“You don’t get out of chronic fatigue with the same principles that got you in it.” Alex, that is so true! Aha. Thanks for this great session. Very enlightening about the ups and downs of recovery and the self awareness we need to cultivate.
any relatoin to maureen? also lol thats my step bros moms ame n thers a leslie below thi comment n thats my moms name however ey and had a falling out , anyway um i love the topics of this video, worth another watch 4 sure
I feel that she needs to change her vocabulary : "have to" etc. She is being very, hard on herself. I am an ex-Classical Dancer and I know that perfectionism can be so detrimental to ones well - being long term. Im glad he pointed that out. SELF-CARE is so difficult to learn and put into practice.
This is yet another truly profoundly deeply moving session, thank you SO much for this amazing and groundbreaking work. Witnessing the therapeutic process unfold in this way really helps me better understand even more profoundly what I am going through. I think it’s the first time I hear you explain the recovery journey of an achiever so concretely with regards to how the crashes get perpetuated as energy returns and the old patterns come back kicking in leaving us drained and crashed on the other side ... and explaining how you have to go through that several times, before you can begin to change the patterns securely enough so that they can become the new default model. The thing with the achiever is that profound feeling of lack of love and safety, which is hard to face when we haven’t got enough resources yet to begin to feel a permanent sense of love and safety. And until that is acquired, only then is the achiever likely to subside entirely. This is fascinating work, hard, but magically powerful too - a huge thanks for having developed this absolutely amazing framework via which to address the issue - you’ve cracked the code and it must have been hard work to crack. Thank you hugely 🙏🧚🎈
I hope these sessions reach as many people globally as possible I have personally struggled with CFS, trauma(PTSD) for many years and sometimes everyday is a real challenge( existing in survival mode) I do not want to just exist surviving life. I want to have true peace and contentment within myself and the world that I live. These sessions help me in this process and gives me hope of recovery. and that I can be of help also to others and support in their recovery Thank you everyone involved in sharing this wonderful opportunity which is going to help so many people.
It’s so all real. Lauren you are amazing that all this stuff is happening and you are still moving forward. All credit to you! I can’t get enough of these Alex. They are so helpful. We all know what we should be doing, most of the time but these remind us and give us the information about WHY we need to do it, which is so important to make it stick!
I've been through a rough patch, taking in other's pain and neglecting self care, so ended up sick... the old cycle. Back to basics...and giving myself grace.
This episode mirrors so much of my past decade, keeping busy so I don't have to feel, being afraid if I do, I won't be able to deal with all of the feelings or things won't get done. It was helpful to hear Alex's comments about taking time for self care and not caring what others think. I know this but in the contents today, I heard it in a different way. I concur with Lauren that the virus gives us permission to stay in and listen to what our body needs, rest and nurturing without guilt or shame. Lauren, for as much as you have dealt with, you seem calm and collected. Keep up the good work!
STOP and acknowledge your progress. SO important ❤ That way we validate our feelings/emotions. If we don't do that the Inner Critic will continue "pushing" until part us is seen and understands that it's "enough" ❤
Oh my goodness Lauren it’s like listening to me!!! Thank you for being so brave and sharing your real thoughts! You don’t know how much this has helped me x
I'm continually impressed by and grateful for these sessions. The direct way of addressing the issues is MUCH appreciated. Many thanks to both clients and therapist!
Thanks again Lauren and Alex for another insightful video. 💯 relatable. It doesn't matter how far I've come I always lose motivation with the things that help because I'm not good enough yet. Not perfect yet, I annoy myself with it. 😅
I trained as a counsellor for one year and I have had so much counselling over the years. Can I say that it is so refreshing to hear a counsellor discourage the whole be positive attitude because in my experience the counsellors have always turned everything I say into something positive. It really pisses me off and at that moment I don’t feel heard and shamefully rather than stop her or him I would go along with them to make them happy. That never works because it’s not authentic and it has had never been effective but mostly I do not feel heard. If I wanted cbt I would have asked for it. Also can I advise this lady to watch Dr Gabor Mate and to read the body keeps the score. Sending lots of love❤
I am at the same place as Lauren. So much so that I fell back into my old routine trying to incorporate my new routine into it. I became upset with myself and then projected it onto a couple of people. I was glad to see the truth of what was happening to me through your session today with Lauren. Thank you for making these videos public. They help me so much.
Thanks so much for these episodes! So brave sharing her story and very moving. I'm truly grateful for this work and it helps me loads. I found it a bit difficult at the end with the language of "poor girl" as she is a woman not a girl. I wonder how Lauren feels with the discussion bit too? Again, this is just a small piece of feedback, I have been following these sessions a d think they are marvellous!
Thanks again, this is brilliant! SO helpful! Really valuable therapeutically! Sending a virtual hug of thanks, appreciation & support to Lauren, you articulate many of my issues so much better than I could ever do, but when you say it, I recognise it! 🤗
Thank you these are wonderful and act like a pumping station for my own recovery. They encourage and delight me to continue on my journey. I have a virus for 12 ? C- 19 and this has set me back but now I realise I’ve done well to be were I am now. I have family in the house 24-7 and now realising that this is an opportunity to not get caught up with others self- care problems. Thank you everyone - the comments are so helpful to. 🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩
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“You don’t get out of chronic fatigue with the same principles that got you in it.” Alex, that is so true! Aha. Thanks for this great session. Very enlightening about the ups and downs of recovery and the self awareness we need to cultivate.
any relatoin to maureen? also lol thats my step bros moms ame n thers a leslie below thi comment n thats my moms name however ey and had a falling out , anyway um i love the topics of this video, worth another watch 4 sure
I feel that she needs to change her vocabulary : "have to" etc. She is being very, hard on herself. I am an ex-Classical Dancer and I know that perfectionism can be so detrimental to ones well - being long term. Im glad he pointed that out. SELF-CARE is so difficult to learn and put into practice.
