thx
I used to afraid to talk to people, With many thing l been through. And now l not afraid to talk . Sometimes l talking a lot sometimes l don’t. I just don’t care what other people think !
I'm not bad at talking I just have a tough time being comfortable enough with new people so I can be myself and let the words flow. How do I fix this
One important point is that you are very good looking dude and people don't assume you're awkward. Try being ugly lol.
You only think you’re ugly.
You are beautiful no matter what you look like ❤
this cat spittin
one of the biggest problems is environment, I swear I got into every quiet class this year and my social skills plummeted. sad when all my teachers say "why don't any of you ever talk?"
One person can drastically change the attitude of the class. If you want to change the class environment, you definitely can. However, if you see no benefit in doing so, then you don’t have to.
Hey man. I just found your channel and I’m an introvert. I try to speak more but sometimes I just get awkward or don’t know what to say. There’s a person who I speak to but I feel like he’s gets upset when there’s awkward convos.
You got that gas station clerk half chub lol
yeah metoo when ever i join chat with some random ppl and i get so nervous and i dont even talk to them . i kinda hesitate to talk
Be flirtatious with the world. Man you just made me discover fire. Man you can have my kids, hollly shitt have you just gave me a reason to keep going.
This video needs more traction and i hope my girl don't see this, she'd leave me in a heartbeat. JK she already left :(
Just wanna wish you luck Devin, you're not what i wanted but you are what I needed. Love you man...
Stay strong brother lol
i feel pathetic because i dont have alot of homies to hang out with. i have alot of girl friends and i cant just brush them off, their chill people. but i just wanna do dude things and be a dude with dudes. shit i find myself being scared to even ask “hows your day” after someone even asks me. ill say “im good” then ill go on. im also horrible at roasting people back, so i chuckle and tell them to shut up in a funny way. what do we think gang, am i cooked for life?
edit: shit thanks for the advice guys, im late but thanks dev
You're not cooked bro don't worry lol. You pretty much gave yourself the answer to your problem. You said you find yourself being scared to even ask someone how their day is. All you need to do is push yourself out of your comfort zone and overcome that fear. Go about your day with the intent of talking to some guys that you feel like you'd want to be cool with and just say whatever comes to mind. I meet most of my new friends at the gym and I will walk up to guys I have never even seen before and be like "Damn bro, your arms are massive" and boom, basically friends now. Talk to them every time I see them.
You’re probably a chad 😂 with females orbiting around you waiting for their chance to date you bro.
I'm in the exact same situation, but with genders reversed. All my mates are dudes (because we have a lot of common interests) and I just really need feminine energy in my life. It can be saddening.
@@raineyday6908there are no other girls that have those same common interests where you are?
Nah bro you’re in a good position. For most dudes it’s way harder to talk to girls than guys. Just ask a dude about sports or video games straight up and you’ll find friends. Literally ask someone to play your favorite game with them online and boom u probably got a friend lol.
I see where you're coming from. One time whn I was working wwe had a fire alarm and everyone in the shopping center (mall) had to go outside for about 30mins. After finishing work I to a card shop. I saw cute lady at the cahsier and I asked her "Can I ask you a question" she said "sure" and I responded "Do you like fire alarms as much as I do?" and she ended up laughing. It's just being playful and talking about the situation, like the candy bar in your example.
I dont think you are really getting to the root of the change (not for everyone I mean). You basically just said "do it". And "do it in little steps". But for some there are key underlying reasons why they have trouble talking to people. They may not have developed their social skills muscle much either, but many people simply have a way of seeing reality that makes other people out to be hostile, stupid, unlike oneself, etc. In such cases it is the persons feelings about themselves and others and ultimately life itself. This could turn around by having meaningful social interactions but unless that thrusts itself upon us we have to desire to connect with others and embrace that desire; that joy that comes from participation in life and being apart of the whole instead of an isolated misfit who people wont understand.
I agree, the video is defo helpful but this could have been mentioned.
@@olabodowabolothethird7980 I don't mean to imply the video is unhelpful. It is true what is being said. So much is just because people aren't used to social situations and have negative expectations from past hurts. This can be untrained. It's true. And I commend him for talking about this
I am not that good at pulling someone's leg but I do like to compliment people or make one liner jokes. Does that work as "flirting with the world"?
For sure. If you make them smile it’s a job well done in my book
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Good video. Google got rid of the thumbs up button. 👍
I use to have social anxiety and was really quiet. Drinking Alcohol 🥃 changed that 😂 when I drink social anxiety is scared of me. I will talk to anyone and anybody!!
You’re not lying, maybe I should have thrown that in the video ahahaha. But this is more for day to day life when you AREN’T drinking lol
Tried microdosing on shrooms, honestly brooo. They're easy to grow. Give it a month with daily doses of the same amount and you'll be an immovable object hahaha
But then it becomes a crutch like you always wanna use it to get over the nerves or awkwardness of talking to people
Slippery slope
@@DivineLightPaladin Honestly a small price to pay. People take medication ever single day to live right. So, why can't you.
Bro grew a beard and became a social instructor
Is this an ad for Little Trees?
I am a man and i always struggled talking to people. i really like the idea of flirting with the world so from now on i will flirt with every man I meet. I am going to make so many boyfriends.
Nice accent ❤😊
Wow
how to like just talk more casual and kinda make people like you more . Cause for some people it is just so easy , any tips?
I’ll try to make a video on that within the next couple of days
@@devmaurello thanks mate
Be yourself bro. Don’t MAKE people like you. At the end of the day people are gonna like who they like and dislike who they dislike. Just be yourself and your life will be a lot better. You won’t get fake friends and you won’t have to fake it yourself.
@@Orteguh thanks mate, w
Will implement
I know what you mean is like you and the other person have a chemistry and the converstation flows dont know where it go
I just need a beard
That man at the store was kinda.......😩🧎♂️
rizz up everyone got it
Best way to sum it up
It can come off fake af too, so don't think it's all frolicky fun shit. You get in the habit of doing that and you're caught in manipulative lying before long.
What the fuck are you talking about?
@@CadoPack Going one layer deeper, it's all in your psychopathology and intention, so be mindful of the way you're looking at human interactions. If you're looking at it like it's a game to play/toy around with other people to get a certain feeling or reaction out of the interaction, you're entering into a world of being manipulative and using other people to your own selfish end, all while lying to yourself about the kind of person you really are inside.
So my advice instead would be to just be yourself, but instead put yourself in social situations where you can express yourself authentically, instead of relying on tactics to get a certain reaction or end result.
most people will not understand what ur trying to say lol.
Dang bro I know what ur talking about. You just have to make sure you're coming out of love for people in your day to day
i’m glad this video is on my recommended, i feel like flirting with the world is such a great way to put it. i just wanted to say to people trying this to not shy away from awkwardness and failure when it doesn’t go your way! been trying this approach at my new(ish) job and found myself shying away from conversation again, but this video helped me realise i should keep trying🫡
Omg hes so cute
i feel seen😭