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if you’re antisocial, you’re a psychopath. the correct term is asocial.

I think you'd really resonate with the Simply Always Awake channel by Angelo Dillulo. He's truly helping people overcome the suffering/dissatisfaction we all face as humans.

mindfulness is probably what i have to work on the most

The buzz and thumbnails going hard. Keep it up bro

It's definitely something I need to get back to doing. Or start bike riding. Use to take my dogs for walks (had to put him down last November) so I haven't felt the urge to get out there and just appreciate nature/outside. How our mindsets can change from childhood to adulthood. Just riding bikes or walking around in nature for fun. Still need to do the 5K challenge. I'm considering joining a gym. Or just go to a track. My fitness seems to be plateauing at home. Part of that is needing to push myself harder, diet too. But, mostly, I think I've gotten used to the physical activity and a gym environment would provide more options and space. Also, it may force to try those interactions you keep recommending. 😁

Love the channel, both videos I've watched contained some great advice!

Transactional relationship is more practical nowadays. So many people have bad intentions.

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If nobody speaks when spoken to nobody can ever start a conversation?

Hearing about Spartans makes me want to watch 300 again. Good video!

I need to hear that more often, my fear is holding me back in so many ways.

I think that it all goes part and parcel with being an adult in general. Sometimes you gotta do things you are not comfortable doing or don’t want to do, sometimes you have to deal with things that you are not comfortable dealing with and don’t want to deal with.

I'm 28 and I never ever had a friend I have no social life whatsoever its so depressing

Needed to hear this. Keep up the good work bud

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No argument, and I'm someone who falls into that category at almost 40. I would point out that there is a lot of jargon, rhetoric, and personal perception around "masculinity" to the point that I don't care. I'll just apply my own ideas. (To clarify, that's just my opinion as I feel the subject has been debated and scrutinized to death by social media, I'm not saying your ideas are wrong) But, that said, I fully agree. Confidence, putting yourself in uncomfortable situations, handling rejection, growing, changing, and overall developing yourself as a person, stepping into your identity, emotional maturity, etc . . . All show signs of becoming a healthy, functional, and productive adult. Definitely a number of things I've been working on over the last year plus. Prior to that, months of depression and body dysmorphyia. Point is this: Yes, your career, sexual activity, age, whatever doesn't determine if you're an adult. (Outside of "age" per the government and law) Your understanding of who you are, your ability to handle conflict, and not finding your worth or value through others are strong indicators of being a healthy and functional adult. Things I've recently learned and continue to apply in my life over this last year.

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Keep going! I randomly stumbled upon your channel and I am so happy about that!

good timing this cos was feeling a bit impatient with not feeling better even though i've been doing better so this kinda explains it thanks

this was a lovely video to come across, well said and actually trusty good info from a good place

Yo the buzz looks sick

Devin, could you go in some detail about your coaching what you offer, expectations, frequency, topics, etc.? Thanks for the good content.

Good advice

Another approach is to let them talk about themselves. Now, this still requires you to listen and not let them dominate the conversation. Yes, people love talking about themselves, but most people get self-conscious if they realize they are dominating the conversation. But, simply instigate a starting point based on the environment:gym, bar, coffee shop. Or if you're utilizing a dating app, something from their profile. Basically, state something you've noticed about them and ask them to elaborate. Again, this still requires you to pay attention. Don't just wait for them to stop talking or take a breath. This accomplishes two things. One, you can inquire further about them based on what they said. Or if they turn the conversation over to you, you can reference something they said and then elaborate about yourself. Either one shows you were listening, paying attention, and interested in what that had to say. Bonus points if you take a couple of mental notes, write them down after you're done talking. Then do some research on the subject so you can elaborate more on their hobby or whatever later. Either platonic or romantic, this shows someone you actually value what they have to say and appreciate their knowledge and insight. To be clear, you don't have to become a die-hard fan or adjust your personality to match theirs. The goal is to build a connection. Not misrepresent yourself or manipulate them. But, it's easier to build a connection through similarities or, in the very least, a shared interest. At the very least, it gives you a starting point. But, agreed, confidence is key. I think another element to add to this, and going parelle to shutting off your brain is, don't have exspectations. Regardless of the goal of friendship or date. Don't care. That's a later goal. Right now, your only intention is to meet someone and learn something about them, then build off of that. General example, guys who approch girls with just the intention of date or $ex. They lay it on thick, don't listen to the girl at all, and just have one goal in mind. Using tricks and manipulation to get what they want . . . Shocking how that doesn't work out for them most of the time.🙄 So, ya, genuinely listen, follow up questions, and build off the conversation. Without expectations. That, way if it doesn't work out or you get rejected. It's not a failure. It's a lack of compatability.