This is yet another truly profoundly deeply moving session, thank you SO much for this amazing and groundbreaking work.
Witnessing the therapeutic process unfold in this way really helps me better understand even more profoundly what I am going through.
I think it’s the first time I hear you explain the recovery journey of an achiever so concretely with regards to how the crashes get perpetuated as energy returns and the old patterns come back kicking in leaving us drained and crashed on the other side ... and explaining how you have to go through that several times, before you can begin to change the patterns securely enough so that they can become the new default model.
The thing with the achiever is that profound feeling of lack of love and safety, which is hard to face when we haven’t got enough resources yet to begin to feel a permanent sense of love and safety. And until that is acquired, only then is the achiever likely to subside entirely.
This is fascinating work, hard, but magically powerful too - a huge thanks for having developed this absolutely amazing framework via which to address the issue - you’ve cracked the code and it must have been hard work to crack.
Thank you hugely
🙏🧚🎈
I hope these sessions reach as many people globally as possible I have personally struggled with CFS, trauma(PTSD) for many years and sometimes everyday is a real challenge( existing in survival mode) I do not want to just exist surviving life. I want to have true peace and contentment within myself and the world that I live. These sessions help me in this process and gives me hope of recovery. and that I can be of help also to others and support in their recovery Thank you everyone involved in sharing this wonderful opportunity which is going to help so many people.
It’s so all real. Lauren you are amazing that all this stuff is happening and you are still moving forward. All credit to you!
I can’t get enough of these Alex. They are so helpful.
We all know what we should be doing, most of the time but these remind us and give us the information about WHY we need to do it, which is so important to make it stick!
I've been through a rough patch, taking in other's pain and neglecting self care, so ended up sick... the old cycle. Back to basics...and giving myself grace.
I like the slightly longer format of the recent sessions 👍🏻
This episode mirrors so much of my past decade, keeping busy so I don't have to feel, being afraid if I do, I won't be able to deal with all of the feelings or things won't get done. It was helpful to hear Alex's comments about taking time for self care and not caring what others think. I know this but in the contents today, I heard it in a different way.
I concur with Lauren that the virus gives us permission to stay in and listen to what our body needs, rest and nurturing without guilt or shame. Lauren, for as much as you have dealt with, you seem calm and collected. Keep up the good work!
STOP and acknowledge your progress. SO important ❤ That way we validate our feelings/emotions. If we don't do that the Inner Critic will continue "pushing" until part us is seen and understands that it's "enough" ❤
The start of the video made me tear up poor Lauren I do agree though and sounds like she is on a good path
This was a really helpful episode for me. Heading some of what Lauren was saying I feel like I’m listening to myself. Thanks for sharing.
any relatoin to nick?? was watching avideo of him n mariah the othe day lol our dog just came with his ball did a stretch n plopped down lol
Oh my goodness Lauren it’s like listening to me!!! Thank you for being so brave and sharing your real thoughts! You don’t know how much this has helped me x
I'm continually impressed by and grateful for these sessions. The direct way of addressing the issues is MUCH appreciated. Many thanks to both clients and therapist!
Thanks again Lauren and Alex for another insightful video.
💯 relatable. It doesn't matter how far I've come I always lose motivation with the things that help because I'm not good enough yet. Not perfect yet, I annoy myself with it. 😅
I trained as a counsellor for one year and I have had so much counselling over the years. Can I say that it is so refreshing to hear a counsellor discourage the whole be positive attitude because in my experience the counsellors have always turned everything I say into something positive. It really pisses me off and at that moment I don’t feel heard and shamefully rather than stop her or him I would go along with them to make them happy. That never works because it’s not authentic and it has had never been effective but mostly I do not feel heard. If I wanted cbt I would have asked for it. Also can I advise this lady to watch Dr Gabor Mate and to read the body keeps the score. Sending lots of love❤
I am at the same place as Lauren. So much so that I fell back into my old routine trying to incorporate my new routine into it. I became upset with myself and then projected it onto a couple of people. I was glad to see the truth of what was happening to me through your session today with Lauren. Thank you for making these videos public. They help me so much.
What a wonderful woman you are Lauren! Blessings!
Thanks so much for these episodes! So brave sharing her story and very moving. I'm truly grateful for this work and it helps me loads.
I found it a bit difficult at the end with the language of "poor girl" as she is a woman not a girl. I wonder how Lauren feels with the discussion bit too?
Again, this is just a small piece of feedback, I have been following these sessions a d think they are marvellous!
Really appreciate this series, thankyou Alex!
Thanks again, this is brilliant! SO helpful! Really valuable therapeutically! Sending a virtual hug of thanks, appreciation & support to Lauren, you articulate many of my issues so much better than I could ever do, but when you say it, I recognise it! 🤗
Thank you these are wonderful and act like a pumping station for my own recovery. They encourage and delight me to continue on my journey.
I have a virus for 12 ? C- 19 and this has set me back but now I realise I’ve done well to be were I am now.
I have family in the house 24-7 and now realising that this is an opportunity to not get caught up with others self- care problems.
Thank you everyone - the comments are so helpful to.
🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩
Thank you for this, very informative...
Thanks💜
I wish I could find a therapist who would just say it as it is. I have Aspergers and most of them play games or manipulate. It's unbearable.