Also, Just listening and asking following questions in a conversation can make people fall in love with you. They get enchanted.

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but its like no matter where I go people dont talk to me so I dont either lol

Devin is it a ok opener to ask a girl if she likes Doja Cat. I’m 24 and I love her songs and I am a man.

Just found your channel. I like what I hear so far. People are starving for inspiration, kindness, and leadership.

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Thanks for this. You are making a good point.

I'm reminded of a Chicken Soup story. Small town class room of highschoolers where struggling with a math process. Teacher ended the leason early and had everyone write down a quality they admired in another student. Probably around twenty kids. She than collected them and over the weekend, divided the lists per student. Than after class Monday each person could see what other people thought of them (anonymously). Many people were surprised by the responses. Fast forward 5 years. WW II. She was at the funeral of one of the boys. She happened to notice an old piece of paper in his pocket. Without think she looked at it. It was the list she'd typed up. A handful of other former students were there. The teacher came to find out each of them still had their list, too. It just goes to show how one small act of kindness, can have a profound impact on someone's life.

I Love This One ! Really Eye Opening

Make friends now with some good guy ex hackers and seriously intelligent coders or tech people to help protect you and your content now. Knowing this now before you grow is vital right now. Continue kindness. It is sad but true, sincere intentions and kindness kills the haters, on the positive side, you convert a few along the way. 😊🤙🏽🕺🏼

Video on speaking with more confidence such as stuttering or stammers?

ok so i’m the only girl watching this?

My problem isn’t talking, I can fucking go to anyone and make noise to them, fuck my problem is I don’t know what to fucking say to them bro. My coworkers keep talking to me and I just answer to whatever they say, then I look like a dumbass not knowing what to say after. Pretty sure the only reason they try to talk to me is because they know my mom and she is one that can speak for hours on end with them. Almost no matter the subject, like deadass maybe 2 subjects I can talk for a bit ,but any random thing they come up with I just can’t keep the conversation going(even what I did in the week end AKA nothing)

MORE POWER TO YOU BROS - DON'T NEGLECT THE INNERVERSE 🦁

You're not faking it, man... you're being a youtuber and making it happen!

Subscribed, I have antisocial tendencies but I understood all these answers to my problems. Literally

Your hair 😢 Where it go?

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Why am I just seeing this after a firework show I went to alone with a bunch of people near me who I didn’t say a thing to lmao. Walked up confident and just stood like a weirdo waiting for fireworks to start. I gotta watch this everyday to remind myself to try to interact more

Know I'm late, but fully agee with this. It amazes me the number of people (Usually men) who start to workout to improve their physique, confidence, and overall well-being. But, they make two fatal mistakes, in my opinion. One, they don't appreciate the journey and celebrate the small wins. Instead they focus on the overall goal and don't feel content or satisfed about the work they've put in and the progress they've made. Because of this onece they achive their goal they get to experiance a "tempory" high. Than immedily set their sights on a new goal. Then repeat the process. Constantly chasing happiness. The second mistake is, they just foucs on their body. Yes, I agree body, mind, and sprit overlap/intersect. But, there is something to be said in focusing on each of them individually. Because a failure to do this results in body dysmorphia. To clarify the dysmorphia is already there, it acts as a motivator to start working out (for some people), but the problem is that by not improving your metal and spritial well-being, you never actually overcome your dysmorphia. So you put in hours of work at the gym or home, improving your body, but you're never satisfed or happy. Constantly seeing new flaws, real or imagined, to the point that you either push yourself to injury or sucumb to the negitive selt-talk and give up. So, yes, it is very important that when self-improving, that you understand the improtance of growing, changing, and developing diffrent parts of yourself beyond just one thing, such as your body.

I don't argue. I just feel there are other elements that play a role. I'm not saying you are wrong, but for example, I had a connection to a number of my fellow taekwondo classmates (until the school closed), but for the most part, I was acquainted with most of them, but not friends. (I was and am still friends with four of them). So, while I agree you can easily build a connection with others, especially in certain communities like the gym. I feel like there is comradery and then there is friendship. Now, I will concede that I'm not the most charismatic person (this isn't depreciation, I generally am slow to open up) and prefer a smaller social circle too. So, someone, such as yourself, who has a bigger personality, may be able to make a stronger connection more easily. So, to clarify this isn't me calling you out or being dismissive of the advice. I'm just generally curious to what degree you would consider friendship vs a "buddy"?

I honestly think that if there were more people like you, this world would definitely be a better place to be. I am the polar opposite, I believe the world would be a much better place to be if I left it. Though the reality is it would most likely not make any difference if I am here or not.

I don't know why this video appeared in my recommended feed, but maan, I really needed it. Thanks, sir!

Been enjoying your content since Monday dude, keep it up 💪🏼💪🏼